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Bro Im also 23 and starting community college. Let me know how it goes!
/r/seduction23/05/18 01:53 AM
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I don't get why it seems like everyone is hooking up around me. How do you do it? I live in a rural area and I'm out of college so I guess that hurts my chances quite a bit
/r/seduction13/05/18 09:42 PM
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So I have this mindset that I need to be in a stable position before I start meeting women. I am making the transition from pursuing a career in music to programming and I'm currently very broke. Would you recommend getting your shit together financially before attempting this stuff or just practice it while I'm getting it together?
/r/seduction10/05/18 05:38 PM
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Finding a copy right now..
/r/seduction23/04/18 06:21 PM
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You're right. I think the problem isn't that I need sex with more women as validation of being attractive or whatever. It's that I don't know what's out there. I didn't get the chance to date around and see what I like. I currently live in some rural place now so that makes it pretty difficult to meet women my age . I just wish I dated around more before meeting my girlfriend just to know what else is out there and if she is the one I truly want to be with.
/r/seduction20/04/18 07:06 PM
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Thats my worst fear. Breaking up with my girlfriend just to sleep around only to realize it sucks and then wanting her back only to realize she has moved on to someone else.
/r/seduction19/04/18 07:16 PM
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Are you saying go back to community college? If so that was my plan. Way less expensive, and will help my career
/r/seduction19/04/18 07:15 PM
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God damn, its shit like this that makes me bitter lol. I honestly don't care if the attractive dudes get laid because thats understandable. Its always the unattractive guys getting laid left and right that makes me frustrated because I know I'm more attractive than them I just don't have the same opportunities just because I decided not to go to a party school or whatever the fuck.
/r/seduction19/04/18 05:53 PM
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I've heard the 30s can be the prime time for sex. Its not too late man! Start working out, go to meetups, get a social part time job for experience. I was a virgin when I met my girlfriend and she was not, but she didn't care.
/r/seduction19/04/18 05:50 PM
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Yeah, we mainly talked about having a threesome as a fantasy. No plans to really do it. I can definitely see me being selfish and wanting it again if it does happen. I can also see it ruining the relationship and me being left with no sex ironically.
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:20 PM
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Great advice. Our sexcapades are really making up for those 3 years of drought. We both have high sex drives and are sexually adventurous so I don't know why I still have this feeling of missing out. I should be grateful for what I have, some don't have that.
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:08 PM
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Yeah my dad went through the same thing and cheated on my mom so I know how much that hurts. I do love her and we have talked about doing a threesome so that might get rid of any feelings of missed opportunities. At the same time though that would be shitty if I relied on something like a threesome to get my needs met. I need to do a lot of soul searching and need to try to ignore everyone talking about how great and easy the women at college are. I do still plan to go back but mainly for my car…
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:05 PM
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I'm currently 23! Better late than never.
/r/seduction19/04/18 03:54 PM
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Yeah I feel like my perspective is a bit skewed since my girlfriend is in a sorority and most of her friends are probably the ones "in the game" and dating around a lot. They are the ones I mainly hear about. I'm sure if I was friends with some dude who happened to be in college and never got laid my perspective would probably be different.
/r/seduction19/04/18 03:53 PM
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Yeah it really sucks because even if we go on a sex spree in our 30s, we will always have in our head "I probably could've gotten laid more in college" or shit like "They would be more willing to experiment if they were in college". Or just never be satisfied because you're trying to make up for lost time. Yeah I feel like its even worse because almost EVERYONE says how easy sex is in college and how great of a time it is. I'm sure hooking up gets old after awhile but hard to know when you've ne…
/r/seduction19/04/18 03:48 PM
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I actually had plans to go back. I'm not in debt from my music school and don't have any kids. I only have about 10k saved up but I also finally know what I want to do with my life and it is going to require another degree.
/r/seduction19/04/18 03:35 PM
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Its music. Playing guitar specifically.
/r/seduction18/04/18 12:12 AM
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Im 23 and in his position. I was like him for a year before I said fuck it and enrolled in community college. (went to worthless music school prior)
/r/seduction10/04/18 03:30 AM
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I went to a music school. It was 97% guys. I ended up banging a sorority girl from another school though using online dating. There are ways my friend. Can't get over the feeling of missing out though especially since all of her sorority sisters call me hot.
/r/seduction10/04/18 03:21 AM
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Hmm I'm 23 but a loser. Honestly hoping PUA helps with my career situation and women.
/r/seduction09/04/18 06:17 PM
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Im 23 and just lost my virginity last year from a dating site. Theres nothing wrong with that. Everyone may seem like they are having sex and they may be but it really isn't all that it is cracked up to be. Work on yourself, find ways to become more attractive. I believe in you. Im a loser who has been unemployed for a year yet I still managed to get laid dont let anything stop you.
/r/seduction06/04/18 04:44 AM
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This is so true. When I was in college the amount of times I was hanging with a female friend and she would point out some guy who hit on her.
/r/seduction06/04/18 04:17 AM
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Hey man! I'm also a musician and wonder if that as a career helps or hurts on tinder. Ive always heard women prefer dating more stable dudes.
/r/seduction06/04/18 02:38 AM
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Good to hear. Im 23 and Im just now going back to college (went to a worthless music school before) by my 30s I should have my shit together if I invest in myself now. I always thought I was just going to miss out completely.
/r/seduction06/04/18 02:33 AM
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Wow my Uni was boring AF in comparison wtf
/r/seduction04/04/18 10:08 PM
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Go for the number. Snapchat isn't for convo
/r/seduction04/04/18 09:56 PM
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Im in a relationship so many times with the same person
/r/seduction29/03/18 06:32 AM
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I know a girl who is in a sorority in senior year and still a virgin. It really depends on the person
/r/seduction29/03/18 06:13 AM
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I can't find a fucking style. Its the hardest part of looking attractive. Most of the current fashions look silly and out of place.
/r/seduction28/03/18 10:25 PM
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Excuse my ignorance but what exactly are Chapters?
/r/seduction28/03/18 04:59 AM
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As someone who completely missed out on the college experience I am sick of reading these posts and seeing the comments about how its "the easiest time" and how women just don't hook up after.
/r/seduction27/03/18 02:04 AM
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What the fuck??? Why did this shit start as soon as I graduated
/r/seduction27/03/18 01:58 AM
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Grass is greener as they say
/r/seduction23/03/18 08:40 PM
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I've started going to meetups and have applied to go back to college soon. I'm going to have to work through it this time but eh more of a chance to meet people and practice being social.
/r/seduction23/03/18 01:51 AM
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I put myself into a situation where this is very difficult. Had the opportunity to go to college but decided on some worthless music school so the career thing is fucked up. Decided to commute to said school and socially isolated myself so my social life is fucked up. Now that I actually have a relationship I'm afraid once it ends I will have nothing again and end up emotionally wrecked.
/r/seduction23/03/18 12:25 AM
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I was almost scared for a second because I'm 23 and haven't fooled around due to going to a sausage fest school.
/r/seduction22/03/18 09:27 PM
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Hell I'm not even 25 yet and I hate going to bars, clubs etc
/r/seduction20/03/18 05:34 AM
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I can tell you looks don't matter as much as you think. I've seen super hot guys be virgins. I've seen extremely average looking dudes sleep with every women in their friend group. As long as you're not atrocious looking (which you're not and many dudes aren't)
/r/seduction20/03/18 01:57 AM
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Ughhh right now my life is a burger king at 23 because I studied and killed it with the wrong school. Don't go to music school kids.
/r/seduction20/03/18 01:11 AM
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25 isn't that different than 22 23 etc. I would avoid the 18 year olds fresh out of high school though. Their immaturity will turn you off anyways
/r/seduction20/03/18 12:16 AM
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My girlfriend is in a sorority so at least I can say I've banged one lol. Thanks for the advice, it's hard not to worry about others.
/r/seduction19/03/18 04:56 AM
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Thats true. I've only ever had sex with my girlfriend so I don't have a frame of reference on how different it is. But that makes sense, vaginas are vaginas and dicks are dicks. I can't see sex varying that much between different kinks.
/r/seduction16/03/18 05:50 PM
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I have trouble with the voice thing. I mumble far too often and sound monotone.
/r/seduction16/03/18 02:46 AM
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Honestly anyone that brags about their lay count comes off as seeking validation. Its like good job bro do you want a medal?
/r/seduction16/03/18 02:42 AM
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Nope. My friend who is the best looking guy I've ever met and even women agree has no luck with them because of his lack of social skills.
/r/seduction15/03/18 07:42 PM
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This right here. If you drop your standards enough and change your interests you will find one indefinitely
/r/seduction15/03/18 07:37 PM
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The worst part about cruises is you are stuck with the same people for awhile. I'm not saying this to scare you but just know if you fuck up you will probably see that same person around but the key is to just not give a fuck.
/r/seduction15/02/18 08:11 AM
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I mean maybe I'm devaluing his looks but even one of our friends who slept with him said he wasn't very attractive looking back.
/r/seduction14/02/18 08:44 PM
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Does it sound that unbelievable?
/r/seduction14/02/18 08:41 PM
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Honestly that is probably it. I've always been a bit more quiet but I assumed there shouldn't be much of a difference as long as I'm still approaching and using my quietness to my advantage. (like being seen as a good listener)
/r/seduction14/02/18 05:24 AM
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True, he did reject her like a week later
/r/seduction14/02/18 05:23 AM
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Even harder when you see not very good looking dudes having more success.
/r/seduction02/02/18 05:28 PM
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No, but I think knowing your significant other flirts with other women would make a lot of women uncomfortable.
/r/seduction02/02/18 12:58 AM
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I always feel bad approaching while in a relationship. I know it isn't technically cheating at all but I just know my girlfriend would be uncomfortable with it :/
/r/seduction01/02/18 08:57 PM
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Yeah exactly this. I became really shy as a child and didn't really get to learn social skills therefore becoming a huge loner throughout high school and college.
/r/seduction17/01/18 03:01 AM
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I believe outer game is definitely easier to fix. Mental problems are hard to break free from but you can always work out, get better clothes, better haircuit.
/r/seduction16/01/18 11:03 PM
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Got a shitty degree and a shitty job. I needed this.
/r/seduction16/01/18 07:39 PM
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Not getting into this shit when I was in college. I feel like I have much less options now.
/r/seduction08/01/18 09:06 PM
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This. Don't be the guy who waits until he has sex with a girl before he says he states his intentions. If you are upfront there won't be any hurt feelings and who knows you might find yourself a fuck buddy.
/r/seduction08/01/18 09:04 PM
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Haha I could tell you were into Corey Wayne's stuff just from the first couple sentences.
/r/seduction05/01/18 03:23 PM
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I've read it, I'm just curious what he personally took away from it to help him.
/r/seduction01/12/17 12:42 AM
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What would you say was the biggest takeaway from the book?
/r/seduction30/11/17 09:19 PM
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I've actually been thinking about going back recently. I'm thankfully not in debt from the music school. I'm just worried my age will prevent me from partying and dating which I know is silly since I wouldn't be that much older. But better now than later.
/r/seduction15/11/17 01:55 AM
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You could be like me. Missed out on college experience to go to a music school so I don't even have a career planned out at 23 AND I missed out on the college experience.
/r/seduction15/11/17 01:00 AM
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This is so true. I didn't get laid until after uni and now it's like a snowball.
/r/seduction09/11/17 05:28 AM
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It's not about what you want, everyone wants to meet a quality girl. It's about how much you want to struggle for it. It can be a numbers game in finding someone you hit it off with but if you keep pursuing you will get there.
/r/seduction27/10/17 12:18 AM
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I didn't go to college and got laid at 22 through dating sites. You have no excuse man. Even so though I'm jealous of everyone who did go and had crazy parties and what not. I feel like I won't be able to experience that anywhere else, I honestly might start college soon at 24 but at that age I might not be accepted by everyone.
/r/seduction16/10/17 07:15 AM
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The Charisma Myth really helped me out.
/r/seduction04/10/17 08:17 PM
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I remember reading in Models that sometimes having the potential to be successful with a big ambition such as music is just as attractive to women as actually being successful even if you're poor.
/r/seduction04/10/17 08:15 PM
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Honestly some might even be turned on by an older man. There will be others that might not want a big age difference but you will never know if you don't try.
/r/seduction04/10/17 07:30 PM
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I used to get pissed when I saw people like this. I wondered why the fuck they were getting more action than me while being so physically unattractive. Then I stopped being an entitled little bitch and worked on the thing women really want. Confidence.
/r/seduction03/10/17 09:23 PM
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So true. I had a girlfriend in college and experienced everything that he wishes he did but I personally regret not sleeping around in college since it seems to be the easiest time to do that.
/r/seduction22/09/17 05:53 AM
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Breaking rapport. Like if they say they love vodka, you say you hate vodka and this will never work out. It creates some resistance without insulting them.
/r/seduction20/09/17 01:31 AM
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That is also part of it. I'm 23 and she is the only girl I've ever been with. I'm not sure I want to settle yet.
/r/seduction18/08/17 05:50 PM
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I've always heard Exes for the E in RAPE
/r/seduction17/08/17 06:55 PM
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It's all about mindset. If you are deep in thought and thinking about something that makes you uncomfortable it will show in your face. Be relaxed and happy and it will also come through.
/r/seduction16/08/17 06:52 PM
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I always find day game the most difficult. It seems like everyone has shit to do or is already involved in something. I guess practicing the most difficult thing would make everything else easier.
/r/seduction14/08/17 03:17 AM
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You give off the low self esteem vibe so obviously thats what you attract.
/r/seduction14/08/17 03:14 AM
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Where does one play beer pong in public. I'm actually curious because I've only known it as a house party game and I wouldn't invite a girl to my house for a first date.
/r/seduction13/08/17 10:52 PM
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Probably means a lot of interesting pictures on Instagram if you linked it to your tinder.
/r/seduction13/08/17 02:20 AM
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You need to get the body count thing out of your head. Pussy always feels like pussy, unless you meet some chick that has teeth down there or some shit. That being said just make things natural. Flirt with some girls at parties and whatnot but don't expect one night stands just see where it takes you.
/r/seduction12/08/17 07:21 AM
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My sister's boyfriend lived very far away for a couple years. They moved to be in the same spot and have been together for four years. So it is possible.
/r/seduction04/08/17 05:28 PM
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I can't believe people are saying early 20s. 17 is the average right? So early 20s would just be lagging behind the average age just by a few years. Being behind the average by a couple years wouldn't "do nothing but hinder you" I would honestly say 30 is when I would question what the reason is.
/r/seduction31/07/17 11:50 PM
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Great way to get to know them. And if they are horrible you can leave pretty early on unlike with dinner.
/r/seduction24/07/17 05:37 AM
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Very motivating. I' currently on the withdrawing from college part of your story sadly but I'm starting to make progress. What are some of the best books that you read?
/r/seduction18/07/17 11:47 PM
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I always do coffee for a first date
/r/seduction18/07/17 08:51 PM
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I know someone who is the hottest guy I've ever personally known. The thing is he is really quiet and never approaches so he doesn't get any women. I've even heard women complain that they wish he would approach them.
/r/seduction18/07/17 06:24 PM
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I found meeting women easier after college, I can approach any women in a club and fuck it up without seeing them around campus later
/r/seduction30/06/17 07:59 PM
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Im gonna guess you're like 16
/r/seduction19/06/17 02:29 AM
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Im the same exact way. Girls call me attractive but I'm too awkward to take advantage of it. I would suggest reading a lot and maybe even therapy.
/r/seduction14/06/17 05:03 PM
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Well it seems you dont want to do online dating or apps. Your only option then is cold approaches like you said. Also really depends where you live. Clubs and bars always house some single girls if you're 21. Maybe a book store if you don't want the party type. I don't know man, girls are everywhere! Just gotta approach them.
/r/seduction28/04/17 02:57 AM
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They called it stubble so I was just repeating. It's just funny how specific it is.
/r/seduction28/04/17 02:44 AM
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Funny how it says for number 1 specifically 7-10 days of stubble
/r/seduction28/04/17 01:56 AM
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Funny I was in the same exact position as you. I even read the same books to improve
/r/seduction04/04/17 07:38 AM
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Great answer. Thank you for reading my edit and answering the question I meant to ask.
/r/seduction27/03/17 04:09 PM
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Did you read my edit?
/r/seduction24/03/17 03:18 PM
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That was my first party, I didnt drink either so it was even worse
/r/seduction24/03/17 04:23 AM
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Alright I worded this wrong. In Chapter 12 there is a section where he talks about developing emotional connections. He says to share these first, and even says the deeper more personal the better. He also says even if it sounds intense thats a good thing.
/r/seduction23/03/17 11:22 PM
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Now when you say she never sets something up do you mean she never agrees to a day or she just never offers a date. This girl I'm texting right now always goes out with me but I always have to ask.
/r/seduction01/03/17 03:22 PM
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In my experience they enjoy listening to you play for about 20 minutes then want to do something else. Unless you can sing as well I've noticed they can get bored after the initial "wow you really can play". And even then I've had conversations with women who say they feel awkward when a guy plays and sing for just them (these women didn't know I was a musician at the time before anyone is like "maybe thats your fault lul"). Maybe I'm just not hanging with girls who are actually into musicians t…
/r/seduction29/01/17 11:11 PM
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I've had the same experience. I've been playing for eight years though. When it's brought up they just respond with "oh thats cool"
/r/seduction29/01/17 07:30 PM
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I would argue none of that matters unless you are confident. I guess number 3 though is part of being confident.
/r/seduction09/01/17 06:32 PM
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The smiling one is always debated. The rest are rather obvious though.
/r/seduction22/11/16 06:23 AM
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No when the guy is confident. A hot guy could take action with no confidence and still come off as creepy, Ive seen it happen.
/r/seduction19/11/16 07:35 AM
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The common thing is so true. I was getting along well with messaging a girl but once I asked what her hobbies were she stopped responding.
/r/seduction19/11/16 07:33 AM
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Act sooner rather then later. There was a girl I was attracted to but didn't respond for one day and she ended up deactivating her account.
/r/seduction14/10/16 08:56 AM
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