In Models, he talks about being emotionally vulnerable and sharing deep shit about yourself but I keep hearing guys say this scares women off?

Change2222 · 2017-03-23T23:09:31+00:00

He explains that vulnerability doesn't mean emotional vomit. It can mean that, that's a type of vulnerability, but it's not always appropriate. Vulnerability can be as simple as "I thought you were cute and I wanted to meet you." You're expressing your desire unconditionally and making yourself vulnerable to rejection. It can be "I'm really nervous but I wanted to get to know you." Again, you're expressing your emotions and making yourself vulnerable to rejection.

I'm pretty sure he emphasizes that in the book, but in case you misunderstood it you could read this article he posted instead: https://markmanson.net/vulnerability

LSDoughnut · 2017-03-23T23:17:42+00:00

In the book when he says vulnerability he means being bold and taking social risks where you could be rejected. For example, approaching a hot woman and being honest about your sexual intentions. He didn't mean dumping your emotions on her

simcity4000 · 2017-03-27T11:48:36+00:00

If you aren't comfortable being open around her, she wont feel comfortable being open around you. If she doesn't feel comfortable being open around you, she probably wont fuck you. Simples.

The goal isn't to just dump all your neurosis on her, its to create a vibe where you both feel like you can be "real" with each other.

dudeman1345 · 2017-03-23T23:22:54+00:00

Alright I worded this wrong. In Chapter 12 there is a section where he talks about developing emotional connections. He says to share these first, and even says the deeper more personal the better. He also says even if it sounds intense thats a good thing.

ANGRY_ASPARAGUS · 2017-03-23T23:40:46+00:00

His definition of vulnerable is putting your ass on the line and being honest about your intentions, regardless of the outcome. That means just being yourself, and be honest. Don't employ Fake Confidence, as he puts it. Believe in yourself, what you stand for, and employ True Confidence. Rejection will just help weed out the ones you don't want to waste your time on anyways.

Kitt_55 · 2017-03-24T08:31:26+00:00

Being vulnerable does not mean being weak or soft, but rather that you are strong enough to deal with the repercussions that may result from exposing your true self. There is no need for trying to always appear perfect. Women do not want to be with a man who is perfect. A woman does not want to feel that she can never relax or show any imperfections around you. Women don’t care that you have flaws, only that you accept and don’t try to hide them. Attractive women in particular are faced with a constant pressure to always appear perfect. Showing a woman that you will not judge her for being her true self around you is one of the greatest gifts that you can give her.

-Fundamentals of Female Dynamics (book) by Michael Knight

Title	In Models, he talks about being emotionally vulnerable and sharing deep shit about yourself but I keep hearing guys say this scares women off?
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Date	March 23, 2017 11:02 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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