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| 16 | Asking out your waitress. Thoughts? Experiences? | Logistics | duke_awapuhi | /r/seduction | 22/06/26 03:45 AM |
| 6 | Playing the long game (seems like we haven’t had a discussion in here about this for over a year) | Conversation | duke_awapuhi | /r/seduction | 09/07/26 12:41 AM |
| 0 | Man I feel like I did mind control or something | Field Report | duke_awapuhi | /r/seduction | 26/07/26 11:36 PM |
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| 8 | men 30+ how well do you do with younger women like 18-25?I get checked out by them but 25 is about the youngest I’ll go for. And I do fine with them. Haven’t gone for younger than that in awhile | /r/seduction | 28/07/26 01:45 AM |
| 1 | Does cold approach work as an average guy?Yeah you just have to figure out what works for you. Average guy means you aren’t repulsive or scary looking, so if you approach you have a shot. Now it just comes down to your talking skills | /r/seduction | 27/07/26 08:14 PM |
| 3 | Real talk how do you approach 10s in places with competition?No man you’ve got it wrong. In a bar, over 80% of the guys aren’t even going to talk to any women. And then a huge portion of those who do are not approaching 10’s because they’re scared. Bars are absolutely the place to be approaching 10’s. You have a way higher chance in a bar than on the street | /r/seduction | 27/07/26 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Real talk how do you approach 10s in places with competition?What do you mean not in a bar? | /r/seduction | 27/07/26 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Do I have to accept that learning "game" will be painful, embarrassing and overall mental torture?I wouldn’t say it’s that bad. It’s just trial and error. Every time you fumble, think about what it taught you. You are gaining experience, to the point that you can even think of rejections as wins because at least you gave it a shot and at least you learned something from it and got practice. The more you practice, the less torturous it feels, and the better you get at it. It will only take a handful rejections before it doesn’t hurt your feelings anymore. And then you can really go for it. An… | /r/seduction | 27/07/26 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Real talk how do you approach 10s in places with competition?A lot of the competition is too intimidated to approach 10’s so the door is sort of wide open for you. And 10’s know they’re 10’s, so when you approach them they’re immediately impressed by your confidence | /r/seduction | 27/07/26 05:09 PM |
| 0 | Man I feel like I did mind control or somethingI got more than that lol | /r/seduction | 27/07/26 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Are pictures everything on dating apps?Pictures are at least 90% of it. So ask yourself, do you really want your first impression to be limited to a picture, or do want it to be more full and dimensional? Because if you want full and dimensional, you’re going to have to go out and meet women in person. Now they’re judging your appearance based off more metrics than just a picture. Your vibe. Your energy. Your aura. Your presence. The way you move. The way you carry yourself. You know, the things women are actually attracted to physic… | /r/seduction | 26/07/26 11:51 PM |
| 1 | How do you stay focused on your goals and manage your love life?My main goal aside from having fun and finding happiness is getting women. So it’s easy to stay focused on my goals and manage my love life because my love life is my goal | /r/seduction | 26/07/26 11:43 PM |
| 1 | How to stop obsessing/thinking about a particular girlTalk to other women is the key. I know you want other advice but the reality is that you need distractions. If your hobbies and life aren’t distracting enough, other women surely will be. I’ve fallen hard for a couple women and been rejected, and it’s amazing how fast I can pull myself out just from flirting with and hooking up with other women. Create distractions! | /r/seduction | 26/07/26 11:40 PM |
| 9 | Anyone ever succeed with seducing a bartender? How did you do it?I just flirt with em for free drinks but I’ve never gone beyond that. I have a scar on my hand after falling down in the middle of the street because I managed to get a bartender to make me a free triple margarita that I probably didn’t need | /r/seduction | 26/07/26 07:07 PM |
| 3 | Do people here still cold approach?I see a lot on cold approaching in here. I mean heck, we have that guy posting daily with his absolutely ridiculous thing asking women if they think his hair should be long or short lol | /r/seduction | 24/07/26 02:17 PM |
| 1 | How to have a more "confident/dominant" vibe?The bartender was right. Walk tall with chest out and it does wonders. It makes you look more confident and honestly you feel more confident too just walking this way. And here’s a hack that can help you facilitate walking this way. Do a bunch of pushups before you go out. It literally makes you feel more buff and then your chest and arms are full of lactic acid so they look a little bigger. I honestly recommend always doing this before you leave this house. And yes, eye contact should be intens… | /r/seduction | 22/07/26 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Do people often fall In love with their therapist?The only therapist I ever had was completely androgynous. I had this therapist before it became common for people to talk about their preferred pronouns, like I didn’t even know preferred pronouns were a concept at the time, but even at the time I never felt comfortable calling them a he or a she. They never told me what they preferred, I know they were originally female, but I never felt right saying “she” because I thought they might be transitioning or something. The point being, I was not at… | /r/seduction | 22/07/26 01:26 AM |
| 1 | Nothing seems to work with this girl, I need your thoughts please.It’s over. I think a 3 strikes you’re out rule is good and it sounds like you’ve swung and missed more than thrice. Move on. She’s not interested | /r/seduction | 21/07/26 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Do girls care if you have tons of followers?A lot of people in my area are in tech and they do seem to really care about people having a perfectly curated “social” profile. But because of this people are sometimes pretty intrigued when you tell them you’re off grid, abstain from social media or only use “anti-social media” like Reddit | /r/seduction | 21/07/26 02:29 AM |
| 5 | What is the difference between a conversation that creates attraction and a normal friendly one?Eh I pick up chicks in person that I know for a fact would swipe left on my dating profiles. There are things you can do in person to create attraction that you can’t over a dating app | /r/seduction | 20/07/26 09:54 PM |
| 1 | How do I initiate intimacy?Bro if she went back to your apartment you’re in. Cmon. You already got the hard part out of the way. Just start sitting close together and let it flow naturally from there | /r/seduction | 20/07/26 12:57 AM |
| 1 | How to create thrill and seduction when your GF is away?Idk I guess I really don’t understand what he’s asking. He also said “committed relationship” | /r/seduction | 19/07/26 08:06 PM |
| 2 | How to create thrill and seduction when your GF is away?He asking about creating thrill and seduction with his girlfriend. Not opening the relationship | /r/seduction | 19/07/26 07:58 PM |
| 2 | Can you express your emotions, needs, and sexual desires with a woman?It’s easier for me to express myself with women than with men | /r/seduction | 18/07/26 06:52 AM |
| 1 | Where do you get the enthusiasm to talk to women?Most of them have headphones in and are looking at the ground? Idk about that…. I get enthusiasm for talking to women because I gain enthusiasm from talking to women. I enjoy talking with women and find it fun. They are interesting and I often find myself liking the way they think. If you enjoy the art of conversation, like talking to strangers, find talking to women enjoyable, and are a bit horny, then the really the only logical procession from there is to go out and talk some game | /r/seduction | 17/07/26 05:04 PM |
| 2 | How to Approach: When you notice them walking on the opposite side of a busy road?I think that’s a lost cause | /r/seduction | 15/07/26 02:56 AM |
| 1 | I think i need to lose weight before datingYes. Once I started taking care of myself and being healthier, I started getting WAY more attention from women. It’s night and day. You’re still gonna need personality and charm to take things further though | /r/seduction | 14/07/26 06:58 PM |
| 2 | Is alcohol a crutch or stepping stone for cold approach?I don’t need alcohol but I’m on point after a couple margaritas | /r/seduction | 13/07/26 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Guys with boats or dogs, how easy is it for you?My dogs are kind of vicious so it doesn’t work out too well. They do attract women and the ladies usually like my joke about one of the dogs being mean, but it’s hard to actually stand there and focus on game when I’m worried my dog will bite someone or someone’s dog lol | /r/seduction | 12/07/26 07:05 PM |
| 13 | Working on your self esteem will take you a LOOOOOOOONG way compared to any tips and tricks here.It takes time but it’s very possible, especially the younger you are when your brain is more elastic, to over time gaslight yourself into thinking you’re fucking awesome | /r/seduction | 11/07/26 09:45 PM |
| 2 | People overcomplicate things so much100%. Going faster than her actually sets you up for failure. At first I would get over eager and too excited and do too much talking, and even found myself interrupting at times. Then I started figuring out how to stay back, keep the ball in her court, and only really interject when appropriate. I realized it in real time when I was chatting this chick up at a club. She was blabbing away at me and instead of letting her finish, I cut in and asked her if she had been to this place before. That’s… | /r/seduction | 11/07/26 06:45 PM |
| 1 | People overcomplicate things so muchI think guys have to break free from thinking “lines” are good. Lines are unnatural and make you look unnatural. If you do have a line, it needs to feel like you came up with it on the spot. Searching for the “perfect line” is a fool’s errand. Come up with a line on the spot based on your surroundings. Definitely have some stuff in the queue, like questions to ask, if there is a temporary stall or pause in the conversation, but overthinking lines and the approach itself is where so many guys in … | /r/seduction | 11/07/26 06:38 PM |
| 1 | What is your favorite piece of advice from Mr. Locario dating coach?Exactly. You learn more from trial and error than from any sort of prescribed dating coach system | /r/seduction | 10/07/26 02:33 PM |
| 2 | A Different Perspective on Why to Get a Women’s Number ASAP when on dating appsI’d be interested in hearing your prompts lol | /r/seduction | 09/07/26 09:19 PM |
| 3 | A Different Perspective on Why to Get a Women’s Number ASAP when on dating appsSide note, what does your profile look like that you’re getting 30 matches a week? I live in a large city and can go to a bar and fairly easily get a one night stand, but I can barely get a match on online dating to save my life. I average about one match a month | /r/seduction | 09/07/26 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Playing the long game (seems like we haven’t had a discussion in here about this for over a year)I’m playing the many fishes in the sea game, while also keeping this one in my vision. If I end up in relationship with someone else so be it, but rn I’m just doing pickups and trying to bust a nut | /r/seduction | 09/07/26 02:32 AM |
| -4 | Playing the long game (seems like we haven’t had a discussion in here about this for over a year)I call it “trading up”. I actually do have one of those distance ones. That’s probably my backup plan lol. Not super interested in it though | /r/seduction | 09/07/26 01:52 AM |
| 1 | (28m) scared to talk to women.You need to work out your conversational muscle. Get out of your head and just talk to strangers. Take uber rides and talk to the driver. Try to chat with colleagues at work. Get good at chatting. Get comfortable talking to random strangers. Flex that muscle and eventually you will be kicking ass in the situations you’ve described above | /r/seduction | 09/07/26 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Never be afraid to shoot your shot….I finally got in one of these tribe situations and had 2 women approach me. I played things very casual and didn’t press because I know I’ll see both of them again | /r/seduction | 07/07/26 03:46 AM |
| 1 | Am I really supposed to..."I think of it as I will be more uncomfortable if f I don’t do it than if I do | /r/seduction | 06/07/26 02:24 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else’s mood goes down when you see other guys approaching?There was a definitely a point where I was like this but not anymore. They’re just other players in the game | /r/seduction | 06/07/26 03:59 AM |
| 0 | How do you deal with hostile women who use not being attracted to you as an insult?Jeez I’ve never had this happen | /r/seduction | 06/07/26 03:34 AM |
| 1 | When you constantly say "Whatever you want honey", it often leads to contempt from herYeah I ran into this in a relationship. The woman I had been with before was in charge and 90% of the time we did what she wanted to do. I could still get my way when I wanted, but generally I preferred to just let her call the shots and was fine with that. So then in my next relationship I’m sort of expecting the same thing, but this woman wanted me to call the shots. I would tell her we’ll do whatever she wants and she didn’t like it and would get annoyed with me | /r/seduction | 03/07/26 07:52 PM |
| 1 | My ex says she still has feelings for me but doesn’t want a relationship because she’s scared of getting hurt again. Am I being patient or just setting myself up for heartbreak?I personally think you guys should give it another go and see how it plays out. Recognize your mistakes from before and try to do better | /r/seduction | 03/07/26 05:37 PM |
| 3 | Questions to break the ice / silenceThis is how I do my approach lol. I find an observation about the setting we’re in and come up with some sort of little Seinfeld-esque bit about it and I just start talking to a woman about it with no introduction. They are receptive more than not | /r/seduction | 03/07/26 02:18 PM |
| 3 | I feel invisible to womenKeep your head up. A lot of women like guys in their thirties. I turned 30 in September and for whatever reason it’s like a switch flipped when that happened. I started getting a ton of attention from women | /r/seduction | 02/07/26 11:09 PM |
| 1 | Going out aloneYou’re going to have to figure most of this out just by trial and error. I think you will start to find that the approach itself is not as difficult as actually keeping things going in the right direction once you’ve made the approach. That’s where practice comes in. You’re going to have to just spark up conversations with random women and learn how to steer those conversations in the direction you want. That will take time and practice. I’ve found for the approach itself, especially in bars, th… | /r/seduction | 02/07/26 02:06 PM |
| 2 | Getting super soft rejections, how to have a more assertive vibe?Im in a similar position, only having recently started “playing the game” again at 30. Here’s the reality, these women see you as a boy, and you need to figure out how to make them see you as man. And you will be able to do this because you’re getting practice. This is all about trial and error. But you need to escalate. It doesn’t sound like you’re doing that. You have a window to escalate, and if you don’t do it, they won’t see you as capable of a hookup. You have to make the conversation sexu… | /r/seduction | 01/07/26 03:39 AM |
| 3 | How u guys are getting girlsI have to take a lot of Ubers and lyft’s for work and I always chat with the driver (unless they don’t speak English). My game has gotten so much better because of this. You have to flex the conversational muscle whenever possible so that when you end up talking to a woman you’re ready | /r/seduction | 30/06/26 04:12 PM |
| 1 | If i am talking to tall girls and if taller guys approach the same group and set, should i leave? Because clearly, women prefer taller guys and i think, i become a block between them. I feel girls might be upset with me because of that. They just don't show it on their face.It’s not logical to just give up like that. And then other women who see you don’t that will view you as weak and not confident | /r/seduction | 30/06/26 04:10 PM |
| 2 | If i am talking to tall girls and if taller guys approach the same group and set, should i leave? Because clearly, women prefer taller guys and i think, i become a block between them. I feel girls might be upset with me because of that. They just don't show it on their face.Hell no. Hold your ground | /r/seduction | 30/06/26 04:09 PM |
| 2 | Standoff with equally attractive girls?Damn this is perfect. Thanks | /r/seduction | 30/06/26 04:08 PM |
| 24 | I have high standards yet I often don't approach girls who look expensive and are really hot.You should approach them because most guys are too intimidated to and often these women just don’t get approached | /r/seduction | 29/06/26 09:27 PM |
| 1 | How does meeting people at bars work?I just start talking to people and they talk back | /r/seduction | 28/06/26 04:19 PM |
| 3 | First time at a club/barAh yeah I’ve found this too. Not so much the pulling teeth aspect but just the fact that women who are super attracted will keep it going faster and easier. Unless they’re so attracted they’re nervous. Sometimes people’s minds just go blank when they’re super attracted, which still happens to me sometimes. But the pulling teeth thing is pretty rare for me. But I’ve had a couple situations where it begins receptive and then somehow I botch it and then it becomes a little more like pulling teeth | /r/seduction | 27/06/26 09:07 PM |
| 2 | First time at a club/barYes. When you go to these environments often you start to be able to identify which women are open to a hookup and which aren’t. And then you’re already halfway there when you go to talk to one. Identify Approach Keep the convo going, escalate correctly, make your intentions known and show interest. Step three is hardest part. You can still be a great conversationalist but have your mind go blank, and once there’s an awkward silence that you don’t quickly recover, it’s a turn off. Furthermore if… | /r/seduction | 27/06/26 08:47 PM |
| 3 | First time at a club/barDon’t have lines. Just find some quirky observations about your surroundings and just playfully start talking about them to a woman that’s near you. This always works for me to get a conversation started. Make sure to smile! I even had 2 women cut in front of me at a bar once and I teased them about it and ended up getting a hookup out of it. The approach isn’t even the hard part dude, it’s keeping things going and escalating it in the correct way. Not too fast or slow. And that just takes pract… | /r/seduction | 27/06/26 08:18 PM |
| 13 | Stats for Top GuysAll you need to know is your own personal success rate. Not that of others. What’s your personal benchmark? Now look at where you’ve made mistakes and improve it. It has nothing to do with other guys. Only you and the women you talk to | /r/seduction | 27/06/26 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Any men in their 30’s who have or had success with dating women and getting laid while still living at home?30m, live with my dad. Mild success but I only started playing the game a few months ago. He went out of town for a week and my goal was to bring a woman home while he was gone. Got close with one, ended up having a one night stand with another the next night. But if he’s home I’m taking them to a hotel | /r/seduction | 26/06/26 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Texting advice - high response rate to initial opener, but falls flat shortly after (Meeting all women in person)“Game is not performed over text”. I love this and agree so much. The only game you should be doing over text is trying to limit the amount of texting in favor of other forms of communication | /r/seduction | 25/06/26 02:06 PM |
| 2 | How do I cold approach (talking about the opener)Just start talking about an observation you have about something in your vicinity or ask a question. Approach similarly to how you would talk to any random stranger | /r/seduction | 25/06/26 02:00 PM |
| 1 | How To Ask A Woman Out On A Second Date?Plan the second date while on the first date | /r/seduction | 24/06/26 04:14 PM |
| 1 | trip with friends, torn between content vs approaching womenDo both. One thing you can talk to women about is showing them your creations. I mean shit. You approach a woman, you exchange instagram info, then she sees your creations and she gets more attracted | /r/seduction | 24/06/26 04:13 PM |
| 7 | Game is key19 year olds are easy | /r/seduction | 23/06/26 11:39 PM |
| 1 | Texting vs in personIn person lets you know whether or not you really like someone in a way that texting just can’t. And there are conversations that need to be had in person, not over text. I think if you’re serious about someone you should at minimum make time for FaceTiming each other | /r/seduction | 22/06/26 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Asking out your waitress. Thoughts? Experiences?She wasn’t flirting though. If she was I would assume it’s the tip thing and wouldn’t have given it a second thought | /r/seduction | 22/06/26 05:15 AM |
| 2 | Asking out your waitress. Thoughts? Experiences?Why not? | /r/seduction | 22/06/26 05:09 AM |
| 1 | Asking out your waitress. Thoughts? Experiences?No but it’s interesting | /r/seduction | 22/06/26 05:09 AM |
| -1 | Asking out your waitress. Thoughts? Experiences?I’m not scared. I just want to hear people’s success rate | /r/seduction | 22/06/26 04:48 AM |
| 1 | “He who hesitates, Masturbates”Yeah what I’ve found is that it’s better to just start talking than to get all muddled up in “how do I approach” “should I walk up and introduce myself” blah blah blah. Just find an observation you have about the vicinity you’re in and just go up and start talking about it. You’ll know fast if they’re receptive | /r/seduction | 16/06/26 03:40 PM |
| 17 | I keep encountering this shit test?Just smile or chuckle. You don’t have to actually say anything | /r/seduction | 16/06/26 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Do you have a preference in the type of women you approach?The ones that are standing closest to me. I mean, I do have to think they’re hot though. But if you’re within speaking distance and attractive to me, there’s a strong chance I’m going to just start talking to you | /r/seduction | 16/06/26 04:21 AM |
| 1 | Would you cut off a work wife if their husband/BF got jealous?If they had a husband yeah probably. But I do have a work wife and she doesn’t say she has a boyfriend, she just says she’s “dating somebody”, and I don’t think he would like the flirty texts she sends me. I’m not cutting that one off even if she is fucking someone else rn, because I think ultimately I can win this battle | /r/seduction | 14/06/26 03:34 PM |
| 113 | Sitting on the couch with a female friend, she’s cuddling into me. How do I smoothly make a move without making it weird?Get off Reddit and pay attention to her | /r/seduction | 13/06/26 05:20 AM |
| 1 | How to be fun and flirty?Smile | /r/seduction | 11/06/26 03:14 PM |
| 6 | Is travelling abroad a game changer?That’s common. You’re always going to have more success as a foreign novelty | /r/seduction | 11/06/26 02:17 AM |
| 1 | How to be fun and flirty?You’re just gonna have to practice doing it. I think if you can just keep a smile on your face then some of it will come naturally | /r/seduction | 09/06/26 03:47 PM |
| 2 | Why is it a numbers game and how to fix it.K so what are they lol. I mean one thing I’ve been able to do is figure out how to identify which chicks are looking for a hookup and then you’re already halfway there when you start talking to them | /r/seduction | 08/06/26 08:52 PM |
| 6 | How to escalate for a kissTbh this is good. You have an opportunity here to really build some tension. You can get her where she’s begging for you to kiss her, and it’s probably gonna start with you kissing her neck | /r/seduction | 07/06/26 10:53 PM |
| 6 | Cold approach honestly changed my lifeI just looked it up and it looks like Duolingo wtf lol | /r/seduction | 06/06/26 09:20 PM |
| 2 | Cold approach honestly changed my lifeSooo you didn’t say anything about cold approaching… where are you doing it? What are you doing? What have your experiences been? Etc etc | /r/seduction | 06/06/26 09:19 PM |
| 2 | How to get laid if i dont drink alcohol?It needed to be said. A lot of youngsters don’t know you’re supposed to tip bartenders | /r/seduction | 06/06/26 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Is everyone getting laid?Same. It’s different but better for me | /r/seduction | 06/06/26 04:26 PM |
| 4 | Should I approach women who are checking me out?Yeah but don’t walk up with a corny pickup line. Just start talking to them about some observation you have about the vicinity you guys are both in. Just start talking like you would with any stranger. Then introduce yourself if they seem receptive | /r/seduction | 06/06/26 12:37 AM |
| 3 | Travelling to a different country to learn Cold Approach?You might have better odds in another country because you’re a foreign novelty. It might skew the process for you a bit. I recommend doing it where you live now | /r/seduction | 05/06/26 02:30 PM |
| 0 | Question: does being under confident and insecure inside make others subconsciously unattracted towards you?Unless they’re attracted to that sort of vibe | /r/seduction | 05/06/26 02:28 PM |
| 1 | If I built a Duolingo but for social skills, game, etc, would you guys use it?I think you should. Dating apps are becoming the only option for some people. It’s time to open things back up. And those of us who actually do talk to women in person are at a huge advantage right now because so few guys are doing it | /r/seduction | 05/06/26 01:00 AM |
| 2 | If I built a Duolingo but for social skills, game, etc, would you guys use it?Yeah I’d try it. There are many ways to speak this language though. There are definitely some constants though | /r/seduction | 04/06/26 11:17 PM |
| 16 | Volume will save youThat’s ironic considering the site we’re on | /r/seduction | 04/06/26 08:48 PM |
| 6 | Volume will save youBoomhauer method | /r/seduction | 04/06/26 08:48 PM |
| 1 | How do I playfully handle women who assume I'm gay?Too corny. It needs to be more blunt like “not after seeing you” | /r/seduction | 04/06/26 04:33 AM |
| 2 | How would you flirt with a nurse while donating blood?I would joke that she better not poke the wrong vein and kill me and tease her that idk if I trust that her hands are steady enough to do this. Then once the blood is being taken ask her questions about her job etc | /r/seduction | 04/06/26 04:31 AM |
| 2 | Weird eye contact pattern I’ve noticed while walking aroundIt probably has to do with the fact that you are projecting a stronger and more forward gaze onto the women you find attractive | /r/seduction | 02/06/26 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Is cold approach worth it as an average looking guy?It’s always worth it. You never lose anything from doing it | /r/seduction | 24/05/26 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Can someone give me tips on how to approach women at bars?First off, don’t walk up and introduce yourself. Just start talking about something that’s happening around you. Make a funny observation. Smile. And conversation will develop. If you’re conversing back and forth smoothly and there aren’t awkward pauses, then you tell her something about how you like how she looks. You can also say she has a beautiful smile after you see it for the first time. One thing that worked for me once with a woman that seemed really cold at first was once I made her lau… | /r/seduction | 23/05/26 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Is There Anyone Else Here Who Likes Going Out By Themselves?Yes. I prefer it. I talk to more people and meet more women. Going out by yourself is total freedom | /r/seduction | 23/05/26 02:31 AM |
| 2 | Tips on how to get laid in NYCWha he said works in any city. The Hinge thing is a bit trickier because it’s all about being good at creating a good social media profile and then knowing how to flirt over text | /r/seduction | 22/05/26 12:04 AM |
| 2 | To those who managed to date one with 10/10 looks..I considered her a 10. She was a very dominant woman and picked me. I managed by just going “yes ma’am” and dating her lol | /r/seduction | 19/05/26 01:35 AM |
| 6 | What made you better/more natural?Just talking to more women. Chatting up the women at work. Chatting up cashiers lol. I’ve always been good at talking to women I’m not interested in, but then went through years of not playing the game due to a bunch of fucked life shit and clinical depression. So about a year ago I started getting my shit together, pulled myself out of a depressive state and all of that facilitated me getting a lot of attention from women, I guess because I looked better and more confident. And at a certain poi… | /r/seduction | 19/05/26 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Music festival strategy?There’s probably a spot where they gravitate to in order to sort of smoke out of people’s way. Bring a pack of Camel Lights or something | /r/seduction | 18/05/26 07:13 PM |
| 4 | Music festival strategy?Yes. Music events like this are imo one of the easiest places. Theres usually still alcohol involved, which helps your chances, and you are starting from a common interest, music. Just start talking to women about the music and you’ll be in a good conversation. And since you’re in a good conversation, you have a place to build from. Ask if she wants to go see “____” with you. They start in an hour etc. Walk over there with her. Keep chatting. Make sure to get her number. Then potentially dance w… | /r/seduction | 18/05/26 10:47 AM |
| 3 | What is the best response to rejection?Ok no worries | /r/seduction | 17/05/26 08:41 PM |
| 1 | Advice on Night club dancing and escalationIf they take your sunglasses you smile and make some cute/teasy comment about “hey give those back you thief!” or something like that. Then see where it goes from there. Since you’re on a dance floor you’re going to have to get really close to her for her to hear you which is good. You can say things into her ear. Ask if she wants to dance. Or ask if she wants to chat somewhere more quiet. If they just start dancing with you that’s even easier, you just start dancing back with them and see where… | /r/seduction | 17/05/26 08:04 PM |
| 2 | Just feel absolutely shit…You talked to more women than most of the guys in that nightclub did. Consider it a victory. No approach is a total loss. You are gaining experience and knowledge. This is all about trial and error, and the more you do it, the more comfortable you get doing it and easier it gets. | /r/seduction | 17/05/26 07:38 PM |
| 1 | Advice on Night club dancing and escalationMan you had so many opportunities. If they give you attention like this you have to respond. The door is wide open. And if you’re seen continuously turning them down like this, the next person who tries to dance or flirt with you is going to be a man… | /r/seduction | 17/05/26 07:35 PM |
| 3 | Going out alone to a cub/bar alone (Part 2)Hell yeah brother. It’s all about baby steps. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Just keep getting more comfortable out there and you will start making moves | /r/seduction | 17/05/26 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Went out alone to a nightclub: Approached with no success.It’s all about trial and error. You just got 5 times better at this than you were the night before! Continue until you succeed! You will succeed! Try different ways of approaching. Or don’t even think of it as approaching as much as just striking up a conversation with a stranger the way you would with any stranger in public | /r/seduction | 17/05/26 01:11 PM |
| 1 | What is an "exciting guy"?At surface level you may not be “exciting”, but you could still be exciting to the right woman. If she’s looking for someone stable whose place she can go to frequently and all of that is new for her, then being with you will be exciting for her, at least for awhile | /r/seduction | 15/05/26 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Why is it that most guys naturally learn and figure out the whole dating/seduction thing, how to attract and talk to women correctly without ever having gotten help from a dating coach or pick up artist, or is it False? Did most guys have some help along the way?It’s better to figure it out through trial and error and create your own method than to follow someone else’s. Then you’re doing it naturally instead of following some prescribed system (that women have probably heard before btw) | /r/seduction | 10/05/26 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Why do my dates feel great conversationally but not romantically?You need to lead it in a romantic direction and if you wait too long then they won’t see you that way | /r/seduction | 10/05/26 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible/worth to sarge sober in the night?Personally no. I mean, I haven’t been successful when I’m straight up drunk, but successful on a nice tequila ride for sure. I don’t really like being around drunk people when I’m not drinking and I’ve found that drunk women freaking love me | /r/seduction | 10/05/26 02:41 PM |
| 12 | Anybody here that started approaching in their 30s?Yeah I turned 30 and started approaching after years of not even trying. It’s been about 7 months. I’ve had some success, but still figuring out the system. Approaching isn’t really the hard part as much as it’s directing the conversation in a way that gets me what I’m looking for and suggests to the woman that I know what I’m doing. I’m definitely making up for years worth of lost experience but I’m attractive enough that I’m well received. I think one of my biggest takeaways has been that if y… | /r/seduction | 10/05/26 02:33 AM |
| 3 | Is cold approaching as a 33m worth it?Just keep doing it. It’s a numbers game. You will get more success when you get more comfortable with it. If you approach nervously like an introverted socially anxious person generally would, then you’re more likely to be told no | /r/seduction | 09/05/26 04:23 PM |
| 1 | is not having instagram a red flag?I don’t use instagram and never have. I never liked it there. It can make things trickier occasionally. Some young people, especially in the SF Bay Area where I live, are freaked out by people who aren’t super active on social media, especially instagram. But for the most part it doesn’t really matter. It will be a read flag to a certain type of woman, but I think overall it really doesn’t matter. I’m not a fan of letting people make snap judgments about me based on some shallow, superficial soc… | /r/seduction | 09/05/26 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Dancing one of the most attractive things a man can doYou don’t even have to have good moves, all you have to have is good rhythm. If you just dance at a show and have good rhythm, women start hanging around you | /r/seduction | 09/05/26 03:37 AM |
| 3 | Where is the best place to approach a lot of women in the same place during the day for (Daygame)?Either way you’re flexing the conversational muscle with strangers. It helps | /r/seduction | 06/05/26 12:40 AM |
| 2 | How do you know if she’s interested?Correct. She should match or exceed your energy. This woman was not interested. You read the signs correctly. You probably should have asked for the number anyway but she was clearly not digging it | /r/seduction | 05/05/26 11:22 PM |
| 11 | How do you get over oneitis?You need to keep approaching more women. Don’t go to the gym or focus on work as if you just went through a breakup. Those aren’t the right distraction for this. This was a minor screwup, not the end of the world. Talk to more women to put some separation between you and this one. Don’t act like you have a broken heart. If you met someone you liked that much after just a few days of approaching, then there will be more | /r/seduction | 05/05/26 07:58 PM |
| 5 | Where is the best place to approach a lot of women in the same place during the day for (Daygame)?Exactly. I think the trick to a “cold approach” is to just start talking to someone naturally. You don’t need to walk up and introduce yourself first thing, just start talking like you would with any stranger in public | /r/seduction | 04/05/26 11:09 PM |
| 29 | Isn’t nightlife 95% women sticking to their groups?Exactly. Unless you end up dancing with a random chick on the dance floor and then talking to her after, an environment that loud is not good for this. Same reason why a concert is a terrible first date. You need a place where you can talk | /r/seduction | 03/05/26 01:26 AM |
| 3 | For the men who have casual sex a lot, how physically attractive are you?The Boomhauer method. It definitely works. Cast a wide net | /r/seduction | 02/05/26 05:38 PM |
| 1 | I think we overcomplicate it a bitYeah I finally learned this one. You need to tell them they’re hot sooner than later in the conversation. If you do it too late it kind of makes you look like you don’t know what you’re doing, (and if you don’t know what you’re doing, is a one night stand with you going to be worth it for her?). It can even be a situation where there is clear attraction on both sides and it’s obvious to the woman what you’re getting at, but if you don’t give the compliment soon enough, the tension doesn’t escala… | /r/seduction | 27/04/26 09:56 PM |
| 1 | How can i find a friend group to go to clubs with?For the final paragraph, do you have a process or system for “looking for wings”? I don’t need a wingman but it is nice to not always be solo all the time. Just by being in a group it can sort of increase the net if everyone has the same goal in mind | /r/seduction | 26/04/26 11:18 PM |
| 2 | How can i find a friend group to go to clubs with?Yeah except they’re only your friends for that night and then when the alcohol wears off they never talk to you again | /r/seduction | 26/04/26 11:14 PM |
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