dylanbob5 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Falling for Friends Dilemma	dylanbob5	/r/seduction	03/11/18 11:37 PM
2	DAE feel weird and/or embarrassed when flirting in public?	dylanbob5	/r/seduction	12/11/18 07:26 PM
1	Critique on common "Escaping the Friend Zone" advice	dylanbob5	/r/seduction	28/01/19 09:11 PM

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4	Abortion rights and mysogony Even though I'm a liberal who has always been pro-choice, I can't stand the arguments like "they want to control women's bodies!" and "they want to make Handmaid's Tale a reality!" I know conservatives. I was raised in a largely conservative community and have conservative family members who are strongly against abortion. Even though I obviously don't agree, I see what their argument is. Most conservatives nowadays don't care about controlling women's bodies or anything like that. They don't car…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	03/09/21 09:08 PM
5	Abortion rights and mysogony I grew up in a red area of a red state and have lived in red states for almost all of my life. I was fed the "abstinence only" sex ed when I was in middle and high school. It was unrealistic and laughable and basically everyone knew it. But it was state policy so we had to go through the motions anyway. I'm a lifelong liberal, have always been pro-choice on the issue of abortion, but I don't believe the narrative of abstinence only sex ed being a key reason for unwanted pregnancies. In this day …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	03/09/21 06:42 PM
27	How has feminist shaming/normalized misandry harmed you? I've been chastised, verbally abused, insulted, slapped across the face, dragged back to a woman's apartment while I was clearly too intoxicated to consent to sex, excluded, ostracized, ganged up on, and disrespected in ways that have never been done to me by men. But there's no recourse or sympathy for those experiences. People don't actually care even after the sociocultural upheaval we've seen in recent years. The most I'll get is lip service of support. But even that seems artificial and obl…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	25/07/21 04:43 PM
3	CMV: Men are more into commitment than women, that's why they can't find men to commit Those women will ignore or turn down the ones who, not only would commit, but could potentially even bring value to their lives in ways they didn't know possible. Not sad sap simps. I'm talking about great guys who may have had lackluster game, met at bad timing/circumstances, or made an off-putting mistake one time and she didn't take it well. All hiccups that didn't accurately represent them. But enough for her to write them off as dating potential. In doing so, she may have just written off s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/21 06:15 AM
1	Most moderm women seem to think that the bar is set extremely low for men. What do you guys think? and don't be emotionally volatile, petty, high maintenance, codependent, vapid, emotionally unavailable, or narcissistic A sound mind is more important. A few pounds can be lost way easier than a few personalities	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/21 05:43 AM
3	CMV: The woke crowd is doing little to nothing to address the legitimate grievances of men. They can't expect acceptance and support in return. Nobody blames the victim. In my life so far I've yet to hear anyone ever so much as hint at "well, maybe if she didn't wear..." at all. Ever. I can't stand these stereotypical talking points that are seriously antiquated and have barely any true-to-life examples. It isn't non-feminists. Nobody says it. I grew up in a red area in a red state and I've never heard it uttered once. And I have been a liberal since before it became a moral crusade with absolutist ideals. Most non-feminists in the US a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/21 04:15 AM
7	My dad always says if a guy is single at 35+, there usually a reason, and it’s usually baggage. How true is this statement? If you want to learn how to catch fish, don't ask the fish. Ask the fisherman (and preferably a good one). It's an RP way of looking at things when it comes to dating and seduction but it's true. Women often don't even know what they actually want when it comes to theory vs reality. I was fed the whole "just be yourself.. be nice.. be a gentleman.. any girl would be beyond lucky to have you!" advice from my mom, and even some close female friends I've had in the past. Those women were all won ov…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/21 06:54 AM
1	Are men inherently seen as disposable by society? I (28M) have never had reservations about expressing myself and seeking out help if needed. In my house when I was growing up, there was no shame in crying, admitting you had a problem that you couldn't solve, leaning on others when times were tough, and seeking professional help. All great things that I always recommend and still advocate for. However, after years of personal experience and homework on the subject, there's both a sociocultural and evolutionary stigma against men who express tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/21 09:53 PM
13	Female Dating Strategy Short of committing a hate crime or getting caught on camera yelling a slur or wearing black face, women can say and do basically anything with little-to-no consequences. Misandry? Go for it. Slap a man? Ehh he probably did something to deserve it. Talk openly about sex and dating in the workplace? You're a sexual being and shouldn't be ashamed of it. Say something really hurtful and shitty to someone? Your circle of friends pats you on the back for speaking your mind and not backing down. Get a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/21 09:57 PM
2	Unpopular opinion: Many mothers give horrible dating advice to their sons If I had to guess, I'd think some women arent pursuing men simply because they dont want to be in a relationship at this point, etc I wish it was that simple, but it's not. Even the most liberal minded feminist will typically want traditional seduction/approaching/dating dynamics. Women want men to make the first move. Not doing so is a sign of disinterest (or weakness). It's also because women don't want to be in intimidating, scary, vulnerable situations. A lot of that is from evolutionary psy…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/21 05:22 PM
21	What was that one moment where you felt sympathetic to the opposite sex's dating struggles? A moment that made you go, "I may not fully agree, but damn. I understand that must be rough." A woman gang raped, beaten, sodomized with a metal pole, left to suffer alone, and dying of massive blood loss is 100% newsworthy. That is not something that happens every day in the western world. We hear about atrocious gang rape stories from around the world. Stories that are terrible, inhumane, and sick, but don't end in sodomy by a pole and manslaughter. That's a world news level story. And given our current sociocultural climate, with every wrongdoing against a woman being catapulted into …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/21 12:09 AM
1	What's the point in marriage? Those statistics are sort of true. However, consideration has to be given to the various factors and demographics within those statistics. The reasons why children of 1 parent homes are more likely to be screwed up is because it's a phenomenon that's common in lower socioeconomic brackets. They're way more likely to be poor and generally dysfunctional households. White trash, inner city black and brown, teen moms, and even married couples who are not the most compatible or stable but they decide…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/21 01:14 AM
1	Do men even get praised anymore for having high n counts? I (27M) have never understood this old stereotype of "men go around bragging about their sexual conquests and their bros high five him for it" or "dudes brag about their n counts and get tons of social cred for it but women are sluts and shunned." I think you definitely get more of that kind of shit when you're dealing with some Chads and bro types. But for the average guy, we're not going around bragging about our conquests and telling stories of who we fucked. That's never been my experience w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/20 09:47 PM
19	How Was She Supposed To Date You In Her Youth If She Didn't Know You Yet? Most of our outrage culture in recent years has been driven by people who are projecting their own demons, traumas, and uncomfortable experiences onto others. For better and worse, people are shaped by their firsthand experiences. There are healthy and unhealthy ways of coping and processing those experiences. There is also the bittering frustration that comes from years of living, learning, growing through those traumas but still running into the same situations with the same types of people. G…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/20 02:44 PM
2	Why do so many women now have children outside of marriage? Does it matter? Maury made a career off of it. Half of the episodes are lie detector tests about infidelity and the other half are paternity tests because of promiscuity with too many partners to know who's the real dad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/20 02:24 PM
1	CMV- Most dating advice in this sub and other subs are more depressing and anxiety inducing than helpful to men and they should seek answers somewhere else. I've done a LOT of homework in recent years about the dynamics of the sexes, wooing, courtship, relationships, durability (in long-term relationships), and what both parties want in a partner. I (straight guy) have never been a natural when it comes to attracting and seducing women. But I dramatically improved once I started doing homework, and not all of it has been PUA material or exclusively male focused either. Of course not everyone is identical and the concepts often don't consider differe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/20 12:00 PM
3	Women dont want less sex than men. They want less sex with YOU Don't take "no" for an answer...? Correct me if I'm wrong, but I seem to recall a major cultural movement recently that focused on that specific thing. The key message was that we should take "no" for an answer. Glad you knew where to draw the line and gtfo because that's how the crazies come out later and ruin your life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/20 04:37 PM
0	Is there a gender difference when it comes to male and women and how they feel about compliments on appearance? There are 2 answers to this: Yes, for us guys getting a compliment from a cute girl is awesome because we usually interpret it as an advance. I can speak for myself, and I think the majority of men, when I say that we absolutely do not get compliments regularly. I remember specific instances, which are usually just given in passing from the other person's perspective, when I receive compliments. It's absolutely a rare occurrence. Friends, girlfriends, peers, sibling, etc. For guys it honestly do…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/20 09:20 PM
4	Q4All: What are men responsible for that women aren't? There's a saying that aptly sums up the difference between men and women in (every) society: Women are human beings. Men are human doings. For women, value and desirability are inherent qualities that they have just for existing. Men's value is based on their actions and accomplishments. Proven worth. Why did Kim Kardashian or Paris Hilton initially get famous? They didn't have credentials or bodies of work or self-made success. Kardashian had a sex tape with a C-list rapper. Hilton was an heire…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/20 02:00 PM
3	Do men dislike being approached by women romantically or is that just a myth? You're right that a boss shouldn't play grab ass with someone in the office. That's a given. I'm a liberal minded straight guy who has been hesitant but conscientious about approaching women his whole life (but definitely gotten better). I keep my ear to the ground and watch for emerging trends on the whole metoo phenomenon. There are absolutely women who have been outspoken against men approaching them in public or even making women feel somewhat uncomfortable while there's a potentially sexual…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/20 01:54 AM
1	Do men dislike being approached by women romantically or is that just a myth? You'd be surprised. It's flabbergasting how many women have some variation of "looking for something serious" or "no hookups" or "I don't do FWB" or "I'm a hopeless romantic" etc. Before people jump on me: yes, people are entitled to their own wants and needs in the realm of dating and sexuality. Don't get worked up over this it is just an observation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/20 01:13 AM
3	Do y’all like women? Toxic ≠ untrue Some shifting attitudes that have emerged in recent years about the need for more male emotional expression can't undo an eon of evolutionary psychology	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/20 02:26 AM
3	Do y’all like women? That's terrific. Respecting someone who shows vulnerability is a sorely underrated quality. As a man, I am totally fine with expressing myself. However, as men we are still expected to be pillars of strength and stability. We can't let our emotions out as frequently or as intensely as women. Based on evolutionary psychology and sociocultural traditions, men have to keep a certain degree of composure and self-assured confidence even when we express vulnerability and show our flaws. Insecurity, un…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/20 07:41 PM
2	What exactly is toxic masculinity? As a man who has been seeing various psych counselors and professionals for 15 years, I will advocate therapy to anyone interested. I've never been one to suppress emotions and I spend a lot of time self reflecting. However, there's still a pervasive problem with society when it comes to emotional support for men. It's a mix of nature and nurture. Men who are in touch with their emotions and express those feelings openly, and I know this from a lifetime of experience, are not as respected or adm…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/20 01:59 PM
1	Damn straight Flip the script in that situation and it'd be grounds for an arrest, lawsuit, restraining order, and nowadays a full "cancel" campaign on social media.	/r/PussyPassDenied	04/08/20 01:50 PM
7	Fast woman wants to go slow Did you have to hide it in a piece of cheese?	/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen	22/07/20 02:46 AM
0	Q4ALL: Do you guys think men naturally on a biological level are more prone to loneliness? Sometimes that's the case. The ones who are attracted to that power and wealth are gold diggers and opportunists. But more often than not, what attracts women to powerful and wealthy men isn't those things in themselves. It's what those things represent in terms of that man's value to society. A guy built a fortune 500 company from the ground up? That implicitly means he's ambitious, smart, responsible, talented, well respected by others, and a good leader. All of those traits are highly desired…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/20 02:14 AM
3	Oh, it’s not? In corporate America, where a publicly traded company is legally required to turn profits for its shareholders, it wouldn't make any sense to hire men if women could be paid less to do it. The last 40 years have shown how quickly corporations will cut their number of (US) employees if they can find cheaper labor elsewhere. Manufacturing in America has disappeared for that exact reason. Also, the Civil Rights Act of 1964 explicitly prohibits employment discrimination based on race or gender. It i…	/r/PussyPassDenied	09/04/20 11:02 PM
1	To Davy Jones' Locker she goes She was in Aquaman and.... I honestly couldn't tell you what her other credits are. She's out of her mind and this legal battle has been an absolute shit show from the start. Every step of the way she seems to get crazier. Nobody in the entertainment business is coming to her defense or offering similar stories of abusive experiences with Johnny Depp. His friends and fans are rallying behind him as her case continues to get thinner and thinner. This is the end of her acting career. Certainly the…	/r/PussyPassDenied	09/04/20 01:03 AM
8	Ayyy!!! No handouts here!! Woman: He touched me in a way that I didn't like (not on the tits, ass, or genitals) but didn't say anything in the moment! Society, Social Media: You poor thing! You're a victim. Your experience is literally the same as rape. Time to take that predator down and hang this over him forever! Woman: If you voted for Trump you're a sexist, racist piece of shit and I hope you get castrated! Society, Social Media: Yasss queen! Tell it like it is! Couldn't agree more! Woman: All men are scum. I hate th…	/r/PussyPassDenied	07/01/20 06:42 PM
6	I don't wanna buy drinks for random girls at bar. THANK YOU! Buying drinks is a worn out cliche anyway. Nothing interesting or special about it. Any halfway decent looking girl knows she can sweet talk a guy into getting drinks.	/r/seduction	24/08/19 04:47 AM
1	I don't wanna buy drinks for random girls at bar. Tell her you don't just buy drinks for any cute girl who sweet-talks you. You're not that easy. Plus, she could get any other dude in the bar to buy her a drink. You're not interested in being played for a sap. You have higher standards. I don't buy women drinks. I also don't drink anymore so that cuts out my interest in booze in general. Here's something I kind of like to throw out there: "I'll pay for your Uber/Lyft." That's a hard bargain to turn down. Some take the offer, some don't. But it …	/r/seduction	24/08/19 04:44 AM
11	How Men Are Ruining Dating - STOP The Virtual Thirst We can only focus on ourselves and what we do as individuals (and maybe help some guy friends in need along the way). But we can't stop every awkward teen and guys from the Eastern Bloc and India from flooding every girl's DMs with some variation of "hey bb u want sum fuk? I am horny now!" Douchy guys who get a bunch of matches and just copy-paste some "(lame pick-up line) lol wanna bang?" are just as bad. Those kinds of men are all products of inexperience, low effort, no investment or personal…	/r/seduction	24/07/19 04:30 AM
1	Am i being catfished on tinder? Tinder has gotten way better at keeping out bots but some still manage to slip in. Here's how I can tell (this is across all dating apps): The woman starts the conversation (doesn't apply to Bumble) and doesn't mention anything specific about my pics or bio Pixelated pics or all professionally shot pics (latter could indicate she's an Instagram ho) Her bio is outright sexual with no chill (usually it's short like "I need a dominant man to come over and show me a lesson" 😘😈💦) Here's a trend latel…	/r/seduction	07/07/19 06:03 PM
3	The Power Of Making Positive Assumptions Patrice was the master. He was one of the best comedians of all time, an unforgettable guest on radio and talk shows, never let his race/disease/size/weight keep him down, always said what he meant, had a personality that was larger than life, and was incredibly intelligent. He polarized people, never got the success he deserved, and burned bridges. But he kept pushing because he knew he was great and no amount of rejection was gonna stop him from doing what he loved and being his authentic self…	/r/seduction	07/07/19 05:35 PM
8	Why do girls say they don't like gym pictures on Tinder, when that seems not to be the case in the majority of girls? Don't ask a fish how to catch a fish. Instead, ask a good fisherman. In dating and seduction, people (especially women) don't always know what they want and why. There are exceptions, double standards, changes of heart, etc and it's almost always useless to ask a woman what she definitively wants in a man. Plus, people are fickle and subjective. A good fisherman knows what fish want. He's been there and done that, tried and failed, done his homework, learned from others before him, and he now kn…	/r/seduction	29/06/19 07:12 PM
7	Online dating, 2019. Tinder and bumble are my go-to apps and I think they've gotten WAY better about keeping bots out of the system. If they could get rid of Instagram thots looking to bait followers it'd be even better. POF is a shit show filled with bots. No way I'll go back to it. I like Hinge too and use it pretty regularly.	/r/seduction	21/06/19 12:47 AM
0	2 Tips on not being intimidating/unwelcome: (1) hold her hand and (2) let her reject you (it doesn't mean she's rejected you!) Glad to hear it has worked for you. Honestly, that's been a dream scenario of mine countless times and I wish it'd happen. But, from plenty of personal experience and from countless sources on game, I've learned that once you pull the trigger on asking a girl out then that's the defining moment. You've then shown your hand and the determining factor is whether you've effectively caught her interest before that and generated enough attraction. Speaking from experience, a girl turning me down will…	/r/seduction	11/02/19 12:18 AM
23	2 Tips on not being intimidating/unwelcome: (1) hold her hand and (2) let her reject you (it doesn't mean she's rejected you!) I agree wholeheartedly up until the "ask her out, get turned down, take it in stride and act like it's no big deal, wait, and she'll reciprocate" part. I'm not discounting any personal experiences you may have had in this, but I've never heard of that happening and it definitely hasn't ever happened for me. If I ask a girl out and get turned down then that's it. Even if I'm ok with it, play it cool, and don't change our interactions afterwards, the girl has never come back around and seen me in …	/r/seduction	10/02/19 07:20 PM
1	Critique on common "Escaping the Friend Zone" advice Yeah that's usually how it goes. But I'm saying that, from my experiences, I typically don't have a sexual/romantic interest at the very beginning. It's when we become friends and I get to know her that my feelings escalate beyond just friendship. For me, it's not typically a matter of getting cold feet at the start. A lot of women in my life have grown on me and I've had moments when I realized "oh shit.... I'm in love with her" but it was too far passed that initial acquaintance stage. And lik…	/r/seduction	31/01/19 09:55 PM
1	DAE feel weird and/or embarrassed when flirting in public? It's totally natural and I hate having insecurities about it in public. I'm talking everyday life, not a club or party or bar. It seems like there's an underlying judgment and even disgust. Even if it's not gross or crossing any lines. You're showing a side of yourself and an, albeit natural, urge that people don't generally talk about or want to see unless it's the right time in the right place.	/r/seduction	13/11/18 08:01 PM
1	Why your energy is so important. I think the principle of emitting the right energy is ideal. But from my many experiences, this approach described is much harder to execute. It also goes, in a lot of ways, antithetical to what seduction experts talk about. I've mellowed out in the last year or so but I used to be that kind of guy you described: funny, emotive, expressed my interests, and was a great listener. But it seemed like something just wasn't clicking. I can't verify explicitly but it's almost as if they interpreted it …	/r/seduction	12/11/18 07:20 PM
2	Falling for Friends Dilemma That's a solid idea! Any others to escalate things would be really helpful to have. I agree to a point though. I'll admit, I don't have a ton of experience in trying to make that switch the way you suggest. But when I have tried to escalate things, not necessarily abruptly, I get shut down because she doesn't see me like that, and doesn't want to "damage our relationship as friends". Even flirting, after I've gotten to know her and teased her and had time one on one, is usually brushed off. I ge…	/r/seduction	04/11/18 05:11 AM