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DISCUSSIONeatavacado/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 05:39 AM
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ADVICEeatavacado/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 01:58 PM
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DISCUSSIONeatavacado/r/RedPillWives21/08/19 04:59 PM
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ADVICEeatavacado/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 12:46 AM
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SELF IMPROVEMENTeatavacado/r/RedPillWomen01/01/20 07:06 PM
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ADVICEeatavacado/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 06:31 AM
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DISCUSSIONeatavacado/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 11:02 PM
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ADVICEeatavacado/r/RedPillWives29/08/19 06:12 AM
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FIELD REPORTeatavacado/r/RedPillWomen08/10/19 04:26 AM
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eatavacado/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 07:21 PM
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DATING ADVICEeatavacado/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 09:34 PM
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DATING ADVICEeatavacado/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 08:16 PM
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ADVICEeatavacado/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 05:43 AM
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RELATIONSHIPSeatavacado/r/RedPillWomen23/08/20 07:41 AM
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DISCUSSIONeatavacado/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 05:50 AM
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ADVICEeatavacado/r/RedPillWomen02/03/20 03:36 AM
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ADVICEeatavacado/r/RedPillWomen28/06/21 04:52 AM
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ADVICEeatavacado/r/RedPillWomen11/07/21 07:15 AM
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ADVICEeatavacado/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 09:25 AM
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When I had this issue I moved on, mostly because he wasn’t what I wanted in other regards too but that really sealed the deal for me. Maybe there are some positions you could find that don’t hurt? Some of these suggestions look good though. Hope something works!
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 08:09 PM
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I love this. Well done with the symbolism of matching luggage. It’s easy when your young and insecure to question what all you need to be doing and going after, and there is a good amount of people who are willing to give an answer here. Thanks for putting into perspective that it’s not about some standard oh high value, but what the individuals value in each other and what they bring out of each other.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 04:04 PM
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He’s not my husband, but a man who is courting me right now really knows how to make me feel cared for. He tells me all the things about me that he truly admires and thinks is special, and how much he adores and looks up to my virtues. Besides this verbal building up though, he reads me to sleep, and tells me how much he wants to take care of me. Massages, cuddles, and talking and hearing my concerns and sharing his wisdom about things. It all really helps me feel safe.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 09:54 PM
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We both want him to be the bread winner. We both want me to be the stay at home mom. He’s being ambitious about fast tracking himself to my position like I did myself, because it’s not that hard when your intelligent, which he is. But, I’m waiting for him to finish some last orders for his families business so he can then start actually making moves. In the meantime.. he does a really good at making me happy and helping me heal from some traumas that I have been carrying for a long time. He does…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 09:49 PM
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Me: 95k - tech job with short term specialty schooling (no college) Him: ? - family manufacturing business , some months are 6k and others are no k I just want enough money to afford a mortgage and food and also be saving at the same time. I’m building up my savings for a nice down payment on a house
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 12:08 AM
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Thank you for this, it’s good advice and things to think about
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 11:01 PM
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These are my thoughts too. One thing that keeps me watching is knowing the history of why he is in his current situation- loyalty to his fathers business, and a lack of need in his life to have more. But I’m trying to not let myself make excuses for him. I think I should just keep watching for work ethic and what his actions say
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 11:00 PM
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We are planning to meet in person this upcoming month
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/21 10:55 PM
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I recommend reading 7 habits of highly effective people. It’s a classic that was always recommended to me, and all my life I thought it was one of those same old self help books, but it actually has great concepts to learn about that can be awesome tools for you to learn more about yourself and the world. Just finished the first chapter and it’s already helping me take a step back and look at my life through a more realistic lense
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/21 10:25 PM
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I’m surprised this is down voted too. He preaches responsibility and has a great breakdown of psychology and self growth- things that are kind of core components in this sub
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/21 09:16 PM
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Update?
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/21 03:38 PM
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Couldn’t you find that out by coming over semi regularly to see how he lives?
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/21 07:22 PM
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I just see them struggle with things I’ve struggled with in the past and don’t anymore thanks to some things I’ve learned here. It feels selfish to not tell them about what I do and where I found out to do it when I watch them struggle, and they vocalize their struggle. I want to talk about it from a place of care for their situation, not from a place of ego of where I am
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/21 11:24 PM
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I guess I’m afraid of perpetual Nun mode and hitting the wall
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/21 05:10 AM
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That’s actually interesting to me- as a Christian, although the motives here don’t align with mine there’s a lot of similarities in what I strive for and what this sub is discussing
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/21 05:08 AM
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I love this so much and it’s actually really helpful for someone who isn’t in the mental space to even unpack old trauma. Thank you for this!
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/21 01:22 AM
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yikes. it takes 4 days to enter ketosis, and definitely doest occur during traditional intermittent fasting (14-20 hours no eating). That comparison made you look like you don't know what your talking about.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 04:56 AM
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now THIS is what I needed to hear. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/21 09:58 PM
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I don't have ton of time at the moment but heres an example in one of the replies I sent to another commenter: I will chime in and say the things I notice as wrong are concrete facts in the world - how long it takes to drive somewhere, how far away those buildings are. On things that are subjective and fluid, I realize that from his perception they may be so. Not so much when it comes to units in the world. And if he is that confident about wrong claims that are measurable, I worry about the thi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 11:30 PM
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Thank you for your detailed response. I appreciate it. I do want to make a point that the things I find as wrong are typically concrete rather than opinionated. Heres a reply I sent to someone earlier: I will chime in and say the things I notice as wrong are concrete facts in the world - how long it takes to drive somewhere, how far away those buildings are. On things that are subjective and fluid, I realize that from his perception they may be so. Not so much when it comes to units in the world…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 11:29 PM
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I will chime in and say the things I notice as wrong are concrete facts in the world - how long it takes to drive somewhere, how far away those buildings are. On things that are subjective and fluid, I realize that from his perception they may be so. Not so much when it comes to units in the world. And if he is that confident about wrong claims that are measurable, I worry about the things that are not measurable.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 11:26 PM
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If you refer to the flair, you can realize, that I am not actually wanting advice. Thank you for pointing out the normalcy in one of my concerns though.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 11:18 PM
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I think looking for a 'better man' is a pretty poor decision at this point. I found someone with a good heart, with similar values, who puts effort into our relationship, and knows how to work with my quirks to get me to smile and support me through bad storms. I don't want to find another man. I love this one, and I strongly believe that when you find someone who's genuinely good who wants to be with you, you shouldn't let them go, and just work through and grow along side that person. I want t…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 02:53 PM
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knowing your worth > playing the game. Great point. underrated comment
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 06:27 AM
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I went to therapy for some trauma that came up within the past 6 months. It was so helpful, but it definitely just a supplement so you can have couching while you do the heavy lifting. It gots the ball rolling for changing my internal narrative about myself so that I could make tough changes and move forward, while also having emotional and mental help along the way. Its also simply relieving to have a trusted professional to act as a mental-thought safety net. I hope you are well and I wish you…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 06:17 AM
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I like that opening. Thanks for the suggestion! I put it vaguely because it feels vague to me. I've been feeling uneasy for some time without being able to put my finger on it, but I think it's really just a bunch of little consistent patterns in his approach toward situations that I don't agree with on a basic level. I wasn't sure whether or not to ignore this though, because I respect that we are different people with different ways of doing things. But from the standpoint of being potential l…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 06:01 AM
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The wiki will give you a full version of what RPW is centered around
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 10:00 PM
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Well, the one I planned for ended up never having great timing. I ended up throwing a comment into our conversation about wanting kids in my mid 20s that didn't call for a response, and I let it go because I didn't want to derail our day. Later on he actually offered up a timeline for marriage after going to his families place for Christmas - but it wasn't based on dates. There are things that have popped up in our lives that need to be taken care of first, but he specified them, and where he wa…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 08:04 PM
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I've decided not, at least not for me. My partner is very jealous, and admittedly I am too- out of genuine respect and weighing what matters most, Im choosing to not host close friendships with men outside of our family/family-friends. I'll always be polite and friendly with people at work and such, but in terms of making people feel close as friends, I've accepted that's inappropriate from here on out.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 03:10 AM
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Not in the Russian community. But, thats the Russian community. They keep to their traditions and are very conservative
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 03:05 AM
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Glute workouts Journaling/tracking personal development and goals Reading Self Improvement books Playing guitar Stretching
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 03:01 AM
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Im so grateful for the peace that has finally come from talking to my boyfriend about how I feel with marriage. I no longer hamster in the back of my mind about whether or not he's aiming for the same thing. I find that I can read him better and I'm sure vice versa, and I'm no longer timid to bring up questions and conversations about the future, in the tense of "you and me". Our relationship is now a place for stability rather than panic, and I feel so loved and happy with him on my mind.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 02:56 AM
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Well we have talked about things that are important in the sense of like “ I want kids” “I want kids too” “I want marriage” “ me too”.. jus not in the sense of “I wanna get married to you at this time so I can have kids at that time” type thing. ... I should be confrontational? Or shouldn’t? Little confused by the phrasing. And why?
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/20 02:27 PM
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Grew up with a hoarder dad, and now he’s just a very messy dad (can’t be bothered to throw away garbage). My situation calls for living with him, and I have to learn how to clean up after the both of us in order to enjoy my space. I grew up with the habits he taught me, and I had to unlearn them. Routine and lists are essential, but what really has made a difference is teaching myself little habits one at a time. I’m finally good at up-keeping the kitchen right after I cook (immediately wash the…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 04:47 PM
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Not as simple as you think. We are so polarized to the point where if you don’t agree with leftist outrage, then you’re a racist. Everything and everyone is racist now if you don’t make a show about how not racist you are. Simply having a different opinion will make one a bigot/racist in the eyes of the general public.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/20 09:23 AM
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I understand that experience 100%. I wish I could share my views but that’s put a lot of things at risk. It’s disheartening.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/20 09:15 AM
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My bootcamp wasnt targeted specifically for women but made a stand to be very accepting of everyone. It doesn’t help that I’m next to a major hub for liberalism and leftist culture. Many people are mentioning what you said though, that it’s the extremists who are the loudest, but that doesn’t mean everyone is them. I agree and that gives me peace. I just find myself frustrated when I have to hold my tongue in so many discussions or else I’ll get kicked to the curb and framed as a racist. The com…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 11:09 PM
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I so agree- I notice that this translates to most liberal policies as well, and the reasoning you just gave is why I grow so tired of it all and feel like I cant talk.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 08:38 PM
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Oh that’s very nice to hear. Your spot on with the networking around boot camps point. Thanks for your feedback. Also, I just signed up for a side course in data analytics online- I didn’t know there was a bootcamp targeted towards it too
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 08:16 PM
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I guess the only issue here for me is that I’m quite opinionated myself, so the idea of being receptive makes me grit my teeth, but that’s probably just bad character that I need to get over. Thank you for the example and feedback.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 01:47 PM
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Thanks for the feedback- networking has been very pushed by all our mentors as how well get our first job, given the influx of juniors and how in some situations people land positions before their posted. Yes, the younger people are pushy and that’s who I’m mostly around right now. Your assurance gives me ease that there’s good chance this won’t be a common occurrence, so thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 01:43 PM
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Thanks so much for recommending this book- I feel like this is going to help me in ways I’ve been lacking my whole life
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/20 09:42 PM
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I’m 2 years older but on the same journey- just got done with a coding bootcamp and need to shed the puppy fat as well as squeeze body-care back into my routine. Skin care/clean eating, I’m sorry for leaving you. Here I come
/r/RedPillWives31/05/20 04:05 AM
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Thank you for your insight
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/20 03:57 AM
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I’m going through the same thing, only my boyfriend is refusing that we see each other due to the virus spreading airborne. My love language is touch and it was just as painful going from physical intimacy to not even seeing each other. I was asking the same questions, and I was acting out periodically by getting very emotional when he didn’t have time to call me or I just started feeling super lonely. After us having some conversations about it, and through praying for help, I realized that the…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/20 06:51 AM
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I second all of this! I’m about to turn 22 and have been building up my career path while working on maintaining my body and understanding myself better for the past couple of years, and this has lead me to feeling really happy and better prepared for the years ahead- and the men I’ve been on dates with including my now bf are very impressed. Making the right decisions is very admirable and right now the above are great places to start. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 02:27 PM
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My school has gone fully remote as of Monday, and for the first half of the week I was doing pretty poorly of getting myself ready for the day before class and was instead sleeping in as much as possible before rolling out of bed and meeting at stand up. This morning I made breakfast, read the Bible, and took care of my hygiene. Yesterday at lunch I worked out before eating and joining back up with class. It feels really good to incorporate my responsibilities into my day instead of taking advan…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/20 03:10 PM
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His undying support and kindness, and how he can push me to do the right thing with a firm hand without skipping a beat in treating me with so much love.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/20 03:52 PM
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Ditto. And my heavy periods went away after 8 months! So it’s definitely worth trying
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/20 02:22 PM
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I went through something similar, only he broke up with me and it was over misunderstandings on religion and how we see ourselves in the future. Before we broke up, he said something about still talking if we did, and I said no. I was crying everyday, for at least a 3rd of the waking minute, not sleeping. I reached out to him, told him if he still wanted to be, I could be his friend. We started talking a little, and then he came back saying he made a big mistake and we got back together. That wa…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/20 11:24 PM
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I agree that this is an escape from my week thing more than a SO thing. I appreciate your breakdown of possible solutions and coming at the problem from the angle of making my week more enjoyable. This is temporary, and I do just have to get through it. I feel more empowered looking at it this way, thank you
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/20 08:20 PM
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What about work environments? I’m newish to working and want to maintain proper professionalism in the work place, and I was under the impression talking often about your SO is unprofessional and too casual of conversation- or made men feel uncomfortable. Is it appropriate to bring up my SO in conversation with co-workers/classmates? Also, isn’t remarking them when unnecessary a little “in your face”? Or would it actually be appropriate and appreciated
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/20 04:53 PM
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Working out at least 3x a week and showering daily- moisturizing 2x a day, and getting enough sleep. That makes me feel so put together in terms of hygiene and health and it’s not too hard to stay on top of when it’s part of the daily routine. Also avoiding sweets and drinking enough water.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 12:56 AM
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Oh ok sorry I’ll do that when I can get on my computer in the morning
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/20 08:16 AM
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Oh what a great idea!! Gone use this thank you
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 07:27 PM
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You shred broccoli?
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 12:53 PM
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Do they have to be rotten?
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 12:52 PM
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I had never realized this about alcohol, and it 100% rings true. So grateful for your comment and I’m really going to reflect on this- thank you
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/19 07:46 PM
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It’s not always effective to try to bring RPW tactics and values to people and situations that are not RPW. The reason it’s so important to avoid nagging a high value man your seeing is because he’s a high value man and you want to keep him in your life and there are better ways of solving problems then approaching them negatively when he 1) respects you 2) cares about you 3) has a level head on his shoulders. This situation sounds barely pleasant, and he’s doing something you don’t like. Don’t …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/19 05:34 PM
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Pretty sure it’s in the wiki
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/19 12:47 AM
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Number 4 is genius.. wish I had that in mind when I was dating lol
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/19 11:13 PM
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I think most women associate weight training with getting “bulky”, but really it just makes the women’s body more toned and defined. It’s super hard to look macho from weight training as a women, because hormones.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/19 01:30 AM
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If your saggy, besides surgery, something that will help will be weight training. I had never done upper body weight training until this year, and have always thought my breast were saggier than normal girls my age (16-21). Now, even if my breasts seem to be lifted up, but really my chest just has more tone and shape and dimensions. Because I’ve been building up the muscles in my pecs, shoulders, back.. weight training is how you give your body shape. I never new how beautiful this area of my bo…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 03:32 PM
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That second to last paragraph indicates he’s pretty manipulative and cynical. This paints a bad picture for life married to this man down the line. I think you should listen to your gut. Your only 21 and have time to invest in finding someone who will make you happier. As someone who wants to be sweet, you should look for someone who is at least not manipulative. Which if you keep in shape and always strive to improve yourself, and have a warm heart, you’ll be deserving of and able to find.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 12:03 AM
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That’s one of the big things I’ve learned from this community and I’m so happy for it
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/19 05:20 PM
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True. Being in a relationship like this for as long as OP has can make you forget your worth in the eyes of men who are looking for a wife (and children). If she takes good care of herself she’ll be able to overcome this relationship and land one that goes the direction she wants... as long as she’s communicative about her desired direction in the beginning. There’s no reason for her to wait and suffer on besides attachment and not realizing her potential.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/19 04:55 PM
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I agree with the top comments, and just want to say I’m sorry, and I feel for you. This sounds like a very hard and scary situation, and I feel like I could’ve found myself here years down the line if I hadn’t found this subreddit and been challenged to think about marriage. It’ll get better though. Stay strong- you always have yourself and self awareness, and that’s what will carry you to better places.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/19 04:43 PM
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My parents didn’t have a horrible marriage, but my dad turned it into one when he left his religion and realized he could’ve slept with/been with other women before my mom. And that lead to divorce. And I’ve 10 years later my dad talks about how my mom was actually a very good wife and woman and he would’ve kept the marriage going had he know that. I’m not saying you can’t have a good marriage with a man who’s never known another woman. I’m just saying things like this happen, and it’s very comf…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 06:06 PM
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As a woman who’s never been that way, it makes sense that you would want to. But after doing so, it doesn’t really make you feel good about yourself when the deed is done. There’s no pride in it, and no men are really going to be proud of you for it either (they’ll only be excited.) Find a man that you can trust, and then be promiscuous with him. You don’t need to be actually.. dirty , to satisfy your craving of feeling dirty. You’ll be saving yourself the hurt of feeling used and uncared for.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 05:43 PM
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Virgin men are always going to get curious down the road, and sets up the relationship for problems when the man starts questioning if he made the right choice because he doesn’t know the other choices at all. Source- been there multiple times, and this led to my parents divorce
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 05:34 PM
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He’s either childish, or dumb, for reacting the way he reacted to reading your diary, which, he shouldn’t have done behind your back. Him wanting to end it is a blessing in disguise, unless you wanna work through personality flaws such as that. Up to you. But this sounds overly dramatic. I don’t picture him having a level head.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 05:27 AM
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Agreed, and thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 10:56 PM
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Yeah. That does get tough. But I’m pretty good at reflecting on this kinda of things in my journal. At the end of every week I’ll look back on what I’ve learned, what really worked and what didn’t, and it really helps solidify my morals and guidelines for myself.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 10:40 PM
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Yeah, this is very extreme. I wouldn’t say that this is an example of the submission that is brought up here on RPW. Submission is more of a mental respect, rather than handing over power. When you fall in line with what he says, NOT for the sake of doing so, but because you genuinely trust his judgment and agree with him, this leads to natural submissive behavior. I think some people are more naturally submissive than others. I’ve noticed that I’ve had submissive qualities my whole life, becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 04:07 PM
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Yeah that sounds like a more appropriate situation than mine. I’m just going to buy a paper copy and read it in my own time
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 10:22 PM
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Well I wouldn’t know that because I haven’t read it, huh? Lol
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 07:59 PM
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Do you recommend listening to that over the original? I imagine the content is different and I’ve just heard so much good about the original
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 04:51 PM
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Whhaaaat I gotta go look for that. Haven’t been to my library in a while.. and yes I just checked and they do have it! What did you like better about it?
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 04:44 PM
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Sex is not a good intro into a relationship. It puts you at risk for being used, and doing the opposite (Stating you aren’t having sex until [marriage/commitment/etc]) commands respect and scares away the guys who just want to sleep around. If you had not hooked up with this person, you would have seen his real intent without being used. After you setting the boundary, he would’ve made it known that’s that’s not what he’s wanting. Saving time energy and an N count. The take away here is don’t ha…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 04:21 PM
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I was originally wanting to listen to Fascinating Womanhood but there’s no audible version of that book either. Not too many options when your interests aren’t main stream I guess
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 03:59 PM
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Ah wonderful point. I didn’t know that. Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 03:54 PM
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You slam dunked that pill. Niceee
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 04:47 AM
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Lol yeesh
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/19 05:00 PM
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What was it they said?
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/19 03:25 PM
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You are 100% on the right track. Don't let everyone else's actions make you question your choice to take your first time very seriously- because thats very honorable and it will mean a lot to your future partner. Honestly, boys in college are all looking to hook up. I don't think men will truly feel ready to settle until they are at least 25. Young 20s are full of the desire to be experience. I actually think its healthiest to let them get it all out of their system too, because then they will b…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/19 05:15 AM
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The way I've been building up myself self-esteem is journaling out my goals, and micro managing if I do my daily smaller goals that will bring me closer to those goals. This makes me feel like I'm moving forward, productive, inspired to do my best, and it helps me realize when I'm beginning to enter a low faster than I would otherwise, allowing me to correct my actions quicker and do less dumb stuff. The more good you do for yourself and your health, the better you will feel. Also, spread out yo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/19 04:50 AM
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Im a little late but my big goals this month are to: -develop enough understanding of Unit testing to begin applying for junior QA jobs -find a group of people to play music with -develop and build my understanding of christianity, the bible, and build my faith -stay on top of my cooking/cleaning/house keeping schedule!
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 11:30 PM
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how you liking pylo? does it kick your butt? are you seeing results?
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 11:25 PM
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This is a great step towards being more productive. I struggled with the same thing a year ago. Something that really helped me maintain accountability to myself is beginning the habit of journaling out what I do everyday of the week. This really helps yourself see when you dip in doing a daily goal, and feel accomplished when you see you've hits your goals for the week. Of course, starting the habit of journaling is a process in itself, but if you start out simple, and put a reminder on your ph…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 11:24 PM
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how come? when did you have your baby?
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 06:18 AM
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how long had you known him before he proposed?
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 06:15 AM
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the prize ribbon part made me smile, thats so cute.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 06:03 AM
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His family is very church oriented and he grew up with extreme faith, where as I grew up atheist and I’m just now deciding within the past year I want to be Christian and so I’m slowly transitioning into it, and I’m not so into taking the Bible’s stories as real but the morals as real.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 12:20 AM
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Within Christianity. He takes the Bible very seriously and literally, where as I don’t care so much about if the stories in it are real or not, but that the morals are real. And to him that’s a little troublesome.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 12:18 AM
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I’m afraid that sets me up for failure.. the topic under scrutiny in faith, we see it differently, and he’s not sure if he wants to start a family with someone who doesn’t see eye to eye in that. He wants to think about it. I want him to come to the right decision about it. If I decide to be pushy and say “hey, can we set a time limit for how long you need to figure this out because this being open ended is stressing me out”, wouldn’t it be easier for him to just decide to not think about it any…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 09:07 PM
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Neither of us are virgins and he knows that. Abstinence was initially my idea, abstinence until marriage was his idea. I don’t think our sex history is a factor in this. Good point about looking at the positives though.. maybe it shouldn’t have been talked about, but, it was an underlying nag in the back of our minds for the both of us for a while now and I’m glad we talked about it so we better understood where we both stand on the topic.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 08:55 PM
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I personally don’t think thats relevant, but no, neither of us are virgins, but we want to be virtuous with each other
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 08:51 PM
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Good fricken point :( no wonder I’m stressed about this...
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 08:49 PM
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Starting out by lying isn’t wise. That’s making a first impression as someone who’s dishonest and deceptive. I can’t imagine a man who values honesty would entertain the idea fo a woman who’s lied right off the bat. Edit: grammar
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 03:23 PM
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Girlfriend benefits he’s getting is that sometimes I’ll cook for him and give him back rubs, but it’s very balanced out to where he wants to pay for everything when we go out and he’s done sweet things like get me flowers.. so I try my best to give him sweet loving gifts back as well and save him his money by covering dinner for the evening
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 03:11 PM
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I’ll edit at the top to provide details about our relationship
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 03:02 PM
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I agree. Actually.. I wish that this subreddits description and wiki was more extensive. I think it would provide more guidance and feel more independent of a sub, rather than a reaction to another sub.
/r/RedPillWives30/09/19 01:14 PM
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Excellent conclusion. I’m sorry for what you had to go through.. but you came out of it with a profound view on how societal groups become tainted and that’s really powerful to understand. Thank you for sharing
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 05:09 PM
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Oh, hm. I see what you mean...about your ideas of fun not matching up. Did you feel this way leading up to marriage as well?
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 09:59 PM
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When you first start doing something different mentally, it will always feel insincere. But thoughts become habit. Many of your beliefs are in place because you just kept thinking them and take them as fact, rather than something that could be changed or replaced. To practice being more positive and feeling authentic about it, think about things your truly grateful for to get you into that gratitude mood, and then when your in that mental space think about what you love about your husband. Becau…
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 09:54 PM
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Sounds like the war is simply you battling with your internal thoughts, and lucky you, the thoughts you think are in your control. It only takes a lot of thinking to change your perspective, and it genuinely sounds like that’s the only issue here. Externally nothing is wrong, you have a husband that is good to you and that wants the best for both of you. You just get upset over small situations and how that makes you see him (at least, that’s what it seems like based on the examples you gave). Y…
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 07:02 PM
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I agree with you about how odd that his parents don’t believe he can have a good relationship. I haven’t met them, so I’m only proving this all together through him, but.. they seem to be contradicting themselves. They want him to get married, yet they don’t think he’s good enough to get in a relationship.. Also, in his family and in many other Christian Russian families, children are supposed to continue living in their parents house until they are married. Touching on the cultural difference- …
/r/RedPillWives29/08/19 02:27 PM
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Oo, I appreciate your perspective and the question you bring up of “what are his relationship goal with his parents”. That’s something I have yet to truly ask him about, but as of now it seems that he has a lot of hurt and spite towards them. His father was quite abusive when he was growing up and his mother took his father side. Now they are condescending and negative towards him. I’m unsure of what he wants their relationship to be, but I’ve observed that at this point he doesn’t aim towards m…
/r/RedPillWives29/08/19 02:14 PM
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Thank you for this. I’ve actually been trying to learn russian for 2 weeks now both because of him and my own genuine interest. My instinct is to put in the effort, I was just unsure if that was a healthy instinct or not. Thanks for the input
/r/RedPillWives29/08/19 01:04 PM
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How should we know..? We know nothing but your age?
/r/RedPillWives22/08/19 03:29 AM
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...... you have absolutely blown my mind. You breaking down his comment completely opens up my eyes to his approval of plate theory for woman's strategy. Holy sh*t. I cant believe I didn't read into that. I just thought he was calling me a dumbass.. or incapable.
/r/RedPillWives21/08/19 09:04 PM
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Ah I see. I discovered RPWomen only a year ago or so, so I had no idea there was any sort of history like that. I think now they are definitely lax about their stance on marriage, given there seems to be a lot of pro marriage posts and advice on the sub. I myself definitely value marriage and think its valuable to both men and especially women, and I think we are all on the same page about this, haha
/r/RedPillWives21/08/19 07:55 PM
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Men are gatekeepers of commitment. Women are gatekeepers of sex. To come straight out and say "marry me" as the women, the person who doesn't have control but has to be worthy.. you are putting the man on the spot to make the decision to let you through that gate- his decision. Doing that outright could potentially put some men off, if not most.. he hasn't come to the decision yet if he hasn't proposed. It is not something you should rush. Marriage is asking a lot from a man. You want him to wan…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 07:48 PM
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Thats an interesting concept that TRP community's presence over there manipulates the content, I have never thought of it in that manner. However, I'm pretty sure marriage isn't discouraged on that subbreddit, as I've found many posts applauding happy marriages and how to improve marriage and the efforts to be suitable for marriage. Actually, more often than not I find that when women reach out for figuring out how to fix/prolong an unhealthy LTR the people in that community suggest leaving to f…
/r/RedPillWives21/08/19 07:11 PM
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Maybe I missed that bit somewhere in the rpwomen wiki, but i thought rpwomen heavily discouraged being a plate and having sex before commitment? Am I wrong? Im meaning this question in the most sincere way possible.
/r/RedPillWives21/08/19 06:54 PM
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Looking for this comment. If I’m lookin cute and feminine during my workout, I’m not working hard enough. In a gym nothing is sexier than a girl that’s sweating and working her hardest- and that comes from knowing what your doing and caring about your workout, not your clothes.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/19 03:45 PM
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https://youtu.be/RDNiFJbnd_E Sure it’s just a guy talking and citing off other people’s research, but, I think that’s more ground to stand on than celebrities actions
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/19 03:18 PM
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This is why I avoid texting when it comes to dating and relationships.. communication just isn’t that good. You need to be able to read the persons tone and body language to feel confident in what they are saying and that they understand what you are saying. texting a little throughout the day is okay but I would avoid conversations like you had the second you started doubting he was joking- say something like “uh, can I call you or talk in person? I’m not quite sure I’m understanding you” Your …
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/19 02:30 PM
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My two cents on this would be to pick up reading. It’s hard to just sit in silence if your uncomfortable with your thoughts, so try training your brain to be comfortable hearing itself think by reading other peoples thoughts. You’ll get use to your internal voice, you’ll learn things, and if your reading books that talk about how to better your life/ make you more aware of the world (12 rules for life by Jordan Peterson, Propaganda by Edward Bernays, and the Defining Decade by Meg Jay are ones t…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/19 05:52 PM
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girl yesss 👏
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/19 04:47 PM
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My morning routine: make my bed, bullet journal the plan for the day/ write out my thoughts about something on my mind, and then go to then get dressed for it and go to the gym! Keeps my head straight and my body improving
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/19 03:30 PM
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thank you for this :) i forgot to mention that we had gone over what he's looking for and that our visions for the future line up.. he would be happy support a stay at home mom. Im feeling like I do have the picture painted for what hes looking for, we've talked in depth quite a bit about these matters. But you are right! I gotta be cautious on cloud 9.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 11:05 PM
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Music Festivals aren't inherently bad or attract low quality people, but I don't see a man who's hard working and driven with his mission in life, putting much money into music festivals as a hobby. Maybe concerts here and there, and one music festival once in a while, but as a hobby, thats pretty spendy. Financially driven men would more likely have a different hobby. Im sure that man could still be into screamo and dubstep however :) I doubt your taste would turn him away. probably be hard to …
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 09:52 PM
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Lol “your all a bunch of stupid fucks” sounds like your just a happy clam with your life and viewpoints :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 06:06 AM
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Trump has done some decent good for the country. A man who can see that and appreciate good work for what it is despite what the loudest voices say is much more valuable as a partner than someone who demonizes anyone with an alternative political opinion. They aren’t afraid to speak truths that are uncomfortable for others to hear- they have a stable head on there shoulders that’s not afraid to think for itself despite what everyone around them might think.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 05:55 AM
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Hm... why do you refuse to be gf before marriage? Going from dating to straight wife is unheard of for me.. I’m interested in the thought process behind it
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/19 03:40 PM
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Posture and attitude have a huge affect on how appealing you come off to others. If your feeling confident and happy with yourself, that’s when people will see you as attractive. No amount of makeup and style will cover up your slouch and frown.. so be sure to count your blessings and smile to yourself and others :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 02:18 PM
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Maybe you should try cultivating some hobbies to talk about. Also, what are your goals in life? If it’s not your body, and your good to them through your persona, it could be that you don’t have much in terms of interests and hobbies, maybe they don’t see you as interesting/relatable. Do you smile and feel good when going on these dates? Do you glow when you talk about your life/interests? Men are attracted a woman with strong interest and passions- at least in my experiences.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/19 07:49 PM
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Things that make me happy: Taking care of my plants Getting lots of sleep Reading Going on hikes/outside Playing guitar
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 07:28 PM
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Yeah I really do! Really puts into words what I (and I’m sure many other women) have experienced, if only in the back of their mind. This is very real.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 01:57 AM
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I like your 80% ideal guy 20% space to be filled concept. Did you read that somewhere from the side bar or come up with that yourself?
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/19 03:55 PM
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Hmmm. I’m sorry your natural hair color makes you unhappy. I’m sure it’s actually beautiful. I’m not sure why you associate light hair with beauty and femininity. It’s just one way to look, and it’s not the right way because no way is the actual right way. Edit: well there actually is a right way to look- healthy. But I mean, people of all natural hair colors can look healthy. In the end, you should do what makes you happy. Don’t change your hair because you hate it and you’ll hope it makes you …
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/19 09:51 PM
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There’s no specific face of feminine beauty. I don’t know what you look like, but you sound like you would pull of an exotic type of beautiful. Femininity doesn’t come from the face, but from how you carry yourself, treat others, and how you take care of yourself. I think as long as you stay on top of hygiene to the point where it’s obvious you take care of yourself, highlight the features on your face that are beautiful (your eyes probably) , and keep your clothes nice and well taken care of, a…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/19 09:44 PM
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Just out of curiosity, what do you do to self regulate when your having negative thoughts?
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/19 12:57 AM
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I felt the EXACT same way when I was your age. Now I’m 20 (still young but closer to the time of picking my family), and I’ve gone through some self reflection on what motherhood would mean to me and what I want in my future. I see children differently, and even people differently. Your perceptions are going to change the next 10 years drastically. Don’t be stressed about not adoring children as a teenager- you’ll develop your feelings based on your desires, and right now you are not so close to…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 09:31 PM
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Love this post. It’s very encouraging to me. Thank you for sharing your story- my heart is happy for you :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/19 02:05 AM
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I stood up for myself and didn’t reward disrespectful behavior. It feels like the first step in a long time of putting my foot down to being treated wrongly. It was really hard and painful, being in so empathetic and have a hard time saying no. I’m really proud of myself though.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/19 10:24 AM
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This is an awesome approach! thanks for sharing
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 04:03 PM
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My health and passion for fitness, and my body’s ability to grow strong and fit
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/19 11:14 PM
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Was looking for this comment. The second I read that OP told him how she sometimes cries during it, and he doesn’t care, broke my heart. OP, your a tough cookie for putting up with PTSD for your man, but you don’t need to be tough in a situation like that. That’s just plain abuse. I hope you can figure out something where your life can improve in that aspect. You made a mistake allowing that treatment from your partner to happen to you, and I feel for you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 08:06 PM
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Thank you for your honesty. This is the type of comment I was wanting to hear, even though it’s be hard to swallow at a time like this. I know I have a lot to work on, and there’s probably several things I’m currently doing wrong, and it just helps to get some feedback from this subreddit.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 11:18 PM
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Thankyou for speaking my greatest fear. I needed to hear it. Explains why I’m feeling the way I’m feeling. Time to figure out how to walk away.. his family and I are really close, they even bought me a plane ticket to visit him during family weekend with them. I don’t even know where to take the first steps of walking away.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 07:46 AM
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Oh great thank you for letting me know!
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 06:46 PM
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This is gonna be an odd comment, but depending on what attributes of your face are ugly, they could be corrected over time with proper tongue placement. It’s called orthotropic treatment. It’s commonly given to young children whose faces aren’t developing correctly. By putting pressure on the roof of your mouth, your encouraging the front part of your skull to move forward, which is what attributes to higher cheekbones, a more attractive profile, and so on. It’s super interesting, Here’s the lin…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 04:50 PM
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You’re living my goals!
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 07:37 PM
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Hey, depending on what job you get in STEM, you can work towards having a high paying remote position, and save up your money for your future children and to impress future hubby (if that’s within your goals) with your financial intelligence. STEM isn’t actually a masculine route in my opinion, it’s a high paying route. With my current endeavors, I’m hoping to be a stay at home mom that’s still able to bring in a good amount of bucks, and I’ll get to hopefully do a lot of traveling and live a be…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 07:35 PM
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This might be common sense, but a lot of being adaptable and ever-growing has a lot to do with the internal relationship with ourselves, especially when it comes to emotional intelligence. Perhaps a way to deepen the RPWs topics is to think more about how to properly grow and strengthens ourselves from the inside. Things like developing emotional intelligence, learning to see through our own bs by developing integrity, and stabilizing core values of being loving to the world by first being lovin…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 02:48 PM
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Hey I’ve started doing that too!! Haven’t been making a huge amount of progress given Im only a month in and am not far from my goal weight, but it’s cured my overeating habits 🙌
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 12:33 AM
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This story is so inspiring!
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 11:53 PM
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Awesome! The longer you do this the faster you’ll see results :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 11:51 PM
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Get into guns- problem solved
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 06:54 PM
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It’s never too late :) there was this girl who got into it as a senior after getting tired of cheerleading, and she made it to varsity after one season! Don’t talk yourself out of it, just give it a try! It’ll be a step in the direction of your dream body if anything.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/19 03:51 AM
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There’s nothing wrong with that. There was lots of girls who weren’t that fast, but everyone improved and that’s what it was about.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/19 12:14 AM
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Make an effort to learn those domestic skills, and communicate clearly on your feelings when things come up down the road. Stay physically active and bump up your confidence so that you dont feel inclined to think your boring. But most importantly, you can't make anyone love you, and you cant make anyone stay, so do your best to be the best person you can be (by taking care of yourself and your mental /emotional health, and ask for help when you need it), and be good to him, and see how things g…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 07:22 PM
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Join your high schools sports teams and clubs!! Those things are not so cheap when your not in school, and will set you up physically and possibly give you some life long friends. #1 thing I wish I did was weightlifting in high school. Would've given me a free personal trainer, and I wouldn't have to try so hard and learn the hard way to build the muscles now that could've been build back then. For the physique your looking for, you could try cross country or track, constant running will lean yo…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 07:16 PM
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I actually did self harm as well when I was going through family problems when I was 13 as well, and now that I'm almost 21 I have faint but large shiny strips going up a large portion of my right thigh, and a few small shiny ones on my wrist. I tried to tan my legs as much as possible when I got out of the depression, and I heard that lemon juice can faint scarring when exposed to the sun for 10 mins daily (I used this for acne scaring). Perhaps your scars are in obvious places, and it will mak…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 06:57 PM
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I think the dislikes were because of the harsh negativity- your point is valid.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 11:16 PM
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Can you be specific on the pros and cons of being a SAHM, based on your experience? Id love to hear it
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 06:56 PM
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Rereading your response and your original post, your asking for two different things: how do I get this to happen, and how do I have a clear idea of what I want. The answer to the first question is talking about it, the answer to your second question is irrelevant because you didn’t actually ask it on your post so no one knows that’s what your wanting.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 05:26 AM
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I’m honestly in the same boat. A few months ago I realized that in my life a huge part of what will give me purpose is being a good mother, and I’m still a couple years away from feeling comfortable to start that journey, AND I’m not married yet, nor do I feel confident in getting engaged any time soon. However, before I try and even bring up marriage with the person I’m seeing I have to bring up what I’ve realized to him, and see if he sees that as something that will happen. And if not, if he …
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 05:21 AM
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Just talk to him. There’s no comfortable way to bring this up without feeling vulnerable, but now is the time for the conversation, and it’s a good idea to practice being vulnerable anyway since it’s an important skill in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/19 10:37 PM
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That two years makes no difference.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 05:12 AM
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☝️
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 05:10 AM
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I learned about the TRP and RPW last year, and it took time for me to clearly peace together the actual natural roles and how important they are and understand what I need to achieve to be happy as I age.. and the first phase of emotion for me was stress and sadness. Stress of wanting to get as fit and as put together as possible to be more attractive while I’m at my peak so I can find a partner before I hit the wall, and sad that I didn’t learn about this when I was a teenager when making those…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 01:41 AM
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Sounds like he’s rekindling hope within you that things could work with him, while not leaving his current gf. Your only straining your mind by fretting over how you should feel about this and if you should make things work. Just don’t think about it. Until he’s single, he’s not an option.. and your doing yourself a disservice if you decide to wait for him to be an option.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 01:28 AM
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Maybe this goes in hand with meditation, but mentally being aware of your body while you breathe- notice where you feel tension/where you feel support, what moves while you breathe, focusing on the movement of your diaphragm.. giving your brain the intent of observing your body based around your breathing- is a good way of staying aware of your energy rather than getting lost and controlled by the aimless babble in your mind. You can remind yourself to do this anytime and anywhere, and it doesn’…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 07:25 PM
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Start educating yourself and mention things you learn to him! There’s tons of interesting books and documentaries to talk about. Learn things you didn’t know about before and share with him! Maybe it won’t change much, but it’ll help give you substance to talk about.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 03:47 AM
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I agree, I really appreciate this kind of post. Mistakes like this are very common to find yourself in, and reading the scenario and feedback I feel is really helpful to reflect on. Thank you OP for the vulnerability!
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 09:58 PM
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It completely helps! It goes over some mental exercises to help you realize what matters to you and help you realize what your “purpose” is. I really recommend it if your feeling directionless :) it’s one of the only self help books I’ve read that seemed very well rounded.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 04:55 AM
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I’m really grateful for finding the book Success Principles by Jack Canfield. It’s really inspiring and motivates me to get really organized and excited about my goals and aspirations. I’m about to do a project from the book that helps me outline every little thing I need to do for any goal I have, and I’m super excited.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 07:20 PM
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I have thought about this very concept in the past and it matters a lot to me, which is why I wrote so much. Sorry for the long read. Your examples of positive manipulation statements are statements that would be made by someone who actually cares about their partners health, and their partners fulfillment of their favorite meal. I think that’s why people don’t like being manipulated. They don’t like being made to think that you care, when your beginning goal is getting something out of them. Ma…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 08:07 PM
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I appreciate this post so much. I’ve been one to succumb to this reasoning, and it held me in a very confusing and unhealthy place. I’m glad I finally have all the conceptual logic as to why it sucked to feel that way laid out in-front of me, and I’m DEFINITELY not falling for it again. Thank you so much!!
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 01:54 AM
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Your thought process of blaming men’s nature for your potentially negative future is gonna hold you down. Take responsibility for your looks, don’t get mad that men want pretty women. Getting mad about facts doesn’t change anything. Facts don’t care about your feelings. 2.Men want women who are healthy, not necessarily skinny. If you build muscle, and eat foods that have nutritional value at least more than half the time, you’ll be on a good track. As long as your not fat, and you have a good at…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/19 09:14 AM
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Since your primary emotion over this concept of finding someone is fear, and you fear that you’d be left by your partner (that you don’t even have yet), I think you should reflect on why you have this insecurity. Sounds like there’s more to focus on in terms of cultivating your life and skills and attributes rather than hitting the dating scene. I think you should look in the mirror, find out what you this your strength are and what you think your lacking, and try to round yourself out and make …
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/18 12:14 AM
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I really like your plan to teach the nature of romance. Up until I was 19, I never understood it, because my parents NEVER talked to me about it all. They were divorced and both struggled with relationships after, so I suppose they never knew. I’m learning from this subreddit and TRP what the actual dynamic is between men and women, and I’m so grateful I know now but certainly would’ve made better decisions in my teenage years if I got to learn these things as a child. Some things that I hold cl…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/18 05:05 PM
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As someone who had divorced parents and experienced my mom dating after, I feel drawn to pitch in on what I think is important in regards to the children in the dating as a mother situation. Children really impact the relationship. Here’s some stories that stick with me that we’re most impactful on my relationship with my mom and I, in regards to while she dated. Negative Key Moment: one of my moms boyfriends rubbed me the wrong way after a year or so of living with him (my age:11-13). He talked…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/18 07:37 AM
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I’m particularly delicate when it comes to hormone imbalances, so I went with copper iud and I only had physical symptoms for half a year and now it’s like I don’t have any. I really do think hormonal birth control will make some people go through what your going though. If your thinking it’s not worth it, or that your going to have too hard a time pulling yourself out of this rut of emotions, I’d strongly recommend looking into copper iud. You can dm questions if you want.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 08:59 PM
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Glorifying potential is a dangerous path... Next thing you know, your unhappy in a LTR staying because of the potential of it being happy. When facts and attributes unfold, best to take them seriously instead of hoping and reminiscing on what could’ve been. It’s hard to do but life moves faster when you do so.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 08:30 PM
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I know it’s tempting when your sad, but never say to yourself or write things like “This bad thing happens to me” and tie that as an attribute to yourself and your life, because the words you say to yourself and others truly have impact on your brain. The words you say become your subconscious beliefs and your beliefs dictate your actions and attitude. If you want more of something, all you have to do is say it a lot to yourself and others, and you don’t want to encourage self deprecating though…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 08:23 PM
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I’m owning up to the fact that I am wrecking my sleep life. When I get the chance to to sleep after a night of fun and games, I push it off until it’s incredibly late, wake up kinda late and with low sleep, and then struggle to get in bed early the next night. I need to be more strict with setting my own bedtime. I end up struggling from simply continuing to distract myself with my phone chatting with people. I think I stay up doing that to ignore my sense of loneliness at night. Im starting to …
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 07:53 PM
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I appreciate your conscientiousness on the founder and how you don’t want to support her. I need to say I’m not even a fan of a few strict rules on bumble, it’s very snowflake friendly. I didn’t know about the founder until you said something and did a little research and what I found is she’s accusing tinder for sexual harassment, probably under false conditions like many women these days. Is that what you meant? If so, than I gotta say I don’t like her either, and I really dislike the underton…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 07:40 PM
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I only just started using it this week, but bumble bff is pretty nice for chatting with new people. I have a few coffee dates lined up with two girls that seem pretty sweet and nice who are in the same boat as you and I. There’s lots of girls these days who are looking for friendship. I’d give it a try, it’s worth possibly making a few new friends.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 09:34 AM
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In my experience, being physically active boosts my confidence, and I’m able to be more bold and fun at night when I’m more confident. Maybe you should just play around with some sexy clothing, do some booty/ab workouts and try to initiate some fun nights. It would probably excite him to get a spontaneous gift of you all dolled up and pulling him to the bedroom. Besides this, maybe talking about sexual interests that you haven’t discussed before would get you both in the right mindset for a whil…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/18 11:16 PM
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I agree with this. Following up and fantasizing means there’s something else to the situation. I think OP is right to inspect her relationship and try to develop some more zing. It sounds like she’s not getting enough romantic fulfillment, and should communicate more with her partner and try to organize a solution/plan.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/18 10:59 PM
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The description of your relationship sounds so healthy and peaceful, I really look up to it and want something similar for myself. Just letting you know I appreciate you explaining it so I can hold it in mind for my future :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/18 10:49 PM
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This is very well written and good food for thought, I hope to see more of this type of content on RPW. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/18 08:25 PM
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Is making friends something that your not supposed to do in monk mode? I thought it’s intended to avoid specifically getting very involved in the opposite sex.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/18 10:02 PM
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I’m doing these exact targets right now. Make sure your transfer these into actions and habits you can do daily, and keep a journal for tracking your progress, and reflecting on how your progress is going what you need to do more of and do less of. For example: Physical health -> gym 4x a week, 20 min of yoga/stretching every day, drinking a lot of water and cutting out (insert junk food you’ve been eating here) I found a habit tracker layout from Pinterest in so I’m able to keep record of what …
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/18 10:00 PM
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I honestly haven’t read up on nun mode, and only have an idea of what it means: to build up and work on yourself without actively engaging men and potential relationships. However, personal growth is basically the theme of my life right now and would like to share with you my thoughts on the subject. Currently I’m trying to grow myself, and the iconic RPW relationship is towards the top of my list of things I want to have in 8 years. I have identified a lot of things I want to have and be before…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/18 09:52 PM
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I’m so proud of myself the past few months because I’ve managed to continually go to the gym every week, and I feel stronger and see improvement and know that if I keep going I’ll only feel more and more confident about my discipline and my body. On top of this, I’m grateful for the book I bought and my new found passion for journaling, and my ritual of reflecting on how I’m truly feeling and what I’m thinking. I finally feel like I’m building self awareness, and that’s what I’ve been yearning f…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/18 09:09 PM
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Something that helps me feel more feminine everyday is lighting a flower scented candle while I sit and reflect on the day and on my goals. Journaling in a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere makes me feel well put together, and it gives me a sense of stability to come back to my values (by rereading my goals) and have a small loving ritual for myself everyday (journaling next to a candle).
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 11:55 PM
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This is a great answer. Taking time to be caring of the little things and more present displays a softness in attitude that is very feminine, and allows your mind to drift to taking care of those little things like hair and clothing.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 11:46 PM
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He’s giving you the answer: acknowledge his feelings, and make conversation. That’s what he wants and that’s all you need to be thinking about in terms of this situation. Ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things already, think about how you could be doing these things. You don’t need to have empathy in order to do these things. If you have a personal reason for not doing these things, talk about it with him. In fact, you could talk through all of the above with him and it’d probably improv…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 11:38 PM
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What I think about when I hear dr. Husband: Busy and crazy work hours. Depends on the kind of dr, but people in the medical field typically spend most of their time there. Idk if that’s what you want, if that’d be an issue, or if that’d be the situation in the first place. Maybe not. But if I had the choice of being with someone who had solid daily hours of time with me vs someone who had a flimsy and demanding schedule before me, I’d choose the daily stable. Maybe daily stable isn’t what the cu…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 08:29 AM
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Oh I’m so happy this is helpful to you!! It takes a lot of pain and days of of frustration to come to lessons like this, so I’m glad I could maybe take some of that away for someone. Good job on going the right direction :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/18 07:41 PM
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Yes, I used to all the time. I always found it was because of emotional factors. For example, getting the figure I want was/is a big goal of mine, but it took my practically a year and a half to actually start getting the hang of going to the gym regularly and finding a diet that works well for me. A big factor is inner dialog. What you think to yourself about your goals is the make it or break it. For a year I basically wrote down in my journal all the time that the future me is going to have l…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/18 07:36 AM
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Being 18 was only two years ago for me, and in between then and now, the most valuable thing I’ve done I’d say is creating a routine of planning what I’m going to do, either that day/week/month/year- setting goals, really keeps me from falling off my path of self betterment. And as long as your successful working on improving yourself, especially at this age, your going to get what you want. So dream, and lay out your game plan, often. (career, love life, skills, etc.)
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/18 01:44 AM
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Thank you. This is very valuable for me to think about. I realize now that what kept me from being submissive in my last relationship is that I didn’t have that trust in their love and commitment, and now I’ll be able to keep that in mind for future reference.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 10:49 PM
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I actually went through a huge fall through of confidence and self respect earlier this month, just from multiple obstacles in life piling up at once, and became depressed. I acknowledged how I was feeling, which took me a few days because when I’m focused on my goal I don’t think to look in the mirror and see my expression. After several days of freaking out over my inability to be good enough at taking care of myself, I had a repeated epiphany of “what we give our attention to, we grow”. And t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 10:44 PM
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What would be a good source of information for learning how to be truly submissive in relationships?
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 11:59 PM
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I really struggle with self esteem as well. One thing that for sure makes me feel better though is working out. If I go on a short run or to the gym for a bit, or even do some yoga, I’m able to think to myself “I did that! I’m on the path of improving!” And it ups my mood towards myself. When you feel low, you don’t do much, and that makes you feel worse. Do something that will make you proud of yourself. Good luck ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/18 05:34 PM
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100% agree.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/18 05:02 PM
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Eh, this isn’t really artistic, it’s more alternative. Which is fine, but I wouldn’t consider it more creative. It’s a certain style, which has nothing to do with how creative you are.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 10:58 PM
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Thank you for the black dot idea!!! Definitely using this I’m so excited!
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 06:37 PM
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Oh this cuticle treatment is a great idea. Do you find the cream at Walmart?
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 04:10 PM
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Are your nails short? Do you get them done or do them yourself?
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 04:08 PM
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With the press ons.. do you take them off for working out?
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 04:06 PM
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Do you have any methods of keeping the skin nice and smooth around and above the nail? I often get the little tiny pieces of skin sticking out when I don’t go get them done, and I’d like to get in the habit of doing them myself since I need to keep them short anyway for playing guitar. Also, as a guitar player, are there any other musicians who have figured out how to spunk up theirs nails so their okay with not being able to have long nails? I’ve started really wanting them for the past year, b…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 04:04 PM
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Wow cool!!! Thank you :D
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 09:34 PM
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Aw I’m so glad this helped :) you’re welcome.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 09:33 PM
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Bodybuilding.com is a great place for newbie weightlifters. Goes through proper form for any exercise. Practice form with light weight in front of a mirror and if you can, have someone who knows what to look for watch you and give you pointers. If your start putting on the weights when you hyper extend your back or don’t know how to keep your knees stable (etc.), you can really hurt yourself and create bad habit to be fixed in the future. I went to the gym and lifted for fun for a whole year bef…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 06:00 AM
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My goals this month -stretch and do some form of breathing mediation two times a day -choose a work out program and go to the gym and follow it!! -practice confident posture and pleasant facial expression whenever I become aware of it -study JavaScript and React daily
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 05:53 AM
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I absolutely love your term lizard brain. Idk if it’s RP speak or not, but if it isn’t it should be. I think many women get into a negative mindset that points the finger and hisses at whoever is with us when we find ourselves in less than preferable mindsets and attitudes. Being in the midst of that thinking is so negative, but being aware that it’s just your “silly lizard brain” angrily blaming others for your situation is both mood lifting and a good reminder that we are the ones in control o…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 06:35 AM
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I see what your saying about having only two choices, cut off or be with him. I agree, but I also think maybe I don’t even need to think about it and just fill my time with my goals and fix my home situation so I don’t have to find other places to be. And in a way, that’ll be a more comfortable painless way of cutting it off instead of facing him and saying “goodbye forever”. Thoughts? Also I really appreciate your point on how me being with someone or not shouldn’t impact my ability to work on …
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 06:08 AM
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I think your spot on. Thank you. Going on to the environmental change.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 05:46 AM
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Why don’t you just tell him you know he’s lying? Do u just turn over and cry silently? No use keeping stuff like that inside when they obviously aren’t worthy.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 02:47 AM
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Thank you, I really appreciate this. I’m not exactly overweight (just 26% body fat and I go to the gym). I’m going to let this sit with me and reflect on what it means. My internal narrative critiques my actions and appearance all the time, but I’m probably focusing on the wrong strategy for improvement.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 07:18 AM
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I wanna defend this because it’s too downvoted. College doesn’t equal education. You can learn information online, and a lot of trades online/ through paid training or bootcamps. They’re basically saying save your money and don’t go jumping into college before you know more about yourself and your options. Be smart, don’t blindly go into debt.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 07:08 AM
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Spittin’ fire, EC. You rule.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/18 08:41 AM
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Agreed. People who post vague comments about being upset at someone through social media posts aren’t even worth noticing. Why are you even thinking about them, OP? You don’t need to.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/18 07:51 AM
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