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STRATEGYedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 03:57 PM
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#HeAin'tTheOne2021edelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:19 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:39 PM
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edelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:18 PM
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LIES MEN TELLedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:05 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨edelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 09:37 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨edelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 05:48 AM
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edelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 07:56 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨edelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 07:21 PM
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#JustLVMThingsedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 12:19 PM
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STAY WOKEedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 08:32 AM
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LIES MEN TELLedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:45 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨edelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:00 PM
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How-To High Valueedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 10:50 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:09 AM
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#JustLVMThingsedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:49 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:30 AM
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LIES MEN TELLedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 12:09 PM
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edelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:27 AM
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DISCUSSIONedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 11:23 PM
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#HeAin'tTheOne2021edelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 11:28 AM
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FINE AF FRIDAYSedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:10 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:51 PM
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FOREVER GF TALESedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 12:14 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 12:15 PM
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LESSON LEARNEDedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:37 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:30 PM
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DISCUSSIONedelbiatch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:22 PM
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As long as they are married creeps staring at barely legal (and completely uninterested) girls, they can have both at the same time. Once they are single, in an open relationship or trying to cheat, they are confronted with the harsh reality. They are lucky enough to find one woman who will touch their dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 01:38 PM
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Oh he is Catholic, just a bigot. I guess to him it was a more creative way to get out of wearing a condom. It wouldn't have worked with another woman born and raised in our country since we know that taking the pill and premarital sex are also not allowed for Catholics too. But with an Asian immigrant who didn't know anything about his religion it was possible to gaslight her. I grew up in a Catholic region and there are plenty of "good Christians" protesting against abortion rights while not bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:20 PM
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I just checked Kevin Samuels out and this shit is terrifying. I can't believe this guy even has women looking up to him. Thank you for your insight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 11:39 PM
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Wow, now that you've said it, I just remembered that my father (covert narc NVM) was sooo resentful and hostile about women turning down the "nice guys" from our nationality and dating men of colour / immigrants instead. That was years ago and it definitely gave me the ick. I understood he was racist as hell, but not that he was really diving deep in incel logic without even having internet access.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 08:39 PM
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I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Yes, not dating any women of his ethnicity might be a glaring red flag. 100% of the yellow fever guys are absolutely horrific redpilled abusive losers. The ex (white guy) of an Asian woman I know had a history of dating Asian women. He convinced her that he cannot use condoms due to his Christian beliefs so she has to take the pill (his Christian beliefs didn't keep him from sleeping around and being abusive). Without going into detail at some point we we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 03:00 PM
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Thank you for this extremely helpful list. I totally agree that Asian men face some shitty stereotypes in media and society. Racism is a big problem and to a certain point I can understand the frustration of being unsuccessful on the dating market for racist reasons alone. I met absolutely gorgeous Asian men who are well-mannered, educated, treat you like a gentleman and internalized less toxic nasculinity than men of other ethnic groups. But like you said, some of them are better at putting on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 02:38 PM
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They really seem to think of women as objects. Do they expect you to sit still and wait until you get picked once they are done playing with white women and ready to settle down with a Black woman? The men date outside their race and act like they gain status from being with a white partner while BIWOC do the same and get labelled a traitor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 02:22 PM
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Jane Goodall. She pursued her dream to study animals in a time when career options for women were really limited. She showed great bravery and patience, is an advocate for animal and human rights. She divorced her first husband when it was clear that he expected her to fit into his life and career because the life she has was more important to her. She is remarkable personality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 08:48 AM
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"These girls knew it was a casual thing" So why did they get upset and leave once they learned about him dating other women???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 03:33 AM
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And then when he beats her up it's her fault because she knew who he was and she should have left him sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 01:07 AM
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Because you don't ask THE PREY about how to become good at HUNTING (I actually heard that one in dating subs before I realized they are full of redpilled losers). They know that they bring nothing to the table which might interest us. They know they are exploitative and trying to get away with things that benefit them and not us. So they are not interested in our input. They want to use us, not learn how to treat us well. We are not on the same page and we don't have the same interests in mind w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 01:05 AM
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Lmao, I just received the same message (among death threats because I said that I expect men to pay for dates). This dude is clearly trying to pretend he is neutral towards FDS when it's absolutely clear that the pornsick reddit scrotes are outraged by our content. Do not fall for this (I'm not saying you did, but I assume other ladies have gotten the same message). The handbook mentions that we don't engage in discussion with them and under no circumstances do we give up identifying information…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:34 PM
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This is something that used to confuse me so much. I assumed men selected women the same way I selected them, based on compatibility. Then I realized they don't care. Even those who claimed to be interested in long term relationships or marriage, conservative, religious men would ask me out in a date when it was 100% clear that there was no common base for a relationship ever. They would claim that they don't want sex before marriage, then start talking to me in sexual ways. If you are a typical…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 12:24 AM
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You're totally right. That's why we still need to be cautious of deception or lovebombing (some forms of lovebombing can be subtle and harder to detect). A lot if manipulation is more elaborate and harder to detect. That's why we never stop vetting. But as a first step, it's incredibly useful to get rid of all men thinking "How much money can I save while still getting my dick wet".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 05:18 PM
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I'm totally ok with men not taking this advice. In fact, it makes dating much easier. If you expect a man to pay, you weed out all Redpillers, cheapskates, barely interested men, low effort scrotes, casual daters, some of the financial abusers and other exploitative men. This is an extremely powerful vetting tool. If these guys won't take our advice in this it just means that FDS works. I bet those who grow up to actually respect women will not cry about having to spend 30 dollars on her meal if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 04:36 PM
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My covert narc NVM ex never formally proposed to me. Instead, he gifted me a ring that looked just like a wedding ring. I was very young and naive so I never questioned why he would give me such a present without a proposal. But it was handy for him - locking me up with a ring that says "I'm taken" while not giving me any commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 02:24 PM
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Nothing good ever came from a man's mouth after saying "Oh I Ukrainian / Russian / Slavic / Eastern European girls are so sexy".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 08:02 AM
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I had a good impression about him so far. Given everything I know about men and power, I highly doubt that a HVM will reach the status of a president, particularly in such troubled times in a troubled country. Since acting is a part of his former career, I wouldn't trust him blindly. I can say that he is very charismatic. Which doesn't really say anything about whether he is trustworthy. People with narcissistic and psychpathic tendencies have a higher likelihood to become famous and getting in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 06:40 PM
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Thanks a lot! This is absolutely disturbing to read but we need to shed light on this. I watched this documentary and noticed that the Civil Rights Movement became more and more male-dominated over time. I assumed that male aggression and violence might have played a role in this process since exploitation, sexism and sexual violence towards women happen in most religious and social structures. But I didn't dare to think MLK might have been involved. I can't imagine the pain of Black women, figh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 06:26 PM
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Wow, I knew about Ghandi and Einstein but I had no idea about MLK. Do you have a source where I could look it up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 05:40 PM
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Of course it's the guy who inherits family wealth and acts like an entitled lazy bitch who believes that people should just work hard. Oh the irony
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 07:18 AM
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I thought it's an attempt to avoid orgasms because apparently female ejaculation is pee and disgusting. I legit had a guy who was working in a hospital (not medical but administrative staff) try to mansplain me that female cum is pee. A (male) doctor told him. He also told me that women in his country get a husband stitch to keep their husbands from cheating on them after giving birth. That was the first time I heard abut this procedure and I can't even describe how disgusted I was. And of cours…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 12:28 AM
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How about we gaslight men that their real orgasms come from pleasing women's clitoris manually and orally. How about we tell them that we don't need to touch their penis and that male ejaculation is gross, dirty and smells bad. How about we only let them have PiV sex when we want to conceive a child? How about we fall asleep or act too tired after we had an orgasm. How about we pretend that the penis is some weird, vaguely understood thing that doesn't serve a particular purpose. How about we te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 02:02 PM
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They are probably the ones who will call you a manhater for acknowledging that patriarchy exists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 01:47 PM
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Eau de incel cologne. I'm dead 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 10:02 AM
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That's very true, most of them are not clever. But some are. I have noticed that in the current situation about Ukraine there is a fair share of people who claim to be devastated by the war, but claim to be "neutral". They throw in vague, superficial statements about the war being bad, remind you not to believe everything you see on the news (you should stay aware and critical of course but that's a dog whistle for Putin friends in the current situation). They claim to be against Putin but then …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 10:01 AM
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As someone who couldn't scroll past the initial comment without smartassing about female cat reproductive health, I relate to this a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 10:32 AM
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Besides the neg, he immediately questions your feminism because you say that you are feminine. He is probably one of those who assume that feminism is about sexual liberation (porn and sex positive pickmes who will fulfill his sexual desires) and financial freedom for women (for him to mooch off of them). In other words, he doesn't care about feminism unless it caters to him. He will try to gaslight women that we can't have both, being invited to dinners and having basic human rights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 10:29 AM
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Exactly. If her boundary is so unreasonable and such a red flag, why does he whine and cry about it, tells her that he will stop and keeps it secret from her? If her boundary is such a red flag, why isn't he being open about porn being something he doesn't want to live without? He should openly announce to his family that his fiance is calling off the wedding because she is too insecure to tolerate him jerking off to porn. Why is he so embarrassed about this if there is nothing wrong with it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 06:19 AM
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Not to take away from your initial point about sexual needs in people, but not having sex for female cats is actually a health hazard (I don't know about any other animals though). They suffer if they don't get sex and develop certain health issues. That's why indoor cats who do not take part in breeding are usually neutered. Obviously, this argument doesn't translate to humans and if it did, masturbation (without porn) would help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 06:09 AM
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YES! This so much! Also, he stays weirdly vague about his so called sexual needs. What are they? Did she refuse to make him orgasm? Was the frequency of sex not enough? Did she only care about her pleasure? Or was he unhappy that she wouldn't fulfill his porn-infected fantasies? Didn't she let him pressure her into anal sex? Was he unhappy that he didn't get her ok for a threesome with her mother? Was he upset that she wouldn't do a naughty schoolgirl cosplay with him? Or did he want to slap her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 06:03 AM
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They want to trap a 20 year old woman who will compensate for their rotten sperm. And they act all surprised picachu face when they find out that those women don't want them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 05:09 PM
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The funny thing is that Men's Health is marketed to men, not women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 08:22 AM
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Theoretically, yes. Everybody can change. People overcome addiction, get out of abusive relationships, challenge their views and grow all their lives....if they want to and are dedicated to it. Since changing yourself and working on yourself is really hard work, most people need a strong motivation. For many people, this motivation is that the current status quo is making them suffer. People who suffer from the status quo can work on their mental health, their belief system, their attitudes, the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 08:39 AM
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What's the point? Block and delete is enough. There is no reason to engage further with people who offer nothing of value to you. I will always be kind and fair to people who deserve it but I will not invest my time in deceiving anyone, even scrotes. If they don't deserve my kindness, I sure as hell won't be making elaborate plans to punish them for their low effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:41 PM
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My time is too valuable to play mind games with LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:26 PM
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Yes, a woman I know works at an organization that supports prostitutes to survive and get out if possible. She said that early mornings are the rush hours for married men. Their wifes usually don't suspect anything if they leave early because they claim that they have a lot of work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 01:35 AM
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That's an excellent point. When I was in the process of understanding that I need to leave my useless covert narcissist NVM boyfriend of 5 years, I began to realize that his compliments are very shallow and generic. I told him that I feel like he doesn't even know me. Of course he protested so I asked him what he likes about me. The words he came up with to describe me, his gf of 5 years and supposedly the love of his life, were "nice" and "hot". After some time he came up with "empathetic" and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 08:14 AM
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I've seen a female influencer brag about getting married at McDonalds. I think even the underpaid staff there felt sorry for them and asked them why they decided to do that. They are really proud of setting the bar lower and lower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 10:20 AM
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As long as there is a double standard about it, it is sexist to punish women for the same behavior while noone bats an eye at a man going topless publicly. As long as women's bodies are sexualized, it is not inherently empowering to walk around with your titties out. There is nothing really empowering we can do about it in our society. Since you referred to the fact that only white women who are conventionally attractive are part of this trend, you might be interested in reading about UK model N…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 08:20 AM
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(I hope it's ok if I reply to you as a white woman since I saw some of these yellow fever white guys in action, trying to prey on Asian women.) I would say that most yellow fever dudes are sort of redpilled and entitled so they don't even disguise their creepy nature that much because they don't see what's problematic about it. All of the advice about avoiding RP men and being aware of PUA tactics applies here. As some of the other ladies have pointed out, if they have a history of dating WOC (m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 11:20 AM
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Pedophiles often groom children by showing them porn and normalizing it. Porn companies are putting their movies out there with no proper age protection for all the children to see. Our governments don't do anything to stop it. Children get mass exposed to it. And instead of applying the logic that children should not have access to that crap and the companies and providers should make sure they stay away, they act like they can't do anything about 11 year olds accessing their sites. That's defi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 07:53 AM
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All men who did this to me turned out to be manipulative and narcissistic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 10:25 PM
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Exactly. And there is good reason to believe that his academic titles are fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 09:23 AM
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I haven't watched this video but this guy prides himself in being a narcissistic, abusive asshole. I refuse to believe a single word that comes from this person's mouth. He might have a point here or there because he as an abuser knows how abusers think but he is not a trustworthy source of information. Please do not support his channel. Here is a documentary on him that shows his horrible behavior. https://youtu.be/H3vlYpvnZ7o
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 07:14 AM
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THIS. All men who did this to me turned out to be narcissists testing the waters by trying to push my boundaries. Doing something mildly upsetting and testing if I let them get away with this shit. A guy giving you a funny or annoying nickname is a huge red flag. A guy giving you a cute or generic nickmame is a huge red flag. And of course they are cheating and won't even bother to remember your name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 11:11 PM
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If they cared for your uniqueness they would give you compliments that are unique to you as an individual person instead of referring to your race / their stereotypes about your race. Glad you made it out of these relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:08 PM
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One thing I learned from my abusive narc ex is that when he overstates very basic things which go without saying for most people like "Honesty is very important to me" or "I would never cheat" that's a red flag and they are going to do the exact opposite. Also, if he talks that negatively about other people, he is projecting his own shitty personality on other people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 01:28 PM
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Two of the biggest risk factors for snoring are alcohol and smoking. I regret putting up with the noise and missing good sleep so much because most men who stop drinking and smoking will stop snoring. And if they don't, they should get treated by a doctor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 01:18 PM
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It does. And as you said, you don't realize that a lot of the red flags are red flags until after the date. In a normal conversation that is not a date with a rapey redpiller you don't need to be 110% alert and spotting red flags early takes practice. If we lived in an ideal world, we would stand up and leave at the first creepy question but most of the times we need a little more time to process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 12:59 PM
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Add constantly late and entitled to your time to the list. Wants you to be available whenever he wants to see you but never has time if you propose something spontaneously. Spontaneity means that he is completely self centered and doesn't take your plans into account when planning activities with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 07:47 AM
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I totally agree. I didn't read this particular book but from my perspective most of the things that gets thrown around as "seduction" is some form of PUA bullshit. While they do have some good advice that applies to both genders (focus on your own growth, work on your confidence, don't run after people who don't want to date you), most of it is simply emotional manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 05:04 PM
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I'm gonna quote from the Subchapter of "Mr. Sensitive" from Lundy Bancroft's book "Why does he do that?" where he describes the manipulative behavior of a sensitive / spiritual manipulative softboy: "You seem to be hurting his feelings constantly, though you aren't sure why, and he expects your attention to be focused endlessly on his emotional injuries. If you are in a bad mood one day and say something unfair or insensitive, it won't be enough to give him a sincere apology and accept responsib…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 08:19 AM
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I feel like in general, true HVW are relatively rare. But on average, women are less predatory then men (with exceptions of course). There are predatory, manipulative and narcissistic women out there. They might even be more sneaky than men bc they can't use physical force and intimidation to harm you. So I think ending up with a mediocre woman would be less harmful than being with a mediocre man but nowadays, there is no reason to develop close relationships with people who are not enriching yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 02:33 PM
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In fact, most mammals have empathy, especially those who live in groups. What else keeps animals from eating their partner after sex? What makes them care for their children instead of eating them? Empathy and prosocial behavior is not a super power but the bare minimum to survive as a species who relies heavily on cooperation with individuals and groups.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 02:17 PM
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Thank you for sharing, it's so nice to see that you found a solution that works for you and gives you financial independence without having to juggle household, family and paid work. Your husband sounds like a keeper! Do you have any formal agreement on what would happen in case of divorce? Do you have an independent retirement fund? My bf and I have talked about marriage and I mentioned to him that I would only want to marry and have children if we find a solution that makes up for the unequal …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 03:13 PM
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True but you also have to take into account that in case you have children a huge burden is placed on the woman, especially when the child is very young. A man can do his best to support his wife but ultimately pregnancy, postpartum and breastfeeding are a workload which are hard to compensate for. I don't think a woman relying financially on her partner for 1-3 years after giving birth (or even longer if she wants it and they agree on it) is pathetic. I am aware that being a SAHM is a vulnerabl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 10:52 AM
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True, and I would even suggest double checking by another lawyer for the woman's side. From my experience, lawyers are a profession which attracts some of the most sexist and narcissistic individuals out there so I would be very picky with chosing a good one. Preferrably a woman who is aware that women get screwed over financially and legally and who is ready to fight for your rights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 07:05 AM
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That's a very good point. I haven't even thought about it but having your own wage and retirement fund if you are a SAHM is an amazing idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 06:59 AM
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I love this! I want to add that a HVM wants you to take care of your wings because they make you happy and keep you safe. If he thinks of the future, he might be aware that he could get hit by a truck tomorrow and he wants his woman being capable of taking care of herself in the case of a desaster. If they have kids, he wants his kids to be taken care of emotionally and financially, even in case of grief and loss. And even if nothing tragical happens, he wants his woman to live a fulfilled life,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:15 AM
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They see women as objects and like to use them. They don't want their objects to be used by other men. If they accepted that women are actual people, it might at least solve some of their unbearable double standards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:03 AM
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"You're not like other girls"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:24 PM
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"Relax, it's not that deep"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 05:52 PM
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Had it with a guy who was hitting on me. One day he's like "Wow yoga is totally cool, I should try this". A week later I receive a text message "I just had a yoga class and it made me think of you". Another week later, in front of a group of common friends, he says "yoga is stupid and useless and who would even need this" blabla with this stupid smirk, waiting for me to defend my interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 08:15 AM
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"We are in such a unique relationship with such a high level of trust, people who don't know us won't understand" ....yeah sis, this was what I was telling myself to rationalize that I was one of the sidechicks for a grandiose narcissist. You're not unique. He's not special. People who "don't understand your unique relationship" because they don't know you are right. You're a dumbass. Waking up will be tough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 06:41 AM
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The first thing that came to my mind when I was writing my comment were the dumpster fire / red flag parade white NVM I know who dated Black women. Both are extremely unattractive, unhygienic and emotionally abusive men but ended up dating gorgeous Black women, preying on their insecurities and trauma and treating them like human fleshlights. But you're absolutely right, there are amazing couples of BW/WM who are very healthy and supportive of each other. I know at least one Black woman who is m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 05:33 PM
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I wish more people listened to Black women about it. I'd be angry and bitter too! The behavior I encountered from Black men (as a white woman in a white majority country) is absolutely horrible. Harrassing, catcalling and following women on the street, being extremely creepy and pushy towards women on parties, cheating on their black girlfriends etc and simply not accepting a no. I feel so sad for Black women if that's their dating market (because let's be honest, white guys who date Black women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 07:43 AM
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I totally agree. It's important to know your partner and show them that you try to take care of their needs. In your case, buying you expensive jewelry when you needed a washing machine would be stupid. I'm all for unromantic and useful gifts when that's just what you need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 11:45 AM
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Ouf. That explains a lot. Damn. I need to let that sink it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 10:56 AM
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I once read that sometimes cats purr at physically stronger cats when they are intimidated. It makes sense to appear friendly / non threatening to someone who could knock you out easily. Yet men mistake our awkward intimidated smiles with approval or flirting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 12:00 AM
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I like the perspective of comparing marriage certificates to business contracts. I am not saying you could never do any business without a contract. But if I pull out a contract and the other party finds 1000 excuses why we don't need one, it's definitely a red flag and there is a 100% chance that they are trying to take advantage of me. In general, we as a society need to get rid of treating marriage as something romantic that should be about love and nothing else. First and foremost, marriage …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:56 PM
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Especially listen up if the stereotype comes from within a man’s own culture This. Thank you so much for this statement. I have had thoughts about this issue but I couldn't put into words and this is spot on. I myself dated men of different origins because I am binational and I refused to date men of my own culture because of blatant misogyny. But I did find myself in weird situationships with "traditional" men of other cultures who used me as a convenient sidepiece to satisfy them sexually befo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 01:19 PM
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I wouldn't be surprised if he tracked your location too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 07:51 AM
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I have never dated guys with predominantly female friends but I befriended several men who had more female friends. They were mostly men who didn't fit the stereotypical male attitudes and toxic masculinity. They realized most men are trash and were capable of upholding positive relationships with women they were not trying to date or sleep with. They were into female dominated hobbies without caring that they do not appear masculine enough to male peers. I never dated these guys but as far as I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:23 AM
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Exactly. Marrying implies merging finances. That is a really bad idea if you are not financially stable. Also, how the hell did they manage to date for 11 years without talking about finances???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 11:09 PM
1

Lol women's "annoying habit" of flaking might be due to the fact that you wave more red flags than a communist parade.
/r/seduction19/10/21 04:25 PM
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I'm laughing at the scrotes commenting the video. "She is only in for the money" "What if the roles vere reserved?" "They didn't ask her about her financial situation, she is probably also living paycheck to paycheck" "Women expect men to carry the weight of a relationship" No. Women expect not to be dragged along as a forever gf by a manchild who can't handle his financial situation in his 40ies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:28 PM
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If they want to feel needed they should stop acting like useless losers. If they want to feel needed they can step up and take responsibility. I don't know why I should make myself look less capable to accommodate the unstable self-confidence of a man baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:45 PM
45

So you mention that you're a writer, is it correct to assume that you do it professionally? And he jumps to the conclusion that with his encouragement you could start a little cute blog? This sounds so patronizing and belittling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 04:47 PM
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That's so true. I have had gay men sexually harrass me and using their homosexuality to shield themselves from being called out for sexual harrassment. "I'm gay and not turned out to you sexually so it can't be harrassment if I touch you inappropriately". I have seen a gay guy grab my (female) best friend's butt on a party and being offended when she defended herself. His homosexuality doesn't stop him from being an entitled sexist asshole and he doesn't even need to cover up his misogyny to get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 04:41 PM
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I enjoy giving blowjobs because seeing my partner experience pleasure is a turn on for me. Nothing about the process of a blowjob is pleasant for me but my partner's reaction to it is the reason I like it. However, I noticed that men don't bring the same energy to performing oral on their partners. They will gladly accept blowjobs but won't go down on a woman and give stupid justifications for this imbalance. I don't think that it's neccessary to play tit for tat in the bedroom but it usually bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 10:40 AM
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That is such a poetic way to describe it, I love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 10:19 AM
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Ah the classic "You're ugly anyways". Yeah keep trying, scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:13 PM
8

Wow, thank you for sharing your perspective. Good to hear you learnt to trust yourself again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:13 PM
30

They feel so justified in their shitty behavior they don't even bother trying to act like a decent human being
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:55 PM
132

Seeing a guy who played you then breadcrumbed you tiptoe and dance around you like a peacock trying to get your attention after you ignored him is some next level cringe. I used to be so confused about this behavior, now I just ignore it when possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:49 PM
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Thank you for your great insight! It's true that for someone who struggles with constant anxiety, listening to their intuition is more difficult. Do you have any tips on how to avoid manipulators for women struggling with anxiety? Any other early signals? And I agree with you completely that we should not blame ourselves for falling for an abuser. In fact, sometimes feeling bad about this keeps us from moving forward. Even if we ignored our intuition and red flags in the past, we still deserve h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:43 PM
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I feel what you said about jealousy so much. In a relationship with a HVM now and I almost forgot I used to believe I called myself jealous. I'm not. Not if my partner makes me feel secure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:13 PM
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Imagine being so insecure and pathetic you have to insult randos on OLD to make yourself feel better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:30 PM
45

Yes I agree with you. Those men who will act offended by a woman looking out for her security are a walking red flag anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:22 PM
27

At work or in any situation where you can't get away easily (and he knows this and uses it against you), it's sometimes still possible to maximize distance between him and you. Physical distance, social distance, emotional distance. Interact with him as little as possible. Avoid being alone with him. Try avoiding personal communication and prefer written communication (which also helps against gaslighting and can be a proof to others that he indeed acted inappropriately). Do not engage in person…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 12:27 PM
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So true. I had a lot of written communication with my abuser from the very beginning and when I managed to leave him, I broke down crying when I saw our messages. His manipulation and the fact that I saw what was happening very clearly before I decided to close my eyes and trust his judgement and his manipulation were right in front of me from the very start. I just didn't want to believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 12:08 PM
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How could you be so cruel and do this to him? He was probably lying in bed drunk and horny when he remembered that you exist and then you deprived him of any chance to breadcrumb you. You must have really hurt his feelings uwu.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:43 AM
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Sometimes group discussions can feel messy and leave some people feeling left out. I noticed that a few men who give off HVM vibes make constant effort to make everybody feel included. For example, when a new person joins the group, they update them on the topic. They make sure to ask different people questions about the things they are interested in (instead of dominating the discussion with a topic that only few people are interested in). They make sure to use simple language or explaining thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:56 PM
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Piggypacking to add that scrotes know that women are not a fan of PUA so they will pretend that they used to be into that when they were so unsuccessful with dating "back then", even if they are actively applying their "techniques"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:23 AM
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Maybe it was his kink. You should be grateful he was opening up with you about it. You shouldn't be so prude and kinkshaming him. Edit: Given how similar responses are expected in relationship subs on Reddit my sarcasm is not as obvious as I thought it would be and I should have added /s to avoid sounding like a Pickme on steroids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 05:52 AM
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And then they bitch about women not texting back. Hell yeah, I might ignore you but at least I'm not gonna degrade you and make inappropriate comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 12:41 PM
94

"I don't mind you sleeping with other girls. I'm not insecure like other girls. Pick meee"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 12:40 PM
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Men really tell on themselves. They DO know they all benefit from misogyny. They just want it to stay this way. They want the bar to be that low. Ladies, this is why we don't go on OLD. This is why we stay away from LVM. I'd rather die alone forever than date a guy who thinks that "not being a creepy fuck" is good enough behavior to deserve the attention of a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 12:23 PM
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It's not just about him not being attractive. He flat out lied to you before you went on a date. What else is he gonna lie about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 10:15 AM
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But bEiNg FaT iS a ChOiCe, bEiNg ShoRt iSn't 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 10:14 AM
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Maybe he would propose with a ring made out of trash paper
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 10:02 AM
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My narc ex "gifted" me a toy ring from one if these trashy vending machines and gave it to me as a "romantic gesture". When I threw it away laughing (I couldn't even take that seriously) he acted so hurt and said that it felt to him as if I was just valued money. These low effort guys really want to manipulate you into accepting actual trash as a gift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 06:37 AM
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He will be all over reddit bitching about how women nowadays are gold diggers and expect you to pay for their stuff 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 06:25 AM
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I have a feeling that this unprotected sex she had was not even consentual. She seems to be pretty firm on her boundary which makes me wonder if the previous guy violated her boundary and pulled off some stealthing shit or coerced her into unprotected sex. Oftentimes women who were victim of boundary violations don't realize right away that there was no consent bc they were pressured into it and feel guilty for what was done to them. Also any reasonable guy would refuse to have unprotected sex w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 07:53 AM
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I think that it's important to date someone who fits your lifestyle and values. So if you would not want to live like that, it's perfectly reasonable to reject someone based on that. I am in my 20ies and living with roommates. While I could afford my own place, I decided not to and save towards my financial goals instead. I tend to be frugal in my everyday life while saving up for things that are important to me. One guy I used to date did not like my living situation. He preferred having his ow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 08:19 AM
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I'm sorry to say that but your "friends" who invite your abuser to hang out with you are not really your friends. I had to learn it the hard way when my pickme "friend" brought my abuser back into my life. She shared the things I said about him with him, she told him about the significant changes in my life and my whereabouts. I ended up having a nervous breakdown after she brought him to my house and I was labelled as the crazy ex girlfriend. I'm glad I had other friends who backed me up and he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 05:25 AM
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Oh yes I see a lot of men on Reddit who say that they lied about their height in Online Dating "as an experiment" to see how much women cared and were shocked about how shallow women are. Next time they will act surprised that they get more matches if they replace their profile photo with a photo of Jason Momoa or Chris Hemsworth. Women are so shallow for not liking them for their inner beauty 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 05:43 AM
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I'm in a long distance relationship with a HVM. It can work but I'm not gonna sugarcoat it. The relationship will progress much more slowly than a non LDR relationship. He has more opportunities to hide bad behavior and red flags. Be aware that a LDR can be extremely beneficial for an LVM. An LDR is basically a bit like being single, he can still do what he wants to bc you're not gonna find out. And when you visity he can put up a show and spend some nice time and have extra passionate sex (if y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 02:01 PM
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I use first and second dates to weed out obvious LVM. Most men don't make it past that. Since HVM are extremely rare, I never had the situation that I was dating two men at the same time before it became obvious that one of them (or both) are walking red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:44 PM
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This case happened in Germany and the cannibal had a leading position in the army. The fact that nobody noticed there was something seriously wrong with him and he was trusted with arms is seriously disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:33 PM
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Lately I was banned from a popular dating sub for saying that women should not date men they aren't attracted to since staying single is also an option. The OP of that thread lamented about how men, upon learning that they are undesirable, lower their expectations and agree to date women they aren't attracted to. He thinks women should just do the same. Except that for men, lowering standards means exploiting a less attractive mommy bangmaid. For women, it means being devalued and abused by a mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:34 AM
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Because it's easier to play victim bc you're not a 6"2 tall Chad who also happens to be rich than actually listen to your partner or love interest and take her criticism seriously (which would also involve considering her as a human being and having empathy for her). They hate women then they act offended if women don't want to sleep with them. And then they go around claiming they are the logical sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:37 AM
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This is such a fucked up dynamic. I don't get why people always seem to side with the abuser. I had very similar situations where people felt so sorry for my abusive ex after he sent out those flying monkeys. He is crying about me leaving him now so that undoes the 5 years of emotional and sexual abuse in their mind (not that I even talked about most of the abuse since he is such a nice guy and nobody would believe me anyways). I am so glad I just had to move to another city anyways so I cut off…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 06:41 AM
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My bf who I consider to be a HVM is very proactive and considerate. He thinks about how to make me happy. When I had a cold while we were travelling and all bars were closed, he went out of his way to go and find some hot water to make tea for me. For our dates, he plans interesting activities (like trying sports that both of us might enjoy, going to a concert etc.) according to my taste. He goes out of his way to make NICE photos of me when we are going out or travelling. He puts a lot of thoug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 04:18 PM
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New study shows: Women want men to be hot in order to desire them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 06:14 AM
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A real date would have involved him actually getting ready for a date instead of meeting her in his sweaty work clothes. How can a guy have such a lack of respect for himself to not even shower and put on a fresh shirt before a date??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 08:08 PM
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Same here. The material cost for pretty rings isn't that high anyways (I don't like the ones with huge rocks in them bc it would look ridiculous on my hand) but I would love some nice handmade design. I'd rather spend the money on a honeymoon than on something I could lose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 09:34 AM
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They want to keep it that way by trying to get women to lower our standards. This is why they hate FDS so much. All we do is tell women not to sleep with men who don't treat us right. Apparently it is very offensive not to offer sex to men who hate us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 01:59 PM
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I wonder why no woman desires to have sex with that scumbag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 09:11 PM
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After dealing with scrotes that are obviously only looking for casual sex, meeting a man who pursues a relationship and marriage might feel like a breath of fresh air. However, FDS has taught me that we always need to keep on vetting. The reason LVM get into relationships is that for some of them (the ugly and otherwise undesirable ones) this is the only way to get sex. They might have zero sympathy for their partner and they will jump on any opportunity to cheat. This is your reminder to keep v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:46 PM
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Thank you for this post and your response, it's interesting to read other ladies out here have a similar approach as I do. I completely agree with your view on men who approach you, especially those who approach you without the slightest sign that you might be interested. Since I am conventionally attractive, I am approached fairly often and 99% of times I am just annoyed by these poor excuses of men trying to talk to me. I found my bf (who seems to be a HVM as far as I can judge) in a male domi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 06:29 PM
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For me it was helpful to see money like a reflection of my priorities. I spent money on things that were important to me but I would completely cut down on things that were not important. For me that meant - never ordering drinks in a restaurant - no to go coffees or snacks on the go that are cheap but keep piling up in one month - no alcohol, cigarettes or other drugs (if you want to drink on a party it's cheaper to predrink at someone's place instead of going to a bar) - carrying my own bottle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:40 PM
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You won't change them for sure, that's right. These LVM don't deserve women in their lives. But other people will see the post and pick up that it's apparently acceptable to use a prostitute for money if you don't want to put in any effort into dating but your peepee is sad. Sex workers should not be seen as second class women who need to deal with the losers who see women as objects for their pleasure. This sub is against sex work for a good reason and we should stand in solidarity with the wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 02:52 PM
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I understand where you're coming from but I don't feel like suggesting men to abuse a woman for money is the best way to go about it. Many men do exactly this and cause way too many women being exploited and traumatized in prostitution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 02:18 PM
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It's an excuse to manipulate and torture you while sounding mysterious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 11:28 AM
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Ooof I'm so sorry for whatever you had to go through this to find out these are red flags. This sounds so evil and messy. My narc ex was always late and so spontaneous and it made me so crazy. Later on I found out he was usually on time except when he wanted to torture me. He also made this thing with the weird gifts and then pressured me to fake appreciation by recording my reaction to it. That was so fucking weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 07:52 PM
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Ooof I haven't heard of this one but it sounds so exhausting and difficult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 07:33 PM
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Lundy Bancroft mentioned in his book ("Why does he do that" - highly recommend reading it) that abusive men use therapy to manipulate the therapist and learn how to manipulate others in a better way. One of his clients even guilttripped his ex to come back to him, claiming that the success of his therapy depended on it. I developed a certain scepticism when it comes to men who are very interested in psychology. I met a lot of these sensitive New Age men who use their emotions and their knowledge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:17 PM
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Oversharing can be a trauma response, so don't beat yourself up for it. I personally tend to overshare a little, too (hopefully getting better though). It's very important for you to always remember that you are the only one responsible for your issues. You can share your frustration or grief with others but don't just dump it on them without a warning. There are different reasons why they might not be in the right mental state to be your psychological support right now. Respect that and pay att…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:56 PM
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Yes they have this ability to make you feel like you need to walk on eggshells around them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:46 PM
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This is such a great point. I realized that some people made me feel incredibly tense and insecure, second guessing anything I do around them. Nothing they did up to this point was over the top alarming yet at a later point they showed their psychologically abusive side if I didn't walk away earlier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:14 PM
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Oh that's spot on. Arguing with some people feels like wrestling an eel with your bare hands. Whatever point you make, you do not get a straight answer out of them. Anything to avoid accountability
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:05 PM
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That's also a good one, thank you. My ex did this a lot and it was so confusing. I should have had FDS back then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:40 PM
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Thank you for the recommendation, I'm gonna check it out later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:38 PM
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Yes, very good point. I have seen so many times how people act like a victim, you feel sorry for them, try to help them and then they turn out to be the most evil and manipulative people you can imagine. I fell in that trap far too many times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:18 PM
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Exactly, men acting like they're superior bc they don't wipe and don't wash their hands. It's pathetic. Also, if men are not provided a toilet, they will literally pee anywhere in public. This is why so many cities put up mobile toilets (for men!) in the party areas so drunk guys won't piss over the whole street like the animals they are. Meanwhile, nobody seems to care about bathrooms for women who are on their period or pregnant women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:35 PM
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Omg I'm so sorry this happened to you. Your sperm donor is a piece of shit. I hope you're in a better place now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:29 PM
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To my personal experience, guys in academia are a huge dumpster fire. Mostly LVM / NVM, arrogant and acting all nice and sophisticated while trying to mask their insecurities and abusive ways. Most of them have little to no success on the dating market for good reasons. Some of them are creepy enough to go for undergraduate students while acting like a socially awkward dork. Also often addicted to porn and weed or other drugs. Even if they don't act like a stereotypical macho, many of them habe …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:22 PM
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In my worst pickme years I had one attempt at FBW. In my definition, it was friendship and sex. In his definition, I was a hole to use when he was too lazy to pick up another girl. I thought this was beneficial to me because at least he was really handsome (think of a Hollister model) and physically my type. He turned out to be pornsick and he was so bad at sex it's unbelievable. He was constantly browsing programe (I didn't know it back then but I believe most of the content was worse than redd…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:47 AM
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Haha that's spot on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:15 PM
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I had a bf who expected me to give him bjs yet he wouldn't go down on me bc it was disgusting when I would get wet. I am not convinced he was not a closeted gay and I am still wondering why he dates and sleeps with women if he doesn't like their physical reaction when they are aroused. If they wanted to please us, they'd already found out how to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:41 PM
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I don't get men who are like this. It's like they want you to treat sex like a chore. If they made us enjoy it, we would actually have motivation to engage in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:34 PM
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Today I did some research on the clitoris and on the gender orgasm gap. Unsurprisingly, heterosexual women are much less likely to orgasm from sex than men (regardless of sexual orientation) or lesbian women. In other words: men are bad at sex. Some of the factors which contribute to female pleasure are longer lasting sex and the woman being pleased orally. Ladies, do not accept any man who doesn't satisfy you sexually. Women's sexuality is not complicated, there is no excuse for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:29 PM
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I read the article and each of them sounds like it the woman was telling the guy off for mistreating her. And these guys have the audacity to complain about women being ToXiC instead of rethinking their own behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:24 PM
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We will rename female dating strategy into crayfish dating strategy 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:21 AM
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I think the most important thing for a proposal and wedding is that it is elaborate, high effort and shows how well he knows you. I don't like flashy jewelry or wasting a lot of money on status symbols. My style for the ring would be a simple silver ring, either in a very minimal and classic style or something unique and preferably handmade matching to my overall style. I don't like diamonds and I'd prefer no gem or maybe opal or saphire. Price range could be 100-300 Euros. I am a rather private…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:33 PM
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Thank you for your kind compliment. The website is called xhamster but I don't know if that makes it any better 😅 Also, yourape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:34 PM
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Damn you're so right. I once stumbled across this weird subreddit where they posted pornographic pictures of women where they photoshopped the anus out of the picture. Yet somehow they are still convinced to like women (at least theit bodies). Let's pray they finally advance VR technology a bit more so we can lock them up in a dark basement while they jerk off to their weird anime shit and leave us alone forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:31 PM
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Rapehamster. I like your idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:21 PM
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You're so right, I might have looked a bit more for better pictures!!! I think he looks much more handsome on video since he has a really attractive body language.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:04 PM
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For those of you who don't know, Justin Baldoni is not just a hottie but also looks a lot like an HVM from what we can tell. He has an age appropriate marriage and treats his wife with respect. He supports feminism and publicly speaks out against toxic masculinity. I did not read his newest book on this topic yet but I have heard some positive reviews. Of course he never know what goes on behind closed doors, but he seems like quite a catch both physically and characterwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 02:03 PM
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I admit I actually liked walk dates pre FDS bc I thought this is an easy way to get to know someone in a relaxed way. With men I met on OLD I found it even more unsettling sitting through a restaurant visit with a complete stranger, especially since they expected something in return for their generosity of buying me a 10 Euro dinner. But as you said, for most men walk dates exist so that they don't need to put any effort into planning a date or spend any money. The combination of walk date and O…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 10:48 AM
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The moment when you realize their rage wasn't even a genuine expression but a tactic to keep you in place and they act confused when it doesn't work is priceless. You are so right about how TYT reacted to her video. It was truly upsetting to watch. What are you mad about? You're fine with walk dates? Great for you. You wouldn't want to date this woman bc she is judgemental? Great, last time I checked, she wasn't asking to date you either. And then shaming her for being picky and judgemental abou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:34 AM
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Back in my pickmeisha days I went on a date with a guy who lived in a van. I asked my friend to pick me up. So later that evening when my phone rang, I picked up. It was my friend who was a bit worried. I said with a big smile that everything is great and I am still alive. The look on this face was priceless. He walked my to my friend's car but he seemed to be very offended that I did not just meet him in a deserted parking spot by the forest at night without having a safety backup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 06:22 PM
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Every single guy I heard complaining about gold diggers was someone constantly bragging about their material "wealth". Ok Josh, we got it, you're 40 and you have a job and you own a car and you don't like gold diggers. Good for you. Bye. Then they acted all surprised when I, back then in my early 20ies, didn't jump on their dick because I was so impressed by a middle aged man having a stable income.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:10 PM
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The reason why women flake or give out wrong numbers is because the guy is pushy and creepy and I'd rather block his ass once I'm in a safe distance rather than risk a violent reaction for rejecting him openly. But I guess you won't listen to me anyways because I'm a woman, right? Also, may I ask you why the hell you keep trying to get a date from a woman you despise so much for her "attitude"?
/r/seduction12/05/21 06:53 PM
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Oh wow this is eye opening. Years ago I was in a social group that organized a few hikes. It made me upset how some of the guys would get too close to cows or horses we were passing buy. Cows are such kind and adorable animals who won't harm anyone who doesn't behave threatening around them. Yet every year accidents with hikers happen where people get hurt. One of those scrote who wasn't respecting cows and horses private space ended up groping me and blamed it on a misunderstanding when I calle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:36 PM
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Remind yourself that you don't need to lower your standards just because the men around you can't meet them. You're better off without them. What do you think these LVM expect after you split the bill on a date or after they get you drunk at a pub? You can be happy this rule makes weeding out LVM so easy. Where I live, it's fairly common so split the bill and that's ok for a work lunch. Not a single guy who has suggested to split the bill pursued me afterwards. If men were interested (even LVM) …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:42 AM
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Can confirm. A couple if years ago a guy who tried to hit on me started talking about alphas and betas. Back then I was completely clueless this was a huge red flag. I was so excited to correct him on how the concept of alphas and betas was actually a misinterpretation of a wolf behavior study and the oh-so-dominant alpha wolves were nothing but loving parents to a group of teenage wolves. The researcher who started this myth fought against the spread of this misinformation his entire life but p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:31 PM
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Do you think they will actually admit to a mistake and start doing something about it? Or will they cry about women's impossible standards, how shallow we are and how men with dirty butts deserve love too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:33 PM
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I feel this a lot. Years ago when I was in my Pickmeisha days I used this type of humour a lot. Even worse, I bonded with scrotes with this type of humour. I like to make jokes about how much I suck, they make jokes about how much I sucky we have so much in common. You can imagine the quality of "men" who reacted positively to this behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:28 PM
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I bet the boyfriend is someone who lacks the emotional intelligence to understand she is just upset and needs to rant so he tells her she is irrational and overdramatic when she is experiencing emotions. Someone who tells her to "just calm down" because "it's not a big deal" when she is visibly upset. Yes I do have emotions. Yes sometimes things bother me. Yes sometimes I need to rant. This doesn't make me permanently unable to use logical reasoning. Scrotes out there not understanding that emot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:21 AM
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Guys are really out there claiming you can't turn a hoe into a wife then pull off shit like this and don't even see the irony.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:13 AM
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Omg I feel the pity party in my heart. Ok if you feel so bad about receiving criticism, stop acting in such a shitty way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:19 PM
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Thank you. Yeah it was a weird experience. Refused to make any effort to keep contact, was unreliable as fuck and reached out only when it was convenient for him. Why he assumed I was keen to date a guy like him is beyond me. At some point I realized he acts like the typical LVM fuckboi minus the incest. Although I doubt he can look at any woman without sexualizing her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:35 PM
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My parents divorced when I was very young, my dad moved abroad and didn't care about me for most of my life. After 20 years we reunited and I felt positive about it first. He was very keen on giving me life advice despite having no idea about my life and not bothering to ask or to listen. He tried to give me relationship advice on how to date men without scaring them away with expectations and commitment. At some point I told him I am not interested in dating men with commitment issues and I don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:19 PM
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I always heard this and kinda believed this. Then I realized that 50 year olds usually don't look like George Clooney and even George Clooney was hotter when he was 30. And then I realized that most men start balding in their mid or end 20ies and now I am confused how they managed to make themselves believe that they age like fine wine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 09:46 AM
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This is so creepy and I hear that from women all the time. My roommate tried to sell almost new shoes online and some foot fetish scrote messaged her. I want to sell my prom dress but I don't want to put any pictures showing my body on the internet because of these weirdos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:37 PM
2

I recently saw a post in Instagram by Meg Boggs, a female body positivity influencer and weight lifter where she says "I want to be strong not like men who look pretty. I want to be strong like bitch who fight bear in the forest" and I loved it sooo much. I personally found that it was very helpful to focus on things that your body does rather how your body looks like (although I bet that you look amazing working on yourself). My grandma is a narcissist who bodyshamed me and my mom. My grandma i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:40 AM
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Yes, they do hunt in groups. I know that pick up artists do this and organize themselves in What's App groups to scrape up the confidence to manipulate and assault women. And I have seen multiple times that men appear to be alone or with one friend and then you see them in an all male group just to walk around alone again. It looks and feels predatory and it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:17 AM
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Omg, girl, same. I have such a poor sense of directions and then these guys come over and start asking me about directions that make no fucking sense at all and I am trying to make it make sense in my head. And then it turns out this ugly bald scrote just wants my number and after I rejected him he had the audacity to give me a kiss on the cheek before I left (I wish I had peppersprayed this asshole). Another guy wouldn't leave me alone when I told him I have a boyfriend and tried giving his num…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:11 AM
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Good, don't reply to this bs. Nothing good comes from this message. Option 1: You tell him it was ok for you. You give him attention and positive affirmation, yes he is such an amazing guy and he does everything right but all these women are so demanding and mean and they will dump him. But you are not like the other girls. You are so easy to talk to and you are such a cool girl. Hey maybe you wanna hangout with him and have meaningless disappointing no strings attached sex where he doesn't even…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 10:06 PM
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I recently saw a comedy show on TV where a woman and a man were reading out creepy Tinder conversations. After a while the guy said something like "this is horrible, these conversations show men in such a bad light". Welcome to reality, my dear. You couldn't stand reading this for 10 minutes and women are confronted with this every day. We didn't invent unsolicited dick pics in order to make men look bad. They already manage to make themselves look bad pretty well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:24 PM
24

I am dealing with the same issue. I work in a fairly specialized field so it's easy to find me just based on my city and first name only. My employer values our availability over our protection so my contact information and my office location is publicly available on the website. Being less visible means losing career opportunities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:04 PM
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Yet when famous men face some criticism for their actions, they deny all accountability and have the nerve to call it a witch hunt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 07:23 AM
7

I would love to hear Sharon Stone's story. I recently saw an interview on Youtube and she is such an interesting brilliant woman. Unfortunately she is mainly remembered as the woman who flashed her genitals in Basic Instinct (and she was actually tricked into doing this by the scrotes producing this movie) so it would be interesting to hear how she represents herself. As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, I think Dr. Ramani Durvasula would be a great expert to interview on toxic relationship patt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:05 AM
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hOw Do I TeLL mY bOyFrIeNd hE hAs To WaSh HiS aSs WiThOuT hUrTiNg HiS eGo?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:01 PM
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Wow, thank you for pointing it out so clearly. Years ago I was on a first date and the guy asked me "Do you mind if I smoke?". Me, usually being shy, but being very clear on my disgust towards smoking, said "Actually, yes, it bothers me." He completely ignored my answer, not that he even paid attention to what I said and lit up his cigarette. He was also completely confused why I didn't want a second date. They don't care about us communicating. They just act like they want us to communicate but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 08:55 PM
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Guess I'm a virgin then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 07:05 AM
8

Wtf that sounds like a scrote trying to disguise himself as a recruiter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:19 AM
16

I can relate a lot to what you wrote and I went through similar experiences when I was younger, this is why I would advise you to focus on yourself and keep away from dating for some time. Actually after my last relationship, I decided to stop dating for at least a year and focus on myself and my goals only. I realized how much focus dating was taking away from my life. Even if I was not in a relationship, dating or just flirting with men has always took up a lot of headspace. Me being a recover…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 11:44 PM
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I had always had long hair, except that one time when I left an abusive relationship. In my language there is even a saying of "cutting your old braids off", meaning getting rid of something you no longer need in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 11:08 PM
1

I read an article in a women's magazine where they examined if the lack of bras due to home office lead to saggy tits. The answer was no, obviously not, but of course the most important thing we have to worry about in a pandemic is weight gain and saggy tits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:39 AM
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Excellent reply. I am noting this for future interactions. Also, who is profiting off of men having issues with their body image? Evil companies run by feminist mastermind CEOs who like to exploit men's poor body image for their money? Are women creating men's body image issues? Or is it the male dominated movie industry, billion dollar companies run by men, and their gym bros spreading toxic masculinity whereever they go?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:45 PM
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And when you reply that 99% of the harrassers are male they suddenly claim it's not a gender issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:38 PM
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It's hard to say if they have it easier and discussions about who has it worth never lead to change. Feminists are not the ones denying men mental health resources and ridiculing men for being abused or depressed. If you don't like this, do something against it. Challenge your thinking. Fight patriarchy. Feminists are fighting for their rights and men do nothing just to act offended that women did something that doesn't benefit men. Bohoo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:14 PM
20

Sadly, they aren't unable of empathy. In fact they do have a lot of empathy towards the rapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:23 AM
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And then these kind of pickmeishas go on and tell how FDS hates sexworkers. Do they even stop and think about the bullshit they are saying? Edit: Spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:19 PM
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I like the fact that more people are keeping their distance now. I wish we could keep it that way now. However, I have noticed that LVM and NVM don't have access to their normal places for preying on women so they use alternative ways to harrass women. They will randomly chat up women at supermarkets or on the street. They will approach them online, which is particularly annoying on platforms which are not for dating. I constantly get messages from men on Instagram (I use it for promoting my bus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:46 PM
15

Ignore his words and listen to his actions only. If you like what you see, proceed. If he uses his words to sugarcoat boundary stomping, disrespect or other bullshit, block and delete. And don't waste time explaining why this thing they did hurt you. They know and they don't care. Don't make up excuses for men. If he apologizes, be critical. But if he doesn't, it's not your responsibility to come up with excuses for him à la "He doesn't know any better", "He's young and immature", "He was just h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 08:41 AM
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I totally agree and I don't get the double standard. Why is it socially acceptable for men to drool over gorgeous models and actresses but I get shamed for rejecting an ugly guy? Manipulative NVM shame women for being shallow when in fact they are just ugly. And on top of that, if you are willing to look behind their superficial ugliness, they got a shitty personality too. I am an attractive, intelligent and successful woman and I expect my partner to meet my standards. And if I state that publi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 08:21 AM
15

Wow you took his dollar and didn't pay it back? You're such a gold digger /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:45 PM
12

I don't care too much for a guy's dick size since PiV sex doesn't do a lot for me anyways. What you can do is sleep or cuddle in the same bed as him, taking it slow (i.e. telling him absolutely no sex) but be close enough to make him want it and "accidentally" brush yourself against his crotch. Only do this if you trust him to respect your boundaries and feel safe since this is the point where scrotes would try to push for sex or start whining about blue balls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:38 AM
54

Little women is an amazing movie. "Surprisingly" it was directed by a woman (Greta Gerwick).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:20 AM
7

Remember it's not their fault for being fucking creeps but it's your fault you are so shallow for not wanting to be approached by a sleazy guy 50 years older than you /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:58 AM
23

"He's just a little socially awkward"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:52 PM
2

Whoops, I'm so sorry I dropped your Playstation when I was dusting. I'm so clumsy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:13 AM
17

I think women need to be protected from abusers at any age. I agree that younger women are more vulnerable but your suggestion would only shift the problem. Moreover, despite the age of consent being 18 in most countries and where I live, there is plenty of child prostitution. The Nordic Model of punishing men who try to buy access to a woman's body, offering sex workers alternatives and help leaving the red light districts and educating the population about consent and abuse is pretty effective…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:45 PM
1

I met a guy on vacation in a country where most people marry young. He was 45, never married, careless and irresponsible like a teenager. He constantly complained about his parents who treated him like he was a kid and how he moved out of their household because of this. At the same time, he called his mom on short notice to take over his business responsibilities for a full day bc he decided to go on a spontaneous day trip with his bestie. He assumed he had still plenty of time to get married a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:22 PM
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Thank you so much for your insight. I'm hearing people right and left repeating how there are empowered escorts who enjoy what they are doing and how much easy money they make. I suspected that this was not the truth but I'm glad to see former sex workers are speaking up about the truth of this "profession". I hope you are in a better place now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:05 PM
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It's so difficult in our society to be empowered sexually without falling for Libfem sexwork propaganda when our sexual liberation is sold as pleasing men and performing like a sex worker for men. I'm happy you found your way to a healthy sexuality and self respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:01 PM
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There should be laws against this. Seriously, future faking is emotionally cruel and you are making her waist her fertile years on you misleading her about wanting to have children? Or impregnating her against her will? This should be punishable by law.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 11:48 PM
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I believe you are in a tight spot bc you can't really go out and socialize due to Covid. What I did after a breakup was making a list of things I always wanted to do but didn't have time for. There were things like trying out a new sport, going on a hike, trying out a new recipe, start a DIY project, do a guided meditation, watch an interesting movie, etc. I picked up one of these things from a list each week and did it. Sometimes it was fun, sometimes it was meh but in the end I picked up some …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:48 PM
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Why doesn't he just cOmMuNiCaTe he doesn't want kids? 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:28 PM
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Thank you, I completely agree with you. Having sole custody for your child is way better than letting a LVM spoil your children and undermine your standards. Luckily I worked on my issues and I believe that I overcame many of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:16 PM
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I just remembered a situation when my dad started reaching out to me after decades of no contact. He sent me a photo of him, his new wife, her son and his gf. The photo was named my new family. My dad has 4 biological children from 2 mothers he never took care of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:10 PM
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Any guy who harrassed me has called me either ugly or a slut after ignoring him so I'm not even surprised by his reaction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:17 PM
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This explains why strangers will tell you that you have a nice ass and shout at you that you need to learn how to take a compliment. No, I don't. But you need to learn what a compliment is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:04 AM
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Very surprisingly, yes. Who could have thought she wouldn't be happy living with a scrote who'd rather endanger the wellbeing of his child than change the diapers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:51 AM
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"Dump that bitch"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:50 AM
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After my first breakup I felt like I need to celebrate being single again by "having fun". You can imagine what that fun meant. A few meaningless encounters with disrespectful scrotes I realized I wasn't having any fun at all. Adding to this, I had the chance to visit an organization that helped women in prostitution. The social worker who explained to us what their work is and what the women went through I was horrified anyone could defend prostitution aka abuse. I stumbled across a radical fem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:08 AM
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We should totally adapt this in our vocabulary now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 11:07 PM
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I'm not gonna waste my time like that but I like how you think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:59 PM
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Haha this reminds me of my mom's friend. Her husband treated her like shit and assumed she wouldn't leave him because he is the main provider. A month after she left him he begged her to come back to clean his place and offered money in exchange. She laughed at him and said no. Instead, she was cleaning other people's houses for better pay and more respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:58 PM
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Instead he fakes being sorry for destroying her clothes intentionally. I hope she got rid of this sadistic piece of shit. I can't believe men can convince us they are incapable of using a washing machine when they are so competent with technology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:18 PM
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I can't count how many times women are given the advice that men just don't see the household is messy or need more communication and guidance from their partner to take on a fair amount of work. Meanwhile these scrotes are laughing their asses off and advising others on how to make their annoying girlfriend shut up about doing the bare minimum: Just manipulate her into thinking you're THAT stupid. Another user shared the story how he intentionally poked holes in the trashbag before bringing it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:12 PM
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Thank you for sharing. I hope his ex and your nieces and nephews are ok now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 11:56 AM
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If his plan is picking up women who believe he works for national security while running around telling everybody he works for national security he'd have to try preschoolers who match his emotional maturity level 🤡 Note that the reason why he doesn't want to pursue a sexual relationship with his students is not because of the awkwardness meeting your hookup in a seminar or the complications this might bring to a student-professor-relationship. The only reason that keeps him from going after his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 11:37 AM
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I really hate this. Some months ago I was dealing with journalists a lot due to an art exhibition I did. They make appointments with you on short notice, they use your time to interview you, make a thousand mistakes and wrong statements on what you said, mess up your contact information and missspell your name (which sucks if you need the publicity) and then they give you 6 hours to respond to their email (if they contact you beforehand at all) and end up publishing the wrong information. It's r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 11:18 AM
7

I only had one guy who managed to make me cum and that was a grandiose narcissist who used sex to manipulate me into staying with him despite being a sadistic asshole. Most other guys thought that "foreplay" only exists for the woman to get lubricated enough for 5 mins of PiV jackhammering. My current partner is my first partner who is genuinely interested in my pleasure (eating me out without expecting anything in return and actually respecting my boundaries). Due to my previous sexual trauma I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 12:28 PM
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When my NVM ex told me about how he sees strippers at a bachelor party as normal (we were planning to get married in the future). I told him a couple of weeks later that my friend invited me to her bachelorette party and there's gonna be male strippers. He went out of his way to explain to me how he is not ok with this and why this is a different thing (some bullshit about men not being allowed to touch a female stripper but women touching male strippers). Managed to break free and dump his hypo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 09:57 PM
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I hope many more women from developing countries read this. To add another point, I found that scrotes like to give "compliments" not to you individually, but for your nationality, e.g. "[insert women of your country] are so beautiful / sexy / hot". It's just a stupid prejudiced and fetishizing comment that has nothing to do with you personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 08:47 AM
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I've actually read that preying on "ugly" (by misogynistic cultural beauty standards) girls is a common tactic among NVM. They target the girls who aren't being approached by other guys and who are supposed to have a low self confidence. They expect them to be so happy and grateful somebody actually approaches them they are more "easy" and more likely to say yes to their advances (unlike the "arrogant" pretty girls who will ignore these disgusting vultures). However, if the girls they approach s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 12:25 AM
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My narcissistic ex had ED at 24. Any time he couldn't get his peepee up he would tell me I need to work harder to turn him on and shifted the blame on me. The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:16 AM
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So true, I once dated a guy who misspelled my name after almost a year of dating and telling me I was "the one". Should have run for the hills way earlier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 07:38 AM
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