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Because the men that need it the most are the one that are the most in pain. So it quickly creates a toxic place, like incels, redpill, and other forums like that
/r/ExRedPill29/08/21 10:11 PM
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Because no one cares about men problems in this society
/r/ExRedPill29/08/21 09:57 PM
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Where did I said that on my message? You're making me say stuff that I didn't say and I said the exact opposite in my message. I am seeking connection and relationship not sex. I never seeked someone for the only purpose of having sex and never will, it's just not me, and I might not have as much options as woman but I had the opportunity to do so in the past and never did it because it's making uncomfortable. And I expect the people I date to be the same.
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 05:34 PM
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Too scared of rejection, poor self esteem, wasn't sure if she really liked me, you get the picture... I told her just before cutting contact with her that I wanted a relationship and that I'm disappointed and she was a bit mad
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 03:44 PM
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I'm talking about the self help stuff that is advised by the redpill. I did tons of other stuff that are not only related to physical appearance. Like cultivate myself on different subjects, tried new activities, I've literally traveled to almost every continents in the world etc... Of course I had more attention from women but the only one I wanted was her at the time. I think I am more mature now, at the time it's true that I was probably too emotionally immature for a relationship
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 03:37 PM
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I've had to stop recently because my insurance is not covering it and the cost started to add up quicky. But i've done probably 5 months of therapy in total (once a week). I've seen 3 different therapists so far. The first one was basically just listening to me talking but was not giving much input. But It did help a bit to talk to someone. The second one was more practical, he was given me advices and clues about cognitive distortions and all that stuff. He also thought that I should go on more…
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 03:10 PM
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I did bro. At some point if was not bearable anymore so I had to see a therapist. It did help a bit, but I still feel hurt. I just started to talk to a new girl now and I feel like it's holding me back and I'm scared to fall into the same pattern again
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 03:02 PM
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I don't think that. They do whatever they want and if they want one night stands they can, it's just not my thing and I don't want to have a relationship with a woman that does or did that. What hurts me is the double standard most of the time based on how attractive the guy is and the fact that she was not clear about that with me
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 01:40 PM
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I don't think you really get it. The reason I made effort is because I liked spending time with her and I wanted her to be my girlfriend, not just for sex. I wanted to have sex with her was because it's a necessary step to make the relationship move forward. Not just for the sole purpose of having sex. Of course if I have had sex with her that pain would be less because it would have been less invalidating to me I can't deny that. But it's only part of the problem
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 01:30 PM
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I ghosted her and never talked to her since then. That story is 2 years old but still hurts me and is causing me trouble to connect with new girls
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 01:18 PM
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I did, I go to the gym and I'm pretty fit, I make good money, have a nice appartement, I buy new clothes all the time to stay stylish etc... But it's never enough and there is only so much you can do with what you have. There is always gonna be a guy better than you no matter how much you improve, I'm never gonna be Brad Pitt, or young Alain Delon. And with dating apps now a cute woman can have hundreds of options, so despite the efforts I'm basically nothing special.
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 01:14 PM
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Men or women it's not acceptable. I did cared about this girl and to me having sex with a girl was never the priority, it takes me a long time to be confortable. Honestly what attracts me the most in a relationship with someone is getting to know them, building a connection etc... but it doesn't mean that sex has no importance, quite the opposite, it has so much meaning for me that I would never be able to do it with some random person. The fact that she just goes and have sex with some random d…
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 01:06 PM
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Thanks for your reply. It makes sense, I guess I was idealizing this girl like crazy and when I learned what she did it was a shock. I still struggle to let go of this fake image of her that I had I was hurt so bad that it caused me insomnia for more than a year after this event, and I was waking up in panic and all that shit almost every night.
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 12:58 PM
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Yeah I am only sure about one guy, I kind of extrapolated a bit without much proof for the others sorry But one did hurt me enough anyway
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 12:53 PM
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Yeah exactly! I think you got the problem. It really hurted my self esteem
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 12:50 PM
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Of course it's wrong. I mean after one date if we don't really know each other no problem, but once we start to talk regularly I would never do that, I even make extra care to not make her worry that I could be doing that
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 12:48 PM
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It is an investment, you put time and feelings into a girl only to know that she's going to have careless fun on the side with another guy that she probably find more attractive but not relationship material. I was not officially with her and it even hurts more because, she probably think what she did is not wrong and I can't complain because it's like how the rules are. I agree that at the time I was really bad a communicating but so was she.
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 12:42 PM
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Yeah, I happened to see the instagram of the guy. He is your typical fuckboy with shirtless pictures. It's a long story
/r/ExRedPill08/08/21 05:17 AM
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I wonder if this guy is really happy
/r/ExRedPill22/10/20 12:56 AM
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For me it's not that I don't care, quite the opposite actually. It's just that if I am not sure about what you want I don't want to risk being awkward because I like the girl so much that I'm scared to screw up. If I don't care about the person it's easier. If I don't get direct signs that you are interested or want me to do it I will not do anything. And by showing physical interested something like slightly touching my hand for example is not enough.
/r/ExRedPill14/10/20 10:56 PM
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Thanks for your answer Yes the lack of experience is making me so insecure... I'd say I'm pretty good at building connection with someone, I never had problem with that, I'm pretty easygoing. I even had people starting conversations with me because they thought I had something different in the way I greeted them (which is super weird because I don't do anything but showing basic respect). That's usually enough to make some girls like me but once I have to be serious and make it a romantic relati…
/r/ExRedPill09/10/20 12:41 AM
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Well the thing is that I am totally clueless about dating and it doesn't seem to improve, I don't know how other guys get the knowledge from. Their dad? I'm 27 and I don't remember my dad talking about girls, not even once. Friends? Most of my friends struggle. When they're kids? I was bullied by all the girls in middle school. It just let me with internet to get advice from. And obviously it's not good at all . And for what I want : I use to think that I need to go have sex with a lot of girls …
/r/ExRedPill09/10/20 12:10 AM
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You're ironic I suppose
/r/ExRedPill08/10/20 07:21 PM
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Thanks for your comment I appreciate it, It's true that I have trouble to pass the "hang out with a friend" thing
/r/ExRedPill08/10/20 07:21 PM
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I agree with you on communication, I never had the balls to communicate with her. Mostly because friends, internet, forums etc... shame you for expressing your feelings to a girl you have not had sex with, I mean each time I was talking with friends about that they where asking me if I had sex with her, saying stupid thing like "please **** her for me bro" etc... And I used to believe that a girl can't fall for you if you never had sex with her, so I felt out of control. It was so painful. My ov…
/r/ExRedPill08/10/20 06:33 PM
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That's the thing, as a guy you are the one supposed to make a girl feel desired. I feel like I fail to bring that unfortunately and I make them frustrated and disappointed in the end. Part of it is me being shy and other part of it is also because I'm insecure and scared of rejection. And each time I fail like this it's crushing me a little more. It's not like a meet girls that I like all the time...
/r/ExRedPill08/10/20 06:18 PM
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What part of the redpill bothers you the most? You have to realize that most men that are or were redpilled like I was, unconsciously just want to be loved and find a girl that they can to connect to. (It was my case, I can't of course talk about all the guys there, but it's mostly a phase in their lifes) Most of the time it's the pain of rejection or the inability to connect with a girl that is so strong that you convince yourself that after all that pain maybe it's just better to apply a strat…
/r/ExRedPill06/10/20 08:23 PM
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It's more complicated than that. She was the one that kissed me actually. We continued to see each other for weeks after that but it turned out that she was probably stringing me along. What's the point of doing that honestly? It's ok if she's not interested but why make someone suffer more by not being direct? I repeat again but this is this kind of behavior that push some guys to the Red pill
/r/ExRedPill05/10/20 10:46 PM
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I'm sorry but it's just not true from my experience. I feel like most girls just put very low effort because they have this illusion of unlimited options. Like this girl that I was dating that simply "forgot" to reply to my text for a week just after we first kissed (after 3 dates). I don't know to me kissing a girl means a lot and I don't kiss anyone like that. It made me feel like for her it means nothing, or maybe she was playing games. Anyway not a behavior of someone that works on being a g…
/r/ExRedPill04/10/20 05:50 PM
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It's funny I still struggle with the same thing. A girl can have sex whenever she wants and have way more choice when it comes to relationships. I still feel so inferior. If a girl can have sex whenever she wants, have tons of guys talking to her after just using dating apps for a week. What do I have to bring to the table compared to other guys? I'm definitely not a model, I have an average life and I don't really stand out in any way. It makes me depressed and insecure too.
/r/ExRedPill04/10/20 02:41 PM
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No I was talking to her all the time for weeks on Skype before seeing her. If she wanted to have a quick fix she could have done it in an easier way lol. I just don't feel comfortable to have sex directly, I need a lot of time
/r/ExRedPill03/10/20 02:12 AM
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I had the same thing once with a girl. It was the first time I saw her and I slept in the same bed in an hotel room (she was a flight attendant). I was being insecure and not ready to have sex. She completely lost interest and it was the most painful thing. Girls doing that shit is probably the reason guys fall into the redpill (like myself)
/r/ExRedPill02/10/20 11:37 PM
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I thought women and especially the good looking ones are the most confident persons on earth. It made me feel super inferior. But with a bit of life experience I realized this is not true. A lot of them have absolutely 0 confidence. Some of them are even in depression.
/r/ExRedPill02/10/20 11:23 PM
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Lol I'm sorry but we are probably not from the same France, I find the way of dating in France healthier than in Canada (where I'm right now), in France it is pretty much implicit that you are exclusive as long as you kiss, In Canada hookup culture is predominant and it made me suffer so much, you see a girl and then you learn that she had sex with other guys while she made you wait to see if you can be a boyfriend, shit like that are not that common in France. I really thing hookup culture is t…
/r/ExRedPill28/09/20 03:44 PM
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I personally don't like his advice. But I can't really explain why. It just seems off to me. A bit like Corey Wayne but worse.
/r/ExRedPill17/09/20 02:16 AM
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Well the thing that made me realize that the Red pill is bullshit is a relationship that I completely failed because of theses toxic beliefs. It made me think so much and grow so much. I slowly realized that I've hurt people in the past because of it, that I had no empathy etc... I'm not sure if it has anything to do with politics but yes I agree that most of the Red pill guys seem pro Trump (which I was and still am btw, but I think you can be a good or bad person no matter what political belie…
/r/ExRedPill16/09/20 11:40 PM
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Lol I'm sorry but this is not true at all, people that fall for the redpill come from a very wide spectrum of backgrounds. The only common denominator is that we struggle with girls. Like myself, I don't fit your description at all. I'm 27 I've literally been all around the world, I have a university degree, I live 7000km from my hometown and yet I got trapped by the Red pill.
/r/ExRedPill16/09/20 11:17 PM
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I agree that women from female dating strategy should not be here because they are part of the problem.
/r/ExRedPill08/09/20 12:41 AM
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Female Dating Strategy is toxic as hell. But it made me realize something. Women (at least some of them) struggle a lot too. The rest of it is total garbage, they have unreasonable standards it seem like they see relationships as a war against the guy there are dating and they generally have a skewed vision of men (probably because like red pill guys they have been hurt)
/r/ExRedPill01/09/20 07:59 PM
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I don't know where I heard that honestly, maybe on redpill forums who knows. Well, the thing is that I have that fear with the girls I like a lot because it's so rare, not with everyone. I don't care if a friend abandon me. But for some reason if it's a girl the emotions are like 10000x. And I totally agree with the self fulfilling prophecy, it's exactly that! I have been bullied and humiliated by the girls in my class in my childhood that can be the root who knows... And when I try to talk to p…
/r/ExRedPill27/08/20 09:26 PM
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Isn't BPD something that only girls have? Actually for the one that I was dating that hurted me and that I loved the most it was probably just me projecting. Turns out that I learned a year later that it's highly unlikely that she had sex with this dude just before rejecting me. I then proceeded to ignore her and completely removed her from my life, probably for nothing. It was so painful because I never told her how much I liked her (because, you know, it's weak thing to do...) And the thing is…
/r/ExRedPill27/08/20 06:48 PM
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I totally see your point. But, see, you even admit yourself that you chose fucked up guys and that even your friend don't want to see them. I understand that it's not completely her fault, and I am also really defensive too. But being overly defensive will just chase most guys away. You're going to stay with the guys you don't want to be with. Just like the female dating strategy sub advices, that I think are completely counter productive and that will just make abusive guys stay.
/r/ExRedPill27/08/20 04:12 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear that you had to go through all of that awful stuff. It look so terrible I would not even wish that to happen to my worst enemies. But common, guys like this are not really that usual but it seems like for some reason it's the norm for women. And I'm sure in your life you came accros alot of good guys that you chose to overlook. Among my friends we are all good guys I think, most of us are engineers with great education and manners and yet it's so sad to see how hard we strug…
/r/ExRedPill27/08/20 03:41 PM
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That's not the problem haha. Of course I can leave her, it's just going to take me years to get over her, to find another girl that I like and that like me, while she just has to go through her matches and date another guy and forget about me.
/r/ExRedPill27/08/20 01:11 PM
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I'm sure in the mass of guys in their DM there is some really good guys looking for a girlfriend. I was talking to a friend and she showed me her DM, it was crazy. More attention than I ever got in my life. And she is not even that pretty or anything special. I really think that modern technologies have skewed the game in favor of woman. The girl that ended up hurting me, I never had sex with her because when I like a girl too much I'm scared to escalate and she never did anything to help me and…
/r/ExRedPill27/08/20 11:56 AM
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I support no fap (even if I have trouble to do it haha). But common guys it doesn't make you prettier
/r/ExRedPill14/08/20 04:54 PM
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Female dating strategy is as toxic as the redpill. It's the same frustrated kind of people, only the genders are reversed. But reading through was very insightful and made me learn that girls don't have it easy either and it made me realize that I actually don't know any men among my friends that are how they describe them (even the players among my friends want a genuine connexion with a great girl), so I guess it's the same for the redpill. The women that they describe are the minority and it'…
/r/ExRedPill14/08/20 04:43 PM
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Well the thing is that redpill or not you have no other choice than meeting alot of people if you want to get laid. But there is no games to play or whatever, you basically just need to present well, be friendly and know how to talk. But I don't think that's redpill at all just common sense
/r/ExRedPill10/08/20 09:32 PM
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Dress well, look sharp and go out a lot and be on every online dating apps. Honestly I am not even that good looking and everytime I go out I have some female attention (and over to course of last year I probably went out like 5 times). I never do one night stand but most of the time it goes from kissing a girl for like the rest of the night (happened only once) to having girl asking straight up that they want to suck my dick, grinding on me etc... So I guess if you do that every weekend you cou…
/r/ExRedPill10/08/20 08:05 PM
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This guy is so dumb and hateful that he is actually the reason that made wonder if all this redpill alpha male is not complete bullshit after all. It made my brain click. Honestly you can really feel the hate in each one of his videos, I wonder if such an hateful guy can get even laid, and even if he does I doubt he is leaving the girls in better way than before he met them.
/r/ExRedPill10/08/20 02:13 PM
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Unfortunately there is some truth in what you say about the hot guy.... I am all against the redpill and all the manipulation techniques but the girl I was dating last year was leading me on for months and because I am shy I never had the chance to sleep with her. And one day she installed bumble again and fucked a hot guy with abs and everything on the first date... She then proceed to reject me by saying "You're very sweet but sorry it won't work". Which triggered intense feeling of emasculati…
/r/ExRedPill07/08/20 03:30 PM
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Yeah exactly! I guess you just have to accept that the insecurities will never go no matter how much validation you get and realize that everyone is insecure in some way. I also noticed that most people cannot tell when you are self conscious anyway, it's only in your head but calming that little voice in your head is easier said than done. Also I am a really late bloomer, I started to put myself out there, and hitting the gym only a year ago (I'm 27 now), Before that I was the kind of guy that …
/r/seduction08/01/20 09:18 PM
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I also hooked up with a celebrity that I met randomly at a party, she was first role for a tv show, probably one of the most beautiful girl I've ever talked to. It was so easy and she was really nice but very agressive too (asking my number after 5 min of talking and kissing me after like 30 minutes). Anyway, aside from the ego boost, my confidence around woman is still near 0, and I still struggle alot.
/r/seduction08/01/20 08:23 PM
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How much followers do you think is enough to not raise a red flag for girls? I know 70 is really low and probably show that I'm a low value beta male with a very limited social life (which is true but I'm working on it). As all this makes me depressed I think I'll just delete it for the moment (too bad because I really enjoy to take and share some cool pictures)
/r/TheRedPill28/05/18 09:46 PM
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I only have 70 followers, I try to post some quality photos and I enjoy doing it but it seems impossible for me to have more. It's way more simple for girls as you just have to show you ass. I feel like if any girl find out that I only have 70 followers my SMV will drop to a very low point to their eyes. Probably deleting my account is the best thing to do
/r/TheRedPill28/05/18 08:13 PM
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