Ghosted on fifth date

Inareskai · 2020-10-01T15:09:29+00:00

I can't explain her behaviour, but I do think it's unfair of her to back off without any explanation after it seemed to be going well. But I completely agree that it sounds like something going on with her than anything you did 'wrong' - and you're definitely not any of those trp buzzwords (honestly I would suggest not even asking there) - I used to love staying over/having my partner stay over even when we didn't have sex, because ideally you just enjoy the person's company! I'm sorry it ended like this, it sucks, but it doesn't mean anything about you, it's just how things are sometimes.

RageStreak · 2020-10-01T15:32:23+00:00

One of my major problems with TRP is the idea that there is an ultimate “right” way to date which will unlock infinite success with women. There is no such method. Given the above information there’s no suggestion you did anything wrong. But we just don’t know.

We do know this girl couldn’t be bothered to give you an explanation, which isn’t very kind. The other problem with questing for the ultimate “right” way to date is that it doesn’t account for human error in the women. It sounds like she might be a flake or indecisive or there might be something else completely going on in her life.

Comfortable_Intern57 · 2020-10-01T14:59:12+00:00

Whatever you do, don't blame yourself! Don't listen to that other group. As a woman, I love it when the guy I'm seeing sleeps over. Seems like she's going though some things right now and is not ready for a relationship most likely. She might be seeing someone else, maybe she's trying to work things out with an ex, etc. It was shitty of her to just ghost you with no explanation. Just keep in mind that she is the one with the problem, not you.

thetruthishere_ · 2020-10-02T02:30:14+00:00

Im betting shes avoidant attached. Its not about you, its about her and her triggers. Closeness triggers them to go cold and run.

Dont ever ask TRP anything, they live in a tunnel that fits their narrative.

To add, how old is she? Noting, the 35+ dating pool is filled with avoidant attached. Not to say its not any age though.

RedPillDetox · 2020-10-01T17:19:59+00:00

You're right. Even under TRP ~~shitposting~~ theories, there's nothing wrong about seelping over at a girl's who you already had sex with and who was being compliant with you. You playing hard to get makes sense only to the extent that she isn't reacting positively to you. Cat string theory or some shit.

But then again, it's not like TRP is some kind of arbitrary congregation of teachings and generalizations that are subjective enough to skew as we see fit, right guys? ;)

Right?

Eitherway, i wouldn't want to seriously date some bitch who thinks i'm a weak sap just because i slept over. If i'm with a girl i want to be at ease, i don't want to go under constant state of "signaling" value just to keep her lol. Fuck that. You should too.

cutt88 · 2020-10-01T19:18:32+00:00

I posted this on ASKTRP and was basically called a beta and cuck

Just read your thread there, no one called you a cuck. People gave you their honest thoughts for your question, you didn't like these thoughts so you ran to this place to get validation.

As for your situation: relashipnship is about sex. When weird things happen regarding sex, it fucks with the brain for both women and men. That's what happened here. I actually was in the same situation you had. Stayed for the sleepover with a GF with no sex. The next morning she is totally cold and distant for me. It's a classic situation.

superdrolic · 2020-10-01T17:46:51+00:00

Here’s where leaning on your self confidence and resiliency is critical. There are always a myriad of factors that contribute to a person’s behavior. Worst case scenario, you came off as unattractive hence her attitude—or, she could have even felt insecure because you didn’t insist on having sex with her despite her being on her period, resulting in resentment and coldness. See, the story can be skewed indefinitely. Pick the story that makes the most sense, and if it doesn’t paint you in a good light, so be it. As always, be strong, and move forward, my friend

Chad_Chadinski · 2020-10-01T18:30:07+00:00

Maybe you farted in your sleep or something, and it turned her off.

Chad_Chadinski · 2020-10-01T18:51:21+00:00

But, all jokes aside, are you sure she actually read your messages?

elcartmano · 2020-10-02T23:37:05+00:00

I had the same thing once with a girl. It was the first time I saw her and I slept in the same bed in an hotel room (she was a flight attendant). I was being insecure and not ready to have sex. She completely lost interest and it was the most painful thing.

Girls doing that shit is probably the reason guys fall into the redpill (like myself)

jaycutlerfridgerator · 2020-10-03T04:00:30+00:00

I feel ya man. I’d say it’s likely not you, it’s her. I’ve actually done something similar myself to a woman but it was due to my own insecurities. I’d just let it go and charge it to the game.

jaycutlerfridgerator · 2020-10-03T07:42:27+00:00

I agree with what a lot of people on here have said — there is nothing wrong with sleeping over and cuddling. As a woman, I love it and I definitely don’t see it as a sign of weakness. It’s hard to know what’s going on in her world, but it’s possible it could be something outside of your control. For example, I stopped seeing a guy once because he had the same mannerisms as my ex, and I couldn’t get past the discomfort. Being ghosted sucks, and it’s easy to assume it’s something you did. The truth is, you’ll never know exactly what caused her to ghost you, so rather than beat yourself up about it, do your best to move forward (easier said then done)

Title	Ghosted on fifth date
Author	jaycutlerfridgerator
Upvotes	8
Comments	67
Date	October 1, 2020 2:55 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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