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elle_perazim/r/RedPillWomen15/05/24 07:32 PM
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I might be wrong but imo high value ≠ rich.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/25 04:49 AM
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Wait, what? 😱 Can you please read OP's post and comment history and see if you'd still like to keep this comment up then?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/25 05:35 AM
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OMG well done OP, and for whatever it's worth coming from a stranger, I'm incredibly proud of you! If you can manage or afford it, please look into starting therapy as there would definitely be a lot to unpack and deal with so you are able to fully move on properly. Well done once again!
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/25 05:33 AM
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I'm sorry babe, but I don't think you've found The One. If you can get out of this wedding, please do and go to therapy immediately. I wish you all the luck in the world.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/25 12:35 AM
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Just to clarify: when I referred to "OP," I meant the original commenter who started this comment thread (u/fastfishyfood), not the author of the larger post itself. It seems we’re interpreting both RPW principles and this thread’s tone quite differently. My view has always been that worth and relational value aren’t mutually exclusive. That is, one can seek to improve without believing their unpolished self is unlovable or undeserving. I’m not here to argue for entitlement, but I also don’t bel…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/25 10:24 AM
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What you are describing isn't even RPW ideology, it reads more like Protestant Work Ethic with that moralisation of "labour". OP's point about "being" over "doing" is not about laziness or shirking responsibility, rather it's about refusing to tether our worth to endless output. IMO, that is a return to inherent human dignity and is not anti-growth as you seem to think. Feminine self-improvement (even in the RPW context) is not in any way about glorifying exhaustion. It is (a) developing strateg…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/25 10:55 PM
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Animals (including non-domesticated ones) exist and no one questions their worth. You think my value’s lower than a squirrel’s?
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/25 09:27 PM
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I personally cannot relate as I sadly do not consider any kind of physical labour to be inherently feminine. However, for your question, the key may be reframing: your femininity isn’t in the mop, but in how you steward your home, create warmth, make choices, and hold space for your family. That includes knowing when to accept help.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/25 06:16 PM
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Timing is not really a consideration. Many men give money as gifts to girls while still trying to woo them into dating.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/24 07:10 PM
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Not from MENA but from a fairly conservative African country where OP's expectations would be considered to be fairly normal. It is generally thought that men indicate their ability to provide after marriage from how they provide while still dating. Whilst it would not be a deal breaker, especially if the lady has her own money, it's thought to be a good indicator of responsibility if a man provides in this manner.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/24 03:00 AM
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You don't appear to be taking cultural nuances into account. Where I'm from, it's also fairly normal for men to give their gfs/partners a regular allowance or at least give them money from time to time. In this context, OP's expectations would be normal and it would, at the very least, merit a discussion if the man isn't able / willing to fulfill these obligations.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/24 02:57 AM
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Thank you, this sounds like a very helpful guide as I definitely don't want to make him feel used. So far, I make sure to show excitement for everything he plans and express gratitude for his generosity.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/24 08:16 PM
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Thanks for sharing your perspective! This was what I thought but appreciate that I'm still learning. I'm very happy to do some planning but will ensure to approach it carefully.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/24 07:57 PM
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Thank you so much! I've been very careful this time to allow him lead and generally also to avoid coming across as being controlling :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/24 07:53 PM
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It's not my place to tell you what to do, but that 30M guy is definitely NOT it. If he's doing all these things now, they'll likely only get worse. You seem to like him better though, so maybe it might be helpful to figure out why, and check whether or not you may be unconsciously perpetuating toxic patterns you've become accustomed to from observing the toxic relationships you said you grew up around. I really truly wish you the best.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/24 07:24 PM
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Please no. Please listen to everyone else and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 03:49 AM
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To each their own.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/23 01:52 AM
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From what I've seen, heard and read, most children in homes whose parents have shitty marriages would rather their parents got divorced. I genuinely don't see the point in making oneself absolutely miserable just to keep up appearances. My comment was for your response to the lady who's been single for 25 years, not for the top OP. But I'll say that if your partner genuinely makes you miserable and counseling/prayers can't fix it, you should get out.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/23 01:41 AM
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Neither is staying in a shitty marriage for the sake of being married. At least in one scenario, she's actually happy and not dragged down by a "life partner" that's just an additional load.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/23 01:26 AM
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I feel you sis! Surely it's just a matter of time now.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/23 12:48 AM
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That's fair, but do you wonder why it matters to you so much to get to the bottom of his motivations? Understanding his reasons isn't going to change anything (he's not suddenly going to reach out and engage) and it's been almost 2 years since you had a date with him. Like I mentioned earlier, he's definitely not sitting around agonising over your actions/inactions so please do yourself a favour and stop "obsessing" (I mean this in the nicest way possible) over him. From the bottom of my heart, …
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/23 12:46 AM
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If you have to ask, you have your answer. Go out and meet other people. Distract yourself and de-prioritise him so that you can move on to other people that won't trigger your anxiety.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/23 01:54 AM
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I'm sorry but that's exactly what happened. It sounds like you might be struggling with accepting that this guy doesn't want you, but please don't waste your time any further - he doesn't. Men know exactly what they're doing and I can assure you that this guy is not sitting anywhere agonising over how he's treated you. One mantra I've recently picked up is "never let a man tell you he doesn't want you twice". Block, delete and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/23 01:54 AM
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