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Do you DEER this much to your wife too? A&A is the only correct response to this, then internally process if SB has a point.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/20 02:36 AM
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Worry more about your own qualities. If you just found this place, you’re too much of a bitch to even focus on what you want in a woman. If you’re questioning things with her now, you’re on the right track, but headed the wrong direction. You’ve got the microscope pointed at her when you should be examining your own flaws that are leading to her shitty behavior. You’ve got a lot of post history about gaming. Maybe start there.
/r/askMRP07/02/20 12:13 PM
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You did good for a first post. It’s very generic. As you get into posting, get more specific. This is not a diary, this is you being the architect of your life. OYS is the building plans of what you’ve done, what you are doing, and what you will be doing to create that life you envision. Create goals and smash them. Become a high value man, and figure out where you fucked up the first time around and don’t repeat those mistakes.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/20 12:25 PM
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I skimmed through some of your post history and wonder if you ever really started. You read some books, lifted some weights, but have you applied anything you learned? Not just anything, but have you applied most things you learned? No. You haven’t, because you still bicker with the wife over control. You let her bad mood impact yours. You don’t reset every day. You don’t game her. You’re not attractive, and you’re unattractive to boot. Why would she want to have sex with you? You do need to sta…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/20 04:15 PM
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And bring up some charts and graphs in Excel. Use a pivot table to seal the deal.
/r/askMRP10/01/20 12:32 PM
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With your clothes on the floor, you don’t need fogging, you need to own your shit. Stop being a slob and giving her real shit to complain about. Then she’ll find non-issues to bitch about, then that’s when you fog. With driving too fast with kids, you either internally agree with her and modify your behavior, or internally disagree and this is when you fog or A&A. “Yeah I do need to drive safe with these kids”. “Don’t worry, I’m teaching the 4 year old to drive me around, and he’s got it down be…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 09:10 PM
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This is good. A lot of guys here stop at STFU. That only works for so long in a relationship before it starts to get autistic. This is the next level, and what frame looks like.
/r/askMRP04/12/19 02:43 PM
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You don’t get any days off as a man. It’s a 24/7 job. Sure we slip up occasionally, but not for months or years at a time. Did you put the pill back in your pocket after you licked it?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/19 11:26 PM
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She won’t admit to being materialistic, but watch her actions. Is she going crazy internally? When’s the last time you had a vacation? Do you go on dates without the kids? Are you boring? She might also be worried about your ability as a provider. That shit is ingrained. She’s a SAHM so she DEPENDS on you for your income. If she thinks your ability to provide is limited, she may be concerned but not know how to verbalize it. A lot of guys here had those thoughts of “happy stability” before their…
/r/askMRP04/11/19 09:18 PM
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She’s going to blow shit up because you don’t have a mission. You haven’t laid out a plan to her for how your life will look, and improve. Would you follow you?
/r/askMRP04/11/19 06:57 PM
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You do you. You shouldn’t choose your own physique based on internet commenters BUT, and here’s a BIG BUT, you readily admit you ask your LTR what she likes and you happen to want that same physique? Nah dude, choose what you want. Build the body that you want. Also, listen to what they do, not what they say. Also, read up on DEERing. You don’t have to care about what every internet asshole comments about you.
/r/askMRP26/10/19 12:54 PM
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If you need it, go. I’ve been when I went through my divorce. Looking back though, the therapist helped me put words into what I was feeling (feelz). I’m frustrated now that I couldn’t do that myself. We as men keep ourselves busy and try to squish the feelz down. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. When it doesn’t, it’s because we aren’t properly processing them. Some people need a therapist to help them. What I should have done first is work on myself. Read about what I was going through…
/r/askMRP24/10/19 02:09 PM
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Check out Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 03:01 PM
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For you, more like 15 seconds of pleasure.
/r/askMRP18/10/19 01:47 PM
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+1 for the flair
/r/askMRP10/10/19 04:48 PM
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Jesus, you’re working yourself into a frenzy, Rambo.
/r/askMRP04/10/19 03:25 PM
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So you took an ass beating here, like you should have for a post like that. Good on you for not deleting it either. It reads to me like you were typing all that out to convince yourself of those words, because you don’t believe a lick of it. You want to believe, but you don’t. Also it’s validation seeking. I won’t rip you a new one because it’s good for people to read through this. Especially newbies, because they will have these thoughts then see the proper answers as to why they shouldn’t. I r…
/r/askMRP04/10/19 01:29 PM
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No value add...
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/19 05:39 PM
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Edit: Bro... you’re 19 and she’s 16 (age of consent is okay in Poland, I know). Just no dude. No, no and no. If you love her, you should tell her. Learn to express feelings like a man though. Three months may be a good time for some, or too early for others, only you know that. You are failing though, and she’s OVERTLY speaking to you about this, so you should take note if you want this relationship to work. It’s not about telling her you love her, it’s about saying sweet things. Comfort/beta wh…
/r/askMRP24/09/19 07:47 PM
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If you want kudos for only telling your GF you love her once in two years, you’ve misunderstood a lot about MRP. No comfort or expression of love will doom a marriage which is why she’s bailing on you.
/r/askMRP24/09/19 03:18 PM
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I’m scrolling through and I see most comments with 0 karma, meaning I think OP went through and downvoted each one of them. OP, I’ll lay it on you nicely. Take a deep breath, take a step back and try to remove yourself from the situation. This sub tries to help men - first act like men, then become a man. Having a penis doesn’t make you a man. It makes you a boy. Being a man is what makes you a man. So what does being a man mean? It means DGAF. When people on the internet are mean to you, DGAF. …
/r/askMRP27/08/19 01:57 AM
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Sometimes there is a real concept of “marrying the wrong person”. You vetted poorly and that sucks. Now take a moment to visualize your perfect marriage to the perfect person. Then imagine that perfect person slowly starting to act more and more like your wrong wife. She’s a bitch, she hits you, etc. Chances are, any “perfect marriage” will turn into this for you because you suck at leading and she has no respect for you. This period of trial is your punishment for sucking as a husband. Learn ho…
/r/askMRP12/08/19 03:54 PM
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Your situation is so bad I kind of figured you were a troll. If you said you had kids, that would have sold it. So I’ll take the bait. You are so far behind the 8-ball you really won’t get great help here. You need to read the sidebar like your life depends on it, because it does. Here’s what I got from your OYS: 1) you are morbidly obese 2) you don’t have a job 3) $600k in debt 4) infertile 5) wife has no respect for you because of all of the above You “left your company”? What are you leaving …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 01:49 AM
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I have a fat friend that’s struggled with weight for years. Sometimes he calls himself a food addict and maybe I agree. Other days it seems like one more excuse. He will occasionally get on health kicks and lose some weight. He relies on motivation so once it gets hard, he stops because the motivation is gone. Read your own post history. You’ve been at this for at least 5 years? Talking about cardio for a fat guy 3 years ago. What failed 3 years ago that won’t fail this time? My guess is you cha…
/r/askMRP23/07/19 09:02 AM
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Lol “... wrap up, but am not planning to”. You forgot to add 5 - she gets pregnant, gets 1/3 of my income, ex-wife gets another 1/3, and I get to keep my hard earned last 1/3 of my income Unless your snipped, but still, wear one
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 10:38 AM
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How to deal with OP that sense makes no title?
/r/askMRP28/04/19 06:09 PM
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Ever find yourself in a room that hasn’t been cleaned in years, and it’s your responsibility to get it done? I have, and I actually had to sit down for 2 minutes to try to figure out how to tackle the project. The longer I sat, the more overwhelmed I became. You’re sitting there, being overwhelmed. You eat an elephant one bite at a time. Pick a book and dedicate 15+ minutes every day to reading it. If you can read more, great. It’s called analysis paralysis, and the antidote is to get moving. Bu…
/r/askTRP15/08/18 01:58 AM
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How much cash flow is your triplex producing and how much do you need to purchase the next one? Buy the next one, then live in one unit and rent out the other two. That solves your problem regarding living with mom and dad, and opens you up to having lady friends back to your place. At 33, its time to launch. Good job so far with the real estate. Do you have a degree? If you made more than minimum wage, it would help you a hell of a lot more with your financial goals. Get a couple of triplexes a…
/r/askTRP12/08/18 12:59 PM
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Well done Capt! I think if you could expand on this a little further, it would make for a great “back to the basics” MRP post. I think for a ton of guys here, you nailed it on the head. An expanded post on inviting her on your adventure and why it is so important would be well appreciated.
/r/askMRP11/08/18 01:52 AM
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Yes, as u/Persaeus says, this really does belong on OYS. I’ll add a note of a quick congratulations, but if you’ve been clean for a matter of only days or weeks, you are still at the bottom of a deep hole, looking up. Sounds like you’ve put down the shovel, which is good, but it’s dangerous to think the worst is behind you. You have some terrible habits that must be broken and replaced with healthy habits. You need to read like your life depends on it. Read about addiction recovery and why peopl…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 11:34 AM
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Read the r/askMRP sidebar, and check out some posts there. Read 30+ posts there actually. Don't post nonsense like this before you grasp what they're about, or you'll get ripped a new one. If you can take the beating, it will be worth hearing what they say, BUT DO THE WORK FIRST, and you may not need to ask. MRP is a much better fit for you, since you're married.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 07:48 PM
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You’ll become a man in life by validating your own feelings. If you look elsewhere for validation, you will ALWAYS be disappointed, eventually. You be your own judge, and you have the power.
/r/askTRP08/08/18 01:55 AM
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Absolutely.
/r/askTRP06/08/18 07:49 PM
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You haven't swallowed the pill. If anything, you took the blue one. You can know all about the red pill and read til you're blue in the face (groan), but that does mean you've swallowed red pill.
/r/askMRP06/08/18 07:40 PM
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Dude, you need a MAP. It's the plan for your life. "Well I don't know what I want to do!" Listen up, MF. Buy yourself a notepad and pen. Got it? Start writing. You don't know who you are at 26. That's late, but not too late. Write about what makes you happy, what makes you angry, scared, upset, joyful, sad, cheerful, sleepy, awake, write what time you wake up and go to bed. Write what you eat, who you talk to, and how much you exercise. Write when your stomach hurts, and when your head hurts, an…
/r/askTRP06/08/18 01:15 PM
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I'm assuming your girlfriend is a woman? Good assumption, right? That means she wasn't necessarily pissed at you, she was upset at something though, and it was easy to take it out on you. She probably got baby shit on her hand, changing the diaper, and she's upset, and it makes her feel good to take it out on you, because AWALT. Be the oak here, you did okay, but you DEERed a bit. Where's your frame of being able to smile at these kind of comments, smack her ass, and tell her she's doing a great…
/r/askMRP02/08/18 08:11 PM
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OP, pay attention to this response. If you've spent any time here, there is always an extreme with the advice given. You're either a blue pill cuck or Rambo, hardly any responses of "you did good" if you ask a question when shit goes to hell. Most of these people asking for help, haven't done well with how they've handled their situation, so they deserve the beating they get here. Truth is usually somewhere in the middle. With your wife's pics, the correct response would be to encourage that beh…
/r/askMRP02/08/18 02:48 PM
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$10 says when you send her that final text of saying it's done for good, or just don't respond for a few days, she goes off the deep end and you'll see the crazy arrive.
/r/askMRP31/07/18 07:29 PM
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Where in RP literature does it discuss asking for sex? Kino all day, especially when you can't have sex. You don't sound like you're gaming her. If she rebuffs your kino, go do other hobbies and things that makes you a fun individual, or hit the gym.
/r/askMRP30/07/18 01:05 PM
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I'm glad you're back. Not everyone here is worthy of a response from you and the time it takes you to type it out, but occasionally someone is close enough to the answer to where you push them over the edge and really help them see.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 12:57 PM
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Holy shit, just when I think your rambling is over, you go on for another 8 paragraphs. You trust your kids, I get that. You admitted there were drunk idiots around. Maybe you didn’t see them when you left your kid alone, but they were there. You were lucky they were nice drunken redneck idiots. An unlucky man would have come back to find those idiots ran off with his kid and did god knows what. Your god damn hamster is infuriating. You won’t admit it, but you fucked up big. Hopefully you learn …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/18 11:48 PM
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It’s not love, it’s infatuation. That chick is like the rest of them. She’s not a unicorn. You’ve got oneitis bad, and you’re about to screw some shit up because of it. Read up about infatuation and see what else you come up with.
/r/askMRP02/07/18 08:29 PM
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Does your stomach hurt from all that victim puke you got out? Seriously, haven’t seen that much barf in a while. You give us zero info about yourself. Check the ‘cut the shit’ sticky post - on mobile or id link. You give us no idea of anything about you. What you’ve read, what you lift, how much you make, she makes. You say you’ve read some literature and you’ve got this now? Oh my, I’m gonna just grab my popcorn and watch you get ripped a new one. You know nothing. What are these past fuckups y…
/r/askMRP02/06/18 09:50 AM
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A little humility can go a long way here. Admit you’re still learning and open your eyes. It is fucking taxing, but that’s generally because you are faking it before you make it. You will start to make it if you digest the sidebar. It will seem less and less taxing as you begin to understand, and develop that frame everyone is talking about.
/r/askMRP31/05/18 10:11 PM
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OP someone just took the time to sort thru your shit, clean it up, and give you REAL actionable advice. Not everyone that victim pukes on this site is that lucky. If you’re like 95+% of the guys that post on here then leave, you probably won’t do any of it, and find yourself in a same or worse situation in a year. OP didn’t apparently appreciate it, but nice response, Roger.
/r/askMRP31/05/18 09:14 AM
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Don’t worry, keep doing the same stuff, and I’m sure it’s bound to get better! /s
/r/askMRP31/05/18 09:03 AM
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I can just imagine the evening: Wife: Hey honey, how was your day? Supra: Good... Wife: Anything exciting at work? Supra: No... Wife: What do you think about that new big project you’re working on? Supra: It’s good. How bout I sex you up hard when we get home? Wife: ...
/r/askMRP28/05/18 11:23 AM
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How much truth was there REALLY in her disrespect? Don't give me a bullshit answer. Was she at all telling some semblance of the truth? Was she talking about all the time you play video games? How many undone projects are around the house? How the yard looks like shit? How you dress like shit? How you ignore her other than to beg for sex? She disrespects you, you're right. That sucks. That's the real problem, but the good news is you already know the answer. Increase your SMV. Own your shit. Lif…
/r/askMRP25/05/18 05:48 PM
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It sucks, and sounds like you were screwed over on this one. The good news for you is that you play the game well, it just didn't work in your favor this time. She's near retired. You know the position will open again relatively soon. Let the powers-that-be know that you want that job, and prove you are capable of handling it, and doing better than the current occupant. Maybe she fucks it up so bad, they look for a replacement in 3 months. Now is not the time to take your foot off the gas. Your …
/r/askMRP25/05/18 05:35 PM
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If you're screaming at your wife that she's a cunt, you lost. You may see it as "defending your frame", everyone else here sees your eroded frame, and mostly you living in your wife's frame. She's mad at me when I do this, she yells when I do that. Yeah she's bitchy, a lot of women are. An oak looks at her like his teenage daughter and calmly and quickly explains why her behavior is intolerable ONCE, then removes attention. Yes she will yell more, but does the mighty oak care when you punch it w…
/r/askMRP24/05/18 07:39 PM
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Have you read No More Mr. Nice Guy yet? You really should. It will change your life.
/r/askMRP23/05/18 07:28 PM
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The problem, as you know, is not the beard. She'd fuck a bearded Chad. She's not fucking you because you won't fall into line. You could shave your beard and she'd fuck you until she decided she didn't like your friends, your gym, your clothes etc. You're on the right path. I liked your "I don't negotiate with terrorists" from the other day. I could be wrong, but based on the text, I don't think she's checked out yet. Watch what she does, and not what she says though, obviously. You have, for th…
/r/askMRP16/05/18 06:52 PM
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I call bullshit. Hard boundaries are ALWAYS set when in a LTR. If she’s texting another dude in an emotional affair type situation, she done fucked up. She already crossed the boundary. If you wait until she does it to set a boundary, I have no words for you - whatever is worse than a pussy. One strike you’re out, especially with no kids. And your friends - they made it, for now. But how long til she does it again? She does it once, she WILL do it again. You just haven’t swallowed the red pill y…
/r/askMRP18/03/18 03:23 AM
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All the guys commented on what they don't like, and there's a lot of info you provided that is not to like. I don't think I need to rehash it. Guys trips are great and important. What I think you need to focus on is your MAP. You are young, and it's good you found MRP early. You can slowly shift your beliefs and actions to become the man you're supposed to be, and it can just be part of your growing up as a person, instead of trying to implement at 40 and have your wife give you all sorts of shi…
/r/askMRP06/03/18 07:46 PM
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Read up on conflict avoidance. You'll realize you will purposefully avoid fights, while she would like to start them. You've drained her of all the feelz in the relationship by avoiding conflict and "hitting the ball into the net" like someone else said. That's boring as fuck, and she needs some excitement. I'm a conflict avoider, so I am understanding this still. She needs the feelz and mild drama. If you don't give it to her, she will create it herself with arguments. She may get mildly pissed…
/r/askMRP28/02/18 07:03 PM
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Motivation is a fickle bitch. Fuck motivation. What you need are habits. Feeling tired this morning so I’m not motivated. Doesn’t matter because you have built a habit of working out EVERY Thursday regardless of the motivation you are feeling. Revisit your MAP. You’ve accomplished a shit ton. That’s great and you should pat yourself on your back. Read some of the posts of guys who made progress and let it slide back to worse than they were before. If you aren’t moving forward, you will start mov…
/r/askMRP18/01/18 01:53 PM
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Ok, great questions, first you take her hand sweetly, ask her to close her eyes, give her a kiss. Walk her outside, down the road, and to the highway nearby. Walk for about 15-20 minutes. You'll see a bridge, take her under the bridge and have her open her eyes. Show her where you live when she's not with you. Explain that this is where all trolls live, under a bridge. You'll get much sex and BJs. Good luck!
/r/askMRP11/01/18 07:08 PM
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You were right on the stopping drinking but wrong on this. If she hits you, it’s wrong. If you ever hit her back, you’re playing her games and 100% in her frame. You can let her know it’s unacceptable and remove yourself from her presence, but hitting her back is what toddlers do. You’re a man, and you own your frame. Her actions shouldn’t change your frame. Fail here.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/18 02:04 PM
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This is the only correct answer, after that evening.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/18 02:01 PM
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I have to say, I'm enjoying your updates. They are full of realness and honesty. It seems like you are implementing pretty well, though I'm sure some of the other guys could still rip you a new one over some stuff. I'm hoping your wife can get used to the "new normal" and get on board. These are some tough growing pains, but I hope it's all worth it. Seems like she's at a breaking point, but hope it's a time for her bring up her game.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 04:46 PM
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Damn this is some stream-of-consciousness shit. Agree with throwaway, you text too much and when you type it all out, it sounds childish. You do know this is MRP? This is not college relationships that are juvenile, texting butthurt, does she like me?, smoke weed, waste time, etc. I’d stick to RP until you want to talk like a grown ass man, get to the point without the crappy details and ask some real questions that aren’t easily answered by reading some basics, and building a real frame.
/r/askMRP02/01/18 08:22 PM
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My guess if the mods are feeling generous, you won’t get permanently banned for this nonsense. WTF did I just read?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/18 02:29 PM
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Great references. OP take a few weeks to digest this post and all the links.
/r/askMRP30/12/17 02:21 PM
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I’m generally new here, but I know enough of the ropes. You care too much about what your wife thinks. She doesn’t respect you in the least, but do you deserve to be respected? I checked your post history and it looks like you’ve had weight problems in the past. Are you someone that’s worked on yourself enough to deserve respect? Have you worked your way from 400 down to 200 pounds, and jacked now? What kind of lifting are you doing? Do you turn heads for the right reasons or because you’re a si…
/r/askMRP29/12/17 03:14 AM
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