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| 1 | They really tell on themselves! We've to be vigilant and not make excuses for their words.THIS WAS MY EX TOO. I always thought he was stoic, but actually he just didn’t care about me or anyone else except himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:59 AM |
| 1 | They really tell on themselves! We've to be vigilant and not make excuses for their words.I don’t think so, I don’t know you but it may stem from anxiety. I’ve been scared of hurting other before, and it was when my anxiety and paranoid thoughts were at their worst. It depends on context. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:58 AM |
| 2 | Which Movies Do you Consider a Red Flag if A Man Raves About it and Says it's his Favorite?Any super boring sports movies like We Are the Titans, etc. sorry if you like sports movies but it just doesn’t show me depth of a person if that’s your FAVORITE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 12:39 AM |
| 16 | How do you deal when guys specifically say I don’t like talking about work or politics or certain topics you like talking about?How do I deal with them? I don’t. I think it’s important to talk about those topics. I have no issue if we disagree with certain ideas, but they need to be willing to have an intelligent discussion. I have certain dealbreakers - they need to be pro-choice, anti-racist, feminist ally, LGBTQ ally (I’m bisexual and dated women in the past), etc. it’s a huge red flag if they refuse to reveal their opinions, because it typically means they know you will not want to see them again because their views … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 10:32 PM |
| 6 | Jumping too fast and too passionately into intelligent conversations?I am very intelligent too, went to a top tier college and successful at my nursing job, curious about the world and I don’t like small talk. I’ve had trouble with OLD for similar reasons. I’ve found that men try to neg me for being intelligent, and undermine my intelligence and knowledge of many topics. I always next any man who tries to make fun of me or mock me for knowing a lot about something, or for getting excited about a certain topic. They can have superficial, dumbed down conversations … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 10:22 PM |
| 3 | Level up sis!True lol my type is girls now lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 02:06 AM |
| 7 | Need advice on whether I should break things up or talk it out with with himIf you’re having these issues the first year of your relationship, think about how it’ll be 2, 5, 10 years from now. He should be still on his best behavior at this point and NOT looking at other women on social media especially after you’ve expressed that you don’t like it. I say dump. There are a lot of guys out there who don’t do that, or who do it single but would gladly stop doing it if they knew it would make you happy. Don’t settle for a guy who follow insta thotties. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 02:08 AM |
| 20 | I would die before I text firstI only date men who are interested in me now, and actively show it. Are there fewer options? Yes. Many men like to have the woman take initiative, because they’re lazy and they’re used to Pickmeishas doing that and taking the lead. But it’s reassuring now that whoever I’m dating is actively pursuing me, it’s freeing and takes off a lot of the pressure I held on myself for no reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 12:55 AM |
| 6 | How to tell if he’s talking to other women while he’s courting youI fully agree with this. I often go through phases of dating where I’ll be talking to multiple men at once, and then sometimes just one. But even if I’m talking to just one guy, I don’t let myself be bothered about if he’s talking to other women. HVM make their intentions clear very soon into dating/courting and until I see action, I assume most men are full of crap and “spinning” multiple girls. It’s a bit cynical, but it protects me from investing too soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 04:21 AM |
| 5 | If you catch yourself having any of these thoughts, end the relationship and work on your self-esteemScreening for cervical cancer and putting your health as a priority > raising a man child and probably catching an STI when he cheats | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 04:11 AM |
| 1 | How to vet men before going on a first date? Tips appreciated!I don’t see why not. I think employment and living situation are especially good to know before a first date, because I don’t want to waste time getting to know someone who has no plan to get a job any time soon and will probably make me pay half on the first date bc they’re broke lol. I also value education/intelligence so I usually make sure whoever I go on a date with has had a college education or a plan to go to college, just a personal preference. Those a pretty basic questions that you ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 09:42 AM |
| 5 | HOW TO LOSE A GUY IN 10 WAYSGirl, never have crushes. It’s in the FDS handbook!! Go read it rn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 03:48 AM |
| 9 | What would happen if all women using dating apps... stopped? 🤔I really don’t like the form of false intimacy that dating apps create. If I met someone in real life, they would have to flirt IN PERSON, WITH REAL WORDS to impress me. They would have to ask for my number. THEN, we would maybe text or call and go on a real date. Many LVM use dating apps as means to find easy sex. They don’t even have to impress someone in person. They just message you for a couple days and expect that you’ll sleep with them without even seeing if you guys have real chemistry. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 03:26 AM |
| 59 | He Never Gave me FlowersMy ex would never buy me flowers, or even treat me to a meal. He was horribly stingy, and would Venmo me even if we split an appetizer at a restaurant. But he would drop thousands on new electronics, the newest iPhone or TV or PlayStation. Run sis. Stinginess bleeds into the rest of the relationship, and it shows that they don’t truly care about you. You deserve better, we all do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 05:05 AM |
| 6 | A history of ”succesful” longterm relationstips is not a metric of anythingI started dating my LVM ex 3 months after he broke up with his ex-fiancé of 4 years. Guess when our relationship ended? 4 years after that. And he starting dating a new girl about a month after we broke up. A string of back-to-back long-term relationships are a red flag. Even one LTR is a red flag, and there would have to be a really good reason for it ending like their ex died or something. Men love using their new girl as an emotional clutch, and they do not take time alone to reflect and self… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 02:00 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else's pets hate their ex? My cat was terrified of mine (she's never been that way w anyone else). He was actually hurt when I told him the cat was right about him. 😂🤷♀️ Her judgement will be taken seriously in the future.My dog has horrible taste in men 😂 she always loves the LVMs I end up having to block when they show their true colors later on. She has snuggled up to the craziest of them lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 09:05 AM |
| 16 | EARLY MANIPULATION TACTICS TO WATCH OUT FORThis is a GREAT read. There were a few points I honestly had never considered red flags and were things that my ex actually did to me at the beginning of our relationship. Good post!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 02:30 AM |
| 2 | “Don’t listen to what men say, watch what they do” - my mom, who passed away two weeks agoOmg she would say something similar!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 01:08 AM |
| 2 | “Don’t listen to what men say, watch what they do” - my mom, who passed away two weeks agoShe absolutely loved it. She had my brother and I much later in life, she was 42 when she had us (twins)!! Never worry about your biological clock, I’m a postpartum nurse and I see moms in their 40s all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 01:08 AM |
| 1 | Pussy is Power. The only thing standing between you, a high value woman, and an inbox full of blue check marks begging to pay your bills is the low value man in your life convincing you that you aren't worth it.How did you meet these professional athletes/lawyers/doctors?? I’m guessing not OLD lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 09:21 AM |
| 2 | Why do men always keep ghosting me without a answer?I have a similar situation. I asked a few of my male friends, to get a “male” perspective, and almost all said that I am intimidating - in a good way. Take the ghosting as a compliment. You’re leveling up and little boys know they can’t waste your time anymore! They’re all little sissy LVMs. I had a guy who I had been talking to for months ghost me when my mom died. They literally have zero shame. But I know that anyone who would ghost me is not worth my time anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 07:16 AM |
| 4 | Have we labeled the anxious-insecure attachment type pickmeisha?I took an attachment style quiz when I was in my LTR with a LVM who breadcrumbed me and was very low effort. My needs were 100% not met and it made me constantly questioning if he cared about me at all, making me clingy and try even harder for his attention and love. At the time, it deemed me anxious-attachment. Since I’ve been single, and have had a few healthy flings with men who have actually pursued me and did not breadcrumb, and I’ve had time to self reflect and focus on myself, I retook th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 05:12 AM |
| 5 | Once again - being alone is better than settling. There’s someone out there who’s even better than the “perfect guy” you’re with now.I’m 24 and both I and my close friend ended our long term relationships with LVMs. It is freeing!! My friend in my same situation keeps saying that she should have been engaged by now and that she feels like a failure. HOW???? 24 is SO YOUNG and we should not be settling at not even the peak of our adult lives. Our lives have just begun! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 04:42 AM |
| 133 | “Don’t listen to what men say, watch what they do” - my mom, who passed away two weeks agoThank you so much for this ❤️ i agree, she will always be with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 08:02 AM |
| 2 | Myth: Beautiful Women Don’t Need A Dating StrategyI fully agree with this. I would consider myself attractive, especially now that my skin is clear from doing accutane and I got into really good shape from spin class. I get more attention from men and it’s almost all negative attention. I’ve had guys say “you’re too hot to date but I’ll fuck you” ....Cool thanks??? It’s assumed that I’ve never had anything bad happen to me, even though my mother died recently, I’ve had to work my ass off in nursing school, and experienced a lot of hardships wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 06:15 AM |
| 3 | That’s what happened when he watched too much pornI’m an OB nurse - there are over 30 different vulva “types”, some with folded labia, some “meatier”, some with longer inner labia, etc. everyone is different, and that’s ok! Your vagina doesn’t have to look like a porn star’s. No one’s does unless they’ve had a labiaplasty (surgery to altar your labia’s app reactance) like most porn stars have. I’ve seen probably 1000’s of vulvas, and it’s made me appreciate mine more since everyone is so different and unique. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 06:00 AM |
| 3 | do any women here have any stories of when they really really liked someone but they kept wanting to run away from them and it turned out to be an accurate gut feeling of something bad?YES. I was in a relationship with someone for 4 years and I never listened to my gut. About 2 years into the relationship, I started having horrible anxiety and actually had panic attacks a few times. I had anxiety at night and couldn’t sleep alone. The panic attacks only happened when I was at his place. I also could not stop picking and chewing at my nails the entire relationship, even though I had tried everything to stop. I didn’t connect that it was the relationship causing the anxiety and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 06:46 AM |
| 5 | Would you go on a first date if you didn’t have a spark?Personally, I’ve realized that my type and the guys I have a “spark” with are toxic. They’re usually emotionally unavailable and I confuse that for having chemistry, as crazy as that sounds. I’ve gone on dates with guys who I didn’t have an initial spark with and they actually ended up being great. You know yourself best. Have you had a lot of toxic relationships? That may mean that you’re attracted to unhealthy people and you don’t feel chemistry with healthy ones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 03:22 AM |
| 7 | Are HVM always the most attractive men in the dating pool?I think there’s a difference between being the most attractive vs HVM attractive. HVM take care in their appearance/body, i.e. grooming, health, fashion. This makes someone attractive but they may not be the hottest guy in the room who simply lucked out on their genes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 09:23 AM |
| 5 | You do not "miss sex." You miss a fantasy.I couldn’t agree more. My sex drive was through the roof before discovering this sub. I used to have a lot of casual sex. I always felt shitty after, though, because I personally was never satisfied and it was always disappointing. Now, I have zero interest in sex, especially kinky sex. Now I only think about love making with an attentive partner if I think about sex at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 07:31 AM |
| 13 | How do you show yourself love?Going to my spin class every day Taking my dog to the dog park Snuggling with my dog (pretty much anything related to spending time with my doggie) Go rock climbing at the gym near my apartment Clean my apartment Do laundry Online shopping (with limits lmao) Reading - anything related to self love or written by a female | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 04:39 AM |
| 7 | This guy has been hinting for weeks that he hopes we can get together soon but never offers any ideas. It finally made me snap.Literally the bare freaking minimum. So disappointing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 02:01 AM |
| 13 | This guy has been hinting for weeks that he hopes we can get together soon but never offers any ideas. It finally made me snap.UGH I’m having the same issue with two men I’m talking to now. I just want a man to take initiative and plan a damn date. They just keep hinting at meeting up with me but never actually make plans. SO disappointing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 12:49 AM |
| 2 | Let’s talk about HOBBIESExactly!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 03:27 AM |
| 4 | Let’s talk about HOBBIESI just bought an herbology course on Groupon for $5!! I think it’s still on sale, you should check it out. I’m hoping to start collecting herbs too :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 03:27 AM |
| 5 | A drink is all a woman wants out of life for being witty, intelligent, and capable of conversation...Oh wow free drinks??? Count me in. Can’t wait to impress a dude who publicly posts bathroom selfies 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 05:06 AM |
| 11 | REMINDER: WHY We Should Never Give Sex Away Easily. Commitment First Ladies !Yes please stay out of the dating field, so I don’t have to deal with you lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 04:54 AM |
| 8 | Wife permanently alters appearance for husband, he hates it and she thinks she should now apologise??? Wtf.YES. I have my septum pierced. I get a lot of attention from men because of it. I notice a difference in the type of guys I get attention from when I have it tucked/hidden vs when it’s visible. Guys always think I’m “dtf” and not actually “girlfriend material” a lot of times and point out that I’m “edgy” which is so stupid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 04:50 AM |
| 2 | What’s your favorite response to use when a LVM expects sex (or anything else) when he spends money on you?Ooooo I love this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 08:24 PM |
| 2 | What’s your favorite response to use when a LVM expects sex (or anything else) when he spends money on you?I absolutely get this as a fellow nurse. People really expect you to go above and beyond what is actually appropriate and then get pissed if you have physical/emotional boundaries at work. It’s insane. Like no I’m not gonna wash your vagina for you if you can do it yourself. Not gonna massage you if you can’t sleep. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 08:21 PM |
| 6 | OLD phenomenon: women asking men outHonestly it’s fine, it leaves me more room for time with friends and hobbies. I used to book my schedule full of OLD dates in hopes of finding HVMs but it was so exhausting and depressing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 08:11 AM |
| 3 | What advice would you give to your 20 year old self? As a young woman,in terms of dating,self care,mental health etc?DO NOT LOSE FRIENDS OVER A GUY. You start dating a guy and he wants you to spend more time with him than your friends? Next him. If you ever feel like more than 20% of your life/happiness is related to your relationship, reevaluate the relationship. I know so many women who slowly lost all of their friends because they started spending every waking hour with their bf in their early 20s. You will most likely break up, and then you will have no support system. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 07:46 AM |
| 3 | When he thinks one date will get him a ticket to pound town.Since when does a $2 coffee = sex??? LMAO THE AUDACITY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 03:48 AM |
| 6 | How to stop being bitter?Being bitter means that you’re growing, it’s ok to be a little bitter. You’re realizing how much men have gotten away with. I started to get VERY bitter when I first started watching those videos, going on here all the time, and reading “Why Men Love Bitches”. I was so disappointed on every date I went on. But I realized I was looking in the wrong places for quality men - I was on OLD and giving my number to guys I met while out at bars. Of course they were going to be low value lol. Since I sta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 03:11 AM |
| 25 | OLD phenomenon: women asking men outI hadn’t been on OLD for years (LTR that ended recently). In 2016, I would match with cute guys left and right and they would always initiate the conversation, sometimes it was creeps but often it was genuine guys. I’d go on dates and they would not end with the guy expecting a ONS. NOW it’s horrible!!! Bumble, Hinge, and Tinder all have the same guys and they all match with you on each one but it’s CRICKETS. and if a guy does initiate the conversation, it’s a dumb question and they put zero eff… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 01:12 AM |
| 7 | Working as a Postpartum Nurse has raised my standards tenfold. Here’s why.GREAT advice!! I’m going to start doing that at work actually lol. Sometimes the dads do such a poor job I just start doing it for them because I get impatient and feel bad for the mom but I feel like that only encourages them to do less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 05:48 AM |
| 27 | "Sexual compatibility" is a load of shitI used to think I needed to have sex to know if we had sexual compatibility. Then I realized after a while that “compatibility” was just if the guy cared enough to get me off or at least try and be open to criticism. I understand now that I can figure that out without having sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 05:01 AM |
| 9 | Stop Calling Men "HVM" after two or three datesMen will put out all the stops to try to sleep with you, too. Don’t say that they are HVM by doing the bare MINIMUM of decency (pay for two dates, give you flowers, listens to you, doesn’t sit on his phone on the date). I’ve had soooo many experiences where an assumed HVM is actually a LVM in disguise and it didn’t show until a couple of months into dates when they started getting more comfortable, or after we had sex (usually too soon bc I was impatient, my bad). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 01:49 AM |
| 12 | Working as a Postpartum Nurse has raised my standards tenfold. Here’s why.Omg “have you got a little dick?” Is the best response I’ve heard for that. Savage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 12:42 AM |
| 8 | Working as a Postpartum Nurse has raised my standards tenfold. Here’s why.😂😂😂 SAVAGE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 10:23 PM |
| 9 | Working as a Postpartum Nurse has raised my standards tenfold. Here’s why.Ugh we have soooo much BC drama. It’s horrible! Men really do dangle it over the moms head. I always want to tell the moms, “you’re better off without him! Fuck him he doesn’t deserve to be on the BC!” But of course I can’t say that LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 09:58 PM |
| 17 | Working as a Postpartum Nurse has raised my standards tenfold. Here’s why.Omg so many!! They think if they do a bad job they’ll never have to change another one 😂 like no you made this baby it’s 50% your responsibility now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Working as a Postpartum Nurse has raised my standards tenfold. Here’s why.Amazing!! He sounds like a great husband and father! It makes me happy to hear about men who actually step it up and help support mothers in the right way. This is my new standard too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 09:46 PM |
| 68 | Working as a Postpartum Nurse has raised my standards tenfold. Here’s why.The bar is that low 😂 it’s sad but true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 01:58 PM |
| 61 | Working as a Postpartum Nurse has raised my standards tenfold. Here’s why.YES I fully agree!! Sex Ed even sucks in the US. We are causing future generations to be thrown into teenhood/adulthood with no instruction on how to navigate relationships in a healthy way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 09:56 AM |
| 116 | Working as a Postpartum Nurse has raised my standards tenfold. Here’s why.There is a LOT of eye rolling after leaving the room. I love working with women, it’s very rewarding and I couldn’t imagine working anywhere else, but the MEN?? They can leave their unhelpful asses at home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 09:42 AM |
| 190 | Working as a Postpartum Nurse has raised my standards tenfold. Here’s why.Oh yeah I’ve had dads tell their family “I’m so tired from helping! Babies are so much work!!” And they haven’t done ANYTHING but do a crap job of a diaper change and maybe fed the baby once lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 09:19 AM |
| 7 | Is it not near impossible to find men who dont watch porn?You have so much time!! I’m a Postpartum nurse and I’ve even had moms in their late 40’s with their first baby. Is it harder to get pregnant as you get older and the recovery is longer? Potentially, not always, and medicine has advanced so much that if you want a baby at 45, you have a really high likelihood of that happening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 07:52 AM |
| 12 | Any FDS book or movie/show recommendations?Parks and Rec! There are a lot of healthy relationships. Ann Perkins is a total Pickmeisha during the beginning of the show but then levels up as the show goes on which is fun to watch. Also a lot of the men are considerate and not fuckboys in the relationships at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 07:38 AM |
| 15 | How do I distract myself from being sad that I’m single?I was 22 in a long term relationship and only recently ended it. I’m 24 now. If I could go back and tell myself to break things off then, I would. I wasn’t entirely unhappy, but I was a pickmeisha and I wasn’t happy. He did not put in the effort I know I deserved now. Unless someone is constantly proving to you that they love you through actions, and enhancing your life, it’s better to be single at 22. Most men are clowns at that age, and they don’t get any better a few years later lol. Relation… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 07:11 AM |
| 39 | Beware of Love Language discussions on the first date - RED FLAGAny time they can, the WILL incorporate it into conversation. Ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 12:33 PM |
| 29 | Beware of Love Language discussions on the first date - RED FLAGI fully agree, it shows no further insight on your value or who you are as a person. It’s so dumb. It’s only valuable to use in a long term, committed relationship to understand your partner’s expressions of love better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 12:00 PM |
| 51 | Beware of Love Language discussions on the first date - RED FLAGOmg good idea!! That’s a great way to sort out guys who are low effort and not generous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 10:10 AM |
| 84 | Beware of Love Language discussions on the first date - RED FLAGNo that’s a good idea though! Now if a man asks me what my love language is on the first date I automatically drop him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 08:38 AM |
| 18 | RED FLAGS: Signs a Man Should Be Cut OffShushed me when I was talking because he wanted to listen to the song he was playing on his phone, as if my presence is less important than his shitty Mac Miller song (no offense Mac Miller, Rest In Peace). Any time, under any circumstance, a man shushes you, it’s a red flag. As women, we are generally taught at a young age to have poise and to understand social situations better than men. Therefore, if a man is shushing you, it’s a power thing and NOT because you legitimately need to stop talki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 08:12 AM |
| 6 | Best and Worst Cities for HVMPersonally I think a lot of midwestern cities have a more balanced non-fuckboy to fuckboy ratio that the coasts/south. Must be how welcoming the Midwest is or something. Just my opinion/experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 05:31 AM |
| 7 | Best and Worst Cities for HVMCleveland, OH. LOTS of ultra-midwestern guys who are into hunting, IPAs, and chilling with their bros. Many are well educated, but the high achieving guys are almost always fuckboys. As many midwestern cities, though, there are a decent amount of potentially HVMs, but not very attractive (at least not my type, but to each their own). Sort of depends on if you like a guy who owns 10 flannel shirts and has a beard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 05:29 AM |
| 2 | Never 👏 Chase 👏Recently had a number of flings that ended because I started to feel like the one pursuing HIM. Boy bye. Taking a break from dating indefinitely, and if someone comes my way and pursued me then great but otherwise I’ll be focusing on myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 05:20 AM |
| 29 | LOL some lurker decided to sexualize my dog after I posted on here saying how happy I was that I adopted her. Talk about projection!I fully agree with this. God forbid we have a loving relationship with someone or something and it isn’t sexual. They just can’t fathom it because their male brains make everything sexual. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 06:54 AM |
| 13 | LOL some lurker decided to sexualize my dog after I posted on here saying how happy I was that I adopted her. Talk about projection!Yeah BIG yikes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 06:05 AM |
| 49 | LOL some lurker decided to sexualize my dog after I posted on here saying how happy I was that I adopted her. Talk about projection!I’d be concerned if he had a dog lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 05:07 AM |
| 83 | LOL some lurker decided to sexualize my dog after I posted on here saying how happy I was that I adopted her. Talk about projection!Right?? He even divided it into paragraphs lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 05:04 AM |
| 2 | Feeling confident because of this sub!I was in a similar situation and kept giving myself “6 months,” “one year,” etc but I kept extending the date due to insecurities of being alone and being single. I wish I had never given myself a deadline because it just prolonged my situation and make me waste even more time in a relationship that wasn’t going anywhere. If I could have told myself back then to break up with him, I would. Deadlines can work in some situations, but if your issues are deeply rooted in your relationship and they’r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 07:45 AM |
| 1 | dont want a sex drive anymore.I wouldn’t recommend hormonal birth control, because everyone reacts differently. I actually have a higher sex drive when I’m on hormonal birth control. Plus the side effects and risks like blood clots aren’t worth it just to potentially lower sex drive. I highly recommend high impact/high intensity exercise, like spin class. Plus it’s a healthy outlet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/20 08:09 AM |
| 3 | When is it appropriate to ask for exclusivity?I can’t view it on mobile! :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 06:33 AM |
| 1 | My fiancé cheated on me recently. How do I feel worthy and independent again?Listen to Good as Hell by Lizzo on repeat. I’m so sorry this happened to you, but just as other people have commented, the trash took itself out. I was in a LTR two months ago and he broke things off after I was a Pickme for years. I realized after the initial sadness and confusion that it was a blessing. Much, much better is yet to come, whether that’s a HVM or you growing as a person and learning to live yourself. I had planned my life around my ex just like you did, but I came to realize that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 07:02 AM |
| 5 | Truth!Just wait in 6 months we’re are gonna be GLOWING GODDESSESS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 02:21 AM |
| 12 | Truth!This is why I’m doing accutane lol I’ve always had FWB, or men who have dated me but never committed fully. I know it might not be due to my acne alone but it always makes me insecure, which I’m sure has affected how I am in relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 01:47 AM |
| 28 | Truth!Yes omg I just wear black cotton thongs and guys literally think it’s lingerie bc it’s black but really it’s so my coochy can breathe lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 01:44 AM |
| 2 | What are some fun things to do alone?If you’ve never gone to a spin class, I highly recommend it! They’re really empowering. Also, I recently started going to a rock climbing/bouldering gym and it’s surprisingly easy to just go alone and climb. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 07:10 AM |
| 5 | How to become the highest value I can be? Just dumped the fuckboi I was falling forOmg I’ve heard the same thing from a guy, he said “you’re so nice that I could easily manipulate you but I choose not to” ....um thanks???? Wtf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 06:45 AM |
| 23 | Meeting with an ExYeah I was sort of considering having my roommate just get the items. I agree that there isn’t anything beneficial to me meeting him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 06:08 AM |
| 17 | Meeting with an ExAgreed lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 06:06 AM |
| 10 | Meeting with an ExThank you for the advice! Honestly that’s my worst fear - getting emotional, since there really isn’t any point. That’s a great point that I shouldn’t defend myself, I know that I put in everything to that relationship and I shouldn’t feel like I need to defend myself at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 06:04 AM |
| 23 | Meeting with an ExThat’s what I’m thinking lol no point in telling him off or trying to guilt him probably, since I doubt he will understand it anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 05:51 AM |
| 3 | DO NOT SETTLE LADIESYour description of stinginess is exactly how my ex was. He was very selfish, while I am a naturally very generous person. I ended up putting in 99% of the effort into the relationship while he acted like he just tolerated me. He refused to pay for my gas when I would visit him 3.5 hours away because I “chose” to come visit him and I “didn’t have to”. What the fuck. I’m so glad the men who are pursuing me are so excited to spend time with me, try to pick activities that I like to do, and are so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 05:21 AM |
| 2 | Do NOT date...Med students | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 08:34 AM |
| 5 | Texting is the easiest, lowest effort form of communication. We are all glued to our phones 24/7. What does that say about him when he leaves you on read for a day or more?That’s what I thought. Boy bye 👋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 08:32 AM |
| 3 | Texting is the easiest, lowest effort form of communication. We are all glued to our phones 24/7. What does that say about him when he leaves you on read for a day or more?What about if he has read receipts on, but my text is just “delivered” and not “read” for a day? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 07:53 AM |
| 1 | Here's everything I've learned about women, dating, sex, PUA, and seduction in my decades of life.This is the majority of men that I’ve dated and lemme tell you those flings have never lasted long. Holding pleasure over a woman’s head and making her “earn” it just makes most women less interested in you (unless it’s a huge kink, in which case, to each their own). Don’t be a selfish lover like this guy. | /r/seduction | 12/11/19 01:13 AM |
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