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| 3 | How to vet a manExcellent point! Bf didn’t have a dog but I looked at how he treated mine | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 07:04 PM |
| 4 | How to vet a manAdded :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 03:44 PM |
| 8 | How to vet a manAlong those lines bfs parents are in love and still affectionate. I’ve seen bf mirror a lot of those behaviors with me and I took it as a green flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 02:58 PM |
| 6 | How to vet a manSee “how are his family relationships” for current family dynamics. You evaluate the entire man not just one piece. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 02:56 PM |
| 11 | How to vet a manI added it from u/yourscreennamesucks I’d take it to look and see if he has health concerns and if he is actively managing them. If he has skin conditions does he take care of them? If he has a mental illness is he in therapy? Is he on or open to medications? Essentially how does he look after his own health | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 01:05 PM |
| 7 | How to vet a manAs stated in another comment I took the parent thing as something to analyze and asses. I had a previous NVM who came from a home with two loving parents. It’s another thing to consider and evaluate. An assessment point not necessarily a flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 01:01 PM |
| 7 | How to vet a manGood ones!! I’ll add them to the addendum :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 12:56 PM |
| 9 | How to vet a manAs stated it’s loosely the list I used to vet for boyfriend, it can obviously be modified to your comfort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 12:56 PM |
| 11 | How to vet a manAdded! That is an excellent point | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 12:55 PM |
| 7 | How to vet a manI looked at the parents as the first example of a romantic relationship displayed to a child. Good men certainly can come from bad backgrounds, it’s something to analyze and not necessarily a red flag. This is my list and how I vetted for my boyfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 12:52 PM |
| 10 | How to vet a manI hold myself to, and meet, these standards. I didn’t ask anything of my partner I did not hit myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 12:50 PM |
| 10 | How to vet a manThose are 🔥 points too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 12:48 PM |
| 1 | To all the ladies waiting on a text back a HVM won’t leave you wondering. BF has restricted access due to work but still finds time to reach out.Welcome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 09:59 PM |
| 11 | Been seeing each other 4 months - how to DTR?If a man wants you he’ll drive to commitment. A man should ask to DTR in 8 weeks maximum. He’s not that into you. Dump him. | /r/askFDS | 13/09/20 12:32 AM |
| 20 | What is your timeline to marriage?I have a 2 years time engaged or I’m out timeline. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 08:40 PM |
| 5 | To all the ladies waiting on a text back a HVM won’t leave you wondering. BF has restricted access due to work but still finds time to reach out.It’s a trait that’s indicative of HV behavior. One trait doesn’t equal HV you have to evaluate the whole man. If you look through my post history there are plenty of other things he’s done that are indicative of being HV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 03:35 PM |
| 29 | To all the ladies waiting on a text back a HVM won’t leave you wondering. BF has restricted access due to work but still finds time to reach out.Part of a job requirement for him is removal of his phone. His ability to communicate is outside of his control. Sometimes he’s able to communicate other times not. He’s a good man and I trust he stays in touch with me when he can. I don’t sweat it if I don’t hear from him. Think extremely remote location kind of job. The wording is no expectation when he’s at “this stuff” which is the stuff where communication is out of his hands. If there was a pattern of ignoring me with no justification sure… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 10:03 PM |
| 26 | To all the ladies waiting on a text back a HVM won’t leave you wondering. BF has restricted access due to work but still finds time to reach out.Thank you. I appreciate that. It’s so much easier in a relationship like this one. I will say to all my single sisters on here I spent a year and a half single, went to therapy, and made a life I loved. I fell in love with myself first. I fixed my issues first. I lived a life I loved for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 07:20 PM |
| 47 | To all the ladies waiting on a text back a HVM won’t leave you wondering. BF has restricted access due to work but still finds time to reach out.This 10000000 times over. I have NEVER had to question BF once and he works a specialized and very restrictive job. There’s no excuse ladies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 06:44 PM |
| 42 | To all the ladies waiting on a text back a HVM won’t leave you wondering. BF has restricted access due to work but still finds time to reach out.The double texting is bc he has very poor cell service where he is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 06:26 PM |
| 33 | I think my 23F boyfriend 23M has ED (possibly related to porn usage?) and it’s affecting our relationship and my self esteemLet me make this short: dump him 🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 12:16 PM |
| 23 | How a HVM takes care of his sickly QueenA HVM will absolutely take care of you when you’re sick 💞💕 Men are more likely to leave their spouses following sickness so pay attention to how he acts, look for green flags such as the above. I said it before on discord but good for you lady you deserve it queen 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 11:59 AM |
| 13 | Some basic tenants of FDS for all the newcomersRead the handbook sis. Vetting is evaluating a man to make sure he’s up to standard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 11:43 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 1 2020Girl same. At first I was jealous too bc he appeared so in love with her but after seeing it countless times first hand yikes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 06:30 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 1 2020Ugh my commiseration. I have a friend married to a prick as well but it’s very similar in he was her “dream” man. Some women are just so blind to red flags 🚩 I try to slip in FDS where appropriate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 12:37 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 1 2020Proud of you for sticking to your boundaries 👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 12:36 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 1 2020It took me a year of counseling with six of those months being spent completely single. I’m in a relationship with what looks like a HVM and I followed FDS with him. Proof is in the pudding it works. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 12:33 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 1 2020I’ve lost 10 lb after being convinced the scale only went up :) it’s weight from a relationship with a NVM and sure it’s almost 2 years post split but I’m finally doing something about it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 12:32 PM |
| 8 | Because marriage it's a torture, of course. Way to ruin happy marriage photosReminds me of a friends LVM who made fun of a mutual friend for tearing up at his own wedding bc he loved his bride 🤦♀️ Ofc the NVM is an alpha male /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 12:25 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 1 2020I’ve gone on dates or talked to 15-20 men. Found one HVM who I’m dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 06:48 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 1 2020I send them FDS so far only one has been receptive but hey it’s one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 06:42 PM |
| 3 | Inspired by another post here... get a man who’s your hype squadI feel you. If a random dude on OLD just starts calling me beautiful it immediately sends up warning signals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 04:32 PM |
| 2 | Inspired by another post here... get a man who’s your hype squad😂 it’s not. We’re closing in on a year together and I checked him early in our relationship saying he rarely commented on if I looked good so he’s sent me a good morning/goodnight beautiful text if we’re apart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 04:22 PM |
| 45 | Some texts from my husband. After receiving this morning's texts, I just wanted to show that there ARE men who love to build their partner up! 8 years together, and he still goes out of his way to make me feel adored. It may seem hopeless, but HVM do exist!Awww what a hype squad 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:52 PM |
| 0 | This is why I’m tempted to delete OLD forever 😂🤮🤮🤮 #blessed I met boyfriend on tinder and could delete that 👎👎👎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 02:02 AM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 1 2020😂😂😂 I feel that in my soul. As far as my family is concerned the most interesting thing about a woman is her dating life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 02:53 PM |
| 1 | I’m quitting birth control.I got off all hormonal birth control at 22 after going through massive depressive streaks due to it. I am sexually active and we use natural cycles to prevent pregnancy. Can’t recommend it enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 01:05 PM |
| 3 | To all the ladies who think weekly flowers is asking too much... he buys me a new bouquet even when last weeks is doing fine. You deserve to be spoiled.Absolutely the bar is so low it’s pitiful. My guy knows this is a base expectation not something he’ll receive lavish praise for from me but he still does a good job and I make sure he knows I appreciate it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 11:42 AM |
| 2 | To all the ladies who think weekly flowers is asking too much... he buys me a new bouquet even when last weeks is doing fine. You deserve to be spoiled.Funnily enough next buys that for me too 😂 he’s been helping finance and set up home gym | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 10:59 AM |
| 28 | My husband got these for me for my birthday—only spoke once about these, he remembered and shopped on his own, and more...Ugh what a man 😍😍😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 10:54 PM |
| 2 | To all the ladies who think weekly flowers is asking too much... he buys me a new bouquet even when last weeks is doing fine. You deserve to be spoiled.Yes :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 08:14 PM |
| 10 | To all the ladies who think weekly flowers is asking too much... he buys me a new bouquet even when last weeks is doing fine. You deserve to be spoiled.Thank you!!! He spends time studying the bouquets before he buys them and picks out my favorite flowers if he sees them or will include things like a variegated plant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 04:18 PM |
| 9 | All the money I sent to my NVM ex in 2 months. Green is him. Don’t be a 🤡🤡🤡No I don’t believe so. Even if he did it’s been 2 years, he married my neighbor, and blocked me on everything. I would gladly play $2k/year to keep him out of my life and my boyfriend would pay the money I lost if I tried to sue my ex. I guarantee it lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 04:17 PM |
| 8 | All the money I sent to my NVM ex in 2 months. Green is him. Don’t be a 🤡🤡🤡To make it even worse it was just spending money I’d send him bc he was unemployed 😅 Thank you for the kind words. I appreciate it. A huge part of why I am an advocate for FDS is bc I’ve been a pickme. I’ve dated NVM and abusive men. I’ve been single and OLD and questioned why men don’t want me. I leveled up, I sought help. I found a HVM. I feel like I’ve gone through all stages of FDS and am here to help other queens wherever they are on their journey. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 03:29 PM |
| 29 | To all the ladies who think weekly flowers is asking too much... he buys me a new bouquet even when last weeks is doing fine. You deserve to be spoiled.Fortunately he matches up in other areas of the relationship :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 02:39 PM |
| 28 | To all the ladies who think weekly flowers is asking too much... he buys me a new bouquet even when last weeks is doing fine. You deserve to be spoiled.What’s even cuter is he picks them out then asks me if he did good 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 02:30 PM |
| 27 | All the money I sent to my NVM ex in 2 months. Green is him. Don’t be a 🤡🤡🤡His mommy bangmaid 🤮 Thank you! I would say the biggest bright spot was me finding myself and my boundaries. Bf is a compliment to my life but by far the biggest win was falling in love with myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 02:07 PM |
| 54 | To all the ladies who think weekly flowers is asking too much... he buys me a new bouquet even when last weeks is doing fine. You deserve to be spoiled.Goals if I ever become single that’s some serious queen 👑 energy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 01:57 PM |
| 16 | All the money I sent to my NVM ex in 2 months. Green is him. Don’t be a 🤡🤡🤡I was not. We were both fresh out of college. I think the money was worth getting rid if him and finding myself. Lol no he didn’t send me money or take me on dates, or cook, or clean. He was unemployed as a cashier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 01:55 PM |
| 19 | To all the ladies who think weekly flowers is asking too much... he buys me a new bouquet even when last weeks is doing fine. You deserve to be spoiled.Definitely do, I wasn’t expecting more flowers when the first bunch was fine 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 01:20 PM |
| 65 | All the money I sent to my NVM ex in 2 months. Green is him. Don’t be a 🤡🤡🤡People treat you how you let them. I take responsibility for my part in things. He even told me initially he “wasn’t looking for a relationship” while hooking up with me. I thought if I loved him enough, treated him amazing that he’d love me too. Obviously I was wrong. I learned a lot of painful lessons, went to therapy, found FDS. Dated with FDS as my guide and have a HVM who adores me. I’m not mad things worked out how they did bc it led me to find myself, my boundaries etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 01:05 PM |
| 153 | All the money I sent to my NVM ex in 2 months. Green is him. Don’t be a 🤡🤡🤡He’s an ex thankfully. He was an unemployed cashier who lived with me rent free. I was a tremendous pickme 🤡🤡🤡 these are from 2 years ago thankfully I leveled up and learned but it’s definitely a good lesson for the ladies here. He ended up breaking up with me and dating my childhood neighbor who he met at the gym on a membership I paid for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 12:51 PM |
| 3 | Just LVM things with a side of gaslightingI saw it and thought it was hilarious so shared it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 10:53 PM |
| 32 | Caption was “just bc p*rn is normal for boys of our age doesn’t mean its good for you”. I’ve never seen men speak up against this, Im having hope for improvement for the next generation (sorry if the flair is wrong)Boyfriend speaks up against porn and think it both corrupts the mind and takes advantage of women. He doesn’t watch it or condone it for ethical/moral reasons and came to these conclusions well before I was in his life. They’re out there just very rare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 02:50 AM |
| 10 | A HVM will never leave you wondering.In every relationship I have had to question or dissect with my friends it has ultimately been a LVM. Current boyfriend I’ve never had to sit and analyze his behavior or his actions. He’s been so consistent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 11:50 AM |
| 4 | Do you ever feel like no one understands your standards?I had both relationship qualities and man qualities. I sat down and wrote my dream list. Man qualities: career type of job, family oriented, responsible, clean,trustworthy, adventurous, animal lover, wants kids, hard working, emotionally mature, playful, dependable,in shape, respectful,ambitious, fiscally responsible,strong morals, financially generous -relationship qualities: fun, attentive, shows me off, plans dates, puts in effort, builds me up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:54 PM |
| 7 | For real thoughIn general yes however a HVM will care about your sexual pleasure and won’t get off in your pain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Do you ever feel like no one understands your standards?Tinder | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:47 PM |
| 9 | Do you ever feel like no one understands your standards?My family openly criticized me and my dating strategy. My grandma would constantly say I was too picky and I’d die alone. My usual quip was better to die alone than miserable. Guess who absolutely adores my boyfriend? The proof is in the pudding. Single > LVM Keep your standards. I know how frustrating it is I got into a few blow up fights over dating with women in my family who were pressuring me to settle and I am so glad I didn’t listen or cave. I had a 15 point list on what I wanted in a man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 06:07 AM |
| 239 | For real thoughI’ve been sexually active for 10 years and it is just my most recent partner who cares enough to 1. Figure out how to make me cum and 2. Put the effort into doing it. I still catch myself apologizing that it “takes so long” and he says he has all the time in the world when it comes to that. Still trying to undo some societal conditioning and brain washing. I came twice with my ex of 2 years and never with my ex of 5 and neither of them saw anything wrong with that 🤦♀️ I was too young to know be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:37 AM |
| 13 | Bought me a build-a-bear that says “I love you beautiful” bc he will be gone for a monthIt’s mine :) he knows I’m not thrilled with him being gone for a month and with his work he’ll have no access to cell service or communication. Given the closeness of our relationship and the fact he ran it by me first and I cleared it as ok I thought it was appropriate and respectful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:09 AM |
| 16 | Bought me a build-a-bear that says “I love you beautiful” bc he will be gone for a monthTo each their own 🤷♀️ he asked me my feelings on it before doing it and I said it was cute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:04 AM |
| 7 | 9 months in and I still get weekly flowersTinder | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 06:50 PM |
| 26 | 9 months in and I still get weekly flowersHe did it early in our relationship and I told him how much I liked it. He knows I prefer farmers market flowers but has occasionally been unable to make the market so he’ll get me flowers from somewhere else. He’s never missed minus weeks he is completely unreachable for his job. I tell him thank you (genuinely), and have made comments on how flowers make me happy. I don’t think it’s asking too much a farmers market bouquet is $10 where I live. It’s a very small gesture he knows I like. I do ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 11:42 AM |
| 53 | 9 months in and I still get weekly flowersHe bought me a bouquet very early on and I commented on how much I liked it and appreciated it. Since then he’s done it every week and I make sure to say thank you and tell him I like it usually accompanied with a quick kiss. FDS led me to have a mindset shift toward accepting gifts from a man. I truly believe for a HVM your true appreciation of his effort is enough because he wants to make you happy. If he gets a bouquet I particularly like I’ll comment on it a little more so he knows it’s my p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Establish standards from day 1 and 👏 stick 👏 to 👏 them👏. The right man will meet them.Flowers in and of themselves are not impressive however I set the standard of treatment I wanted clearly and held to it with the man I am seeing. He has not missed buying my flowers every. single. week. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 02:02 AM |
| 3 | Online DatingI wrote a guide on it if you click my post history. I met a HVM off tinder | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 02:17 AM |
| 15 | "He was smitten with her"I hated this trope because it seems so powerless. The guy just has to be “smitten”. I thought if I loved the guy enough I could convince him to love me too. Spoiler: you can’t. Boyfriend woke up at 4 am to see me on NYE for a third date. He said he’s been all in since date 2. When they know they know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 02:34 AM |
| 18 | When Pickmes tell you that “you’re too picky” and you think...Family: you’re too picky you’re going to die alone Me: I’d rather die alone than date trash | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 08:56 PM |
| 24 | When Pickmes tell you that “you’re too picky” and you think...Omg fuck them 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 08:56 PM |
| 11 | I am so tired of being singleDating is hard. Your feelings are valid. When I was single I did everything in my power to build up a good support network and prioritized relationships outside of a romantic one. Focus on self care, make sure you’re filling up your own love cup. Also just because your friends are getting married it doesn’t mean they’re good marriages. Several of my friends are in subpar relationships at least being single you’re one step away from the right relationship (meet the guy) vs three (divorce/breakup,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 12:05 PM |
| 6 | ExactlyLol I found tinder on my then boyfriends phone after we’d been together for 2 years. The scrote trash had the audacity to say I was overreacting and proceeded to gaslight me saying it was just a conversation and I was being crazy. Continued dating him for another year bc I was the biggest pickme clown 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 11:12 PM |
| 2 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMOh that was playful banter to make asking deal breaker style questions seem less like a true interview. We actually discussed our biggest childhood trauma on our first date. FDS says not to disclose trauma mine was funny and light hearted and not truly traumatic however it got boyfriend to disclose some deeper things in his history which gave me an idea of who he was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 02:26 PM |
| 3 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMThe guy I’m dating actually opened with that 😅 so yes I’d respond but would gauge the level of effort of the conversation from there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 11:01 PM |
| 1 | If this isn't HV I don't know what is (brag post)Oh my goodness that is the sweetest! As others have said continue to vet (bc man) but enjoy the ride girl! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 12:57 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 15 2020bless my boyfriend for actually reading “she comes first” and figuring out how to get me to orgasm. The man, now, without a doubt knows what he’s doing and is committed to my sexual pleasure 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 12:35 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend was gone for a week, came home and was surprised with this50 was just the number I had conversations with. Not meeting up! I only went on dates with 10 guys :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 12:24 AM |
| 3 | Boyfriend was gone for a week, came home and was surprised with thisThank you! He’s a sweet, caring, and attentive man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 07:59 PM |
| 9 | Boyfriend was gone for a week, came home and was surprised with thisIt was a year of dating after I had got my own head on straight. I was in two long term relationships one was a NVM (abusive) and the other was a LVM. I took a year off of dating after the last LVM and went to therapy, fixed myself, and focused on my own life. My sister was extremely FDS and encouraged me to not settle and to continue weeding through men. She would frequently remind me that it could be awhile before I found a HVM and that it’s worth the work. The short answer is a year of dating… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 07:57 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend was gone for a week, came home and was surprised with thisGirl I was so surprised. He proudly told me he picked it bc of variegation 😭 he doesn’t know much about houseplants but supports me in it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 05:14 PM |
| 14 | Boyfriend was gone for a week, came home and was surprised with thisI followed FDS and burned through LVM before him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 12:30 PM |
| 65 | Boyfriend was gone for a week, came home and was surprised with thisOn pic two you can see some of the white in the plants. Houseplants are a hobby of mine and he knows I like variegated plants. He told me he picked this bouquet bc of the variegation 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 10:53 PM |
| 2 | When they hide it so well...And that’s completely okay too! The best thing I ever did was create a life I adored without a man. Don’t heal yourself for a man, do it for you because you’re worth it. I’m sorry you’ve had to experience this and I know how bad it hurts. This community is wonderful and supportive. Welcome to FDS 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 08:19 PM |
| 2 | When they hide it so well...personally I like the PDF. To be abundantly clear I am absolutely 100% not trying to pin all the blame on you. I’ve dated manipulative scumbag POS. I know what it’s like. I’ve been there. Try to use this hurt and pain and total piece of junk of a man to propel yourself forward into the next stage of your life. It’s going to be tough but you are absolutely worth it and every woman here supports you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 08:15 PM |
| 2 | When they hide it so well...I understand there’s a line between being proactive in your relationships and victim blaming. FDS takes a strong anti porn stance and is of the mind any man who engages in it is LVM. Along with BDSM being LV. You’re entitled to your own opinion but if you’re looking for dating advice from this forum you’ll get the input of women who believe in FDS. Based on the overarching beliefs of this sub and the information that you’ve given yes there were multiple red flags. All you can do is try to learn … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 08:08 PM |
| 1 | When they hide it so well...Other users have pointed it out but here’s some flags: -name calling -into porn -wanted to do BDSM -virtue signaling by complaining about other men -making a big show of open phone policy Based on the limited information we’re privy to outside the relationship it looks like there were some large red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 07:54 PM |
| 10 | Date with potential HVM but in need of some advice so I dont get bamboozledI agree with the previous queens 👸 he’s made you an offer out of convenience. A man who wants you will make it clear it’s a date to see you. Boyfriend drove 7 hours one way leaving at 4 am to see me for a third date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:18 PM |
| 1 | When they hide it so well...Thirding this. He was into BDSM among other things. The guy wasn’t a HVM from the start 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:16 PM |
| 1 | When they hide it so well...I don’t know how helpful you’ll find this but when I was in a good headspace I’d analyze my past relationships and take note of the red flags and warning signs I missed. I am skeptical that he hid his true nature as perfectly as you say he did. Something that helped me immensely was realizing the red flags and signs I over looked. It takes you from being a random innocent victim in this to someone who actively participated and can make better/different choices moving forward. It was important fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:13 PM |
| 11 | Men know immediately with who they gonna marryBoyfriend said he knew he loved me after a month 😅 he didn’t say it to me until 5 months in but he claimed he “just knew”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 03:02 PM |
| 2 | I just thought you deserved more presents...Tinder | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 02:48 PM |
| 2 | I just thought you deserved more presents...You’re welcome! Whenever he does something particularly sweet I try to make a point to share it. A lot of the things he does that fit a HVM are in more mundane day to day interactions: opening the car door, cooking me dinner, putting away the laundry bc he knows I hate it, weekly flowers etc Seeing how some of the women on here were treated consistently by HVM helped me realize that I wasn’t asking for too much I was just looking to get it from the wrong men. FDS helped me stick to my standards … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 12:49 PM |
| 2 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMYou’re welcome! It took a lot of trial and error. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 01:19 AM |
| 6 | I just thought you deserved more presents...It’s a forever rose yes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 11:32 PM |
| 17 | I just thought you deserved more presents...Insecure narcissist who married her extremely quickly and love bombed like crazy. Was telling her he loved her after a week 😅 If you know what to look for love bombing is easy to spot. There’s a tremendous difference in my relationship vs hers at the same timeline. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 06:24 PM |
| 18 | I just thought you deserved more presents...I know what love bombing looks like and unfortunately had to watch my best friend go through it. Her now husband likes to emotionally gaslight her and accuse her of cheating 🤮 I appreciate bringing it up because it definitely is something women need to be aware of. Based on everything I’ve seen with this man in the past 8 months he’s not love bombing but as stated previously one can never get complacent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 06:12 PM |
| 40 | I just thought you deserved more presents...Absolutely. There’s a difference in a man prioritizing you and one who’s love bombing to manipulate. Based on everything I’ve seen this one is the former not the latter however I will never cease to vet a man regardless of how long we’ve been together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:21 PM |
| 66 | I just thought you deserved more presents...Based on what I’ve learned from his siblings and close friends about his last relationship he is completely different in how he treats me vs how he treated his ex. He’s a good man to his core so he was never a LVM but from what I gathered he didn’t prioritize or cherish his ex. I have never asked him to buy me things he just does. If I want something and make an off hand comment in normal conversation about not being able to afford it he’ll buy it. He offered to pay the $600 hotel fee for one of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:19 PM |
| 51 | I just thought you deserved more presents...Same man who had a florist deliver flowers to the door a week later as another surprise. He claims he has no game but he’s been winning me over from day 1. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 04:56 PM |
| 47 | I just thought you deserved more presents...The smell fades slightly but they look and feel like regular roses :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 04:54 PM |
| 36 | I just thought you deserved more presents...Thank you! He’s adorable 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 04:26 PM |
| 86 | I just thought you deserved more presents...Boyfriend did :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 04:17 PM |
| 10 | How to not internalize rejection during dating?Ugh girl. I feel this. I struggled with it too while dating. Ultimately I decided the kind of man I wanted would make it clear he was into me from day 1. I used this decision point to rationalize that any man who rejected me, who flaked out wasn’t the kind of man that I wanted and wouldn’t have made a good husband or father. I also struggled with rejecting men who displayed bad behavior. I told myself that every time I rejected a man who was showing bad behavior I was choosing myself. Ultimately… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 02:46 PM |
| 21 | Harsh truthGirl same. I got told he wasn’t ready for a relationship then he starts dating me out of convenience not because he wanted me. He breaks up with me and marries dream girl in 3 months 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 07:11 PM |
| 2 | So many men say they want a smart woman...A NVM/LVM will have issues with an intelligent woman but a HVM won’t. I’ve seen it repeated on here that all men have issues with an intelligent woman but my boyfriend is extremely proud of how smart I am and brags on me abundantly when appropriate. Not all men are intimidated by intelligent women or just want you to parrot their beliefs. A HVM will respect you for what you are. Boyfriend will change his opinion if I give a good counter and say something along the lines of “thank you, I’ve never… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 02:36 PM |
| 8 | "Some women think because they look good, men owe them money"Lol ok dude. My boyfriend happily pays for everything 😂 move out of the way scrub | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 7 2020Awww thank you! I was lucky enough to have a sister who was very FDS and after a lot of her dragging me along I followed her advice. She met her husband on tinder as well funnily enough and he’s extremely HV | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 07:44 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 7 2020Don’t. If a man is into you he’ll want to meet up. A lot of people just want pen pals and a HVW doesn’t have time for that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 07:32 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 7 2020OLD is generally full of trash if you’re willing to vet hard, not take it personal, and weed through it there are some gems. I met my boyfriend on tinder. I wrote an OLD post click on my profile to check it out :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 07:29 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 7 2020I know how tiring it can be to keep kissing frogs 🐸 I’m sorry that the dating world is wearing on you but am proud of you for sticking to your boundaries. Dating is tough. Chin up queen 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 07:28 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 7 2020YMMV. If you set stringent standards and are prepared to weed through the trash you can find a HVM on a dating app. I met mine on tinder. I wrote a guide for OLD you can find it by clicking my profile. I agree with the previous posters that now isn’t an ideal time to be dating with the pandemic and a lot of uncertainty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 07:21 PM |
| 2 | In Light of Recent Events, I'd Like to Give This Sub My Thanks Before it Goes Down.Same. Boyfriend knows I’m here and reads posts with me. He knows I post some of our conversations as an example of a HVM. He’s supportive of this sub and empowering women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 08:40 PM |
| 10 | IT'S HERE!! WE'VE LAUNCHED THEREALFEMALEDATINGSTRATEGY.COM WEBSITE! SIGN UP ASAP IN CASE WE'RE BANNED!If you click where it says message on Reddit it pulls up a message to the forum which I’m assuming goes to all mods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 12:36 PM |
| 15 | IT'S HERE!! WE'VE LAUNCHED THEREALFEMALEDATINGSTRATEGY.COM WEBSITE! SIGN UP ASAP IN CASE WE'RE BANNED!Fucking get it mods 👏👏👏👏 absolutely practicing what we preach on FDS. Proud to be part of a group of women that are able to implement what we believe in. Queens 👸 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 12:35 PM |
| 3 | In Light of Recent Events, I'd Like to Give This Sub My Thanks Before it Goes Down.Girl same. I love this sub. It helped me keep my standards high when I was dating and every pickme in my life was saying I was being too picky. The women here reassured me that I was not doing the wrong thing, that I wasn’t the issue, and helped me to set realistic expectations with dating. I stuck with online dating because worst case I could post the depravity here and receive support. You all encouraged me to go to therapy, taught me to build a life I loved without a man, unwashed the years o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 12:14 PM |
| 18 | HANDBOOK TO DOWNLOAD - Protect your knowledge.The link to the discord isn’t working for me can someone link it please? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 02:04 AM |
| 11 | Share the most cringy date you’ve been on?Cat fishing obese piglet omg gold 😂🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 05:34 PM |
| 19 | Share the most cringy date you’ve been on?I drove 3 hours to see the guy 🤡 who was late 🤡 and then he proceeds to talk about his ex so much I felt like I knew her 🚩 I paid for the $100 dinner too 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 05:32 PM |
| 10 | A Man Who Games vs A "Gamer"I think it’s like anything else. Does it interfere in his life? Then yes it’s an issue. If he’s prioritizing video games over you, yeah it’s an issue. My boyfriend plays video games but only does it once or twice a week after I’ve gone upstairs to go to bed. He never prioritizes games over anything,”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 05:30 PM |
| 27 | Important reminder to not personalize rejection and poor treatment when dating. It’s them not you.As a recovered pickme I second this (though god damn it hurts to admit). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 03:29 PM |
| 45 | Important reminder to not personalize rejection and poor treatment when dating. It’s them not you.I struggled for awhile with not personalizing rejection during dating. I believe it’s an extremely valuable thing to internalize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 01:28 PM |
| 7 | MoodLol ofc I cant get the same respect as a rattlesnake. These gross scrotes don’t care. They’ll approach me in the middle of my workout and could care less I have a guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 07:03 PM |
| 15 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 26 2020Sweet lovely ladies how do you share the wisdom of FDS with women you know in real life? So far I’ve hit nothing but resistance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 07:02 PM |
| 1 | I hope she gets picked. Also, getting in a car with a stranger on the first date... Couldn't be me 🤡🤡🤡I was out to dinner with coworkers and all their girlfriends were bragging about going Dutch on the first date. 🤦♀️🤮 Sorry girl you are a 🤡 the men proceeded to sarcastically say “the man has to pay out of principle” I unapologetically looked the scrote in the eyes and said “absolutely. If a man cannot treat me how I deserve there’s another one waiting to fill the vacancy.” My boyfriend, bless him, proceeded to subtly mock the idea of splitting the bill by telling me I could pay 1/6 of the appe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 11:37 AM |
| 13 | Racist LVM Scrote blogs about FDS and claims that FDS Women are delusional and mostly blackUmmmmm what? 😂😂😂 I appreciate every woman who posts on here with solid advice regardless of racial or financial background or age. Dating is a mine field and the advice and support here helped me hold to my dating principals. It’s not that we can’t get dates it was developing the standards and boundaries to make it through the LVM shit storm. I like how he tries to use race, age, and financial background as a neg. I have learned so much from the women here who are older than me and have every pl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 11:32 AM |
| 2 | Update: confronting cheating fianceUgh you fucking queen 👑 I smiled ear to ear reading how you handled this. I am so sorry you had to go through this with a NVM but I am SO PROUD OF YOU and you are absolutely an inspiration. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 02:24 AM |
| 2 | Best thing I never hadOh absolutely, similar to the other lady who said her and her mom laugh about her ex fiancé I think my abysmal taste before leveling up is humorous now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 02:10 AM |
| 5 | Best thing I never hadLet’s all take a moment of silence for: The guy who saw demons and got on tinder behind my back The unemployed cashier | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 02:08 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 17 2020I always found a way to bring it up in such a manner that I wasn’t asking the one specific man to do it but rather expressing an opinion. For example a friend called me to discuss her relationship with a man who was gallavanting around chasing his career without upping his commitment to her. Boyfriend heard the advice I gave her which was to dump his ass bc it’s not worth waiting around on a man to explore. Through actions like that bf is extremely aware of my stance on relationships and the sta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 12:18 AM |
| 8 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMIf you follow the items listed above it’ll help you weed through men so quickly it won’t matter he messaged first :) I strongly advise against being on an app like bumble bc it discourages the man from taking initiative | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 12:15 AM |
| 4 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMHi lady! I didn’t use bumble because it’s against FDS standards. I only replied to men who initiated with me :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Apparently I am too hash. Does that even make sense?They’re out there I promise. If you’re adamant about you want, unapologetic with your standards and are willing to trudge through the mud one will turn up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Apparently I am too hash. Does that even make sense?Tinder, both mid twenties. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Apparently I am too hash. Does that even make sense?By being absolutely ruthless with men and sticking to my standards. My guy is a total doll and I adore him but getting him wasn’t luck it was strategy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 08:39 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 17 2020Hi lovelies. I have a friend who is going through a break up and I think it’d be the perfect time to introduce FDS. Any advice on handling this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 08:38 PM |
| 6 | What does your HV partner add to your life?I was and am firmly of the mindset it is better to be single than in a bad relationship. That being said my HVM absolutely adds to my life such as: -taking me out to work functions to show me off -unabashedly telling people I am the smarter one (arguably we’re equal but he’s adamant I am) -doing 50% or more of the house chores (he does all the laundry bc he knows I hate it) -surprising me with gifts -opening the car door (still) -always pays -offers back rubs etc if he thinks I’m sore from lifti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 08:36 PM |
| 2 | Apparently I am too hash. Does that even make sense?Lol you are absolutely NOT too harsh most of these men are scummy scrote trash. I got told I was too harsh in OLD (you can look through my post history for my rules) by multiple people and I ignored it. Single > shitty relationship. Landed an awesome HVM for all my harshness 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 08:31 PM |
| 1 | I hope we all throw away our toxic exes/present partners and look forward to a brighter future where we are successful and have a hvm on the sideI’ve been there girl 💕 focus on the good relationships you do have and do your best to keep your chin up. It can absolutely be lonely and dating is hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/20 03:55 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 17 2020You teach people how to treat you. If you don’t prioritize and love yourself it’s all downhill from there. Holding onto someone who is bad for you is an act of disrespect and self harm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 02:43 PM |
| 12 | FDS Relationship Success Stories?I found FDS when I was dipping my toes back into online dating after being with two NVM. My first boyfriend would get on tinder behind my back, invite other girls over when I was out of town, call me fat... the list goes on. Second boyfriend was an unemployed cashier obsessed with himself and video games complete with the emotional stability of a toddler. Needless to say I had an abysmal dating track record. I truly believed love conquered all. Outside of my NVM experiences I’ve been surrounded … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 12:24 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 17 2020Easy block him then you won’t see it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 12:09 PM |
| 11 | Placeholder vs DreamgirlThis post is spot on. I've played bob the builder so many times. Built up ex from an unemployed cashier to a man with a legitimate career and boom he finds "dream girl" and is gone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 12:58 PM |
| 3 | Advice NeededOh my goodness my first mention 😭😭😭 ugh thank you girl! Made my day 💕 If you have any questions feel free to reach out OP! Online dating is 🗑 but with the right mindset you can weed through it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 02:11 PM |
| 23 | How many dates should he pay for?7 months in with current boyfriend and he still pays for everything. I cover things occasionally because he is crazy financially generous but he never asks and always asks if I'm sure I want to pay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 03:00 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 8 2020Not guy related but I finally set clear boundaries with a long term friend who can only see or talk to me if I provide some benefit to her. Cried while eating the breakfast my boyfriend made me because it upset me so much. It sucks that it won’t ever be the relationship I wanted it to but I’m done being used. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 08:17 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 8 2020Exactly! I have been in miserable toxic relationships and the amount of tranquility and peace I feel when I’m single is amazing. Just because someone is in a relationship it doesn’t mean it’s good or healthy. Bad relationships will drag you down and drown you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 08:14 PM |
| 17 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 8 2020Personally I looked at how shitty a lot of the relationships were around me and reminded myself being single > bad relationship. A man is not the end all be all for your life. Try to fill up your time with things that make you happy like hobbies and fulfilling relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 03:36 AM |
| 5 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMPersonally I’d just block and move on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 09:28 PM |
| 8 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMIf they like you enough they’ll come to you. Boyfriend drove 1.5 hours to see me consistently and sisters husband would drive 2 hours once she went back to college to see her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 01:22 PM |
| 1 | Being upfront about wanting a HVMI didn't. The most I would say is I was looking for someone who would match me and very quickly through getting to know me you can see I have my life together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 04:09 PM |
| 6 | Can women and men ever really be JUST platonic friends?I am part of a platonic male/female friend group. We've been friends for 8 years and it's just friendship between all of us however we've all met in college. Every man who has approached me outside of college has never had any intention of being my friend and has just wanted to sleep with me which is incredibly sad and disheartening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 04:01 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 8 2020Get it sis! Proud of you and your hard work! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 02:00 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 8 2020There are men who don't believe in it or watch it. Boyfriend thinks it's misogynistic and refuses to support it. Has said it creates warped views toward women. They exist just had to be persistent in weeding through the trash to find him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:56 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 8 2020^^^ seconding this. Boyfriend is a HVM I met on tinder of all places but I never hid I wanted a relationship, was insanely picky, and had hella high standards. Bf wasn't afraid because he's met and exceeded every expectation I had in a man. Only NVM and LVM who can't meet the bar will balk at it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:54 PM |
| 4 | “Why You Should Look for a Generous Man”Absolute gold 💕 boyfriend paid for a $900 cabin for Valentine’s Day, always pays for meals, buys the gas in my car if he’s driving, buys things if we’re out together, surprises me with gifts... and a lot more. The list is extensive. He also has saved aggressively for retirement and is good with money. They definitely exist just have to look for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 02:43 AM |
| 6 | Update from my last post.Yes go girl! I know how hard it can be to remain composed around a recent ex but you did it 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 12:27 PM |
| 18 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 8 2020Couldn’t go with my boyfriend to the farmers market as usual and off course he still comes back with a bouquet of flowers from the place I love. HVM are worth weeding through the trash scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 12:38 PM |
| 44 | The outfit I'm wearing when the scrote comes to collect the rest of his shit:Just to warn you, it looks like you have a full face photo in your post history. Be careful girl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 02:39 AM |
| 2 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.Unfiltered photos of myself and a very true to who I am bio. It’s easy to tell if a guy is looking for a smash n dash and I’d just annex them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.I met him on tinder :) there are definitely other men like him it's just not the norm in my opinion | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.Tinder! I'm sure there are my sister's husband is also a HVM :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 05:21 PM |
| 10 | I refuse to be with a man that cannot keep his own house clean.Thank you queen 👑 thankfully he’s an ex! I learned assessing a man’s place for cleanliness was/is a huge deal and am now with a HVM who tells me I’m not his housewife and to let him get half the chores. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 12:31 PM |
| 41 | I refuse to be with a man that cannot keep his own house clean.When dating an unemployed cashier I used to regularly clean his place bc he had mold growing in the bathroom 🤢 He liked me so much that he was so excited to see me he couldn’t clean the mold out of the bathroom that’d been there for months so I got to do it! 🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 10:57 AM |
| 7 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.I made sure I was in a good headspace before doing it and would frequently come to FDS for feedback and confirmation I was doing the right thing in keeping my standards high. I told myself I’d weed through as many men as it took to find the right one or be single. I was actually insanely reluctant to start dating initially and he’s always led in all areas of commitment because I was that happy being single. He never pressured or asked about anything sexual. Always maintained he’d wait as long as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 10:47 AM |
| 5 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.Absolutely ! A good man will take care of you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 10:42 AM |
| 3 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.Tinder | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 10:41 AM |
| 11 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.Absolutely possible just have to be ruthless in evaluating men and understand being single is so much better than a LVM anchor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 02:35 AM |
| 3 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.You’re welcome! Some say it’s too stringent but it works 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 02:16 AM |
| 7 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.Ofc! Happy to share what I’ve learned :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 02:16 AM |
| 10 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMI used tinder and hinge. I get hit on enough in person that it was a very low level supplement and exposure tool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 01:19 AM |
| 22 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.Awwww I can’t believe he showed you this subreddit what a doll 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 11:35 PM |
| 35 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.I did :) https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/gkc0v1/online_dating_strategy_to_find_a_hvm/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 11:33 PM |
| 71 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.I did a write up on it recently! My sister who’s extremely FDS met her husband off tinder as well using the same rigid standards. If you have any questions feel free to reach out :) I know what it’s like in the trenches of LVM/NVM and am more than happy to pass on any advice I gained from my interactions with shit stains. It would have been so much harder for me to stick to my standards without the support of both my sister and FDS. In a world where a woman’s worth is tied to being partnered wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 11:15 PM |
| 28 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.He’s definitely something else. He’s done nothing but consistently display his love and respect for me since the beginning. Men like him exist but they’re rare, part of why it’s important to be absolutely ruthless in your evaluation of men. Have to weed through the absolute shit stains first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 11:09 PM |
| 60 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.Tinder. I had/have very clear vetting and OLD criteria which helped me weed through men quickly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 11:07 PM |
| 6 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.Black is boyfriend, blue is me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 10:15 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020Oh he does chores without asking, prompting, or saying what needs done. I’ve just been doing them while he’s at work 😬 and he told me to stop last night bc it’s not my job to pick up more household chores. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 08:39 PM |
| 27 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.Thank you! I would have had a much harder time sticking to my standards if it wasn’t for the queens at FDS 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 08:00 PM |
| 54 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.😂 unfortunately he doesn’t have any brothers They’re absolutely out there if you’re rigid on looking. When I was single seeing the HVM stuff here helped me solidify what I was looking for. He has talked openly about being excited to be a dad, if we get to that point down the road I’m positive he’d raise high value gentlemen so there’s hope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 07:41 PM |
| 144 | Picked up more domestic duties around the house bc I’m WFH and he (gently) reminded me he’s a grown man and I shouldn’t feel pressured to pick up more chores.Of course! It wasn’t easy finding him. I stuck to my very stringent standards and didn’t give in to family/friends who pressured me to settle. And this is coming off the tail of being quarantined together for 3 months. He’s a good man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 07:37 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020Ugh guys please check me. I offered to pick up a few domestic duties for my boyfriend (we’re quarantined together and he’s an essential worker) to save us on time but last night he told me to stop picking up everything for him. He was being nice and said he doesn’t want me to feel like I have to pick up all the domestic duties. It appears my inner mommy girlfriend is coming out please give me advice on keeping it in check 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 12:48 PM |
| 2 | PSA to women meeting guys onlineTotally agree. I got what I wanted off OLD but I had stringent standards and cut men off quickly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 11:24 AM |
| 49 | Pay attention to how he treated you during this pandemic.It’s as simple as if he wants to he will. Current boyfriend: -cooks lunches/dinners majority of the time -picked up extra bills when my dog got sick -surprised me with small thoughtful gifts 1-2x a month on top of the weekly flowers he buys -supported several niche interests I have He’s not perfect but he’s been a good support system and has managed to still surprise me with things and put in effort. Don’t settle ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 11:02 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/22/2020Every man that wanted me was capable of texting me back within two hours after the date to plan something else. I don’t chase. He either wants me or he doesn’t and if he doesn’t then bye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 01:26 PM |
| 29 | What kind of man gets off on beating his wife until she’s unconscious? A pornsick one.Boyfriend to a T. He can’t fathom touching me to hurt me. The sex is very vanilla but very loving, safe, and respectful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 01:59 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/22/2020Damn I’m sorry girl but good on you for sticking to your guns. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 07:06 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/22/2020If they don’t ask reciprocal questions or try to carry the conversation I X them. Aren’t you in a relationship? A several years one? Or am I thinking of another poster? If yes to the last my apologies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 03:18 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/22/2020So last night while talking to my guy he said he needs to put more focus on making sure I get off during sex. Completely unprompted and brought up by him. He has always been attentive to me so I was surprised when he brought it up and said he wanted to do better making sure the focus was on me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 12:58 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/22/2020Ooooof. I feel that to my core. I feel like society pushes women are worth more when partnered even if he’s an abusive 💩 and it’s so hard to release that societal expectation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 02:36 AM |
| 16 | What are your expectations on dates in a serious relationship?Yes. I’m with a grown man not a child and he prioritizes my happiness. That said I’ve been a huge 🤡 in past relationships. Sticking to your boundaries and being a HVW is so much nicer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 02:01 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with feeling you are "missing out"? Everyone around me is starting to get married (mid twenties)I look at the quality of the relationships. One friend married years ago and has since gotten divorced from someone with severe mental health issues who dragged my friend through the wringer. Other friend is with someone who is emotionally abusive and constantly accuses her of cheating. I look at these relationships and know I’d rather be very very single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 01:51 PM |
| 3 | He likes me but I don’t think he loves meMy boyfriend said he loved me at 4 months. I knew he loved me before that because his actions screamed he was in love. Hell my grandma said he’s loved me from the first date 😂 I don’t think anything earlier than that is necessarily a red flag. Imo you have to evaluate the whole man. Bf has stable friendships, a good relationship with his family, and received enough interest from women it wasn’t desperation driven. As echoed here, men know. You don’t have to drag a man who knows. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 01:49 PM |
| 25 | What are your expectations on dates in a serious relationship?6 months in with my current boyfriend and all it took to get weekly date nights was “I feel like we’re getting too casual, I’d like to maintain dating.” Things have changed with a global pandemic which he had no control over but he’s already mentioned places he’d like to take me when things open back up. I think it helps I have a HVM father who has told my boyfriend multiple times if you don’t date your wife someone else will. I expect to still be treated well and taken out no matter how long we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 01:37 PM |
| 3 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMThank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 03:10 AM |
| 6 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMOf course! You’re welcome | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 03:09 AM |
| 18 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMYou’re welcome sis! I came to these conclusions after weeding through a lot of trash. As far as bios go I didn’t put a list of what I wanted in a man. I wrote a bio that clearly articulated who I was. Just like with men I thought a list of “no hookups, no drugs etc” made it seem like I was attracting that. I think if you follow FDS you can weed through that stuff quickly without stating it in your bio. I put my graduate degree in a tough STEM field on it and didn’t try to hide the fact I’m intel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 05:56 PM |
| 3 | Is there any hope in OLD?I met my boyfriend on tinder and he’s a HVM. There is hope but you have to go in with a strategy. I wrote a write up on mine, check my post history if you’re interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 01:51 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/13/2020I feel you on landlords and moving plus I think there’s something to be said for when the place is yours. Everyone wants to FIRE quickly and saving/budgeting isn’t the most sexy or easiest way there. I’ve still got the last bit of debt, then saving for a nice emergency fund, then finally investing. Aiming to have my first investment property in 2021. I don’t know much about shares/business investments but will definitely look into it once the debts are gone and a nice emergency fund is built. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 01:18 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/13/2020I got so so so lucky when I found him and I’m aware of it. It was a lot of looking and stringently sticking to my standards and I am so glad I did. FDS works when followed. I am in a “worse” spot than him financially due to student debt but should be out of the hole this year. If/when we get married having him as my partner advances FIRE by several years. We’ve talked at length about finances and we’re on the same page. Obviously I don’t expect him to pick up my dog’s extra bills but he’s covere… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 12:41 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/13/2020Yes! Interest rates are low for me. It’s a marathon not a sprint but I’m drooling at the idea of being debt free 😍. It was extra frustrating bc I can finally see the end, you know? Ultimately I took care of the dog because my obligation is to her, it’s just frustrating bc she has several chronic health conditions so costs significantly more than your average dog but rescue dogs are a black box health wise. I am all about that FIRE life glad to see another FDSer chasing the financial independence… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 04:01 AM |
| 23 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMAbsolutely!!! A lot of the criteria is strict but like you stated it helped me weed through the massive amount of 💩 I’d rather X some sooner vs later because like you said there are so many time wasters. I think 50 first dates is completely reasonable to find a quality man. It’s a lot of trash on OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 03:30 PM |
| 59 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMI had a pretty stringent set of criteria which comes from my experience on OLD along with my friends experiences. In this day and age everyone uses their phone, it takes a man <1 minute to send “I had a great time I want to see you again.” Every guy I’ve gone out with who was incapable of meeting this criteria ended up wasting my time or was looking for something casual. I would rather churn and burn through men to find high value ones than waste a second too long on a LVM hence the rigid criter… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 03:01 PM |
| 6 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMYou’re welcome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 11:46 AM |
| 14 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMOf course! I was lucky enough to have an FDS sister (before FDS) who finally beat these principles into me after my extreme pick me nonsense, it works if followed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 11:46 AM |
| 65 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMYes! I know the list of requirements for a man seem long and could be hypocritical if you aren’t of the same quality. I put a lot of focus into myself and leveling myself up. Basic things to do before online dating are: eat healthy, be in a good mental state (attend therapy if you have any lingering things to work through), be in good shape, and figure out your grooming routine. I understand initially the game is rigged so I cultivated an image that would present a certain way. We don’t get to p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 11:44 AM |
| 25 | Online dating strategy to find a HVMIt’s tailor able to what you as an individual want. I like clear interest from the beginning my guy had a pretty serious family emergency come up when we’d first started talking and he still found the time to express clear interest and plan a date. I think ultimately it comes down to if he’s interested you’ll know, if he’s not you’ll be confused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 11:30 AM |
| 8 | Don't wait for a man to commit. If a man wants you he'll let you know right away.I'll echo the sentiment, it took me a lot of looking to find my boyfriend who clears the list. Sad how uncommon it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 06:29 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/13/2020I've been stressed because my dog is sick and it's impacting my budget which is ultimately effecting my long term goal of being debt free. I've been paying off debt at a very aggressive rate which leaves me little wiggle room for other things. The boyfriend knows I've been wanting a few items for my hobby (<$100) but it's still enough that coupled with the dog it's "outside" of my budget. I was venting being stressed over the dog and how it means moving the debt free date back slightly and he of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 06:26 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/13/2020Yeah I know. I've been in relationships where you feel more alone and miserable with the person than without. FWIW I think your advice is solid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 06:06 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/13/2020Here's what I used and I've met a (seemingly) HVM online: Pictures: no shirtless gym/mirror pictures no pictures with other women (unless it's clearly family or a large gathering of mixed gender friends) no pictures with guns no pictures with fish/dead animals no selfies - to me selfies indicated vanity and lack of going out and doing things with friends had to have at least 3 pictures - gives a good example of what he looks like and shows he put a modicum of effort into his profile Bio no gramm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 03:22 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/13/2020As long as you learned from it that's what counts. I had a NVM who would get on tinder when we were apart and gas light me into it's "just a conversation" and I'm "crazy" for getting upset over it. We've all been there sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 03:09 PM |
| 13 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/13/2020I went through your post history as an outsider to try to find anything that I think would fit too and nothing really stuck out at me. The only thing I think it could maybe be is the fact you got out of a bad LTR 7 months ago and are now in a relationship with someone you say is a HVM and 7 months isn't long enough to determine if he's truly a HVM or just has HVM characteristics. It also indicates dating right after a bad relationship if I got the timing right. Idk. I'm pretty stumped. That's th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 03:07 PM |
| 3 | Reminder: When he says he’s not ready for a relationship just yet, he’s only stringing you along for female validation until he finds someone he’s actually into. Know your worth, don’t let him drag you in the mud in hopes he’ll respect you some day!Absolutely agree 100%. Current boyfriend locked me down ASAP with no hesitation and he brought it up, not me. There's a tremendous difference in how they treat me. One was a NVB (no value boy, calling him a man is an insult to HVM) and the other is a HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 07:28 PM |
| 26 | Reminder: When he says he’s not ready for a relationship just yet, he’s only stringing you along for female validation until he finds someone he’s actually into. Know your worth, don’t let him drag you in the mud in hopes he’ll respect you some day!Well I think on paper ultimatums sound good I was in the same spot and did the same thing. It was either commitment or I was out. Guy in question decided to commit to me because I was the best option he had at the time. Relationship dragged out 2 years while he clung to me like a parasitic leach. He finally gets a job that is better than being a cashier (mostly an unemployed cashier) and looks like he has his life together externally. Enter him waffling on us now that he's in a better spot (don'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 01:18 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/6/2020Personally I’m no bullshit so I ask out right. If he gets freaked out he’s not for me so it’s an easy X. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 11:24 PM |
| 15 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/6/2020You may not have gotten out as soon as you wanted but you still got out which is a huge deal. Don’t sell yourself short 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Fuckboys who treat their new girlfriends to all the things you wanted but never got do so because they're desperately trying to prove you were the problem all along. Recognize it for the manipulative tactic that it is, and don't take it personally.My NVM ex married the new girl after 4 months, 2 of which they were apart for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 04:28 PM |
| 7 | Fuckboys who treat their new girlfriends to all the things you wanted but never got do so because they're desperately trying to prove you were the problem all along. Recognize it for the manipulative tactic that it is, and don't take it personally.I had this happen on more than one occasion. The girl who replaced me who was treated so much better ended up cheating on him and giving him very gruesome details. Karma is a bitch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 04:15 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/6/2020KILL IT! Way to go sis! I'll join you on the toning up goal :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 04:13 PM |
| 22 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/6/2020Imo it doesn't sound like he's that into you. He's barely initiating contact and taking forever to reply. I'd cut my losses and run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 04:12 PM |
| 31 | Settle for nothing lessNot always. I went through my fair share of LVM but was persistent enough to find someone who satisfies all of this. It’s a trudge but is possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 02:18 AM |
| 20 | Not wanting a guy that has InstagramLast guy I dated who was massively into Instagram was immature, had low self esteem, and was narcissistic. All his photos were of him flexing because all he could possibly offer was his body and literally nothing else as an unemployed squeaky voice troll face cashier 🤮 Men who are wildly into Instagram and posting selfies scream insecure to me. After dating someone in love with Instagram I agree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/4/2020You're not alone. I've gotten several DMs from random guys on insta | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 12:49 PM |
| 17 | What does a HV relationship looks likeIt’s still a new (ish) relationship so take what I’m saying with a grain of salt that being said it’s been close to 6 months plus a pandemic together, I’m doubtful he’s hiding anything at this point. Like many of us I’ve had extensive experience with LVM because I was a huge pickme 🤡 He puts me first in everything, always. Going out to eat? He’ll defer to what I want if we’re split. If I’m torn between two meals he’ll order the second one I want as his so I can have both. I wasn’t a fan of a min… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 11:54 AM |
| 3 | What is the most embarrassing thing you put up with as a former pickme?He was broke and would “support” me once he got a job | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 11:40 AM |
| 2 | Do men really like smart and intelligent women?My guy will tell anyone who listens that “she’s the smarter one” he doesn’t seem phased by it but I think he’s an anomaly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 05:28 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (March 23rd 2020)I laughed at the against all odds part. Lord knows that’s what it feels like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 05:19 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (March 23rd 2020)I don't have anything to add other than I am sorry that you're going through this. Stay strong girl there is light on the other side. Sending virtual hugs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 08:46 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered March 15th 2020I'm sorry girl. Work on moving on from this and recognizing why you let yourself get into this situation so it doesn't happen again. All we can do is learn from our past experiences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 03:11 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered March 15th 2020I'd tell her but be prepared to lose the friendship if she's a pickme she'll bury her head in the sand and remove you from her life instead of him. Just be prepared for the fall out but I think the right thing to do is to tell her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 03:10 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered March 15th 2020If he was truly a HVM who was into you he wouldn't have ghosted. He might be a HVM but based on ghosting for a month he's just not that into you. X and move on. You deserve someone who sees you as a priority not an option. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 03:09 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered March 15th 2020Totally agree! After my last relationship with a LVM scum bucket ended I sat down and thought of everything I would like in a partner and made a list of all of the characteristics even ones that seemed like reach goals considering men now such as: clean, fiscally responsible, good with kids, caring etc and refused to settle. Current guy met my list. He's not perfect but he is good, tries, and owns up to his mistakes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 02:54 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered March 15th 2020There are some :) you just have to remember what you are and aren't willing to tolerate and stick to your list. I made a list of qualities and characteristics I wanted in a man and stuck to it. Better to be alone than to settle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/20 03:04 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered March 15th 2020Based on the wording I'd guess you were lurking certain reddit forums that I'd highly suggest you give up. Yes it is absolutely possible to get a HVM as an average looking woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 06:37 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered March 15th 2020You made the right choice. If he's starting out the relationship with a lie big red flag and huge X. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 06:35 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered March 15th 2020Stay safe and healthy! I've stocked up on things I've wanted to do but don't normally have the time for: books, puzzles, facetime dates with friends, and some Netflix shows I've been wanting to watch. Stay healthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 06:33 PM |
| 3 | Experiences of having pick me friends?It’s awful but I thought the long text message diatribes were hilarious 😂 she was a huge mess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 12:58 PM |
| 6 | What is the most embarrassing thing you put up with as a former pickme?One would get on tinder when we were apart to talk to “friends” 🤡 I sent the other $500/month and he was an unemployed cashier 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 02:03 AM |
| 11 | These “rate me” subs always get the best of me, they downrate these GORGEOUS women who would never even look at them in real life to a 5 or a 6, while trying to boost their fragile egos by giving 8s to FUGLY scrotesOmg scrotacity 😂 remember you’re beautiful up to the point you reject them then you’re an ugly bitch 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 02:00 AM |
| 1 | Experiences of having pick me friends?She would take diuretics to lose weight, slept with random men on tinder, would talk to guys for months who were just stringing her along. I cut contact with her when she stalked a guy and sent him pages on pages of texts saying how much she loved him, how they were meant to be together, and she was pouring her soul out to him when she’d never met him and he was with someone else. Any time I would hang out with her she wouldn’t ask about me and was obsessed with talking about herself and her pro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 01:56 AM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered March 15th 2020Who cares if you cross paths? Block him and be cordial if you have to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 01:33 AM |
| 27 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered March 15th 2020Girl. He literally told you that you’re his back up plan, his second place ABSOLUTELY boy bye! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 01:31 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered March 15th 2020hey girl! I've been there. It can be lonely without a romantic partner. When I was feeling that way I'd seek out my friends and family. I believe you can have emotionally intimate, loving relationships that aren't necessarily romantic in nature. I've done my best to cultivate meaningful friendships and deep relationships with my family to help fill as much of that "love" void as possible. Hope this helps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 06:10 PM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered March 15th 2020Train yourself to kill your attraction for men who do not treat you right and are not pursuing you. If you obsess and focus over the LVM you will only end up hurting yourself. Why would you want someone who isn't demonstrating he wants you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Remember, FDS is against BumbleI’m aware but it took a lot of wading through 💩 to get to him. I maintain he’s luckier than I am 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Remember, FDS is against BumbleI got lucky off OLD but completely agree with this comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Some quotes to practice, memorize, and repeat. Don't bow to the patriarchy, queens.You were down voted because you said compromising your boundaries for a relationship is okay. It’s not :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 12:47 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020Girl same. I gained weight and was depressed with his unemployed cashier ass. He too found a woman who’d tolerate his 💩 and he’s absolutely run her down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 05:34 PM |
| 3 | [QUESTION] What's it like dating a HVM?So true. Boyfriend encourages me to spend time with both my family and friends even if it means I don't see him. He's not jealous of my male friends and has never made a single disparaging comment. He makes it clear he wants to see me but isn't clingy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 02:09 PM |
| 40 | [QUESTION] What's it like dating a HVM?I’m still vetting my guy seeing as it’s only been 3 months but he has shown nothing but HVM characteristics. It’s the easiest relationship I’ve ever been in. If he upsets me, I tell him and he sincerely apologizes and changes the behavior. No excuses, no gas lighting, just ownership and change. He’s affectionate and clearly demonstrates he wants to be with me in public. He opens the car door, pulls my seat out for me, always pays, and asks what he can do better in our relationship. He starts my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 03:25 AM |
| 5 | Some quotes to practice, memorize, and repeat. Don't bow to the patriarchy, queens.😂😂😂 I’ve been saying “I know” to men who compliment me. It’s wonderful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020I wouldn’t go on a second date with a guy who took me to drinks at a bar. Both dates are low effort he doesn’t seem worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 06:12 PM |
| 3 | Some quotes to practice, memorize, and repeat. Don't bow to the patriarchy, queens.Get it girl! I had the experience of working with a LVM who enjoyed targeting new young women at my company and sexually harassing them. I made sure it ended with me because I too reported him after amassing enough evidence. Fuck LVM. Fuck harassment. Good on you for reporting him I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 05:30 PM |
| 31 | Some quotes to practice, memorize, and repeat. Don't bow to the patriarchy, queens.Right. Because letting someone make you uncomfortable for the sake of the relationship is appropriate 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 04:34 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020I think so, yes. Just a hike date? No effort in that. I'd expect a picnic + hike or a hike then going to lunch/dinner. Be careful going on hikes with men you have not had the opportunity to vet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 03:24 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020In my experience, no. I dated two LVM. LVM 1: would get on tinder when were were apart, would flirt with other women behind my back, was verbally/emotionally abusive and would degrade me constantly. Things ended with him. He instantly starts dating a coworker in an LDR. Takes her to all kinds of fancy places and on exotic trips, posts about how much he loves her all the time on social media. I was devastated and quite sad. How could he treat her soooooooo much better than me? Fast forward 2 ye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020Ew. He sounds LVM and like he wouldn't be a good parent. I very carefully watched how my guy interacts with the dog because I want kids one day and picking an attentive father is very important to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 03:59 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020Nope. If he likes you enough he'll make the effort. My guy wanted to see me so put the time in planning things for us to do and asking me out. I've mentioned off hand things I like to do (rock climbing, mini golf, hiking) and he uses that to plan the dates we go on. I have, gently, rebuffed him when I feel like he's not putting enough effort into dates in a playful manner but as far as actually planning anything that's his realm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 02:37 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020When I was doing OLD I found the same men on all of the OLD platforms. Like Evil_Rao mentioned it is absolutely overrun with LVM. As long as you understand this and are willing to wade through the absolute treasure trove of trash you can find a good guy on OLD but it's a lot of junk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 12:47 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020To offer a different perspective I too have a dog and she comes with me sometimes when I stay with my boyfriend. The dog is a long haired breed (think Bernese Mountain Dog), sheds a ton, and makes a big mess with slobber/whacking things with her tail. Boyfriend's place is spotless and he never complains about having to do extra cleaning due to the dog staying the night. He treats her very well and takes her out in the morning/evenings without me asking even though she isn't his dog. If a guy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 12:44 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020Personally I never initiate dates unless it is for a special circumstance (his birthday). I thank him amply for initiating dates and make it known that it makes me feel special and appreciated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 12:40 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020I work on what I can. Good skincare routine, dress well, hit the gym. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020Self improvement is a big deal :) as is taking yourself on dates! Glad you’re having a good time with it 😊 No one has more audacity than me on OLD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 05:58 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020Hmmm I’d try “one of my hobbies is baking for my family/friends”, “I enjoy baking for people I’m close to” etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 02:04 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020Stay strong sis 💕 you deserve someone who will put the effort in. Personally I’d X the whole man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 03:33 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020Imo you’re looking at it wrong. Women are the ones with an abundance of options. In every species it is the female that does the mate selection not the male. Women risk so much more in procreation. If a man can’t step up to the plate and do a dinner date than X. Who cares if he has other options you want a man who sees you as the prize and will continue to pursue you. You risk more than he does. Women do the mate selection. You’re the prize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 03:27 PM |
| 8 | Out at a bar and was harassed twice in the first 5 minutesTouched repeatedly and kept grabbing my arm after I said to stop which imo qualifies as harassment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 03:21 PM |
| 8 | Dress Code for a HVW?It absolutely matters even if it's something people don't want to admit. Starting summer 2019 I changed my whole wardrobe and moved to a more polished look. I was raised by a mother who never taught me a thing about makeup, taking care of myself, or how to dress nicely. I work in the business world and would show up in jeans, converse, and sometimes a corporate t-shirt. I completely threw out all my closet this past summer and bought a few staple pieces. I am a fan of dressing femininely and loo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 03:53 PM |
| 2 | This is a one way ticket to being a forever girlfriend! No ring, no investment. Even then, investing in yourself is top priority.On the bright side, we learned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 06:13 PM |
| 8 | Ladies, I think I found a HVMAwwwww he sounds awesome! I'd still evaluate and vet but enjoy the treatment :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 02:34 PM |
| 7 | This is a one way ticket to being a forever girlfriend! No ring, no investment. Even then, investing in yourself is top priority.I too was a 🤡 dated an unemployed cashier (yes you read that right) and financially supported him. Would send him money every month at the expense of not getting things for myself. So much cringe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 02:29 PM |
| 3 | About His Social Media Posts: Everyone doesn’t need to know your day-to-day business, but EVERYONE should know you’re a couple. There’s a big difference between privacy and secrecy. Don’t get played.It sucks that these experiences are so common but hopefully we can educate others to help them avoid the black holes that are LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 12:38 PM |
| 31 | About His Social Media Posts: Everyone doesn’t need to know your day-to-day business, but EVERYONE should know you’re a couple. There’s a big difference between privacy and secrecy. Don’t get played.Same girl. He couldn't post me because he went through a "bad breakup" with the girl before me and didn't want to go have to (potentially) go through deleting all of our pictures if we broke up. Fast forward to him improving himself enough to get someone else and he's posting pictures of her within a week of us breaking up saying how much he loves her and how beautiful she is. If he won't post pictures of you he's just not that into you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 09:39 PM |
| 20 | I’m a Pickmeisha learning how to become a HVW and I just remembered one of the worst PickMe things I ever did. Come cringe with me!Ah girl. At least you’ve learned from your past and are working on making better decisions moving forward. I think a lot of us on here have done cringey things in our past. You wouldn’t be where you are today without the experiences you’ve been through and what is important is that you learn from them which it sounds like you have 💞💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 06:38 PM |
| 21 | Small things your HVM does to demonstrate he puts you first?Awwww sounds like you got a good one sis 😍🥰😊 The car door opening is so refreshing and I appreciate it so much. It’s not because I can’t do it, to me it’s entirely in the gesture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 04:44 AM |
| 23 | Small things your HVM does to demonstrate he puts you first?Oh my gosh that is the cutest thing I’ve read 😭 a bridge tour sounds absolutely adorable. My boyfriend knows I like blender bottles and bought me a custom one with a quote from a TV show he’s never seen but has heard me quote. You’re absolutely right HVM like surprises especially thoughtful ones that let you know they’ve been paying attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 04:42 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/20/2020Congrats sis! It sounds like you’re moving to a much healthier spot ❤️ your relationship with yourself sets the tone for your relationship with others. Self work can be hard but it’s always worth it. 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 09:56 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/20/2020You can’t find the right guy for you if you are stuck hanging onto your ex. Exes are exes for a reason. If you need help knocking off the love goggles I’d suggest keeping a list of all the things you dislike about him, get your friends and family involved in making this list too. Anytime you want to put him on a pedestal revisit your list it helps to remember they’re just human. Block, delete, and allow yourself to move on sis 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/20/2020Given that you told him about past trauma and he indicated he was okay taking it slow I wouldn’t be concerned yet. Unlike the pp I don’t think 6 weeks is fast to DTR my current boyfriend asked for exclusivity right at the 6 week mark like it suggests in the FDS handbook 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 09:50 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/20/2020OLD is a complete 💩 show | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 09:46 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/20/2020You’ll get it girl! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 09:44 PM |
| 85 | He wouldn't walk me to my carEwww how gross 🤮 my boyfriend offered to meet me at my car on our first date bc the restaurant was in a bad area. I said no bc I didn’t know him well but the effort was there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 01:31 AM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/20/2020Gotta agree with the other poster. My boyfriend doesn’t even ask me to “chill” it’s pretty disrespectful imo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 11:25 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/20/2020Personally I’m not receptive to being approached at the airport bc I’m a small woman traveling alone but to each their own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 11:24 PM |
| 17 | Fuck MenReminds me of my LVM ex who would get on tinder whenever we were separated and then get mad at me if I got upset bc it was “just conversations.” Dude was the lowest of the low LVM. You deserve better girl. Go get it 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 02:46 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/20/2020I try to control what I can. Workout, eat well, dress nicely, and have a good skin routine. I get cold approached in places where it’s considered generally inappropriate (the gym, the airport) quite frequently so I’d say controlling what you can works. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 12:15 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/20/2020Of course girl! Just wanted to make sure that you are considering yourself and your needs and not compromising on them. It can be a hard line to walk between "this is something worth fixing" and "I am compromising my boundaries/needs". I understand how upsetting it can be to consider ending a relationship and am sorry you had to go through that but am proud of you for having the backbone to end it if needed. I hope you are able to get what you want out of it whatever that may be <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 05:40 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/20/2020Girl. Why are you going out with him if this therapy session confirmed how you feel about him and his behavior has been making you cry off and on for days? It doesn't seem like he's worth your time or is a HVM. Cut him off girl you deserve better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 05:16 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/20/2020Keep your chin up <3 what you did was very brave. I'd suggest therapy if you have the financial means to afford it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 05:11 PM |
| 11 | Most men don't care about their sexual healthI was completely floored. None of my exes ever thought to get tested. bf scheduled it, let me know the date, and gave me the results. Annnnnnd went with me when I got my blood drawn for my STD test because I'm a baby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 02:59 PM |
| 15 | Most men don't care about their sexual healthBoyfriend went and got tested without me asking him to and provided the results :) HVM care about their sexual health just as much as HVW. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 02:56 PM |
| 2 | Be honest, your HVM isn't perfect. No one is. Let's list things they do that aren't deal breakers, but would be nice if it were different.His beard grows way too fast and the stubble scratches my face if he hasn't shaved it that morning :( he does a good job of shaving daily because he knows it eats my face. Sometimes he takes the princess/entitled attitude my mother has and projects it onto me when I am nothing like that. He brings it up thoughtfully and in private but the fact that he thinks I might be like that can be frustrating. He wakes up way too early in the morning (4 am) and even though he uses his flashlight from hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 05:33 PM |
| 2 | Straighten your crown 👑of course <3 it can be hard to remember your own worth but it's there even on days when you're struggling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Funny because it’s true especially on OLDI feel that in my soul. I was using tinder to mess with men (innocently) and take screenshots of their depravity for FSD and ended up stumbling on him by pure luck and stupid chance. I completely agree that as a generalization it's not worth it. I found trash both in person and online. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 08:50 PM |
| 5 | Funny because it’s true especially on OLDNot a bad idea :) I did find a good guy off of tinder but I had to wade through a ton of garbage to get to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 04:48 PM |
| 10 | A gentle reminder....You have so much more value than your looks to a man if you’re a HVW. My guy has reiterated several times that yes he thinks I’m super attractive but that he wanted to lock it down bc he’s enamored with my personality. Work on yourself first and the rest will come 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 09:35 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: VALENTINE'S DAY 2020 EDITION 💜Yessss go girl. I’ve told my boyfriend the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 02:35 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: VALENTINE'S DAY 2020 EDITION 💜I am cordial and will say hello if they speak to me but don't make an effort to engage in conversation beyond the bare minimum politeness. I don't see a reason to have long conversations with exes, personally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 08:06 PM |
| 9 | [Discussion] Has anyone here found quality partners resulting in a healthy relationship from sex apps like Tinder?Met my guy on tinder and he flags very HVM. Mostly though it’s full of couch creatures. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 08:52 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: VALENTINE'S DAY 2020 EDITION 💜Get those gainz girl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 03:47 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: VALENTINE'S DAY 2020 EDITION 💜So true but I found my HVM on tinder. Got extremely lucky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 03:46 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: VALENTINE'S DAY 2020 EDITION 💜Congrats girl! Sounds like you’ve made huge strides this year and deserve to treat yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 12:39 PM |
| 4 | starting the car for me and scrapping off the ice so I don't have toThanks girl! It was a lot of persistently weeding through trash | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 06:43 AM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: VALENTINE'S DAY 2020 EDITION 💜holy moly that ring is gorgeous | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 09:27 PM |
| 23 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: VALENTINE'S DAY 2020 EDITION 💜He doesn't sound like a HVM . He splits the bills knowing you're a student, doesn't initiate, and can't make you happy physically. I'd dump him and move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 03:56 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: VALENTINE'S DAY 2020 EDITION 💜Yessssss self-love is the most important <3 your relationship with yourself sets the precedent for your relationship with everyone else | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 03:53 PM |
| 22 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: VALENTINE'S DAY 2020 EDITION 💜it's okay sis. They down vote me to all hell too for giving FDS advice. Pickmeisha's don't want to hear it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)At least I'm not alone. I got down voted to hell too for suggesting that someone who was broken up with check us out. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 06:17 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)Love how I get down voted when I recommend r/FemaleDatingStrategy on other subreddits. Ridiculous. Does this happen to anyone else? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 12:58 PM |
| 3 | V-Day PlansAbsolutely agree with that <3 treasure the time with your mom. Imo Valentine's day is about love romantic or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 04:12 PM |
| 2 | Valentine's day giftsGetting him a bottle of wine, baking him some brownies, and gave him a card. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 04:11 PM |
| 3 | FDS and Valentine’s DayI'd drop him. Every guy knows about valentine's day if he was into you he'd have planned something by now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)I think that getting it out can be tremendously helpful but actually sending it can be detrimental. When I've done things like that in the past I've always ended up wishing I didn't send it. I'll write the letter of all the things I need to get off my chest and then burn it if it's paper. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 02:02 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)Lol fuck them. If they think you're crazy for knowing what you want #next and boy bye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 10:23 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)hey girl it's not worth the time, effort, or energy to call him out. Delete. Block. and move on. Let the trash take itself out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)my guy doesn't watch it and volunteered the information without me really having to look for it :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 10:10 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)Totally agree. Gotta have boundaries in all areas of your life :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 05:57 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)I felt similar and stubmled on my guy on tinder. It's still super new and I'm wary but he's been HVM every step so far and it's been wonderful. I am still prepared for it to not work out (cynicism from past relationships) but so far it's been a lot of fun. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 02:50 PM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)Go girl! that's such a win! I'm about to butcher a quote I heard but it's roughly: "what you settle for takes up the space for what you want." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 02:46 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)Hey sis. I've been through something similar. It's hard to let go of someone when they're gas lighting you and the good times are so good. One of the things I did that helped me to get over men that were inconsistently good to me was keep a list of all of the traits I disliked about the guy, all the times he hurt me. I would enlist the help of my family and friends to make this list too. Any time I would be nostalgic I would go back and read my list to remind myself that he wasn't perfect. I thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 02:38 PM |
| 27 | I just cut things off permanently with a man who kept me on the line for over 2 years.It is a big deal. You managed to let go of a loser you were stuck on for the last 2 years. Congratulations sis it's a big step. I would recommend counseling to work through the issues you will have around the relationship and why you accepted such treatment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 10:00 PM |
| 4 | What do for Valentine's day?Will do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 03:16 PM |
| 12 | What do for Valentine's day?We are in a committed relationship.I want to get something thoughtful but not over the top which I have a past history of doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 29th 2020)I won't lie to you I had absolutely no expectations and he has completely surprised me. In general I don't think it's the place to look for a HVM but they do exist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/20 11:33 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 29th 2020)I had really bad experiences with tinder and would come here to post some of the screenshots. Beginning of December I met someone off of there who meets the FDS criteria for a HVM. It's still really new and I am still watching and evaluating him but it's going ok so far. In general I think it is harder to find a HVM on apps like tinder but it can be done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 08:48 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 20th 2020)Where do we post to add something to the playlist? Make Him Wait by Abby Anderson absolutely reminds me of this sub | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 06:23 PM |
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