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I think there’s more to attraction than ticking the boxes of traits you’ve mentioned. Everyone has a certain spark that really resonates with some people. Some men experience that mutual spark more so than other men. That’s why you hear women say things like “On paper, he’s the perfect guy, but I just did’t feel any chemistry.” You’ll also see broke dudes who look homeless who have lots of success with women. I think it’s important to maximize all the attributes you can, but it’s also important …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 07:07 AM
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or get lucky like I did and meet someone on Reddit whom you serendipitously click with. After a revolving door of occasional casual flings, I found someone I’m going to marry and have kids with! I thought I’d be doomed to a life of a string of casual relationships or complete loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 07:01 AM
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I was almost completely invisible in my 20s. I was a scrawny anxiety-ridden sloth. It wasn’t until I started lifting weights intensely, building my physique, working on my confidence and social skills, and working to overcome a myriad of psych issues in my 30s that I became slightly less invisible. Having a top 90% physique has opened a lot of doors for me, but has also led to being objectified and used. Since my personality/power/influence are more middling compared to my physique, women only w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 06:58 AM
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Can confirm. I'm not a psychopath, but I wear my mental illness on my sleeve and tend to attract similarly batshit people. Well-adjusted people are "boring" and difficult to relate to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 02:55 PM
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Reality is what it is. You just have to adapt as best as you can through trial and error.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 11:22 PM
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Just for sex, children, and to be at least tolerable.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:08 PM
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Keep deluding yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:02 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 03:24 PM
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It’s annoying how we’re expected to keep score. it makes relationships transactional. And oftentimes its the woman downplaying everything the guy does while the woman considers anything she does as “free labor”.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/10/23 12:03 PM
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Anything a women does for the household is often considered “free labor”. Anything a guy does around the house is mostly ignored.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/10/23 11:55 AM
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I mentioned the double standard of how many men’s preferences in a woman is considered sexist while women’s preferences are often lauded. One preference that got Reddit post shut down was preferring women who can cook. People assumed that meant a man with that preference wanted a personal chef to control while the guy does no cooking. If a women says they prefer guys who can cook or fix things, no one bats an eye. A guy says that, many jump to the assumption that he wants a 1950s slave house wif…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/10/23 11:53 AM
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Not to feminists. Misandry doesn’t exist and women can’t be sexist due to society being run by “The Patriarchy™️"
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/10/23 11:48 AM
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And anything the woman does around the house is “free labor for a deadbeat” while any contribution the guy does around the house is ignored. I suppose that’s the definition of a true equal partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 10:12 AM
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There’s tons of assumptions being made in this thread that a guy preferring a woman who can cook and clean is forcing the woman to do those things, and they’re performing “free labor” while ignoring any contribution the guy makes. It goes to show you how warped and misandrist the world is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 10:07 AM
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Many of the comments are proving that and the point of what I wrote in my thread. People are assuming having those preferences precludes the guy from doing those things as well or that guy is a slave master wanting a slave. It’s beyond comical.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 10:04 AM
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Oh it’s now a structural power difference for a man to have a preference for a woman who can clean or cook? This is assuming the woman does it willingly and happily. It’s sad that that has to be mentioned. Believe it or not, some women enjoy cooking and cleaning. But It’s not a structural power differential to want a guy to protect a woman or do anything around the house?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 10:02 AM
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So when women say the want a man who can fix things, build things, and do other manual things, that’s not “unpaid labor” as well? The preferences for a woman who can cook or clean doesn’t mean the guy who prefers that in a woman doesn’t also do that as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 09:56 AM
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I never said men don’t cook or clean. I’m saying some men have a preference for women who can cook and clean. Having a preference for a women who can cook and clean doesn’t mean the guy doesn’t do that at all. You are proving my point about men being denigrated for having certain preferences and making assumptions that it means the guy doesn’t do what he prefers in a woman. And being submissive doesn’t mean wanting someone to control. I find it funny that many people don’t see anything wrong wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 09:53 AM
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Many are in this very thread and others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 08:18 AM
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And just because the traits don't apply to you, doesn't mean it doesn't apply to many others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 08:18 AM
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So cleaning and cooking doesn't add value to women's life when she exhibits them? Everyone has their weaknesses and strengths and every stereotypical masculine/feminine traits for each sex is more true than not. I see nothing wrong with one partner making up for the other partner's weakness with their strength and vice versa. Submissive doesn't mean being a servile Cinderella, it means wanting the guy to take the lead. Some women don't want to have to make many decisions and trust the guy to mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 08:17 AM
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So many assumptions here. Why assume preferring a woman who is good at cleaning makes the guy a useless baffoon who won't lift a finger? Maybe he's just okay at cleaning but can make up for it in other ways like fixing things around the house and other things the woman isn't that good at. If wanting a submissive partner is bad, why is not equally bad to want a dominant partner? Using your logic, a woman wanting a strong man means she's is a useless weakling. And submissive doesn't mean wanting s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 08:11 AM
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Why is it if a women struggles to orgasm during sex, it's often the guys fault and there's lots of sympathy for the women. People will say women often struggle to orgasm from penetrative sex and should explore what works for them. When a guy struggles to orgasm during sex "Is he gay?" "Maybe he's addicted to porn and masturbation?" "Ditch the loser!" There's rarely any discussion about maybe that's just how he's wired. Bringing in toys to help is ussually frowned upon and makes the woman resentf…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 07:54 AM
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I just turned 40, you know you're old when "milf" porn stars are younger than you are. I still view women in their 30s as "older".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 07:47 AM
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And thats why women shouldn't vote.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 07:32 AM
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Yep it's always the guys fault. And the woman who cheated can gain numerous sympathizers who affirm her status as a poor victim who was forced to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 07:28 AM
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It's closer to 10 partners by the time a woman is in her 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 07:22 AM
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Most women are chasing a small percentage of desirable men. Think of them as those men as the few basketball cards worth over $100 that are highly sought after. Those few guys are playing musical chairs until they decide to settle down. By boasting to the world they've got the attention of such men, these women are essentially collecting the few high value cards and are bragging about their trophies.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 07:20 AM
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LOL. I know about that article! It blew me away how something that men are used to is a rare newsworthy thing for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 05:53 PM
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Women fuckzone dudes too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 02:21 PM
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Also, women don’t take rejection well. Sometimes after getting rejected, a woman will go on a slander campaign on the rejector.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 02:20 PM
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2 red flags make it it white?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 01:41 PM
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I (male) personally would prefer a 6 face with a 9 body.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 12:48 AM
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I’d say overall women care less about weight. When it comes to judging looks, women care more about how attractive a man’s face is. Most women would prefer a guy with a 9 face and a 6 body than the inverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 10:39 PM
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If I made six figures a year, I'd go with the 21 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 09:43 PM
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Does she wear the pants in the relationship? I get the impression she’s controlling.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 11:58 PM
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But how many mentally healthy people are there?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 11:56 PM
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I don't know man. Most dudes I know and including myself have some standards and self-respect. I'd say I find maybe 15% of women sexually attractive. You'd have to pay me lots of money to have sex with the rest of the 85%.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 07:05 AM
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And oftetimes, the women know either implicitly or explicitly (sometimes pretending to be ignorant) and don't care. I know a player type of dude who is engaged and has sex and is flirty with all the women in the friend group. They all know he's a player and engaged, but they still get handsy with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 07:01 AM
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A former form friend circle I was a part of had 3 chads who had sex/affection from nearly all the women in the group. The rest of the dudes were incels or in relationships with women below them (often it was an attractive dude in a relationship with a fat chick less attractive than the guy).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 06:59 AM
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No they don't cancel each other out. Slutty women still have lots of options. Virgin men little to no options. And virgin men are disdained by women to a much greater degree than slutty women are by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 06:54 AM
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I think a large number of women have had sex with guys who rate 2+ higher than them in looks and such women's egos leads them to believe they will eventually snag a guy more attractive than them. But the reality is, the more attractive guys don't want to settle for someone much more ugly than them. Eventually women's biological clock starts ticking, and they resentfully settle for a guy closer to them in looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 06:41 AM
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You just have to be better in nearly every way (most important metrics to be better are wealth and status) for women to be interested in you. Otherwise, women will find you invisible.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 06:32 AM
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5'7.5" 165 13% body fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 06:29 AM
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I know a few short dudes who pull lots of chicks. But they have a rare type of hypnotic charisma that causes the brains of people around him to flood with happy neurochemicals.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 06:28 AM
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Looks matter a lot for online dating. For meeting women in person, it matters less.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 06:26 AM
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It goes to show you how fickle attraction can be and how men walk a fine line between being a Chad and an Incel. I was mostly invisible during my 20s and was mostly a scrawny socially awkward shut in. Throughout my 30s, I've gone from mega incel to giga chad to everything in between depending on my mental state, wealth, physique, and physical health. During bouts of depression, my hygiene gets worse, my libido tanks, I workout less, eat less, and my apartment gets messy; all of which cause deser…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 06:26 AM
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Ever since I got muscular, I got way more attention as well. I was basically invisible when I was scrawny.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 11:44 PM
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Yep. The average dude just take what they can and hope for the best. Most guys I know date downward and bend over backwards to satisfy their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 11:43 PM
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Numerous studies have shown women prefer men who earn more than they do, and the odds of the woman initiating a divorce are higher if the woman earns more than the guy. Exceptions don’t prove the rule that overall, women prefer men who are equal or better in income, status, and height.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 08:52 AM
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I'd consider myself a red leaning purple piller and believe the red pill is about viewing the world as objectively as possible while understanding that some things are hard to be 100% objective. In practical terms, it's instilled the drive and discipline to be the best man I can be by fostering a healthy mind and physicality and to stay true to my most important values and to find women with similar important values. I used to be a people pleasing doormat but realized I was just self-sabotaging …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 11:57 AM
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Just observe the world from the 1950s and prior or look at Muslim countries with Sharia law like Iran or Saudi Arabia.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:05 AM
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I try but I'm stuck in the super woke matrix. I live in the wokest place on Earth and work for a super woke company. Most of my social circles are woke. One slip up, and I'm going to be met with extreme scorn. I do speak in whispered tones with other people who are also sick of the nonsense but are also afraid of committing social suicide and just go along to get along. I'm doing a soft "ghosting" by gradually escaping the woke matrix and will eventually move someplace more sane. Oddly, prior to…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/22 08:34 AM
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There was study that showed the average woman has magnitudes more list of absolute must have traits and dealbreakers than men. Overall, women overwhelmingly prefer a man who is better in every metric from being taller, wealthier, higher in status, etc. There's also another study that concluded most women (including feminists) prefer men who are benevolent sexists; which was used as a euphemism in the study for men with stereotypically masculine traits. But how dare men for having preferences in …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/22 08:28 AM
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Most on the left wouldn't dare touch this issue with a ten foot pole. It could be social suicide. I think many men feel they have to suffer in silence or be ostracized as that creepy incel neckbeard alt-right MRA.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/08/22 10:30 AM
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A man could say something like "Man the dating field is tough. I barely get any matches on Tinder. If only I were taller, wealthier, and better looking..." and be met with a barrage of pejoratives like "NECKBEARD!" "INCEL!"
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/08/22 10:29 AM
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Amen brother (or sister?)! I agree, the bar for what's expected of men keeps rising while the bar of what's expected of women lowers (or remains the same). Most women are reluctant to date/marry men who earn less, less educated, have less status, shorter, uglier, and other metrics. As more women surpass more men in education and status and other metrics, it leaves more and more men behind with fewer and fewer options. Many women will claim to be willing to date/marry men who are lesser than, but…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/08/22 10:26 AM
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But most feminists refuse to admit this. They prattle on about equality and choice, yet their actions don't match their words. Men are expected to be a weird hybrid of traditional and whatever the feminists want. Feminists want equality only when it benefits themselves but want a strong man to save them when things go sour. They also expect men to take initiative for certain things like asking women out and save them from danger, but they expect men to be their sycophants and do their bidding. M…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/08/22 10:19 AM
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Yeah there are tons of lonely single dudes who feel disenfranchised and ignored. Many lack a strong father figure and yearn for some fatherly guidance. When they mention their plight, they get insulted as being neckbeards, incels, and other pejoratives while they are expected to coddle women. So it's very easy to see how red pill dudes can fill this vacuum that no one else is stepping up to fill.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/08/22 10:13 AM
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It's tough reading what women want when it comes to dating, as they are all over the places with being traditionalists and feminists. The ones who lean closer towards feminism will claim they want equality except when equality becomes a nuisance for them and want "the man" to make some sort of sacrifice and save them. Feminists have loooooooooong lists of what they want in a man and lot's of things they consider red flags. What they say is often incongruent with their actions. Only 5% of women w…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/08/22 10:09 AM
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Beggars can't be choosers
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 12:37 AM
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Everyone has numerous attributes that can be seen as good or bad. As for the attractive woman with a large social circle, think about how difficult it would be keep track of everyone in the circle as they all vie for attention. Think about how many people only want to be her friend because of her beauty. Think about the stalkers she likely has to deal with and how vulnerable she must feel. Think about how life will make a 180 turn as she ages and is no longer as beautiful. Yeah she may have many…
/r/ExRedPill28/05/22 05:04 AM
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Are you also annoyed by the dudes who say "I'm sorry on behalf of all men..."?
/r/MensRights28/02/22 05:45 PM
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Best way to cope with death is with dark humor. Or we can be like "We stand with Ukraine!" "Putin bad!"
/r/MensRights28/02/22 05:39 PM
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Because "patriarchy!" "I'm anti-war and the draft!" But they never talk about the realities of life and what real world strategies they'd implement that they deem fair for both (or hundreds) of sexes. Funny how with feminism, there's a strict delineation between men and women. I thought male and female weren't biologically that different and that gender is whatever you believe it to be.
/r/MensRights28/02/22 05:32 PM
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Well my job is done here boys. They could handle the heat, so they kicked me out of their kitchen! "You have been permanently banned from participating in r/TrollXChromosomes. You can still view and subscribe to r/TrollXChromosomes, but you won't be able to post or comment.If you have a question regarding your ban, you can contact the moderator team for r/TrollXChromosomes by replying to this message.Reminder from the Reddit staff: If you use another account to circumvent this subreddit ban, tha…
/r/MensRights28/02/22 05:29 PM
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That's sexist!
/r/PussyPass28/02/22 05:22 PM
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Dodge the question and say "I'm against war/the draft!"
/r/MensRights28/02/22 05:08 PM
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The most common "flee into the abstraction" of them all is "It's the fault of the patriarchy!"
/r/MensRights28/02/22 04:54 PM
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Feminism (and all brands of wokeness) are socially acceptable forms of Cluster B Personality disorders narcissistic, anti-social (sociopathy), and borderline personality disorders.
/r/MensRights28/02/22 04:52 PM
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I think most of us here think Ukraine is doing the right thing. Our, or my own personal point is to show how absurd feminist arguments of sex equality is. Just identify as a women and flee!
/r/MensRights28/02/22 04:49 PM
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Their Trump card is "It's the fault of the patriarchy".
/r/MensRights28/02/22 04:47 PM
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how many is "many"?
/r/MensRights28/02/22 04:46 PM
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in the feminist subreddits, many women are saying things like "There are women fighting alongside men too!" but fail to mention they make up a tiny fraction of fighters. I've seen some say "I was in the military for x years! Women can fight too!" Again, failing to mention she's a huge outlier. Another angle they come from is "There lots of rape in the military! It's not safe for women!" Which is a legit but then women are at high risk of rape just leaving their house. Perhaps they should just li…
/r/MensRights28/02/22 04:46 PM
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I've never met one of you before. Where do women like you tend to congregate? Asking for m'friend.
/r/MensRights28/02/22 04:43 PM
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1 liter of free Vodka per year.
/r/MensRights28/02/22 04:40 PM
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"It's the patriarchies fault that men have to stay and fight and die!"
/r/MensRights28/02/22 04:40 PM
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Many women there are saying "There are women staying and fighting!" or "I was in the military!" But they fail to mention women fighting make up a minuscule fraction of the force .
/r/MensRights28/02/22 04:39 PM
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For me, indifference don't-give-a-fuck-attitude is what helps me get laid. I used to be more of a desperate fawning puppy who constantly apologized and molded my behaviors to her whims. Now I act how I wanna act in accordance to my ideals and values and allow the chips fall where they may.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 02:13 AM
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Yeah it's a fraction of a fraction of men who initiated divorce in those cases. of the PubMed study. Divorce rate of the 516 participants of the study was 11% and 6 times more men than women of that 11% initiated divorce. Tiny tiny sliver.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 01:55 AM
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Women Initiate Divorce Much More Than Men, Here's Why https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-new-resilience/201508/women-initiate-divorce-much-more-men-heres-why
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 01:47 AM
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"Divorce enquiries to legal firms soar by 95% in pandemic with women driving surge in interest" https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/divorce-inquiries-rise-pandemic-women-b1843359.html
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 01:47 AM
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In fact, nearly 70 percent of divorces are initiatedby women. This is according to a 2015 research study conducted by theAmerican Sociological Association (ASA) which suggests two-thirds of alldivorces are initiated by women. Among college-educated women, thinumber jumps up to 90%. https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=2ahUKEwiZ05bVlrr1AhWlMX0KHR0DCXYQFnoECAQQAw&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.whitleylawfirmpc.com%2F3-reasons-why-women-initiate-divorce-more-ofte…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 01:46 AM
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People were claiming things like I was looking for a designer baby, "WOMEN CAN HAVE BABIES IN THEIR 40s!", "there's more to a woman than their fertility! why does it matter if you love someone!", etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 01:43 AM
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The above answer applies to the other comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:57 PM
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it helps that I look young for my age and workout like a maniac. I consider myself lazy (slightly less so with heath/fitness), so it astonishes how much lazier men are regarding their health and fitness and really let themselves go. And thank goodness for rampant daddy issues!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:48 PM
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And the Tinder algorithm is set to further reduce matches on the free version and the older a guy is, the more Tinder charges for their numerous upgrades to get more matches. Tinder is cock on demand for most women, 60% and above. It’s pussy on demand for the top 10% guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:41 PM
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but less power with the top 5% dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:37 PM
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basically the beta has to be a well-trained dog to be rewarded with the treat of sex. whereas the alpha picks and chooses whom he has sex with (and many rules women have about men don’t apply to them) and in some cases the woman is the trained dog reward with sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:37 PM
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and need to lower their standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:28 PM
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bot are true
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:28 PM
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and they blame men for their lack of sex and are consoled for their lack of sex. Men are labeled incels and ridiculed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:27 PM
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I already know tons of single “wine ladies” who blame men for their loneliness and lack of prospects. I hooked up with one (learned my lesson never again!) who is blaming me for barely talking to her and complained about men “not knowing what they want”.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:26 PM
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thank goodness for rampant daddy issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:23 PM
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I’m in my late 30s. I’ve nearly given up on the idea of having kids, which is the only reason I’d get married. 45 would be the very oldest I’d be willing to have a child. I’d be willing to have a child with a woman up to 35, but apparently that’s a sexist notion according to the dozens of negative comments I received on my own personal FB page when I mentioned I had a sudden last minute urge to have kids. I’m also content being a lone wolf and have accepted reality for what it is rather begrudgi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:19 PM
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By many women. I dont care (well i do to a degree but tis what tis you know). Just stating facts. Men are more readily ridiculed for complaining about women than women complaining about men. If you deny that fact or demand evidence, then you are willfully ignorant and not worth having any further discussions with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:12 PM
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My anecdotes refutes your anecdote.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:10 PM
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In the end, it’s always mens fault. If a woman complains about lack of orgasms, its mens fault for being bad in bed. If a guy has delayed orgasms or erection issues, he has no one to blame but himself. If a woman has bipolar, the guy is expected to be patient and accommodating. Should he contemplate breaking up, he’s an inconsiderate a$$hole. If a guy has bipolar, “Ditch the loser man boy! you deserve better!”. Women are more likely to initiate breakups and divorces. But when women are 35+ and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:01 PM
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but men are ridiculed as incels for daring to say the slightest bad thing about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:55 PM
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or hit there wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:54 PM
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agreed. like when asked about your weaknesses during a job interview, you don’t want to self-sabotage yourself but saying you’re an alcoholic who was abused as a child and lash out at people for minor perceived sleights and are a kleptomaniac. You wanna mention milder weaknesses that you’ve overcome or are in the process of overcoming. Sprinkle that salt sparingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:52 PM
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Timing is important indeed. You don’t wanna lay out all the traumas and issues you have right off the bat. Establish a trusting connection first then tactically share vulnerabilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:47 PM
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I just try to live in accordance to my values and allow the chips fall where they may. There are innumerable double standards and injustices in the world. Life isn’t fair, yada yada, yada. If a woman is repulsed by opening up and being vulnerable then so be it. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who expects me to bottle everything in and be a stoic (the dictionary version) who has everything together at all times.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:42 PM
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Better they show their true colors now than later. Think of it as your personal sh!t test.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:38 PM
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Men generally have more to lose. Everyone knows this (even if just subconsciously). Look at the stark responses whenever women ask for relationship advice vs men. People are more likely to say “ditch the loser” and “you deserve better” to women than to men asking for advice about similar situations. Men are more often told be patient with their partners’ issues and are more likely told they’re heartless a$$holes for considering a break up than women are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:36 PM
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Agreed. Double standards will always exist, and you WILL be judged unfairly as a male. Just live your best life in a way that upholds your values the best you can and allow what may be, be. Yes, male weakness is more frowned upon than female weakness. In spite of whatever feminists say, men are held to a higher standard and are labeled “losers” more readily than females are. C’est la vie. Fixating on double standards often leads others to consider you a whiny bitch. So fixate on double standards…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:24 PM
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I think everyone hates weakness. But men weakness is weighed more heavily than women weakness. People are more quick to label a men “losers” than they are with women. Look at the numerous posts about relationship advice. Guys are expected to be more patient with issues their gf may be going through. Some go as far as considering men who contemplate breaking up as heartless a$$holes but would say “dump a the loser” whenever women ask for advice with reverend gender roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:16 PM
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There is a comedian who mentioned he was raped in a serious manner and the women (men too of course) there cracked up laughing uncontrollably. The comedian initially looked saddened and upset about the reaction, then switched to making jokes about it. There’s not much to be gained for a guy who to mention they were raped. Most people will outwardly show sympathy but most will think you are weak for allowing it to happen or you are exaggerating for attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:04 PM
1

Countries/municipalities where prostitution is legal or decriminalized have low number of women in that profession. And the reduced sex trafficking, etc is relevant to the conversation to point out the net benefits of legalizing prostitution to the negatives of the reduction in datable (to me) women. someone else also pointed out in this thread how surrogate sex work is horrible and many are forced into it for various reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:33 PM
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Only a small percentage of women would become a sex worker if it became legal. Also, legalizing it would significantly reduce sex trafficking and horrible working conditions among other benefits. The downside of a tiny percentage of more women becoming undatable (to me) sex workers is offset by the numerous benefits to society.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:29 PM
1

No. Just because someone thinks a profession should be legal doesn’t mean they should be okay with that in a partner. Everyone has a right to their own sexual preferences without being shamed for it. If something turns you off sexually, who are you to tell to tell them the shouldn’t not be turned on by it? Im sure you are reluctant to date someone of certain professions like garbage men or McDonald’s employee. Stop shaming men for their sexual preferences. You don’t like it when people shame you…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:21 PM
3

These surrogates are professionals and are doing it on their own volition.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:20 PM
1

More reason to legalize prostitution
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:19 PM
6

I’d appreciate it if you didn’t gaslight me like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 08:53 PM
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Boohoo. Feminist always make it about themselves when men issues are discussed. You don’t want men invading your conversation of women’s issues making “what about us men” demands, please have the decency to do the same. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 08:39 PM
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Feminists always cry about men derailing the conversation and making it about them with their “what aboutism”. You’re doing the same with your “what about the women!?” We aren’t talking about women being deprived of sex, we’re talking about men deprived of sex. Also, there are options for women plus it’s much easier for women to find others to have sex with. Furthermore, there aren’t many disabled women clamoring for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 08:37 PM
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Men are expected to bend backwards to accommodate the whims of women’s desires. If men have sexual issues, women are MUCH less accommodating or understanding. Since men have more to lose from a break up, women don’t feel as compelled to work things out. Theoretically, sexual double standards shouldn’t exist, but they will exist regardless of how enlightened one is. I just wish more women would be more honest about the existence of and reasons (whether due to biology or culture) for these double …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 04:23 AM
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It’s always the mans fault and women are beyond reproach as if they don’t have any agency. We have legions of men spending money on Onlyfans, strip clubs, cam sites,’etc who continue to perpetuate the sexual marketplace imbalance. Men are getting more and more desperate these days and women are leveraging the growing desperation to gain power and control over men. Besides spreading “anti-simping” messages, what more can be done to stop this from getting worse?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 04:11 AM
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Yeah. Instead of trying to understand and find ways to address the imbalance of the sexual marketplace, women would rather denigrate most men for being incel losers. “Nobody owes men sex!” Of course not captain obvious. But society isn’t benefited by the growing legions of desperate men who’ll do almost anything to gain access to vagina. Women are reluctant to check their pussy (and other) privilege, but demand men check all their privileges and eschew all toxic masculine behavior while women ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 04:08 AM
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Yes. Men must cater and bend over backwards to women’s whim, as men have more lose after a breakup. Every dude is one swipe away from being dumped. Women can rebound much more easily with dick-on-demand apps like Tinder. Women leverage the hell out of this imbalance.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 03:59 AM
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But women get more passes than men for such abhorrent behaviors
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 03:54 AM
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The onus is usually on the guy to either fix his sexual issues ASAP or help his partner work through her sexual issues. If they man isn’t in the mood as often, he’s often viewed with disdain. If a woman isn’t in the mood as often, men are usually more patient and understanding and more eager to work through the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 03:53 AM
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When men are the one’s not in the mood more often, they are seen as losers; a bad lay; perhaps gay; doesn’t find her sexually attractive, etc. The pressure is on the man to fix the issue ASAP. When women aren’t in the mood as often, men are expected to be patient and understanding and work with her through her issues. Women are much less understanding about men who have sexual issues and are more inclined to breakup/divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 03:47 AM
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Pussy control. Some wield it disgusting ways to gain control of their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 03:40 AM
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God forbid you tell you gf/wife you’re not in the mood or can’t get it up when she’s super horny. Women can’t tolerate rejection and expect men to cater to their whims. Men are expected to accept being rejected by women for all kinds of reasons b
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 10:05 AM
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And god forbid you cum too soon or are unable to. Or if you experience impotence. Women are much more likely to break up with a man with such issues than men would for women with similar sexual issues. Men have to bend backwards and cater to the whims of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 10:00 AM
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At least your honest about it. What annoys me is how some women are quick to shame men for merely stating physical preferences in women, while they themselves freely state height, weight, and other physical preferences I get the impression men should be accepting and settle go ugly women while women can be picky about physical preferences and should never settle for anything less.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 01:19 AM
3

Aka height privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 01:14 AM
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And we should blame single moms for men being socially unadjusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 01:13 AM
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My point is many women expect much more in a man than what they bring to the table and can be mercilessly denigrating about attributes of ‘losers’ they themselves exhibit. But I personally don’t care about how much a woman makes within reason. I don’t want to have to shoulder most of her expenses.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 01:08 AM
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No one will bat an eye if a woman teased a guy for being fat, short, bald, have a small penis, ugly, etc. so it’s done freely. Whereas men get shamed for body shaming women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 12:13 AM
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People are walking on eggshells and are careful not to offend.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 12:10 AM
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You basically have to be a 24/7 dopamine drip. We need more, better, faster, more extreme as we become more desensitized. If you cannot be the drug to provide that, she will get her fix elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 12:09 AM
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Exceptions don’t make the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 12:04 AM
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And wanting a chaste woman or at least a women with a low partner count is viewed as backwards, misogynistic, incel-ish, etc. Men are derided for many of their preferences while women are free to express theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 11:53 PM
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We’re worse off for this. Rarely are people on the same page anymore and are confused. Feminists want to be independent and do away with gender norms unless it benefits them. They want fairness but are dismissive or even mercilessly denigrating whenever issues of fairness for men arise. They are quick to yell “not all women!” while stereotyping men. Patriarchy is the root of most evils, so if a women fails or screws up, it’s the fault of patriarchy and women have little to no agency and are vict…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 11:46 PM
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It’s true. People are crueler and more judgmental these days but have also become more keen about lying about how tolerant and inclusive they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 11:39 PM
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Who says those things? Maybe in the 90s and earlier or if you live in a super religious area. Single motherhood is super popular. Polyamory is also popular. Rates of marriage are plummeting. Body shaming is now a sin and body positivity(no matter how ugly you are) is in. At the same time, pretty privilege or halo effect is real and mostly an inborn thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 11:34 PM
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Nope. And women are much more into body shaming men than men are of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 11:31 PM
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Nope. I’ve seen women who’ve posted selfies upon waking up with no makeup and get a barrage of attention. As long as the woman okay looking at least, she will get lots of attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 11:31 PM
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The basicest and plainest of plain Jane’s can just post an out of focus selfie with tiny bit of cleavage to be sent a barrage of attention on FB. Oddly enough, such women will decry dude’s who post selfie’s and will immediately swipe left on men with selfie profile pics unless that dude is super hot because rules or red flags don’t apply to men who send women into a state of hypnotic submission. I know many super basic b!tches who work menial jobs, have flabby bodies, barely exercise, eat like a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 11:18 PM
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The planest of plane Jane’s don’t need to do much to be showered with attention on FB. Just post an okay selfie, “damn girl you are hot!” Or if they do something that takes very low effort like doing a light barbell squat while wearing tights, they will be sent a barrage of attention. There are tons of thirsty dudes out there and many “girl power” womyn congratulating other womyn for doing basic things.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 11:08 PM
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Overestimating one’s look is easy to do with dick-on-demand apps like Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 11:03 PM
1

“Where are all the good men?” Translation: “where are all the statistically anomalous 99th percentile men who are smart as Elon Musk, witty as Russel Brand, hot as Justin Trudeau, and funny as Dave Chapelle who also earn 6 figures and has a high status job (or high status in some other way)?”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 11:01 PM
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True. They list 100 things they demand in a man. Yet they work a menial job, aren’t particularly that attractive, barely exercises, eats lots of junk food, don’t excel at anything, etc themselves. Dick-on-demand apps like Tinder or even Facebook has inflated many women’s ego. The plainest mediocre Jane’s get tons of attention online with lots of ‘likes’, compliments, and DMs. The problem arises when this bland mediocre woman tries to settle down with the hot dude she met (along with dozens of ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 10:44 PM
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Rise of single motherhood raising f@cked angry boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 03:29 AM
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What is the point of life anymore esp in the US? Half the country hates the other half and is on the verge of civil war. The desire for children is low. Technology has made many jobs obsolete and aren’t being replaced at the same rate. Housing has gotten prohibitively expensive but wages have been stagnant or dropping.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 03:28 AM
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With a large number of women going to college (I think it’s 60/40 women to men ratio) and getting more jobs and women refusing to date down, that leaves more men behind. Add in easy access to porn, social media sucking our lives away and rotting porn brains, single mothers raising incels, dick-on-demand apps aka Tinder, and lower testosterone levels, the desire to find a mate becomes a lost causes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 03:25 AM
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Add porn and low testosterone to the mix and the desire to find a mate plummets.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 03:22 AM
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Having a child is becoming more out of reach financially and the desire for children is very low. There isn’t much point in being in long-term relationship ‘playing house’ and most people would rather stay single or sleep around. And with more women getting college degrees and better job and having a low desire to date down, that leaves more and more men behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 03:20 AM
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Single motherhood raising socially inept boys; lower testosterone levels reducing that drive to hunt in men; more women are going to college and better jobs and most women date laterally or upward (yeah I know you know exceptions to this rule); analysis paralysis causing women to have women one foot out the door the moment something goes wrong or she finds a better dude with dick-on-demand apps so every dude is one swipe way of being broken up with; less desire to have kids leads to less desire …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 03:14 AM
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Only 14.5% of American men are 6 ft or taller. So women with that requirement are severely limiting their pool of potential mates.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 05:20 PM
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How many men put a height requirement on their dating profile vs women? Hint, a lot less.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 05:19 PM
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I bet more men are willing to date taller women than women are willing to date shorter men. I think men are just less picky about height overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 05:15 PM
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After reading that, I just thought her bf was an asshole but didn’t see any definitive signs her bf being red pill. Regardless of his red pill status, he’s a POS whom she should break up with.
/r/ExRedPill16/09/20 05:18 AM
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Why does understanding women preclude them from being loved? Is the implication that once you truly understand women, you disdain them and that love for a women can happen once the "truth" has been revealed? What a load of shit if that's what they are trying to say!
/r/ExRedPill13/09/20 04:08 AM
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If I did enough drugs, I think I could at least somewhat barely enjoy the experience.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/09/20 06:39 AM
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But are you willing to date a man in a similar position as you? HELL NO!!! You'd dismiss him as a POS scrub, which is what you are as well!!!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/09/20 03:36 AM
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Men are expected to accept women for all their fucked up faults. Men are also expected to bend to the will of women or they'll threaten to break up with you because they are always perfect and men are highly flawed and need to constantly improve themselves.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/09/20 03:35 AM
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Yup, she probably is still as picky (or even pickier) as she was in her 20s. Yeah, everything is men's fault! She's completely innocent and play no role in repelling men. lol
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/09/20 03:31 AM
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Damn. Only the desperate of desperate of men would go for something like that! I'd only date or have sex with this female if I were paid a minimum of $500. I guess that makes me a shallow chauvinist.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/09/20 03:27 AM
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I admittedly only glanced at this post. But the snippets I read rang true with me. I think extremist arguments from "all sides" are constantly flung at each other out of spite and with the misguided notion that it's the best way to persuade someone to believe what you believe. Many of these arguments have varying degrees of truths to them, but seldom do they apply to the majority. During my worst redpill years, I truly believed "AWALT" and that every woman was a slut on the CC and gold digger wh…
/r/ExRedPill06/09/20 09:57 AM
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The results were for voluntary circumcisions for medical issues, which is what I'm not against. But studies as that one and numerous other strongly indicate that the more foreskin is removed, the lower sensitivity due to the removal of thousands of pleasure receptors. The foreskin is analogous to the clitoral hood. Image having your clitoral hood removed (if your're a woman) and your clitoris constantly exposed? Initially it'll feel painful as it rubs against clothing but will keratinize and los…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 09:38 AM
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In hindsight, I was extreme and stupid for posting this. It was done in the heat of the moment after reading a few anti-circumcision posts that compared the two. My knee-jerk reaction was the title of this post. If given the choice, I'd personally choose rape over circumcision in many (but not all) instances; I think there's lots of overlap between the level of trauma they cause but the answer as to which is worse isn't one or the other and depends on the severity of the act and numerous other f…
/r/MensRights06/09/20 09:22 AM
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The reason I brought this up is because I came across various anti-circumcision posts that compared rape to circumcision. My knee-jerk reaction was the title of this post. I knew it was a hyperbolic reaction, but I felt a pressing to vent my frustrations regardless of the reactions. You make a good point about not having to make gender comparisons. I sincerely apologize. I can see how the equivalence argument comes off as petty and uncaring. Instead of bringing others down like crabs in a bucket…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 09:14 AM
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Yeah, I should have word things differently. It was a knee-jerk reaction I felt after seeing a post about someone comparing rape to circumcision. My immediate reaction was the title of this thread. It's definitely unfair and hyperbolic, but in the heat of the moment, I felt the episodic anger I feel about circumcision and just went into "keyboard warrior" mode and didn't think things through. In the future, I will be much more reasonable, fair, and level-headed about any discussion about circumc…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 09:02 AM
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Thank you for such acknowledgement and understanding. I must apologize for being over-zealous about this whole thing. I usually don't think much about circumcision, but there are just some times when I ruminate about it in spite of wanting to not think about it. I often feel trapped and voiceless about it. Any grief I utter about it gets shut down, denigrated, humiliated, and other nasty responses. I admittedly worded this post unfairly and apologize, but please understand I was upset when I rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 08:54 AM
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There are levels of trauma between circumcision and rape that overlap depending on what age it occurred and the severity of the abuse. Yes, there are instances in which rape is worse than involuntary circumcision, but I argue the amount of overlap between levels of trauma of the two are comparable. I think people downplay the amount of trauma one experiences as the result of routine infant circumcision, which leaves men to either suffer in silence or suffer in ignorance about unconscious trauma …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 08:49 AM
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There are levels of trauma between circumcision and rape that overlap depending on what age it occurred and the severity of the abuse. Yes, there are instances in which rape is worse than involuntary circumcision, but I argue the amount of overlap between levels of trauma of the two are comparable. I think people downplay the amount of trauma one experiences as the result of routine infant circumcision, which leaves men to either suffer in silence or suffer in ignorance about unconscious trauma …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 08:48 AM
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I'm not downplaying rape. I think it's horrific. But I think the trauma caused by circumcision is severely downplayed and the level of trauma of it overlaps with rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 08:40 AM
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"Is infant male circumcision an abuse of the rights of the child? Yes" https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2128663/
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 08:38 AM
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"Circumcision of Infants and Children: Short-Term Trauma and Long-Term Psychosexual Harm" https://www.scirp.org/html/3-1990071_55727.htm
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 08:36 AM
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"Painful Cuts: The Case for Infant Circumcision Is Weakening" https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/insight-therapy/201912/painful-cuts-the-case-infant-circumcision-is-weakening
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 08:33 AM
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"Circumcision’s Psychological Damage" https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes/201501/circumcision-s-psychological-damage
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 08:32 AM
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"Jewish man who endured a botched circumcision as a baby reveals it left him with years of pain and drove him to contemplate suicide" https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-7261193/Man-admits-botched-circumcision-baby-led-consider-suicide.html
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 08:31 AM
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Yeah you can stretch it out over many many years. But it doesn't restore the nerve endings that were removed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 08:29 AM
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Think about the trauma an infant experiences while having their genitals sliced and excised against their will. Imagine how that could manifest itself when the child gets older and their feelings about sexual pleasure. When I mentioned divorced and infidelity, I was referring to problems that may arise as a result of sub-optimal sexual experiences due to the man experiencing less sexual pleasure due to his penis being desensitized and the lower likelihood the woman would experience an orgasm. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 08:28 AM
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Circumcised men have to grieve in private. Any mentioning of circumcision grief is silenced and ridiculed. And the trauma usually occurs during infancy, so it leads to trauma that one may not be able to pinpoint or fully understand since much of it in unconscious and occurred before they could remember the event. "My son killed himself after circumcision" https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-47292307#:~:text=There%20are%20no%20statistics%20on,not%20reported%20by%20the%20media.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 08:28 AM
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Think about the trauma an infant experiences while having their genitals sliced and excised against their will. Imagine how that could manifest itself when the child gets older and their feelings about sexual pleasure. When I mentioned divorced and infidelity, I was referring to problems that may arise as a result of sub-optimal sexual experiences due to the man experiencing less sexual pleasure due to his penis being desensitized and the lower likelihood the woman would experience an orgasm. Th…
/r/MensRights06/09/20 08:24 AM
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Thank you. Posting such things worries me. If I get found out, I could lose my job. Let that sink in!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 06:05 AM
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Is it really shallow though? How malleable do you think sexual attraction is? I know many feminists claim most sexual preferences are due to cultural reasons, as there aren't definitive scientific studies that prove most sexual preferences are inborn. I'd counter that absence of evidence isn't evidence of absence, sexual attraction is very complex, and sexual attraction isn't as malleable as feminists claim it to be. I think both men and women are complicit in upholding certain so-called toxic m…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 05:09 AM
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How do you feel about innumerable women who are complicit in causing men to exhibit toxic masculinity/benevolent misogyny characteristics in men? Women who either punish men for not upholding toxic masculine behaviors like breaking up with a man who is "too emotional" or seem "weak" or rewarding toxic masculinity and seek men who are bigger, stronger, more aggressive, or taller? Blaming the patriarchy is cop out answer if that's your answer. If you are going to denigrate men for perpetuating the…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 04:27 AM
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I agree. Many feminists yell "toxic masculinity!" for anything they disagree or feel uncomfortable with even if the exhibited so-called toxic masculinity isn't negatively impacting anyone. Manspreading or mansplaining (terms which thankfully seem to be used less frequently) are considered forms of toxic-masculinity that serve to shut down and shame their opponent into submission or go on the defensive. If the guy goes on the defensive, he is further denigrated as a MRA, incel, etc. These ad hom …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 04:12 AM
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I think of it like a psych disorder. It's only a psych disorder if it's maladaptive or negatively impacts them self or the people around them. Masculinity in and of itself isn't toxic, it's how it's utilized that makes it toxic. Being strong and aggressive (like for self-defense or completing tasks that require heaps of grit) isn't inherently toxic. Being strong and aggressive to intimidate a woman into coercive consent is toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 04:10 AM
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Once a women reaches a certain threshold of unattractiveness -- whether due to age, weight, or anything -- they become untouchables except for the most desperate of desperate men, sugar babies, or men with no libidos. Many other untouchable attributes can be improved upon, but age is one that can't be improved. Women's desirability peaks in their early 20s, then gradually decrease until they're ~30, after which point their desirability decreases more steeply than men's desirability each subseque…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 03:55 AM
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I was just saying either the crying was the straw that broke the camels back or she felt it was easier for whatever reason and used it as an excuse to break up. What's up with the angry antagonistic response?
/r/ExRedPill29/08/20 12:19 AM
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If she's willing to break up with you for something as crying about a death of a loved one, that relationship was doomed to fail for something just as stupid. It's also possible she wanted to break up with him but couldn't muster the courage to until he cried.
/r/ExRedPill28/08/20 01:03 PM
1

Many are so hyper fixated on being a superman in order to keep a woman. They claim to be indifferent about the relationship, yet are super obsessed with the minutiae of everything they do in order to appear "alpha"! If they were as indifferent as they say they are, they wouldn't be so fixated on being this stoic invulnerable robot 24/7 at all costs! By being in denial about how anxious they really are about losing their woman and bottling up their emotions, it's easy to live a sad empty life.
/r/ExRedPill28/08/20 12:46 PM
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Well, I think it's a lot of sour grapes. It's a refuge where bitter men blame women for everything while absolving themselves from any responsibility. Remember "AWALT!" Red pill strategies help men to cultivate unstable avoidant/anxious relationships, which ultimately leaves them even more bitter after the inevitable breakup, which further reaffirms that "AWALT!". Many Red Pillers graduate to becoming MGTOW since no women is worth the time in their minds. Instead of taking inventory of themselve…
/r/ExRedPill28/08/20 12:36 PM
1

Aka co-dependent relationship in which both partners feel bitter and resentful.
/r/ExRedPill28/08/20 12:26 PM
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I think some aspects of the Red Pill helps men to be develop an avoidant relationship attachment style and attract women with an anxious attachment style. Ideally, you'd want to be secure and be with someone who is also secure in order to have a stable long-term relationship. If you are enjoy getting into unstable avoidant/anxious relationships in which "the more you ignore her, the closer she gets." and play games, The Red Pill may be helpful. I myself prefer cultivating a more secure style of …
/r/ExRedPill28/08/20 12:14 PM
1

Put in another way, if you love wearing fanny packs, don't stop wearing fanny packs because you feel like it'll repel women. If someone doesn't want to date you because you wear a fanny pack, is she worth dating? Also, how much time, energy, and effort you put in how you look should commensurate with how much time, energy, and effort she puts in how she looks. It doesn't make sense to be spend lots of effort maintaining a dapper look (unless that's what you love doing) if the person you are dati…
/r/ExRedPill28/08/20 12:03 PM
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Looks matter for online dating a loooot more than meeting and dating women in person and matters to varying degrees depending on the women and your baseline level of attractiveness. Some dudes can pull of the disheveled look and have no problem attracting women into that look. I think it's most important to just do whatever you feel most comfortable doing, aligns with who you are, and what you feel is in your best interest. Generally the more vapid a woman is, the more weight she places on looks…
/r/ExRedPill28/08/20 12:00 PM
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When I was into the Red Pill, I always felt like I had to be a flawless, stoic, and invulnerable Superman. I was super vigilant about everything I did and made sure to maintain this facade 24/7. I was in denial about how anxious I was about losing her. I felt extremely stifled emotionally, but I felt that was just how things had to be to keep her around. I was completely wrong!
/r/ExRedPill28/08/20 11:47 AM
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Look up "Fearful-avoidant attachment style". Essentially, The Red Pill teaches men how to hyper-focus on appearing indifferent, stoic, and invulnerable in a relationship regardless how they feel, aka "dread game", in order to not appear clingy or that you don't need her as much as she needs you. At the same time, many men who put up this hardened facade are in denial about how anxious they are about losing their partner. If you're dating an avoidant woman, this may work okay otherwise you run th…
/r/ExRedPill28/08/20 11:34 AM
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Yup, that was me in a nutshell (still me but a lower extant). Except the need to be right all the time. I always had some self-doubt and choose my battles wisely. However, I was self-centered and thought I was some Greek God and put myself on a pedestal. I was too proud to ask for help because I thought I could handle things myself as an independent man! I expected people live up to impossible standards that made me look down on others. But I also had high standards for myself and was constantly…
/r/ExRedPill25/08/20 09:01 PM
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Being a co-dependent myself who is trying to rewire his brain, my main issue is/was fear of abandonment. For me it stems from coming from a broken chaotic household in which my entire childhood was one long continuous anxiety attack. My parents divorced due to my mom's infidelity. My first relationship and sexual experience was with someone I met online (way back in the late 90s) when I was 16 whom I fell head-over-heels for. She broke things off quickly and callously. I think that experience fu…
/r/ExRedPill25/08/20 08:52 PM
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You can't change your MGTOW friend's mind overnight or at all if he's not willing. Just keep reminding him that many issues go both ways and both men and women are often responsible for consequences of their actions. It takes two to tango and it's unfair to place ALL the blame on the woman. The world has so many grey areas that I personally rarely take hard stances on anything. I understand trends and averages, but I also understand that most people aren't "average" on everything and that there'…
/r/ExRedPill25/08/20 04:06 PM
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I agree. This may also be a reason why married men live longer than single men while single women live longer than married women and related to why more women file for divorce than men. The chronically single women I know rarely ever talk about their frustrations with being single while the single men are a bit more vocal about it. Although women need to put forth less effort in their 20s and 30s to be in a relationship, men with wealth/power/insane levels of charisma regardless how ugly/old the…
/r/ExRedPill25/08/20 03:47 PM
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There are many lonely involuntarily relationship-less women. https://www.reddit.com/r/ForeverAloneWomen/ https://www.reddit.com/r/TruAskFemcels/ https://www.reddit.com/r/Nicegirls/
/r/ExRedPill25/08/20 09:02 AM
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However, "More than 1 in 5 women — 22% — say they wouldn’t date someone who makes less money than them, according to a new survey of 3,000 singles across the U.S. from dating company Plenty of Fish. That’s compared with just 4% of men and 11% of single people overall who said they wouldn’t date someone who makes less money than they do. The same study found 85% of singles tell the truth about how much they make. " https://www.marketwatch.com/story/many-women-say-they-wont-date-a-man-over-this-on…
/r/MensRights22/05/20 02:21 AM
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He seems to be riding the wave of fads of the moment. When RP becomes less popular, he'll capitalize on the fad of the moment and offer overpriced scaminars to the perpetual fresh crop of insecure young men looking for fatherly guidance.
/r/ExRedPill22/05/20 02:11 AM
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I used to watch a lot of his vids around 2014-2016. He provided decent advice about health and fitness. But then he took a year long hiatus. He then emerged from the dakness as Mr spiritual Guru who uttered philosophical and enlightened nonsense. This was quite off-putting and I didn't follow for too long. I've checked out his vids a handful of times since then. and he seems to now be capitalizing on the anti-sjw, red pill, traditionalist, "MEN NEED TO BE MEN!", etc fad with his overpriced scami…
/r/ExRedPill22/05/20 01:55 AM
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This isn't an LTR if she refuses to see you during this pandemic. I'd tell her talking for such a long time on the phone daily is very poor substitute for meeting in person. She's also probably starting to get bored with the daily chats with you and is also chatting up dozens of other dudes with all her free time. If you both get tested for COVID before meeting, there shouldn't be an issue at all if she truly loved you. Just realize she may leave at any moment, so don't get too attached to her. …
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