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| 3 | What does online dating look like for you?Oh. In other words, women who left their eggs out in the sun too long and will have a geriatric pregnancy, and in all likelihood a kid on the spectrum. Neat. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/23 03:47 PM |
| 2 | What does online dating look like for you?Buzzer/beaters? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/11/23 12:53 PM |
| 2 | Post-divorce shenanigans. Feeling really low.Hey man - you're in the right place. How long has it been since your EX left? And where are you in the divorce process? Do you have kids? Is your life still a jumbled mess from the divorce? How old are you? All of these things bouncing around in your head won't help with anything. Anyway, getting it up after 40 can be a challenge all of a sudden, especially with new people. You've probably been with the same woman for a really long time. Having to do it in weird places, unfamiliar, uncomfortable… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/11/23 03:44 AM |
| 6 | Wedding ring after divorceJewelry store will buy it for fair market value. I had enough for a weeks worth of groceries including some nice steaks. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/23 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Planning on divorcing my wife... horrified by the fact that I will be single for a long timeJeezus - that sounds like drama waiting to happen. My experience with a lot of non-mono women is that they're either outright crazy, or unhappy with their husbands and hiding it so they can stay on the gravy train and get strange on the side. Eventually they want to bitch about the husband and you wind up doing emotional work for someone who will NEVER EVER be happy. Fuck that noise. Or they're just manipulative psychos who like getting men all worked up over them but enjoy knowing that they can… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/23 03:50 PM |
| 2 | Planning on divorcing my wife... horrified by the fact that I will be single for a long timeYeah poly is bullshit. I don't love that way. I don't want to step out on someone and expect the same. And yeah, opening a relationship is a doula for breakup/divorce. There's just no middle ground on commitment, and poly attempts to do just that - define commitment as something other than what it is. The whole thing makes my head hurt and is frankly dumb. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/23 03:35 PM |
| 3 | Planning on divorcing my wife... horrified by the fact that I will be single for a long timeGood stuff man, good stuff. I have another way of articulating basically the same point you are making. I used to have someone I shared life with. Quite a bit of that was a life we accumulated and constructed together. Ultimately she made some choices such that we could not share life anymore. I didn't have what she wanted (being poly) and she didn't have what I wanted (being monogamous). So if I want to share life with someone else in the future I have to make a life (and be the kind of person)… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/11/23 04:54 PM |
| 3 | Planning on divorcing my wife... horrified by the fact that I will be single for a long timeYeah and just to add to that, dumping alcohol in that yawning chasm of sadness and despair is tempting, but REALLY dangerous. Ask me how I know. Exercise has filled the void so much better than anything else. It's critical. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/11/23 03:47 PM |
| 9 | Planning on divorcing my wife... horrified by the fact that I will be single for a long timeI have no data to back this up, but I think that early in a divorce your brain is still accustomed to producing some happy chemicals (I imagine neurotransmitters like oxytocin, serotonin, dopamine). For a while its physically painful to be without all that. It hurts so much. It's withdrawal, and unlike withdrawal from opiates or alcohol it won't kill you. A year out from the divorced being finalized it's not nearly as acutely painful. There's still kind of a woman shaped hole in my life. I'm sti… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/23 11:08 PM |
| 6 | Steps to Get Over ItThe thing that helped me was writing emails to my ex constantly. Daily, multiple times a day. Writing and revising what I was trying to say so that it was as articulate as possible. And then I sent it to myself. A separate folder and everything. Sometimes id have a friend look it over if there was something noteworthy or I just needed someone to see it, but not the ex. Because an actual dialogue with this person is foreclosed. They don't care, or are full of shit, or lying, or some combination t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/10/23 04:24 PM |
| 16 | Wife's father died and she had midlife crisis / mental breakdownMy ex had mental health problems, and I swear the tarot and woo-woo bullshit was all part of her losing touch with reality. Believing in shit that demonstrably doesn't exist is bad for one's mental health and almost always coincides with other other maladaptive behavior. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/23 04:55 PM |
| 2 | What in the hell is going on here?Why is it that when these people leave it's the trash taking itself out, but ironically these people never take out the trash? Anyway, you're a good man. This will not last forever. Good people do the right things in hard times. That's what you're doing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/23 04:25 PM |
| 10 | Just found out the full extent of my ex's fuckeryIt's just plain shocking isn't it? The betrayal from this person you loved and thought loved you too. I will never understand it. The best I can come up with is that good people and bad people really think differently. We could never have cheated on our spouses because it would be wrong. It would hurt them, and we could never let that happen. The people we were married to did not have that moral compass. It's not a man/woman thing, there are plenty of men who are evil adulterers. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/10/23 03:55 AM |
| 2 | Dating again ?Oh hahaha never heard that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/10/23 04:52 AM |
| 2 | Dating again ?code gyco? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/10/23 03:34 AM |
| 3 | Dating again ?Can you elaborate on what groups of people you were spending time with? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/10/23 03:31 AM |
| 4 | I think I'm at my breaking point.Hey man - we've all been through the 'silent house' phase and it is awful. Do you want advice or to have people listen to you? Either way is fine, but it helps to know what you need. The people here are generally pretty great and this sub has helped a lot of people, myself included. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/09/23 12:20 AM |
| -2 | Why won't married women have sex?My brother in whatever diety you believe in: you are an asshole. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/23 11:40 AM |
| 1 | Who has found getting back into dating difficult in this climateHey now! As a burgeoning crazy cat guy that hurts! | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/23 12:39 AM |
| 2 | Things may have reversed?That's what I see too. My ex was like this and she is diagnosed BP. It cycles. And it sucks you in. They're all horny and lovey in the hypomanic phases, and everything seems fine. It's like Couvade syndrome sometimes and you get pulled in just trying to keep up. It's sad. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/23 11:49 PM |
| 8 | Why a Cat is a Divorced Man's best friendCats are the best! Mine have saved my mental health a lot. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/23 11:46 PM |
| 2 | My wife and I were soulmates and I'm still madly in love with her even after a year apart.I felt a lot like you. Even as an agnostic I felt like there was some force that brought my ex together, and somehow life flowed through us in the form of two beautiful daughters. Nope. God is not real. Nature compels all beings to reproduce. We almost certainly felt the way we did about these people because of trauma, or something - I don't know, but that kind of behavior is not appropriate for adults. There's something wrong with you. There's something wrong with me. This outcome was almost in… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/23 03:15 AM |
| 8 | Had sex with a friend last night after a year without any. I hated it. I was not ready.There are a lot of really sweet, caring men in this thread. That's good. I don't care what anyone thinks. We were bonded with our spouses and it SHOULD be hard to move on from that. I don't know what's wrong with the cold hearted reptilian women we married, who can just shuffle off to the closest erection donor. It really highlights how shallow they are. Anyway, I have the added trauma of being dragged through some gross nonmonogamy stuff. I'll be scarred for a long time. I think the saddest thi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/23 06:25 PM |
| 13 | Had sex with a friend last night after a year without any. I hated it. I was not ready.I'm coming to this conclusion as well, and as a result may choose to step off the merry-go-round altogether. If being partnered means having to change things about myself that I respect, then loneliness it is. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/23 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Should I block all forms of communication with my ex?Joyce Carol or Hall &? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/23 10:32 PM |
| 0 | Should I block all forms of communication with my ex?FR - "hey idiot, why don't you do us all a favor and go out for smokes and never come back?" | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/23 03:54 AM |
| 8 | Should I block all forms of communication with my ex?Absolutely block. Hell, those of us who made the mistake of procreating with our ex's would LOVE to be able to go totally NC. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/23 02:38 AM |
| 2 | Should I block all forms of communication with my ex?This is superb advice from start to finish. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/23 02:36 AM |
| 3 | I am no longer attracted to my wife. Should I leave?An unfuckable land whale, who is abusive and a BPD basket case. Dude her filing for a divorce was the trash taking itself out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/23 02:01 AM |
| 27 | Had to tell my ex it is not my circus anymore."Do what your mother should have done and get an abortion" <click> | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/23 08:48 PM |
| 6 | Moment of clarityCool it with the friendly fire big guy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/23 02:42 AM |
| 9 | Wife says she has “Outgrown our Marriage”My ex said the same thing. Because she had outgrown us, and monogamy, and wanted to be able to do what she wanted when she wanted. 'I've outgrown this marriage' is sanitized way of justifying breaking vows. It's both smug and stupid. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/23 02:40 AM |
| 4 | Tell Me To Let Go AlreadyYou don't deserve this shit. For some reason some of the best men get taken advantage of by these malignant cunts who lose their minds and burn down precious things. Not only do you not deserve this, you're better than this. It will get worse, and then things will improve. I'm sorry you're here, but at least you know which side of the line you are on in life, and it's sad that your ex is on the wrong side. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/23 01:32 AM |
| 3 | Wife is the one who wants out, but is putting forth no effort to proceed with the divorceMine was like this. When they fall apart like this they fall. The fuck. Apart. Way too incompetent to manage something like a divorce. The good thing is that you don't have to deal with her if she's giving you the reigns. It's not fair, but in some ways it's preferable. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/23 11:04 AM |
| 6 | Anybody ever regret getting divorced because you never got as good sex again?You guys are having sex? Where do you find the time around job, kids, house, singleish parenting (ex is around but useless). Plus, I got dragged through some fucked up poly/swinging crap and kinda grossed out by it all right now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/23 11:16 PM |
| 6 | Divorcing Wife VocabularyYou resisted her irresponsible spending. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/23 10:10 PM |
| 2 | Why didn’t I get the talk?Awesome. The shamelessness is just incredible. And why do they hook up with such weirdo losers? The only thing I can figure is these guys will say anything and these dumb women will believe it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/23 03:52 AM |
| 2 | Why didn’t I get the talk?WTF is wrong with people? Mine dragged me into some things I wish I could forget. Be glad if you stuck to your guns. Never again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/23 03:21 AM |
| 5 | Why didn’t I get the talk?Did yours try pulling the open marriage/poly bullshit? | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/23 03:01 AM |
| 3 | Why didn’t I get the talk?Dating apps and the normalization of nonmonogamy, polyamory, swinging, etc. That was how my ex got pulled in. These dumb women get some smoke blown up their asses by a bunch of thirsty losers on an app and suddenly think they aren't semi-interesting people losing a battle with gravity. It's pathetic. It's like watching someone join a cult. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/23 03:01 AM |
| 9 | Why didn’t I get the talk?Yep. Which makes it easier in a sense. These are profoundly bad, short sighted vapid people. It's easier to move on when you realize that this is not a person you would want in your life in any meaningful way. But it's hard because it makes you wonder if they were always this way, or used to be good and changed... it is very confusing. Either way - fuck 'em, they're gross. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/23 11:17 PM |
| 18 | Why didn’t I get the talk?Well the kind of life she wanted involved fucking other people and being useless at all things that involve domestic labor. The person I married would be disgusted with the person she became. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/23 10:46 PM |
| 25 | Why didn’t I get the talk?At least in my case - she already had a different kind of life that she wanted to lead and there wasn't anything to fix. She just didn't want to be married anymore. I think she finally just accepted that she's a bad person and I'm not. Our values were never going to align. 'Im not happy' is shorthand for 'I'm not going to try to be better.' | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/23 10:22 PM |
| 9 | How long did you marriage last and how long did it take to heal completely?Married 18 years, she left Jan 22, divorce final in Oct of 22. Better off in every conceivable way, but still a mess. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/23 02:06 PM |
| 3 | Ex is DatingYou're doing good if you can get to that point. Yeah, you may have kids with her, but she's just some dumb broad who lives in the same city. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/23 10:17 PM |
| 2 | Ex is DatingMine was on swinging sites and subreddits 2 days after asking for the divorce. One of the main reasons she left was because she wanted to be poly and I just could not handle that bullshit (despite trying, which was a mistake and source of considerable trauma). It was horrible to see this person I had loved become such a gross cliche, but it was kind of a blessing to fully accept that she's just disgusting. Since then she gained a lot of weight and I don't even think she's in the lifestyle anymor… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/23 09:41 PM |
| 1 | A record-high share of 40-year-olds in the U.S. have never been marriedHucow? | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/23 03:08 PM |
| 4 | Did anyone else’s ex become a “strong independent woman”?We really ought to make a list of the entirely-predictable phases they go through. And somehow still think they are in any way unique or meaningful. They're so stupid they can't see how unoriginal and embarrassing it all is. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/23 02:55 PM |
| 2 | More crazy after divorce datingIs 4 11 some kind of metric bra size or are short girls a thing now? | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/23 12:58 PM |
| 5 | To mediate happily or lawyer up and burn it down?Get the divorce over with as quickly as possible and thank whatever deity you believe in that some dumb schmuck came along to get this garbage person off your hands. A LOT of women do this. They're all jazzed up from the divorce and whore themselves out for a while. They're fun for a minute and attract a certain kind of guy. Eventually they always revert to a slightly more worn-out form of what they were before and nobody wants anything to do with them. Get her a copy of Anna Karenina and a trai… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/23 05:15 PM |
| 5 | Is my loose-change bowl a permanent home for my old wedding ring?Maybe Mt. Doom is a roiling miasma of hate and death because it's just a critical mass plasma pool of discarded wedding bands. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/23 07:34 AM |
| 2 | I cannot believe this is my reality.^ This. After my divorce I was so distraught I could barely find an au pair for the kids and have Goeffry make the calls to gas up the Gulfstream. I remember finally getting airborne over the Bahamas, and having one too many Johnny Walker Blues. When I came to, we were on the ground in an <ahem> European enclave in Argentina. What the place lacked in wifi, it more than made up in frauleins who found this humble divorcee irresistible. They couldn't speak a lick of English, but we're fluent in the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/23 10:54 PM |
| 24 | What did you do with your ringSold it for melt value. $150 or so. Only because there aren't any nearby volcanoes to chuck it in. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/23 09:37 PM |
| 3 | Still AttractedIs it a verb or a gerund? A greuns is a verb used as a noun ending in -ing right? I have an English degree and I can't remember. My ex got the grammar skills in the divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/23 10:24 PM |
| 5 | Still AttractedIt gets better. Also luckily my XW is landwhalifying herself. That sow can't find a big enough trough. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/23 06:20 PM |
| 12 | Serious question…It's not worth it. I'm 43, divorce finalized in Oct 22. I dated someone for about 6 months last year and pulled the plug because of this exact reason. It didn't add more than it took. I kind of vaguely think I might give it another shot in a few years. But at this point in my life, I just don't need it. I don't need sex. Nobody does. And I'm not a horny 20 year old anymore, so it's less of a priority. I don't need romance. Nobody does. We all need love and relationships, but that does not de fac… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/23 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Spinning the wheel of emotions…This spinning wheel sucks. The categories are: depression, depression, depression, overwhelming sadness, depression, lose a turn, depression, self loathing, depression, depression, lose money, depression.... | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/23 03:42 PM |
| 1 | Down in the dumps todaySounds like Infowars is more your speed my dude. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/06/23 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Down in the dumps todayHuh? | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/06/23 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Down in the dumps today"Originally published as an e-book that became a controversial media phenomenon, No More Mr. Nice Guy! landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O'Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show" Um.... That's not a pedigree I want anything to do with. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/06/23 12:54 PM |
| 6 | My ex said a woman’s heart is a deep ocean full of secrets?It means she's aware enough to know that her life is built on lies and justifications, but not intelligent enough to experience cognitive dissonance. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/23 08:17 PM |
| 2 | Cheating Ex is SPIRALING....Out of the loop - what's this about? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/23 05:09 PM |
| 4 | I'm tired of being called broken and jaded.Never ever seriously date a woman in an open relationship. Fuck that noise. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/23 10:46 PM |
| -1 | Being a dad just isn’t sameWasn't TRP removed because it's blatant mysogingy? | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/23 06:50 PM |
| 12 | Why do the responsible ones end up paying?At least in the US being exploitative always pays off. Always. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/23 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Anybody else buying their own Father's Day gift?My dumb cunt ex phoned in father's Day every year. I made a big deal out of mother's day and always had a tradition of making her crab legs, buttery mashed potatoes, sides, and brownies. She will blow it off/fuck it up like always because she's a selfish idiot. She's as present and attentive as an ex as she was as a wife. It was glorious not have to wish that fat whore a happy mother's day last year. She's a bad mom and a bad person. That sow can fill her own trough. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/23 03:07 AM |
| 6 | Thread for annoying stuff your ex didI honestly don't know how these people live with themselves. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/23 12:47 AM |
| 20 | Thread for annoying stuff your ex didGod this. I remember coming home from my very physically strenuous second job that I worked on the weekends (because she was unemployed for a year and a half), and realizing that I would have to do the dishes in order to make dinner because she couldn't be bothered to just load the dishwasher all day. Filthy disgusting bitch sums it up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/23 09:29 PM |
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