Cheating Ex is SPIRALING....

Motor-Connection5608 · 2023-06-16T15:55:18+00:00

My man, she and her family sound like loser trash....she is a complete shit show - spiraling, abortion now prego with the AP, living with sister, family approves of all this. Man, I would load my vehicle and whistle your thanks to your God that y are out of this hillbilly circus!!

Zealousideal-Bear-37 · 2023-06-16T17:53:31+00:00

Bud , you dodged a bullet like NEO . In time you’ll see that . You’re in the shit . Begin crawling out and into the light

stent00 · 2023-06-16T15:54:55+00:00

Sit back and watch this dumpster fire burn to the ground. She's not a woman who you even want in your life. Much better women out there who don't cheat and have random babies with everyone.

Reflog1791 · 2023-06-16T16:51:40+00:00

Grey rock her completely. It is very good news for you that this other bozo will have to deal with her pregnancy.

Focus your energy on your own household and your child’s health. When the kid gets older they will inevitably want to spend as much time as possible at the normal home.

dadplup · 2023-06-16T18:44:20+00:00

I was married for nearly 19 years myself got divorced in Feb 2021, we had one kid and raised the 2 she already had by the time we got married, her family disliked me immensely after I stopped giving them the little money I had and instead used it to support my marriage, my ex was caught cheating twice and made my life hell the last 10 years before I filed for divorce,

I managed to get custody of our daughter and after the custody hearing she my ex left town, hadn't tried to contact either of us until last month about a year and a half later, we found out that she went to live with the eldest of my stepsons and his gf , they kicked her out after a few months, after that she went to live with her parents during that time it seems like she had spent a month in the hospital, got in to a fight with her parents and they kicked her out, she staying currently at shelter , with no job, no money and no idea how she is surviving as she won't talk to me other than to yell and cuss at me which I don't tolerate, she was given visitations for our then minor daughter that she never used, and because she didn't show up to court to the divorce she didn't get what she was after, yet I am the bad guy in this

Do I feel bad? Yes I do but feeling bad is one thing getting involved in that mess is another, I said to her before we separated " just because we're not getting along it doesn't mean that I want you to go hungry, I just don't want you sitting at my table"

I'd like to help her but that's inviting disaster, it took me years and all the strength i had to get out and I nearly died in the process, I don't want to go thru that again

Lumptbuttcat · 2023-06-16T16:46:54+00:00

Unless you have really compelling evidence that she is unfit, do not even attempt trying to get full custody at this point. It’ll cost you a ton of money. The best strategy is doing everything to allow your stbx and opportunity to be a co-parent. If she does ok, great. If she is neglectful, need to pounce. Just be patient.

Need to slam the door shut on your marriage. Get divorced asap. She get’s papers, stbx will put a full court press on him finalizing. That’s when you get the popcorn out.

Dlanor31 · 2023-06-16T16:53:59+00:00

Bro you dodged a bullet. I know it hurts but you don’t want that type of emotional draining person in your life for the rest of it. Things will get better and you will heal. Work on yourself and focus on your kids. Someone else will come along when you are ready.

playerknowmore · 2023-06-16T23:06:51+00:00

You weren't tossed aside. You were liberated. It may take a few years to realize she opened the door to a brighter life.

drakehfh · 2023-06-16T17:33:44+00:00

Why the fuck are you "dealing with your ex spiraling" you fucking cuck? She cheated on you, she's dead. Move on. Try to finalize your divorce and stop being interested in her life. You don't have to give a shit whether she has a new child or not.

How do you know she aborted your child? Are you still a stupid idiot? Even if so, thank God she did.

Move on

FindingMyPrivates · 2023-06-16T16:35:42+00:00

When you stop caring about her by not feeling any emotions good or bad, you’re over her. Having a stoic feeling towards her is where you want your mental space to be. Still be 100% concerned about your child. Their safety is paramount in this. Do your best to be dad. Seriously fuck her family stop giving a shit. Stop feeling anything about her. She walked away in the worst possible way. Now turn around and start walking away. Don’t look back.

Witty-Republic-6315 · 2023-06-17T03:35:22+00:00

OP needs to stay in the loop re his ex for the sake of his children. Monitor the situation, watch out for your kids, and beg, borrow, or steal that 25k for sole custody, because your kids safety depends on it. She is fucking crazy and you have to protect your kids.

DatabaseSpace · 2023-06-16T16:41:55+00:00

The other sub said that all single mom's were abused and that's why they are single mom's. It also said they don't need a man, but we should date them. This is making it sound like that narrative may not be true.

Regular-Bat-4449 · 2023-06-16T16:08:37+00:00

This is a shit show, and you need to exit immediately

Standard-Cucumber264 · 2023-06-16T19:51:55+00:00

She can’t tell you she is keeping the kids your not even divorced. F that is there is one thing I would do is next time you get your kid, keep them. Nothing she can do. What’s best for the kid is what I would be worried about at this point she’s a train wreck and it’s not stopping anytime soon. Just protect your kid. She’s not fit to raise any kid. Let alone dictate to you what she wants.

RunTheBull13 · 2023-06-16T17:15:10+00:00

Nothing you can do now. Laugh and sit back. If she does put your children in harms way or neglects make sure to document. Go for more custody if needed to keep them safe.

FUMoney · 2023-06-16T17:24:08+00:00

Should I just sit back, grab popcorn?

Unquestionably yes. Let her lead this new life, it's exactly what you want. Because it's going to speed you through the divorce process. The ex wants this new life, she won't want the divorce hanging around, hence the process should be much more efficient.

WestCoastThing · 2023-06-16T20:24:14+00:00

Give her a big hug for getting rid of that kid and helping you permanently detach from her. Good riddance.

Nvbnkng84 · 2023-06-16T20:54:51+00:00

Grab some popcorn and only be there for YOUR kids. Do not take her back. She needs to be held accountable for her actions and live with the consequences of her ways. Watch Rivahtv on YouTube and pinkbook lessons they will get you right. They talk about those situations you're in.

sixtysixpixistix · 2023-06-17T04:29:28+00:00

Nature is wild. She's doing what she's programmed to do. Your mistake was not realizing this when you met her.

silmarp · 2023-06-16T16:18:28+00:00

Dude. You need to document it and file for sole custody asap. Your kids need a better place to stay than this house they're in. You need to get a lawyer that will show the court how unstable she is and file asap.

jkw118 · 2023-06-16T17:55:00+00:00

So first off, my ex has issues. Primarily that she was suicidal, depression, anxiety, BP2 etc.. I've spent a total of maybe 4K over 7 years. Mainly with her asking for more time with the kids and the courts batting her down. And honestly they even said it they've said that we're one of the better couples to deal with as we aren't fighting constantly and going to court for every BS thing.

It's also a thing of she realized she had issues, and thought she'd loose all access. I gave her everyother weekend. The Q here is, if she wasn't living with her family. Would she be able to take care of the kids? When the kids are their who's taking care of them? (her or her family)?

I'm assuming it's 50/50 right now, when she moves off with the guy, it may be alot less on her side. But you'll need to see. My stbx is planning on marrying a guy she met a month ago. The day after the divorce is finalized. She's telling the kids to call him step-dad etc..

It's a bit of a stab in the heart, I can tell you this much my ex is spiraling and in manic mode. But I've been trying to finalize the divorce for almost 7 years with her dragging her feet, covid lawyers dieing. All sorts of BS. And her in general barely able to keep a job.

My job is really flexible (i have the kids almost all the time) so during the summer like now, I'm working from home. During the school year I'm in the office. Ya need to see how you can handle working and having the kids taken care of. Plus it adds up.

Long-Review-1861 · 2023-06-16T21:34:01+00:00

Your wife is a sack of cats, you are dodging an atomic bomb my dude

savage_cabbages · 2023-06-17T03:11:14+00:00

Sounds like watching a car crash in slow motion. But seriously, she's a mother for your kids, that's her role now and how you should view her and nothing else. If her actions put your kids in harms way, then you need to step in and take action.

Title	Cheating Ex is SPIRALING....
Author	Sqwalker1
Upvotes	38
Comments	35
Date	June 16, 2023 3:42 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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