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I can’t speak for all, but this sub welcomes women. As you all give great perspective. A lot of us just don’t really get help in the other subs or just get shot down. Many of do like to have the female perspective. Hell a lot of us are girl dads so we have that love too.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/25 11:02 PM
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So I tried with my ex recently. She was cheating. More than likely cheating through the marriage. Because it’s the “don’t worry about him” guy. If anything this helped me realize her true nature . I still make triple what I did pre divorce and I don’t need to deal with her BS. She causes 10/10 drama fest but that’s just once in a while
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/25 04:42 AM
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Yes she does. Difference in income is what fucks me. State of Utah for context
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 10:29 PM
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I go out of the divorce marriage with around 50k of cc debt due to the lawyers and getting my shit in order. Divorced last year. I’ve more than doubled my income. I have about 19k of cc debt left and should be done paying it soon. I will financially recover soon. The hardest financial burden I have is paying her CS. We both have 50/50 but I pay all the medical insurances and cover my kids school lunches on top of the 600 a month I pay her as a tax for being dad.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 07:43 PM
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Well I pay all three insurances. Comes up to about 400 a month.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 06:52 AM
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I make more and she makes less in my case. You’re getting fucked harder. What fucking state are you in? I just have been accepting it like a tax
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 11:01 PM
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Yeah you’re getting fucked silly. Worst thing is they only factor gross not net. Pay Uncle Sam then pay a dad tax. Hope it goes well. At least you have a big shovel that’s missing its top end.
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 06:54 AM
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Jesus fucking Christ. What are the incomes if you don’t mind me asking? I’m 155 vs her 40. It was supposed to be 790 but managed to get it down due to paying for insurance. Edit: doesn’t make me feel better. Whole rant was why anyone needs to even pay at 50/50
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 01:07 AM
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See that’s the thing. She’s always had a job post and pre divorce. The point is that none of the money goes to the kids. I still have to ensure my kids have everything. While it doesn’t bother me for my kids, it bothers me that this is not an equal 50/50 split. It shouldn’t be this way for any father or mother based on how much more it is. Not sure if you’re in NY but I pulled a calculator up and I’d be paying her 3229. Couldn’t imagine . That’s a third of my net.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 08:18 PM
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It is much lower. I never made this as a gendered thing 50/50 child support sucks for anyone and is dumb in my opinion. I just wouldn’t post this outside of this sub or I’d get killed.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 12:44 AM
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So I tried this with clothes. It got to the point the teacher was complaining to me. When I sent the kids to school, and she picks them up after, I never get those clothes back. I’m doing my best to just eat the cost for my girls. It still annoying as hell I’m The only one who buys shoes, clothes, coats etc. Extracurriculars she’ll never pay so I’ll take the cost so the kids can do stuff outside of the house. It’s either I let the kids suffer or I have to pay up no matter what.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 07:07 AM
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It’s two kids. I have them 50% of the time.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 07:04 AM
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It’s someday that companies get excited about because fools spend money. Just another day dude. If I wasn’t in the US it would just be another day.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 04:03 AM
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You need to stop giving a fuck. Stop talking to her. Who cares what she does to herself. She’ll attract the wrong men anyway. She’s not your problem anymore
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/24 01:54 AM
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Idk what the hell you are going off about. Beside no one here is talking about marriage. This a divorce sub. We talk about divorce. It’s almost like you’re using ai. Are you bot?
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 11:25 AM
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Yeah I do t have it bad. I’m gonna stop bitching so much.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 01:07 PM
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Utah, 2 kids, 50/50 custody, she makes 40k. I make 120kish. 440ish a month. Because I trust myself only, I pay for their healthcare and activities. She pays half of the deductible. All else is split.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 01:06 PM
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You know. I used to bitch a lot about having to pay dong 50/50, I see you have it much worse
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 01:04 PM
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I’m 31 and I’ve got two 6&4. It’s a lil lonely post divorce. I’ve gone through the wringer of emotions and thoughts. It’s like the biggest failure I have ever felt. My opinion is to work with the ex as much as you can together. Get a lawyer still to have your counsel but try to do everything just you too. Keep it simple and keep it respectful with her. This last part takes sometime. Watch some of James Saxtons stuff. Kind conceptualizes reality of time and who we are as people. Good luck brother…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 02:01 PM
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In exchange for 50/50? What state are you that they wouldn’t already give you that? You’ve been going through this for almost three years. The courts would have to see you coparenting for that time and realize that’s the best outcome for the kids. Talk to a lawyer if you haven’t already.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 03:20 PM
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See my question is to the men that take these women. Like why are you taking care of a woman who was cheating on her husband? That shit is gonna be him too! I don’t get it. I would never take a woman seriously if she did that. They just say the typical “he was abusive/narcissist/controlling. I won’t do that to you” suuuuuure.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 03:16 PM
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Congrats bro. I divorced my ex in June. I was as nice as I could be. We both have kids. It was always back and forth about getting the divorce done. She wanted the house that we had under a VA loan which meant I’d be out a VA loan. She wanted the paid off car, all the furniture, and started mentioning alimony. I kept it as nice as I could. Then something came up and I mentioned she’s my biggest regret. That’s when she threatened to drag the divorce. I finally admitted I had a lawyer and if we we…
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 02:59 AM
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Then you realize you still get shafted even at 50% custody. I’m paying my ex 450 a month TO TAKE CARE OF MY KIDS EQUALLY. That is fucking stupid. I hope it gets better for you.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/23 10:04 PM
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That shit piles up. You go to jail for a certain amount of unpaid CS. Even if you got fired, the CS continues until you go to court to fix it. Courts are a fucking nightmare
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/23 12:48 PM
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For me, if a woman I gave everything for, leaves, opens up for some random man that just gave her attention, she ain’t shit to me now. While I do care about how many men a woman has been with, it’s not nearly something that matters as much to now at 31. If I gave her the ultimate commitment, throws it away and fucks some strange, there’s just no way. What she gets back with you, same shit happens and leaves you or worse. She’ll just think of fucking someone else again. That dude more than likely…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 12:22 AM
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This is completely wrong and also right. You even admit women are chasing the same dudes. You cannot always be that dude. Clout helps but to be that same dude may need genetics. All the money won’t help. Being fit still won’t help be in that top echelon of men. Also race comes into play. Men are much more likely to date down than women that’s just been a fact. Still for every one girl, there’s two dudes tryin at her. Having this knowledge will actually help OP understand the dating dynamics and …
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 02:14 AM
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Not necessarily but spousal support is always before taxes on after taxes income. So it’s extra fuckery for the one paying and gain for the one receiving.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 08:44 AM
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Everyone else is 100% right about splitting 50/50 so you gotta just swallow that now. For spousal support and child support, so your best to keep the peace between her. If she’s agreeing with almost everything, don’t mention spousal support. Just let her know, need help with the kids , I’ll pay for it or whatever. It’s what I do with my ex. Keeps her happy, keeps my money only directed towards my kids. Child support is just a fuck you situation. The disparity between the ex and I is about $5300 …
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 08:42 AM
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Im gonna keep reiterating this but just stop giving a fuck. Easier said than done but it’s a relief. Do everything to stop caring and stop spending energy on her. Once you absolutely stop giving a fuck, brother it’s freeing. Who cares if she did that. Sucks ass with the monetary part of divorce but use that as fuel to stop giving a fuck.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 04:22 PM
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It’s probably because you don’t have 50/50 most courts are pretty strict with CS. I pay 450 at a discrepancy of 6500 a month compared to the ex. If I had them only 40%, id be looking at 1500 a month.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 04:59 PM
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Trust me man. Divorce is hard as hell. I am younger than you but I still felt/feel to force of this brunt. There were times I was made how easy it would be for her. Times I felt rejected. Or how I tried to do everything to make her happy and do what’s best for our family. At the end I just understand the true nature of people and relationships. It just sucks but the hard truths have given me a peace. Knowing I’m not alone and this isn’t a one off thing. Don’t drink or do anything negative. Focus…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/23 06:39 AM
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Easier said than done but stop giving a shit. Also distance yourself from her. Social media, kids, friends, really anything that involves her. She’s fit? Who cares, she isn’t yours anymore. She’s going to get married to a doctor? That’s probably not what’s gonna happen or dude might not be faithful. Come on, he’s a doctor. Really nothing about her matters anymore. We are all alone. We as men need to accustomed to being alone. If we don’t , we end up feeling the way you are. Okay you got some neg…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/23 04:07 AM
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Look at your states calculator. I wouldn’t be 2000 but I would be around 1200 if I had 40/60. You probably make significantly more than the mom. Some states are more of a fuck you than others. I make about 8900 a month and she makes 3100. Still idk why I even need to pay at 50/50 but whatever government shit.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 08:57 AM
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I’ll just use myself as an example. I live comfortable here where my kids are. I have 50/50 custody. I was just solicited by a friend who wanted me to take a job in Maryland for 130k. I had to refuse and keep my 60k job. I live in Utah so giving up custody is not in the picture. In life, the most important thing to me are my children. I am only going to matter as a memory to them. We will die but that is what they will have. Not the money I make or where I live. It is what they remember and how …
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/23 05:32 PM
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The only thing I miss about my ex is my “family”. I can’t see my kids everyday and I fucking hate it. We used to be very close, at least what I thought, and she was unfortunately my only friend. Which was not a good thing. That relationship was exhausting. I’m sure she cheated but I don’t have any hard evidence. I had to work for everything including a hug. Sex was no existent. I don’t miss her, just what I thought was my “family”. Her family is full of divorced women. I’m not surprised. She was…
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 10:57 AM
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I actively try to distance everything and anything from her. I don’t care if anything good or bad happens. I do care if it affects my children. Which means a lot of things can affect them. If she wins or loses anything I don’t care. If she’s injured I care because it’s affecting the kids. If she lost her job, we’ll that can potentially effect my kids. If she’s heartbroken I don’t care. I’m not actively looking to see her downfall or her rise. I’m in an on going business contract to take care of …
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/23 12:14 PM
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I first want to say I love both my girls. They are a blessing. When my oldest was young our lease was ending. I wanted to leave her and planned it. We discussed how we would be done after this. She did some crazy shit with grabbing a knife and trying to kill herself in front of my daughter. She also was habitually drunk and high. I’m talking everyday. Very abusive towards me. Sudden she has some surprise and boom she reveals she’s pregnant like we tried or something. This women had an IUD. She t…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/23 03:34 PM
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Stop giving a fuck about the hoe. Sure it’s easier said than done but you NEED to do it. Just do everything to get divorced with as little lawyer as possible. If you can walk away with all your shit and split everything down the middle, that should be the goal. Again stop giving a fuck about her.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 01:02 AM
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Yeah it is. Don’t get married bro. Unless you’ve already been, don’t do it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 10:21 PM
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Sure having someone that does love and care for you is great. Except this is the same mindset as believing in Disney fairy tales. Others will bring conflicts. it’s who we are as humans. It’s up to us to determine if it’s even worth putting up with. Myself and many other men would live through 18 years of the worst shit just to see our seeds succeed. Including other women do too. Problem is marriage isn’t necessary to do any of that. What it’s an act of “love”? No it’s not. It’s a business contra…
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 10:24 AM
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Yeah there’s a line where you need to agree to have your life insurance cover the child support payment. This is aside from giving your children life insurance payment. The pension thing is weird though. Unless it was in their divorce than it shouldn’t be. I have a pension she could’ve been entitled to but she didn’t get it during divorce. She won’t be able to get it anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 10:14 AM
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Fuck you with an extra fuck to you guys in New York. That’s how they treat you damn. How do you even live there like that?
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 05:15 AM
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Bro when I saw that stipulation on my divorce I couldn’t believe it. Fucking wild. You get fucked even after death.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 05:13 AM
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Your description is spot on to what I went through to a T. I’m 31 so it’s not just that age range. This shit is spanning all over. Idk man it’s fucked out there. My lawyer said the same thing. I was a stupid young Marine that wanted to get out the barracks. Marriage was the only way to live with my then girlfriend. Now divorced having wasted 8 years of my life. I have two wonderful children out of this. Just didn’t want to have my children be in a broken family. Plus she’s an alcoholic and drug …
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 05:13 AM
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Yeah man I feel you. My ex was the same(you can see my posts about it). It’s just the kids is always something I think about. Besides she already files you need to leave. It won’t get better. I guess it’s the way you worded your post is why you’re getting some flack for it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 12:23 AM
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Look man. Dating is dog shit. If she’s loyal, isn’t a financial risk, and you guys at least have some communication, work it out. Try and encourage exercise together. Okay you get some new 🐱 and you leave your 3 kids with shit. Than that girl will dip. You’re gonna be paying your ass and then some. You got three kids brother. You’ll be busy and if you aren’t it’s because you aren’t being dad. Get some couples therapy. Help her workout. Get some you and her time. This will help in getting her to …
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 11:23 PM
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Straight up, I would’ve stayed just to make sure my girls aren’t raised in the trash that’s her family. I had to call it quits at the end since I felt she forced my hand. Now that I’ve been doing 50 since January, it’s tough brother. Especially if you were heavily involved. I miss them. Feels like they are growing without me. What is a positive is I now cherish the time we have together. It’s something I suggest. Also find hobbies like working out or whatever the fuck you like to do. So no it’s …
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 03:30 AM
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Divorce sucks brother. It’s been about 7 months for me. 1 month being officially divorced. Find hobbies, get in touch with friends again, do some fitness, and get you health in order. Pretty much keep your mind busy. I still hurt here and there. It’s whenever I learn some new hoe shit she’s done. I do my best not to try and learn about it. Good luck bro. Just be a good dad and find peace in it all.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 04:39 PM
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You’ve got to do it all yourself dude. I had to go through everything in getting this done. Even to this day I’m doing things to clear both of us from it. It’s a mother fucker but peace is at the end of the line for this. At least as much peace as I can without her. Just do it on your own. Get everything started and finish everything. It’s Annoying as fuck but if you don’t do it, it’ll never be done
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 05:43 AM
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Dude this sounds awesome. Congrats bro. I am also not planning on actively dating. Ex left me with a mound of debt, I have 50/50 but she leaves them with me more, and I’m jaded from this marriage. Hopefully I find this too.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/23 03:43 PM
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You guys can do a VA loan assumption with whoever gets the house as the assumer and the other as the seller. Speak to your mortgage company. It’s I’m doing with my exwife. Edit: there is no cost or credit checks.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 01:20 AM
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If it wasn’t for the kids I’d say GTFO asap, but you have two little girls. Ima be a dad of two little girls in this response. Men around your daughters is a serious risk. If she already cheated, she’s gonna be having dudes walk in and out. Eventually, you’ll get over her but your girls are still yours. Focus on your own shit brother. My exwife made it a competition with school. We got married when I was in the Marine Corps and going to school part time. She had no ambition for anything and she …
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 04:05 PM
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/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 03:55 PM
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When my wife and I first separated we told them. We got back together. A year later same thing and this time I wasn’t going to ask for us back. It really fucked with my kids. They were 3&5 now 4&6. It messes with them. They are happy but not happy at their moms. I can see they miss her at mine. Her place they live uncomfortable. Here they can’t take their toys to moms. I finally pulled the trigger because we weren’t doing good intimately and we already were on thin ice together. She initiated, w…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 02:14 PM
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Leave dude. Get pictures of both of you, get a fire pit, throw them in there and grieve the death of your wife. You’re wife is dead. Now it’s just you children’s mother. If you stay, you’re an idiot. Don’t be anyone’s walking mat. If not, before you know it you’ll be jerking off in the corner while she gets railed all on “it’s what I need”. Edit: you know that was harsh. Just take it day by day bro. I feel you. I tried telling my ex let’s separate but be married. She still wanted to go out to cl…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 03:44 AM
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She wasn’t your fucking problem anymore. If she did it to you, she’ll do it again. Think of it as a very expensive lesson learned. If you get married a again wear a dunce hat. Sucks they do shit like this.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 02:45 PM
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She took all the jewelry I gave her and the ring. Idk if she sold it or threw it away. Idc it’s money spent.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 07:11 AM
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Every divorcees favorite word I swear
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 12:21 AM
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Look lawyers just wanna get paid. Id do everything not to use a lawyer. But do it like I did. Retain a lawyer. You can have them give you advice and should be able to sit in your back pocket just in case. My ex was meh until she wasn’t and started to threaten things. I brought my lawyer into it and less than 3 weeks we are divorced. It was mostly the threat of using lawyers . It may be different in your case but it’s always good to have one just in case.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 07:53 PM
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YT add to this. I went back to the master room to sleep. She threatened me that if I did anything she’d call the cops. So, I bought 4 cameras put the all over the rooms/house and a GoPro id wear all around. She left that week.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 07:39 PM
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Yeah man good luck. It’s best for both parties to keep it civil away from lawyers. It’s cheaper to argue together than have lawyers argue, charge you up the ass, then both get drinks together.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 03:59 AM
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I for sure believe this too except she can still make life shit if you have kids. I really would like to not worry about her but Jesus she constantly shutting the bed. I’m much more at peace but fuck man. I’m just not being particularly nice. By nice I mean a stepping stool she can use whenever. I’ve set some boundaries. Legal stuff sounds nice but it’s expensive and hardly goes anywhere.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 07:05 AM
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I just got done with a similar situation. Really ugly in the beginning until she finally said she was going to drag it. I then told her I have a lawyer and I’ve had one on retainer for a while. Shit changed. We agreed to keep it civil. Within two weeks we were divorced. Pretty easy as the courts won’t question if there isn’t anything crazy. I suggest retaining a lawyer but don’t use them for everything. Make it like insurance.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 06:52 AM
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I’m 19 years younger than you, but I do get you. Look man you made it this far, you can keep sticking through it. Tough it out and make you’re retirement as best as you can. I’m sure the kids love dad. Look all this is going to take time. Probably a lot more than I need it. I’m still hurtin to but I realize our stages of life are different. Good luck dude. Just take it day by day. Meal by meal. Happy birthday man.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 06:46 AM
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Marriage counseling when it’s bad is like trying to eat Cheerios to get healthy and your still eating 3 #2s.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 04:26 AM
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Title: Should be over FTFY Seriously take the above posters advice. Get custody of your girls. Get proof. Talk to a lawyer to at least see what can be done. SOME states do have infidelity as an at fault but many do not. Lawyers have free consultations or you might have to pony up 2-300. It be worth. Brother, you need to GTFO that situation. Take your girls. It’s tough dude, I’m also a father of two little girls, you got this though. Hold on to family if you can. There is a light after this tunne…
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 10:14 AM
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It’s funny. They just mentioned mommy left us alone to get something so you can too. This is after I told them we need to go to the store and my oldest said she didn’t want to go. Gonna take them to therapy. Sucks ass children even need to be subjected to this shit
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 04:33 PM
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Please don’t apologize. We all deal with this. It’s good we all share our experiences. Reading old posts helps many and has helped me.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 04:27 AM
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Yeah fuck them dude. I’m also a vet and that whole “vet” shit is stupid af. At some point it’ll just be a pissing contest. Some vet tries to kill me over that? I’m in Utah. Always strapped. We have crazy road rage in this state. I just try my best to ignore it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 04:25 AM
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Holy shit I’m sorry to hear that bro. How you didn’t do something is big of you. Idk man I see red and if I didn’t see anything from the cops. Man who knows how the fuck id react. But yes this is a reason why I hate the system. They’ll approve an increase in CS instantly though. I hope you can get your little one. Sounds like she’ll be 10x better with dad. Hey homie is a certified cuck though. Throw that at him.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 03:14 AM
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7k. I was the only one with a lawyer. I got lucky since she didn’t want to spend on a lawyer. Got 50/50 custody, lowest court mandate CS, no alimony, and I got to keep my house. I feel great now. Edit: if you count all the shit she took from my house and the car, were looking at 30-35k in addition.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 09:03 PM
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Look man shits tough. I’m also freshly divorced. I felt this way for the first 2-3 months. It hurts sometimes now but it’s way less. This is gonna sound corny af, but how I got over my ex was I “buried” her. Obviously not in the literal sense but the women I “loved”. I took some time grab a picture of us, the shit she gave me like birthday cards, and other crap. Sat down and threw them in a fire pit. At that moment I buried that women. This dumb symbolic moment help me so much. Along with accept…
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 02:04 AM
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My exwife paints me as this awful man who was lazy, didn’t contribute to anything, and she was a “married single mom” dumbest fucking thing I’ve heard. She has dragged my name to anyone I knew. I am the villain who kept the house, pays little in child support , and is the reason she didn’t progress in life. She had absolutely no ambition until I helped her, I kept the house because it’s under a VA loan, I pay ‘little’ in child because we have a 50/50 agreement. Now I always volunteer too have my…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 10:27 PM
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Bro I was a finance Marine. Who gives a fuck what MOS. Besides your school is long as shit. Especially coming from someone who hasn’t served. I’m sorry bro but she almost sounds like a bunny knowing so much about the Corps. I tried not being the statistic but man fuck it all after some point. As you know with certain MOSs you can make a lot of money getting out. I got offered 120k to just move to Virginia or San Diego and do what I did but as a civi. She said no I want to go with my family yada …
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 04:59 AM
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You’re either an AI based on myself or a lot divorced men feel this way. I’m the same way dude. I’ve got two 4&6 @ 50%. Cannot imagine mixing more kids or even someone else in my life. It’ll just hinder the time with my kids. Maybe date a lil here and there(not now). I could do that date but not live with each other thing. Unfortunately that’s not the case in our age groups.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/23 04:49 AM
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I’ve got two little girls. If they told me that I’d be close the edge too. Just keep tryin bro. Do it for her. Teenagers are dumb and fickle.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/23 10:32 PM
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Nah brother, I mean don’t let yourself get with someone like that again.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 10:44 PM
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Forget about it and make sure it doesn’t happen again. We live a very small amount of time. Life flows like water. Just let it go it’s not important anymore. Let it be some other dumbasses problem now.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 09:14 PM
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So because I’m telling another dude to step up and take care of your DNA, that’s being a feminist. You’ve taken that blackpill as a suppository and now your jaded like those crazy women. You are acting like the reciprocal of them. It’s fine dude. Either you aren’t fucking so it’s fine or just don’t bring kids into this life. Slavery is not that. If that’s the case you’re a slave to your job. Like I said you fucked and nut in her. If you didn’t know she might get pregnant your a dumbass. You thin…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 04:55 PM
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So, you're going to leave this boy, who will turn into a man, with a prostitute. He will grow with no male role model other than the men that come and go from his mom's relationship. His mom will struggle and in turn he will struggle. Unless his mom traps some dude, he will grow up in a single mother household which he statistically be more likely to fail in life. All the while his bitch Dad is "living his life" and he sees him be a "successful man". Nah he's going to resent you. That is not bei…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 09:02 AM
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So then why nut inside her? You fucked her and knew she'd get pregnant if you wanted it or not. Leaving the kid is being a piece of shit. Men if you leave a kid you made that has your DNA, you are a piece of shit. Chop your nuts off since you don't need them to do that again.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 05:02 AM
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I have to pay for all health insurances and our disparities are about 60kish. I have to pay almost 500 a month in Utah. More the more I make. I think I seen if I made 180kish I’m looking at 1400-1500. 183/183 overnight split.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 01:52 AM
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Single parents subreddit is ass too. I went there and replied to a dude asking how it is if you’d date the X . I explained it’s not about the x, it’s the kids. I’m very protective. I got downvoted to hell. some fat troll was going off about who the fuck no one’s what and said my kids are gonna grow up like shit. Too bad she’s probably the shitty fuck and choose a baby dad. While my x has an active father and a non douche.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 01:47 AM
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Yeah I was/am that X. Had to get some therapy to fix some child trauma. Honestly being away from her is giving me new found peace. I’m gonna reiterate this in all threads, but seriously stop giving a shit about her. I mean 19 years a fuck ton of time, but do your best to get there. Then her change means jack shit. Besides she cheated on you. The hell you think she’s gonna stay faithful for AP? AP is the dumbass that married her.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 06:00 AM
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I love my girls. I have purpose in my life. Just try not to nut in crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 02:30 AM
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When you stop caring about her by not feeling any emotions good or bad, you’re over her. Having a stoic feeling towards her is where you want your mental space to be. Still be 100% concerned about your child. Their safety is paramount in this. Do your best to be dad. Seriously fuck her family stop giving a shit. Stop feeling anything about her. She walked away in the worst possible way. Now turn around and start walking away. Don’t look back.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 04:35 PM
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I’m happy your out of it it bro. You married a divorcee. It always a risk. You never know who is responsible. Aside from that glad it was amicable. It’s how it is with my X. We focused on the kids before us. BTW I want you to go through my comments on a particular parents sub. You’ll see the crazy that some people are after divorce/separation. Now go make some money and live a good life 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 02:11 AM
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I’m six months post separation. The beginning hurt like hell. An overwhelming feeling of rejection. Sadness that my family fell apart. Now I am in peace. I am happier. I don’t have someone yelling at me for everything. I no longer feel that I need to walk on eggshells to keep her happy. I was worried too much of her happiness. I forged mine. I’m a much better dad. I’m on my way to being debt free. It’s a lot better dude. I still have bouts of sadness but it goes away. Edit: this mofo is a grifte…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 05:39 PM
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You should see a reply I did to a certain single parent subreddit. What I said was just being a protective father to very young girls. I got called imaginative and downvoted. They even hate a father who cares. Shit lost here bro.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 05:32 PM
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Pretty much described my exwife. It’s describes so many others exwife.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 05:28 PM
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Oh yeah dude there are plenty, but you will still find 20-29 rife with single moms. It’s the reality of living in certain locations. Places like New York will have less but you have to deal with the boss girl attitudes. It’s all a shit show and I no Ionger encourage marriage or long term, live in relationships. Too much risk.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 05:26 PM
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This is how I see it. A lot of the women my age,30m, usually have kids in tow. Usually they also have most of the time with them. That’s means if you are in a serious relationship with her , you will be expected to contribute as a father. Yet you won’t have the authority of a father. In cases where the dad is dead, incarcerated, or completely left(I’m talking out the country) then maybe you can be the acting father. If the dads there , than your just subsidizing his kids. In my case I have my ch…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 10:09 AM
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Don’t feel that you need to keep your mouth shut here. You seem level headed. Most people here enjoy a women’s take to this too. Feel free to comment or post if it fits. No one will (should) give you a problem. My sister is a left leaning liberal and she still see how crap marriage was for me.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 08:53 PM
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If you put a gun to my head and said I have to get married… I’ll pull the trigger myself.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 05:01 PM
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DONT do it dude. Either she needs to make the same as you or more. Even then you have crazy risk.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 04:20 PM
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Im sorry this happened/happening to you. I really hope other men see this and realize the shit show that marriage can bring. Hell even women need to becareful.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 08:31 AM
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Look up Jocko Wilkins on break up. Has a good segment about it. Be nice and move on. Don’t look back. There is no reason to do it. My X has been dragging this damn divorce. We are almost there but she keeps stalling. She’s the one that wanted it and now I really want it. She also had that idea if we can be best friends. She tells me little things like if we were together still. I just listen and I’m nice. I’ll be honest, it’s just a façade so she can sign these papers. After it’s said and done, …
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 04:20 PM
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RIP Patrice will always be respected.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 08:57 PM
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Yeah that post is fucking cancer. It just solidifies my feelings about getting into a relationship again. Fuck all that bro. Especially if the wife tries to come back. Let me get ran through then go back to the fuck stick to pay for my bills again.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 08:49 PM
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The bimbo thing careful with that. I know your jaded but you can get this sub banned or made to look even worse. Lots of dudes get plenty of help here so we all need to be mindful of the shit we post here. That sub Reddit is fucking awful. I’ve been accused of being the one in the wrong. I never received actual help just that I was the bad one. So much awful things are said in that sub and it’s like every doesn’t fucking care about keeping a family. It’s always “I just don’t feel the spark” or “…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 06:40 PM
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Yeah bro it’s how I feel about my marriage. Big fucking L in my life. I dealt through shit to be with her. Gave up careers. All for it to just mean jack shit at the end. One of my biggest Ls.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 03:15 AM
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It’s gonna fuck your little ones up. You have two options leave and “live your life”. Or stay and be the father you should be. You fucked your wife and made two kids. Now you want to leave to better yourself. When you are a parent, life ain’t about you anymore. This isn’t a situation where an exwife is purposely trying to prevent you from having them. You are volunteering to leave so you can better your career. Be a man, stick through it for your kids if it means sacrificing a few years of your …
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 10:13 AM
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Hank pretty much hit the nail on the wall. Just want to say I tried the same. She wasn’t having my it. Found some individual therapy and that therapist allegedly called me abusive and that she should leave. That was one of the last things she said before leaving the house. I’m fine now. It sucks though man. We just want to fight to keep our family. Good luck bro.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 10:04 AM
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Not your problem anymore, other than the kids. Be glad it’s not you dealing with her shit.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 07:19 PM
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I have family pictures of us and a few of us together. I put them in a folder on the cloud and a thumb drive. I’ll give them to my daughters when they are old enough. If it wasn’t for them, they’d be deleted. Fuck I wanna look at a mistake. Edit: if you have any sexy pics, delete them. If anything it could be hard for you if you see them.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 07:18 PM
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I do tho. A 🥜 is a 🥜. Better than manuala and I have to put almost no effort. Some of us have no standards for a night.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 07:13 PM
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I wish I could leave dude. I’ve seen these passports bros live it up. I have a pension and it would stretch real far somewhere else. At 30 I could just start over. I love my kids too much bro leave them though. I think that’s a wall some of us have with that.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 07:09 PM
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Idk how OLD is since I’ve never used it as I was married through my 20s. I’m 5’8 and got some weight not fat though. I lowered my standards and a fucked a few. I’m 30. Older women tend to just want it. They’ve tended to be fat or not as attractive. This sounds fucked up but I don’t really need to do much then talk to them and smash. I’m jaded and don’t want to work for it with anyone. A poster here said “I got used to fucking fat girls since I was fucking my exwife!” Truer words have never been …
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 07:05 PM
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Nah it should be like that. We all go in knowing it can happen. It’s like thinking you might not get your shoes wet on a boat. I’ve got daughters and I would not want that at all. If you got burned by divorce than you’re the dumbass who got married in the first place. Myself included. Yeah do I think people should reconsider divorce if there isn’t abuse or anything like that sure , but no way in hell should anyone be forced to stay. If you want that go to a different country.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 06:39 PM
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I had the same thing with my exwife. This was after almost a month of no sex. I have a high drive and would always try but she shot me down so much. Granted it was bad as I would do everything just to get some and it made me simp bad. I asked her why she’s mad if I don’t get any from her. Id rather do that then cheat. She said it was like if I was cheating. Never made sense to me.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 06:53 PM
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Yup definitely. The cost is outrageous. All I’d suggest is offer that time. It’s a fucking scam dude. You’d have to pay her and still keep the kid more. Other side is you spend some time with your child and you know shes safe. Maybe let her know you’d be willing to watch your daughter. If you have the time of course. Edit: you’re doing a good job dude. Just be there for your little girl. Give her love and affection. Let her know dad loves her and is always with her. Support doesn’t matter. Keep …
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 01:38 AM
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I am kind of similar situation. She works graveyards. They stay with her family and they don’t like it when she’s there. My lawyer let me know it’s a good shot at least 60/40 my favor. I want them to have their mom and I don’t want to pay more in lawyer fees. I just told her, hey bring them to me on your work days. You can pick them up. It’s working so far. She’s dumb but little does she know that if she ever slips up, I have this on her. Take her to court once I’m debt free.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/23 11:51 PM
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Opposite username for sure. I agree with all this. The initial divorce hurts but then you start to realize what’s important.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 10:11 PM
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In Utah you do. Most states you do. Sucks ass. I really don’t see why. Fuck it tho I’m trying to work with the X to make both our lives easier.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 08:35 PM
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This OP. Stop talking, stop giving a shit. Let her talk, get mad until she’s red and blue. Eventually she’ll have other shit to worry and realize you aren’t giving and energy to it. If you get caught up, well man that’s your fault. Stop messaging, talking, whatever just stop or you’ll get yourself in more shit.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 04:57 AM
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Yeah man once you get into this state of mind it’s much easier. I was able to cope by just telling myself she wants to leave, she’ll be someone else’s problem. I am A okay now. The best part is when you stop giving a shit about her. Like if she regrets it or is with someone. I frankly give a fuck as long as my kids are okay. I just miss having my daughters with me everyday the most. I would’ve kept dealing with her alcoholism, abuse, and lack of intimacy just to have my daughters around.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 09:27 PM
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Think of it like this. He is voluntarily cucking himself. AND youre still in the picture. Just keep an eye on your girls safety and let the clown, clown it up. Youre still dad and always will be. The beginning phase is always pleasure but eventually real shit comes down. That’s where dad comes to play.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 01:46 AM
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We have little reproductive rights. “I’m on the pill or birth control” lies and now you’re stuck for 18 years.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 07:58 PM
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I know. I only stated I felt like a chump because now my kids are in an unsafe environment . I’m just hoping she decides to leave and not drink anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 07:57 PM
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Honestly considering it dude. I love my kids and idk if I want to deal with another potential baby mom.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 05:54 PM
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Yeah I understand man. Just kind of made an off comment on having children with someone that can just say fuck dad I’m leaving with a legit stranger. There are women who will focus on their kid and make sure dad is always there. Even after a long relationship. I’m also having a hard time with my x and her talking shit to my children about me after being together for 8 years. Lord knows how the future holds. Good luck dude no matter what fight for your boys. It’s bullshit she’s doing this. It is …
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 05:53 PM
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I mean you should probably wear a condom then bro.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 05:24 PM
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The shit that happens when you nut inside the wrong person.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 03:46 PM
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Yeah it’s why I hate going to the gym too. I just prefer being able to workout on my own accord.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 07:15 PM
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Yeah it’s why I hate going to the gym too. I just prefer being able to workout on my own accord.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 07:12 PM
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Yeah stop making excuses brother. Invest in some decent dumbbells. You work your whole body with just those. Then get a bench. If you have the space grow from there. After you feel “comfortable “ hit the gym but there will always be dudes bigger and stronger than you. You just need to leave that mindset.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 03:02 PM
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Bro you sound jaded af. Stop ingesting that dumbass black pill. It’s called networking. Yes for women it can be easier. Especially in those fields. That tall dude probably just has some charisma. I’m average height. At that age it was easy to find any ole job. I had an Internship offer a big company at the age of 29. I couldn’t go cuz of kids. Stop blaming everyone else for your issues. Look at yourself in the mirror and figure out wtf you are doing wrong. Accept if for what it is. Pick your hea…
/r/MensRights12/04/23 05:37 AM
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My best advice is if you recognize something is a problem , than address it to better yourselves. Self reflection is good and it helps us be better. As far as it being the reason why, who cares. Move on the best you can forget her.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 06:37 PM
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Look man I would not advise anyone to marry in our day in age. I see absolutely no benefit to it. A bit better tax benefit should not sway anyone. Everything else can be done without introducing the state. Unless you’re in a common law state, just make it a commitment relationship without the government. If you do get married , try not to have her be a SAHM after your youngest goes to school. See stay at home moms usually are because childcare is expensive as fuck, so you might actually encourag…
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 04:12 PM
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I get a pension from being hurt in the military and the ex makes less than that. I have to pay child support. She tried to get alimony from it until my lawyer threatened to take full custody since I was the full time parent. In all honesty I should’ve followed through but I was chump and wanted my kids to have their mom too.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 03:57 PM
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Gonna say no to Utah. It has to be defined as a marriage by others and you have to say she/he is your married spouse. It’s hard to get it done. https://www.utcourts.gov/en/self-help/case-categories/family/marriage/common-law.html Edit: proof of consents details it. Both of you need to agree to it or have agreed to it. Not sure why people always put utah
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 05:07 PM
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808’s and heartbreaks just cuz it’s nostalgic and it’s my favorite album
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 03:46 AM
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It’s a huge risk dude. My ex would complain how I never did laundry. She had a mountain of dirty laundry perpetually for years. Now that it’s jus time and the kids? My closet hasn’t been cleaner. Even my kids hamper is hardly full. Cleanliness? Been super easy to clean and my kids have discipline when theyre with me so not much from them. I know now the real problem.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 12:02 AM
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For sure better safe than sorry. I am going through divorce and I asked my lawyer that question. He pretty much told me not to worry about it but you can never run away from CS. Either way common law if a stupid fucking thing.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 11:15 PM
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Cross Utah off the list. You pretty much have to both agree to it being a marriage for it be recognized that way.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 09:55 PM
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For me cohabitation is a risk since you have to change everything for her. At least my experience and the experience of others. I don’t mind it the women is cool, I’ll let her do whatever. It’s the little shit and petty fights over everything. Fuck that.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 09:54 PM
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My ex wife turned to a CNA. Her friends she met and during that time it was just toxic. No one believes me but I say it was a huge factor to the down fallout our marriage. All those girls are the biggest ⛏️. All her CNA friends just wanted to go to Vegas and party. Whatever now. She’s 31 with two kids trying to live it up with 20 something’s. Good luck bro. As long as I’m not responsible for her anymore. Good riddance to that.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 05:46 AM
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There was a recent post about a women cheating on her husband for whatever stupid reason. There were many supporting her or not even slightly scolding her for it. Wild bro.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 02:10 AM
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Man after showering with hundreds of men and living with these fuckers. Hell nah. Rather deal with the female BS lol.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 12:57 AM
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I’m not saying paying for sex is the way to go. Getting your nut off isn’t too hard. I’m not a tall fuck but it’s still isnt hard for me. I more so said that because I feel so hard against relationships right now. The more success you gain, the more women will gravitate towards you. You don’t sound like an introvert. I say just focus on your success financially, physically, and emotionally. Be the best dad. I’m sure you’ll find someone. It’s the cohabitation and throwing resources at one person …
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 12:14 AM
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I’m 30, 31 soon. My divorce is almost done. She is being a fucking vindictive B. She decided to leave. She feels entitled to my money and my pension that my body had to pay for. Idk wtf is going to happen but the divorce is gonna be over soon. I feel hella jaded from this marriage. I gave this women everything I could give her (which is the biggest mistake). I wanted to finish school as it’s something I’ve struggled to do since I was 23 in the Marine Corps. So many years having to drop a semeste…
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 10:15 PM
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Bro you need to start a podcast or something. I always come to this sub and you just spit facts. Divorce really can change a man for the better. Thanks for your input.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/23 11:46 PM
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More than likely homeboy is temporary. Besides the point you shouldn’t even care. Like all other say focus on you. Don’t try and date. For me I am working out more, picked up reading, and I got a new puppy. Pain the ass but that lil guy makes my life much better. I can honestly say it’s filling the void of companionship. This lil fucker loves me and I do too.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 08:41 AM
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Honestly, if my girls and I have a good relationship when they are at that age, I’ll just offer to give ‘em money. I’ll tell them wait 6 months and I’ll give you the money I’d give your mom. Rather my seeds than a mistake.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 06:53 AM
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I have the same issue. My loan is a VA loan keep in mind. I am able to assume my loan without any credit checks, down, or anything like that. All I need to do is provide the mortgage the divorce decree stating who gets what. Check if your loan can do the same. Other wise I’d have to refinance a loan that was 2.7 to 6.whatever . Can’t afford that at all.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 10:45 AM
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Just tell her we should still divorce and you can try again after it’s done. If she says no then she most likely doesn’t want to be with you. Edit: if it works out, remarriage is cheap. Protect yourself first.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 06:38 PM
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I’m not a feminist I’m just saying the word feminist means you want equal rights for women. Radicals made feminism a wacko movement now. It’s why I say most of us are feminists but they call us misogynist for saying they are radical. Im trying to call out the hypocrisy of feminists. My man, I could give two fucks about new age feminism. I believe misandry is a thing a lot of women are doing. It was done to me. I’ve pretty much taken the red 💊. Im getting fucked during my divorce. All im doing is…
/r/MensRights24/03/23 05:20 PM
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W transformation. I’m also planning on getting tatted. Had to postpone it since she got pregnant with my first.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 11:20 PM
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Jesus that’s the fucking worst experience. I hated it so damn much. Now? Idgaf give me my kid.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 11:12 PM
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I’m sure most of us are feminists (women’s same rights and all that jazz). It’s the radical feminists that are loony.
/r/MensRights22/03/23 10:08 PM
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If you want me to be honest , his kids. As a dad with two, I am an active father with 50% custody. Mine are younger but that 50% is dedicated to only them. I couldn’t justify adding someone else while I am being dad. If his kids aré older than maybe it can work better. At 37, hopefully dudes got his shit together and is financially well off. If you’re taking it slow, than you’ll learn to see if being with someone with that many kids is what you are willing to do. If he doesn’t have 50%, than 1 o…
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 11:12 AM
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Bro is a legend.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 11:50 PM
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Good thing is he’s already divorced for a year. Mans just needs to skedaddle .
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 06:01 PM
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We need to be rough in each other. It’s how a lot of us fell into the Disney mindset. You’re doing good by being real and not holding back. As men we should be able to take it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 05:55 PM
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Sorry you're going through this bro. I grew up with an autistic brother and I know the struggles of it. Can't imagine two. I also am disabled but more so go to school. One of many factors why my x left since I am at home too much and should get a job. Even though I paid everything. Entitlement is fucking stupid. Anger is what got me through the rough parts. Read up on some self help books too. Check out some positive mens podcasts but be careful of entering incel, fuck all women territory.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 12:08 AM
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You need to let the image of your wife die. Grieve its death and move forward when you can. Just deal with this bullshit until the divorce is final. You got your kids and they should be safer than being with her. Try and do your best to limit contact with her.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 12:02 AM
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Usually I’m like just get over her life is better, but damn. Spending almost my whole life with someone? Yeah I’d probably not get over her either. Good luck brother . I hope it’s smooth sailings for you going forward.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 11:16 AM
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I asked my stbx kindly so we can both move on easier. Kind of a struggle but then realized it’s for the best.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 11:08 AM
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It’s just a stupid way of saying you’re going to die for 15-30 minutes
/r/PussyPassDenied17/03/23 05:33 PM
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I was also dumb as shit 20 year old. When they introduced IT I thought it really as just extra training for drill or something. Fuck me was I wrong.
/r/PussyPassDenied17/03/23 04:30 PM
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Not to shit on an already crappy situation, was she a single mom prior to? Or your kids? Touch break tho. Be glad it’s over. Edit: I answered my own question after reading it again.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 03:47 PM
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Bro just gave 100k up for , what’s essentially, a fling. Hope more men(even women) learn from this. Marriage is a joke and a vacuum that destroys wealth.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 03:45 PM
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If I didn’t have children, yes I’d move. I have em though so I’m stuck here for ~15 years. Id move not because of her but because I’d like to start experiencing shit I couldn’t bring with her. I get a pension and being an expect at 30 sounds pretty sweet. That’s not the case. Now I’m just dad and I’m happy with that.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 03:42 PM
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Find a good lawyer and they’ll get you covered. Expensive bulllshit that’s a part of divorce. What you do need is to follow the advice of throwaway. Also steer clear of drugs or alcohol. Start thinking and doing healthy things (exercise, food, mental growth). Think of this as an opportunity to grow. This is hard because, depending on the person, you can’t see past this fog of divorce. Take your time and understand it’s gonna be some time until you can think clearly. I still struggle but it’s bec…
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 10:39 AM
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Look man to each their own. What you did , I wouldn’t do in a 1000 years. Good for you hope she’s worth it. I’m sure you can do it. Just need to put more attention to your son and show him you’re his #1. This is why I will not take any future relationship seriously. No one but blood will live with me for the next 5-8 years. I’m focusing on my grind and my girls. The last thing I want is for them to say that. Id rather be alone and have them know they have a safe place with dad, than find a women…
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 10:29 AM
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100%. Problem is you don’t know the truth. You can only find out with time.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 09:15 AM
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My man came with sources!
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 02:09 AM
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Fuck that bro. Have a little more self respect for yourself. She’s fucking the ex and then says she wants to fuck him and only him. Brother that’s not an open marriage. That is you getting cucked. Stop it now. Leave her she ain’t shit.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 03:34 AM
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This is definitely something I also learned. So many different dynamics that I needed to learn about. I got married young at 22. Being a a stupid Marine doesn’t help. I fell for the whole Disney thing. Disappointed in myself for that one.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/23 06:45 PM
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My ex was an attractive women. She’s still cute but add an extra 80lbs. Her body is a lil jacked up now but that’s cuz she put herself through child birth. I appreciated that about her and I still think the same about other women who are moms. What I am grieving is the loss of what I considered the closest best friend I ever had. Turns out she wants to be a total bitch now. That friend died. I’m still sad about it. Sad about my families death. I am getting jealous? Of the fact she probably start…
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/23 10:58 AM
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I mean it is true. It’s true for most of us. You can lean in to a fuck boy and just lie to a future women. You most likely will come across others that say that. Just tell them what they want to hear and then bail when it gets too serious. It’s a shitty way to do it but it’s what I did when I was younger. It can also help gage exactly how she is since it’ll take a couple years to see the real her.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 04:27 AM
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I hope more men read into this much more. I am guilty of trying to love the X more than myself. Many of us do that too.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:27 AM
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What god damn cringe fest of a show. Loved it tho
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:26 AM
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Look dude, have a blast with this girl. Enjoy it. I recommend not getting married. What does this mean? You will probably lose her in the future. You really shouldn’t jump in to a marriage. Most of us are in our 30’s-40’s so it means many women will probably push for marriage faster than our 20’s. Just be smart and make smart moves. You already know the BS of marriage. Also she’s got a bunch of red flags. Don’t let rose colored glasses blind you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 03:24 AM
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I just don’t have her on any socials. I also rarely use any of them. The kids are dropped off at school and then I pick them up. Hardly see her. I also know I am better off without her. It’s a slow growth cuz theirs still things that infuriate/sadden me. Just ignore her the best you can, delete her, start looking outward at your own future.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 09:13 PM
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Hey dude I have and am still going through what you are. Same emotions, same begging to save my “family “. I’m failing at school. I’m getting back to not wanting to do anything. It sucks dude . I have started being more stoic to this whole ordeal. I am seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. My kids are young. I didn’t want to give them trauma. Now I just am the best dad I can be. It’s noticeable with what they say and how they act with her. Just keep at it for those kiddos. I’m also alone. T…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 11:12 AM
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Yeah dude my youngest is about to turn 4. I’ve got minimum 14 years to deal with her. Just be safe. Others can tell you how she will still try and keep you as a wallet while she gets pumped and dumped.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 06:16 PM
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I had my ex cook and offer me food. Clean up after me. Buy me lunch. The moment she left, she became a bitter hateful person. Out for every cent and anything she can get. Some of her brothers coworkers came to help her get the stuff we agreed she’d get. Some dude hurt himself “oh no I’m sorry that happened “ then I just try to help her love some stuff, “get the fuck away from me I want nothing to do with you.” We have two kids can’t get rid of me that easy. Just accept it’s over be as civil as y…
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 04:26 PM
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Dude. Go on the r/divorce subreddit. There’s a recent one of a girl complaining her husband was digging through her computer. Yeah it’s invasion of privacy, but it just shows he was right about her seeing someone. Best thing to do is just not take anyone seriously anymore. Cold world and we need to be the same.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 11:15 PM
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The whole dating thing is what I am planning on doing. At least nothing serious. I don’t want my daughters to see I’m with someone else’s kids more than them. They are the only women I want to live with for the next ten years. I’ve made a pact with myself, no living with anyone that doesn’t share blood with me.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 09:55 PM
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Like others said, with kids you want to just get a card and maybe non rose flowers. Or small crap the kids want. I did that for Valentine’s Day. I’m probably gonna do that always and send my daughters with some flowers for their mom. I want them to see how dad treats others so they can want that too. Fuck any future dude if he don’t like it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 06:48 PM
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For any cheaters who can possibly want to stay with them? I can only think of pump and dump people like her. Sorry that happened to you.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 06:45 PM
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Look dude, those kids of yours need you. If she’s as much of a bitch as your describing, they’ll suffer. I’ve seen, in person , how women treat their post divorce children in a new marriage with kids. They’re gonna need dad. Stop thinking about her dumbass, think about your lil ones. It sucks reading how fucked she’s going to leave you. I also felt this way strongly. I decided to drive from slc to the mountains of Wyoming going about 120+ zipping through everything at night. I didn’t care what h…
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 05:50 PM
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As men, we tend not to speak too much about emotions. Divorce is hell, but the impact it brings to us is awful. Even if you don’t have kids. Make you future memory better. Get that person away from your and your memories .
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 12:28 PM
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I have that feeling but the moment I know or find out another man was inside her. Game over. Never the fuck again. Sure she had a few before me but idk it’s different after me. Kinda like meh. I’ve always felt this way towards women I’ve been with. It’s like the equivalent of a girls stupid ick. You just can’t and especially when they cheated. Don’t go back dude you’re better than that.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 10:24 AM
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So my exwife was also trying to be nice and all that. Wow was it a façade. Towards the end of our marriage she is now the most evil hateful person I’ve met. It’s insane how 180 she did.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 02:04 AM
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So I actually tried this. Late 2021 is when my stbx walked away from the home. I’m gonna be honest here and I feel ashamed, I begged her to stay. I just put in my head it was all my fault and I need to change. Sold old home bought new one in 2022. All was good and took some trips with the kids. I did my best to change up the things she didn’t like. I started to notice how different she was with me. October hits and I was feeling seriously neglected emotionally, physically and we were fighting al…
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 03:16 PM
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Thanks dude for the encouragement. I’m still going through the process. Sometimes it feel hopeless. She’s mad at me for no reason but to be mad. Had no idea yelling at someone is considered DV there. Shits wild. Good luck in your future. I hope to feel that way soon enough.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 07:53 PM
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My stbx is going to take one of my kids best sets. About 1600 that’s going to be hard to replace right now. She told me she’s going to sell it to her family that never pays. She’s rather give it away then keep it at my house for HER daughter to have. Now I’ve got to set it up differently for them. Some bullshit bro.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 06:13 PM
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Mine just left a little less than two weeks ago. Shits been hard. She just took all her shit too and the stuff we agreed for her to have. It’s touch dude . Keep your head up.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 06:11 PM
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I’m almost done with a divorce and I also experienced this. Idk I had the opposite effect shits awful seeing how easy some women are. At least in bars. Maybe I’m still feeling screwed by the stbx. Need some more me time before I feel your way. Good on you for getting there though. I need get outta my head too.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 06:07 PM
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This literally just happened to me a few hours ago. She comes gets some shit we agreed on. Starts being the biggest asshole. Even said “I never want your friend” well too bad we got kids
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/23 11:03 PM
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I read that stupid post. She’s calling a typical argument abusive. Absolutely wild dude. Look man there are many good women out there. The thing is it’s a damn toss of a coin at what you get. Humans are capable of anything and they can change drastically. For now, no I don’t think marriage is something men or women should strive for. We are just gonna keep seeing declining birth rates. Maybe more suicides from both sides. Idk shits all fucked up.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 05:20 AM
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It would be free easy sex for NOW. Then it’s not.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 02:19 AM
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So even if you date her she will still push for marriage. Do not date this girl. You already know her intention is to get married for a green card. Please trust me dude. Marring is not ideal. Eventually you’ll hate your life. She’s a CNA and doesn’t make much. She probably will stay like that. Then what? She gets pregnant. Boom now you have to work harder to pay for her and the kid that comes. Sure family can help but they will only help so much. Do not fall into this trap. If you date her, wear…
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 02:18 AM
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Yes I know. Grew up with dogs. I had a dog with my ex but it was “hers”. I’ve had shiz tzu, akitas, and GSDs. I’m choosing a medium sized dog this time around.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 01:20 AM
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It’s such bullshit dude. Then she tries to fuck me in child support. I just gotta do what she says or I’m fucked. Look I’m sure there are women out there that would appreciate it and be wonderful, but the risk is way too high. We understand that now but that’s after getting burned like a mofo
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 04:45 PM
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Shit advice. Don’t have another child if you don’t want one.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 09:20 AM
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No advice, just a comment. It is ridiculous she is willing to break her entire family based on religion and a fourth child. I know how lds can truly be(live in Utah). What does she think? Mr right is gonna swoop in and give her a 4th? Jesus I don’t understand people sometimes.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 09:19 AM
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So I had a small taste at a bar. For my area, don’t go there unless you want to smash and dash. Holy, it’s just a shitshow. Better to be alone brother. Unless you get lucky, it’s not the best options out there. I’m still grieving. I’m sad and lonely. I miss my kids. Im gonna get a dog though.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 06:17 AM
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Careful bros. In the a Marine Corps we had a FB group that shared similar things but it got out of hand. Nudes started to leak then a lot of dudes got kicked out and/or charged for revenge porn.
/r/MensRights13/02/23 08:53 AM
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Dude I feel this so much. I was fucked up whenever COVID hit me. I was in and out of consciousness. I asked if she could buy me pain relief and Gatorade. All she did was say I am being dramatic. Had to drive my ass to get it and then had to go to the ER. when she was sick prior? I treated her like a queen. Shits wild.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 07:36 AM
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I gave my ex full support. House, cars, good healthcare, an actual active dad(more of one now). She was unambitous and I pushed her to go to school to find something. Paid for school. I even did her homework for every class she took, while I myself had class. I asked for some help with the bills since she wanted an “untraditional “ marriage. I had my anger. At the end, I didn’t clean right, I procrastinated too much. My dude you can’t satisfy them at all. Only two women I will ever provide for l…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 07:33 AM
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As someone that is about to finalize a divorce from an 8 year marriage, you just try. I’m not moved on yet. I’m probably acting like a bitch but I can’t see myself having sexual relations with someone right now. All I focus on is my two young kids, exercising, and reading self help books. It’s helped me a lot. I’ve gone out and got numbers but it’s really just to feed ego and help with confidence. I’m 30 so it’s been a 1/4 of my life. Just gotta focus on you and your kid. Don’t go jump into rela…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 02:08 AM
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Yeah dude I agree with this 💯. I read unplugged alpha and then the rational male. A lot of great points in it. Kind of just has you admit what you already know. Once you accept the reality, things get easier.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 01:58 AM
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I saw that too
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 06:41 PM
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The matrix is more the popular social norms that people abide (or pretend) by. It’s more for western culture.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 01:43 AM
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I struggle with keeping my emotions in check. Hell just a few hours ago I blew up and called my STBX a dumbass for insisting that asking to pay help pay the bill is abusive . You need to seriously read The Laws of Human Nature . great book to learn about the importance of keeping your emotions in check
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 01:35 AM
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Delete this comment before you get a knock on your door or something
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 01:22 AM
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Fucking RIP. I’m here crying over 400 for two
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/23 04:11 AM
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Honestly, life’s a fucking risk. Everything we do has risk. It’s up to us to choose if the risk is worth the potential reward. If you are okay with going through the hell hole of divorce, then just try with the best women that fits your needs. If it doesn’t work out, we’ll you tried. Just understand the risks.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/23 04:06 AM
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That’s the problem with the “manosphere”. A lot of great advice on working on yourself, what women have typically wanted, and other good self help. The issue is that this invites negativity like incels or people who hate women. It’s what makes it hard to be part of it. Just take the good not the bad.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/23 03:15 AM
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I read a comment that resonated with me. “I’ll fuck a fat girl now. My ex got me used to fucking fat girls”. This is true for me. Obviously there is morbid I wouldn’t, but my standards are low now for a quick thing. I would NEVER live with a women again. The only two I would are my daughters. The story is always the same how you can’t be yourself living with someone. Yeah easy sex for the first few month and then it gets real again. Nah I’m good. Rather be a better dad, make money, and get fit. …
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/23 04:35 PM
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Some states impose income if the other party is capable of working. An example is using only the calculator for Utah, they’d have the minimum wage imposed for the state. In court people get what they could make imposed (only What I’ve been told).
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 05:47 AM
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To follow up on this recommendation, I’d also say the Unplugged Alpha by rich cooper. A much more bite sized book, but is still a nice read.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 05:11 PM
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I haven’t seen any obvious signs of cheating but always had little things in the marriage that were weird. She’s being cold and an ass lately. I’ve done a lot of self reflection and reading self help books. I’m trying to be a bit more stoic. Honestly, all the shit I had to live through with her, she’s gonna be someone else’s problem. I’ve found so much peace and bliss after I accepted it. It’s much worse living with the person and not having anything finalized. Read some books on men’s self help…
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 04:26 AM
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Mine wants to but doesn’t. I’m in a unique situation. I’ve been a stay at home dad but I was the primary breadwinner(military pension). I’ve been in school for the past 4 years and she’s the only one that worked. I’m sure she knows it’s a downhill battle. We both know that it may just come to where we are at now. So why incentive the lawyers and just agree on what we can.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 04:55 AM
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Not sure why you were getting downvoted. I am also going through an uncontested divorce. We agree almost everything. She doesn’t want to use lawyer neither do. BUT I have a lawyer on retainer and have consulted with a few before that. Need to make sure I’m ready to switch at a moments notice until it’s fully finalized.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 02:40 AM
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I paid all the bills. Asked for some help here and there. Huge fights about not helping around the house. Me simping so I started to do it. Wasn’t enough. Literally never enough and I did it all wrong. Now divorce and it’s sad but freeing as fuck. I’m never getting married again.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/23 07:58 AM
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I like to warn men that are going through divorce is to be very careful how deep you go. The incel shit is a very nasty place but you will most likely be off put by it. With that said, Rich Coopers stuff is great. His book “Unplugged Alpha “ is a good and simple read. His podcasts and videos are very good and has a no BS attitude. I’ll update this other dude who isn’t so “red pill” and more so just a dude that got through divorce. Also read up on stoic books. Helps deal with the bullshit that is…
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/23 08:21 AM
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I gave mine the paid off car so she can leave me alone without a fight
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/23 09:31 AM
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Nice
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/23 04:34 AM
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Man it feels good to see the shit you read resonate in what others say.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/23 04:30 AM
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I’m 30 going through similar shit. We were sweethearts but I never wanted it until we met up again when I was a Marine. Married 7, together 8(military for you). I have posts detailing what happened. She pretty much wants a bunch and gives little. It’s pretty much her just finding a way out. I’ve been struggling so much. Begged her over and over before. I went to therapy and it helped. Probably what’s helping me is reading men’s self help books(not incel “fuck women” type). It’s helped me realize…
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/23 04:16 AM
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Holy shit dude. I just went through your posts. I’m sorry my guy that is a rough time with that women. Your story makes me realize I really shouldn’t entertain much with someone that has similar baggage. Hope it’s getting better
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 05:55 PM
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She is totally replaceable. And since she has conditioned me to bang fat chicks, I think I'll be ok. I’m 30 and this is pretty much me 💀. Fine though I used to judge other men but hey P is P. I’m used to all that and there is also an abundance at my age too.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 12:24 PM
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She’s cheating on you bro. It’s not worth saving. More than likely she knows her life is going to get tougher and won’t have the stability that marriage has. Get your own life positive, get healthy/er, be a great dad, start looking for new ways to make money or grow in your career
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 03:17 AM
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TikTok is a crappy CCP app but my For You Page has been very insightful. There are SO many young men and men my age (30) who are fed up with this. You still have the major simps though. Many of the small form vids discuss the issues we face. I’ve had a surprisingly large amount of support there too. So many of us deal with this crap.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 04:16 PM
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Hey that’s a Positive . The hardest part is seeing how my kids are reacting. It makes me feel like I failed them. Good thing is we are all here man. Shit sucks but finding a community of dudes who are all going through it helps you feel less alone.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 04:59 AM
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Yeah man I feel you. I’m also a stay at home dad. The issues we had was I didn’t clean enough yet I did. She would prevent me from parenting since I was strict on where the kids could play with their toys. Shit sucks you had to live through similar issues. I hope it gets better cuz man I’ve been hella depressed. Closet I’ve been to thinking about suicide, which I’m not anymore. This women still expects me to give her free childcare. Which sucks since how can I say no to watching my girls. Edit: …
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 04:46 AM
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Hey man I’m also going through similar shit. Except she still lives here. I am paying everything. She always has an attitude. I’m depressed. I’ve been working out, eating better, distracting my kind, and being a good dad. Id suggest those things. It’s pretty fresh for me too.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 12:41 AM
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Bet you busted your ass for years and you get that at the end. SMDH. Sorry about that bro.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/22 06:59 PM
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I swear man. Maybe it’s the Depot water but marriage fucks all of us hard. I was on duty and talked shit the entire night with some dude on confinement. He just got back from deployment, found out wife was cheating, got piss drunk and she claimed he was violent(dude trashed his house but didn’t lay hands), and now he got kicked out his house to stay at the bricks. He was a cool dude and just trying to push by. I went to sleep for a couple hours until it was my turn again. Homeboy hung himself on…
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/22 08:33 PM
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I’m pretty much gonna open a business with my sister. Only person I trust in this world. She will give me a car, house, or anything on her ‘dime’. I’ll do this until my kids are out of CS territory.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/22 08:23 PM
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I’m 30 and I’ve been married almost my entire 20’s. Dating apps make me want to vomit. I’m doing my best not to lump all women in one pool but damn that hook up culture is just gross to me. I’m sure there are plenty of women that aren’t like that but I’m pretty sure they are all married or have huge options. I don’t want to be doing everything to make one women happy. Having to live with someone and deal with all their unhelped issues scares the shit out of me. Being the sole provider while gett…
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/22 08:19 PM
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I do know what to do but holy fuck it sucks. Knowing I won’t be there to keep my daughters safe is killing me. Feeling like a failure is also what’s fucking with me. Still I’m pushing through. I’m glad I’m not getting financially fucked like some men though. I mean i am but not as bad as some.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 04:04 PM
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Yeah the money issue is a mother fucker. It still won’t help with child support/broken families. Even a prenup can fuck you hard since they can claim whatever. Sorry to hear you got royalty fucked.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 04:02 PM
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My pops would tell me not to put her like that. I slowly put her in one. Then I’d be pissed and try to get some frame back but it was late. Never again. I’m ashamed that I’ve begged her to stay recently. I need to fix myself and get out of this bitch mode. The only two girls I’ll put like that are my daughters. And even then they will learn to respect. Don’t think I’ll spoil them like that since I feel it’s a disservice to them. Right now for sure I need to work on myself and goals. I always let…
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 03:53 PM
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Yeah man it is so many of us. The other sub just says we are the problem. Maybe modern marriage isn’t something any man should strive for. At least here in the US.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 03:50 PM
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She is not thin. We both hit our thirties. I gained weight that Im losing. She weighs about the same as me and I am at my heaviest I’ve ever been. Like life, pregnancy pretty much destroyed her body. It wasn’t a bother to me since she gave me the kids. The most I can see is her getting surgery to correct it since it’s pretty far gone at this point. I do hope she gets healthy for the kids but her whole family eats like shit. Really all I can see is surgery being the help. Who knows people change …
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 02:58 PM
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Damn I swear there’s some secret videos wives see that we don’t. The same shit in my life predivorce.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 08:09 AM
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The last part can sound awful to many but I completely agree. No matter the past if a man is now in your future, aside from me, you are no longer someone I want. My stbx is the same way. She’s pretty much saying she wants a divorce because, 1. I spend too much time studying, 2. I don’t take her one dates (I’m fucking broke since I only pay the bills), 3. I asked her to help pay more bills, and her biggest one is I didn’t help her clean the house. She hasn’t cooked for me, cleaned after me(aside …
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 08:06 AM
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Yeah man it’s awful. I thought it wasn’t real and just like a thing that redpill creators would say. But it’s true. It’s true everywhere. I’m disgusted. Those stories of step parents, and even her step parent, treat others like trash. Her own mother shows obvious preference to her marriages children rather than her. I’m seriously afraid she does this. It’s why I would rather not even bother getting into something while they’re kids. I already see men go in and out of her future home. Can’t deal …
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/22 05:17 PM
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Yeah man it’s fucking awful. I’m just hoping Reddit is a small subset of reality.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/22 05:11 PM
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You know I’ve been following rich cooper for a few years and more so recently. I thought the redpill stuff was hating women but it’s not. I see the truth, I’ve seen the truth. I let myself care more about keeping her happy and not myself. I worry my daughters will turn like her, a drunk, disrespectful, unloving women. I felt insane this whole relationship wanting to hold hands or just cuddle. I lacked so much of what I was used to with other women I felt less of a man wanting that with this. Eve…
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/22 12:22 AM
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I feel this so much. My STBXW says she still loves me but needs to move on. We have two young daughters. I want to fight and do anything possible to save my family for their future. Nope she wants to do whatever. Now she’s out going to bars with her divorced family. Literally every adult women around our age are divorced in her family with kids. I don’t get it man. I’m planning on staying single for at least their childhood. I want to give them everything.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/22 12:01 AM
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Such a backwards ass country. You want to be a good parent and for what? You get fucked by the system. Now women are also experiencing these unfair problems with marriage. Sorry this happened to you dude.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/22 05:05 AM
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After reading your comments, I believe you are understandings of the struggles we all face. Thanks for being able to see these things.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/22 04:12 PM
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If anyone gives a shit about this post. It’s midnight my oldest is crying that she hasn’t spent any time with mom. Moms out drinking. I probably still won’t win them. Lord knows if this is a taste of their future. Fuck it hurts to see her hurt.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/22 05:50 AM
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I know this is a old post. It has helped me tremendously. Thank you kind stranger.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/22 05:24 AM
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That’s what I’ve been seeing and honestly don’t want to mess my kids up more than they have. It’s fear of the bad thing to happen to my girls. I think most fathers have that feeling, especially towards daughters. I also hate how profitable divorce is for lawyers, judges, and everyone else that milks this shitty process.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 10:39 PM
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Hey thanks for speaking about the DV stuff. It was hard to admit. Only people that know are strangers on Reddit and my old military therapist. We actually still live together and are having conflicts on the home. It’s been like walking on egg shells and it sucks it’s my house why can’t I be at piece. Since asking for it, I’ve been pretty chill even when things get heated. I’m trying to keep that same emotion. I’ve got one camera setup in the room I sleep in but nothing else anywhere. We’ve worke…
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 04:43 PM
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Yeah I know the courts have favored mothers. Only thing is I am the at home parent vs a different situation. Still I fear playing with fire for nothing. Paying lawyers is also the shit I don’t want to do. Divorce is such a scam with all its stupid fees and processes.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 04:31 PM
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This is why I am scared of the most. Yeah I try to provide as much unbiased context as a could since I wanted genuine answers. I want my kids to be safe. I used to drink but this marriage made me hate alcohol and how it can ruin everyone’s life .
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 04:29 PM
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I am not using cannabis as a she does drugs just it consumes her life. As far as disappointing the kids definitely something I never want to do. Been a while now and I’m doing my best since I watch them most of the week
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 04:25 PM
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Honestly idk shit, but what I can’t tell you is time does screw you. If your at least somewhat smart and successful, you will build wealth. All that building can come crumbling down in divorce. Just read some posts 50 year old dudes with good retirement funding, losing hundreds of thousands. Others who work over 40, 60 hours a week having to pay spouse and child support with that overtime in mind. Shits awful.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/22 05:17 AM
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I’ve felt so alone through my separation. Worse that we still live with each other. Have solace knowing you have support from strangers . I’m 30, married 7, and have two kids. Shits so draining. Hang on dude. You’ll make it. Push through for your baby girl. My youngest is 3 and oldest 5. Living is the best with them. Hell we went to the store and had a great time. Out any of this , feel that love from your daughter. It’ll help you go through anything.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/22 05:11 AM
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Damn dude we have so much similarities. I have other amazing women in my life that are family but it still scares me when it comes to relationships. I don’t feel good enough for anything. This whole process and time I’ve felt worthless. We have such a short life here and people spend it making everything hell. I hope for the best dude. 🍻 cheers for a better life moving forward.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 08:31 AM
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Damn bro sorry for the BS you and the kids had to deal with. You fucking won this fight though. I’m also a disabled vet and just gonna be a SAHD fuck it after this divorce .I’ll be here for my babies. All the blessing you to brother. Thought I was a winner not divorcing before I got out 🤣. Er semper fi
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 05:45 AM
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Hey man I have no idea what’s it’s like battling your own sexuality. I know it’s especially hard for those that grew up very religious. It’s sucks dude and it’s going to suck for her. Ultimately you must stay true to yourself and not have the marriage continue. Do the best you can in explaining the truth. She might hate you after it but the truth is what’s needed. Get yourself some mental health help and be the best dad you can. I’m glad you’re at a place where you want to be yourself. Right now…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 08:19 PM
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Fuck dude. I'm struggling with this whole divorce shit while I pay everything and she lives rent free without working. This is something else. Sorry, you had to go through it. We choose the worst when we just try to love someone.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 05:41 AM
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Bruh this a novella IRL. Still savage though.
/r/PussyPassDenied02/11/20 08:05 AM
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No whammies, no whammies aaaaand... Double whammy!
/r/PussyPassDenied27/02/19 08:57 AM
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All I could think of was little green aliens probing. Kinda like cartman.
/r/PussyPassDenied19/02/19 04:01 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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