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These rights make no sense. For sure a system designed to break families. But be kind to yourself. Whenever im down I pray and know things can change very easily. Just show up, it will be okay Losing money for peace is worth it. And who knows how bad it could have been if you stayed with her. Dont dwell.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 11:29 PM
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Mine switched when our kid hit 1.5yrs of age Never could pinpoint what happened Was very confused like you and kept asking myself where did this come from. Take my advice and from others here: just focus on you and your kid. You cannot regulate her emotions. Move on. At times I feel sorry for what shes done but the woman I knew is long dead. This is just a zombie bitch I really shouldn't empathize for. Its hard when you dont want the mother of your kid to fail so hard but I know that she gets to…
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 04:56 PM
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Not your situation but to answer some of your questions. The only path forward is upward and onwards. Before making any strong decisions, try to see if you can work things out with real changes. I never like seeing marriages fall If the respect is fully gone and if you truly have been betrayed then that may be your closure to walk away. You will find a path with children involved. We al do. Protect them and ensure you them right. Time and meditation provides clarity. Reconnect with God. Stay awa…
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 05:52 AM
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Yall get off the weed. This is coming from a guy who could probably out smoke most and was in the industry. The clarity I have now beats what it brought me. Was never a drinker and the plant was my thing until it wasn't anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 03:56 AM
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How old is your child if you dont mind me asking? I dont want to overstep here but every night still seems a bit much? We separated when my kid was 1.5yrs old and we stuck to alternating weeks as difficult as it was.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/26 04:15 AM
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Why so often? I dread on the occasional times I run into her (maybe 2x a month). She used to haunt my dreams before not anymore. Dreams always bothered me too she would show up and ask for reconciliation. Mind played so many tricks.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/26 03:56 AM
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Laws and rules different where I am but she still needs consent. Who knows maybe she movies without the kid? Take one day at a time. Everytime I see new court materials i get worked up but its a process. You will win and get through this. They all seem to be very selfish.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 09:33 AM
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If it ends, it ends. Its out of your hands Get a hold of yourself and prepare next steps. Dont beg dont think your world is over youll get through this. None of this makes sense and probably won't ever but you got to take care of yourself right now.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 05:06 AM
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Almost 3 yrs. Grateful to God and for my child. Id go through all of this over and over again for him. I am healthier both physically and spiritually. And the compliments have been flowing in again after a really long time. Still working on my finances but life is great.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/26 04:08 AM
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My advice to you: Be kind to yourself. Accept what is happening. Dont search why this is happening. Trust this is for the better. Be present and be a great dad. Cover yourself. Consult with many lawyers. Expect the worst. Pray. And still be grateful. Keep yourself occupied.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/26 03:09 PM
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Never begged. Tried talking about our problems when she became cold and she would say im trying to manipulate her. Unfortunately, she was also getting terrible advice painting a fantasy and how her life would be so much better. She told everyone she was going thru a divorce before she actually told me. And when she did I said OK. We lived in the same home for a few months before she ultimately left. That time was very difficult and I felt so much lighter the moment she finally moved out. You wil…
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/26 02:58 PM
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Damn wow
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/26 08:38 PM
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Would like to learn how she consented to 100% custody. My kid is with me thru the week and weekends with my ex. Arrangement for the last 2 yrs and trying to get this offcialized in court as the status quo but shes resisting. In fact id like that plus every other weekends.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/26 02:44 PM
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Praying and going to the gym
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 01:23 PM
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ChatGPT is useful for many things. But its always given me soft strategy. Ive also seen it change probable outcomes very quickily. You cant lean on it 100%. You wont be homeless. Lean on your brothers here for advice and consult with lawyers.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/26 03:29 PM
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I am in a different country, but had filed an urgent motion with the courts when she pulled him from school and withheld him from me. Remain calm and optimistic - youll get through this
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/26 03:07 PM
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Yes and finally!! Ive been going to the courts upset with how they've been handling the case. In the last submission judge mistook me and the ex in different roles from pre judgmental bias. I had to go back a few times to say you havebt read the material. Truly im so damn happy for you and glad your patience has paid. Wishing you and your kiddos peace and happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 07:32 PM
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Very very happy for you. My blood was boiling until I got to your final update. This is on you. You didnt give up. Bless you and your kids!!!
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 07:24 PM
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Many men put up with it for the well being of their kids. Personal issues: -she always had her up and downs but on her way out it seemed more of a manic episode -child was being neglected by mom -worry was when she moves out, child suffers most -living standards between homes is night and day - kid suffers Fast forward: -still neglects -still under the influence of other women who engage this "better life " behaviour -shes moved multiple times, demands kid attend school near where she moves -dea…
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 02:52 PM
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Dont extend yourself for her. I know its hard when it involves the kids. Mine wealonizes and is brutal too. I also manage what youre doing. Establish serious boundaries and do not feel you need to do more than you need to. Shes not your wife.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 02:02 AM
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Dont fear anything. I get it. Im wired the same way and apply logic by considering all scenarios before they happen but take it one day at a time. Dont overwhelm yourself. My ex is heavily influenced by the wrong women in her circle and thats what continues to escalate conflict between us. I have no control over that. But continue to show up and let them make fools of themselves and keep winning these battles despite this rigged system. I leave it to God and do my best.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 02:33 PM
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Sorry you and your kids are navigating thru this. In my case mediation was not fair. But its OK that it failed. I wish theyd be more real and point her errors than engage her further.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 02:28 PM
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Yep. And i keep saying we gotta be better to one another. Ive tried many times not to lurk here as for the most part im doing well. Ive given up on trying to understand why these things happen as I see it's too damn common. But every time I see a brother here in pain it reminds me of the crap I've faced/facing and felt alone.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 02:25 PM
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Feel free. Note im Canada based (Ontario). Things are similar in North America and really for the Western(ized) world. But just remember mediation is not the same as a trial before a judge. Courts should NOT ignore the facts as they did in my mediation. Im hoping theyll see her for what she is. I went on a rant but one judge did see her for what she is and did give it to her. But getting thru was not easy. Everyone in the process has been very difficult - lawyers, court clerks, doctors you name …
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 02:22 PM
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Yep. No logic. There were 2 mediators in the room and they, too, were morons and biased. They saw the power imbalance between us and wanted to help her. I come from a strong family support system and have resources she does not. They only wanted to strike a "resolution" for the sake of the process. They did not entertain any documentation I put together and which without a a reasonable doubt confirms my accounts on the matter. But looking back, I should have just had a lawyer attend and not paid…
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 02:16 PM
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I dont think its bad. Ive had my 4yr old son give his mom cards, take cake slices and put together mini mother days presents he wanted to get from the dollar store. I know the relationship of a boy to his mom will change over time where hell want to protect her. So I do it because I see he feels like hes the mini man who brought her something. I do it for my boy.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 04:29 AM
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Shes a nasty person. And youre thinking things very wisely. Hang in there, you will be reunited very soon. These types of women are way too selfish. Mine weaponizes my kid all the time - and unfortunately it's getting worse. I also hate how slow things take with the courts.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/25 04:03 PM
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Disgusting behavior. Should help you move on tho.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/25 07:13 AM
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You will 100% get over it. Just keep reminding yourself how selfish your ex was and the betrayal to you and your kids. The woman you married is long dead, this new woman is not her and frankly wishes bad on you and makes funs of you to her friends. So why waste any thought on this new person. Missing the kids is tough. I miss my boy all the time when hes gone to moms. We separated when he was 1.5yrs old and he suffered and still technically does with separation anxiety. Mom is also very neglectf…
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/25 01:07 PM
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My brother, Best way to deal with all of this is to spin it the other way and focus on what you gain (peace). Peace is everything. Get yourself out of feeling down or low asap. We are raised to pivot through life. This is your new life so find a way to push forward. Focus on your self and your kids. Before you sign the separation agreement, make sure you've reviewed it throughly. That agreement will help keep structure. Right now your ex is chasing her fantasies and I can already tell being self…
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/25 12:57 PM
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Depends on what she wants and her own income. Start consulting with lawyers tomorrow morning and post any specific questions here to the brothers. Many here will help you come up with strategy. Dont fear shit. Trust you will be fine. Prepare for all scenarios.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 03:43 AM
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Ive learned men really cannot share any stress with women (wife, mom or daughters). Men gotta show up for men. But this doesnt negate how shes treating you and instantly calling for divorce. If shes checked out, it happened a while ago. Begin preparing for the worst case scenario. It will be okay.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 03:35 AM
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So just remind yourself that when you think of the past. Days leading up to our separation was so bad I thought shed poison me or something to off me. She had switched just like that. I was in her way from her chasing her fantasy. Things were cordial when we physically separated but now 3 yrs out, this woman is becoming way too vindictive and pulls all the crap I never thought she would. I can deal what comes at me but weaponizing and neglecting my kid is what really gets to me. But in warped mi…
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 01:17 PM
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Do yourself a favour now - there is no reconciliation. And this woman you knew is long dead. This new person does not respect you and over time will resent you more and will look to weaponize your kids against you. No point missing this new lady. Get busy and focus on self improvement and your kid. Nothing about her.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 01:57 AM
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In some places, she could get a lawyer and because of her lack of income, have you pay for it. I did it without lawyers but I consulted with many. Mine was chasing a fantasy, yours seems more calculating if she waited for you to land a job. My biggest focus was getting her to sign a separation agreement with fair terms (shared parenting time, school structure, etc). My ex is very bitter now a few years since she left. Now I deal with other issues like her withholding our child but I have a separ…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/25 09:45 AM
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Even the faith-based ones! This one had always been my go-to and I still respect the men here. Yall better not eff it up.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 10:36 AM
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Im speaking from experience. She withheld my kid and said I wouldn't see him all summer. I told her if she wouldn't return then id take the appropriate legal actions. Did it, judge told her off and i got access. Its also documented what shes done if she does something dumb again in the future. Now imagine the other way. If you do nothing, it confirms youre not interested in their lives. Say whatever you will. Its the actions and the documentation. Work on it now. Can't afford a lawyer? Seek help…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 10:57 PM
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Yep - fight for your rights or just roll over.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 01:56 PM
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I don't either. He's being way too emotional. Everyone else who does this should also stop.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 04:17 AM
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You have an opportunity to take care of yourself. Workout, pray, find a hobby, tidy up the place. There are Dads who dont know when they'll see their kids next. You have them all the time but this weekend? Call me cold, but cut the crying. Your kids will be back soon. Better they come back a dad better than yesterday.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 06:21 PM
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George likes his chicken spicy.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/25 07:29 AM
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Thank you for sharing. You did your best and you know what you need to do. Be kind to yourself, brotha. Youre doing great and you should now feel better about moving forward on your journey with the little ones.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/25 02:59 AM
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Sorry you feel hurt and betrayed. I do not understand lot what you wrote but can see you're hurting. Don't dwell and move forward. I dont like posting here but still lurk when I see someone hurting as we all know the pain. Focus on yourself. Praying has helped me by far than anything else. Recently started going to gym years after my separation and am kicking myself I didn't go earlier. I dont know how to describe it but everything is better. I also know my testosterone has raised which I know h…
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/25 02:52 AM
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You're not the first and this won't be the last. Remove any thoughts of getting back together. This will help you. You also said she was nice during the house sale: no she wasn't. It hurts. You feel betrayed and question where it went wrong - but stop. Shell likely haunt your dreams for a while. But if I was in your shoes and knowing what I know, I'd tell myself: this was a major blessing. You got out easy and for good reason. You dont know what she was saying or is saying behind your back. Trus…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 02:41 AM
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Anyone who has been through a divorce understands the hurt and betrayal youre going through. As someone who has gone through this a few years back, I can tell you it gets much much much better. Stop thinking negative. Change your thought process now. You want your comfortable life back. Reality is things happen and you move forward. Missing what you had is OK but rewire your circuits for you own sanity. She doesn't care or respect you. She likely left you for another guy thinking she can do bett…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 01:09 AM
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My kid is younger than yours and have the same issues. It started at 1.5 when she left. Caused lots of issues and still gets separation anxiety. I tried many things including meeting her and doing a coffee run together but it actually made it worse because it was his moment to have his parents together. I rarely see her during transfers now. But he asks always to stay with me. Things improved when he started being with me through the week and weekends with mom. Hes also now more communicative an…
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 03:30 AM
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What do you want and what can you manage? Some parents cannot manage alternating weeks and naturally have more or less than 50:50. Personally i know i can and am managing our kids care better than she is. I know my own situation well and know i cannot do less than what im entitled. In our case, I do the day to day and she does weekends.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 07:40 PM
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Stop the fear. If youre not a a bad guy who has a terrible record of violence and substance abuse, why would you not have shared parenting rights? Men have more rights than we think. You'll be in their life and be a great dad if you chose to be that person.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/25 06:00 PM
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Amazing!! Thank you for writing this. It made me really glad to read.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/25 09:29 PM
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Thank you for sharing. Just worry about your kid and yourself moving forward. It's not worth paying attention to the car crash. You'll end up feeling more pain for her than yourself. I dont want anything bad for my kid's mom, but I do want a lesson to be learned so she sees things more reasonably. I got other issues that matter more than worry about her path. I've got more custody over her now and she can barely manage. I worry more about my kid's' well-being over anything else. My interactions …
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/25 02:19 AM
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Sounds like it to me also. I went through something similar except her emotional affair was with someone she never met. Just journal entries of how they will meet in the future. Have a kid involved which I'm too damn grateful for but issues with her don't end. OP - don't search for the why. If you're wondering her future fate, it will be worse than with you. That's been my experience so far. Don't think about her coming back. Those good memories will haunt you but remind yourself she's dead. I d…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/25 12:19 PM
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Pls expand on the upside for the person who does it first? The rules are different where you're based but where I am you have to physically be separated for at least a year before you file. And that process takes another 6-8months. I drafted a separation agreement that we both signed before she left and I also served divorce papers so on my end I for the most part got the terms I wanted based on both of our rights and was able to take control in ending this. So would be good to know other upside…
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/25 07:41 PM
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Your brother is disgusting. Don't want to get into those details as I'd associate that with you. He deserves to be beaten to a pulp.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/25 10:17 AM
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No more begging. Believe she wants out. What you're feeling is normal and I'm sorry you are going through this as most of us here have. You need to work on preparing for the next 20 steps and consult with a few lawyers. Just put in your head she's not the lovely wife you think she is and will do anything to hurt you more and take amuse. It should light some fire for you to plan what you need to do then. Meet a few lawyers, start thinking about everything you would want on your separation agreeme…
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/25 10:14 AM
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I did for the same reason. It comes down to you really. I know deep down she needs the money. We began 50:50 and provided her payment as rhe child was with her 100% + more. However, i now have our kid more at 70:30 or more. My caution to you is she may blow through the money and it will become a habit. My ex is more bitter now, too, at 2 year + mark. Now that i have our kid more, she also expects more from me in terms of responsibilities, which I continue to assist with (all tuition, transportat…
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 11:26 AM
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No hesitations but hurt and confused. When it was happening I just could not understand how and why. I do think I was blessed to see the conversations that were happening behind me (I.e. with her family encouraging her to leave and would be much better off, telling her boss we were going through a divorce before telling me, and so forth). It was dreadful going through it while living together in different rooms. She'd accuse me of manipulating her when I'd try to talk some reason. I was in betwe…
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 03:08 AM
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100% would sacrifice everything. I'm willing to work also to find solutions but I'm constantly given if you don't do this then never expect to see kid again.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/25 02:27 AM
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Thank you. Curious to know what your parental schedule is?
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 07:58 PM
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Oh, trust me. I have done this for over 2 years, putting up a 1 to 1.5hr commute each way. Tired or being taken advantage. She's moved multiple times And now when we finally have a routine it's changed again because she's moved. Anytime it's the other way, it's fully expected of me and much more.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 06:38 PM
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I think mine also had BPD but not certain. Never clinically diagnosed - but seemed very pronounced when we separated. It does get better speaking from my own experience. I felt a lot of weight off the moment we physically separated. My weak point is care for our kid...and the occasional memories. Only can move forward and my kid is doing much better I try to give him the stability and care needed.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 12:30 PM
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You won't be able to reason with what ever narrative she's got in mind. Sounds like she's got someone else in mind. I don't know. Mine was dealing with some mental health issues fantasizing about someone she never interacted with and was in lala land neglecting our 1yr old. Things are much better for me but the wound still feels fresh after 2yrs.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 02:36 AM
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Sorry you're going through this. Is she not willing to try to work it out or list the issues? If not, you should prepare for the divorce by lawyering up. I know what it feels like as many here do. Prioritize your kid and yourself. Don't get caught in husband responsibilities. This will be painful as eff sharing a roof with someone who is betraying you. Get it in your head early it will be OK at the end of this. Be kind to yourself and do not get taken advantage of moving forward. 💪
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/25 07:40 PM
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Initially when I separated, all I kept thinking about was why and when. Both are answered differently based on the perspective. I tried hard searching why she would do something so dumb over and over again. And when would she wake up from it and us be back together. Now they why is it needed to happen for me. I take it as a blessing. I have a lot more peace away from her. Didn't realize it. The pain is different now. My when now is how quickly do I want to be a better me. Everything now is about…
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/25 03:15 AM
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Congrats!!! I had to give up my business to be with my kid. I'm still paying for it as it got me in debt. I still think my ex has serious mental health issues that caused instability for our kid. And now dealing with other coprarenting issues. Sadly these things happen and men are better with finding solutions and seeking the bigger picture. My opinion based on my own situation and others who went thru a divorce in my circle.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 03:25 AM
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Friends, social media, family and coworkers will always have influence. But it's the person who makes the decision. So it's her. I'm sure you're feeling the raw pain as other men here too have. You can't not text? Sure you avoid it. You're feelings are valid but take it one day at a time. You're hurting and it's OK. Not the end of your world.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 03:17 AM
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I never want to see families break up. Not sure if you have kids but that's my personal weak point. My opinion is just an opinion so take it as you will. I think you need to get cold. I don't think begging ever looks good. At least you know in your mind you're ready to try to make it work and are trying. But it takes 2 to put in the effort. If she's checked out I think you're better off not showing any emotion. If it's just an ugly fight maybe you both are able to sort it out. If there's another…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 03:02 AM
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Initially 50/50 now 60/40 - more with me. I pay all schooling related fees and child support. I pay more than I have to for the sake of the kid. Who knows what the future holds. But won't go less than 50/50 ever.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 05:04 PM
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Ignore it. He needs his parents and don't discredit your love and care. Mentally prepare for words that may come from your kid next. They're kids and will say all kinds of things and don't let it hurt you when that happens too. You're doing great. Enjoy being a dad. I love it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/25 01:49 AM
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This is me! Bless you to pal.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 04:44 PM
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Hard to get to. I've been trying to get to this by not seeing her at all. She is unable to pick up or drop of the kids to school directly because she doesn't have a car. Shouldn't be my problem. And when it's not a school day, somehow expects me to manage all the transportation. Push back and she withholds the kids. All manipulation for her own selfish gain. I don't want to ever see her at this stage. I finally see her for what she is. But she's a pain with any interaction I have. Transormation …
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 11:53 PM
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My life has significantly improved since praying.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 03:47 AM
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Depends on your situation with your ex. Do you think you both can see eye to eye and draft an agreement? If so, then you can save plenty. But if she cannot afford the legal and wants legal, she could shift those fees on you too. I don't know the laws where you are but they can do that. You can call a few a lawyers and see who you think works best for you.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 08:11 PM
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I'm bothered by it too. She was very cold. But now when I look back now I laugh about her surge of confidence. Her way of walking and talking fully changed and behaved she was waaaaaaay above me. Can't reason with this stuff other than let it be in the past.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 01:16 AM
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Haha
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 01:10 AM
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Yep. I'm another villian here. The betrayal earlier in life is definitely a blessing for me. The forum really puts in perspective how bad some situations can be.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/24 08:11 PM
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A few years. I count my blessings. I miss who I married not who I've officially divorced. Still hard to accept she morphed into someone very different from who I dated and married. I wasted too much time trying to understand why it happened because truly when things were good they were damn great. The bad times much worse. Hard to explain the fellas here but legitimately I thought in her manic episode she'd kill me in my sleep. Couldn't understand how I became the villain in her life. I still ha…
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/24 03:21 AM
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Thank you. Difficult absorbing the nonsense in the mean while. All makes sense
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/24 09:34 PM
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Oh wow, glad you and your daughter are in a more peaceful place now. Thx for sharing. Seems all of this I'm going through will be counted for the long game. Mine are young just started school. I know I got a lot ahead of me to go but get frustrated how selfish she can be and not fear any recourse.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/24 04:59 PM
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She was more interested in chasing her fantasy (living alone and falling in love with someone she had in mind but didn't meet - all delusional crap). She needed some money to secure a shitty rental and got everything signed. Mine different situation because she asked for it and pretty sure suffering mental health issues. My weak point was and still is the kid. I always hoped she snapped out of it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/24 04:53 PM
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Get out of living in fear. I wasn't the one to trigger the divorce but know during her manic episode, I feared what I could lose including financially. I worried she would come at me hard too. But I came out the winner on that. I was strategic with it. Let her chase her fantasy and got her to sign off. But the fear ate me up. Inform yourself on what she could potentially get and work from there. I don't like seeing marriages break. Of course do your best to know it won't work before you pull the…
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/24 03:23 AM
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You're not alone. Everything you wrote is what many men here can relate to. I have always been by nature the goofy happy person but divorce has really changed my life as yours. And your mention of death by suicide in your circle is what compelled me to write. Ever since I heard a friend mention similar thoughts, I had began thinking about them too. I never thought I would ever entertain it. It didnt help when id deal with another issue and put myself down by saying i couldn't handle the pressure…
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/24 03:00 AM
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You'll see her soon. Not the same but try not to think about it and try to keep yourself busy. I think better to accept this will happen more often than keel thinking about it. It's how I get through celebrations or even outings when the family and kids get together and they're all asking where mine are. Angers me. The cousins also feel robbed of their play time.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 05:10 AM
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How are your kids doing? I think you're family is trying to only help you. Some conversations will always irritate you. But better they tell you to get over a disloyal woman. She's selfish. Don't focus on timelines. Most of here understand what you are going through. Seems like you're also doing all the heavy lifting with your kids. You're doing great my brother. Be proud of what you're doing. It's not easy. I struggle with this daily. Bless you and your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 04:39 AM
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Expect the worst. Does she know what you have? Surely you must have access to some lawyers when you climb success. Get guidance on any strategies. But it begins with your relationship with her. If she's scorn and knows what you have, of course she wants all she's entitled.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 11:36 AM
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Why do you see her so much? You go to her place daily? Just keep thinking of her getting pounded by multiple men. That should help shake her off. She's filth. What guy wants any girl back who has passed along the block? I understand you don't want to lose her to the other guys but don't let it affect your own confidence. She's gone but don't think you're any less of a person. She's warped. Her way of thinking is different from your own.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 02:12 PM
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Ain't that the truth.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 03:11 AM
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Stuff like this makes me angry. Ex should apply some common sense. Document her non-sense and take temp readings. You don't have to take her. Go with your gut. She'd be in better care with you. Don't let her ride off your emotions. You're protective of your child and you're doing great. She's careless and who knows who she's trying to appease.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/24 01:21 AM
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My ex also puts herself before our kid. It really makes me mad. Pretty sure mine is also mentally ill. I'm dealing with a bunch of issues also when it comes to coparenting. It's very challenging at times. During the day I'm close to a breakdown but at night I count all my blessings and know I'd do everything all over again for my kid. Mine thinks she's too smart and hot now. Anything I say is meaningless. It's so bizarre to me how she's turned into someone I don't recognize. My expectations are …
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 03:23 PM
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Edit: you lost respect for her first. She's the one subjecting your kid to this. Disgusting behaviour all around.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 11:03 AM
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You're not a failure, my brother. I feel your pain as I can relate with what you wrote. I fall into the negativity hole very often saying the same. I also feel at times that I'm failing my son and my parents. I too gave my ex space thinking she'd snap out of it when I thought she was going thru a manic phase. She's still very psycho. Hang in there. You have to beleive in yourself and know you're worth more. This is temporary. Many great things await for you and your boy.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 03:53 AM
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Fully in my mind. Thank you! I'm going to continue to build ammo until I think I've got enough to make idiot proof for any one on the outside to fully understand the crap she pulls. Honestly it has been very difficult
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 07:22 PM
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But we tolerate what we believe to be for the right reasons. Right now only for my kid. In life, would be for my family (parents and siblings) and close friends.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 12:49 PM
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What is her issue? What is yours? It's not a one answer fits all response you're going to get. It's very multi-faceted. Does she want more child support? Alimony? Custody? Review on financials to better establish what she's owed? What does she want to bring to the courts attention? What are you looking to avoid? Where are you with paperwork? Do you have a formal agreement ? People go to court for different things. Some fight for further custody, others more money. What has she said? Tossing goin…
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/24 06:31 PM
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If you're spiritual at all, you need to remind yourself that you're never alone. God is with you. Try to get off the booze asap. It won't solve your problems. Now is the time to get yourself together through this fire. You'll do it. Have faith in yourself. You may also need to establish boundaries if you think being friends makes you spiral. I'm all for the family unit but if it's not salvageable, move forward. Focus on self care and healing.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/24 01:52 AM
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You definitely need to see a lawyer. I do not know the rules in either country. But I'm sure you must have some leg to stand on if you're paying child support without any custody rights. Leaving the country without either parent's consent is abduction. You mentioned the child support was court issued so did you not mention she took your girls away?
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/24 12:39 AM
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I now look forward to anything you post here my dude. Fully agree with all your comments and appreciate your support. I have a terrible ritual being here when I know I shouldn't. Bless you.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 07:33 PM
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You're still making excuses for her and trying to rationalize this. We all get stuck in the why including myself. It should always be whether she's in it or not. If you think it's the depression, how does she respond to getting therapy or counselling? Maybe there's not another guy there today, but what if she's plotted a beautiful fantasy in her head for a "better" guy? What if you're competiting against Brad Pitt from 20yrs ago in her head? Stop chasing the why. It could be fully nonsensical. I…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 10:56 AM
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Could very well be hormonal changes from the newborn. Seek lehal counsel and guidance always but spend energy and effort into counseling also. Also hope you folks figure this out before it gets worse. Stay positive.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 02:45 AM
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Was her depression treated? You ever get to the bottom of what caused that phase? Haven't been in your situation but it sounds like something you both can work on. Go for counselling. You're more communicative than she is it seems. Get what you need out and hopefully you both can find a way to get past this.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 02:34 AM
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Why do you think you're obliged to treat her well? Why can't you focus on treating yourself better. Don't know the full context but don't need to do. Your relationship is over. But you got only to improve yourself from here. Mommy can hate daddy. You don't need to get into any of that. Focus on daddy loves you and will always be there for you. Change your mindset NOW.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 02:29 AM
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Eff man. I think many question that. Fully get what you're saying. I think the folks have gone thru this will still say who cares, move on. I'm with you there when it comes to being empathetic.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 06:57 PM
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Probably won't agree to you buying her out also by refinancing, right? Definitely being unreasonable. Too many of them are clueless how the world works. I think you may need a court order if she's not moving on it. If you got the paperwork, mount the paperwork against her and remind her she's got to move forward. She can live with her family or in a basement apartment. It's not your problem.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 05:07 PM
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Insecurities. You're not allowed to ask any questions. Mine did this a lot too.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 10:47 AM
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Everyone here knows what you're thinking and feeling. It won't be easy but things will improve over time. You don't have to be the loser in this. Prove to yourself, your kids and parents your self worth. Fight to be the man you want to be. Flip the narrative. So what if you're going to be wifeless. You've been this longer than you may accept. You can make money and not be broke. You can still be the father your kids admire. Your world is not over. This is a new beginning. With that being said, w…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 11:25 PM
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Sorry my brother. Elevate yourself up. She's low end and does not deserve you. At least by doing what you did, you know for sure you can't salvage this.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 11:02 PM
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Fully right. I think hard for some of us to completely not care also if you're overall an empathic person.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 10:48 PM
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Seek counsel. She can also demand the moon, but does not mean she'll get it. Talk to people who got your back. It will help. Personally, I felt better talking to those who also went thru a divorce. I spoke to both men and women but found easier to relate with another guy. Do your best to not give her the attention she craves. She betrayed you and the family. She's not worth the heads pace.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 08:41 AM
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He's right. Unfit and selfish for herself. Bless you and your kid.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 01:35 AM
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Everyone's situation is different. Most women want their own home whether they contribute or not. It's the dream they have been sold. Many would dread the idea of paying their in law rent. To each their own and the conversation they can manage. Ideally you'd want a woman who doesn't question any of your finances. Too many options to consider to protect yourself. I personally don't think yours would work for most families. But I agree with keeping your family always close and never be ashamed to …
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 12:33 AM
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She sounds great brother. I don't think any man does not think of the negative you listed. You already know better. Take your time.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 07:08 PM
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Heart breaking. All you really can do is console her and remind her you'll always be there. Every child reacts differently. Mine at 1.5yrs old knew despite what ppl may say. He still experiences separation anxiety but has come a long long long way. Now that's he's in the age of talking it gets easier to see what he's thinking. And reminds me to never say goodbye, only see you later. Stay strong my brother for yourself and the kids. These selfish people who break families will never care to see h…
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 02:00 AM
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Fully agree.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 09:57 AM
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Wow. Glad you got 50:50. Stay strong brotha
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 03:03 AM
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Haha - we need more old funny phrases all over again. You don't give a rats ass.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 06:36 PM
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Why did she disagree? She wants it full-time? Truly if no concerns for international abduction on rather parts, who really cares? In my case I have it with me. I read a journal entry she would move far away from me to another country. She's never traveled with our child outside as of yet. I sure had a problem getting consent when I was leaving with the kid tho.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 04:39 PM
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I think there will be a day I might even thank her when I get to where I need to in life. Worst has already happened.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 06:24 PM
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If she's made her mind up, you should just accept it. Some folks are just extremely selfish. They constantly want. If you think you were a good husband for the most part and tried to make it work but never was enough, try not to feel any regret. If she cheats, will blame you for that too. At which point will enough be enough for you? If I was in your shoes, and again, this is just my opinion, i would get very cold. You've been separated and you already said you're apart. Give her the peace sign.…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 10:41 AM
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Amazing...love reading stuff like this. Stay blessed.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 10:34 AM
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Stay on the path to Him, my brother. Happy for you too.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 10:32 AM
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Full agree with OP. Stay blessed.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 10:29 AM
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Everything will improve over time. Good to also be reminded why the marriage dissolved when they behave this way. I go through the phases of was it that bad to it only took this for her to do that. Good riddance!
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 02:44 AM
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I think we all have questioned that after experiencing the betrayal. I think only a divorced man understands another divorce man. Stay blessed my brother. Remember you are above the ground. And you got blessed with 2 boys and get to experience what many folks cannot.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 01:22 AM
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Living in the same household with 2 sworn enemies? For sure a nightmare. Honestly even if you have to sell for less, just do it for your own sanity. Or I hope she just gets so much in her fog that she moves out herself right away. You'll feel so much better when they're gone. I was hurt seeing my kid go that same night with her but her heavy presence was chewing me inside out. Was stuck in a place thinking she was not mentally well which made me more patient with the nonsense. I hated being in m…
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 02:47 AM
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Congrats
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 02:34 AM
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God's already brought you closer. Part of the plan. Your initial opener made me mad reading about how it's all your fault and so forth and didn't want to read further. But very glad I did because all you can do is move forward and you've already found the much needed peace. You're on a great path.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 10:27 AM
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Not everything is in your control, but you have control of your mind. Change your mindset. Not easy. I fall for it all the time. But take this divorce as a blessing and be excited for what the future holds. Everyone has their own issues. We all are looking for peace. Outside of you feeling stuck, I'm sure there's been more peace being alone. Embrace it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 10:21 AM
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It all really comes down to what's in the best interest of the child and what you can manage. With your kid being 4 years of age, you should have some level of understanding with the work/responsibility required. I personally opted for the 50:50 initially because I know my kid needed me (neglecting concerns). Money is temporary. You'll find a way to earn more if you have to give some up through this process. My situation has changed significantly since and my kid is now with me through the schoo…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 10:17 AM
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It will get better for your kid and you He'll be home soon. After 2yrs I still feel it especially when he cries he doesn't want to go to mom's. I always sleep better when he's at home too. I get much more peace. I only remind myself that he'll be home soon to overcome the pain your feeling. Here to talk if you ever need to talk. I think most dad's here will understand. I wish my kid had a sibling and I constantly feel I failed him when the marriage broke down. It's shit. With all this being said…
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 02:48 AM
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Perfect
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 02:27 AM
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I'm with classic dill on this. He's not the one who said nuke the family. A cheater did. Someone who left for her own selfish gain. I'm all for fighting for a family. Most of us will but there is a line that once crossed there is no going back. She left. Fooled around with another guy. Now you're telling me you're going to lead a good example for your kids? I don't think he's bitter. I think he's disappointed that many men here enjoy taking the beating. I don't want to be in OPs shoes. But when …
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 02:49 AM
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How is this most logical? Fact is she's got a history of cheating and she's been dug out by another sexual partner(s). OP's emotions are clouding his judgement. Tough one for sure. But I don't see how you can fix something that broke so bad.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 05:42 PM
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You're not alone. Even after 2yrs after her moving out, I still catch myself asking why and keep telling myself and others it's senseless. Of course she'll remember those memories when she's out of the fog. She's also a woman. I'm sure she will have self doubt over and over again until she reinforces you're the villian in her life. Soon enough you'll be the reason she's in the mess and at her all time low. My only advice is take care of yourself and I repeat stop asking why. Your ex is selfish a…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 02:43 AM
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Also something I'm expecting for my own scenario. I think when my ex finds a new guy she'll be even more absent in our kids life.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 10:01 PM
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A lot more responsibilities while everything gets easier for her for sure. Selfish shit. Makes me appreciate my own parents so much more. Especially my mum. Spoiled the crap out of me with love. Would sacrifice anything for me. Then I see how my kids mom is.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 10:00 PM
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I can fully relate. My kid with me on a similar schedule. It makes me mad. But everyone knows you're taking up all the heavy lifting. She's not capable. But as you said, you scored. Congrats. Take one win at a time. I'm wired the same as you. We also plan ahead with reason. In my situation I have to grab my kid from school and then meet her. I rather her just pick up directly and drop off Monday morning. But she can't manage (no car, wanted downtown Bachelorette life). I hate doing that because …
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 09:50 PM
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I'm also paying CS cuz I know she needed it. But revisit the amounts. You may not need to. Depends what she would be entitled to on full care and scale down. Car payment is excessive. If a car in picture could you not just provide a settlement than being stuck to $ amount. She's going to bother you more on the car down the line such as maintenance issues. Don't extend yourself more than you really need to. I'm all about being fair and kind but like the other comment, plan for your own future too…
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 09:41 PM
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My marriage broke when my toddler was about 1.5yrs old . Worst feeling ever: worrying about what would happen to the kid. Bear in mind, his mother was also being a lazy parent and constantly neglecting him. The worry nonstop was more so on the child than anyone else. I do think even at that age kids pick up what's going on. My kid was extremely clingy to me. 2yrs since many things have improved. I don't worry nowhere as much as I once did but still worry. I felt I failed him more than myself. I …
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 09:35 PM
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So really OP could only get primary custody based on a parenting plan? Maybe craft primary with every other weekend for her. Or every weekend until she has history of not being present? I'd like to know how this works too. I'm in a similar spot. Kid with me during the week and with her on weekends. My existing agreement says 50:50 but that's already changed.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 12:57 PM
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Sorry this is happening. Her timing of leaving when you need her only makes this all so much painful. Do you have any family/friends you can lean on right now? Try not to think too much about her. Right now, you're the one who needs support despite where her mental space is. Try to reprogram yourself that you don't need her during this vulnerable time in your life. Be true to yourself. Get well soon and I hope you overcome all your hardships.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 11:40 AM
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Well done. She seems so much in the fog that it's making some things also easier for you. You seem like a solid man, OP. Sorry this has happened to you. Bless you and your kids. Mine had limerence for a guy she never met and woild fantasize she'd run into him someday and would fall madly and deeply in love. I don't know where she was in her mental state. But the more I read these posts, the more I realize none of them think straight. I read messages between her and her sister where she kept push…
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 11:28 AM
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You've been betrayed by the woman you never thought would have caused so much pain. She's selfish af. You have to switch your mindset immediately. The hell what she does to herself moving forward. Try not to care. Snapping out of this won't work either. You don't know how many guys who have dug her out. Only worry about your kids and yourself. Get the papers in order after you speak to a lawyer. Protect yourself and I hope she moves out asap. Until she's out of the home that you're struggling to…
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 11:00 AM
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Take the appropriate steps folks have outlined here. You will be reunited with your baby. Continue having faith.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 10:51 AM
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Everytime! Hair never combed and rarely washed. I can go on and on.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 01:18 AM
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Seek legal advice. You're continuing to be tormented. She devalues you. It's over.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 08:55 AM
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Is discussing with the ex an option or using a mediator?
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 08:37 AM
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God is Great.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 02:36 AM
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Their line of thinking becomes warped and those algorithms continue to reinforce she's right. At the end of the day, still her. But I do think it plays a part.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 02:33 AM
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Yup. Less contact makes it easier. They think differently and chase fantasies. The selfish thing to do is break the family unit for stupid personal gain. I get reminded of this everytime the exchange happens. Always selfish. Wants things done that benefit her more than the kid. Mine has been acting more normal but then I pay attention to how she manages the kid. Example: She never clips my kids nails and i do then when in my care. Meanwhile no problem for her getting fresh pedicures.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 12:23 AM
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You'll get over this. Get that nonsense out of your head as best as you can. Be grateful for all that you have experienced and that's because you have this thing called life. It's meant to beat you at time to appreciate the good. I think many of us have had dark thoughts. I compare my most recent moments of joy, whether I got a great laugh or experienced a memorable event and remind myself that it would not have happened if I was not breathing today. Be excited for what may be coming next. The b…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 12:14 AM
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What custody plan are you seeking?
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 08:19 AM
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I think we all agree we feel a sense of betrayal and she never really was who we thought her to be.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 07:12 PM
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Your kid needs you. If you can manage, try for at least 50:50. Don't care what she wants. Best interest for your kid and you. Don't give a damn about what her opinion. Stay strong for your kid. I'm 2 yrs out but still have my moments.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 04:06 AM
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Let her go. She does not deserve you. She's not a good person. Visualize her doing the nasty by some clown and they're both making fun of you. You really want to wear a sign "Pick me" on your head but "only when you're ready?" Eff her shit. Sorry this has happened to you, Brother. Shit like this hurts me to read. But you need to establish you're own self worth again. You are the man. You will come out of this pain and hurt.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 02:51 AM
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Doubt defamation case. Parents are not to talk ill about each out to their children though.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 12:14 PM
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You're going through a very difficult time that will improve. Brings back some memories for me. I hate seeing families break up. But from the sounds of it, she has no interest in keeping it what it once was. While you're both being cordial with each other, I would recommend drafting a separation agreement speaking to custody, the family business, and possibly alimony. Try to get as many terms agreed to before she wants more and people get into her ear further. Try not asking why this is happenin…
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 12:07 PM
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To answer your question: yes, I think you're not only crazy but a moron. What would you do if that relationship fails, too? Going to get even further from both exes? Repeat and get from one coast to the other.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 12:33 AM
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Looks like you already have made up your mind. Communicate and end the relationship. Be fair with her. But I would never recommend anyone end without at least trying. You owe both at least that much to her and yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 12:25 AM
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You're wrong. You don't need her. You can find ways to fill the void. If you think you need her, you'll never fill the void. Missing her is all normal. Losing her and having a bruised ego is also normal. But saying she's the only one who could make you feel complete is not. You love her. But you know now it won't be reciprocated. Her moving on should be your fire to say eff this way of thinking.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 05:55 PM
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It could always be worse. You're still above the ground. Keep fighting. Focus on yourself and try to find a way to blow some steam and meditate. If you're a man of faith, speak to God when you feel your lowest. Being a man is not easy but you must overcome this.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 05:50 PM
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Glad you're doing well! I've been a daily lurker until recently started posting too.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 10:06 PM
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Looking for anyone to chime in please. Current separation agreement says 50:50. He was in daycare before closer to her that was about 2.5-3 hour round trip for me due to traffic. Did that crap for 2years else she wouldn't have been able to afford daycare and ultimately kid would have suffered worst. Now with school beginning, she's informally agreed he can stay with me closer to me. At what point can I go to the courts to change custody? She won't agree to it formally. So how much history must I…
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 12:06 PM
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We all know the feeling of betrayal. She's not the same person you knew or thought you knew. She's selfish. She rather eff around for no real purpose than be grateful for the family she has and wanted. Be kind to yourself and try not searching for the why and how. Won't be easy.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 02:46 AM
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You'll continue feeling low if you let this continue. Sharing a roof will be extremely difficult even if you're sleeping in different rooms. You'll be caught in between husband and roommate roles. I promise you will feel a huge weight off you the moment you both physically separate. It needs to happen. I speak from my own experience. Accept its over. Be kind to yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 02:00 AM
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Doesn't even matter. She broke the family for dumb shit. How can you ever see that person the same way. And if it was to sleep with other guys, impossible to ever salvage. She should be dead in your eyes.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 03:24 AM
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Stay strong, brother. Try not to overly stress out.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 02:07 AM
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Not fully versed on family laws, but I was told that if she cannot afford the resources but contests something is there, she could hire using your money. In your scenario, I think it comes down to how much are you willing to give up from full financial disclosure. Seems to me she still has entitlement to more - and why I personally would give more. I would still get the business valuated to cover yourself in the event she comes back and says you misled here. I'm sure when you hire these BVAs, yo…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 10:38 AM
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You will feel better. In fact you already should. What man likes repeated disrespect? Wait till you Meet a woman who shows you kindness and respect. Recognize your own issues and deal with them. Focus on you.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 01:29 AM
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Eff their shit. Unfair for men. Learn your rights and own them. I was sure to have my kid at least 50:50 at the same age as yours. He needed me more with her being so engulfed in a distorted fantasy neglecting our kid. If you can manage ask for overnights. It was really tough for me at the beginning especially when he was still being breastfed.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 12:23 AM
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I beleive can upto 2 years after divorce firmed or 6 or 7 years after separation agreement executed. I do not think in the clear until then. Something to that effect is what I recall reading when I filed.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 01:54 AM
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Stop asking why. I think all of us here will conclude it's nonsensical. It's all I did when it happened to me too. I'm 2 years out and it's been a journey. Everything changed so quickly. And the soft spot is always the kids. Hard finding the balance between dad and also being their second mon as she's unstable. I'd do it again million times over knowing the blessings of having a child(ren) from it. Affects them more than the parents but kids are super resilient. Stay strong, brother.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 01:09 PM
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I'm too damn grateful I will have full time beginning Sept. A shame is happening these days. Think they're all crazy. Hope you are doing okay. Strategically speaking when do I tell the courts that they're with me full-time? Last thing I want to happen is a battle again and she tries to pull to a school closer to her. I put up a 1.15hr commute each way for 2 yrs just so my child could have a stable place (day care 5mins from her). The alternative would have been she could not afford a daycare and…
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 11:02 AM
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My family broke up when my little one was 1.5 years old. It was very difficult and took a really long time to overcome that level of pain and constantly worry about my child's future. It was really bad as his mother also seemed to me as she was going through a manic episode. She was neglecting him and by nature she is very careless. We are on a 50:50 schedule with him being either parents care every other week. Hang in there. I promise you it will get better. 2 years for me now but I'm in a much…
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 01:03 AM
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