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Since discovering TRP, I've been letting a lot of friendships go... I realized that many of my friends were either single men (or men who couldn't keep a relationship going), or they were women who were divorced or plain old hated their husbands. I noticed these "friends" of mine were always encouraging me to gripe about my partner, and some even regularly advised me to break up with him. Over the last year, I've just quietly let those friendships go, and have started rekindling relationships wi…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 02:11 AM
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Thanks, that's a great idea I'll try in the future. I think writing out what's bothering me before even interacting would be a good outlet for me. I think, in a way, that's kind of what I was doing by posting this here. He's more supportive toward me than any of my nuclear family. I think I am just being extra needy right now, I haven't been socializing with many other people and I'm relying on him too much for emotional and social needs I would normally get from girlfriends.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 12:31 AM
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Very true, thanks. Yes, I definitely need to work on some personal things. I have been making progress, but today was the step back in that old adage. I think I need to focus on improving my self care too.. normally I have a lot of me-time at home, but lately the house has been crowded, disorganized and requires more effort to keep things clean.... I definitely feel anxious when the house is in disarray. It's been several hours since my initial post. My SO and I have made up and talked a bit. De…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 12:22 AM
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Thank you for your reply. No, I don't want to drive him away... yes, I have some behavioural issues that I am trying to work on. I agree, this is a good question to ask myself before flying off the handle like a child in the future
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 12:03 AM
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Have you read the book or watched the show? There is more than one episode where she expresses the importance of focusing on your own belongings and not someone else's, only going through belongings together when they are co-owned. Even when those items belong to young children. I know in the show they use the phrase "throw away", but most of the episodes either show or refer to recycling and donating items. At least one of the episodes shows a woman holding a rummage sale. I can't say whether s…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 03:20 PM
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I'm also a hairstylist, but I think clip ins would be the better option here. If you were sitting in my chair (and I have had women in my chair with similar concerns), my first recommendation is to be patient, and wait for your hair to grow back. Focus on being healthy by eating healthy and taking vitamins/supplements (vitamin D and kerotins are regularly recommended) and using high quality hair products that won't impede the growth of new hair. Your stylist should be able to recommend something…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/18 04:08 PM
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You're very right. I'm totally that person that burns out helping others... it was apparent in my old job (I definitely experienced customer service burnout towards the end, before deciding to go to school for something else), it's really apparent with my nuclear family, and even during school as well.. I'd help other students A LOT. I won't lie, it makes me feel good, but again I experienced burn out at the end of 4 semesters, and my SO warned me it would happen if I didn't focus more on my own…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/18 03:11 PM
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I garden at home as well, but our house is small and the yard even smaller. We've been fortunate with a mild fall this year, but in the coming days it's likely to become too cold even for the cold hardy plants I have been tending. I think you and others are right, I should approach my friend again and see if she would accept help from me with her kids. I know I would enjoy it; she deserves a break and honestly, I haven't been around kids much lately and I miss it! I want to Reno our yard next ye…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/18 04:56 AM
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I have tried in the past but found it hard to maintain. Maybe it's time to try again
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 11:39 PM
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Haha you get it! Yes, I think I've been worrying that keeping the house clean and cooking meals and making lunches isn't enough... but to keep those things maintained and varied so meals don't get boring is actually quite tiring! Definitely learning to allow myself to relax more is a big part of this
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 11:35 PM
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I have actually Haha, I mentioned after several failed attempts to get together that if she even needed help cooking and cleaning to give me a shout. I think she just doesn't want to be a bother. Maybe I'll mention it again. Edit: I never specifically offered to help with her children, although I felt it was implied. Maybe I just need to make that clear. I love kids! And hers are exceptionally cute
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 11:30 PM
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Thanks, yes I definitely trying to get out of the house a little. I've been doing yoga on my own for years, paying to go to yoga classes two or three times a week is definitely because I'm trying to increase my social time. But I could definitely stand to chat a little more. I don't have great social skills with strangers tbh. Not great at chitchat, but I guess it just takes practice
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 09:14 PM
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That's a great idea! I actually used to knit a lot, so this is pretty attainable addition or me
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 08:50 PM
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Agreed! I think whether I end up enjoying it or never wanting to do it again, I'm determined that I don't waste it; I feel really fortunate that we're financially stable enough to even try this for a few months without it breaking the bank, and during all these upside down feelings I'm really trying to be mindful that I'm lucky to have such a supportive SO... I'm totally aware that he suggested it for my wellbeing and because I'm not working, he'll be working a little more. I think I'm feeling a…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 07:59 PM
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Thanks, yes I actually drove by the volunteer center for my city this morning and had a brief thought that I should check it out. I think my SO's weird work schedule makes me hesitant to sign up for things... I want to grow by trying new things at this time, but not if it takes away from spending time with him or on our relationship. He supports me going out when he's home, but I don't like missing time with him
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 07:27 PM
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We knew I would be off my main job between November and March (I have a seasonal outdoor job), and my SO suggested I try staying home to see what it would be like. We've had a VERY stressful year, family problems on both sides that we have each been caught in the middle of and the things happening with my nuclear family have hit me particularly hard.. Like I may have to cut some of them out of my life in the near future. So, I did agree that taking time away from work, especially during a time I…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 07:17 PM
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Great idea.. I think I had it in my head that I wanted to get away from having such a structured schedule, but having that outline plan is probably a big part of what I'm feeling is missing right now. It was really nice the first week off, but now not so much. I did make a schedule for all my exercises so I would stay on track, but maybe I need to expand
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 07:09 PM
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Ooo yes, joining a choir sounds great. I used to be very musical when I was younger... but once I started working full time and didn't have school band to attend, it just sort of went by the wayside and eventually I gave away most of my instruments to friends/family as they one by one decided they wanted to start doing music. Thanks, I might look into something similar in my city
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 07:06 PM
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Thank you for your response! Yes definitely learning to focus inward was the number one thing on my list, and doing yoga at home as well as attending yoga classes a couple times a week has been helping! I think a big part of my struggle is that I'm very passionate about my job... I made a career change two years ago from cosmetology to horticulture... last winter I was in school full time during the offseason, but this year I'm just home! Pretty much I turned my hobby into my job which has been …
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 07:01 PM
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Eating out is such a health killer. Even healthy options at restaurants aren't really that healthy most of the time. Cooking more meals at home will give you a lot more control over what you're consuming and you'll save money
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 05:58 AM
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Second that drink lots of water! One of the first symptoms of dehydration is craving food! Ever get that feeling that you are craving something, but can't decide exactly what you're craving? Guess what, you're body is craving water. Aim to drink over 2Litres of water every day, more if you are exercising or live in a dry climate. And I mean water, not juice or flavored drinks. Water. Try drinking a glass of water before anything you eat. Wake up feeling hungry? Drink a glass of water. Feel like …
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 05:43 AM
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So many great comments here already, but I can add from my own personal experience of becoming healthier. For me drinking had to GO! Realized that every binge drink weekend ruined whatever health gains I had made that week.... which meant every weekend was ruining every week. Once I stopped drinking, I stopped going out for pizza at 2am and stopped going out for hangover breakfast and stopped ordering junk food lunch because I had already failed eating healthy the last two days, so may as well g…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 05:30 AM
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Yup. Organize your house so that everything has a home. When you use something, put it back where it lives. It can be a hard adjustment at first, but it really cuts down on "tidy time" and your house will feel less stressful. Also, does your husband help with domestic chores? I used to do LITERALLY all the domestic stuff, but in the last year or so I've started to ask (nicely, of course.. not demanding or complaining) my SO for help on the days I have less energy. I've stopped "angry cleaning", …
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 01:33 PM
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Awesome, thanks for link
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 05:21 AM
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Thanks for these! Yes I will try adding some novels that help motivate mindset , great idea
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 05:20 AM
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Interesting idea about using novels to inspire yourself.. I'll definitely start digging into this and see if it helps maintain mindset. Anything that motivates is totally worth trying! Thanks for your reply
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 05:19 AM
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Ok awesome, I was trying to remember this title , thank you
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 05:17 AM
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I have also suffered from resting bitch face my whole life! I didn't know it until early 20s when I had my first annual work review.. My boss informed me that I often came across as cold and severe because I was always scowling when not engaging with others. She asked me to look at myself in the mirrors every time I walked past them during the work day (I worked in a hair salon, so lots of mirrors), make eye contact with myself and SMILE. It really comes down to being self aware, and recognizing…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/18 03:23 AM
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Tbh, the guys are pretty good about not making inappropriate about the women... or least not when I'm around! The other women I work with are much worse! You're so right about having a talk about what my boundaries are . I actually had to have a talk with one of the girls a few weeks ago about making inappropriate jokes about me, in front of me AND the rest of the staff!
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 05:11 AM
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Absolutely, all good things to keep in mind!
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 05:03 AM
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Yes! Some of the women I work with are so loud and obnoxious and imo are downright inappropriate in how they present themselves and interact with others at work. I have no interest in emulating them, but it feels like that's what is the norm in this job
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 12:52 AM
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Thank you, I really appreciate this your example
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 12:47 AM
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Thanks again, good advice I will try
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 11:45 PM
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Yes I see your point there.. a few weeks ago all the staff were going out for beers after work and when I declined the invite I was asked why I couldn't go.. I just stated that I needed to spend more time at home with my SO (I had put in quite a few hours of overtime that pay period and my bf asked me to not do anymore, though I didn't mention that part to my coworkers). My coworkers gave me a "pffff, what, like you're not allowed?".. so yes, I do worry about not being taken seriously
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 11:15 PM
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About 90% of my interactions are face to face at work. I work, primarily, with 6 other employees plus our boss. Even so, I like your advice of being consice when interacting with others. Fortunately, the problems are just with a couple of peers and not with my boss. Note: since posting this, my boss has had a sit down with the majority of the crew about one particular employee being toxic at work. This employee is someone I have been having problems with since day 1 (he is 55 male). So, it might…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 07:30 PM
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Thank you for your response! So much good stuff in here. Even though I'm not in a corporate industry, I think a lot of this advice will work for me in my field
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 07:13 PM
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Thank you for your reply! Yes, I feel there must be ways that I can use at least parts of RP at work.. In the past I tried being very upfront and direct in my work environment (which can be difficult for me as I'm naturally quite a passive person) that I'm finding has caused a lot of friction with a few of my Male peers.. Recently I have swung the other way and just stfu and really just trying to be complimentary to others, but I'm worried that I'm in danger of being walked over . I'm trying to …
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 07:08 PM
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