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| 26 | Reality of a future with any scrote that uses porn. This poor woman.No it isn't. But they're ruining their own lives too. Sympathy on fucking 0 for them as mentioned in my other reply. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 05:01 AM |
| 65 | Reality of a future with any scrote that uses porn. This poor woman.Oh, I completely agree. And in no way am I granting them sympathy or giving them an out. I just find it amusing that men literally don't see how they're fucking themselves over. There is no educating men about it, it's too ingrained into society. That's why we don't enable this behaviour by dating pornsick losers 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 04:14 AM |
| 159 | Reality of a future with any scrote that uses porn. This poor woman.So ok. I have a uni lecturer who is an abolitionist feminist and I was always like ????? Don't get it sis but you're a radical so that's fine. For those not familiar, abolitionists argue that the patriarchy harms men as much as it does women. I agree to an extent and in some contexts.This would be a context in which I agree with her. This man has developed such a dependence on porn that he's literally sent himself broke and ruined his life. He had a wife, a real woman to have real sex with, and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 02:50 AM |
| 408 | Reality of a future with any scrote that uses porn. This poor woman.Came here to say this. What the fuck. I can only imagine if this were me and he told me off for financial issues over face wash, I'd laugh in his face after learning this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 01:58 AM |
| 5 | Scrote defends abuse scrote who physically assaulted his bride with a 5+ layer wedding cake, claims "it wouldn't be traumatic"The men who say this tell on themselves. They're abusive and don't know it or are abusive and trying to justify their behaviour. People I know who've deployed to the most dangerous warzones never ever make this comparison. I have been in a situation like yours and it's left me more emotionally crippled than anything I've experienced during my time in the military has. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 10:54 PM |
| 25 | Scrote defends abuse scrote who physically assaulted his bride with a 5+ layer wedding cake, claims "it wouldn't be traumatic"Ok hey hey hi from a soldier and ex-wedding planner. I just want to address some scrote logic here because I am done with people downplaying other's trauma by comparing it to "bullets in a warzone". We have the support of our unit and the camaraderie of our friends while deployed, not to mention we signed up for it and are well trained to deal with it. It's always scrotes who've never served sprouting this bullshit. SECONDLY. Wedding cakes have skewers in them to keep them together. They are hea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 01:54 AM |
| 28 | Scrote messages to teach me a philosophical lesson excited to mention Gabbie Petito “but hey, at least my sex isn’t being murdered” 🤡Stop platforming this here. FDSSuperFans is for this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 03:05 AM |
| 22 | Isn’t it strange how single women are treated of all ages?I've raised this a few times where I work, even to my boss, and mostly on behalf of other people who I see it happening to. My boss straight up said "yes, I imagine single people do have things to do which are equally as important"... Um?! Another time I had a colleague crack it over certain duties which are inherent to our job. His rationale was "I have a missus and a dog, I'm not like all these single-ys, I can't just drop everything for this!" I straight up told him that as a single person, I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 12:53 PM |
| 41 | Isn’t it strange how single women are treated of all ages?I'm over it. Another thing single women get used for is labour of all kinds as if you have nothing else you'd rather be doing than serving others. Take time off for yourself? You're free, you can just mind my dogs for the week. Oh, you don't want to? Fucking bitch, no wonder you're single and no one likes you 🙄 Think you'll have time to relax and unwind after work? Wrong. It's on you to come back in for an emergency because everyone else is in a LTR or marriage and has more important things to d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 10:45 PM |
| 18 | How do you not desire love when you have independently accomplished everything else you have wanted in life?I've dealt with enough shit from men over the years to know that going into work feeling that crushing, stinging feeling and having to work through it isn't worth it. I've lived with a man who made coming home a chore. Sure, I'd like to be in love, but I'm also very happy knowing that someone isn't ruining my peace of mind and the things I've built by myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:11 AM |
| 2 | Discussion: How to deal with LVM in friend group?Ahahaha I dealt with a dude like this during my basic training. All the girls saw through him in the end. Basically what everyone else is saying: ignore him and don't engage with him one-on-one if you can help it. If you can't avoid being in a situation where you're stuck in conversation with him and he says something that you're uncomfortable with then call him the fuck out by simply stating that you're not interested in where the conversation is going. If he presses you, physically move away a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 10:15 AM |
| 26 | Men use the evolutionary psychology argument as a tool to prevent societal changeEvolutionary psychology/physiology has been debunked. Racists love to use this too. Anyone who subscribes to this way of thinking is clutching at straws to be seen as smart when they are in fact, parroting back information they do not understand. It's been debunked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 11:24 PM |
| 26 | If he needs space from the relationship, it's a no.YES GIRL. DO NOT GIVE HIM THE SATISFACTION OF A SINGLE EMOTION ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 03:32 AM |
| 710 | That’s why you should always demand proof, don’t just accept their wordsMy worst nightmare. I was engaged to a man who couldn't save and would do the same shit this scrote would do: cry every time he was confronted about his savings and spending habits. He asked me to take out loans for him, called me controlling when I said anything and refused to budget. I had to help him pay for everything. I broke up with him because I fell out of love with him as a result of all of this. Despite multiple discussions, he was "blindsided" about my decision to end our engagement. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 08:37 PM |
| 31 | Expose them early and often!I love that so much. "When are you free?" "Next Friday" "Ok what do you want to do?" Excuse me home boy but you asked me out. What exactly do you want with my time? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 06:17 AM |
| 3 | I…am speechlessThis poor bastard fails to realize that if this poor girl stays with him, he's just single handedly killed their flirty bath tub moments for good. I can feel how she would have felt... That awful stinging feeling of feeling unattractive and not cared for. It immediately brings a tear to your eye and breaks your heart a little bit. There is no time in any relationship where I've felt that way in which an apology has ever helped. I've just stopped doing the thing that caused the behaviour and subs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 09:23 AM |
| 2 | Other FDS-friendly podcasts?There's a new one that I like called "Two Idiot Girls". I came across it after one of the creator's Tik Toks was posted on this sub. They only have two episodes out but they're good to go. The second one was about how they overcame internalized misogyny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 10:16 AM |
| 2 | So I'm deleting my Facebook. A strategy?I like that. The girls are always down for a good stalk hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 09:36 PM |
| 4 | So I'm deleting my Facebook. A strategy?Oh I love that block/delete button and I have no holds barred for my use of it. Causing me hell at work? Blocked. Use it to start arguments with me? Blocked. I don't need people disturbing my own peace on my phone. I'm just tired of people having that access to me all the time and having people I barely know adding me because we met once and they want to grow their friends list. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 09:35 PM |
| 5 | So I'm deleting my Facebook. A strategy?I had a big Facebook account which I deleted in 2019 which I replaced with a smaller one. I did the same and had the same number of friends. Not one of them messaged me either and when people would see me around after the fact, they'd be like "why did you delete me" like ok no - you clearly don't pay attention to me closely enough to know that's not the case; we're not close enough that you have my number to ask; and why do you suddenly care after several months? Miss me with that pointlessly ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 09:32 PM |
| 5 | So I'm deleting my Facebook. A strategy?I knew a girl who saved her Tinder app in a busy folder on her phone on the second page. It looked totally innocuous at first, but the more you thought about it, the more sinister it felt that she had the app hidden there. Like, it's your phone, do what you want. But I never would have thought to put an app where she had. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 09:29 PM |
| 11 | So I'm deleting my Facebook. A strategy?Yeah, I've never thought of that. But I can't stand that about Facebook. I had a small friends list but I'd still get hit up by people I'd met once or never spoke to or who were friends of friends. I don't need to be collected, thanks. My social media has gone from being a place where I can share things freely with my family and friends to a place where I'm like "what will people think about my opinions on X? Should I share this?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 09:26 PM |
| 5 | One of the worst things your potential partner can do is exploit vulnerable women because peen. It does not matter if he checks all the other boxes, if he's done this he's ZVMFor real. There was this dude who I was seeing very briefly who paid for sex. It came out in a drinking game we were playing with games. I never looked at him the same again. Never saw his ex's decisions as valid either. He moved across the country and got mad and accused her of cheating on him like no, you were together for YEARS and then you just decided she'd be ok to follow you. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:13 AM |
| 48 | A HVW's integrity is one of the key elements that make her so desirableWell, two things on this - 1. Fuck being treated like a doormat, I don't need to waste my mental health and time making people happy, especially not for superficial/temporary things. 2. I'm in the military. Can you imagine how life would be for me if my reputation were the reverse? Every now and again we get some new soldiers come into the unit who try it on and they learn pretty quickly that they don't have the charm they think they do. This post is a good insight into the way men think. And it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 11:54 PM |
| 129 | A HVW's integrity is one of the key elements that make her so desirableI love having a reputation of being hard to get. Great post sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 08:21 PM |
| 3 | Treat yourself like someone you care about, even when it's hard.I did, I have a diploma in industrial design. This girl wanted to sand the table back which would have ruined the varnish entirely... I managed to get it off by wiping it lightly with acetone (just FYI if this ever happens to you) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 11:38 PM |
| 3 | Treat yourself like someone you care about, even when it's hard.Thank you, this means a lot to read. I've come a long way thanks in no small part to FDS. Old me would have put her on blast, cried and then apologised to her but I am not a freaking door mat! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 11:36 PM |
| 28 | Treat yourself like someone you care about, even when it's hard.Thanks for the advice, it's a really good perspective on how to deal with them. It's funny, I'm not a touchy-feely person but whenever she'd put her arm on me or something I'd just recoil. Everything felt fake and forced. I even wondered for a hot second if I had a problem, but I definitely don't. She tried to tell me that her nailpolish bottle condensated... Like... That does not happen. And my patio table looks like someone smashed it and yet she said "oh I don't know how that happened" as if … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 11:09 AM |
| 47 | Treat yourself like someone you care about, even when it's hard.Ikr!! I could just see her switch when she saw that the conversation wasn't going to go her way. I've been here before many times. I've only lived with her for two months so there's no love lost. I had to block her today. Not an optimal move but honestly, she would have tried to have an argument in a text message and I wasn't about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 11:04 AM |
| 4 | More reasons not to entertain pickmes - these girls know what they're doing to other women.Sis, the kicker is that it's now sat in the fridge overnight. Presumably because he didn't care to eat when he finally arrived. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 11:48 PM |
| 21 | More reasons not to entertain pickmes - these girls know what they're doing to other women.I love this. And every word is true - we live in a society that advocates for "good vibes only" so the second we call out someone who's manipulative or mean, it's our fault for "lacking empathy". The older I get, the more I realise that my empathy needs to be a finite resource. There are nice people and then there are good people. Good people are rarely nice and won't lose sleep over putting someone in their place if it's needed. I'm in the military and I see people put others in danger constant… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 07:05 PM |
| 27 | More reasons not to entertain pickmes - these girls know what they're doing to other women.God, probably - but you raised a really good point. I actually don't know who the ex is and the ex could be the baby mama. And thanks, it won't be for much longer!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 11:57 AM |
| 47 | More reasons not to entertain pickmes - these girls know what they're doing to other women.I don't think baby mama is the ex he's hung up on, but you're absolutely right. I don't know what the situation is and you could be right. Sadly, I didn't get a say in this because I have literally been flat out at work all day. I just came home to this nonsense. She doesn't give a fuck about this woman. And she doesn't give a fuck if this woman busts down my door. She doesn't care that I'm exhausted. Anyway, she and shouse boy don't know it yet, but they'll be waking up at 4am with me tomorrow … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 11:46 AM |
| 254 | More reasons not to entertain pickmes - these girls know what they're doing to other women.I agree with absolutely everything you've written. I lived alone for a while and can afford it but I thought having the extra cash would be nice. It's not hahahaha my peace of mind is worth so much more than saving dollars on rent. So I won't be replacing her once she's gone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 11:12 AM |
| 7 | workplace dynamicsI'm in the military. The sexism is rife, so I know it's never directed towards me. I have friends who will straight out tell these men that they need to get a grip or they'll be single forever. I personally just go the FDS approach and don't engage/grey rock/block where I'm able to if the behaviour gets out of line. Obviously there's no clear cut HR in the military, but sexism isn't tolerated. I can report it, but at the sake of my reputation, so things would need to be very bad for me to do so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 12:20 AM |
| 41 | Scrote goes to brothel and gets serviced by his obviously miserable friend. Reports on reddit for awards and mostly pats on the back.Ok, incel wet dream aside - I am concerned for the people giving this awards and patting him on the back. I am concerned for the people who think this situation is ok, normal or that OP was some kind of gentle hero. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 06:57 AM |
| 98 | Man leaves girl for someone else but tells her she still owes him her virginityWhat a terrible day to have eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:01 AM |
| 340 | He really thought he did somethingSo let me break down some societal misogyny that's brought us to this point and maybe the male lurkers can just read and try and make sense of their own logic: We get called whores and gold diggers and are told that we need to make our own money, get hobbies so we're not so clingy and stop sleeping around otherwise "kings" won't want us. Then when we do these things and refuse to settle, we are too high maintenance. Huh? Like we can't win. On the other hand - if we do what liberal feminists and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 12:24 PM |
| 15 | Dating men who are better at academics than youI've dated a lawyer, a pilot, uni students, men who would outrank me at work if we were in the same unit (I'm in the army), and a few others who look impressive on paper. But that's just it. They only look impressive on paper. Without empathy and other HVM traits they're just another dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 08:37 PM |
| 41 | Why do men think we are in love with them after 1 date?If I have a scrote I've blocked address me in public I'll hit them with a wrong name. For example - if his name is Ryan I'll "accidentally" call him Renald. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 06:51 AM |
| 89 | Why do men think we are in love with them after 1 date?I've read through a lot of these comments and I'm starting to identify where men have done this to me and why. But it doesn't matter. If they consider dating me (or anyone for that matter) "too much effort"... If they think they can half-ghost me to create a stupid power dynamic by making me the more committed party... If they're generally not interested or think that by being myself I am in love with them... Then I don't care. I will wait for someone to show me that they care for me first befor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 06:46 AM |
| 31 | Keeping in contact with Exes100% because you're like "awh wah but I thought he wAsNt LiKe ThE oThEr GuYs" fucking hell I feel sick even writing it. I have just been out with a girlfriend who's boyfriend literally just dumped her because he needs surgery (that was his reasoning) and sis was like "girl your strategy is good. At least you block 'em before they can make a mess of your life". This girl literally went through this shit with this man once before and took him back because he said sorry real hard. Sorry is never so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 03:29 PM |
| 241 | Keeping in contact with ExesEvery dude I've tried to remain friends with after a breakup has continued to thoroughly disappoint me in every aspect of my life. I always ended up dropping them twice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:43 AM |
| 2 | Times I should have left my fianceSIIIISSSS when I read "army officer" I knew exactly the type. Most of those dogs are LVM in sheep's clothing, absolute wankers to be around and almost certainly treat their subordinates like shit. Not all do, but many are too indoctrinated for their own good and think their rank is all they need. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 10:43 AM |
| 33 | The Red flag of Parasocial RelationshipsSince the end of 2019 I've culled my social media right back to only include close friends and people who are active in my life. Occasionally I get someone add or follow me who I have met once or twice and I will allow them to follow me on Instagram but I will not follow back. We aren't friends and we don't have a connection 🤷♀️ why do I need to see people or accounts on my social media who I'm not engaged with in real life? Why do I need to follow celebrities and influencers who are set on sel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 07:24 AM |
| 25 | Anyone watch Too hot to handle? Marvin guy used Melinda to get money and then dumped her after he won the money. Number #0 reason why we don’t have sex with men before commitment. This YouTube link is so cringe.100% - the only reason he appeared to take her seriously was because everyone else in the house got mad at her being a pickme and him being a world class douche. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 07:48 AM |
| 106 | For episode 20 of the podcast, we will be doing an extra-special (and extra long) listener feedback episode! Comment below with your questions/feedback for a chance to be discussed on the podcast!Hey ladies, I love the pod and would like to hear your thoughts on both dealing with pickmes and helping other women level up. My roommate is in a terrible situationship and is in denial about what a man child she's dating and I have hit her with a lot of the stuff I've learnt through the sub and my experiences but she's still in denial! Thanks for what you do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 08:55 PM |
| 70 | Poor Britney. There’s not much else to say.HOW??? The international outcry over this is next level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 10:53 AM |
| 11 | Apparently Reddit does not think that ADVOCATING CHILD MURDER violates their Terms of Service. This is from our "satire" sub (basically just a bunch of incels pretending to be us and saying outrageous shit to try and get us banned)Talk about men intentionally missing the point. I love men. I just want y'all to be better and to treat me like a human. Not a weaker subgenre of human that you might like to stick your dick in if I'm submissive enough. That's the whole point of this group. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 05:38 AM |
| 2 | The rock/metal scene is misogynistic. From "nice band shirt, name three songs" to "Hayley Williams is a sell out". Kudos to this guy for calling it all out.Always the way! This dude hit home with BMTH. I like them and I'm like... Yeah, they did get a massive female following through MySpace. And it's true, whenever I mention they are one of my favourites, I get "pssht, you don't even like real metal" as if I've pigeonholed myself into liking one subgenre of music. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 11:22 AM |
| 5 | “Nobody in history, has ever gotten their freedom by appealing to the moral sense of the people who were oppressing them.” Assata ShakurSimone De Beauvoir would concur with this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 06:24 AM |
| 7 | How does FDS feel about being a dominatrix?I was asked to be someone's domme. Still felt like if I'd gone through with it I'd be pandering to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 09:19 AM |
| 54 | Why I hate Hinge: An ObservationLVM flock to Hinge. The marketing for Hinge primes women to think it's for relationships and men use this to their advantage. Their thinking is that women will put out more easily if they think the dude they've met also wants a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 06:09 AM |
| 11 | What will it take to get the bots, catfish, scammers and still-hopeful women off the apps?I think we are about to see a backswing. These apps have ruined dating and everyone is getting sick of it. Men are just realizing more slowly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 04:21 AM |
| 3 | What FDS has taught me over the space of nearly 2 years.You're so far ahead of women who haven't found this sub though. But I don't have to tell you that! I think as soon as you stop trying to reach new levels you just stagnate, regardless of where you are at in life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 01:24 AM |
| 6 | What FDS has taught me over the space of nearly 2 years.Oof I see it all the time at work. Pickmes in the military who will go along with the "I'm not like the other girls!" narrative thinking it's going to earn them respect from our male colleagues. And guess what? The men don't care and will still gossip about them behind their backs anyway. It's like - just be a human and a professional however that looks like to you as an individual person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 01:21 AM |
| 1 | What FDS has taught me over the space of nearly 2 years.❤️ wow that's so nice to read! I'm glad you liked it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 09:18 PM |
| 9 | What FDS has taught me over the space of nearly 2 years.I can imagine they ruin it or try to mansplain it, like they do everything else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 09:17 PM |
| 11 | It's the edit for me ~~~I have a friend who was shocked her engagement ring cost her fiancé $10k and I told her no, they are supposed to equate to 3 months salary traditionally. In her situation, this checks out. With this person's income, $25k is three months salary. I'm also wild at the idea that he emphasizes that they both agree they want to be "free of worldly aspects" or however the fuck he describes it and then he goes on to mention her income??? Make it make sense, homeboy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 08:18 AM |
| 6 | If you're still using dating apps, you're a pickmeI'm so glad to see more women in this sub embracing this. I made a couple of posts on this and a few people disagreed at the time. I quit because it felt tacky. I live in a small town and people could easily see that I was on there. I felt cheaper for being on it. It also got me into some nasty cycles with men: meet, date, get attached, get nexted, sit on the app and find a replacement. Dating apps are for broken people looking for a cheap, quick rebound and I know this because I was one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 11:14 AM |
| 24 | Staying Away from Online Dating This SummerAgreed. I had a few queens question a few posts I made because they rightfully pointed out that they're the same men no matter where we meet them. BUT. I have found since I've stopped using OLD, the context in which men approach me is a huge instant tell which you might not get on dating apps. I'll take a recent example - Mr. Beautiful. I saw him a bunch at the gym with friends. Eventually when he approached me, it was about work. I sent him a bunch of resources thinking I was genuinely helping … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 10:28 AM |
| 169 | Staying Away from Online Dating This SummerI'm a huge advocate against OLD no matter the season 💃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 02:23 AM |
| 13 | I hope this is satire because my God its too real🥲TLDW: a scene from its always sunny in Philadelphia s3e1: the cast find a baby in the dumpster. The male character who insisted on raising it finds any excuse to leave, forcing it onto the woman. The clip is about 1 min long, give it a watchAHHHHHH I've been rewatching Always Sunny and I felt so triggered by this scene hahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 08:39 AM |
| 150 | Saw this on my Instagram feed and I’m completely wrecked for this woman. This man had a “report card” for his wife that he eventually murdered. TW: Domestic Violence, Religious AbuseI find it triggering when you compare this to the fact that a lot of men don't find the way they speak about women to be a factor in domestic abuse. All abusers are misogynistic, you can't be a good dude and joke about this shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 08:25 PM |
| 20 | Women have been conditioned to always put themselves last and not rest- so self care is ESSENTIAL ❤️Love this. I am pretty good with taking time out for me but this is an excellent reminder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 11:21 AM |
| 2 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouOn a language course with work. I also went to the gym more often than them. The four guys on my course responded by bullying me like little school children. Aced that fucking course though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 02:06 AM |
| 75 | Wedding push these sexist ideas onto women that they need to do everything perfectly due to the ‘privilege’ of being a brideEx events coordinator here 💃 I'm in the military now because at the time of joining I was excited by the prospect of a non-emotional workplacd LOL (everyone who's in, please laugh with me). Anyway - the property I worked for was beach-side in a remote Australian location so I got busy with weddings once the word got out we existed. With most of the weddings I coordinated, I dealt predominantly with the brides-to-be. Same with the consults. But let me tell you about the worst experience I had: it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 09:20 AM |
| 11 | I'm newly divorced, and today is my wedding anniversary. I just want to share my thoughts.I was engaged to a man at 21 and ended it just before I was 24. If we'd married, I'd be broke and still working as a waitress. This is a hugely valuable lesson for young women - being alone is preferable than being with someone who brings you down. OP - I now see my own mother after finding FDS in a new light. She carried our home for years and made huge sacrifices for us kids. She worked and studied from home while we were kids to support us. She wasn't perfect but she did her best. Thanks for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 08:27 PM |
| 11 | Age-gap relationships make me cringe.Amen. Educating young women about relationships should be something that is taught in schools. Domestic and home violence is historically a gendered issue (no shit to everyone on this sub) but it's something that I did not learn until my university studies. Women need to be empowered to make choices in regards to who they date and taught signs of grooming so that they can appropriately analyse the relationships they chose to participate in. Like you, I was in an age gap relationship when I was 2… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 04:02 AM |
| 31 | See What You Made Me DoI saw your post on this and saved it. I have so much coming up at work and at uni I will have to wait to watch it now but aside from being on this sub and a survivor of abuse, I also study criminology. So it's piqued my interest on a lot of levels. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 01:30 PM |
| 7 | As a woman with a PhD in a hard science, who was told too many times that I act too masculine and "I'm not a real girl" by my own family, all I will say is this: DO IT ANYWAY.I love to see it. When I studied Industrial Design almost a decade ago, I was one of 4 women in a class of 40. I remember myself and my best friend coming to class only to LITERALLY have our outfits commented on by this one dickhead who was in our course with us. He would even go so far as to comment on our Facebook photos and one day I'd had enough and I wrote back to him on a comment he made on my friend's picture something along the lines of "omg she's not fucking dressing for you". He came t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 08:41 AM |
| 19 | I'm so glad I found FDS. I used to force myself to go on PITY dates because I thought I had to give men a chanceSis, same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 08:10 AM |
| 21 | Sex pozzy dipshits keep writing male pandering articles like this making women feel like they have to say the “nice” thing instead of the ACCURATE thing about men’s penis size. Notice how young, Inexperienced, women are more likely to repeat the lie that size doesn’t matter.Everyone stop. 15 - 18 year old don't have dick size preferences because they are children. What in the scrote-filled HELL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 08:09 AM |
| 15 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 9 - We Like Big Dicks and We REFUSE to LieI listened to this while walking my dog in a busy area and I was in hysterics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 10:09 PM |
| 8 | "See What You Made Me Do" Australian documentary about intimate partner violence and how abusers groom women into entrapmentThanks for sharing this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 10:06 PM |
| 5 | Female friendships and misogynistic propagandaUgghhh I had to stop it when it got to the scold's bridle: we had to look into that in my criminology degree in relation to home violence. So disgusting!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:13 AM |
| 160 | Anybody familiar with 90 day fiancé Jorge and Anfisa? I want to talk about the Gold-Digger/Objectifying a woman dynamic ...This isn't about Jorge and Anfisa but I was pleasantly surprised to see a post about Natalie and Mike. Someone called Mike out for finding a woman from Kiev (a sophisticated European city) and then labelling her demanding and crazy when he just expected her to be happy doing NOTHING at his cabin in the middle of nowhere. Jorge meeting Anfisa is poetic justice: he was so misogynistic that he was shocked when his new wife wanted to be treated to luxury despite the fact that he pretty much lured he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:08 AM |
| 36 | Applying high standards to friendsHey! I totally understand where you are coming from. In late 2019 I found FDS and got counselling to help me get out of patterns with internalizing dynamics in all kinds of bad relationships. I started applying my new mindset to everything and everyone. Like you, I'm an extroverted and empathetic person - it's sad to write this but I remember crying on the phone to my mum when I was 23 and asking her "where are all the other 100% people?" She had no good answer. It would take me another 4 years … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 11:23 PM |
| 9 | I'm sick of men always trying to shoot their shot with EVERY woman they interact withI agree. I love to go out and indulge. I love to dance, a drink and to chat to people. And I am sick of the men I meet ruining my nights out after a hard week of work by literally claiming me for the evening as if I'm about to just take them home to fuck. I am so sick of men thinking that my apporachability and chattiness means that I want to sleep with them. And you can't win! Say you're cold and distant or you shut them down - you'll be called a bitch. There's no win. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 09:53 AM |
| 11 | Deleted dating apps because I realized I deserve betterI have made a couple posts/comments about how trash these apps are and I see a lot of excuses being made for them. They are horrible, steaming garbage which men use because they are too lazy and lackluster to meet someone real world. When I see women leaving tinder and the likes I am given a renewed sense of life 🌿 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 08:20 PM |
| 3 | Why I am now avoiding pickmes at all costs from today forwardYup! Too right about women with children thinking us single women's hobbies and interests are unimportant. I am feeling so much second hand anger for you. I had a friend just like this! While she was expecting, I spent my leave period with her - I flew down to her city and spent the entire time helping her set up flat pack furniture because her baby daddy was still at trade school in another state. I would go out of my way to see her and her son whenever I had the chance. I never asked her for a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 08:58 AM |
| 2 | What love song do you dedicate to yourself?I gas myself up on the way to work. None of these are love songs but they remind me I'm a boss: The Man by Taylor Swift Juice by Lizzo Number One Fan by MUNA Don't Start Now by Dua Lipa Gorgeous by Yuksek ft. Confidence Man Mother's Daughter by Miley Cyrus | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 10:41 AM |
| 54 | Do men use filters on their faces for their pictures on OLD apps??I second this. Get off OLD it's trash I live in a small town and have seen dudes around who I've swiped past on tinder and holy. They say women love to catfish! I had been pleasantly surprised in one instance. The guy I matched with was better looking than expected. He had one photo of himself in a suit and a few others of him actually doing stuff. If you are going to keep using it, watch out for dudes with too many selfies/gym pics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 06:35 AM |
| 1 | I had to show y'all this - YouTuber courtreezy reacts to the cheapest man in the universe. He finds women on OLD to get cheap/free meals, takes showers in his clothes and flushes his toilet ONCE A WEEK. I don't know whether to laugh or vomit.So tonight I was getting ready for work - I realised I asked for shellac at the nail salon so I was watching some vids on YouTube while I filed the stuff off to make the time pass... When I found this. Props to all of the very FDS-aligned commentary from courtreezy as well. She makes a good point in there to list that you like expensive things: "I'm putting that I like fancy dinners and private jets in my profile to avoid men like this". I have no words. This is next level scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 01:00 PM |
| 97 | Why BDSM is the worst idea, personal experienceThank you for sharing this. There's a certain feeling of revictimisation when people (mostly women) open up about this and it's of particular note in sexual assault cases. It's why women do not always come forward and report abuse. I bet almost every woman in this sub has done this at some point: carried on like a pornstar in the bedroom to try and convince some scrote to just fucking cum. You lie there like "can you just fucking finish already?!" ugh. But you want them to enjoy themselves so yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 09:08 AM |
| 74 | Since people keep complaining about how wrong and immoral it is to have a "binary rating system" (LVM/HVM) I'd like to propose a ten-point rating system so that at least we're not "worse than the manosphere" 😘Look, I'll admit I've been lurking. I saw a post about how your pets liking your SO is a green flag... No. This is so dangerous. My dog indiscriminately loves everyone. She goes up to strangers on the beach for head scritches lol. I once had to work back late so I gave my key to a colleague so that he could take my dog on a walk. My colleague had never been over to my place before and my dog was just more than happy to see him. I'd straight up be in trouble if someone broke into my house cause m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 03:12 AM |
| 116 | Since people keep complaining about how wrong and immoral it is to have a "binary rating system" (LVM/HVM) I'd like to propose a ten-point rating system so that at least we're not "worse than the manosphere" 😘They do indeed let men in. It's just like ??? we've heard literally all of this stuff before. There is nothing a dude can tell us that we haven't heard. And it will end up just be dating advice that benefits men no matter how hard they try to police it!! Their argument is "how can you claim to hate men if you want to date them" and it's like no sis, that's not the point. We fucking hate that men and women have been socially conditioned to relate to each other they way they in which they do. FDS … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 02:51 AM |
| 120 | Since people keep complaining about how wrong and immoral it is to have a "binary rating system" (LVM/HVM) I'd like to propose a ten-point rating system so that at least we're not "worse than the manosphere" 😘Nah it's not just about the male lurkers. There's an FDS spin-off which just popped up and they've been trying to recruit from FDS. Their new sub is full of "FDS hates men" and "not all men" but they are also against labelling people pickmes and LVM. I mean, also fuck them. But I think having a rating system just like how men rate us will really put this into some kind of perspective for women who might see that sub and be like "oh yeah FDS is toxic". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 02:25 AM |
| 96 | LVM thrive in stagnation. Save your tears.This was a great read! Thankyou for sharing. I hope women lurkers get the takeaway here: there are worse things than being single and you don't have to be in a stereotypical abusive relationship to for it to be a bad one. When I was 16 in highschool, I started dating this guy. He was super fit, popular and smart. We dated for another 2 years after I finished highschool and in that time he just turned into an unmotivated pot head. I gained so much weight while dating him. When I decided it was ti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 01:02 AM |
| 7 | Yeah sure let's put the blame on a girl and victimize a man who in 99% of cases was the pursuer. Funny how people don't even get enraged that hard at raped victims who had their lives ruined. Omg.Hi! Your friendly neighbourhood criminology student again. This is one for the male lurkers. In Australia, you can't be persecuted if the person you had sex with lied about their age although I'd say this would be very hard to prove in a court of law. And it only applies to teenagers around the 12-16 year age bracket. If you are a fully grown man and you are having sex with teenagers, you have a problem. The reason I bring this up is this: even the law agrees with you. You shouldn't lie about yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 10:32 PM |
| 75 | What are some physical/“sex-life” related red flags you’ve developed after encountering FDS?My biggest red flags are as follows: He turns all conversation sexual He talks about sex with his ex (unnecessary) He talks about sex too early on He talks about anything BDSM related On the last point - men who are into BDSM seem to rarely approach their partners about how they feel about it. They see it as an expectation most of the time. You can throw that man out, he will abuse you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 10:21 PM |
| 18 | Sharing some more thoughts on OLD.This is so true. A lot of men I know just swipe right on everyone and then decide on them after they get matches. In the words of a guy I used to know "there's always that one chick that goes for it". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 10:53 AM |
| 32 | I'm seeing a lot of comments like "I hate that FDS thinks they're feminist"I just like to use their dumbass logic against them. "Oh yeah, you like BDSM and it's your right as a feminist to enjoy it? Well I, as a feminist, shall choose what I likes also and I choose to be sexually discerning". Their own logic defeats the purpose of their argument like, let's make ourselves palatable to men while shitting on other women who refuse to do so despite saying that we accept women unconditionally?? Make it make sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 09:31 AM |
| 7 | Sharing some more thoughts on OLD.Glad I'm not the only one! I think being on there just requires effort to talk to men and vet them so if you're in a place where you feel good then it's like - but why am I here?! I don't need this! I'm the sort of person who makes new friends wherever I go so if I meet someone and he's cool then hooray for me. If not then hooray for me also hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 08:39 AM |
| 8 | Sharing some more thoughts on OLD.I just am not convinced about it. And while I don't assume men are better simply because they refuse to use the app, I just have to wonder about the men who I see circulating these apps. Regardless, I want to be approached IRL. To me it shows that you are outgoing and confident at the very least. So that's what I, personally, want. Anyway, if it's a choice between my shiny life and dusty dick, I know which one I am choosing every day of the week. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 06:48 AM |
| 14 | Sharing some more thoughts on OLD.I agree that OLD has that advantage of showing us who is low value immediately. But I do have to disagree that these are the ones I'd meet IRL. So long as these shy, LVM are having any measure of success on these apps, they are not going to bother approaching women out of fear of being rejected. Why would you when you can stare at your phone and find someone to interact with from the comfort of your own home? Perhaps there is a more diverse range of people using these apps in bigger cities and p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 06:11 AM |
| 16 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 6 - BDSM. Kink. Sex Work. Polyamory. ENDGAME: CANNIBALISM.Yasss I've been loving these. I just want to say as well - this really solidifies FDSness for me, probably because hearing your voices just humanizes the sub. Sometimes when things are just written down here, they can be hard to conceptualize but on a podcast where you flesh it out, it makes a lot of sense through the discussions that the 3 of you have. I listen to these while I walk my dog 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 10:34 AM |
| 26 | Concrete initial steps for decentering men from your lifeI've done this and have only this week gotten back into dating. I'm finding I'm not really interested. My friends don't understand why I don't want a boyfriend and I'm like ??? I have everything I need, I'm good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 02:30 AM |
| 47 | Don't put your life aside for a man!Well written. I've been there to some extent and I can't agree more. The amount of money I've spent travelling around for men when I should have just been focussing on myself is out of control. I'm now 29 and realising that the happiest I've been in my life is single, studying part time while working a job I love and enjoying good friendships. There is so much time for dating and the misogynistic trope that women "hit the wall" at a certain age is neither real nor reason to handicap your own lif… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 06:17 PM |
| 6 | "I Wear My Heart on My Sleeve" & What It MeansNumber 5!!!!!! Younger me thought this meant he was just so in love with me. Reality: he was still living with his ex fiance!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 08:13 AM |
| 126 | I'm so proud of you ladies for sharing and normalizing FDS concepts on tiktok, Instagram, and other social media 😂I remember a few years ago, there was an argument going around MRA circles that more women are graduating university than men. If you look at the Global Gender Gap Report 2021 you'll see that's a load of shit and only true for a handful of countries. And even in the countries where that's the case, women still aren't attaining the same levels of employment as men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 10:40 PM |
| 13 | How long did you wait before being proposed to?I was engaged early. My now ex-fiance proposed about 1.5 years in. The reason we got engaged was to make visas easier. When I promoted him about whether or not he wanted to live in my country (Australia) he was unsure. It was enough for me to break it off. My advice here is this: have a serious chat about it and his motivations for engagement. It should be because he loves you and wants to build a life with you and for no other reason otherwise you will end up possibly in a bad marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 04:56 AM |
| 39 | Blocking and Deleting Closes the Drawbridge to Your CastleIt took me a year into FDS to really embrace the block and delete. I struggled with it a lot for the reasons you mentioned - I wanted the last word. To anyone struggling with this, please know that your silence is the greatest insult to these men. They want a reaction from you. You will hurt them more by not giving it to them in the best of situations and you avoid the worst case scenario is having them mock you to their friends, colleagues or whoever else. Consider that men are dangerous. Consi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 11:22 PM |
| 195 | I should really stop lurking around. From a post about age gap relashionships and how they aren't weird. Yes they are.I habitually attract younger men but that does not mean I want to date them. I have travelled, I have done so many things in my life. I want an equal, not a bitch boy who's only with me because he's in awe of me. And this is just it - they don't want an equal. They want someone who worships them 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 10:22 PM |
| 8 | Another control freak father trying to control his ex with their child... And the law.Gee, I wonder why she divorced him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 06:21 AM |
| 69 | Found a cheating scrote today (Tinder)I never trust men who say they are in an open relationship. I had someone tell me last year he was in an open relationship and I rejected him. He told me to "have fun being single forever" and it's like ??? As opposed to coming anywhere near you? Don't threaten me with a good time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 06:10 AM |
| 117 | A bumble date threatened me after I walked out of the date instead of going home with him . I’m shaken up by the messages (adding a snipped here). Has anyone else experienced this and did the guy follow through with his threats?Came here to say this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 06:08 AM |
| 30 | jfc, even the comments are a goldmine, so it’s wrong to have standards???Dodged that bullet SO hard in 2019 when I dated this hobosexual who wanted to put my name down on a lease because he couldn't get a good reference from his previous rental agency! Also, I need to correct myself. The law isn't as black and white as this. But I do know a lot of couples who register themselves as defacto after moving in simply to make things "easier". And regardless, it can still be argued in court that your ex is entitled to certain equities under certain circumstances (which vary… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 06:39 AM |
| 43 | Is not asking for a ‘got home safe’ text a bad sign?For me it's a bad thing because empathy is something I look for in the men I date. I want someone who, you know, cares about my safety. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 03:29 AM |
| 99 | jfc, even the comments are a goldmine, so it’s wrong to have standards???He should stay single. In Australia, common law dictates that property amongst other things is split in a break up after a mere 6 months of cohabitation. Not like any woman wants to take his 2 plates and outdated PlayStation anyway but I suppose it must be a real fear for some of them 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 03:17 AM |
| 8 | From Instagram. Speaks for itself - so much garbage behaviour gets dismissed by men and pickmes as "shyness".They lie and conceal this habitually. I am never surprised about cheating men anymore. Prior to starting my current job I had to do a few pre-courses out of state. There were men staying at the hotel with us who were on a business trip. Both my group and theirs were there for a long time so naturally we shared a few of the common areas like the bar. I felt off about all of it and would only ever go down to the bar to drink with my friends from course. Some of my friends would end up hooking up w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 10:27 PM |
| 7 | From Instagram. Speaks for itself - so much garbage behaviour gets dismissed by men and pickmes as "shyness".I'm so glad I'm off OLD! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 09:22 PM |
| 8 | The truth about male attitudes towards "lower performance standards for women"Oh he definitely wanted to make me look bitter and vindictive. I've learnt that lesson the hard way and I wish I'd had someone to give me this advice prior. By the end of it all, I was very close to getting a lawyer involved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 12:17 PM |
| 8 | The truth about male attitudes towards "lower performance standards for women"Thanks for your sympathy. It is like that and sadly I'm in a job that can be quite sexist. I do love my job though and I'll put up with bullshit for a little while yet before I move on (just so I can get some management experience myself). I just brush it off. I am studying part time now and have some great friends so I don't let it affect me too much. I've also really taken to stoicism over the last few years - it really helps! I have to say that the worst thing about my job is the pickmes, alt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 04:00 AM |
| 28 | The truth about male attitudes towards "lower performance standards for women"I've had that too. It's so frustrating. I don't know if the FDS community has any tips to dealing with that but I've found that I've had to just ride it out and continue to just be myself. After a while, people have come to liking me more than the men talking shit. Once you get to that point, start a conversation about the lies you've heard with one of the men who really thinks you're a cool chick (lol). This person will do your dirty work and go around and correct what was said about you. This … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 11:35 PM |
| 59 | The truth about male attitudes towards "lower performance standards for women"Hahahaha I get this SO much at work. When it's time for them to show off, they'll take any heavy lifting off my hands. When it's time to talk about equality, they make snarky jokes about "female standards". I LOVE being hit on and being condescended to simultaneously. It's like I can't be a person despite having been through the same training and passing the physical fitness tests required to do my job. I'm fully qualified and I know what I'm talking about. I've found that I've had to really giv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 11:07 PM |
| 45 | The famous "slug post" from the FDS podcast episode 5. Man makes girlfriend sick by grinding up slugs in her shakes. "aM i OvErReAcTiNg?”I agree! Did anyone tell her to do this in the original post? He could have absolutely killed her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 06:10 PM |
| 23 | Stop sending men paragraphs. There are only TWO things that are worth saying to a guy before you block and delete... and even then, it's not recommended.I've read through all of these comments and I will be saving "you're being very manipulative" for a remediation with a pickme colleague in a few weeks time (if needed). I was recently in a car crash and the toxic woman decided it was a good time to critique my driving and my work to other members of staff. So I submit a complaint about her. She's been behaving like this for two years but I decided to draw the line. As for using this on men, I am not dating right now. I'm just so over it. But I w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 12:51 AM |
| 18 | Caught his Tinder notificationTake her out on many girls nights. Take her phone and go and get your nails and hair done and then have some cheeky cocktails. Let her cry. And then convince her to delete the fucker from everywhere. Block on social media. Go ghost everywhere else. Biggest tip here from me as a now recovered pickmeisha - if that girl has an android (particularly a samsung) you delete the number but do not block because you can go back into the blocked messages and reply to them. I used to do this all the time an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Men and the COVID vaccineOne of the guys at work has been sharing articles on our group chat about the risks associated with AstraZeneca and every time he does I shut him down. Imagine being so lucky to live in a country like mine (Australia) where we have barely been affected by a global pandemic and have access to the vaccine before having any real risk of contracting the virus.... And yet still fear mongering about it?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 10:33 PM |
| 58 | More women have died at the hands of a loved one, then men have died in all of the wars put together! This is why it’s so important to vet because men have the potential to kill you.For my Australian ladies - this is true for us also. I study criminology as my major. For us in regards to reporting physical abuse to the police: 17 percent of victims reported current partners 24 percent of victims reported boyfriends/date 61 percent of victims reported ex-partners. Respectively for rape, the statistics are: Zero 30 percent And 21 percent To the male lurkers who say we do not need feminism in the west - shut your mouths. The actual data is against you. One of the biggest facto… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 09:48 AM |
| 6 | Guy takes girl on a non-date and then is surprised when it doesn’t feel like a dateUgh. They put in no effort into anything and reduce everything down to a kiss which they "get over and done with" because for LVM, their deciding factor is physically connection. Which they force. Sounds like they've done you a favour - you don't want to be with someone who puts so much weight on being physical. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 06:25 AM |
| 41 | Guy takes girl on a non-date and then is surprised when it doesn’t feel like a dateHa. I had a man take me out for a whole three course meal which he paid for and he ended it after because there was "no spark" after he grabbed my face and made out with me without consent. In my apartment driveway. With no lead up. Not to mention the conversation on the date was boring - he insisted on talking about a shitty sangria he was going to make so his friends thought he was cool. It is absolutely not my job to create spark when you create 0 effort for it to happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 12:29 PM |
| 23 | They always come back...I experienced this a lot in my early 20s. These days, I slam the door firmly shut. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 07:51 AM |
| 26 | Let's hear stories about dumping/blocking a LVMWhen I get a few things knocked on the head, I am going to write a post about this. In my opinion, it's linked innately to 18th and 19th century orientalists discovery of the middle east. Sir Richard Burton "translated" a number of texts including The Perfumed Garden which is an account of all of the sex he reckons he was having with middle eastern women. He also posited that there was a region (which he coined the Sotadic zone) where the women were supposedly more genetically pre-disposed to ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 03:06 AM |
| 34 | Let's hear stories about dumping/blocking a LVMI've been slow to implement the block-and-delete since finding FDS. It's not because I don't want to, it's because old habits die hard. I've managed to do this twice in the last year though. I was briefly seeing a man 4 years younger than me. He was quite sweet when he wanted to be, but would forget things about me instantaneously - for example how I don't have cow's milk in my coffee... When we were in line at a cafe. He also started "joking" about my age. I was 28 at the time. I asked him if i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 02:57 AM |
| 41 | Let's hear stories about dumping/blocking a LVMUgh. Honestly - the amount of times in my early 20s I was sat with a LVM thinking about how they couldn't even remember the smallest of details about me really has me empathizing with this story. I have male friends who remember literally everything I tell them, even when we've been drinking. Fuck that. I'm not accepting less from a boyfriend - there's no excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 02:50 AM |
| 74 | Let's hear stories about dumping/blocking a LVMI was told a similar story by a male colleague about a "friend" of his who would say he was going overseas for work and have girlfriend 1 drop him off at international departures. He would walk around the airport, back through domestic arrivals and get into girlfriend 2's car. He was sprung when girlfriend 1 got stuck in traffic leaving the airport and saw him with girlfriend 2. The effort these men go to in order to cheat is honestly insane. Imagine if they channeled this energy into, ya know, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 02:46 AM |
| 11 | Pickme Narcissistic Women Who Look Down At Single Women Are the WorstIt's typical narcissism - all a nice, fuzzy blanket to keep away the cold, dark self doubt they feel. I've recently got back into stoicism and it does me well when dealing with people like this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 10:26 AM |
| 12 | Not surprised scrotes were defending this obvious predator in the comments...I swear Australian guys are the worst. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 05:14 AM |
| 19 | Pickme Narcissistic Women Who Look Down At Single Women Are the WorstThere's a girl I work with like this. She swears when she was single that she told herself she'd be single forever until she met her now fiance because she didn't want to date a LVM. Overall, she seems to echo FDS sentiments but I doubt she actually believes it because she's always parroting on about her ex and putting me down for choosing to be single. Everytime I mention that I enjoy my single life she brings up how happy she is to be engaged like she won some kind of lottery. I'm glad she fee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 05:13 AM |
| 18 | The “talking” stage and why it’s not flattering or beneficial to womenLet's be real, "talking" isn't even the bare minimum. It's like limboing so far beneath the bar that you end up in hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 11:42 AM |
| 26 | A short story about two HVM I work withYes, the workers compensation and all of those sorts of reports are filed. I don't tell people what I do for work because I don't like to have it out publicly on this forum but neither men are financially liable for me. There was another comment here about assessing people on an individual basis and in my experience in my particular job, I've seen enough to know this could have gone totally the other way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:54 PM |
| 32 | Does it annoy anyone else when someone refers to a boyfriend of <1 year as a "partner?"I hate people who refer to their boyfriend as their partner. I go along with it because it's socially acceptable and I'm not a total asshole. But I hate it. He's either my boyfriend, fiance or husband. Miss me with that nonsense title. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 08:38 AM |
| 10 | At what point are you supposed to stop feeling sympathy for pickmes?I will always be there for girls who are stuck in abusive relationships and I feel as if, having been a pick me for so long, I really understand. I'm a girl for the girls and I know our social conditioning in regards to relationships has put women on the backfoot by default. Where it stops for me is where women use male attention to shit on other women and use it as a scale for worthiness as a human. Where it stops for me is when they side with a toxic ex and help spread his narrative - whether … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 06:09 AM |
| 48 | I disappointed myselfBe kind to yourself - I did the same thing with a man last year for similar pandemic related reasons and it was a disaster. You've had a rough run. I've been watching what's happening in Texas and southern states of the US from Australia and I just can't even begin to comprehend. Just remember that you're not losing value by staying single. You're not losing value by being alone and just getting through it all right now. I got stuck in a cyclone once and made effort to talk to this idiot and I t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 08:52 AM |
| 222 | I disappointed myselfForgive yourself - the pandemic made it hard for everyone and I think we all got a bit starved for connection at some point. Re-read the handbook. It helps. Also, if he is coming over for booty calls then he's not a nice, sweet dude. I think you want advice that will tell you how to make this better with this particular guy but I think the best thing to do is distance yourself and not initiate contact. Now that things are getting better with the pandemic it might be a good idea to reconnect and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 08:37 AM |
| 15 | Men on dating apps by and large will not take you seriously. Don't get hung up on it.You make a good point here in regards to mutual friends. I have been lucky lately that mine are for the girls, but I have had situations in the past where I've had friends tell me we can't be friends after I've ended things with a man. I guess the way to counter this is to just keep your FDS strong and vet the hell out of them. I'm at an odds with what to do myself - I don't date the men I work with because I find it highly unprofessional and I've already had one drag my name through the mud aft… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 11:23 AM |
| 34 | Men on dating apps by and large will not take you seriously. Don't get hung up on it.I hope I see a day where women exit these apps altogether. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 10:38 AM |
| 44 | LVM Triggered on a Post of a Woman Giving Birth. Apparently if the Woman is Giving Birth Willingly, She Doesn't Deserve Gratitude.Men fighting wars have remembrance days dedicated to them. He needs to pipe down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 11:04 PM |
| 15 | I want to share an eye opening conversation i had with a guy friendThe cognitive dissonance is strong, isn't it? I'm amicable with my ex who pushed several boundaries relating to consent while we were dating. We work together and I tolerate the occasional friendly chat to keep peace. He thinks we are friends. He shared with me that sex is a "biological need" for men and I argued that it was not and that we as humans are civilised enough to know the difference. I said it was a rapist mindset. Guess who hasn't spoken to me since? Cry me a fucking river. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 11:03 PM |
| 56 | Let's talk about 'well meaning' friends and family who try to set you up with some scrote who is far beneath your worth. How do you deal? And what is wrong with your fam/friends to do this to you?!Get new friends. I went on a date with a guy recently who I thought was a friend of a friend. He wasn't the best looking dude but I honestly don't concern myself terribly with that. I told our mutual friend and she just said "oh no, why? You can do sooo much better!" I ended up rejecting him because I noticed a few red flags and I was worried she would be mad for hurting his feelings or something (assuming they were friends). She immediately told me that she would always pick me over him. Having… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 02:47 AM |
| 7 | How to not get obsessed with the dating apps .... help?Here's a fantastic video on it - men over the age of 35 are having a worse time with it than you if it's any consolation. https://youtu.be/OnLpylrZ028 I back the sentiment of getting rid of the apps altogether. Men who use tinder and the likes see women as replaceable and they do not give the same value to their matches that they do the people they meet in person. Recently I met a guy who I'd been chatting to on Tinder about a year ago. He had asked me to go with him on a coffee date and I decli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:20 AM |
| 29 | Just say you’re a broke lvm and go.Was thinking the same thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 07:32 AM |
| 193 | PSA: You don’t owe anyone analOnce I was forced into anal and I have gone so far as to describe that scenario as rape because I was drunk. This man knew that. He also knew I'd never had anal sex before. He tried to say that I instigated it. Fucking pig. Ever since then I have said I'd do it only for someone I love. No I fucking won't. No one is coming near my ass, ever again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 06:51 AM |
| 26 | Men don’t degrade women they love #BringBackKinkShaming2021It honestly disgusts me so much reading things like this from women. I honestly love that the pendulum is swinging back into their faces with this shit. I love that women aren't putting up with this abuse styled as an "innocent kink" anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 12:08 PM |
| 46 | Men don’t degrade women they love #BringBackKinkShaming2021I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you're healing from that now. Even some of my friends who are into the BDSM scene have told me hundreds of times that sort of thing is not ok. And additionally "after care" is important. So by all of his own standards, he's still an abuser. Honestly, so many of my sexual experiences have just put me off men and sex entirely. I don't want it at all if it's not with someone who loves me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 03:30 AM |
| 50 | Even before FDS I believed in blocking and cutting tiesHey girl - same here. I love the block button. There is nothing more cathartic in this world then using your power to never see or talk to someone again (granted you don't have to). I use it on toxic women, on boys who've thoroughly disappointed me and anyone in between who I decide needs to be banished from my life. Social media is my safe space. I have very small friends and follow lists and I don't engage with anyone on any level if they negatively impact my life in any way. I don't follow wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 03:08 AM |
| 577 | Men don’t degrade women they love #BringBackKinkShaming2021This is true. When I was younger and didn't understand kinks or BDSM I dated a guy who'd had a crush on me for YEARS. His kink was rough sex and he flat out refused to do it with me because he didn't want to hurt me. Years later and one or two BDSM kinksters later I finally get it. Men don't want to hurt or degrade the women they love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 02:59 AM |
| 64 | Thoughts on The Five Love LanguagesIn my experience fuck boys just use this as a way to legitimise being fuck boys "oh my love language is physical touch" yeah, of course it is hombre. Next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 08:00 AM |
| 70 | 'the pandemic isn't forcing moms out of the workforce -- dads are' (only read this if you're prepared to be enraged right now)Totally! It's funny when people ask why we broke up because they don't get it. They think that sort of dynamic is normal or ok. There were some other problems there too but the fact that he didn't know how to just be a partner was the final straw I think. Cleaned up the grammar in my last comment too, my goodness. What happened there 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 01:51 AM |
| 223 | 'the pandemic isn't forcing moms out of the workforce -- dads are' (only read this if you're prepared to be enraged right now)This pandemic has really separated the low from the high value men. Broke up with my now ex in the start of the pandemic because it turned out he would have just expected the wifey treatment from me and all of the things that made me attracted to him just went out the window. The nice dates? That was all he had. As soon as it came to putting an actual effort into cooking or planning things himself I realised he wasn't as good as I thought. I am so glad we didn't have kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 01:46 AM |
| 6 | FDS Fashion AdviceI dress in a way that flatters me and in prints I like. I dress for me. I don't follow fashion trends and never have - if I feel like wearing a little white mini dress I will. If I want to wear jeans and a bright shirt, I will. But my usual go to is floral dresses which cinch at the waist and show off my legs. It's what I like 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 01:31 AM |
| 23 | Stay vigilant. Stay vetting. *Kisses <3*Awww I'm sorry to hear that! If you were in Australia we'd totally have you along with us. I don't have any single friends at the moment myself... It just so happens that a few of their partners moved away for work so I'm taking advantage of it haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 07:27 AM |
| 89 | Stay vigilant. Stay vetting. *Kisses <3*Luckily one of my best friends and I will be wining and dining and I won't be in the company of someone I have to impress 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 07:23 AM |
| 43 | Good men do exist. Takes some digging, but they’re out there. Props to this man for what he did.Gurhkas are a good sort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 07:21 AM |
| 5 | I told his girlfriend he cheated on her with meI've been in a similar situation. You did the right thing. I never had the pleasure of meeting my ex's girlfriend and telling her what was going on. It made me feel so guilty for so long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 08:55 PM |
| 27 | men having high body counts and wanting a romantic relationship?Everyone here has already thrown in their 2 cents on your specific situation so I'd just like to put in a couple more about dating apps in general: I met my ex on tinder but I would like to heavily caveat this by saying that men on dating apps by and large do not view the women they meet on them as serious romantic partners most of the time. You have to vet hard if you want to use these platforms for dating. These men are strangers who routinely lie about their intentions. If you are looking for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 07:38 AM |
| 32 | Why We Take the High RoadI feel the same way. I have recently become very happy in my single dom. I have friends who fulfil my need for social interaction at a greater level than any boyfriend has. I have a good job. My own place. I am financially independent and I have paid off all of my University fees... Plus I'm starting on another degree The thought of having a mediocre, needy man waking up next to me irritates me so much that it's honestly tinted my view of dating. I don't feel the need to date anymore and I kind … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 03:23 AM |
| 17 | Real article from a real estate agency in Bathurst, regional New South Wales AustraliaI'd honestly write in and tell them that's sexist garbage but they're Australian realtors so they're probably just garbage people in general. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 06:34 AM |
| 21 | Women search for stocks and funds to invest in that reflect their core values. $GME is not it.Maybe so, I can't speak to that but RobinHood's reaction to the situation is the reason why a lot of people are saying the whole debacle is symptomatic of deep rooted inequality. And I, personally, agree with those sentiments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 11:55 PM |
| 28 | Women search for stocks and funds to invest in that reflect their core values. $GME is not it.This is a good point. What's happening with $GME is important as it exposes class warfare. The people protesting what happened are making a good point: hedge funds manipulate the market all the time and now it's only a problem because they are going broke. But. This is also a great example of men being emotional and reactive. My personal opinion is that Reddit users were able to do what they did because of their emotional attachment to gaming/GameStop. I'm sure there are others who saw this as a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 11:00 PM |
| 22 | What’s your opinion on Jordan Peterson?The man is the epitome of "good idea, poor execution". Also, he's a misogynist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 11:05 PM |
| 3 | Flex your support system while datingBig ooft. My girlfriend gave me a pandora bracelet for my birthday, other friends send me packages and one mate who sent me a bouquet of flowers from the middle east. I wasn't expecting it. I didn't ask for it. I just have good friends. You best bet I ran off a scrote recently who thought I was too happy/secure to fuck with. He probably also thought I want nice things. He would be correct. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 07:51 AM |
| 42 | Woman is violently assaulted/raped by a Dom. The comments tell her she should have spoken up and stopped it. FDS gets a ton of heat for opposing BDSM, but it’s a world that is an a misogynist and abuser’s playground.I am absolutely not supporting BDSM or suggesting there is a right way to do it and I apologise if I did not make that abundantly clear in the latter half of my comment because I feel that I did. My point is that even if there was an argument for his behaviour, it still goes against what their depraved community states is the norm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 11:34 AM |
| 47 | We TRULY don’t know the men behind OLD profiles! Take my LVX for example...My ex lied to me for months while he was still living with his fiancee/ex-fiancee. Who knows what she was to him at that point. He gaslit me, told me he loved me and that I was the love of his life. All of that for a shag. Our relationship started long distance and he broke up with me two days after he met me and was immediately back on tinder. It broke my heart, all of it. He has found some other poor girl now and I'm sure she's just as miserable as myself and his ex-fiancee were lmao these men… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 07:04 AM |
| 60 | My boyfriend bought another girl discord nitroYou aren't overreacting. He didn't get you a Christmas present and he's bought this girl something for no reason. Sis, he's giving this girl the girlfriend treatment that you, the girlfriend should be getting. So maybe you don't give him the boyfriend treatment and leave him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 05:06 AM |
| 58 | "if you don't meet my sexual needs I'll find someone else who will"Been there. It's horrifying. This man spent two months trying to groom me but the shit he would say was so disgusting that I couldn't let the facade fool me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 03:43 AM |
| 121 | "if you don't meet my sexual needs I'll find someone else who will"Whenever I have something stupid like this said to me (for example: "I know lots of women who are into consensual-non consenual sex") I respond with "OK. Go and date one of those women." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 02:35 AM |
| 90 | You deserve to have high standards even if you are overweight.I've heard this often from many men. Some of them truly do equate it to a basic biological need. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 01:59 PM |
| 153 | You deserve to have high standards even if you are overweight.This is so important. I had a beautiful Papua New Guinean friend who was overweight and thought she had to accept terrible treatment from almost everyone. She even copped dumbass bro-science weightloss advice from her students too and it hurt me so much hearing her complain about it. We bonded over our shared, shitty situations with men. Weight has nothing to do with how people treat you: it says everything about that person and nothing about you. Someone made a post here the other day about men… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 01:57 PM |
| 172 | Just saw the guy I was "exclusive" with on a date with another woman.Hey gorgeous. That's a really heart wrenching situation and I know that a lot of us have probably given the benefit of the doubt too liberally with men like this. You didn't do anything wrong and neither did your housemate by going to see if you were there. He's clearly such a narcissistic prick that he thinks your flatmate was there for him and not to look out for you. What a joker. I'm sure he used that situation as an excuse to break it off without having to deal with the fact that he was an … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 09:55 AM |
| 5 | Vetting men while on a date: he should dress like he wants to be there and value you enough to be on time.This is a good point. Knowing your address should be a boyfriend privilege. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 01:41 AM |
| 6 | Vetting men while on a date: he should dress like he wants to be there and value you enough to be on time.It's actually an awful feeling. My date was also late (winning combo) but we went out to an award winning restaurant. I felt so angry and foolish getting into his car when he picked me up. He spent upwards of $200 that night and when he dropped me home he grabbed my head and kissed me unannounced. This clown got home and told me he felt "something was missing" and I lost it. I called him out and said maybe it would have been different had he actually put some effort into the evening and not been… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 11:27 PM |
| 24 | Amy WinehouseI love Amy. Her music helped me mourn an abusive relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 03:41 AM |
| 248 | What do you think about this?I don't know what ex-redpill is but I'm assuming it's a community of women who got sucked into the lie that is MRA? Yes. This girl is making sense. You should always know how to look after yourself. This is what FDS espouses, no? Like, look after you and never be dependant on a man. Congrats to these women for coming full circle 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 10:25 PM |
| 2 | It's my birthday tomorrow.Hell yeah. It's honestly great to get older. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 03:46 AM |
| 1 | It's my birthday tomorrow.Honestly - I've met so many guys who love the "older woman" thing. I have consistently dated younger men since last year. I had a 21 year old send me flowers for my birthday (it's going to be an awkward conversation when I see him next because I work with him... Eeek). It's just something LVM say to feel relevant. Thanks for the birthday wishes as well :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 03:45 AM |
| 1 | It's my birthday tomorrow.Sorry about my late response. I actually had a brilliant birthday and spent the day with friends. Thanks for asking that question :) Learn to assert yourself unapologetically. I have always been the sort of person who's very headstrong. I have always been made to feel by other people that my emotions aren't valid and that had a huge impact on my self esteem during my early 20s because I always felt like my experience wasn't valid. Your emotions are there to guide you. If anyone, ANYONE at all is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 03:43 AM |
| 29 | I watched " Promising Young Woman " last night, has anyone seen it? Would love to discuss *Spoiler AlertOoft yeah I thought that the casual disrespect was a great touch to his character and big red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 03:17 AM |
| 1 | The kinksters always shame "prudes" for being vanilla and boring yet the kinksters are almost always basic afKink shaming isn't oppression and since that experience I will never not talk about it. If I can't have mutually satisfying, respectful sex then it's not happening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 08:42 PM |
| 24 | The kinksters always shame "prudes" for being vanilla and boring yet the kinksters are almost always basic afDon't even get me started. Yo. I had a man FETISHISE MY ABUSE and then downplay it when I called him out. Being a recovering pickme, I let him apologise and take me out on a date where he grabbed my neck and ripped my dress down my chest. Apparently I was warned he was "no vanilla slice" but I warned him that I need respect. He never got to sleep with me and I hope his abusive, disrespectful self is mad to this day that he wasted so much time trying to groom me for nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 08:48 AM |
| 59 | “All I want is good sex, are my standards too high?” 🎪 Just another day on r/sex 🤡🤡🤡The minute I feel like my body isn't good enough for a man I'm dating I leave. There are plenty of others who appreciate it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 08:39 AM |
| 5 | “The biggest coward is a man who awakens a woman's love without the intention of loving her” -Bob MarleyThe chocolate cake analogy is just 😙👌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 08:35 AM |
| 24 | What was the last straw?We were talking for three months for 5 hours a night on the phone (it started long distance). He said all manner of fucked up shit including talking about his kinks. What did it was when he got mad at me for telling a mutual friend that we were speaking. Another time (after FDS) I had a man tell me on the first date that women in my town are crazy. I got home and blocked him. Last proper relationship - he was Mr Excuses and didn't sympathise with my lifestyle (I have a demanding job). But he had… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 02:33 AM |
| 47 | The regretful LVM anthem (remember, they never change) - Bruno MarsI love how breakup songs men write are so regretful and women's are like "fuck yeah you were bad news anyway" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 03:36 AM |
| 1 | I see your terrible gifts and I raise you this plastic cup. Story in comments.Oh you still have to let yourself feel that's for sure. I follow FDS but still can't help giving a piece of my mind from time to time, it's a huge downfall. I think it's probably because I only found FDS during the pandemic and wasn't really seeing too many people at the same time. Who knows. I definitely need to take a page from your book!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 05:40 AM |
| 1 | I see your terrible gifts and I raise you this plastic cup. Story in comments.I hate that. Nothing bothers me more in these instances than the waste of time and just total disrespect. Good on you for not losing your shit because I would have!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 03:18 AM |
| 6 | I see your terrible gifts and I raise you this plastic cup. Story in comments.I am going to but just haven't gotten around to it because I've not had a need to go. I tried to give it away last year but not one wanted it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 07:53 PM |
| 2 | I see your terrible gifts and I raise you this plastic cup. Story in comments.That is so infuriating. Did he care when you dumped him at least? Did he at least pretend to care? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 07:52 PM |
| 13 | I see your terrible gifts and I raise you this plastic cup. Story in comments.I've literally never used this cup. It just sits there with my storage containers. I have three keep cups: a ceramic one, a larger glass one and a metal one I take camping. I have the things I need... Why would anyone need this plastic cup with a plastic straw you can't ever clean properly 🤯 like, god forbid you put a smoothie in it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 02:01 AM |
| 13 | I see your terrible gifts and I raise you this plastic cup. Story in comments.I did - I just wasn't expecting this to get any attention prior to posting it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 01:14 AM |
| 75 | I see your terrible gifts and I raise you this plastic cup. Story in comments.I like Rick and Morty but if it's the only thing you talk to me about or if you decide I'm a cOoL gIrL for liking it then boy, I don't want to know you. It's a cartoon not a personality... Which I think is the problem: LVM make this show their whole personality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 01:03 AM |
| 118 | I see your terrible gifts and I raise you this plastic cup. Story in comments.This was my Christmas present from my ex in 2019. When FDS says men will say whatever the hell they want to get laid, it's true. This gift was from a man who declared I was the love of his life while he was still living with his ex-fiancée. I found this out while I was overseas and I never recovered from it. If I ever meet that poor woman, I'd give her a hug and congratulate her for leaving before committing to a lifetime with him. I felt sick to my stomach when I found out and totally enraged f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 01:01 AM |
| 14 | I'm a day dreamer. And lately I've noticed that in all my day dreams im single 🤷Ooft. Whenever a man disappointed me in my early 20s I'd just tell myself it was ok and dream about all the places I'd like to travel and things I'd like to do. I've been a designer, studied teaching, done weddings and event management. I've been to around 15 countries and I have leant another 2.5 languages. I'm not even 30 yet. I guess my life sucks tho cause I'm not married 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 12:11 AM |
| 32 | My girlfriend always made me feel so secure when I was the one fucking other people and refusing to get married. What happened???I'm willing to bet he was trying to buy a cheap one from a scammer because he couldn't be bothered investing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 12:07 AM |
| 43 | Your friendly reminder that unicorn hunting and polyamory are one and the same. Both are bad news for you.I matched with a dude on tinder who claimed to be poly and made some ludicrous proposition on the third message. I rejected him and told him it just sounded like he was cheating on his girlfriend. I was called bigoted and told to enjoy being "single forever"... like boy I absolutely will if men like you are my option. Seriously - these men think my life is going to be more fulfilled by sharing them with some other chick? Fulfilled by cooking and cleaning for them when they are over? Risking infe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:39 AM |
| 29 | Casual misogyny on reddit once again, I still don't get the cat lady trope...Whoever made this has obviously never spoken to a woman before. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 06:05 AM |
| 4 | French culture and menI can second this. I was engaged to a French man and got sick of dragging him through the process of it all. He told me he liked my home city in Australia "just fine" whilst my parents were willing to pay $10k for his visa. His mother babied him and would speak ill of me to him in French in front of me despite knowing that I could speak the language. So I ended it. Between him not knowing what he wanted and his mother, I'd had enough and just didn't love him anymore. He reacted by sitting on the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 07:19 AM |
| 9 | A question to FDS members: why do you think there are women who are against FDS?I had a friend I recommended this reddit to. She honestly thinks she can get a man to fall in love with her by sleeping with them. But I think we've all been there to some degree. I definitely have, it can be so hard to say no sometimes, particularly when you've been conditioned to return kindness with access to your body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 02:59 AM |
| 22 | A question to FDS members: why do you think there are women who are against FDS?This. I went back and rewatched 'My Big Fat Greek Wedding' yesterday while I did some chores and while I love the film I really hate the general narrative that a woman's life is incomplete without a man. This is the shit women are fed in almost every 👏 single 👏 movie 👏 from the time we are children until we die. I never realised how much I'd internalised all of this until FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 02:53 AM |
| 14 | What is wrong with men....Here's a hot tip for this boy: don't have sex. In fact, don't touch any woman. Or anyone. Stop making tiktoks and get a therapist, fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 02:18 AM |
| 7 | I cut contact with the “friends” I had in common with my sociopath ex. They were all LVM and LVW. It feels lonely but I will riseOver the last two years I've gone through this a few times with various people so I know how you are feeling. I still sadly have to work with a pick me who got close to my boyfriend early in 2019 who I'd love nothing more than to cut off. My ex would hang out with her and some other girls behind my back and eventually I'd had enough of the mental anguish. So I dumped him. There were other reasons as well, but she was a big factor. Anyway, she found out I suspected that he was cheating on me with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:31 AM |
| 10 | Y'all, they literally don't stop 😂 I've already posted here a couple days ago with a screenshot from their sub about the rings people are posting 🖕The good men are clearly not in that group. Imagine being mad because someone bought herself a fucking car. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 07:17 PM |
| 52 | A MASSIVE Red Flag When TextingI've experienced this too. Well done on the post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 10:23 PM |
| 69 | Men respond better to silence vs cOmMuNicAtIonI had a positive experience with this with my ex. I told him I wasn't speaking to him until he could understand where I was coming from. It took him a few hours before he responded and elaborated on why he thought I was upset. Anyway I dumped him because he had a weird love triangle with a married friend and I wasn't going to sit around and deal with that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 10:06 AM |
| 38 | Thought you ladies might like this. Men mad that women are focusing on themselves instead of men."Oh no, the girls are buying their own jewellery. Let's make it about us". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 11:54 PM |
| 65 | Woman on tiktok records her interaction with an extremely predatory, entitled, depraved tinder scrote (she got out safe thankfully). This is why you should NEVER go to a scrote’s house when you barely know themI bet he was bullied throughout school. And college. And at work. The amount of times I've heard dudes tell me "tinder is a fuck app" to excuse their behaviour is outrageous. I'm leaving tinder in 2020. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 09:15 AM |
| 71 | Yesterday morning I closed on a house. Yesterday evening I was dumped via text. This is not a coincidence.What a narcissistic prick. I hope his fake girlfriend has somewhere for him to crash! Jokes. I'm sure you're ready for the hoover in a week or so when his bro buds remind him a financially stable woman is a cAtCh and you'll continue to ignore. That's assuming be navigates his way around the block button lol (they always do). Congratulations on your new house and ridding yourself of that leech. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 03:23 PM |
| 27 | 🤔Haha I can't believe wanting to be respected during sexual intercourse is a kink or boundary. Wild. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 09:14 AM |
| 205 | 🤔I happily tell men I'm vanilla and a prude. You want to choke the shit out of me? Cool, I'm not the gal for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 10:50 PM |
| 39 | Raise your hand if you’ve been personally asked to fly/drive across the country to meet a man. Do some pickmes actually do this? Is this a real thing that happens?Yes. I have done this twice for two men. Why? I thought they loved me and that they were relationship potential. The second one at least offered to pay and I'd known him for a while. The first one is tragic and truly PMAB of me. I flew interstate and he wasn't even at the airport because he was too busy with work. He blew me off for two days before taking me out to drinks on my last night in town. We then had disappointing sex. He left at 6am. Don't come for me, this was almost five years ago. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 08:55 AM |
| 29 | The sooner they get their robots the better for usOh is this our choice? Behave like sex robots in order to have a man or be single? I know which option I'm choosing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 10:18 PM |
| 18 | Why is it that it’s always typically brides-to-be who care so much about their weddings and not grooms-to-be?I used to be a wedding planner. I would see some men get involved a little and contribute to the things they wanted a say in (mostly food, drink). I did experience the odd groomzilla and every time I did, they were 100 times worse than the women. Controlling, nasty, angry, petty and unreasonable. The steaks cooked for 80 guests weren't all perfectly medium rare? Our chefs were badly trained. Our cheapest function space couldn't seat 150 people comfortably? My fault. I should accommodate seeing a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 01:03 AM |
| 61 | Absolutely Speechless- Scrotes doesn’t get GF an Xmas present but gives £1000 to his OnlyFans lady. GF doesn’t dump him.I'm willing to bet she paid for the house furnishings and other big expenses while he said he was "too poor" to contribute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 11:54 PM |
| 23 | So I just rewatched Bridget Jones (don't mind me, just sharing my thoughts)Same. When I first saw it I thought she was so cringe. Watching it again I have empathy for her and don't see her as a total disaster. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:25 PM |
| 10 | I have no words... Hope she will leave and get him arrested.That's a good point. It's interesting how everyone at slightly different age intervals have a different grasp on technology. I find that people just slightly younger than me in their early - mid twenties have a good grasp of social media and don't let it run their life whereas the group younger then them have a different outlook on social media again which is the reverse and wholly unhealthy. But I digress. It's no excuse to normalise this BS behaviour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 09:44 AM |
| 19 | how can I spot LVM Chameleons 🦎 👀This. In my most abusive relationship it started early. He knew I was going to talk to a friend about travel plans and that I'd see him after but he yelled at me about it. When I reassured him I'd see him after he praised me for "handling the situation well". He pushed it further when we had a huge fight one morning. He knew I was well justified leaving his house that day and never coming back. He was so thankful I hadn't. From there on out I'd set the tone and he knew he could keep pushing the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 11:56 PM |
| 135 | I have no words... Hope she will leave and get him arrested.I've said this before on this sub and I'll say it again. There is something specifically wrong with 34 year old men. Why is it always men in their mid 30s who think this predatory shit is normal? Like, to their core they think it's acceptable totally fine behaviour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 11:52 PM |
| 6 | Thanks for the warningI had one that comes around around every. Damn. Year. I finally blocked him for good and it feels good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 01:57 AM |
| 54 | Vacation expensesI'd be apprehensive about what else he wants to go dutch on e.g. food, entertainment etc. If you can afford it then that's fine but if he is expecting you to split things exactly in half if you're currently earning less than him then this will be a problem. I agree that as you're still students this sounds reasonable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 01:46 AM |
| 11 | PSA: Reductress on IG has some hilarious FDS truthbombsGod I love Diana so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 02:36 AM |
| 35 | He wanna spank my ass but he don’t want me to stomp his balls?? Now I only use Tinder just to laugh at these dummies w my friends.Ahahaha I once had a man tell me he likes hurting and degrading women during sex. I said I'd be down for it if he let me tie him up and beat him first. Yeah, he wasn't into that. So weird. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 02:34 AM |
| 14 | Males really think we should be willing to take the same risks as soldiers in a war zone so their peens can get touched, wow. This scrote commented on a thread about a woman detailing her trafficking experience.Who is this person? Did they attend second grade? Are they aware women serve in the military now??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 01:04 AM |
| 3 | Do you ever just get angry when a guy says they “want kids”?Bleh. I've always said I was "open to having kids with the right person" and when pressed about who the right person is I will say "someone who can prove they will look after them by looking after me and a household first because parenthood is a big deal". Boy do these men go off. I get mainsplained to and it's like ??? Boy this is my uterus. I have the mature outlook here, you are the one who has not thought this through. I will not be left a single mum by a man who thought it was a good idea a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 09:54 PM |
| 12 | What’s your opinion on: Men who got out of a LTR & immediately jumped into a new relationship during a pandemic?No. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 10:15 AM |
| 36 | Beware of men who want open relationships but later decide to change their minds when they see that their partner have way more options than themSo true. I dated a scrote who I spent hours with talking on the phone because we met through friends when we were both away with work. We ended things so many times because he couldn't do the most basic things right like stop talking about his previous sexual encounters 🤢 One night when we were on the phone, he ended it "for good" (or what's what he wanted me to think. He was so manipulative that it was just a ploy to have me forget all of the bad shit he'd done and mourn the relationship). He t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 05:10 AM |
| 40 | On the front page today 🤦♀️ why can't men, as a gender, understand what systematic oppression isHi from a criminology student. This is the comment I came to make. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 11:18 AM |
| 3 | Psychologist speculates on whether the man who singlehandedly killed his pregnant wife and children was actually manipulated by his mistress because she was out of his league 🤮men will really find a way to blame women for EVERYTHINGThis is disgusting. Shannan Watts and her babies were the victims of a horrific murder. Chris had agency. He chose to cheat. He chose to ki his wife. Let the dead rest in peace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 09:47 AM |
| 2 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.Don't give it a second thought. You'll see from some of my comments here that I had a hard time with a toxic friend. She did exactly what an LVM would do and spun it back around onto me!! Don't engage or you will be the "crazy" one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 11:47 PM |
| 2 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.If you don't work with them and have no need to be civil then yes. Otherwise, just go grey rock. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 11:43 PM |
| 6 | On receiving oral sexThere are men who exist who enjoy giving oral sex to women and actually place women's satisfaction over their own. HVM are generous in this aspect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 06:13 AM |
| 0 | Couples on YouTube/ in the media who are actually good couples?I'm not bothering to defend this because FDS is against me on this and thus there's no point cause I'll lose but it remains my opinion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 10:42 PM |
| -7 | Couples on YouTube/ in the media who are actually good couples?Ethan and Hila Klein. They share a podcast and YouTube channel and during a recent drama with her clothing line, Ethan has been very quick to come to her continued defence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 03:45 PM |
| 9 | How did you stop feeling guilty about standing up for yourself?I got counselling after a string of bad relationships. I needed to learn how to value myself and enforce better boundaries. I've learnt how to be assertive before I reach a snapping point and I am slowly learning how to feel attracted to people who treat me well. I did a lot of work on what a good relationship looks like and what things I value (mine were empathy, honesty, loyalty). I have a lot of deal breakers and if ANYONE exhibits these in my life, I cut them out or I keep them at a distance… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 05:17 AM |
| 4 | Keep away from self-proclaimed atheistsI appreciate you sharing this and you make such a good point - we give birth, give life and yet are shamed for it. It's disgusting and oppressive. But so are these atheists. They end up in self-gratifying echo chambers and are nihilistic. I am sure the guy I wrote about has told his atheists buddies I just wasn't wanting to engage him in a debate. I am exhausted after work and don't need to argue with someone as a way of proving my intellect or getting to know them. I am agnostic. I look to phil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 11:40 AM |
| 2 | Attraction levels in dating... Is allowing a man to "punch out of his league" beneficial?He might be love bombing you, I'd be careful. Every man I've dated who's been just that little bit worse looking has done this to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 07:36 AM |
| 7 | Anyone ever had to deal with an ex at work?Will do... He's tried to initiate small talk and probably thinks we're "all good" despite my generally bare minimum responses. He shot me a look today and all it is to me is a laugh at this point. He probably still thinks he can operate a minimum standard and I'll come crawling back for his approval, just like I used to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 12:49 PM |
| 9 | Anyone ever had to deal with an ex at work?It's so hard and I'm feeling this. But it's true. These people don't want to see you happy and it kills them. I'm naturally outgoing and very bubbly. I know people want to see me fail at things. Be strong and keep your head up!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 12:47 PM |
| 10 | BF is upset that his best friend is dating his ex. Now we are on a break.Lmao boy bye. He's still obsessed with his ex. Find one who likes you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 06:08 AM |
| 44 | Elvis met Priscilla when she was 14 and bragged to his friends that he could ‘mold her’. Yet another example of age gap manipulationOk so not the point but my goodness has Priscilla aged like fine wine, stunning woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 06:29 AM |
| 12 | Why are there so many men on tinder who are poly or couples who are looking for a unicorn?Ugh I agree. I don't know enough good women where I am | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 10:00 AM |
| 96 | Why are there so many men on tinder who are poly or couples who are looking for a unicorn?I always have cheeky profiles. At present mine reads "I'm not like the other girls, I'm worse" and at the end I have put simply "Unicorn hunters swipe left." I've been aggressive in the past and written something along the lines of: "No. Nope. I don't want to "vibe" with you and your super cool girlfriend who is on tinder with you to save your probably failing relationship." It's a conversation starter for everyone else and it sends a clear message to these couples that I think they're absolute … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 04:11 AM |
| 132 | Why are there so many men on tinder who are poly or couples who are looking for a unicorn?They make me retch. I feel sorry for the girlfriends who are trying to be cool and complicit with their boyfriend cheating on them. No one likes these people. I am in some very "woke" groups on FB and men and women alike hate them for seeking out and attempting to take advantage of bisexual women, effectively using them as an object. My profile straight up calls these people out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 03:26 AM |
| 2 | How To ...Asha Christina (YouTube) came out with a video recently where she said "never be afraid to lose any man" and have a "roster-oster-ostrer" and I felt that. You should too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 08:18 AM |
| 5 | Open to Analysis : Music and past relationshipsSalut ! What I am seeing here is a lack of direct communication. Yes, it might be your thing but you need to ask if you're going to settle for musical exchanges over actual communication. Is this what you really want or deserve? Or do you want someone who can actually show you he loves you when he says it rather than linking you to a song. Pull back, date other people. It will give you perspective. Other men will maybe put in effort where he didn't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 08:02 AM |
| 16 | Dear Men: Your Opinion Holds No Value Here. Did We Fucking Stutter?I love the point about them not speaking up against incel or MGTOW subs. Hell, put your misplaced energy into rape kink subs or speaking out against paedophilia. The sad truth is that this sub is not the enemy, it's the misogynists who allow their fellow MEN to treat women and children as if we are disposable or a commodity. Go and address what they're doing first, be an actual champion for the rights of the vulnerable and then come back... Because I guarantee if you got some empathy about you t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 05:47 AM |
| 18 | FDS in the workplace? Don’t be a job pick me!I've had some issues at my workplace from a LVW who takes on too much work and then refuses help, all the while complaining she has too much work to do. She is competitive, talks shit about myself and other colleagues and has now, after a year and a half has left a poor taste in our mouths. She is always "sick" and has taken a lot of time off this year. She constantly raves about how well she did at school and uses that as the cornerstone of her success. It's petty. It's sad. It doesn't mean shi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 10:56 PM |
| 11 | FDS youtubers? who do you watch that supports FDS teachingsI second Asha Christina along with School of Affluence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 12:17 PM |
| 25 | Omg 🙃 LVMI always suspected this group was made to deal specifically with Aussie men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 12:13 PM |
| 12 | Turn the English caption on Ladies!Oh I LOVE Stromae. I learnt French with the help of his music ❤️ a true HVM who retired to help his wife with her career in fashion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 10:09 AM |
| 7 | Smooth ways to flirt with guys online?You bully them slightly and see which ones can deal with it. Those are the ones that can stay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 10:07 AM |
| 7 | Anyone else having a WEEK right now? Need to vent or get something off your chest? Feeling tempted to text or go back to old toxic patterns because you are feeling isolated? Need a "big sister" pep talk for any damn reason? A thread for affirmation, support, virtual love, and healing for any Queen!This week, I have been overrun with work after finishing an event on Saturday. I had one day to myself where I had to complete a uni assessment. I head to work on Monday and am bossed around by not just my boss but people from other departments who also took their frustration out on me because they had to help clean stores from the event over the weekend. No one else in my office is able to do the work because they are all "injured" so coming in and watching them all sitting around doing uni wor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 02:12 AM |
| 6 | Favourite characters/movies? Role models?Grace and Frankie! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 08:20 AM |
| 38 | Thoughts...I dated a 34 year old when I was 20. Yes it was abusive. Yes it was predatory. No women his own age didn't want him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 12:15 AM |
| 10 | In the absence of your own desire to improve yourself, lie to the allegedly superficial women who want an educated, driven partner. His post, my answer. The comments were a cesspool of twisted validation for him and denigration of her. I had to say something.I went to read the original and I just can't. He's seriously twisted everything you've said to try and continue to make himself the victim. It's mind blowing, really. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 06:55 PM |
| 30 | Celebrating his wife by saying 'she's got low self esteem', while putting himself down at the same time. LVM pur sang. It isn't cute and it isn't funny; it's tragic.I disagree. I think this is nice, it's their style of humour and frankly I appreciate her keeping it real with her comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 06:39 PM |
| 12 | DIRTY JOHN SEASON 2: THE BETTY BRODERICK STORYI'm so glad you watched it. I am surprised it hasn't dropped on Netflix in the US. Strange. After I watched the series I actually read her book "Telling On Myself" which was just as gripping as the series. What I found interesting was that she wasn't always a pick-me. A lot of went on in her childhood really primed her for her abuse. I really felt for her and I hope she's let out of prison soon. The abuse she experienced was worse than that detailed in the series and she was essentially kept "ba… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 06:37 AM |
| 3 | What a lame way to ask a woman to continue conversation off an app. I’m not “snap messaging” a 35 year old. 🙄Ugh they all do it. As soon as they ask I unmatch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 03:52 AM |
| 10 | He know what he's doing.She really did. Narcissists absolutely thrive off reactivity. He wanted her to cry and plead with her to go and then cry again and take him back when he messaged her afterwards. They also love reactive abuse because it helps them blame shift. If anyone is ever in a situation like this, block and delete. This is the only way you can get out of a relationship with a narcissist without having a smear campaign run against you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 07:35 PM |
| 3 | Hey for Nothing ... ?b o o t y c a l l Don't even bother. Block and delete find someone nice and laugh with your friends while he makes pathetic attempts to get you to hook up with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 08:34 AM |
| 15 | Dirty John: Betty - why I am so glad to have shifted my mindsetOh my god, you want to believe that fantasy so badly. Then when it all goes south no one believes you and everyone believes your abuser and it's so demoralising. Looking back on my experiences now I ask myself the same things "how could you believe that?" but you just get so caught up in it and believe everything is your fault that you get so stuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 02:03 AM |
| 2 | New standards in your platonic relationshipsI posted in here a few weeks ago about this. I had a friend who was just awful in every regard. When she had her final little meltdown I rid myself of her for the last time. She tried to tell me I have no friends which was kind of true - after reconnecting with other friends, they told me they weren't surprised about her behaviour and said if I'd have asked them to hang out while she was around they'd have said no. I also met new people who were aware of her and their opinions weren't great eith… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 10:10 AM |
| 72 | The audacity... At least he's honest, I guess.Yes let me completely inconvenience myself for an unfulfilling sex life at the expense of literally anything else I need to do of a morning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:07 AM |
| 21 | Unconventional red flagsRough hands could mean he goes to the gym. I have rough hands from the gym, my dog pulling on her leash for walks and sometimes when I am going through a phase at work where I'm required to be more hands-on and out in the elements (I'm an event manager). Let me also speak to the poor relationship with siblings - this is true, one of my brothers is dangerous and awful to be around. He is getting better as he gets older but yeah, this is true. My other brother collects basketball shoes and Yeezys.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 07:42 PM |
| 134 | Unconventional red flagsFake woke/feminist - look out for micro aggressions and inconsistencies in speech | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 05:41 AM |
| 106 | Unconventional red flagsWord salad - seems to address your concerns/questions but never directly. This will often be paired with blame-shifting and victimising themselves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 05:01 AM |
| 68 | Just say you are broke and go. 🥱Yes. If we go by modern courtesy, the person who ask pays. I am not obliged to say yes to a date, nor ask someone on one. God I hate this pick me garbage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 04:53 AM |
| 57 | Pick Me Of The Decade Got Me Banned From Dating Over 30 For Putting Her In Her Place After She Came At Me & Lied About Having A Boyfriend When I advised A Recently Pumped & Dumped OP Woman To Withhold Sex Until Commitment If That Is What She Wanted-5th Similar Type Of Post On The Sub This WeekI cannot stand women who use having a boyfriend as a badge of honour or measure of success as a woman. I had a friend who did this and tried to make me feel bad about being single at 28. I feel bad for the women who settle, who end up posting in AITA and breakingmom. I feel bad for the women who don't have their own life or career because they're constantly following their man around. Best of luck to her and her salads. On that - as a single girl, I don't have a problem affording salad ingredien… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:48 AM |
| 11 | Would you simply block a guy like this?If you don't feel comfortable with something, just block and walk away. It's not going to get better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:27 AM |
| 123 | Pick Me Of The Decade Got Me Banned From Dating Over 30 For Putting Her In Her Place After She Came At Me & Lied About Having A Boyfriend When I advised A Recently Pumped & Dumped OP Woman To Withhold Sex Until Commitment If That Is What She Wanted-5th Similar Type Of Post On The Sub This WeekI have given up on other dating subs. I don't care for them. It's full of this type of garbage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:26 AM |
| 9 | "I've dated a couple of crazies"This has been my experience every other time. They have no self awareness... Like, let's entertain their train of thought for a moment here that they date legitimately crazy women - why do they keep attracting such women? Why haven't they had a good look at themselves in order to figure out why this might be? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:26 PM |
| 14 | Think about it 🤔It's often the first thing I ask now - how close are you to your parents? If it's too much or nothing at all there's a big problem and I know it's going to affect any relationship unless he's had counselling. If I had my time again I'd tell him to get his mum to send him those memes if he didn't like mine and then I'd block him 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 05:40 AM |
| 47 | Think about it 🤔This should be in the handbook. A few years ago as an absolute pickmeisha, I dated a mummy's boy and it immediately became a red flag an deal breaker before I figured out what having boundaries was about. This dude was in his mother's pocket, his mum would send him corgi memes and he'd ask me to do the same only he would get mad and tell me he'd seen all of them because his mum sent them to him already 🤮 I never quite figured out exactly why it was so "ick" but this really nails it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 04:11 AM |
| 5 | Back when I was using OLD I had this happen....the audacity is astounding!LVM/NVM quite LITERALLY think they are entitled to you the second you say one word to them or make the smallest of gestures to indicate you might possibly be interested. You matching with him on bumble = you are now his back up to check in on as he sees fit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 06:17 AM |
| 3 | How do you forgive yourself for past pickme behavior?I take time to really feel my last hurt and cry if I need to. You are a human and you never stop learning and growing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 11:49 PM |
| 12 | Do any of you have an alternative style? What’s your experience been and how do you attract HVM instead of duds?I have half a sleeve of tattoos, I like the gym and death metal. These things however, are not things I consider to be the crux of my personality. I am a good friend, I am intelligent, I can hold a conversation. Those things are what give me my confidence, not the things I like per se. I have no problem finding men to date who others would say shouldn't be my "type". It's about confidence and having some mystique. I would also encourage looking into active listening. There are techniques you can… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 09:36 AM |
| 5 | (Ex) boyfriend called me while cheating last nightWhat a piece of shit. I know you know this but he's done this to try and make you jealous and cry over him. It has everything to do with his disgustingly fragile ego and not a single thing to do with you. Block and walk away, karma has a great way of getting people. No doubt people at your college will hear about this and ostracise him for it at a minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 12:27 PM |
| 24 | I think i'll be fine? LolHow many of you ladies notice that men can exchange about 3 sentences with you and then turn around and be like "oh but we TALK" hahahaha I talk to lots of people boy gtfo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Red Flags GaloreOh my god. I've had two experiences like this but the most relatable one when I was 16 and this who I was just infatuated with asked me out by saying "dating you will help my confusion about my ex". It seriously messed with my self esteem because she was a model and studying to become a lawyer. If I had my time again I'd have told him to fuck off. I got the last laugh though because I dumped him and started dating a guy who was obsessed with me from the grade above me in school. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 05:56 AM |
| 3 | "Thank you for your time" - my new high road approach to dating thanks to FDSI've been in a few bad relationships with people who love to serve a fresh word salad, so even if he had taken the time to explain, I'd have been onto his bullshit. I'd pretty much made my mind up and have been dating other people anyway. Nevertheless, it's a good point and something that I wouldn't have considered last year. I would have let this person explain away murder and believed it all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 09:49 PM |
| 8 | "Thank you for your time" - my new high road approach to dating thanks to FDSHappy cake day! And that's just it. This man isn't getting any position in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 09:42 PM |
| 3 | He hasn't written anythingYes, I acknowledged all of that. I think you have missed my point here entirely. No one was disagreeing with you and I feel as if you are turning this into an argument so I am going to disengage. I'm not responding to this any further as I believe I've made some decent points in my responses to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 10:02 AM |
| 8 | He hasn't written anythingLook, no one is disagreeing that you should take men's words with a grain of salt, but his behaviour was ungentlemanly regardless what your personal definition of ghosting is and there were more tactful ways he could have gone about ending the date. OP has said she was not in a great head space and I don't know what good it is doing for her to have you discount her experience. You are welcome to your opinion and yes, she came to a public forum for advice... But some empathy to her personal journ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 09:44 AM |
| 8 | He hasn't written anythingThe issue I take is that he suggested a second date and then made no contact. I wouldn't even bother call that ghosting because in my opinion, a true gentleman will text me shortly after our date to say he had a lovely time. I would then expect some kind of regular contact until a second date is planned. My point is that I wouldn't even give a man a chance to ghost me or date me for a little while before cutting contact. And yes "it was lovely to meet you" translates to a politesse and not neces… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 09:19 AM |
| 12 | He hasn't written anythingTrue as that may be, he could have said "it was lovely to meet you" and not suggested a second date. That just serves to lead people on. I would say generally that people who have a tendency to ghost are not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 09:06 AM |
| 2 | Are there any older women here who are happily single?Apologies - I wrote this on my phone. I meant *reframing. So assertiveness is pretty self explanatory. I did work with my psychologist in learning how to express my boundaries in a way that is respectful to other people and myself. It mostly entailed stating the problem, why it upset me and a possible resolve. If people don't show me respect in return then I distance myself from them. High value people can compromise and have conversations that don't totally self-serve. I am more comfortable hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 01:24 AM |
| 12 | Are there any older women here who are happily single?I'm not terribly old (I'm 28) but until this year I wasn't happy single. I was engaged at 22 and decided not to settle. My ex and I would constantly bicker over his visa and money. We never had sex and I just wasn't in love. If I married him then I'd still be a waitress. I have put up with a great deal of heartache since then and if I've learnt anything it's that a lot of men aren't worth it. I needed a reset - I had a lot of emotional and mental baggage that manifested itself into other parts o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 11:02 AM |
| 31 | From a Facebook group I recently joined called "kink shaming isn't oppression". I'm in a fair few groups on FB that vilify "vanillas" and openly excuse any and all behaviour so long as it's a "kink" 🤮It's a group that makes fun of people who get upset when people in other groups "kink shame" them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 10:38 AM |
| 4 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.Omfg I am actually cringing at that. I feel so disturbed on her behalf but like... You did warn her omg. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 05:36 AM |
| 9 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.That was her final boss rage-quit when she realised that actually I'm not putting up with it any more. So I wasn't tolerating that level of abuse on a regular basis. True to narcissistic form though she has tried to turn people on me already so sadly I've had to block and delete people I don't have problems with because I'm just not having it and I can see what's coming. As I've said in another reply - I was really mad and upset I didn't do anything sooner when she was awful to my dog. This is t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 03:37 AM |
| 5 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.I never thought of that but it's actually a reasonable assumption. She also bought a dog but from a breeder about a month ago and has had a hard time training it. It keeps her up and doesn't respond to anything she tells it. I think she was also mad that I made it a point to prioritise my dog. I live in an apartment so my dog gets walked twice a day which is non-negotiable. I think she was secretly mad that I would go home and walk my dog over spending time after work with her... Anyone healthy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 08:14 PM |
| 3 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.I certainly will! She is a cute little shar pei mix who loves cuddles :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 07:37 PM |
| 10 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.I actually cried for my dog the day I ended that friendship because I was so mad I hadn't stuck up for her sooner. All of my other friends love my dog and I am so upset I let her be subjected to yet another human who was nasty to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 07:11 PM |
| 8 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.This is bang on. Look into narcissism, sadly we're in an age where it is prevalent. The biggest tell-tale signs for me are bouts of rage which are usually directed elsewhere but will oftentimes be oh so subtly at you. Overt rage might be road rage, yelling at a waiter or a phone operator, longwinded rants about people at work who haven't really done anything wrong... That sort of thing. Any anger that is unjustified, uncalled for or over the top. They will also big-note themself and yet also con… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 07:04 PM |
| 7 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.I wish I could award this comment. I'm screen grabbing it instead as a reminder. I have had to have a number of difficult conversations with friends since being on my self-improvement journey and my real friends have all respected my boundaries and concerns after a period of space and tactful explanations. Two of these women had actual tantrums over it. It's just scary and disgusting behaviour. The rest of my friends have been great - one of them (a male friend) who was staunchly anti-feminist w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 06:45 PM |
| 35 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.So true. The person in question who has inspired this post had the temper tantrum to end all temper tantrums whilst I was driving us to the markets. She demanded I drive her home after she had a little hissy fit about my GPS not being up to date. You see, it was such an inconvenience for her to look up the directions as I drove. This girl had previously shoved my dog so badly she's been knocked off her feet and made awful criticisms about her because she likes eating food... My dog is a non-viol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 06:36 PM |
| 7 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.So liberating isn't it? This post was inspired by a girl who (and I have never met someone who does this before) keeps receipts of all the times she does anything for anyone and then throws it back in their face when she disagrees with them! Literally - we'd stayed at her dad's place whilst on leave and she would snarl "oh yeah? Well it was my father's house we stayed at last week" ignoring the fact that I'd paid for many, many things whilst we were there. I got in my car and left after she said… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 06:22 PM |
| 17 | Anyone else getting the "Coronavirus excuse" for cheap first dates?I'm not disagreeing with your point here about cheap coronavirus excuses... I would just be straight up about boundaries "hey yeah I'm sorry I actually don't meet new people for the first time at either my house or theirs". If he continues to suggest low value dates then I just stop talking and move on. So now that's out of the way I need to say this: yes the virus absolutely does affect children with some severe symptoms similar to that of Kawasaki disease. It's just not a great assumption to p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 11:45 PM |
| 6 | Ladies, I’m struggling to keep blocking my ex. Need some motivation!I used to always struggle with this. Until I realised that waking up early in the morning feeling crushed, heartbroken and angry isn't a way to live nor the way someone should be making me feel. The truth is that it won't get better until you block him... He's not assuring you, he's just stringing you along for now and it feels bad for me to write this but I've been here before myself. Don't give him the satisfaction of letting him come back in his own time. You deserve better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 11:22 AM |
| 37 | They want us to fee sorry for them and take them back 😒Lmfao I broke up with my ex because he refused to introduce me to his mum, couldn't confront his friends who he thought didn't like me and never shared photos of us on his social media. When I finally ended it after trying to jUsT cOmMuNiCaTe he acted like he could not care less, said he didn't want to be friends and stonewalled me. He told me last night that he is surprised and insulted I think he didn't care about me or that he wasn't upset about our relationship ending. Get in the bin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 11:40 PM |
| 32 | LETS 👏 TALK 👏ABOUT👏THIS👏Lmao 100% Once I had to go to a doctors appointment that clashed with my little brother's pick up time from school. I was called self absorbed. I spent much of my time during school holidays doing chores for $10 a day. I'd get $90 for a full house clean (seems like a good deal but professional cleaners are considerably more per hour and it would take me 8 hours to complete). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 09:36 AM |
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