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55	[FR] Being a Chivalrous, Nice Guy does work		fezzesarecool4768	/r/seduction	19/05/16 11:02 PM

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0	How do you pick up girls when you are out with your family? You walk away from your family, tell them you'll be right back, and then walk up to the girl. You: Hey, I'm sorry, I'm hanging out with the family and noticed you, and well, I just had to come over and say hi. Would you like to get a cup coffee with me later?	/r/seduction	23/06/16 04:33 AM
1	How long should I wait before telling women I have false teeth? When it feels right and you think you've built up enough trust with them. I disclose part of my injury history when it's affecting me and we're close to getting intimate, as it could impact what we can do - i.e. just depending on the day and how my shoulder feels, I might not be able to pick her up or support myself during missionary, etc. But if we're about to get intimate and my body feels fine and I'm not worried about it, I don't tell her. I tell her when I either feel like I have to, or whe…	/r/seduction	23/06/16 04:29 AM
1	Girl was super interested after first date, doesn't seem interested anymore after second date Challenge her to game of Mini-Golf or some other outdoor, day time activity, and engage with her in a sober situation so she can see you under control of yourself.	/r/seduction	22/06/16 05:24 AM
5	She wants to wait till marriage. Don't. Do not manipulate or pressure her into sex. If she doesn't want to have sex with you until marriage, and you want it now, just break up with her and find a girl more compatible with you.	/r/seduction	22/06/16 05:21 AM
1	Facebook seduction update. Good work man!	/r/seduction	22/06/16 04:00 AM
2	how do I [20F] find some new way to seduce and initiate sex with my boyfriend? Get naked, put on a robe, walk out to the living room when he's on the couch, drop your robe, and say "Take me Big Boy!"	/r/seduction	21/06/16 09:32 PM
1	Girl suggests bringing xyz along; how to respond? So, if she suggests bringing XYZ along, don't cave. Say something jokey and flirty so she understands you want it to be the two of you. Don't use "being beta" as an excuse, that's all it is. Have a clear focus on what you want and go for it. As soon as you see her, give her a quick kiss and hold her hand (fingers laced). And just slowly move your hand up her arm to her shoulder and back. Google kink escalation techniques if you feel like you have no idea what to do.	/r/seduction	21/06/16 12:59 AM
3	Girl suggests bringing xyz along; how to respond? Next time, Kino and give her a kiss! Aside from that, if she suggests it, say something flirty and jokey, "Yeah, that's cool, XYZ can be our third wheel. Hope XYZ won't mind when I start kissing you!"	/r/seduction	21/06/16 12:24 AM
7	How to escalate sexually: Handjob>blow job>sex First step is you get her the fuck out of her abusive relationship and get her the help she needs!	/r/seduction	19/06/16 04:41 AM
1	Very little eye contact Next time she looks at you, kiss her! It's ok for both of you to be nervous, just show her you are attracted to her, and get physically closer to her. It may help her feels more comfortable around you. Also, you start to get physically closer to her, gauge her responses. If she starts to get more nervous, tactfully ask her how you can continue to make her comfortable around you/in the situation, etc. Some people with Anxiety issues like to have certain routines/exercises/whatever to keep them ca…	/r/seduction	18/06/16 09:19 PM
3	"date" in 3 hours, and i think I might have HPV. Please, advice? Did you shave recently? Could just be ingrown hairs/razor burn. Either way, do the right thing and tell her you noticed the bumps and put a damper on hooking up. Either way, she'll see it and it would be better for you to be upfront about it and preserving the chance of hooking up down the line AFTER YOU SEE THE DOCTOR ABOUT IT!	/r/seduction	14/06/16 06:41 PM
1	I am a total newbie and I feel 'it doesn't matter what you say' is terrible advice and doesn't help at all - What are the most successful openers you've had when cold-approaching a girl sitting alone? "Hi, I'm sorry, but I'm going to kick myself if I didn't say hi to you and introduced myself."	/r/seduction	14/06/16 06:39 PM
1	Getting dates but not getting laid. Here's the thread, it was from half a month ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/4l5xp1/when_to_kiss_a_girl_dont_make_this_common_mistake/	/r/seduction	14/06/16 03:43 PM
1	Getting dates but not getting laid. There was an article posted here earlier that said escalating from light kissing to full on making out without being a location to immediately be intimate kills the sexual tension and makes her less likely to go home with you. Maybe tone down the kissing and build more sexual tension.	/r/seduction	14/06/16 03:35 PM
1	Boyfriend Destroying, Help? You don't get there by destroying a current relationship just to get the girl. Those always go down in flames. Always.	/r/seduction	12/06/16 07:32 AM
1	Boyfriend Destroying, Help? I'd hatef*ck the single girl	/r/seduction	12/06/16 07:29 AM
3	Hi, new to seddit. Any guides/advice for women to approach/seduce men? You can try /r/fPUA (female pick up artists) and see if they have anything for you. And just smile, laugh, look into his eyes, and grab his arm if you're digging him. And then you ask him out!	/r/seduction	11/06/16 07:21 PM
6	I can't freaking approach and open for the life of me. You have to fight through that fear and just do it. What helped me was meditation. I learned to quiet mind and dismiss all thoughts - including the negative ones about approaching. The next step was just getting over this feeling in my gut. And that one I overcame by just doing it. You just have to do it.	/r/seduction	11/06/16 03:22 AM
3	IM GOING FOR IT Yeah, just be prepared for her to kick you butt ass naked self out because she's freaked out that you would do this.	/r/seduction	11/06/16 03:11 AM
1	Should I be direct and bluntly ask girls if they have boyfriends? It works pretty well. In fact I got a date last week this way, and I also found a crew to roll around with at an expo next week.	/r/seduction	11/06/16 01:18 AM
1	Should I be direct and bluntly ask girls if they have boyfriends? That's cool man if that's how you feel, just do you man. I personally like it, because it opens me up to her social circle and her single friends and to events that I wouldn't normally know about.	/r/seduction	11/06/16 01:02 AM
1	Should I be direct and bluntly ask girls if they have boyfriends? I just tell them I still want to be friends. Maybe throw in a joke about how not every guy she talks to wants to get in her pants.	/r/seduction	11/06/16 12:59 AM
1	Should I be direct and bluntly ask girls if they have boyfriends? If that's how you feel that's fine. I like taking my time and getting to know them. And even if they have a Bf, I don't mind because odds are me and her can still be friends.	/r/seduction	11/06/16 12:14 AM
1	You are in a group with girls, you make a "joke" what you do? In your head it is. You just do general sweeps, but most of the time you can look in the direction of who you're interested in.	/r/seduction	10/06/16 10:59 PM
7	How to beat girls whose friends call dibs on you? No, this is a shit test. Girl: I'm sorry, but I don't want to hurt my friend by getting close to you. Me: Huh? Why's that? Girl: Well, she's got a little bit of a crush on you, and- Me: Too bad I've got a little bit of a crush on you. You're a good friend for respecting her feelings. I hope she's a good enough friend to respect your feelings.	/r/seduction	10/06/16 09:03 PM
1	Approach anxiety issues: how can I get over the fear of being judged by other people and coming off as a creep? Dude, they're not going to stare and purposefully stop enjoying the party just to watch you go up to a girl. It's happening all over the place because it's a party. Go up to them, talk to them, have a good conversation, and then ask for her number/to hang out later. No one will make fun of you for getting rejected, if anything there will be guys who are jealous that you had the guts to do it when they couldn't.	/r/seduction	10/06/16 08:48 PM
2	How would you go about talking to girls at a swimming pool in your neighborhood? -Hey, how's the water? -Oh yeah, think I should I take a dip then? -Sweet, well I really only like chilling at the pools with others. What's your number? I'll hit you up next time I'm thinking about chilling out here/Let me know next time y'all are out here chilling.	/r/seduction	10/06/16 08:41 PM
1	You are in a group with girls, you make a "joke" what you do? The same way I tell a joke to one person. I smile and tell the joke, and look them in the eye. If it's a group of people, I scan all their eyes.	/r/seduction	10/06/16 08:40 PM
5	Do you guys enjoy dancing at clubs? I don't dance by myself. I'll prowl the dance floor and find the party girls all circled up, and then go super energy mode and goofy dance with them and scream woo with them. I'm not interested in them (my experience tells me it's a waste of time, and the mother hen will cockblock like none other), but I use it as a chance to show myself off and scout for potential girls in the club (i.e. looking around while dancing with the party girl group).	/r/seduction	10/06/16 08:00 PM
3	I've ran into a serious problem with my game... Lint Roller + Cleaning your Car = Problem Solved	/r/seduction	10/06/16 02:52 AM
13	Should I be direct and bluntly ask girls if they have boyfriends? I normally don't ask. I usually find out when I ask for her number - usually if she has one, she tells me then. And honestly, if she does end up having one, I don't care, I just put her in my friendzone and start hanging out with her friend circle. Girls have friends who are girls. If I'm digging her and worried she has a bf, I make a joke, like, "Girl, your man let you walk out of the house looking like this? Mmm mmm!" or something stupid like that. Gets a laugh and answers whether or not she h…	/r/seduction	10/06/16 02:04 AM
1	A different kind of overthinking. You need to train your brain. Practice meditation and learn to quiet your mind. It'll take time and lots of practice, but once you do, you'll have more control over your thoughts and be better equipped to dismiss intrusive thoughts and just be in the moment.	/r/seduction	10/06/16 01:58 AM
-3	STI and STD general discussion I didn't say any of that. I said they protect. No protection is 100%. He's confusing Hep B and Herpes in my post. Condoms are statistically not very efficient at protecting against Hep B (and C) or HPV. Depending on the study you read, condoms are statistically efficient at protecting you from Herpes. OP isn't being accurate in his descriptions or rationale about Herpes and odds of contracting other STDs once infected with Herpes.	/r/seduction	09/06/16 11:04 PM
-3	STI and STD general discussion ......you have to be a troll, right?	/r/seduction	09/06/16 10:40 PM
4	STI and STD general discussion You do realize that just because you have one doesn't mean you're automatically at risk for the others, right? If you actually go through and read what the studies say, it shows there is a strong correlation between an individual infected with one of those diseases being infected with additional diseases. Most of that comes from the individuals and their life style choices that put them at risk for the diseases.	/r/seduction	09/06/16 10:06 PM
-4	STI and STD general discussion Uh, Condoms do protect against Herpes. Did you Hep B? Because Condoms are not very effective at preventing HPV and Hep B. Granted, there are Hep B vaccines, and I know I had to have my Hep B vaccine to go to public schools. And HPV is more of a concern for women, which is why the have also developed the HPV vaccines for women.	/r/seduction	09/06/16 10:03 PM
2	Exercises to do when you lose motivation? Well, you might hate the taste of veggies, but you should incorporate them for health reasons, and energy level regulations. As for being creative, try creative writing exercises early in the morning when you first wake up - if you want to know why, read "From Where You Dream" by Robert Olen Butler for an explanation for why that's the optimal time for creative brain exercises.	/r/seduction	09/06/16 04:11 PM
2	How to open to girls at a frat party Go up to them, ask them if they're having fun, grab one by the hand and declare her your beer pong partner. Go play beer pong - win or lose, you dance afterwards.	/r/seduction	09/06/16 04:08 PM
1	How do I give my girlfriend a seductive massage after a stressfull day? She's already your gf, so I don't think you need a seductive massage - I think you need a sensual massage to heighten her sexual energy. Look up Tantra massages. There's tons of free videos you can look at that explain how to do them and show you the techniques.	/r/seduction	09/06/16 02:44 PM
1	Is it weird to ask for feedback after a date? Yeah, but you may have also lost attraction to them and already checked out of the date and didn't want to invest anymore time and energy into it in order to turn any of them around.	/r/seduction	09/06/16 05:21 AM
1	Is it weird to ask for feedback after a date? Sounds like she was just a bad date. You might have just been on a string of bad dates. If you're getting them from the same area, try switching up where you meet women. Also, are you in your head during these dates, or are you calm and just going with the flow? If you're in your head, then some meditation should help you get out of your head and be in the moment more.	/r/seduction	09/06/16 05:07 AM
1	Is this a shit test? "I challenge you to a game of pick up sticks! If I win, you must serenade me, if you win I'll give one free request!"	/r/seduction	09/06/16 04:55 AM
1	Is it weird to ask for feedback after a date? You have good conversations, but are you connecting physically? Is your body language on point - i.e. open and showing confidence? Are you grabbing her hand and using kino? Are you looking her in the eye when you speak? Are you dominating the conversation or are you letting her do all the talking while you guide the conversation? Are you building tension by teasing her, touching her, and using the silence to show your confidence by not speaking verbally but through your body language? As for ask…	/r/seduction	09/06/16 04:46 AM
1	My tinder game sucks! You want tinder help, then I suggest the tinder subreddit. You want to go out and be social, and actually interact with girls irl and build attraction? Then don't use a lack of bars or parties as a crutch. Go out in the middle of the day and talk to women. At the Bookstore, the mall, coffee shops, in the park, and any other place you like going to.	/r/seduction	09/06/16 04:40 AM
1	As someone who is 19 how do I make sure a girls I flirt with during the day are at least 18? Doesn't mean you can't date someone older, like that 23 year old you mentioned.	/r/seduction	09/06/16 03:47 AM
1	As someone who is 19 how do I make sure a girls I flirt with during the day are at least 18? I used to think Age did matter, but it doesn't. Age =/= Maturity. Not all 19 year olds are at the same Maturity Level. My best relationship was with a girl who was 6 years younger than me.	/r/seduction	09/06/16 03:35 AM
4	Tips for speaking up in groups One thing that helped me was a warm up exercise I learned in an acting class. Basically, what I leanred from it was not to listen to the words, but listen to everyone's breathing. Tie the sounds of their breaths to their facial expressions. You'll notice people take longer breathes when they're done speaking, and shorter breathes when they are just pausing mid sentence. When you hear a long breathe, you can make a quick comment, and if you get everyone's attention, expound upon it.	/r/seduction	09/06/16 03:32 AM
2	Have any of you expirenced people not liking you for trying to learn seduction? Yeah, but I never tell them I'm learning seduction. I don't view it as seduction, I view all of this as bettering myself and better understanding social psychology, and I always frame my conversations that way when talking to friends about it. I never say anything about seduction or picking up or anything like that. Just feeling good about myself, building my confidence, and how to signal better body language. Openly calling it seduction and picking up is going to unleash a mixed bag of reaction…	/r/seduction	09/06/16 03:27 AM
1	I'm meeting a guy I've been talking to online early next week and I suck at being flirty, feminine and seductive. Uhh, a little help?? You might try asking for advice on /r/fPUA	/r/seduction	08/06/16 08:32 PM
3	I lose confidence sometimes when I am really attracted to someone, and it messes everything up. Start practicing meditation to get control over your mind. Deep breathes, quiet your mind, and relax.	/r/seduction	08/06/16 07:37 PM
2	She tells me she has a boyfriend after giving me her number, what do? The same way you make friends with guys, by being friends with her.	/r/seduction	08/06/16 07:34 PM
5	Did I just avoid a K-close twice? Or am I just imagining things? Yes she wanted a kiss, no you didn't blow this. If you want to hook up with her, next time invite her to your place and escalate there. If she's getting just as comfortable or more so, then continue escalating.	/r/seduction	08/06/16 07:24 PM
2	She tells me she has a boyfriend after giving me her number, what do? Keep her as a friend, have her introduce you to her single friends.	/r/seduction	08/06/16 07:20 PM
7	Introvert struggle is real Listen more, and let her do most of the talking - people feel closer to those who listen to them rather than talk their heads off. Enjoy the silence. You don't have to always speak. Talk to her with your body language - face her, point/direct your shoulders towards her, touch her/grab her hand, bump her teasingly, look her in the eye, and illicit her to speak again. If you want more to talk about, then just have a go to of three things to talk about that you like. Example: 1) Favorite new TV Sho…	/r/seduction	08/06/16 07:19 PM
1	If you cancel on a Girls, how long before you reschedule? It depends. If I cancel day off, I make sure to explain myself and tell her I'll get in touch with her the next day to reschedule. If I'm cancelling before the day off, then I offer to reschedule in the same conversation. Personally, I want my time and the energy I've put forth for a date/meeting to be respected, so I treat her the same way. If the offer for rescheduling isn't done soon, relative to the reason for the cancellation, I'm put off and won't invest as much in meeting her; as such I s…	/r/seduction	07/06/16 06:22 PM
8	Do you know guys who are REALLY good with women? What makes them so good? Yeah, I want to call him our city's resident man hoe - there is a recurring joke between my social circle that we're all Eskimo brothers with him. According to an old FWB who had a ONS with him, he just has this aura to him. I did some people watching, and it's just his confidence, energy, body language, and general not giving a f about being judged. Any new girl he meets, instantly hugs. Constantly using Kino and escalating, and the whole time he's not doing it to get laid - he's doing it becau…	/r/seduction	07/06/16 12:19 PM
1	Not sure whats blocking me, Need serious feedback Like I said, branch out and go to different venues.	/r/seduction	07/06/16 03:49 AM
1	Not sure whats blocking me, Need serious feedback Ethnic/Religious Community or Work Community? Ages? Also, it seems like you're meeting women at wrong venues. Go to places where there are single and available women.	/r/seduction	07/06/16 03:27 AM
2	[FR] What I learned from going in 5 minutes from "hi" to a blowjob. Just go back to her and tell her you were felt weird about her still being in love with her ex. But now that you've had time to think about it, you're perfectly fine continuing on as FWBs. As long as she's still open with you seeing other girls, everything should be fine.	/r/seduction	07/06/16 12:13 AM
11	[FR] What I learned from going in 5 minutes from "hi" to a blowjob. Dude, your "GF" told you you aren't dating. Let her obsess over her ex and move on. Or, if you can keep your emotions in check, keep her as a FWB. Meanwhile, just keep this other girl around. Be it as an FWB or whatever, just make sure you are open about where the relationship is going.	/r/seduction	06/06/16 11:56 PM
1	Lets make a clear, vivid and detailed description of the ALPHA male Here's your definition That said, what it means to be "Alpha" is going to change from person to person. One girl told me she loved Alpha Males. What she really meant was she loved dicks who made all her decisions for her and always took charge in whatever they did, and treated her poorly. One girl said she hated Alphas, but loved the fact that I took charge of situations, demonstrated leadership and group organizational skills, and was able to plan things out in advance that were pleasing to her…	/r/seduction	06/06/16 11:43 PM
4	Sexual tension with my friend. My personal opinion, if she wants to escalate you should tell her you aren't comfortable in being complicit with her cheating. If you want something with her, tell her, and say you'd do it if she wasn't dating her bf. Basically, be upfront that you want her, but that you're not going to be apart of her cheating on her bf - if she wants to be with you, she should break up with her bf. Again, just my personal opinion. I can see where your friend is coming from - she's gonna do it, you might as wel…	/r/seduction	06/06/16 11:33 PM
3	Not sure whats blocking me, Need serious feedback Are you walking up to them, with complete confidence because of who you are and not what you've done? If you're relying on your outer achievements to validate yourself, but not actually confident in who you are because of who you are, not what you are, then that might be the problem. Aside from that, you haven't shared enough information on what you find to be your problem - I'm not a psychic and can't just magically gift you the answer.	/r/seduction	06/06/16 11:25 PM
6	How to tell if a woman is not interested early into a date, and do you bail quickly if so? Well, there are two things at work here, I think. When I first started tindering, I too had a simple profile and a one liner. I ended up getting dates with girls who only wanted a free meal out of it (and they were disappointed because I go dutch on the first few dates). When I spent more time on my profile, I got fewer matches, but they were of better quality. If you really want to get better results, you can try asking for advice on /r/Tinder The second thing is that online dating, Tinder in p…	/r/seduction	06/06/16 11:19 PM
1	Traveling while black I don't really care one way or another about the skin tones. It's their personalities that turn me off.	/r/seduction	06/06/16 08:44 PM
1	Trouble giving the final step. Care to share your advice? Well, first off, there are varying degrees of meditation. I'm a Hindu, so I adamantly practice deep meditation daily in the morning before I start my day. I use less intense meditation sessions whenever I feel stressed throughout the day - calming my mind and deep breathes for a minute or two so I don't get worked up/overwhelmed. I also use the less intense meditation when I'm out and need to clear my head. If I'm starting to stress about getting her number or kissing her or getting her to bed, …	/r/seduction	06/06/16 05:12 AM
2	Traveling while black As an Indian with darker skin, I can confirm. However, once I start speaking with my American accent and flash my passport, I get treated like royalty.	/r/seduction	06/06/16 04:49 AM
3	Overwhelmed! How to keep up with multiple dates Take a deep breathe. When you date multiple people at the same time, you need to keep track of who you were with, when you were with them, and what you did. Kind of like a Date Journal. For instance, you don't want to tell M you enjoyed the outdoor movie, when you went there with H. Take a deep breathe and relax. It's like making plans with multiple friends over the course of a week. Coffee with Sara on Monday, Trivia Tuesday at the Bar with Max and Hannah, Dance Classes with Francine, etc. Just…	/r/seduction	06/06/16 03:00 AM
4	girls talking to others when you're with them You join in the conversation. This happened to me a week or two ago, and she started complaining about how the win was messing up her hair. Her friend said that he and his gf didn't really care about their hair, which is why they kept theirs short. I chimed in immediately and said, "Well, I care a lot about my hair, that's why I use Loreal, because I'm worth it!" Laughs were had and I was able to fluidly join their conversation. It's only awkward if you let it be. You can stand there, comfortabl…	/r/seduction	05/06/16 05:27 AM
1	TBH I can't find girls who are cool with just hanging out/hooking up 1-2 times a week. How do you guys get away without texting/calling girls after dates/sex without pissing them off? So, you don't think you can find two to three days a week where you text a girl randomly throughout the day? I.e. one text right before you get settled into work, another one right before lunch, one right after lunch, one when you get home, and then another after dinner? I don't text my boys daily - hardly ever actually. But with girls I'm interested in having some sort of relationship with (yes, even a FWB is a form of relationship, just not a romantic one), I text them periodically throughout …	/r/seduction	05/06/16 02:14 AM
2	ELI5: Flaking I build up an actual rapport with her before I ask for her number. I get to know her a little, mention places or things I like to do. When I find something that resonates with her (like a bar she has heard about but never went to, an activity she used to do but hasn't for a while, or whatever) and it's something I also like, I use that as a base for establishing our next meeting. "Oh yeah, I love that place! We should totally go there next weekend." All while touching her and bumping into her in…	/r/seduction	05/06/16 01:58 AM
1	How do you respond to girls that don't give you anything responds with nothing but I don't know but asks me 100 questions I cut them out of my life. They are annoying, and not the type of person who's bs I'm going to put up with.	/r/seduction	05/06/16 01:54 AM
2	Trouble giving the final step. Care to share your advice? You just do it. I know we say "just do it" a lot on this sub, but that's because that's what you need to do. Talking with a girl you find interesting, just ask her for her number so you two can coordinate something in the future. On a date with a girl and you want to kiss her? Just kiss her. You're with her and you want to get her into bed? Ask her back to your place. If she says yes, when you get there, start escalating - touching her, kissing her, hand under clothing, etc. Honestly, I get nerv…	/r/seduction	05/06/16 01:51 AM
1	TBH I can't find girls who are cool with just hanging out/hooking up 1-2 times a week. How do you guys get away without texting/calling girls after dates/sex without pissing them off? That's the problem - you don't talk to her for a week. You need to talk to her intermittently throughout the week, because girls like attention and you need to walk a fine line of giving them just enough attention that they remain interested in seeing you, and not over indulging them and killing your chances by giving them too much attention over text.	/r/seduction	05/06/16 01:39 AM
1	Is running after a girl, say hi and ask for her number awkward? Don't just jump right into asking for her number. I've run up to a few girls before and been like, "I'm sorry, but I'm going to kick myself later if I never talked to you." Short conversation, and then I say something like, "I don't want to hold you up," or "I need to get back to X," and follow that up with asking if she'd like to talk over some coffee and get her number.	/r/seduction	04/06/16 11:10 PM
3	TBH I can't find girls who are cool with just hanging out/hooking up 1-2 times a week. How do you guys get away without texting/calling girls after dates/sex without pissing them off? Don't focus on the result you want. Live in the moment. Forget rules about when and how often to text. Text her because you want to. I've had many text conversations that "break the rules", but I texted her because I wanted to, not because I felt like I had to. And it's worked for me. Just go out, meet girls, take them out, and be polite and text them within 24 hours of going out to tell him how much you enjoyed yourself and that you'd like to go out again. And don't be afraid to have an actual …	/r/seduction	04/06/16 11:01 PM
2	How do you be vulnerable but not needy? I agree with your assessments of neediness and vulnerability. As for being comfortable in silence, just because there's silence doesn't mean you're not communicating. Nonverbal communication in silence is very important - looking her in the eye and smiling, light touching, teasing touches/bumps, and body language/position to indicate your confidence and interest while eliciting her to speak or make a move.	/r/seduction	03/06/16 07:17 PM
2	[FR] F-close; Memorable Memorial Day Weekend + Keys to Success Well Done OP. Key 5 was pivotal. Having that awesome Wing Man to just set you up left and right is super important!	/r/seduction	02/06/16 12:25 AM
5	Emotional burnout? If you want more, like an actual relationship that has the potential to last, you should hold off on sex until you develop an emotional attachment to the girl you're seeing. Also, you might want to consider taking time away from seduction of pulling in girls to focus on you. You say you don't feel anything, so find something your passionate about. Remind yourself what it feels like to love something for the simple sake of loving it. I love writing and drawing. It doesn't matter how many times I …	/r/seduction	31/05/16 08:38 AM
2	How I drastically changed myself over the past 3 years since finding seddit Way to go OP!	/r/seduction	31/05/16 01:55 AM
1	Cool Text To Stay Out Of The Friend Zone I don't think it's the phrase. It's you being straight forward and telling her you find her attractive.	/r/seduction	31/05/16 01:48 AM
0	Gym girls Well, I've only done it a handful of times. All of them have been receptive to giving me their number. Some went nowhere, some turned into follow up dates but there was no chemistry, and the rest turned into great dates and lots fun. It's a mixed bag, like picking up anywhere. The thing is that you have to respect the gym and respect her time because she's there to workout and better herself. Find the appropriate lulls in her routine to talk to her, be quick about your intentions (i.e. getting h…	/r/seduction	30/05/16 09:23 PM
1	Gym girls I wait until they're either done with their set, or look like they're done for the day. If it's in between sets, I either compliment them on their form if it's good, or if it's bad I offer constructive criticism/advice. I build a small rapport with her then, and just stay by and have small conversation between sets like I would with a workout buddy. Then, when she's done, I ask her if she'd like to hangout outside of the gym sometime, and get her number. If I wait until she's done and either hea…	/r/seduction	30/05/16 09:01 PM
2	Is it good idea to approach girl studying in coffeeshop or should I wait for her to take breaks? Does it actually matter or I should just approach anyhow? You should be yourself.	/r/seduction	30/05/16 08:55 PM
3	Everyone says "you have to make a move" or "always escalate and make your intentions known". But then you turn right around and here "don't try and don't have a motive". So what am I supposed to do? Try or not try? It's a very fine line. If you want her, make a move. Don't go in with any preconceived notions of making out with her or bedding her. You go out and have fun. You try and have fun with girls. You don't force the situation into making out or getting laid. You go out, you have fun, and you begin developing a rapport with a girl you find interesting. Once that connection has been made, then you escalate at your own pace. You need to show her that you enjoy her company, but that you're not desperate…	/r/seduction	30/05/16 08:53 PM
1	Picking up women in bars - made a blunder. How to fix? You couldn't have. It's that simple. She wasn't interested enough in going home with you that night. Most girls won't go straight to your bed upon their first encounter with you. Your first encounter is make a good impression, get her number, and plant the idea of doing something together in the near future. Then, when you have plans to do something with her, that's when you use Kino to escalate and open the door to taking her to your place. If you want a same night lay, then go to a club. A loc…	/r/seduction	29/05/16 01:47 AM
1	Scars and women I just wouldn't say anything about them to girls you're just meeting. Let them stare. Girls stare at my scars and I don't tell them the stories behind it until I know them better and have actual trust in her to not judge me based on the stories of how I got mine.	/r/seduction	29/05/16 12:09 AM
2	Picking up women in bars - made a blunder. How to fix? Next time, ask her about her favorite places to go to in town. You're new to the area, so own it. Ask about the places she likes, and then follow it up by suggesting she show it off to you. Get her number, and then keep the chit chatting until the conversation ends.	/r/seduction	29/05/16 12:06 AM
3	Frendzoned my-self now i get more text than ever. I agree, OP proved he didn't need her, just that he enjoyed her company. He took the decision away from her and added value to himself in her eyes.	/r/seduction	28/05/16 05:22 AM
1	When to Kiss a Girl (Don't Make This Common Mistake) Good Article, definitely going to keep this in mind. In fact, upon reflecting on what I've done, the short kisses at first lead to happier endings than going full on make out early.	/r/seduction	27/05/16 01:27 AM
3	Eye contact hack When I first getting comfortable with myself and learning how to make eye, I used to stare at their lips/nose. I would look at their lips because I felt like I would stare in a creepy way into her eyes. It worked for me because it appeared that I was making eye contact (practiced on female friends who confirmed this for me when I was starting out). After doing that for a while, I relaxed enough to actually look girls in the eye when I talk to them. Now, I do ask myself questions like yours, exce…	/r/seduction	24/05/16 11:13 AM
2	Witnessed another dude spit game, have questions The further from her core/body you are, the more proper it is. Her elbow and her shoulder are closer to her center of being. To warm her up and gain her permission to get to her "center" you have to start from the outside - her hand. Chilling at a Party? Ask her something. Like, "Do you want to a drink?" or "This place is pretty awesome, have you seen all of it?" If she wants a drink, take her hand and say something like, "Well, let's get you that drink" and lead her to the refreshments. If the …	/r/seduction	23/05/16 04:04 AM
3	Witnessed another dude spit game, have questions Being a Nice Guy isn't a bad thing, being timid is. If you're being nice just to get into a girl's pants (i.e. making sure she can trust and keeps you in her life because you're a nice guy she can talk to) but you get upset over not getting into her pants, then you're not a nice guy, you're just a liar. It's ok to be nice, just don't be timid/a doormat. This leads me to point 2: Don't be timid. Break the touch barrier. Hold her hand. If she's receptive, touch her elbow. If she's still receptive,…	/r/seduction	23/05/16 02:44 AM
5	[FR] Being a Chivalrous, Nice Guy does work I actually found out a few days later that the dinner party was to celebrate her roomate's band's new music video. The people coming over were the band and the extras in the video, but filming ran long - they were supposed to be done at 6PM, but didn't finish till 9PM, so that's why it ended up being just the two of us.	/r/seduction	21/05/16 12:04 AM
10	This is how I go in for the first kiss. Why does this work for me? It's simple, everyone is unique. You can try and emulate everything the Profesisonal PUA's do, but then you're not being authentic/being a robot. You are doing your thing, it's completely organic and natural, ergo you are you and confident while you do it. It's your unique way of moving forward, that's why it works for you - this would never work for me.	/r/seduction	26/03/16 08:02 PM
1	Unable to open 5 sets alone I can't go up to groups of three or more girls in a "day game" setting without a wingman. I've seen others be able to do it, and I believe it's all about confidence. You have to have the confidence (and experience dealing with bigger groups of women at once) to be able to do it. I can easily talk with two girls at once, engaging both of them, but letting the one I'm attracted to know I want to see her again alone. I can't juggle that with more than two. That said, I have approached groups of thr…	/r/seduction	26/03/16 07:04 PM
1	The "player stamp" Her: You're a player... You: What? You don't like playing solitaire/pick up sticks/chess/any other game you like	/r/seduction	26/03/16 04:41 PM
2	Are sites like match.com/okcupid worth it compared to tinder/bumble/etc? Do you want to date to actually find someone you grow old with? Or do you want to date to meet a variety of new people that you can enjoy their company, have sex with, but not develop too serious of a relationship with? If it's the former, then you would enjoy match and eharmony. If it's the latter then stick with Tinder, and you can add OKCupid and POF as they are also free, and you can specify that you're only looking for casual sex on those sites (I think?). The ethnic sites are usually for p…	/r/seduction	25/03/16 10:32 PM
2	Didn't approach today, and I can't stop obsessively thinking about it. Tips? One of my biggest sticking points.. It takes time. You just started getting comfortable doing approaches in an area you feel comfortable in - that's a big and great step forward. If you want to improve at the mall specifically, go back there once or twice a week and approach one girl for every visit you make. Keep taking baby steps, because those baby steps add up on your journey, and they also get you to your destination.	/r/seduction	25/03/16 03:55 AM
2	Always a good idea to get the number? Are you actually talking to them, or just getting the numbers and leaving? You should be building a rapport with them, and letting them know you would like to talk with them more over coffee or a drink later.	/r/seduction	25/03/16 03:50 AM
1	Odd signals, not sure This. I'm thinking it was a shit test and OP passed by not validating it.	/r/seduction	25/03/16 12:35 AM
7	Made the texting mistake I would listen to your gut. Don't text her, and just try to recover on Sunday.	/r/seduction	24/03/16 06:37 PM
3	HUGE Progress Being Made, Need Advice On One Thing, However If you want to be less noble and cushy around women, then when you're with them ask yourself one thing: What has she done to earn this sense of nobility, bold, and cushy. Treat them more a little more like male friends. The last thing you want to do is show that you'll bend over backwards for a girl you just met. Being Noble and such can be fine, but she has to earn that type of behavior from you.	/r/seduction	24/03/16 06:21 PM
3	HUGE Progress Being Made, Need Advice On One Thing, However Do you want to be rugged in the sense of an outdoorsman, or do you just want to have a five o clock shadow to feed into the pop culture idea of "manliness" and being a "rugged" looking man. If it's actually being more of an outdoors kind of guy who enjoys hiking, camping, taking a couple of outdoor survival classes, and such then go for it. If you just want to change the way you look, then that's part of the natural growth process. Your appearance changes almost every year. Personally, every yea…	/r/seduction	24/03/16 05:13 AM
1	I talk to bunch of girls but seem to never get a date Well, without details, it's hard to tell you. It's probably a combination of 1 and 2 - joking too much with bad jokes mixed in, and pushing to hard for a date. Just talk. Girls are people. Talk to them normally, ask for her number, and then bluntly ask them to get a drink/coffee later.	/r/seduction	24/03/16 04:02 AM
1	How To Approach At A "Party" Where Everyone Is Sitting Down? Just walk up to them, ask them if it's alright if you sit down, and sit down. Ask innocent questions like, "So how do y'all know such and such," and throw in compliments like, "I really like this venue, the lighting is great, and wow does it make you look pretty Girl_of_Interest," [Insert laugh track], "I feel like dancing, Girl_of_Interest, we're dancing," (if she objects, dismiss them and gently pull her to the dance floor).	/r/seduction	24/03/16 02:10 AM
1	Tried approaching today, was terrified. Any tips for a beginner? NP, and Good Luck OP	/r/seduction	24/03/16 02:06 AM
1	Finally did it and pulled a chick! 1) A few drinks helps. As for instantly blowing your load. Positions with her on top have shown to be more stimulating for her and less so for guys. You can start in missionary or doggy, but before you feel yourself losing it, pull out, lay back and tell her it's her turn to get on top and let her go buck wild. Also, one technique to help you from orgasming too fast while not being "rough" in bed is to use the "9 Fast Strokes, 7 Slow Strokes" technique. It lets you establish a rhythm (9 fast str…	/r/seduction	24/03/16 02:05 AM
2	I fear competition, and it ruins my chances with women i like. Courage is not the absence of fear, courage is acting in spite of being scared. It's ok to be scarred about it. I used to be too. I shut down whenever another guy started flirted with the girl I was interested in. I learned to become aloof to the situation. Instead of caring so much that someone else was going to possibly attract the girl I liked, I learned to make the situation work for me. I learned to flirt in front of the guy, to joke with the guy (adding to my value but demeaning him or tak…	/r/seduction	24/03/16 01:58 AM
1	Should i lean in when i speak to women? It depends on the situation. When you're out an about during the day or a relatively quiet venue, then yes it's bad. I'm 6'2" and interact with girls shorter than me. I'll stand up straight with my chest out, but I'll look down to make eye contact with them and speak. In a crowded and noisy venue, I get a little bolder. I lean into them so that we're face to face, or cheek to cheek, and speak to her ear.	/r/seduction	24/03/16 01:47 AM
2	When I think about approaching girls, I'm not scared that she'll reject me, I'm more terrified of the fact that she'll say yes Being 20 and not having been in a relationship isn't that big of a deal. If it progresses to a LTR, you can tell her that this will be your first serious relationship. But all relationships are different and require different strategies/forms of communication/growing periods. If you're worried about being an inexperienced kisser, you can get on wikihow and look up techniques for practicing by yourself and such. When you do get your first kiss, it's totally ok to let her lead and react to her lip…	/r/seduction	24/03/16 01:45 AM
1	Best way to open? "Excuse me, I will kick myself later if I didn't talk to a cute girl/lovely lady/girl like you. My name is Fez," and go on from there.	/r/seduction	24/03/16 01:36 AM
1	Why do women do this Yup, when they do that it sucks. I've seen friends of friends do it (guy friends and girl friends....and personally I don't like it one bit), but in my personal experience, I've only flirted with like one or two girls like that. I tell them what I tell every girl that has a boyfriend, "Well, I hope you look me up when you're single," and walk away. Not worth it to go after someone who stays with someone out of convenience and jumps from one relationship to another.	/r/seduction	24/03/16 01:34 AM
1	Tried approaching today, was terrified. Any tips for a beginner? Yeah, reddit is being weird and not showing new comments in threads for some reason. And yes, mine was similar. I was always too nervous to approach. It would start off with a drink at the club...but then over do it and drink a little too much and be sloppy. I would try day gaming and take too many shot and just came off a drunk in the middle of the day. Took me a while to find the right mix, and now I can just go out and approach without alcohol. I still get butterflies in my stomach, but I'm u…	/r/seduction	24/03/16 01:30 AM
1	Question About Groups. Well, you could with the, "It was nice talking with y'all." (then direct yourself towards the girl you are interested in) "We should stay in touch, it'd be fun to party/dance/kick it you ladies again. What's your number?" And get her number. You get her number, but you don't let the others be felt like they're being left out as you indicated you'd like to see them again as well in a social setting, but by only getting one number you're making the unspoken gesture and implication that you'd like …	/r/seduction	24/03/16 01:15 AM
2	Do i risk several awkward encounters Then you say, "ok", let the conversations die between you two, and then speak to her (face to face preferably) and continue to be friends and show her there is no awkwardness between you two. It will only be awkward if you let it be awkward.	/r/seduction	24/03/16 01:07 AM
1	Do i risk several awkward encounters The lesson here is to ask them out, and if they say no to not let it get awkward. Watermelone_420: Hey, would you like to go out? Girl: No (no reason given) Watermelone_420: Okay, have a nice day Don't ask why, just move on and don't let it bother. Be confident enough to where it doesn't bother you (or at the very least fake it on the outside so you don't let the situation become awkward).	/r/seduction	24/03/16 01:01 AM
1	Why do women do this 1) Attention. They want attention, and you're fueling their attention seeking desire. She doesn't want to make her guy jealous, she just wants to be the center of attention, and wants all eyes on her. 2) They want to make their guy jealous. They want to make their guy jealous so that he flirts with her more, and pays her more attention when they're out. 3) They want to know how far you will go as they continue to explore their options. Some girls are bored with their current relationship and are…	/r/seduction	24/03/16 12:59 AM
1	Is it ok to call out cockblockers and insecure dudes? Between a guy and girl: First, read the body language. If she's into him, then you are being the cockblocker. If he's interested in her, but she's turning away from him, go up to them, try and join the conversation, and if he gets defensive, "Woah, I'm sorry Miss, I didn't realize you had a body guard. So much for trying to talk to a cute girl these days." It'll make her laugh, he'll probably get more defensive - but in this situation, you were more likely than not to offend him. Girl with girls…	/r/seduction	24/03/16 12:44 AM
1	Going to party where I know same girls from different interactions.. helppp Girl from a month ago wasn't interest. New Girl is interested. Just be confident, play off anything month-ago-girl says, and continue to game new girl.	/r/seduction	24/03/16 12:40 AM
1	Tried approaching today, was terrified. Any tips for a beginner? Are you day gaming? If so, something I did my first time out day gaming was to buy a dollar shot and a soda. Made a quick mixer, and spent an hour sipping it. It was just enough liquid courage to mentally say "Screw It" and just go for it. If you do this, I say no more than a shot because you don't want to smell of booze.	/r/seduction	24/03/16 12:38 AM
1	As a woman, I'd like to know... What are some of the top seduction frustrations you have with women? 1) "Shit Tests", though honestly I haven't run into any for a good while now 2) Having to be "indirect" to be "direct"	/r/seduction	24/03/16 12:35 AM
-1	Shit test would you? I'd smile, take a sip of my drink, continue smiling and look at her with bedroom eyes. If she presses for an answer, I keep smiling, take another sip, and raise my eyebrows at her while still giving her bedroom eyes. I ignore/dismiss "shit tests", and usually give the above response to them - "Really? Really, you're going to ask that? Yeah, fuck no." If she really presses for an answer, I ask, "Why is that so important?" Shit tests are dumb and ridiculous, and I show them how ridiculous I think …	/r/seduction	24/03/16 12:34 AM
3	Would this be wierd/cringy/creepy/needy? Just do it already	/r/seduction	23/03/16 01:57 AM
1	Recovery from bad text game? I am bad at texting as well - much more of a face to face communicator. So, I just use texting to set up dates at first. As I get more comfortable around her, and know how our irl conversations go I am able to imagine our texts being irl conversations and then text what I would say if we were face to face.	/r/seduction	23/03/16 01:07 AM
1	How to completely get past an ex It takes time man. Honestly, Cee Lo Green helped me: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pc0mxOXbWIU Songs like these just helped me change my mindset from "poor me" to "Hell Yeah! I'm the man, and I'm going to show everyone how awesome I am!" I started hitting the gym and getting stronger, started eating better, made better career choices. I felt better about where I was, but still felt empty about not having her in my life. It was hard to move on, it indeed took me time, but what really got me ove…	/r/seduction	23/03/16 12:59 AM
2	How do you approach a girl that is moving fast without it looking like you chase her? Yup. Actually I'm usually slightly behind her, usually off to her left, and say excuse me as I touch her shoulder to get her attention.	/r/seduction	23/03/16 12:29 AM
1	How to game someone at a bar who is visiting for the weekend? This. Just treat it like a ONS close.	/r/seduction	23/03/16 12:15 AM
1	Recent problem: Going from #close to date/kiss/F Close. Go with the three strikes rule. If they flake three times, it's a waste of time. Especially if they don't offer an alternate time and date to try again.	/r/seduction	23/03/16 12:09 AM
1	Improving text game- the rest is working! You're pressing too hard. If she doesn't respond to your first text, wait a while and then text her asking how she's doing/recovering from the concert. If she replies, ask her if she'd like to meet up at place X at time Y	/r/seduction	23/03/16 12:07 AM
1	I love sex but hate the game Relearn to love the game. Do you like challenging yourself? Like improving your sets and reps at the gym? Then think of gaming as mental reps for your mental strength. And just keep going from there. It sounds like this is all mental man, so just force yourself to practice - i.e. if I don't hit on ten women tonight, I'm not allowed to masturbate when I go home...or some other denial of a reward.	/r/seduction	22/03/16 11:58 PM
1	Give me a gameplan When you meditate, you want a blank mind where you are thinking about nothing. That is incredibly hard when you first start, so instead you develop a mantra to focus on. A mantra is a phrase you say or think over and over again as you meditate. It can be as simple as "breathe in, breathe out" lining up with your breathing. In essence, you find a spot to sit down (sit up straight) and quiet your mind. I recommend closing your eyes, taking a few deep breathes to start, and then begin saying/thinki…	/r/seduction	22/03/16 11:55 PM
2	"We are not meant to be dating, we are meant to be lovers". Can someone relate? I think it would be better if you shifted from starting things off as purely sexual and more into a a good mix of romantic and sexual. After having sex with her for the first time, surprise her next time with flowers or some trinket you think she would like. Also, I would go to /r/dating_advice on how to transition your dates into more romantic dates and not just Friends with Benefits dates	/r/seduction	22/03/16 11:15 PM
1	How to follow up with getting a number at the bar? Just text her. I waited like 3 weeks once after a number close and still got a date out of it with her.	/r/seduction	22/03/16 11:09 PM
5	How do you approach a girl that is moving fast without it looking like you chase her? I like what /u/PiggyPieInTheSky said. I've made a quick jog or small sprint after a girl I sensed an attraction with just to ask her if she'd like to get a cup of coffee sometime and get her number. Usually like, "Hey, I'm sorry, but I'm going to kick myself if I didn't ask you if you'd like to get some coffee or something with me later. Could I get your number and text you about it later?"	/r/seduction	22/03/16 10:45 PM
0	How should I kiss as a dude with high functioning autism? This may help: http://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Significant-Other-if-You're-Autistic Honestly, I would just say you should tell them you have AS, briefly explain what it is and how it impacts you in a dating sense, and then use it to push for a kiss, like this - TumblrPTSD: Hey Girl, how has your week been? Girl: Good, how was yours TumblrPTSD? TumblerPTSD: Good. Actually, I spent some time this week thinking I need to tell you something. Girl: What is it TumblrPTSD? TumblrPTSD: I have Asperger's Sy…	/r/seduction	22/03/16 10:42 PM
1	How can I stop being a needy boyfriend Yeah, I would agree with that, however, when you're first starting having a minute type guide can be helpful. Two years ago I used the "wait as long to double" trick, and then slowly developed having things going on at the same to occupy my time and only leave me a certain amount of time during the day to text.	/r/seduction	22/03/16 07:30 PM
0	What are your thought's about first date meal expenses. Personally, I go relatively cheap for the first date. I'll take her to a cafe or to one of my favorite "hole in the wall" places with good service and food, and prices I can afford. I pay for it, but I make sure I'm not dropping more than 25 bucks on the meal and just think to myself that I went to a nice place downtown by myself as a reward if the date/girl fizzles out over time. This usually leads to us trading off paying for each other. But, it is acceptable to go dutch. Early on in my dating…	/r/seduction	22/03/16 02:44 AM
3	Alright, I need a lot of help. I'm going through a dry spell and I'm kinda miserable and I'm not sure what to do. Quit pursuing women for now, and focus on you. You say you're depressed, so focus on working through that. Start therapy if you need to, but at the very least identify what is making you depressed. If it's your job then invest time over the next few months looking for a better job. The time you would spend on online dating sites, watching TV, or masturbating, you now spend on Monster, Indeed, CareerBuilder, etc. looking for a better job. If it's your love life, then push dating aside and realize…	/r/seduction	22/03/16 02:39 AM
1	When texting a girl too see if she's free for a date, what is the best thing to do if she's busy on the day you ask about? Well first off, you just asked if she was free, not if she wanted to go on a date with you. Next time, ask her if she would like to grab coffee, lunch, dinner, a drink, or hang out on X Day at such and such time. If she says she's busy, but says that she's free on another day and asks if you could meet her then, then she's interested. If she says she's busy and doesn't offer an alternate day, then suggest a weekend day/night for you too to hang out. If she still says she's busy or that "She'll s…	/r/seduction	22/03/16 02:01 AM
2	Eradicating the "Nice Guy" persona...how to? The nice guy mythos is just BS. I'm a nice guy and it isn't my niceness that held me back, it was my meekness. There was a wall between me and the girl. I would never touch her, I would always keep a foot of space between us. When I got over this and would start touching her - grabbing her hand, bumping to her as we walked and lingering an extras second (i.e. bump hips into each other gently and linger for a second before slowly moving aside), opening the door for her and leading her in by putti…	/r/seduction	22/03/16 01:51 AM
1	Eradicating the "Nice Guy" persona...how to? I think you mean don't slouch, stand up straight with your chest slightly out and shoulders wide but relaxed. Not only is that proper posture, but it indicate confidence. Leaning forward indicated interest. Leaning back disinterest/apathy. Standing straight with slight leans forward indicate confidence and interest, standing straight with a slight lean back indicates confidence and that you are relaxed.	/r/seduction	22/03/16 01:46 AM
1	Getting attention I read a response that you are approaching from the front. I would recommend that first you try and make eye contact for a moment. After have a puzzled look on your face. Wait a little bit and move elsewhere. Then after like 10 to 15 minutes, get back in her field of vision and do a double take, again making eye contact. Then, instead of approaching directly from the front, approach from the side and tell her she looks familiar. Ask her if she does or goes to XYZ, and just start a conversation w…	/r/seduction	22/03/16 01:42 AM
1	"Vulnerability" + "Strength" Vulnerable: Being Vulnerable means that you can be hurt. Just that. When you realize that going out and trying to speak with women will put you in a position of vulnerability (i.e. they can easily reject you and hurt your ego and confidence). Strength: This means different things. In this context it means you are emotionally and mentally strong enough to overcome obstacles, challenges, and emotionally wounding events. For example, you go up to a girl, chat her up, but she rejects you. It's easy …	/r/seduction	22/03/16 01:34 AM
2	[Long Read] The Danger With Theory And How To Win Over An HB9 After She's Rejected All The Other Guys. Good write up. Would it be fair to summarize down to: Don't sweat the little things, just go out and be you, and good things should follow.	/r/seduction	22/03/16 01:22 AM
6	How can I stop being a needy boyfriend I read a good rule of thumb here a while back - how ever long it takes her to text you back mid conversation, you wait that long to twice as long to respond. So, if you initiate the text, and it takes her ten minutes to respond, I would wait ten to fifteen to respond to her. If she replies again in four minutes, I would respond in five to six minutes. If she replies immediately, I would still wait about two minutes. Also, if you have an iPhone, I highly recommend you turn off "read reciepts" tha…	/r/seduction	22/03/16 01:15 AM
1	Stuttering and seduction I don't have a stutter, but I have a slight speech impediment from the way my teeth have formed (partially due to biology, partially due to shots to the face from sports). I do my best to speak clearly and slowly, but I do mess up in conversations. I know when I do and just apologize. After a while, if I feel like I've done it a little too much, I apologize and tell her that I have a slight speech impediment. If she asks if I went so speech therapy, I tell her I did as a kid, but the main proble…	/r/seduction	22/03/16 12:59 AM
1	Tips for being more physical? If you think you're hitting a natural ending point, then end the conversation before then. Before you feel like you've run out of things to say, ask for her number, text her something silly as you're walking away from her, and then either begin barhopping, or move to a different part of the bar and begin engaging in other people. Example: You: That's an interesting purse, is it doggy proof? Her: Thank you. Doggy proof? You: Sorry, I just got a puppy and I'm still working on puppy proofing my apa…	/r/seduction	01/06/15 07:46 PM
2	Importance of body language? Things like percentages of "90% Body Language, 10% verbal communication" for seduction are bullshit in my opinion. It stems more from the notion that 90% of person to person communication is in body language, and the other 10% is in verbal communication. Honestly, I can't tell you if that's true or not. The real key is just to be comfortable. As long as you can stay relaxed and engaged in who you're talking to, your subconscious will will have your body display "confident" body language. You can…	/r/seduction	01/06/15 07:38 PM
2	Experience with improv? It's great. I recommend questions for improving your game. That way, you get into the flow of being able to come up with questions for her to answer and you can flow off her answers. Scenes from a Hat is another great one, and a hoot to play.	/r/seduction	01/06/15 04:17 AM
2	How can I tell if a girl answers texts out of politeness or wants me to be more direct? Be more direct. The worst she can do is say no, and you can move on.	/r/seduction	01/06/15 04:15 AM
1	Making Plans: Post-number I like the way you rephrase the "let's meet up" text, very good idea. I usually bring up the day I'm thinking about in person to be honest. Me: Cool, I'll hit you up later this week. Maybe we can do something this/next weekend. Girl: Cool or Girl: Maybe, I might be busy, maybe sometime earlier in the week/next week? I feel like planting the idea as I'm leaving gives me that extra layer of comfort when I do decide to text her, because I feel like I've now established some form of mutual attractio…	/r/seduction	01/06/15 04:13 AM
2	[FR] Second ever day approach goes well. Well Done OP, Well Done	/r/seduction	31/05/15 07:24 PM
1	How do I become more interesting? Get a hobby. Go hiking, join a rec league, do something. If you don't think you are interesting, figure out what you think is interesting and do that. Do you think cooking is interesting? Then join a cooking class. Always wanted to speak French? Take a French Class. Idolize Tom Brady? Join a Flag Football Rec League.	/r/seduction	31/05/15 07:21 PM
10	I came up with a simple formula for girls attraction to you. More like: (value)2 + comfort level - neediness + social life + (time allocation for her in moderation)3 - √(Common interests) + ability to actually converse with her + ability to make physical contact seem easy, natural, effortless, and comfortable = attraction. And now throw that out the window, because it doesn't mean shit.	/r/seduction	31/05/15 07:18 PM
1	I can't get girls to see me sexually a.k.a How the fuck do I close? Get into her personal space, break the touch barrier (brushing your hand against hers, burshing your hand lightly and only for a second against her leg, when you enter a new place or look for a place to or what not guide her to where you want to go by touching the small of her back and lightly [very lightly] push/direct her where you want go), do the "look at one eye, then the other, then her lips, and then both her eyes" trick to gauge if she's ready for a kiss and if she is kiss her.	/r/seduction	31/05/15 07:13 PM
2	How can I respond to her? Was she apologizing for staying all night, or for being passionate? Either way say something to the effect of, "No need to apologize. You're always welcome to come back and be a terrible house guest ;P" And then keep a dialogue going, slowly fish out what she meant, and just let her know you enjoyed having her over, and you wouldn't mind/would like for her to come back over and hang out again. Maybe cut back on the partying and be a little more direct/forward with her.	/r/seduction	31/05/15 07:09 PM
5	As a minority bald dude how do I open up ? I'm going to preface this by saying I'm a first generation Indian who was born and raised in the US, and I have helped many of my brothers who have immigrated over, so please listen/read what I'm saying. 1) Do not limit yourself to "I have X amount of time to meet someone". Instead of being yourself, being relaxed, and letting the interaction come along organically, you will come off as desperate and maybe even creepy for trying to force something off the bat. It doesn't matter that you're going…	/r/seduction	31/05/15 07:04 PM
2	Racial insecurity I can understand. I was bullied a lot too, and had some self-esteem issues I had to work out in HS. Just listen to your therapist and follow through on what he or she says to do. Online dating, well free online dating (Tinder, POF, OKCupid), is terrible (I can't speak for services like eHarmony or Match since I've never tried them mostly due to the fact that I can't justify the expense of their services atm). Women are incredibly fickle on it. IRL I feel confident enough to approach women, engag…	/r/seduction	28/05/15 08:30 PM
17	Racial insecurity As a first Generation Indian who was born and raised in the USA, I can relate to a degree. I grew up in a more Cosmopolitan city compared the surrounding areas - one where race was somewhat of a factor in socioeconomic issues, but as far as relationships went, it was overlooked and didn't matter (lots of interracial couples here). In high school, I had no trouble getting girls interested in me and attracting them, however I decided to go to a very small school for undergrad in a small Mid-Wester…	/r/seduction	27/05/15 06:08 PM
2	Calibrate this! :) This. K.I.S.S. (keep it simple stupid) is a fantastic methodology to use during any encounter.	/r/seduction	20/05/15 09:18 PM
1	Any photographers here? There was an askmen's article similar to this. You can read it here. Basically he would initiate his game first, and then if she was interested he would mention he was a photographer and bring her back to his studio to close.	/r/seduction	19/05/15 10:17 PM
1	met a girl on dating app, good chat for a week, no texts since she flaked on first date She could a) just be stringing you along because she likes the attention, b) nervous about meeting someone irl that she was matched with online, or c) she's busy. I would just text her and ask how she's been. Not right away, maybe later in the evening, or sometime mid-week.	/r/seduction	18/05/15 09:49 PM
6	(23, m) Am I too ugly to be attractive to a woman? I'm about to graduate college and I've never had a girlfriend Definitely not ugly OP, you are pretty average looking imho. I would try a different style. Try growing your hair out and then getting a Fade hair cut. Example 1 and Example 2. Also, I'm not entirely sure how that hairstyle would work with your beard, so you can try shaving it off, and experiment with your look. And this isn't to say your look is wrong, sometime changing up your look and your style can be a confidence boost, and you can ride the boost in confidence to meeting some of your interp…	/r/seduction	17/05/15 09:59 PM
3	Need help with what I'm going to say to a girl OP will surely deliver, we just have to wait	/r/seduction	17/05/15 08:02 PM
2	She doesn't answer me half the time and she goes the "too much drama" route. Yeah OP, you're probably projecting yourself as too needy. Cut off contact with her for a little bit, go out to the bars a little more often and flirt with other girls to help get her off your mind. Also, your age is probably playing a factor, but without knowing her and more about the situation that is hard to say - some girls don't care about the age difference, some girls that age are still somewhat immature and aren't interested in older guys.	/r/seduction	15/05/15 06:06 PM