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findnbalance/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:20 AM
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I lost 20 pounds, am in the best shape of my life, started two new hobbies that I absolutely love, finished my degree, paid off my car, built a healthy savings, made a new social circle, and am starting a new job next week. All in one year. I’d say i’m doing damn good sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:31 AM
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Dancing, and sensual dancing, have been art forms since the beginning of mankind. Longer than that, if you look at the behaviors and mating rituals of other animals. Yes, I certainly believe women would engage in self-expression through dance, sensual or not, even if all men dropped off the face of the planet. Pole is merely one of the tools used for that self-expression, and many pole dancers come from backgrounds of gymnastics, ballet, acrobatics, modern dance, etc. Sexuality is part of what m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:51 PM
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I think it just comes down to differences in our interpretations of choice. Personally, I tried yoga and couldn't sustain a practice because I found it boring, but I also hate running and weightlifting whereas I love rock-climbing and rollerblading - which are also dangerous sports. I think most, if not at all, sports have some inherent risk, but many people choose activities and sports that provide them that added adrenaline-factor. Many women I know chose pole fitness, or aerial arts in genera…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:45 AM
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I appreciate your taking the time to address this, and as I enjoyed your post the other day about men claiming "you're not listening" if you don't agree with them since that's something I've also experienced, I didn't want my response to further perpetuate that issue. To your first point, I recommend googling pole calisthenics or pole fitness as that is the specific apparatus being used, but there is an existing and growing population of men that participate in pole fitness. Fuzz.evans and Serge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:16 PM
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I’ve have been following this sub well over a year and have only commented when it felt necessary. For the most part I love this sub, it’s done wonders for my boundary-setting, low self-esteem, and standards, and I support its stances on sex work and the like. But it’s comments like these where I would urge others to be careful about closing your eyes and ears to what others have to say. If you don’t question and refine your ideologies and practices, you become a blind follower. Listen and talk …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:47 PM
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Granted, modern pole dancing stemmed from sex work, strip dancing, and catering to the male gaze. I will not argue about its roots, and unfortunately for the forseeable future, the two are inextricably associated with each other. But I think a common misconception is that all modern pole dancing is of the sexy, pleaser heel kind. There is an entire category that is strictly acrobatics and tricks-based, and you can watch competitions on YouTube. They’re fighting for it to be recognized by the Oly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:03 PM
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Exactly. I found it to be a great weeder for men too. One of the reasons I nexted my most recent ex was because he started becoming jealous and possessive when I shared my progress on social media (with other dancers mind you and something i did before him). Once a guy starts acting like my body belongs to him, i’m out. Also if prospective dates make sexual innuendos or jokes about you giving them a dance, next. Men that think you must be easy or wild in bed, obv next. Any disrespect towards the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:36 PM
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To be frank, i’m not sure why pole dancing classes are listed here as they tend to be all female anyways. Personally, It’s brought me more emotional healing, empowerment, self-confidence, and strength than anything else in my life and has helped me recover from an abusive relationship. It’s a form of dance and self-expression and is not always the “sexy” version you see at strip clubs. I couldn’t give a rats ass what men think of my hobby, I do it for the joy it brings me and for myself alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:51 AM
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And to reiterate, KEEP IT SAFE. Lock it up somewhere. I did this in order to help mentally remove myself from an abusive relationship (it had gotten so bad that I had trauma memory loss and couldn’t remember what he did to me, so i’d write it down) and he managed to find where I hid it and stole it when he finally left. Of course when I asked him where it went, he had “no idea what i was talking about.” Still so angry about this - it feels like a major chunk of my brain is gone :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:38 PM
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Absolutely that lol. But knowing my ex, it was out of spite for putting my foot down and saying no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 06:33 AM
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So, so many things, but my personal favorite is the time I started my period early, realized I had ran out of tampons, and asked him to run to the store for me to grab some. He begged me to come with him, and when I told him I couldn’t because I was actively BLEEDING, he asked me “well, why can’t you just shove a sponge or something up there?” A kitchen sponge. When I still refused, he threw a fit and went to the store but came back with the biggest, heaviest-flow inch-thick night pads you could…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:12 AM
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Mad Max: Fury Road :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:12 AM
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You don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t make you their first and only choice. You deserve better than this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:30 AM
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Get smart about your money. Pay off debts - starting with highest interest first. Build a emergency fund. Open a Roth IRA and start building your retirement NOW because compound interest will be your bff. Look into investing, and if you have a career with an employer 401k, contribute what you need to get the match (free money). Always have bail out money in a relationship. Financial independence is an absolute safety net for women, especially because we are 80% more likely than men to be impover…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 12:13 AM
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Wow, as someone that is nearly word for word going through this same exact process , I really needed this. I’ve grown and leveled up so much this year, and though I hope I meet my guy soon too, i’m really loving this time with myself :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:34 AM
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Sometimes it’s just like that. Wouldn’t question yourself or your game, just be thankful they took themselves out of consideration and keep it moving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 08:23 PM
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Hmmm...i’m of the opinion that someone aspiring to be a HV partner shouldn’t stoop to the level of performing low value actions. Cheating is low value, and this is coming from someone with a history of cheating herself. We just have to forgive the mistakes of our youth and do differently in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 03:54 AM
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I’ve taken up Rollerblading myself during this whole Corona thing! You’re so right, the adrenaline/sunshine/pride about getting better at something has been soooo good :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:55 AM
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A “The Office” reference....I hope haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:18 AM
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Brew his coconut tea for you at his place i’m assuming? 😂👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:12 AM
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This is literally my brother’s place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:33 AM
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Ugh you’re so right. That was the smack in the face I needed, thank you 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:51 PM
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Okay, so i’m having a debate with a friend about this exact thing, and i’m wondering why we would choose to not disclose this information? She says that it’s naive to think that past history won’t affect future relationships whether you talk about them or not, and she would tell the person in the interest of being honest and having nothing off the table rather than for just validation. I’m very torn on this, given that i have history myself. I want to be able to be 100% open and honest with a fu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:21 AM
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From the crosspost in r/Tinder, it seems she put “i’m bored” in her bio, so this was his opening message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 03:32 PM
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Yeah, his opener was creepy and i totally agree with her saying no, but the whole “not no inner city kid” thing kinda rubs me the wrong way. I feel there may have been a more tactful way to state her standard. *edit: a word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 02:32 PM
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I needed this 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 03:07 AM
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Definitely recommend “Women Don’t Owe You Pretty” by Florence Given. Not sure if it’s on the recommended list yet because it was just released last month, but it’s amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 01:45 PM
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Girl, same!! It’s been awesome! Been teaching myself to rollerblade with all this free time and getting super toned legs while i’m at it ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 03:29 AM
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reeeead the handboook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 01:15 AM
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I’m recently divorced and not planning on returning to my maiden name for similar reasons as yourself. I haven’t yet gone through the process to make it official, but I chose a last name that has a special meaning to me. Coming from an abusive father/marriage, it was cathartic for me to choose a name that separates me from them and and those memories while signifying a new life for myself. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:41 AM
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Same boat!! Definitely want to be an active member but felt uncomfortable posting here, so mostly been a lurker :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:15 PM
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