firstorder99 Archive

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1	Another question, if I’m still married and buy a house in my name, can she still take half the funds or the house? Someone answered down but, as part of discovery, you have to provide all your financial statements for all your accounts. The amount calculated is as of the filing date, but if you are using those funds as down-payment for the new house, then she will definitely ask for those funds. As an example, if you had $1000 in all your accounts of the filing date, then she is entitled to $500, but if you buy the house and used 200$ from the $1000 from all your accounts, then she'll end up getting $600 ($5…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/08/22 06:41 PM
1	Self Employed, How do I/court determine my annual income? Yes - Averaged with past 3 years for me too. Its OK. Take the hit this year and see where you are in another 3-4 years to see how things shape for both of you.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/08/22 03:43 AM
3	Guy who got divorce, is life better? I found me and that was more important than anything else.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/08/22 06:38 PM
2	Custody schedule That's your personal decision on what works for you, not just today, but once they are in Middle School and HS, but having said that - It's better to discuss this with kids (if they are older). When we separated, I made a decision to be part of their lives and be truly 50-50 and had a week-on and week-off schedule. That meant being in the same town as ex, the kids having the same school when they are with either one of us and so on. It has it's downside that they kids have two sets of everything…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/22 07:43 PM
2	Moving out (CO) If you have made up your mind, then just file for the divorce. That is the hardest part. The rest will follow and imo, if you have a stable job and don't have a past history with courts, then you'll get 50-50. As far as lawyering up and leaving house, every situation/court/judges are different, so there is no one rule that fits everyone. IMO, try to be as amiable as possible, because in the end, you have to deal with the kids mom for the rest of your life (College/kids marriage/grandkids), altho…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/03/21 01:34 PM
2	Hello divorcees, what red flags never to ignore selecting a partner? Where did you go wrong? Most people ignore the signs when they start dating. There are so many signs that present itself, but they are often ignored . Make sure you have the basics aligned with your partner. Like your principles, life, faith, money, friendship, committent, family, kids, and job. Marriage is all about hard work with another person and at times there are so many things that might not align with your way of living, thinking, or your beliefs. That line needs to be flexible and it's up to you on how much yo…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/06/20 03:55 AM
1	How do you?? I am in the same boat and can understand what you are going through. I am sure every situation is different, but I definitely feel your pain. There is no easy way - You can file for a contempt of court, which will cost north of $1K with a lawyer and even if you win, your lawyer will receive a filing fee and a court document that tells that she was in contempt of the court. The problem is - The contempt document is generic and does not give a reason for the contempt. None. Nada. It's a joke. You …	/r/Divorce_Men	19/11/19 10:43 PM
1	Post divorce cheap vacation destination ideas? Sounds fun. Can’t blow that kind of cash rn. And don’t want to wait on the vacation. But happy if worked for you. Perhaps for my next next vacation ;) Where in Asia? Any particular country/city/place?	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/19 02:33 PM
2	What IF I Stopped Paying Alimony? Not true anymore starting 2018...	/r/Divorce_Men	16/05/19 11:05 AM