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As they say, all is fair in love and war. That includes marriage versus divorce. Women are emotional, they will manipulate, their reasoning is very simple. They think they deserve what they want. As we know, men are logical stick to the rules of a divorce and split equally. that’s the law in most states.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/26 10:39 AM
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I like that you use the word “victim“. men need to realize that they are nothing more than a tool for a purpose of what a woman wants at the current time. Subject to change later in time.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 11:33 AM
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You are a special one of a kind, truly a lady with morals. I commend you for returning the valuable rings.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/26 10:25 AM
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Amen brother. Men need to realize that marriage is nothing more than a live-in relationship. Most relationships always ends.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 12:11 PM
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Once the D word is said out loud that is a red flag waving in a hurricane. I believe that unless both parties put the marriage first and work seven days a week to mend the relationship, it probably will not survive longer. Currently, marriage is nothing more than a long-term relationship. The only difference is leaving in one household.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/26 12:41 PM
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Prime example of “some lessons cannot be taught they must be lived“. At this time in history, marriage is not a recommended.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/25 11:06 AM
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She is changing the story in her memory.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/25 06:42 PM
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This person will be in your life for a very long time. You should think about getting along because decisions might come easier in the future pertaining to your children. If both of y’all have started out politely and agree to a even split, you might want to stay on that path. Her lawyer might suggest more for his client however, the law says in your state she’s only entitled to half. Stick to your guns and only agree to half.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 11:27 AM
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In marriage counseling, it takes both spouses to be involved. if there are not both spouses involved, you can pretty much bet what the outcome will be.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/25 10:40 AM
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Yes, I agree. That is a logical reason to marriage. But why is it freely given by your spouse before marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 10:35 AM
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Glad you had a good ending. There’s a lot of us here suffer a lifetime. Why do we MEN fall for the dream of forever. Knowing full well, the odds are stacked against us. Only during a divorce do we really really understand the consequences of a marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/25 02:55 PM
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Yeah, that’s a good one. That’s one way to look at how long you can be in retirement.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 06:32 PM
1

Sorry to hear about your situation. I can relate somewhat. I too was married and went through a divorce. Retirement is now just a dream.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 04:24 PM
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That is a good one. I like it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 11:04 AM
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Some people are built like you. I wish you good luck and a fantastic life.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 11:03 AM
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My comment was a reply to code establishment 172 who posted “ why marriage has to be on the table”. I did not give any advice only an agreement of “WHY”. As far as your other question, knowing what I know now and what it took from me, “yes I am saying I would never get married”.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 11:01 AM
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I agree with your point. Why would a man who went through a divorce want to? Once was enough for me to decide never again in my lifetime will I get married!
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 06:37 PM
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When one partner isn’t willing, there’s always another partner that is suffering. Your situation is not unique. A lot of marriages will end because of this. You must make a decision and a timeline. Maybe suggest counseling to save the marriage. If any counseling is refused, a decision must be made. Everyone, including you have a right to be happy. If you’re not happy then it’s time to move on and look for happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 12:55 PM
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You are breaking inside because you’re a man. You’re having to force yourself to break a vow and in turn It is a heavy burden. The facts are, you are very unhappy and cannot take it any longer. You have to do what’s right for you. You did not want it to end this way, but you now know the relationship will always stay the same without any improvement. You are filling guilty of realizing what you must do.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/25 10:41 AM
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My philosophy is always go forward. It’s OK to be friends maybe call talk but that’s it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/25 08:16 PM
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If you can be happy alongside your ex-wife and her new friends, then you should be able to have a relationship with her family. As time goes on, it might be less than less chances to be with or socialize with in-laws. As for me, I was in a very long term marriage. I do not care to see that person be with that person or talk to that person. I only text and talk to a few of the in-laws.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/25 10:27 AM
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Sorry to read about your situation. I to have distance myself. Saving every penny for retirement.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/25 08:00 PM
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Exactly I’ve written about it myself. I am better off and happier divorced then I have been in over 20 years of being married and miserable. miserable.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 01:53 PM
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Realizing after decades nothing was going to change. If I wanted to be happy as a senior I had to get out. Here is the irony she was willing to say married to save face, but filed for divorce. As they say women are from Venus.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 10:53 AM
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I agree with your statement Op do not move out of the martial home.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 08:20 PM
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Hello brother, you are letting your emotions dictate your decisions. This might get you in trouble. It’s hard to do, but you might want to consider taking the high road and not saying anything. As a man myself, I have my word which is my bond my honor that helps me keep my morals in check. I know this hurts what you’re going through but do you really want to destroy someone else’s marriage. If the guys a cheater he will probably get caught sooner or later. Keep your honor by knowing you took the…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 10:51 AM
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You are correct it’s many topics with in a marriage, however ever you once again listed money again in your response. Your wife could file for divorce and you would still be in the same situation.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 04:31 PM
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You value money more than your relationship? If you stay married and it happens again what will you do then. Stay because of money or leave?
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 04:23 PM
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If this is how you truly feel, you should seek help now. I say this because you must heal from the emotional hurt that could soon happen to you. You are gonna have to move on with your life and forget about what was and what it might be knowing your ex might be dating other men. You have entered into a new rim of life. The word divorce will cover many topics in your future for example, agreeing to division of all assets and all household items, vehicles, pets, etc. Get help now with your emotion…
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 02:47 PM
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Sorry to hear this it is bad news. But you have to remember she already made a decision a long time ago. Now you need to make a decision to let go and move on with your life. It won’t be easy and there will be times that it will be very difficult to move on past your trauma. You are emotionally hurt and need to heal internally. There is no timeline of when you’ll come out healthy on the other side. Best of luck to you brother seek help, assistance. keep yourself busy during your idle times.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 11:04 AM
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I am the Lucky one. For many years before the divorce and post divorce, I created a mind set, I do not need to be in a relationship to be happy and fulfilled. I create my own destiny and enjoy life.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/25 10:48 AM
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I agree with you on first mistake made. Over time, I now say the first mistake I made was moving into the same residence. The second mistake was presuming nothing would change if we got married. I was way off on that assumption.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 04:38 PM
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Another reason could be when I reflect back on the marriage, the downs and more downs. My honor kicked in. I made a vowel and tried to keep it until I couldn’t take it anymore. There’s a time in your marriage. If it is bad, you will understand that it will never change and it is time to end it move on with your life and enjoy the happiness you can find.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 11:05 AM
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What you write is red flags screaming in the wind I am really surprised you even wrote it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 03:33 PM
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Best advice in this type of situation. OP read this over and over. It’s your new plan to make it through, of what is ahead of you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/25 11:08 AM
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You’re seeing the light at the end of the tunnel by experiencing something you haven’t had in a while. Hopefully you can find yourself or better self in the future.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 10:19 AM
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Well said only a mature experienced male can finally understand. Women only need us men for a few moments in time. We will be discarded as trash undesirables after they have finished with us.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 11:05 AM
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I like it, truthful thoughts I have faith in you, you will be ok .
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/25 10:14 AM
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Good men will always have a sense of loss, why? Because a good man will take their marriage vows seriously, transform into the role from single to husbands, role model and if they are lucky fathers. A divorce man is lost until they can find themselves. Then any only then can a man move on.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/25 01:07 PM
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I was into a 39 years and left . she to became distant I was not going to my grave in a loveless marriage. I would rather be happy and single.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 10:37 AM
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Senior citizen, went through a grey divorce, I too have no interest in finding or presuing a new relationship. I am starting over and doing want a partner that spends and takes.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/25 01:14 PM
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A very wise and intelligent response. It should be said over and over, it will help us understand and move on in life.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 11:27 AM
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Yes you are correct it’s called Honor and HOPE. I grew up when your word and vows were set in stone.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/25 10:46 AM
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Mine made me quit college and work full time.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/25 04:21 PM
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No single reason as too why. Many different types of human behavior. Just accept the reality and move on as quickly as possible so you can heal.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 05:23 PM
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No and why would a man want to be. She broke a promise and made my life miserable. She got what she wanted and I am starting over.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 11:41 AM
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I walked the path for 15 years and left. It was miserable.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 07:22 PM
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When I rather be at work than being at home.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/24 06:25 PM
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I agree with your words “She is responsible for her own behavior.” If she doesn’t want to divorce she would have said something.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 02:42 PM
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She is happy now, she is getting what she wants by telling you, in her mind it’s over. All relationships of being together will end at some point in time, your relationship ended sooner than you expected. Try and accept the fact that she wants to leave. You were given an opportunity, when one door closes another door opens.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 10:47 AM
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Thanks for the encouragement and reply.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 12:38 PM
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Consider yourself a very lucky. I have been out of the game for what seems like a lifetime. I doubt that I can ever trust another woman. I only see them as taken advantage of the situation.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 12:45 PM
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It just prolong the frustration and agony. Once the D word was thrown out it’s very hard to put it back in the bottle. The trust will start to crumble.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 10:55 AM
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Red flag is not only screaming it telling you she is all about the money and not believe in lasting marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 04:05 PM
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That is a Grey divorce don’t back down for heaven sake get what is your assets. Do not feel sorry for your self or her. It did not work out in the long run. Time to move on and live your life.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 12:27 PM
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Lift your head up high, make the right decision for your own health and happiness. Follow thou what you want in life. We all make bad choice in life but that does not mean you can’t change them. Good luck to you Bro.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 10:48 AM
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Been there done that. Never again for me. One bitten twice shy. I have figured it out, I do not need a wife in my life.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 11:12 PM
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It’s a great feeling if you happen to notice the X looks like they are angry. It confirms you broke the chain that bound you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 12:08 AM
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So true, having honer and living up to your spoken words comes with a heavy burden.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 11:14 AM
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After exiting a divorce life lesson taught me to never get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 12:11 PM
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Once bitten twice shy. You have seen their true colors. Never again.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 04:23 PM
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Never get married or move in with a female.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 04:26 PM
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Been there done that. Did not work for me. People do not change. We want the good times that is remembered however we fall buck to old ways. Dr Phil said the best indication of future behavior is past behavior. Edit for spelling
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 08:19 PM
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My X was only happy wile buying big ticket items. Later I was never appreciated for my contribution and sacrifices. I decided I rather be happy and poor than to be ATM. I have been happy for 5 years.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 07:50 AM
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The stress of coming home.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 04:17 PM
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All it takes is a little smile a little flirting a touch every now and then, to the next person and bang “In like Flint”. If only affection was use before divorce I ponder what could have been. The answer to your question she remarried in fifteen months.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 10:44 AM
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Of course spend time with children, however move forward away from the x spouse and not backwards.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 10:36 AM
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Great analysis of the real dynamics.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/24 08:11 PM
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Knowledge.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 12:40 PM
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My X isn’t one of them. Moved on petty fast with dates and she was married within one year of divorce .
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 03:34 PM
2

In any divorce the best outcome is you are alive and can learn from your mistakes. Happiness is worth more than assets and knowledge is powerful. Good luck to you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 12:11 PM
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This happens a lot, Divorce American style with A Hollywood Happy Ending. You do you, grieve and make plans to move on. Best luck to you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 05:16 PM
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Divorce has become a DYI business. We should start a YouTube channel.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 11:28 AM
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You are Grieving. Everyone will grieve in they’re own way. It take time Do what is right for you go to counseling and do not date until you are finished with grieving. It ok to talk to and be around with but do not date.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 08:20 PM
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I know it’s a huge amount but don’t let it the divorce or settlement define you. You had a life before you got married. Keep moving forward and have a happy good life. Prove to your self it can be a lot better without her.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 10:35 AM
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Nearly impossible to put a Jenny back in to a bottle. Once the divorce word is spoken and in your case document sign it’s time to move on. The bond of trust has been broken. You might be able to forgive but you will never forget. Best luck to you
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 01:55 PM
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Thank you for taking the time to reply.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 10:43 AM
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That was great to hear. Very astute thinking. I wished it was my story. Good luck to you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 10:40 AM
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Thank you for the reply and best of luck to you.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 07:03 PM
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Interesting perspective sounds righteous, I did it to cover up the pain. I did what I did to stop hurting the one I love. I am sure somewhere in the history of your marriage is the truth. Remember their are three truths to each, your truth, your spouse truth and the real truth. I do commend you for posting and sending best wishes to your future.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 11:25 AM
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Don’t laugh Flowers by Miley Cyrus. Reminds me I don’t need her. I am better without her.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 09:12 PM
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You are probably correct, it’s amazing how fast a spouse can fall out and hang on till the end. Then find another to latch onto.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/24 08:11 PM
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I did it at age 66 with 39 years, of which the lay 15 or more living and walking on eggshells. It can be done, each person will have different outcomes. Mine she remarried in 18 months. I prefer being single.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/24 06:35 PM
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When you regret having to go home from work or when you wake up early to go to work.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 10:35 AM
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Amen brother
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 06:27 PM
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If what you want isn’t their then ask why. Communicate what you want, don’t take a back seat to your life. Good luck to you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 11:13 AM
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Just live a happier life. Resentment created decades of hell.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 11:09 AM
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Weren’t friends in the end and it’s better to move forward not backwards.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 04:29 PM
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Everything you describe is all the weapons that can be used to get what the spouse wants without going to jail. It’s also used in commented relationships. How come it’s not when you are just dating in the beginning?
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 10:41 AM
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Good luck brother.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 04:24 PM
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Your emotions are taking over. You should seek help in grief counseling. What you are observing in gathering is what people want you to see. Might not be what is really happening in private.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 01:25 PM
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I feel like you are . Starting over in life with less, because I said “I do”. There is no equality in divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 05:21 PM
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Very enlightening, articulate thoughts. Can be said this explains why.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 05:12 PM
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Over 300k and more. I try and not dwell on the money. I thank god for my happiness and good health. The price you pay for the mistake I made.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 10:44 AM
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Rip the band add off now. File for a no fault now where you live. Move on with your life. Marriages are not what it use to be. In a few months you can then move to where you want.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/24 11:51 AM
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Two years +. Only looking and having fun . Single life is cheaper and stress free.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 05:19 PM
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Once you use the D word you have open a pandora box. Very difficult to put it back in. Even it is boxed up the box is always in the open.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 02:21 PM
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I would screen my wishes and desires and make sure the other one had the same.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 12:51 AM
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Stay out of her business. Not your circus.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 07:18 PM
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I don’t know I have not talked to X in 15 months.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 05:59 PM
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Mine never apologize for anything during the decades of marriage. She filed and thought we would be friends because we had a family, trust and history.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 03:08 PM
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This is the worst possible situation. I am sorry to hear this is happening. Once you start the divorce process you can NEVER undo the harm in the relationship it’s created. It might be better to heal your wounds and move on. I can say this because I lived it. Trued to put the Jenny back in the bottle ended in a divorce at a later date. Good luck to you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 12:29 PM
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You are not starting over you are moving on. New chapter, my new chapter at 67. You really do not need much to be happy and true to yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 03:05 PM
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A little frustrating and a lot of debt.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 02:37 PM
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Sorry I don’t do details. I try to post short snippets of what I have experienced and learned.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 11:46 AM
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Yes I have walked in your shoes. I won’t go into details. She decided she made a mistake. But the damage was done and the seed we’re sown. Divorce after a miserable life in marriage. I am now happy. Good luck brother.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 11:39 AM
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Maybe it will work for you. Something else I have learned is, “ girlfriends try harder”. Good luck brother.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 08:48 PM
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It’s always great in the beginning. It’s the end when you finely realize you are not compatible.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 07:26 PM
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Spouse switch off after getting children big house and car. I held on to hope for 19 years and left. I will never get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 01:52 PM
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I like what you wrote “I don’t want her”. Good luck to you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 04:03 PM
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I deleted it and the email address.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 07:25 PM
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No I would not. I don’t want any contact. I made new friends.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 05:21 PM
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The stages of grief is lasting longer. It will never move to the next stage until you accept the fact that the relationship is over. Their is nothing you can do. Think about this, All relationship will end at some point in time, this one ended sooner than you expected. Good luck to you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 02:27 PM
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No not worth it!
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 07:01 PM
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Curiosity killed the cat. Don’t take the bait of her being vague. Anything can be said verbally on phone, in a text or email. Their is a plain and and you are about to get trapped in a one on one in person meet up.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 09:34 PM
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Move forward not backwards. Be civilized nice to hear from you, hope all is well, take care of yourself. Good by.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 07:32 PM
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She started the process take the hint. The emotion connection she had for you is not their anymore. Bow out graciously and move on do not cling to hope with her behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 01:26 PM
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When you get tired of walking on eggshells because you know something’s rotten in Denmark.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 09:26 PM
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Never go backwards in life only forward. History is less likely to repeat.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 02:24 PM
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It’s not a defeat, it’s a lose you are feeling. Think about this, “All relationship will end at some point in time. Yours ended sooner than you expected.” You are searching for answers to a loss. Stop searching and accept the facts, “It’s Really Over I Did The Best I Could. It well get better and I can move on. Never go backwards only forward. You get another chance at happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/23 12:58 PM
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The “L” word. When we were younger it was said and we believe it was forever. When we’re wiser and the “L” word is used it only means now and not necessarily tomorrow.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 03:45 PM
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Sounds like you came out of darkness all intact. Congratulations you made it to the finish line.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 04:19 PM
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Good for you standing up for yourself. Do not back down. Move on with your life and be happy. It’s the only life you get, you do not get another one.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 06:20 PM
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Thank you for posting this. It answered questions that I had.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 08:24 PM
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The words you are writing is describing a immature person. You should be happy you found out now. Red Flag 🚩.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 12:45 PM
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I down sized at 66, I did not care what it cost and knew it would not change until one of us dies. I could not stand it any longer. I have less and will have to keep working but I am happy.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 03:40 AM
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You should move on with your life. You are feeling an emotion of “Hope “. Hope will only cause depression and lead to anxiety. Hope will only extend your pain.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 06:33 PM
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Going back to a reconcile marriage did not work for me in the long run. Just prolong the miserable existence.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 08:26 PM
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Amen brother.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 12:35 PM
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Great post thank you I need to hear. It helps to see a perspective of what and why of our feelings.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 03:34 PM
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I like your wording of “don’t stay one more month…..nothing good comes from it and unworkable marriage”. Great words to live by.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 02:01 AM
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Under the same circumstances it was never going to change for a better happy life.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/23 08:15 PM
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Never get married or never live in sam residence .
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 01:29 PM
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When I could not stand it any longer. I was happier being at work and not with spouse.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 12:20 PM
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Your screen name / handle explains your thoughts.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 04:05 PM
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Yes I lived it . It was a miserable existence until I left and divorced. Now I am the master of my future.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 12:10 AM
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Men will marry thinking this is great it’s what I want from a woman and woman will marry thinking he is good and I can change him. Also it is said: Men marry hoping she won’t change and women marry hoping to change him.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 03:58 PM
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Great words “fools for investing their emotional security in another person.” Lived it and never again.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 12:27 PM
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You have a valid point with “emotional feelings to sleep with partner “. The post is really trying to understand why it’s a dead bedroom and divorce from their side of events. I can relate, I lived it until I could not stand it any longer.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 10:31 AM
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You are one brave sole to write this post. When the woman of Reddit reads your post it could be come a bloody battle. I hope you have thick skin. About your post, years and decades ago it was told to “Just lay down and think of England.” I believe you hit the nail on the head. We really need to inform are male brothers of the pitfalls of marriage. It’s a better outcome for males to stay single. I have learned my lesson.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 08:15 AM
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You are following in the footsteps of many before you. It has been a secret because in our culture we do not talk about sex within a marriage. We only talked about it when we were single. Hopefully as more of us pass the truth to the unaware it will become more of a mainstream topic. Welcome to the club, most of use here have been used and then discarded. FYI no one is perfect.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 11:16 PM
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Great hidden moral.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 02:33 PM
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Among everything you read here the biggest would be the amount of time wasted in the relationship and feeling the emotions of it ended. Not to forget, the Lawyers, the law of Family Law, courts and judges. Best advice out there is never get married.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 04:33 PM
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Don’t forget about me, divorced at 66 and moving on down the road. Life is much sweeter.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 04:21 PM
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I too disagree with your analysis. I’ve been there done that. I went down that rabbit hole, spent decades their. Finally I was able to exit, and I learned my lesson. Never again.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 04:17 PM
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Great title. Different story here but your title resonate with me. Getting out and moving on is a Big Win in my column.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 01:34 PM
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You are still in the Shock mode. When you can mentally accept that the relationship has run its course and is now ending, is when you can move on. All relationships end at some point in time. Some end sooner than others. Your’s ended sooner than you expected.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 04:32 PM
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Why suffer? I left and divorced at 66 , enjoying the time I have.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 07:16 PM
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That thing you are looking for is called a single life. Do what you want, when you want, with whoever you want. It’s what you were doing before the marriage. Most men were happy before they met and married . Now go out their and enjoy your life.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 04:25 PM
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My thinking, when I read the post is we are all being catfished.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/23 10:49 AM
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You are forgetting the paper trail and the wisdom of an experience lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 01:07 PM
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Mask-A-raid party to impress and sucker you in. Eventually the party ends.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 01:24 PM
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“What is this feeling “? You are feeling anxiety. Try your best to not think about spouse, instead turn your thoughts to what you want. Set a short term goal. What do you want from divorce. Focus on that first. Good luck to you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 11:45 AM
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“Tell me it comes back around” . Yes it will! But it will take time . Use this time to your advantage. Create a master plan and a back up plan for yourself and the children. Day to day living is slow and then you look up and years have passed. This is when you see “it came back around “. This is when you are in a better place and the X is not. Best of luck to you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 02:52 PM
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Move forwards not backwards. That woman you married does not exist any longer. Nor does then man she married. I know you have history but that is all it is, the past, in your review.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 04:44 PM
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Marriage is a scam in this day and age. Been there done that. Never again. This is one “never” l can say and it will not come back on me.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 01:46 AM
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To answer your questions; there is no way of knowing what she is feeling or thinking. People change their mind all the time. People fell (hurt or happy) different as time pass. What you need to understand and accept is this, All relationship end at some point in time. Your relationship has ended sooner than you have imagined. Try to move on as fast as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 07:42 PM
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This is called “love bombing”. She fells better about herself and the decision she has made. Keep your guard up.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 05:31 PM
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Not all marriages survive. Time to move on.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/23 05:35 PM
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The state of Never get Married.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 05:21 PM
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Yes but if uncontested no drama . If contested can be boring just a little talk in the court room before a trial. The real drama is contested distribution negotiations that is private.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 03:03 PM
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Your hooked, you have swallowed the hook deep and you have not spit it out. But their is hope for you. All of us on this sub know the pain you are felling and most of us have overcome it. The secrete is knowledge. You have to understand and acknowledged to yourself "that ALL relationships end!" Some relationships end sooner than others. We enter a relationship, but we NEVER think about the end. You are at the end. This women doesn't what to be with you. Why would you want to be with someone who …
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 01:32 PM
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Full no contact and deleted all contact information. Spouse did not want to be in a relationship so be it I am gone.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 04:35 PM
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I did at the beginning but realized later it would have ended in a divorce. Glad now I am free. I will never get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 01:59 PM
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“What was the final straw”, no affection at all, the stair of death wile entering the home, walking on eggshells, and the excitement I would fill to leave to go to work.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 09:10 PM
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Hope is a very powerful emotion. Hidden within.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 09:23 PM
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Why would you even think of this? Not on valentines. Birthday good wishes only if you fill you must, but I would not even do that.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 07:34 PM
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I agree. I grew up thinking I would not marry and did not want children. I was coursed into marriage and then children. The worst mistake I have ever made was getting married. No more for me either.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 04:15 PM
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Concentrate on distraction as "Alatornio" states and acceptance. Accept what is happening in your life. Its not what you wanted but here it is I have to process it. Distract you idle thoughts . Concentrate on what you want and let this become a teachable moment.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 01:12 PM
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She has "Check Out". The faster you can accept this the sooner you can start the healing process. Forget the "HOPE" as fast as you can take a breath. Hope will keep you hanging on and slow the healing process. Move on past her as fast as you can, and please do not let any friendly jester on her part convince you otherwise. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 01:22 PM
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You are correct. All people should know when a phone is pointed towards you it’s recording your reaction and it can be used against you.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 04:14 PM
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Thank you for the reply.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 03:45 PM
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You are asking a question that only you can answer. If what you wrote in the third through seventh sentence is true, then I would think you really need counseling. You need help to find the "you" that has been pack away. You have been domesticated for too long and are now afraid to leave the den to wonder and hunt on your on. You think you will be better living in familiar surroundings. You might be drowning in "fear" and hanging onto "Hope". Fear and Hope are human emotions and really can not h…
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 01:31 PM
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I can somewhat relate to you. In the 3 + decades of my marriage the spouse never once apologized.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/23 05:35 PM
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I want to be honest with you brother, if what you write is true you are way past advice. You should seek counseling.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 08:52 PM
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I have grown children and do not contact the spouse at all. I am civilized when our paths cross but I am not social. FYI our paths crossed 3 times in two years.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/23 01:13 PM
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To answer your questions, No. I have been broken mentally and financially. I will never trust again. I let my hard down and trusted someone’s desires and dreams of happiness. NEVER again.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 03:56 PM
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I am confused just reading it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/23 05:17 PM
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Me to! The spouse never apologized during our marriage. I guess that means it was always my fault .
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/23 09:41 PM
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I didn’t get away clean but I did get away.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 07:40 PM
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I fell your anger too. Men are a means to a plan!
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 07:36 PM
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Was divorce the biggest failure of your life? NO! My biggest was not getting a Divorce sooner. I was coerce and threaten to get married. I did it thinking, that the spouse truly loved me. I found out that a marriage comes with an expiration date.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 01:36 PM
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Brilliant! Its a great day when the enemy loses a battle.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/22 01:09 PM
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Little brother, You can do what you want to do, however you should do what is best for you mental and physical health. Ok you have now traverse through self pity with self medication. That is the young you saying "F this shit I'll deal with life latter. So now it is time to sober up and put on your big boy paints. You have now found out that life is not fair, it will get messy and screwed up. When this happens your reactions will define what kind of MAN you will become. Your childhood is your pa…
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/22 02:25 PM
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Hello little brother, you are not alone today. Do you want to share?
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 03:44 PM
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“Best Practices”, don’t live together don’t get married. If you want kids you will have to support them.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 07:54 PM
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"Then what happens". That is up to you. What do you want in life? Did you every think you would want to get married? How about kids do you want to raise any? You are focused on the women in your question and you are forgetting about what is most important "Your Life". Most it not nearly 98% percent of woman want to get married at some point. Their hole childhood was grow up and get married have a family and live happily ever after. Story books, fairy tails and Walt Disney movies. 'So either you …
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 02:23 PM
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Start with video recording . Explain that everything is being recorded and will be used in court. Suggest that both of you an coexist peacefully for a short period of time until the details are written down and sign. ​ FYI the spouse can make your life miserable to FORCE you to give up and sign. Remember this is now the business end of a marriage, what you give up now you can NEVER get back.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 01:34 PM
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Don’t move out of the home it could harm your defense.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 06:40 PM
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It’s time to go to the “mattress”. You have now entered the business side of ending a marriage. Texas as you know is 50 / 50 on all debts and assets even if she has a lawyer. Children are a different subject.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 06:35 PM
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I believe I can understand. We change our plan and make a solid comment. We then are told all of the past doesn’t matter and never did.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 12:02 PM
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Where I live her debts are also your debts. It might be cheaper now and cut your losses or pay down debt before you file. The best indication of future behavior is past behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 07:35 PM
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Yes I was happily married until I was told spouse wanted a divorce. Then I lost everything. I will never get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 07:25 PM
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Yea don’t get married and don’t live together and don’t let them force a ultimatum on you either. I never wanted to get married but was given an ultimatum. Like all past relationships, the marriage ended and cost me more than you can imagine.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 07:21 PM
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Greatest filling in the world is knowing you are wanted. Don’t let it go to your head.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/22 09:34 PM
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I would have an exit strategy. You might want to keep the status quo. Your spouse might pass suddenly and or your libido might start to diminish
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 07:36 PM
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Sure their could be a balance. However we do not have details of the dynamics of all adults. I would air on caution, because GF has advised not to go. Sitting boundary now for the future.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/22 09:24 PM
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Just venting because... You can vent as much as you need to, the community is here to hear and support you. Most of us have lived what you are experiencing. What you are going through is ruff especially during the holidays. Hang in their Bro.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 01:37 PM
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This sounds a little extreme. Two years waiting. Enough, tell your lawyer to file a motion to proceed. Move on with your life, its to short to wait!
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 01:28 PM
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You are asking a group of biased posters??? I would not go. Instead create a new tradition with daughter. If you are dating you have to set boundaries to respect new love interest.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 01:21 PM
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I just had a divorce in Texas. If you can get a amicable divorce you do not even need a lawyer. Requirements are a resident of 90 days in county that you file in. Fifty fifty (50/50) on Everything, there is No alimony, but their is a Spousal Support. Their is a 60 day waiting period, before a divorce is granted. Its a cooling off time. You will have to read the Texas Family law code on Spousal Support. Most Texas County have a do it your self forms. All my filing were done on line. The real tric…
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/22 01:35 PM
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Thank you for taking the time to reply all good on this side. Sometimes life gets in the way of living.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/22 09:21 PM
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“she doesn’t deserve anything from you.” She has everything their is nothing left.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/22 06:19 PM
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I am in the same boat as others have posted. I chose to divorce. Did not want to be around spouse who was not into intimacy. Why travel with spouse who rejected you sexually but accept my money?
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/22 05:32 PM
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Glad to hear, proves there is still hope for the rest of us.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 01:41 PM
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I read your post and hear you are conflicted. What should I do. As Hard as it would be for you follow the advice given below. Get out now. You can always help when the divorce is finalized. Men always cave to help it’s in our nature to provide. Divorce is a business transaction. 50/ 50 is the best NO more no less.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 01:18 PM
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Yes I am sure it’s real. I thought that way in the beginning too. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/22 05:24 PM
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Divorce is a lawful separation. You are no longer responsible for this person. The faster you can understand this the faster you can let go and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/22 01:23 PM
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Why would you want to get married a second or third time? If you like to gamble that much, just give me all your assets. It will save you time and make up some of what I lost on my divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/22 08:28 PM
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You are worried about a presumption that you will be married for a long time. The odds are against you, staying married. Their are more now more divorce people than married. FYI if you loved your spouse you would not have these thoughts. The grass only green where you water it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 05:23 PM
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Maybe in a form of shock or in denial?
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 03:03 PM
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You are a better man than me. I would not have been a distinguished gentlemen as you. My hat is off to you sir.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 03:24 PM
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You can fight for what the law allows in your state.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/22 01:57 PM
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To get a real answer you might want to consider posting on another sub. I believe most visitors here are going though a divorce or have finished as I have. I got a sock 12 days ago 🧦
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 09:46 PM
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Not a healthy way to live.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 01:41 PM
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I agree it’s a suckers bet for the males to get married. Keeping up appearances or the bigger on “ looking for happiness”. How fast they forget who brought them to the dance.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 01:34 PM
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I like the reference you used in the first sentence. If I may borrow from now the OP must agree to the next phase.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/22 01:11 PM
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You are a better man than me, I don’t think I would. I’ve been rejected and now divorce. I don’t want the x in my life.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/22 06:05 AM
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From what I have learned, when a women become unhappy at any point in their marriage and can’t change their spouse behavior they always want a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/22 07:36 PM
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It might depend on the jurisdiction and the written Family / Divorce laws. Where I reside you are still married until the judge rules on the matter.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 12:08 PM
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Do not leave the martial home until you know and understand the Family / Divorce law within the jurisdiction were you live. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 12:40 PM
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Sock day is a reference in the Harry Potter series. A character was free from a lifetime of indentured servitude. A Sock day is the day of your freedom. The day the divorce is finale.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/22 07:13 PM
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Tough love response. Someone needs to slap you so hard that you head will spin. Maybe this will wake you up from your dream. The way you wrote this post as I read is, your spouse made all the decisions for the both of you. You wrote you were a "yes" man "go along to get along" she is controlling and manipulation. Right? You made a decision to move out, you made a decision to hire a lawyer, you are now making your own decisions in your life. If you cannot see this let me write this for you. By mo…
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/22 02:56 PM
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Has your wife ever made you feel worthless when you know you are not. Yes, for decades until i moved. My sock day is in November.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/22 01:07 PM
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Pendant is a gift no matter were the money came from.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 07:13 PM
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I think he is referring to children and custody.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 07:10 PM
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As they say we’re I am from: It took a long time but I got here as fast as I could.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 06:22 PM
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Divorce should not be a game. It should be a business exit.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 12:45 PM
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To be comfortable you must accept who you are.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 01:50 PM
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Fight for your marriage Some battles can’t be won. It is better to live happy and find a partner that you don’t have to battle.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 11:22 AM
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“What does that mean.” A missed opportunity unless you react. A glance and a smile is a reaction, to being noticed that you caught me noticing you. In another words you saw me looking. Now go over and say “Hello “ smile and be nice. If a conversation did not start polity excuses your self and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 06:04 AM
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Yes your situation is commingled. Inheritance is off the table but the increase in value might be in play. This will depend on the family laws of the jurisdiction. Remember all is fare in love, war and divorce. They would do it to you if they could.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 05:50 AM
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Just like when you were younger. If you see them glance and smiling there’s your sign. Walk over and say Hello with a smile.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 08:38 PM
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Well their your answer keep moving forward. You can have closure after the divorce is finalized. Don’t second guess your self.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 07:30 PM
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Not knowing any details of you or your spouse, if spouse filed for divorce keep going forward. If you filed for divorce keep going forward. Getting out now is probably best outcome.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 06:41 PM
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Good for you on recognizing a problem. You do not owe the STBX anything. Stay strong creat a plan and follow through.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 12:07 PM
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When a woman brings up the “D” word you better believe her. If she said it several times she has already thought it through. Probably has already run the “play” several times. Wishing you good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 10:00 PM
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How to emotionally survive this? The true answer is time. If you play it smart, learn the divorce proceeding that will take place. Plan ahead be prepared. You will come out of the dark tunnel on the other side, then you can reclaim your life.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 04:00 PM
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How long does it take for this actual physical pain to go away? What you are fell is mental anguish. The loss of... The reality of ... and betrayed of. The sooner you can stop letting this person take up your thoughts the faster you can heal. You must stop letting the person in your thought.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 03:32 PM
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It takes two to get married and only one for a divorce. No matter what the history is! She has ended the union. You have to get a grip on the next step, move past the history as fast as you can, she has.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/22 12:11 PM
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“Does anyone have any advice “ Do not get married. Only date!
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/22 04:18 PM
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Mine broke me mentally during the marriage and then I gave the spouse a house and contents so I could live freely.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/22 12:28 PM
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I personally can’t stand a thief or liars. I always end contact. Some people cannot be trusted.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/22 12:20 PM
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So true, ACTIONS speaks louder than word’s.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/22 05:20 PM
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I only wish I did it sooner.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 12:18 PM
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STBX= Soon To Be X STBXS= Soon To Be X Spouse
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 05:34 PM
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Yes I’m still in love with her and have chosen to honor our vows. Vows are important to a man! That is why you are looking for any reason to stay in this relationship. You are in denial. You should exit out as fast as you can. Dr. Phil says, "The best indication of future behavior is past behavior".
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 04:02 PM
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Any good book recommendations...... Tough love response: Its called "Get This X Out of My Head". You posted it was last year and a bombshell. If you are looking for answers of "Why did my spouse cheat on me and leave? I remind you it was your partner that made a conscious decision to break a commitment. That decision was out of your control and therefore you are not responsible for the outcome. Grieving is a total different topic. Every one has a different response and time line. The sooner you …
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 03:38 PM
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I really don’t want to be stuck with something that’s going to eat at me every single day! We can support one another through experiences, but we can not decide for you what is "Top Shelf Important in Your Life". You might be felling overwhelmed with the new event in your life, and second guessing your dissensions. If you break it down a divorce is nothing more than two people agreeing to a situations outcome. Write down and prioritize what is important to you. Agree to what is not important to …
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 03:12 PM
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Glad to hear you are finished and it sounds like you are happy. Enjoy your life.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/22 06:35 PM
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You are letting her into your head. Stop thinking about it. You are looking for an answer or an apology. You are not going to get it. It’s now time to forget the details and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/22 04:31 PM
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Don’t get married it will end. the American dream is not marriage, kids, house, pet and insurance payments. It’s accumulating wealth and doing what makes you happy.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 11:41 PM
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Great second sentence I agree with you. However we have become a disposable society including marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 12:23 PM
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Yes, I read that post. It was great to here a true confession. My STBX would never admit to being in the wrong or apologized to me. After reading it I realized I am a good person after all. I even saved it for future reading.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/22 01:55 PM
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I married because of a ultimatum from spouse. I am now getting a divorce. BTW the spouse filed not me but would have. Just waiting for the right time.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 06:24 PM
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Yes you have to take care of children and parenting will take up all of your free time. But you could also take your children out and do new things together. As to building back financials if you are a investor you know that it will grow over time. If you invest in the USA market it will not improve until next spring or summer.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 05:03 PM
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Hello Brother, you are not alone in this. In this life we are both in, think of it as a boat. You are on one side and I am on the other side. I do not know you and you do not know me. But here we are. Traveling the waters of time. I use to be a extroverted but the marriage turned me into a introvert for reason listed throughout these pages. Now that I am unshackled from that past life, I know its my future. I can do what I wont to do not what that other person wants. . Take small steps first. I …
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 02:04 PM
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This is exactly why I am divorcing my spouse. Decades and decades of DB and then smiling for family events when I am so angry inside. To HELL wit it. If I am going to be miserable I would rather be miserable on my own and by myself. At least I would not have to fake a marriage when their is not one and hasn’t been one for decades .
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/22 06:16 PM
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Going through a Grey divorce. Times have changed. Vows are only words without meaning. New times, marriage has an expiration date. Maybe 10, 18 to 20 years. Then it’s over.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/22 12:32 PM
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Its depressing to find out what is going on but here is the truth. When a woman talks divorce she is already check out of the relationship. Probably has already processed the emotions that go along with a breakup. The clues are in your daily life. Did the romance stop? No more hugs or slight touch when passing by. Did she stop looking in you eyes when you spoke. Did the sign of affection stop. You should not have to change (or very much) to be with someone that made a vow to you. The problem wit…
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/22 10:43 AM
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I would like to find this heavenly plane you describe as peace and treasure. It sounds like the place I have been searching for as I have been in several subs and dealing with my situation. Thank you for the insight .
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/22 05:18 AM
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I like what you wrote: “ The hard truth: Once a woman is done …… “. There is a lot of truth and proof of that wise insight. You can see it on this sub and in r/divorce. Women can leave a relationship and move on faster than a man. OP do what you need to do for yourself, to move on. Do not let this person take up space in your thoughts. Be loyal to yourself do the right things in life and you will become better for it.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/22 05:02 AM
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Women can be very vindictive. They can’t just walk away without having the last word.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/22 12:39 PM
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I think you are dead on target. OP read and understand "Gattsama" wisdom. "you are not actually in love with her. You are in love with the idea of her,"..... I can't to the life of me understand how a women can say vow's confess their love and switch it of like a light switch. OP move on as fast as you can and do not look back. Move forward.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/22 10:42 AM
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So true why do men do it? I have realized how broken inside I have become, I have become emasculated. Once I come out of this on the other side I will only talk, wine,dine and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/22 12:40 PM
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Depends on where you live. Divorce is a step by step process. Any one can follow. If you have children it adds to the complexity, if you have house it adds to the complexity. They say the civil courts are backed up do to COVID-19. Everyone is getting a divorce. Where I am at it’s like a year long waiting list. We filed July 2022. And am doing it without minors. So if you go lawyer route they will bill you for each hour they spend on your case and can become very advisory . We’re I am at there ar…
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 12:24 PM
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I might be a rear breed but i am not after money. Money is not on my list. My top dealbreaker is still marriage. My situation is like many in the past. In the beginning it was great and it slowly died and it became a miserable existence. I hated to go home after work. I only want the love devotion and intimacy of a girl friend now.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 02:11 PM
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Good advice my brother I can relate. But the top deal breaker for me is marriage. If she wants to get married I am out. I will never do that again. Can anyone remember how miserable and sour your life became.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 05:14 AM
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I also struggled. But now it’s a 3 hour drive formed and I don’t go anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 12:40 PM
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Please do not fall for it! You are out of her grasping hands you should stay out. Find someone who will love you for being a good man.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 12:38 PM
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Get out now! Years can turn into decades. Did you want to be a monk when you married her. This LLW and HLM or vice versa happens all the time in a marriage . Your resentment will increase and cause problems latter. At some point people really do not change and it become the status quo.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/22 06:35 PM
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I totally agree with your thoughts. It’s not worth it. Marriage and divorce is a cycle of hurt. Do not put yourself through it. If you need proof just surf the different sub. If you are single now and lonely you can still be single, broken as a man and financially. It can happen to you at any time in your married life. If you do get married and it ends in a divorce I hope it’s within the first few years and not the decades later years.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/22 06:23 AM
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