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Well, it is just a correlation between the World Happiness Report and belief about masculinity scales.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/03/26 10:05 AM
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They got a taste of equality, when Roe vs. Wade got overturned - compare the lack of paper abortion for men. But to be clear: I want women and men to be able to live childfree.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/03/26 08:44 AM
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Last time I checked, women receive 40% less time for the same crime as well.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/03/26 08:41 AM
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Yeah right, and breast cancer research gets three times as much funding as prostate cancer, though they have the same prevalence. https://www.cancer.org/research/currently-funded-cancer-research/grants-by-cancer-type.html
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/03/26 06:26 PM
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Regarding the naming: Most feminist spaces in Austria have a FLINT policy: Women, Lesbians, Non-Binary, Transgender. So everyone except cis dudes.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/03/26 12:59 PM
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Is it really illegal? In Austria there are women only gyms and conservative male only student associations.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/03/26 12:56 PM
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I've been basically an anarcho-socialist In Vienna the anarcho-syndicalists are quite critical of feminism. A lot of them refuse to date in the scene to avoid feminism in their private lifes.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/03/26 12:12 PM
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work from home is a woman's issue because they do more housework As a sidenote: You are not supposed to do housework in home-office. Personally I only cook in my half hour lunchbreak, maybe I start heating water or turn on the rice cooker half an hour before. Besides that it is work. What is great is skipping my one hour commute.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/03/26 12:09 PM
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A man eating Indian goddess feline.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/03/26 10:31 AM
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Oh I’m sorry, I really didn’t mean to come off as lecturing or anything. I just thought we were discussing the concept. It's OK, then I was too harsh. I guess we kind of lost track here, we started with whether feminism can help protect men from violence and make them grow to their full potential. My answer is: As long as it is partial with women, certainly not. After 15 years in the radical left I can say with confidence, that they knowingly, and consistently employ double standards in favour o…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/03/26 11:33 PM
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Thanks for the lecture. We can debate what Crenshaw meant, but in practice there are the two options I described above. Whether it is acceptable to me depends on the granularity of the analysis. I you set the granularity to the individual, this is compatible with universal rights, because we are all individuals. If you set the granularity to a mix of identity groups, you again end up with identity politics and an oppression hierarchy.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/03/26 07:43 PM
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Intersectional Feminism might be two things in practice. It could focus on the experience of marginalized women, and try to be a more inclusive feminism, e.g. by criticizing "White Feminism". Or it could truly see individuals, including men, in a complete individual picture, and support them the way they need it, even if it means to acknowledge that men might be disadvantaged in some ways. The latter is compatible with universal human rights, the first not.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/03/26 05:47 PM
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Voting rights and bank accounts for all are a classic liberal egalitarian demand - no partial identity politics involved. This is what I meant with > What would survive would be a certain sort of Liberal Feminism, that would critique Liberalism for shortcomings, while staunchly defending universal human rights.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/03/26 05:11 PM
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> male advocates tend to believe a new movement is necessary, whereas feminists tend to believe the current one just needs to be refined The problem is, feminism is a partial movement by women for women. This starts in the epistemology and philosophy of science, and ends in the proposed policy. If feminism was truly to become universal, meaning for everyone, it would need to drop the partial / situated / identity politics approach. What would survive would be a certain sort of Liberal Feminism, …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/03/26 04:48 PM
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Hey, please protect yourself, there is no way you can win this fight in that sub. Imagine being black and arguing with a white supremacist - and then making your self worth dependent on their opinion. I am sure you are likeable and kind from what you have written, you do not need to prove this to the world or 2X. Those people managed to frame men dying by the millions in Ukraine as a "man shortage" that is actually "good for women" because they now get to be taxi drivers and work in a factory.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/02/26 03:16 PM
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I „did the work“. It made me more happy, more resilient, and more successful. But It still did not fix the hate I received from feminists.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/02/26 02:03 PM
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OK, thanks for the info.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/01/26 12:39 PM
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give a male client an allowance so he could visit prostitutes Was this client physically disabled? I only know this as assistive sexuality for disabled people. Which I think is weird, because a lot of people who promote sexual assistance, are anti sex work in general. why he himself wont work in those fields? I do not know, he ended up giving basic education to illiterate youth. But most of my leftist friends ended up in youth centers, education, or womens shelters. I know one who would do the n…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/01/26 12:09 PM
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This is interesting. Would you not say, that social work as a whole has a left and feminist bias? Maybe I overestimate it, because a lot of my leftist friends went into social work. BTW a profeminist male social worker friend of mine occasionally criticised men who worked with homeless people or addicts for being "tough toxic men", who actively seek fields where they can act manly.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/01/26 11:38 AM
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I think adult homeless women are more prone to sexual exploitation. Overall I guess homeless men experience more violence like assault, robbery or murder, since that is a pretty stable result from mainstream society. In the end the good old "women are more vulnerable, and need protection, men need to fend for themselves" is exactly why I received little help. There is another phenomenon on top of mainstream traditional gender roles: Most feminists I know either went into academia (some), politic…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/01/26 10:40 AM
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Men get less services because woman are more vulnerable (abuse, assault, rape etc) so woman are prioritised I was literally starving and got butt raped as a minor on the streets. And yes, people still prioritised others, because I am a white cis dude.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/01/26 08:24 AM
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You can not reward Putin for his illegal war of aggression. Also countries don‘t have interest, people do. And I say „Putin“ instead of „Russia“ because I hope there is a difference between leadership and population. Also the (Bela)Russian leadership should think long and hard, why they feel so threatened by the EU, and Ukraine wanting to join. Oh they did that, and their answer is, that the decadent west is hostile to traditional Russian culture, and needs to be destroyed, before homosexuality …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/01/26 12:00 PM
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I understand your point, and those are not the first videos of Ukrainian men getting shanghaied I see. I am also well aware, of what they have to endure in the trenches, or Russian PoW camps. I also know that it is easy to say some things, when you are browsing Reddit on your iPad in bed, in your house in Viennese suburbia. I also avoided the draft to the army when I was 18 by doing civilian service, which includes backbreaking work for 12 hours a day for 300 Euro in foodstamps, but is nothing c…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/01/26 09:27 AM
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/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/01/26 03:51 PM
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Despite their clear differences, I suggest that these various iterations of reactionary feminism are all characterised by the three key logics that I set out at the beginning: A rejection of “liberal feminism,” and the advancement of a feminism grounded in a bio-essentialistic understanding of women as a “sex class.” They have that in common with radical feminists. Edit: The author says so herself: She notes that FDS aligns substantially with radical feminism, most particularly in its understand…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/12/25 02:45 AM
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I’ve seen it in autistic advocacy spaces As someone, who some people suspect to be on the spectrum: What is the connection between autism and radical theories? Is it the lack of mental flexibility? The black and white painting? The susceptibleness to theories with little grounding in reality?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/12/25 12:35 PM
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they very rarely talk about the privileges of having a university-education Somehow, that humanities degree needs to pay off.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/12/25 12:32 PM
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We do not experience the world the same way at all as non-white, non-cis, non- hetro people. Classic identity politics / standpoint theory. The problem is, there are two logical extremes: Every individual has individual experience and personality - or we are all human, no matter the gender or ethnicity. Surprisingly, both these extremes are egalitarian, because we are either all individuals, or all human, and therefore compatible with liberalism. The weird middle point promoted by identity theor…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/12/25 09:54 AM
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Sweden forcefully sterilized disabled, incarcerated, and mentally ill people up until the 70s https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compulsory_sterilisation_in_Sweden
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/11/25 11:40 AM
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I thought feminism argued that "hormones" and "higher sex drive" are biologistic excuses why men become sexually transgressive, and the real reason is patriarchy and toxic masculinity. Also, they always say it is about violence and power over women, not sex.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/11/25 10:36 AM
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I once did a term paper about bias in music recommender systems. It was based in this paper https://dl.acm.org/doi/10.1145/3406522.3446033 Men and women got equally recommended in the top 10, popular categories, but women were underrepresented, less than 50% of recommendations, in the less popular categories. Since this is injustice, we tuned the recommender, so men and women get equally represented in the less popular categories. But here comes the kicker: Women made up 30-40% of the overall po…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/11/25 08:37 AM
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/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/10/25 12:48 PM
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OP discovered Buddhism. Honestly, I too think the world is going downhill. Global warming, increased intra society tension, the war with Russia. Personally, I have my opinions, I just don't invest too much time into loosing battles. There is still more than enough I can do with my life.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/09/25 06:57 AM
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Do not try to get too much validation from other people, it makes you dependent. And validation from men is equally important. Also some of what you wrote, like everybody is happy when you are gone, seems depressed and cognitively distorted. I would really recommend getting diagnosed and doing some therapy.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/09/25 11:20 AM
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Thank you for centering women in a men's sub. Men experience more violence, and receive less support. I want men to survive and live happy lives. And your demands to white knight for women, perceive them as innocent, and only look at the perp-ish sides of men reproduce traditional gender roles, and contribute nothing to the well being of men. Aren't you sort of doing the same thing you claim feminists do? Kind of, but then again I am male, and entitled to a male perspective. You can not demand o…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/08/25 09:19 AM
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I did not watch the whole video, and I did not read into the Neil Gaiman case. Empirically speaking, autistic people end up being bullied at lot, and that also happens in the leftist scene. While the mainstream justifies this with autistic men being "weird", feminists usually claim that "they make them uncomfortable", or are "crossing boundaries". Which is mostly politically correct lingo for being weird.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/08/25 11:58 AM
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its the man vs the child Seems like a conservative family values argument. They would also argue that killing a child is bad. And I believe living with a single mom is better than being killed, so actually paper abortions are more ethical than physical abortions. The double standard emerges with feminists, who are clearly pro choice, but not for men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/25 12:05 PM
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Double standards, theoretically underpinned by partial standpoint ideology / identity politics. I even had a feminist justify my reproductive rape, telling me that I still have to pay, and simply choose my partner more wisely. My reply, whether in case she gets abused, she should also choose more wisely, got met with a permaban.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/25 06:18 AM
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Really hard to watch. I only managed 10 minutes. As a note: Recreational reading was always female coded and not high prestige. Quite to the contrary some people in the 19th century suggested to read less, because they considered it a waste of time, just like social media nowadays. The general argument that fields that become feminized start to pay less used to be historically correct though. It would be interesting to find out whether it is still true today, because late stage capitalism is too…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/08/25 06:53 AM
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Time for a slander lawsuit.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/07/25 09:57 AM
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You can read the medium article here: https://archive.is/20231209203840/https://medium.com/age-of-awareness/misogyny-is-oppression-misandry-the-response-29d41f9ee9bc
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/07/25 07:06 AM
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It is not only Eastern Europe, also in Austria people get hazed and gang raped in the army. It is just not safe.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/07/25 08:56 AM
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Never, ever, put photos or videos of yourself on the internet!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/25 03:12 PM
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I'm statistically more likely to get a job over a more qualified woman. Can you prove it? Hardly. Anti female bias in male dominated fields has vanished, or even slightly reversed, in recent years, but anti male bias in female dominated fields remained stable. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0749597823000560
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/06/25 08:05 PM
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Ad 1: This really depends where you live, both geographically and socially. If you are a Jehovas Witness, all the Elders will be male. If you are a cis dude in the left, you might face different problems. I don‘t blame „women“, I don‘t blame every form of feminism. But the sizable minority of misandrists in leftist feminism hold influence and power, and make large swaths of the movement toxic for me as a man. Ad 2: Sure, there is male privilege. But there is also plenty of female privilege. And …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/06/25 07:09 PM
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it does not demonstrate that this has shifted into a preference against men It has in the west. In US in vitro fertilization clinics, female embryos are preferred for implantation.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/06/25 07:32 AM
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BTW in this post there is a graph of the changing preferences https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/1l74klt/oc_the_stunning_decline_of_the_preference_for/
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/06/25 08:02 AM
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the harms caused by surplus men Men as damaged goods, that can, sadly, not be returned to sender. Parents are not aborting boys for being boys. No, but in the case of in vitro fertilization, they simply do not get implanted, but frozen. Hardly better.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/06/25 06:09 PM
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/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/05/25 05:34 AM
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Just another instance of "men deserve punishment, women deserve help". BTW, women are not even supposed to go to prison: https://www.gov.uk/government/news/womens-justice-board-begins-plans-to-send-fewer-women-to-prison
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/05/25 07:02 AM
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Sir, this is a Wendy’s.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/05/25 07:19 PM
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Well, yeah, kind of, in the big picture. There exist those stoic expectations for men, and some live up to them, and some women demand them. But it really depends on your subculture and community. I have had very close emotional relationships with men, and none of my partners expected me to pay for dates.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/05/25 02:52 PM
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OK, it is just one group in Loughborough, but still your arguments are valid.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/04/25 07:54 AM
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Although they experience more violence!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/04/25 09:06 AM
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which in my view strongly imply that the helpline support women only. The funny thing is, they always insist on using gender inclusive language, but male victims need to call a women's helpline, that is marketed as being against violence against women. Also, I honestly doubt that the social workers operating this hotline are theoretically and practically caring about the problems of boys and men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/04/25 09:04 AM
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The parent who is a stay at home gets the privilege to spend time with their kids and the other parents has to work overtime . This is very unequal . Sure. And on top, the primary caregiver usually gets custody in case of a divorce. But if both parents work then both can get to spend time with their kids equally without worrying about poverty . The sad reality is, that after 40 years of stagnating real wages, you often need two professional incomes if you want to have kids and a middle class lif…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/04/25 11:28 AM
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When choice is provided - women were choose to parent. Which honestly is a meaningful choice for most people. If you have kids why not spend time with them? It gives you so much in terms of personal growth and relationships. Most people think their relationships and mental health are more important than their boring 9 to 5 in the office. Very few people have a really stellar satisfying career, that they are willing to sacrifice family for. There are dowsides like possible economic dependence, or…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/04/25 08:54 AM
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As a male victim, I do not understand why I have less of a right to defend myself in the case of physical or sexual assault.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/04/25 06:00 AM
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Also, they will mob and shame the victims in their class even more, calling them incels.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/04/25 08:34 AM
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Well, there is considerable overlap between ASD / being bullied / being an incel. Often people on the spectrum end up being the victim. Finally, 199 participants out of 274 (74%) reported experiencing some autism-spectrum traits. Participants self-reported intensity of autism-spectrum traits averaged at M=2.57 (SD=1.33). INCEL IDEOLOGY, RADICALIZATION AND MENTAL HEATLH: A SURVEY STUDY
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/03/25 02:05 AM
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Which one, the Trojan horse, or the gulag?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/03/25 02:36 PM
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I wanted to add something serious besides the polemic: Apparently equity was a Trojan horse, to take as much as you can. The green student union in Austria for example has a 100% women quota for president and vice president. And those people usually end up in parliament or as a bureaucrat, where women are already nearly 70% of green MPs.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/03/25 07:34 PM
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confessed to systemic gender discrimination in MFA admissions. “About 60 percent of our applications come from women, and some cohorts in our program are entirely female,” ... I also don’t think that men deserve to be better represented in literary fiction,” he concluded. “They don’t suffer from the same kind of prejudice that women have long endured.” I don't think the bourgeoisie deserves better food in the gulag, they don't suffer from the same kind of malnutrition the working class has long …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/03/25 05:42 PM
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I think you are a bit over the top when you suspect a real genocide against men coming. Men are not being rounded up in a death camp, they off themselves or suffer in silence, while most people don't give a shit, and some even cheer for the "downfall of men". Also, with regard to feminism, I personally am more careful about emotional and social violence, than physical violence.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/03/25 06:43 AM
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> But if you are a man but you are either gay or black, or muslim. You do have some victim points when it comes to intersectionality. Yes, but only if your "oppression" is visible. If you look like some rando white dude, it would never occur to them, that you have been abused, or experienced racism or homophobia.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/03/25 04:45 PM
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Sorry, I changed the link.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/03/25 03:32 PM
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Well, she got abused by her anarchist boyfriend in the Netherlands. So to her personally that might add up, especially if she wants to politicize her personal trauma. I personally stay away from hateful misandrists like her, nothing good comes out of it when they see you like that.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/03/25 07:34 AM
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They had to repeal their femicide law in Argentina: https://np.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1ieumrr/argentinas_president_is_vowing_to_repeal_woke/magn9jh/
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/03/25 07:30 AM
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/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/03/25 10:37 AM
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The needs of boys is being punished, the needs of girls is being helped. /s And this starts early, even parents dish out more severe punishment to their six year old sons.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/03/25 07:11 PM
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For me it was twenty years of left wing activism in socialist and anarchist communities, with their respective forms of feminism ranging from radical to intersectional. My critique of feminism is more informed by a critique of leftist subculture, that is often dominated by feminism, than a critique of mainstream society. If you live a mainstream conservative life in Austria, you can quite easily avoid their hate and misandry, in the left you are directly exposed to it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/03/25 11:19 AM
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Try it with the right wing propaganda in Europe, that all Muslim refugees are potential terrorists, ramming their truck into the Christmas market, or randomly stabbing people. "Not all Muslims, but always Muslims." sounds pretty racist to me.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/02/25 01:04 PM
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Look if 4B makes women happy so be it. If MGTOW makes you happy so be it. But maybe you should go offline and take long walks in the woods, or whatever serves your mental health.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/02/25 09:41 PM
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I am no expert, but yes, there are definitions of "patriarchy" in sociology and anthropology that are precise and concrete. For example the "pater familias" had absolute power, including life and death, over his household, wife and kids included. Or strongly patrilinear societies, where the lineage always runs through men and men make decisions. Modern western society is clearly no patriarchy in that sense.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/02/25 08:09 PM
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> I know a lot of women who genuinely don't give a flying fuck about men romantically speaking. Sure, and a lot of men about women as well. In a more generous interpretation OP wanted to remind us of our shared humanity and interconnectedness. But of course we can also not give a fuck about others.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/02/25 09:00 PM
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Well, there are certain dangers when you are not fundamentalist. Meaning and purpose are unstable and need to be (re)constructed. Of course you can have values and goals, but they are not god given any more. On the other hand religious people need to renew their faith as well, either through prayer practice or religious community, so there's that. And then there is always the lack of flexibility and potential damage through your religious system, but I have also experienced this with strict poli…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/02/25 08:31 AM
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I guess it is an anti brainwash, feminist hegemony sub. It is about a safe space for men, not misogyny.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/01/25 07:28 AM
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To be honest, in retrospect, I did not enjoy the Boy Scouts very much. Very authoritarian leadership, quite conservative, and some mobbing. Just because a space is all male does not make it safer.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/01/25 09:24 AM
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There is even a term in German for everybody except cis men: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/FLINTA*
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/01/25 09:19 AM
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The worst argument is, that women are so successful in education because they work harder. There are enough studies which show that boys will receive less points for the same essay than girls. Boys are disadvantaged at education, and she just tells them to get the skills, but does not see privilege and the uphill battle. If I would make the same argument with race, and argue white people are on top because they work harder and are simply better, I would be laughed out of the room at best.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/01/25 09:00 PM
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/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/01/25 11:33 PM
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How did you get that past an ethics committee?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/01/25 04:38 PM
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There is a catch though. Anybody can grope someone or kiss someone against their will and commit assault. So consent is for everybody. But if I penetrate someone I have to ask for consent, or it can be rape. So people who penetrate have a higher burden. Same with BDSM, if I top someone I have a higher responsibility. And yes I know, there is made to penetrate, reproductive rape, and also receiving a blowjob against your will is classified as rape where I am from. Oh, and women penetrate men up t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/01/25 10:18 PM
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I got drafted when I was 18, like everyone in Austria. And Europe is currently in a (proxy) war with Russia. It is really not that abstract. Just today, I was on the train contemplating how to avoid getting drafted. Although I am 45, men of my age have to fight in trenches in Ukraine. And I already have PTSD. It is not very likely that neutral Austria will get militarily involved, but the remote possibility still gets me thinking every now and then.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/01/25 08:36 PM
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Personal growth?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/01/25 04:02 PM
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I just want men to have a happy fulfilling life. Getting your mental health in check is a large part of it. Burning yourself out with activism when you do not have the resources is not.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/01/25 03:53 PM
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A lot of the left wing activism I have done for decades is not good for your mental health. The mainstream hates you, the cops beat you, the fascists try to kill you. I seriously believe you should get your personal issues in check first. A lot of the left wing activism is done by people who would be helped more by therapy than activism, and that is not sustainable.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/01/25 03:29 PM
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A lot social media is about complaining and venting. The feminist subs are full of complaints and victimhood as well. I personally profit massively from this sub. I feel heard and can speak. It is good for my sanity. I am more conscious of what I have to face as a man. I do have real life friendships where I discuss these issues productively as well. I think this is as important as social media, but harder to build. Personally I don‘t think it has to be overt activism. Just this week we started …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/01/25 02:59 PM
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> And with that comes the belief that trans women are just messed up and pervy men. Autogynephilia entered the chat.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/01/25 07:47 PM
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I took me years to find the right therapist, the right psychiatrist, and the right diagnosis. And I was hurting all the time, but some have simply been incompetent, some had the wrong views on gender (too conservative, or too feminist), some simply did not vibe. Personally, I would choose a liberal male therapist. Less ideological, more personal help, less toxic ideas about gender.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/25 06:14 PM
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> What have your encounters with anarcha-feminism(s) been They screeched "there is no equality in patriarchy" when I suggested having an egalitarian relationship.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/25 08:53 PM
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> idk what that means but overall probably not a great thing Well, it basically was a bunch of fascists trying to unalive me for my ethnic and gender identities. So yes, not such a great experience. > if someone isnt hired because of their race ... if i were hired instead of them, in a way its because of my race I was hired. OK, that is a valid example of privilege because you have constructed a zero-sum game. > Thus i have privilege Everybody who is alive has some form of privilege. If you want…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/25 02:11 PM
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I have read this three times, and it does not compute. What are you actually trying to say? I am very comfortable with who I am. And I won't allow other people to reduce me to some blanket privilege, just because of some identity markers I carry. The whole privilege debate is extremely skewed, because on the one hand I pass as a white cis dude, on the other hand people tried to literally kill me for who I am. And instead of focusing on attempted murder, mobbing and hazing I have experienced due …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/25 01:42 PM
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Yes, bropill can be quite reasonable. I was simply appalled by the state the two OPs were in.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/25 01:04 PM
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You do not hurt women by taking yourself seriously. You have exactly the same right to bodily integrity, sexual self determination and good mental health as women. Take a minute or two and think how the feminists who criticize you for being here honestly help you with your issues. Spoiler: They don't. They want you to be their ally, but give nothing in return.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/01/25 11:20 AM
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In patriarchy? Certainly not. /s Just kidding.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/01/25 05:53 PM
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To be honest, you should also not feel guilty forever when you have personally messed up. But this is how it works: They eye you with suspicion and wait for your mistake. And then you have said or done something wrong, and now you are one of the bad guys. And why forgive, when you can control people through guilt forever?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/01/25 05:26 PM
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Oh yes, this is terrible. And it is a regular occurrence: https://www.reddit.com/r/bropill/comments/1hb1wk7/im_struggling_with_male_guilt/ https://www.reddit.com/r/bropill/comments/1hdjgiu/why_do_i_feel_male_guilt/ Why swallow an ideology that gives you bad mental health? Just decenter this bullshit and live a happy life.
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/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/12/24 05:36 PM
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I believe feminists misunderstand what „patriarchy“ means for men. Traditionally men have been forced to operate in hierarchies: the military, the government, the factory. Their traditional gender role of stoicism and enduring adversity was designed to make them functioning in these harsh environments. But here is the catch: although all men were forced to operate in these hierarchies, very few came out on top. We only needed that many CEOs, presidents and generals. It is questionable whether me…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/12/24 05:30 PM
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Just to add, there was a similar thread a few month ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates/comments/1envl4r/industries_dominated_by_women_other_industries/
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/12/24 01:41 PM
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I thought about it, and there is one more answer: > why do so many of you still hold to some kind of gender equality/equity? Because I am fed up with violence and struggle. A fair, agreeable, offer of equality is the best we can do. The terrible thing is, that some people, including you, want more and do not believe in equality. Either because they are right wing and believe in fixed, innate difference. Or because they are far left and postpone equality until you have radically changed society t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/12/24 12:04 PM
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> If you’re very attractive or gay then idk what you’re doing here; go enjoy not having to worry about this I guess It does not matter, whether I am attractive or gay. I am a man. Better yet: I have decided to live as a man. And I worry every day about the way I am treated as a man, the violence I have to endure, and the lack of support I receive because of my gender. I demand survival for men, compassion and solidarity.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/12/24 07:34 AM
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I am in favor of my sexual liberation. I can do it straight, or queer, vanilla, or kinky, alone, or in groups, monogamous or poly. And my partner deserves the same rights. I am not going to be controlled by your forced heterosexual monogamy.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/12/24 12:36 AM
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Dude, you are really deep in that hole. I had to look up PSL mogger, and apparently it is pickup / incel slang for being attractive, having maxxed out proportion, size, lineation. Maybe find a partner who values more than your facial bone structure. They often look for different qualities.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/12/24 12:11 AM
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Do you also want to enslave other identity groups?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/12/24 11:58 PM
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You don‘t want to harm women, except take their sexual self determination, and forcefully pair mate them? Is that your solution to inceldom?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/12/24 11:11 PM
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Wow, just wow. Your post is the worst possible outcome of gender relations. Women faction against men, men faction against women. There are no shared values, no common interest, just warfare. Interestingly, the radical feminists truly believe there is a gender war going on for millennia, against which they produce counterpower. So their ethics is, just like the commies, that they are the (historically) oppressed, and have a right to violence / prison / the gulag against their perceived enemies. …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/12/24 09:20 PM
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Avoid the military at all costs. They try to break you, and it is not a safe place, even in peacetime.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/24 10:41 AM
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There is a famous debate between her and Alice Schwarzer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m6OWA80zUkk Esther Vilar received so much hate after that, and even got beat up by four women, that she had to leave Germany.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/24 10:34 AM
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The feminist narcissist prayer regarding misandry: That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did, you deserved it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/12/24 09:52 AM
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Ok, this is a cesspit, and pretty disgusting. Honestly I am happy I don‘t hang out in those online spaces too much. I is really weird, full of self proclaimed libertarian socialist anarcho communist thisandthat weirdo edgelords. I would suggest joining the real life instead.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/11/24 10:17 PM
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Could you elaborate on that?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/11/24 08:46 PM
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Sorry to hear that, it certainly is prejudice. Do the crazies really call for North Korea to invade? Do you have a link or quote for that?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/11/24 07:17 PM
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I once posted this regarding „male service objectification“. Spoiler: women demand it more. https://www.reddit.com/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates/s/UAk7Fcgnjj
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/11/24 05:27 PM
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To be fair not every self avowed feminist suffers from misandry. But what I wrote was the perceived consensus when I was active in the leftist scene, in Vienna, ten years ago. The hostility towards mens groups outside feminist dogma was pervasive.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/11/24 08:07 PM
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Yes, they feel at home being a protector for poor, weak women.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/11/24 09:06 AM
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This is so true. Even conservatives despise male abusers. It does not mean it does not happen, but everybody, except Andrew Tate, thinks it is wrong to hit your partner, especially female partners.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/11/24 05:05 PM
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I don't know, I don't follow it closely. Do you have a link?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/11/24 05:01 PM
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I am not sure. The German speaking sceptic scene is quite critical of wokeness https://youtu.be/O0175evT7Wo?si=2BvKWAnIY4vwEi1y
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/11/24 02:59 PM
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Is this the norm, when men try to support each other? Yes. The feminists I know have always been against mens groups, they say most become antifeminist. And the profeminist mens group I once went to, had feminists come by, check on the men, and scold them for not working hard enough on their sexism.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/11/24 11:10 AM
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They started talking about arming themselves lately.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/11/24 01:17 PM
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Thanks, I am doing great, currently getting my second masters, maybe doing a PhD.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/11/24 08:21 PM
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More positive role models for men. Yesterday I was thinking about being child free and was searching for documentaries on Youtube. It was all „These female artists are strong and childfree“ or „These five independent women talk about being childfree“. Also I often see these really inspiring biographies of women, that get cheered on and pushed, I rarely see men being celebrated for being men. One of my biggest inspirations ended up being a women, Alyn Saks, but I really lack gender specific role …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/11/24 07:27 PM
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The dated and conservative idea, that women are more emotional and fragile, and therefore need to be protected and provided for by men. These seemingly benevolent attitudes are empirically often correlated to hostile forms of sexism. Some men exhibit benevolent sexism towards women who fulfil traditional gender roles, and punish women who don't fit into traditional gender roles with hostile sexism.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/11/24 09:13 PM
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They don't care about the violence men have to endure. And since it happens "within the other faction" they have nothing to do with it, and could not care less.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/11/24 08:12 PM
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She is simply wrong when she claims that feminism does not take anything from men. When they can they take quite a lot. The green student union in Austria has a 100% women’s quota for leadership positions. They have effectively taken passive voter rights from men, and those women often go to parliament, so it is not nothing. They also introduced a safe space during debates, where men can collectively be kicked out of the discussion when they feel feminism looses control, effectively undermining …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/10/24 09:11 PM
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Unsurprisingly, as I said, the liberals https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/NEOS_(Austria)
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/10/24 09:46 PM
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Liberals are basically the same socially as the left. It is a very distinct movement built around equality, universal human rights and personal freedom. There is a stark difference between Rawls, Kymlicka, newer Fukuyama and Dworkin, Butler, Bell Hooks. For example, being trans or lesbian is an expression of your sexual self determination, but not a struggle against patriarchy / heteronormativity. It might look the same on the surface, but has very different justifications.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/10/24 09:49 AM
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Anyone else feel conflicted about voting left due to how dismissive and condescending the discourse on men has become? Well, I don't vote left (as in partial identity politics) any more, I vote liberal. So there is that.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/10/24 09:38 AM
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You honestly think conservatives want to help men and male victims? They say you have to deal with this on your own, and it‘s your fault.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/10/24 09:09 AM
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I think in the end the feminists pulled the fire alarm to prevent Warren Farrel from speaking.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/09/24 08:27 AM
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And housework (cooking, cleaning, laundry, childcare) is valued at $30k-$40k/year in the US on average. There are crazy calculations out there about housework being worth up to a 100k, because it includes a private chef, private chaffeur, private butler. To be honest I am OK with frozen pizza for 3 Euro and some vegetables. And my cleaning lady costs 100 Euro a month. My work as a mechanic and handyman is probably harder to replace.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/09/24 10:40 PM
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Must be your prejudice. I actually vote liberal / center-left, and not right wing.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/09/24 08:39 AM
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It is a weird thing, first feminism undertakes great efforts to push men away. Then they criticize men even harder for not being a part of feminism. I would personally just turn away from the shitshow and do my own thing, preferably in community with like minded individuals. It is better for my mental health.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/09/24 03:05 PM
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Wow, just wow. This is highly unethical. You go to a counselor, tell her about some wrong allegations 10 years ago, and she proceeds to harm you under the guise of (political) psychiatry: That same day, Andersen left numerous messages for John’s psychiatrist, Dr. Silverman, including a voice mail message asking if Dr. Silverman had decided to move forward with “involuntary hospitalization.” Silveri asked Dr. Silverman if he could write a letter stating that John was “unfit” for dental school.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/09/24 05:20 PM
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Biphobic people always believe that a bi partner will cheat or are/were overly promiscuous I think this is the biggest point. They somehow believe you have to satisfy "both sides" and will cheat, or they will never be enough as a woman. Also they might fear you are a "pervert", and one day they will come home early and find you in their stockings and skirt, with your dick in your hand. I was surprised of some of the reactions when women on okcupid found out I had sex with men. It was fear, and t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/09/24 07:20 AM
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Where did you get those numbers from? From what I have seen, such phenomenon only applies to a handful of US cities. Some studies even claim the 'pay gap" is "getting worse". I stand corrected, the study I saw was about NYC. In general single women earn about 10% less than single men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/08/24 05:28 PM
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If you look at the statistics single women are doing better than single men. They earn two thirds of college degrees, and unmarried childless women earn more than their male counterparts. So yes, you do not have to pay half your income to see your kids every other weekend, but it is not like men are the winners currently.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/08/24 02:17 PM
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Well written. I too see a lot of men opting out. As a single women you would be regarded as the strong powerful independent woman. As a man you are viewed more as the sad incel archetype.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/08/24 07:40 AM
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/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/08/24 07:34 AM
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Sorry, I have no clue. There might be better countries and worse.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/08/24 02:10 AM
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Congratulations on being a granddad! I am pretty busy myself. Working, studying, travel, have a partner, some friends. Personally I am pretty good, for me a men's group would be more about giving and having community.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/08/24 01:51 PM
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Hey u/Blauwpetje I thought you started something like this in NL? Starting groups is hard, luckily I have some good friends in Vienna who are aligned with my views.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/08/24 01:26 PM
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Sorry, I can barely understand what you are trying to say. But there is one thing that is important to me Humans aren‘t equal by default But they have equal value, equal dignity and equal rights. That is what most people understand when you say equality. And the dictatorship of the proletariat barely qualifies as giving people equal rights and value, so much for Lenin being egalitarian. Also feminists trying to abolish due process for men certainly don‘t want equality.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/08/24 09:15 PM
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I try to show the connection between the partial aspects of feminism and Leninism. If you read Sandra Harding on Standpoint Epistemology she does not mention this, but it is there, it is their dirty secret. The Feminist arguments on standpoint and Epistemic Advantage are strikingly similar to what you can see in your orthodox Marxist group. It is a homomorphism / has the same structure. This is important to me, because it is what lead to injustices both in Leninism and Feminism. It is the anti-u…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/08/24 08:19 PM
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I am talking about History of Ideas. By now it is even on (German) Wikipedia: https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Standpunkt-Theorie#Hegels_Standpunkttheorie It starts with Hegel and the Master Servant Dialectic, goes to Marx with Class Struggle / Standpoint, Lenin's Principle of Partiality (https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prinzip\_der\_Parteilichkeit) then ends up in Feminism, Anti-Colonialism, and Critical Whiteness. This is actually not very surprising if you look where Second Wave Feminism comes fro…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/08/24 05:03 PM
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You mean whether BLM and the LGBT movement have a partial standpoint epistemology based on Marxism? Do they give epistemic advantage to their in-group and want to build counterpower against their opponents? BLM yes through critical whiteness. The BLM founders themselves called themselves trained Marxists. The LGBT movement, not necessarily. They critique heteronormativity, but by large want personal freedom and not control over their political opponent, which is compatible with Liberalism.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/08/24 06:47 AM
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Of course it is crap to have to go through this. And a lot is caused by physical, social, emotional, sexual violence. So you have been victimized on top, or better as a cause. The funny thing is, life was extremely hard back then. For years I had a small backpack with necessities ready for the case I had to go to a hospital before I kill myself. But now it is easy, and I don't feel the need to stay strong. I work, study, travel, have a partner, nice house, lots of friends. It was kind of a revel…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/08/24 08:21 AM
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Honestly, I am doing great. 10 years ago was rough though. A lot of depression, PTSD, self harm, psychosis and addiction. You can treat this though.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/08/24 06:54 AM
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Can I ask you why you hang out with people like that? Does not sound like a welcoming or inclusive community to me.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/08/24 08:43 AM
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Oh, neurodivergent men tend to be canceled and shunned at high rates in the leftist scene. They simply misread people or social rules, and that can have drastic consequences in feminism.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/08/24 09:42 PM
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Sadly it is basic social competence as a man to deal with being seen as a threat. If you can not integrate that, and are extra careful, you will involuntarily be seen as a threat.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/08/24 09:24 AM
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So by their logic, when men win at something it's capitalism, corruption, and domination. But women winning is somehow egalitarianism and progressivism. This is not only their argument, this is also their social practice. It is draining and toxic af, which they actually intend it to be, why not demotivate your perceived enemies?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/08/24 05:58 PM
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Pretty speculative argument. Yes, more men are in the trades, which pay well. But most drop out of high school or college to become NEETs, not apprentices.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/08/24 05:01 PM
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I don‘t try to fix her feminism, it is largely ok. I kind of try to fix her PTSD by providing a safe space, since she is coming out of an abusive relationship.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/08/24 02:40 PM
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Might be. It is also more accessible and higher status. I personally prefer the engineering because I would not like to manage people and relationships all day.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/08/24 01:23 PM
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That is a common strategy for feminists, they go into management and HR and imbue their values into the company while men can do the grunt work of engineering.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/08/24 10:54 AM
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Also I doubt men get cheered when they say "it is all about strong men dominating an industry" All about girl power over here, for strong women dominating in engineering :) https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1dzl19g/comment/lcgujhe/
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/08/24 10:02 AM
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When flatsharing I have often experienced that more mainstream women expect me to do the traditional male jobs of fixing leaky pipes in their bathroom or their bicycle tires. They come to me and ask for help, I explain to them how it works, they look at me with big eyes, I explain it again, they continue looking, in the end I do it for them. I have also experienced the opposite though, especially when it comes to feminists wanting to enter tech. They want to learn, which is a good thing, they wa…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/08/24 09:36 AM
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Well if people start calling other people c*nts and turds that is a bit much. I really do not want to have a group like that. Just because this is a place to debate misandry and male advocacy does not imply hateful speech, especially sexualized hateful speech. First of all it is crude and off putting, second it is misogynistic and undermines our movement. This is why you need to police it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/08/24 10:41 PM
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Maybe you can voice your concerns without calling people c*nts. Also what is this "great divorce" going to be like?
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/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/08/24 11:43 AM
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Surprise, feminism always has a female perspective and standpoint, regardless wether it impacts men more.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/07/24 09:52 PM
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To be fair, not being hurt by their hate and misandry would be a good first step as well.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/07/24 06:58 AM
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This is so true. How my feminist friends always try to take my achievements from me. „Yes, you got that degree, but have you ever thought about your PriViLEge?“
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/07/24 06:55 AM
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That was actually my sarcastic reply. I got reported and banned for it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/07/24 08:14 AM
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Exacly, one sided adoption and safe haven by the mother clearly indicate it is not about bodily autonomy but forcing men while letting women off the hook.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/07/24 06:58 PM
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It is even worse. A mother can use a baby hatch without consent of the father, the other way round is illegal. So you only have obligations but no rights, even when no uterus is involved any more.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/07/24 05:06 PM
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Thanks, it is not that bad, luckily nothing happened since she had fertility issues. And a few years ago I got sterilized, so I am on the safe side.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/07/24 04:59 PM
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Well, this is why we need paper abortions. The problem is society thinks men "need to take responsibility" for their actions, also known as hyperagency, whereas women are let off the hook, also known as hypoagency. I once told a feminist about my reproductive rape, my partner secretly quitting the pill, and why it would be unfair to pay in this case. Her comment was to choose my partner more wisely. So yes, it is an uphill battle to get equal rights.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/07/24 03:43 PM
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Judging from OPs post history he is from Calgary. And a lot of those student fraternities are very right leaning to openly fascist.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/07/24 12:32 PM
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Kind of difficult. Personally I am OK socially, I have a long term partner, go for dinner with (former) colleagues, have friends at university, but I work and study tech so it is male dominated. I had to avoid some student unions at university because the feminists tended to be extra rude to me, but made a lot of friends elsewhere. I do not care too much about people being male advocates, though it helps. Actually, one of my best friends at university is female and a Jehovah's Witness, which is …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/07/24 09:25 AM
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Most feminists are very clear, that this is not a reciprocal relationship. Maybe bottom is the better term for what they want.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/07/24 10:39 AM
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Benevolent sexism and a lot of entitlement. In practice also a lot of classism and racism, I guess homeless people and black dudes need to keep extra distance, so people don't feel uncomfortable.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/07/24 08:34 AM
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By now I would consider myself a traitor to feminism. It really took me years to let go of my profeminist identity, but it is so much healthier, and I can finally live my life the way it is best for me. What was so tiring for me were the constant demands of allyhood, the constant mistrust and suspicion, and despite all this never really belonging anyway. Actually the demands of feminism for cishet men only work out if you are extremely strong, have zero issues, and don't mind constantly giving w…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/07/24 06:52 PM
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I am sorry you feel hurt or alone, but I personally feel more validated by OPs post. Trans mens experience a really important part in the puzzle to see how men live.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/07/24 04:06 PM
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Hey, thanks for sharing, you made some very valid points a lot of people here can relate to. Actually I have seen quite a few trans men experiencing what you experience: That this „male privilege“ does not feel quite the way feminism think it is. I am a cis dude, so I can not give you more insight into your experience. What I can say though, is that I personally can avoid misandry by large when I choose my friends wisely. I hope you find a nice college and life a successful life!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/07/24 03:49 PM
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A friend of mine is schizophrenic. During an episode he was wandering through suburbia mumbling to himself and acting weird. The neighbors called the cops claiming he was harassing women. He got arrested and even went to court for it. They used these accusations as a weapon against the mentally ill.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/07/24 06:40 AM
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Oh sure, my Serbian colleague also seems a bit nationalistic at times. But companies with a right wing boss don't employ that many immigrants.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/07/24 07:12 AM
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BTW https://www.cbsnews.com/news/woman-killed-by-bear-romania-authorizes-culling-nearly-500-animals/
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/24 10:22 PM
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It is about how people feel nowadays. And your comment makes me FEEL uncomfortable. So you get CANCELED.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/24 06:25 PM
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That is a pretty stable result. Lesbian relationships are the most violent, gay relationships the least violent.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/24 08:20 AM
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Congratulations.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/07/24 09:23 AM
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Slogans like from the river to the sea might land you in jail in Germany. Hamas is considered a terrorist organisation by the EU and it is illegal to promote them. It is not only the state, the left is largely pro Israel by now and considers Hamas islamic fascists. At least people who publish or read stuff like this https://www-querverlag-de.translate.goog/freiheit-ist-keine-metapher/?_x_tr_sl=en&_x_tr_tl=it&_x_tr_hl=de&_x_tr_pto=wapp
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/07/24 06:55 PM
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Can somebody explain the comic to me or has an archive link? It is not accessible any more.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/07/24 06:51 PM
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Around me yes 🤣
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/07/24 10:06 PM
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Well, the boss seemed to be a social democrat. They know I vote liberal, but do not care too much. Some vote green, and that is ok as well. I guess being on the far right would cause issues since half the company is from the balkans.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/07/24 01:49 PM
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I am from Vienna, work in tech, and I do not see this. Some of my colleagues are even male advocats. On top no one has my reddit account. And I only add people to facebook once I quit the company.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/07/24 12:32 PM
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I am in my mid forties, just this weekend a 23 year old woman was flirting relentlessly with me in the club, hugging and cheek kissing. And she started it. And it is not completely uncommon to get this kind of sexual attention from younger women. And to be honest, they are not stupid, they know what they are doing, they simply value experience and skills, that is why they do it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/07/24 10:04 AM
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Not long ago TwoX was celebrating the "men shortage" (sic!) in ukraine because it gives women the opportunity to finally work as cab drivers.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/07/24 06:09 PM
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I think it is weird how support for men is often linked to them being a threat to themselves and others. You take a bunch of criminal men, put them in the woods over the weekend and they will not harm themselves and others any more. Also in Vienna, the official mens counseling is also for offenders who have been court ordered to attend therapy. Maybe it is about men not being harmed and not suffering any more. Maybe they are human and have inherent value.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/24 09:43 AM
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Yes, it happens. Don't know why the English decided to give us that name.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/06/24 11:43 AM
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Here it is the statistic: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homicide_statistics_by_gender In most Latin American countries 90% of the victims are men. In Austria, not Australia, 43% are male.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/06/24 11:07 AM
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It very much depends on the country you live in. I have had another female traveler tell me in Colombia that they need to be extra careful because she is a woman in Colombia. Then I googled the murder statistics and men are ten times as likely to get murdered than women. Where I actually live, Austria, slightly more women get murdered, and indeed often through intimate partner violence.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/06/24 08:47 AM
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Great, you made it and gained independence.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/06/24 03:49 PM
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I am sorry, being homeless as a minor is rough. Did you manage to overcome it?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/06/24 01:12 PM
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Oh, my therapist back then offered a psychodrama group therapy as well, which I took. My current therapist was her co-therapist in the group. It was luck, I had not planned for it. I would get diagnosed and then specifically work the diagnosis. If there is no progress or clear plan in half a year r a year I would switch. It is hard to judge the competence of your therapist if it is your first one though.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/06/24 07:41 AM
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I saw this video a few months ago and have to agree. Ten years ago I had a female therapist, she was not exactly bad, but she focused a lot on giving me compassion, telling me that what happened is terrible, talking about feelings. I might have needed this emotional validation and stabilization in the very beginning, but it quickly went nowhere. I then met my current male therapist in a group setting with my initial therapist and switched sides. One of the best decisions in my life. He is calm, …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/06/24 07:18 AM
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This is it, violence against men is so normalized they do not really see it. Add in a bit of benevolent sexism and men do not see how they are victimized by women. And traditional gender roles make it harder for men to talk about their victimization. It took me a lot of time and distance to recognize my abuse.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/24 07:04 AM
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/s is usually satire and sarcasm.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/06/24 06:47 AM
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Or simply click on the three dots next to the video and click „do not recommend again“
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/06/24 05:22 AM
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Seems like you are in a toxic environment and that exacerbates your depression. Maybe think how you can use the skills you gain in college for the benefit of men. You can not change university or culture on your own, it is an uphill battle. But you can find allies and like minded individuals and connect with them. Also not every group is misandrist, there are plenty of left leaning and liberal spaces where men are valued. Try to find them or create them.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/06/24 07:36 AM
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Classic empathy gap. Men do get punished harder and receive less help than women.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/06/24 07:32 AM
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The problem is, that identity politics is actually a Marxist / Leninist concept. They where the first to introduce standpoint theory and partiality. Feminist epistemology is heavily inspired by this. The german wikipedia is clearer on this than the english version: https://de-m-wikipedia-org.translate.goog/wiki/Standpunkt-Theorie?_x_tr_sl=fr&_x_tr_tl=en&_x_tr_hl=de&_x_tr_pto=wapp https://de-m-wikipedia-org.translate.goog/wiki/Prinzip_der_Parteilichkeit?_x_tr_sl=fr&_x_tr_tl=en&_x_tr_hl=de&_x_tr_p…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/06/24 07:38 AM
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Well, I personally have moved more to the center. In my 20s I used to hang out a lot with Trotskists, Anarchists and Feminists and was pretty hard left myself, going squatting and to antifascist demonstrations. It is too stressful and violent for me, the police beat you, arrest you, come knocking on your door in the morning. In the end I developed quite severe mental health issues, PTSD, psychosis and addiction. I basically had to reconstruct my whole life and personality and chose to do this in…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/06/24 07:34 AM
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I just read an article how more and more African Americans are voting for Trump, how his sentencing might even lead to more support. But yes, in general they favor democrats. But there are also plenty of people who are not in the top 5% economically who think capitalism is great. An orthodox marxist might claim that they simply lack class consciousness and need to become a class per se. I actually think this is lacking, people might simply not work like your theory predicts.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/06/24 07:21 AM
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I thought men where supposed to help themselves? Seriously, the criticism is wrong because it assumes a zero sum game, but all people deserve the same protection from violence regardless of gender. And on top there is the whole conflict tactic scale research which clearly indicate men become victims quite often as well. If anything there must be more awareness how men become victims. Indirectly this also helps women, because men need to quit normalizing violence, but for this they need to see ho…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/06/24 08:27 PM
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You mean they come up with a new racist and antisemitic conspiracy theory?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/06/24 08:11 PM
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Yes, but people felt uncomfortable, that is a fact /s
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/06/24 06:11 PM
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That‘s the google translate of the linked article.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/06/24 04:44 PM
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Some dude trauma dumped by talking about his depression and also mansplained. That made people feel uncomfortable and they canceled him.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/06/24 04:28 PM
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Oh sure, it is a whole tradition dating back to Soviet times: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dedovshchina It gets pretty bad: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beating_of_Andrey_Sychyov
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/06/24 03:20 PM
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OK, you are a victim, damaged and in a shitty situation. But I can't help but chuckle a bit. I know this stuff personally, even if not so extreme. I have had the more or less subtle "rich white cis dude" treatment from both the scene and relationships. The "there is no equality in patriarchy" screaming as a justification of abusive behaviour and control. It is toxic AF. They think it is politically correct, but in the end they think your damage and suffering is politically correct. Deep down tho…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/06/24 08:20 AM
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Honestly, don't be stupid, get diagnosed, get treated. I had to learn this the hard way, but by now I have a full mental health evaluation every five years. You need to know what you treat in order to choose treatment and measure progress. It really works if you do it right. Yes, it takes some time and experience to find a good psychiatrist and therapist, but simply try two or three and see what fits and is productive.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/06/24 10:33 AM
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I too think it is simple competition. Nobody really demands of men to show compassion or solidarity with other men. Neither tradcons nor feminists think men should support other men. And the places where men support other men are at best highly selective career networks for the elites that average men have no access to like Cartellverband https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cartellverband and at worst a bunch of fascist that duel each other for honor https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Burschenschaft Fe…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/06/24 10:21 AM
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This is in line with studies showing that women tend to use more social and psychological violence than men. Studies show that men and women have the same level of aggressive and violent feelings, they just express them differently.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/05/24 09:19 AM
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Come on, feminists protecting men from other feminists. Seems like you switched sides /s
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/05/24 04:16 PM
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Yes, of course they exist. My partner is a feminist and fully acknowledges mens disadvantages in education and mental health. She is also compassionate with male victims of sexual violence. She also has men she respects and is not hostile to masculinity per se. Unsurprisingly she sometimes got criticized by her feminist sisters for „being too nice to men“, which is the real problem. The misandrists and radicals control the scene, and you just need a handful of them to make it toxic as a whole.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/05/24 11:26 AM
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Oh, I just looked it up on wikipedia, you are correct. For some reason I always thought of them as center right.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/05/24 06:19 AM
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El Pais is a reputable source and the leading conservative newspaper in Spain.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/05/24 05:18 AM
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Well the conservatives and right wing nationalists want to register the foundation as charitable. But their socialist predecessor already registered it as an association. The politicians argue that they have to register it when then foundation applies and fulfills the legal requirements. The foundation itself says it has no political sympathies.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/05/24 05:14 AM
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I was severely confused about how many feminists saw their activism and men. I always thought that they specialized in womens issues, or that that was their focus much they same way some people are mechanical engineers and some electrical. Or I thought they are egalitarian and simply see women disadvantaged in patriarchy, and therefore focus on women. Or I thought they think identity groups need to stand up for themselves and men simply need to do the same without the help of women. But this is …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/05/24 11:33 AM
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explicitly say yes, if you don‘t it is rape This is not how I understand yes means yes. It is more secure and defensive than no means no, because it prevents people from freezing or being afraid and then saying nothing while they don‘t enjoy it. But rape is penetration against your will, against your interest, it is damaging to you. Consent is a boundary to protect you from this damage, because healthy people will not consent to things that are damaging and unpleasurable to them. But of course y…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/05/24 08:29 AM
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I do a mix of both yes means yes, and no means no. Explicit verbal consent is easy when I don‘t know people well. You just met, and I ask „do you want a hug“. Or I would extend my arms and let them come to me. Or you talk about your desires and how you want it and like it. You can prenegotiate hard boundaries and what you are into and what is ok without asking. Also before penetrative sex you always need to have the STD and contraception talk, so there is clear verbal consent. In an established …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/05/24 08:19 AM
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It heavily depends. I am at the end of a master in Data Science, so actually I am supposed to be an expert on statistical analysis and experiment design, but I would not feel ready to do independent quantitative research. On top I am lacking the domain knowledge. Your best bet, like u/Puzzleheaded_Pea_889 said, is to find somebody to collaborate with. But then you need to know what you bring to the table. For example my partner is a philosopher with extensive publications. We plan to co-author a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/05/24 06:19 AM
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Ok, I was expecting a ban, but deletion it is.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/05/24 03:43 PM
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Did I miss something? I still see my comments.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/05/24 02:42 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/zmvYzWhx6L
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/05/24 10:20 AM
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Well he presents rapists and pimps as role models, what about that?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/05/24 08:52 AM
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BTW I just viewed that video, and it is from a Tate loving, western civilization is in decline, the elites manipulate us right wing guy. Do you really need to use sources like that?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/05/24 08:22 AM
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TwoX thinks otherwise. Right now they are celebrating Ukrainian men dying in the trenches, because the resulting „men shortage“ (sic!) gives women the opportunity to work as truck drivers. Also they explicitly stated that men are expendable because they can not give birth, and are therefore not needed for the reconstruction of society after the war. Also they are arguing it is actually mens fault when they die because Putin is male and started the war. Suffice to say I get downvoted to hell. Ple…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/05/24 07:41 AM
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Try reading sociology / anthropology of science. It is basically contested how consensus / truth in science works, and if there ever was something like reason and truth at work, or if it is mostly contingent social consensus, trends and power. I personally imagine the humanities to work more like politics.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/05/24 08:07 PM
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All the info is there, but finding it and making sense of it is an enormous amount of work This enormous work is called science.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/05/24 10:45 AM
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Ok, you are upset with their sloppy quotes, critique of postmodernism (which you endorse?), their endorsement of liberalism (which you don’t share?), and lack of critique of the post truth qanon right. I am ok with this criticism. But there is no unreconcilable gap between postmodernist epistemology and a liberal polity. In fact the former can be a justification for the latter.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/05/24 10:20 AM
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This space helps me to keep my sanity. It allows me to exist openly and think and speak. It is incredibly helpful for me and my survival in this world.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/05/24 06:58 AM
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Don‘t use ChatGPT for literature search, it is mostly made up stuff. If you just want to skim it you can download it from Annas Archive. I read it a few years ago, it is in my memory a good overview but more political than science. To be honest to really criticize a discipline whether this is psychology or gender studies, you need to be a part of it and an expert. Everybody else has to make do with secondary literature like Pluckrose.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/05/24 09:27 PM
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Read Helen Pluckrose "Cynical Theories" for a liberal universalist account of what is wrong with academia. Edit: If you read German Sasa Vukadinovic has edited a great anthology called „Freiheit ist keine Metapher“ which takes a more leftist ideologiekritischen approach. And that is proper political science.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/05/24 06:04 PM
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I have often had feminist tell me „nobody forced you to have sex, it is your choice, your responsibility“, even in cases of reproductive rape. Oh, and how they scream when pro lifers make this argument for women.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/05/24 07:38 AM
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I believe that you have to make moral arguments on the surface like „protect women from evil men“ because this is politically and socially accepted. If you said „punish men extra hard for every mistake because I hate them“ this would be unethical. It is a bit like „clever racists“. They really don‘t like immigrants, but they have learned that you can not openly abuse people for being immigrants and call them racist slurs in public. Therefore you wait for some mistake, something ambiguous at leas…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/05/24 07:11 AM
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I do not believe all feminists or most feminists make wrong accusations. There is a minority of people who are highly power hungry and unethical. Maybe those people do even get off hurting other people. The problem is the power "believe all women - we don't need evidence" gives to these psychopaths. Of course total power without accountability gets misused and corrupted. There is a reason why people invented due process and universal rights.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/05/24 06:43 AM
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I think it is normal for some women to feel satisfied when men are scared of them.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/05/24 06:42 AM
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Wow, this is severe and extremely victim blaming. I am sorry you had to go through this.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/05/24 06:12 AM
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They think they are strengthening their relationships by talking about problems and supporting each other. It is a way to signal closeness and openness. Also it is a way of gaining social control by means of gossiping who said and did what.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/05/24 06:10 AM
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Wait, are you trying to say there is a double standard in feminism? Edit: Since I got an upset reply, please let me add a /s
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/05/24 09:41 AM
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People saying they want men to survive and flourish, I mean that is very nice to hear, and you do not hear that very often. On the other hand I am personally done. I survived despite family, society and feminism, and I am going to keep it that way. I am flourishing despite the odds, and I am willing to help other men achieve the same. I personally don‘t need some semi inspirational videos by women having compassion with men any more.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/05/24 06:00 PM
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Yes, but it is also the more patriarchal society, so it balances out
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/05/24 03:53 PM
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I just read the essay, it‘s a good one. Reminds me of my punky street kid times. The police would always stop and frisk me, people would change sides of the street or run from me. I once told a feminist about one of the women who got spooked by me, and she got angry at me for freaking her out.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/05/24 01:47 PM
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The reason I prefer meeting Humans to Bears in the woods They don‘t eat you alive while you make phone calls to your mom begging for help. https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2026914/Mum-bear-eating--Final-phone-calls-woman-19-eaten-alive-brown-bear-cubs.html
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/05/24 12:16 PM
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Yes, sure, that's why it worked out so badly. It is also why I am sure this won't happen again. I'd simply go on benefits or into care. And I am also able to use the legal system to defend myself.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/05/24 12:36 AM
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My daddy was pretty abusive and regularly beat the shit out of me and my mother since I was six years old. So when I was 16 I started to hang out on the streets and did not go home until midnight when my parents where asleep. My nazi grandma told my mother to not give me any money and said „he will come when he is hungry“. I did not want to go home despite the hunger and lost a lot of weight, in the end I weighed in at barely over 50kg at a size of 1.85m. I somehow managed to scrape by living of…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/05/24 10:06 AM
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This is how they started it. Sitting together, thinking and talking about their life. On top of that I do not have a good political network, so it is kind of hard to project power. And it is too dangerous, they just mob and cancel you.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/05/24 02:34 PM
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It depends what your project looks like, activism, especially confrontational one can be criminalized easily. I personally do no see the space for confrontational activism, misandry is way too embedded in society and feminism everywhere from academia to social work. You can not win an open fight with them, they are too strong and started organizing 60 years earlier. Men are behind and in a weak position. What is actually interesting for me is starting a mens group that is a mixture of self help …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/05/24 01:29 PM
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People in Europe do not accept dangerous animals. Basically everywhere you go are humans, farming and logging. Bears and wolfs where actually extinct in central Europe and only made a comeback in the last decades. And it causes issues https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/jul/14/brown-bear-jj4-killed-jogger-granted-reprieve-italian-court https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bear_JJ1
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/05/24 01:05 PM
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I read that as well. I often go hiking and camping in the alps and there are wolfs, bears and boars. Of course I am more afraid of wild animals. Some bears had to get shot because they started stealing from humans and are not afraid any more. The only people at nights in the woods are runners, hikers and climbers. They mind their own business and say hello or have a quick chat, then move on. Of course camping at a train station can be sketchy because of the junkies and homeless. But people in th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/05/24 09:08 AM
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Well, as a cis man my traumatic experiences too have often been minimized, neglected and ridiculed. My problem also was that I identified as a staunch leftist and pro-feminist, and that drew me to spaces and people that had a strong partial, pro women, anti egalitarian and misandrist touch. I took me quite a while to find a good psychiatrist (female) and therapist (male), both of which are liberal in a european sense, egalitarian and sex positive. It also took me some learning be less female cen…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/04/24 10:01 AM
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I currently do my second Masters, this time in Data Science. Before that it was Business Informatics. Have worked as a fullstack dev before, will work as an ML engineer, maybe a data engineer.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/04/24 10:57 AM
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Hugo Schwyzer, but he is a poor dude.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/04/24 08:06 AM
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On the other hand they are against paper abortions.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/04/24 08:39 AM
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It is not only the implicitly ethnically purifying critic of „cultural appropriation“ that has parallels to right wings conceptions of ethnic pluralism, Thunberg is also an authoritarian antisemite. I don‘t go there.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/04/24 05:14 PM
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My first impression is that this is ragebait as well.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/04/24 11:19 AM
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You forgot the reproductive rape. Once upon a time my ex secretly quit taking the pill, although I always clearly insisted to be childfree. Luckily it did not work out since she had endometriosis and was infertile. But if she had got pregnant there would have been nothing I could do except pay for the next 20 years. This would have completely destroyed my life, since I was only 20 and had not even gone to college. Her feminist friends from her womens group knew about this. Only one spoke private…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/04/24 09:22 AM
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When I was a physically and sexually abused punky street kid with dirty clothes and grimy hair a lot of women would change sides of the sidewalk at night because they thought I was a criminal and not a victim. I have had feminists shame me for this, because „I made women afraid“.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/03/24 02:32 PM
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Sure, what are you? A manchild looking for a bangmaid? Quit whining and get to work! /s
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/03/24 06:32 AM
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Interesting post, thank you.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/03/24 05:58 AM
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Circumcision preventing STDs is a myth that been debunked years ago. Health benefits: Male circumcision can reduce a male’s chances of acquiring HIV by 50% to 60% during heterosexual contact with female partners with HIV, according to data from three clinical trials. Circumcised men compared with uncircumcised men have also been shown in clinical trials to be less likely to acquire new infections with syphilis (by 42%), genital ulcer disease (by 48%), genital herpes (by 28% to 45%), and high-ris…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/03/24 06:57 PM
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It sounds like you've written a big post because you're equally out of balance but in the other direction. People definitely have strong opinions about circumcision. You are right, this is emotional for me, but not because of circumcision. I actually care little about that, except that I prefer it personally and got circumcised in my 30s, so I have an opinion. What is actually way closer to me are the bad mental health and the thought distortions. I have also been a NEET for a few years after co…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/03/24 06:49 PM
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Simply accepting an unpleasant situation is not always, well, simple. You have a different mental structure and value system, maybe for you it is easy to process. OP clearly articulates the need to vent in a safe space, maybe that's how he copes. Why can't this be the space for it. Oh, I wish this to be a safe space for OP. I was actually trying to help him. I also agree a political debate does not help OPs mental health. You are right, we should abstain from making this into an intactivism deba…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/03/24 02:45 PM
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Looks better? How can a scarred penis with a dried-out tip possibly look better than one that's intact? It does look better to me and to a lot of women I know. I regularly receive compliments. Do you somehow believe that forcing medically unnecessary genital cutting one someone ISN'T a sexual violation? I also wrote that further down: I would not circumcise my kids, and I understand that it is a violation of bodily integrity. Can I ask you why you use the term genital cutting? Would you also use…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/03/24 02:32 PM
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Look, I would not circumcize my kids, because they can make that decision later on their own. Also the history of circumcision in the US is one of conservative doctors promoting cleanliness and abstinence from masturbation. So I get why you criticize this. In Europe the whole intactivism activism has a bit of a racist taste because it is mostly muslims and jews who practice circumcision. And overall it is not a popular topic, because most people do not get circumcized by default. It is a bit lik…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/03/24 02:20 PM
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Well, this would lead to OPs continued suffering. His thoughts currently do lead to suffering, so maybe he should change that. There is nothing objectively wrong with OPs dick. Lots of people are happy with their circumcized dicks, and so can OP.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/03/24 11:21 AM
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OK, I just took 10 minutes to read your others posts regarding circumcision. I am sorry, but you have a full blown incel mindset. Instead of bemoaning your height, your wrists, your jawline, you bemoan your circumcised penis. You catastrophize and have severe cognitive distortion. Somewhere on the interwebs you have stumbled over women who prefer uncircumcized men and intactivism activists. This is severly distorted and bad for your mental health. There are plenty of women who prefer circumcized…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/03/24 08:14 AM
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My feminist partner too speaks fondly about feminist summer camps in the 80s where suddenly everybody turned lesbian. For some reason she just can‘t do it and is embarrassed by that. I usually mock her gently for her lack of sexual flexibility. She is not a misandrist though and generally likes men, which is far better than having a misandrist as a partner who, for some reason, dates men, but also thinks they are pigs and potential perps.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/03/24 03:46 PM
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I keep hearing this(and from liberal women) that they want men that make them feel SAFE. They all prefer to date men that already have an established career instead of young men who are still green. Some desire it yes, but a lot of people have an updated social contract in which both contribute financially. What is more important is that the traditional protector and provider is easy to replace. Just get alimony, child support, or social benefits. There, it is provided without the dude. Men must…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/03/24 05:09 PM
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I read and liked it. The point is he is liberal, so he is not opposed to liberal feminism. Women can choose their gender roles, marry and have kids or have a career. He supports female self determination. What he argues is that men have not kept up with the change feminism has started for women. Men need to adapt and renew their gender roles, the traditional provider and protector is largely irrelevant.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/03/24 09:46 AM
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Great, thanks.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/02/24 07:28 AM
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Who coined the slogan and advocated for male reduction to 10%? I can't find it through google.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/02/24 06:32 AM
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You certainly do have them, it's just that I am from Europe and don't know much about them. But yes, it is certainly hard to meet other radicals in the countryside, except you live in an intentional community. A quick google search brought this list: https://slingshotcollective.org/usa/
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/02/24 12:50 PM
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There are plenty of anarchist social centers all over Europe. Look at this for example https://cowley.club/about It is basically a self organized space with a bar, a library, an event space, a meeting room. Wikipedia also has an entry https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-managed_social_center With leisure / social pedagogics I mean stuff like this https://www.loginsleben.at/home.html It is basically a sports and mental health organization for disadvantaged people with drug / mental health issues o…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/02/24 09:58 AM
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I am sometimes wondering about the lack of social pedagogics for disadvantaged men. Say you lack social competence and confidence, you are isolated and lonely. School or college does not cut it because you are too far behind and weird, and nobody takes you into their friends group. The left often has social centers or infoshops where you can hang out, eat pizza and drink beer or have a debate. It is quite attractive and inclusive, but there is often no specific help for peoples problems. It is i…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/02/24 06:15 AM
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Might happen, but in general they employ more social and emotional violence than men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/02/24 06:08 PM
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These gentlemens clubs are the elite, your average dude does not profit from them.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/02/24 04:13 PM
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Egalitarian is probably perceived as code for right wing today. Imagine ‚All lifes matter‘. If you are not partisan with them you are against them.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/01/24 05:23 PM
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ChatGPT has the same problem, and is even more explicit about it: https://imgur.com/Q9rZDYH
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/01/24 02:39 PM
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I am sorry you feel unable to speak and are not believed. I hope this space here can give you some public existence.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/01/24 05:51 PM
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I agree, especially if you are disorganized and disoriented you need routines. It really lowers the mental load and allows you to achieve more. Personally I work in sprints, I set the goal for the next year or two, shut down doubts and plan-changes as good as I can, and make a routine towards the goals. Then after a year I evaluate and adapt and change. I really enjoy those off phases between two jobs, because I can think and plan more freely. I can go traveling, do meditation retreats, visit pe…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/01/24 03:37 PM
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I tend to disagree, you do not need to have a traditional lifestyle with traditional goals like having a family and waiting for retirement while paying the mortgage. You need some long term goals that align with your values. And you need to pursue them with endurance. Can be a business career, academia, arts, any field will do. But you need something that structures you and gives you meaning. I personally process a lot cognitively, and am not a fan of self help gurus. But there is meaningful stu…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/01/24 11:17 AM
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I am really sorry about your mother dying and you being lonely, this hurts. I would go off social media, or at least block all redpill, manosphere, incel content. You need to constantly click ‚not interested‘ to free your feed from this. Also forget about your druggy coworkers, stay clean and healthy. Drugs will exacerbate every mental health issue you have. Also try to find some positive people who like you and are willing to listen. Do not focus on finding a partner yet, you can not force this…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/01/24 07:09 PM
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Well, yes, I guess we can agree that lesbian separatism is not going to eradicate humanity. And they will also argue, that they will only exist as long as patriarchy makes it necessary. But if you are willing to live without a male partner you can shit on men all you want. And I would actually prefer them to stay out of my dating pool.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/01/24 06:42 PM
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Often gay dudes are simply lumped together with the rest as ‚cis men‘ and excluded from the movement and spaces.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/01/24 06:33 PM
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I believe the men here are not slaves of patriarchy, but critical of traditional gender roles. u/bluefootedpig even used the term ‚male disposability‘, which is a key term in that critique of patriarchal gender roles for men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/01/24 06:29 PM
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Well it is the partiality in the form of identity politics, that directly goes back to Lenin. Second wave feminism, to a certain degree, emerged out of those marxist groups in the 60s, so there is a direct lineage.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/01/24 06:26 PM
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To be fair some feminists are lesbian separatists, so they can hurt men all they want, it never reaches their community. But yes, heterosexual relationships need to benefit both genders equally, else it backfires.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/01/24 06:23 PM
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Seems to be connected to the mythopoetic mans movement. I personally think it is weird when people want to discover their inner warrior as their new identity. I mean where is the difference to traditional conceptions of masculinity, like military service, that are damaging to men?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/01/24 10:20 AM
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Male hyperagency is the idea that men are fully responsible for everything that happens to them and can influence it. This might come from feminism on the left, because men are privileged in patriarchy and have superior social power, or from the conservative right, because men need to be self reliant protectors. The counterpart would be female hypoagency, the idea that women are victims of circumstances and deserve help. Feminism clearly sees women as victims and deserving help and solidarity, b…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/12/23 03:54 PM
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Male hyperagency at its best.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/12/23 01:37 PM
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Well, the outcome from individual conceptions of masculinity can be positive or negative, both for the individual and wider society. I still believe though that men should define their masculinity how it suits themselves and how it is best for them, not feminism - a movement they can never be a part of anyway.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/12/23 01:53 PM
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A lot of men have experiences of false allegations. Simply trust their lived experience, at least that is what feminism claims for themselves.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/12/23 11:08 AM
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In my thirties I told my mother about my abuse as a teenage boy. She said she did not know this exists.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/12/23 11:03 AM
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“Our results do not support this assumption, indicating that even narcissistic men may find ways to exploit activism that is primarily oriented toward women’s rights.” I immediately had to think of Hugo Schwyzer.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/12/23 09:47 AM
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I got a vasectomy for these reasons. It is the only way to have reproductive rights as a male.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/12/23 02:55 PM
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I think it has partly to do with conservative benevolent sexism. Men are perceived a strong and competent, and need to protect and foster poor, weak, women. That spilled over into feminism and leads to more demands. I think the only demands women, or people for that matter, can have for other people is not to be harmed by them. This whole „You need to be my ally and support me“ thing simply wants to subjugate you to their ideology and make you their bottom.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/10/23 08:19 AM
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That is a great thing. It must feel like a refuge for a lot of men. Keep that going. I would also not mind having spaces that exclusively cater to the problems of young lonely men. Why not go hiking together, watch a documentary and debate it, have a supportive group talk about personal problems and life in general. Hell, why not support each other with coursework and college while you are at it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/09/23 01:42 AM
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Culture. It might be androcentric and you don't know it. That is not a reason to make it gynocentric though.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/09/23 10:11 PM
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