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frankb33/r/Divorce_Men26/07/21 09:30 AM
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frankb33/r/Divorce_Men14/05/23 07:04 PM
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frankb33/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 07:51 PM
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I’ve never had more clarity on relationships than I have in any point in my life. Although getting divorced was the absolute last thing I wanted, getting divorced has shown me not only how I viewed relationships but has also shown how society molds relationships. It’s allowed me to question so many things about life and relationships and has brought a lot of clarity.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 05:23 PM
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You could use something like this as a starting point: of course input your own scenario. Having recently retired from the military, I am moving to Florida and aim to secure 50/50 custody of my children, who were taken from me without my knowledge or consent three years ago. I foresee that the other party will leverage the 'status quo' argument to counter this. As my attorney, could you outline the strategies we could employ to strengthen my case? How might we effectively challenge the 'status q…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 08:18 PM
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First, devise your own strategy with a lawyer or through your own research. Put your own mind at rest knowing what you are doing and how you’re going to go about your divorce. You cannot rely on the other person to be rational right now. I made this mistake thinking at some point she would stop with the lies and gaslighting and it’s still happening to this day. I’ll probably get downvoted for this, but chat GPT has been a godsend in helping me come up with a plan of attack. 1. Because it not onl…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 07:19 PM
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No need to stay attached to her and her drama. I would say let it go. Also, how can she just modify the custody agreement, simply because she’s upset? As someone who is also fighting for 50/50, at least in the state of Florida, there has to be a substantial reason for modification of custody if both parents are fit to parent the child.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 07:51 PM
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“Findings a hook to grab onto” seems to be my next step. It definitely feels like I’m just treading water at this point and I’m just rapidly sinking into depression and listlessness. My therapist has introduced the idea of not letting her win, because if I do let my depression takeover, that’s exactly what will happen. That use to give me a spark, but lately, it just doesn’t. I’m not that big of a reader anymore but I remember how much it’s helped me in the past because it provided great insight…
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 05:56 PM
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I hark routine for my kids because I know how important it is for them but I don’t establish those same rules for myself. I am coming out of a 20 plus year military career that provided me a pretty solid routine and when I was with my kids, they also provided me a solid routine. Because my ex was a nurse, I did a lot of the day to day activities with our two boys and I was also their sports coach for the many sports they played. 3 years ago, she basically took the kids while I was gone and my ro…
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 05:49 PM
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That’s the plan this summer. I want to take a cruise or possibly go visit family back on the east coast but money and time seem to also be at a premium right now. Hopefully I can find the time and money to take a trip that can help me clear my mind.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 05:38 PM
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I have a history of depression. I am currently in therapy and undergoing EMDR and hypnotherapy to help me cope. I got off of meds a while ago because I didn’t like how they made me feel. I hope I don’t need them because I am certainly in a mental downward spiral.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 05:36 PM
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I did. We’re taking a camping/road trip in a couple of weeks. We’ve been talking about it all year long and I can’t wait until I’m just out and about with them again.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 05:34 PM
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I need routine. Sadly, after retiring after 20 plus years in the military, I’m also having to find a new routine while trying to get everything else figured out. I depended way too much on my military career and my kids to establish that routine and I gotta find something I can do on my own.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 05:32 PM
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Same. This rinse and repeat cycle of doom scrolling or watching TV and then sleeping needs to be broken somehow. I’m tired of feeling like a shell of my former self.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 05:30 PM
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Finding gumption seems to be the key to all of this. Thanks for the reminder.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 05:28 PM
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I’ve never heard of this method but I just used this send off some paperwork that’s been sitting for a while. Thanks I’ll be using this more.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 05:27 PM
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I don’t know why, but my anxiety is even more heightened when I go for a walk by myself. This is why I prefer driving to clear my head, but I’m well aware that I’m missing out on the health benefits of walking. Maybe I should start small and do a high school track, or somewhere I can easily leave if I need to.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 05:26 PM
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My problem is that I overeat/stress eat. Filling my day with a good routine will help me keep this in balance. Thanks for the tips.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 05:24 PM
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One thing I have learned about myself is that going to the gym provides a lot of accountability that working out at home doesn’t. I’m going to seek out some local gyms and just force myself to go.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 05:23 PM
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Feeling like I’m not in control of anything is what exasperates this feeling of anxiety and numbness. I think you’re right. I need to just let some things go.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 05:21 PM
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I greatly appreciate your feedback. Staying serious and keeping things on focus has been my top priority. Right now, it definitely feels like she has the leverage due to the custody with the kids. My hope is that the judge takes everything into consideration, including her illegally taking the kids. If not, it’ll judged “as is” and the judge will make decisions based on the situation now.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/21 08:16 AM
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It’s been almost 2 years since she took the kids and left to live with her mom out of state, without my knowledge nor consent. I didn’t initially file a temporary order for custody because I was in the middle of a move(military PCS) across the country and the kids would be in a legal limbo until it was resolved, which isn’t. Can I do anything at this point? She’s also stated that she doesn’t want to do 50/50 custody, to which I have no idea why.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/21 10:38 AM
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Speaking personally, my lawyer doesn’t fight for everything. It seems like she can be very narrow minded and focused on other things. At this point, I’m too financially obligated to change, otherwise I would.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/21 12:42 AM
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I really wish it was this easy. 😕
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/21 12:26 AM
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