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Why is there so much fantasy on this sub. Many of the posts make broad statements that aren't close to reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 09:07 PM
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I realize that there are those that are that way, I would suggest that people don't mistake, "think" for "hope", "dream" or "wish". Those would be much more accurate words than think.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 03:15 PM
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I believe the part of any activity that can develop into an ick factor is obsession. Video games, booze, drugs, gambling.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:39 PM
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Loud and brash confidence is a ruse. A person that exudes this type of, "confidence" is targeting an audience that is easily influenced. Confidence is many things, but what you've described is someone putting on an act. People who are self assured for superficial reasons are pretty easy to identify. They are enamored with their wealth, material possessions etc. Unfortunately, the landscape is filled with people, who are easily duped into buying into this nonsense. Confidence is heavily influence…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 02:35 PM
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I'm probably older than most anyone on this thread, the opening line on this post made me literally laugh out loud. I've had more than my share of sex over the years, I'm just a regular guy. I've been married more than once, and even after leaving the LTR there's never been a shortage of women or sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 08:48 PM
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I don't mean to sound unsympathetic, life isn't easy. It has never been easy, and the prospect of it becoming easy aren't good. Reading many, many posts by the younger set, it is pretty glaringly obvious that people (a faction) are absolutely trying too hard, and they do appear desperate. Our society, and the United States is the very worst, has become predicated on everything in life being easy, fair and convenient. All three of those dynamics do not represent reality. I don't know whether advi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 06:33 PM
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I don't want to seem to be painting a picture with a very broad brush. There absolutely are guys who can talk a woman up and even score. I'm probably older (M) than most anyone on this sub. I've been as successful with women as any and more than other's. Just like any other dynamic there are a plethora of variables. For the most part, especially as people age the money and status that you mentioned becomes the most dominant, and it's not even close. You can look at women, just entering college v…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 06:16 PM
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Friends are overrated. I've noticed as we (wife and I) have grown older, our social circle has shrunken significantly. We have people we are friendly with, and we socialize, but not like we once did.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 08:53 PM
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This has been going on since the beginning of time. I know a couple of reasonably successful guys who've used escorts for years! They have had bad experiences in relationships, they've grown used to not answer to anyone, so on occasion they hire an escort. To my knowledge, neither one of them have been arrested. There has been at least one pitfall that wasn't pleasant, but the guy still does it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:10 AM
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Don't put yourself in the hands in the criminal justice system or a jury with that type of thinking. Laws and jury decisions are very clear, alcohol and other chemicals impair judgement. If someone is drunk, it doesn't matter how enthusiastic they are, you are operating on thin ice. Buying 1,000,000 worth of Pop Funko's is a civil matter,, having sex with a drunk person who is incapable of giving consent can be a long prison sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:31 PM
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Flirtatious behavior can be in many different forms. People flirt with other's, often times void of any expectations of sex. I am of the philosophy that a person should develop some type of connection with someone prior to making the decision to have sex. There is nothing wrong with jumping right into a physical encounter, as long as both parties are comfortable with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 06:07 PM
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I believe attraction is, overrated and could lead a person into a dysfunctional relationship. Most people start entering into relationships when they are young and in school. Kids aspire to be with the best looking boy or girl. This dynamic continues into when people become adults. Take two people they get together initially based on physical attraction etc. This type of attachment only lasts so long. Remembering that we are discussing 50 year relationships, I believe that physical attraction is…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 06:03 PM
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I'm a man and I will tell you that chemical and metabolic changes in a woman's body, change things dramatically. It doesn't prevent women from losing weight, but it can make it much more difficult. Genetics can impact this issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 05:21 PM
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I've found that the best approach is to take small traits and behaviors from people you respect and admire. Avoid trying to imitate one particular person. You can learn from others and still be your own person.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 01:13 AM
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I totally agree, you kind of lost me with the impregnate portion. If you're speaking of animal lust in men and humans being linked more closely to the animal world, I agree 100%!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 09:29 PM
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I have a number of kids, with two women. I have only on about two occasions even thought about impregnating anyone. The sex that I've had, which is as much as just about anyone, and more than most, has been recreational.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 07:58 PM
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Obnoxious Obese Absence of any intellect Dishonest Like many of the posts in this sub, it's chock full of absolutes. Some of the observations you've made are true with both. Those opinions are made by the eyes of the beholder.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 06:22 PM
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People's behavior is driven by various forces, the way they are raised, their peer group, physiological factor's. These elements take many, many years to develop. When I read a statement/question like this, it drips with hypocrisy. Women have processes that alter or drive their behavior that are associated with chemical changes, mostly out of their control. But in the case of men, testosterone isn't even given a consideration. They need to be sent to an institution to develop emotional intellige…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 08:21 PM
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When people become involved in relationships, many times much of their independence is compromised. The statement, why should anyone get married now is very well taken. Marriage is a very worn out religious and societal norm and expectation. One of the pitfalls of marriage is that it is widely exploited to generate revenue for other's. The institution is has been warped so much, that you don't necessarily have to actually marry someone for your bond to be legal. Can you imagine if American socie…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:25 PM
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First, how do you define, "older"? Older than you? Older in general? Lower their standards? If you are meeting a variety of women, they will most likely have varying standards. Life happens and as people age, their attitudes, beliefs and drives change. When people reach a certain age, and place in their life, sex is a recreational activity. You find a woman who is older than you, who needs an itch scratched, you may be the one.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 06:48 PM
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People in general like to have excuses, men and women. It also really depends on the individual definition of what toxic masculinity is.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 06:16 PM
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Men carry the responsibility to keep themselves from being taken advantage of. To characterize it any other way is spineless.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 08:20 AM
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I'm sure after a number of years she figured out that he wasn't going to change. She is/was a very attractive woman, so I find it hard to believe she's going without. I don't have any hard facts that she's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:40 PM
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Understand that as people age the priorities change significantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 05:43 PM
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I would do what a couple of these folks said and say, saw you earlier and afterward noticed we have mutual friends. How do you know ________? Hoping that you hit on something mutual, work, school, places you hang out etc. Creepy is in the eyes of the beholder and you don't have any control over that. Knew a dude that lived 8n Chicago, saw a female he thought was good looking on the train. They got off the train at the same stop. He followed her to work (coffee shop). He eventually went in as a c…
/r/seduction27/10/22 08:17 PM
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If you look at a great deal of opinions expressed on this sub, it will be obvious at times that the opinion is based on very limited information. I've called out a number of people for painting a subject with a wide brush, which ended up sounding a lot like personal experience or things that have happened in a very small circle of friends or associates.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:35 PM
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I have a very good friend, in fact I characterize him as my best friend. He is a serial cheater, he has been married for 38 years and has been cheating for most of it. My friendship with this guy didn't originate or was based on the fact he was married, had a family etc. Each family dynamic has it idiosyncrasies. His wife has been aware that this has been going on for at least 25 years. They had kids, a mortgage etc. There was a point about 19 years ago, I was confident they were getting divorce…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:40 PM
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Men who read about sex skills and understand what women want are better at sex. There are and/or can be some physical and physiological factors, but sex is just like any other skill, knowledge is power. Running around doinking a bunch of different people isn't necessarily going to make a person better at sex. The only caveat would be if they find a woman who will teach them. I'll give you an example, you'll see a lot of guys on different subs talking about performing oral sex on their gf etc. So…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 10:46 PM
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That's a bit odd, the women that I know that are bi are much more comfortable talking with other girls/women about anything. Just like another person commented, it's going to seem much more appealing to a girl, if it's coming from a girl. They're going to think if you're asking, that you are trying to fulfill some fantasy and she's going along to pacify your needs. Believe me, if she's a driving force behind this, she'll have much more success finding a third (female) than you ever will.
/r/seduction24/10/22 10:31 PM
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Not 100%, but you'll come off to some of them like you're some kind of serial rapist creeper.
/r/seduction24/10/22 10:24 PM
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I'm guessing that she would probably have more success finding a third. I had a gf some years ago that was at the very least bi curious. She would talk about sex things with multiple partners (mainly women) and say things like, it's only sex. Most of the time she had, had some cocktails or some weed, so I didn't take her seriously. Our thing ended, we remained loosely friends. A couple of years later, she went full blown. She got a job with a local roller derby entertainment deal. She had a fema…
/r/seduction24/10/22 09:52 PM
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Would that be counted as identifying as bi sexual. Because are you actually bi sexual if you haven't had sex with a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 09:51 PM
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The question would be, are you able to change the way that it seems you naturally are. If that is how this originally began, you are probably kinda needy. Do you think in your subconscious that you may be somewhat out of your wheelhouse with this girl? Whether it's companionship, sex or a LTR, the desire and drive has to be mutual, or it's probably time to move on.
/r/seduction24/10/22 06:22 PM
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The first step is to take inventory on the number of people whose opinions really mean something to you. This list should be relatively small. The rest of the folks who are either directly in your life, co-workers, people you attend school with, peripheral associate's opinions really shouldn't matter at all. Then you take into consideration siblings (if you have any) unless they play a big role in your life, why do you even care what they think? Obviously, this is my opinion, but the dynamic tha…
/r/seduction24/10/22 06:16 PM
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Too anxious, how about letting her text you after the date? Very few people enjoy telling someone that they were on a date with, that it just wasn't that great. Go in a date, enjoy it the way you said you did this one, let them text you afterwards.
/r/seduction23/10/22 08:13 PM
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I've been married more than once and divorced obviously. It has been a number of years since I was in the dating mode. I will say this, I truly believe that people's expectations for online dating are too high. Reading this sub tells me that people are looking for convenience, gimmicks and a route to bagging sex. I'm reasonably sure that I don't think I've ever seen anyone ask about LTR in this sub. What you seem to need to understand is, LTR just happen. I'm probably older than most anyone on t…
/r/seduction23/10/22 07:53 PM
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There isn't a blueprint, or even close to being one, to avoid situations like what occurred here. There are so many variables to why people cheat, that it is impossible to create a scenario to, "improve a person's chances of not being cheated on". Life is all about choices, good and bad. In a relationship, there are a number of choices that people make, prior to cheating, that impact their lives. I know a couple, he makes his living working electronics for touring musical performer's and groups.…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:31 PM
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Do you realize that podcasts, the media and talk shows are produced to incite anger and prey on weak minded people? I have a friend of a friend who has a popular radio talk show in which he spews extreme left wing ideology, he doesn't have a liberal cell in his entire body. Take a radio show or podcast that discuss controversial topics. If they have open phones or answer email questions, most if not all are people who disagree with the host?! I was on a car trip with a friend a couple of years a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 05:52 PM
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It seems that people who are unsuccessful with relationships and dating take the opportunity to spew venom and attempt to make it seem like a huge dilemma. It's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 04:30 PM
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There isn't, it's these drones who post their opinion, in some worldwide problem with dating. The people who post these opinions must live in their mom's basement.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 04:28 PM
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If the script was flipped with a woman, I'd definitely be curious what the dynamics of her relationships were. If it was reasonable when it is explained, religion, upbringing whatever it wouldn't be an issue. I'd want to know in case there were red flags. We have a new employee here at work, seems nice, is well liked for no longer than they have worked here. This person was telling me a bit about their recent history. Said they recently lost a lot of school friends because they were erroneously …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 12:20 AM
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So what are you moving to a new town for? School, work? Meeting people, women included goes along with social settings.
/r/seduction09/10/22 11:55 PM
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Have you guys read some research study with statistics, or are you sharing experience's with other guys on this sub. You make this dynamic you speak of to be some widespread problem. I'm older than probably anyone in this sub. I do know a lot of young people, work with a lot of young people... Men and women. The only time I ever hear this type of problem(s) discussed is here. Why is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 11:30 PM
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Believe it, or not (I don't want to insult you by suggesting something that you are morally opposed to) I would suggest hiring an escort a time or two. You can be right up front with them and tell them you are sexually inexperienced. I know a few guys who are very busy with careers and don't have time, or are concerned about being used for their $$$ that relieve stress through the use of call girls. I'm sure they would be more than happy to teach you the ropes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 11:04 PM
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It could be the case with her. There are a lot of variables in play. I knew some women that would strike up convo's with dude's for free drinks.
/r/seduction09/10/22 09:42 PM
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That's more of a juvenile dynamic. She might have just been charmed with your conversation.
/r/seduction09/10/22 09:34 PM
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She probably wanted you to be into her. Whether it was warrented or not, if she did, she probably feels rejected. I had that with a woman a number of years ago. We worked together and, had fun joking around etc. She began literally throwing herself at me texting me pics of her ( @ )y( @ ) and 😻. She showed up at work one night with a bottle of champagne and asked if I wanted to go skinny dipping. I declined, but I was polite. She went to a different job shortly afterwards, now I'm like the 👹 him…
/r/seduction09/10/22 09:22 PM
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What social situations do you put yourself into? Do you have male friends that you socialize with? Do you work with any women? It's much like hunting or fishing, the more you put yourself in the mix, your chances will improve.
/r/seduction09/10/22 09:11 PM
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If you are interested in taking it to another level, I'd leave her alone for a bit. Let her be the one to reach out. If nothing else you will clearly know where you stand.
/r/seduction09/10/22 07:37 PM
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I think you have a lot of really valid points. One of the things that is puzzling about this sub is, there tends to be generalizations painted with a very broad brush expressed. Like a statement of women aren't attracted to men, they only want money/power. Don't misunderstand, that dynamic does exist, but it isn't a hard fast rule. The aspect of biology in relationships I firmly believe is completely misunderstood and attempted to be supressed by societal norms and religious expectations. I beli…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 07:27 PM
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You guys should back the needle out some.
/r/seduction09/10/22 06:22 PM
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This brings up a couple of very interesting points to ponder, what exactly is toxic masculinity? The second point being, we hear a great deal about conditions that can negatively impact women due to chemical imbalances in their bodies: PMS, post partum depression, menopause etc. Men have chemicals in their bodies that we never talk about: testosterone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 06:20 PM
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Do most of the people on here obtain their views through their circle of friends? I see a great deal of discussion about people having either no casual sex or bagging huge numbers in casual sex. Are we operating under when guys claim to have had sex? Sounds like a fishing story to me, you should have seen the one who got away! I saw where someone mentioned a guy basically talking out of both sides of his mouth. He was, so how credible and how seriously can people view his opinion. It becomes, I …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 06:37 PM
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I guess I don't understand the point or focus of this post. What statement is this attempting to make? Did a guy post this? Understand a couple of things, men and women are built differently, it more than physiological difference's, it is emotional and psychological. I'm a man, I know that women don't have a clue about men. By that same token, men don't have a clue about women. I would be interested in the demographic covered by that study. In other words, this can change significantly with age,…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 05:26 PM
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Having courage to do daring or risky things, and participating in a combat style sport have nothing whatsoever to do with interpersonal relationships or being able to effectively communicate. Understand that how you were raised and your environment growing up have much more impact on your socialization than any other aspect of your life. The easiest (notice I didn't say it was easy) way to attempt to address this is take an honest look at yourself and determine why you believe you react the way …
/r/seduction07/10/22 04:55 PM
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You are 100% correct. I could go into a whole other conversation about us guys, our psyche, drives, testosterone etc. I will tell you that when you break it down, it is less difficult for women to get dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 04:44 PM
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You have some points, but you also threw in a bunch of variables that weren't described in the original post. The post sounded like it was coming from a reasonably, "normal" person. I didn't see anything mentioned about trauma or any other condition. The answer was directed at the post, and specifically for the situation described.
/r/seduction07/10/22 04:38 PM
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No, every situation is different. There is a segment of women that absolutely are exactly how you characterized them. I will tell you, from experience, after women begin to age, that dynamic changes. Some never learn that being with the nice guy, is much better long term. The one's that don't, live a drama filled, tumultuous life with many regrets.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 04:32 PM
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I'm much older than most anyone on this sub. Take a word from experience, it won't take long for you to lose shyness if you want to get anywhere in life. You can't be intimidated by rejection. Dealing with the ladies is no exception.
/r/seduction02/10/22 10:17 PM
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The problem with a sub like this one, is that people express an opinion based on their (and a few friends and acquaintance's) opinions. Dating is alive and doing very well. I'm a man, and I can tell you this with a great deal of confidence. Women are more selective because a lot of men aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:12 PM
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Many, many, many people struggle with independent thought. Therefore much of their actions suffer as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 07:11 PM
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People are more self centered than ever. Society follows trends in everything including behavior. Look at the landscape of the United States, bad, rude and obnoxious behavior are acceptable. It does sound like a very simple trick, people are hard headed, so it is difficult for folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:41 PM
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No, you're reading into common things. If you seriously don't think you are, stop going to her, and then ask her out. If she flat declines, you were pipe dreaming.
/r/seduction02/10/22 05:53 PM
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People in general aren't very honest with themselves. Guys (I'm a guy) are notoriously the very worst. I read this sub often, because some of the questions, thoughts and ideas are very comical. I'm going to make an educated guess that a huge faction of this sub are very young. I understand that there is a philosophy (and it probably has some merit in truth) that there is a method to assist guys in bagging sexual encounters. However, it's glaringly apparent, there are guys who are naive enough to…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 04:58 PM
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Understand that where you want to be may not come naturally. Reaching a goal(s) may take a great deal of work, commitment and sacrifice.
/r/seduction27/09/22 07:36 PM
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Youth is a dynamic which is wasted on the young and inexperienced. If you think about relationships, a huge factor that many young people do not consider is, what are the reasons that the divorce rate is so high in the US. There are obviously a myriad of things that drive this stat, but a huge issue is people becoming involved with someone that they are compatible with. When we are young, everyone wants to be recognized and affirmed by the best looking, popular people who belong in the cool kids…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 06:02 PM
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When you become in a dialogue with a female, you have to be prepared to move forward. I obviously do not know the details of your communication with women. Regardless of whether your communication is text, IM, phone conversations or in person, you need to be able to build on the conversation to gauge her level of interest. Body language, eye contact, touching you are all signs there is a level of trust and interest. Simple one you're in a situation where you are having a conversation with a woma…
/r/seduction18/09/22 05:21 PM
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A couple of things; it is paramount that you find someone that you have things in common with. Many people would say, that dynamic would be obvious. Unfortunately, that (in my 40+ years of experience with relationships, including knowledge of other's) causes huge problems after people become serious or marry. Someone who has very low, or zero ambition. Fortunately, these people many times gravitate towards each other, so that lowers the chance of getting involved with one. An example is an only …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:09 PM
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Strikingly obviously, confidence.
/r/seduction15/09/22 07:42 PM
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Your post was really long, I didn't read all of it. It seems to me that you are (have been) trying to hard to make a gimmick work for you. Don't misudderstand, there are guys out there who are wildly successful picking up and bagging women/girls. I am significantly older than you and have had a great deal of experience with women. Married more than once, dated and married women 20 years younger and 20 years older. I've had more than my share of intimate encounters. People were engaged in the act…
/r/seduction15/09/22 07:23 PM
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I believe that you are misinterpreting respect given to single mom's. Accolades and respect should be given out to single mom's or dad's. It's called making the best out of a not so great situation. Your statement is correct, father's shouldn't be demonized, unfortunately there are a plethora of guy's out there making babies, giving all men a bad rep
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 05:56 PM
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It sounds as if you believe things follow a natural chain of events. Too much internet reading. If you don't anticipate something happening, you won't be disappointed.
/r/seduction15/09/22 05:51 PM
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It's what keeps it entertaining for me. I guess they don't realize how ignorant it sounds.
/r/seduction13/09/22 11:05 PM
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People tend to really overthink fairly simple concepts. 1. People end up in relationships with people that they have a great deal in common with. That is generally not true. People generally begin this process in high school or college. The good looking girl wants to be with the good looking guy. At this point, BOTH of the intentions are pretty shallow. Also, them sharing common interests and have similar beliefs and motivation are negligible, they are just happy spending time with the other per…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 10:39 PM
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I don't have to watch the clip, I can read the bullet points provided and give you an answer. Show's like Bill Maher are garbage. I surmise that our political climate and social media promote an environment where people are easily duped. This dynamic has been around for many decade's, but seems to really have gotten a foothold in today's society. A show, podcast radio presentation is produced to capture ratings. They've found that controversy equals ratings. Take a radio talk show, they present …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 10:04 PM
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Why do the majority of these posts sound like, 1 guy sharing his limited experience, painting a generalized picture with a broad brush? I would stand to reason, is your experience in a school, workplace, a neighborhood, a group of friends? Because to make a statement like, I feel most girls by age 20 have slept with 10+ guys? So where does your data come from, guys who say they've smashed a bunch of girls? That's pretty reliable.🤣😅😂 If you are truly easily bored with most people.....and you're r…
/r/seduction13/09/22 09:38 PM
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I'm probably older than most people who look at this sub. I look at a great deal of what is posted and a couple things become apparent. Generalizations are posted that reflect the experiences and opinions of a very small group or an individual. Opinions are painted with a huge brush, a great deal of all or nothing. Allow me to preface commenting by saying that I understand completely the dynamic(s) that drive this sub. I didn't grow up in the internet/social media age, there are many, many thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 09:28 PM
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I would say that it is the opposite of when people say opposites attract. That truly is an old saying, and it really isn't true (for the most part). I think people would be shocked when they would learn how many people are in serious relationships, to include marriage, the participants have next to nothing in common. So it has to do with common ground, interests, personality, behavior etc. I have been married more than once, I am impish in nature. I cuss, am outspoken, love raunchy jokes and beh…
/r/seduction13/09/22 09:08 PM
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Exactly, free entertainment!!!
/r/seduction05/09/22 12:02 AM
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I am very happily married and have been for many years. This subreddit is very entertaining, it provides a glimpse into the mind(s) of a generation of people who are doing their thing in a completely different realm. I'm obviously older than probably anyone here, but many of the posts are comical how naive and blinded guys are in the social media age. I wasn't aware that people would buy books and pay for instructional courses to help teach them, "game". Looking at those dynamics leads me to bel…
/r/seduction04/09/22 11:31 PM
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Both choices that you referred to come with issues. I would guess that where you are in your life would have an impact on how you feel. As many guys grow older, it isn't that sex isn't as important, but companionship becomes more important.
/r/seduction04/09/22 11:10 PM
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Having a lot of money will always get casual sex.
/r/seduction04/09/22 08:40 PM
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I've repeated this philosophy numerous times, I'm a man, and women don't begin to understand men. By that same token, men don't begin to understand women. That is a huge reason that relationships are so difficult, there is a huge divorce rate etc. I'll preface my comments by saying that there aren't any dynamics that are 100%, people are complicated. I'm providing a perspective and an opinion that has been shaped by many years of dating, more than one marriage, some infidelity on my part, as wel…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 07:01 PM
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It's obvious that you have a different definition of what an introvert and extrovert are. You can be a very strong extrovert and not have to be loud, or extremely outspoken. Understand something, this is coming from someone who has had more than my share of relationships and intimate encounters, have a level of confidence is vital. In fact, I cannot express how important it is. Some aspects of confidence you had no control of i.e. how you were raised, your interaction with peers when you were yo…
/r/seduction04/09/22 06:36 PM
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You're probably hurting your chances by being that way. I'm not claiming that you have to be Mr. clubbing or a bar fly. Understand something, if you want to catch good fish, what do you do? You go somewhere that has a lot of fish. Prior to the internet and social media, you made your chances of meeting someone and scoring by frequenting futile ground, school, work, social events, of course night clubs etc. A couple of things to keep in mind, if you possess the personality traits that you claim, …
/r/seduction04/09/22 05:08 PM
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Your post raises some questions. Why havent you been active up until now? What about your situation makes you believe that you need to use some books or training to approach or pick up women? I read this sub because I find many of the posts entertaining. I am probably looking at many things that people post as odd. I personally think that people selling information to help someone improve one's ability to pick up females is a snake oil sale. I will say this, (at 50) you probably only need to be …
/r/seduction01/09/22 09:20 PM
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False, they both understand themselves for the most part. They absolutely don't have a clue about the other
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 07:19 PM
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I'm not a doctor of psychiatry, I know a couple of people who are compulsive liar's. There are a couple of things that these people share, 1. The lying has actually ended up being beneficial to them at times. 2. They become so comfortable with it, they lose the motivation to be honest. 3. People who are in their lives who look past, or live with the lying are being enablers and are positively reinforcing bad behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 07:20 PM
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Reading this sub often, I have to ask myself, why? If who pays for a date is an issue, no wonder some struggle with bagging any women. Don't misunderstand, you shouldn't have to lay out hundred's, but if you are so cheap, that you can't, or won't pay..... stay home and see how far that gets you. Women like men to plan dates. It makes them feel special, if it's dinner there are a number of sources you can look at for nice places that can fit your budget. If you don't have a job or no money, you d…
/r/seduction15/08/22 05:01 PM
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If you haven't noticed people hate rejection. They hate it so much that it prevents many of them from even trying to talk to people they are attracted to.
/r/seduction14/08/22 04:32 PM
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First of all, confidence isn't something that you are born with, there are factor's that you have no control over (how you are raised) that impact confidence or lack of. Confidence is feeling positive about yourself, factors that can build feeling good about yourself. Staying in decent physical shape, being successful in school and/or a job, having some walking around sense, decent grooming, dress yourself in a manner. Unfortunately, many people allow things control them.
/r/seduction13/08/22 04:22 PM
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I'm not sure what you posted would be considered rejection. You might have well been friend zoned, idk if that would be construed as being rejected. I'm going to guess that you are young, sometimes romance just isn't in the cards. I have a friend, who many years ago I would have definitely considered or wanted to be romantically with. We still see each other, I'm married, she's divorced. Nothing other than friends. It wasn't in the cards.
/r/seduction13/08/22 03:56 PM
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Women, for the most part, are not like men, for the most part; sex to (most) of them is a huge deal. I saw someone say they may not be ready, there are some people who won't have sex until marriage, I'm guessing you don't know everything about this girl...she may have an issue. Real world example that happened to me many years ago. Similar situation to what you're post said. Hot, heavy, got the look in her eyes.....bam can't go. This happened like three times, we got started on a fourth, before …
/r/seduction13/08/22 03:04 PM
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Dancing, especially like the manner in which you apparently danced with this girl, can be highly sexual. There are a couple of things that could be happening. She might get a sexual charge out of seeing how hot she can make you. She might also get off on dancing in a sexy manner with a number of different guys. This doesn't mean they want to smash necessarily.
/r/seduction13/08/22 02:31 PM
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You're going to get that kind of answers here. I saw someone said that it's because you're in America etc. I can agree with that to a certain degree. I will say that Americans (I'm American) are naively arrogant. What I mean by this is they think everyone lives exactly like we do, or should. In their minds, we do everything correctly and better than anywhere else. I could give you examples of this, using other subject matter, but it would most likely open a can of worms.
/r/seduction13/08/22 02:02 PM
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You should be able to tell when it would be appropriate. It is definitely something you probably should disclose, especially if it is something that could possibly interfere with a, "normal" life.
/r/seduction13/08/22 12:35 PM
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I guess it depends on what your definition of nice is. There are people who seem overly nice and too happy. Believe me folks, that makes people wonder a couple of things, is this person for real; is there something wrong with this person; does this person have some type of ulterior motive? A guy can be nice without being angelic.
/r/seduction11/08/22 11:29 PM
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You have to be able to walk and chew gun at the same time. There are so many variables in making a cold approach, but you have to look at the person you want to talk to. Is this someone that you see often, or even occasionally? Let's use public transportation for instance. See a girl that you think is attractive. Find a way, to make eye contact with them, see if you can get a smile. Find something that you can use as an ice breaker, music artist t-shirt, college or professional sports hat, shirt…
/r/seduction07/08/22 09:44 PM
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You nailed an enormous problem with our society, especially true in the United States. The truth and being realistic really are just an inconvenience. I will go on record saying that there are more people who live in a fantasy world and have unreasonable expectations for their lives than ever before. You make some valid points, but people are the one's that miss. I'll give you an example that happens very often. You make a terrific point about common interests and hobbies. Problem is that people…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 09:23 PM
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Confidence isn't something you (most people) are born with. Some confidence, or lack thereof is instilled as you grow and learn. The manner in which you are raised and interactions with your peers has a huge impact on confidence. There are things that you can do that will most likely enhance or improve your confidence. Stay in decent physical shape, you don't have to be Captain America, but you don't want to be fat either. Read books, learn have some knowledge of the world around you. Understand…
/r/seduction07/08/22 09:17 PM
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I don't see any reference to the question of paternity of a child in the post. Maybe we read different posts?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:19 PM
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People have insecurities about many, many things is life. Sex and everything surrounding sexuality is a huge hang up for people, especially men. You have to come to the realization that sex is much more than penis into vagina and orgasm. If there is someone who highly values the size of a man's penis, they aren't probably someone that most people want to be in a relationship with. A portion of sex is about how we reproduce and sustain our species. The other, and more paramount aspect of sex (imo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 08:11 PM
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I believe it's the best policy to communicate your expectations very early on. Why cause confusion, hard feelings and waste each other's time?
/r/seduction01/08/22 06:24 PM
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🤣😂😅 what a society we live in, tell women you're older when you're young, then tell them you're younger when you're old!
/r/seduction01/08/22 05:31 PM
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One thing I find very interesting (and I'm not saying this is the case with you) people struggle with being honest with themselves. I'm most likely older than anyone in this sub. I have many, many relationships, dates the old school way, internet dating, speed dating etc. The first step is to analyze how the date went (honestly). There are some people who really can't be critical of themselves, even if it doesn't seem like a negative to you. I can safely say I can look back and know why things w…
/r/seduction01/08/22 05:13 PM
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I'm not one of the cold approach guys, but, work, school, bars, restaurants, the gym, college campus, shopping centers, beach, parks. Anywhere a woman might be.
/r/seduction01/08/22 05:05 PM
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A great deal of traditional relationship roles have been developed by religious and societal norms and expectations, so they are destined to be flawed. I believe, reading some of the responses, that people tend to overthink this dynamic. In a relationship regardless if it is male/female or same sex, people bring varying strengths and weaknesses into the fold. Successful relationships should incorporate the couple's strong points to build a better bond. I doubt that anyone really needs to be capt…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 07:38 PM
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When you begin to intertwine money, especially a lot of it, into relationships things change dramatically. In the example that you gave, apparently the hot gf wasn't getting what she wanted from the rich dude. I know a woman personally who was married to a very wealthy, self made businessman. He owned his own business and was a millionaire. This woman was giving her 😻 out both pant legs for a number of years. She eventually met someone who she told she loved, she was leaving her husband for him …
/r/seduction31/07/22 07:17 PM
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You touch on a very important dynamic that is often overlooked in building a relationship. This omission, while many times unintentional, can have disastrous consequences. I'm speaking of building a serious relationship with someone who you don't share much in common with. People meet, they find someone they find physically attractive, they like their personality and intially they have a great deal to talk about learning about each other. Eventually they click on an intimate and physical level w…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 05:50 PM
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I'm not sure men (and I'm a man) ever fully mature. Many times we are larger, incorrigible boys
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 05:09 PM
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Because it is. I'm reasonably short for a guy 5'9", and I have only dated/had a relationship with one woman who was taller. I've had many, many gf over the years. I would venture to guess that if there was a survey conducted, the bulk of women would say they like someone at least their same height or taller for a bf/so. There are obviously exceptions, but I doubt if it's even 75%-25%. I dated a Cajun girl who was 5'11" and had legs forever!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 05:05 PM
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Years ago when I was in the service, a buddy of mine invited me to a club. He didn't say anything about there being a third.......or wanting me to be a wingman. So he shows up with this tall, dark haired Cajun beauty. We all hung out, dancing laughing etc. I began to get the feeling that this chick liked me a lot more than my buddy. I decided to move it, we had had a few cocktails, slow danced and I told her how beautiful I thought she was. Bam a very physical 5 month deal. She got orders and wa…
/r/seduction28/07/22 07:16 PM
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Idk who came up with all of these gimmicks that I see touted on this sub. Don't misunderstand, in almost any smoke and mirrors....or snake oil sale, you will find some people who this gimmick has worked for, allegedly. Here is a huge factor why there are so many rules: women find a great deal of those kind of approaches creepy. Progressive women will surmise that someone who walks up to them in the street, just wants to bone. They're looking at the fact that you are making your judgement of thei…
/r/seduction24/07/22 09:54 PM
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I think you are sorely mistaken. If people are in a relationship, and someone cheats. You're a person having the world look at a situation through your eyes. Most would be vehemently against it. You are looking at everything in the realm of sex, the response to cheating has very little to do with sex. There is a faction who would be fine with it, I'm going to say a reasonably small faction.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 05:31 PM
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Cheating is a violation of trust, what gender they cheat with is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 05:09 PM
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I have, and it is probably more common than one would think. Believe it, or not, people's romantic and sexual identity is, at least in part, formed by how they're raised. I have a family member whose first born was a son. The child was not socialized in the least but, to a point of being smothered. This young man is/was very intelligent, handsome, athletic but had zero social skills, especially with the opposite sex. There were those of us that were curious about the kids sexual preference for a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 07:53 PM
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There is an old saying, which I think is valid for the most part, men have sex with who they can, women have sex with who they choose to. If you have a basic understanding of the male sexual drive, it makes more sense. I do a great deal of motorcycling, I frequent biker bars, am on motorcycle culture social media pages. There are women that make themselves available to guys, when you see the response of some of the men, you'll realize there is someone for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 07:23 PM
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The reasons people shame men for paying for sex: technically illegal still many places, the societal stigma attached to human trafficking, the fact that there is STD's and a higher instance of drug use amoung sex worker's. Even as progressive thinking as our society, or a faction of it, think they are, there are many things that are still driven by religious and societal norms and expectations. In a former career I had experience dealing with sex workers and the sex trade. Many places enforcemen…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 06:11 PM
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Some people regardless of age are overly picky. People put in their dating bio, looking for the perfect fit.....not settling, if you can't take me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best. All of those thoughts/beliefs indicate someone that is truly ignorant or doesn't have a grip on reality. Amoung people who are picky, there are a number of them who are so wrapped up in their own BS, they can't see their own flaws. Those are people you are better off avoiding!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 04:43 PM
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What studies are you referencing, and yes some of the complications involved are caused by the individual. There really isn't any credible statistics that indicates that the practice is harmful, physically or psychologically.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 07:43 PM
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There are females who are in the same boat as you. It isn't ideal, but there is always a hotel room.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 05:51 PM
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Idk that it's personality, it's beliefs, values, priorities, maturation happens, trauma, happiness, grief....all these things can have a huge impact on how people are. By the time a person is in their 40's they've experienced many of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 05:04 PM
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Here's my philosophy on that dynamic. People go through very distinct changes during their lifetime. Likes, dislikes, beliefs, values etc. These changes tend to come to a halt when people hit their early to mid 40's. These changes can radically impact a relationship/marriage. Getting married too young, marrying someone significantly younger or older, these people are going to experience, first hand, trying to navigate these changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 11:57 PM
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Understand that regardless how progressive thinking people are in this sub, the dynamics commented on are still established mostly by societal and religious beliefs and expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 11:19 PM
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There is one thing that gets overlooked in the entire 1% dynamic, having the mental capacity to handle it. How many people, male or female experience a meteoric rise to fame and turn out even remotely, "normal" or don't turn into a slow motion trainwreck? I have read extensively about rock stars, many of which were what would be considered overnight sensations. There are many who said a big driving force behind Kurt Cobain's mental problems, he never intended to be and detested being famous.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 11:12 PM
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I can only speak to this dynamic in the US, people get into serious relationship's and marry too young. That goes for men and women. They say women mature much younger than men. I say do men ever really mature?(I'm a man). I married way too young, and now realize I shouldn't have married until I was about 40. I realize that this post directly references having the ability to have casual sex, but there are a plethora of things that not having a serious relationship opens up for an individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 08:47 PM
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I believe it is difficult to tell. I have it on good authority that a person can be a carrier and not suffer symptoms. Some may also have an outbreak every two years or so.
/r/seduction10/07/22 10:00 PM
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It sounds as if you must really be in touch with your feminine side, emotional attachment to a person after sex is much more prevalent in women. Men, especially in their younger years are driven by a hunger that is driven by testosterone and comes from a very primal place.
/r/seduction06/07/22 11:15 PM
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Confidence is very important, people can sense it.....women especially.
/r/seduction06/07/22 11:04 PM
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There are a boatload of variables that could impact this dating dynamic. I have a female friend of many years, we were never bf/gf. She married and had some kids; her husband ended up cheating and leaving her for another woman. The divorce happened in her early 40's. She had stayed single since all of this happened. She did date for a period of time after her divorce, she hasn't dated in about a dozen years. It appears that given the trauma of her divorce and she began to see familiar behaviors …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 09:13 PM
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Sex, relationships, dating is impacted by how a person is raised, their peer group, socioeconomic situation, societal norms and religious expectations. It could be as simple as girl sees a guy that she believes is attractive. His reputation could possibly put her in the cool kids club, with her social group.
/r/seduction03/07/22 06:45 PM
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Tell him what things you like about him. Or ask him what he likes about females, just as sort of an icebreaker.
/r/seduction03/07/22 06:28 PM
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The key to all things sexual is open communication. I have always said, what do you want to know (I'm a guy, kind of an icebreaker). If the question(s) I get are vague, I would talk about my views of sex and a physical relationship. STD's, birth control, kinks, issues and baggage, feelings on an unwanted pregnancy etc. Any and all of those topics are better to talk about before anything happens. It could be a clear sign that one or both of you would be better off somewhere else. It may seem awkw…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 03:51 PM
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Ask your doctor to provide a roadmap to what you are able to do physically. Long distance running isn't probably going to be on the list. Usually any kind of strength training (in moderation) isn't going to put your heart in jeopardy. Idk if there is a way to, "get fit fast" regardless of where you are now.
/r/seduction03/07/22 01:45 PM
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Develop confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 01:31 PM
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Definitely red pill. I'm probably older than most anyone on this sub. I cannot even begin to stress how important confidence is for a man. This dynamic can be somewhat complex because there are aspects in confidence building that a person has control over, and other elements that they have little or no control over. Outside the realm of control, how the person is raised: supportive, encouraging parents who praise goal setting and accomplishments. Things that an individual has personal control ov…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 01:11 PM
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Your post is spot on, I'm much older than probably everyone who frequents this sub. I read it because it is entertaining to understand how this dynamic is approached today. I have a, for the lack of a better term, hobby of amateur psychologist. Watching, talking to and reading about human behavior. I spent 6 years in a profession that behavior analysis was very helpful (no, not the FBI). The bulk of what I see when guys post here, they want quick, convenient, easy and guaranteed to nail one. Not…
/r/seduction03/07/22 12:56 PM
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There are things that give anyone confidence, some can be developed, other's not so much. The manner in which a person is raised has a very strong impact on their level of confidence. If they had parents who were supportive, encouraged a strong work ethic and helped set goals, those elements would help build confidence. If the parents were critical, negative about the child's abilities and set limits to the child's potential, the adult is most likely to be self conscious. Those are things a pers…
/r/seduction03/07/22 12:48 PM
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There are definitely double standards that impact male-female relationships. Listen to women comment on when a famous high profile man is implicated for cheating, he's scum of the earth dirtbag. If it's a high profile woman, she was driven to cheat!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 12:32 PM
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Most anything in life can be too much, maybe your issue is your goofiness is over the top. I worked with a guy who was Mr. Positivity, always overly happy and upbeat. This guy was over the top with it, until it was superficial and sickening. Nearly everything in life that is considered good, is much better in moderation.
/r/seduction01/07/22 08:07 PM
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Get a job maybe? Dave money to buy a car?
/r/seduction01/07/22 04:24 PM
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This isn't really a serious question, right?
/r/seduction30/06/22 12:51 PM
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Hey Bro, they should be wanting to contact you. If they don't, they're not really worth your time an effort.
/r/seduction30/06/22 12:47 PM
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There are many posts by both that indicate a very narrow view of the topic. Many reflect an experience of a small scope of people, painted with a very broad brush. So the most accurate answer are neither are representative of the majority of the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 12:45 PM
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I'm sure that there are many who've met someone at the gym. The workout time that I have, is me time, which I don't have a lot of. I had been a member of gyms for the better part of 35 years. I don't want to think about anything other than working and the tunes I'm listening to. It is such me time, that I've assembled my own man cave, so I don't have to deal with anyone. My point is there is a decent chance of missing on someone, who you may have had success with in another setting.
/r/seduction26/06/22 06:50 PM
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If you're not 30, you should jerk the reins back a little. The sex for just the sake of sex is one subject, but being ok with the next person you smash being a gf and/or wife? 😲😳 You can navigate those waters without putting yourself out on a limb.
/r/seduction25/06/22 01:50 PM
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I agree with the basic premise of this post. There is an issue with a faction of people, they get with someone new, the person is attractive, everyone is on their best behavior (for the most part), the physical part of the relationship is good, their understanding of the relationship isn't real. I believe that true chemistry doesn't come in until after the initial, new relationship, energy has worn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 01:46 PM
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Intelligence is a factor in developing more confidence. It's really a very simple formula reasonably intelligent, successful in school and or business, making money or have a good prospect of making good money, be in decent physical shape are all factor's in developing confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 12:57 PM
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Your comment basically echoed what my comment said. In different terms obviously. We are close to animal's, closer than what, "civilized" people would like everyone to believe. The urges, hunger, lust are natural. The things that society has built to control them are what is supposed to represent the distance between humans and animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 09:43 AM
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Are our instincts and drives actually controlled by this complex brain, or is the brain taught to respond through society norms, religious beliefs and shame? It sounds as if you believe that this complex brain is capable of distinguishing right and wrong on its own.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 11:57 PM
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I've had a number of very spirited debate's on this very subject. We are animal's, and I believe that our instincts, physiological needs and drives are much closer to the animal world than many will admit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 11:53 PM
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The whole come over and check out my place is very common. I had a chick I worked with, she was telling me about moving into a new apartment, how much she loved it. She asks, I need help putting my bed together, could you possibly stop by and help? 🤔😎✌️
/r/seduction23/06/22 11:45 PM
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Very simple, I'm a man and I know women know very little to nothing about men. By that same token, men know very little to nothing about men. That's a huge reason that relationships are tough, and divorce is over 50% in the country. Any advice that is given, the person receiving it should consider if the person giving it has a bias or an agenda. A good example is who prepared this post, a very trite view of women and dating. I've been married more than once and have dated and been with plenty. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 11:22 PM
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There are a lot of variables here: Shawn has to decide if this is something he's willing to live with? Sarah seems to have some issues/baggage from past relationships, will see get past them completely if the get engaged or married? Shawn needs to have a candid discussion about how he feels about the current situation. If they can't to some kind of an agreement, they should probably go another direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 11:02 PM
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I get the gist of the post, there are so many variables when you get into a broad range of human interactions. Many times when I see posts about a segment of people, the information seems like it's generated from very limited experience or first hand knowledge. Unattractive men and their struggles finding women. Money, social status, money, earning ability, did I mention money. There are a whole lot of unattractive men, who are doing very well in the women area, because of how much money they ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 10:27 PM
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There are a great deal
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 10:12 PM
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I would probably use the words, well rounded, having some intelligence in an array of area's. A huge area, that many people struggle with is being able to communicate effectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 10:02 PM
1

Quality not quantity.
/r/seduction22/06/22 05:26 PM
1

Superficial and boring really doesn't matter when you are trying to break the ice. If you begin a dialogue, you then suggest you buy her a drink at a quieter bar? Which will get a conversation started, superficial and boring, or not talking at all. Do you go to school, where do you work, what do you do, did you grow up around here, what's your favorite place to hang out. Really deep conversations are had by people who already know each other
/r/seduction22/06/22 05:13 PM
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Most generally people hit it off when they find common interests. You obviously have to try and break the ice, which seems to be the most difficult part for some folks. Some offer to buy the person a drink etc. The group she is with could give some clues. Something like, you out celebrating something, or just hanging with friends?
/r/seduction21/06/22 05:35 PM
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I believe there is, it can be difficult...if not Impossible to find. I'm going to make a few generalizations; people many times make the mistake of becoming seriously involved with someone, without knowing them very well. People get seriously involved with someone, void of having much in common. People work too hard at making a relationship work, that wasn't meant to. People change dramatically between 18 and 40. What they like and don't like about their SO is no different. People try (for the m…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 07:49 PM
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I've read a number of subs on Reddit dealing with relationships, sex, dating etc. Many of these subs are primarily frequented by younger people, I'm not. I read them because I find it intriguing how the minds of younger folks work. I look at one called seduction in which guys talk about strategies to bag girls/women. They attend seminars and pay huge sumscif money in order to learn a routine that could help them score more. If you read some of their posts, you'd think you'd run across some peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 05:43 PM
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Cheating is very common, one cause is people getting involved in serious relationships and/or married before they really know their significant other. People also ignore serious red flags they see, thinking the behavior will go away ...or they can change this person. I'll use workplace romance's as an example. People are for the most part around coworker's more than they're around their own family. After people get comfortable around their coworker's, they begin to share intimate details of thei…
/r/seduction19/06/22 05:03 PM
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Being a competent man lies in the responsibility of the individual. The social media platforms that you are speaking of are operated by smarmy, spineless left wing zealots. There are plenty of competent men everywhere, we don't have to advertise.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 04:33 PM
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You're citing statistics about groups I know nothing about, you very well could be right. I'm straight up talking from personal experiences and knowledge of myself and men friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 09:11 PM
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I'm a man, I'm making an educated guess and it would be men hands down. There is an old philosophy that women don't understand men and by that same token men don't understand women. I believe that philosophy 100%. I know what it's like to be a man, and I know what type of primal sexual urges men have. There is a meme that goes around that says if you are a woman and you have a friend or coworker who is a man, they've thought about what it would be like to have sex with you. Very accurate. I have…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 06:33 PM
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I have a somewhat interesting insight on this subject from a personal experience. A number of years ago, I was single (divorced) and got introduced to a very attractive hair stylist who was also single. She had a small child and the kids I had were old enough to look after themselves for the most part. We hit it off, and the physical part of the relationship was terrific. I learned that she had most generally dated/cohabitated with bad boy types. The father of her child was in prison. She had be…
/r/seduction16/06/22 05:32 PM
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Reddit threads are very interesting because it gives clear insight into the demographics that frequent this type of social media. I'm going to paint this with a broad brush, it isn't all inclusive, but for the most part accurate. Younger guys are mostly looking for sex. They usually will trade portions, or all of their, "type" for someone they can score with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 05:15 PM
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You also begin to notice that (with celebrities) people's conception of cheating really gets destroyed. You have two very attractive people, and one or both of the two end up cheating with someone who is no where near as attractive as their SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 04:58 PM
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When guys are really young a 10 is all about how someone looks. As people age and have an increased number of experiences, that changes some. Sex, for instance is a skill. It is something that you can improve with gaining knowledge, maturing and making improvements in your life to make sex better. Men begin to look for someone that more closely resembles their lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 04:54 PM
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It looks as though the guys (I'm a man) on this sub are looking for quick, easy and convenient. In real life, the bulk of the time it doesn't happen that way. By all means, if they can accomplish that, go for it. Communication, creating sparks and connecting is a skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 12:15 AM
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That's the world (I should say United States) if you haven't noticed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 10:32 PM
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The post takes a huge amount for granted. Religious expectations and societal norms have a huge impact on relationships even today. Given the rate of divorce, people could stand to learn more about who they are with, besides how they are in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 08:52 PM
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I was dating back when internet dating sites were kind of a new thing. The main things that stand out in my mind is, you know just about everyone has some baggage going in. People seem to attract and be attracted to the same type of people. If you are divorced and/or have kids your priorities have changed since you were dating previously. Some still struggle understanding staying out of a relationship until the newness has worn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 06:03 PM
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If you're having mediocre sex with someone that you find unattractive, that sounds like bad choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 10:13 PM
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I would venture that complex is in the eyes of the beholder. Life is about choices, mediocre sex with someone who isn't attractive, sounds as if someone didn't think their choice through.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 07:31 PM
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Men know men, platonic relationships with a straight dude are very, very few and far between. To be clear, I'm talking about going to a club, dinner, hanging out without your significant other etc. I have female friends at work etc. We text about work, hobbies (hiking) etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 07:03 PM
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I know a number of guys who do the very same thing. There is something to be said for not getting involved in the relationship web.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 07:53 PM
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I've actually observed two of the dynamics that were discussed in action, Hollywood actor like good looks vs. Money. Guess which won?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 10:01 PM
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The caveat to that is, you can't spend capacity.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 09:59 PM
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Idk what age demographic you're in, but I see a gaping hole in your groups/catagories (there is some overlap so don't think I'm not being inclusive) Great looks and a numbers game come in a distant 2nd and 3rd to guys with MONEY. If one is still in high school, or early in college, this dynamic is present....maybe not as prolific. But when you get in your later college years and out.....money talks and everything else walks
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 06:19 PM
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Does it say exclusively testosterone fueled?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 12:55 PM
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There are places is the US where it is legal, and there are places that it is so poorly enforced, it's basically legal as well. The, "system" relies on the societal and religious expectations to generate fear and shame people into conforming.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 11:38 PM
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Your assertion is correct concerning Mandela, he was however from a different culture. Culture has a huge impact on how different behavior is viewed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 11:18 PM
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Do people read and watch too much TMZ? There are a multitude of average men (I'm going to make an educated guess, more than men of social status) who use sex workers. If escorts were to rely on only wealthy men to make a living, they'd be out of business. Disgust in using the sex worker trade is so full of misconceptions. Yes, in most places it is against the law. Has anyone thought it is against the law because it's difficult, if not impossible for the government to tax and have their fingers i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 11:16 PM
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I do, idk if regret is the right word. Sometimes the timing was not right, at least I didn't think so at the time. In retrospect, there are times when I think I should've gone with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 11:04 PM
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For the bulk of people, in most ordinary situations, child support is the only thing that carries any clout. Unless you're in a situation where some dude has made big bucks and the wife has stayed home raising kids, alimony isn't that common. A factor in many states is the wife's ability to earn a living. So now, a judge may grant a wife alimony for four or five years to obtain an education and put herself in a better position to survive. I make more money than my wife does, always have. The thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 11:00 PM
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Once again, this post was written in a manner that the topic is some sort of new dynamic. Men have been doing whatever it takes to get laid for centuries. Allow me to preface my comment by saying, women are clueless to what makes men tick. By that same token, men don't understand women. That is why, dating, relationships, sex and marriage are huge sources of problems with people. Even as much as many people (and there are some) who believe they are a part of a huge woke and open minded crusade, …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 10:19 PM
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I'm a man, so I am commenting with a male point of view...also with very close first-hand knowledge of a number of very wealthy men and women. Ego and machismo are testosterone fueled behaviors that cause many men to make really poor decisions, and in some cases, all but ruin their lives. The women that I know who have quite a bit of money are generally more shrewd than their male counterparts. The men want people to look at them and think how much of a virile, stud he is. Women, in many cases, …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 09:53 PM
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Real life depends a great deal on how many, "natural" social situations you're in, any with how many people. Work, school, social events, friends of friends etc.
/r/seduction20/04/22 08:21 PM
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I'll sleep a lot better at night knowing how you feel. How did the dating world ever survive without you 🙄😂😅🤣. Any advice any of you folks need ask maxpossimp.
/r/seduction12/04/22 11:45 AM
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It's amazing how much you know about Will Smith's private life, is he a relative of yours? How do you know what goes on in their lives? By listening to TMZ. I'm not going to call him out in a name calling contest. I will make an observation that is most likely very accurate. There are times when people, even high level entertainer's can't avoid showing themselves. Eye contact, body language, the look, the reaction etc. Rock makes the joke, Will Smith's intial reaction was to laugh (which he did)…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 11:17 PM
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If you are 22 and retired from dating, you'll regret that. The whole relationship thing for somebody your age isn't what it's cracked up to be. Your, "trick" is loosely based on human psychology that has been recognized for many years. A female, if she likes you and/or is interested in you will touch you, shoulder, forearm etc during a conversation. This establishes a subconscious feeling of trust. People will tell you how much interaction they want with you with body language. If you are talkin…
/r/seduction10/04/22 10:50 PM
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Another thing to think about is do you have an obsession with sex? Yes, that is a very unusual question to ask a man. If you take your age, all the health information you gave us, you should be ready to cut a diamond with your 🍆. It sounds like you may be so obsessed with knocking out a piece, you can't get out of your own way. Are you thinking about sex most every waking hour? You may think this is crazy, but maybe you should think about hiring an escort? So you pay this chick for either a half…
/r/seduction10/04/22 10:17 PM
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You could try and get a physician to write you a script for a low dose anti anxiety med like Alprazolam. Just enough to relax you.
/r/seduction10/04/22 10:10 PM
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Understand something, the way our society is set up there is a tremendous amount of influence by outdated social norms and expectations, religious beliefs and peer to peer being a part of the cool kids club. I can tell you that (and I'm only mentioning one dynamic, there are other's) over the past 15 years or so, our society has become alarmingly more self centered. Many point toward the emergence of social media and electronic age explosion. I tend to subscribe somewhat to that philosophy. You …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 07:56 PM
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Have you ever thought that you are trying too hard? Could it be that you are subconsciously projecting an aura that makes it seem like you're shopping for something? I read many posts on this thread and it seems as though there are a number of people who approach this with a sense of desperation.
/r/seduction10/04/22 05:59 PM
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Most any type of belief or value you have is a result of how you were brought up and what was considered important to peers. I've said this before on this thread, but this particular post is relevant. I'm a man and I am very confident that women can't begin to understand men. By that same token, it stands to reason that men don't begin to understand women. That's why people, relationships, marriage, divorce, infidelity are so very complicated. I have been married 3 times, my first wife twice, my…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 05:50 PM
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You have the beginning of a good topic, it's not just about women, how about the way their world is......or at least how it will be when they're adults? Even in 2022 much (not all) of what is taught to kids is driven by old school norms, expectations and religious based ideas. Do we tell kids that politician's and the government are a bunch of money hungry criminals? How about that if/when they get a job that their bosses will low ball them on salary and treat them like a servant? Isn't now peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 05:58 PM
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Understand something, there are so many variables to what your asking...it would be impossible to give a straight, to the point answer. How this person was raised, their past dating relationships/dating, their religious beliefs, some crazy cultural norm, peer interaction can have an impact on when/if the relationship moves to a sexual/physical level. I've been with a few females that we have been having sex within 2 hours of meeting, dated one that we participated in manual hand, finger and oral…
/r/seduction29/03/22 04:24 PM
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This, like any other aspect of life changes as you age. How many times do people have a relationship (including get married) because they believe that is what is expected of them by their peers or family? I've heard the myriad of reasons why guys would want a relationship, which include, but are not limited to, (mind you I've heard these verbalized) steady and easily accessible sex, security, start a family, the fear on inability to live alone, they don't want their friends to think they're gay,…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:10 PM
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First, I believe........for the most part, masculine and feminine behavior's are learned. Children and growing young adults pick up and emulate behaviors that they admire and bring them praise and being accepted. I have a 2nd or 3rd cousin (Male), his dad abandoned the family when he was very young. He grew up in an environment that was about 95% female. Mom, sister's, mom's friends, aunt's grandma etc. He is VERY effeminate; he talks and has mannerisms like a female, enjoys activities that are …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 02:44 PM
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There are many situations that exist, the issue I have (not just with your post in this thread, but many) is that you characterize the situation as some sort of huge dilemma, it's not really. So you read something on a Reddit thread and rationalize that the issue you read about is widespread. It's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 02:24 PM
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I read the first paragraph of your post. People on this thread, paint a picture with a very broad brush. I don't know if you are citing personal experience, third party knowledge or a situation that you think exists. I'm going to surmise that you must know a faction of people, in your world, that this applies to. The point is, people answering you do not believe the situation that you outlined is a huge dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 12:15 AM
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Except maybe a woman that doesn't have long term goals and aren't passionate about something ⁉️
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 11:19 PM
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How you deal with people/women is a skill, so is sex. Now as you, and others have said, there are physical attributes that obviously help attract women. The guy you talked about has obviously worked on this skill and made it a priority. He has honed his communication skills to a point in which he has an aura of confidence. Most women are attracted to a confident man.
/r/seduction27/03/22 08:27 PM
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Remember, in this process you identify two participants a man, and a woman. I can show you a number of real life instances in which the younger woman was the predator. Naive, somewhat gullible guy, uses money and assets to get younger attractive woman, she walks off with half of everything he owns. Yes it is a game, but it can be broken down many ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 08:20 PM
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Look at social circles in general, work, school, other places where people interact. I'll give you two examples, a friend of mine met his wife at a slow pitch softball game. She came to watch the games with the gf of a buddy. A second guy I knew met his wife or long term gf at a wedding reception. The more exposure you get will result in more interactions.
/r/seduction23/03/22 08:37 PM
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It depends on the mindset of the people you work with, or socialize with. I will add this, if you are a confident person (man or woman) there is a segment of people who are going to not like you. People who are confident exude an energy that intimidates weak and weak minded people. I mention this because many times confident people also have a level of intelligence that provides a wherewithal to use dark humor and not cross the line. Many politically correct ideologies have dynamics that make ze…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 02:21 PM
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So you believe that politician's shoving executive orders down people's throats, saying publicly that the US Constitution is not an absolute, working in conjunction with social media outlets to control information and denying people the right to free speech isn't heading in the direction of a dictatorship? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 10:42 PM
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Then there are those who become wealthy preying on misfortunes of other's (lawyer's, drug company exec's, some healthcare professionals, politician's) and other's who really don't do anything productive for our society, entertainer's and professional athlete's. Some people have a number of obstacles that would prevent them from making themselves financially stable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 10:26 PM
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If you live in the US, we're headed there now. Democracy is a myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 10:20 PM
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No, because many of the men at least have some aspects of being unsuccessful that are within their control. Climbing out of poverty is a much, much more difficult task, in some cases impossible. In the US, our priorities are so perverted that it would take hours upon hours to identify all of the issues. The very wealthy are near the very top of the list of issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 10:19 PM
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In the US and in the world (it already exists in some places, and is growing in other's) tyranny and dictator rule is making a sweeping comeback. I want to preface my comments by saying I detest our politician's, don't affiliate with any party. I don't buy into any of their snake oil sales. The US is allegedly a Democracy, now that is in title only. The voice of the people is gone. Politicians are pathological liar's and the drones (people) just keep voting for them. The lies, corruption and dec…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 09:57 PM
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It depends on how you are when you are alone with someone that you are attracted to. I know a lot of very shy women (that I have dated and had relationships with) who open up quite a bit once they feel comfortable.
/r/seduction13/03/22 07:33 PM
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Idk where you live, but if you look around the broad landscape, prostitution is basically legal, or it isn't well enforced, so it might as well be legal. If you frequent or are around a larger metropolitan city in the US, that city probably has a specific unit that deals with Vice (prostitution, pimps etc.) If you are close to smaller towns and cities, they don't have the manpower or money to enforce prostitution. Here's how they do this, once or twice a year they do a one or two day sting. They…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 07:16 PM
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Why is it that everyone seems to think they have to announce their intended path in life, sexual orientation, what gender they identify as (if any), that they are vegan and they do cross fit? I don't tell anyone anything, it's really none of their business.
/r/seduction13/03/22 07:02 PM
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Too friendly comes off very superficial to a lot of people, even annoying. I used to work at a place where I had to start work at 345 AM. We had to park a distance from the building and ride a shuttle. So we are all in the shuttle with this dude who is, Mr. Happy, Mr. Friendly and Chatty Cathy all wrapped in one. Nobody is that friendly or happy, unless they're medicated. 🤮🤢
/r/seduction13/03/22 05:34 PM
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Doesn't work that way, but whatever you think. It's amazing that people think that a reasonably complex dynamic doesn't fit in a box. One could go into a long diatribe about, the number of times, if the person has been previously notified. I find it interesting that you use the word, "intentions" that would probably be better characterized as, "hopeful outcome". There are a plethora of things that are difficult to be explained by a simple definition. If you are speaking about a single act of ask…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 11:07 PM
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The best way is to not bring it up.
/r/seduction10/03/22 09:15 PM
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Any kind of unwanted interaction with another person. And understand that if you are looking for a legal definition, that is somewhat fluid and is identified in the eyes of the beholder.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 09:01 PM
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Sexual freedom and predatory behavior are two completely different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 06:56 PM
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Let me enlighten you, if you are in any manner attractive, that can be physical, personality and/or attitude.... the men that work with you...most of them have least thought or imagined what it would be like to be intimate with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 06:54 PM
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Understand, she may have done this for her kicks. She may get a sense of excitement by randomly sending dudes nude pics. This has been about 8 years ago, or so. I knew this chick, not very well, who'd invite dudes over to take nude pictures of her masterbating etc. They guy could keep the pictures, but then she looked at the pics and masterbated to them again.
/r/seduction10/03/22 04:50 PM
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So take even what it would cost now, what % of people would shell that out for a sex doll? I know there would be some, but I seriously doubt it would have any kind of significant impact on relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 04:46 PM
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Not that this is a huge surprise, but I see a great deal of conjecture in the posts. When I see some of the broad statements, they seem to come from a very narrow, subjective place. These comments are made by male and female people, but sound as if the entire world is exactly like their inner circle. I see people talking about repeatedly getting hit on, for one reason or another. Are you at a bar or social gathering that is indicative of that? That would equate to going to the ocean and discover…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 10:12 PM
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When such a thing......is a thing...it will be cost prohibitive to a huge portion of the population. It will be such a huge portion, that it wouldn't make a speck of an impact on relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 09:41 PM
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Let me clear a couple of things up for you. Prostitution is alive, well and thriving. Yes, it is still technically illegal in areas, but the question you have to ask is, how aggressively it is being enforced? There are some larger metropolitan law enforcement agencies that have units that are assigned to work vice. The bulk of law enforcement do not have the funds to keep up with prostitution. What do they do? They know where the escorts are advertising and how they are drumming up business. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 09:14 PM
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I would tread very carefully, if you don't know this girl more than a casual meeting, you could be stirring up a hornets nest. You had better find out if this is a friend zone thing before you try and, "escalate". There are guys out there who would go bat shit crazy if they found out you struck up a conversation with their gf, no less trying to make designs on smashing. I've cheated on gf and SO in the past, I pretty much knew what their response would be if I got caught. I NEVER went after some…
/r/seduction07/03/22 11:07 PM
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First, you must've had a pretty easy, positive life to this point. Doesn't sound like you've had to deal with many hard knocks before. You have to accept that the relationship probably wasn't meant to be if it ended after a month. You have to be able to put what happened in perspective and move forward. I've been divorced twice and during the divorce itself there were times when I really questioned if I was going to make it, especially the woman I had kids with. You aren't alone in feeling that …
/r/seduction07/03/22 10:55 PM
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Sounds like time for a come to Jesus meeting to me. I don't have a solution to your problem, but see that you are struggling mightily with your relationship. The answer to the question you posed in your ordinal post is yes, men can act seductively without any regard to falling in love, or have someone fall for them.
/r/seduction07/03/22 10:38 PM
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You are clearly an exception to the rule. People become involved in relationships with people who they find extremely flawed. This is when people begin to rationalize. It is the whole pros vs. cons, and hey, when this person falls for me, he/she will correct those flaws. Then when the obvious flaws don't change, the relationship turns into a train wreck.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:05 PM
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Understand something, in most cases... remember I said most, there are tangible reasons that women are with, "average" men. Chicks dig dudes with money. Yes, there are some losers that have hot gf's but there is usually a logical explanation for that. Are there exceptions to the rule? Absolutely. Do things including dating and relationships happen for a reason? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:01 PM
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It really depends on where you folks are in your lives. Have you had a discussion with him about dating and relationships? If you haven't, he may be a stratosphere away from where you are, in regard to relationships. I have posted many, many times....women don't begin to understand men, and by that same token men don't begin to understand women. That is one of the overriding factors why people struggle with relationships, why the divorce rate is so high etc. I can tell you a plethora of things a…
/r/seduction07/03/22 09:55 PM
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No poor people have sex at the same or higher rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 08:54 PM
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Back the needle out a little, sounds a lot like how you perceive the world. Painting with a very broad brush; given the emergence of social media you have people (who claim to be open minded) who are absolutist's. This is how things are in my world, so that's the way it is everywhere. What percentage of young adults even participate on dating apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 08:48 PM
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You must be speaking of personal knowledge. Reason I say this is many factions of what are known as testosterone fueled activities, fighting, racing anything to do with motorcycles, a man that comes off as confident or aggressive in any manner is view by many women as toxic in nature. I completely agree that there is a group that are turned on by it, but I believe you are mistaken when you say, "most".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 06:40 PM
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I don't like reading statistics, so the question that comes to mind is, are marriage numbers decreasing?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 02:13 PM
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Because there are other average people looking for the same thing, they just have to connect.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 01:13 AM
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One thing that I know is a widespread fact. The social media age had created an environment with a lot more self centered people. Many of the issues that you eluded to are driven by selfish people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 01:07 AM
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Isn't how, "traditional" roles happen dictated by circumstances in someone's life? 50 years ago the traditional role of a husband/father was to be the breadwinner etc. Now the needs of the couple or family directs, in many cases, both spouses to work. I know a number of stay at home dad's, they all once worked but the finances and logistics made the decision for them. Their spouse(s) were better educated and made significantly more money, they had a choice......but it was a choice driven by reas…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:15 PM
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The are some very valid points that you've made. There are also points where it's apparent that you have talked to a relatively small group of people (probably friends) and accept their opinions as being the gospel. Being in a relationship has so many variables, that trying to characterize them as fitting into catagory A, B or C, does not even scratch the surface. A good example is when relationship's are in the early stages (most, not all) you really don't know who you are dealing with because …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 10:40 PM
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Porn everyday, even for a really horny dude, is pushing the limits of addiction. Men are easily visually stimulated. I can't tell you what it's like to be a woman, but I can tell you what it's like to be a man. Sexual attraction is an instinct, and from the time guys are 13-14 even up into their 70's they check out different women and imagine what sex would be like with them. The difference between male animals and humans is supposed to be that men mentally should have the wherewithal to control…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 09:46 PM
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There are a segment of men and/or women that are like that. About a dozen years ago I had had brief relationships with a couple of women that I worked with. I was single (divorced) and there was a group of us that kind of did things together, bars, concert's, ballgames and movies, so we had a phone tree to provide location's, meeting places etc. So there were a number of people who had my cell number. There was a woman that worked with me that was single, we got along, talked laughed about stupi…
/r/seduction02/03/22 09:29 PM
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I'm going to guess that being that blunt isn't going to float most of the time (not claiming it won't always). When dealing with people, tact and having a shred of decorum works much better than a direct answer. Like....right now I am enjoying life, uninhibited or free spirit living etc. You give them a generalized answer like that, then ask them. The beauty of this is you should both know if pursuing it any further is necessary. Some years back, they had a process called speed dating. You were …
/r/seduction02/03/22 07:28 PM
1

It's an analogy, tongue in cheek. Why is it most everyone on social media takes everything so literally?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:22 PM
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There are times when women make the first move and the clueless guy doesn't even know. It happens often, it may not be overt, but it happens frequently.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:32 AM
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I'm a man, I'm not going to speak to the other places, I don't have a lot of me time and I've been working out on a pretty regular basis for over 35 years. The gym is a me place, if a woman would want to approach me, she'd better be a smoke show and have her panties in her hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:27 AM
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Idk if what I read in Reddit threads are an accurate representation of how younger men approach dating. I'm actually hoping it is a microcosm, because it's actually frightening. I look in on dating advice, marriage advice and one called seduction. There are some interesting and entertaining stories that people share, and I have a hobby of sorts observing the psychology of people. I realize the bulk of many of the posts in seduction are made by very young inexperienced male's. I wasn't aware that…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:31 PM
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You paint this subject with a very broad brush, are you speaking from personal experience. It doesn't sound like anything I'm seeing from the 20-30 year old set, I'm aware of.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:12 PM
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There are things that influence confidence, the way you dress, your grooming habits, being respectful. Unfortunately there are things that have happened in your life that were beyond your control that impact your ability to expand your level of confidence. I grew up very poor, I was overweight and my parents view was, we're overweight....you're going to be overweight....that's just they way it's going to be. After I graduated from high school, I decided to make huge changes, joined the Army, bec…
/r/seduction01/03/22 06:43 PM
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The standing part is just something you have to consciously think about and correct. If you do this for long enough, it will be just what you do. Confidence and appearing confident has more to do with life experiences rather than learning and practicing something. A couple of things that can display confidence. Keep your head up, don't lean your chin or jaw on your hand while sitting. Make eye contact with people and speak clearly, with volume, if you are talking in a group shift eye contact fro…
/r/seduction01/03/22 05:28 PM
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There is such a thing as over communicating. It would be like people constantly being on the phone together, there's only so much to talk about. I would save some to be more engaging when I'm face to face. We have a couple, who both work here. They work different shifts, but both of them spend their entire breaks and lunches talking to each other on the phone. Idk how they do it. My wife and I most generally exchange 3 texts when I'm at work.
/r/seduction28/02/22 12:33 AM
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I've read a number of posts by guys on this thread who seem to be beating their heads against a wall to bag a chick. They've ranged from, I can't find anyone...to what do I talk about? Anyway, it seems that a lot of them are on dating apps and the are looking for fast and convenient. What you did took some personal initiative and creativity on your part. If there is a, "normal" way of meeting someone and connecting, your example would be one.
/r/seduction28/02/22 12:26 AM
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And my point is that if a man, by his own free will enters into one of the monogamous agreements that I mentioned, they don't have the right.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 11:35 PM
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Your post makes a lot of huge assumptions, most of them seem very far fetched. I am a man, I've had more than my share of ladies over the years. I have the wherewithal to know that women do not understand men and in turn men don't begin to understand women. I've had lengthy discussions with women about what being a man feels like. This seems very primal, but I had to come up with a feeling that anyone should be able to relate to. Since first discovering girls/women during puberty and on through …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 11:16 PM
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First, there are not very many secrets that some guys know, that other's don't. Yes there are people who are skilled in picking up women and , "bagging" them sexually. Understand that there are some who there are tangible reasons that they are confident, attractive and seem to accomplish this effortlessly. This ability can be dangerous in the wrong hands, such as a predator. The best seducer's, and there are more than one, there are reason for their success. The first thing is just that, they ar…
/r/seduction27/02/22 10:45 PM
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I wasn't referring to that dynamic as a skill. I would file training like that under snake oil sales. I think that gives people a false sense of confidence to follow a program that someone has told them works.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 09:42 PM
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Sex is a skill, like any other skill, there's knowledge, practice and it helps that the physiological aspects are working. In years past, most people's knowledge of sex came from the "Talk" by their parents, rumor and innuendo obtained from their friends, porn they've viewed and the nuts and bolts they've learned in school. I'm on a number of sex, marriage and dating advice threads, I'm shocked at the limited knowledge of sex by both sexes. After all the old school societal and religious expecta…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:57 PM
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Questions like this baffle me, and they do because I'm curious about how you got here? So did you just go around perusing chicks and find one you found attractive, walk up and say...you're cute will you go out with me? Relationships, including dating are enhanced or suck because of mutual interests or absence of mutual interests. Idk how much you know about this person you are going to date. So the first thing I would do is ask her to tell her about herself. Where she grew up, things she did in …
/r/seduction27/02/22 07:00 PM
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I really don't believe this is a societal issue. You are 100% correct, there are many people who do settle, and that is a huge mistake. But when it boils down to it, life is made up of choices and individuals make choices based on the facts and circumstances that present themselves. If/when a person makes the wrong choice, it wasn't society.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 06:36 PM
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This is a dynamic that is fairly new to the men/women dating/relationship issue. This is a behavior that impacts many other areas in life than relationships. There are many, many workplaces that you will receive scorn if you're confident (men or women). Confident people many times intimidate other's who lack self confidence and/or self esteem. Don't misunderstand there are those who are confident who do abuse other's. I firmly believe that there are people who gain confidence legitimately and th…
/r/seduction27/02/22 06:18 PM
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Very simple, don't wait until you are on the brink of sex to bring it up. I would approach it as, I want to make sure we are being upfront with each other. We don't know all of what is out there. Then lead into the conversation. I see a couple of folks who claim that the chances of getting an STD are very small. That is playing Russian roulette and quite ignorant. There are a segment of people who are carrier's of the Herpes virus that don't have outward symptoms. I know a guy that got it in the…
/r/seduction27/02/22 05:51 PM
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Masterbation is much like any other pleasure in life, you have to be able to practice it in moderation. ED, impotence and other issues most generally happen when guys have a porn addiction or they masterbate numerous times a day. I've seen advice columns where women have done things similarly. Used a sucking device or vibrator until they've desensitized there clit. There is irony that you described the negative connotations associated with male masterbation are the old societal and religious nor…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 05:24 PM
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I agree, but there is no perfect and having that understanding, how long would it take.....if anyone ever entered into a serious relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 04:29 AM
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You're taking my comment to the extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 04:25 PM
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If someone looks for a perfect match, it doesn't exist, regardless of how it sounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 04:14 PM
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Another dynamic that has been set by societal and religious norms. Over the past ten years (some point to social media and the electronic age as the culprit) people have become significantly more self centered. Keep in mind when an individual has different things they believe they deserve in a relationship, it could provide for a great deal of difficulty in a relationship. I once heard a person say, if you find someone, that you can tolerate the things that bother you about them, that's the one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 01:36 PM
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Woke people are all hypocrits... it's actually part of their belief set. I mean think about it... how can you be a racist that calls themself an anti-racist? How can you say Black Lives Matter, when you only care about black lives in the context of police shootings? A 4 year old killed by a stray bullet in a gangfight doesn't matter to these people unless the bullet came from a policeman's gun. This woke is/was orchestrated to push a political agenda. I'd like to hear BLM's or ANTIFA represent t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 04:43 AM
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Yes, it can change things dramatically. I was recently divorced several years back, and began socializing with a group from work. There was a female co-worker who coincidentally started the job the same day I did. We began to date, for the lack of a better term. Normal adult behavior began to happen and I had a discussion with her, because I knew intimacy wasn't far off. I told her I wasn't ready for a serious relationship, the ink was barely dry on the divorce. She seemed totally fine with the …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 04:27 AM
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In my experience, most far left liberals are woke . All liberals aren't hypocrite's, but the people who are in leadership roles that are liberal most definitely are
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 11:01 PM
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Has it ever occurred to you that people, (especially predators) put themselves in a position to victimize other's. A rapist can be found in any political affiliation. Bad analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 10:09 PM
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It may seem odd, but communicating is tied directly to being able to think on your feet, for the lack of a better term. Your intelligence (smart) doesn't come from your mouth, it comes from your brain. I believe people overthink situations on a regular basis. People usually talk about, things they have in common, things that they want to share with you, situations that they'd like your opinion on. Many folks suffer from not wanting to sound stupid. So say a girl asks you your opinion of a topic …
/r/seduction25/02/22 09:10 PM
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A lot of wokeness in general is superficial. Liberals seem to roll a great deal with, do as I say, not what I do. Hypocrisy is the name of the liberal game.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:40 PM
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The man (and I am a man) is just as culpable if he doesn't do his due diligence in making a LTR get theirs. Sex is a skill that has to be developed through, practice, knowledge and communication. You can get people's opinions, but everyone is different. You'll see questions posed about the size of a man, how long they can last, time in refractory period etc, you might be able to draw reference from their experiences, but you might be running yourself down a rabbit hole. Sex is much more more tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 02:52 PM
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Why does it have to be a conversation? Move on with your life, find a different path. She has apparently decided what she is....and isn't willing to do with you. If you guys text or talked on the phone, did you primarily initiate the communication? Allow me to digress, you have to respect her feelings on engaging in sex. So, if I were you and this isn't meeting your expectations, look elsewhere. Now, after you do this......if she contacts you, that would be the time when you lay out how you feel…
/r/seduction24/02/22 02:44 PM
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Most of these folks have to be speaking of a very small segment of society. There are a number of terms used in a very vague manner: "most", "casual", "hottest" . All of these can be very subjective. If there are 5 ugly people in a line, is the hottest the one who is the least ugly? What exactly is casual sex? Is it if the participants believe it is casual or how society views it? How many is most? Statistically, or the bulk the the people the person who created this post know?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 02:16 PM
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Real story, many years ago I was single (had gotten divorced) and met a woman that was very attractive. She was about 9 years my junior and had a child. We had a great time together, the physical and emotional part of the relationship were going well. She told me that she had relationship's with the wrong kind of guy (some had been in jail, druggie, abusive etc). As time went on, and we became more familiar with each other, her house was always a mess, her finances were a mess, she changed jobs …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:52 PM
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Are the processes that you cited window dressing, they all seem very external to me. How would even 100,000 years of culture and civilization change anything that is biological and physiological responses of a human being (animal)? Human drives and responses are impacted by external forces, but have they been significantly changed? I did notice that you cited mores in your response, aren't mores basically the same external societal and religious expectations that I mentioned? Mores are basically…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 10:00 PM
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I'm an older married guy, but I enjoy reading posts from the younger set. I find a number of things shared very interesting, odd but interesting. I believed at one time (which I'm sure many older people do) that I have at least a general idea of how things work with young people. I realize that many of the posts that I read are a microcosm of society in general, but if these posts that I read are accurate, I really didn't have much of a clue. Meeting people is impacted by a number of factors, lo…
/r/seduction21/02/22 09:17 PM
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I agree with some of what is commented on, the angst that I have is, people know (or should know it's 2022 after all and over 50% of marriages end in divorce) the consequences of getting involved are. I believe that the societal and religious norms drive both parties (in many cases) to marry. Although there are a number of us who look at the institution of marriage, and all that surrounds it, with a less than discerrning eye, hundreds of thousands still take the plunge.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 08:43 PM
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Very interesting that I came across this post, I recently had a discussion about something very similar to this topic. I will pose questions that I have pondered for some time. Some of these are painted with a very broad brush fyi. You used the word (bold letter's I will add), primitive. Humans are animal's, how far are we actually removed from the animal world? Survival, reproduction, eating are all characterized as things that animal's, including people, do instinctively. What role has religio…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 08:33 PM
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I would first analyze why and what makes you feel insecure? Most people will be able to determine that if they're completely honest with themself. The next step is to determine if it is something that you can alter or change. I was a very insecure and shy person growing up. I was overweight and felt terrible. My parent's, especially my mom, did nothing but make this situation worse. Her insight was, this is the way you are, it's the way you're going to be accept it. I had a huge decision to make…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 07:46 PM
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I guess it depends on what someone's opinion of what a nice guy is. There is an enormous conundrum that people are faced with. I'm a man, and I know women don't understand men. By that same token, it's reasonable to say that men don't even begin to understand women. Being nice is in the eyes of the beholder. I've known men that are consistently dicks to the women in their lives. They never seem to be without a SO, why is that? People, especially nowadays feel that being nice to other's is a prec…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 06:23 PM
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I've been married three times, some people might say I didn't learn anything from the experience. I learned a lot, I also became comfortable being completely honest with myself. Not that he's some kind of sueth sayer or guru, but John Mellencamp recently said that men probably mature around 40, and he wasn't even positive about that. I agree, now everyone is different, but I've seen guys (myself included) who have struggled mightily with maturity. I've heard men referred to as mearly incorrigibl…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 05:43 PM
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When someone makes degrading, baseless statement's against one gender or the other, they open themselves up to being called out for it. I don't believe what I posted ridicules anyone. If anything the person who wrote the original post shouldn't be overly critical of men. It's my personal belief that this post is chock full of foundationless conjecture.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 12:11 AM
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Your accent is the least of your worries. If that bothers someone, they're not worth your time to begin with.
/r/seduction19/02/22 09:12 PM
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The body of your statement is a complete contradiction. There is much about your post that is vague. Confidence is not something you can learn, it is developed over time, which unfortunately includes rejection and failure. There are elements in your life that tend to build confidence, and improve your success in attracting the opposite sex. I see a huge number of young men who are trying way too hard.
/r/seduction19/02/22 08:09 PM
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I read a number of dating, relationship, sex threads on social media. I'm older than many of the people that ask questions and/or look for advice. I find that many people seemed to be heavily influenced by current attitudes and beliefs of society. What I am referring to is the seemingly absence of independent thought. People communicate different situations in which they are completely helpless. For the most part, people are easily manipulated because they are naive, or they choose to ignore red…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 08:06 PM
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You're too young to be concerned with a relationship.
/r/seduction19/02/22 07:58 PM
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Societal and religious norms still guide many people through their lives. As a whole, our society in America isn't very progressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:21 PM
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This has much to do with maturity, or lack of (on the man's part) and I'm a man. Not that he is some great guru, but I recently read an interview with John Mellencamp, and he said men don't mature until 40, and even then it's questionable. I tend to agree. People marry and involve themselves in serious relationships too young. People go though some significant changes during the span between 18-45. It obviously differs from men to women. I went through a stage in my life that I consorted with, d…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:58 PM
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I really agree with the point that you make about societal impacts on sex. Here we are 2022, we (meaning mostly American's) allegedly much more progressive thinking and acting than ever.....and much of our sexual identity is still derived from out dated societal and religious norms. This includes orientation, monogamy, and sexual roles. It's difficult for the genders to analyze the other. I'm a man, and I really don't believe women understand men, and by the same token I don't believe men unders…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 08:51 PM
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As any issue, the quickest way to start toward a solution is to identify what the problem is. Your age, your experience at being social prior to becoming an adult, did relatives (mom, dad etc. ) have relationship problems. I have a nephew (this begins a number of years ago, he's closing in on 40 now) who was a good looking kid, kept himself in good physical shape, very smart in school. The problem is that he was very protected by his mom. He had friends over at his house, less than 10 times in h…
/r/seduction15/02/22 06:20 PM
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With the emergence of social media, people of all ages have become more self centered. I'm not convinced that it is limited to, "attractive" men.....or define attractive. Physically? Financially? Is this question based on some statistical study or more personal observation?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:33 AM
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I follow and post advice at times, I find the subject matter entertaining, I'm older but was very successful with the ladies in the day. I see young men paying people to teach them how to pick up women, never heard of that before. Just looking at a dynamic like that, it sounds a lot like a snake oil sale. Does anyone think that maybe an issue is guys are trying too hard? I see young men getting burned on apps like Tinder etc. I will leave it with this, some things end up much better when you hav…
/r/seduction09/02/22 02:48 AM
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I'm going to guess that you are younger, life is full of choices, decisions and consequences. I've had more than my share of experiences. I am glad that electronic everything wasn't around when I was of that age, I definitely would have made bad choices. The only thing you can do now is communicate what you feel should happen and move forward. If you are using an app like Tinder you may want to rethink that. It may seem cool and very convenient, but you are really taking a dangerous leap by part…
/r/seduction09/02/22 02:37 AM
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Not that it isn't possible, but you are battling a myriad of forces to the contrary. Deep seeded religious indoctrination, tradition and deeply imbedded culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 10:03 PM
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Here it is 2022, and people don't realize to an extent dating, relationships and people's roles in them are still guided by old, traditional societal norms and religious beliefs. There probably are more progressive thinking (about this topic) people than there were 25 years ago, but the bottom line is men(not all) are driven by ego and testosterone, and women (not all)are driven by romance and feelings. If you struggle with this idea, go to a social gathering attended by a large group of college…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 09:07 PM
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Understand that people's opinions about topics like this can be formed with a very small amount of experiences. They can also be influenced by opinions and attitudes of friends or situations that they have learned through hearsay.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 07:31 PM
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That depends on you. Let's say you really get in deep, a she says, sorry back to women. There was this dude on an advice thread. He was going out of his mind because his wife had a lesbian lover on the side. So the guy was like, we had a third (female) join them in sex often. He was obviously devastated, calling the lesbian lover ugly etc. He told his wife he loved her, she reportedly told him the same thing, however....she said she was keeping her lesbian friend regardless. People asked him abo…
/r/seduction08/02/22 05:12 PM
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Ask him.
/r/seduction08/02/22 04:48 PM
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People in general struggle mightily when admitting they are wrong, regardless of the subject matter. Why would any of this be any different?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 04:40 PM
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There are a huge number of people who get sucked into scams and don't realize how completely stupid they look. There was a guy (I'm guessing he's pretty young) who posted that he met a girl at a bar and they struck up a friendship, which included a couple of sessions of foreplay, texting etc. She ended up asking if he wanted to join her fans only group. He asked, what's my next move? 😅😂🤣 Decide if you want to pay to see her naked I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 04:38 PM
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As time goes on, and men get older that changes in a good number of them. Promiscuity is still in their minds, but previous negative results begin to provide some clarity. I won't go as far as to call it maturity, I look at it more like touching a hit stove. Don't misunderstand, there are some men that never get past what I refer to as, The Call of the Wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 04:30 PM
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I'm probably much older than most people on this thread, the are some truths that can't be denied (I'm male). Men are not complex at all for the most part, in our younger years, if we are able to satisfy our most primal needs, eating and sex, we're satisfied. They say that a male matures later in life than a female, I'm wondering when that is going to happen with me? I will say that regardless of age and looks, both most likely would be compromised for availability. I really doubt women are goin…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 12:22 AM
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Your post is very vague, but many, many dating and longer term relationships begin by having a common interest. Classmate, social gathering, church, workplace etc. This usually provides a person with a basis to strike up a conversation. There are guys that have gone in cold (I've done it in occasion), it can be very awkward and the girl might think you're some kind of perv. If you don't have some type of common interest or talking point, hi I think your cute, do you think we could cuddle? 🤔
/r/seduction06/02/22 11:38 PM
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Much of this has to do with how people's lives are built around convenience. I have a kind of hobby that began years ago, amateur study of Psychology, FB, Twitter, Reddit and Instagram has made this hobby much easier and interesting. I follow several threads about dating, marriage and sex advice. It's somewhat amazing the situations that I read. Younger guys seek an easy, non painful path (void of rejection) to women. I was amazed when I learned that people (guys) pay money to learn about being …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 09:02 PM
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Understand something, our world isn't made up of any absolutes. There are a huge number of people who like to speak and think of the world in absolute terms (i.e. impossible). Now although we live in a world in which people don't like to deal with the truth, and reality. Your first step is recognizing what you have to offer to a perspective female that you consider beautiful? Where are you in your life, obviously you have a job, does it pay well? Do you consider yourself attractive? Have you hav…
/r/seduction06/02/22 08:26 PM
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Given the emergence of social media, I truly believe that people have become more self centered and anti social than I've seen in my lifetime. I have a unusual hobby which is the, amateur obviously, psycholical study of human behavior. People seem to not be as socialized as they were 20+ years ago, their communication skills don't seem to be as sharp. Society today teaches people about this ideally, perfect world, that doesn't and will never exist. No one hating, everyone from any demographic ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:48 PM
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Remember something, sex, sexuality dating and relationships change depending on where you are in your life. I'm a man, men mature at a much later age than women (that's if you believe we mature at all 😅😂🤣). You can't honestly answer a question like that with a broad brush stroke, too many variables.
/r/seduction06/02/22 07:08 PM
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What you have to do is determine (either through self assessment or ask) why someone would say something like that. It was fine that you played it cool and confident, I would have been cool and confident and asked, "Really, what did they say?" This situation isn't really very difficult to decipher, there is some animosity and/or jealousy afoot, there are people who think you haven't treated them very well. If people are saying things that aren't true, they obviously aren't as close if friend as …
/r/seduction06/02/22 06:34 PM
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This is, or was an accepted societal norm, related to humans connection to being animal's. Right, wrong or otherwise men have been expected to, upon reaching a certain age, begin to be physically attracted to females. Society dictated that if a guy wasn't, there must be something wrong with him. Some men who have reached some level of celebrity have felt compelled to publicly announce that due to their religious faith, they have decided to remain a virgin until they are married. I would surmise …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:03 PM
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Given the emergence of social media, our society, in the US anyway, has gravitated toward people (not just men) being more self centered. Idk the statistics in people getting married (increase or decreased) or the average age for the first marriage, but I would guess that it has or will decline.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 04:36 PM
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One thing that you have to understand, what do you have to offer women? Regardless of what you think, they consider that when they are approached. Reading your post, you remind me of a friend whose philosophy was ask 200 women for sex, even if you only are successful 10% of the time, that's 20 chicks. Again, forgive me if I misunderstood what you posted, but I would guess that you should talk to some of your contemporaries about a bar or location that is furtile ground. Going in cold is, and has…
/r/seduction04/02/22 07:28 PM
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I know a couple of ladies who believe to an extent that this is the way to meet someone for a LTR. One started two significantly long relationships by hooking up after meeting at a club.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:12 PM
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The relationship didn't last long. The only thing that was good was the sex. There were other issues that irritated me more than her talking about ex's.
/r/seduction04/02/22 07:04 PM
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I was with a woman, for a very short time, that did this at nauseum. The only thing I could surmise is she thought it was impressive. It got old really quick.
/r/seduction04/02/22 06:23 PM
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They feel less threatened by other women is the conclusion I draw by talking with them. Now I'm referring to chubby, not grossly obese.
/r/seduction04/02/22 06:15 PM
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Yes
/r/seduction03/02/22 09:59 PM
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I've never used it, but Tinder has a reputation of being a place where you find someone to bone. Is that not true?
/r/seduction03/02/22 09:41 PM
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I will tell you that chubby guys usually get a lot of run. I'm not sure it would be just sex, and or relationships. I have a few female friends over the years who take chubby guys over a really fit dude,
/r/seduction03/02/22 09:29 PM
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I dated and had a baby with a girl that was just under 6 feet, very thin. I'm a shade under 510 didn't bother us.
/r/seduction03/02/22 08:56 PM
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You're on to seduction and you haven't even got her attention?
/r/seduction03/02/22 04:51 PM
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Being attracted to women isn't any different than any other physical need. You may want to speak with a professional if you are truly disgusted with the idea.
/r/seduction03/02/22 04:36 PM
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Idk I guess whoever did the original post.
/r/seduction03/02/22 01:00 AM
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The post asks about predictors or indicators, not solid proof
/r/seduction03/02/22 12:54 AM
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I'm good, never had a problem with connecting with women I just wasn't aware that there was such a thing. Sounds like a snake oil sale, but whatever works.
/r/seduction02/02/22 11:58 PM
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I've been out of the PU game for some time. I have been very successful with getting the attention of women in the past. PU Arts program's? Really, there is such a thing? I am guessing that people pay to attend these programs? It never ceases to amaze me what people will spend money on. I've been a workout guy my entire adult life, my metabolism sucks and I have to watch what I eat very closely and workout 4 or 5 days a week. The internet, television and magazines are full of, "new methods" for …
/r/seduction02/02/22 11:00 PM
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If you do, it will be very brief. If all you want is to hit it once or twice, you might get that, beyond that, your bank account won't measure up.
/r/seduction02/02/22 10:21 PM
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I believe you are putting too much emphasis on a particular place. Maybe I'm missing something, but I don't think there are a large number of people looking for a date at a dog park. I'm not saying there aren't, but I don't think it's a dating hot spot. My information may be outdated, but bars and clubs used to be the places that you could be certain that a rather high percentage of people were looking for a date.
/r/seduction02/02/22 10:17 PM
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One big one would be a plethora of very short term relationships.
/r/seduction02/02/22 10:11 PM
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Everybody has to be something.
/r/seduction02/02/22 10:10 PM
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Confidence, it can show itself in a number of different ways. Unfortunately when you are in high school and too an extent college, it is a popularity contest more than anything. Sports participant, play guitar in a band etc. something that creates a spark, a mutual interest that makes a connection. Things that exude confidence, grooming, the way you carry yourself, eye contact, speaking and communicating.
/r/seduction02/02/22 09:43 PM
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There are some innocuous things that you can do get a feel for where the guy is, or his level of interest. Start a conversation about how the guy is doing in general (obviously you know him better than I) express concern about bouncing back etc. Then work the conversation from there. I'll give you a real life example, I had divorced (different from a death) and the situation was somewhat similar to yours person I worked with, showed signs flirting etc. She asked how things were going on certain …
/r/seduction02/02/22 09:18 PM
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You may very well be reading the guy correctly. He may very well be interested, the challenge is to determine if he's willing to act on.
/r/seduction02/02/22 08:52 PM
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I've commented on a number of dating and relationship threads, this is the first time I've seen someone 15 (or said they were) posting a question. Much of what attracts girls to boys, is the same as women to men. There have to be qualities in your behavior, life and attitude that attract them. Some factors that impact bf/gf relationship's are common interests, common group of friends etc. What kind of activities are you involved in, are you outgoing or shy? Do you have a lot of friends or a sele…
/r/seduction02/02/22 08:46 PM
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For a very small, specific situational post, there are a number of dynamics in play. First and foremost, workplace romance can be a complete disaster. Whether you work for him or with him, the landscape of lawsuits and workplace disasters are well documented. If he has any wherewithal at all, he will be keenly aware of this, if he is an owner or a supervisor/manager. The other factors could that impact him, how long was he married, he may very well be ready for a very long break. I know guys tha…
/r/seduction02/02/22 08:27 PM
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Most all, if not all the ideas and suggestions that they can provide you are readily available for free, or at a much lower price than they charge. Begin by perusing the internet for books about dating (Google), many could very well be available for free at a public library etc. I'm a workout guy, the internet is jammed with quick fix, I'll turn you into a Greek God workout plans for $$$$. One thing that I would suggest is to sit down and (honestly) write out what traits you have that would make…
/r/seduction02/02/22 07:58 PM
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Idk how old you are, or where you are at in your life, but most of the time intimacy follows a natural progression. Some young folks don't recognize (speaking from experience here, I didn't) that before becoming intimate with someone, there are some topics to discuss. Birth control, safe sex practice's etc. You might have to deal from some rejection, this might be a person who doesn't believe in sex outside of marriage. There should be a time when it becomes apparent that sex is imminent. You co…
/r/seduction02/02/22 07:49 PM
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Is there such a thing as seduction training? Making friendship's, approaching the opposite sex, communicating, seducing someone, the act of having sex are all skills. There is physiological, emotional and psychological aspects to all of them, but bottom line is they are skills. Just like any other skill, it can be sharpened, or just untapped potential, that depends on the individual. You did mention one thing that, I believe is VERY important: confidence. I've had relationship's and intimate rel…
/r/seduction02/02/22 07:21 PM
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Obviously, there are a number of ways to meet the ladies. One of the more innocuous ways is through social settings that you are in, work, school, bowling league, church etc. There are always bars and the internet, but those are chuck full of pitfalls and issues. I'll give you an example of how a couple I know met each other. A guy I know was playing on his work recreation softball team. They had a game and the gf of a team member brought a single gf to the game with her. The after-party provide…
/r/seduction02/02/22 05:45 PM
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Idk, you might start by making contact with one or more of the girls you've had dates with. Start off by explaining you aren't trying to pressure them for another date, and you aren't trying to be weird. You can even do this by texting them if you have their number. Tell them that you thought that you two seemed to have a good experience etc. I would ask them if there was anything specifically that turned them off for a second or third date. ANY time you have a specific goal, such as becoming in…
/r/seduction29/01/22 07:17 PM
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This probably represents my demographic more than anything. There used to be a, "thing" where people said the ate green M & M's to make them horny. This morphed into if a girl handed you a candy that was green, that was your green light for sex. A girl I really liked approached me at a Christmas party and gave me a chocolate bell with a green wrapper. I knew it was in the bag. That sort of thing was very common then. There are a number of other things that would happen to signify to a guy, the d…
/r/seduction28/01/22 12:46 AM
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Don't try too hard, the biggest skill you have to develop is having the ability to recognize when someone is interested. Sometimes it jumps out at you, (one woman gave me a jar with about 100 green M & M's) sometimes you have to put a little effort into it. Idk your age or experience level, but you should get to a point where you can tell if there is, or is not the possibility. To.my knowledge, there isn't any real secret. The one thing that has more to do with your personality than anything. Co…
/r/seduction27/01/22 06:25 PM
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That's very difficult, I believe that old school societal and religious values still play a role in the hookup/FWB dynamic. Some years ago I began having a relationship with a woman. I was five years older, all my kids were old enough to be self sufficient, she had a child that was 6. We went along and things were pretty good, not great, we had several conversations and it was apparent that it wasn't going to work. Don't misunderstand, the sex wasn't an issue, it was good and we were having a lo…
/r/seduction27/01/22 06:03 PM
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Drunk texting isn't probably a good way to get something going.
/r/seduction27/01/22 05:41 PM
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Nailed it!
/r/seduction23/10/21 11:55 AM
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A number of years ago, I was seeing a woman. We really cared about each other, but it became apparent that it wasn't going to be a long term thing. She suggested being FWB's. It lasted about 6 weeks because of jealousy, and too much of an emotional attachment in her part.
/r/seduction09/08/21 09:09 PM
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There are three basic types of people in our world: Yes, Maybe and No people. Yes girls are there and will drop their panties on request. Maybe people will usually need some convincing, these are the challenging one's that men chase after. The thrill of the chase, and satisfaction of the catch, touches our connection to the animal world. No people, well they are what they are.......no. And really, they have an agenda anyway.
/r/seduction06/03/20 10:05 PM
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I did the online dating scene, some 15 years ago. The landscape was different then, there were some legit, "free" dating sites. Yahoo had free personals section. I had numerous experiences, some good, some bad, some hilarious. Apps like Tinder, provide for people to date and become intimate, much like trying food samples at Costco. My wife and I have been married for 15 years. We met on Match.com and began a long distance relationship.
/r/seduction03/01/20 11:50 AM
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Chemistry should guide your choice if people to date. That is one of the problems with dating, people are looking for money, how physically attractive someone is, what this person can do for you, influence people too much. That is why many times people end up unhappy.
/r/seduction27/11/19 12:32 PM
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Whoever said that is a dumbass, it makes seem like the guys are hooking up with women with high standards. ,😂😅🤣😎🤓
/r/seduction31/10/19 08:18 PM
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This is much easier to say, than to actually accomplish, set a personal standard for what YOU want your life to be like. I am going to make some generalizations, they are not 100%. Your age demographic impacts how you (and others) approach relationships. The things you do for enjoyment (partying as opposed to more of a date night person). Finding someone whose values align with yours (and vice versa). Most easily said, if you try and adapt yourself to be with someone because they are physically …
/r/seduction27/10/19 09:48 PM
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The best advice I can give is to keep perspective in your life, regardless of the situation. Don't set your expectations to high going into any situation. Any relationship, be it long, or very brief can be a source of disappointment. Look back at what happened, did you set your expectations too high with a sexual encounter?
/r/seduction26/10/19 05:39 PM
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Your question was how do you get past this. My post was an attempt to get you to examine the dynamic that would make yourself, or someone else feel uncomfortable with this situation. The question would ultimately be, are you ok with it? Also in fairness, you would have to decide if the person you are in this type of relationship is good with it too.
/r/seduction09/09/19 03:32 PM
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Many allow their idyllic view of the world skew reality. You recognize the norms and values that are in place in our society, as they impact relationships. These rules have been ingrained in many people to a level that if their life strays away, they become nearly incapacitated. They see people in relationships, that seem very compatible and happy. They then buy into the illusion that there must be something wrong with them, or their SO if they are different. I have only met a couple of women (I…
/r/seduction09/09/19 12:51 PM
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You pretty much summed up what you need to do. Tell her about some things that excite you. Ask open ended questions and try to draw her out some. Maybe supply her with some liquid encouragement and she'll loosen up. I met a smoke show about 22 years ago, little blonde, 503, 125pounds, when she was in college she was a football cheerleader. Stark raving fucking crazy. Got mad at me, found some stuffed animals that I had win for her at a fair, with their bodies opened with a knife. All the stuffin…
/r/seduction05/09/19 08:10 PM
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What do you know about what time his girl, is she a virgin? Maybe she is saving herself for marriage. Here is an idea, have a conversation about sex. When you're cuddling, do you get sexually aroused. If you do, what is her reaction?
/r/seduction04/09/19 09:34 PM
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Yes, there are a lot of haters out there.
/r/seduction02/09/19 03:31 PM
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A couple of things, if there are things about your apoearence that you're unhappy with (you mentioned you're chubby) you can change that. When a person works to make positive change it usually results in personal empowerment.
/r/seduction02/09/19 12:58 PM
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You can't concern yourself with how others feel about you,; having said that you have to be able to be happy with you. You refer to yourself as a, "cunt", doesn't sound as if you are
/r/seduction02/09/19 12:53 PM
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Dude, there's no secrets, find out if you have anything in common, interests etc. If you do, it will most likely take off from there. If not, probably time to move on!
/r/seduction01/09/19 11:38 PM
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This is the first time I have read this thread. What this guy says is true. I have had my pick if woman over the years. I have had numerous tell me that I am the most confident man they have ever met. I am not some wealthy pretty boy. My jobs have been mostly blue collar professional. I learned the importance of confidence many years ago. It can be a tightrope walk, you don't want it to spill over into arrogance. I didn't pick this up from self help books or lectures, it was trial and error.
/r/seduction30/08/19 11:22 AM
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I know a few women who are attracted to not so nice guys. I think one aspect of this dynamic that gets overlooked often, the women don't want to have to meet any type of expectations. I'll give you an example. Young hairdresser I know, she had had relationships with several guys that have been in and out of jail numerous times. She is a very attractive, although a little rough around the edges. Her house is a disaster area, and she is always living out some drama.
/r/seduction27/08/19 08:54 PM
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