is cheating really that common? how are so many other guys able to find women who are willing to cheat with them?

ksmith11011 · 2022-06-19T01:42:40+00:00

It’s easier to find women when you’re already in a relationship. That’s a positive trait they go for.

Women who cheat are also looking for fewer attributes, just the ones their SO is lacking. So you might find it easier to get with a woman who’s in a relationship already if you have the one thing her guy doesn’t.

XtraSaucyy · 2022-06-19T02:22:26+00:00

One thing I will say is when you’re with a female(family friend or partner) and you meet another female, that stranger will be a lot more friendlier to you than if you were there by yourself. So if you see someone who drops your draw or something while you’re with a female. Just go back next time by yourself like oh hey I remember you and then it’ll go from there.

introvertp · 2022-06-19T02:45:37+00:00

From first hand experience, not condoning the behavior, you pick up a woman in a relationship just as you would do normally but some discretion would be in play.

It's better to illustrate with a brief scenario: You approach or meet a girl and start talking. It reaches the point where you ask for her number, however, she mentions she has a boyfriend/husband -- but gives you anyway. You text/call her regularly, never acknowledging her SO or being too sexually upfront but she should have no doubt in her mind of your intentions.

*Not all the time attention leads to sex, it can just be her using you for attention but the back and forth conversations is a good sign.

Do a low pressure "date"; invite her out for an after-work event. Nothing needs to happen the first time. Ideally you want to get her out twice, three-times, etc.

From there you can decide how you want it to go; do you see yourself long-term with this girl or is it just a fling? Once she's comfortable with you play "the game" as normal and show her you can be discrete.

mzdebo · 2022-06-19T09:33:42+00:00

That goes both ways. Sometimes it’s that a person is missing something in there marriage. Common … idk but it seems so.

Im a F41, meet guys all the time and it seems they are all married looking to still try to hook, want just fwb, someone to talk to/ hang out with, etc. honestly I feel the opposite of you, I hate that’s all I can find. The only guys that approach me are married.

Keep your head up though. You’ll find someone that’s right for you. Good luck

ImAGhostOooooooo · 2022-06-19T06:12:07+00:00

I'm hearing a lot of complaining and not enough self improvement. You wanna be successful, you gotta work for it.

Relationships are work, you can't do nothing and expect it to turn out good. Same goes for one night stands. Very rarely does a guy not need to put in any effort to get laid.

If you wanna be successful at anything you need to put in the work. Make yourself more attractive to women. Don't be a perv just looking to get you D wet, unless you're at a bar and you're specifically looking for a hook up.

Also, no one is obligated to find you attractive.

As Marilyn Monroe said "you can be the sweetest peach in the world, and there will always be someone who doesn't like peaches".

Rejection is normal for everyone. You need to build up your confidence so it won't hurt as much. What do you bring to the table besides a desperate need to get laid? What can you give me that someone else can't?

hazrat_unmad · 2022-06-19T12:22:47+00:00

It's called Mate Choice Copying: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mate_choice_copying. Same reason Justin Bieber exists for teen girls, but there's no female Bieber for teen boys.

RafaSuarezDrone · 2022-06-19T02:21:19+00:00

You have to practice a lot more and live a lot more.

I am not going to pull the “you see things this way because you’re a virgin” but, BUT you need to start seeing life the way it is: a game.

And there’s a looooot of women to be with, single, married, widows, blacks, whites, fats and of every size. Just waiting for an invitation.

You just need to practice more, so you can expand your horizons.

incognito3107 · 2022-06-19T09:02:17+00:00

I guess many cheating cases stem from lack of ability to keep relation healthy and vigorous, also couples are often mismatched and they struggle to deal with each other after few years when hormonal storm stabilises. They cheat as they find it difficult to quit their relation or repair it and they have still their needs for sexual highs which their partner cannot satisfy. I guess it is pretty natural for most relations that they are getting outdated, but nowadays cheating is considered not that horrible as it was before.

Snakehead004 · 2022-06-19T14:14:49+00:00

If you can't get a single woman to sleep with you I Gurantee you can't get someone who's in a relationship. Look in the mirror first my man - You sound pathetic. Work on yourself and stop trying to find out how to get someone to cheat with you. It's a weak mentality and weakness begets weakness..

Seriously, better yourself first then try to seduce someone. Read philosophy, every day. Work out. Become a better man. There's no shortcuts in life.

SadBox4529 · 2022-06-19T02:18:41+00:00

How old are you?(im just curious since you talk about older women)

DestinyChitChat · 2022-06-19T08:26:10+00:00

We are creatures of emotions first. Logic second. We are walking contradictions. Embrace it. If you are able to take her on an emotional journey and stimulate her mind and body that's enough that no amount of money or looks can beat. You're simply focusing on the wrong thing. Focusing on how things SHOULD be instead of what they ARE.

carlos1973633826 · 2022-06-19T12:44:53+00:00

When someone cheat it could be for many reason. Most common one is they are not really that attracted to their partner and find someone else who they really find sexually attractive. It’s like a drug to them. They can’t stay away from someone who turns them on.

To get a girl to cheat you need to be very confident, charming, have some game. Sometimes the girl will actually do all the work you just need to give her a little window.

Remarkable-Cat1337 · 2022-06-19T06:06:28+00:00

well if you are trying to take a single lady, it's you vs everyone, if you are trying to take a woman who is taken, it's you vs the other guy, way easier

abandonliberty · 2022-06-19T03:25:48+00:00

Do you think these thoughts are something a woman would find attractive?

WanyCaleb · 2022-06-19T11:53:50+00:00

I come across a woman who is taken, they always reject me and show me their marriage ring or simply say they have a boyfriend

That doesn't necessarily mean game over. Could be a shit test. If it's straight up a no, then work on your desirability or game. You could buy a ring yourself and that in itself will increase your desirability.

I've been told women in relationships are easier. Something to do with filling a certain void. Or single mums.

Also, don't have the mindset of them "cheating"

Thank you and good night!

Perciprius · 2022-06-19T06:30:18+00:00

Downvotes really OP?

Why is Reddit so hard bent on bitching about getting downvoted?

TheTruth221 · 2022-06-19T06:43:37+00:00

yeah females be cheating

2022-06-19T07:37:44+00:00

I was just contacted by my SO affair partner. I am exposing them and I will give names and workplaces

thedukejck · 2022-06-19T05:21:53+00:00

I believe it’s the natural human condition both ways!

RealisticPattern1108 · 2022-06-19T03:31:50+00:00

I married at 21 and started cheating at 25.

My husband has little interest in sex, or me, and when I had enough I started fucking around.

Most of the men I hookup with are married, but for me sex is sex - as long as I am attracted to the man and we lay ground rules before meeting, I don’t have an issue with a discreet encounter.

freespirit1963TJ · 2022-06-19T17:03:21+00:00

Cheating is very common, one cause is people getting involved in serious relationships and/or married before they really know their significant other. People also ignore serious red flags they see, thinking the behavior will go away ...or they can change this person. I'll use workplace romance's as an example. People are for the most part around coworker's more than they're around their own family. After people get comfortable around their coworker's, they begin to share intimate details of their lives. Just like any single people would meet and begin to recognize common interests, beliefs and attitudes. Most generally the people involved fund themselves at some type of group outing or get together. There comes a point where the participants decide they're willing to take the risk of a physical relationship. I did see another person comment that it's satisfying physical needs without the commitment, that's a true statement.

Title	is cheating really that common? how are so many other guys able to find women who are willing to cheat with them?
Author	RealisticPattern1108
Upvotes	54
Comments	77
Date	June 19, 2022 1:01 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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