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1

What kind of shitty game is this? Lol Seems she likes the attention but there's now way you're gonna pull saying cringe shit like that
/r/seduction22/07/26 01:00 PM
2

Yeah I would just say that I'd never pressure her into anything but I'm also not interested in celibacy, so I wish her the best. if she changes her tune great, if not you can move on to someone who isn't going to be weird about sex
/r/seduction16/07/26 08:08 PM
4

She's probably been pumped and dumped and wants to put a stop to it, but couldn't help herself on that first date, now trying to backtrack and say no to sex. I wouldn't bother, just say sex is important to you and that you don't want to play games.
/r/seduction16/07/26 08:04 PM
15

What you say is the perfect response actually, just say it in a playful way.
/r/seduction05/07/26 01:22 AM
-1

try to go home with them rather than bringing them over, if youre just hooking up, you don't need to tell her about your living situation. I dont know where you live but in the US most women in your age group live alone, so if they like you, they may invite you home.
/r/seduction26/06/26 01:15 AM
69

theyre usually gonna be drunk, and tbh the girls you get this way you can get without approaching them all at random. These girls are easy to pick from a crowd, flirty with every guy, usually drunker than their friends, those types will go home with whichever guy talks to them last.
/r/seduction18/06/26 09:56 AM
3

Everyone has a different style. some guys openly start hitting on the woman immediately to instantly create polarity. other guys start off being funny and throw in some light teasing and compliments in as rapport builds in order to ease into the flirting. I personally dislike starting with compliments. If shes a stranger i start by just striking up a conversation about the event we happen to be at or what kind of drink she has in her hand. On the surface the conversation seems casual and platoni…
/r/seduction15/06/26 11:21 AM
1

Women aren't like men when it comes to sexuality. They are far more selective than we are about who they get sexual with, and it often doesn't take much for them to disqualify you, even if they find you physically attractive. Sometimes it can be a yes one day and a no the next, it's very emotion dependent for them. Women are generally only clearly yes or no consistently if their interest in you is very high.
/r/seduction06/06/26 07:20 AM
2

you messed up not asking on the spot, and sure some girls might be weirded out that you found her on social media after the fact, but this girl is a stranger. If she doesn't respond or she responds negatively, you will never speak to her again. You literally have nothing to lose, just go for it, better some chance than no chance at all.
/r/seduction19/05/26 11:07 PM
1

You still need to actually lead, a high interest woman just gives you a lot of opportunities. If you expect to get a relationship by doing absolutely nothing, you'll be waiting a very long time. High interest woman will make it very easy but she won't to everything. Game helps you more with the woman of moderate interest
/r/seduction12/05/26 04:42 AM
1

Basically if you're her type before you interact, and she pursues you. Texts you first, double texts, makes excuses to be around you. Basically she makes it so easy that a guy with no game doesn't have to put in much work because she chose him already. Most of the time guys are attention starved and they fold immediately when they run into a woman like this. When they break up, he stays single until another high interest girl finds him. Basically they have no real control over their dating lives…
/r/seduction12/05/26 03:43 AM
1

Most guys don't really have game like that. They usually just get lucky and meet a high interest girl. The ones that do know game are either naturals or more likely have learned through observing, reading and trial and error.
/r/seduction11/05/26 03:06 AM
9

stop living in the past. I lost my vcard at 21 and felt the same way. Once you start talking to women you realize theyre really not that special. If you put in the work to dress well, smell nice, develop good social skills, work out and youre at least average looking, women will be easy to approach, some may even approach you. best thing is to work on these things and then go to places with single women, once you start seeing success, you'll stop caring about the past.
/r/seduction21/03/26 09:04 PM
3

Hell yeah, pull a baddie
/r/seduction15/02/26 01:50 AM
2

It's a Saturday, people will be out, if you're looking for specific places, go to a bar, clubbing isn't the best if you're a beginner. At least at a bar you can hear what the other person is saying
/r/seduction14/02/26 03:16 PM
4

this can work anywhere where you know you'll regularly run into them. If you're not sure you ever will again definitely go for it same day FYI to everyone.
/r/seduction08/02/26 03:52 AM
4

next time you see her say hi again and if she seems receptive ask for the number.
/r/seduction08/02/26 03:50 AM
1

shes just not as attracted to you as you thought. Move on
/r/seduction08/02/26 03:44 AM
19

Leave, she will never change her mind because you ask. But i bet if she knew you want to break up suddenly everything is on the table again. (don't buy it) you gave her all the power and she knows it. Move on and talk to other girls, quite frankly its hard to come back from this, I've been there. When the person you want so much rejects you like this it hurts and throws you off in all aspects of the relationship. This is over, you just have to accept it.
/r/seduction08/02/26 03:44 AM
1

also flirt with your eyes, good eye contact but no too much, little smile here and there, and just vibe with her, get to know her, keep it light. If she brings up something serious, listen and sympathize but dont give advice unless she asks, and don't dwell on bad stuff, just move on to other topics when it feels right. break the touch barrier subtly, what works is if your sitting next to her close by, dont be afraid to kind of brush or even rest your legs next to hers ,light touch but youre not…
/r/seduction08/02/26 03:40 AM
1

just give a genuine compliment but dont dwell on it. For example i told a girl that i really like girls with curly hair, (which she has) then i just moved on the conversation and continued to talk about something else. I didnt expect a response it was just something i felt like saying. And it took some work but yes we did hook up that night.
/r/seduction08/02/26 01:54 AM
3

It's rough because you have no real experience but the best way is to approach a woman that is by herself. When they're alone they're so much more receptive to being approached. You don't even really need to introduce yourself, just start a conversation, flirt with your eyes and ask her to come out for a drink with you. Be attentive and have a conversation. Flirt with your eyes and make a slightly flirty comment here and there. At your age most of these women know the game and have more experien…
/r/seduction06/02/26 07:48 AM
3

Abundance mindset is not about your past success. It's about your frame and how you view women. Putting them on a pedestal and getting butthurt when one girl acts out is bad. Understanding that no woman is special and that you can always meet a new one when things go wrong with the current one is good, and shows an abundance mindset. Nothing delusional about that. It is true. You develop it by getting out there and realizing that women are just as flawed as us and that they too are trying to imp…
/r/seduction15/12/25 05:58 PM
2

Sounds like she likes you. You have rapport and you worked together to achieve something noteworthy. Asking her out has a very high chance of getting a yes. If you want to keep it casual, ask her out for some drinks in the evening. Catch a buzz with her but neither of you get drunk. Then make a move and bring her over to yours. Easy
/r/seduction15/12/25 05:53 PM
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If the second one shows up, what's the problem? You can't have them all as much as you would like to, (and trust me I would like to.) keep in mind that they're friends and they talk, it's possible the first one backed off because her friend liked you. As a man, you should adjust and go for it. Bagging girl two might actually even get girl one to come around and want you again.
/r/seduction15/12/25 05:50 PM
2

He was 5'4 Hispanic with a bit of a gut. But he was usually well dressed, well groomed and very good at building rapport with strangers. He'd make friends everywhere and would by extension meet a lot of women. He was good at making people laugh but also helping people out when they needed it. He had a lot of confidence
/r/seduction24/11/25 10:42 AM
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Go outside on a weekend and see how many shorter dudes have wives and girlfriends. This insecurity is all in your head. I had a friend who was your height and he was by far the most promiscuous guy I ever knew. He had sex with so many women it actually changed everything I thought I knew about attraction. When you find a woman you like, approach her with the assumption she is attracted to you, and stick to that until she proves you otherwise. The confidence you'll feel when you assume she wants …
/r/seduction24/11/25 12:51 AM
3

You need to stop trying to be friends with women that you want. You should make it cleAr with your eye contact and body language that you want her romantically/sexually. If you act like a friend they will be your friend, if you act like a lover they will want to be your lover. As the man you set the tone for the interaction. Confidence and polarity will win you women, hesitation or platonic energy will lose them
/r/seduction24/11/25 12:47 AM
1

Chat one up in between sets, look up the band and listen to a few songs beforehand so you have something to talk about. Then just casually flirt and chat. If she's feeling you, ask her to grab a drink with you at a nearby bar after the show
/r/seduction20/11/25 09:14 PM
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Avoidants aren't going to stop being avoidant for you just because you ask, they have unresolved issues with attachment and will make you suffer if you let them. You have to either accept what they are and keep things casual, or walk away. Anything else will eventually scare them off
/r/seduction19/11/25 07:33 PM
5

Logistics matter when it comes to getting laid. If your date is close to her place, you're in a good position, just have a good date, and escalate property during the date. She'll likely invite you over if you play it right. No point in playing the long game, make a good impression now and turn her on.
/r/seduction19/11/25 07:11 PM
1

You don't need a wingman, what you need is to practice talking to women. Go to a concert, there's tons of single women going to shows alone. They are the perfect ones to approach. Sac has multiple concert venues with all types of music.
/r/seduction16/11/25 01:57 AM
1

This absolutely happens, but it does take some luck.
/r/seduction26/10/25 04:42 AM
1

yes places where conversation can start naturally, or places where you share common interest and youre not just stuck sitting in place but have freedom to interact with others.
/r/seduction26/09/25 03:52 AM
1

fair enough, my perspective is from the usa only
/r/seduction26/09/25 03:51 AM
4

not at all, go to shows you like, and try to close the deal that night, not too hard, though it can be city dependent. LA for example would be perfect for this.
/r/seduction25/09/25 04:42 AM
64

Night life is played out at this point, most people late twenties and older dont really go clubbing much. I find that a much better way to meet women is going to concerts. Everyone is there to have fun, and people tend to be very chatty between sets. Its also perfect for setting up instant dates. Say you chat up a girl at the show and you feel some chemistry. The show ends around 10, well now you can ask her if she'd be down to have a drink with you at the bar next door. if shes feeling you she'…
/r/seduction25/09/25 03:02 AM
1

you didnt even say how much older. Just go for it, youre both adults, youd be surprised how many older women like younger men
/r/seduction18/09/25 08:58 PM
11

metro is 2.4 million, but the city proper is 500k is why
/r/seduction15/09/25 03:44 AM
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Sacramento lol, its not hidden if you look at my profile
/r/seduction15/09/25 01:50 AM
3

She wants you to be her penpal. Don't fall into that. Don't initiate anything with her, and if she doesn't want to meet you in person, cut her off. There's a possibility shes seeing another guy but wants to keep you in her pocket in case it doesn't work out. Don't accept that treatment
/r/seduction03/08/25 04:43 AM
2

I think your approach to bulking is likely flawed. Eating extra calories without watching your macros is why this is happening. You need to maximize your protein count and lower carbs. Find your maintenance and only eat 2-3 hundred calories above it. Lift for hypertrophy and make sure you get adequate sleep. This will allow you to build mostly lean mass with very little increase in bodyfat. It will be slow but it will help your looks immensely.
/r/seduction21/03/25 12:56 AM
1

Just saw it, Its all selfies, not great. You're gonna have zero luck on apps with that profile. With that said, you seem to be well dressed. Based on these photos though, i think you need to hit the gym. I know you said you did that already but you look skinny af. At 21 i had a lot more muscle than you do now at 25. These women will look at you and see a teenager instead of a man, especially if you're not tall. I also suspect you might be trying to hard to make a good impression when you approac…
/r/seduction15/03/25 03:11 AM
1

I am very curious as to what you look like, i have a lot of trouble believing you are 0-400 unless you are really messing up either in the looks department or in every single approach.
/r/seduction15/03/25 02:54 AM
1

i agree, my point is that older women are more likely to be confident and know how to flirt as you say since theyve had more time to figure it out. Are you 30+? i think that would support my point.
/r/seduction24/12/24 07:26 AM
2

I've seen some 35+ women at the gym with great bodies. i probably wouldn't go grandma age lol but older women can be hot
/r/seduction24/12/24 03:24 AM
8

older women are more enthusiastic in the intitial interaction as a whole. Even if they dont take you seriously they tend to be kinder than younger women. They also know the game, theres a lot less beating around the bush, you can be more direct with them without them responding negatively
/r/seduction24/12/24 02:46 AM
5

idk about gyms specifically but just flirt like with a woman your age, dont bring up age unless they do. And if they bring it up a a shit test just treat it like a non issue. Older women like when a man is bold in my experience. Its easier to be straightforward with them
/r/seduction24/12/24 02:44 AM
0

concerts are actually pretty decent if youre not afraid to approach. You can also do bars that are relatively chill and have a low pace atmosphere. Clubs are honestly meh unless you're willing to approach multiple times a night. I never tried malls but could work if youre smooth with it tbh
/r/seduction24/12/24 02:20 AM
1

depends where you work. If you're a bouncer its surprisingly easy. You can just ask a legitimate question and Segway from there. Often times they come to you to flirt or ask for the number. But i would not do this as a security officer in a more professional setting.
/r/seduction24/12/24 02:18 AM
5

Idk if this is real, but if it is, realize the alcohol helps alot, she's gonna be more receptive and you're gonna be less shy. Good that you pulled but ons at the club is different from cold approaching sober just sayimg
/r/seduction08/12/24 04:42 AM
1

Got ya, misunderstood the response. Have you gotten dates off of speed dating?
/r/seduction22/11/24 02:45 AM
2

My profile Pic is literally the chicken man from toy story two lol
/r/seduction22/11/24 02:38 AM
1

Well there's no shortage of good looking women in my city, the hard part is getting through all the flakey behavior and ghosting
/r/seduction22/11/24 02:37 AM
1

That's good I'll take notes
/r/seduction22/11/24 02:35 AM
2

Even the moderately attractive ones have huge egos, it's rough out there rn
/r/seduction22/11/24 01:58 AM
1

That's where I want to be but I need to build that momentum first
/r/seduction22/11/24 01:57 AM
1

Interesting, so you think hinge is more viable?
/r/seduction22/11/24 01:57 AM
3

I'm actually curious about speed dating can you give us your experience going and your age group? I was considering going to some speed dating events
/r/seduction22/11/24 01:37 AM
2

I'm just tired of getting flaked on a lot in the recent past. But I agree with what you're saying. I'm actually fairly confident for the most part
/r/seduction22/11/24 01:36 AM
19

Sorry forgot to say no homo
/r/seduction22/11/24 01:33 AM
7

Thank your parents lol
/r/seduction22/11/24 01:33 AM
1

I'll definitely try that.
/r/seduction22/11/24 01:32 AM
6

I understand the value of being funny and lighthearted but girls won't even look at the bio if you don't fit her standards for looks, so yeah I'll incorporate that into my online game for sure but I thin looks and photo quality are 80% of the battle on the apps
/r/seduction22/11/24 01:31 AM
1

Yeah I want to improve my online game and I think maximizing my physical attractiveness is the way. I'm actually reasonabl fit, I just have a bit of extra fat as well so I'm gonna get rid of that and then get some good photos. Irl I do better it's just rough overall because most people meet online these days
/r/seduction22/11/24 01:28 AM
11

Not really, I'm reasonably confident. This post was to highlight the level of competition in the marketplace. Of course I'm gonna continue to work on myself. But I needed a reality check and I just got it
/r/seduction22/11/24 01:05 AM
15

Damn, I want a muscle mommy lol. You got any tips for hinge?
/r/seduction22/11/24 01:04 AM
8

I have a decent face but I'm not very tall and I'm not very photogenic. I've gotten a handful of matches but never any dates off tinder or bumble. Irl I get complimented on my looks all the time. I am curious though, can you post your experiments here?
/r/seduction22/11/24 01:03 AM
14

Dad bods are attractive to a minority of women, you'll have more options being in shape. You can't show much personality on a dating app let's be real. Looks are king on the apps because they're the easiest thing to show. I know how to flirt irl and can get numbers fairly easily but based on what I've seen, I currently have no chance online because I'm not on that level
/r/seduction22/11/24 12:52 AM
0

Leftists are a cancer
/r/seduction10/10/24 06:10 AM
9

most people are average
/r/seduction27/07/24 04:40 AM
1

🧢
/r/seduction12/10/22 09:32 PM
2

Pretty much all of these things you can change with time and effort. Being fat isn't something you have to be all your life. Having a minimum wage job isn't what you're destined for forever. You can continue to work and save up for a car. Low -T? Hit the gym, eat right. You have a victim mentality and it holds you back. Instead of being sad about your flaws, ask yourself what you can do to improve
/r/seduction12/10/22 07:30 PM
12

That's not a seduction issue, that's a self esteem issue
/r/seduction12/10/22 07:24 PM
4

You still have to go out there and talk to people. And "tried" doesn't really mean much. You have to actually be consistent in doing these things to see results
/r/seduction12/10/22 07:24 PM
1

I don't think a guy like that can exist and have no luck with girls. People like that will draw women in without even being aware of it.
/r/seduction12/10/22 07:20 PM
11

i agree, though i would argue no woman should ever be on a pedestal regardless of what she looks like. Nobody should strive to be average. If you are then you are demonstrating that you're complacent, and no woman wants a guy with no ambition. Half the battle is mindset, and a lot of guys here have the wrong one.
/r/seduction12/10/22 02:12 PM
3

I'm rooting for you bro. You might have to really game her over text to really get her interested. Odds are she was reluctant because her ex was there but won't be when hes not around. Don't worry about the whole second choice thing. She has history with that guy, it is what it is. This is actually the best case scenario for a casual fling since you both know she has unfinished business with someone else and she might want to use you to get over him. If all you want is casual then that is great …
/r/seduction12/10/22 02:08 PM
44

I think everyone in this sub needs to read this post. I'm honestly tired of the pity parties in the comments where everyone just complains that they're either too short or just get ignored because they're boring. Even worse are the full blown incels that try to get others to join in on their misery. We are men, men have it harder yes, but we have it in us to improve in almost every way. If you are a weak man with nothing going for you, of course you won't attract anyone. But if you work on yours…
/r/seduction12/10/22 02:00 PM
1

Met her at her work, she was friendly and a bit flirty so I went for it after a few visits
/r/seduction30/08/22 04:15 PM
1

I had one that loved buying me things. We didn't ever even have real dates. She'd just come over at night
/r/seduction30/08/22 02:41 PM
0

Probably either unattractive or very socially awkward. Hard for any decently attractive woman to never get approached
/r/seduction23/07/22 05:18 AM
5

Yeah it's actually not as rare as many people think. It just comes down to attraction. If you really look how you say you do, you should have no issues. Just gotta be bold and go for it. I wouldn't mention my age unless it was relevant. It's one thing for her to assume you look a bit young and another for her to be doing math in her head realizing she's 8 years older than you. So I say just stay mysterious and flirt it up like you would with a girl your age
/r/seduction21/07/22 07:31 PM
1

Excuse after excuse, there's always some thing holding you back right?
/r/seduction18/07/22 11:05 AM
1

Sounds like you want success without putting any effort, not gonna happen. You need to get and do the work to become better
/r/seduction17/07/22 07:04 PM
15

facts, online dating is so heavily stacked against normal dudes, theres almost no point. IRL you can pull much more easily
/r/seduction17/07/22 08:28 AM
43

nah bro a solid 5 thats ready to suck your soul out is way better than jacking off
/r/seduction17/07/22 08:26 AM
1

Do you actually approach said women? They will almost never approach you. You have to get the ball rolling
/r/seduction17/07/22 03:23 AM
1

And she was still low-key into him, gave him a 6/10 and said she'd see him again
/r/seduction17/07/22 12:55 AM
34

You should make it clear that you want to take her out and you're not interested in being friends. Either you weren't clear and she thinks you're friends or she's just playing games. Either way she'll respect you more for being up front about your intentions. Might even respect you enough to take you up on doing a real date
/r/seduction16/07/22 07:22 AM
6

You know he hasnt
/r/seduction16/07/22 06:13 AM
5

There are universally attractive traits that you have control over. Being fit and not overweight is an obvious one. Having a career or direction in your life is another. Dressing well, having good hygiene. Charisma, you do all of these and someone will be attracted to you.
/r/seduction16/07/22 06:08 AM
1

Been there, I think it's just the vibe you give off that day. When I'm feeling myself I feel like I can pull any girl, and when I'm not I feel like I don't even exist. Also people don't decide who they're attracted to. Some days you just don't meet any women who's type you fit into
/r/seduction16/07/22 01:30 AM
1

Bro I'm so disinterested in dating because I never feel anything romantic for these women. I've only ever caught feelings once. Every single girl before or since was just for sex to me. It fucks me over because I can tell on first dates that they know I'm not super interested and there often isn't a second date
/r/seduction16/07/22 01:28 AM
8

Terrible advice
/r/seduction16/07/22 01:20 AM
10

Don't do this, no matter how you ask it's going to come off as needy. Instead of slow texting for 6 months straight, ask her on a date. If it's a yes, great, you can escalate in person. If not, she's using you for attention so just move one
/r/seduction16/07/22 01:19 AM
0

Lol find a girl with a fat friend
/r/seduction16/07/22 01:17 AM
1

You'd both be risking your jobs no matter how you approached it. If you really like her, best way forward is to get another job flirt it up during your last week and ask her on a date on your last day. But obviously you should only do this if you want to quit already
/r/seduction16/07/22 01:16 AM
10

I was ready to roll my eyes at this post but this is 100% facts. The day I realized that attraction isn't a choice, my mindset changed and I began to improve my game
/r/seduction16/07/22 01:10 AM
1

Lol it might sound that way but emotional intelligence is still intelligence. If you lack in that department you're going to have a rough time
/r/seduction16/07/22 01:09 AM
0

It might also help if she knows you're a regular. If she sees you all the time working hard at the gym she'll be less likely to assume you're just there to hit on girls. I'm looking to talk to a gym girl or two myself but it's definitely something I don't want to rush
/r/seduction14/07/22 09:22 PM
-2

Nah they're well aware they're not as pretty as they used to be, bagging a younger dude can be a point of pride for them
/r/seduction14/07/22 07:56 PM
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Neither, you should mirror her. Slow down on texting her and go do stuff with your friends. If she values you, she'll notice and hit you up, when she does, set up a date. If she doesn't then just end things. Don't be butthurt, just respectfully let her know that it's over
/r/seduction10/07/22 12:53 AM
1

poor choice of words at the end there lol. But i relate, im also not very tall all though ive been told that im good looking. Never been very athletic either. Part of the problem is that every hero in movies is a tall jacked dude who is physically imposing. Its hard to break out of the feeling that you're not up to standard when all you see is one specific body type.
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:48 AM
1

yes but also not really, curly hair vs straight, lighter skin vs darker skin, body hair vs no body hair. skinny build vs athletic build vs muscular build. Its nowhere near as simple as you suggest.
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:46 AM
6

It's just an old rap song. It's about him getting pulled over by a hot lady cop
/r/seduction04/07/22 05:36 AM
1

That's actually a good thing, men that aren't genetically blessed have two options, accept that your going to have to work hard to improve or bitch that you were dealt a bad hand and be a downer. He chose to work on himself. He is right though, an attractive man had to do a lot to achieve that status. The fact that he's still hungry and eager to keep improving is a great sign
/r/seduction04/07/22 05:34 AM
17

Polos are good as long as they're matched well with your body's overall build and the rest of the outfit. I like them a lot but stopped wearing them when I became overweight. Now that I've lost most of that extra fat I feel comfortable in them again
/r/seduction04/07/22 05:09 AM
-1

Rating system has no rules, so it's super subjective. Also men and women look for different qualities in each other. What you are describing sounds like a high value man. But maybe he sees holes in his game that are amplified in his mind even if you're focused on all his good qualities. Honestly though, you're just overthinking it. You find him attractive and that makes him attractive to you. If the feeling is mutual then you're doing good
/r/seduction04/07/22 05:02 AM
64

Lady cops are fine as hell. Good on you for at least approaching. I'm just remembering that lil Wayne song when I see one
/r/seduction04/07/22 04:34 AM
1

I'm short and I've bagged one, maybe git gud
/r/seduction28/06/22 12:17 AM
1

So invite her over to watch a movie she'll get the hint
/r/seduction27/06/22 01:47 AM
1

It's not just theory. Testosterone makes men want to get up and do shit. it makes us more assertive and aggressive. It allows us to perform better in everything physical. 100% I would rather have hight T than low T it's not even a question
/r/seduction26/06/22 05:23 PM
7

It's pretty obvious, if you're asking this question odds are any girl you hook up with is more experienced than you. Meaning shes done all this before. If you invite her over for wine in the evening or at night and she says yes, you got a good shot at getting laid
/r/seduction26/06/22 05:18 PM
5

It's a shame because the sub actively sabotages people who are trying to improve their game. Say anything against what they say and you're labeled a mysoginist or worse
/r/seduction24/06/22 10:25 PM
1

She's at least somewhat interested if she spent that much time responding. If you're patient and non needy you might be able to get her to come out
/r/seduction24/06/22 10:21 PM
2

Maybe shes just busy? It's not a big deal to go a day or two without talking. But if you really want to see text game in action check out playing with fire on YouTube. Dude will game girls for weeks sometimes over text before he succeeds. It's not a race
/r/seduction24/06/22 09:18 PM
6

Lol that's just chemistry, any idiot with no game can get lucky if the girl is feeling him. Nothing wrong with that when it happens but the point of game is so that you're not just stuck waiting for the perfect combo of chemistry because it's usually pretty rare
/r/seduction20/06/22 02:07 AM
5

Easier to find is the wrong phrasing, more like you're perceived as more attractive when it's clear another woman is attracted to you
/r/seduction20/06/22 01:46 AM
3

Damn, that's literally what I want to do, goth women are hot as hell. I suck at dancing though. Good on you bro
/r/seduction20/06/22 12:47 AM
2

It's not about chasing, it's about attracting. Girl has to want you,
/r/seduction16/06/22 12:46 AM
51

fair enough, but a big part of game is simply to not fuck it up when things are easy.
/r/seduction13/06/22 12:16 PM
28

Being short is a disadvantage that we're never going to shake, so I realized it's better to focus on what you can change. If you're skinny, hit the gym, put on some lean mass. Often times skinny dudes look too much like boys and not enough like men. Grow out your facial hair in a way that's organized and well groomed. Get regular haircuts in a style that is masculine and modern. Dress well and wear clean shoes. Build up your confidence and don't let the negative thoughts compromise your confiden…
/r/seduction11/06/22 07:24 PM
3

Sounds like she's into you. You guys live close by, means you'll see her often. Take your time and just ask her to hang out when you feel ready. There's no rush here
/r/seduction08/06/22 02:32 AM
1

So I have to be married for my relationship experience to matter? You really going to gatekeep here? Not to mention this is written all over the literature
/r/seduction07/06/22 11:55 PM
1

Obviously that's one component but if you want to be an actual couple rather than just roommates who get along, then you have to maintain attraction. And you don't do that by talking. You do that by courting each other
/r/seduction07/06/22 10:17 PM
2

The polarity is gone, you no longer act like a man and she therefore no longer feels like a woman. Restore the polarity and things will get better.
/r/seduction07/06/22 09:50 AM
2

this doesnt really fix the problem though its a good start. People don't decide their attraction levels. You can't talk your way to a healthy marriage. He has to be a masculine man in order to bring out her femininity. If he can make her feel attracted again, the rest will be a lot easier to fix
/r/seduction07/06/22 09:48 AM
2

It was the opposite for me, I got tons of flirty customers when I worked sales, outside work I would get get some but it wasn't nearly as much
/r/seduction22/05/22 09:10 PM
2

You're too fat tbh. Women only see the superficial. You're muscles gotta be defined for them to care. Otherwise all they see is a dadbod. You're gonna have to cut to 15% to see the results you want
/r/seduction17/05/22 01:55 AM
1

im not concerned with the weight itself, creatine as far as i know makes you retain water in the muscles which im okay with. Im more concerned with losing body fat. Literally all my fat goes to my belly so i get a dad bod even without really being that overweight. I have friends from all types of sub cultures and most of them have girl friends. One time i hooked up with the sister of one of the girlfriends, another time i hooked up with an old highschool friend of my friend's. gonna give OLD ano…
/r/seduction14/05/22 10:36 PM
1

I never had much luck with online dating, usually I would hook up with friends of friends or the occasional girl I'd pick up at a club. I'm only going to go low carb for a couple months so I can take full advantage of ketosis but after that I'm going to keep fasting but eat balanced low calorie meals. Interestingly I've been getting stronger at the gym despite being at a massive deficit so right now everything is working but I am supplementing with vitamin d and omega 3 fish oil as well as creat…
/r/seduction14/05/22 09:32 PM
1

Yeah I'm doing a three day split so I can really focus on muscle groups. I also do VR boxing on my quest for cardio. I've read going low carb for extended periods of time can mess with your testosterone levels so I'm gonna take a few days off at the end of the first month. Then I'm gonna go another month and reassess. Most likely I'm gonna permanently add carbs back in but continue fasting. I got better at approaching when I got a sales job. You absolutely have to be comfortable talking to stran…
/r/seduction14/05/22 08:32 PM
1

Yeah I'm on week 4 of omad and I cut out pretty much all carbs. Been going back to the gym too. Haven't weighed myself but I feel better already. If all goes well by the end of June I'll be where I want to be. Flirting irl is a skill like any other. Some are naturals and others have to learn. I had to learn too, I used to be very nervous talking to strangers. The trick is to just make it light hearted and fun. No need to ask her for her life story or tell her yours. If she likes you you can lite…
/r/seduction14/05/22 08:12 PM
1

I was literally the opposite, no text game but if I felt myself that day I could pull irl. I've gotten better at both but I lost some confidence since I put on weight the last year or two
/r/seduction14/05/22 02:59 AM
1

Yeah that's the hardest part, but there's no way around it unfortunately.
/r/seduction14/05/22 01:25 AM
1

So just flirt at the checkout and see how she responds. Become a regular, and just say hi. You don't have to pull her the first time you see her.
/r/seduction14/05/22 12:36 AM
1

She was friendlier than expected first time I went shopping there. Second time we chatted for a little bit and she said to visit her once in a while. So I did and after a couple times going there I flirted it up and gave her my number. She texted me two days later. I actually made a few posts about it a while back
/r/seduction13/05/22 09:50 PM
0

I find it easier to get over the approach anxiety If the girl is really my type, unfortunately sometimes those girls are working when I see them. Tbf I've done it once and it worked. Had a casual thing for a few months with an older woman who was working when I met her
/r/seduction13/05/22 09:23 PM
1

Lol you're going to the wrong places. Go somewhere where the girls are more your type. If you're getting rejected, you're either doing something wrong, or you're just not the right demographic for the girls you've been going for
/r/seduction09/05/22 01:00 AM
2

this guy again? No wonder you don't have any success, your attitude sucks
/r/seduction24/04/22 08:58 PM
6

These are my favorite words from a woman. I like getting kinky and dominant so it's great when the girl is down. She wants to please you, figure out what you like and go to town
/r/seduction03/04/22 05:30 PM
3

You're coming off as needy to the girls you like but not towards the ones you don't because you're not invested. Treat the the ones you're into like the other ones and you'll have better results
/r/seduction02/04/22 08:36 PM
1

dating apps are ass unless you're really photogenic. Approach irl and don't be afraid to show interest
/r/seduction29/03/22 08:12 AM
10

"in the moment" means he's not interested in doing the most for it. Doesn't mean he wouldn't be down to do it again. I bet if you just asked him to hang out like normal and then escalated he'd be all for it. If you flirt or maybe tease him with some over the clothes action, He'll get in the mood real quick lol. I think he just has mixed feelings about fooling around with a friend.
/r/seduction29/03/22 06:53 AM
7

No advice from me bro, well done
/r/seduction29/03/22 06:47 AM
2

She's trying to act out to get back at her man. Had this happen to me too, I played dumb because her bf was a coke head drug dealer and I didn't want to get shot lol. But hey if you're not scared of any consequences go for it. Get flirty with her, escalate over text and then invite her over to yours on a weeknight, she'll know what's up
/r/seduction27/03/22 11:45 PM
1

Shes breadcrumbing you. Don't fall for it, if she wants your attention she needs to make that move
/r/seduction27/03/22 02:01 AM
1

She's not over you, if you want her back it's a good sign, eventually she'll reach out to you. If you're truly done with her though, you're better off just ignoring all that.
/r/seduction25/03/22 12:41 AM
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She's not even bad looking, not sure why she felt the need to catfish wtf
/r/seduction22/03/22 03:14 AM
2

Online is tough as fuck due to everyone putting emphasis on height. I do much better irl. I think online there's too much competition and no real chance for personality to shine through, so physical traits then get more focus. I'm 5'7 and my height is generally not a problem irl but I'm pretty sure it fucks me over online
/r/seduction19/03/22 12:41 AM
3

You can still have fun with this girl if you think there's chemistry at least. You don't necessarily have to be looking for the love of your life. I personally have only felt the spark once and every single other girl was just temporary fun for me. You can still go out and have fun dates without wanting a long term relationship
/r/seduction08/03/22 11:56 PM
1

I agree with everything except the last part, you should never ask for a relationship, that's for her to ask you. It has to be her idea and it seems that's not what she wants. Your job is to hang out, have fun, and hook up
/r/seduction08/03/22 11:46 PM
8

These responses are so cringe. Stop overthinking. I would say go to the store when it's less busy and see if you can small talk on one of those days. Become a regular and have a quick chat with her once in a while. If you guys vibe then eventually she'll look forward to seeing you. Once you got that rapport built up you can ask her out on a date.
/r/seduction06/03/22 11:37 PM
17

I made the second comment that you cited here and I think you took what I'm saying out of context. For the record I completely agree with what you're saying. My comment was simply pointing out that there's a lot of insecurity that most men have about approaching and that it's a good idea for the woman to also approach if she's also interested. I'm not promoting incel mentality, in fact I believe the exact opposite. That we should all take responsibility for our own lives and failures and to take…
/r/seduction04/03/22 04:09 AM
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I don't think he's an incel just from that comment, just a downer. Some guys deal with so much rejection they become negative and develop a defeatist mindset. Is he wrong to think this way? Absolutely. But he brings up a good point, which is why would she complain about never being approached while simultaneously not thinking to approach anyone herself.
/r/seduction04/03/22 02:03 AM
7

not narcissism, they're just too self conscious and insecure
/r/seduction04/03/22 01:59 AM
4

you're absolutely right, it comes down to how the guy measures his risk vs chance of success. Most guys have a harsher perception of rejection than what it really is especially in the long term. Still my point stands, guy won't approach because he feels societal pressure not to. Too many of their peers tell them its wrong to bother someone while they're out minding their business so they start to think its wrong for them to approach at all.
/r/seduction04/03/22 01:58 AM
1

You gotta be decisive. Pick a night and tell her. If she says she's busy but doesn't suggest an alternative, she's not interested. Movie dates are terrible first dates fyi but hey maybe you can get something to eat beforehand so you get a chance to talk.
/r/seduction03/03/22 11:32 PM
1

It's a place for people to learn, of course the noobs are gonna ask noob questions
/r/seduction03/03/22 11:30 PM
1

Bro stop asking girls on movie dates for first dates.
/r/seduction03/03/22 11:30 PM
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Most guys aren't bold enough to approach a girl in a group with her friends. Too much risk of getting cancelled or at least embarrassed. You can make the guy more likely to ask you out though by starting a conversation with him. Build rapport. If he feels like you might like him he'll be more likely to take the risk of asking you out. Also keep in mind that these "signals" that you give can be very ambiguous and a lot of guys simply won't notice them. What constitutes a hint or signal for one wo…
/r/seduction03/03/22 11:27 PM
1

find other girls bro, the ship sailed with this one. I know its not the answer you want to heart but i guarantee she doesn't think about you anymore. Move on.
/r/seduction02/03/22 01:16 AM
2

Have a convo with her dude. You guys go to the same school and you're from the same town. You already have common ground. If shes okay with being in a car alone with you then clearly she doesn't think you're creepy. Just keep it cool. Ask her where she went to school and tell her about your favorite spots in town. Bond over the things you both enjoy. If she's feeling you, get a bit more flirty over time. Share your favorite songs with each other. Its okay to use music to get to know each other t…
/r/seduction01/03/22 09:13 AM
5

lol bro she had so much fun with her friends that she just forgot about about you for a whole month. Nah you chased her away and she ended up missing you after a while and realized that when she saw you again. Ghosting you was disrespectful and its telling that she makes up excuses rather than just admitting she was wrong and being mature about it. Don't waste your time with her, have some self respect.
/r/seduction24/02/22 07:51 AM
2

You're overthinking, who cares what her intent was? Her actions tell you she was not respecting your time. If she comes back, apologizes and is receptive to another date, then set it up, but if not you can be glad you didn't waste any more time, money or effort on her
/r/seduction23/02/22 02:07 PM
4

Well it could also be that she realized you didn't have much in common. That's a risk you take when you show that vulnerability, but it's a good thing since it filters people out who aren't compatible. I think you'll know within a few days if she's still interested or not though
/r/seduction23/02/22 01:20 PM
0

You don't have to put up with any of it but I see the shit tests as part of the mating ritual. The same way a peacock has to dance with his feathers out to impress a female. Humans have to flirt, men have to pass shit tests, and women have to filter out the males who can't do the dance. I'm not saying it's correct but it is the reality
/r/seduction23/02/22 01:17 PM
2

I completely agree, I meant putting peaceful cooperation above all else, often to the detriment of progress. For example not confronting an incompetent teammate in order to spare their feelings. I think being too passive is what goes against human nature not the part about teamwork in and of itself. We need teamwork, but we also need competence and I think the current climate frowns upon people who utilize their competence to get ahead
/r/seduction23/02/22 01:14 PM
2

Are you sure you were fully being yourself and not just intentionally antagonistic to make a point? Because if you were, she definitely would have picked up on it. Also you can stand for your convictions without being defensive or rude when asked about them. It's all in how you disagreed. Time will tell if you turned her off but it sounds like it would've been a smoother date if you were a bit more agreeable.
/r/seduction23/02/22 01:11 PM
2

What she did was disrespect, the ball is in her court to apologize and make amends with you, not the other way around. Do yourself a favor and give her the gift of missing you
/r/seduction23/02/22 12:58 PM
2

She flaked on you bro, it happens. Honestly that kind of disrespect would lead me to never contact her again. If she messages you down the line and apologizes then you can decide where to go from there but I would not initiate. Also do not do a movie date as a first date, it's terrible, you can't talk or get to know each other and you just get distracted by the movie rather than focusing on each other.
/r/seduction23/02/22 12:56 PM
1

Wow, a true misogynist in the wild. You got issues my guy. You have a very negative view and all it's doing is hurting you. Yes women can be manipulative, yes they think and act in ways men don't always understand, but they are not inherently evil and you promoting toxicity isn't doing anyone any good. You need to look at why you think the way you do and how to become better. You being toxic will only attract more toxicity into your life.
/r/seduction23/02/22 12:51 PM
0

Women shit test any man they're interested in. What matters is her interest level, the higher her interest, the fewer and easier they are to deal with. It's the girls that are on the fence that shit test the hardest and most often. You ignore every girl that shit tests you you're gonna be alone for a long time
/r/seduction23/02/22 12:44 PM
3

Yeah I noticed this too. I think there's a big push to making everyone a pacifist and to promote peace and cooperation above everything else. I think the intentions are good but the problem is that it runs counter to human nature. We have to struggle in order to progress. We have to be ambitious and aggressive to get the things we want sometimes, and it's attractive to be assertive and decisive. Successful men and passive men are opposites and society is struggling to come to terms with that.
/r/seduction23/02/22 12:39 PM
6

Cap, most women want the guy to be at least slightly older
/r/seduction21/02/22 04:01 AM
4

We exist but approaching a girl talking about philosophy generally doesn't work lol. I'd love to met a girl who was as interested in sci Fi as I am but women generally don't respond well to nerdy topics.
/r/seduction21/02/22 03:53 AM
1

That's only part of it, successful men make their attraction clear and polarize women. They pick up on signals and escalate based on how the women respond. They're not just confident, they're bold and willing to risk rejection
/r/seduction20/02/22 10:10 PM
29

It's not on purpose, they just only understand their own perspective of passive attraction. Their role is to look pretty and make themselves available. So when they say to just be yourself and the right person will come along it's because it's a valid strategy for women. But we are not women. They can afford to be passive because men are active in demonstrating attraction. Meaning if you're a guy who is passive, and most women are passive, you're gonna be very alone, for a long time... Until you…
/r/seduction20/02/22 02:24 PM
11

This is so nonsensical, she rejects you when you try to flirt so you think she'll change her mind with a letter? Then you're surprised when you don't get the hint that she's not being receptive to your proposal and gets upset? You should take anything less than a definite yes as a no. It's that simple. Want a FWB, go after one that does respond to your flirting instead of projecting your interest level on someone who's not interested
/r/seduction20/02/22 02:18 PM
1

Well I like the third pic 😉. In all seriousness you just need better photos
/r/seduction18/02/22 04:54 AM
7

He means you're probably fishing for compliments
/r/seduction18/02/22 12:50 AM
2

She lives in the bay area that's an issue too, lots of Asians there and they either pair up with each other or with white people. They usually don't like anything else. The white guys will happily go for Asian women as well so it's hard for anyone who doesn't fit those demographics over there.
/r/seduction18/02/22 12:49 AM
1

Come to the central valley you'll fit right in with us lol
/r/seduction17/02/22 11:39 PM
4

Your photos aren't great quality, also you got some RBF going on. You got to smile in photos. I know women hate being told to smile more by dudes but men are genuinely attracted to women who look like they're enjoying themselves. You're cute imo. You just have to take better photos
/r/seduction17/02/22 11:39 PM
1

Femininity in men turns women off. You got it backwards
/r/seduction17/02/22 11:36 PM
5

He's a tall, funny guy who is also famous. Easy pickings for a guy like him. Just don't be like Kanye, his rants and meltdowns on ig are the pinnacle of neediness. Every single post drives Kim further and further away. The worse Kanye acts, the easier it is for Pete.
/r/seduction17/02/22 11:34 PM
30

If only there was a way to do something about that
/r/seduction10/02/22 05:33 AM
0

You have to tackle that insecurity head on, and you shouldn't let your self esteem come from somebody else's opinion. It should come from your own confidence in your abilities and positive qualities. The more you work on yourself the more natural this becomes. Attracting women is actually secondary to the real goal of being a better you. You become a better version of yourself and the women will notice
/r/seduction10/02/22 05:10 AM
0

You have the wrong mindset, stop feeling sorry for yourself and take a look at your flaws. Is your hygiene good? Do you dress well? How good are your photos on dating apps? Do you workout? Have any muscle mass? Do you ever go out of your way to talk to girls or are you usually to nervous to say hello? If any of these are unsatisfactory you will have a hard time. I promise you everyone stands to improve in these areas. Frankly though I think your defeatest attitude is your biggest problem. Women …
/r/seduction10/02/22 04:28 AM
5

Bro just go for it, you're no longer with girl number one and it was years ago. Odds are sister remembers you but also doesn't care. What do you have to lose?
/r/seduction07/02/22 03:28 AM
4

Yes and some people don't want to hear that because they've had religion poisoning them all their lives. They just assume that it's normal and healthy to be told everything enjoyable is wrong.
/r/seduction03/02/22 11:37 PM
3

Which part? Can you contribute a comment of substance?
/r/seduction03/02/22 11:35 PM
0

Define necessary baseline? Or provide a source. Sounds like you're just making up a statistic
/r/seduction03/02/22 11:30 PM
81

I blame religion and this woke feminism that's taken over the mainstream. No it isn't wrong to be attracted to the opposite sex. It is literally programmed into our brains and built into our bodies to want sex and to reproduce. All this stuff about accidental love is Hollywood bullshit. You want something? You have to make the effort to go and get it. This applies to sex and love as well. I used to feel this way sometimes too so I get where you're coming from, but it's a backwards way to look at…
/r/seduction03/02/22 03:49 PM
6

Well said, unfortunately though it's these bad attitudes that are the reason these guys have no success seducing anyone. It's a shame because if they actually took the time to improve and practice their skills, they wouldn't feel so shitty about themselves. They're on the subreddit because they want to learn seduction but then get frustrated that it requires actual work and improvement, and so they instead settle for bitching about how they were born too ugly or too short or socially awkward so …
/r/seduction03/02/22 03:43 PM
1

Bro if she consistently flakes it means you're not a priority for her. She just wants you as entertainment and emotional support on the phone. You want something to happen? Tell her you want to go out with her and that you're not interested in being her pen pal. If she likes you she'll take you up on it.
/r/seduction01/02/22 06:18 PM
8

Date around, see your ex casually. Especially if she broke up with you. She's gotta earn the exclusivity again.talk to other girls and play the field. I guarantee she's already doing the same with other guys
/r/seduction01/02/22 01:25 PM
8

The girls in this lifestyle are mostly all thots. Not that it matters, she's already friend zoned your naive ass. I know a couple girls like this and they're cool to be friends with and hook up but definitely not relationship material. Move on with your life and meet a girl worth getting serious with if that's what you want.
/r/seduction01/02/22 01:21 PM
1

Idk where you're from but where I live, a lot of women love black men. And 6'3"? Bro you already won that genetic lottery. But you just stated your problem. Tackle your self esteem issues and work on your approach anxiety. Women know when you have no confidence. Trying to get around it instead of improving is why you're failing. There's no substitute for high self esteem.
/r/seduction26/01/22 01:07 AM
1

Lol I'm not white, I'm Latino and Ive learned to do much better than I was doing a few years ago. I'm also 5'7. I know for a fact you don't need to be white to succeed because I've succeeded before. Your mindset is all wrong. Why go for average girls at all? Go for the ones you like. Fix your photos, update your wardrobe. Use a good camera. If you don't like your odds online talk to girls irl. That works better for me.
/r/seduction25/01/22 11:41 PM
1

Imagine giving up because you've convinced yourself it's out of your hands
/r/seduction25/01/22 11:16 PM
2

2 days isn't a big deal. You probably haven't lost that one yet. Did you escalate properly?
/r/seduction19/01/22 03:52 PM
17

or superman
/r/seduction19/01/22 02:07 AM
1

No just stop acting like her friend, hang out with other girls. Odds are she'll notice and realize she misses you. But you have to be willing to walk away and mean it
/r/seduction17/01/22 12:40 AM
2

You fucked up accepting friendship, best thing you can do is move on and talk to other girls. You haven't even had sex with her yet so moving on should be easy. If she comes back, great, if not whatever
/r/seduction16/01/22 11:46 PM
5

Relationship has to be her idea, your job is to raise her interest level. Do this and she'll ask you for a relationship
/r/seduction29/12/21 05:43 PM
1

Yeah no problem, if you're slouching that's often an upper back thing, do some lat pulldowns, that definitely helped me
/r/seduction24/12/21 09:57 PM
2

Body language conveys a lot. Stand up straight, chest slightly pushed out, shoulders back. Face the person directly when you speak to them. A healthy level of eye contact also goes a long way. Don't talk fast, speak with purpose. Don't mumble. Don't say things like uh or umm a lot. Speak with clarity and confidence. Be direct in what you say. This doesn't mean be serious all the time. It just means that you need to make the person feel like you 100% believe in what you're saying. If you are seri…
/r/seduction24/12/21 09:33 PM
1

It doesnt actually, not at all. If she finds you attractive you can talk about anything and she'll be all over you. If she doesn't, nothing you say will make her like you. If you've been rejected over a hundred times in a row that's a failure on your part. You are the common denominator. Either you act very low value or you don't put enough effort into your appearance. Based on your attitude I'd say it's the former.
/r/seduction24/12/21 08:54 PM
3

Good that's the right mindset. I get the feeling she'll hit you up though. Likely within the week. Just don't take her behavior personally. She's sounds like the hot party girl type. Those girls are notoriously hard to make plans with and they got simps all over them 24/7.
/r/seduction24/12/21 08:50 PM
2

It's not going to fall on your lap. You have to talk to the women first. Yes it sucks but that's part of being a man. You can demonstrate high value in a lot of ways, the way you carry yourself when you walk, the way you dress, the way you talk to people. You don't have to directly convey that you get girls at all. You just have to look like you got your shit together, they'll assume that getting girls is part of that.
/r/seduction24/12/21 08:45 PM
2

He already went home, and he's suddenly less interested in chasing her. She'll pick up on this almost right away. If she's interested even a little bit, it will make her reconsider. She might even double text him. At that point the ball is in his court and he can try to set up a one on one date. This is where he's most likely to succeed
/r/seduction24/12/21 08:39 PM
2

Your mistake is going out in a group. Too many distractions and too many cockblocks. you absolutely did the right thing by leaving to do your own thing though, she clearly wasn't respecting your time. Wait a few days, then hit her up to hang out one on one. If she tries to set up another group hangout, tell her you're not interested in being her friend and that you only want to hang out one on one. If she says no tell her to have a good night and go on with your day.
/r/seduction24/12/21 08:37 PM
1

It depends how you do it. You have to make it clear that you're attracted but "confessing your crush" is usually not the way to go. The best way is with flirty conversation, strong eye contact, and eventually an invite to hang out one on one. If you do it right, she'll know what up and if she likes you she'll be easy to make plans with.
/r/seduction13/12/21 07:07 AM
3

It's happened to me a couple times, but definitely isn't common
/r/seduction04/12/21 12:20 AM
1

How about approaching you online? 😏
/r/seduction04/12/21 12:00 AM
50

Bro yes 100% introduce yourself next time you see her
/r/seduction09/11/21 11:24 AM
2

I felt like you do back when I was in college. I honestly only lost my virginity because I met a girl that really liked me even though I wasn't all that enthusiastic about it. Honestly it was my mindset holding me back. If you want a relationship you have to go and get it. It won't just fall into your lap. Take charge of your life. You have to do the work. Work on your confidence, update your wardrobe. Read the books to learn seduction, learn to approach. And most of all APPLY IT. Nobody is comi…
/r/seduction27/10/21 03:52 AM
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what's the problem? if i were you i'd humor her, find new places on campus to fool around with and have fun. She's obviously not interested in dating you. That means you can bang this one at school and find another to bring home.
/r/seduction27/10/21 01:08 AM
8

Assume it's casual until she suggests otherwise, ask her if she likes wine and if she says yes Invite her over to your place at night. She'll know it's a hookup. Check out playing with fire on YouTube. Dude is really good at setting up casual hookups
/r/seduction23/10/21 08:13 PM
3

put in the work, learn seduction. Fix your wardrobe. put yourself out there. The baddies aren't going to pull themselves. But if you are a high value man, you'll be able to pull several baddies no problem
/r/seduction21/10/21 05:18 AM
11

you're so pathetic
/r/seduction21/10/21 05:16 AM
3

Can't even get a date and you think you love her. Can you be any more down bad? Seems she's only slightly interested. If she's cancelled or said no 3 times I think it's time to move on my guy. Find a girl with a high interest level. Way easier to get her to come out when she's actually interested
/r/seduction12/10/21 06:25 PM
1

thats a problem too, women smell desperation. Why should a woman consider you high value if you dont have standards?
/r/seduction06/10/21 02:35 AM
1

nah, are they narcissists to expect the same from us?
/r/seduction30/09/21 12:32 AM
4

"great, how about 4 days from now? I know a cool spot"
/r/seduction24/09/21 11:14 PM
3

Serious relationship has to be her idea. Take her out, have a good time, make her love being around you. She'll figure out that she really likes you and ask you. If you rush it it won't end well, I learned that the hard way.
/r/seduction15/09/21 11:46 PM
1

Some girls are like that, you don't exist in a vacuum. It could be any number of reasons. Just text her back and try to set a date. Odds are her interest level is only meh. So you gotta make that date count. Get her turned on and have fun. If she enjoys the date enough she'll be more receptive
/r/seduction12/09/21 12:11 AM
1

Same bro, I'll throw around a petite cutie or climb a Amazon giantess lol.
/r/seduction11/09/21 01:44 AM
3

Talk to people, go to social events, of course you're going to feel out of place. That's the point. It helps to have an extroverted friend that knows people. But it's not necessary. Watch YouTube videos. Charisma on command is an excellent channel. If you're interested in upping your text game check out playing with fire. Don't be afraid to flirt or be upfront about your interest. If you're a smart dude this stuff should be easy to learn. Hard part is putting in the effort to apply it. But it's …
/r/seduction11/09/21 12:35 AM
1

Fair enough, I'm American and most women here are shorter than 5'7 so even being short for a guy it's still taller than the women which helps. It becomes harder when most women are taller than you I'm sure but that doesn't happen here much
/r/seduction10/09/21 11:51 PM
2

I'm introverted too. I'm also still somewhat socially awkward. I was definitely a late bloomer but I figured out my weaknesses and worked on them. The truth is you have more control than you think. Charisma is a skill the same way driving or cooking is. Practice, read, observe. You get better over time.
/r/seduction10/09/21 11:48 PM
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Finally someone says it. Height matters yes, but it's a lot less than most guys think. Really looks and charisma matter more.im also 5'7 and I have never had a woman complain about my height. And it's because I'm not insecure about it. Stop worrying about something you can't control. Focus on your confidence, your wardrobe and your hygiene. You'll get much better results than you would bitching about being short
/r/seduction10/09/21 10:14 PM
5

they're everywhere bro. Hit up a wine bar and just be social. alot of what it takes to pull a baddie is random chance, MILFS included. The one i pulled works at a pharmacy store. I just chatted her up a few times and now she swallows my loads lmao. Be direct and be masculine, you'll get what you want
/r/seduction10/09/21 05:13 AM
2

you should join the cougar subreddit
/r/seduction10/09/21 05:07 AM
2

Direct is what you want. Polarize and get the gears turning in her head. Seems scary but it's the best strategy
/r/seduction03/09/21 08:54 PM
15

youre mostly correct ngl. However i did have it happen to me that after a female friend broke up with her boyfriend, we did end up getting together for a while, still didnt work out, and she clearly took things out on me that the was angry at her ex about, but sometimes there can be a connection. I still dont recommend it though, youre just asking to get hurt. Steer clear of catching feelings for girls in relationships. Everybody loses
/r/seduction02/09/21 02:57 AM
1

This is the big brain move right here. If she backs out here, you know she's a time waster. Then you can let her know that you're not interested in waiting around on someone who is indecisive and that if she ever wants to actually go on a date to give you a call. Leave the ball in her court and make it clear why
/r/seduction01/09/21 05:07 AM
1

It doesn't come from height, that's just how you rationalize your insecurity. Your problem is that you lack confidence and self esteem. You don't love yourself. And if that's the case, how could you expect anyone else to? You need to work on becoming masculine and imperturbable. Read The Subtle Art of not giving a fuck by Mark Manson. Learn it's lessons and I promise you it will make an improvement for you
/r/seduction29/08/21 12:39 AM
3

You don't have a height issue, you have a self esteem issue
/r/seduction28/08/21 11:12 PM
1

Boo hoo. I'm your height and haven't been insecure about my height since 9th grade. Yes it matters but it's not a deal breaker. You're not doomed to be alone forever just because of your height. I've been with girls taller than me and shorter than me. It's not your height holding you back, it's your insecurity about your height. Work on your confidence and your body language. Be assertive and don't act intimidated by taller guys. Tall or short, you are a man. Be masculine and you will attract wo…
/r/seduction28/08/21 11:02 PM
1

Maybe if you have no confidence. An obviously dumb response like this is perfect for passing shit tests
/r/seduction26/07/21 10:43 PM
1

"only the pretty ones" is my go to when asked that
/r/seduction26/07/21 08:21 PM
4

people attract other like minded people. Something is off about the vibe you give off. You attract those kind of girls because they're drawn to guys that make them feel and act that way.
/r/seduction10/07/21 05:51 AM
5

You ok bro?
/r/seduction28/06/21 01:53 AM
3

Nice bro, love to see a success
/r/seduction27/06/21 07:25 PM
12

I'm gonna go against the grain here and tell you to go for it. If you get rejected it's no big deal. Just don't be awkward about it and she won't be either.
/r/seduction27/06/21 07:24 PM
2

I think it's something you only do consciously at first. Nobody starts off with perfect confidence. The beginner friendly thing is to think about it but eventually it just becomes who you are. At least that's how it was for me
/r/seduction27/06/21 06:55 PM
4

That's fair, I'm in USA. In my experience most women will sprinkle in mention of their boyfriend early on if they have one.
/r/seduction27/06/21 06:29 PM
1

I see what you're saying but I disagree. There's no neediness in being confident, you can be sure of your success and still be outcome independent. It's about being in the right frame.
/r/seduction27/06/21 06:26 PM
1

You're too afraid to take the plunge. You need to have the balls to approach and make your intent known. It's nerve wracking, but if it wasn't then everyone would do it. The only advice you need to hear is that you as the man must take the initiative and there is no substitute for it. Just put yourself out there and make the move
/r/seduction27/06/21 12:33 PM
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I never ask if she's single, the hard truth is that if there's a guy worth mentioning, she will mention him. Otherwise just do your thing. She'll let you know if she doesn't like you. No point in adding to the obstacles by bringing up other guys
/r/seduction27/06/21 12:11 PM
12

Don't have a defeatest attitude. Always assume she's attracted until she indicates otherwise. I promise a big chunk of the battle is your mindset
/r/seduction27/06/21 12:10 PM
2

You need to find the source of your insecurity and figure out why you feel like "dead weight" for me I realized that my parents never really instilled confidence in me and I didn't have any strong male father figures. I don't know your life, but I'm willing to bet that you likely have some unresolved issues that make you think the way you do. You have to figure out what those are, and tackle those issues. This is the fundamental first step in inner game imho
/r/seduction26/06/21 04:46 PM
2

Congratulations brother, that was perfectly executed. Nothing creepy about it. You established rapport and then left her your number. No pressure and no creepiness. Just be prepared for the shit tests
/r/seduction19/06/21 01:01 AM
11

Don't stay off texts just mirror her interest. If she texts you a lot text her slightly less. All those coaches that talk about only using text to set dates set those rules back in the 2000s. You're doing well bro don't overthink it
/r/seduction19/06/21 12:58 AM
57

Oh and for you guys asking about her age. She didn't want to give me a straight answer but she let it slip that she lives with her adult son and that he's actually older than I am. So yeah, definitely a MILF and definitely a cougar.
/r/seduction12/06/21 02:38 PM
1

Nah this just shows insecurity
/r/seduction09/06/21 01:05 AM
1

I'm the same height, but I'm not insecure about it and I've never had a problem, no girl has ever called me short and rejected me for it. You gotta stand straight and otherwise don't even think about height. Work on your other qualities. The ones that you can improve. It will help. I've been with women taller than me and trust me if they like you, height won't matter
/r/seduction09/06/21 01:02 AM
12

Probably a test, if she says he's attractive just agree. Don't let it phase you. You get annoyed or jealous and you fail. PS: if she starts talking about all the male attention she gets, she's qualifying herself to you. It's a good thing. A woman with no interest wouldn't bother telling you anything. So if she starts telling you if all the guys who hit on her, she's not so subtly telling you that she's high value. Whether or not you agree however is up to you.
/r/seduction09/06/21 12:55 AM
1

updated
/r/seduction04/06/21 03:21 AM
1

You're absolutely right
/r/seduction03/06/21 11:08 PM
2

This isn't always true. Young girls are super insecure and unsure of themselves. Older woman tend to know what they want. I like everything tbh. I'll fuck a cute 20 year old and a hot 45 year old. Attractive is attractive
/r/seduction03/06/21 11:07 PM
2

That wouldve been great, she still wants me to visit her at work so maybe in the near future
/r/seduction03/06/21 09:35 PM
5

Lol which part is so unbelievable that you're sure?
/r/seduction03/06/21 09:32 PM
24

I was surprised tbh, right outside her work and everything
/r/seduction03/06/21 09:16 PM
2

Of course lol, I don't even know her age yet
/r/seduction03/06/21 09:13 PM
3

Stop thinking that way
/r/seduction03/06/21 09:12 PM
4

We texted back and forth for a bit but she's dodging my attempts at a date. My gut tells me that she doesn't believe that I find her attractive. I've been very upfront but this is proving to be a challenge.
/r/seduction30/05/21 05:02 AM
3

You're right, but the reason I described it that way is because my biggest hurdle has always been my social awkwardness and approach anxiety. So to me it was a battle of the mind against my own weaknesses. The analogy wasn't directed at the woman herself. I definitely agree with what you said though.
/r/seduction29/05/21 07:19 PM
1

You're pretty curious 😏
/r/seduction29/05/21 01:06 AM
1

Those are probably shit tests my guy, you gotta learn to identify them and neutralize them. Girls use these to filter out weak guys. By getting through them the girls will start to take you more seriously. Seriously read the books, it helped me tons.
/r/seduction27/05/21 08:38 PM
2

I got the text, trying to soft close her on a date, but I could tell she's a bit unsure still. I'm gonna keep at it tho. I'll make a follow up post once I got something solid
/r/seduction27/05/21 08:10 PM
6

Lol it's your girl but the y is silent
/r/seduction27/05/21 11:48 AM
3

I didn't mention those in the post, she just shit tested me once when i was buying the item. It was a fan for my room, she asked me if I was getting it because my room was stuffy and smelly lol. I just laughed it off. For me learning to read the room is understanding the context of the interaction and reading her body language was well as what she said to me. For example she would never have brought up that her coworkers were teasing her about us flirting unless she wanted to steer the conversat…
/r/seduction27/05/21 06:55 AM
2

Nothing substantial yet, but ill make a follow up post after we meet up.
/r/seduction27/05/21 06:49 AM
2

i regularly read the field reports and the weekly top posts. Ive also looked back at the top posts of all time. No matter what scenario you can think of, someone on reddit has seen it. Combine this with reading a few books and watching a few videos and you will slowly start putting the pieces together. I am also lucky to be friends with a guy who is a natural. Watching him effortlessly flirt with every girl he sees has been eye opening as well. I shared the content i read on another comment in t…
/r/seduction27/05/21 06:48 AM
3

Read these books: How to be a 3% Man by Corey Wayne, the way of the Superior man by David Dieda, and Models by Mark Manson Also theres a youtube channel i watch called Playingwithfire. It focuses more on text game and online dating but frame is absolutely crucial in these and once you see how he talks to these girls you realize it really is about the way you present yourself.
/r/seduction27/05/21 06:45 AM
1

It was a Fan for my window. She threw a little test my way asking if it was because my room was all musty and stuffy. I just laughed it off and then she helped me take it to the register.
/r/seduction27/05/21 06:42 AM
2

How to be a 3% Man by Corey Wayne, the way of the Superior man by David Dieda, and Models by Mark Manson are the 3 main books ive read so far. I have more to learn for sure, but there is a lot of good content between these 3 and once you read them you'll realize that they all focus on a few specific ideas. Those are what you need to focus on.
/r/seduction27/05/21 06:40 AM
1

For sure, but I've been somewhat active in the cougar subreddit as well, so I knew what to expect.
/r/seduction27/05/21 06:37 AM
4

Not sure yet, I'm not gonna ask until after we fuck lol. Ill for sure update once something happens.
/r/seduction27/05/21 06:36 AM
3

You're right none of those were shit tests, I didn't put that part onto the post. She only shit tested me a couple times, for example the item I was buying was a fan for my room, she asked me if it was because my room was stuffy and dirty. I just laughed it off. For the most part her interest level was pretty high so I didn't get shit tested too hard.
/r/seduction27/05/21 06:34 AM
1

Bruh I hope you're not serious. That is cringe af
/r/seduction28/01/21 10:51 AM
2

This is your own insecurity playing tricks on you. I've had the same issue as you where I look much better in person than in photos. But there's a way around it in a situation like this. Ask your friend to FaceTime the girl next time you're with him. Then they can see you on live video. Completely different ballgame than a static photo and will be much closer to real life. Bonus if she has any of her friends with her when she answers, but even if she doesn't she can tell them what you look like …
/r/seduction16/01/21 02:04 AM
4

Show the full profile bruh
/r/seduction30/12/20 06:08 PM
9

She shouldn't be on a first date in the first place, she has a man. Def not GF material there
/r/seduction15/11/20 09:30 AM
28

Uh because she's a cheater
/r/seduction15/11/20 05:23 AM
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