fromcradletoglaive Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
11	Need help with an exit plan/morale		fromcradletoglaive	/r/Divorce_Men	08/10/24 06:36 PM
8	Mixed signals driving me into deep depression (genuine cfh)		fromcradletoglaive	/r/Divorce_Men	28/10/24 12:28 PM

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10	After Divorce Want to make you aware of something they call the "Comparison Trap." A man who has a car is envied by a man who has a bike. A man who has a bike is envied by a man who has to walk. A man who has to walk is envied by a man with no legs. You have legs, sir. You aren't where you want to be but you are getting there. We, the downtrodden and legless, salute you.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/03/25 07:21 PM
2	On my way To getting divorced Pump your breaks. I'd say put a little space between you and this relationship. I know the whole, workout, meditate, hustle troupe may seem hokey, but if you want to be any good to anyone, be good to yourself for awhile. Or jump back into to another relationship. Up to you, my man. Some people just have to be with someone.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/25 04:21 PM
5	Should I tell my ex-wife’s family the truth about why we separated? I am in the same situation. Just me when I tell you that you have to let it go. The idea of putting my stbx on blast and embarrassing her in front of her family, our kids, and her friends is intoxicating. Your perfect daughter is no saint. Your mother lied to you. Your bestie is a bad person. But what will it bring you? A flash of satisfaction? A momen5 of righteousness? You seem like a good man. My advice? Work on healing. Work on finding the best version of you and let her have her happiness f…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/25 03:42 PM
4	What is wrong with some men I think I agree with the idea that the AP places as much respect on the relationship as your partner does. They will also see you in whatever light you are presented. Neither of which are things are you can comtrol.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/01/25 04:03 PM
2	The mental toll Focus on yourself and the kids, and more specifically this: I don't know how old your kids are but when they are adults, fully capable of putting the pieces together, what will the verdict be? Were you a good man, despite what was said of you? Did you try your very best when the deck was stacked against you to be made the villain? Were you a good dad, even if you were not their father? Did you become someone worthy of love and respect? Or did you wither I to some bitter shell? I don't know what …	/r/Divorce_Men	21/01/25 11:07 PM
18	It's the idea that I'll always love my wife a dangerous one? Story my old boss used to tell me: He was with some business partners and they were doing lines of... a recreational substance. They offered him some and he took a bump. After he experienced the high they offered him more. "No, thanks." "What? You didn't like it?" "Oh no, I goddamn' loved it. I'm never doing that again!" It isn't point t for point but I took the moral as this: You can love something, even if it gave you the greatest joy att some point, but still understand it will kill you in mo…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/01/25 10:38 PM
13	I hate my ex-wife I like to invoke Jocko during times like this. Everything happening to you is good. Drinking the pain away? Good. You hit rock bottom, now the only way is up. Did she take your pride? Good. The self-worth you build now will be all your own. Did she emasculate you? Good. Forget that guy; lift, meditate, and grow financially. Did she take everything away from you? Good. Now you can build a kingdom on the ruins. Put down the bottle and the next time you pick up a drink let it be a toast to how much…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/01/25 02:36 PM
7	Just another day You are going to have to go to a cold place to protect yourself. As said above separating yourself emotionally from her is paramount. I'm going through the same thing. My stbx spent the night with "friends". I hate to tell you but this isn't even the hard part. She is enjoying your suffering for now. Ince you make the change and no longer react or seem to care she is going to start questioning you and do her best to sink those emotional hooks back in. A little bit of bait to try and lure you in …	/r/Divorce_Men	19/01/25 03:08 PM
9	Idk i honestly don't like my soon ex wife It's different for everyone. I still love my soon-to-be ex-wife but she was disloyal, deceptive, manipulative and terrible for me. I had to love myself more.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/12/24 02:12 AM
2	Met the other guy Trying to figure out the same as I know my wife has already been talking to the other man for the better part of a year. They will start dating and I'll eventually have to meet him in person. I like the path you have chosen. Civility if not kindness. When everything I side of you wants to be petty, violent, and rage against what has been done to you the simple act of acting like a man seems to have brought you peace. I like that His glancing at her is telling. She has set up the situation to be …	/r/Divorce_Men	25/11/24 12:47 PM
1	Struggling with Mixed Signals and Toxic Patterns During Divorce Have had the same. Mine states unequivivsllybthst she doesn't want me or us. Then I get a Facebook reel about the things a woman wants out of her man. I ask if she wants these things from me and she states that she just wanted to share it and that was all. No other intention. I'm not in a good place but I know that by room or crook I have to be away from her.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/11/24 06:03 PM
3	Has Divorce Prompted You to Reexamine and/or Change Your Core Beliefs About Life and Purpose? I think I'm experiencing absolute ego death. I don't care for much of anything. What I was is now a big hole that I can't be bothered to shovel anything I to. The best of me seemingly cannot outshine all the wrongs I've seemingly committed in the past. I'm stricken by the impermanence of it all. What was the point?	/r/Divorce_Men	27/10/24 11:35 PM
4	Your going to be ok !! I don't know, man. I don't see a light only the tunnel. Trying to take this into account. Lost my friends during the marriage. Lost my job due to depression. Lost my wife because I don't even know how to lobe myself much less her. When I leave my kids will be stuck with a mother would would rather sleep than tend to them. She'll have a man in a month if not a week. I don't know.l what's next and even if I can muster the strength to heal. I know I'm just another guy who needs to grow a spine and …	/r/Divorce_Men	27/10/24 11:29 PM
3	How do I get through to her Didn't start this thread but this is so hard to hear in my own case. I know it's over. I know she is so past me that she only wants things to "go well" with the divorce. I want to try until there is nothing left but we are already there. Great advice.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/10/24 11:21 PM
2	Need help with an exit plan/morale Grey rock? Explain?	/r/Divorce_Men	09/10/24 03:23 PM