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frustrated_peen/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 09:28 PM
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Check out Huberman Labs Podcast on sleep and circadian rhythm…might have some research there you haven’t heard before?
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 12:49 AM
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WOW, you dodged a bullet there!! I was victim husband #2 and learned my lesson the hard way. I feel sorry for the future 3rd, 4th and 5th :( Truth be told, she’ll realize after husband #3 that she’s the problem and will probably stay with them out of guilt/shame/failure.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 12:36 AM
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I feel you here. My wife didn’t have quite as bad a temper but when she got upset with something I did (usually unknowingly) she would come after me. Due to how I was raised and how my dad reacted to criticism, I would level her verbally anytime she came at me in anger. It was my coping mechanism. We never figured out a way to discuss conflict in a healthy way…it was usually about how to raise our kids and both our fears around that from our childhood. I’m codependent so still working up the ner…
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 12:33 AM
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Well, she made one things abundantly clear in those comments…she’s a textbook narcissist. “If only things could be done her perfect way (the only way) and in her perfect timing (the only timing)”. What a joke, please leave her a$$ to show your kids that their future spouse (if they aren’t already completely jaded by what they witness) that treating someone like this is never ok. Take this to the bank “We teach people how to treat us” and judging by her actions, you’ve let her treat you like a do…
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 12:28 AM
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Get a really good attorney and therapist that you start seeing weekly. You clearly struggle with many issues and the temper/violence is the one you need to nip like yesterday; I hope you aren’t a parent that spanks kids because I fear what mental/emotional damage they have already from it if so. I’m sorry you’re in this situation but you need to do whatever you need to to make it right with her and your children as well. Also, there are many jobs that pay a lot more than law enforcement so don’t…
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 12:10 AM
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Also a christian. When she told me out of the blue she wanted a divorce, it turned my world upside down. Had ZERO idea she was contemplating that as we vowed to never even mention the D word. Somehow, her perspective on marriage and commitment completely changed. That was one of the top benefits of me for being married and that rejection brought out a lot of hidden worries I had about dying alone. Fast forward, we tried to make it work and she half-heartedly agreed to almost a year of weekly the…
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 12:03 AM
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Thought about this a lot and you're right, it really was like the flip of a switch. She chose to color her story of me a certain way and that was that. the end. I kind of feel like she was just "practicing life" on me in a very teenage/figuring yourself out in college kind of way and that hurts a little bit because even until our last discussion before moving her out, I didn't know her mind and analysis of situations fluctuated about as much as the stock market. I thought she only did that durin…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/22 03:45 AM
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i see both guys and girls doing this...especially the spoiled ones.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 02:16 AM
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yes. but my wife also said i was full of shit and would have no problem finding someone else lol same with her
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/22 04:47 AM
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not bad idea.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 01:38 AM
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oh geez. i'm guessing the therapist didn't approve of that right?? lol
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 01:37 AM
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that last line is everything!! I discovered this in THE Ted Talk by Kristen Neff on Self Compassion :) amazing. Your candor is much appreciated!!
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/22 02:35 PM
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this 100%. it's easy to feel accomplished and independent when 1) you didn't have to pay 75% of the bills and 2) you had a gigantic safety net $$$ if you ever failed at your job
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/21 02:43 PM
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I was single until 35 so I loved being alone!! Only reason I wanted to marry was to improve my life and it truly was until kids came and we weren’t strong enough to weather how much more complicated life got. Now that we’re separated, I’m loving the freedom and not always feeling guilty if I spend time by myself. Well that and I have a beautiful view from the 40th floor of a condo in a large metro city lol. Instead of filling up the 50/50 non-kid days with things to do, I’m trying to stay at hom…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/21 07:08 AM
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Thanks for reading it!!! I’m now willing to separate/divorce (even though it goes against everything I believe) because I see how it’s affecting them. I can’t get her to NOT bring up contentious conversations in front of them and they’re very perceptive. They’re also repeating some of her behavior with their female teachers and getting in major trouble. The only thing I’m watching out for is that we don’t “overly smother” the kids with love because we’re not getting it from each other. I’m very …
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 06:10 PM
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Thank you for the wise words! Its true...the “only” thing she needs from me is all my money since I pay for 80% of our bills while she weathers the COVID storm for her two businesses. The only thing I need/want from her is intimacy and best friend...the original two. I can easily outsource/pay for everything else. The story I keep replaying is that I did so much “fact checking/thinking/researching/emotional work” up front when we were dating because there were some red flags...but coming out of …
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 05:55 PM
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Its interesting because both of us are so 50/50 male/female in our thoughts and actions that its hard for me to imagine anything other than a red/blue or blue/red pill :)) I like the naivety/blissful ignorance of a blue pill...or at least i thought i did haha
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 11:21 PM
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unfortunately not only do we have a joint back account (no separate checkings/savings) but we also share the same password manager program so that neither one of us would ever be tempted to hide anything. Its an awesome idea...until its not. Shame on me for thinking marriage was for life, right?!
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 10:45 PM
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oh yeah! in all candor, I did give her shit a few years back because she worked all the time in her small business and never took time to do that type of stuff. Before we married, thats ALL I did lol but since we moved 8 years ago, I completely got lazy and didn't do it either. So for sure ironic that I was giving her crap for it!! :) But now she went over the top...even as far as lying to me about her travel schedule so she and her female friend could spend an extra day together "since they wor…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 09:50 PM
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Highly experienced Fortune500 SaaS techie here...fan of DeFi and so many other ways of cutting out the fat middle person. Public Enemy #1 for me would be 1) any government non-digital process/form and 2) this, now that it affects me and is ridiculously overly complex ;)
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 08:40 PM
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Oh mah gaw. So those are the same lines I got in the same order. I'm just not sure if he's going to a) move in with another dude like yours or what I suspect b) start getting closer to her "new female best friend" that she won't let me talk to.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/21 08:32 PM
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