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CELEBRATION!!!fumblesRPW/r/RedPillWives07/09/18 01:20 AM
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CELEBRATION!!!fumblesRPW/r/RedPillWives04/08/18 01:16 PM
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lol, it's literally the sub rule?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 06:35 PM
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Read the rules. It specifically states that questions from men belong in AskTRP.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 06:20 PM
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If they get banned or have their stuff removed, it's cause they broke a sub rule. It's pretty simple.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 06:00 PM
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I'm pretty hostile to strange men that wander in here with shitty advice and anger phase nonsense. The endorsed contributors/experienced TRP types don't bother me, although I don't agree with them sometimes. They're generally tactful and respectful.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 05:17 PM
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She barely mentioned looks in the OP. I'm sure she could get advice from men on how to be hot on a men's sub.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 05:37 PM
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This is a troll account who has posted here a few times with different accounts. She got removed for threatening suicide recently.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/18 08:24 PM
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Yes! My relationship started out with me being submissive and feminine. This is my first time I've have this dynamic, so I can only compare this one to my previous relationships, and tell you what my SO says about it. My previous relationships were typical and modern -- I nagged, tried to control things, I refused to combine finances or take my ex-husband's name even. I was a harpy for sure. I can't look back at any point and say that I was happy in a relationship. I was always stressed, even at…
/r/RedPillWives07/08/18 12:00 PM
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Self care for me looks like sticking to my gym schedule when I'd rather lounge. It's carefully choosing what food treats I indulge in, and how often. It's being honest about wanting quiet time alone. I'm not my best self when I'm not properly fed, exercised, or rested. I don't need indulgences like a new purse, delicious treats, or other frivolous (but delightful) things. Indulgences are nice, but not necessary to keep my attitude buoyant 😊. I need my regular self care.
/r/RedPillWives07/08/18 01:20 AM
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He's so wonderful ❤️
/r/RedPillWives05/08/18 12:07 AM
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I use it as a way to keep track of my emotions and feelings. I like to write down sweet things my SO does and says, too
/r/RedPillWives28/07/18 04:03 PM
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I've been doing it for roughly 4 years. My journal is my second brain. I've modified it, so I put one day per page, and also treat it like a diary and make notes about my day.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/18 11:22 AM
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It depends on what you're trying to get rid of! Old textiles get turned into cleaning rags for me. Look for freecycle groups. Contact shelters to see if they need home goods.
/r/RedPillWives26/07/18 02:22 PM
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Ughhhhhhh, yes. Logging BEFORE eating is the way to go. I sit down and preplan my meals with my morning coffee. I like to get McDonald's on days I go to the chiropractor, so I'll pre-enter that treat, then work the rest of my meals around it.
/r/RedPillWives26/07/18 01:57 AM
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Activity tracking is a good start, but you absolutely can't 'outrun' a bad diet 😊. I had been overweight for so much of my life, and it really all came to a head last year. I finally deeply understood that I was fat because I simply ate too much food. Being active didn't save me from my fork. I blamed my thyroid problem (which was fixed with medication), blamed the cold northern winter, blamed cooking rich foods for my ex. I blamed everything but what I have 100% control over -- my calorie intak…
/r/RedPillWives25/07/18 06:42 PM
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I'm gonna give you the best advice I ever got about weight loss: just eat less. It's sounds a bit simplistic, and maybe a tiny bit condescending, but it's true -- at the very core of it, that's all it takes. Any time I started to make excuses on my own journey, I just remembered that it doesn't take any time to eat less. I had to start tracking my intake with MyFitnessPal because, like the vast majority of overweight people, I was really good at lying to myself about just how much food I was tak…
/r/RedPillWives25/07/18 05:42 PM
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Oh okay, that makes sense. Good thing I don't typically respond to being demonized, and never clicked the link. 🤷‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 02:27 AM
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I'm struggling to understand why this is posted in RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 11:38 AM
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I'd recommend reading The Surrendered Single. It's got great advice about dating and vetting. I'd also recommend "Getting to I Do" -- it's got wonderful advice for dating and vetting, and learning to be the feminine energy in a relationship. However, you need to address your fear of abandonment. You're not going to be the woman you need to be without facing and healing those abandonment issues. I highly recommend reading and working through The Abandonment Recovery Workbook. Buy the paper copy, …
/r/RedPillWives23/07/18 10:35 PM
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Get out of your own way. Stop making decisions for him, correcting him, and only give your thoughts when asked.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 10:24 PM
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It can be harder than people think. Just don't get discouraged.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 10:24 PM
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I LOVE pole! The women are wonderful and supportive and it's just such a sexy, feminine space. The sewing classes are more of a matronly feminine space, and I really think that having a balance is fantastic. It's improved my flexibility, strength, and femininity.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 09:51 PM
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I made friendships with women at the gym! I went through a breakup immediately after moving to a new region. I don't drink and I work from home, so I found it super difficult to meet people in general. I started lifting and took up pole dancing and met lots of ladies that way. I've recently started taking sewing courses and hope to make even more friends that way! I live in a college and military town, so I totally understand the difficulty!
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 09:34 PM
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Hahaha, yes of course. I didn't want to harp on looks too much.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/18 11:12 AM
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I guarantee you'll feel better about yourself if you get to a normal weight. You may tell yourself that you feel good and feel like you look good at your weight, but deep down you know you could feel better. It's an unpopular opinion these days, but being overweight isn't sexy. Losing the excess weight will boost your confidence in ways you didn't expect and WILL make you happier. A woman who is happy with herself is FAR more attractive to men than a woman who hates her body (even subconsciously…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 11:37 PM
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Thanks for these comment, Whisper! I feel like I have a deeper understanding of hypergamy now. This is definitely primer material.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 10:56 AM
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Oh, I think you misunderstood me. Of course I can't stop you from posting here, nor would I. I was just letting you know that the people here probably aren't going to tell you what you want to hear, and you'd probably get advice better to your specific situation/lifestyle (hookup-friendly, sex work-positive, et cetera) in subs with a different focus than this one. If you do wanna stick around and start applying RPW principles, awesome! u/girlwithabike listed the best beginner resources in an ear…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 12:44 AM
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No. And I'm sorry, I was unclear -- I meant you became combative in your advice-seeking posts. I'm not going to check your post history, but from what I remember of your last account and from this post -- nothing seems to indicate that you have the faintest idea what RPW is about. This isn't TRP with vaginas and more pink. If you want to stick around and improve yourself, AWESOME, welcome! There's a lot of great resources to get you started in the sidebar. Otherwise, if you're still committed to…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 12:09 AM
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Oh, it's you again. I'm not sure that RPW is the best place for you to get relationship advice, given how unconventional your relationship preferences are. "Hookups" are pretty much the opposite of what RPW are after. I'd seen you around before you nuked your other account (after the debacle at WhereAreAllTheGoodMen), you refused to take any advice, and you routinely get combative and abusive in comments. I don't think RPW is the place for you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 11:56 PM
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You think that taking classes online keeps you from making new friends? I'm a remote worker, meaning I work from home, 1000 miles away from my company hub. I don't see people all day, I don't drink, and most of my hobbies are individual. I still managed to make a lot of new friends. Taking online classes isn't a good excuse for not getting out there.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 10:46 AM
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Seconding nun mode. Seek counseling, find a hobby, make new friends. Don't internet stalk your ex- fwb's friends. Do not use dating someone as a way to get over an ex. The only way to get out of this is to stop digging, and work on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 01:19 AM
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I drank too much for years, and now I completely abstain. The only people who criticized me for quitting were "friends" who didn't want to be the trainwreck in the group. Crabs in a bucket.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 11:34 AM
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I think it can make a tough dynamic. My ex had a serious problem with my salary and never let me forget how threatened he was by it. My SO has no problem with it and he uses his money to treat me well. We're not married yet, so our money is separate, and the only time the salary difference ever comes up is if I want to do something outside of his budget (like stay overnight in another city instead of coming straight home from a show, or if I want to eat somewhere like Fogo De Chao instead of Chi…
/r/RedPillWives09/07/18 11:39 AM
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I think I went on 58 or 59 first dates before I met my SO. I only had one terrible date in that time period. I was new to the area, and didn't have any friends yet, so I had a lot of energy for meeting people. THIS: Thinking about it as “duty dating” really took a lot of pressure off of me. My thought process was no longer “This date will never work out/I’m not that crazy about this guy” but instead ‘I’m going to knock out one of my duty dates, and if I don’t have a good time I never have to go …
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 03:59 PM
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I was in a similar situation last year. I read The Surrendered Single and Getting to I Do several times, and I really took the concept of duty dating to heart. Go on lots of first dates! Accept a date from anyone who doesn't make you uncomfortable. It keeps you distracted from the guy you think is perfect. Obviously, don't string along men that you aren't interested in, but keep an open mind. Keep investing in your hobbies and interests. I duty dated for about 8 months and I met plenty of intere…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 12:02 PM
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Hahhahaha, okay. He probably just doesn't have honed social skills.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/18 10:49 PM
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Um, that sounds pretty scary. Do you know him? You didn't say whether you felt uncomfortable, but if you don't feel safe, it doesn't matter what his gaze means -- leave.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/18 10:18 PM
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Ugh, they are so great <3
/r/RedPillWives05/07/18 10:16 PM
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UGH this is fantastic. I'm a terrible folder/packer.
/r/RedPillWives03/07/18 11:20 PM
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Bitter is the least attractive thing a woman can be. You may need to take some time to focus on yourself. It seem that this wound is very fresh. I highly suggest you read The Surrendered Single, and start there.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 11:13 PM
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Read the sidebar. Read The Surrendered Single. Then decide if you want to stick around. This takes work, and we can't give you advice if you don't have the foundation. I don't want to be the good girl anymore. I want some coy feminine power and be completely fucking irresitible. This isn't how it works. Read the theory.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 11:12 PM
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Awww, this is delightful! This really stuck out to me: The biggest thing I’ve done is to just say “yes.” Yes to what he asks for or wants, yes to sex, yes to his dreams and ideas, yes to the conversations he wants to have. And while feminists might say my husband would become more controlling with all the power it’s the exact opposite. The more I say 'yes' to my boyfriend, the more I get what I need. The more I submit, the more he's driven to be a better man. It's been wonderful. We're now talki…
/r/RedPillWives03/07/18 12:39 PM
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Okay wow. I don't think I want to continue to participate there after learning this.
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 01:53 AM
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I always try to keep a jar of pasta sauce and a box of gluten free pasta in the pantry. There have been nights we've gotten in from plans later than expected, and it's a quick and easy dinner that he loves.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 11:39 PM
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Update: I cleaned the drip pans and the fridge 😊
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 11:34 PM
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If it's on my list, it will get done. It's just one of my least favorite chores 😊
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 01:29 PM
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I officially added 'clean stove drip pans' to my cleaning list, because it's a task I willfully 'forget' to do.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/18 01:04 PM
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This is very similar to my story!
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 11:01 AM
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Is there anyway to hire help for the landscaping and some of the domestic duties? If you're working full-time in addition to being a wife and mother you shouldn't beat yourself up for feeling like you have too much on your plate. We can't have it all and be good at it all, well-rested, and happy.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 11:18 PM
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I don't think OP was calling herself a tradwife, but maybe more like 'I handle the traditionally woman's work in the home'.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 11:14 PM
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Oh neat! I'll have to check that out, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 11:05 AM
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I've been dealing with some extreme fatigue for the past few months, and it's kept from the gym more often and my housekeeping standards have fallen a bit. I sat down over the weekend and broke down my cleaning and workout routines into smaller, more manageable tasks so I can manage to do more.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 06:41 PM
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Hahaha, I also bullet journal. Basically, if it's not in one of the books, it never happened/won't happen. I seriously have to put 'scoop cat box' on my to-do list every day. It works for me though. I don't stress, because I trust myself to plan/schedule what needs to get done. I say 'good job yesterday Fumbles' pretty frequently, haha.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/18 12:40 PM
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It's because my head is a sieve. My binder is a second brain.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/18 12:11 PM
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Hahaha, yeah! I've got the name/card of his vet, an emergency vet, his microchip information, vaccination records and certificates, town registration info, and so on. It's so good having it all in one place.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/18 12:04 PM
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OP, stop what you're doing and go get help immediately. Your post, and your post history mention suicide a lot. You need professional help, not relationship advice. Please call the suicide hotline at 1-800-273-8255 You can also chat in: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 01:09 AM
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I had inner conflict at first, too. I eventually reconciled it by understanding that I can wear 'pants' at work, and defer to my captain at home. I've never considered myself a feminist, but I have been fiercely independent and masculine for most of my life. Adopting RPW principles in my life felt right, even though I had intellectual objections at first. I would rather feel that things are right, than feel miserable because I thought myself into a corner with feminism. It really helped me to th…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 08:27 PM
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Grade A advice here. Nun mode + making my ex 'he who cannot be mentioned' did wonders for me. I was finally able to attract and love a wonderful man, instead of complaining that no one measured up to my ex.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 03:09 PM
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Excellent post! I've been household bindering for over a decade, and I picked up some new tricks, thank you. I have an 'Appliances' section to keep warranty information, manuals, and serial numbers for my appliances and electronics. I also have a section for my cat, which includes basic veterinary records and his general feeding information. It's useful to have that all in one place
/r/RedPillWives10/06/18 02:55 PM
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His forearms and hands. So strong and masculine.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 03:15 PM
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I was in a very similar situation this time last year. First, I got gym, diet, and salon in order, like you mentioned you've taken care of. The most important thing I did was talking to a counselor, even though I didn't feel like I had a specific problem she could help me with. I used a counseling app, Talkspace, for a few months. Counseling uncovered root issues for my unhappiness. It helped me articulate things I needed to improve upon. It was great to have impartial insight to problems I'd cr…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/18 12:34 PM
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Oh my goodness, Your second paragraph sounds like something I just recently realized myself. I never wanted children until I found the man I'm currently with.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 12:29 PM
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I've been with a man like this, and it never gets better. It caused all of the friction in our relationship. He wasn't doing it maliciously -- he just had terrible time management skills and unmitigated ADHD. I got really down about my "comparative lack of importance" until I realized that his unreliable behavior affected every aspect of his life and relationships with everyone. I loved him tremendously, but I want a reliable man who does what he says he will do. And since I can't change a man, …
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 12:20 PM
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/u/Kara_El summed it up nicely -- "you don't have to do anything if you don't want to". It's always awkward or difficult to make it clear you're not an easy lay without just blurting it out. I just came out of period of duty dating. I went on A LOT of first dates, and they get easier. I'd never dated before (just mainly 'hanging out' until a relationship happened), so I WAS TERRIFIED. I'm also in the middle of losing weight, I've made excellent progress and my enthusiasm and motivation shows. Wh…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 12:20 PM
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Exercise and meditation help me tremendously when I'm stressed. I also like to organize my pantry.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 07:38 PM
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I want to assure you that you're not going to get bulky on accident. You really have to work for that! I got started by hiring a personal trainer for a few sessions so I could get familiar with the weights and different exercises.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 12:19 PM
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I was 30.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/17 11:48 AM
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I want to lift weights at least three times a week.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/17 11:47 AM
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I knew I shouldn't have gotten married. I just thought it was jitters, so I went through with it later. It was not jitters.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/17 10:54 AM
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