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As a Muslim, I absolutely agree with you and thank you so much for explaining all of this in detail on how men have cherry picked and twisted every verse for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 06:50 AM
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This is a picture from the aurat march or women's march in Pakistan, the writing on the background sign is in Urdu, the native language of Pakistan. Some signs there are in English and some are in the local languages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:08 PM
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Let me add a further context into this this is a picture from the aurat march or women's march in Pakistan, a march that is given a lot of backlash and threats so it's a big deal for us Pakistanis when male allies come out in support. Especially since the other people of his generation are largely misogynistic and patriarchal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:07 PM
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This looks ethereal, Queen✨✨👑👑 I absolutely love everything about this post, this is inspiring me to get a crown for myself too ❤️👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:04 AM
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"you feel something for me, you're just trying to deny it because you want to ignore the intensity of our passion" 🤢 "You love me, you will admit it any time soon"🤢 "You are so in love with me, look at you"🤢 "You proposed to me just now!"🤢 "You can't move on from me, you will always come back to me"🤢 Lies. All lies. The people I was actually in love with, never needed to make these claims. The only people who make these claims are the ones who know that you are not emotionally invested in them a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:01 PM
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My ex told me he lost respect for me because I found out about his cheating that he did before he dumped me and I had stopped believing his lies. He told me I "deserve no respect because I am snooping around and finding out stuff about him which do not count as respectable actions". The AUDACITY. I wish I had been a part of FDS back then, but I'm so glad that this point is being brought up and we are finally having this conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 07:20 PM
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That's such a good idea! In therapy, we are often asked to honour our inner child so as to create the best world for her, and this is a really good way of doing that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:22 AM
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Where has this term been, all my life?! I'm definitely going to refer to this and apply it in my daily life now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 09:38 AM
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I spent nearly one and half year on dating apps after my friends set up my accounts on the apps. It has been one year since I stopped using dating apps. One thing I have realized after dating, talking to multiple guys on dating apps is that they're clearly low value and low demand to have to resort to a dating app. High value men, that I have seen in my real life circles, can find fulfilling relationships in real life easily. They don't have to make a dating account in the first place. There are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:31 PM
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I was thinking about the same chapter too. Speaking of the book "He's just not that into you", I'd also recommend "it's called a breakup because it's broken" by the same author, to the OP. Maybe these books would be helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:24 PM
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This may seem like a pretty common issue considering the rigid gender roles surrounding cooking. But I'm a really good cook and baker. I've encountered these kinds of people including men of course: 1) "your husband will be so lucky" and when I say that my husband should be a good cook himself too, they say "oh come on, nothing wrong in making your husband something nice once in a while" and those people never admit that "once in a while" was not something they initially meant. 2) "start a busin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:18 PM
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This is so so so true. I remember someone who groomed me for years and he followed exactly all of this tactics, nothing more or less than this. Exactly what you have stated in this list. I'm still young but I'm so glad to be out of his trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:08 PM
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This is absolutely true. I quit online dating a long time ago and the last guys I blocked were all apparently the "sweet, listening, empathic" guys who only gathered details and pretended to be good listeners only to sexually pressurize me later to the point that it nearly traumatized me. It's all an act. I wish I had seen this post a long time ago but I'm here to fully affirm it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 07:03 PM
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When she points out to all the men who are going at her and talks about their lustful behaviour, it reminds me of a quote by a South Asian writer Manto, that I'll translate here "men don't want to be a father to their daughters but they all want a woman in their bed." This quote is still largely hated by desi scrotes because it calls them out on their porn sick mentality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 02:07 PM
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What an in-depth list!! I could literally tick off all the kinds of scrotes I have come across. Thank you for this Queen 👑❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 10:53 AM
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The first date sounds so fascinating! And the tapestry is so beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:06 AM
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Thank you for this message! Really needed to read this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 04:08 AM
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This is so relaxing 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 09:42 AM
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This looks so breathtakingly stunning 😍😍 I'm glad you all had an amazing afternoon ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 03:18 AM
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This is amazing parenting 😍❤️ every other parent should take notes and raise standards for their children from an early age ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 03:11 AM
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Thank you so much for this! I'd love to see your chalkboard signboards 😍 Do you have any tips for lettering? I really want to improve my lettering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:31 AM
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That is such an amazing gesture ❤️❤️ your friends are so lucky to have you, Queen 👑❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:12 PM
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Omg I'm blushing, I just started making chalkboard art this year. Thank you so much, Queen 👑❤️ you made my absolute day ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:12 PM
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Thank you Queen 👑❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:11 PM
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Thank you SO much, Queen 👑❤️ you made my day ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 10:59 AM
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That's an awesome gesture for Galentine's 💕 I am sure it will brighten their day ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 09:24 AM
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Thank you so much Queen 👑💕 this made my day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 09:15 AM
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Disclaimer: Some of these are entirely my own ideas, while some of these are inspired from Pinterest, but Pinterest chalkboard art was very much focused on having a significant other and romantic love. So I made my own versions which prioritize self-love and self-partnership. Hope you all like these ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 09:11 AM
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First of all, I'm proud of you for blocking him. You are acknowledging your hurt emotions which is healthy for you, while also doing the right thing that is blocking. It will hurt like hell right now, but on the other side of the block option, you will find peace eventually. Secondly, about these insults and labels, men do that all the time. They see breakups as victories and losses, and their fragile ego cannot see a woman standing up for herself the way you stood up for yourself. So they do th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:22 AM
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Congratulations Queen 👑❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:06 AM
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Oh gosh, this happened to me once. I was on my very first call with a guy from a dating app and we had texted for a couple of days before this first call (I stopped using dating apps last year) and for an entire hour, he kept on talking about himself and his life. I almost fell asleep during the call on several instances and he didn't even realize that I am sleeping on the other end coz all he wanted was to speak. Then he wondered why I never texted him back. There's a huge difference between he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 08:21 PM
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Love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 06:46 PM
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I'm a muslim living in south asia, and this mentality is very rampant over here too. They fetishize and glorify hijabis and virgins, even hijabis and virgins have started calling out their behaviour. There are some countries where virginity is still tested by the in-laws. It's all very exhausting to deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 07:22 AM
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This is so awesome Queen, literally brightened my morning 👑👑👑🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:59 AM
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As someone who's also from desi culture, I have seen a handful of my friends marrying LVM. It's very frustrating, and one definitely feels helpless because the friend is just not ready to take the rose-tinted glasses off and unlearn the patriarchal conditioning. But the sad part is, you can't really do much here. You can advise and warn your friend only to an extent, but the ultimate choice is hers whether she chooses to acknowledge your warnings or not. I know, it is terribly frustrating, but t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:29 AM
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My NVX had written "I promise I am more interesting than I looks and sounds" in his tinder bio after our breakup and after he was outed for being an abuser towards me in my circle. I felt so grateful that I no longer have to keep up with his shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:20 PM
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Unfortunately, we couldn't. We just managed to get the account down and look for any subsequent account that could be made. Thankfully, no other account was made after that. There was anxiety from her family who asked me not to investigate further, otherwise the blame would come on her from some of her toxic relatives. It was a messed up situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:26 PM
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She's doing better, she's discovered canvas art, calligraphy and digital art so she's cultivating her hobbies, I'm very proud of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:22 PM
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I do not like instagram for how it dealt with the matter of my sister. Someone created a fake account, used her picture as the profile picture and uploaded a blowjob video in the stories. My entire circle reported the account and the stories endlessly. She's a minor, she was traumatized by this. Yet instagram did not find any nudity and did not take the account down. We had to do something on our own to take down the account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:56 AM
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Very true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:24 PM
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This. Exactly this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 03:22 AM
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So true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 03:22 AM
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South Asian men have the same mentality. Heck, if they find out that their wives or fiancees even went on a simple date with someone in the past, they'll brutally assassinate the woman's character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:31 PM
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Yep, he dated and cheated on Camilla Cabello.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:09 PM
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When I heard men criticize Enola Holmes, I immediately watched it and loved it, and recommended it to my younger sister who enjoyed it too and I gave her a history lesson on the Suffragette movement and the Reform Act in England.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:36 PM
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I totally agree! I actually wrote a very similar thing in my daily journal that I can't tolerate it when someone calls "gaming" a hobby, because gaming has zero meaning or substance to add to anyone's life. I have noticed how none of these men play actual games or puzzles that require mental stimulation and learning, or these men won't even play simple board games with their friends for that matter. They only demand socializing with their friends through video games that are literally designed t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:32 PM
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I honestly wish half the women in my age group and ethnic group (18-23 and South Asian) prioritize their career over dating and marriage, but they are getting married to men a decade older than them- in the middle of their college degrees to help their men progress in their careers and give them a family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:21 PM
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Amazing and so incredibly on point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:40 AM
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Exactly this is so much pick-me behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:46 AM
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That is just the bare minimum and nothing more than that. Not taking advantage of a girl is basic humanity. I have been sexually harassed, my friends have been sexually harassed or assaulted and I have never seen any of us seek validation from a man, the sisterhood and reassurance and "advice" we gave to each other was enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:45 AM
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The fact that he invited her to his home for a date is enough information to conclude that he's not HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:41 AM
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I agree! Apart from the few things that she says, I generally get a lot of insight and great advice from her videos and podcasts. They have really changed the way I view dating and confidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:18 PM
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Congratulations Queen 👑❤️ So proud of you! I like the way you phrased it too, short and assertive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:45 PM
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I absolutely agree. HVM do not have to resort to a dating app to find someone. Where I come from, all the men on OLD openly admitted that they swipe right to every single profile without even looking at it, because they're desperate for a match. They're lonely, desperate people who are looking for someone to be their fwb or casual fling on their terms, or if they want a serious relationship, they will start love bombing and pressurizing the woman. I have literally gotten texts from men at the st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 07:39 PM
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I can relate so much to this. I used to watch tarot videos on YouTube, but I unsubscribed from a lot of channels because nearly all of them revolved around answering questions about an ex, or a new person, or some new age soulmate/twin flame stuff that's clearly designed to make us stuck in toxic patterns and codependency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:43 PM
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One of my university friends got a promise ring from her new partner who is also in university, she was ecstatic about it. But it seemed very childish too because we are all legal adults and they can get engaged very easily, since we belong to a South Asian community where marriage is a priority. A lot of people in my university get engaged during the degree program. So it is terribly low effort to give a promise ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:10 AM
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SO PROUD OF YOU QUEEN👑❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:02 AM
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I'm so so sorry that you had to go through so much trauma. You did not deserve this, none of this is your fault whatsoever. He is a disgusting man and I hope he lands in jail. I'm proud of you for blocking him, Queen 👑❤️ Stay safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:58 AM
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Yes, I downloaded it from here too ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:46 AM
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This is amazing! So happy for you and so proud of you Queen 👑❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:31 AM
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Needed this message! Just downloaded a PDF of this book, can't wait to read it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:28 AM
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In my culture and religion, beards are a huge thing. Men try to grow a beard even if it looks like pubic patches on their face or remain insecure their entire life if they are not able to grow one. Every single man around me prides on his beard, which isn't even well maintained. I always had a preference for clean shaven men and I was shamed for that, my sexuality was questioned constantly and what not. It was in 2020, that I started truly embracing my preferences for physical attractiveness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:06 PM
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Right, thank you so much for the correction!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:52 AM
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This brightened my day 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:14 PM
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"And I expect my investment back plus interest, if not, I'll cease your assets!" is going to be one of the mantras of my dating life now, after the pandemic settles down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:12 PM
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LOL I love this 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 06:49 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 06:49 PM
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He's pretty popular in our South Asian community, I love his videos!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 06:54 AM
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Exactly. The whole notion of Twin Flames revolves around the universe sending this man to us, and we were lovers in a previous lifetime. The truth of the matter is that this man goes to every woman's door, and we are conditioned to take him in because of the trauma bonding disguised as "eternal flame".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:01 AM
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Absolutely sick and tired of how all this New Age stuff is being used to manipulate and groom young girls and women into abusive dynamics. Twin flame, angel numbers, tarot, manifesting a text or an ex and what not, all bogus stuff. No guy should ever make women so crazy that they have to resort to all of this to figure him out. The only sign we need is the block icon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:38 PM
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A guy I used to see, used to watch Jeremy fragrance all the time and run out of money from purchasing perfumes all the time. Talk about financial responsibility. 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:35 PM
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This is one of the biggest lessons I learnt in 2020, I was always conditioned to give guys a chance, because my standards of attractiveness were considered too "feminine" and "emasculating" by men. All of my exes were ugly, while they always said I was out of their league. Two of them focused heavily on physical features like height and bodyshamed me for being short at 5'2 while they themselves sought body positivity for their weight issues. They treated me worse than attractive looking guys and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:16 AM
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Every time after a breakup, my career and academics skyrocketed in some way. I have finally learned how to prioritize my career, academics, hobbies and dreams over any man, and life is so terrific now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 09:16 PM
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I did this to a guy at the start of this year. It was the best decision and I did a victory dance coz for the first time, I had identified this as a huge red flag and ran away. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:58 PM
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I tried this method too and it honestly works the best. There is no soft spot remaining, just indifference and apathy. Even when the ex tries to hoover and reach out, there is no hesitation in blocking them again and you don't fall for the "we had such good times". Because the rose-tinted glasses are no longer there. It's crystal clear. It wasn't love from our end, we were given an illusion that was deliberately crafted by the man who knows what we will love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:43 AM
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So happy for you, OP!! You deserve all this love and efforts ❤️ I am loving these "don't settle" posts lately on FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:24 AM
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As a South Asian woman, I have experienced this and witnessed this happening to all the women in my life from such an early age. Men find out numbers from all sorts of sources and creep up everyone by endless calls and messages. A woman would be trying to get her phone balance loaded and her number would get leaked to many men who would jump at it. Men would randomly create numbers on the dialpad and call, hoping for a woman to receive it. It's so frustrating and creepy. Wish restraining orders …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:31 AM
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This is amazing and so inspiring, Queen 👑♥️ you're so talented! And you just started this year? you are doing such a terrific job! Can't wait to see more of your masterpieces!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 06:44 PM
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"YoU aRe ThE pRoBLeM" what a way to dismiss victims of physical, sexual, emotional, verbal, financial abuse, sexual harassment, harassment and abuse of minors, stalking, homicide, workplace harassment, revenge porn, acid attacks, FGM, forced marriages, honour killings, sexist unacceptable jokes and locker room talk, suppression and oppression of women of colour throughout history and a million other ways in which women are systematically oppressed. She's not just a pickmeisha, she's living in a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 06:33 PM
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This sounds wonderful! So happy for you ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:55 PM
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Never heard of him, but my heart goes out to her, it must have been so traumatizing to still be harassed and abused over an abusive relationship that she left 6 years ago. When she talked about triggers, that part hits home. I wish her healing and peace. Disgusted at this world, as if an abusive relationship isn't traumatizing enough, the flying monkeys make it worse post-breakup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 06:36 AM
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Congratulations ♥️ it's a very beautiful ring and so happy for you! Just a piece of advice, please just continue vetting him and remain aware of any red flags or signs of disrespect. We are just looking out for you, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 06:20 AM
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I'm honestly so proud of you for prioritizing your career and studies, law school is so tough and I'm so happy about your job, you deserved the reward of working so hard in school, Queen 👑 so proud of you for leaving him, the audacity of these scrotes, I swear, he just wanted a kid in his name without the actual responsibility of raising the kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 06:42 PM
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AMAZING ENERGY ♥️ what a wonderful way to love yourself ♥️ the diamond looks beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 06:35 PM
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I was looking for someone to point this out. Your mother's analysis is so spot on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:01 PM
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This is shocking me to the core. I'm so sorry you went through this and I feel sorry for the previous girlfriends too. The family is sick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:59 PM
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During my teens, I was on my very first date with a guy who was my age, and he said "you're toooooo short urgh, I feel so much taller than you". He claimed to be 5'10, was actually 5'8, and I was just a few inches shorter. And he, himself, was horribly underweight, to the point that even his family and friends were concerned if he was malnourished. I was conditioned at the time to give him a chance and support him in his weight journey when he bluntly mocked my height on the first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:56 AM
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Same, sis, same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:43 PM
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Congratulations Queen ❤️ I hope he always treats you like the HV Queen that you are ❤️ the diamond is beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:37 PM
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Same. I just read why men love bitches and why men marry bitches and while it was insightful on some levels about pick-me behaviour but I could not get along with the excuses it gave for poor life skills either. It seemed to be stroking egos of LVM in an attempt to change them into HVM, but that can't happen. That's why I prefer the FDS handbook over any other book, it encourages vetting from the start so that we are not later entangled in the mess of changing someone and cOmMuNiCaTiNg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:03 AM
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Okay so who's gonna tell her that's not what love language of quality time means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:18 PM
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Done all of this! So glad and relieved ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:16 PM
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Why do guys think 6'2 height will make up for their entire existence and personality?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:57 PM
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A lot of guys use the mental health card to cover up their lack of commitment, or infidelity, or anything that they're doing behind the scenes and don't want the girlfriend to find out. If he's this depressed or traumatized to function, he should go for therapy rather than dragging a woman along in an empty shell relationship. I hope that woman leaves him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:37 AM
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I love this movie because of Iris's character development. When she finally learns she's the leading lady of her own life and creates a meaningful life outside of Jasper, love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:31 AM
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I love that movie! It's Amazon prime too .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:41 AM
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I fully agree. All those times men pressurized me or tried to find out if I had something beyond the vanilla side, my interaction with them always ended in physical/verbal/sexual/emotional abuse, harassment, coercion, and endless trauma. There's nothing exciting about going beyond vanilla. It's unhealthy and abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:25 AM
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Yes, I got the message too. Reported him immediately under targeted harassment option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 07:33 PM
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Thank you!! All the best for your exams, you'll ace them with flying colours!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:34 PM
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Thank you so much Queen ♥️♥️ I hope you're having a wonderful, peaceful week too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:33 PM
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Thank you so much! Do try it, it was my first time making grilled cheese (where I come from, we don't usually hear of grilled cheese but we include garlic bread while having pizzas and pastas) so it was a split second idea to make garlic bread first. You'll enjoy it ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:32 PM
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Absolutely. This is the best, most fulfilling time I had, cooking and enjoying comfort food all by myself. A date with a man can never match this or any of the other activities and solo date ideas I have planned for myself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:31 PM
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Thank you so much ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:30 PM
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Thank you so much! I am really grateful for the kind reminder, Queen! Yeah, you guessed it right, this one was more of a carb feast, but yes I always try my best to incorporate veggies because of my health concerns. You are right, following a healthy routine makes up self-care. Thank you so much for this! ♥️♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:30 PM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation, Queen ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 08:07 PM
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Thank you so much Queen ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:43 PM
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Thank you so much ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:43 PM
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I'm so glad you're loving the idea❤️ Where I come from, grilled cheese is pretty unheard of, so this was the first time I made a grilled cheese and just thought of making garlic bread first. I'm sure you'll love it once you try it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:43 PM
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Thank you so much Queen❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:54 PM
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Thank you so much Queen ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:53 PM
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Thank you so much Queen ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:53 PM
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Thank you so much Queen ❤️❤️ it truly is the best feeling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:52 PM
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Thank you so much Queen ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:52 PM
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Thank you so much Queen ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:52 PM
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Thank you so much Queen ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:52 PM
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https://www.loveandlemons.com/brownies-recipe/ Here's the basic brownies recipe, the only change I made was adding 1 1/2 cup powdered white sugar instead of the granulated sugar/powdered sugar ratio that's in the original recipe. I used regular olive oil and not the extra virgin so that it wouldn't be overpowering. I made salted caramel sauce at home too by using this recipe: https://bakewithshivesh.com/how-to-make-the-best-caramel-sauce-at-home/ To add the salted caramel twist to the olive oil …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:51 PM
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Thank you so much! It tasted so good! Here's the recipe, https://www.budgetbytes.com/one-pot-creamy-cajun-chicken-pasta/ I switched the cream cheese in this recipe with heavy cream, since I didn't have cream cheese in my pantry at the moment. And I used fusilli pasta because I love the texture and shape of it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:27 PM
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Thank you! Here's the recipe, https://www.budgetbytes.com/one-pot-creamy-cajun-chicken-pasta/ I switched the cream cheese in this recipewith heavy cream, since I didn't have cream cheese in my pantry at the moment. And I used fusilli pasta because I love the texture and shape of it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:27 PM
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In my A levels English literature class, we didn't have guys at all. It was a girls-only class and we were just a handful of girls. A guy took Literature initially and he was so obnoxious and rude, he was kicked out from the school. The same pattern of barely any guys in Literature classes was noticed in other A levels schools. There were guys in my psychology class or sociology class but none in literature, whereas literature classes used to be my safe haven. It was an eerie pattern.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:21 PM
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I love this! My mom is a single mom too from the time of my birth as she and my dad were separated and they finalized the divorce after a couple of years. And she says the exact same thing, that she was already doing a lot of stuff and sabotaging her higher education for the sake of my dad, and now at least she gets to spend her time pouring her love into her kid and herself instead of staying stuck with my dad who is like a nagging baby. Even I have seen his behaviour and I thank the universe t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:03 PM
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This is so incredibly sweet of you, Queen ♥️♥️ you made my day with your encouragement and kindness!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 02:47 PM
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Thank you! Sis, I would highly highly encourage you to plan a solo date night at home and cook 3 course meals for yourself, light up your room with some candles or get yourself some flowers to create that ambience. Or you can bake and cook for some homeless shelters, food banks, charities that accept cooked food donations. That way it will be for a kind cause and you'll make many deserving people happy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 02:45 PM
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If you can't even afford a bouquet of flowers and have to go around stealing them, then sort out your finances first and be an adult before considering to date someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:56 PM
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Yayyy I am so glad you had a brownie yesterday! Good for you, Sis! And thank you so much for the encouragement, means the world to me 💜💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:49 PM
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The comments are not there anymore now so I really hope the mods banned him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:48 PM
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Love this! To add to it, continue being an unshowered, deadbeat father and getting angry when women call out deadbeat fathers bro.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:47 PM
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Yep. Classic projection from his end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:46 PM
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True. Yes, I reported those comments and I am assuming others must have reported them too. glad to see that they're gone and I hope the mods ban him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:44 PM
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I am laughing as a coping mechanism to direct humour at them, but honestly this makes me livid. Another guy just texted me out of nowhere and I just reported him. His username was Sparkieger and he was looking for a "better half" and he was "wishing (me) well for therapy and wants to have a glimpse at (my)sugar art". Straight up reported. Their audacity of infiltrating women's spaces disgusts us all and yet they swell with pride at their scroteness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:34 PM
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Exactly. I am so done with men and their audacity to infiltrate women-only spaces and then verbally abuse them elsewhere because they couldn't go through all the barriers we have to put up to be safe from their violence. My bet is that he's a deadbeat father too who sits in front of video games for days without showering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:31 PM
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Okay so another scrote named Sebastian (Sparkieger is his username) is lurking around here and was sending me a "sweet positive message of well wishes and therapy and looking at sugar art" message to "someone who can be his better half". Ended his message with "greetings, Your Sebastian". Disgusting. The audacity of scrotes to infiltrate FDS. Reported his ass. And changed my settings, I wish I had figured the settings out sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:29 PM
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Exactly, you are right. And I bet he's an unemployed, deadbeat father who stays at home playing video games and not showering for days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 08:21 AM
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Now the mad scrote is editing his comments in r/cakedecorating and bodyshaming women for having hobbies of making "sugar bombs", in a cake decorating sub. Talk about a clown 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:48 AM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation, Queen 👑💜 it has been a tough journey of self love and self compassion, but I am so grateful to be here now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:45 AM
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Thank you so incredibly much, Queen 👑💜 Funfetti brings that childhood nostalgia and the colourful sprinkles are just a visual treat, I am so glad you enjoy Funfetti!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:40 AM
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Thank you so so much for all the appreciation and encouragement, Queen 👑💜💜 yes I am planning to have a special solo date night with home cooked 3-course meal and candles after I'm done with therapy, will post about it here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:24 AM
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This comment made my absolute day, thank you so much Queen 👑💜 thanks to therapy, I have begun to love myself again and not be hard on myself and I am so glad you appreciated my effort. I am so grateful that I could share this with you all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:20 AM
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Thank you so much Queen 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:18 AM
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Thank you so much, whipped cream is always my favourite frosting aside from chocolate ganache and it's always a risk. What has worked for me is to keep it chilled for a few days in the refrigerator and I add a little bit of cornstarch while the cream has whipped up to soft peaks and keep on whipping on high to let the cream get aerated. I also keep the bowl chilled in the fridge before and after whipping up cream in it. I used a "blueberry purple" dye from a local company, and if I don't get the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:17 AM
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Thank you so much Queen 👑💜💜 we finished the cake yesterday or I would have sent a virtual slice hehe. I would encourage you to treat yourself to some cake or brownies today, if that's possible! My birthday was a month ago (I posted the cake I made for my birthday here as well). My therapist basically suggested me to make an artistic representation of how I outgrew my father, so I came up with this since he never celebrated any of my birthdays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:14 AM
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Thank you so much Queen, lots of love to you 👑💜💜 My birthday was a month ago (I posted the cake I made for my birthday here as well). My therapist basically suggested me to make an artistic representation of how I outgrew my father, so I came up with this since he never celebrated any of my birthdays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:13 AM
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Thank you so much Queen 💜👑 I love the purple and blue hearts, purple and blue is my favourite combo💜💙💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:12 AM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation, Queen 👑❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:12 AM
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Thank you so much for the encouragement, Queen, you made my day 👑💜 we finished the cake yesterday otherwise I would have sent a virtual slice hehe. The flavour is Funfetti cake filled with white chocolate ganache frosting and decorated with whipped cream. My birthday was a month ago (I posted the cake I made for my birthday here as well). My therapist basically suggested me to make an artistic representation of how I outgrew my father, so I came up with this since he never celebrated any of my b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:12 AM
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Thank you so much, you made my day Queen 👑💜💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:10 AM
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Thank you so much Queen 👑💜💜 my birthday was a month ago (I posted the cake I made for my birthday here as well). My therapist basically suggested me to make an artistic representation of how I outgrew my father, so I came up with this since he never celebrated any of my birthdays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:10 AM
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Thank you so much Queen, you made my day 👑💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:09 AM
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Thank you so much Queen, purple is just the most elegant colour 👑💜💜 but my birthday was a month ago (I posted the cake I made for my birthday here as well). My therapist basically suggested me to make an artistic representation of how I outgrew my father, so I came up with this since he never celebrated any of my birthdays. I am grateful to share it with you all 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:09 AM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation Queen, you made my day 👑💜💜 my birthday was a month ago (I posted the cake I made for my birthday here as well). My therapist basically suggested me to make an artistic representation of how I outgrew my father, so I came up with this since he never celebrated any of my birthdays. I am grateful to share it with you all 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:08 AM
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Thank you so much Queen 👑💜💜 but my birthday was a month ago (I posted the cake I made for my birthday here as well). My therapist basically suggested me to make an artistic representation of how I outgrew my father, so I came up with this since he never celebrated any of my birthdays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:06 AM
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PURPLE IS JUST THE MOST ELEGANT, ROYAL COLOUR TO EXIST💜💜 I love your choice of loving purple!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:05 AM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:05 AM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation, Queen 👑❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:05 AM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation Queen 👑♥️ my favourite thing to pipe are roses and I use a 1M tip to pipe those!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:04 AM
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Hehe thank you so much Queen, you made my day👑💜💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:16 AM
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Thank you so much Queen, you made my day 👑💜 purple is my favourite colour💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:51 PM
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Thank you so much Queen 👑💜 you made my day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:50 PM
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Thank you SO much for the appreciation, Queen, you made my day👑💜 I use a Wilton 1M tip to pipe the roses, I'm so glad you liked them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:44 PM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation, Queen 👑💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:43 PM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation, Queen 👑💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:40 PM
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And oh my gosh you just made my day with your appreciation, thank you Queen 👑💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:40 PM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation, honestly made my day and I wish you all the best for your growth and journey! my birthday was last month (I shared the cake I made for myself here too) but since we were processing my father in therapy from quite some time now, my therapist suggested me to do an artistic representation of how I outgrew him and I thought of doing this 💜 I am grateful to share it with you all ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:39 PM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation, Queen 👑❤️! my birthday was last month (I shared the cake I made for myself here too) but since we were processing my father in therapy from quite some time now, my therapist suggested me to do an artistic representation of how I outgrew him and I thought of doing this 💜 I am grateful to share it with you all ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:39 PM
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Thank you so much Queen 👑❤️ you made my day! my birthday was last month (I shared the cake I made for myself here too) but since we were processing my father in therapy from quite some time now, my therapist suggested me to do an artistic representation of how I outgrew him and I thought of doing this 💜 I am grateful to share it with you all ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:55 PM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation, Queen 👑💜 my birthday was last month (I shared the cake I made for myself here too) but since we were processing my father in therapy from quite some time now, my therapist suggested me to do an artistic representation of how I outgrew him and I thought of doing this 💜 the cake flavour is a Funfetti cake filled with white chocolate ganache and frosted with whipped cream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:54 PM
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Oh gosh, thank you so much Queen :')💜 this made me teary-eyed, you made my day 💜💜 my birthday was last month (I shared the cake I made for myself here too) but since we were processing my father in therapy from quite some time now, my therapist suggested me to do an artistic representation of how I outgrew him and I thought of doing this 💜 I am grateful to share it with you all ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:51 PM
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Thank you so much Queen 👑💜 you made my day!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:51 PM
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Thank youuu so much Queen 👑💜 purple is my favourite colour and roses are my favourite thing to have and decorate on a cake! You made my day with your appreciation 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:50 PM
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This honestly is so reassuring and I relate to the perfectionist part so much, this is very sweet of you, thank you so much, you made my day and the victory so much sweeter! ❤️💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:47 PM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation Queen 👑 this honestly reassured me and made my day!♥️♥️ my birthday was last month (I shared the cake I made for myself here too) but since we were processing my father in therapy from quite some time now, my therapist suggested me to do an artistic representation of how I outgrew him and I thought of doing this 💜 I am grateful to share it with you all ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:45 PM
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Thank you so much Queen 👑♥️♥️♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:37 PM
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The cake was ironically not my best cake, as I had some technical issues while building up the cake and it took all my patience to fix it. But I came to terms with it and I own it with my whole heart. The flavour is a Funfetti cake (because I have always loved Funfetti cake ever since I was a kid) filled with white chocolate ganache and a whipped cream frosting. My birthday was last month (I shared the cake I made for myself here too) but since we were processing my father in therapy from quite …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:36 PM
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When I was 19 I had a brief fling with a guy who was 6 years older than me, and he was a gaming addict. He barely knew how to adult, had zero social support, barely could utter any complex sentences publicly, even when he was injured and hospitalized, his only worry was his PlayStation. He would call me a druggie only because I took prescribed anti anxiety medication, whereas his gaming used to go on for 30 hours without sleeping. Never ever again. Never. I met another guy who's not a gaming add…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 07:31 PM
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So true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 01:13 PM
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Okay so you have already invested a lot of emotional labour for her, and she has to realize things herself now instead of getting defensive. This will turn into a vicious cycle of her displacing and projecting her emotions on you. Run. Or if it's hard to totally cut her off, then tell her that it's her choice she's making by being "friends" with him and if he hurts her again, then she better not dial your number and just minimize contact with her until a healthy (healthy for you!) distance grows…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:46 AM
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I have been there, some friendships I absolutely had to cut off because of the toxic men in my friends' lives, and sometimes the friendships sustained and remained great with the help of boundaries. It is terribly frustrating to see our girlfriends with LVM but instead of cutting off the friendship entirely, first you'll have to evaluate your friendship here, is it strong enough that you both can still be good friends and she can keep her LVM ex out of the way? What value do you both add in each…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:10 AM
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Dated an engineer once, was misogynistic and exploitative which was basically him mimicking the STEM school he graduated from. He was the first guy I dated who cheated on me, so I wouldn't see them as loyal. A lot of engineers I know have very low EQ, and only those who transition from engineering to a social sciences/humanities field become better in terms of EQ, in my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:02 AM
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So wholesome! More power to them and may they always stay happy and in love ♥️ thank you for sharing their story here ♥️♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:32 PM
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I'm so so so sorry that you were put through so much trauma by that pos. I really hope you're doing well in life and you're safe and healthy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:49 AM
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Thank you so much for this reassurance, Queen 👑❤️ I am hoping the same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:47 AM
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So true! Incredibly grateful to be away from all their messes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:46 AM
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That's the bare minimum, to be receptive to someone's interests. I'd rate HV as the couple in Sugar Rush Christmas season on netflix, where a couple, (Sue and Gary) married from 43 years, competes in the 3 rounds of desserts challenge, and the husband says that he is here to help his wife win the Sugar Rush champion title that she has been dreaming of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:20 AM
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I love this post and I'm so proud of you and your journey! ❤️ I have grown to realize the same that self care may mean giving yourself a little luxury every now and then but it also means making those disciplined, little efforts consistently that can boost the quality of your life to a great degree! I used to have food from outside as a coping mechanism and self care and it really messed up my gut. Eating fiber, fruits and switching to cooking food at home really made my life so much easier! I a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 04:45 PM
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Stuff like this makes me wonder if straight men even like women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 03:13 AM
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So incredibly proud of you Queen, I wish you all the best for your dating journey ♥️👑 You saved your day from being spoiled by that LVM and you put yourself first. He doesn't deserve any explanation in the slightest. I wish I had done the same thing as you did when I was 16 years old and going on my first date. Would have saved so much time and energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 05:25 AM
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Omg 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 11:28 AM
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Exactly this, I'm in south asia and I have seen the same guys on both apps at the same time. Bumble doesn't really filter out much, and with time its quality is declining. I also came across very NV men with abusive tendencies so I stopped using tinder and bumble altogether. The experience may vary but OLD is getting dangerous for women, especially who are asked to make the first move in a specific time slot as if it's some score to be made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 11:19 AM
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Thank you so much for this reassurance, I blamed myself for the longest time because of his gaslighting, and my therapist made me stop self blaming, so this added reassurance and encouragement means the world to me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 11:15 AM
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Thank you so much Queen 👑❤️💞 blessings to you too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 11:13 AM
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This is very insightful, thank you so much for all of these terms! All of this makes so much sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 11:13 AM
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Trigger warning: self harm, abuse, trauma . . . . . . My ex used to physically, emotionally and verbally abuse me in private and dumped me, to make sure that I don't find out about his cheating he sent me threats, he verbally abused me publicly this time, he stalked and harassed me and enabled his pickmeishas to stalk and harass me aka "the crazy ex gf" and my friends for almost a year. A point came when I self harmed by overdosing on my prescribed anti anxiety pills, ended up losing consciousne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:39 PM
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Brightened my day ♥️ thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:31 AM
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A scrote I once talked to, wanted to sext and even his sexting was so porn sick, scrote got mad when I cut him off and went on to claim that no woman has ever been unhappy with a * inch *****, how can I be turned off? Clown 🤡.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:17 AM
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This is why I hate bumble which requires women to make the first move to strangers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:09 AM
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My ex tried choking me and I screamed and he let go but he was like "I'm not killing you" but that's exactly how it felt. Choking is extremely harmful and distasteful, no amount of cOmMuNiCaTiOn is going to justify that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 06:47 AM
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I'm at a loss for words. I have C-PTSD and I'm always in fear of being assaulted, physically, verbally, sexually abused and traumatized. I'm even scared of the idea of living with a man because of this and how it may be so difficult to escape. The power dynamic thing hits home. It shows up in my nightmares it impairs my sleeping cycles. And this scrote had the audacity to tell that woman something so threatening and still wondering if he's TA or not. I hope she leaves him for good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:20 AM
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Men spend 100 hours making sure we are safe, secure and comfortable? Is this some poorly written fantasy novel that she's a character of?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:10 AM
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I'm 21 and I have the same views. I'd very much like to adopt children and help them navigate through life and give them the love and care they deserve, as a single mother rather than relying on a man to help me procreate and then play the absent father later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:31 AM
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Love this! This is such a helpful graph.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:25 AM
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Can truly confirm this. My ex wrote articles on gender equality and social issues, and he physically, verbally and emotionally abused me, threatened revenge porn, and stalked and harassed me for months after cheating and breaking up with me. He pretended to be a feminist but it's all a facade. Which brings me to the question, how do we figure out who truly cares about the sociopolitical climate, is a HVM and who is just engaging in performative activism while being a NVM/abuser?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 05:28 AM
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I have lost friendships with some of my best friends because of their LVM. Another best friend of mine was marrying someone with huge red flags (married now) and I tried warning her to the best of my capacity. But in our south Asian culture, some families push you to marry the guy they like, even if you don't like him. So she's married now. What I have done is to constantly remind myself that I tried the best I could to look out for her, and it is not my job to save her if she doesn't want to ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:18 AM
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I've been beating myself up endlessly about all the flings and relationships I had pre-FDS, thank you for this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:03 AM
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I can totally understand that. My first real life ex is a uni batchmate too, it gets awkward too (mainly because he is an abusive pos who cheated on me, sent me threats and dumped me but couldn't tolerate seeing me glow up post-breakup and couldn't bear getting ostracized after everyone saw his abusive side) but I took therapy and was able to deal with him around me. I hope that your bf is able to deal with the breakup maturely and people around you are mature and objective enough to realize tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:29 AM
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I think you already have solid reasons with him putting in low-to-no effort at all, not putting your insecurities at ease, having anger management issues. He won't be able to ostracize you in university, you have not done anything wrong so please don't worry about how your social circle will take this. It won't even matter to anyone in a few months and everyone would have forgotten this by the time you all graduate. If he is able to ruin your reputation then it should give you even more clarity …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:16 AM
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Thank you so much! I'm sorry to hear about your cancer and I wish you all the best for your recovery. May the chemo keep going successfully and you recover soon. I'm so happy for you and your children, you all make an amazing family. My mother has been a single parent to her only child (me) from the last 20 years and she considers that life incredibly beautiful too over being married again. please have a virtual slice, you warrior Queen ❤️👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:47 AM
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Thank you so much! And I'm so glad that you'll be making your own cake for your next birthday! Please do share pictures here ❤️ I'm sure it will turn out amazingly ❤️ and self-partnered will definitely become a thing the more we learn from FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:45 AM
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Thank you so much Queen 👑❤️ this means the world to me!! please have a virtual slice ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:43 AM
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Thank you so much Sis! Red velvet is the Queen of cakes, imo! please have a virtual slice of your favourite type of cake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:42 AM
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Thank you so much! Happy birthday to you!! And I'm so glad you'll be baking your own cake! Please share pics, I'm sure it will turn out amazingly ♥️♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:42 AM
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Thank you so much!! I ended up posting there too 😇 Omg purple velvet cake sounds like a dream!! All the best, I'm sure it will turn out amazingly ♥️♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:41 AM
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Thank you and I'm so proud of you! All the best for the chocolate cola cake, it will turn out amazingly. ♥️♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:40 AM
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Thank you so much Sis! ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:40 PM
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Thank you so much Queen! Omg you made my day with the encouragement ❤️❤️ I really liked the taste of it, red velvet cake is such a classic flavour please have a virtual slice ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:40 PM
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Thank you so much Queen! please have a virtual slice ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:39 PM
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Thank you so much Sis!! please have a virtual slice ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:38 PM
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Thank you so much Queen!👑❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:37 PM
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Thank you so much, Queen!!! 👑❤️ please have a virtual slice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:37 PM
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Thank you so much Sis!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:36 PM
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Thank you so much Sis! Right?? Red velvet cake is the Queen of cakes ❤️ please have a virtual slice, Queen 👑❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:16 AM
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Thank you SO much Queen 👑❤️ you made my day, please have a virtual slice oh I would highly encourage you to bake, it's so therapeutic and what's better gift to yourself than a homemade cozy, warm cake/cookies/muffins/pies/breads? It's like hugging yourself through food!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:34 PM
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Thank you sooo much Sis! Please have a virtual slice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:46 PM
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Thank you so much Sis ♥️♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 03:07 PM
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Thank you so much sis! 💕here's a virtual slice (sorry I forgot to upload a picture of the slice here)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 03:02 PM
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Thank you so much Sis! The day was terrific, mainly because of the cake and partying all by myself 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:58 PM
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THANK YOU SO MUCH SIS 💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:57 PM
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Thank you, and thank you for sharing your experience. I do monitor my health as an act of self-compassion and I have been baking and decorating cakes since I was a teenager, but this is the first time I made a full fledged birthday cake for myself and the act of self love brightened my day since my previous birthdays used to be very draining. I wish you all the best for your health and prosperity in your journey. I hope you continue to achieve success in your goals😇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:38 PM
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Thank you so much, Sis💕 It was really peaceful and enjoyable despite the chaotic times we are living in. Very grateful that I could recharge and energize myself through self-love 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:33 PM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation, Queen 👑, it was a terrific day and I'm so happy 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:30 PM
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Absolutely, Sis!! Always the best option to avail than receive the mediocre, low/zero efforts by men on birthdays. Thank you so much Queen ❤️👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:17 PM
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Thank you so much Sis! ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:15 PM
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I'm so proud of you for leveling up and being the Queen that you are ❤️ it took me a long time to level up but I'm so glad I am on that track now, I wish you all the very best on your journey, Queen 👑❤️💎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:05 PM
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Thank you so so much, Queen ❤️👑 you made my day 😊❤️here's a virtual slice for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:04 PM
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Oh my goodness, you made my day Sis! Thank you so much Queen!❤️👑 I was honestly so intimidated and nervous before trying this but I reminded myself that if I pull it off, I'll be the happiest birthday girl. It turned out to be a terrific day, and I partied all by myself ❤️ so sorry, I forgot to attach a pic of the slice but here's a virtual slice for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:04 PM
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This is so incredibly sweet of you, Queen, your song would have made my day! I'm sorry I forgot to attach a picture of birthday cake slice but here's a virtual slice for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:59 PM
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Thank you so much for the encouragement, Queen! I am honestly so happy to share it here with you Queens 💓 you all made my day and year to come 😊❤️ here's a virtual slice for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:57 PM
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I forgot to attach a picture of the slice of the cake so here's a virtual slice for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:56 PM
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here's a virtual slice for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:54 PM
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Thank you so much! I'm sorry I forgot to upload a picture of the slice in this post so here's a virtual slice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:54 PM
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Thank you so so much 💓👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:51 PM
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Thank you so so much Queen 👑❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:51 PM
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Thank youuu so much, I was honestly so intimidated by the frosting style because I am a self-taught home baker and I was trying this for the first time, but patience was the way to go😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:51 PM
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Thank you so so much! Red velvet cake is the Queen of all cakes ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:50 PM
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Thank you so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:49 PM
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Thank you so much Queen! Yes, had a terrific day! Partied all by myself at home and it was awesome ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:49 PM
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Can't thank you enough for the encouragement ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:45 PM
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Here's a virtual slice and cake for all my Queens ❤️👑 (I'm so sorry I forgot to attach a picture of the slice here while uploading the other two pictures) I can't thank you all enough for the encouragement ❤️ red velvet cake slice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:44 PM
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Thank you so much ❤️❤️It's a red velvet cake, so basically the red velvet cake is a classic old-fashioned cake that has a hint of chocolate with vanilla, combined with vinegar and buttermilk to react with the baking soda in the batter that gives it a fluffy and moist texture, either dyed using artificial red food colour or powdered beets. It is frosted with cream cheese frosting. I am so sorry I forgot to attach a picture of the cross-section or a slice of the cake. Here you go: red velvet cake …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:43 PM
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For all my Queens, thank you so incredibly much for such a lovely response and all the encouragement and support. I'm leaving the links for the recipes and techniques I used (all the credit for these recipe links and video tutorials go to the original content creators): Here's the recipe I used for the red velvet cake: cookiesandcups.com/red-velvet-cake/ And the cream cheese frosting: https://www.thescranline.com/cream-cheese-frosting This is how you can make the textured frosting on the sides a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:35 PM
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Thank you so so much, this absolutely made my day! And yes I'd be so happy and I highly recommend you to bake something for yourself, it would be such a valuable treat and will make you so happy! Happiest birthday to you too, (belated or in advance), Scorpio Queen 👑! since your birthday is in the Scorpio season too, here's a virtual slice Here's the recipe I used for the red velvet cake: cookiesandcups.com/red-velvet-cake/ And the cream cheese frosting: https://www.thescranline.com/cream-cheese-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:33 PM
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Thank you so much sis! You made my day ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:28 PM
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Thank you so much 😍❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:28 PM
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Thank you so much Queen, you made my day! I still haven't bucked up the courage to start a proper blog, but I have been baking since I was 13 years old (around 8 years ago). I shared my autumn baking in FDS a while back too in which I made caramel apple cheesecake bars and apple spiced cake. Here's the recipe I used for the red velvet cake: https://cookiesandcups.com/red-velvet-cake/ And here is the cream cheese frosting recipe I used to decorate and frost the cake: https://www.thescranline.com/…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:09 AM
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Thank you so much!! I would highly recommend you to get back to baking, start with a recipe that you've always enjoyed making. It's so therapeutic and productive at the same time, what better way to treat yourself during autumn than a cozy, warm cake/cookies/muffins/cupcakes/pies (whichever you like to bake!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:06 AM
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Thank you so much!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:03 AM
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Thank you so much! Same, red velvet is the Queen of cakes❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:03 AM
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Thank you SO MUCH!❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:02 AM
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Thank you so much!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:02 AM
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Thank you so much 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:02 AM
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Thank you so much 💓 this makes me so glad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:59 AM
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Thank you❤️❤️ yess, baking is such a fun art that is so incredibly therapeutic and magical once it bakes in the oven and you get to decorate the blank canvas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:59 AM
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Thank you so much Queen ❤️ I was always fascinated with this style of rough edges and it was my first attempt to do this and this is done with cream cheese frosting which made it risky but even more delicious tasting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:57 AM
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There's an Indian film called Zindagi na milegi dobara (you only live once). One of its subplots featured a man initially who was prioritizing work over the relationship and he had the same "logic" that it's for their mutual future, but then his girlfriend breaks up with him. He was always raised to be a slave of capitalism, and throughout the movie, he was made to challenge his ways and beliefs, his initial actions weren't lauded in the movie at all. Another Indian film called baar baar dekho (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:40 AM
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Thank you so much!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:56 AM
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I watched that movie. Loved it, loved her acting but always wished and hoped that she'd not be traumatized in her childhood by the audiences. This is so disturbing and disgusting, it's bone chillingly terrifying to find out how many pedophiles are covertly living among us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:54 PM
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And us women only bring up a "crazy/abusive" ex so as to warn other women/people who can potentially be harmed by the ex. When men call an ex crazy, they're lying and their only outcome is to bring down the ex as well as the new woman in their life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 05:34 PM
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Love your response!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 05:32 PM
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This is very true. My short-term ex had sent me into a panic attack when he stranded me in the middle of the road during a heavy rain and went away on his bike and later blamed me for being toxic on that episode, few days later I had to call a suicide helpline because of the subtle ways he was depressing the crap out of me (and I had no idea I was being cheated on all this time), he broke up with me on the pretext of his mental health WHILE I was on a suicidal helpline. He verbally abused me, se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 05:30 PM
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A guy said the same thing to me once, and I felt so coerced and guilt-tripped by him. I dumped and blocked him. He got a new number and texted me 2 months later from that number, in an attempt to seek my help for his business. I puked so hard that day. The only thing men seek is servitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 06:01 AM
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Can't stress upon this enough. It's very important to dissect how a man is listening to you and how he refers to the things you've told him later. The men I saw seemed to be great listeners but they turned verbally abusive and made personal attacks during conflicts. Just because a man is a good listener doesn't mean he is showing effort, it has a totally sinister effect. A good example of a good listener would be someone who remembers what things bring you joy so they'd bring something you would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:31 PM
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My cheater abusive ex said the exact same stuff, so glad to be out of his mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 10:33 AM
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As someone who had a craving of this when I was 18 🤮 and was given both rough (not full fledged bdsm thankfully);and aftercare, aftercare does not negate the fact that BDSM is straight up abuse. My most abusive exes and a harasser were all into bdsm and that suggested something very sinister. They got high on hating women, being degrading and being physically violent in the name of spanking, doesn't matter if they promised aftercare or gave aftercare. That's just their way of infiltrating a woma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 10:12 AM
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I am sick of how the patriarchy romanticizes sexual abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:59 AM
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I love this checklist. I wish I could have had it last year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 04:36 AM
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I am in that group. The woman was later commenting that she's happy with the whole arrangement now because her baby turned out to be cute and looks like her. And when people tried advising her she turned defensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:04 AM
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OP, I had an ex like that. Their egos get too hurt but it's always hilarious to see the hurt look on their face when you tell them that they're just bad, terribly bad at something they claimed to be good in. Good for your Lelo! I got turned off even by sexting and dumped a guy I briefly had a fling with. The way he sexted, it was so obvious that all he knows about sex is from porn. He asked me if I liked the sexting, and I said "nope. you clearly focused on yourself and what you have seen in por…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 04:36 AM
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Little mix has many empowering and fds friendly songs like "shout-out to my ex" "salute" "wasabi" "the cure" "wings" "power", check their latest song "happiness" and "not a pop song".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 02:46 AM
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I have experienced this too. They only want to set the standards of casual sex for themselves but woe behold, if a woman doesn't reciprocate any feelings for them besides a sexual instinct. I had to block the guy eventually, because he used to be after me to get me to fall for him, and then one day to catch him in the act, I pretended to be in love with him and suddenly he started acting commitment phobic and there was that "aha" moment for me. I told him that he shouldn't expect people not to f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 02:32 PM
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I'm pretty damn sure she got overwhelmed by the love bombing and I'm proud of her for calling that out because love bombing is one of the biggest manipulative games that these so-called "gentlemen" play in the name of "chivalry". He didn't want to give her flowers, he just wanted a publicity stunt which is why he sent them to her office and is now writing a public Facebook post against her and I'm sad to see that pickmeishas in his comment section are not able to figure that out. I briefly saw a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 04:41 AM
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He's being extremely verbally abusive and still expects people to believe that's a joke? I feel bad for her, even if it's all scripted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 05:06 PM
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I have been a fantasy for so many men because I can cook really well. And I loathed being a fantasy of that sort, because cooking is a life skill and men who idealize and actively look for women who cook or clean or good at basic adulting, life skills, are the kinda men who have their lives fallen apart and are looking for a mother/servant/therapist all in one. That question alone is the sign to run, run, run from the men-children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 04:57 PM
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I love how autumn/fall is the time of the year where you can cozy up and wind down from the everyday chaos of life. For me, it's a season to rest and recharge. It's the season of letting go and starting all over again, just like the leaves shed and everything gets chilly and crisp. I read this quote online that t think of autumn as a second spring- but this time it's the leaves that get a chance to show off their colours and hues like flowers did in the original spring. I love the overall sereni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 02:17 PM
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Thank you so much ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:23 PM
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Thank you so much for the kind message ♥️♥️ made my day ♥️♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:23 PM
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Indeed, it is so fulfilling! Thank you so much ♥️♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:22 PM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation ♥️♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:22 PM
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Thank you and so true, I've been cooking everything from March till now because of the quarantine and it has been so good for my mental health as well as my wallet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 04:04 PM
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That sounds so awesome! ♥️♥️ Thank you so much♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 04:02 PM
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Thank you so much ❤️ and I'm sure your birthdays will go amazingly well with the 4 course dinner ❤️ enjoy your quality time with your mother ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:49 AM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation ❤️ and yes, I don't like that at all too, it's a sad sight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:48 AM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:38 AM
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Thank you so much for the support ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:37 AM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation ❤️ Here's the recipe ❤️ caramel apple cheesecake bars recipe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:37 AM
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Thank you so much for the appreciation ❤️I'm new to Reddit so I'm still learning how it works but the picture of the caramel apple cheesecake bars is the fourth one. Here's the recipe ❤️ caramel apple cheesecake bars recipe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:34 AM
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Aww I'm so glad you liked it, it's a Burmese dish that's very popular in South Asia. Do try making it, it's very inexpensive and delicious to eat❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:31 AM
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I love this part of the film so much, when she finally lets go of Jasper and lives her own life like the leading lady she is ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 06:30 PM
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👍👍As someone whose love language is words of affirmation, I look for well-versed handwritten letters as a portrayal of effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 03:51 PM
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I told a few men I want a guy who is self aware about his emotions and wants to improve his intrapersonal and interpersonal relationships. I told them if they want to improve their mental health, they should take therapy. As a psychology student we are always encouraged to take therapy and we advocate it too. But those men said "oh that's impossible". Okay then, anything between me and them is impossible too, then. 🙂🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 09:55 AM
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I started taking myself on dates to all the places I wanted to go with someone and that became the best thing to ever happen to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 09:45 AM
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These look terrific. And I've been thinking about making lunchboxes and meal prep too. Thank you for this! I feel so inspired by you💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 09:21 AM
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This is so true. I have had men tell me on dates how they're avoiding commitment because some ex of theirs broke their heart in high school and when I ask them that why do you not go for therapy sessions with a professional, they immediately go silent. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 09:11 AM
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As a 20 year old, same, just too turned off by men..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:47 AM
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I'm gonna finish the plate because what if the food ends up being wasted and chucked in the bin, like a lot of my restaurants in my country do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:36 AM
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I am 20, have been single for a year after being in a small series of abusive relationships and flings for 4 years. And I love this message! It resonates so perfectly. When my abusive ex left me for someone else and then made my life traumatizing by stalking and harassing me everyday, I wanted someone as a support system. But I went for therapy instead. And after a year of being single, I have regained my sense of purpose in life, I got a good job, I did even better in university, I have my life…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:20 AM
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Such an important message 💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:50 AM
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