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3	I just realized how useless looks are But even what you’ve written first doesn’t acknowledge the point - that attractiveness is relative. One of those attractive women may reject 70% of those tall attractive men because they weren’t her type. It’s not necessarily saying people will massively move up down down the scale in their choices, but that attraction is subjective and yes, the closer you get to average the more variation that will bring. All sorts of things play in as well, like geography. I grew up in a tiny, poor place where…	/r/ExRedPill	09/02/22 09:18 AM
1	So uh… What do women want again? Actually, I sometimes did - obviously context comes in here, because sometimes it was me and not them (not over an ex) or sometimes I got dangerous vibes from them (trying to figure out exactly where I lived, telling me things they’d found out by cyber stalking my friends and family when we’d only just started talking, etc.) And when I say it’s awkward and sometimes scary to give someone a reason, I don’t mean that to excuse it not happening - I’m just giving you a realistic reason it DOES happe…	/r/ExRedPill	08/02/22 05:01 PM
1	So uh… What do women want again? It’s not a comfort, because there’s always that part of you that will think you could have been better or interesting enough for that person to have stayed. That might not be true, but it’s human instinct when you’re hurt to look for your flaws and assume something wrong with you, right? I can look at past rejections like that now, but I didn’t at the time. Likewise, a rejection from a woman could be because she’s still hung up on her ex, or she’s not into brunettes, or any number of things that…	/r/ExRedPill	08/02/22 04:43 PM
1	So uh… What do women want again? You’re very welcome. I’m on this thread because I genuinely want to help, so I’m glad this did. And I totally agree on the last point, but I’m afraid that’s not a woman-specific problem; it’s awkward to reject someone and most people want it over with as soon as possible, so people can be shitty about it regardless of gender. I think a huge proportion of dating issues are communication-oriented and just not respecting the other person regardless of whether your interested in them or not. I’ve sp…	/r/ExRedPill	08/02/22 09:43 AM
1	So uh… What do women want again? You’ve got your logic twisted there, friend. If someone uses me just for sex, my first thought is that I wasn’t interesting or funny or hot enough to be worth any more of their time - I’m just a living sex doll and my personality is erased. By contrast to your comment, that is ALL about who I am as a person not being good enough. If it wasn’t, they’d have been so blown away by me that they’d have stayed. All of us can and do see rejection in a way that paints us as lacking something - you’re jus…	/r/ExRedPill	08/02/22 09:31 AM
4	So uh… What do women want again? Smart for my friend doesn’t equal smart to me. The same with funny. The same with kindness - I’m quite sensitive, I need someone gentler. My friend is blunt as all hell and guess what, she’s dating someone blunt as all hell cause sensitive doesn’t suit her. Myself and all my female friends would say a sense of humour is very attractive, but all of us would also differ in what we think is funny. To take your example of what appeals about the red pill - that’s still true. Being rejected doesn’t me…	/r/ExRedPill	08/02/22 01:18 AM
2	So uh… What do women want again? Rejection is not easy. Do you know how many men have ghosted me? How many men absolutely bombarded me with affection and then vanished after sex and broke my heart? Never mind the ones who just didn’t want to go on a date with me, those were the easy rejections by comparison. But I don’t assume all men are terrible because a handful behaved cruelly or badly. Hell, some of them rejected me very kindly and I respect them for it. The difference is finding the confidence to take that rejection and v…	/r/ExRedPill	08/02/22 01:12 AM
2	So uh… What do women want again? Some men are obsessed with looks, others with brains or personality, others with income, some with hobbies. Same for women. We are as diverse and complex and there is no formula, each woman you meet will be different. Some women are horrible, some are extremely kind, some are shallow, some are thoughtful, some are selfish some are generous. As other posters have said, they’re people just like you. I’ve dated a variety of different kinds of men and had to figure out what I wanted as I got older. …	/r/ExRedPill	08/02/22 01:02 AM
1	Updating beliefs on women's sexuality No problem. And yes, I only make that point to explain why you might be getting this reaction. Whilst the risk/reward ratio is likely true biologically, I think ‘this naturally dis-incentivises women from seeking it’ part would raise some hackles - that’s not a biological certainty (only an inference with mixed evidence as we’ve discussed). And the evolutionary theory is just that, a theory - with the advent of birth control, much of that is nullified and potentially rendered redundant with rega…	/r/ExRedPill	16/08/21 09:22 AM
1	Updating beliefs on women's sexuality Apologies for not using the quote function properly - I’m a bit unfamiliar with Reddit comments/replies in general so bear with! Well I think the idea that women don’t need to desire sex is maybe a little pessimistic - there is plenty of evidence that women have sexual desires separately. Why would vibrators exist? If women didn’t desire sex, surely all lesbian couples would be entirely celibate? In a scenario where evolutionary theory would suggest women may or may not desire sex, we have plent…	/r/ExRedPill	15/08/21 11:10 AM
1	Updating beliefs on women's sexuality You’re welcome - communication is how we progress after all! 1) Have you ever slept with a women who was sexually a bit incompetent? You can guide her to get better, and over time she will, but it’s a slow and clumsy process. Now imagine basically every new partner starts off that way. I’m not saying women don’t need to communicate to improve the quality of sex with partners - they do, everyone does. But the baseline level of men’s abilities is on average very low. Why it’s that low to start wit…	/r/ExRedPill	15/08/21 01:25 AM
1	Updating beliefs on women's sexuality Okay, a few things right here and a few things off the mark. I don’t base this just on my experience but that of all the women in my life (we talk about this stuff a lot). 1) you’re right, we’re not as keen on hot men as men are for hot women on the whole. But it’s not totally accurate that women aren’t attracted without other traits - that happens to almost every women (bar the usual asexual etc exceptions), it just doesn’t happen with as many members of the opposite sex. Men (from my understan…	/r/ExRedPill	14/08/21 10:41 AM