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You are self-sabotaging. You are self-sabotaging by questioning what you know is necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 02:22 AM
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Lily Tomlin=goddess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:02 AM
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Honey if you leave your post history up people will be more able to be compassionate to your mental health struggles when responding to you. Rn there is no way for them to know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 08:24 PM
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Oh this user and I have been going back and forth in the comments of many posts she's made and deleted. I'm aware. But, it's progress for her to make this negative of a statement about the relationship. I feel weird talking about her in the third person on her own thread to provide more context but suffice it to say she's making progress. /u/queenlevelup what do you think it means that you ALWAYS get this "tough love" when posting about this relationship on FDS, but you get 95% positivity and su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 08:22 PM
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SO PROUD OF YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 06:32 PM
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Yay go you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 02:46 AM
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But, since the decision of whether to stay or go with him feels like an agonizing one right now, I'd encourage you to focus on changing your living & self esteem situations for at least the next few weeks. The right thing to do re. your relationship, whatever it is, will become more clear to you as you get your feet on the ground in those other areas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 02:35 AM
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Part of you feels excited because it's not as hopeless as you think and it would very likely not be lonely forever or even for long. This is a clue that that false hopelessness about the rest of your life is a big part of the reason you're still in this relationship. You are grateful. I'm sure you know by now that most of us here will be of the opinion that you're disproportionately grateful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 02:33 AM
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Hey friend, me again! So awesome you are starting online therapy soon--more progress since the first time you posted here! It is very normal to talk about your relationship in "regular" therapy if you're struggling with it, no need to save it for a relationship counselor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:50 AM
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OF COURSE he wants someone to work for free for 2 weeks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 03:33 PM
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Lol I dated a guy whose political views were literally the same as mine and he still couldn’t hear me talk about politics without “playing devil’s advocate”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 10:30 PM
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Yeah I think this is the way to go for couples with political disagreements. If you can comfortably agree to disagree, you’re good. If that just doesn’t sit right with you, you probably don’t really respect the other person’s values, not just their party affiliation, and you shouldn’t be together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 08:53 PM
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Don't mind at all! Sorry I can't be super precise as it was a long time ago, but it was at least a few weeks and may have been up to the length of a normal cycle (though my actual cycle was irregular and often pretty long for several months after I went off it, until my body got used to regulating its own hormones). I continued to get better as time went on, but the major shift happened within 2-4 weeks I believe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 06:06 PM
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Hormonal birth control badly affects my depression. I realized it and went off the pill forever about four years ago. I spent a couple more years with dudes mansplaining the availability of lower-hormone options, feeling like I was being selfish by not trying them and still insisting on condoms. Eventually I got clear about the fact that yes, it’s possible I would not experience the same side effects with Mirena or what have you, but it is not worth even risking months of severe depression just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 12:51 PM
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My girlfriends and I have been having Jackbox game nights on Zoom, recommend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:59 PM
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Also don't overlook "What I had imagined were potential hookups turned out to be more in my mind than in reality"--he did this hoping to get with specific other women he already knew, but they didn't want him 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 09:48 PM
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Hey, no problem, but I feel like you're missing my point, which is that your boyfriend's qualities are the LEAST IMPORTANT part of your situation. Like I said, I'm not here to shit on him and he deserves credit for whatever good stuff he does or is, and of course you're right that I don't have a perfect understanding of that good based on a Reddit post. However, even if I were personally stunned by many specific examples of what an HVM he is, even if you had instead written that he was in incred…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 03:26 AM
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Chocolates are yummy and all, but "I can't imagine there being many men out there" who would send you chocolates is NOT FDS. There are tons. I would echo the previous commenter--it sounds like this guy meets a basic bar in many ways. He deserves credit for meeting the bar in those ways, but based on what you've written here, not for being some extra-special prize. We have all been taught that nice girls "round up" their man's value as high as they possibly can in their own eyes. That's fucking b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 01:18 AM
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They just don't want to be held responsible for anything. Things to which they expect their friends might react negatively, they blame on you. Things you ask of them or boundaries you set, they protest against with this made up fear of being "pussy whipped." The common denominators: -they do not want to deal with consequences of their actions -you get the blame without any actual power over them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 08:50 PM
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More!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 03:10 AM
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She’s not flipping anything off she’s pointing at it with her pointer finger sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 06:44 AM
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One key FDS tenet: other people’s behavior/stuff we can’t control does not reflect on our worth. This is THE MOST important time for all of us to take that and apply it to every area of our lives. I find all of my old issues and self-defeating beliefs rising up again in the last few days. This morning I realized that what I’ve been thinking basically boils down to “this pandemic is ruining my plans, jeopardizing my goals, threatening my life, the same as it’s doing to almost every other human in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 06:17 PM
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And it's never too late to find it!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 07:20 PM
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Same. Every woman I know who has ADHD works SO HARD to keep it together and function as if she didn't have it. Almost every man I know who has it straight up outsources most of his executive functioning that doesn't directly impact his job to his neurotypical wife or partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:52 AM
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🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:17 AM
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/u/Stargazerlily425's fb friends and even some women here who are trying to follow FDS are pushing back on her by making the point that men w/ no college degree can still be of value. This is super interesting and, I think, shows how deeply indoctrinated we all are to protect the male ego at all costs. That's a totally irrelevant point to the OP's decision. She never says that men without degrees are of no value as people. This choice of hers is not because she believes college is the right choi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:55 PM
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"Performative HVM behavior" is a HUGELY useful label/concept
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:34 PM
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Omg you are fully parenting him here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:29 AM
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I have had a lot of sex where I take the dominant and the guy takes the submissive role and I’ve been shocked to realize that it is STILL usually part of an attempt at some 12-d chess powerplay on his part
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:47 PM
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So true and important. I basically spent my 20's shredding my self-esteem by dating "very smart" guys who gaslighted me that I was being irrational/demanding/hysterical whenever I expressed an emotion that was inconvenient for them--no matter how calmly, lovingly, or in accordance with what they had previously said they thought was appropriate. This is so insidious. Even if you don't just buy it and put your head down, even if you believe you have a right to feel things, it can masquerade as a "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:31 PM
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Jeeeeeeeeeeeeesus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:33 AM
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Totally different bro, she doesn’t own his body /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:12 PM
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>he just doesn't seem to care You're not crazy or somehow incapable of forming accurate perceptions. This means he doesn't care. You are married to someone who does not care about your comfort, bodily autonomy, or feeling of safety. It's not a communication issue. You cannot make him care by communicating. Choose your next move accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:01 PM
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Lol I literally just forgot about it after a couple days, but you're right, it would've saved me some time yesterday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:09 PM
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You're all so right ladies! #2 it is, thanks for the support 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:56 AM
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