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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 34 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menHow wonderful is it to spend all that time on yourself and your loved ones rather than giving it for free to inconsiderate and sometimes dangerous men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 04:19 PM |
| 112 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menI have a dream that one day all women of the world will be confident enough as to not even spare a glance at fuckboys who don’t even text back, and independent enough to walk away from husbands who don’t even wash their own plate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:19 PM |
| 22 | The audacity is off the charts. This is also why FDS advocates blocking and deleting men as soon as it’s done (NOTE: this screenshot was found on Twitter).I love this idea! I wish I were this savage in my earlier years | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 03:58 PM |
| 49 | Women are 6x more likely to end up divorced if they are diagnosed with cancer or MS, than if their male partners were facing the same illness. Credit: IG @wokeblackprincessI agree, it’s what everyone deserves, and I’m aware that it’s seen as something above and beyond because it was a man doing it, if it were the wife doing all these things for her dying husband she would receive no praise as it’s her expected duty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 05:06 PM |
| 290 | Women are 6x more likely to end up divorced if they are diagnosed with cancer or MS, than if their male partners were facing the same illness. Credit: IG @wokeblackprincessMy mother-in-law unfortunately passed away in 2019 from leukemia, my father-in-law took excellent care of her throughout her illness, he stayed with her at the hospital ever single day for the year+ she spent in and out, when she was able to return home he would cook whatever meal she was craving even if he had no idea how to cook it. Homemade remedies to treat her symptoms, he bought and prepared them all. My fiancé wanted to stay overnight at the hospital the night she died but FIL said he had… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 03:36 PM |
| 64 | Looks like my search for a HVM is finally over, he even made a new account to message me, I feel so special!I also got the exact same message, ridiculous | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 01:42 PM |
| 34 | Looks like my search for a HVM is finally over, he even made a new account to message me, I feel so special!I also got the exact same message, ridiculous | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 01:42 PM |
| 22 | In terms of audacity does your cup runneth over?It disgusts me that people would even ask what you were wearing as to try to place at least some of the guilt on us. I’m sorry that pig did that to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 06:14 PM |
| 44 | In terms of audacity does your cup runneth over?I am doing okay, thank you. I immediately grabbed my pepper spray and felt safer. Keys, cell phone and pepper spray I never leave the house without | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 02:39 PM |
| 173 | In terms of audacity does your cup runneth over?I was followed by a man yesterday, while wearing a huge hoodie, sweatpants and hiding my face behind a mask, it’s 100% not the clothes you wear | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 02:32 PM |
| 22 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020The moment you start making pros and cons lists it’s over sister, you know it in your heart, I wish you the strength to go through with the breakup | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:54 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020The adrenaline rush from confronting harassment can’t be beaten, so happy for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 04:36 AM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Girl, you’re brave! I’m always too afraid to call them out because I feel they would get physical and hurt me, stay safe! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 04:30 AM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020It’s always deceiving to realize how even the friendliest faces have disgusting intentions | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 01:42 AM |
| 75 | 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄When men comment that ‘women lie about being assaulted’ I immediately assume they are sexual offenders | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 01:53 PM |
| 8 | Being single is okay!Good for you! It’s so not worthy to go into all the dating scene nonsense at such a young age, literally anything else you could invest your time on will have better returns over investment than dating | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 12:49 AM |
| 8 | Being single is okay!I didn’t have a boyfriend until I was 22 and finished college, and honestly I feel like I should’ve waited even longer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 12:46 AM |
| 51 | The ultimate LVMShe literally said the line ‘pick me, choose me’ 😐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 03:41 AM |
| 14 | How do you deal with NVM who cat call you or make disgusting comments in the street?I’m sorry men have followed you and made you feel afraid for your life, no one should have to experience that. I’ve also been followed before and from that moment on I started carrying pepper spray EVERYWHERE I go :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 04:06 AM |
| 9 | How do you deal with NVM who cat call you or make disgusting comments in the street?This was my little sister’s advice as well haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 04:04 AM |
| 28 | I love how she remains unbotheredI see your point, I grew up in the dessert so to me the beach means vacation, so it definitely takes planning and effort, and it would be something I would appreciate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 03:26 PM |
| 38 | I love how she remains unbotheredWhy do you think the beach is not an appropriate setting? Genuinely curious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 02:53 PM |
| 17 | And if it does, it’s probably gaslightingI was so used to end up crying after I told my ex-bf about the way I felt that I ended up carrying toilet paper in my car for the next time I was inevitably going to cry after an argument. It’s hard to break off the old habit, and I was so confused when I had disagreements with my current bf and he would patiently listen to me, try to understand my point and actually acknowledge if he needed to change something, not once have I cried in an argument. It wasn’t that I’m too sensitive I was being n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 12:22 PM |
| 8 | Where did you find a HVMA mutual friend of ours. It took me a while to finally accept to be his girlfriend because I wanted to make sure he wasn’t just appearing to be a HVM. I think the key is not being afraid of being single, screaming NEXT at the very first red flags, your options will be reduced dramatically but you’re way better off without a man than with an asshole | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 02:14 AM |
| 13 | Yesterday my cousin married her HVM and it was magnificent!I don’t know, you lost me when she had an affair while still being married. Regardless of what type of partner you have, being unfaithful is a decision you make to betray a promise you made, to me it is like betraying yourself and your word. Good thing she’s in a healthy relationship now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 02:08 AM |
| 9 | New rule: you aren't my husband? No sex.Very true, just invest in some good sex toys and you’re set. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 12:55 AM |
| 47 | I saw a QUEEN at the salon!Politeness will always be a true queen trait | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 12:50 AM |
| 1 | What to do with a man who demands I “pay money back to him”?He doesn’t see you as his wife, he sees you as his roommate. Sounds like you’ve communicated you’re not okay with his behavior and if he’s not doing anything to change it or even compromise then it might be time for you to evaluate if this is a situation you’d want to live in for the rest of your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 12:48 AM |
| 58 | Am I just being a prude or is this too much for someone who has only spoken to me for 5 minutes? #datingwhenyoure30It is too much, he’s just testing your boundaries and seeing if you respond positively meaning he can get in your pants soon enough - Next! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 12:08 AM |
| 11 | Today I exposed a disgusting man to his girlfriendHaha foot reading, such losers! I didn’t know feet fetishes were a thing when he asked me for pictures, it still doesn’t make sense to me.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 10:07 PM |
| 23 | Today I exposed a disgusting man to his girlfriendIt is, and I’m sure he’s done that to many other girls as naive as me and my sister :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:00 PM |
| 37 | My heart breaks for this young girl, I tried to be as tactful as possible letting her know she should leave that man who’s definitely taking advantage of herSome men are pigs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 07:37 PM |
| 4 | Get a man who will show you off! If he's not proud to be with you and treats you accordingly, he ain't the one, hun!When I first met my boyfriend’s friends it was very cute to see he introduced me to every single person in the party, I feel like he didn’t even know some of them but he kept telling everyone this is G, my girlfriend | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 12:46 PM |
| 2 | How many HVM out of every 100 men do you think there are?I’m doing the math and only found 6 in 500. One of them is gay, another is married, another one is dead, two more are in a relationship so that leaves exactly 1 in 500 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 08:32 PM |
| 7 | FDS changed my lifeYour excitement about this new life transcends the screen. Rooting for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 08:21 PM |
| 24 | I can't tell if this is a jokeWha wha WHAT?!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 08:17 PM |
| 3 | At least he’s honest about his game? We love a man who self reflects🤮🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 02:53 AM |
| 8 | The hoops we have to jump through. Stay safe!Thank you for sharing, just downloaded and am thinking of a cute fake name | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 02:44 AM |
| 14 | He's NOT your friend (and likely never was) - any man who gives you creep vibes under the guise of a platonic relationship, especially when you have made your disinterest clear, should be cut out of your life ASAPI feel like this was written specifically for me. I tend to become friends with people very easily and ignore my gut feelings about them, I recently had one of the most traumatic experiences in my life, I was friends with this co-worker for a good amount of time and while it was a platonic relationship to me he made me feel uncomfortable in some situations, I brushed it off and continue hanging out with him, he was married and I thought he was harmless, until he assaulted me. My approach to frie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 02:40 AM |
| 33 | Don't forget to ask men to get tested for STDs before sleeping with them.This was one of my initial requests for my boyfriend and when I mentioned it, he said he was also going to bring it up before we had sex, we went together to get our blood drawn; I agree it’s the responsible thing to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 12:07 AM |
| 35 | Don't forget to ask men to get tested for STDs before sleeping with them.What? People do that? 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 12:05 AM |
| 2 | Keep re-reading this until it sinks in.I’m thinking of framing this phrase, if he wanted he would! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 02:57 PM |
| 12 | I'm No Longer Ashamed of Being "High Maintenance"I was just thinking of this today, I’m currently with a wonderful partner who treats very well, but the moment that stops so does our relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 04:11 AM |
| 45 | I'm No Longer Ashamed of Being "High Maintenance"I love reading stories about healthy relationships; hopefully one day this will be the norm for all and not an exception. Keep on making each other happy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 01:27 AM |
| 125 | Every day on relationship_advice...And he don’t like Beyoncé lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 01:22 AM |
| 12 | Does He Love YOU, or Does He Love What You Do For Him?I’m hispanic and it is a pickme culture, I grew up seeing women serving men as part of their duty, whether it’s your husband, your father, sons, brothers, you get the picture. But I also had very positive influences from my grandpa and uncles, they truly took care of their wives, never expected them to be their slaves, they cooked for their wives, cleaned, and treated them with the uttermost respect. That’s what I decided I wanted in my life. I think the only thing we can do is stop accepting me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 06:55 PM |
| 2 | My (27) M boyfriend cheated on me (20) F within the first month of dating by kissing his ex yesterday, should I leave?Just by reading the title YES, leave him! No explanation in the world can turn that into a NO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 06:47 PM |
| 14 | I know their dynamic is supposed to be cute and fun... but a comment like that just screams insecurityIf I read this on my partner’s profile he’s done | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 06:46 PM |
| 28 | It isn't feminist to pay on dates, it is patriarchalIt couldn’t have been said better. You split the bill with your friends not with the woman you’re trying to impress. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 06:45 PM |
| 15 | It isn't feminist to pay on dates, it is patriarchalI came here to say this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 06:42 PM |
| 3 | Any thoughts on this date idea?This is the new norm, picking trash is the new date expectation? We’re doomed lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 03:32 PM |
| 28 | Should I be feeling a "click" with the guy after the first date?You’re 17, dear, focus on you. Dating men/boys takes a lot of energy that will have a lot more growth if invested on yourself. And to answer your question, yes you should feel that chemistry from the beginning, if you don’t then you’re just giving them your time with no benefit to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 05:04 AM |
| 12 | This is a scene from the Netflix reality show, Indian Matchmaking. It shows the extent to which entitled LVM expect their wives to act like their mothers. He's EXTREMELY dependent on his mom and seems to be looking for a doormat pickmeisha who will be his mommy/bangmaid/nanny and have his children.Yep, cringe worthy if you ask me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 04:59 AM |
| 6 | Have you watched "Indian Matchmaking" on Netflix? Girls allll over the world do it.I immediately thought of FDS when I saw that scene | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 04:51 AM |
| 39 | Green flags and what they look likeCongratulations on your relationship, your bf sounds like a mature and healthy man! To answer your question I believe another green flag is the positive feedback you receive from your friends and family when they get to know him, they can very often see attitudes we’re too blind to identify. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 04:41 AM |
| 6 | We're not a rehab centerAgree 🙌🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 05:04 PM |
| 26 | We're not a rehab centerYeah, I rolled my eyes that it was a man trying to seem ‘woke’. I still thought it was a powerful message but probably should’ve cropped him it out of it lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 03:00 PM |
| 14 | We're not a rehab centerYeah, and the fact that it’s a man delivering the message 🙄. I noticed that but felt the message was still powerful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:58 PM |
| 73 | We're not a rehab centerAgree, men would not ‘give a chance’ to single mothers, ‘gold-diggers’, or solely based on looks, but act surprised when we do the same | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Pre-FDS me would have been chasing this loser LOL “ur really weird”This made me chuckle, thanks for sharing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 08:18 PM |
| 3 | HVM and being exclusiveYeah, we were dating exclusive during that time. My only advice would be to be very honest to yourself, if you aren’t sure about him or the direction of the relationship end things early rather than later, you don’t want to waste your time or his in that ‘limbo’ of a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 11:19 PM |
| 16 | Should women thank their date for the dinner or other expenses?LVM will expect something (sex) in return wether you thank them or not. I think you should always thank people who take care of you, not doing it demonstrates an entitled attitude IMO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 09:21 PM |
| 14 | HVM and being exclusiveThat was the situation with me and my boyfriend, he asked me to be his girlfriend a month after we started dating. I wasn’t looking for a serious relationship at the time since I had just left one recently and was planning on moving across country within the next year, I explained this to him and while he was bummed out we agreed we would continue seeing each other, during the next months we went on a lot of dates, we introduced each other to our group of friends and even some family and overall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 09:18 PM |
| 37 | "Is she intimidating or are you intimidated?" Old me used to bite my tongue, when talking about my achievements on a date. Now, I'm proud to talk about what I've accomplished. If he's intimidated, he's not for me.God bless Rebecca | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 09:08 PM |
| 10 | This was recommended to me here, it's some serious level up shitThank you for sharing her series | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 03:53 AM |
| 12 | If a woman chooses to forgive/stay with her cheating spouse that’s her choice, but no one will ever convince me that their relationship is goals or anything to aspire to.I feel the same way about relationships where there have been breakups. There was something bad enough to break up and people were hurt. True HV people don’t hurt their partners like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 10:18 PM |
| 18 | HVM Stories and Experiences SharethreadI think this is one of the missing parts in FDS, sharing success stories! I loved reading about your adorable relationship I’ve been in one with a wonderful man for the last 1.5 years -He courted me for 5 months before I agreed to be his girlfriend and I even withheld from having sex with him for that long and instead of pushing me he patiently waited for me to be ready -He was looking to buy an apt and he was always including me in the whole process of selecting the apartment, decorations, appl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 09:47 PM |
| 22 | HVM Stories and Experiences SharethreadI melted with the bike story, it must be such a great motivator for him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 09:34 PM |
| 20 | HVM Stories and Experiences SharethreadIt’s so heartwarming to read about couples that care so much about each other | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 09:32 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/22/2020What are some HVM demonstrations of affection after you’ve given birth to their child? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 04:13 AM |
| 18 | Nothing “Happened” to Me- A Man Did Something to MeIt’s so powerful to place the guilt and shame on the abuser, and freeing the victim even with only those words | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 04:46 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/13/2020Doing the good deeds | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 12:49 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/13/2020I’d say let him make the drive and put some effort in, take extra measures to feel safe though, get to the restaurant by yourself, text a friend your location and extra info | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 12:47 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/13/2020Yep, and he’ll try to make you feel like he’s complimenting you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 12:45 AM |
| 136 | As a white guy you should be thankful I give you attention...Si, it was definitely the white entitled bitch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 05:39 AM |
| 16 | Elon musk LVM tweeted “take the red pill” and Grimes mom called him out.Did I read that right, he demanded a paternity test since he didn’t believe it was his🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 04:47 PM |
| 4 | Congrats on 70k+ Members!Helped me appreciate my current relationship and the HVM I have by my side and realizing that kind of treatment is what I deserve and what I should expect from a partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 10:55 PM |
| 6 | A tragedy and a warningThis, I needed to hear this. Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 04:48 AM |
| 72 | This national symbol for "romance" is not what it seems!!!And it even became a statue... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 04:29 PM |
| 9 | Ex went on VacationI dated a guy for a year and I constantly mentioned I wanted to go on vacations with him to Mexico city, he said he didn’t feel we were there yet. A few months later he announces he’s going to Mexico city for a Formula 1 event with his co-workers,, what?! I should’ve broken up with him on the spot | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 04:50 AM |
| 11 | anddd... blocked!!!Every time I come to this sub I’m more surprised it’s actual men writing these messages | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 04:51 PM |
| 13 | “Put down like a dog” I hope these men are never blessed by anything a woman gives ever again,even casual kindness ever again.I was unfortunately in that situation and sadly one of the first things that went through my mind was my boyfriend leaving me and thinking it had been my fault, in a stupid way I felt I’d betrayed him. He’s a good man and has been nothing but supportive, but it still makes me sad that fear of losing a loved one went through my mind on top of the trauma of what had happened. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 06:27 AM |
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