gambucha Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
129	Someone posted this in a motivational group for women in medicine and I’m just like? Cringe af? Why is this cute or funny?	NAH, SIS	gambucha	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/08/20 01:51 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
128	Go build me a table! I lost it at jebediah go out into the field lmao	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/09/20 01:16 AM
4	Leveling Up, Need to Keep No Contact “Yet he never once said the word sorry for his behavior” Red fkn flag right there. I went through the same situationship thing with a Scrote who turned out to be super narcissistic. The lack of apology or accountability points heavily to a sign of narcissism. These people will never feel empathy or acknowledge any wrongdoing they’ve done and make it feel like you’re the guilty party. The best thing you can do is remove yourself from the situation. It isn’t benefitting you and it only leaves you …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/09/20 03:46 PM
22	HVM in media done right, David is a HVM and all the rest, in my opinion, LVM He was a complete dick to her too. Dude always seemed cold af	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/09/20 01:54 PM
2	Finally having a man strive to reach your standards is much better than striving to meet the standards of a LVM The smell of weed 🤮	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/09/20 08:43 PM
2	I want out. But I don’t trust myself to stay gone. Narcissistic abusive asshole. I’m going through this rn. Everything op mentioned is the same way that I feel. Nothing is ever good enough and slowly they seek to destroy you. Now that we haven’t talked on 5 days things feel a little lighter. Talking to them made me so depressed it feels better not to talk even though I was scared to go no contact	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/08/20 08:25 PM
20	Maybe posted before but before I leveled up, I remember agreeing with this 🤮 Hope she gets picked	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/08/20 02:39 AM
14	Don’t fool yourself into thinking he cares or has changed his mind about being with you! Yea that’s fcked. Social media isn’t everything but I think a red flag is if you’re together and he doesn’t ever mention you. I had someone who claimed to be a “friend” do this and he hid me on social media from his gf even though we were 100% strictly platonic. It still didn’t sit right with me tho so I cut him off. Life is too short for that	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/08/20 12:16 AM
5	Another gem from FDS insta. I tried to ‘train’ men in previous relationships. Men ALWAYS know. They ALWAYS know. They feign ignorance to see how much they can get away with. Stay away from low effort men, those lazy pigs who don’t bother. Same, sis. But we learn as we go	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/08/20 06:53 PM
8	Oh, Honey. He's Actually Hiding Behind Her Same. The nvm who was into me told me “I’d be scared to go in a haunted house” ok you weak child. Being safe with a man is super important to me. Never again	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/08/20 06:41 PM
14	Oh, Honey. He's Actually Hiding Behind Her I hate those stupid animal faux romance posts boii. 🤡	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/08/20 06:40 PM
2	I wrote this but never sent it. Sometimes I wish I had. Likewise, sis. Keep ya head up 🌺	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/08/20 01:33 AM
4	I wrote this but never sent it. Sometimes I wish I had. Thank you for posting this. I went through something similar. It truly hurts when they do what they do and they aren’t decent people. All the pain and red flags along with the disrespect is something I’ll never tolerate again. I’m working on healing. I hope you’re doing better now 💗	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/08/20 12:46 AM
39	I don't argue with men. Not over anything, for any reason. I can relate to this so much. Definitely made me learn	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/08/20 11:16 PM
14	I don't argue with men. Not over anything, for any reason. Absolutely love your energy. 💗	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/08/20 11:14 PM
7	A real man knows what it means to love correctly. There are no ifs or buts. Exactly. Women who you flirt with and have fwb under the guise of being “friends”, are not his friends. Period.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/08/20 09:20 PM
26	A real man knows what it means to love correctly. There are no ifs or buts. If he has girls on the side and comes with baggage, yes having girls on the side is drama and baggage, I don’t want him. I’ve been through way too much to deal with that again. Stuck on your ex? Nope Talking to tons of girls? Nope Always have dozens of very very close female friends? Nope 👎🏻 blockity block block	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/08/20 08:07 PM
21	Imagine.... Absolutely this! He wasn’t my ex but a nvm who played with my feelings and pretended to be my “friend”. You can’t teach someone to be decent when they’re not	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/08/20 04:10 PM
39	I don’t know who needs to hear this, but please don’t take a felony charge for your man 🤦‍♀️ Just a meme I saw of a woman who said this guy told her he lived in a gated community. Turned out he was in jail. I’ve never been the same since 😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/08/20 01:07 AM
18	The sheer audacity... I love when ppl tell on themselves	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/08/20 12:12 AM
46	Apparently “the white man” is who taught black women to value monogamy. Is he on crack? Sleeping with other women can lead to std’s and other issues. It’s always a clown in a white shirt preaching nonsense	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/08/20 10:46 PM
45	I don’t know who needs to hear this, but please don’t take a felony charge for your man 🤦‍♀️ If he says he lives in a gated community, make sure it’s one you can visit without supervision	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/08/20 10:44 PM
1	He THOUGHT he was doing something Find it hilarious how men who have nothing to offer think they’re the prize 🤡	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/08/20 05:05 AM
36	If they even try to apologize... Pure narcissism.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/08/20 10:08 PM
55	I read this, and I don’t doubt this in the slightest bit. I’ve been in similar shoes like this. This triggered me so bad. Reminded me of my pick me days when I was super young and just starting to open up to guys. Something similar happened to me ,only in regards to emotional labor and not sex. But seeing how he said “you’re my girl then we’re just friends” reminds me of the narc I was in a situationship with before. He exploited me but now I know better. Everyday it was hot then cold. Love bombing then discard. I hope she levels up too and I’m in no way blaming her. He definitely sounds l…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/08/20 07:24 PM
10	He thought I was willing to audition to be his girlfriend and compete against all his side-girls. The shock of rejectment hit him hard. 😂💜	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/08/20 06:48 PM
53	He thought I was willing to audition to be his girlfriend and compete against all his side-girls. The shock of rejectment hit him hard. You go girl. I’ve been breadcrumbed by a nvm before and all it did was cause me pain while he fcked around with so many girls behind my back and played me. Never again while I accept breadcrumbs when I can get the whole pizza from someone else.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/08/20 06:23 PM
4	Why are European men SO INTENSE? I’m Romanian too. I just had to comment 😭 buna!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/08/20 02:09 AM
6	my ex (the literal king of bum narcissists, who used to ignore me for weeks , and gaslight me about it when I spent months begging for his attention/basic human decency) begging me to pay attention to him. Tables couldn’t be any more turned. Thank you. I guess what upset me through this whole thing is how some people don’t bat an eye at doing something that could hurt you or they get off on hurting you. That’s the sick part. Even after years of thinking you know someone. Communicating and not receiving closure yet heaving someone play with you and make fun of your pain is gut wrenching and really fcked up. All I wanted was closure, but I guess narcissistic people definitely are on a different playing field and get off on hurting oth…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/08/20 05:16 AM
10	my ex (the literal king of bum narcissists, who used to ignore me for weeks , and gaslight me about it when I spent months begging for his attention/basic human decency) begging me to pay attention to him. Tables couldn’t be any more turned. @mandoa_sky and @op. I’m going through something really similar to this right now. He’s not my ex or someone I dated but he was a nvm ( he literally sold drugs which I only found out years later) who I thought was my online “friend.” It embarrasses me but I begged for his attention and for him to “talk to me” and raged because he gave 0 fcks about me telling him I hurt over us not being on good terms. I feel like an idiot. I’m someone who likes closure and not leaving things unresolved. A part o…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/08/20 04:14 AM
12	Stop Defending Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion I’m tired of them both	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/08/20 11:15 PM
8	HVM, these are the kind of stories I love to see My friends literally did this for me in class when I was presenting, lol. Idk how this is high value	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/08/20 02:35 PM
8	Carmela Soprono should be #1 in the hall of shame. Sat idly by and blinded herself with jewelry and expensive gifts while her husband, Mafia boss Tony Soprono has COUNTLESS affairs. But even tho Tony was a serial cheater he was a “good dad” when he was NEVER home unless to shit, shower, or sleep. Damn. Even though he was a cheating pos, it still kinda saddens me he died. Practically the end of an era. There always was something deeply heavy and nostalgic about the sopranos	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/08/20 05:43 AM
9	They’ll try to gaslight you if you point out anything similar to this too 🤡🤡🤡 I was talking to a lvm who apparently had a pic saved of him kissing his “friend”. I swear they were secretly dating or at the least fwb. Even though months before he swore she was just a friend. Men will lie about anything. I’m glad I’m not as naive anymore	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/08/20 03:52 AM
12	What was the biggest/most shocking FDS revelation for you? Holy fucking shit. Yea this woke me up	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/08/20 03:38 AM
10	A HVM going above and beyond for his lady 👸 The fact that he set it up and is expecting to sleep with her that very night annoys me	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/08/20 04:50 PM
2	We finally broke up, I could use some validation that I’m not crazy. Because he gets off on knowing you’re affected by him. Narcs are like emotional vampires. Knowing you’re reacting and responding gets him off. Best thing to do is not react. Give them 0 energy. They hate that. You’re welcome. r/narcissisticabuse is also a rlly great subreddit	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/08/20 05:31 PM
6	We finally broke up, I could use some validation that I’m not crazy. You’re stuck in something called the trauma bond.The hot and cold is intermittent reinforcement and it’s designed to keep you stuck in the cycle. It ultimately is based on him giving you crumbs while you jump through hoops for his validation. I know this because I went through the same thing and it all sounds very similar. One week he’d tell me he was into me and lovebomb me with emojis and sweet words then the next day it was “were just friends”. It’s a complete mindfuck and totally unhealthy. …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/08/20 04:08 PM
95	Remember to never settle for less than you are worth, ladies. A man who values you will go out of his way to make you happy. This guy who turned out to be a narc would always claim he forgot my birthday and couldn’t remember it due to his ADD. And yet somehow he could remember things I said during our fights ? Lol 🥴🥴 never again	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/08/20 08:02 PM
136	I’m in shock Don’t invest in a man, period. Invest in you. Been burned too many times to do so otherwise	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/08/20 02:34 AM
87	Block 👏🏾 I used to think it was flattering as well because it came from narcissistic men I was hurt by. I thought it was sincere but now I realize some play only games and that shit isn’t sincere	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/08/20 08:17 PM