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sounds like you'll believe what you want. but so will I. let's talk in 5, 10, 20 years and see.
/r/MensRights25/01/23 10:54 AM
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I think the point is...why does it have to be specifically attached to menopause or anything related to being a female? if I want to take a day off it's because I'm ill, not because I'm a female (and as a matter of fact, good lord i do not want my entire office to know i'm off for any personal health issues, if possible. im certainly not going to promote the fact that I'm dealing with menopause. i barely even like most of my coworkers enough to get them a Christmas card lol). women all throughou…
/r/MensRights24/01/23 09:01 PM
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for that matter, no one forced her to. can you tell I am child free?! lol
/r/MensRights24/01/23 05:24 PM
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yes, sadly. I'm afraid we have to do more to stop the cycle from repeating over and over.
/r/MensRights24/01/23 12:47 PM
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not sure if the comment is visible so I'm reposting it without link I couldn't remember or find the article I wanted but instead found this one, which basically says that as a feminist, she needed to reconcile liking bdsm and being submissive. there's guilt around liking a dominant man, and you can't just like something because it turns you on. you have to justify it.
/r/MensRights24/01/23 12:16 PM
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well apparently when someone consents it's empowering and it's all as a result of past abuse. it's really interesting (yet confusing) for me to observe. eta it seems to me that people really need to follow some ideology as a fix for their problems rather than actually...fix their problems. so it's like these mental gymnastics that allow someone to say "it's ok as long as I consent" when really it's just a band aid. I read a lot of posts where people literally ask, "is this abuse?" and the commen…
/r/MensRights24/01/23 10:22 AM
1

not at all. I never specifically looked for guys that were 'high value.' it was never something on my radar. I have been alone more often than I've been partnered. I've never had marriage as a goal. I would turn someone down because he's an asshole before I turn him down for being bald, or under 6ft. that's how attraction works for me. when observing others, I see a lot of unhappiness when they look for superficial qualities. so it's that which I'm referring when I suggest relaxing standards.
/r/MensRights22/01/23 10:36 AM
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as an aging woman, I don't care what the masses think. I don't. because why should I? I've never let myself be defined by others opinions and I'm not starting now. I am the only person that really matters. even if it's true, I'm comfortable alone. but, at some point I think we all have to relax our standards. I'm not saying we settle. I'm saying when it comes down to it, if someone wants a trophy over a true companion, let them have it. be comfortable alone, first, and let the people who are mea…
/r/MensRights21/01/23 08:18 PM
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Some are here because they genuinely care about men and men's rights this is me. I'm marriage- and child-free so I think it's easier for me to objectively see outside those situations that are hurtful to men.
/r/MensRights21/01/23 10:23 AM
1

are you in the US? I only ask because this makes me think how small old homes are here! my 2 brothers shared a room, I had my own and of course so did my parents, growing up. my house now is sooooo tiny (not tiny house tiny, but by today's standards tiny). It's over 100 years old. I live alone and I fill it with all my crap. I am pretty sure the original owners had 3 kids but I truly have no idea where they slept. I can't tell for sure and don't have original blueprints but I'm sure some of my h…
/r/MensRights19/01/23 11:21 PM
1

this is true. a friend that I went to HS with was subjected to this. he acknowledged an 'angry ex' posted about him with his real pics.
/r/MensRights19/01/23 08:42 PM
2

for sure. and that's when we check our respective comfort level to make sure we're giving and receiving to our satisfaction, and adjust if not.
/r/MensRights18/01/23 03:31 PM
1

I asked my [friend] if I could kiss him. he said yes.
/r/MensRights18/01/23 12:11 PM
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we still do it (generally speaking) because we think we're supposed to. it is that drilled into us, like it's a status to achieve. I'm not against marriage because of "the patriarchy" or because "iM a WoMan anD I DoNt NeEd nO MaN" I'm against it because it changes a relationship. because I don't want someone to feel obligated to stay. I want them to stay because they want to. I provide for my needs and wants and don't think I'm entitled to someone else's money. if I can't provide for my needs an…
/r/MensRights18/01/23 11:54 AM
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I think the point many many people don't get is that we're actually supposed to provide for ourselves the things we need in order to be 'whole': happiness, physical security, financial security, emotional health, love, etc. I think so, so many people seek the things we need from others, then we become dependent on that person, expect that person to provide for us, blame them if they don't. in fact, I'd also say some people don't know how to not be a provider of those things. why should we put th…
/r/MensRights18/01/23 07:00 AM
1

either don't do it at all (marriage per se), or take your time finding someone with whom we are truly compatible. our society as a whole is in a catch-22. we want it all but at what cost? it's not about incentivizing women to stay, it's about preventing reason to divorce. Eta remove tax incentives for marriage. at least in the US.
/r/MensRights17/01/23 03:51 AM
1

my question was rhetorical though.
/r/MensRights16/01/23 10:47 PM
4

well then no one can complain about anything changing after marriage and kids, right? change is inevitable. it is. kids make things change, life in general causes change, age causes natural change. if you're just together for the kids then no one can complain. in the US only about 16 States recognize common law marriage, and there are conditions (ie date entered ,etc) here's an article from NPR
/r/MensRights16/01/23 05:38 PM
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so that's also ironic when you think about it. if men are so bad, would 'they' have designed a system that doesn't benefit them?
/r/MensRights16/01/23 02:08 PM
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which honestly supports the idea of not getting married, or at least in lessening legal and financial obligations. I have to wonder if we even are intended to be with one person, to 'find' that person. another romanticized notion. things change. it's subjective what does change, but change itself is inevitable.
/r/MensRights16/01/23 01:02 PM
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there are too many ways to mess up your children. I agree that the welfare of children has taken a back seat to other priorities. we have become a very selfish society. hey - by no means am I suggesting we should all have kids and be miserable for their sake. I just think if you consciously want to have kids you should think about their health and welfare before doing it. some/many would say I'm selfish for not having kids but I'm just aware of myself.
/r/MensRights16/01/23 12:55 PM
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I have a low key conspiracy theory that marriage was a marketing tactic invented through capitalism. i mean, it does benefit many major markets, but I'm not sure if it was or wasn't intentional. I wouldn't doubt it lol but, we buy into it, still! that's the biggest irony. we hate capitalism but buy into the biggest, largest market around.
/r/MensRights16/01/23 12:41 PM
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so again, why do it? why bother? sex is obviously important long term to what, 50%? of the population. why do it if you're just gonna be like, "eh. get a divorce if you're not happy then." and I'm sorry but "children" is not a good answer because in the event of marital discourse or divorce, those children WILL be affected.
/r/MensRights16/01/23 12:34 PM
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I don't believe in marriage for these reasons. it does change things. but the main thing for me is that I want to be with someone/have them be with because we're not obligated to.
/r/MensRights16/01/23 12:28 PM
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but why get married at all? honest question. why even be with someone if you're not compatible sexually, long term?
/r/MensRights16/01/23 12:21 PM
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this is why I think it's easy to argue with yourself "should i stay or should I go" and why the argument is more difficult if kids are involved. and it's why I will never marry (don't have kids). if something happens to a relationship, we can move on more easily. my brother just got remarried and my SIL immediately started "we-ing" him. (we are doing this to the cabin, we are doing that, we bought this, etc). this is a second marriage for both, and they are 60. I suppose at that age divorce is l…
/r/MensRights15/01/23 11:55 AM
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I was thinking it was the 60s, with Gloria Steinem. bra burning, rebellion against being a housewife, etc. I'm Gen x, not sure I felt that, but then again, I've always kind of done my own thing.
/r/MensRights26/04/22 10:46 PM
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Makes me wanna go hug my not-garbage man, ASAP.
/r/PussyPassDenied31/05/20 01:01 PM
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Thanks for the backstory, I was wondering how he came to be surrounded.
/r/PussyPassDenied21/02/20 03:19 PM
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I'm female and I came to say the same thing
/r/PussyPassDenied11/02/20 11:10 PM
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I'm just the messenger 📬
/r/PussyPassDenied07/02/20 05:59 PM
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Pretty sure mgtow was banned.
/r/PussyPassDenied07/02/20 05:25 PM
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F that shit. Give me my A/C.
/r/PussyPassDenied24/01/20 06:40 AM
1

Maybe inciting a crime?
/r/PussyPassDenied15/01/20 05:53 PM
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Did you read the article?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 05:22 PM
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Yeah, no, I totally agree. It is very individual but those with the ability to be more objective will take your as well as other opinions into consideration and will make a decision from there (as opposed to only your opinion).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 09:07 PM
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In theory. Just like the bible (if you believe at all), some people take what's in the Bible to the extreme (and won't budge) where some use it as an allegory on how to live and treat others. Some choose to not follow it at all. The answer is usually somewhere in the middle but you have to be willing to objectively step back in the first place, and therein lies the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 02:36 PM
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Doesn't the answer actually lie within the intellect of the individuals in question? And what you 'do' with the information? You can use the information to constructively better yourself (to whatever you feel you need) and be proactive or you can wallow in it, feel sorry for yourself and hateful to others. It's your choice but your intellect will decide what works for you. That's my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 02:51 AM
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I just added a link
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 12:19 PM
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Isn't that why Billie Eilish dresses in baggy clothes? ETA https://www.seventeen.com/celebrity/music/a27467918/billie-eilish-style/
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 12:06 PM
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I don't know, I guess just keep searching. Like the rest of us lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 06:45 AM
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I would do a LTR but wouldn't want a 24/7 BDSM relationship. So if that's your catch them maybe that's why? I just want more variety (which means maybe some plain old vanilla sex on occasion, too), maybe they do, too? I dunno, I'm just speculating.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 06:36 AM
1

That's red with blue which means purple (at least for me).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 01:44 PM
1

Welp, so much for being nice to each other lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 12:10 AM
1

I really am a Boomer then lol (except I'm not) and I will say those who expect you to just get it are immature. I don't know why but every time I say something like "both parties have to be responsible for each other's happiness" I get downvoted so I guess let the downvotes commence. Sure non verbal is worth something but if your partner isn't open to you saying later, "hey, so I noticed that it seemed like you really moved your hips into me when I did blah blah. Did you like it as much as it se…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 08:42 AM
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I mean, call me Boomer if you want but maybe good communication comes more with maturity. Not all the time but generally? Pro tip: talking about what you each like and don't like can open the floodgates.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 08:26 AM
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Yeah, for sure. But again, this is in the context of interpersonal relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 08:01 PM
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Know your limit. Be nice but not a pushover. This is an extreme example but I saw this post in r/relationship_advice from this guy whose gf was emotionally abusive to him bc he had gained weight. Oh, she even went to far as to purchase throwaway phones so she could text him 'anonymously' and tell him he was a worthless piece of shit who didn't deserve her. The poor guy seriously believed what she told him. It was heartbreaking. You can be nice but also not be taken advantage of.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 04:41 PM
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Well I was going to say you're doing a pretty good job of being true to your position :/ I guess we should tell that to the Jewish people? Or the people of Rwanda? Or the Japanese people interred in US camps in WWII? Or Native Americans? I get your point. No one gets anywhere by always being nice. You have to have some edge. But in interpersonal relationships we should be kind to each other. Btw 'fruity little prick' isn't less of a slur than 'faggot' (I see what you tried to do!).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 04:37 PM
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You still have to find your balance, though, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 03:47 PM
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I don't know. I admit I'm stumped. I value nice. I guess just to say you don't want someone who doesn't value nice, anyway, and call it a bullet dodged.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 02:52 PM
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The definition of creepy: creep·y /ˈkrēpē/ adjective INFORMAL causing an unpleasant feeling of fear or unease. "the creepy feelings one often gets in a strange house" (That's not nice)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 02:45 PM
1

But - I didn't ask for the dictionary's definition. I asked for yours
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 02:41 PM
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The niceness doesn't go away, you just become a lot more selective as regards who you are overly nice And that's not a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 02:36 PM
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Ok, I'll buy that. But I'll add something like considerate, good character (like they do the right thing) and sweet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 02:35 PM
2

I mean, honestly...and as cliche as it sounds..there is a lesson in everything. I was thinking about the concept of 'victim blaming' on my way to work. Let's put it in another context. I'm driving, I switch lanes but don't use my signal. Person in lane I switched to rear ends me. Technically he's at fault. But was I really a victim or also (even just a little bit) to blame? Yeah, I was. I didn't share in the responsibility of road rules, which is to use your signals. If I don't use my signals, c…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 02:26 PM
3

Ok, let's talk everyone's respective definition of 'nice'. You go first.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 02:19 PM
2

Backatcha!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 02:17 PM
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Then move on, you know? Don't give assholes (of either sex) the power. We each have to decide how much we're willing to give and take from people in general and in a relationship. Being nice and being a pushover are separate things. Know how much you are willing to take and give out for another person. And don't listen to others. Your life, your decisions about your life. It's like we only care about what others think, anymore, and we base our sense of 'self' on others' opinions. How ironic is t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 01:20 PM
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Here's a crazy idea: maybe everyone should just be nice, period. Go ahead, roast me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 12:49 PM
1

It doesn't feel like work when it's right.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 03:00 AM
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Except telling me to shut up is no different than not listening. And it's definitely not talking. How can we have an objective discussion without multiple opinions?
/r/PussyPassDenied01/01/20 01:14 PM
0

Ha that'll make me shut up for sure ;)
/r/PussyPassDenied01/01/20 12:37 PM
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No, I'm just saying you can't be shocked. If you have a lot of sex with a lot of guys, regardless of whether you use protection, can you be shocked if one day you get pregnant or an STD? It's surprising that not all women are feminazis? So that's funny. Being in the middle and seeing both sides' perspectives is just as negative as being a total feminist, in 'your' eyes? I can't win for losing lol
/r/PussyPassDenied01/01/20 12:20 PM
1

I was (admittedly wrongly) not knowing there were established rules and guidelines for lapdancing. Now I do.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/01/20 12:12 PM
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This is in response to a deleted comment: Ok, thanks. For the record, I don't know the rules. But then again, lap dancing (getting or watching) is low on my list of activities (no judgement, i don't frequent bars or clubs in general).
/r/PussyPassDenied01/01/20 11:51 AM
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I mean, I'm glad you do, yes. I'm not arguing defending straight up harrassment and entitlement like guy in this video.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/01/20 11:24 AM
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Ok. I guess I'm envisioning (albeit judging) the brunette as the type you're gonna like, then at some point she's gonna wallop you for something (not a harrassment issue) and here we are all over again. Aside from that, Brunette is using her body, clearly, to sell something, and is shocked when someone wants to touch her? I mean, isn't this a question mark in Me Too? So remove Blondie from scenario. Say guy in chair touched brunette's ass. It would be ok for her to hit him? No? Because he's paid…
/r/PussyPassDenied01/01/20 11:19 AM
-21

So if Blondie was a guy and did that, you'd support brunette hitting him back? Honest question.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/01/20 11:00 AM
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So...the brunette is the type of woman you guys like?
/r/PussyPassDenied01/01/20 10:49 AM
2

I message first but I'm not on tinder. And won't be.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 10:48 PM
1

I was JUST thinking that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 08:31 PM
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Nope. Just don't buy into the bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 05:09 PM
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I bet you'd be surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 04:52 PM
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Well there's your 'problem' right there. You think marriage is the end all, be all. Fuck marriage. And weddings, while I'm at it. It's all a money making machine and nothing, no piece of paper, no ring, no vow, no ceremony, guarantees happiness. We (people) tend to equate marriage with guaranteed happiness and sex. We all know it's not the case. So why pursue it? Ok, whatever. I know the answer. I still think if we let the number game go (be it financial, sex, looks, etc) I think happiness and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 04:51 PM
1

My point is... we're judging people on all kinds of numbers, which in the big picture, don't really matter. Both sides do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 04:31 PM
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May very well be,but it doesn't necessarily mean they're not of good character.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 04:29 PM
3

Isn't the answer dependent on the individuals in the relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 04:04 PM
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Boo. Don't hate :)
/r/PussyPassDenied30/12/19 02:27 PM
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I don't get easily offended and besides, you have to laugh. It was funny.
/r/PussyPassDenied30/12/19 02:26 PM
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I know this story already. Truthfully, I fell in love with someone whose story this is. Some details are different but the outcome is the same, and it honestly breaks my heart, not for me (yes, a little for me lol) but mainly for him, that it happened and that I can't change what happened and that things are the way they are (Fwiw, I met him after the fact and we're not together). I used to be sad that my mom wasn't a more 'traditional' mom in the sense that she never taught me how to meet and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 02:21 PM
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Not gonna lie, I actually lol'd when I read that.
/r/PussyPassDenied30/12/19 01:39 PM
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I'll be the first to respond, not with an argument, though; with an apology. Assuming this is your story or even if not yours, it is someone's. So, I'm sorry. I feel sad as to how we (men and women) got here, to this point. My instinct is always to go backward to see how we can collectively go back to cure the disease, instead bandaging the wound. But I don't know that we can. This is not to suggest either party is at fault, but yes, this problem we (collectively) have is a disease. That's the w…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 12:27 PM
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I'm female and I upvoted this, fwiw.
/r/PussyPassDenied27/12/19 11:45 AM
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Not denying it.
/r/PussyPassDenied26/12/19 02:38 PM
1

I consider myself demisexual but I have a high libido when I'm involved with someone. and it doesn't mean I am asexual when NOT with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 02:04 AM
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Hey, I never, ever said, anywhere (if you look at any of my comments) that guys don't get shit on. It goes both ways. I should have mentioned that in the comment above but on the other hand I was commenting in reply to a poster who commented that "women are not made out to be monsters"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 03:12 PM
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I'm sorry. I'm kinda thinking that maybe if we stop judging or basing a stranger's choices on a generalization, we'll all be much happier. Why is this something we need to figure out? I'm just living my life and looking for the people that interest me and who support me (and that I want to support). It has nothing to do with looks or status and everything to do with their character. Edit to add info
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 02:43 PM
1

The way in which it's mentioned makes all the difference. And, if you know your partner and know yourself and are confident in the relationship, any discussion can be healthy and mention of exes is taken with a grain of salt or even as constructive criticism. But if any jealousy is already present or if there is already a lack of confidence, a conversation like this won't work. In theory, anyway :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 11:28 AM
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I find myself looking around at people in public and wondering what they "are" in relation to this issue. And I quip that things would be so much easier if we could all have appropriately-labeled word bubbles bouncing above our heads so I could know how to act/interact with them according to their beliefs/labels. Except you're right, the truth is somewhere in the middle and most people aren't any one label; additionally, most people are rational enough to make a decision based on several factors…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 07:33 AM
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Have you read some of the hateful comments and generalizations about women? Seriously, have you? Because I see a LOT if it. I have actually been in tears when reading some of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 07:03 AM
2

Or maybe I'm overthinking this I'm gonna go with yes :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 11:00 PM
2

That was funny!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 07:59 PM
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Not everyone, I promise you that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 06:01 PM
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. You just have to sit back and watch at a large party, the loud brash party girls in tight short dresses get first choice And these are gonna be the ones who ultimately break those same guys' hearts or disappointment them in some other way. I was talking about this with a friend a couple days ago. I commented something like it's so sad that standards in both sides are sooooooo high (not that they shouldn't be high, but they shouldn't be unrealistic) and he said, "yeah, but why would anyone want…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 09:18 PM
1

I don't think ANYone should argue she is a farce.
/r/PussyPassDenied21/12/19 10:08 AM
1

I guess, just don't be obvious. You can still take an active role and still be yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 06:42 AM
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Sure, but you can't 'take' something that isn't yours. You gotta woo without wooing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 06:13 AM
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I'm prettttty sure I'm gonna get roasted for this buuuut. Maybe if you don't focus on hooking up so much, you'll actually find someone who genuinely likes you and therefore, wants to fuck you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 06:01 AM
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“I just want a man who worships the very ground I walk on!” I feel like I hear this sentiment quite a bit, actually. Even if it's subtle. I have friends that validate their marriages by how much their husband dotes on them. It's not everyone, though. About taking responsibility: I swear there is no being 'human' anymore. Why aren't we just nicer to each other, regardless/end of story? If both parties act accordingly in the first place then there's no need for blaming and accusations. And things …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 05:36 AM
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Seen on a bumper sticker: "I do, but not with you"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 11:14 PM
1

Hmm, no, I wouldn't say that. Different, maybe. I mean, yeah, when I talk to friends, they have a completely different experience/reaction than I do. One to which they cannot relate, nor I to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 04:01 AM
1

Yeah, no, all good. Believe me I have been trying to figure it out, too. I do know that my, ummmm... physical response...to 'things' isn't how my friends react (from what they say). As evidenced by Best. Breakfast. Date. Ever. (also another story lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 03:56 AM
1

So THAT explains the reason why I was practically twiddling my thumbs out of boredom when that guy 'hot' guy with that thing did that to me. Shhh, don't tell him ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 03:50 AM
1

Being accepted for different points of view is my definition of like minded. Where you can have a healthy discussion that includes opposing viewpoints and you learn from each other. That's like minded to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 02:56 AM
1

Anytime I have expressed empathy (because I DO acknowledge how difficult it all is) it gets ignored or it gets downvoted. Or I get called a unicorn.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 02:50 AM
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Yeah. I say that exact thing alllllll the time. Please - I see your collective shitty relationships! I see your collective complaints about your partners and your kids and people who lie and cheat and manipulate (if you don't believe me, spend 5 minutes on r/relationshipadvice). Who the fuck wants that? I am not going to be brainwashed into being with someone (because it's time. Because I don't want to be alone. Because my family and friends think I should. Because it's cheaper. Because I don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 11:47 AM
1

Oh, no worries whatsoever. But whether it's nature, nurture, societal or a combination of all (or maybe I'm just cynical and heartless lol /s), I don't actually know why I am missing the 'thing' that makes me want to have kids. Sure, I played with dolls when I was little but once I grew up and started thinking for myself, I realized it wasn't for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 11:09 AM
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:)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 06:56 PM
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I mean, do you want to know where hoards of demisexual women hang out? I don't know that answer. IS there an answer? Where do I go? I work for a non profit. I volunteer for another. I go to dinner with friends. I am learning photography and sailing. I travel. I go to coffee shops. I go to independent films. When I had a dog we went to the dog park. I like music so I will go to see a band, occasionally. I garden. I work on my house. I also spend time alone gasp I WAS trying to give you an idea wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 06:31 PM
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There's a sub on here. Not that it's a dating sub but it'll give you an understanding anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 05:45 PM
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I don't have any pets. I'm allergic to cats but even if I wasn't, I wouldn't have a cat. It honestly hurt me too much to see her ill. Probably companionship was the biggest motivator.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 03:57 PM
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I was being a little facetious! Of course there aren't. But if you look, you will find. I didn't bring it up to brag; I brought it up to prove a point that there ARE women who aren't interested in hypergamy when seeking a mate/partner, and that I speak from experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 03:51 PM
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What's funny about that is I had a dog but having that dog solidified for me how bad I am at being a caregiver! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 03:33 PM
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Well if you're on any dating apps, OkCupid actually has a filter for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 03:25 PM
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Yes, it's just the generalization or assumption (?) that people are sheep that is incorrect. I get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 03:11 PM
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Maybe. I've been thinking about that, actually. What makes me attracted to someone? When meeting new guys I will eventually ask what kind of work they do, but it's not because of money or genes, it's because I look for similar intellect. Education isn't always an indicator of intellect, though, and I see beyond that. Can you hold a conversation with me? That's what I look for. I'm demisexual so if there are any hints you only want to fuck (for whatever reason) I'll lose interest. For me it's abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 01:37 PM
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all women want children I have never wanted children. It's not a matter of "not wanting to do what it takes." While that may be the case for some/many, it's not for me. I simply have never had the desire. If that makes me a mutant, fine. I'd rather be a mutant than any other image you have of me. While I don't belong to any of them here, I know there are childfree subs, chock full of (I assume) men AND women who desire to be childfree, for many reasons. Some people are actually repulsed by child…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 01:29 PM
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I mean, for sure, we obviously need to procreate in order to sustain. But there are enough 'breeders' (/s) out there, we don't need me. People also do not take parenting seriously enough, before they consider it. At any rate, I know other women who got that mutated gene, too, so the myth of the unicorn isn't necessarily a myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 12:26 PM
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Mutation? Lol. I guess I'm a mutant. No, we don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 12:12 PM
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Not all women desire to have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 12:06 PM
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I don't know. I can 100% be loyal in an LDR but I'm also Demi so not to stereotype but that's probably why. If I connect with someone, it doesn't matter where you are. But that's off topic. I'm just saying it's not out of the question and every situation/relationship is different. I do agree they are young, but hopefully not a matter of "when." We only have OPs take on their relationship so we can only go by what his take is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 12:01 PM
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Thanks, I try, anyway :) It's like politics in the States, though. It's just another divider where it seems like people stick to their side simply because. But you're right, I didn't come out all defensive and ready to fight. I accept that this happens.
/r/PussyPassDenied17/12/19 11:06 AM
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Yeah. I don't know. It's just gotta end somehow :)
/r/PussyPassDenied17/12/19 07:49 AM
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Look, I'm not saying that doesn't happen. I see it, as well. Even with friends that are married, I see how we can subtly manipulate to get our way. I can only speak from my perspective when I say with all honesty that I have never treated a guy like shit. But I don't put myself out there like some women do (I'm not a barfly, don't really drink etc). I pay for whatever I want with money I make, and live within my means. Do I want someone? Yes. But I want him so we each bring something to each oth…
/r/PussyPassDenied17/12/19 07:05 AM
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I don't (win). I lost a great guy because he's so scarred from a crappy marriage. So I feel like no one gives anyone a chance. Guards are way up.
/r/PussyPassDenied17/12/19 06:45 AM
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The way I see it, no one can win :(
/r/PussyPassDenied17/12/19 05:58 AM
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Thanks :)
/r/PussyPassDenied12/12/19 08:41 PM
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I am sure I will get flak for this but I'm saying it anyway :) Guys. Please please please please believe me that all women are not like this. It actually breaks my heart. There are plenty of good women out there. Just open your eyes. Edit: silver is silver but it might as well be gold! Thank you! :)
/r/PussyPassDenied12/12/19 07:51 PM
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Also, I'm not saying this applies to everyone or every situation, but more and more babies are raising babies. You absolutely have to be mentally capable of raising kids. Finances come and go, you make do the best you can and there are resources to help, if needed. But mentally if you're not capable you're more likely to fuck that kid up (I have no proof or research for this. It's my opinion but based on observation).
/r/PussyPassDenied11/12/19 06:04 PM
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I absolutely intend this comment for discussion purposes, not argumentative purposes, so please don't take it that way It's true, though. Jimmy Page's gf in the height of Zeppelin, was like 14. Granted, those girls put themselves out there, 100%. Even back then, the "issue" was an issue. But if you look back at old TV shows, same. Mary Tyler Moore was 25 to Dick van Dyke who was 36 when the show first aired. Not a great example but you (hopefully) get my point in that it was more acceptable over…
/r/PussyPassDenied11/12/19 04:25 PM
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The problem is deeper than this thread, unfortunately.
/r/PussyPassDenied10/12/19 01:55 AM
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You're right and I didn't mean to assume. I also wasn't about to suggest you instigated (I'm being facetious)! This situation aside, definitely there are both men and women who lack the character.
/r/PussyPassDenied10/12/19 01:47 AM
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can hit a guy with no consequences. I mean, these cunts didn't say shit when this chick hit me in the face with a beer bottle but the moment I smack her with mine out Can I just make a suggestion, though? Maybe don't date a woman who might hit you with a bottle, or hit you at all. I don't know. This just boggles my mind. Why date people where this is an issue in the first place? Right?
/r/PussyPassDenied10/12/19 01:26 AM
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Did they really think they were going to change the narrative here Probably :) (Think being the operative word). I once saw this saying that resonated with me: "Taking a strong position reinforces the opposition." So being butt hurt and reporting only reinforces the the original argument.
/r/PussyPassDenied08/12/19 04:36 PM
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Ha. I'm a woman, I'm not offended and yeah, I surf this sub lol It's interesting to me to get different perspectives because how do we learn, otherwise? I mean, that's what works for me. I started to read Rational Male, even. The only reason I didn't finish is because it made me too sad (not mad, sad). The worst I'll do here is speak up for women like myself who are in the middle. But, I'm also not gonna date someone hateful irl. You just have to know the difference between serious hate and a jo…
/r/PussyPassDenied08/12/19 03:59 PM
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No, not really. Mostly I'm a dumbass for falling in love at the wrong time. (To lighten the mood I wanted to joke about the 'other' definition of unicorn but nothing clever was coming to me :) ).
/r/PussyPassDenied02/12/19 11:08 PM
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🤝 oh. Lol
/r/PussyPassDenied02/12/19 06:16 PM
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👫. That's the closest I could find for shaking hands :)
/r/PussyPassDenied02/12/19 06:12 PM
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Shake on it.
/r/PussyPassDenied02/12/19 06:07 PM
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Yeah but they're still sweeping generalizations :)
/r/PussyPassDenied02/12/19 06:06 PM
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And I don't disagree, never said I did. I'm just saying it's a generalization :) Edit: I'm in this discussion bc I don't disagree
/r/PussyPassDenied02/12/19 06:03 PM
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Nooooooo. Aww, c'mon guys. This is a generalization, isn't it? For real. I'm not tryna be all defenses up, but if you don't want to be judged, why would we? I have dated all over the place as far as 'status.' I want someone who can have an intelligent and meaningful conversation with me, first and foremost. Tables turned: maybe three years ago I'm on a date with a guy. We're having great conversation and he at some point brings up this exact topic, of how women date for status. Eventually he say…
/r/PussyPassDenied02/12/19 05:58 PM
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He's also probably not going to care about her pleasure.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/19 01:48 PM
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I so believe this to be true. I know it. I'm like head over heels for someone and I always thought he'd eventually come back to find his balance but you saying it was so good to read :). He's had many years of being in a bad marriage, it put him over the edge, I think.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/19 06:49 PM
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Thx lol
/r/PussyPassDenied28/11/19 08:43 PM
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I think guys (generally speaking) seem to think all women want kids and to get married and we're gonna take your money for our agenda. I'm not saying it doesn't happen! But we don't all want that.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/11/19 06:14 PM
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We're all ruined! Lol Nothing wrong with dependable pussy though!
/r/PussyPassDenied28/11/19 06:10 PM
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What's really crazy is I have this acquaintance who would probably identify himself as a male feminist. He goes to protests and posts all kinds of feminist stuff. So I guess it worked, bc he's in a serious relationship now. I just seriously never knew it was a thing.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/11/19 06:04 PM
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And re: politics, religion, etc, too. If we'd all just take a second to listen. But that's too Mary Poppins, I guess lol
/r/PussyPassDenied28/11/19 06:02 PM
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But then this goes back to a question I posed yesterday: why does it seem guys fall for the very women they despise? And guess what - I have no idea who you are or what you look like or what you do, this is just a conversation. But, this conversation is the most valuable I've had in a while because it's authentic. There's no pretense, no judgement, no expectation, nothing. But it's real.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/11/19 06:01 PM
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To be fair, dating apps suck for this reason, too. It's easy to judge quickly and move along. And we all do it. It's a lose lose.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/11/19 05:55 PM
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Ha, I got down voted for that comment lol But what you said, was what I was jabbing at. I just didn't know it was an actual thing :(
/r/PussyPassDenied28/11/19 05:52 PM
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Ditto! But that sucks. It really does. Where's the real? The authenticity? Looks fade. Don't you (collectively, not you, specifically) want to be loved or at least liked, for you? I dated this guy, great guy, probably the love of my life, honestly. Let his guard down with me. But his ex fucked him up so much. I get it. She used him their whole relationship. It's like he's scarred. I don't care, but he does.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/11/19 05:47 PM
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That's crazy. I swear, it is a miracle anyone actually gets together. There are so many guards up and scams and everyone's ready to fight. You don't even have a chance to make an actual impression.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/11/19 05:17 PM
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You used the word, not me lol
/r/PussyPassDenied28/11/19 05:03 PM
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As evidenced by...!?
/r/PussyPassDenied28/11/19 04:59 PM
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See above, the real op commented.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/11/19 02:20 PM
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Well that's defeatist. I don't go down that easily. No pun intended lol
/r/PussyPassDenied27/11/19 09:31 PM
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I know it shouldn't but it breaks my heart that there's this war between the sexes, except no one wins. Ever. Everything just keeps getting perpetuated, because everyone has blinders on.
/r/PussyPassDenied27/11/19 09:18 PM
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I am inquiring from an outsider perspective.
/r/PussyPassDenied27/11/19 08:47 PM
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So how to break the cycle?
/r/PussyPassDenied27/11/19 08:08 PM
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Point taken.
/r/PussyPassDenied27/11/19 08:04 PM
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Ok so then we have a conversation? Ok, challenge accepted, if that's what's on the table.
/r/PussyPassDenied27/11/19 07:57 PM
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If only it was that simple. Talk to me like I'm more than good pussy and I am good pussy
/r/PussyPassDenied27/11/19 07:50 PM
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What's the definition of good pussy? Meaning she fucks whenever, gives good head? Has great tits?
/r/PussyPassDenied27/11/19 07:47 PM
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I agree. Besides, marriage ruins more than finances.
/r/PussyPassDenied27/11/19 07:45 PM
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I don't know that reason either :(
/r/PussyPassDenied27/11/19 07:26 PM
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Well, this made me laugh, anyway.
/r/PussyPassDenied27/11/19 06:40 PM
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We're here, you just have to look, open your eyes.
/r/PussyPassDenied27/11/19 05:52 PM
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The whole relationship is toxic, I'm sure. Why is he with her in the first place, should really be the question. There are plenty of good women more worthy of your time, attention and affection, don't you think?
/r/PussyPassDenied27/11/19 05:47 PM
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