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I second that personality site - it is awesome!!
/r/seduction15/03/20 06:52 PM
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You may be an introvert...or maybe be on the spectrum...or maybe just not know how to socialize. Whatever the case, once you learn WHY you are the way you are, you can begin to understand how to make the best with what ya got! 😉
/r/seduction15/03/20 06:51 PM
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I know...it is ALWAYS scary to be vulnerable and put yourself out there. But, if you like her that much and WANT to know how she feels - you gotta do it.
/r/seduction15/03/20 06:49 PM
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Then ask her! Go ahead and put yourself out there...you never know!!! Good luck.
/r/seduction15/03/20 06:40 PM
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Ooooh damn...😂
/r/seduction15/03/20 06:35 PM
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I will say that it all depends on what girls you (as a Sikh) are aiming for. Not girl may find that look attractive, just as not every guy may like black girls, asians, Latinos, etc. Everyone has a preference, and that is ok. There is nothing wrong with your traditional look either, and if one girl doesnt like it, oh well...try another, and another. But understand that it can be an uphill battle against the wind - meaning, it may not be easy. The Sikh look is not a traditional look here in the U…
/r/seduction15/03/20 06:16 PM
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She was pretty clear that she is already talking to someone, and that when it comes to you - she just wants to be friends. Honestly - there is nothing to "pursue". She isnt interested in you romantically/sexually - but likes you as a friend (friendzoned). I'm sorry.
/r/seduction15/03/20 06:07 PM
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I agree with the other comment - get drunk together. Celebrate her moving/leaving, and see what happens!
/r/seduction15/03/20 05:25 PM
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I didnt say go out - I said WHY cant you text her? Maybe checkin with her...see how she is doing? Maybe explain WHY your first impression was so bad?
/r/seduction15/03/20 01:55 PM
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I mean...you can try to change someones perception of you, but first impressions are just that - they stick (initially). If you have her number, why cant you ju and text her????
/r/seduction15/03/20 01:51 PM
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Does she come to YOU to talk? Did she give you her number, Snap, IG, or FB? Has she asked YOU to hang out, come over, go with her and her friends somewhere? Have you ever met her friends - has she introduced you? If the answer to all of those is NO - then you are living in a fantasy world right now. Crushes are genuine, we all had them - but they blind folks to the reality of things. They are "one sided"...and that's where you are now. You dont see HER side of things, just yours and how you feel…
/r/seduction15/03/20 01:04 PM
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This is cool! Thank you for sharing a positive experience!
/r/seduction15/03/20 08:56 AM
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Btw she knows I am millionaire, but looks like doesn't matter. This...well...sounds entitled. You are coming across like you feel that because you are "rich" that the girls you pick SHOULD be agreeable to date you, or anxious to text you back. That kind of attitude makes a guy unattractive honestly...be careful acting that way. Your money doesnt "matter" to a degree, and I think you are learning that now. My uncle told me.years ago "how you get them is how you lose them"...Not every woman is imp…
/r/seduction15/03/20 08:55 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/fiuhkm/i_dont_want_to_lose_my_virginity_at_a_older_age/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/seduction15/03/20 08:50 AM
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Age IS a dealbreaker - but there are factors that play into that too (like I mentioned). There are always exceptions, basically! 😉
/r/seduction15/03/20 03:28 AM
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I urge YOU to move on with your life! Get some help...and get better. Coming to this sub and whining everyday (which it seems like you do...) isnt going to help change your situation. Vent to a therapist - not the same sub everyday, man. Start DOING instead of whining here
/r/seduction15/03/20 03:25 AM
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Per your post history: you are a virgin who is scared of sex due to the fear of rape allegations, you have a crush you are afraid to even speak to, and yet...here you are trying to give sex advice to other guys? This is a joke - right?! 🤦‍♀️🙄
/r/seduction15/03/20 03:02 AM
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Geez man...you HAVE to stop coming here whining. It is sad. Please step away from the computer and seek professional help. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/fhc88k/how_can_i_make_friends_get_laid_socialize_and/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/fgt72s/how_the_hell_can_some_guys_get_laid_so_easily/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ffa1k7/im_a_huge_failure_with_girls_what_do_other_guys/?u…
/r/seduction15/03/20 02:49 AM
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I have had sex with a younger guy (I'm 29 and he is 22) and he is sweet and all, great sexually, BUT...past that I would not consider dating him. Why??? Because he and I are very diff: (Me) college educated, FT professional career, my own home, friends, travel, etc. (Him) still deciding whether he even wants to go back to school after he quit, works PT at a grocery store, lives with his parents at home, not much of a social life. Again, he is a sweetheart, and very very attractive, a true genuin…
/r/seduction15/03/20 12:31 AM
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It depends on HER level of interest in you. If she is even moderately interested and you, and you have already basically established attraction - then you playing "aloof" can in turn make her want you more. BUT...if you havent yet established that attraction yet, and you try to play that aloof stuff too soon, you take a chance of losing her attention, or basically pushing her away to another dude...because she will think you are playing games and dont like her/care.
/r/seduction14/03/20 11:07 PM
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Dude...your post history shows this odd obsessive thing with this girl and BPD. You literally have posted about her several times in this sub... https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ep20nw/getting_out_of_friendzone_with_borderline_chick/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share Again - this leads to question YOUR mental strength and sanity in that you continue to be obsessed with this girl? You have gotten so much advice...and yet here you are again, asking more about the SAME GIRL with BP…
/r/seduction14/03/20 10:08 PM
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Giiiiiirrrrrllll...you ain't lyin! 😝. You just KNOW if he goes from A to SEX too fast, and really doesn't give me time to catch up or at least gauge my level of interest properly - the 🍆 is about to be TRASH!!!! Like I'm going to be calling my girls the next day about how bad it all was...
/r/seduction14/03/20 08:55 PM
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take it at the girl's pace. Allow her to become comfortable with you. Men always say they would like for a woman to make the first move, but 90% of them don't wait long enough for it to happen. Amen!! The worst sex I've had, or the worst overall sexual experiences I remember - were with guys who just COULD NOT WAIT. And I dont mean "wait" for weeks or months, I mean like give me the chance (on a date) to even get excited, turned on, to the point where I'm basically coming at him sexually or retu…
/r/seduction14/03/20 08:26 PM
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Dude...come on now, that's a huge question with thousands of answers! If you dont understand that for EACH woman it is different, and that the art is in YOU reading that about her - then no one can help ya.
/r/seduction14/03/20 08:06 PM
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When you're able to build a strong sexual desire in women, while staying cool, calm, and collected, this may make her think she has to work harder to please you. So she may do some freaky shit (shit you like) just to please you. Let me be the first girl to OWN this: when a man makes me feel sexy, turns me on, and the sexual chemistry is strong as Hell between us...all while he stays cool and calm (not acting like a horny dog) - Lord...does the freak flag fly!!! I pull out my best moves for him. …
/r/seduction14/03/20 01:09 PM
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believing that 'game' is some sort of wizardy where, if you know all of the lines and techniques, you can force an unattracted, uninterested girl, into being attracted and interested lol Amen bruh!!!!!!!!!!!! You get an upvote. It is cringey how many defer to PUA after PUA and quote their methods like it is the Bible?! Lol. ("Well xyz said that I'm supposed to walk up and say...."; "In xyz he told us to touch her on the arm or tap her shoulder..") Instead of reading the room/body language/situat…
/r/seduction14/03/20 11:56 AM
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I explained that - girls are taught to be ultra aware of their surroundings. If someone is making them uncomfortable, they will look at them (aka keep an eye on them) so they can monitor their moves, whereabouts etc. For ex: I was in the train the other day, and noticed this guy staring at me. It caught me off guard, so I smiled - he was already smiling. Anyways, I look up again, and he is still smiling and staring. NOW...I'm uncomfortable - he wasnt breaking his gaze at all, and still had this …
/r/seduction14/03/20 11:50 AM
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Can I speak from a girls standpoint? It is cool and cute to lock eyes and smile once...but to keep doing it repeatedly is uncomfortable and send a creeper vibe to us - it puts the girl on the spot. The fact she got off the bus and you followed just to talk to her, although on a good day MAY have been kinda romantic, in this sense was a bit creepy. Her reaction was the sign she wasnt interested...and maybe you misread all the "smiling" as interest when in fact it was a nervous smile (brought on b…
/r/seduction14/03/20 11:20 AM
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Plo1qwing basically means trying to stick in set during an interaction with a clearly uninterested girl and trying to make her interested with PUA techniques I didnt know there was a "term" for it...but you described it perfectly!! Sometiems it feels like a huge amount of posts in this sub (and congrats to the mods for deleting a lot of them recently) are from.guys who clearly dont see the signs of disinterest! They miss social cues, they dont read body language, they ignore the girls actions...…
/r/seduction14/03/20 11:07 AM
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You're just a very negative person I don't want to give my energy to And yet...here you are...commenting. The thing with constructive criticism is giving clear examples and details - so the other person understands or can discuss your viewpoint. Someone who is negative will do exactly as you have - make a judgement call and not provide feedback, details, examples, OR even be open for a discussion. I believe they call that gaslighting 😉
/r/seduction14/03/20 08:12 AM
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Mee too didnt change anything - it just now holds men accountable for their actions and responsible for learning HOW to build relationships respectfully and not be creepy as Hell. If THAT isnt clear...then men who dont see that are the problem
/r/seduction14/03/20 05:10 AM
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He saw his friend using aggressive game from probably a strong frame and tried it himself with probably autistic and uncalibrated tendencies. Recipe for disaster. I wanted to say this...but swore people would get butthurt if I did. So I'm glad someone put it out there!!!
/r/seduction14/03/20 04:58 AM
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What about it is judgy and toxic? You cant throw that out there and NOT be specific...cause then that makes YOU just as bad 🤷‍♀️. I'm open to discuss... Also, understand that from a womans perspective (which I am), that guys behavior is gross - that's being blunt. No one is saying the "socially awkward/unattractive" guys dont deserve love, and for you to somehow get that from what I said - makes me question whether you actually read MY comment?! Or, I assume you fall under that category of guy, …
/r/seduction14/03/20 04:53 AM
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Thing is - just the way the guy describes the entire scenario screams "creepy"...I'm sorry. His whole vibe comes across as cringe, and I clearly see how things went bad. He is one of those guys who most likely is socially awkward and maybe not physically attractive, and so he tried to imitate what he saw as "successful" behavior from more social or higher value guys...and he ran with it! I guarantee his lack of self awareness had him out there thinking HE could do exactly what the other guys wer…
/r/seduction14/03/20 03:34 AM
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Does she know who you are? Has she shown any interest in you?
/r/seduction13/03/20 10:16 PM
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Not gonna say it doesnt matter at all (what you text)...but it is so true that girls know if they like you, want to see you again, or flat out arent interested.
/r/seduction13/03/20 03:01 PM
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Definitely worth looking into...esp since you seem self aware and WANT to connect with people. Good luck! Hope it all works out for you.
/r/seduction13/03/20 12:58 PM
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This sounds like avoidant personality disorder...or autism...or sensory processing disorder...or ptsd... I mean the list could go on and on! Do some research on your behavior, ask your doctor, etc. You need to fig out the cause/reason - then you can strive to improve
/r/seduction13/03/20 12:26 PM
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What are you talking about bruh? 🤷‍♀️.
/r/seduction13/03/20 09:31 AM
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Leave her alone. If she saw your random msg and ignored it - that was your sign (she isnt interested). Let it go.
/r/seduction13/03/20 09:15 AM
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😂😂😂😂...literally, the PERFECT question!
/r/seduction13/03/20 09:12 AM
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First and foremost - NO ONE owes you sex. Even asking "why do those guys get laid but not me" makes you come across entitled (to sex) and that just is cringey. If girls like you as a friend but dont offer, hint at, ask for, or demand SEX with or from you - they arent attracted to you...that's the plain and simple truth of it. You are friendzoned, and that is because YOU allow it. Girls friendzone the guy they dont want to f*ck, the guy who is safe, soft, like a "girlfriend", non-assertive. So...…
/r/seduction13/03/20 09:09 AM
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I read your post history buddy...YOU are the one without exp (at 30). 👍🙋‍♀️. Work through your issues first, THEN try and come at me with the sarcasm. Cool? Good.
/r/seduction12/03/20 02:58 PM
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Good luck with that attitude...bud. 🤦‍♀️
/r/seduction12/03/20 02:54 PM
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Dude..what???? I AM a girl/woman, and I am speaking from experience and that side of things. You talkin about being super attracted, and being tomboyish and confident, and all that makes absolutely no sense at all...😂. You completely missed the point - it is cut n dry: if she is into the guy she will talk, if she isnt she wont (unless she is terribly shy).
/r/seduction12/03/20 02:42 PM
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Sooner the better! Just do it...
/r/seduction12/03/20 12:59 PM
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It is hard to tell...you list a lot of things you have in common and that you both like chatting in/out of work - that's a start to a friendship, just being work buddies, fwbs, who knows?! Dont ask us - ask HER what's up? See if she wants to go out on a date (be specific and say DATE). Her reaction to that will be your answer.
/r/seduction12/03/20 12:22 PM
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Like I said - if she isnt responding, she isnt interested. OR...she may be crazy busy. Either way, let it go and let her come to you
/r/seduction12/03/20 09:43 AM
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Ok...so 2 things: if OTHERS notice you checking a girl out that easily - that means you most likely werent as "nonchalant" as YOU may have thought. For all you know he couldve been her classmate, friend, cousin, etc. And he may have been looking out for her, or just being protective, whatever. You never know. But MAYBE you were glaring and not just looking - like you say. And as a girl, when a guy is glaring...it is creepy. If I'm out alone, and people notice a guy creeping on me, I would person…
/r/seduction12/03/20 09:41 AM
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It isnt corona man...it is lack of interest. If she isnt responding, then she isnt interested!
/r/seduction12/03/20 09:24 AM
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Dude...deleting an account and creating a new one, and then posting back in the SAME sub - is pathetic. There are a few guys that do this weekly...and they always get "caught". People can still tell it is "you". You are.young, you have time to get your mental health under control...do it. Nobody is going to keep answering you repeated posts. Step back, stop posting, and really pay attention to a therapist.
/r/seduction12/03/20 09:22 AM
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If the girls arent engaging in convo with you...then either they are extremely shy, or, they truly arent interested in you at all...thus why they arent talking much or asking about YOU in return.
/r/seduction12/03/20 08:33 AM
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I have to ask - do you struggle with mental health issues? I'm not making fun of you, or anything like that, but you obsessively post in this sub about the SAME THING...then it gets removed by the mods, and you inevitably come back and post the SAME THING AGAIN (we all recognize your profile name now...man). That isnt healthy - not at all. You have gotten tons of advice already, we all know you cant get laid, we all know girls reject you or have sex with others guys and not you, one post you hav…
/r/seduction12/03/20 07:26 AM
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Wtf are you talking about?? What does ANY of this have to do with seduction - at all?
/r/seduction12/03/20 12:49 AM
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Omg. You will NEVER and I mean this with all due respect - never ever - get a 2nd date if THAT is what you say on the first. 😳. I dont blame her to ghosting during the date - that is crazy. Why do you have to be so...well...that stuff is weird, man? I'm speaking as a woman too - like, nobody would ever think all that is normal and sexy. 🥴
/r/seduction12/03/20 12:45 AM
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No one said you are excluded from finding love or a fwb...but...your mental health and sobriety are on the cusp right now - YOU admitted that. The last thing you need is a distraction from what should be your focus. I love kissing and I like to make sure she climaxes first every time. Um...ok...that was awkward. If you are that much in need, and are not having luck finding it for free, consider paying. It takes the emotional part out...and right now you may need just the sex part and nothing mor…
/r/seduction11/03/20 11:04 PM
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Your post here - screams "needy". 😳. I also need help to ask her to be my girlfriend.i feel I'm becoming obsessed with her and I'm fearing rejection which is the mother of a myriad of problems that I'll face if I don't actually be mode one with her and risk it. Dude...this is creepy sounding. Seriously. I feel like this girl needs to warned, for her own safety?! I think you may need t[ take a step back and get some more practice with girls, hobbies, do you have friends?
/r/seduction11/03/20 10:59 PM
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Five months sober and my depression is making it very difficult to maintain. If your sobriety is linked to your depression, then your focus should NOT be on women - I'm sorry. You need to work on yourself and your mental health...why involve a woman in what is literally the beginning of your sobriety fight?! That's unfair and unhealthy (makes you codependent). Not sure that is exactly smart, and not gonna lie - it isnt an attractive pkg to a single woman who herself is mentally/emotionally healt…
/r/seduction11/03/20 10:55 PM
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Listen those happy guys :Oooooo I make one approach today, ooo I am a little asperger, oooo I am a bit metro sexual.... How sad indeed. What??? 😂...dude, that sentence makes about as much sense as your advice does (aka - it doesnt).
/r/seduction11/03/20 10:00 PM
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If you havent already asked her out - then you might as well take your seat in the friendzone and enjoy it, bud!! Lol. Ask her to meet up for something...anything...see what her response is. If she isnt interested - a NO will be all you need to let it go and move on.
/r/seduction11/03/20 08:39 PM
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May I be blunt - you are too old to be trying to "theorize" dating and sex. It is sad, past the age of 30, to be trying to "figure it out". By this point either you have been out there and lived your life, or you are reflecting on past mistakes - YOU, seem to have neither under your belt. I dont want to be hurtful, but it really is creepy man...and you post such abstract and just off stuff repeatedly...adding to the case that you really are out od touch with this topic altogether. It seems like …
/r/seduction11/03/20 03:31 PM
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😳😳😳😳...if a guy I worked with and never spoke to, randomly walked up to me AT WORK and asked me out for coffee or a walk, I'd give him a hard NO immediately. Not only is it uncomfortable, but it is awkward as Hell. You have to build rapport first, you have to at the very least try to play it off that you want to get to her first...not just "hi - wanna go for coffee?" Geez.
/r/seduction11/03/20 12:16 PM
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If I'm into a guy, I willy twist my hair, or kinda run my fingers through it while making eye contact or talking. Also I'll smile at him - that is an IOI. Me sitting there flipping my hair out of my face because the wind is blowing, or putting it in a ponytail because it is in my face, or untangling it because it is knotted - is NOT an IOI. That should be common sense!
/r/seduction11/03/20 11:14 AM
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Exactly! I'm glad someone finally called this guy out. His entire post history (some of which I see he deleted now) is nonsense "advice" about talking to women and sexual attraction ... yet here he is NOT taking his own advice (and posts what sounds like some made up stories). FYI - dude is a grown man in his 50s and should know better...honestly. And the fact he posts almost everyday the same stuff over and over - is creepy and lacks self awareness. He is becoming like a few of the "regular" co…
/r/seduction11/03/20 11:04 AM
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All of this ☝️
/r/seduction11/03/20 11:00 AM
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That's so creepy...please dont do this
/r/seduction11/03/20 08:00 AM
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Have these girls you want to ask ever given you ANY indication they are interested??? I mean, it seems real weird to just randomly, during a health scare, start asking people out on dates/to hang out??? Like it comes across as lacking self awareness...😳
/r/seduction11/03/20 07:59 AM
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Nah...take it over to r/sex
/r/seduction11/03/20 07:52 AM
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R/sex man....
/r/seduction11/03/20 07:47 AM
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From a girl here - you seem like YOU have major issues. Not sure IF they are mental, emotional, intellectual, or developmental, or a petri dish of all of it...but you got probs man. Girls arent into you because of YOU and your shitty negative attitude towards them and dating in general. That's why nobody will have sex with you, and they reject you. Your post history alone...makes you seem like an ass. If THAT is any indication of "you" - you will be a dateless virgin for a loooong time.
/r/seduction11/03/20 07:45 AM
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I know WHAT they are...I asked what IOIs you feel she showed YOU??? Because I get the feeling YOU may he misreading her normal actions as "IOIs"
/r/seduction10/03/20 07:20 PM
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Is that a dude???
/r/seduction10/03/20 06:57 PM
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Dare I ask WHAT you claim are IOIs.. yet she keeps talking about her BF???
/r/seduction10/03/20 06:56 PM
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If you arent naturally "witty" enough to have a funny answer...I would caution against trying this. Just answer the question instead of playing this guessing game
/r/seduction10/03/20 10:59 AM
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High school dating is only rationalized as "useless" by those who typically couldnt get dates or that girls didnt pay attention to (no offense, but that's how it was when I was in school). The outcast kid always tried to convince everyone he was 'above' having a gf...after he had asked out and been turned down by every girl in school?! If you arent successful now, it isnt magically going to happen because you go to college...put in that work! Work on you, your body, your approach and social skil…
/r/seduction10/03/20 10:40 AM
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Being that SHE didnt give you her number, you literally HAVE to explain how you got it?! "Hey...this is _ _ _ . Your friend _ _ _ gave me your number, because I really think you are _ _ _, and I wanted talk to you" In 2020 it is sometimes creepy to get a random message from a guy we never gave our number/snap/IG to
/r/seduction10/03/20 09:39 AM
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For the record: girls DO NOT change their minds all willy nilly with the wind, and to even assume that takes all responsibility off both sides, which isnt cool. Either she... ..wasnt into the guy in the first place, and she gave him a "maybe" when he asked her out, and he took it as a yes and ran with it 2...had other options, better options, or the option she wanted came around 3...got busy and is focusing on herself, family, work, etc 4...got turned-off by something a guy said or did. He may h…
/r/seduction10/03/20 09:26 AM
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You risk her blocking you completely IF you ask and she isnt that kinda girl...or...she isnt into sexting. So, best bet is to send her a 'sexy' pic of you. Tell her you were thinking about her and THIS is how it made you feel (shirtless, maybe)? See how she reacts...does she gush over it or does she admit it was uncomfortable. Based on her reaction - that's how you proceed. If the convo doesnt turn sexual...then you may have to let it go
/r/seduction09/03/20 10:16 AM
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Please...use a (.) man, that was kinda hard to read. If you have have her number and text, what do you need her Snap for? I think she recognized you were into her when you asked her snap and that's when she closes off...because she isnt interested. That's why she ignored your request
/r/seduction09/03/20 09:18 AM
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No...please dont do this. It sounds very weird?! 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️ It would just look like some creeper giving out random stuff to all the girls - and that is weird.
/r/seduction09/03/20 04:07 AM
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I'm a woman...so how are you telling ME this isnt how it goes???? 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️
/r/seduction08/03/20 07:48 PM
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Well...part of the reason would be this👇 https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/fe8yuh/can_a_man_use_only_money_to_attract_women/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share The other part is most likely physically unattractive OR creepy - one, the other, or both! If you continually end up in the friendzone, that means girls arent into you - they dont want to f*ck you. Key is to find out why...are you passive? Non assertive? More like "one of the girls" instead of a sexual being?! Girls dont li…
/r/seduction08/03/20 09:22 AM
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Sometimes...the hot guy already knows he is hot - so he puts forth THE LEAST amount of effort sexually, either because he never had to or he really doesnt know how to! 😳. He has relied on his looks so much that girls always let the bad sex slide because of it...but then there is the avg guy, or the guy that the girl isnt usually into - who she caves in, and has sex with - and he rocks her world. Why??? Because HE views her as the "hot one" and so he is so damn flattered to have this girl even ea…
/r/seduction08/03/20 03:22 AM
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This sounds kinda like.you have these relationships already built in your HEAD - but not in real life! 😳. Yikes! Not quite sure what "checking you out" means in your mind...but if they arent speaking TO you at all, then that is a sign they arent into you man.
/r/seduction07/03/20 07:27 AM
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I really feel like in person IS best...nothing beats first impressions and a face to face convo!!! Someone I meet in person may be not be my "type" physically...but then after talking to him, I find out he is really cool, funny, etc - and that changes my mind about him (positively)! Thing is a lot of men and women have dead personalities, and they may come across creepy or awkward online, and sadly they end up being the same way IRL...then once they get rejected, hop right back on Tinder and com…
/r/seduction07/03/20 06:56 AM
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If a girl is pretending she didnt see you - either she is nervous and is just playing "coy" around you...or...or she is avoiding you and her "pretending" not to see you doesnt mean attraction at all - it means she doesnt want to make eye contact or give you ANY inclination that she wants you to talk to her
/r/seduction06/03/20 10:32 PM
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You are messing with your health, possibly your reproductive abilities, and maybe even your LIFE! You need harsh...cant be making decisions that jeopardize your body.
/r/seduction06/03/20 07:54 PM
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Whoa!!!! Wtf? Girl...for God sake. You let a man you werent committed to let alone I assume didnt get tested together- hit it raw? Oh Hell no!!!! Please be more careful in your selection of men AND in your sexual decisions...stop being open like that with a man who hasnt proven himself to you (and vice versa). Jesus!
/r/seduction06/03/20 07:36 PM
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From.one girl to another: whenever the conversation goes to sex QUICK, FAST, AND IN A HURRY...that is the end goal - nothing more. A guy that genuinely is into you, wont make sex the main focus. Dont get me wrong, he will want to smash, but it womt be the only goal. A guy that only wants the good good - will only talk about that! He will ask for and send sexy pics, videos, etc.
/r/seduction06/03/20 07:22 PM
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Oh come ON now..."looks" are first impressions. That's what attracts people to each other. You cant cry foul about women going for looks...when I guarantee YOU do the same! You arent picking the ug-mugs of Tinder to match with - you are going for those you are ATTRACTED TO. So why should women be any different?? Why dont you have to settle but...they should? It doesnt work that way man.
/r/seduction06/03/20 06:47 PM
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I agree and disagree - looking at it from the womans side of things! Agree: Tinder is like a training wheels for dating. It is ok to learn HOW to practice talking, messaging, getting attention, and setting up dates...but it should ONLY be used as a "starting point" in the dating game. At some point, I agree, a guy (and women) need to get off their asses, stop hiding behind your swipe, and make real moves...talk to people in person, meet people, physically ask a girl out! If a dude is awkward...w…
/r/seduction06/03/20 06:18 PM
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Stop doubting yourself!!!! Why do that...it only makes you unsure, and then you end up back here posting the same thing - lol. Have you had bad exp that made you so doubtful?
/r/seduction06/03/20 12:10 PM
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There is a difference between being selective and being rigid. Someone selective has boundaries, but they are relatively open to "situational" compromise. Like I believe in not smoking cigs - a guy that does is a deal breaker for me. I wont compromise on that cause I hate the smell and taste. But a guy that vapes...I consider that a compromise. Then there is rigid - which can come across as "entitled"..."your way or the highway". And most people like that have control issues and can end up being…
/r/seduction06/03/20 11:59 AM
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You got a answers before... https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/dpcmop/shoulder_bumps/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/seduction06/03/20 11:52 AM
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It is all about how comfortable YOU make them feel. When it comes to touch, sometimes less is more, honestly. Some guys go hard with the touching, and are on a girl like a damn spidermonkey...hahaha. Everytime she turns around, dude is trying to touch her. Sometimes that is creepy. Be careful NOT to be too touchy and make her feel awkward...and again, pay attention to her body language As for escalating, I cant answer that. If the girls arent really responding to you (leaning close, touching you…
/r/seduction06/03/20 11:10 AM
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As a girl, if I allow a guy to touch me, it means I am SOMEWHAT interested. If I'm open to more or want him to escalate, I'll obviously touch him back in little ways, or get really close to him...because I want it to be clear that I'm open. BUT if I'm still on the fence about the guy, I may not touch him back, I'll just keep observing him to see what happens. If I'm totally not into him, then I may feel uncomfortable with him touching me and move away or else create some distance between us...
/r/seduction06/03/20 11:04 AM
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This sounds like the question of a KID...or someone with social issues. 😳. Instead of worrying about making money in order to attract women, because you say you are bad at "talking"...why not LEARN to talk and socialize better instead? It is free, you can practice everywhere, and social skills help improve you OVERALL...in every aspect of your life.
/r/seduction06/03/20 11:01 AM
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You have a better chance of getting chalamydia then you do the Corona virus. And STDs arent exactly "cramping" anyones style...so...why do you assume the worst? Were you getting girls BEFORE this outbreak, because of not, you cant blame corona on a lack of success..lol.
/r/seduction06/03/20 10:58 AM
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Resistance: the girl let's your hand go ot doesnt take your hand when you try. She moves away when you try to lean close or touch her. She turns her face or backs up when you try to kiss her. Honestly...it isnt rocket science - just pay attention to her BODY LANGUAGE and how she reacts to you when you try to escalate.
/r/seduction06/03/20 10:55 AM
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Congrats on getting your first date!! It really is nerve racking...but SO exciting! Now let's get into it all: Once you know where you are going on the date, SEND YOUR LOCATION to your best friend, sibling, mom, etc. Whomever can come get you IF (,heaven forbid) you need to get outta there fast. Not gonna lie, there IS a noticeable diff in age...being that you are so young. With that being said, be CLEAR about your boundaries. If you feel uncomfortable at all, bail. Be safe. If you arent ready f…
/r/seduction06/03/20 10:49 AM
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Like I said..if you have to stoop to the level of literally trying to play "I'm better then you" games like a child - that says more about YOU then me. And the constant attempts at trying to be offensive with response after response (after response) in a row - is a bit unstable. You realize that, right? Mentally unstable. If you are hellbent on proving your point that dude is into you - just ask him out and come back and give us ALL an update. Problem solved.
/r/seduction06/03/20 03:40 AM
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Congrats on putting yourself out there!
/r/seduction06/03/20 03:26 AM
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Lol. You’re an ugly troll who just likes to try and break peoples confidence over Reddit 😉 No wonder this guy hasnt asked you out...if THIS is how you act, when you dont agree with or like something someone says to you about a situation YOU publicly post. 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️. Oh and 😉 right back atcha girl! 👍
/r/seduction06/03/20 03:19 AM
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How old are you? How much exp have you had with girls/women? Cause you dont seem to have a lot...no offense. This is clear cut-n-dry stuff, and you arent getting it. She...isnt...interested. leave...her...be. That kinda stuff is what makes guys so damn creepy. If a girl isnt into you, let it go! Dont keep pushing the issue. Dont convince yourself that if not today - next month I'll try again.
/r/seduction06/03/20 12:52 AM
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What about her literally NOT responding to your offer...makes you think "oh..I should try to ask her out again later?" I mean come on man. The girl, if she was really into you, wouldve accepted your offer, give you a date, and if she was busy...she wouldve given you an alternate date. She didnt. What about that isnt clear????
/r/seduction06/03/20 12:48 AM
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Non-verbally, she seems interested. She plays with her hair a lot, glances at me from time to time, and mirrors my body language. However, whenever I try to talk to her, she seems a bit closed off. I'm sorry...but those "signs" you claim - doesnt sound like IOIs. I dont think she is interested...esp since she gave you a general answer when you asked about studying together, and then she didnt even respond in the end. I'd leave her be, just be cool around her. But I wouldnt ask her out again.
/r/seduction06/03/20 12:43 AM
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He is obviously a grown man (owning his own business and all). You said that you and he have these little convos for like a month, right? Has he ever asked for your phone number? Your social? Snap? Has he ever asked you OUT on a legit date? I get the sense that he may be chatting with you as a "regular customer" because you admit to going in their consistently - so he is being nice, but if he hasnt (a s a grown man) done the rest of those things I mentioned, it typically means he isnt interested…
/r/seduction05/03/20 11:55 AM
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Honestly...he was dumb for BELIEVEING someone he didnt really know! I'm sorry, I know that's your boy and all...but that decision he made is "on him". The number #1 line people throw out right before sex "I'm on the pill"..."I'm on birth control"..."I got tested last year"..."I've never had any STD"...etc. That's like the avg after school special or freaking sex ed class lesson! So for him to play Russian roulette with his life by having unprotected sex with a ONS - was stupid all the way around…
/r/seduction05/03/20 11:49 AM
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I kinda rushed the relationship, do i don't know that is helpful So...you admit to rushing things, most likely you out HER ont he spot with your "confession" of feelings , and she obviously doesnt feel the same in that she isnt speaking to you. Advice: let it alone. If she feels awkward now around you...you cant NOW be like "forget what I said - let's start over" and act like nothing happened. It doesnt work like that IRL (only in movies man...lol). If she isnt open to talking to you, she doesnt…
/r/seduction04/03/20 03:36 AM
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You sure no one would be interested in a guy like me, unless I can pay an hourly fee? Some people gotta pay to play. YOU just happen to be one of em...
/r/seduction03/03/20 09:53 PM
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Agreed! Dont give up u/decapitate_the_rich
/r/seduction03/03/20 12:44 PM
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Now it's true that I am a loser in his 30s, can't work in public, lesser-abled due to mild autism with ADHD, average looking and not tall, but I am sure this is not the reason they aren't interested. Your negative attitude here (and your entire post history) probably comes through in your writing messages to them - and they arent interested or are creeped out. That kind of 'opener' would turn any woman off - not speaking of the autism or Adhd, but the fact you are over 30, and have no job, and a…
/r/seduction03/03/20 10:04 AM
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I agree with this... and I'm a girl! A lot of girls "play dumb" and enjoy the comfort of a warm body next to them, or the attention a guy gives them. So in order to feed her need for attention, she will ask a guy over and literally take him to bed with her. Get half naked, demand he do the same, and then just ASSUME that "cuddling" was the plan?!?! 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️🥴. Um...NO honey. This is where a lot of guys tow the line, and unconsentual shit gets started...because messages are mixed and lines are cro…
/r/seduction03/03/20 05:13 AM
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This isnt really about seduction...I'm sorry. Try r/sex. Also...you may have dryness down there and need a lot of foreplay, you may need lubricant, or as was mentioned before - if you have endo (which is a preclude to painful periods) that makes sex painful!! Go see your dr if that is the case and continues.
/r/seduction03/03/20 04:20 AM
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You only want a 2nd opinion because you just want to find someone to cosign your misconception that she "lied" to you...that's all it is. Which for the record - she didnt. And if you really WERE over it and had moved on, you wouldnt keep talking about it or literally writing paragraph after paragraph about what SHE did. You realize that, right? I'm not coming at you, attacking you, or trying to hurt your feelings. I'm giving you the girls perspective on what took place - I dont have to know you …
/r/seduction03/03/20 03:39 AM
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Im.not attacking you...I'm being blunt and honest with you. The fact you are taking the truth about your situation and claiming "victim" is exactly why you cannot let this situation with the girl - go. Smh. The details dont matter...what she said and did dont matter now. Just accept she DIDNT CHOOSE YOU, and move on with your life. Geez! If you stopped being so focused on being a victim, you might be able to get other girls to play with your willy and send you nude pics. But you wont let this on…
/r/seduction03/03/20 03:31 AM
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Dude..arent you 55yrs old? Old enough to have either learned the hard way how to seduce through exp, or, there is a clear "failure to launch" here and you never had any exp with women, but are stuck in some loop of "trying to figure the ladies out". These theories and scientific data you post (in your history) come across really weird socially - cant lie. And yet here you are trying to give advice to guys...and it is bad advice! It is 2020, who doesnt have a friggin cell phone? Asking the time i…
/r/seduction03/03/20 03:27 AM
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Dude...not to be mean, but you gotta get over it! You are kinda acting like "the girl" in this situation (which by the way...happens a LOT to us too). The guy blatantly tells us he isnt looking for a relationship, but he still has sex with the girl. She wants him so bad that she mistakes sex for "interest" and that he might change his mind...and when he doesnt - she gets butthurt and acts like he didnt already TELL HER he wasnt interested in a relationship. Whatever this girl does after you has …
/r/seduction03/03/20 03:19 AM
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by saying “right now” instead of “with you”, she was implying that if i just put my life on hold and waited long enough on her leash for her, No...she wasnt saying that. She was basically letting YOU know that she didnt want to be with you. She wasnt asking you to "wait" for her to come around...🤦‍♀️. The girl wasnt into you like that. You were convenient to f*ck because like you said, you were friends...but that's it
/r/seduction03/03/20 03:07 AM
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That means YOU were convenient. It wasnt that she "not looking for a relationship right now"....she wasnt looking for one WITH YOU. That's all that meant.
/r/seduction03/03/20 03:02 AM
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No. Just...no. no. Dude...no. 😂
/r/seduction02/03/20 08:53 PM
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I hope I didnt hurt your feelings...I mean that! I know it is tough out there. But you are coming from a place of desperation...and that NEVER works! You cant think that "I dont have any time left", because that puts you in a rush...rush...rush mode. I'm not saying you should never date, I'm saying right now - maybe take a step back and recalibrate! That's all.
/r/seduction02/03/20 06:57 PM
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I recently overheard a friend describe me to someone as "beyond socially awkward." That stung. Oh damn!!! That hurts...esp coming from a friend. BUT - it also gives you insight into how other perceive you. And in the dating world, perception is EVERYTHING when you first meet someone! I am apparently on the autism spectrum, I wasn't diagnosed until just a few years ago. I also have bipolar disorder, PTSD, ADHD and chronic depression. , I'm just broke and mental, I have nothing to offer. Not gonna…
/r/seduction02/03/20 06:31 PM
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Whoa!!!!! Ok...so wait - you are in your 40s going to clubs on a regular basis, and freak out when people try to talk to you???? 😳. I'm NOT making fun of you or talking down to you in anyway...I'm just caught off guard by the lack of social skills at such an age. Not gonna lie - a 20yr old guy bumbling around a dance club is one thing, even if he is awkward as Hell. A grown 40yr old man doing the same bumbling around is no longer awkward - it is now kinda creepy. Do you understand that? And have…
/r/seduction02/03/20 06:08 PM
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A girl "friendzones" a guy she doesnt want to f*ck...plain and simple. She either isnt attracted to him (more than likely this is the case) or his personality is real wimpy or like a girlfriend more than a man. A guy that decides a year or 2 down the line to try to crawl out of the friendzone tends to get his feelings hurt. Dating is about getting to know someone...there should be no damn expectation that it will lead into anything! That's when you can escalate, see what happens and go with the …
/r/seduction02/03/20 05:41 PM
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Ok...well...are you having a good time when you and your friend are there? I mean, if you arent it it will show in your vibe. If you go to the same clubs, and stand around looking bored...girls wont go for that! It will be more of a turnoff because the perception is that you are "thirsty". Do you dance? Do you smile at girls...say hi when they pass?
/r/seduction02/03/20 05:32 PM
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Only if your face is ugly...or you are obese...or your boring as Hell and your personality sucks. But guys put TOO much importance on height
/r/seduction02/03/20 04:17 PM
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So...until you get over (or medicated) the extreme anxiety to meet in person - you really ARE leading people on. Esp knowing that you dont have the ability to actually physically go in a date/see them.
/r/seduction02/03/20 04:16 PM
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That is ALWAYS the guy posted up in the corner, giving all the girls the "creeper stare"...😂😂
/r/seduction02/03/20 03:00 PM
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My advice for situations like this, is just look like you’re having a good time with your friends at the club. Amen!!!!!! Best advice in any club/bar situation.
/r/seduction02/03/20 02:41 PM
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Maybe she initially WAS open to being interested. Maybe yalls convo wasnt to her liking so she backed off. Maybe she felt cornered and felt like she had to give you her IG so you would leave here alone. Maybe she liked talking to you but has a bf...or likes someone else. A million diff scenarios COULD be the case - but why does it matter? It doesnt. She isnt responding, so let it go. Enjoy your life, do you, and if she responds then cool.
/r/seduction02/03/20 03:44 AM
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Leave it. She is either busy or just not interested.
/r/seduction02/03/20 03:33 AM
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That is 100% loser-ish. Please dont do that...it is weird. Just walk away.
/r/seduction01/03/20 10:50 PM
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I wouldn't date her because I don't really have that much fun hanging out with her. I wanted to maybe fool around and get some experience but I'm thinking of just leaving it and going for someone else. Move on. If she is giving you "friend" vibes and isnt even really receptive to your advances - let it go. Even moreso because you admit to not even having fun with her
/r/seduction01/03/20 10:33 PM
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very easy for them to view you as a "creep" and then things just spiral out of control from there. I have been reported to HR for approaching, even though it was calibrated and respectful. Your videos prove you are a bit of a creep. And if you have been reported to HR for making women uncomfortable - that makes you a creep. The fact you dont seem to get it at your age, and continue to try to be a victim or justify your approaches as "just trying" (overall) and blame feminism for YOUR lack of dat…
/r/seduction01/03/20 09:56 PM
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ewww he's international. Sounds weird - I'm sorry. Not saying I dont believe you, but that phrase is just so...awkward, and not a normal statement. I've heard girls be specific "ew ..he is (pick an ethnicity: Indian, Asian, Korean, African, etc)" and I get it. Some international ethnicities are not traditionally found attractive by all American women - I admit that myself as a woman. So if you fall under any of those ethnicities, then I'm sorry YOU are struggling. You wont be everyones cup of te…
/r/seduction01/03/20 09:51 PM
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All.you have to do is watch 90 Day Fiance on TLC network - it is literally nothing but couples where there is an American and they have searched out and are attempting to marry someone from a foreign or a 3rd world/underdeveloped country. And let's be honest - most of the Americans making this "leap" are the men/women that are "not the most desirable" in the US: they may be obese, older in age (over 50), been rejected repeatedly by American women, later in life virgins, ultra conservative when i…
/r/seduction01/03/20 09:38 PM
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ALL of this ☝️!!! There is nothing like being on a date who literally cant hold a conversation, doesnt make me laugh, or has a deadpan voice (flat effect). That to me, is boring...and I've literally never called or responded to anguy again over those things
/r/seduction01/03/20 06:16 PM
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Have the same people that told you that you were boring given you any insight into WHAT about you is boring???? Or why they feel that way?
/r/seduction01/03/20 03:43 PM
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I didnt say that! I said having fun takes BALANCE. Past the age of 30...acting like a 20yr just isnt cute. No offense. But if you balance maturity with having fun - you should be ok!
/r/seduction01/03/20 02:54 PM
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The point of these vids is to show how much of a GRUELLING process it is for the average guy to even get some much as a SNIFF at a chick. How they barely give the average guy the time of day. But YOUR approach isnt average man...it is creepy. The average guy isnt creepy, I'm sorry. The reason you get downvoted is because "avg guys" cant relate - they dont act like you are acting in those vids.
/r/seduction01/03/20 02:51 PM
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I honestly dont think he "gets it" how creepy he is and how cringe his vids are. I swear posting in this sub is prob all the attention he gets...so he keeps doing it?! But the vids are just...smh
/r/seduction01/03/20 02:24 PM
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Reliving your youth means GOING. BACKWARDS...and that ain't cute. Younger girls (might) f*ck you but they wont take you seriously and will move on quickly - if they give you a chance at all, and women your age wont take you seriously because you may come across too immature. It is a balance that is needed...and yes you can make up for lost time when it comes to being sexual, but you dont have to regress to do it.
/r/seduction01/03/20 02:14 PM
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Why do you continue to post such creepy vids??? Like, I dont understand the purpose...you dont change your style, you obviously havent improved your approach, and yet you KEEP posting these vids that just make you seem even creepier every time. This is obviously a new profile you have made, but the same vids...and you inevitably get downvoted, then create another profile with the same weird recordings. Like....WHY??? https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ex4xed/30_year_old_socially_anxious…
/r/seduction01/03/20 02:11 PM
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Avg is technically 5-6"...above avg is 7-8"...large is 9+" So if you fall in any of those categories - you have nothing to even be scared about! Now. If you are below 5" or have a micropenis...then the advice is to get really good with your fingers and tongue! Make sure you are top notch orally. As a girl, not gonna lie, we may TELL you it doesnt matter, because we dont want to hurt a guys feelings, but the truth is it DOES matter - but only when it is too small. I'm sorry to say it, but that's …
/r/seduction01/03/20 02:09 PM
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I agree with EVERYTHING you said - 100%. But (hear me out on this one) it takes a semi adept self aware guy to understand himself and start meeting girls, reading body language, picking up on social cues, and assertively asking girls out, etc. This sub is NOT made those kind of guys 🤷‍♀️. In here you have the anxiety ridden, depressed, no social skills whatsoever, never spoke to a girl let alone touched one,...type guys. They come to sub, see the recommendations for this and that PUA, and they t…
/r/seduction29/02/20 10:26 AM
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Both! Walking into every situation BELIEVING you are "ugly" and not worth talking to...will put out a negative vibe. Your nees to change the narrative in your head! Stop comparing yourself to your buddies...their exp isnt yours and vice versa. On the flip side, you may not be attractive to those girls - doesnt mean you wont be to any?! So go into each situation thinking that you are just as deserving as the next guy.
/r/seduction29/02/20 10:17 AM
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We believe you can change girls minds with the right words. Even sleep with girls who think you are very ugly or whatever. Well then please do share - how's that workin for ya? 🤔
/r/seduction28/02/20 04:36 PM
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Sometimes...the chemistry behind a text or a phone calls DOES NOT translate to in-person. I've met plenty of guys through friends and we would chat for awhile and have good convos...but in person - nah. I either wasnt attracted to him, or his vibe was different, whatever the case...the transition from virtual to IRL is not always seamless!
/r/seduction28/02/20 04:26 PM
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Dude...let me tell you - YOU are really not "reading" these girls properly. There is nothing worse, as a girl, then a guy approaches and we clearly give off signals we arent interested (we look away into space, we go back to our phones, we dont laugh or even answer, we say no thanks, etc)....and the guy CONTINUES TO TRY TO CHAT. It is all about self awareness. It seems like these girls were clearly not interested, and even you admit you could tell, but yet...you kept trying to talk to them?! 🤷‍♀…
/r/seduction28/02/20 04:23 PM
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He was staring at her like he wanted to eat her! Ew...very creepy looking.
/r/seduction27/02/20 08:37 PM
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Can I be honest here (I'm a girl by the way)? Your video clip...was dry. It was like someone narrating a book, but without the voice inflection needed to make it interesting. I hope that isnt harsh...I'm not trying to hurt you either - just giving some feedback. The other 2 guys had personality and it shined through in how they moved and spoke...you came across like you were sleepy?! Kinda.
/r/seduction27/02/20 07:45 PM
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You said she said she wants to be friends...that means the sexual attraction is "gone". But hey, if you are there with her, might as well try again to make a move...see how she reacts. BUT if she isnt down, let it go
/r/seduction27/02/20 04:59 PM
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She doesnt KNOW you...so yes, it was random. If you dont get that, then that is why you also dont get her response.
/r/seduction27/02/20 12:48 PM
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The problem with this sub is that there are way more virgins and amateurs than there are experienced men. Dumb advice that would never work gets upvoted because it makes people feel good. Sadly...I think you nailed it here! A lot of the advice to the virgins and socially guys - is coming from virgins and socially awkward guys (blind leading the blind). They read some pickup book, watched some YT vids. And think they are "experts" now...sharing the same worthless advice they themselves got - and …
/r/seduction27/02/20 12:28 PM
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If she is already expressing interest in getting together again - you are halfway there man!!! For us girls. Sometimes we internalize when a guy cant perform - we think it is us, or that he isnt attracted to us, or whatever. SO..if your performance bothers you that much, just be honest "...about the other night, I was nervous as Hell...blah blag blah" and then move on from the topic. Promise her a better night and see what happens!
/r/seduction27/02/20 12:24 PM
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You messaged a joke...as your opener. That is kinda awkward if there isnt any lead up to it, or something breaking the ice before the joke - esp with someone you dont know. There isnt too many places to GO from that point (as the receiver). So stop assuming SHE is low effort, playing games, blah blah blah. Follow up with a NORMAL convo starter: comment on her pics, ask question about what she likes to do or something you noticed in her pics, etc.
/r/seduction27/02/20 12:03 PM
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Um...uh...why did you post this stuff? EDIT: just read your post history. NOW I "get it"...diff generation (boomers), diff methodology.
/r/seduction25/02/20 12:03 PM
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Way...way...waaaaay too long, honey, I'm sorry. I seriously couldnt get past the 2nd paragraph of the introduction 😳 How, and I mean this with all sincerity, HOW were you in a 12yr long distance relationship with someone??? I mean, I'm not trying to be mean...but come on. 12yrs?!?! That is NOT normal, at all. And I gotta be honest, I couldnt even get past that part to read what your new situation is - I just couldnt...🤦‍♀️ By the sheer length of your post, and the fact you already prefaced it in…
/r/seduction25/02/20 10:56 AM
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I'm going to assume that based on all the ethnicities you listed, and the tone of this post, that you are East Asian/Indian. Remember that - EVERYONE Has a preference...there is nothing wrong with that, and in a western society where certain cultures and ethnicities are the majority, you may or may not be someones preference. I'm blk/wht mixed, my "type" is black...but I am open to Asian, latino, and white (as long as they are taller then me). I met a guy from Dubai that isnt typically my "type"…
/r/seduction25/02/20 06:06 AM
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I think it depends on how far past 30, that this lifestyle is appealing. I think people rush "settling down" and really shouldnt be trying to "mate" until they have had experience dating, casual sex, etc. Being READY for all of that stuff is so important. That mindset is ok, I feel, in your 20s and 30s...but the thing is that men get set in their ways. So by the time a guy is 40, never married/no kids...he is who he is, kinda thing is what sometimes can be a turnoff to women. It is also a red fl…
/r/seduction24/02/20 08:20 AM
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I dont know - 99.999% of the time means = NO. Even if the girl has gone out with you before. "I dont know" is a safe way to say she is unsure about seeing you again. Is that the kind of girl you want?
/r/seduction23/02/20 11:12 PM
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If I tell a guy "I dont know"... that is honestly a NO, I just am uncomfortable or caught off guard by him.
/r/seduction23/02/20 05:49 PM
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You move on with your life. If people consistently unfollow you, and you admit to being toxic - stop being toxic.
/r/seduction23/02/20 10:59 AM
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Girls will not chase a guy longterm... if at all. There is a push-pull type of dynamic that happens in "game", I get that...but girls typically dont chase guys! And unless you arw hella attractive or high status - they wont bother. You said you are good at maintaining...ok...but that gets old to a girl after awhile. Girls like assertive men - the ones that make first moves, ask them out, make plans, etc. Not the dude that introduces himself, gets her number, and then expects HER to do the work. …
/r/seduction23/02/20 10:16 AM
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A girl will ONLY chase a guy she is into...and even then, the likelihood of her chasing him is slim. So for the rare ones that do chase a guy, if she isnt coming onto you, then shes not interested. Why dont YOU work on being more assertive towards girls instead of "hoping" they initiate towards you?
/r/seduction23/02/20 10:04 AM
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I tried to flatter her to give her a good impression of me (calling her pretty, standard compliment) because she genuinely was but instead turns into a bitch and tells me to leave so I get triggered because she was being rude so I call her a hoe back . Ugh...dude...wtf? You join HER live, she doesnt react to your "flattery" the way you wanted, as I said before she declined your request and Lord knows what else you said, she flips on you and so you call her a ho? Typical r/niceguy crap...like I s…
/r/seduction23/02/20 09:32 AM
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Either you both are young (minded) as Hell or you both are kinda slow...cause who does this shit???
/r/seduction23/02/20 09:27 AM
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the next time I requested her, she declined me and started getting defensive AS IF I attacked her physically. Now I don't see any correlation between her going from sweet to bitter but I told her sorry because she looked boozed, dancing and everything. Seems like your comment offended her, and so she declined your request. Why you would try again OR even consider approaching her through DM makes no sense man...leave her alone. She already has made it clear she isnt interested...move on.
/r/seduction23/02/20 09:23 AM
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My whole life has revolved around girls, yet I’ve had no success with them. All my friends are constantly having sex and getting into relationships, while I constantly try to achieve the same thing but get no results. Every girl I meet feels like the one where something will happen, but it never does. It is time to take a huge step back and recalibrate your entire line of thinking. As a girl...we smell desperate guy coming. The vibe they put out is clear as day, and it makes most girls uncomfort…
/r/seduction23/02/20 08:26 AM
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You leave her friends meeting you up to HER...your convo should've stayed with her! Kept her interested with more witty comments and then starting to talk a out other stuff.
/r/seduction22/02/20 04:14 PM
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when I told her to introduce me to her friends she said no and turned her back on me. You were doing good...up to this ☝️ point! Why did you say this????? It comes across like a player OR someone kinda desperate to be accepted...
/r/seduction22/02/20 04:09 PM
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If a man takes his time planning the date - I dont take him seriously. You told her you want to go out with her, then you make her wait a few days to actually set it up...nah bruh, ahe prob thought you were either talking out your ass OR leading her on. When you ask a woman out establish the date then and there!
/r/seduction22/02/20 02:13 PM
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That is literally GOLDEN ADVICE!!!
/r/seduction22/02/20 02:57 AM
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When it comes to escalating, there Is no general advice. Your buddy was right - it is situational. The key is to learn to READ the signs and cues girls send that they want or are open to sexual things...
/r/seduction22/02/20 02:51 AM
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Congrats man!!!!
/r/seduction21/02/20 01:33 PM
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Awkward or not...these are girls you most likely SAW everyday and didnt speak to, right? Now, you feel like "hey...let me DM these girls just to chat", and I'm explaining to you how that will go over - not as well as you think. Are these girls following you back on IG? If not, then that's a sign right there. Did they try talking to you at all...all those years in school? That's a sign too. If you wanna take a chance, then go right ahead and send a DM. I'm just speaking from the girls perspective…
/r/seduction21/02/20 12:41 PM
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I'm sorry man...but im.gonna say NO, not really. You said yall JUST graduated, that means however awkward you were in school didnt just "go away" because you graduated. Your best bet is if you see soemone you remember from school, walk over and say hi...but I would NOT go sending some random DM to girls like that.
/r/seduction21/02/20 12:35 PM
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No offense...but if you were socially awkward all throughout school, and barely talked to them (or them to you) - reaching out randomly literally a year after graduating is, well, really awkward?! I mean, if they didnt speak before, what leads you to believe they will want to hop into a convo just because you DM them?
/r/seduction21/02/20 12:29 PM
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plus I dont want to come off as a creep, even though I probably wont since I am fairly attractive and popular, If this is the case, then why worry about it? Just act NORMAL around her and to her. Guys make the mistake of acting weird when a girl rejects them, and trust that others see that and comment on it...or say things about it.
/r/seduction21/02/20 11:22 AM
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Oh wow, dude...are you ok? Lol. I see you have issues - major ones 😳. Your attitude is trash man, and your post history proves that. It is 2020, women dont like to be called "females", for the record.
/r/seduction20/02/20 08:53 AM
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As a girl...if as the "first kiss" a guy came behind me kissed my neck, I would knock him tf OUT! A kiss on the neck is very intimate, and coming from behind like that takes at least a small level of trust - so um...NO, this is not ok for the first kiss at all! If I've been dating the guy a bit, or we have already been intimate - then yeah, this kind of kiss is sexy! And can take me from 0 to 60 sexually...
/r/seduction20/02/20 07:51 AM
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This doesnt sound like confusion or asking questions...this legit sounds like you are "humble bragging" for absolutely NO reason at all! The part about your supposedly being so big you had to ease it in...her eyes rolling back...she gets wetter - dude, straight fanfare for some porn is all you described, and that's kinda corny. Wtf does any of those ultra specific details have to do with whether someone is interested or not? 🙄🤦‍♀️
/r/seduction19/02/20 12:05 PM
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Um... yeah. Be independent and get there on your own. Then when you are THERE explain your situation, if you are comfortable
/r/seduction17/02/20 07:44 PM
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Why does she have to pick you up...why cant you meet her there using Uber, Lyft, the bus, or subway/train?
/r/seduction17/02/20 07:42 PM
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Normal humans CAN read non verbal language, body language, social cues, and use common sense - when interacting with the same/opposite sex. And even when women are clear as day that they arent interested..."normal humans" typically pick up the lack of interest and move on, instead of being creepers and lingering or keep trying too hard.
/r/seduction16/02/20 07:55 PM
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Exactly. That's how most girls take it...
/r/seduction16/02/20 03:30 PM
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😂😂😂...yo dude, peace to you. But you are funny.
/r/seduction16/02/20 02:55 PM
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Dude...you post in a public sub - I responded. YOU are the one with the problem.
/r/seduction16/02/20 02:54 PM
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I meant OPs history dude...not yours! 🥴
/r/seduction16/02/20 02:45 PM
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Check his post history...dude made moves on a noticeably (he admitted it) drunk girl, and he got butthurt that people didnt agree with him. Mind you in his history, it says he is almost 40yrs old, so this topic should be common sense for a grown man.
/r/seduction16/02/20 02:41 PM
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Didnt like the answers you ALREADY GOT...huh? https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/f4k1nl/is_it_socially_unaccepteble_to_kiss_a_girl_that/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/seduction16/02/20 02:39 PM
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Same reason guys dont always like when a girl says he is "cute" - it is childlike. Puppies, kittens, and babies are cute...lol
/r/seduction16/02/20 02:36 PM
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You cant tell in the beginning - it is impossible. But in time, their traits come out. But only then can you decipher what their issue is or may be. And then you RUN!
/r/seduction16/02/20 01:51 PM
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Omg...dude...very VERY creepy. I'm sorry. But you have heard this before - on almost every video you post here. Time to stop and recalibrate your whole vibe and approach.
/r/seduction16/02/20 01:50 PM
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And what did you say back to the cashier? Because most likely she said that out of good customer service (not attraction or interest)
/r/seduction16/02/20 12:26 PM
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Honestly...sometimes it is the way a guy looks that turns girls off, and sometimes it is his VIBE. I applaud you for doing your research and following it, that takes guts and being open minded. Dont change that!! Ok? In the flip side, it seems you take things "literally" and really put in a lot of effort (black clothes, teeth whitener, black watch, sneakers, brows, etc). And I can't speak on how you dance, but what may feel cool to you, might not look that way to others...so your moves may be ha…
/r/seduction16/02/20 12:26 PM
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I just have had the worst night at the club so far. All 3 times I've gone to the club, I approached just about every single girl/girl group on the dance floor, Girls notice this stuff...trust me. We see that guy that is working the room way too hard, and we see the girls he tries to talk to walk away, roll their eyes, back up and slither off. Then he comes up to us...😳. Not saying you should stop trying, but you cant just hit on every single girl publicly in a small space (club, bar, etc). Esp i…
/r/seduction16/02/20 11:15 AM
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Why stores? Why not school...or work...on the street?
/r/seduction16/02/20 11:08 AM
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Girls perspective: missionary is best for the first time, because it let's her relax (on her back), breathe and angle her pelvis to whatever feels good - esp because the first time can be uncomfortable
/r/seduction16/02/20 09:33 AM
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Ok ...so your post history shows you read A LOT of articles. 🤷‍♀️
/r/seduction16/02/20 09:29 AM
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Literally EVERY COMMENT by the posters here said the same as me...and yet you still wanna act like you dont know what you did wasnt cool. So...I'm not the issue here, dude. And then you are still trying to justify it by bringing up clubs and bars - blah blah blah. I stand by what I said.
/r/seduction16/02/20 03:50 AM
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Please dont play dumb man...seriously. YOU know the answer, or you wouldnt even be asking it...here...in a public sub about seduction.
/r/seduction16/02/20 03:35 AM
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That sounds like "drunk behavior". Inevitably one of my gfs when we go out, will get drunk and grind on some dude she isnt into or he isnt her type...sometimes we will watch the trainwreck and laugh, other times we will step in and pull her away from the situation because it is either going too far OR the guy tries to take her someplace private (despite seeing she is noticeably drunk). Either way - the next day, she realizes how she acted and that she went too far. Thing is, she wasnt really fee…
/r/seduction16/02/20 03:32 AM
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The fact YOU admit she was intoxicated and YOU still went with "it"...means you know it wasnt cool. I don't care if she threw it at you, you ADMIT she was drunk. That makes you in the wrong...and she could make an issue out of it because you didnt put the brakes in things
/r/seduction16/02/20 03:26 AM
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Very broad question. You can search "flirting" in this sub and I'm sure you will come up with tons of advice and videos. Hell...youtube can do the same for ya. Google too.
/r/seduction16/02/20 12:31 AM
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No...not true. Just being rich doesnt means all those other characteristics just HAPPEN to fall into place. I'm sure there are some guys in this sub who are well off financially, but still cant land a girl...so....theres that.🤦‍♀️
/r/seduction15/02/20 11:16 AM
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Confidence...he is witty...smart as Hell...and a great dresser. All of that is sexy!
/r/seduction15/02/20 08:14 AM
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From a.girls standpoint - a lot (is wrong) with this kinda thing. It is never ever the smooth...confident guys that do this. Inevitably it is always the socially awkward ones - the guys who are creepy anyway. So them handing out flowers doesnt change that creepiness...it just adds a gimmick and makes it seem like they are trying too hard (a desperate move for attention). It doesn't suddenly make us want to give him our number...or go out with him...or sleep with him.
/r/seduction15/02/20 07:45 AM
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Dont want to be rude...but this sub is FULL of scenarios like yours, and advice. Go to the search at the top and look up key words "how to find a girlfriend"..."never kissed a girl"..."prostitutes"...etc. I say that because youe questions are SO broad and literally repeated here all the time.
/r/seduction15/02/20 07:14 AM
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I swear every college campus had "this guy" on it: and on mine his name was Theodore (he didnt want to be called Ted). Nobody really paid Theodore any attention normally, because he was kinda weird and awkward. He hit on girls all the time...and I mean ALL THE TIME. And every year we all were there, on Vday, homeboy would give every girl he found "attractive" a single red rose and wished them a Happy Valentines Day. It was gimmicky - we all knew it, but it also didn't change the fact he was weir…
/r/seduction15/02/20 04:47 AM
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Asking them to meet THE SAME DAY is a lot of pressure! Esp if you have only exchanged a few msgs back n forth...it comes across pushy OR like you are just down to f*ck right away. A next day date is better but also may be seen as last min or too quick IF you havent gauged the level of interest properly.
/r/seduction14/02/20 08:27 AM
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Are you mistaking egos for assertiveness or confidence?
/r/seduction14/02/20 08:24 AM
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I mean...if you are past puberty age - your voice is your voice! I know that they say speaking with "intention" means using your diaphragm and loosening your throat muscles...basically getting as much AIR in/out as you can. But otherwise, nature gave you what you got!
/r/seduction14/02/20 08:20 AM
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Context...means everything! You are saying she was giving you the 'ew' face and rejected you. Ok...but HOW did you approach her? What did you say? Was she busy with her friends? Did you literally walk up to her and be like " would you like to give out with me?' And not introduce yourself...ask her name...etc? Seems like blame is being put in HER...but nothing you said offers any context into what YOU did or said that may have turned her off?
/r/seduction13/02/20 11:38 PM
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Uh...I mean, your first hanging (IF she says yes) would be real uncomfortable if it was with you AND your family member and all your friends. That could be a lot of pressure! I still say keep it casual...just you and her, something quick
/r/seduction13/02/20 01:48 PM
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Ya gotta just take the leap man: "Hi (name). I really want to again thank your helping me with (...)..and I was thinking, would you like to get a coffee/ice cream/drink- with me sometime? I'd like to take you out."
/r/seduction13/02/20 01:39 PM
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When you took her the candy, wouldve been the best time to ask for her number...because NOW, going back to just pop in will be obvious exactlt what you are doing!?! The little convo you had, was it in email or person?
/r/seduction13/02/20 01:09 PM
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They weren't my type in terms of looks. I like a guy to be a little rugged, I'm into athletic types (since I'm athletic), and sometimes I like a dad bod - hahahaha. All depends on the guy! But when a dude is too pretty, like his hair is perfectly done, outfit is high end, he may be ultra buff - nah...not my type. Girls can always find perfection in the imperfections, and be happy! 😊👍
/r/seduction13/02/20 12:24 PM
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What girls find attractive is SUBJECTIVE. The hottest guy isnt always who they want (even though low self esteem and passive aggressive guys swear up n down that's ALL girls want)...which isn't true. Just as guys get insecure around a hot girl, girls feel the same around a hot guy - and in their mind see the guy and think "oh he is too sexy...way out of my league", or else "he would never go for me"...and so on. I've had guys talk to me that I felt were way "too pretty" meaning I felt they were …
/r/seduction13/02/20 12:05 PM
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Oh wow. It is officially Thurs and she hasnt responded? She prob isnt interested man...
/r/seduction13/02/20 07:22 AM
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Um...it is always awkward to use Valentines Day as a "regular date". Waaaaay too much pressure for romance and all. So i see why she said no. If she isnt into you like that, she would reject that date, which she did. I would play it casual and just try to hang out...no formal date really. And see what she says.
/r/seduction13/02/20 07:20 AM
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Omg I'm going there in June (not looking for girls though - lol)! I heard the place is massive...
/r/seduction12/02/20 07:49 PM
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Fyi...you can actually find gifts like that in the mall. If you have a Rue21, Forever21, Charlotte Russe, Charming Charlie's- they all have those kind of things cheap. But thanks for the link - that set is beautiful.
/r/seduction12/02/20 07:47 PM
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I'm a girl and I love that! BUT...is this a girl.you are already dating/smashing, or is this just some attempt to get someone to like you? Cause if it is the latter - then NO...that gift is too much
/r/seduction12/02/20 07:43 PM
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How come girls can smell how I act but not domestic abuse and the average black rappers personality where they demean and object women in their songs? What does what other men do (they shit ones) have to do with how YOU act? Absolutely NOTHING...and that is your problem. You are trying to justify your behavior (which obviously turns girls off) by assuming they want shit men instead. That's some incel thinking right there...and you will stay alone if you continue down that path. Nobody likes thos…
/r/seduction12/02/20 05:44 PM
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Please...seek professional help from a therapist. Your post history shows this obsession with your hairline, and in some of the comments the frustration from people at your repeated posts about the same thing over and over...in the same subs - it clear! It isnt your hairline. It isnt your height either. More then likely it is your approach and vibe - aka how you act...so work on just being happy with yourself FIRST before worrying about what others think. You seem to be in a negative spiral and …
/r/seduction12/02/20 04:05 PM
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as soon as I wrote that we used to stare each other n this means we are attracted,she stopped replying... .she is someone who wants to date but is shy to accept that. After few months, I hit her up again on another app yesterday and wrote that I need a friend and want to connect, she might block me from here as well but just know that I need a friend.... after that instead of not replying or blocking me, she has replied Please stop texting me. Ok...so this is a situation where YOU are the issue …
/r/seduction12/02/20 11:08 AM
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You mention that she looks at you a lot. I mean...that could be a good thing or bad. It is tough to give advice when you really only mention "looks" - you dont even know her name, you havent spoken to her (and she hasnt spoken to you either). Sooooo...to solve this, just send her a friend request. If you dont have the guts to talk to her in person, do it through social media.
/r/seduction11/02/20 09:51 PM
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They dont want to go out with you...that's the blunt way to put it. I'm sorry! But girls dont flake if they dont have a legit excuse OR they really arent into the guy.
/r/seduction11/02/20 07:04 PM
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My best guy friend is attractive. I've told him that too...but doesnt mean I want to f*ck him, ever, cause I dont!
/r/seduction11/02/20 12:10 PM
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Be yourself...obviously she likes you or she wouldnt invite you over! Take her poundtown and enjoy the ride! 😂👍
/r/seduction11/02/20 11:11 AM
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It seems like you have been doing a lot of reading in the topic - which is good. But at the end of the day, the practical application is ALL that matters...and when it comes to being friendzoned - there rarely (if ever) is a 'way out'. See...girls friendzone the guy they dont find attractive, the dude they dont want to f*ck, but he is sweet, and kind, and listens to em (a 'friend'). Get it? Once a girl has out a guy in that zone, it is typically a no exit type thing! 🤷‍♀️. Seeing you with other …
/r/seduction11/02/20 11:09 AM
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You are who you are...that doesnt change. But you CAN change your actions, behavior, and mindset.
/r/seduction11/02/20 09:50 AM
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imma keep it 100 I think you're overthinking this wayyy too much. Idk what your experience w/ women is, but when we crush on someone we tend to exaggerate on every little thing they do, and we interpret every action to have some type of ulterior motive it likely does not have. Yeah...I was gonna say the same thing. I think homeboy is reading way too much into little innocent actions (not flirting actions).
/r/seduction11/02/20 09:47 AM
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A private snap profile...where you PAY to chat/see sexy pics, etc
/r/seduction11/02/20 09:44 AM
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In 2020...the whole "what time is it" and the teltell "can you tell me where xyz is" - is a dead giveaway that the guy is either awkward or just trying TOO hard. Everyone has a phone, and everyone knows how to use Google...like come on!
/r/seduction11/02/20 07:49 AM
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Um...no offense but that sounds like she opened and is about to offer you her "premium snap" access or she is just adding followers. I think you MAY have jumped the gun by sending the shirtless pic. Just play it by ear, and flirt.
/r/seduction11/02/20 07:45 AM
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If you are already friends on LinkedIn, then send her a msg asking how she has been, ask what she is doing for work, and mention wanting to get together to "catch up"...but keep it casual, like coffee or soemthing.
/r/seduction10/02/20 03:26 PM
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It hurts because YOU become emotionally invested too quickly...so when that person decides that they arent into you (like you may be into them) - it stings. Abundance mentality is what you need! Meet other girls, date other girls, talk to other girls...dont focus on ONE and get so attached to the "idea" of more with that ONE girl so fast that if she bolts - you cant handle it.
/r/seduction10/02/20 11:50 AM
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I usually go direct and they immediately say they have a boyfriend or married. Can you clarify what you mean by "going direct"...like walk us through your approach?
/r/seduction10/02/20 06:30 AM
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If your intention was to sex the guy...then explain that his buddy being there threw you off. And then tell him you want to get together again.
/r/seduction10/02/20 06:28 AM
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Wtf?
/r/seduction10/02/20 02:41 AM
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Do you think my hopes of maintaining contact for 6 whole months are realistic? Not really. You had 1 date...that isnt much to really lock yourself down over or to expect HER to be open to the idea when she going away. It is cool to stay in contact here and there, but follow HER lead with this one...because she is the one leaving.
/r/seduction09/02/20 10:28 PM
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Im sorry hon...but this all sounds so socially awkward. Like you read this from a book or something. And I'm a girl saying it. A girl either likes you or not
/r/seduction09/02/20 09:58 PM
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Salsa classes usually will teach merengue and Bachata...so that covers the Latin dances. And if you can learn a basic 2 steps (following the rhythm) that will cover the r&b/hip hop side of things.
/r/seduction09/02/20 12:38 PM
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All of the crushes I've had I've failed miserably at approaching. Or maybe it's because I have a thing where I refuse to drink or smoke, causing me to not go and socialize at parties and such. Or it's my poor conversational skills, where I can't ever seen to think of what to talk about You answered your own question - ALL of that will def affect your success when it comes to girls. Not sure what ethnicity you are either...but traveling abroad can either be a PLUS for hooking up with girls - or a…
/r/seduction09/02/20 12:25 PM
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I agree with the other comment...to a degree. In certain parts of the US, interracial relationships are 2nd nature (NE), down south - not so much, midwest - hell no, west coast - yes/no. I feel like the areas where the population is more of a "melting pot" often leads to seeing more mixing. And curvy ethnic girls are becoming more popular, as the EXOTIC look seems to be what more guys are searching out.
/r/seduction09/02/20 08:50 AM
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That's why I ghosted. He wouldnt stop asking!!! But after almost a year, when I saw him again, he obviously has put some work into himself - and it showed. He did a complete 180...enough for ME to reach out to him and invite him over.
/r/seduction09/02/20 12:20 AM
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To me...he wasnt very assertive. Like I had to make the first move, and even then he was kinda too nervous to get warmed up. Eventually he did. But he also was very quiet and shy...and after having sex the one time, he became needy and basically begged to keep having sex (yes...he would text and call begging for "just one more night")
/r/seduction08/02/20 10:56 PM
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Amen!!!!! Thank you. Thing I've noticed a lot in this sub is that it is always the guys who either have never really dated at all or who rarely get female attention...they are the ones that get bitter and downright angry when a girl doesnt text back in 2hrs...so they lash out?! Forgetting that shit makes them look crazy as Hell, and that girls talk to each other a lot and share "crazy" guy stories...🤦‍♀️ And as a girl, let me cosign what the other comment said - about how sometimes we will ghost…
/r/seduction08/02/20 08:07 PM
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Girl here... IF you were DTMing (doing too much) on a date, first impressions mean everything! Then you basically already ruined things and there is nothing you can do or say to change that! It will make you look crazy if you are ultra emotional and pushy on the date, then the next day...or next week...you try to suddenly act tough and alpha. Nope! If you were acting this way around coworkers, friends, classmates...it wont be easy to change their perception of you, but because you are basically …
/r/seduction08/02/20 08:05 PM
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Like I said...she doesn't OWE him shit. And if some weird guy randomly asks to be her Valentine, she has every right to say fuck off - but she didn't. She was honest and direct. Guys always complain about not knowing why they were rejected and wanting feedback - this girl GAVE IT to him. And here you are saying she did that the wrong way?! Smh 🙄 Now...back to YOU! How much exp do you actually have dating/approaching girls??? Because it really doesnt sound like much. And the subs your post histor…
/r/seduction08/02/20 03:43 PM
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Dude...what is going on? Why are you trolling/spamming the sub with constant posts in a matter of 2hrs???? That's crazy as Hell man... MODS ???? https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/f0t0ya/youre_a_guy_what_are_the_best_waysactions_you_can/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/f0sl9s/if_you_got_into_a_conversation_about_how_she/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/f0rvsc/what_phrases_do_you_like_…
/r/seduction08/02/20 03:40 PM
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Rude??? Um...either you are entitled OR you have no exp with girls (which your response comes across that way). She has every right to turn him down, and she was honest about it too "I dont know you". If THAT is rude to you...heaven help you when a girl tells you no...🤦‍♀️. It has nothing to do with HER being used to guys approaching...it has everything to do with OP not knowing what he is doing and making her uncomfortable
/r/seduction08/02/20 03:30 PM
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I try to stay away from DMs...no offense. Too many guys end up being asshats when they DM me and try to ask me for advice 1st, then they ask me out...they flip when they get rejected...so I try not to use it. But I did read what you wrote, and I get the situation. But it seems like she may be embarrassed of her health issues and so she is trying to keep her distance romantically. Which is fine - thus why she has said she JUST wants to be friends. Dont push it. Respect her wishes...and either be …
/r/seduction08/02/20 11:42 AM
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You can tell dude has been rejected his entire life...🤦‍♀️
/r/seduction08/02/20 10:56 AM
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🤮 that was some really bad flirting dude...you suggested being together but yall havent even exchanged numbers????? That's really kinda weird. Are you chatting on some hookup site? Escort site? I mean...how do you NOT have her number?
/r/seduction08/02/20 10:55 AM
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She didnt ask you to be her fwb...she asked you to be her friend. Her being nervous (in your eyes) was most likely her being UNCOMFORTABLE at the awkward situation. Guys forget that when you all make these "confessions" out of the blue, it changes the entire dynamic! It catches a girl off guard...and things get awkward. She was clear about what she doesnt want...so I'd just leave her be. If you can stand being her friend, cool. But dont expect anything more than that.
/r/seduction08/02/20 10:52 AM
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FyI...your personality is bangin!! Seriously. I can see girls giving you a date solely on that sense of humor you have. Very cool!
/r/seduction07/02/20 09:22 PM
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Creep on man...creep on! Lol
/r/seduction07/02/20 09:15 PM
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am however, short, Arab, sound like a kid and have a smile of a goat. 😳 oh my...
/r/seduction07/02/20 08:59 PM
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US...and most girls arent over 5'5" (avg height) - then there is ME. Lol. Do you have a chance? Hahaha...I mean, if you are in the US, hot, and not a creeper - I guess so!?! 🤷‍♀️
/r/seduction07/02/20 08:56 PM
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I dont want to be mean...but what do you LOOK LIKE? I ask because no matter how hard you try, if you arent taking care of yourself, girls wont respond positively at all. Also...if your approach is awkward (basically if you lack exp) then girls will be turned off.
/r/seduction07/02/20 08:46 PM
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I dont have a hard time finding guys my height or taller. Typically I seem to attract the 6'2" - 6'5" range, and I'm ok with that. I can wear my heels and the guy is till taller them me. Being specific I am 5'10.5", so I'd date a guy the same height as me without a prob!
/r/seduction07/02/20 08:43 PM
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I'm almost 6ft...which for a girl is pretty tall! And yes, for me height is a dealbreaker. A tall guy is my preference.
/r/seduction07/02/20 08:26 PM
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tomorrow I plan to write up my number on a piece of paper and hand it out to them if they EVER 'Reconsider'. Omg...noooo. Dont do that. Dude, that is SO socially awkward and just weird. Have some self respect and dont do this
/r/seduction07/02/20 08:22 PM
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Hell no! Gotta keep it real here...in school, it was always the weird kid who was clueless that would ask random girls to be his Valentine? And everyone would laugh at him because he never "got it". Vday is for couples really...dating, sexing, married, etc. Not just for MEETING someone and asking them out.
/r/seduction07/02/20 06:56 PM
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Please. Seek professional help...therapist, social worker, something. Cause THIS sounds like the ramblings of someone on drugs, intellectually disabled, or mentally ill. Fyi...in being sincere here. Nobody knows wtf you posted, dude.
/r/seduction07/02/20 06:53 PM
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I ALWAYS ask a guy how tall he is before meeting him...solely because I am tall, and typically am attracted to tall guys. If you are short, be honest...she is going to see it anyhow. Better for her to walk in knowing what she will see, then catching her off guard and making ot awkward
/r/seduction07/02/20 06:51 PM
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Um...yeah that's a hard NO! 🤦‍♀️. It is ultra awkward to have a stranger walk up to you and ask if you will be their Valentine?! Come on dude.
/r/seduction07/02/20 06:48 PM
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This is where the issue comes in with understanding social cues, body language, and READING THE ROOM! There was no contradiction- most people understand there is a middle area between being too fidgety and planting themselves still...that to me, is common sense. But I realize those with little to know exp may not "get it"...and that's what makes this shit so hard to teach/explain! Because there is always a balance...and a guy that doesnt get that is typically the one who get called creepy, or he…
/r/seduction06/02/20 12:29 PM
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but they look you in the eyes a little too long and don't move a lot while talking to you, and are unpredictable, will this make you stay away? Hell yeah!!!!! That kinda behavior is "creepy". Let me explain: a while back this guy at my job came to talk to me. I was new, so I didnt know him or his mannerisms. He literally stands in front of me at my desk, hands at his sides - stiff like a robot. And I swear he had this piercing stare like he could see through my skin and was counting each vertebr…
/r/seduction06/02/20 12:15 PM
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As long as you can act normal enough not to seem like you have a mental illness, and at best just seem a bit eccentric and unpredictable, it's fucking weird dude, but it actually works. You nailed it here...and unfortunately that is where a lot of guys fail! "Act normal enough" SEEMS like it would be common sense, but to a guy with no exp, never got much attention, and no one to show him the ropes - acting normal could be the one thing he doesnt do! And that simple act turns girls off immediatel…
/r/seduction06/02/20 11:59 AM
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If the girl admits the feelings arent mutual, and the guy tells her (or just decides) he needs to take a step back - THAT is the most respectable thing he can do!!! It shows he isnt trying to pressure her, and it honors his own feelings.
/r/seduction06/02/20 11:49 AM
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It is GREAT when there is mutual interest and a "relationship" has been established...never before that! It looks crazy desperate when a guy just starts spilling his feelings too early, and it can make things awkward when the girl doesnt feel the same
/r/seduction06/02/20 05:38 AM
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Opening their mouths and speaking - 😂😂😂😂 Being real though, when a guy doesnt escalate in a reasonable amount of time, the girl begins to think he isnt into her "that way" and so it melts more into a friendship then a date/relationship. And I joke, but there have been times when a guy seemed perfect, and in my head I was like "I'm gonna give him some...", but then he says something absolutely stupid, or he acts creepy and desperate, and it becomes an instant turnoff!
/r/seduction05/02/20 12:09 PM
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It isnt the pickup lines dude...it is how you LOOK. The whole "ONS" thing is huge for girls when on vacation...kinda like "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" type mentality. BUT - it is all about carnal attraction. If she likes your look...you have an IN. If she doesnt, no pickup line can change that
/r/seduction05/02/20 07:18 AM
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Gonna disagree again. I'm sorry...but if someone is unattractive, or just creepy - no amount of colorful clothing can change that. It doesnt make people more willing to talk to them either. Unfortunately this all comes down to physical looks!
/r/seduction04/02/20 11:12 PM
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Edit: Also, what is meant by "relating" is it being able to "put yourself in someone else's shoes" or something else? By "relating" I mean socially being able to relate to others, build rapport, form close bonds and friendships, and crossing that over into relationships.
/r/seduction04/02/20 03:54 PM
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The vast majority of men are content with a small number of relationships in their lifetime and never achieve mastery of seduction. They don't feel enough compulsion to chase women to actually get good at it and they settle for mostly being in LTRs. You are correct. MOST men arent and dont have to - chase women, in order to improve. But that wasnt the OPs question - he asked WHY there are more lonely men then women? I took that to mean he was asking about those guys who maybe dont get any attent…
/r/seduction04/02/20 03:55 AM
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Wearing colorful clothing is known to add some confidence. BUT...just wearing colors doesnt necessarily make someone more "attractive" - so that isnt really true. It may make them feel more attractive...but doesnt mean others agree when looking at them.
/r/seduction04/02/20 03:25 AM
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I made a comment about when are we going to start texting (during a flirty conversation)... she said we can just chat at the gym. She clearly (but was nice about it) - blew you off. That is a sign that she isnt interested at all... It seems she likes talking to me and she's stated that I make her day better whenever I come into the gym. She was being nice. Her JOB involves being nice to people...as works at a gym. If a guy keeps flirting with her, she has to be open but stay professional - or th…
/r/seduction04/02/20 03:22 AM
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In this decade, there are more women who have college educations, high paying jobs, and can afford to be "picky" about when and whom they marry/have kids with. The days of needing a husband are long over with, leaving a lot of the scales uneven because a man who previously would be great (on paper), a woman may now decide he isnt what she wants or needs in order to have a comfortable future. And AGE has a lot to do with it...these women are getting their "shit together" in their early to mid 20s…
/r/seduction04/02/20 03:15 AM
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I didnt want to say it...but you basically told the truth!!!
/r/seduction03/02/20 06:44 PM
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Matches doesnt mean INTEREST. It is simply a split-second choice, that's all. And each woman (and man) has the right and the freedom to hack over those matches and make decisions: do I want to talk to him, let me look at his pics, did his message come across as creepy or weird - uh...I'm gonna pass. NOTHING wrong with that either. There is no magic pickup line, there is no special opener that will get women to want to talk to you. The real magic is in not getting bent up over them not responding…
/r/seduction03/02/20 06:38 PM
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I'm being honest as Hell...a prepared script makes someone sound SO unnatural! The saddest part is, to me and you, a script is corny and makes someone sound robotic. But I have a friend that is autistic with flat effect (robotic voice) and this dudes entire conversation wheel is nothing but "scripts"...how he starts a convo, all the way to how he continues it - scripted opening, scripted questions, etc.. natural convos aren't 2nd nature to him. So I "get it" - I do. But it just doesnt work well.
/r/seduction03/02/20 06:08 PM
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It isnt really about the PLACE - as much as it is about YOU! I see so many post about "where can I meet girls"..."where can I find a girl to have sex" a and these same guys are in school or college where there are SO many opportunities that it isnt even funny. Girls are right there!!! Thing is...if these girls arent giving you attention, then you need to figure out why not?! What about YOU isnt drawing them in? What can you change or try differently?
/r/seduction03/02/20 01:13 PM
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What really sounds robotic is when someones tone of voice is flat...like no emotion, no excitement, they just sound like a robot talking to you. Not saying you have to go to the opposite size and be all sale pitch and overly excited...but SOMETHING has to catch her attention.
/r/seduction03/02/20 10:00 AM
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That was literally the BEST illustration!
/r/seduction03/02/20 09:55 AM
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Like I said...Google how to measure your penis. That tells you everything! 😉
/r/seduction03/02/20 09:54 AM
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There is no RULE that you have to buy a drink just because you go out and meet for a "drink". There are always alternatives (soda, tonic water, fruit juice, mocktails). I dont like coffee...but if I'm invited to meet for coffee and I'm interested, I'll go! So say YES to going out!!!!
/r/seduction01/02/20 10:55 PM
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I mean...if that is all the attention you are getting, why not go for it? Lol. But for real, I looked at your post history and saw a pic you posted in another sub. With all due respect, there are some things that you may want to consider improving in order to get the attention you desire. Just dressing in nice clothes and planting yourself somewhere to be seen (that can look kinda creepy)...wont get you want you want. A bit more work may be needed. Ok? Do you have hobbies? What about working out…
/r/seduction01/02/20 09:27 PM
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May I be honest? You kinda sound predatory... 👎👇 These girls are eager to cheat under the right circumstance. This girl is incredibly immature and childish..likes Disney, speaks like a teenage girl who never grew up. Probably very insecure in real life (thus a lot more vulnerable). Some of us are willing to win a Darwinian award to taste the forbidden fruit. Also...if you really are so "well versed" in game...eye contact...and whatnot - why do you need help with this girl????? Unclear on that po…
/r/seduction01/02/20 09:23 PM
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You look more like an artsy person" or whatever. I wouldnt say that...she could take that as offensive - in that it seems like you are saying she isnt smart enough to be studying physics.
/r/seduction01/02/20 09:19 PM
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Well, it does hurt my feelings a little bit when you say you'll pass, to be honest. But I need to express that as it will help me interact better if I express myself. It is good to express yourself. But those expressions need to be appropriate and fit the situation. You seem to be soliciting your YT channel hard - mentioning it in every response here, and honestly...if someone isnt interested in subscribing, why does that hurt your feelings? Why do you take that personally??? Being transparent -…
/r/seduction01/02/20 04:07 PM
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But there are a lot of posts on this forum and others (and videos on YouTube) that avoiding talking to women makes as a man makes you a "pussy" for not talking to them. Not ever approaching girls is a weak move...but making approaches badly is just as bad. You have to learn NOT to take everything so literal and adding context to things you see/hear. Because there always is context. So if the chick is uncomfortable, then what do I do? Should I try to save the interaction, or just leave? It's so h…
/r/seduction01/02/20 01:30 PM
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You have to provide more context...because to someone with avg exp with girls - being told "no" may be acceptable and they move the hell on with their lives. But someone who typically gets no attention from.girls may take that same "no" as crushing rejection and let it mess them up. SO...can you at least explain what happened?
/r/seduction01/02/20 01:00 PM
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I'm trying to be as constructive as possible...but if it doesnt come across that way - I apologize. So here it is dude: that was very cringey. Rolling up on a bike to an unsuspecting girl is strike #1...your initial starting line to them was strike #2...and you physically stop in front of them/blocking their way (which can be perceived as a threat and creepy) - and I'm speaking as a girl! Those girls in the videos look truly uncomfortable. I congratulate you on trying, and encourage you to keep …
/r/seduction01/02/20 12:42 PM
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I have a lot of questions before even offering advice: for your height, do you workout or are you overweight? What is your personality type - are you outgoing, funny, or shy/anxious and reserved? How does your aspergers affect you socially - is it basically unnoticeable or do you have a lot of trouble relating to others, maybe sensory issues, noticeable stimming and anxiety, etc?
/r/seduction01/02/20 07:35 AM
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Damage control is only for things where there is the opportunity of a comeback - in this case there isnt...I'm sorry. You admit you were posting some pretty depressing and suicidal messages - that alone would leave the impression that there are some mental health issues (deep ones). Outside of your close friends and family...that would make any girl take a step back (esp if you arent close to her). Your decision to go public, although noble, does have a consequence - you have to understand that.…
/r/seduction01/02/20 07:27 AM
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Do you know her? Have you all spoken before? How old are you both? You havent given any context here. I ask because it could be awkward to have a guy ask you out on your first date and to be his "Valentine" may be a bit much...
/r/seduction01/02/20 06:55 AM
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Anyway, this post was more for me than for others, so I could make my own thoughts and knowledge more clear. This sub is already dead anyway. ...and yet - here you ARE (in a "dead" sub trying to give advice)?! 🤦‍♀️
/r/seduction01/02/20 06:46 AM
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I understand there are other chicks in the world and I’d totally move on, I just feel like I have a shot here. What should I do? ...then please, move on. Not sure what about her ignoring your DMs makes you think you have a shot - but if she isnt responding - she isnt interested. Spend your time finding someone that is.
/r/seduction31/01/20 10:58 PM
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I just looked...holy shit!!!! 😳
/r/seduction31/01/20 10:17 PM
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I try to help in this sub (and I'm a female). If you need help girl...just ask! 😉
/r/seduction31/01/20 09:23 PM
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What kind of nerdy scientific breakdown is that??? Let me tell you WE (girls) will friendzone a guy - flat out, because we dont want to f*ck him. No offense, but he doesnt turn us on...get us wet...make us wanna take his clothes off. Sometime it is because he is too much of a passive type guy, sometimes it is because he fits us emotionally and mentally but that's it, sometimes it is because we just dont find him attractive physically but we like hanging with him because he is a good LISTENER or …
/r/seduction31/01/20 09:18 PM
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It has more to do with your size really, when picking condoms. Google condom sizes and measure your peen when erect. Then buy what is suggested! If you buy too small it will hurt and be too tight (or worse break, tear, etc.) And if you buy too big, well, you will embarrass yourself! Go to Walmart and just look at the brands.
/r/seduction29/01/20 11:27 AM
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What? 🥴.
/r/seduction29/01/20 10:35 AM
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yet you can see they likely like to have fun if you check her mating strategy boxes and arrange logistics seamlessly What???????????? Are you describing a woman or a science project?! 🤷‍♀️
/r/seduction29/01/20 10:23 AM
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Are you on the autism spectrum (a developmental disorder)...is that what you mean by "it was developed - cannot affect development"? No offense but even your trying to justify your stance here - comes across immature. In your 20s you can have a 20s mentality. In your late 30s, a 20s mentality just ain't cute. You have to understand that. The only way at 18 I'd date a man almost 40 is if he showered me with gifts or money...sugar daddy type - let's keep it real. And trauma is a reason - but NEVER…
/r/seduction28/01/20 10:41 PM
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A grown ass man actively looking to date teenagers/very young adults - has a sensitive ego, insecurity issues, some control issues, and is looking for validation. That mentality is immature...so yeah people will have a lot to say about an adult wanting someone very young with no life experience.
/r/seduction28/01/20 05:15 PM
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Read their body language...if she is still talking to you but NOT looking you in the eye - she may just be shy. If she isnt making eye contact and is focused on her phone, or doesnt really respond to you (talk) hardly at all - she isnt interested.
/r/seduction28/01/20 01:26 PM
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Real reason you need to go to therapy is so you don't end up a complete bitter misogynyst or incel like Elliot Rodger and go on a shootingspree. Omg!!!! Yes...I was trying to remember the name of that creeper guy who killed girls who rejected him and didnt like him. That's exactly how the OPs post sound like.
/r/seduction28/01/20 12:10 PM
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I need someone to give practical advice on how to have sex with a girl within 24 hours of meeting her. I’m tired of being led on I just want to have sex. It’s destroying me. cold approached a lot of girls but some ignored me the rest rejected idk I die inside when I see guys with girls smiling and it makes me very, very, angry. I need advice on how to fake being human and manipulate her into fucking me. I All of this...ALL. OF. IT....is why you cant get laid. I'm gonna be as blunt as possible fr…
/r/seduction28/01/20 12:06 PM
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Same advice you got 19d ago...hasnt changed. Did you actually TRY to follow any of it? https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/em2aul/solo_options_for_over_30_guys_outside_of_old/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/seduction28/01/20 07:29 AM
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If you are already friendzoned...NO LINE is going to change that. Being friendzoned means she doesnt look at your sexually - she isnt interested in you romantically. Nothing clever you say will suddenly make her look at you and want to RIP your clothes off
/r/seduction28/01/20 07:27 AM
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Being a Gentleman is simply being respectful - that's it. It isnt some rare thing, it isnt some new idea or procedure...so I think people act like it is a skill set that has to be taught or whatever. Just be nice. Hold the door open for her, say please and thank you, dont be aggressive. Be a decent human being...😉
/r/seduction26/01/20 01:57 PM
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JUST had this happen yesterday at the grocery store! One guy did it the right way - the other creeped me out. Right Way: guy walked over to me, said he noticed me and just wanted to say that I was pretty...and he didn't want to scare me by being weird. He introduced himself, extended his hand, and I thanked him (while smiling) and he gave me his business card - as I walked away. Wrong Way: another guy (when I went to Walmart) kept popping up in EVERY SINGLE AISLE I went in. I even purposely woul…
/r/seduction26/01/20 01:34 PM
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Due to being hurt too many times and in combination with not needing others to feel good and satisfied anymore, in combination with autism, I don't even care about people in general unless I can really connect with them. This takes time, and I don't know if I can feel for the person the same way they feel about me, until much longer in to a relationship. Honestly - tell her this (only if you really like her and want to pursue something with her and def NOT verbatim). The fact she is so into you …
/r/seduction26/01/20 01:12 PM
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I consider myself well traveled, I like sports, I have a solid group of friends - so I have plenty topics to talk about. If the guy doesnt have anything to contribute, then I usually view that as him not being into what I am, shy, or he is socially kinda off...and when the convo is boring or too quiet, I tend to bring it up at the end as the reason why I wont see then again.
/r/seduction26/01/20 12:18 PM
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Work with a therapist. No offense to you, but your post history alone is really a repeat of this same post in tons of subs - asking for people to just TALK to you or meetup with you. The worst part is that you demean yourself over and over ("I'm socially inept...I'm socially retarded...I have no friends - wont you chat with me"). That doesnt make you endearing man, that is a turnoff to others sometimes - because it signals someone who doesnt like themselves very much or is desperate and potentia…
/r/seduction26/01/20 10:33 AM
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Really puts into perspective how trash 99% of women are. ...and yet, here you are in a sub all about how to seduce women, hookup with them, approach them, and have sex with them. So does that make you trash TOO or just a lover of trash?
/r/seduction26/01/20 10:20 AM
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As a girl, the only times I've found a convo to be boring on a date were when the guy either barely spoke and would chime in with some random ass question then go right back to picking at his food quietly, OR the guy was a complete chatterbox and just kept talking about things no one would be "into" on a first date. For ex: one guy talked nonstop how unlucky in love he was, how he always got ghosted, and how he usually gets rejected a lot. That was such a turnoff that at the end of the date I to…
/r/seduction26/01/20 10:17 AM
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She continues to say NO or have an excuse not to go back to your place...clear sign she isnt into you
/r/seduction26/01/20 12:52 AM
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pickup for noobs also has to include the concept of respecting personal space I feel like a lot of the advice on cold approaches SKIPS this part - and that is when guys come back this sub complaining about being rejected. I mean, women are human beings too! Guys like personal space, so do women. Being conscious OF that space is what makes the difference...and that should be included in all pickup techniques
/r/seduction25/01/20 07:49 PM
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I think you misunderstood me: I'm not saying every girl should react positively. I'm saying that if you are polite and chill, there's no reason to walk away feeling bad or ashamed if she isn't interested or acts irritated. And my point was that girls that are socially capable are far less likely to get annoyed than ones that are socially inept. That's not to say that people don't have shit going on in their lives when you approach them that also causes them to react negatively. I just...noooo du…
/r/seduction25/01/20 07:32 PM
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Amen!!!! I dont know why this is so hard to accept or understand. Sometimes we put the headphones in ON PURPOSE...🙋‍♀️. If some of these guys would not be so "one track minded" and actually pay attention to the situation AND her body language - this wouldnt even be a topic.
/r/seduction25/01/20 07:18 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ebw6cy/how_do_you_actually_improve_your_personality/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share You got a LOT of good advice here. Did you apply ANY of it..in that you are back a month later, asking the same thing?
/r/seduction25/01/20 06:41 PM
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Where in the hell did you get your advice from? Omg...🤦‍♀️ A lot of people are on their phones because they're either addicted or they aren't comfortable just being present, so they hide in their phone. Um...that explanation alone makes YOU sound a bit awkward! Dude, people walk with their phones because it helps calm them, some may be working, listening to audible books for their fav music, hell. If you feel girls use their phones to hide...it most likely is the case with just you - but not in …
/r/seduction25/01/20 06:33 PM
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If you get him alone at some point...flirt HEAVILY with him@ touch him...smile...position yourself in his line of site. But if it doesnt happen that way. It in no way reflects your self worth girl - just do you.
/r/seduction25/01/20 03:01 PM
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So...a girl wanting to sleep naked next to a guy is USUALLY a clear sign she is interested in sex! Now if I'm naked and the guy next to doesnt bother doing the same - it will be a turnoff. To me as a girl, if a man resists me being naked right next to him...he is either not into me or not into girls (I'm going to assume this...). So look at it that way. Now...you then wake up and just wanna kiss me and try to touch my boob (which is kinda high school'ish - esp after spending the entire nite toge…
/r/seduction25/01/20 11:39 AM
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You said he called you after your first time to ask if you were ok. Did he call your room# or your personal phone? If he called your personal...there is no reason he cant make his intentions known by texting or calling you again. As for hooking up again, I'm not going to lie...that one time sounded like simply "drunk sex". And a lot of people tend to regret or feel awkward about it the next day...enough that they dont pursue it again. I've hooked up with a client of mine in the past - he ALWAYS …
/r/seduction25/01/20 10:31 AM
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I keep walking for about 2-3 more seconds (to build anticipation), I stop walking, gently grab her hand or arm, turn her towards me and go in for the kiss. Spontaneity makes that first kiss so hot!!! I had one guy do this (what you did)...and it has been a couple years ago, and I still remember THAT kiss! The whole moment was sexy, and I love this technique.
/r/seduction25/01/20 03:26 AM
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Before you cross over I to creeper territory - please...leave this girl alone. You expressed interest, she declined, now move on. You guys HAVE to understand - when you try to cross that line from just a buddy or an acquaintance- to lover/bf - and we decline, that means a HARD STOP. That shit makes a girl uncomfortable because now we dont know how to "take you"...and it can be awkward as Hell. To keep texting and expecting a response is playing yourself...
/r/seduction24/01/20 02:56 PM
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This was the most self aware and honest comment I've read in awhile! Hats off to you man...this was good.
/r/seduction24/01/20 11:55 AM
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Dude...everything about that madeup story proves you need to work on your story telling skills AND reading social cues (going up and randomly trying to kiss a woman? Following her around?) - cause all you described sounds creepy, I'm sorry. 🤦‍♀️
/r/seduction24/01/20 10:42 AM
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The question is.....what do YOU look like? This isnt a matchmaking, "if you want redheads go to....", point you in her direction - type sub, man!
/r/seduction24/01/20 10:35 AM
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There is something in your approach that turns these girls off - the key is to find out what that is! Do you cold approach? Are you already socially awkward and maybe not know how to talk to them...so you say random things (which can be seen as kinda weird)? Your body language...does it come across as being kinda mousey, overly shy, not confident? Are you just walking up to girls and asking them out or are you at least trying to build rapport first...maybe make them laugh or chat a bit? If girls…
/r/seduction24/01/20 10:26 AM
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Then asked her 2-3 times out she said she had personal reason. Spoke to her how i felt when we met ( good ) . She said still i have a reasons. Now she ignoring me. Desperation sometimes leads guys to become creepy, scary, or just unstable. The fact you kept asking her out after she already has been avoiding you by giving you reasons why she turns you down...may have made her a bit scared. I know guys dont get this - but girls try to avoid confrontation. A guy who keeps asking us out even when we…
/r/seduction24/01/20 05:03 AM
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How old are you, hon?
/r/seduction23/01/20 06:47 AM
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The fact you were chatting, means she was at the very least 'interested'. So I believe she was being silly and sarcastic...and not being serious. If she continues to chat with you - then you know it was a joke of sorts. If she avoids chatting...then there is your sign.
/r/seduction22/01/20 11:18 PM
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The OP is a "regular" here in r/seduction...just check his post history. Same sob story, every single time...been going on for over a year.
/r/seduction22/01/20 07:44 AM
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Why not just CALL her and talk to her? All the texting seems to not be getting you anywhere...so in this situation, pick up the phone. She has given you her number 2x now AND you said she confessed her feelings. This woman even invited you to spend time with her....so SHE has literally done all the pursuing, and you are still crawling along at a snail's pace, and claim.to be confused???? Dude...come on man...make a move. Call her, try to have a normal convo, and make plans to meetup - if that is…
/r/seduction21/01/20 11:07 AM
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Liked her for a long time and finally escaped the friendzone (I think?). Have to ask...what makes you think you are coming out of the friendzone? Like...did yall discuss changing your dynamic or not? Does SHE know this is a "date" or is she under the perception you 2 are just going out to eat?
/r/seduction20/01/20 11:29 AM
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Please do not EVER do this. It is awkward and will make her uncomfortable...enough that she likely wont even answer truthfully (let alone at all). It puts her on the spot, and that isnt cool. It would be the equivalent of asking a girl if your d*ck is too small or something - it is a sensitive question that has the chance of making the guy flip out if he doesnt like the answer.
/r/seduction17/01/20 03:13 AM
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And when you get rejected harshly (slapped...cussed out...get your ass kicked...or flat out ignored) - please come back and share your experience! We all would ❤ to hear it!
/r/seduction16/01/20 07:02 PM
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She basically avoided hanging with you 2x...she isnt interested.
/r/seduction16/01/20 06:12 PM
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It isnt JUST a lack of a college degree, it is also their employment and independence that counts also. I DONT expect a woman who is working on her MBA of PhD, works FT, owns a beautiful home, and has her shit together to go searching for a man who barely graduated high school, lives with his mom, works a minimum wage job - and has for 5yrs (aka made a career out of it). That isnt fair really. I personally have dated a tradesman who made more than I do (and I have a college degree - he doesnt). …
/r/seduction16/01/20 09:38 AM
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Instead of a goal to approach 100 women, try a goal to have more meaningful conversations with people. No expectations other than a conversation. Doesn't matter the gender. That is the ONLY advice these guys need when it comes to us girls. Stop with the numbers...I need 20 approaches today...I need 100 approaches this month - because it keeps that number in the forefront of your mind, and you will lose genuineness in order to reach that number. Like say in that Walgreens there were 5 girls, and …
/r/seduction16/01/20 09:33 AM
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I struggle with some emotional and mental and neurological issues Not gonna lie...you have a lot going on there. So I would focus on getting all of that under control first - and balance it with joining clubs or groups of your fav things to do. Some homeschooled kids still participate in athletics in their district - consider that too. Volunteer in your spare time at events (where there will be other people around). Anything to stay active, get out of the house, and give you an opp to work on yo…
/r/seduction16/01/20 09:23 AM
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So...now I'm not even questioning her mental health, I am questioning YOURS. Only someone with low self esteem, insecurity, or extreme lonliness would knowingly sign up to be with an unregulated (no meds and no therapy) seriously mentally Ill person. I'm sorry. Is this your first crush or something? Have you had exp dating before? This isnt fighting hon...this is YOU offering to be a living sacrifice, because the fight would only be one sided. You will walk on eggshells, trying hard not to upset…
/r/seduction16/01/20 09:12 AM
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There is no advice. You are KNOWINGLY walking into a situation with a mentally Ill individual that doesnt think she needs help (and trust me - if she legit has BPD, she does need professional help). All I can say is good luck.
/r/seduction15/01/20 10:48 PM
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Whoa! I was all about to give you practical advice...UNTIL Inread the whole BPD aspect. I dont want to offend anyone, so I will be careful with what I say - be very very careful and THINK about this, research it heavily, and then make an educated decision. I say that because BPD is tough...it is one of the worst mental illnesses to treat, and unless this girl is actively getting treatment, you are signing up for a major drama and emotion filled train ride. I'm sorry. Everyone deserves love, yes,…
/r/seduction15/01/20 05:58 PM
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Could it just be because you were hurt in the past and basically 'shut down' emotionally? Maybe you are depressed and need to seek help? What about sensory issues, autism, even asexual? Lastly...were you raised ultra religious? A lot of stigma attached to sex can mess people up...
/r/seduction15/01/20 05:51 PM
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Attention Before responding to this OP, check his post history. Many...many...MANY people in this sub have responded and given advice to this OP one too many times for the same issue for over a year. He keeps coming back to r/seduction, never taking anyones advice, and posting the same negativity over and over - like a broken record. 🤦‍♀️
/r/seduction15/01/20 10:54 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/enjgsq/how_do_you_prevent_girls_from_ghosting_you/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share There ya go! ☝️
/r/seduction14/01/20 05:17 PM
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THIS us exactly why dude get ghosted...his attitude is piss poor and rotten (aka - Incel) https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/enjgsq/how_do_you_prevent_girls_from_ghosting_you/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/seduction14/01/20 05:15 PM
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She's just not that into you I dont know WHY that is so hard for people to "get" and accept.
/r/seduction14/01/20 05:13 PM
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M : Be careful haha. Looks like you need help drinking it. F : No I don't wanna share it bcz it makes me feel better bcz I'm stressed those days blablabla/uninteresting. It didnt go over her head...you hinted at her sharing - she declined sharing. She heard you, but doesnt seem to want to invite you over. If you wanna be sure - tell her you had a bad day and could use a glass of some of that "wine" she got...see what she says?
/r/seduction13/01/20 10:31 AM
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So instead of looking at his situation, being happy for him, and thinking to yourself "if he can do it - I can do it too"....YOU wanna dim his shine and get butt hurt that because YOU havent had any sexual experience - that no one ELSE should talk about theirs? No one should share their success because YOUR fragile ego cant take it? Being happy for his success is "demoralizing"??? 🙄. Do you say the same to all the guys who were dateless and finally get a date and post here too??? This isnt his p…
/r/seduction13/01/20 08:51 AM
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As a girl...I will be as transparent as possible as to WHY we (girls) sometimes will ghost a guy: There is a lack of interest OR the level of interest changes - we will talk to a guy and over the phone (aka on "paper") he sounds awesome. His pics are cute, we have a good rapport online...yet as time goes on, he says something off, or he contacts us WAY too much and it freaks us out because we can tell he is way too anxious. So we ghost. There wasnt really an agreed upon "date". The guy randomly …
/r/seduction12/01/20 12:13 PM
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I like being asked directly what I'm into sexually....but NOT too soon (aka - never ever the first date). Typically this kinda convo is had after you already had sex once - THEN it isnt so awkward and blunt. I've been known to ask the guy "so what is your sexual style" and letting the convo go from there
/r/seduction11/01/20 12:35 PM
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Do you typically have issue reading social cues and body language? Because if that IS the case...then some books and vids may help.
/r/seduction10/01/20 07:45 PM
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As a girl...I canf say "yes" or "no" without seeing a picture, BUT, I will say that you may look unapproachable to girls, or maybe your have an uncomfortable vibe you put out (kinda like a needy vibe). I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, but if you dont get ANY attention at all - it could be your looks.
/r/seduction10/01/20 12:47 PM
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Are all these convos ONLY at work? Does he call your or text you after work hours - for personal reasons? Has he ever asked YOU out, hit on you, or tried to be alone with you - after work? I'm asking because there is such a thing as a "work husband" (it is a joking term)...usually a guy we are close to, he looks out for us, we hang out and chat AT WORK. But that's it. Sometimes the "work husband" may have a crush on his work wife, but he will make moves then...your boss doesnt seem to be doing t…
/r/seduction10/01/20 08:48 AM
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Let me tell you something - WE (women) dont change our minds very often about having sex with a guy we are INTO! Trust me. If we really like the guy and are genuinely sexually attracted to him - we are going to f*ck him - hotel or no hotel. So I'm sorry, but this woman didnt "change her mind"...she had no real intentions of having sex with you at all, because she isnt into you that way! What you described here in your post is a FRIENDSHIP...nothing more. She understands that - YOU dont seem to g…
/r/seduction08/01/20 01:06 PM
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It all comes down to what people are attracted to. As a girl I am NOT into guys with long hair...the grunge Eddie Veder look went out in the 90s., and honestly the only dude that can pull it of is Jason Momoa (Aquaman)...but he also has the looks!!! I cant lie though, the whole man bun thing with a beard CAN be sexy - if done right (cleancut). I saw a guy at the grocery store yesterday, half balding, but had a man bun...he was very overweight, and the look was NOT hot at all. You could tell he w…
/r/seduction06/01/20 08:11 PM
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Is it wrong that I literally pictured ALL of this ☝️ after reading OPs post...lol
/r/seduction06/01/20 03:48 AM
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Being so overly focused on "beautiful women" surrounding you and your business - is recipe for disaster, definite rejection, hurt feelings, letdown, low self esteem, and did I say rejection???? How about focus on being the best YOU you can be and then using that confidence as leverage in attracting the best women you can get? Instead of having a one track mind...because if you arent attracting these "beautiful women" and being surrounded by them now, that says a lot honestly. Work on your priori…
/r/seduction05/01/20 09:54 PM
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This whole things sounds so....well...sad. OP, please write and post your fan fiction elsewhere, because it doesnt make you seem at all successful here in this sub. If anything, the way you are talking comes across like a guy who WISHES he had more attention then he actually gets.
/r/seduction05/01/20 08:20 PM
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Your comment post history ALONE speaks volumes...#thatisall 😊
/r/seduction05/01/20 04:27 PM
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I want to tell you guys how a SINGLE GUY (not with anyone) at the club looks...kinda suspect. I know, I know, a lot of advice says "dont let not having a group of friends prevent you from going out clubbing", BUT on the flip side, a guy just mulling around a club, drink in hand, by HIMSELF (no wingman, no buddy,no crew) can come across as a creeper - I'm sorry. He isnt dancing, he isnt talking anyone, he just aimlessly walks around the club sipping his drinks and staring...staring at this girl a…
/r/seduction05/01/20 02:38 PM
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Because you are young...I'm gonna try my best to spare you from being cringey. Ok? I don't know her private and I don't know what she's interest. Skip messaging her at all. Make an effort to actually SPEAK to her in person. I say that because high school is tough enough, and when someone is a bit socially awkward, kids can be cruel about it. Putting your interest in "writing" (fb msg) would be a big mistake - esp because you dont know her AND she could easily use what you write to make fun of yo…
/r/seduction05/01/20 02:32 PM
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If she continues to avoid meeting you = she isnt interested. Why keep holding out hope and asking her out? Respect yourself and move on
/r/seduction05/01/20 02:39 AM
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Yes and No. Sex can make or break a relationship, which is why it MATTERS who you have it with and what you want with them (or not). Why would you ASK a girl to have sex??? The quickest turnoff is when a guys asks for sex...🤷‍♀️. Read her body language, IOIs, flirting and lite touching, escalate that to kissing, and keep going. Her reaction to THAT is all the 'asking' you need. I've had sex with a guy I was on a first date with...and then I've waited to have sex with a guy till after the 5th dat…
/r/seduction04/01/20 07:45 PM
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Sometimes (MOST of the time) - a 'maybe' isnt her wasting the guys time...it is actually her letting him down softly without leaving room for confrontation, a nice guy attitude, or harassment. Unfortunately what happens is that the guys that cant/dont read body language, or cant "read between the lines" dont pickup on the girl really avoiding his advances, and then he feels (not always acurately) led on...
/r/seduction04/01/20 06:07 PM
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I’m honestly done trying to chase women this semester so I’m going to try to develop strong platonic relationships. Ok...I get you may be frustrated, but understand that you are setting yourself up for FRIENDZONE by only developing platonic relationships. Let me explain - us girls tend to have platonic relationships with guys we arent sexually attracted to, have no interest in dating, and dont want to be with. Those guys are good as FRIENDS (in our minds) and that's all. Is that truly what you w…
/r/seduction04/01/20 06:00 PM
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As a girl- I agree 100% with everything you said!
/r/seduction04/01/20 04:24 PM
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I deflowered a virgin guy last year, and the sweetie had a hard time not cumming quick as Hell - in about 10 secs. He bounced back quick each time (I remember us having sex 5x that first experience) - but he just couldnt hold it! So...we worked in his lasting: he got a fleshlight and practiced his strokes, breathing, pacing himself, he learned to distract himself, and his changing positions helps...we kept seeing each other every few months, and by the time we stopped seeing each other, he was u…
/r/seduction04/01/20 11:23 AM
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She has 360 degrees to look at, but laser focuses at me. Doesn't blink, doesn't smile, face made of stone. Not gonna lie...that woman sounds crazy. That kind of glare is NOT a compliment at all.
/r/seduction04/01/20 11:12 AM
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That was SO bad...
/r/seduction03/01/20 01:29 PM
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Girl here... Good eye contact can be a turnon...because it means he SEES me. Eyes and certain looks can be sexual, and sexy. Also when we are talking, it makes me feel like you are listening to me - and I take that seriously (esp since I work in the corp world and eye contact is VERY important). Now...let me clarify that good eye contact is good, but glaring is a no no. If eye contact isnt normal for you, practice looking at one eye for like 5 sec, blink, then look away, repeat. Or, look at the …
/r/seduction03/01/20 01:25 PM
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Awwww...how old are you? This is some cute high school crush stuff.
/r/seduction03/01/20 10:21 AM
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The only girls that get a shit ton of dms from dudes are usually girls that post thirst traps. That’s it. That is not true...and honestly, you sound bitter in a way with that statement. I dont have to post any ass shots, boobage, or thirst traps to get attention and I still get an obnoxious amount of DMs. A lot of guys are just as thirsty for attention, and will literally send some random DM when all I did was like their picture, or comment on the place they checked in. I've even gotten friend r…
/r/seduction03/01/20 10:15 AM
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Omg!!! All shortcell and forever alone posts 😳😳😳. I dont understand how guys who frequent those subs try to give OTHER guys dating advice?!?!
/r/seduction01/01/20 10:55 AM
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Social cues, body language, and self awareness go a LONG WAY. Creepy dudes are the ones that literally make us uncomfortable! They have this "skeevy" vibe to them, it can be because they dont make eye contact, or their pickup line is random as Hell ("do you like cantaloupes - I do"), they dont take NO for an answer, and they tend to not pickup on any facial expressions or behaviors that clearly show that the girl is not interested (she rolls her eyes, she turns her back to him, she ignores him, …
/r/seduction01/01/20 10:42 AM
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So...tall girl wasnt feeling the vibe, so she drug the other girl off with her. Possibly the other girl felt the same but didnt have the guts to speak up or be the first to roll. Honestly - there was nothing you couldve done. Only advice would be to read body language the best you can...did they look disinterested? Were they making faces? Rolling their eyes? Any negative sign you could pick up on...
/r/seduction01/01/20 10:38 AM
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Dancing near you doesnt mean they want to dance with you. And plenty of times, guys mistake a girl bumping into them while dancing - as her "trying to grind" on them, when it really isnt the case. I'm sorry but thats what your situation sounds like.
/r/seduction01/01/20 10:35 AM
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what if you have a great connection in person and are really close with them ? IF nothing flirtatious (in a sexual way) is happening, then that means you are just friends - nothing more If she doesnt respond to your calls/texts for days and/or the responses are very short... If she has an excuse or reason every time you try to ask her out... If she dates other guys, flirts with other guys, or openly talks about other guys... If she has never ever tried to kiss you, touch you sexually, or basical…
/r/seduction26/12/19 06:48 PM
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If I'm chatting with a guy for a week or more, and he doesn't ask me out - I'm going to fallback, because I'm going to think he really isnt into me. If you didnt ask this girl out...and kept sending snaps and whatever, she most likely moved on. SHE didnt do anything wrong - YOU are the one that confused her.
/r/seduction21/12/19 02:23 AM
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Ok...you really REALLY talk too much. If I didnt know any better I'd say you were talking yourself RIGHT into the friendzone! Why didnt you ask her out? Make a sexy joke? Ask her about HER? You just kept going on...and on...and on about your art and writing, and honestly, no one cares in the end. If you like her, make it known
/r/seduction20/12/19 05:20 AM
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Let me explain how as an girl, this "approach" comes across... You have little approach anxiety, Aka - lacks self awareness and literally approaches without any context, without reading body language or social cues. This makes the girl uncomfortable. you have no issue maintaining a relationship because you naturally "hold frame". Aka - laser stare at a girl and nervous/staunch body language. Can sometimes be seen as creepy...which again, can make the girl uncomfortable. I'm saying all of this, u…
/r/seduction19/12/19 04:56 AM
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Good luck with that method.
/r/seduction19/12/19 04:27 AM
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I dont see where she gave you mixed signals...(the first girl). She was being friendly, and maybe it wasnt clear to you because you wanted more. Thing is, you posted that you had "dates" with her - but did SHE know these were dates??? Did you actually SAY they were dates when you invited her out? Because if you didnt...then there were no real expectations set. And that could be where the ball was dropped - you never made your intentions known. The second girl...she is confused. I wouldnt bother …
/r/seduction14/12/19 11:24 AM
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A guy that is with other women is cool! Because he can get along with women, be comfortable. And that is attractive. And sometimes, just being honest, to us girls...seeing a guy with all women makes us think he MIGHT be gay.
/r/seduction14/12/19 09:40 AM
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I had ( and lost) a friend like YOU. This guy was my work buddy and he was hilarious!!! I mean, I loved hanging with him because we could joke around, laugh, make fun of stuff - all day. That crossed over into texting funny memes and stories, and then that rolled into us hanging out after work. We'd go to Happy Hours...and dinner...or hang out at my place and binge watch a TV show. Well - I liked this guy as a FRIEND, and I thought that was clear in that I never ever flirted with him, I never ma…
/r/seduction14/12/19 09:34 AM
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Honey...TOUCH HIM! It works everytime! Touch his hair, his face, his crotch - just something to give him a clue what you want from him. His reaction will be your sign how he feels
/r/seduction27/11/19 01:16 PM
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Where you are in your own mind is the kind of woman you will attract. If you are attracting the cringey types, it may help to look at your own criteria, methods, and where you go to meet girls. All of that lends to the type YOU are around
/r/seduction27/11/19 01:10 PM
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Upvoting this cause it just...makes...sense!
/r/seduction27/11/19 05:47 AM
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He is a national reporter who has a foundation and writes articles about his disability. She started out as his caregiver and ended up his gf....and she literalky has to do EVERYTHING for him (feed him, wipe his ass, change his clothes, etc). You cant help who you fall in love with, BUT, their relationship never made sense to me. Always assumed she had some deepseated "void" where she needs to be needed or something, or she has some mental issues. Thankfully, it doesn't have to - lol. Still, I c…
/r/seduction27/11/19 05:45 AM
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the way most men are prepared to think reflects not the real alpha mindset because that challenges the whole feminist mindset. Oh come off it dude! Seriously. Having an "alpha mindset" has absolutely nothing to do for/against feminists...?! This sounded like someone inexperienced that read a book and watched some vids, now thinks they are the expert on attraction. 🙄 Alpha is about being assertive - plain and simple. Be ASSERTIVE. Do it the right way, and your confidence shows. Do it the wrong wa…
/r/seduction27/11/19 03:12 AM
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But this girl told me smiling that she wasn't looking currently and really admired my honesty. She was being polite, turning you down, but also paid you a compliment! Sounds like she was sincere...👌
/r/seduction26/11/19 09:30 PM
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🤦‍♀️
/r/seduction21/11/19 04:29 PM
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Oh wow. It is almost a whole week. Well...just reach out one more time, ask how she is doing, and if she still wants to get together. Give her a specific plan (ex: "wanted to see if you wanna go for a pizza Fri night...") IF she doesnt respond after that - leave it alone.
/r/seduction21/11/19 03:35 PM
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How long since you havent heard from her?
/r/seduction21/11/19 03:30 PM
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That meant ahe was looking for drama...because THAT equals "fun" in her mind. But really, she isnt emotionally healthy. You dodged a bullet
/r/seduction21/11/19 02:49 PM
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Well...for the record, Im a girl - and Im posing these question to make guys THINK, about how they really would react to a girl being deadass honest If THAT is 'reactive' to you...well...then I guess we know where the problem may be?! 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️
/r/seduction21/11/19 02:05 PM
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I dont see how physically PROTECTING oneself by avoiding confrontation - is generalizing? It isnt a matter of saying all men are "x...y...z"
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:35 PM
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Im a girl...and yes, I have ghosted before. BUT the only times I did it were when the guy made me extremely uncomfortable or I felt unsafe.
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:29 PM
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So a lot have said that they WANT the girl to be honest - and that they welcome that. Ok cool...so here are a few scenarios: The girl tells you at the end of your date, when you suggest going out again, that she found you creepy and boring, and declines. Is that acceptable? You have sex with the girl. She goes home and you text her you had a nice time and wanna see her again soon. She responds that the sex was bad - and she is not interested in doing it again. Is that acceptable? You have been c…
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:28 PM
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WHY do you see it that way? Not everyone is gonna like you...
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:21 PM
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I love your attitude and perception!!!
/r/seduction21/11/19 12:30 PM
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Im a girl...😁
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:26 AM
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The purpose was to make people THINK and take note on their true reaction to rejection. There are plenty of posts in r/seduction where a guy is questioning why the girl doesnt respond, what it means, or those that consistently get ghosted and claim to not understand why...and so Im asking - how WOULD a guy really truly respond if a girl was brutally honest? If she kept it real (yet still rejected him) INSTEAD of ghosting? ...thats why 😉
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:24 AM
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They get into debates, get insulted, are stalked, etc.. THANK YOU for saying this - because it is EXACTLTY why a lot of women ghost. All it takes is one time rejecting a man, even using one of those lines in the meme, and having him go off on you: calling you a btch then telling you he never liked you anyways and you aint sht, having him follow you and berate you, show up at your job and just try to "talk about it" or beg for another chance - in front of all her coworkers, then get loud and name…
/r/seduction21/11/19 10:29 AM
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So you wouldnt get offended if a girl actually TOLD you what she didnt like about you?
/r/seduction21/11/19 04:24 AM
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You kinda seem to be shooting down ALL the options you literally have at your finger tips - compliments of a big college campus. You dont go out, you dont want to cold approach, you dont have time for extra curricular activities...so let me ask you - HOW do you ever expect to meet girls? If they arent coming onto you now or approaching you, then that means the work is on YOU to do. Or are you looking for an easy way to find girls? So please enlighten us.
/r/seduction30/10/19 12:16 AM
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Riiiiight man. 🙄🤦‍♀️
/r/seduction28/10/19 12:46 PM
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How old are you and how much actual dating exp have you had? Because no offense...but most adults understand that sex in no way, shape, nor form - changes your personality. Yes it may give someone confidence, it may make someone FEEL better because they get "relief" in that moment, but it doesnt change THEM. For instance: lets say there is an overweight virgin guy in his 30s, and he desperately wants to have sex. He does online dating...no bites. He does freestyling...no bites. He tries cold app…
/r/seduction28/10/19 12:35 PM
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🤣🤣🤣...if ONLY that were the case. But sadly, it isnt.
/r/seduction28/10/19 02:10 AM
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Oh wow! I respect your viewpoint - but you describe sex in a very 'romantic' way...which is cool. The lucky ones get to actually have the full experience: dating, love, romance, then making love! But the older you get, the more you realize the basic need we all have - to have sex, and I described FIRST TIME SEX (which is what the OP asked for, not about the selection of sexual partners long term. FYI - I am a woman 😉😁
/r/seduction28/10/19 02:02 AM
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she’s not into me. That ☝️
/r/seduction27/10/19 02:37 PM
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The first time is never ever EVER like the movies. You will be awkward and feel weird about what you are doing...but your body takes over once you actually are "inside" her. And lastly...and I mean this sincerely - SEX DOESNT CHANGE A DAMN THING IN YOUR LIFE! If you are socially awkward, weird, creepy, or sad and lonely before sex, you will be exactly the same after it. Sex isnt a bandaid for all your troubles and woes - it is a friggin moment in time where you 'feed a need' - thats it. Once tha…
/r/seduction27/10/19 02:35 PM
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An almost 30yr old hanging around a COLLEGE CAMPUS in order to practice getting rejected...again, just sounds creepy - Im sorry. Try age appropriate places: public libraries, grocery stores, malls, coffee shops, meetups, volunteer or activity groups, dance classes. Things that wouldnt come across like you are a creeper hanging around young people...ya know?
/r/seduction27/10/19 12:10 AM
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Attention seekers tend to be annoying...and to us girls - a turnoff (in the end). Because a lot of times, the funniest guy in the room is looked at as a 'joke' because he is eirher trying too hard, or, he is so socially awkward that he doesnt get that his funny stuff isnt landing. If someone like that isnin your social circle - YOU have to separate yourself in order to give your 'lite' space to shine!
/r/seduction26/10/19 11:59 PM
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This is kinda like the guy that graduated high schook 3yrs ago...but still hangs out at the high school campus - and hits on the young girls! Just...cringey as Hell! Why not tey more "age appropriate" places for a guy who is almost 30? I mean, any other place besides creeping for girls on a college campus - really
/r/seduction26/10/19 11:26 PM
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I was/am that girl. Ive always been called "a guys-girl" because I can get along with almost anyone. And just because I am flirtatious...it doesnt mean Im sexually interested in everyone I flirt with! There is fun/silly flirting and there is sexual flirting, and I think a lot of inexperienced guys get the 2 confused... So if you specifically want this girls attention - ask her out. Competing with everyone else in the room that she is friendly with is a lost cause...because if she is like me, it …
/r/seduction26/10/19 09:50 PM
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The only way Ill "stop and engage" with a guy who is cold approaching me on the street - is IF I find him attractive. And thats the truth! As long as he isnt ultra awkward, doesnt come across creepy, and is attractive (to me) - then Ill stop what Im doing and talk to him. But IF I dont find vun attractive, Ill keep walking...
/r/seduction26/10/19 09:45 PM
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Cant lie...I am almost 6ft and always asked a guy his height before goingnout with him. And Ive had guys ask ME the same thing 🤷‍♀️
/r/seduction26/10/19 09:43 PM
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Thanks for letting me know. Hope everything is ok...Ill follow up with you later this week
/r/seduction26/10/19 09:42 PM
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Im a girl...so Im not even gonna give you some wack ass pickup line, honestly. In my mind, just be direct: "Met you last night at the party. I had a good time - did you? I specifically remember YOU from that night and I made it a point to find (or get) your IG, and to see if you would like to (insert your date plan - be specific with day/time/place)." How she responds will be your SIGN on whether she remembers you or not, and if she is interested. If she doesnt respond - let it go
/r/seduction26/10/19 08:30 PM
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If you want ro know if she remembers you...might as well hit her up.
/r/seduction26/10/19 08:19 PM
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She sounds like she was drunk...ultra drunk. The key is how much and WHO she rememebers the next day. Did you get her TN#? Snap/IG?
/r/seduction26/10/19 07:49 PM
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Everyone gets rejected at one time or another. If you let the fear of someone saying NO hold you back all tgw time, you will never...ever...get ahead. Is that what you want?
/r/seduction26/10/19 05:02 AM
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this monday i am thinking about asking her for calculus notes and saying if you are free after class lets go drink something so we can talk and i can take photos of your notes You already KNOW what to do...☝️...just do it! Come back and let us know how it went then!
/r/seduction26/10/19 04:41 AM
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And there ya have it! 🤷‍♀️. Im blunt, sarcastic, call people on their shit, and am assertive as Hell...BUT dont get it twisted...I want, enjoy, and am sexually attracted to a man that LEADS!!! I dont want to lead, I dont want to pursue, I dont want to chase. My femininity is what sets me apart from those women that walk around loudly professing "I dont need a man"...
/r/seduction26/10/19 04:38 AM
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Why the profile name??? Just curious
/r/seduction25/10/19 08:06 PM
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From your post history, Im assuming you are a male, and you are interested in another male. My ques - is this guy you like also gay or no? Before asking him out, I strongly suggest finding out his preference FIRST before flirting with/asking him out.
/r/seduction25/10/19 08:03 PM
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Unfortunately...this sub can give you advice, but only based on what YOU tell us. None of us see you in action and are able to figure out how you act/what you say in person. So yeah, you just have to bite the bullet and ask someone you KNOW for help
/r/seduction25/10/19 06:00 PM
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I also pay attention to my body language so I dont make myself look small or insecure. I dont get the idea that I come off as creepy or desperate This may all be how you view yourself. But...sometimes others see what we dont, about ourselves. In your mind you may be on point with game, approach, etc. Still, women dont respond...so maybe consider, just for a minute, that your game, vibe, approach, and body language may not be as positive as you think?!
/r/seduction25/10/19 05:00 PM
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Girl...gotta work on your self worth, sweetie. Seriously. I remember he told me "even if I like a girl- Ill always try." ...and he isnt trying with you. He vocalized how good he thought the sex was. Good sex doesnt mean he wants to date you, or be with you. Good sex is just that - good sex! It is your birthday! Celebrate YOU and how far you have come in a year - good or bad. Work on being better at not ignoring the signs/social cues, and then go look for a guy that wants to be with you - not jus…
/r/seduction25/10/19 02:44 PM
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What???? How old are you...and dare I ask if you have ever had a gf in your life? Because this is so awkward...it isnt even funny. Like I genuinely am questioning your age and level of exp?!
/r/seduction25/10/19 02:35 PM
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From one girl to another - he gave you ALL the signs of what he wanted (sex). He kept asking you from date one on, to go back to his place. So you cant be mad at the guy, he kept it 100. If you enjoyed hooking up, then continue. If you want more, you talk to him...but...understand that his being distant, not planning things, and just inviting you over speaks loud n clear about his intentions.
/r/seduction25/10/19 02:32 PM
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Please...dont be weird and keep posting the same post over again in the same day. It is weird. And says a lot about YOU man. You already got advice...take it ir move on. Geez. 🙄 https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/dfbds5/what_should_i_do/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/seduction25/10/19 02:13 PM
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I dont consider myself an Alpha Female. But I am very strong willed, strong personality, assertive, independent, and have my life together...🤷‍♀️ Anyways, just meet up with this woman and see how ti goes. BE YOURSELF. A woman with a strong personality and sense of self will see right through a guy "pretending" to be just as strong willed...it comes out as awkward, honestly, and may not be attractive to her. So dont fake or hide your true self. How she reacts to the real YOU is how you proceed ..…
/r/seduction25/10/19 12:37 PM
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Ok so for starters. The fact she unblocked you means she is giving you a 2nd chance. Not sure what happened to make her block you in the first place...but...tread lightly moving fwd. Tips on how to restart our Conversation and how to make it more Interesting and also get her to like me __. It is ok to want to talk again. BUT keep it short and sweet. See if she responds. Ask how she has been? What her weekend plans are? Whats new in her life...etc? Do NOT at any time try to swing this over into g…
/r/seduction25/10/19 12:01 PM
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Im a girl, and Ill tell you EXACTLY why guys who claim to have all their "ducks in line" still fail with us - DESPERATION. It is a cycle: guy wants to ask girl out...guy reads books and watches videos about approach...guy goes to girl and just randomly asks her out (doesnt build rapport, doesnt try to have a casual convo, doesnt get to know her a bit first)...girl rejects him...guy lets his desire to have a gf rule his thoughts so he keeps following the same pattern that hasnt been successful - …
/r/seduction25/10/19 08:46 AM
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Then thats ok...that just means you have to KEEP learning how to talk to girls, keep practicing, and try again with other girls. Not everyone you like will like you back...I swear, that is lesson #1 in seduction and game. But just because one girl, or 5 girls, or 10 girls dont like you just means someday, 1 will - and she will be the right one for ya
/r/seduction24/10/19 08:09 PM
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Than I told her to feel free to chat with me. That comes across as a "thirsty" line...and isnt very seductive at all. If anything you shouldve just text like normal and see if she responded. Either way, her lack of response is a NO.
/r/seduction24/10/19 07:23 PM
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I've done good picking girls, getting Numbers, and dates, but my true nature would give me away, they would smell it. So then what is your "true nature"? Where are you dropping the ball and not having success?
/r/seduction24/10/19 04:09 PM
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I feel like THIS kind of stuff sells people a false hope - and that isnt right. This is like saying a 600 lb woman can get any man she wants IF she wears only Victorias Secret lingerie (not cheap stuff from Walmart or Target)?! 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️ Im an (F) and from the bottom of my heart im telling yall - NO - not any guy can get any girl if his game is "good enough". Game is a good leeway into seduction, yes, but the reality of it all is that ATTRACTION matters too. Also when you mix in that the girl may…
/r/seduction24/10/19 01:52 PM
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Omg dude...im sorry but you are coming across hella creepy! And honestly, the very definition of a creeper is a guy that doesnt pick up social cues and keeps hitting on a girl - despite all signs she isnt interested. Your whole response here was "I": I like her, I grow on people (which seems very self unaware), I find her intriguing...and then you literally flip to how you dont have any options and girls are shallow. It isnt OK to just latch onto to someone just because YOU like them and keep pu…
/r/seduction24/10/19 04:58 AM
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If I make any effort in the future it will likely be on the last day we work together or something and I’ll do my best to keep it casual, what can I lose really. Ok...see...THIS is where again. You are clearly missing social cues. This girl hasnt asked to reschedule, she hasnt come to YOU to make sure you guys make plans to go out, and you didnt mention her offering her phone# or IG/Snap/FB - nothing. All of that is a sign she isnt into you man...and she literally has said no 2x (just in diff wa…
/r/seduction24/10/19 04:21 AM
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The point is - even in those "snippets" where you did chat...she wasnt giving signs of interest. If anything, she was saying "no" in more ways than 1, you just didnt get it. Im sorry. No one said you were being creepy, but you sure weren't picking up on her cues - that I do see.
/r/seduction24/10/19 03:52 AM
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You tried to discuss/ask her out 3x in the same day. She told you she was busy the 1st time, gave you a "maybe" the 2nd time (which is a no...in girl talk), and instead of letting it go after all of that - you kept talking to her about it?! And then here you say you are going to try again to get her ti go to lunch with you...why?! She doesn't seem interested.
/r/seduction24/10/19 03:39 AM
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I am not attacking you, but this seems kinda socially awkward. How much experience do you actually have with flirting? How about dating? Social cues?
/r/seduction24/10/19 03:26 AM
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🤣🤣🤣...thats definitely a no-no. Not sure anyone would buy it - especially at 27 - lol. No offense. The money/job aspect is only one part of it all...the actual disabilities is the other part. Trying to write it all off as "early retirement to enjoy life" kinda contradicts what you are actually dealing with - and if you ever end up meeting a girl and trying to get close, all of those exaggerations will be exposed. Better to just be honest upfront...and see what happens.
/r/seduction24/10/19 03:21 AM
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I respect you setting goals to get out and meet people - thats great! And you seem to have the right attitude about it: improve social skills, go out and socialize, then work on meeting a girl. You do have a lot going on personally, and understand that there will be girls who may/may not be ok with your disability and all that comes with it, and reject you - but just KEEP trying. Doesnt make them a bad person and it doesnt make you a bad person. Just means you 2 werent a good fit.
/r/seduction24/10/19 02:32 AM
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Ignore this poster. He changes profiles everyday and posts THE SAME THING like a broken record. He is a troll, and most likely has mental health issues. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/djvrus/guy_most_if_not_all_girls_are_always_polite_they/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/dm8y90/if_you_want_a_girlfriend_go_talk_to_girls_they/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/seduction24/10/19 02:07 AM
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Cant say you did/didnt do anything "wrong" per se. But maybe she wasnt interested after exchanging pics? Maybe she changed her mind? Maybe she is busy? Whatever the case just move on.
/r/seduction24/10/19 02:03 AM
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I mean...Id want to know a guys working status - so if he is unemployed, Id definitely want to know why?! Being on disability is a legit reason, so be transparent and disclose that. "I was hurt on the job/was born with _ _ _ /was diagnosed as _ _ _, and am currently on disability"
/r/seduction24/10/19 02:00 AM
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I am so sorry your mom is in the hospital - sucks seeing our parents sick and nothing we can do. But let me be honest here - NOT ONE of those examples you listed come across as 'interest' from this particular nurse. Nurses are normally kind, gentle, considerate of the patient and visiting family, etc. So everything you described falls under the nurses "hat". But if you want to ask her out...just strike up a convo and ask to take her out. See what happens.
/r/seduction22/10/19 02:25 AM
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First of all...let me just forewarn you about tbis whole tbing, because it could go wrong FAST. Speaking from exp with having a guy friend asking me to "help him" lose his virginity, and me doing it, our situation was ok...but I was physically attracted to him. I didnt want to date him or anything, but I didnt object to sex with him. Prob was...he then wanted more after the fact. He wanted to then become fwbs and he assumed that since we did it already, wr would just keep doing it. Um...NO. and …
/r/seduction21/10/19 09:18 PM
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Is this REALLY someone you consider a "friend"? Cause he sounds like a douche...and yall are going for the same girls at once, cool. But if he is basically trying to get sloppy seconds - he aint your friend - he is making it a competition. FYI: I had a gf like this (Im female). This bitch would contact guys I dated or slept with and try to "stay friends" with them. Her rationalization was that just because I wasnt cool wirh them anymote doesnt mean SHE couldnt be?! She got cut off QUICK!
/r/seduction20/10/19 09:55 PM
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Why are you being such a damn troll dude? Ugh... Get mental help if you have some illness. Or if you have autism or issues with social cues, take classes or go to meetups to improve. But all this posting about YOUR misunderstanding of how pickup works, and YOUR lack of self awareness (creepiness) - is seriously coming off retarded.
/r/seduction20/10/19 10:59 AM
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IG is for LIKES and FOLLOWERS...not for anything else. Girls throw out their IG cause they want followers, not necessarily to get to know you
/r/seduction20/10/19 08:22 AM
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Comparing what/how you do things to your buddy who is 6'6", is futile! Honestly...he isnt you and you arent him. His height is one thing, but if he is able to keep girls engaged...that is a winner. So you recognize that you have issues keeping a convo going - thats step one. Confidence is key here. What do you do for fun? What hobbies do you have? Any recent movies or shows you have seen? Talk about that. Ask questions!!!!!! Not in a "police interrogation" style either...but get the girl to talk…
/r/seduction20/10/19 08:18 AM
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Exacly. OPs rant screams stereotypical "nice guy".
/r/seduction20/10/19 07:10 AM
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Wouldn't care less though, I'm pretty Famous. If you really didnt care - you wouldn't have posted here. And if you were "so famous"...wtf does that have to do with anything? This kinda sounds really socially awkward...
/r/seduction20/10/19 07:07 AM
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Are you asexual? Do you have depression or autism? Some people legit have NO sexual desire or drive (or it is a sensory issue)...because at 20, it is almost expected for a guy to be in lust naturally (hormones). So when one isnt, that is kinda not the norm - thats why people think it is odd.
/r/seduction20/10/19 05:20 AM
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Exactly! 🤣 then I would move on
/r/seduction19/10/19 11:47 PM
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You can follow up with her to see IF she is still interested. If she doenst respond, or tells you she STILL needs to ask her folks - let it go and move on. She isnt serious, ans nobody has time for that
/r/seduction19/10/19 11:06 PM
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The very LEAST she couldve done, was block your personal details out of the IG post...honestly, that was a shitty move on her part. BUT, also remember that we are in a society were social media is #life. So anything done in print/writing can be posted or memed! 🤷‍♀️.
/r/seduction19/10/19 02:14 PM
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If her vajajay smells...she either doesnt wash it OR has some type of infection (yeast, BV, trich, etc). Either way, telling a girl she smells is the equivalent of telling a guy his dick is small - it is a sensitive topic. Do you really want to hookup with her again?
/r/seduction19/10/19 01:54 PM
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Usually...the self titled "good/nice guy" is one of 2 things - and these are the reasons girls dont fuck with em: 1) the guy is actually NOT a nice/good guy, but a self entitled male that feels that his being a decent person means girls should jusr fall for him. So when they dont, he gets bitter and basicallt blames women, accuses them of being shallow and only into assholes... Or 2) the guy that always gets friendzoned because he isnt FUN. He may be sweet, and kind, but he isnt assertive or con…
/r/seduction19/10/19 10:54 AM
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But I've never gotten a second date because I have the personality of a wet rag. You answered your own question. So...what are you doing about it? What steps are you taking to change it...to improve it...to become more interesting?
/r/seduction19/10/19 06:51 AM
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No one is buying your incel/all mens 'hero' mindset man...honestly. There is such a lack of self awareness that a lot of guys MISS the point that their rejection, sometimes, is because of THEM (and not the girl). And until that reality sinks in, people like YOU will keep trying to build cases against "girls"...when if they just looked inward and took some self assessment and were honest with themselves, they would see where they keep dropping the ball.
/r/seduction19/10/19 01:03 AM
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Amen!!!!!! Sadly...he doesnt see that. So he keeps blaming girls instead of looking in the mirror.
/r/seduction19/10/19 12:48 AM
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Congrats on the success stories. ONLY thing - if everyone was sober, different story, but the fact everyone was "drunk" kinda defunks the whole confidence speech. Drunk people do drunk things...and confidence is rarely a factor there.
/r/seduction19/10/19 12:32 AM
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Girls also dont like guys who keep posting the same incel crap, in the same sub, under different profile names - just to get attention.
/r/seduction19/10/19 12:23 AM
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You are being SO pathetic and cringey...🙄 https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/djn1wi/many_of_you_told_me_yesterday_women_are_mostly/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/seduction19/10/19 12:01 AM
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It just means she needs her parents permission or "ok" for her to go out - thats all. Hopefully she gets back to you soon. Good luck.
/r/seduction18/10/19 06:24 PM
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After that first round...all it takes it a touch. Sexy touches. Walk up behind her and hug her while kissing on her neck. Or if you are already laying there naked, touch her - a lot. Kiss her...put your body up close to hers so she can feel you are hard - then see how she reacts.
/r/seduction18/10/19 05:22 PM
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You kidding...right? You are literally asking people on a public format - how to EMBARRASS some friends so that other guys dont have sex with them...so that YOU can because YOU want to? 😳. How do you NOT see that as immature, petty, bitter, and extremely bothered????? For real. How old are you and have you had any (at all) experience with girls? Cause this is seriously not ok
/r/seduction18/10/19 04:19 PM
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So what. Thats rhe thing. They dont owe YOU any explanation...and the fact you are so bothered by it comes across as jealousy and bitterness. Who are YOU to judge and "bring to light" their choices? Thats a petty move and will not get you in anyones pants. I promise you that! If their actions bother you so much, separate from them and find other friends. If you really want to have sex with one of em, speak up directly to that girl - dont be a beta and try to cock block to try and get your way. T…
/r/seduction18/10/19 03:54 PM
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But .. you are forgetting that THEY have the right to choose. And they arent choosing you - so instead of being bitter and petty about it (whicu is what you are proposing)...man up and ignore it. If they wanted to have sex with you, Im sure they would say it or do it. But they arent. So don't be like that!
/r/seduction18/10/19 03:45 PM
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Ok. Now...be honest - what about those things screams "this is a fun guy? Damn I wanna fuck him"?! Tell me. Not drinking, smoking, or doing drugs is respectable - just means you have morals. Good for you. You play video games, watch anime, and go to the gym - that just tells me you spend a lot of time ALONE. How is that exciting? You havent mentioned one thing that shows you putting any effort into being a well rounded and FUN person?! The kind of guy that attracts fun and well rounded girls. Ed…
/r/seduction18/10/19 03:40 PM
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You keep saying you are a "nice person" because you keep yourself clean and all. Um...thats standard (good hygiene). What about you is FUN? What about you would attract a girl to want you???? You gotta sell yourself man..and you arent. If anything, you are already writing yourself off...and if YOU do that. Then girls wil do the same.
/r/seduction18/10/19 03:34 PM
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I’m an athletic person with an athletic body of 195 lbs n my free time, I like to watch anime and play video games I hardly ever go out anywhere and whenever I do go out, So IF you are rarely leaving the house, and all you do is play video gamea and watch anime - how are you "athletic"? How do you expect to meet or date IF you dont leave the house? Come on. Online sucks for a lot od guys, so then go out...find things to do. Hobbies that dont involve sitting in front of a TV alone.
/r/seduction18/10/19 03:32 PM
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Again...context is left out of that story. Who knows how many times that guy tried to talk to that girl/girls on that game? Who knows how uncomfortable he made her feel? For all we know he may have been annoying her for some time...and that was rhe final straw. It is all about CONTEXT! Her response was harsh...I admit that. But sometimes a harsh response is the only way a guy (who lacks self awareness) gets the point.
/r/seduction18/10/19 01:22 PM
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First of all...if a guy RANDOMLY hits a girl up and his opening line is "what games do you like/play", I dont know ANYONE that would take that as flattering...or hot...or a turnon. Come on! That is the issue with the incel community - a lack of self awareness!!!!! Jesus. If the guys approach sucks, you cant blame the girl for rejecting him, common sense. But instead of the guy taking a step back and being objective, he quickly blames HER...as if she is in the wrong for turning him down or not wa…
/r/seduction18/10/19 01:15 PM
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Im sorry...but even your response here - is creepy. Like WHY do people have to be harsh for you to "get it" and go away? Thats a bit weird. You seem to not be socially aware, ans honestly, those are the guys that us girls usually push away, have to be harsh with, and sometimes will get loud with - because they dont "get it" and keep pushing. YOU are saying you didnt do anything creepy...but I have a strong feeling that your perception may not be what others see.
/r/seduction18/10/19 12:30 PM
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Honestly...what do YOU care what they do? You wanting to "call them out" kinda sounds like some jealousy, and you trying to put them down because the attention they are getting - you want.
/r/seduction18/10/19 10:45 AM
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I have dated a bad kisser - but he just wasnt a good "learner" (kept going back to his reg technique). Sadly the sex was also bad...so yeah, we split. But I was seeing another guy who was a virgin, so he had never kissed or anything - yet he was teachable!!!! That made the diff...and now, he is good at both kissing and sex. He just needed some instruction AND to be open to it.
/r/seduction18/10/19 10:40 AM
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Not everyone is attracted to every ethnicity. That is simply called PREFERENCE. But being ATTRACTIVE overall is what makes getting "hot girls" ...Hell, any girls...easier. I get it...but stop using race as an excuse for not getting girls. When the reality of some of those situations is that the guys complaining that women dont like their "ethnicity" - are the same.guys that are actually not liked because they are too awkward, too insecure, too weird, maybe creepy...not always about being minorit…
/r/seduction18/10/19 03:22 AM
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Dude...please...stop posting THIS SAME POST every couple of days in this sub. It is pathetic. You are not coming across positively at all. If anything, this comes across as truly lacking self awareness - and creepy. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/di9ha4/whats_the_best_way_to_flirt_more_with_this_girl/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/dfb95a/is_she_still_interested_in_me_and_should_i_give/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share http…
/r/seduction18/10/19 03:01 AM
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Kid...common sense...if someone texts you - text them back.
/r/seduction18/10/19 01:58 AM
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Is this a serious question???
/r/seduction18/10/19 01:45 AM
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It has to be your vibe...or...you arent reading social cues snd basically approaching girls at the wrong time. And when a guy doesnt read social cues and still forces things (aka - trying to talk to someone who is obviously not interested), he becomes creepy! So...a creepy guy tends to scare girls and make them uncomfortable.
/r/seduction18/10/19 12:40 AM
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Being DETERMINED to meet girls may be part of your prob...thats way too much focus on one thing. And sometimes being that focused comes across as desperate and needy
/r/seduction18/10/19 12:37 AM
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I mean...do you have probs getting girls regularly? Do you go on dates? No offense...but if a guy has trouble getting sex normally (because girls dont bother with him) - finding a girl just for "cuffing season" is not going to be any easier. Im sorry.
/r/seduction18/10/19 12:24 AM
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So you either have no friends...or...then why havent your "friends" included you in their holiday plans?
/r/seduction18/10/19 12:18 AM
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The OP laid out what is specific "helpful" advice. I cosigned it. What wasnt clear about all of that? Enlighten me...
/r/seduction17/10/19 05:28 AM
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You DO understand how messed up this is...right? If your wife doesnt know how yall are acting - then you are withholding info, and that is lying. You are TOYING with the idea of cheating on your wife, and you are playing with fire by KNOWINGLY continuing to hang out with (alone) and being close with - someone you admit to crushing on. Do you or whatever. But you grown...dont come here "pleading the 5th" like you are just curious what SHE is doing or intending to do. You arent that naive. 🙄
/r/seduction16/10/19 11:08 PM
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The ONLY reason you care what her "intentions" are, is because YOU want her to have some...be careful with that! You really arent worried about what she wants - you are worried about how far you can go with her. Am I wrong? You are a grown ass man. If things are truly platonic...it wouldnt matter.
/r/seduction16/10/19 10:51 PM
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I'd say a majority of the girls show "positive" signs. Although not super-evident. Ok... but how? What are these positive signs that no one else sees as evident? You arent being clear. Making people feel at ease is the only way to combat the whole thing. Smiling, asking if they are ok, crackign a random joke or saying something sarcastic to make them laugh...simple things like that
/r/seduction16/10/19 09:59 PM
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Talk to your psych
/r/seduction16/10/19 09:39 PM
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Then maybe you need professional help. Try reaching out to a counselor or therapist. Because you keep shutting down everyones suggestions to you with "im scared" and honestly...thats not ok nor healthy. And it then becomes a waste of everyones time.if you aremt even open to trying
/r/seduction16/10/19 09:37 PM
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Not all attention is GOOD attention. Calling girls negative names and all will get you a reputation - anD THAT is a license to never ever get laid. So take that for what it is worth. And if you arent getting attention now...figure out WHY. Is it the fact you act scared around people? Do you have any friends? Do you come across creepy or awkward and people have said that before? How overweight are you? I can almost guarantee that the fact you are so ultra focused on a gf, being noticed, and sex..…
/r/seduction16/10/19 09:33 PM
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Like, I'm too scared to tell any girls that i think are pretty that I'm attracted to them. But I am sick and tired of being a virgin and seeing all these guys at campus walking with girls and I'm tired of being lonely and it pisses me off. Im tired of being overweight and I'm scared, so how could I trick a girl to like me first, without a girl knowing i like her at all? Like shouldd i be a fuckboy and go up to women and call them thots, skanks, etc? I mean I'm worried ill never have a meaningful…
/r/seduction16/10/19 09:23 PM
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Dude...you are making this difficult for no damn reason! Lol. Next time.you see her, ask who found and returned your keys. If it was her - offer to take her out. Simple as that. Stop working yourself up, calm down, and save this situation!
/r/seduction16/10/19 09:16 PM
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This post is a joke...right???
/r/seduction16/10/19 09:12 PM
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That doesn't matter! Point is to TALK TO HER but use the keys as a segway...if SHE found them, offer to take her for a drink or coffee to thank her for helping you out.
/r/seduction16/10/19 09:03 PM
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Why the rush?? Thing is, when someone is rushed to "get a gf/bf" they tend to ACT desperate and needy...and that automatically is a red flag to most people.
/r/seduction16/10/19 08:50 PM
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Ok...so you CAN save this. Go up and ask her who turned your keys in - and tell her you want to personally thank them because you wouldve been f*cked without your car and also wouldnt be able to get IN your place. See what she says...and then use THAT to hop into a short convo!
/r/seduction16/10/19 08:47 PM
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But calling IS talking to the "real life person"...so what about that gets you stuck?
/r/seduction16/10/19 08:16 PM
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Dont text her anymore. She really isnt responding...to be honest. Just move on.
/r/seduction16/10/19 05:24 PM
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It is true. Guys...you HONESTLY can turn us on by how you talk to us, how you text, and the buildup/tension - before we even meet you in person. It is the vibe we get off you and can feel in what you say and how ypu say it. Now, that all can go to Hell if we arent attracted to you...but honestly, a sexy convo turns us ON!
/r/seduction16/10/19 05:20 PM
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Kinda sounds like she is being sarcastic with all the "face" responses...whicu means she isnt serious. I would move on. Dont ask her out again.
/r/seduction16/10/19 05:18 PM
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This could be one of 2 things honestly: #1- these girls are genuinely nervous because they find you attractive and that is a natural reaction...or...#2 - these girls arent nervous at all, but actually are UNCOMFORTABLE around you. What are they doing that makes you feel that they are nervous around you? Do they fidget, play with their hair, giggle, look at the floor, touch you in some way? Or...are they on their phones, looking away when you talk to them, walking away during a convo, trying to w…
/r/seduction16/10/19 11:43 AM
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I agree with another comment here - no one has the time to walk you through each and every step of pickup...like a manual. That is YOUR responsibility to find the info and practice. Books, videos, online courses, etc. You will make mistakes, you will get rejected, and you will fail here and there. But the more you practice the better (hopefully) your skills will become.
/r/seduction16/10/19 09:14 AM
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Ive left a date a few mins in because the guy had sent old pics of himself, and in person, he looked completely diff from what I had seen. I instantly knew I was not attracted to him, and I was honest about that - but was KIND in my delivery. I didnt want to hurt him, but he needed to understand. That kinda catfish crap got him rejected! Im sorry YOU were treated that way. If you know your pics aren't misleading in any way, then you dodged a bullet here. She was either socially inept OR just pla…
/r/seduction16/10/19 09:09 AM
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So wait...don't you have pics of yourself posted ON Tinder? She wouldve seen you before actually meeting in person. That just doesnt make sense.
/r/seduction16/10/19 09:04 AM
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Please...seek professional help. Your post history alone shows that you need to talk to someone who can help you get over your lonliness and obvious depression. Constantly asking Reddit strangers if you are "loved", begging for people to respond to you, and calling yourself a loser isnt healthy...💔
/r/seduction16/10/19 08:41 AM
2

Try r/rateme instead of this sub...full of guys?!
/r/seduction16/10/19 03:45 AM
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Thats such a broad question - because it all depends on the location, context, etc. I cant give you a specific one really.
/r/seduction15/10/19 11:45 PM
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If her NOT responding is typical - then that likely means she isnt into you man. So instead of posting some "closure" message...just stop texting her and move on! Respect yourself. Fyi - deleting the message off YOUR Whatsapp doesnt delete it off hers or anyone elses. You know that right???
/r/seduction15/10/19 11:34 PM
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Ew. That is such a desperate 'nice guy' move...and will not win over anyone.
/r/seduction15/10/19 11:30 PM
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Physical attraction...sense of humor...vibe...personality...chemistry between he and I. All of that really adds up to "feeling" a guy and wanting to have sex with him.
/r/seduction15/10/19 11:23 PM
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Of course we do! But...we wont SHOW that to a guy we arent into. If we arent giving any signs that we really want to f*ck a guy - then that means we arent feelin that guy
/r/seduction15/10/19 11:08 PM
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Do you understand what the definition of a creeper is? A guy that doesnt take NO for an answer. He continues to pursue - ignoring all social cues, body language, and lack of interest. He keeps "trying" despite already having been rejected. Dont be "that guy"...😳. The more you push the creepier you look to girls. And creepy guys can be scary! Girls avoid those guys. You need to work on you self confidence and make new friends, improve your social skills, and stay busy.
/r/seduction15/10/19 11:31 AM
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She was clear in how SHE feels and what she has to offer: she likes you but doesnt want anything with you. So honestly you only have 2 choices - be her friend and learn to be ok with that, or, decline her offer (of friendship) and move on. There is nothing TO salvage at this point...
/r/seduction15/10/19 11:25 AM
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There is a stark difference in a guy with NO experience vs a guy who has some, just not recently. In a casual relationship, it shouldnt be a problem if a guy hasnt had any in awhile - he may be anxious but still knows what to do! Now a guy who has no idea what je is doing....definitely needs to select someone who would be patient with him and doesnt mind teaching him. Not every casual fling/hookup will want to do that - and thats ok.
/r/seduction15/10/19 11:18 AM
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So main question is - why focus on meeting girls? I applaud you recognizing your mental health needing attention and getting help - that takes a lot! But you admit you dont have friends...so why not focus on 1) getting and feeling better, then 2) making friends (through clubs, hobbies you enjoy, volunteering for something you enjoy, etc). Learning to make an keep friends - male and female - helps you understand the social dynamics of relationships...THEN jump into trying to meet and pickup girls…
/r/seduction15/10/19 07:18 AM
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Ok. Well just text her back and ask when and where to meet up to get your sweater. Fingers crossed she invites you back to her place?! 👍
/r/seduction14/10/19 11:31 AM
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Has SHE expressed about wanting to see you again? Having a good time that night? Ask HER where yall can meet to make the exchange. If she asks you to come back to her place - cool.
/r/seduction14/10/19 11:18 AM
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It is hard to tell someones situation at a club or party really. I mean...could you not TELL that these girls were drinking??? I get that they may loosen up and be more agreeable to being touched, kissed, grinded on...but if that is the girl you are trying to "smash" or build more of a relationship from - then YOU need to adjust accordingly. Try talking more to them (finding a more quiet spot to talk). See where her head is at, ask if she has a man, blah blah. A girl thats down to smash will giv…
/r/seduction14/10/19 11:01 AM
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Drunk people do drunk things (same with people partying on drugs). Not being mean or anything, but a girl that was all over a guy at the club when drinking, the next day, may have a "wtf did I do" moment and realize she wasnt ok with her behavior. She may have a bf...she may be married...she may not have really been into the guy (dark rooms + alcohol = illusions). 🤣🤣🤣 No one knows! But usually when they dont respond - it is guilt or remorse for how they acted.
/r/seduction14/10/19 10:50 AM
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Honestly...if your approach skills arent Level 10, then trying to break up a group at a club is going to be bad and not get you the results you want. When girls go to a club together - usually - the motto is "go together/stay together/leave together". It is a SAFETY issue. So your best bet is that if you csnt catch the one you are interested in kinda off on her own (after bathroom or getting a drink), then it just might not be smart to try this method.
/r/seduction14/10/19 09:42 AM
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Expressing anger is healthy WHEN DONE PROPERLY. Violence (against a woman) will get you crucified quick...and you will end up with not only a reputation but also a legal case. Telling someone they are hurting you and being specific how they are doing so, is acceptable. Setting boundaries is how we teach people how to treat us. Note IF your anger is based on not getting your way (the girl didnt like you), being rejected (the girl said no), or anything of a SELFISH nature (the girl.didnt have time…
/r/seduction14/10/19 09:27 AM
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Have you ever considered depression may be your issue? Usually the loss of interest in anything, low energy, or just being tired...all are signals of depression. And of course that can be a symptom of life changing things...whats changed in your life? All the focus on getting women needs to be refocused to YOURSELF and feeling better. Work in making friends (in general) so that you have people to confide in and be around
/r/seduction14/10/19 09:22 AM
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I mean...anyyhing is possible. BUT you already said she thinks of you as creepy and weird. So then why put yourself in a position to get rejected if you already know how she thinks of you
/r/seduction13/10/19 07:22 PM
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This is gonna hurt...but unfortunately a reputation as a creeper or weirdo RARELY (if ever) can be shook. Im sorry. So if this girl already thinks you are creepy, chances of you getting her are slim. Why not aim your focus on other girls who may not know you or about the rumor
/r/seduction13/10/19 07:15 PM
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So let me be clear... You have LITERALLY sent me 13 consecutive responses to ONE comment I made - 13 responses from you, one after the other. Do you realize that? One after the other...and you keep trying to justify yourself. THIS IS INSANE kid. Now I see clearly that you are unable to "let go"...and I see why this girl backed away. 😳🥴🤦‍♀️ Fyi: i have adhd and act NOTHING like you are. Please talk to your parents about maybe working with a counselor or a therapist. Your behavior is coming across…
/r/seduction12/10/19 06:34 PM
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Alright let me just get this out of the way. I dont want to date this girl anymore. In fact I absolutely hate her. HOWEVER, shes hot and I know she wants to fuck me Should I just pick up the phone tonight and say hey we still on for tomorrow? Do YOU even know what you want man - cause you contradict yourself? Thing is, if she really wanted to fuck you - she would show up, and not cancel. Right??
/r/seduction12/10/19 06:19 PM
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Guys who are emotionally fragile will act butthurt, pretend that she led him on, and make things awkward for her until she blocks him and he goes into a long term sulk. Guys who are creeps will turn psycho on the girl, stalk her, tell everyone she's a slut etc. and in the end she'll probably have to change schools or quit her job. Thank you for saying this!!!!!!! Because this is exactly why we have been taught to "let him down nicely" because situations like those could be hella uncomfortable
/r/seduction12/10/19 06:05 PM
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So I see you are being awfully defensive. And Im just gonna stick by what I said...because the context in your OP doesnt say anything regarding her being interested in you at all. Like I said, stop breaking down and replaying every sentence she said to you. The girl pulled back and isnt interested. Leave it at that. Accept it foe what it is (a rejection), and move on. You will find someone else. You're young! Edit: looking at your post history, you have posted about this situation 12x in diff su…
/r/seduction12/10/19 06:02 PM
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First of all...single dads are sexy! (Im female). The fact a guy took his responsibility seriously to some women is a turnon. I respect that! Dont lead with talking about your kid though...it comes across like you are looking for a "mommy figure" her your child and that is too much too soon. What hobbies do you have? Where are you going out to?
/r/seduction12/10/19 06:00 PM
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Close FRIENDS is fine...but that isnt what you want. She doesnt want more than that with you hon. You have to accept that. This girl doesnt seem enthusiastic at all any yalls friendship as it is. So just fallback, ok? Leave her alone. You cant keep trying to read into what she said and all...it isnt healthy.
/r/seduction12/10/19 05:57 PM
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Because you are young, Im gonna be as gentle wirh my advice as possible. You already admit you have anxiety issues and cant read social cues - so Im gonna break this down as nicely as possible (and Im female by the way)... This girl didnt lead you on hon. You only feel that way because YOU like her...but she never said she felt the same. And when you told her about your feelings, she was upfront about not feeling the same. You basically mistook her friendliness as "interest" because of how YOU f…
/r/seduction12/10/19 05:49 PM
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Post history explains it all...
/r/seduction12/10/19 02:44 PM
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Girls saying yes is a confidence booster, but should NOT be the foundation for your confidence. That should be from inside yourself...how you believe in yourself and what you have to offer...internal voice telling you you ARE a good catch, you CAN approach that girl, and that you will be ok after a rejection. You will get rejected, thats part of the dating game.
/r/seduction12/10/19 08:08 AM
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In 10yrs you still arent unable to speak the language clearly? May I ask...do you have a speech impediment or a learning disability? You may need to get further personal assistance - like a speech therapist or take speech classes to help you. Private lessons may be more intense but give you one on one attention... As for women in Canada not being interested, it seems like I read about this issue in this sub from Indian and Asian men - consistently. Maybe it is a cultural preference or difference…
/r/seduction12/10/19 07:56 AM
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Dude. No offense...but your post history is NOT encouraging at all - and has nothing to do with "seduction". It literally is just showin some Asian obsessed unimpressive guys raw peen to whoever will look. Take that mess to Pornhub. You didnt STUMBLE into this sub at all, you purposely posted here trying to get attention and have people think you are some kinda "pro" because you (an unprovable claim) record "yourself" fucking. Yeah...ok.
/r/seduction12/10/19 07:41 AM
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I mean has has tried 2x now...I get whay you mean. Im just saying IF he really is into her, he should dig deeper. If not, and he is frustrated, then hell...move on. I agree with that
/r/seduction11/10/19 08:58 PM
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Op said the girls culture is foreign...so again, she may be going slow because that is how she is comfortable OR she may not be feeling him - one or the other. If she isnt an affectionate person naturally, or her culture doesn't believe in it, whatever. He wont know unless he talks to her - and socially, there is a smooth way to do that. While watching a movie or people watching while just being iut and noticing an affectionate couple, and the couple kisses or whatever...mention it "Ya know, I r…
/r/seduction11/10/19 08:48 PM
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No one said HE owes her anything either. But if he feels bothered...he needs to talk to HER about it to find out why she is reluctant
/r/seduction11/10/19 08:30 PM
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She doesnt OWE you a kiss...and maybe she is moving slowly and isnt ready for that. Or maybe she thinks of you as a friend...who knows. If it concerns you that much, talk to HER - dont ask a Reddit sub.
/r/seduction11/10/19 07:47 PM
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Dont message her again. Let her come to YOU...and im sorry but if shs doesnt come aeound to hitting you up, then thats your sign that she isnt into it
/r/seduction11/10/19 05:51 PM
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Talk to her IN PERSON. Chat her up about whatever...But then later that evening follow up with a text seeing how she is doing and if she wants to go out
/r/seduction11/10/19 09:10 AM
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I agree with everyone else - you clung too hard to her, and it made YOU look needy. So now she is backing away.
/r/seduction11/10/19 03:05 AM
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Dude...you literally MET her on the dancefloor, and tried to kiss her? Is that what happened? Because that is very awkward. Just because she met you and danced with you doesnt mean she wants to makeout with you or get tongued down by some guy... So either you are coming on too strong/too fast and the girls arent ready to go that route with you, or these women arent into you the way you perceive.
/r/seduction10/10/19 11:58 PM
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You know what the worst part of all of this is? People on this post have broken down and been clear as Hell about why your actions in this situation are unhealthy, needy, and creepy. And what do you do??? Keep defending your actions! So all I can say is: good luck man. You seem to not be open to advice and criticism of your process (basically you lack self awareness), and because of that...I wish you the best, cause you will need it. You said you havent gotten any dates after an entire year onli…
/r/seduction10/10/19 04:49 PM
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What does he have to do with you? Nothing. He is an ex for a reason - obviously his being hot didnt change that. So dont worry about him.
/r/seduction10/10/19 01:11 PM
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Build up a little rapport first (by talking to her) and THEN go ahead and ask her out. You gotta play the game a lil different in college then on the streets - because you will see this girl regularly in class
/r/seduction10/10/19 01:08 PM
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Talk to her in class first...just casually. Then that same night, text her - simply ask how she is, did she finish the homework, etc. Something to kinda start the convo. THEN ask her to go get coffee oe ice cream...something that is low pressure.
/r/seduction10/10/19 01:03 PM
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Ok...in what context did you ask for her #??? Was it to study? Partner up on a project? Or casually chat...?
/r/seduction10/10/19 12:57 PM
2

Text her? Did she give you her TN???
/r/seduction10/10/19 12:53 PM
0

And how is an ultimatum needy? Begging her to return my calls is needy, telling her that I'll leave if she won't respond doesn't sound needy to me at all. Yes...it IS needy. And the fact this woman is ignoring the behavior YOU feel isnt "needy" is clearly WHY you arent getting dates. What clearer proof do you need??? Everyone in this post has commented the same thing...and you still are like "but Im not needy" - so are all of us wrong - or are YOU? Seriously, she needs to block you immediately. …
/r/seduction10/10/19 12:50 PM
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Omg!!!!! Dude...how much exp dating have you had? Do you have mental or developmental issues - cause this isnt normal behavior. You really came across as creepy and desperate - im sorry. And I say that as a woman, because how you are acting is obsessive. You gave her an ultimatum? Wtf? Please stop contacting her. I guarantee this situation will become a story she tells her gfs about and laughs over (showing then all the calls and messages)...because YOU have gone way too far and you dont seem to…
/r/seduction10/10/19 12:35 PM
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That would be kinda creepy to randomly be like "hey...I saw your Tinder profile, and we have a lot in common". Blah blah blah. Honestly just treat this like an organic meetup - keep talking to her IN person and work your way up to asking her out
/r/seduction10/10/19 11:44 AM
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Maybe she felt guilty for hooking up. Maybe she thought about it and realized she wasnt into you as much as she thought. Maybe the sex wasnt as good as she expected. Maybe SHE has a bf...or she is busy with work...or has mental issues. Who knows! It honestly doesnt matter because whatever the reason, she still is gone. So remove her from your mind and move on
/r/seduction10/10/19 11:42 AM
2

I use bruh, bro, my dude all the time (im from a big city where that is normal)...diff is if I LIKE the guy and maybe wanna hookup with him, Ill also touch him when I call him "bruh" or something - just to close the gap and give him an idea that Im into him because Im touching him
/r/seduction10/10/19 11:39 AM
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All of this ☝️
/r/seduction10/10/19 11:38 AM
2

How many times did you call her???? Because more than 2x over a 2wk period is TOO MUCH ad comes across as desperate. If she isnt answering, please leave her alone. Stop contacting her
/r/seduction10/10/19 11:26 AM
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Just email and ask if she would like to be your project partner - thats all. Dont throw in any awkward compliments or weird jokes...just outright ask if she wants to partnee up. If she says no, please dont act desperate - let it go and move on
/r/seduction10/10/19 11:24 AM
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In this sub where seduction has turned into pickup (I guess) - approach is encouraged. And I get it. I agree with a lot of what another (F) posted here. Esp the "give her an easy out". There is nothing like being cornered by a guy amd having to think quick how to turn him down or get away. Been there/done that TOO many times!! BUT remember that most of the guys in this sub have little to no real experience with girls/women, let alone social skills OR have always been friendzoned. Reading a room …
/r/seduction09/10/19 10:31 AM
2

"I don't know what to say to you". You caught her off guard, and she didnt know how to respond. How long did you guys DM before you told her you liked her and asked her out? Have you met in person? Because if it was a short time...that can be real awkward (esp if she doesnt know you like that).
/r/seduction09/10/19 09:40 AM
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You are literally holding onto things from high school....remember that - high school. Put that into perspective. You are an adult now and you can change (to the best of your ability). But if what happened in the past has you stuck and unable to make any moves - Id suggest therapy with a psych that specializes in autism and how it may affect your life/socially.
/r/seduction08/10/19 06:00 AM
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This sub is on repeat - socially awkward guys watching PUA vids (vids that are pathetic or blatantly skewed) and they run with it...thinking that kind of creepy behavior is OK and should get girls just like in the vid. Now you have a socially awkward guy being creepy because he followed creepy behavior he watched - leading to him being rejected and then even more frustrated and upset about not getting the girl. It is a sad cycle...but Im glad others SEE it for what it is.
/r/seduction08/10/19 05:54 AM
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Just as YOU arent interested in those girls YOU find less attractive - the "higher status" girls may see YOU the same way and not find you attractive. In those cases, you cant make anyone do or feel what they dont want to.
/r/seduction08/10/19 05:49 AM
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Thats usually a blow off to get a guy to go away or to cut him off - nicely.
/r/seduction08/10/19 03:19 AM
4

What she describes is what i see in pretty much every infield video I've ever watched. Guys think they are gaming the chick when she CLEARLY is not interested, bragging about it on video, getting THOUSANDS of likes from other clueless guys that go out and mimic them, or WORSE get their coaching and suddenly an army of clueless over the top noobs are creeping out women everywhere. You nailed it!
/r/seduction07/10/19 08:33 PM
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It was in PM over the course of a few days...and I wont embarrass him by publicly posting the convo even though it is under another profile I have (he doesnt post in this sub anyhow). But it really sad because he wants what every guy does - sex and a gf. He just doesnt understand that it is what HE is doing that prevents it...so at some point, when you cant reason with someone - you let em alone. 🤷‍♀️
/r/seduction07/10/19 03:07 PM
2

Nice try at projection dude...I mean troll 🤣
/r/seduction07/10/19 02:35 AM
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Happy Cake Day!
/r/seduction07/10/19 02:27 AM
1

Why do you need a job to improve your social skills? Go OUT. Practice just saying hi, asking questions, introducing yourself to men and women you meet in public. Are you putting forth effort to put yourself IN places where people are - increasing your chances of meeting and befriending them? And thats the key...making friends. Do you have any right now? If not, then that is your starting point.
/r/seduction07/10/19 02:26 AM
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This question, to me, is so one sided. Men can cross a woman off for being obese, but heaven forbid a guy is obese and women reject him - suddenly she is "shallow"..."cruel"..."mean"...etc. I know one big guy that refused to go after big girls, he felt they were below him?! smh. The reason people tend to reject obese individuals is because inherently folks are attracted to the physical - and in this society, being overweight isnt considered attractive by the majority.
/r/seduction07/10/19 01:39 AM
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If they dont respond, they arent interested - move on. Why get so hung up on some woman not answering you?
/r/seduction07/10/19 01:34 AM
2

So I’m weird for simply repeating a question? Yes. You literally posted this same question 5x in diff subs - 2x in THIS one in 5 days. That is the very definition of weird, creepy, and desperate...
/r/seduction07/10/19 12:41 AM
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Nobody cares. Stop being so weird and posting this
/r/seduction07/10/19 12:21 AM
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Heres some insight from a woman: there is NO guarantee that ANY changes a guy makes will suddenly make him more attractive or make a girl want to f*ck him. Im sorry. You can go to the gym, eat healthy, watch RSD vids, buy trendy clothes, have a great FT job, and be independent - but at the end of the day, the reality is that IF a guy does all that but is still socially awkward, creepy, comes across as desperate and clingy, or doesnt even know how to approach and have a conversation properly...he…
/r/seduction06/10/19 10:52 PM
2

You posted this same topic 5 days ago... https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/dbkj6h/should_i_regularly_see_prostitues_and_escorts/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share We get it. You have problems. Girls dont want you. Blah blah blah. Posting this often about the same crap makes YOU look crazy - and basically explains why girls dont bother with you. Please stop.
/r/seduction06/10/19 10:45 PM
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Looks MATTER to everyone initially! But when a girl says "looks arent everything" THAT means that she wants a guy who is more than just hot. A guy that has his shit together, has a personality, etc. So dont confuse that phrase to mean looks dont matter at all...they do. The hottest guy can be a jerk, and the average guy who is funny can be a prize. It is all subjective.
/r/seduction06/10/19 10:41 PM
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lack of emotional smarts will ruin your experiences with women more often than not. Understand your own emotional state to manage stress and anxiety Understand the emotional state of other people, to manage their stress and anxiety Communicate productively about personal or volatile issues Relate to people on their own terms, avoiding tedious miscommunication That was a loooong story (lol) but the point is VERY VALID. I literally just had this convo with someone from another sub here on Reddit..…
/r/seduction06/10/19 09:04 PM
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I respect you for clarifying that you were asking her on a DATE - and not just friends hanging out. Good for you man!
/r/seduction06/10/19 01:24 PM
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We dont really Snap / text outside of just streaks and general stuff Strike 1... Hey, we should hangout before I leave again. I think wed have a fun time. Would you want to get dinner tomorrow around 7?” But this was her response : “aw thats great but Im helping name study for a test tomorrow that we have on the next day” Strike 2... Its been about a two weeks since then and she didn’t get back to me. Strike 3... Maybe it's me, but everything you described seems more like a friend - and not actu…
/r/seduction06/10/19 01:19 PM
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All of what you said here is spot on!!!!!!
/r/seduction06/10/19 12:28 PM
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You really seem so positive...and that is attractive. Dont ever lose that trait! Being an adult is friggin hard enough these days, and I imagine it is even tougher being an adult with a disability. I honestly dont have any other advice for you - Im sorry. You already try online and stated you are not having success. I can say try more IRL approaches, and see how that goes. Thing is...having a carer and not being independent MAY bring into question by potential dates - your level of ability and a…
/r/seduction06/10/19 12:24 PM
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Why do I get the vibe (just based on what you wrote here) that you may be using the club SOLELY to meet girls, and just so you know, that kind of action is typically a turn-off? There is no guarantee that joining any club will get.you girls, and if these girls you hit on keep rejecting you, then it definitely is something about you they arent into (could be looks, could be approach, could be your vibe). Maybe consider just enjoying the club and not havjng expectations for a date? That will take …
/r/seduction06/10/19 10:40 AM
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So I saw snapchat usernames in some descriptions so I thought if they dont match with me I would take action and try and talk to some girls but apparently that's creepy. Pleaae...dont do this. It genuinely IS creepy and just not how you do this. If they arent matching you or responding to you or your messages, thats the sign to move on - not look for other ways to reach them. So I was thinking is it because me being in a wheelchair scares girls away when they see me on Tinder? Is it the conversa…
/r/seduction06/10/19 10:29 AM
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It most likely is just a friendly acknowledgment, BUT in special cases may be 'flirting' due to interest.
/r/seduction06/10/19 09:48 AM
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You are cute! Dont worry about your looks. But if this girl is now avoiding you, it means she is uncomfortable and not interested. Which is ok! Move on and find someone else.
/r/seduction06/10/19 09:44 AM
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If she uses Snap, she is ON her phone regularly. And if she hasnt added you - she really isnt interested.
/r/seduction06/10/19 09:41 AM
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It could be because at 19 you cant go to bars, 21+ clubs, legally drink (in the US) - and if they are older than you, they can. So they kinda look at you as a kid, in a way
/r/seduction06/10/19 09:40 AM
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Keep it simple and ask her for coffee. It is kinda hard to tell if she is interested or just being friendly - by what you said here. But a coffee date should be fine.
/r/seduction06/10/19 09:36 AM
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🤣🤣
/r/seduction03/10/19 09:56 PM
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Girls unmatch for numerous reasons...the thing is, what does it matter?? Dont worry about ONE girl you may never have met or even gone on a date with...and keep looking.
/r/seduction03/10/19 09:30 PM
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Too much into her actions...
/r/seduction03/10/19 08:47 PM
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Seems like you may be reading WAY waaaay too much into this 😳
/r/seduction03/10/19 08:46 PM
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Woman to woman here: if HE isnt making moves towards getting to know you personally, or touch you, hell if he hasnt even tried be somewhere alone with you - he isnt interested. Guys tend to not be able to hide their infatuation with a woman...so if you even have to ask, he isnt into you that way.
/r/seduction03/10/19 11:09 AM
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Based on your post history...I would suggest focusing on improving your social skills FIRST - then worrying about approaching "females" in groups or with as you say "cock blocking friends". Work hard on being able to talk to and approach anyone (not just girls). Then once you have that down...make your move on girls you see.
/r/seduction03/10/19 11:06 AM
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On the contrary. The REASON you seem to dislike everyone you meet is the crux of your issue - it could be them, and it could be YOU. So finding the core issue can help you deal with it and fix it. Do you have friends? What about THEM do you like? Are you able to connect deeply with others?
/r/seduction03/10/19 03:54 AM
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DOE not genuinely like most people they meet? For reasons I'd prefer not to mention You cant just be like "I hate everyone - do you too?" and not have a REASON. So what is it: depression, autism, social anxiety, mental illness? Or you get rejected and bullied so much that you in turn "dislike others" as a result?
/r/seduction03/10/19 03:47 AM
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Oh man...no...no...no...no..no! The very first sentence "please keep this confidential" is literally what she WONT DO! I cant even pretend I wouldnt show people if I got that kind of letter! 😳. It IS cringey, creepy, and downright (dare I say it) weird. This comes across as "that guy" on campus girls would avoid because he creeps them out, because he has NO self awareness and cant read social cues. Im sorry to say that. The only improvement you can make to that letter is NOT TO SEND IT, throw it…
/r/seduction03/10/19 03:04 AM
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There was a guy at my college that had marfans syndrome (he was 6'2" and weighed about 150 lbs). He was eerily thin and lanky - cant lie, and he wore baggy clothes, all of which weren't flattering. If you are trying to "dress to impress", find clothes that FIT. A nice button-down shirt, straight leg jeans, etc. If you know your sz, Amazon has a lot of options. Even Walmart has nicr dress shirts and button downs...reasonably priced
/r/seduction03/10/19 02:54 AM
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Yall had drunk sex...which in the grand scheme of things, doesnt mean much (when consensual). Most.girls will hookup with a guy they either have no real interest in being with in a relationship, or that they regret the next day. Which one this girl feels we wont know, but YOU still eed to move on and not worry about it
/r/seduction03/10/19 02:47 AM
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5'3" 500 pounds. has lived with their parents their whole life. has never had a single friend. has never had a job and is 40 and is also a virgin with a one inch penis. is incapable of holding a conversation Would this person be attractive? No. Can they improve their CHANCES at being a healthier and more well rounded person - thus increasing their CHANCE of meeting someone special? Hell yes! But the key word being "chance"...there is no guarantee that just because a guy practices seduction or ga…
/r/seduction01/10/19 11:42 AM
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Let it go. She clearly said: Dont take this the wrong way but I think you are a great guy but i dont have time. Me: what do you mean? Her: i have school half of the week and im abroad the later half. Thats a nice way to say "no thank you". Think about it - she magically found TIME to go out and hook up with ya before. But now...she is busy?! She just isnt interested.
/r/seduction30/09/19 12:53 PM
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I've been on a decent amount of Bumble dates here and there, but nothing has ever happened (not even a kiss) Have YOU tried to escalate? I mean a kiss and all happens when YOU make a move - what happens at the end of your dates? I turn 30 this year and seeing how there are guys younger than me already married with kids plus I don't get a whole lot of matches like other guys). it makes me angry knowing how there are guys out there who pull girls so effortlessly, yet I'm here feeling like a loser.…
/r/seduction29/09/19 11:35 PM
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Give it a few days...and ask how her grams is? But dont push the date yet. Not until she is in the clear
/r/seduction29/09/19 11:15 PM
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Followers are for likes - not dick. 🙄
/r/seduction29/09/19 02:35 PM
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No need to answer anymore specifically than “I’m either attracted to someone or I’m not, and you of course I am definitely attracted to” As a F, I cosign this! Girls ask that kinda question for validation...and to gauge that YOU are into them. Your answer can make or break ANY chance you get to have sex with em...so ride the fence with a general response like above.
/r/seduction29/09/19 05:02 AM
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Nice job on the glow-up!!! And the newfound confidence.
/r/seduction28/09/19 11:34 PM
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"Text me...my phones dry" is literally begging for attention. That, by the very definition of desperate, IS desperate. So...yeah. 🙄
/r/seduction28/09/19 11:29 AM
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This is the most desperate thing Ive ever seen...😳
/r/seduction28/09/19 11:26 AM
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A lot of insecure guys who lack social skills have been "taught" to compliment the girl when on a date (which is cool). Unfortunately many of them let their anxiety and nerves take over, and they end up using the "you are so pretty" 10x in an hour - and by then it gets weird. So the girl is turned off...but those Nice Guys cant handle even the slightest perceived rejection so they lash out.
/r/seduction28/09/19 11:18 AM
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Dude...attraction has NOTHING ro do with me (a female) hanging around or chatting for awhile with a guy im FRIENDS with. And I dont have to have any desire to touch him or him.touch me (sexually). That is literally the def of a guy friend...
/r/seduction26/09/19 06:19 PM
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Oh thank GOD!!! Cause if you were serious...😳
/r/seduction26/09/19 12:58 PM
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Absolutely nothing...if it meets YOUR needs. And at the end of the day, thats what it is about. Not everyone finds getting sex or their needs met - easy. Not everyone has the same opportunities given to them. As you said, a lot of guys may not be attractive, or havw social issues (mental or developmental disorders)...And to those guys - have at it, do you! If the desire to have sex is that great, knock yourself out!
/r/seduction26/09/19 05:07 AM
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Nothing you described suggests she likes you as anything more than a FRIEND...everything you stated she does is buddy stuff. She even called you her bestie. It is kinda clear.
/r/seduction26/09/19 03:46 AM
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So...no offense, but situations like THAT (where friends persuade someone from liking a guy) are usually one-offs. IF it happens consistently, then that means these girls in fact are not showing "high interest" and maybe you are misreading the cues?
/r/seduction26/09/19 03:44 AM
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That is NOT good advice. Not at all. Do this and you make yourself sound real weird and childish...im sorry.
/r/seduction26/09/19 02:34 AM
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You did! Already..."what did you have in mind?" Dont make it complicated.
/r/seduction26/09/19 02:26 AM
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but i want to reply something along the lines of asking her what’s she got in mind You literally answered your own question
/r/seduction26/09/19 02:25 AM
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She seems sincere. Why not reschedule and go out...
/r/seduction26/09/19 02:24 AM
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If you HAVE to ask...she isnt into you that much!
/r/seduction25/09/19 09:41 PM
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Is this a joke or something?
/r/seduction25/09/19 09:35 PM
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Because we can like a guys company and NOT want to f*ck him...thats why. I dont have to want to be with a guy just because he is cool, or funny, or a good friend. So yes, I can spend hours pal-ing around with a dude I havs NO sexual attraction to..and be fine with that. Plus guys dont always have the same level od pettyness and drama that girls do...which makes them easier to talk to and be around.
/r/seduction25/09/19 09:33 PM
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Dude...she sounds crazier than a bag of squirrels
/r/seduction25/09/19 07:52 AM
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In this fifth option, some of us are just looking for someone to be with. And some of us would love an actual female opinion to offer advice. Is there a place some of us could ask questions, or get genuine ideas and help? Because while as crazy as some of this subreddit goes, there is a sense of camaraderie here You are right - I did forget there is the group that havent been in the dating world due to being in a long term relationship...so their skills are a little rusty. Good point! I mean the…
/r/seduction24/09/19 04:55 AM
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Answer your own question - do looks matter to YOU? I guarantee they do...and that you like the look of certain girls, and not others. So why would girls be any different when it comes to guys? First impressions always incl looks + vibe. Thats it.
/r/seduction23/09/19 04:58 AM
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F here that tries to help...but have to agree that A lot of.the PUA videos are cringey...and thats being nice. This sub is majority socially inept or awkward guys, and the posts are becoming redundant now - basically there are 4 types Ive learned: #1 is the socially awkward guy - he is a virgin, never talks to girls because of anxiety, but he still wants to learn "game" because he is obsessed with getting a gf and losing his v card...#2 is the guy that does approach,.does try to talk to girls, b…
/r/seduction22/09/19 09:59 PM
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If they ask who you are...then lets be real here - they are NOT showing "interest" man. That doesn't even make sense. Are you just randomly messaging girls that you find on social media? My advice - STOP.
/r/seduction22/09/19 08:57 PM
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If you feel all hope is lost...you need to seek professional help (therapist). Because from all you wrote, you have let rejection from women RULE your life! Not once did you mention having friends...hobbies...a social life...a family life. You literally admit: All I do is think about women and sex That isnt productive - and will keep you STUCK in a cycle of rejection...because if that is all you think about, then you most likely act in a needy way (because you want that stuff so bad). And needin…
/r/seduction22/09/19 06:50 AM
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(F) here...and girl...it is SO easy to seduce a guy! 😊 1 - anything physical - do it a LOT. Sit close to him so you are touching arms or legs. Touch his thigh, his arm, stroke his hair, run your hand up and down the back of his neck. Watch his lips as he talks, bite your lip softly... 2 - show some skin!! Your arms, some cleavage, your neck (flip your hair to the side). If you are alone, cute underwear or lingerie 3 - compliment HIM on his outfit, his hair, tell him how hot he looks or how sexy …
/r/seduction21/09/19 08:29 PM
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Let me tell the truth here - a LOT of times we avoid eye contact because we know, deep down, it will give the guy some false hope that we MIGHT want to talk to him - so we turn away to avoid approaches. I swear, we will have convos with our gf's about that, about not making eye contact with a guy we arent feeling. So I mean...I wouldnt take it personal unless it happens on a regular consistent basis. It literally is just us avoiding a convo (could be busy, in a rush, not interested, etc) or the …
/r/seduction21/09/19 08:22 PM
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Im truly confused how you set up these "instant dates"...like what do you say? Are you introducing yourself then immediately asking for their # or something? And when you try to escalate ...what do you do? Taking someones hand on a mini date is a BIT too much...even for me. Id feel like it was too awkward 🤷‍♀️.
/r/seduction20/09/19 11:48 PM
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So then it definitely IS your approach..if these girls dont even respond to you and blatantly just walk away - thats your sign. Do yiu have any guy or girl "friends" you can ask what you may be doing wrong?
/r/seduction19/09/19 12:26 PM
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Self improvement never stops...and the results vary. For some it may take a couple weeks, some may take months or years. But if you are using pickup techniques and still not getting girls - it may be time to look at your approach, what you say or how you act around girls? You might be giving off a vibe that girls arent attracted to
/r/seduction19/09/19 12:16 PM
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Dude...I bet any money your trying to awkwardly cross the friendzone line made HER uncomfortable, and now she is taking precaution not to give you the wrong idea nor to even keep the door open for discussion about it. So she put herself offline (to you) in order to make her stance clear. If she isnt into you, there is nothing to be jealous of...🥴. Stop worrying about her and why she did this or that. Focus on you and your game - moving fwd.
/r/seduction19/09/19 09:29 AM
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This is kinda very elementary school-level stuff (like "do you like me - yes/no/maybe")...and in college that just isnt cute. Esp with the level of safety girls NOW have to have on college campuses! I need your name, I need a quick convo to get a vibe off of you, and then IF it is cool - you can give me your TN#. Otherwise Im tossing the paper because guys that do that either are very arrogant or very awkward...to just randomly hand it to me under some funny line ("you dropped this") and walk aw…
/r/seduction19/09/19 08:56 AM
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A day after I looked her up on Instagram and found her, I messaged her saying that it was nice seeing her again, but she just left me on read. I also sent her a follow request, but she hasn't accepted i I would stop at that. She didn't give you her IG...you literally searched it out and messaged her - and she isnt responding. She acted like she didnt even know you at the party. Why would you even WANT to do more?
/r/seduction18/09/19 08:08 PM
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(F) here, and there are only 2 reasons we ASK for a dick pic: because we want to get excited about what you are packin OR we are gonna make fun of you (showing others and crackin on you). Do yourself a favor - tell her if she wants to see ya pkg, she has to do it in person! 🤣
/r/seduction18/09/19 05:41 PM
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Girlspeak for "maybe" = no. Im.sorry man. So in fact she DID turn you down, she just was trying to spare your feelings. Just dont be "that guy" that goes to find her the day exams end - and ask her AGAIN, because at that point I guarantee she will have another excuse OR this time she might just say nom
/r/seduction18/09/19 04:27 PM
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Ah...a "nice guy" has emerged. 🤦‍♀️🤣
/r/seduction18/09/19 10:22 AM
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It could mean she JUST wants to be friends...or...she wants more then friends (f*ck). Maybe it is me, but the sentence is kinda confusing.
/r/seduction18/09/19 10:20 AM
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So here is the thing with these kinds if scenarios - when we tell a guy "you arent my type" we are basically saying we like you but arent sure we like you, but could like you more, but our head says NOT to. Confusing...I know! Lol. But until we make up our mind, we have NO interest in having sex with you. Usually being that specific means she is serious! So you can possibly change her mind - if you do it right. BUT...dont beg, get pushy, or anything like that to try to change her mind. Because t…
/r/seduction18/09/19 10:14 AM
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Do you have any female friends you can ask for some insight into how you come across? How sbout your guy friends...have they ever said anything about how you sct or what you say?
/r/seduction18/09/19 12:24 AM
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When you met, where you both drunk? I ask because things we like and do when intoxicated are sometimes the things we REGRET when sober?!
/r/seduction17/09/19 11:36 PM
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Pay attention to your dates body language, her facial expressions, her reactions to what you say. When you speak...just look at her. Do you talk too much? Are you awkward and have long periods of silence in your convos? Do you say rude, overly sexual, inappropriate things out loud?
/r/seduction17/09/19 11:15 PM
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Im glad another female stepped in and said this (before I did)! A guy that keeps pushing for a gf...a date...sex...tends to be extremely awkward and thats a bigtime turnoff to us. Because we can sense that kind of desperation - and it aint cute 😌
/r/seduction17/09/19 09:50 PM
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I kinda think you would need to go to subs on relationships man...no offense.
/r/seduction17/09/19 09:47 PM
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How does this relate to seduction? Try r/relationships or r/dating
/r/seduction17/09/19 09:39 PM
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GREAT!!!!! Seriously...thats gonna help you work through all of what you are going through. Invest some time in yourself right now - and THEN work on getting girls.
/r/seduction17/09/19 08:52 PM
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Do you have a therapist? That can go a long way in helping you work through your "value" issues...
/r/seduction17/09/19 08:50 PM
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Also I’m 29. No matter your age...at LEAST you are trying! Seriously, it takes a lot. And the older a guy gets, the hardee it is to just stary the process. So pat yourself on the back for that! I am scared I won’t be able to figure this out and I might as well just end my life cause I have no chance Stop. Dont live in FEAR like that. You wont know if you dont try...so start trying, keep trying, dont quit trying. Ok? You value is not connected to if women talk to you...come on man. Thats ridiculo…
/r/seduction17/09/19 08:40 PM
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Have you watched videos? On pickup?? Because as a girl, im being real with you, your approach is very awkward. And again, awkward approaches make guys look creepy...so we tend to stay away from "that guy". You can LEARN how to do it better, but you need to put forth the effort. Keep practicing!
/r/seduction17/09/19 08:32 PM
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So let me make sure I understand: you see a girl you find pretty. You go up to her, and ask her what shes doing and interested in? Then you hop into talking about yourself? Is that your approach???
/r/seduction17/09/19 08:29 PM
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I just feel like ending my life. Dont be a punk, man! Why would even THINK of ending your life because you simply lack a skill you can learn?! Smh. What is it about approach that is hardest for you? What do you SAY to these girls? Are you approaching when they are busy or preoccupied? Thing is...if you approach is extremely awkward, that makes you seem creepy. And creepy guys tend to make girls uncomfortable. SO, yes, they may be colder towards you after you have come at them.
/r/seduction17/09/19 08:23 PM
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sorry bud, but if girls are regularly and coldly turning you down, you might not be as “fairly attractive” as you thought. I was honestly thinking the same thing!
/r/seduction17/09/19 08:14 PM
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A man with core confidence loves himself. He accepts himself how he is. He has a healthy, high sense of self-esteem. Guys...please...from us females - THIS ☝️ is so damn important!
/r/seduction17/09/19 12:01 PM
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Wtf is wrong with her guys. I got treated like a disgusting creep after i had my hopes high on her. I thought she's gonna be my first success (have 10 failure so far, never succeeded). Why does something have to be "wrong" with her - all because she didnt want to talk to you/wasnt interested??? The fact she didnt ask your name, even YOU said, was a red flag. So why keep pushing the issue? If she wasnt really interested in your name or talking to you much the first time, being self aware you woul…
/r/seduction17/09/19 11:54 AM
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But I can't seem to hold on to a relationship for longer than 3 months. I've worked on myself/self improvement over the last 5 years so I don't think I am the problem 100% Are you SURE you arent the problem? Not coming at you, but if every girl leaves you - there obviously is an issue. So...dig in deep and start admitting to yourseld what could be the prob: are you desperate? Clingy? Needy? So insecure or jealous that you scare girls away?
/r/seduction17/09/19 06:49 AM
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Truth be told...IF someone is socially awkward in high school and kind of ignored, the chances of them being the same way in college is great - unless they make some.self improvements. 2yrs out from high school.doesnt change much, honestly. So as people already suggested: work on YOU and focus in being social. Join clubs, try to put yourself out there as much as possible.
/r/seduction17/09/19 06:46 AM
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So then there is the possibility that her lite touching is just friendly and not romantic. If yall arent hanging out after school, talking/texting after school, etc...then it seems she may not really be inti you that way but is just comfortable around you - as a friend
/r/seduction17/09/19 06:38 AM
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You cant get her to do anything...esp if she isnt interested. Which seems like it could be the case.
/r/seduction17/09/19 06:35 AM
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The women are generally snotty and have no heart with denying me. Oh...how dare they 🥴
/r/seduction17/09/19 06:34 AM
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So are you only friends at school or do you actually hang outside of school? Does she have your TN# ns yall text? What about IG, Snap, etc?
/r/seduction17/09/19 06:32 AM
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So are girls really going to give up a great potential relationship simply because they subscribe to a convention where the guy initiates? This sub encourage guys to be ASSERTIVE - to make moves, and step up...because that attracts women. That is sexy. Now YOU want to do the opposite but get the same results as the guy who does the work?! Nah man. The guy that isnt assertive is the friendzoned one, or the girl loses interest in him.
/r/seduction16/09/19 11:05 PM
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Women don't show much interest, I could easily bang 9s and 10s. So which is it - no interest or beating off gorgeous ones with a stick???? Because if you truly are (HOT) then women who are 9s and 10s would be coming at you...right? Not just women in their 40s and 50s
/r/seduction16/09/19 10:49 PM
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How much success have you had? Im curious? Op literally met this girl in class and wanted to ask her out right away. This isnt your everyday cold approach...this is someone he is going to see and be around WEEKLY! So jumping in too quickly can make thing awkward for both he and her....thats just common sense. Thats like starting a new job and askinf a coworker out within mins of meeting them amd having a quick 5 min convo - it is awkward! No one said he needs to become this girls bestie - hahaha…
/r/seduction16/09/19 10:38 PM
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It is basically the "thing" that men are to lead and pursue. It doesnt always happen that way, but it is the social norm (outside of Reddit, apparently). So when a guy gets a girls #, it is basically "understood" that he will pursue by texting her or calling her in a relatively short amount of time. The fact you dont want to do that...well...good luck with that.
/r/seduction16/09/19 10:31 PM
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Honestly...if a guy glares at me and doesnt smile - he looks creepy. 🤷‍♀️. Practice smiling in the mirror...varying how hard/soft you smile...how much teeth you show...etc.
/r/seduction16/09/19 10:26 PM
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Might try after a couple of classes. That is what Im saying! I agree with that method. Good luck man!
/r/seduction16/09/19 02:46 PM
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Which is fine. Take advantage of having that time to get ti know her... point is, if you literally leap to ask her out, ans ahe says NO or isnt interested, that can make things very awkward when you see her in class. But if you try to build some rapport first, it might make it all easier
/r/seduction16/09/19 02:37 PM
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I mean you JUST met her and you will be seeing her in class...right? Maybe try and talk to her a little first, then ask her out
/r/seduction16/09/19 02:34 PM
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Ah. Keep trying. There is always a next time.
/r/seduction16/09/19 02:11 PM
1

Ok cool. So tell us how it went????
/r/seduction16/09/19 02:05 PM
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I am not trying to offend, but that was the most socially awkward story Ive read...lol. You came across really creepy - im sorry. And to tell me a girl left all her friends behind, and walked the streets with some stranger...at night, because YOUR lines were just so smooth??? Riiiight. 🥴
/r/seduction16/09/19 01:22 PM
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She may have entertained you for a second, bur once you tried to be funny...she was done. When she stood up to see the height difference...she was done. When she asked you to leave her alone and eat in peace...she was done. And you kept going?! Thats really creepy.
/r/seduction16/09/19 01:15 PM
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Id be cautious because of your age since you are younger...(msot college kids are 18/19 first yr). But hope it works out for ya!
/r/seduction16/09/19 01:12 PM
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If men that wanna hit and run are all you attract, then it means you either are putting that VIBE out that you are insecure and need attention due to low self esteem - so you give guys the business wuick/fast/in a hurry all because you want validation...or...you make guys think that you actually WANT just sex (dress and act ultra sexual early on). Take responsibility for your part too - and stop having sex with them?! Vet guys out, take your time getting to know them, and be upfront about NOT wa…
/r/seduction16/09/19 08:53 AM
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Proceed by telling her how tall you are??? The joke was cute and all...but you canr just skip over the question, because she IS going to ask again.
/r/seduction16/09/19 08:37 AM
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started chatting with her all day and into the night. So you spent am entire DAY chatting her up and then closed the convo by "alluding" to asking her out soon...but not actually asking her out. Seems like she may have taken that as a lack of real interest in meeting.
/r/seduction16/09/19 01:54 AM
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So why not do the same thing - since it worked the first time?! Im not clear on why you wouldnt do it again.
/r/seduction16/09/19 01:35 AM
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How did you get their IGs the first time you went to join (but couldnt)?
/r/seduction16/09/19 01:30 AM
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I forgot to smile when I approached her. That can make a guy look creepy...if he doesnt smile Hi excuse me 2 secs. You look really adorable. Just wanted to say Hi" Um...this sounds kinda awkward. Someone stopping me talking about "2 secs...just wanted to say hi" doesnt come across as hot, or attractive, or sexy.
/r/seduction15/09/19 11:01 PM
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I dont have any advice...but CONGRATS on approaching and holding a convo that kept the woman interested!!!
/r/seduction15/09/19 09:41 PM
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I'm pretty lonely, no friends really (keeping up the consistency to keep friends at my age is difficult. Not to discourage you from trying with girls...but honestly, right now, focus more on getting practice making FRIENDS first (girls and guys). That will give you a socisl life, and also improve your social skills. Better social skills help you in the longrun....and you wont be as hungup on getting a girl
/r/seduction15/09/19 03:39 PM
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Be careful not to go too far, if she gives you a TN#, and you find her IG and Snap - dont go requesting a follow. That is random, and a bit stalkerish...since she didnt give you that info.
/r/seduction15/09/19 03:26 PM
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Their ATTITUDE is the really the main issue. It is understandable that there are guys out there that didnt hit it big in the looks dept - fine, that cant be changed (to a degree). But self awareness and social skills CAN be learned. It isnt the lack of those things that makes those guys disgusting...it is the attitude that they are "entitled" to women and sex without bothering to learn those skills - and so when they dont get sex or get rejected, then it is everyone elses fault (aka - females)..…
/r/seduction15/09/19 03:22 PM
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It kinda seems like she isnt into you "that way"...and her ignoring your messages is her inadvertently letting you know that. She ignored your question, she ignored your good morning, and she is 'cautious'as you say. Maybe you should let this one go.
/r/seduction15/09/19 01:00 PM
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You can start with your classmates...thats a GREAT idea! Start small, saying hi, striking up a convo about whatever...and letting things flow naturally.
/r/seduction15/09/19 12:57 PM
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Only insecure guys do this...and it isnt cute, and is the quickest way to have a girl KEEP her panties on! Lol. Dont do this guys. It just screams "I dont feel like I measure up to him and him and him...so Im gonna try to clown you about it, to make myself feel better". Smh...nope.
/r/seduction15/09/19 12:18 PM
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Does this happen regularly? Do you msg with girls through IG or are they actually giving you their TN#? Are you asking them out (maybe too quickly)? I mean we can only GUESS what you may be doing that turns these girls off...but you arent giving much detail.
/r/seduction15/09/19 12:16 PM
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Another commenter said the same - you cant change it. Once labeled something because of tour behavior or whatever (ex: creeper, weird, needy, clingy...etc) - it kinda sticks. You cant one day be the school weirdo then come in the next day come in and try to be suave! Honestly that is weird too! Lol Just learn to improve your social skills NOW. Work on being more suave and approaching people.
/r/seduction15/09/19 11:35 AM
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I have to ask - are these girls really ghosting you...or...are you not legit setting up specific dates (times and places) as plans? For ex: If you and a girl are texting for a day, and then she stops texting - thats not ghosting! Now if you have made specific plans for a date and she doesnt show or respond, then yeah, thats ghosting
/r/seduction15/09/19 11:31 AM
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Why did it take you 3wks to ask her out AND send a pic? In all honestly that is way too long...and it seems like she may (just speculating) not really that interested anymore. Maybe it was the pic and she isnt attracted to you. Just move on...jf she isnt responding then stop texting her.
/r/seduction15/09/19 11:27 AM
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I really think it IS the social climate we live in today. In the city (NYC) people randomly talking to you puts you in defense mode...and you end up looking at then crazy like "wtf do you want?" 🤣. Which is SO sad because it really makes us all closed off.
/r/seduction15/09/19 07:26 AM
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Aw hon, Im sorry you haven't experienced that. Depending on the situation - it can be really flattering OR really annoying. 🤷‍♀️.
/r/seduction15/09/19 01:56 AM
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However, if you're not attractive, dressed like a panhandler, or awkward in your approach, yeah that's creepy. This falls into the category of "it's creepy if you're unattractive/it's hot (because of the confidence) if you're attractive." Omg...you UNDERSTAND!!! Hell yes! I am not trying to be mean, but the ONLY TIME a woman doesnt mind being bothered by a guy is when he is HOT/attractive. When a guy isnt confident, or is extremely awkward, comes across as needy...his cold approach will not be w…
/r/seduction14/09/19 08:06 PM
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I was into her but wanted some space since we would hang out in all of our free time and it felt a bit too intense and fast moving for me. I didn’t reciprocate the flirting as much as she was, because it was a bit too much for me and I wanted to give her some space because of her breakup YOU messed it up, man. That ☝️ is where it happened. If she was literally in ykur bed with you and touching you, she wanted the 🍆...you just were being "Mr Nice Guy" and didnt want to "impose". Well...another gu…
/r/seduction14/09/19 07:26 PM
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I get what your point is - pay attention to social cues and don't automatically assume that someone wants to talk to you. You nailed it! Thats all Ive been trying to say! And I hope I havent discouraged any guy from trying to approach - that was NEVER my intention. But bringing attention to social cues and body language IS my point.
/r/seduction14/09/19 04:31 PM
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I agree 100%
/r/seduction14/09/19 03:07 PM
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If you interrupt her shitty music and shitty book and start a great interaction, she'll be legitimately excited about meeting a super cool dude. See...Im not disagreeing that the post is a "white knight", but YOUR attitude that HER time and being busy is "shitty" all because a guy who thinks he is great wants to interrupt her - is exactly why a lot of guys FAIL when approaching, or trying to get a #. Basically you are saying that YOUR liking her or findingnher attractive, and YOU wanting to talk…
/r/seduction14/09/19 01:30 PM
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You make some valid points! And I attempted not to generalize by using "some" and "most" when describing the sexes and their reactions to approach. Also let me be clear: headphones alone (can be seen as a deterrent) and in some cases, may not be. That is left up to interpretation...but headphones and reading a book - THAT is clearly a sign that she doesnt want to be bothered. She isnt staring in space, hoping someone will speak to her, she is clearly preoccupied in that scenario. I've personally…
/r/seduction14/09/19 09:56 AM
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What are you saying when you text them? And how long do you wait TO text?
/r/seduction14/09/19 09:20 AM
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I agree. There is no way to tell just by looking at them. You have a good point there.
/r/seduction14/09/19 09:01 AM
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Ok...that makes more sense! And good observation in understanding once the "group" mentality kicks in - to back off.
/r/seduction14/09/19 08:55 AM
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Minutes later her friends in a group comes knocking. She opens up and they pull her to them. Turns out one of her friends thought i was a creep and was going to assault her. Was she drunk? Because as a girl, we try to lookout for each other in groups...basically if one of us is being isolated, the rest of us will make an attempt to reel the lone one back in. Even moreso IF she has been drinking!!! So I see why her friends came knocking. Was there anything you were doing that may be have been cre…
/r/seduction14/09/19 08:38 AM
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so who cares if she gets annoyed, I'll play my chances. Seriously? THAT is your attitude towards someone elses time - "who cares if I annoy them?". How isnthat working out for you...seriously? How successful are you with that????
/r/seduction14/09/19 08:08 AM
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Think about it: cold approach works IF the girl is receptive. An "open" situation is NOT when you have to tap someone on the shoulder to take out her headphones, and interrupt what she is doing. The same goes for at the gym...if she is working out and not paying you any mind, ans she has in her headphones, why bother her?! Headphones 90% (not always 100%) = leave me alone/Im busy. Im in no way discouraging anyone from pickup - it can be good lessons in overall social skills AND is basically how …
/r/seduction14/09/19 08:07 AM
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The sub is to teach you HOW to approach and WHEN...the 2 go hand in hand. Also how to escalate and get laid, right? Just because one scenario isnt always ok to all girls (for a guy to approach a certain way) - doesnt mean ALL situations are bad Come on now...🥴
/r/seduction14/09/19 07:34 AM
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Granted I'm a man and theres no fear factor there like I'm afraid of what shes gonna do if I say no, so I can see how that changes things. That is the factor a lot of guys never think about. Men LOVE being approached - it is an ego booster and pure validation...and rare. Women dont often do something like that, so when one does, Im sure it feels good! But as a woman, in the opposite situation, we usually put on headphones to NOT be distracted, NOT be approached, and NOT be spoken to. So it can b…
/r/seduction14/09/19 07:13 AM
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Is there anyone elaw you see just standing around (or sitting alone)? Go over to them and say hi...make a comment about how it looks like everyone is having a good time...or about a particular song playing! See how it goes
/r/seduction14/09/19 05:42 AM
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You realize that a lot of the negative reactions and rejection guys get when cold approaching is because they cant/dont consider the situation and ignore body language or social cues. How are some of you legit butthurt over this post...as IF the notion of a girl not wanting to be bothered is "a lie" and you feel should be ignored because YOU have been practicing pickup and since YOU assume she would be flattered by being approached by you...fuck her looking "busy" and having in headphones or rea…
/r/seduction14/09/19 05:12 AM
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You cant MAKE anyone do anything man...come on. Common sense. You can BE attractive, have a sense of humor, know how to hold a conversation, dress well, and be great in bed - and it STILL doesnt guarantee that a girl will like you (or more specifically....the girl YOU may want, might not want you). Focus more on becoming a well rounded guy (attractive overall) - more than trying to "make" folks attracted to you. If you are awkward, work on your social skills and approach. A strong approach can l…
/r/seduction13/09/19 11:28 AM
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The only way a girl will fall in love with you is if she WANTS TO, or, if she is attracted to you and you treat her well! Using tactics to try to get someone to fall in love with you is a waste of time.
/r/seduction13/09/19 11:21 AM
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Im sorry bud...but THAT wasnt really asking her out, and y'all didn't have a date at all, really. You made a general suggestion during the convo, and she said sure, but you then threw in the "its a date" (which seems kinda awkward). So you had no SPECIFIC day/time/place...that means you didnt have a date. Edit: your interactions with her dont seem like she is interested in you in that way
/r/seduction13/09/19 11:17 AM
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Maybe she doesn't want to tell you, because she knows you want more from her (women always know) and she doesn't want work to become complicate because you might be one of those butt hurt niceguys. Yeeeeess! Guys out there: THIS is sometimes why us girls dont get "deep" with you when we only see you as a friend/acquaintance. We dont want to send the wrong signal to you, so we keep our personal life - private.
/r/seduction13/09/19 10:39 AM
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Have you ever puked, and then tried to re-eat it? Same applies to trying to ask out someone who rejected you! That crosses into creeper territory, honestly. She already said NO. Why ignore that?
/r/seduction13/09/19 10:16 AM
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Be very VERY careful with this situation - because you work together, and things can get awkward and uncomfortable quickly (and HR can become involved). So honestly, it is ok to flirt and all, but keep your personal interactions outside of work (IF you get that far). Has she expressed any interest in you?
/r/seduction13/09/19 10:14 AM
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How old are you? Because it is common sense that EVERYONE has preferences - even you. The fact you are calling these girls "cuties" means you like their looks - but may not think that way of others. Which is fine. YOU have that right, as do girls...so calling that "segregation, sexism, and racism" just because some girls talk to you and others dont (oh...how dare them - lol) is WAY off base, and kinda shows a lack of self awareness. No one has to speak to you, even if YOU find them attractive, n…
/r/seduction13/09/19 09:58 AM
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No offense, but her personal life is none of YOUR business. She is a coworker that you hung out with 1 time! You arent dating, you arent a couple, and just being "close" at work does not equate much unless that crosses over to being close outside of work and actually being friends (hanging out, confiding in each other, etc). Point being - she doesnt owe you anything, just because you seem to have feelings for her. And it would be inappropriate to ask her business.
/r/seduction13/09/19 09:47 AM
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Advice: stop being an entitled incel.
/r/seduction12/09/19 07:47 PM
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Honty....you went WAY too "into" this situation. I respect your feedback, but again, just a bit too deep into the simple point that this guy is going against EVERY SINGLE RULE of seduction- because that is the gist of all of this in the end. Nobody is arguing his needs and desires. But the very reason there is so much casual sex, fwbs, and ONS's isnt for procreation...lol. You and I both know that. The discussion is about OPs methods, and begging is and never will be - OK, when it comes to game …
/r/seduction12/09/19 02:32 PM
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Calling the voicing of this primal need, unhealthy, is pretty short sighted. Im an F...and yes, I agree that we all are born with the desire to have sex. It literally IS 'human nature'. But this discussion isnt about procreation... While I didn't watch that video and didn't read the whole reply I do agree on the there's a deeper issue I called out his saying "I just want sex" so many timea because had you watched the video, you would hear that he doesnt talk about procreation (so that is a moot …
/r/seduction12/09/19 10:40 AM
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She didnt ghost you or give you some "it's not you - it's me" bs line either - she legit explained why she doesnt want to see you anymore. That is mature and respectful, and because she did that, the least YOU can do is respond - in kind: "I respect your decision and appreciate your talking to me about it. Thank you and I wish you the best" I mean, no offense but being that "attached" after only 2 dates in 2 wks is a bit too much...so that is something yoj may want to break from. You dont really…
/r/seduction12/09/19 05:40 AM
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The fact you are so butthurt over ONE of your "girls" not wishing you an HBD - kinda makes you the bitch.
/r/seduction12/09/19 05:34 AM
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Describe exactly HOW you asked her out - what did you say?
/r/seduction12/09/19 02:24 AM
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Again...if they make eye contact, then look away (either ahead, down at the ground, or to the side) and they dont make eye contact again - leave her alone. Do not approach. She isnt interested or open to talking to you.
/r/seduction11/09/19 11:40 PM
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If I catch his eye and then look down/away...and the guy STILL comes to approach, I usually reject him. Because my body language shouldve expressed that I am not interested.
/r/seduction11/09/19 11:35 PM
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I also sometimes get girls looking straight down at the ground while they're walking past me and once they walk past me they look up again. Do they feel intimidated by me or? Intimidated BY you? No. Uninterested IN you? Yes. Dont read too much into it...ok? But I personally will look at a guy and then turn away because I honestly just caught his eye by accident/chance, OR, I am not interested in striking up a conv nor being approached. It is a well known "thing" amongst girls that "as long as I …
/r/seduction11/09/19 11:29 PM
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Just TRY to be normal...normal conversation, normal topics. Ask about an upcoming test or project. Ask about hee weekend (or plans). But please dont ever say that "I get nervous around cute girls" line EVER again. It is cringey!
/r/seduction11/09/19 11:21 PM
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Let me first give you props for even being SO open about how you feel and how you think others view you. Takes major GUTS to do what you did! 👍 Now...to dig into your video. It was very cringey - very! You honestly come across as extremely desperate. The concerning part is that you say you have no friends. Why? What about you is such a turnoff to people - guys and girls? You literally said "I just want to have sex" at least 10x in the video. That is an obsession. That is unhealthy. That will nev…
/r/seduction11/09/19 10:58 PM
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Absolutely nothing wrong with you and this.girl having an amazing night of connection, vulnerability, and confessions....and of course sex! Thats the shit people wish for. Now the aftermath hits, and you crave thag situation to be resolved - not ended, but resolved. Why not reach out to her? See where HER head is at. Did she move far? Is it impossible for you both to work things out and try?
/r/seduction11/09/19 09:34 PM
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Congrats!!! It is nice to read success stories...
/r/seduction11/09/19 09:29 PM
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Nice Guy Nice Guy: Not to be confused with a nice guy (that is, a male that is nice)- When used as a noun instead of an adjective, Nice Guy refers to people (men or women) who believe basic social expectations are currency for sex. Nice Guy: I don't understand, I'm a good listener, I help carry his/her groceries, and feed the cat while he/she is away, and he/she won't even let me touch him/her! Sympathetic ear: Uh, because as a human being you should be doing those things in the first place, and…
/r/seduction11/09/19 05:01 AM
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That fact that she reaches out to him JUST to tutor her, would put her in a very awkward and uncomfortable situation IF he flat out tried to hit on her - and wasnt subtle about it. His "job" at this moment is to help her with her class work. Trying to be her friend will get him friendzoned quick! So no. That isnt a good idea at all. If he wants more, he has to play his cards the right way OR risk alienating her from him (and not using him as a tutor anymore) because she is uncomfortable
/r/seduction11/09/19 02:14 AM
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“sorry I have so and so to do right now” or something along those lines. That is also a NO. So if she says something like that, dont push it!!! Again, your job first and foremost is to tutor her...so remember that. If she says no or gives you excuses, just be cool, say "no problem", and keep doing what you have been - helping her
/r/seduction11/09/19 01:43 AM
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Keep it simple! Ask if she wants to go for a coffee or ice cream or whatever...and go off her body language IF she goes out with you. Keeping it casual at first lessens the chances of there being awkwardness IF she says no (but still needs your help tutoring)
/r/seduction11/09/19 01:36 AM
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That was a good article.
/r/seduction11/09/19 01:25 AM
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So i read through some of your history and noticed you mentioned not having a single girl ever be interested - let alone I didnt notice any mention of you having friends (generally - you said you dont ever get invited to parties or anywhere). Also, you brought up having autism and social issues. Right? Here is the thing - trying to 'seal the deal' without any social skills is and will always be - IMPOSSIBLE. At the very least, you have to not make a girl feel creeped out or uncomfortable because…
/r/seduction10/09/19 09:22 PM
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So which hentai video off pornhub is this from? 🤣
/r/seduction10/09/19 09:14 PM
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Thabk you! You get it!! Calling a girl sexy after you know her already, date her, or smash is ome thing. Calling a girl you dont know or just meet sexy right off the bat is cringey. And any girl that gets flattered by that prob doesnt get compliments a lot...so any lil thing makes her ass smile. 🤔
/r/seduction10/09/19 10:09 AM
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Vibe. All vibe! When you were celibate, you prob werent as focused ON sex...and so your vibe was prob more chill and relaxed. Now that you want sex, your vibe most likely is more "hungry" type. Could be in a good way, could be in a desperate way - cant say since Im not able to be around you to see.
/r/seduction10/09/19 02:06 AM
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I always fill people around me with energy and positivity. The only exception is if they are being a pickle, in that case I RUN away! Hon...this again, is "weird talk". Im sorry. No one SAYS this kinda stuff. Thats why Im asking - are you socially awkward? Because that isnt normal convo type wording. everything I've heard was inconsistent throughout every girl. For example, you said it isn't always about how I dress, but other girls said it's a very important aspect, and some didn't even mention…
/r/seduction10/09/19 01:52 AM
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“Hey sexy what’s up I’m _____”. Ew. Many girls today find that (sexy) offensive...and just a turnoff. If the girl didnt even speak, thats a clear sign she wasnt interested - ans she was bold about it by not even speaking. Ive done that myself...but only when a guy has been offensive or crude to me. I wont say a word. Ill literally ignore him and walk away
/r/seduction09/09/19 10:24 PM
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So let me break this down for you into groups: APPEARANCE - do you workout or are you overweight? How do you dress...is it sloppy or ultra eccentric? Hair cut and combed (clean also - greasy isnt cute)? If you have facisl hair - is it trimmed? PERSONALITY - do you have a sense of humor, make people laugh (with you NOT at you)? Do you have interesting things to talk about? Can you hold a decent conversation? Do you try to approach people and talk/be friends? PERSONA - now THIS is where I feel a l…
/r/seduction09/09/19 10:12 PM
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Try r/relationships, r/openrelationships, or r/sex...
/r/seduction09/09/19 03:48 PM
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Yo!!! I mean...you said it - not me. But you kept it real!!! Thats EXACTLY what seems to have happened.
/r/seduction09/09/19 12:35 PM
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I meant to ask this question myself...cause Im curious?
/r/seduction09/09/19 09:42 AM
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You say you like her...but you stop having sex with her, then dont talk to her for awhile because you felt it was "just sex", she eventually reaches out to catch up, and YOU get in your feelings because she flirted with someone else? Do you NOT see how ironic all of that IS??????!!!! Yall arent together, and you rolled on her. So you kinda cant expect her to treat you like a priority when your actions clearly let her know she wasnt one to you either. You then acted butthurt and announced you wer…
/r/seduction09/09/19 09:29 AM
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ask them if they'd like a massage. Tell her that she looks tense and that you are trying to relieve the tension. After a while tell her that the massage would be more effective if she took her top off and so on. Just be playful about it and make her laugh. Ew. No. Please dont do this. Even the way it is described sounds creepy - and as a girl, unless we are INTO the guy sexually, asking to "ease tension" with a massage and telling her to tske off her shirt is creepy. You will get rejected and pr…
/r/seduction09/09/19 09:22 AM
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OP...your post alone screams socially awkward and a bit special. If you talk THIS way (like in your post) to girls...it is no wonder you are having no luck. As a girl, if a guy talked to me this way, or wrote to me this way, Id immediately think to myself "nah...this guys kinda weird" and move on with my life. I wouldnt even entertain him! And you may not be weird, but you are giving that impression. So, change that! Girls like guys that act like guys!!!!! Proclaiming to be a "nice guy" is code …
/r/seduction09/09/19 08:50 AM
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Have you even ever HAD sex before? I did go through your post history and Im not going to make fun of you...but...it seems like you honestly need to take a breather from all the "sex obsession". If you have game, you wont give a f*ck about other guys not approaching - because that leaves tons of opps for YOU. But if your focus is sex...sex...sex (and you have NO game) you only doom yourself. So take a step back, try approaching girls casually, strike up convos before or after classes, etc.
/r/seduction08/09/19 09:59 PM
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Your best bet is to say HI next time you see her. Ask how she is doing, whats up...blah blah blah. See what she says. And THEN (in person) if you are comfortable - ask her for ice cream or coffee or something. Based on what she says is how YOU proceed.
/r/seduction08/09/19 08:10 PM
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I give this info cause I think it's important for the hypothesis about what she feels. I also got to know her in a mildly deep level, enough to check she had some values I really liked for a girl to be my girlfriend. She instantly sent me a follow request (but I ignored it, I only follow barely 100 persons on IG, don't like seeing the life of people I don't really care about). No offense, but this all sounds very...well...scripted. Like you literally read a book on seduction and followed a 'scri…
/r/seduction08/09/19 06:39 PM
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There are a few of us 'ladies' here in this sub. So if you really want to know something - just ask?! 😊
/r/seduction08/09/19 06:12 PM
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You leave her alone - thats all you do! If a girl says NO...thats a complete sentence! She may not want to be bothered, she may not be attracted to you, she may feel like you make her uncomfortble. No matter the reason, if she turns you down - move on. To keep trying, makes YOU a creeper.
/r/seduction08/09/19 06:36 AM
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Geez. This dude is still posting the same stuff I see...smh
/r/seduction08/09/19 06:31 AM
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I’m chalking it up to being too needy and I guess my personality is just kind of weird? And maybe I was too possessive/controlling too early on. Can you explain WHAT you do or say to come across as "needy, weird, possessive, or controlling"?
/r/seduction08/09/19 06:31 AM
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You said you and her are "old friends". So she prob felt comfortable with you having your arm around her...casually (and she wasnt thinking romantic at all) in that she kept mentioning your buddy. Safe to say she is into ya friend.
/r/seduction07/09/19 08:19 PM
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It isnt playing hard to get. It is LACK OF INTEREST. I dont know why that is so hard for guys to grasp...and no offense to you at all, but if a girl is into, she wont make it diffucult, she wont avoid you, she wont ignore or not respond to your msgs - she just wont. So if she IS doing those things, take the blatant hint and move on. She isnt feeling you.
/r/seduction07/09/19 08:09 PM
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So this gal 18 She is YOUNG...18yr olds do dumd things like be flighty and not respond I have not made her my girlfriend or told her i love her. Then why are you upset she doesnt answer you? You arent IN any legit relationship We have not have sex but I have gone down on her. 4 mos...no sex. Is she religious? Are you? If you havent made any committment and/or havent had sex - you arent in ANY relationship - im sorry. It feels like YOU are way too emotionally involved in this situationship - and …
/r/seduction07/09/19 08:07 PM
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For your info: girls will stare or repeatedly look at someone they find attractive. It doesnt mean they WANT to be asked out or hit on - human nature means admiring what we visually find attractive or appleaing. Anyhow...when you approached, it doesnt mean she was playing games, or anything when she turned you down. She legit may have JUST seen you as cute - that's it.
/r/seduction07/09/19 02:13 AM
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Let me clue you in: if a guy keeps asking for bjs and doesnt either return the favor or friggin blow her back out - he will get left in the dust.
/r/seduction07/09/19 02:07 AM
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How can I nurture a relationship that could blossom How old are you and why are you talking so 'romantic novel' - like? Whatever you do...dont talk like that to girls. Trust me. And to answer your question, you cant spark anything. Either she feels it or not...so you cant make something "blossom" that isnt there. Just keep being nice, talking to her. See what happens.
/r/seduction07/09/19 02:05 AM
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If she isnt responding much now...what makes you think she will go into detail about why she is pulling bsck? She may take that as putring her on the spot.
/r/seduction04/09/19 01:04 AM
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Do nothing. If she doesnt reach out to YOU...then that is your sign she isnt really interested. If she does reach out then see if she wants to go on a date
/r/seduction04/09/19 12:48 AM
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Please use periods and make complete sentences (instead of a run-on sentence with alllll thode commas). Anyhow, you admit you dont know this girl well AND that you basically kept following/looking for her at school. That may have scared her off...because it was too much too soon. Leave her alone for a bit. Dont contact her just to see what happens.
/r/seduction04/09/19 12:46 AM
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anyways long story short i told her a couple weeks later that we should meet again, How did it go from you 2 going on a few dates, to then not seeing each other for a couple weeks?
/r/seduction04/09/19 12:39 AM
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Take as long you need to get settled in. When you're ready, text me and we can figure something out." Your response was PERFECT!!!! Just wanted to say that...
/r/seduction03/09/19 01:49 PM
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So...does she wants to stay friends (at arms length) OR is she down for an fwb?
/r/seduction03/09/19 01:23 PM
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Well firsr off...self control IN said groups. Just because you joined to meet people, doesnt mean you have to put your penis in every one of them?! Lol. Not every woman is a 'conquest'. If you are comfortable in those groups, join others...volunteer...do you have guy friends? Hang out with them - take trips, clubs, lounges, beach, etc. Dont rely so heavily on the association of small circles. Thats how people get stuck!
/r/seduction02/09/19 12:02 PM
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I won't deny any of these observations as frankly I have been acting like a bit of an unreliable cunt lately... They arent haters - if what they are saying is true! Which you admit, it is. Also if you keep smashing the women in the same small circle, a reputation is gon a follow. You can smash who you want...just maybe spread the love OUT of your group - lol.
/r/seduction02/09/19 11:30 AM
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First off...im a girl (not a dude nor a brother). Secondly, there are NO "tried and true" ways to escape the friend zone. YES there are maneuvers guys can make so they dont end up there in the first place...but once labeled a friend, it is a very slim chance a guy gets out/relabeled. So guaranteeing some.method (you are either offering or selling) is misleading.
/r/seduction02/09/19 08:07 AM
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That is all bs. Because if there were legit steps to escape tbe friendzone...all the guys posting HERE about it would be lovers and not friends?! Lol.
/r/seduction02/09/19 07:44 AM
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Maybe she isnt much of a texter...maybe she was busy...maybe she isnt all that interested in you. Who knows! But why are you readinf into this early? Yall had one short convo and you are questioning things...that way too invovled too quick. Calm down. Fallback. Let it flow and just happen! You are being a bit desperate, and thats the quickest way to scare soemone off.
/r/seduction02/09/19 06:54 AM
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My gut says, don't budge, it's not worth it, she'd have contacted you by now if she were interested ALWAYS listen to your gut.
/r/seduction02/09/19 06:46 AM
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(F) perspective here - you went OD with the contact. You said you only talked for a short time...and after parting ways, you sent a text, FOUND her Snap (meaning she didnt give it to you) and messaged her there too. At this point, as a girl, Id be creeped out because "this guy" is way too anxious. So what do you do? Nothing. Fallback. See if she responds...if not, move on.
/r/seduction02/09/19 02:16 AM
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I knew I had read this before... https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/cxbjs0/been_going_out_to_game_with_my_wingman_for_a_year/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share Please. Dont be weird and keep posting the same thing everyday few days - it makes you look creepy.
/r/seduction01/09/19 10:48 PM
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I've even saying from my own experience in meeting with women on nycmeetup subreddit and some of them have the most charismatic personalities but I'm not attracted to them. YOU say so yourself...you have met average people that were nice BUT you werent attracted. Same goes for women - and you. There may be women out there that think you are cute, and other women will meet you and think you are nice and kind, but not physically be attracted to you.
/r/seduction01/09/19 09:59 PM
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If you feel you are being taken for granted and you have already brought it up to your girl....then be a man and leave her instead of some petty child who wanta to basically manipulate her into seeing his 'value'?!
/r/seduction01/09/19 09:44 PM
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You're coming from a place of scarcity if you feel the need to keep your girl in fear of you leaving. Scarcity mindset makes a guy make weak decisions.
/r/seduction01/09/19 09:42 PM
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So it sucks seeing all these guys that I know I’m better looking or right there with pulling all these girls Be careful with this ☝️ kinda attitude. It is skating awfully close to "nice guy" territory. What do other guys have to do with you - nothing. And as a girl...let me be honest: IF you were "better looking" then other guys, YOU would have plenty of opps and girls coming at you. So dont use THAT as a gauge for anything either It seems like you know what you want and are working towards it. …
/r/seduction01/09/19 09:41 PM
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On the spectrum: high functioning or low functioning autism. Level 1, 2, or 3...
/r/seduction01/09/19 09:30 PM
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😳...you gave everyone your life story instead of JUST the situation at hand. Geez man.
/r/seduction01/09/19 09:26 PM
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Idk what kind of relation you're looking for, but as friends, yes Nothing to escalate. She doesnt look at you as anything more than a friend - and she said that so there is no misunderstanding. Im sorry.
/r/seduction01/09/19 09:19 PM
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The first (and highest rated) comment was spot on: the guy was obviously socially inept in that his pickup line was "do you play video games?" 😳. At no point in pickup history will that EVER turn a girl on. Lol. He was ultra creepy and that is automatically a NO. Secondly, he also had NO self awareness. He awkwardly approached a GROUP of girls...so right there he was doomed. And when they rejected him, instead of walking away...he kept spitting compliments?! Smh. Were they wrong for laughing in …
/r/seduction01/09/19 06:42 PM
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Then whats the problem? You admit you dont like girls and they annoy you. Girls seem to not like you either - and are turned off. Problem solved!
/r/seduction01/09/19 05:52 PM
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As a girl...let me just say that she is beating around the bush in basically saying "no thanks". Either she isnt into you like that OR she didnt honestly enjoy the sex the way you did. Girls love sex just as much as guys...and when we get good 🍆 we want it often. If she drags it out - take the hint.
/r/seduction01/09/19 05:51 PM
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Im mixed (F) and grew up in the suburbs - so yeah, always heard the "you talk white" line. And it used to bother me, but the older you get the more ypu learn to love yourself - all of you - even how you speak. You being confident is EVERYTHING...seriously. And dont let some nit wit girls who think that all black guys are supposed to sound hood and talk in rap verses - hahaha. If you are as attractive as you say, and you get approached, then use that to your advantage. Do you have a sense of humo…
/r/seduction01/09/19 05:43 PM
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Did you mean to post this here? Sounds more like it belongs in some virginity sub or something...
/r/seduction01/09/19 05:12 PM
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This will just be a group of socially awkward guys, making girls uncomfortable 'as a group', all the while patting each other on the back for another night of NOT having sex. I get what your goal is OP, but I just dont see it happening when all of you in the group are sinking in the same boat
/r/seduction31/08/19 03:38 PM
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You just remarked a few days ago here how YOU have issues with approaching girls, talking to them, and moving things forward https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/cvydeu/my_confidence_is_down_the_drain/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share So not to be mean, but maybe it really isnt the girls that are difficult, BUT instead it is the fact that YOUR game skills possibly need work and improvment - so girls sre turned off by you. Admitting your issue is good - because that will motivate yo…
/r/seduction31/08/19 03:28 PM
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Well like I said...prepare to made a fool of. Because an emotionally MATURE man would understand that people get busy, tired, and cancel. An emotionally unstable man does the opposite...and tries to scold people. So do you man. But you are only making ypurself look bad, and she will talk and tell others. And rightly so!
/r/seduction30/08/19 09:57 PM
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And make sure to check r/niceguys cause Im sure she will post it there too! 🤣
/r/seduction30/08/19 09:55 PM
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It is ok to FEEL some type of way about her cancelling ...but the fact you are butthurt enough to literally try to make it clear her cancelling is (according to you) "unacceptable" - screams Nice Guy all the way. And I guarantee that IF you are this emotionally attached to the situation as a whole, enough to try to school this girl...then honestly she may have dodged a bullet by cancelling. Trust me, she will be showing everyone your messages too (probably Reddit - lol) and the "that guy is craz…
/r/seduction30/08/19 09:53 PM
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Im female...and have absolutely no interest in buying YOUR merchandise or book man. My point is that YOU cant post 5 days ago that you had no female interest. And then turn around and claim that a simple haircut and buying some shit changed all of that...it doesnt add up, and the fact you dont SEE that is really sad.
/r/seduction30/08/19 12:25 PM
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Oh wow 😳. This sounds real 'special' man...you have to see that?! A haircut and merchandise dont make you magically attractive, and even saying that sounds kinda off.
/r/seduction30/08/19 11:15 AM
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Um...where did these girls suddenly come from? Because you literarlly contradicted YOURSELF here... https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/cup37n/anyone_feels_like_8020_rule_is_becoming_slowly/ey39yl0?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/seduction30/08/19 04:44 AM
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Yes and NO. It all depends on how many pics he likes. For i stance this guy I went to school with just friend requested me - I accepted. I wake up tge next morning, and this nutbucket had went through my profile album and liked EVERY SINGLE PICTURE. So I had like 40 notifications from him...thats not a turnon. If anything it makes him look desperate, and when he asked me out I said NO. I also have blocked a guy that felt the need to comment on every pic I posted - and again, makes a guy look low…
/r/seduction30/08/19 04:40 AM
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You cant win someone over that doesnt want you...being real here. Has she shown ANY signs of interest?
/r/seduction29/08/19 09:13 PM
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Same here. If a guy doesnt make some type of move (touch my hand, kiss me or my cheek, etc) then Im most likely not gonna be into him at all.
/r/seduction29/08/19 08:48 PM
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Niiiice! Congrats on approaching, being a lil silly, and getting HER to offer her TN!
/r/seduction29/08/19 08:03 PM
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Girls arent all fickle. They just dont like YOU and your creepy behavior...thats all. 😁 Now how many other comments of mine are you going to hop behind and desperately try to make a point? Cause you only PROVE what has already been said about you being creepy and are proving to everyone why girls are NOT into you...🤷‍♀️. Again. HOW do you not get that?
/r/seduction29/08/19 07:59 PM
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YOU...need to take the same advice, but add in some SELF AWARENESS. Your apporach is cringey, too many people told you that already. Until you see that, you will keep getting rejected
/r/seduction29/08/19 07:56 PM
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Speaking of crigey vids...watch this recent post. Im sorry but your vids fall under this category! https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/cx3ppx/pua_coach_reacts_to_pua_cringe_a_bit_too_much/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/seduction29/08/19 06:15 PM
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I appreciate her honesty & situation but i'm not really interested in just hanging out as friends but I wouldn't mind keeping in touch perhaps. I want to be clear and honest too You literally SAID it right there ☝️. Just send that!
/r/seduction29/08/19 06:06 PM
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It is called COMMON SENSE. You have to have that when approaching girls - and I am one...so Im speaking from experience. There is nothing more freaking irritating then when a guy basically has no self awareness: approaches and tries to hold a convo when I am literally talking ON the phone! Who follows vids to a T but doesnt use common sense when following it?! Seriously...I looked through your post history and this seems to be a recurring problem you have - not being self aware. The girls looked…
/r/seduction29/08/19 06:02 PM
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Yep! I agree...this is just a "friend" situation brewing here because dude hasnt made a move. Too much time has passed that if he even tries NOW...it would be awkward and catch her off guard.
/r/seduction29/08/19 02:40 PM
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Yooooo! 🤣 I wanted to ask OP if that (autism) was the issue...not to make fun of him, but to honestly understand HOW he can be so oblivous to his behavior and approaches being creepy as Hell!?!?!
/r/seduction29/08/19 01:12 PM
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You SAID this is the same girl you asked for a relationship and she isnt replying...correct? Like I said - you creeped her out. She isnt INTERESTED if she isnt replying. Pushing for a relationship (even asking about it...) 3 days in isnt normal. It scares people away because it makes you look desperate. So the 'situation at hand' needs to be left alone. Stop texting her. If she responds - cool. If not, take some time to learn from this...and work on your self esteem.
/r/seduction29/08/19 12:14 PM
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Meeting once or a few times off Snap is not a gf. Come on now. 3 days in and asking for a relationship is desperate. Whether you care to admit it or not - to a girl that is NOT cute, NOT sexy, and NOT attractive...it is a desperate move. How old are you - may I ask?
/r/seduction29/08/19 12:10 PM
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Im gonna be blunt here: approaching the same person that has already rejected you, more than once, is crossing over into creeper status. That is the VERY definitjon...a guy who doesnt take NO/get it. How do you "forget" that you approached a mutual friend more than once? Come on now. Secondly, that video...smh...dude...that was NOT ok. She was on the phone, and even you said that to her "I see you are on the phone" or however you worded it, yet YOU KEPT TRYING TO TALK TO HER. Why???? That is not…
/r/seduction29/08/19 12:07 PM
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Dude...you creeped her OUT! Seriously. 3 days chatting and you ask if she wants a relationship???? Thats creepy and kinda desperate. You have to understand that. I checked through your history and see this seems to be a pattern with you...asking girls out/for a relationship, and you havent built up ANY rapport, attraction, etc. So that means there is a lack of self awareness going on with you. And guys like that tend to come across as creepy...because they arent "aware" of boundaries, social cue…
/r/seduction29/08/19 11:58 AM
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Is THIS the same girl you posted about here - asking her directly if she wanted a relationship...and THEN she ghosted you? https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/cw1g1c/what_should_i_text_next/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/seduction29/08/19 11:54 AM
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Do you take any ADD meds? That most def will help with the impulsive behavior. But even if not...you HAVE to practice behavioral/cognitive changes: pacing yourself, counting to 5 before you SAY something (gives you a lil time to think before you speak), letting the girl talk more than yourself (consciously NOT speaking until there is a moment of silence...asking HER questions so she can talk more). Little things to practice that allow you to slow down...
/r/seduction27/08/19 09:54 PM
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Yeah. Ok. Cool. Sure. Whatever. 👍🙄
/r/seduction27/08/19 09:46 PM
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You really need to stop man....for real. You sound WAY OFF, kinda special, and like you have NO real life experience dating - at all. And the more you talk, the worse it comes across. 🙄
/r/seduction27/08/19 09:39 PM
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If a random guy comes up to a girl and starts spouting romantic shit and poetry or whatever, let me tell you what is gonna happen....LAUGHTER. and not the "oh hes so sweet" laughter either - the "this guy is weird/corny" laughter followed bu side eye at each other - thats what. Because he is going to make himself look hella crazy and off (desperate). Seriously. You are way off base with that. Romantic stuff is cool when there is rapport already - aka they are dating or in a relationship. NOT whe…
/r/seduction27/08/19 09:28 PM
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If you have to ask...she isnt into you 🤷‍♀️. And this is coming from a girl!
/r/seduction27/08/19 09:19 PM
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What????? As a mixed black woman - Im gonna respectfully disagree. Poetic white guys? Um...wtf do you live man? Hahahaha. Have you ever dated, hooked up with, or even seriously held a "black womans" attention - curious? OP...girls are girls! If you want to talk to them, do it. Take the chance, go say hi and introduce yourself. If you notice they like something (sports...food...movies) make a comment about that to strike up a convo. But please...please...PLEASE dont be corny (aka poetic).
/r/seduction27/08/19 08:56 PM
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One thing with Latin clubs...everyone dances. It is like an unwritten rule! If they see you standing there, they will grab your hand and tske you in the dance floor. Smiles and compliments dancing does not equate interest - so be careful trying to flip what is an innocent cultural thing (dancing) into your own personal hookup spot. If you arent getting legit SIGNS that these women are truly interested in YOU (past just enjoying your dance moves) then tread lightly!!!
/r/seduction26/08/19 10:13 PM
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I’m pretty reclusive, but sociable when I need to be. I spend most of my time reading, working out and learning languages and generally pretty happy. However, I sometimes reflect on my past and the bullying I went through when I was in high school. Though strangers usually complement me and are nicer now All of THIS ☝️ is why girls dont bother - they cant - because YOU dont put yourself out there! You literally described yourself as a homebody that spends too much time rehashing the past and his…
/r/seduction26/08/19 10:07 PM
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She did what a girl who ISNT INTERESTED does - she said NO to his face. Shoot. Ive smiled at a guy staring at me (for too long) and when he came over, turnef him down! Just cause I smiled didnt mean I wanted to talk to him or give him my #...and it sure as Hell doesnt make me avoidant. It just meant I was being NICE and wasnt feeling him. If she was turning down multiple dudes, or was leading dudes on then dropping em - yes, she could be avoidant. But turning a guy down because he approached her…
/r/seduction25/08/19 05:02 PM
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No offense...but NO! He approached and she said NO. That isnt a fear of intimacy - that was a lack of interest/misreading of 'body language'.
/r/seduction25/08/19 04:55 PM
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How about you read the rest of the thread between he and I...and that will answer your REDUNDANT ass question. 🙄😁
/r/seduction25/08/19 02:52 PM
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Im not being negative nor trying to shit on you. And Im not a bro - im a female. Im telling you from a womans perspective that the way these girls acted meant they werent interested - clearly. And if a guy approaches us and we turn our heads or blatantly dismiss him by telling him to "go find your friends"...it means he was awkward, creepy, had a weird vine, or we werent PHYSICALLY attracted to him. Common sense. Now you are opening up and admitting you have no clue how to approach - and thats f…
/r/seduction25/08/19 02:40 PM
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Just curious, can you please give me advice on approach? How do you approach girls? How do you approach a single girl versus a group of girls? Is approaching a group of girls appropriate/easy/natural/common thing to do or will they be resistant to break off? The fact you are asking how to do even the BASICS of approach says to me that THIS is why those girls walked away and had no interest - you have no clue what to do/how to do it. And that makes a guy awkward and sometimes comes across creepy …
/r/seduction25/08/19 02:29 PM
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So if literally every girl you were able ti speak to made an excuse to get away ("gonna go back to my friends"..."why dont you find another girl") that is a CLEAR sign that you may have been coming across to them in a not-so-hot way. May have been awkawrd, maybe creepy, maybe desperate, maybe you went i too fast/too quick - whatever the case, they werent into you and made that loud and clear. Look into your approach! Work on that being smooth...or at least appealing.
/r/seduction25/08/19 02:16 PM
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Congrats on your first approach! Keep it up...it is good practice and MAY wnd up ggetting you a # someday. BUT...be careful reading IOIs and social cues. Seems odd that you said she was looking at you repeatedly and smiling, but then once you approach she basicallt shuts you down? Makes me think she wasnt really looking at YOU per se and you misread things - possibly.
/r/seduction25/08/19 02:10 PM
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As a female - I cosign ALL OF THIS! ☝️. I have literally been turned off mid-makeout by the smell in a guys room, his breath, the fact he sucked at kissing/touching/oral, or a guy that tried to push sex when he had a livingroom full of his roommates or buddies.
/r/seduction25/08/19 12:04 PM
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TALK to her about it first...dont just assume she will pay half. Ex: "wanna split the cost of a room Sat night? Ill bring..." or however you wanna bring it up
/r/seduction25/08/19 07:23 AM
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Either you are getting girls who are genuinely in NO rush to have sex...or...these girls are NOT into you sexually at all! So they keep turning you down.
/r/seduction25/08/19 07:22 AM
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I have to ask...is smiling/facial expressions NOT natural for you? I ask because your smile just seems...well...unnatural, in a way. I CANT explain it. Thats why Im curious id managing your facial expressions is difficult for ya
/r/seduction07/08/19 08:54 PM
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Nice improvement. But gotta be honest...that first pic (the largest one in the collage) is off-putting (aka - kinda creepy/scary). I would remove that one.
/r/seduction07/08/19 04:54 PM
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The fact you dont see that she is literally NOT into you, and you are questioning it, means this situation has the potential to go down the hill fast! She is being friendly and having convos with you - thats all.
/r/seduction30/07/19 10:25 AM
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Dont waste your time responding to that guy...check his post history. He is NOT looking for advice - he just wants a pity party.
/r/seduction29/07/19 10:25 AM
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the non-neediness set the tone for everything that came after. It made me respect him Yesssss!! Amen! Thats the key that a lot of guys either forget or ignore.
/r/seduction28/07/19 10:33 PM
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If the single, only focus of your life is to get a girl, then yes, you're needy. Exactly!!!! I get that getting a gf/sex is a desire - sometimes a strong one. BUT when it is the ONLY DESIRE a guy has...that isnt healthy. You nailed it! When you put your focus elsewhere, and start investing in your life and yourself, and bettering your own life, you become less needy. That is the ultimate POINT right there! Neediness wont just go away if you dont have things to keep you busy and distracted.
/r/seduction28/07/19 10:31 PM
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If THAT is what you derived from just a single statement (and not the WHOLE context of my comment) - then that is on you! No one said to pretend anything...and if you are clingy/needy/desperate then that is an issue you have to fix first before a girl will even BE interested (let alone stick around to be with you). Options are not just 'given' to ya...for some guys it takes work. So if thats what you want, put in the work to get it.
/r/seduction28/07/19 08:11 PM
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This is your 2nd postin r/seduction in an hour+. So...either you are that lonely that you just want ANY convo - or - you are really just upset that you have NO success with women and want validation that your negative viewpoint of the dating game is right (fyi...it isnt) https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ciy0i1/im_a_3510_male_am_i_doomed_to_die_a_virgin/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share If you REALLY have done everything suggested to you to get better with women and you STILL ha…
/r/seduction28/07/19 06:56 PM
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Aaawww look...Somebodys been rejected - a lot, and wanted to come to r/seduction to blame girls and find some incel buddies instead of genuinely trying to figure out WHY girls dont pay him any mind. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/acq77l/are_girls_really_into_a_guy_just_because_hes_6/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/seduction28/07/19 04:58 PM
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You literally wrote an r/whiteknight excuse for guys not getting the hint OR for being clingy as Hell, so Im going ti assume you are one of these guys that dont "get it" when a girl isnt interested...and that confusion has led to you now blaming online dating and fatties, and your thoughts on ugly women getting more sex than men?!?!? Lol. Also blaming the fact that 99 out of a hundred girls reject a guy - so he has an EXCUSE to cling to the 1 that gives him any attention. That is not ok. It is S…
/r/seduction28/07/19 04:52 PM
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If you dont text a lot, and you tell the girl that, then it shouldnt be a big deal. But then the ques is - how do you make and keep the connection with a girl if you arent texting?
/r/seduction28/07/19 04:14 PM
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Dude...no offense read my comments again. YOU cannot be this dense, seriously. Ghosting means they dont want you. So...what did I say when someone doesnt want you??????
/r/seduction28/07/19 02:48 PM
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Wtf...are you HIGH or something? All these posts within an hour, and this one is really weird! Seduction in colombia https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/civrbl/seduction_in_colombia/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share Getting girls is easy https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/civlzl/getting_girls_is_easy/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/seduction28/07/19 02:27 PM
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Walking Away - namely...moving on/letting go of the 'connection' (or hope of one). If a girl isnt into you and is acting that way, just move on. Stop texting or calling her. Stop asking her out. Leave her alone and go on with your own life - continuing your search for someone that does reciprocate your feelings.
/r/seduction28/07/19 01:54 PM
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Dont waste your time responding to that guy. Just check his post history...it is really 🙄
/r/seduction28/07/19 12:05 PM
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I've had really good success of late by being willing to walk away. Pretty much the most attractive thing you can do is that. If she walks away or flakes, you say thats ok, move on. As a girl - Im saying this post is GOLD!!!!!! It seems like a lot of guys (even in this sub) are so AFRAID to walk away from a girl/woman that is not into them, not texting back, not giving IOIs, rejecting them by either ghosting them or flat out saying NO to everydate request he makes, etc. But the guys who do that …
/r/seduction28/07/19 11:59 AM
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Im a little confused, since she was so into me Maybe...she really wasnt THAT into you, like you think. How do you know she was interested? What made you think she wad attracted to you?
/r/seduction28/07/19 09:33 AM
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Because you can't get good with women, get a high quality girlfriend or have a happy, long-lasting relationship until you improve practically everything about yourself. I wish more guys understood THIS point! Game covers all aspects of your life: friendships, relationships, business networking, etc. Maybe your friend is a dick with women and with other guys. Nobody thinks that's Alpha. Alpha males are popular, fun people who tend to be well dressed, well-groomed, well-spoken and generous in thei…
/r/seduction28/07/19 09:21 AM
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Daddy game is real. Amen!!! I honestly prefer older men (40+). Their maturity is so much better, the sex is great (they arent selfish lovers), etc.
/r/seduction28/07/19 09:16 AM
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Check his post history...you'll understand his stupid comment. 🙄
/r/seduction28/07/19 09:14 AM
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Sounds like you’re taking the easy way out. Definitely! Check this guys post history...he posts constantly about this same thing and has a LOT of issues, but has excuses why he doesn't do the work to change his situation. Honestly...any advice you give is wasted here! Smh
/r/seduction28/07/19 09:08 AM
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Dont get caught up in her not responding to 1 text! If she responds to others consistently - cool. Besides dont text too much anyhow...ask her out and see what happens from there
/r/seduction28/07/19 09:03 AM
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Honestly...just check this guys post history for the past week, month, hell 3 mos: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/c6gb1b/very_weird_awkward_or_slow_guys/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/brl0m8/does_genetics_determine_everything_esp_in_regards/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share https://www.reddit.com/r/aspergers/comments/brkpi9/autistic_guys_who_cannot_do_much_and_dating/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share https://www.red…
/r/seduction28/07/19 08:59 AM
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Not to be rude...but WHY dont you have any friends? Whatever the reason, why not work on making some.
/r/seduction28/07/19 08:58 AM
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For the record: being added/followed on FB or IG doesnt mean ANYTHING. Maybe she wants to add followers and is just returning the favor...maybe she likes your pics - whatever the case. Please do not make any assumptions off someone following your IG
/r/seduction28/07/19 01:02 AM
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show them that there is a way even when approaching a girl is totally out of their reality. Thats the thing though - the only way IS to "do it". I honestly have to ques your method if after over a year...you are still working on approach - the most basic part of building relationships (business or romantic). If you were talking about@ month or so, thats understandbale. But you are at 400 days of talking about "doing it" (and still havent) yet you must understand how that isnt really a help to ot…
/r/seduction27/07/19 07:33 PM
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I commend you for blogging and tracking your progress. But if you dont actually APPLY any technique the all your blogging is just "talk" and honestly wont motivate anyone - esp if it isnt even helping YOU make moves after 400 days? The first comment was harsh, but has a point...DO it. Get off the comp blogging and actually DO the approach, ask a girl out, start making moves. That is what motivates others...not words.
/r/seduction27/07/19 06:32 PM
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As a girl...let me tell you first hand - DO NOT BUY A GIRL DRINKS AND EXPECT ANYTHING. Please! If you think a drink will lead to her drinking your juices - nope. Doesnt work that way. Too many times Ive had a guy send me a drink, or sit next to me and order me a drink...and then assume that drink equals him earning a hookup. BUT he inevitably ignores that I didnt ask for the drink, dont want to feel obligated to take the drink from a guy I dont know, and may not even be attracted to him?! Save y…
/r/seduction27/07/19 06:29 PM
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You arent in a relationship - so she doesnt HAVE to respond immediately or quickly. You said you only tslked and Uni...so...since it hasnt gone anywhere past that, why do you expect her to keep texting you? Either make it a point to ask her out, or keep things casual and STOP expecting her to respond to everything you send.
/r/seduction27/07/19 01:41 AM
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You make sense - but I disagree with some of whT you said. Self improvement is NEVER wrong advice. Never! And lets be honest here - a large majority of the guys in r/dating, r/dating_advice, and even here in r/seduction have low to no success in even getting a womans attention let alone getting a date or sex. And when it comes to dating, sex, and relationships...people CANT be soft anymore, they need truth and for people to stop holding their hands. It is perfectly fine to take a break. Get off …
/r/seduction26/07/19 10:06 PM
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How did you land her the first time??? Cant you try that again?
/r/seduction26/07/19 09:50 PM
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If you are over the age of 30 and even have to ASK that question - THAT is whats wrong.
/r/seduction26/07/19 09:47 PM
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If she doesn't message me at all shall I just forget about her or message her again after a suitable amount of time like 6 months? No offense but this question comes across as desperate. Why are you being so desperate that you cant move onto another girl/girls? Despite this girl not giving any real signs of interest, you are STILL holding out that maybe in 6 mos you should "try again?" That just doesnt sound normal to me. Move on, date, have fun, meet girls at parties and bars, etc. Stop being s…
/r/seduction26/07/19 09:44 PM
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True. But lets be honest...an 18yr olds mentality is that of a TEENAGER! A grown ass man in his 30s purposely pursuing TEENAGERs speaks volumes about his mentality, honestly. I dont care how "mature" the girl is for her age.
/r/seduction26/07/19 09:40 PM
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Im not saying forget about her...just fall back a bit. Stop texting her. See if she comes to you or texts you.
/r/seduction26/07/19 09:05 PM
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Yes.
/r/seduction26/07/19 08:57 PM
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The first one you posted...
/r/seduction26/07/19 08:53 PM
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😳😳😳...dude, very creepy. Your whole convo was just creepy. Her short answers were clear that she is NOT interested. And instead of picking up on that, you just kept up with the creepiness. Please take a step back and let this girl alone.
/r/seduction26/07/19 08:25 PM
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I texted her that "your hotness will balance the coldness of the lake" and "I mean the human body has a lot of heat in it". That sounds very awkward...and wasnt flirtatious at all. Just kinda weird and seems dorky.
/r/seduction26/07/19 08:22 PM
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Yeeeeesssss! Omg...I find "how was your day" boring as Hell, esp when the guy sends it every damn day. It is just blah. I tend to usually not pursue that guy because he ends up being too uptight or just dull. OP: ask what shes up to that night? Send her a random funny meme or whatever. Hell, maybe call her and talk (instead of text). Anything to switch things up and being interesting.
/r/seduction26/07/19 08:21 PM
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At 30...why are you seekingnout 18yr olds? That is kinda my ques. Because the maturity level isnt there, shoot, the street smarts arent either.
/r/seduction26/07/19 08:16 PM
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If she isnt responding either she is busy, or she isnt interested. You cant be 'dumped' if you arent really dating...so dont think of it that way. But I suggest letting this go. Stop texting her and see if she reaches out to YOU. If she doesnt, then thats your answer.
/r/seduction26/07/19 08:14 PM
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No...not through text after the fact. It is awkward and just blah. And if this is the first time hanging out alone, then chill and play it cool. Let her get to know you and vice versa. You can develop feelings for someone you dont know! So give it a bit of time. Say after this time, if you feel like asking her out through text - do that (and be clear you are asking her on a date).
/r/seduction26/07/19 10:08 AM
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When you meetup, is it difficult to THEN ask her directly in a date (basically clarify that you want to take her out on a DATE )?
/r/seduction26/07/19 09:59 AM
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"Sure" is not a yes or a no. .really. It is a kind way us girls avoid responding but most likely arent interested or arent serious. So in all honesty you didnt really have a date...
/r/seduction26/07/19 09:58 AM
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She is a psycho...
/r/seduction26/07/19 09:56 AM
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Wait...I have to say this because Ive had a guy friend put me in this situation before. He asked me to go get some dinner - and we did. I had NO CLUE he thought it was a date...namely because he didnt preface it as one and I didnt like him in that way so Id never assume anything "romantic". After dinner he tried to kiss me and I was not ok with it! He THEN tells me that he thought this was a date blah blah blah. My advice to you - dont assume. It sucks to be on the other end and get caught off g…
/r/seduction26/07/19 09:55 AM
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It doesnt mean anything. Just that something got their attention or they see you around and followed your IG. No biggie! If you see them in person...smile. say hi, strike up a convo.
/r/seduction26/07/19 09:47 AM
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Do you understand how SAD that is? Smh...
/r/seduction26/07/19 09:46 AM
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How about just be normal. No need to be extra with it...just act like normal. Smile, say hi, and keep going on with your business.
/r/seduction25/07/19 10:04 PM
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Just did 🥴
/r/seduction25/07/19 09:57 PM
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Im agreeing with this! I feel like a guy that can pull ass online (which is harder than in person) then he def wont have trouble IRL.
/r/seduction25/07/19 09:42 PM
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He wont answer your questions because the answer to 99% of them will be NO - his post history confirms it all too. And if you even try to explain that he needs to work with a professional or to practice, he will leap right to "but Im autistic". This OP would rather pathetically swim in a pity puddle, then actually DO anything to change his situation. He constantly posts about the same shit...🙄
/r/seduction18/07/19 10:38 AM
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Honestly...just check this guys post history for the past week, month, hell 3 mos: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/c6gb1b/very_weird_awkward_or_slow_guys/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/brl0m8/does_genetics_determine_everything_esp_in_regards/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share https://www.reddit.com/r/aspergers/comments/brkpi9/autistic_guys_who_cannot_do_much_and_dating/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share https://www.red…
/r/seduction18/07/19 10:35 AM
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should i try to quit? Are you addicted to it? Like.you HAVE to watch it all the time to "get off"? Would it improve my game? Game has nothing to do with porn - and vice versa. If anything, porn will give you a FALSE idea of what sex and pleasing a woman should be...making you NOT a good lover.
/r/seduction13/07/19 09:08 PM
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This guy is mentally ill or autistic. Please DO NOT engage with him. He has posted the same thing for a year...same pics...same posts - but creates diff profiles every time (because the old ones get blocked). Each new one has negative karma...!!! Click on the 3 small dots - upper right hand corner Select Report - then select Spam
/r/seduction11/07/19 01:40 PM
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Being honest just by what you wrote - your whole approach was very weak. And that tends to be a turnoff to girls...
/r/seduction11/07/19 01:37 PM
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This retard has been posting THE SAME POSTS AND PICTURES for a year. Dont even bother responding to him. He will eventually delete this profile name, create a new one, and post this same stupid post all day until he gets blocked - then creates another profile. Always check the karma/post history. It is under 20 days...each profile
/r/seduction11/07/19 05:06 AM
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Yes...he is. Either insane or autistic
/r/seduction11/07/19 05:03 AM
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Im not the only person that said the same thing NOR that gave the same understanding of the usage of the word - as I did. So Why are you STILL trying to argue a mute point? 🤷‍♀️
/r/seduction07/07/19 10:11 PM
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our third male friend asks to come with us and just fucks up the entire thing. I’m usually a pretty confident guy, but this dude just stole the entire fucking spotlight So he had a more chatismatic and outgoing personality then you...it isnt fair to basically make it negative and accuse him of "stealing the spotlight". This girl that I had a connection with barely fucking talked to me since I just felt powerless in the social situation You felr powerless because you ALLOWED your insecurity to ta…
/r/seduction07/07/19 08:34 PM
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I used to give advice in that sub...but quit. It really is a ton of socially retarded individuals that I believe most of us would label "creepy" and flat out negative, and they have NO clue how to even begin to act normal (so to speak). It is sad...really. A lot of folks in there have social anxiety, autism, or mental illness and really need step by step help on being social.
/r/seduction07/07/19 06:42 PM
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Im telling you...as a female...why we call a guy "handsome". All the older women in my life use it to describe a guy who is dressed nicely (not necessarily that HE is good looking). If you dont like it, well, then that's on you. If OP was interested on the dictionary definition he couldve easily looked it up himself...🤣
/r/seduction07/07/19 05:23 PM
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Dont respond to this guy - he is a well known and annoying troll! Please report him... ...click in the 3 small white dots upper right hand corner ...select (Spam) ...submit
/r/seduction07/07/19 05:03 PM
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We were making out and I got her shirt off but anytime I tried to progress past that she would stop me. I probably tried about 5 or 6 times and she just wouldn’t bite. As a girl...this shit is THE most annoying stuff and is usually an automatic turnoff (for me). I am all for trying MAYBE 2x, cause us girls may be on the fence in that moment about whether or not we wanna smash....and you go for the 2nd time only based on her reaction or body language. BUT...a guy that keeps trying after you have …
/r/seduction07/07/19 10:59 AM
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Social skills are SO IMPORTANT! There is nothing like being on a date, and the guy is ultra...well...weird. Awkward extender moments of silence, boring convo, he repeats things he already said, he tries to kiss you when you have given him NO IOIs, etc. That stuff is such a big turnoff...and is the quickest way to get rejected. Also will get you friendzoned!
/r/seduction07/07/19 10:51 AM
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i wanna continue the interaction but the girl will cut me short before i even make any moves. For example last night i was talking to this girl that works at a club and after a minute she was like "well go have fun now". Or i was in a car with this girl and i wanted to do something but i was taking too long and i said something obnoxious and she was like get out of my car lightheartedly, So...these are clear examples of YOU "missing social cues". There is no pre-rejection, these girls are not in…
/r/seduction07/07/19 09:31 AM
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Handsome is the grown version of "nice"...thats all. It is the old school way of being nice and paying a compliment...does not mean interest or attraction necessarily
/r/seduction07/07/19 09:09 AM
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is there hope for autistic guys who don't compensate with the college credentials/career/money angle? A lot of us don't function well enough for that. Oh look...the same question you ask EVERY DAMN TIME? Let me answer it for ya - NO...there is no hope for you. Not until you man up and stop using autism as an excuse, stop whining like a weak ass man, be realistic (not many women want a over 30 guy who comes to table with NOTHING), and DO something besides repeatedly post the same bs on Reddit.
/r/seduction07/07/19 08:46 AM
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...says EVERY incel that refuses to make any personal improvements, and who secretly WANTS to be just like Chads...and get the girls Chads do. 😌🙄
/r/seduction06/07/19 06:35 PM
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It wasnt your technique man, she just wasn't feeling you - sorry man
/r/seduction06/07/19 06:30 PM
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And can be the absolute creepiest too...🥴
/r/seduction06/07/19 06:14 PM
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Leagues are subconscious - but DO exist. So dont lie to yourself about it, accept it, and be the best YOU that you can to attract others.
/r/seduction06/07/19 06:07 PM
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Trying to kiss a girl doesnt make you immoral - where did you get THAT from? You seem to be the 'guy friend' to these girls...in that they are very physically comfortable with you, but are clearly not sexually interested. Im sorry.
/r/seduction06/07/19 03:16 PM
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Never compare your life to someone elses. It only leads to depression...seriously, because someone will always have more or be more than you. That goes for all of us! If social media is hurting you. Get rid of it! If you arent emotionally strong enough to handle seeing happy couples, pretty girls with their bf's, etc...then protect yourself and take it down. But your mindset has to change also. Because even without social media, the real world is full of happy successful people - and just becaus…
/r/seduction06/07/19 02:44 PM
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If you look at his post history for even just a month...you will see the kind of guy this is?!
/r/seduction06/07/19 12:41 PM
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Honestly...just check this guys post history for the past week, month, hell 3 mos: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/c6gb1b/very_weird_awkward_or_slow_guys/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/brl0m8/does_genetics_determine_everything_esp_in_regards/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share https://www.reddit.com/r/aspergers/comments/brkpi9/autistic_guys_who_cannot_do_much_and_dating/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share https://www.red…
/r/seduction06/07/19 12:32 PM
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As a woman .I respect you for making this decision. At a certain age men and women start wanting to date/pair off/have a relationship - but just having thag desire does not mean they are 'ready'. Good for you on being self aware.
/r/seduction06/07/19 12:18 PM
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This is such a socially retarded question...
/r/seduction06/07/19 12:16 PM
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So Im not gonna judge, but instead try to be as direct as possible without hurting your feelings. I realize that people with aspergers (depending on their level) have a very hard time dating AND relating - normally and romantically. And the one thing I admit to understanding in dealing with an autistic guy that had a crush on me at work, is that some can be really creepy in their behavior. But I get that it is because they dont get how to talk to people, read body language, social cues, etc. Thi…
/r/seduction06/07/19 07:42 AM
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I mean...it happens. Maybe she wasnt interested, maybe she just wanted to be friends, maybe she has someone, and maybe it really is the distance. BUT MAYBE the reality is you misread the signs...is that possible? That what you had hoped was interest - actually was just her being nice? Either way, dont stop trying! I know it can be frustrating...but if girls dont give you a chance that means there is SOMETHING that is keeping them at a distance. Fig out what that 'thing' is - so you can change or…
/r/seduction06/07/19 05:50 AM
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f a girl I was seeing regularly wanted to just sleep over at my place and not have intercourse I would probably look for someone else it was a little more sex-positive but that's just based on me personally Wow! How much actual REAL LIFE exp with girls do you have? Because that attitude, which is basically ("if I dont get what I want...im out") will not serve you well in life. Just a heads up. And it makes you come across extremely selfish and self serving
/r/seduction05/07/19 03:17 PM
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The thing is - sex isnt promised, guaranteed, or expected to be given. Ever. If 2 people have been having sex and sleeping over for sometime...and one night one of em doesnt feel like having sex that nite but just wants to sleep, it doesnt make their dynamic suddenly "platonic"?! That mindset is what gets a lot of guys confused and/or making bad decisions...because they cant read the situation.
/r/seduction05/07/19 02:46 PM
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To be AROUND YOU!!! She obviously likes you and is comfortable with you...so she wanted to sleep over.
/r/seduction05/07/19 01:44 PM
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Accept it - thats what you do. You wont both always be in the mood at the same time...and thats ok. She doesnt OWE you sex, whether she is in your bed or not.
/r/seduction05/07/19 01:38 PM
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You don't seem to have psychological awareness Your post history (which is public...by the way) actually says that about YOU - not me. Obsessive thoughts? Anxiety? Suicidal? Im not in anyway making fun of you...but what I AM trying to do is pinpoint what may be a deeper issue that makes you so judgmental - thats all. Because THAT is where you would start finding out why you view things the way you do. You over here posting about a girls sexual past - when COMMON SENSE (as you brought up) would b…
/r/seduction05/07/19 01:08 PM
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Dare I ask if you suffer from any mental or developmental/neurological disorders - because you are going WAY too deep into something trivial? (Per your post history - there seems to be some deep seated internals things you deal with)...either way, if you are insecure about a girls past - then move on. Your right. But do not ever make HER feel bad about it...her decisions were her right too.
/r/seduction05/07/19 12:55 PM
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You ARE getting dates...so that means it isnt a "physical" thing that prevents 2nd dates. That DOES mean it is either the vibe you put out or something you say. Then we agree on seeing again someday, hug and depart. This says "friendship" and not relationship. Why are you hugging these women? Are you escalating- trying to kiss them? Touch them in small ways? Flirt? So althougj your social skills have improved, that doesbt mean you know how to FLIRT - and a guy that cant do that is either very aw…
/r/seduction05/07/19 10:27 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/c9ahe9/my_life_with_girls_is_literally_over_because_im/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/seduction05/07/19 05:29 AM
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There it is. THERE is the reason girls dont bother...👍
/r/seduction05/07/19 05:13 AM
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You posted claiming you get lied to. Ok... You say looks matter - they do. Ok... You feel you are unattractive. Ok...
/r/seduction05/07/19 05:11 AM
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Then WHY are you posting...what are you looking for? Validation? Someone to agree with you or argue against you? None of us see a pic...so we cant speak on your looks. So again, what IS the issue?
/r/seduction05/07/19 05:09 AM
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Ok. And??? If you accept that - then again, whats the issue? Live your life.
/r/seduction05/07/19 05:08 AM
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So if you claim people lie (which usually they do to NOT hurt your feelings)...and you feel your looks make it not worth chatting up girls - what is the problem???? Just live your life and ignore the white lies people tell, if you care not to believe em.
/r/seduction05/07/19 05:05 AM
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Seems like you just had a bad NITE! 2 crazy matches that didnt pan out. Sorry that happened but dont let it knock you off your game. If this happened repeatedly...diff story. But one offs like kinda come with the territory. As for "last min invites" - we(women) are told to NOT accept them as it signifies we were a 2nd/last choice. So in that case, I wouldnt take it personal.
/r/seduction05/07/19 04:55 AM
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Everything about her inconsistent responses to you screams "not really interested". So there is nothing to ask or reply to her. Move on.
/r/seduction05/07/19 02:25 AM
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Even if she isnt looking at you, is she engaged (answering your questions, talking to you, smiling/laughing)? Is she asking you questions? If she isnt doing any of that PLUS not making eye contact - she either is very shy or just not interested.
/r/seduction05/07/19 01:52 AM
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So you have a PLAN! Thats what matters! And being that you are at home...if you plan yo have sex, give the girl an option - offer to spring for a hotel, and see if in turn she offers her place. Either way, just assuming her place is the go-to isnt cool...unless she offers.
/r/seduction04/07/19 12:05 PM
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Um...YES! If she already knows you live at home...and you havent offered to get a room - thats a hard NO for a woman.
/r/seduction04/07/19 12:58 AM
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She's still receptive every now and then, and we get along well, but she has labled me as a friend but I'm pretty sure she still sees me as a possible sexual prospect. I initiate flirting and she's sometimes receptive, sometimes netural, nothing negative like a straight ew or yuck. YOU literally have your own answer IN your own post. What more advice do you need? Respect YOURSELF and move on - SHE ISNT INTO YOU.
/r/seduction03/07/19 01:08 PM
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because autistism affects sensory input, and youd have no way of knowing based on anything ive said. On the contrary...what you have said is EXACTLY why Im asking, and in no way am trying to insult you. EDIT: based on all your responses to the commenters here - your lack of theory of mind, obsessive thoughts and arguments for NSD, and just the general unrealistic fantasy of 'seducing a stripper' (black & white thinking)...Im going to believe that this is autism. Point being - it isnt worth even …
/r/seduction02/07/19 11:35 PM
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So which is it: autism or mental illness? No judgment of course, just want to understand where this kind of thought process of yours is coming from.
/r/seduction02/07/19 11:27 PM
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Its not like they walk up to you for 5 minutes to figure out if youre going to give them money or not, but they try to talk you into giving them money, and without her noticing ill be reframing that mindset. We all know how damaged strippers are, and I will be seen as interesting the moment I start asking about her passions and dreams instead of staring at her tits saying shes hot like every other guy. 😳...dude, that sounds so socially retarded, it isnt even funny. Like seriously...this method y…
/r/seduction02/07/19 11:16 PM
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Strippers WILL NOT pay you an ounce of mind if you dont spend money. You have to understand that! They are there to make money...not help some guy with his social skills. When desiring to learn the social basics, Im still unclear on what bell went off in your head and said "ding ding ding...Ill practice at the strip club"?! Lol. Strippers are PAID to be nice (key word being money exchanged). Just. Because you claim to be attractive doesnt mean they wont turn you down with a quickness when you at…
/r/seduction02/07/19 10:52 PM
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im new to pick up and have social anxiety so it makes sense to go somewhere where rejection is less likely so I can productively practice the skills. ...and honestly, THAT ☝️ is why your idea of trying to pickup strippers is a BAD ONE and very socially awkward! Dont you think thede girls get weirdos coming at them all the time...diff ways...some trying to be nonchalant, some trying to be slick, some with these fake fantasies?! Hahahaa. The same result will occur - rejection. I get why you feel i…
/r/seduction02/07/19 10:32 PM
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Ok but "bad boys" are NOT the same as psychos...so you cant even compare the 2 OR the women they each attract. The women that liked Bundy are the same type of women that find love with prison inmates doing 25+ yr bids...ahhahaha. It is low self esteem, and unhealthy pattern for drama ans abuse (learned from childhood), and a desire to be wanted...
/r/seduction02/07/19 10:15 PM
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He was charismatic - thats why women flocked to him. BUT...pay attention to the types of women that were attracted to him, esp after he was found to be nuckin futs!!! Lol. These women were looney birds...they werent wrapped too tight. The avg EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY woman would never bother with Bundys bs because she wouldve seen through it.
/r/seduction02/07/19 10:10 PM
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are there people who you immediately think of as "friend" and not as a romantic or sexual partner even if they ostensibly are your type? Yes! Thing is...IF that guy really was my type, he would be my bf and not just my friend. Every girl has THAT guy friend she thinks is cute but she isnt sexually attracted to him. The reason is usually because: she isnt into him that way physically he came at her with 'friend' vibes/nice guy tone and so she followed that lead. He is not assertive in his feeling…
/r/seduction02/07/19 07:01 PM
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But did she breathe through her MOUTH or through her NOSE...cause they both have diff meanings?! Lol
/r/seduction02/07/19 12:16 PM
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This HAS to be a play on allllll the kinda ridiculous posts like "she looked in my direction - is she interested?" ... "this girl rolled her eyes at me - does she like me?" ... "if a girl sucks her teeth, does that mean she wants to suck my dick?..."this girl at uni ran behind a bush and ducked when I was walking over to her - should I try to ask her out again?" 🤣🤣🤣
/r/seduction02/07/19 12:16 PM
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She sounds like she betrayed herself...hahaha
/r/seduction01/07/19 02:02 AM
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Be honest to you and describe the women that you would like to have at your side, it will be probably a nice looking women. I think people forget this! If an ugly guy wants a hot girl, thats OK until she rejects him. Then all of a sudden she is labeled shallow or whatever. YET...if that ugly guy was honest, he WANTS a hot girl. So it is always so ironic how it is a double standard.
/r/seduction01/07/19 02:00 AM
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She UNLOADED on you...for no damn reason at all. And the fact she keeps trying to talk to you everyday is nuts. Cut her off! Esp if you arent into her
/r/seduction01/07/19 01:46 AM
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I get a response from her saying that she enjoys working with me and would like to keep our relationship professional. She literally rejected both 'date' requests outside of work, she ONLY accepted your lunch request (which is during work anyhow), you asked her out yet again and she said NO (basically)...then she said she just wants to keep thing professional. THAT ☝️ is your hard stop!!! This is where self awareness comes into play and you have to honor HER wishes - esp since you work together.…
/r/seduction30/06/19 11:00 PM
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I absolutely LOVE you positivity! Omg...I just wanna hug you 🤗. You have the right attitude about self improvement, and I know you will be successful eventually- love, sex, dating, all the above. Please keep sharing your positivity in this sub...a lot of guys need to hear your example (im a girl by the way).
/r/seduction30/06/19 06:19 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/bvddnf/she_asked_if_i_watch_cartoons/epobr9y?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/seduction30/06/19 08:45 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/bvddnf/she_asked_if_i_watch_cartoons/epobr9y?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/seduction30/06/19 08:45 AM
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I've met more people (men and women) in the last year or two and while I've made good friends for the first time I've never had anyone consider me attractive before. Granted it isnt what you want (dates)...but it was just what you needed (friends) and experience in socializing. So CELEBRATE this as a win!!! It takes a lot to change your narrative and be more open to diff experiences...be proud of yourself for that.
/r/seduction29/06/19 10:03 PM
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Im not even MAD about it...at least you 'voted' 😁
/r/seduction29/06/19 09:58 PM
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Just want to say - NICE JOB! You took advice and applied it, and honestly...you put yourself out there ans had fun! Congrats on the success.
/r/seduction29/06/19 05:41 PM
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So you changed your profile again!!! Bingo! The same dude who posts under diff profiles, complaining aboit how he hates his parents for having him...tells women to f*ck off because this is for men...blah blah blah. Dont make me go back and get all those profile names and posts!!!! 😁👏
/r/seduction29/06/19 02:47 PM
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Dude calm down...🤣. Geez. YOU are the one asking for help, I offer it, you try to come at me, then go on some tangent about hating your parents for making you unattractive or something?! Grow up.
/r/seduction29/06/19 02:35 PM
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Thats a small cock...she shouldve been able to take that whole lil thing! 🤣🤣
/r/seduction29/06/19 01:39 PM
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The guys in THAT sub are alone because THEY dont put forth effort to improve OR lack serious self awareness. Most of them complain about being overweight, socially inept, some admit to having mental or developmental issues and lacking social skills, and on and on...so they participate in the circle jerk called "forever alone" 🙄
/r/seduction29/06/19 01:38 PM
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Well..when we purposely look AWAY from a guy, that means we are non-verbally saying "if I dont make eye contact HE (the guy) wont bother me". So no - you shouldnt have approached, because those girls werent interested.
/r/seduction29/06/19 01:35 PM
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FORCE yourself to go out and interact with others...join groups...volunteer. But understand that not every time.you go out MUST you ask girls out. Esp if you already know your approach and all is questionable. And dont be weird - if someone smiles at you just smile back. Seems like you have this all or nothing thinking and that will inevitably keep you stuck! You can say hi to people, you can smile at people, whatever...it doesnt hurt you or them. But assuming someone looking IN your direction i…
/r/seduction29/06/19 06:13 AM
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Um...no. How effective has this actually been????
/r/seduction29/06/19 06:07 AM
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She isnt wrapped too tight...but YOU gotta tske the blame in playin yourself here. YOU chose her, and YOU tolerated her bs.
/r/seduction29/06/19 06:05 AM
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When it gets to the point where you are 'checking for' someone - you are way too deep! Checking their last Whatsapp time, checking their active in IG, checking their FB for that green button that they are on...no no no! Instead focus in being busy (aka get s life) instead of worrying what he/she is doing. Smh. If someone isnt responding - 9/10 they are busy or dont want to. So be it. Move on.
/r/seduction29/06/19 06:03 AM
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Your issue seems to be a lack of self awareness. For some reason, your being able to pickup social cues (or as it seems here...misreading them) could be preventing your success. You seem to jump from this supposed "eye contact" to asking girls out...and of course you get rejected! You are basically asking out all these random girls YOU feel stare at you with no real conversation, approach, or rappot building. It doesnt seem at all like these girls are misleading you - but it does seem like YOU a…
/r/seduction28/06/19 09:42 PM
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Im a girl...actually! And just keepin it real, I see why she responded the way she did. Even if you asked for her snap, I dont think she wouldve responded any differently. It was your approach! But to each his own. Keep on trying!
/r/seduction28/06/19 04:18 PM
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I just simply said, Hey come here for a second. Text me real quick so we can talk more. That is honestly a horrible pickup line/approach. It is assumptive and aggressive - and I can see why the girl said NO (her facial expression was probably priceless). Im sorry man. How much exp do you have with pickup and game?? How much success?? Not trying to embarrass you or anything but your whole mindset doesnt seem in line with game at all. Wide eyes are NOT an IOI. For the record...that is really stret…
/r/seduction28/06/19 04:11 PM
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Hell.yeah! You broke it down just like I would - and you made all GOOD points!!!
/r/seduction28/06/19 02:45 PM
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He is way past insecure...it is like some kind of obsession! Honestly, just go through his post history and you will see what I mean. The amount of advice he has already been given about this same topic...it"s crazy. And yet...he comes right back posting and asking for more advice (apparently he frequents r/aspergers with the same type posts over and over. At that level, he needs professional help - not another Redditor telling him the same thing he has been told a billion times...esp as a grown…
/r/seduction28/06/19 06:28 AM
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Im gonna be blunt...and I hope it doesnf hurt your feelings BUT is clear: she likes you, but it doesnt seem to be in a sexual/romantic way. And here is why The first time I encountered her it was in a social setting, I made her laugh and made the group laugh. It wasn’t a direct approach it was a simple conversation but she knew I liked her for sure and she liked me too. HOW did you know after you just met and really had no perso al interaction at this point - that shs liked you? HEAVY flirting d…
/r/seduction28/06/19 06:20 AM
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She def likes you!!!! 😉 You have this girl asking YOU to make plans...congrats man.
/r/seduction28/06/19 06:11 AM
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Be careful. Please be careful. Be very very careful! This is work...and you HAVE to be cautious of crossing any lines and workplace harassment issues. Esp being the intern. Honestly, try to talk to her first. Strike up a convo, ask her to lunch, or to take a break together...just something casual to feel her out.
/r/seduction28/06/19 06:05 AM
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You have literally asked the same question (using diff titles and subs) and I dont know why? No one is going to tell you diff than the advice you already have gotten...NO ONE. Why do you do this??? Your post history is a clear picture of negativity and a broken record on repeat. Yet you still are 'stuck' on making each comment (even on others posts) about YOU and your autism, your perceived low value, your being slow, your having no job, your poor executive function...cant you just STOP?! The se…
/r/seduction28/06/19 05:57 AM
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Ugh. Dude...just stop. How many time are you going to ask HOW every single seduction tactic would work for you "being autistic"..."low value:.."loser"? Jesus! Like a broken record. YOU wont get anywhere with such negativity.
/r/seduction28/06/19 05:23 AM
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1) Draw clear attention to the elephant in the room This I agree with....because it opens the lines of communication about the "elephant in the room" and clears the air, and that can put both he and she at ease. 2) Exaggerate the elephant This - I dont agree with. Once you have discussed the "elephant in the room"....MOVE ON! To exaggerate it, screams insecurity!!! And trust me, that shit is not cute and becomes annoying. This will lend to a guy NOT getting laid or even end up rejected. For inst…
/r/seduction28/06/19 05:20 AM
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a couple days after the festival I asked if she wanted to get coffee sometime (we live relatively close to one another) and she replied with a single “sure.” So I said awesome and just stopped replying. A week later, I asked if she was free at all the next few days and she said she was busy so she couldn’t. So...YOU waited too long! Why did you ask her to meet for coffee, get a "sure", and then disappear for a week??? YOU should've given a specific date/time/location - not throw out an offer the…
/r/seduction28/06/19 05:11 AM
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She told me to chill out and that she would like to see me again but if I don’t want to then that’s ok. This is the sign that she really isnt invested in you...she literally gave you "whatever happens - happens" without saying it directly., and that indirectly is a blow off of sorts. You admit you jumped the gun, but still, that does seem to have made her pull back. At this point if she doesnt go out with you again...thats your answer.
/r/seduction27/06/19 11:50 PM
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I think you may be right...lol
/r/seduction27/06/19 10:47 PM
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Well then the next question is: if you swear by this tactic, and it supposedly gets you dates - WHY are you hung up on this ONE that forgot who you were??????
/r/seduction27/06/19 10:12 PM
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She most likely deleted your # or never saved it...either way, may I ask WHY you would randomly send a text to someone you already asked out and she ignored - after a month???? No one remembers someone they basically newly met from a month ago - UNLESS they were interested in that person. So...that is your sign.
/r/seduction27/06/19 09:37 PM
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Amen! Alllll of this ☝️ is spot on! If a guy/girl needs to use techniques and strategies just to be decent and respectful - then 'game' and seduction is the least of their issues.
/r/seduction27/06/19 09:01 PM
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Not smiling would make your approach seem frozen and way too serious/unemotional. Being honest. And if a guy approached me like that, Id be creeped out...
/r/seduction27/06/19 08:55 PM
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But recently, since starting to comment on your posts...has she tried to TALK to you? Have you tried to talk to her??? Im saying NO she isnt sending IOIs with emojis...but if you want a def, just try to talk to her.
/r/seduction27/06/19 08:03 PM
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Emojis dont equal INTEREST per se...has she tried to talk to you? At all? I will ❤ someones post because I really like it or agree with it, but that doesnt mean I want THEM. Could you be reading too much inot little things here?
/r/seduction27/06/19 08:00 PM
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Im.glad someone ELSE is finally speaking up against this retarded guy. I swear he has to have used 20 profile names in the months Ive been in this sub...and it is pathetic! When you see his posts - report him!
/r/seduction27/06/19 05:27 PM
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No need to apologize at all! Im.sorry if I made you feel that you even needed to...that wasnt my intention. And my perspective is as an (F) so my viewpoint and advice may be diff from the guys in here...because Im giving advice based on personal experience! That definition i posted is what I and most women, consider a fuckboy...a blatant disregard for others and game playing. Now...what it is about YOU that gives women this impression? When you meet them what are you saying - your approach? How …
/r/seduction27/06/19 12:58 PM
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No offense to you, and not really clear on your level of game (self awareness) - but her joking around and saying "vagina rhymes with China" is not what I would consider an IOI?! Did she give your her info? Hell, what was her name? Her social media? Anything???? You had her "cornered" basically on this tour, and the only thing she did was make a joke - not a real sign of interest.
/r/seduction27/06/19 09:57 AM
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