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| 1 | Your partner gets paralyzed from the neck down, do you stay?Same | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 05:01 AM |
| 3 | What percentage of people ever find out their partners cheated?I’ve never cheated and never will, because I believe love (of all kinds) is really one of the only things that makes life worth living. Trust & respect are integral to that. Not just for the people in your life, but for yourself. It’s kind of the “a liar always thinks someone’s lying” thing. The more you disrespect the people you love, the less loved & connected to others you feel. And we’re social animals, those bonds are super important. A lot of people cheat, but i mean, a lot of people voted… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/22 02:03 AM |
| 3 | What is the driving force behind most couples being looksmatched ?I think you're taking looks being subjective a little too far. People have preferences/types, but they rarely depart from the health + youth + genetically fit equation that adds up to objective beauty. People are very good at recognizing objective beauty, even if its largely subconscious and they aren't sure exactly what is contributing to making someone attractive. Basically people look for someone whose their type, but also as objectively attractive as possible, so they will usually still wind… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/22 11:38 PM |
| 5 | Is political incorrectness/a very dark sense of humor (in both men and women) generally a positive or negative?Political correctness isn't the same thing as a dark sense of humor. Veep illustrates that pretty well. if someone's making a racist or sexist joke that's relying on untrue stereotypes it's probably not funny. If someone makes a joke about true stereotypes it often is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/22 08:07 AM |
| 6 | Is there a way to hold frame so that if someone like Dan Bilzerian came knocking you'd be able to keep the girl you're seeing?Nope. You reap what you sow, and if you got a woman through RP techniques she’s going to be the kind of person who has very little values and intelligence, and who those techniques work on. It’s a self fulfilling prophecy. All RP techniques do is limit your pool of options to someone like that. Personally I wouldn’t touch that guy with a 10 foot pole, he is genuinely unattractive in every way possible lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/22 10:25 PM |
| 11 | Any casual conversation that a man initiates with a woman will be seen as flirting"A man who is masculine in demeanor won't really enjoy being platonic friends with a woman" This sub is like going to the zoo lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/22 06:56 AM |
| 2 | This idea that women are racking up high body counts at a young age is greatly exaggerated, most women have fewer than 10 sexual partners in their entire livesPeople who sleep around a lot, shockingly, are mostly going to be sleeping with people who sleep around a lot. Kind of skews your perspective on things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/22 05:01 AM |
| 2 | “My wallet my choice” should be a real thing when it comes to reproductive rights for menVasectomies have a 90-95% reversal success rate. They have a 99.9% success rate in preventing unwanted pregnancy. BC for men was abandoned because men were unwilling to risk the same side effects women go through. Not to mention condoms. So really, you have the opportunity to protect yourself from unwanted pregnancy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/22 04:07 AM |
| 0 | TRP is wrong about 35+ being a man’s primebecause age takes its toll. It's like how a 20 year old can drink and party all night and go to work the next day and feel mostly fine while a 30 year old feels like they are on deaths door. There are always exceptions of particularly healthy people, but in general a 35-40 year old is going to have a much harder time with the sleep deprivation, etc. of infancy. And then when they are older having the energy after work to play with them, chase them around and play sports, etc. One of the biggest … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 04:48 AM |
| 1 | TRP is wrong about 35+ being a man’s primeIt’s absolutely normal, I just think it’s kind of a loss for the kids (but that’s on capitalism and wealth disparity, not really a gender thing). Pretty much agree for the most part! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 03:17 AM |
| 1 | Can somebody explain what they mean by the term looksmatchIt is difficult to nail down absolute truths about attractiveness, but humans are very good at knowing it when they see it. There is some variation for type preferences, but even within that people can still tell about how attractive someone is to others even if they aren’t your type. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 02:51 AM |
| 5 | Women Are Not Settling Unless The Man Is OlderThat an interesting take, and helps me understand the transactional perspective a little better! Reciprocated attraction has always been super important to me but maybe that will change with age. You’re right, there is a lot of ego in prioritizing reciprocated attraction. Right now I would much rather have a sexual relationship with a slightly less attractive person who was more attracted to me than vice versa, but one day when no one even remotely attractive is into me I may change my tune. I w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 02:29 AM |
| 1 | TRP is wrong about 35+ being a man’s primeIt’s less about being a good or bad person, and more about having similar levels of immaturity and growing in maturity together. An older person would probably be more likely to leave, not because they weren’t as good of a person, but because they have moved through the stage in their life that often comes with higher degrees of instability and psychological difficulty. (Not at all bashing mental health struggles, I have my fair share! More so saying that as you get older you learn and gain tool… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 02:08 AM |
| 1 | TRP is wrong about 35+ being a man’s primeMaturity is super key and I agree, but the masculinity thing is really wildly exaggerated. Many studies across different cultures have shown women are actually most attracted to a mix of femininity and masculinity in men’s faces and behaviors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 02:04 AM |
| 5 | TRP is wrong about 35+ being a man’s prime33 is pretty young, I think 35+ is when options for casual sex with younger people start to dwindle down to the minority of women with a thing for older men. But cmon, the vast majority of early twenties women are unlikely to even consider a casual sexual relationship with someone in their thirties. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 02:01 AM |
| 2 | TRP is wrong about 35+ being a man’s primeThe thing that is missing here is that anyone who waits till 35 for marriage and kids is in a bad spot. At that age of you have kids by 40 early childhood will be extremely tough, and you won’t be able to play with your kids and show up in their lives in the same way a younger parent will. And I think that’s a smaller pool of women than this sub makes it out to be. In terms of actual pool of relationship options 35+ women still probably have a larger pool than 35+ men, and I’m guessing the major… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 01:57 AM |
| – | Hypothetical dating scenario about “women liking older men”The 25 year old by a landslide, but I want to add another consideration that is often glazed over. If a young woman wants kids, unless she is very poor and has no other way out, a 35 year old man is a bad investment. If they start dating, get married & have kids in pretty short order, say 5 years from meeting to first kid being born, he’ll be 40. 40 and pulling all nighters with a baby is so so much harder than twenties or thirties. And then when the kid is big enough to play his day is late 40s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 01:40 AM |
| 0 | Women Are Not Settling Unless The Man Is OlderShe’s settling in terms of romantic market value but not social market value, and vice versa for him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Women Are Not Settling Unless The Man Is OlderStudies show men care immensely about reciprocated desire, and more now than in past generations. I think maybe before the internet and forums like these men were able to delude themselves that even though they were paying for the transaction the women were still on some level into it. But now they know that these women are acting and thats not the case, and for most it’s less satisfying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 01:19 AM |
| 10 | Where do you draw the line in this new era of pornography?So let’s flip this around, your girlfriend is really bored with your low quality dick/appearance but would be ok to settle with staying with you if she can fulfill her sexual needs through higher quality porn of other men. Better than breaking up right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 12:58 AM |
| 1 | A large percentage of women are undeniably drawn to assholes and men who exhibit toxic, abusive behavior, but lie and say they just want a guy who will treat them rightI don’t know where you are getting this info, but studies show that men, not women, are drawn to anti social traits: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psypost.org/2020/06/men-are-drawn-to-borderline-personality-traits-in-physically-attractive-women-study-finds-56961%3famp=1 There will always be individuals of either gender who are particularly vulnerable/attracted to love bombing and anti social behavior. But most women are more likely than most men to not want those traits in a partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/22 06:57 AM |
| – | Why does it seem like less attractive people tend to gravitate more towards kink/fetishes and other non-traditional sexuality?Socially unaware (which tends to go hand in hand with unattractive) people are more likely to be open about bdsm/poly/etc. and make it into more of a hobby/identity. More flatteringly lol these things also require a lot of curiosity and research and willingness to thwart social norms which are usually qualities of people with large internal worlds. And attractive people generally are more likely to have larger external worlds. I do think specifically bdsm and poly are becoming more common for al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 05:38 AM |
| 1 | Dead bedrooms are likely not a result of settling, but of women having a higher degree of the coolidge effect than most people think.I think that may be because this is thought of as something that only occurs in men, so kind of goes unsaid? I think it’s not brought up in general on dead bedroom subs because there’s not really a solution beyond breaking up/opening the relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 06:41 AM |
| 1 | Dead bedrooms are likely not a result of settling, but of women having a higher degree of the coolidge effect than most people think.Sure but these people generally haven't changed, they were probably always an adult toddler. Once the sexual novelty has worn off that becomes more of a deal breaker/problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 06:03 AM |
| 1 | Dead bedrooms are likely not a result of settling, but of women having a higher degree of the coolidge effect than most people think.It seems that both men and women want variety, but men prefer faster turnover while women prefer sex with a new partner after a few years. But women have a lower satisfaction rate with long term monogamy than men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 06:01 AM |
| 1 | We ALL settle, in one way or another. Worrying that you don't measure up to your partner's previous partners, is silly, counterproductive, and a never-ending source of insecurity.I don't think this is a reflection of settling, I think it is a reflection of women in general having a lower sex drive than men and higher degree of the coolidge effect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 05:06 AM |
| 0 | We ALL settle, in one way or another. Worrying that you don't measure up to your partner's previous partners, is silly, counterproductive, and a never-ending source of insecurity.You're completely basing your idea of a partner's value on what other people think of them. And that will never work out, because one man's trash IS another man's treasure. I had a boyfriend I broke up with because I wasn't really feeling it. He was a great, attractive guy who had other women absolutely enamored with him, but the match was wrong for us. It really opened my eyes to the fact that people do not exist on a linear scale of value. If your concern is that a woman putting in more effort… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 05:03 AM |
| 1 | We ALL settle, in one way or another. Worrying that you don't measure up to your partner's previous partners, is silly, counterproductive, and a never-ending source of insecurity.Exactly. A lot of us on this sub are probably pretty neurotic, myself included lol. While there are people out there in relationships longing for some distant memory of amazing sex with a gorgeous person, most people in healthy relationships are not. For one thing, idk about y'all but after about 4-5 years I can remember a relationship and what i felt, but i don't remember many details and the actual feelings of love. This may be tmi, but my ex had a thicker penis than my current partner. It was… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 04:53 AM |
| 2 | Q4A: Do you believe in the "sex for pleasure" realm?I’m guessing because there’s no reasonable answer to why no other dudes lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 11:45 AM |
| 11 | How do girls tell I have a toxic attitude and mentality through my photos? (20+ dating apps, ZERO likes/matches)This is 100% true. My number one reason for swiping left on old was someone seeming boring or like a completely blank slate of a person. And many of those guys were super good looking, I remember because I’d think damn that’s a waste of a good face as I swiped left lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 10:20 AM |
| 1 | Ironically, access to a woman’s sexuality “costs” more the worse it becomesIf they're going for someone much more desirable than them, sure. But that can happen at any age and I think its a pretty rare goal. Most people i know seem to want someone attractive but not way more attractive than them, etc. The older women I see getting into relationships are generally doing so with a man who ticks all their boxes. edit because i re-read your post: People want different things, and they find people who want the same things as them, and its really that simple. As most (not al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 08:47 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Every person should aim for the best that they can get and go for it and there's nothing wrong with that.Everyone is entitled to their own standards, but if your standards are wildly out of your league you're also gonna be the only one those standards are hurting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 08:36 AM |
| 3 | CMV: FDS and Red Pill want the other sex to be traditional while they are unboundYeah this is my main issue with fds, they are self selecting to wind up with exactly the kind of guy they are trying to avoid. With redpill I don't think hypocrisy bothers them as they aren't looking for a compatible partner, they're looking to hurt and use women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 08:13 AM |
| 3 | Ironically, access to a woman’s sexuality “costs” more the worse it becomesI feel like you might be missing a key part part of this, which is that as women get older their pool of candidates gets smaller-but it's still larger than mens. Women have to be pretty dang unattractive to not have a pool of candidates to pick from, regardless of age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 08:05 AM |
| 7 | Why are women so much more content to be forever alone than men?Most women die alone lol, even married women outlive their partners the vast majority of the time. Older divorced and widowed women are actually the least likely demographic to want to get re-married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 06:10 AM |
| 29 | Why are women so much more content to be forever alone than men?This is the exact reason and should be the top comment. Women aren’t just perfectly happy alone, we’re social creatures. But women are happier alone than they would be pulling the majority of the weight in a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 06:05 AM |
| 5 | The Economist reporting on what science says is the best age gap for relationships.This boils down to the trends in marriage in general, which is that marriage is a good deal for men and often bad for women. Women in general provide a lot more caretaking than men in marriage, so it makes sense that a younger wife would lengthen a mans life while a younger husband would not lengthen a woman’s. Interestingly the main reason the women who married younger men had shorter lifespans was due to accidents not natural causes. Which could be due to several factors: the younger men havin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 03:57 AM |
| 3 | Is Male sexuality broken ?Honestly men in porn aren’t usually tall, they’re kind of pudgy/muscular, and their penises are also usually around average (I think usually the actresses are on the petite side making them seem larger). On top of that they are often facially unattractive, bald and often kind of old. I realize this all sounds very superficial, but it is literally the one form of media where being attractive is key and absolutely no effort is made to choose men who are attractive to women. And I’m not looking for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/22 01:21 PM |
| 29 | Is Male sexuality broken ?I think male sex toys should be as accepted as female ones, and talk about this with my female friends as well as advising them not to use toys that can lead to sensation dulling. Everything else you mentioned seems like a stretch. I don’t know anyone who thinks negatively about male masturbation or masturbation in general, the only place I’ve ever seen masturbation looked down on is by super religious people and in male dominated spaces like the whole nofap thing. Porn is separate from masturba… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/22 08:45 AM |
| 2 | does having a very specific physical type hinder your chances at finding a so ?I honestly can’t remember a specific moment in something rn but it was a whole thing lol. “Does my butt look fat/big in this?” as a negative thing was a running joke that women would ask in sitcoms. In the 90s and early 2000s the ideal was for women to basically be as thin as possible and still have big boobs, and having a big butt was basically considered being fat. I think it was mostly a thing with white guys, but media was pretty white dominated at that point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/22 03:55 AM |
| 0 | does having a very specific physical type hinder your chances at finding a so ?Sacrificing the requirements for attraction are not worth broadening your pool of candidates unless sex/romantic connection is unimportant to you. However I think for many of us what we are attracted to is heavily influenced by social influences, and it is probably worth exploring and trying to unlearn some of that. My first big crush when I was 14 was on a guy who was a little pudgy, my height (5’6”) and had round facial features and this big white boy afro. I don’t think I’ve ever been more at… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/22 03:06 AM |
| 6 | Women are biologically more selective than menThe idea that women have a biological rather than socialized desire for monogamy doesn’t make a lot of sense to me. It makes a lot of sense as part of our social structure and as a mating strategy to raise children, but those are separate from baseline biological mating desires like your example of men wanting to mate with a variety of partners. Studies actually point to women having a similar if not greater biological desire for variety: https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/women-g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/22 02:47 AM |
| 5 | There is not a shortage of single men who have their life in orderWomen and men are not that different, he’s hot and 25. At the end of the day that pulls 90% of the weight with attraction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/22 10:12 AM |
| – | Age is an incredibly important and overlooked part of attractiveness/value.Hormones impact us and should absolutely be taken into account, but they don’t explain the behavioral theory reaches on this sub. Like in this instance, having different hormonal cocktails makes males want sex more but it doesn’t change the base line urge from both to want sex with a variety of young genetically fit options. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/22 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Q4W Out of the 10 guys listed below, how would you rank them from most physically attractive to least physically attractive?2, 6, and 9 are most attractive to me, in that order. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/22 09:42 AM |
| 0 | In a society where beauty fads come and go, what beauty standards do men actually care about?Honestly .7 isn’t as crazy of an hourglass as you might think, I think the majority of women between a 18 and 25 BMI are probably pretty close to .7. So I think because so many women meet it it becomes less notable, though I have heard a lot of men talk about “coke bottle shape” as an ideal. That being said, I don’t think you could confidently claim the .7 WH ratio as a universal/timeless beauty standard. There have been time periods where a straight-ish figure was more popular. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/22 09:39 AM |
| 1 | Age is an incredibly important and overlooked part of attractiveness/value.Absolutely, we have different hormonal cocktails and bodies. I’m not arguing that no differences exist lol. I am saying if you’re looking at base biological urges, look at pretty much any social animal and you can see that gender doesn’t reach very far beyond hormonal and physical differences. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/22 09:14 AM |
| 2 | Age is an incredibly important and overlooked part of attractiveness/value.Animals want to mate with the best genetic option possible. That is a combo of youth and beauty, and it is not a biological urge that is unique to men. Studies on female social animals show that they will mate with older males if resources are scarce and they provide access to those resources. But if resources aren’t scarce and they are given mate choice, they choose young, genetically fit males. Attraction on a base, biological level boils down youth, “beauty” and variety for pretty much all an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/22 07:56 AM |
| 2 | Age is an incredibly important and overlooked part of attractiveness/value.I am not trying to put you down, but you should know that this is a common tactic in the stripper playbook. If you’re in between customers being friendly with regulars and making it as much as possible look like you’re not interested in money is a way to secure tips through friendly interaction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/22 07:30 AM |
| 1 | Age is an incredibly important and overlooked part of attractiveness/value.We are the same species….women are biologically attracted to youth too. It boggles my mind that men think women’s biological nature is wanting a provider/protector. That is a mating strategy for times of resource scarcity, you see it in every social animal. When there is no resource scarcity and they have mate choice social female animals choose young, genetically fit males for mating. The idea that women prefer older men is rooted in women having no way to obtain resources outside of marriage u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/22 07:26 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: If you could change one thing about make sexuality, what would it be?I don’t think I’d change anything about actual biological male sexuality, but I sure would like to do away with the conflation of socialized sexuality and biological sexuality. From the studies I’ve seen on other social animals male and female sexuality is just not very different. Hypergamy in women is a response to being small and having limited access to resources, it’s a bargaining chip. The idea that men are more polygamous is also a result of the smaller female animal having fewer mating ch… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/22 07:16 PM |
| 3 | Q4ALL: What should a woman do if she wants to punch above her attractiveness level?In the very early 2000s the entire world was obsessed with Angelina Jolie’s beauty, like it was Marilyn Monroe level. She got super thin right after that and lost that appeal, but it was actually insane at the time. Every guy I knew had a poster of her in his room. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a celeb have a strong hold like that before or sense, it was like a cult lol. Edit: I just remembered one kid had a life size tomb raider cardboard cutout lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/22 06:02 PM |
| 1 | Q4ALL: What should a woman do if she wants to punch above her attractiveness level?I’ve had two long term relationships with guys who were better looking than me, including my current boyfriend. For the first what cinched it was being his type. He was objectively better looking than me, but I had features he was looking for. My current boyfriend is better looking than me and I’m pretty sure I’m not his type lol, but I think he loves me more than anyone I’ve ever been with. Insecure good looking people sometimes care way more about looks, it can also go the other way, where the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/22 05:54 PM |
| 3 | Older virgin women/women who lost it late, why did you lose it later than most?I lost my virginity at 24, I had opportunities earlier but pretty severe body dysmorphia. It took a lot of therapy and liquid courage lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/22 04:59 AM |
| 8 | What do you genuinely think is the reason men are averse LTRs with women with extensive sexual relationships?Women are very likely equally as promiscuous by nature too, it is just very hard to study in women/female animals because as they are smaller they have less say in mating choice. Studies which have enabled female animals to choose mates show that they display the same degree of the Coolidge effect as males. And studies have shown that women may actually display higher degrees of the Coolidge effect than men, as they often get bored with one partner far quicker than men. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/22 12:36 AM |
| 1 | What do you genuinely think is the reason men are averse LTRs with women with extensive sexual relationships?Probably for the same reason women are, if you’re looking for a partner for a long term relationship someone who has a history of preferring the opposite is not gonna be a very appealing candidate. And studies have shown that people who have had a lot of casual sex/high sociosexual people do struggle more in committed relationships. I think because men engaging in casual sex is more socially acceptable/encouraged, women tend to be more accepting of high sociosexual men. But most women definitely… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/22 12:26 AM |
| 6 | The Red and Blue Pills are Both Correct...Just for Different GroupsOn the incel vs femcel thing: would you honestly rather be alone or with someone who is consciously settling for you and using you as a holdover until someone better comes along? I know I’d rather be alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/22 06:44 AM |
| 16 | Men and women flipping roles in terms of pursuing sexWomen just don’t have the blinders on they had in past generations anymore. By college women have already spent almost two decades learning that men mostly perceive them as things to use for sex, or status, or as a therapist/house cleaner/baby maker. They’ve internalized the narrative that men just want to use them for sex, and have decided well if that’s the game I guess I’ll play it. I just read that casual sex is really bad for human brains (both genders, because 99999% of the stuff this sub … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/22 06:41 AM |
| 2 | If you are struggling in dating you are not "high value"Very well said and I agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/22 12:02 AM |
| 1 | How many people here were the cause of their relationship ending?I was going to say not at all, I was 100% innocent lol. And I have always tried to make choices that value the relationship I’m in. But I actually think being more upfront about my boundaries and expectations could have saved a few relationships where my partner allowed themselves to sink into behavior we couldn’t come back from (considering cheating/messaging girls) probably partially because I seemed so easy going and forgiving they were not concerned about losing me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/22 12:00 AM |
| 12 | For those who believe in 50/50 financial responsibility, do you hold on to that rule when one makes significantly more income?I read once in an interview with married older couples that the relationships that were happiest were ones where both partners were trying to “out give” the other. Obviously this only works if both partners have this mentality. And I’ve always tried to bring that to my relationships. It will shoot you in the foot if you’re with someone who is happy to just take, so you do have to be careful and watch for signs that that’s the case, and always make sure to prioritize personal well-being as well. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/22 11:56 PM |
| – | How do you think relationships and dating will change when women out earn men?When you look at bare bones biological drives, there are only a few absolutes, and one of those (for both genders) is mating with the most genetically fit option possible. That generic fitness does occur in a window in our youth. There is literally nothing more “natural” than a woman going after a young stud, or a man going after a beautiful young woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/22 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Q4Men: can you succinctly describe PUA, TRP, black pill, and MGTOW and how they differ?Exactly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/22 06:04 PM |
| – | How do you think relationships and dating will change when women out earn men?I honestly think that rich women wanting a man whose even richer than them is more lingering social conditioning from past generations, and even that is not really the norm anymore. Hypergamy is a mating strategy when resources can only be accessed through males. In other social animals hypergamy is abandoned if resources are available without having to resort to hypergamy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/22 05:50 PM |
| 7 | What qualities should a man have before he can raise his standards/be picky about how his partner looks? And what things can he be picky about?If op is just looking for access, money is the number one way to go! He can get a sugar baby or transactional relationship. If he’s looking for reciprocated attraction, I would say the closest 1:1 to men wanting a large ass, big boobs & pretty face would be tall, good head of hair, and attractive face. Humans are pretty into faces lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/22 12:31 AM |
| 2 | What qualities should a man have before he can raise his standards/be picky about how his partner looks? And what things can he be picky about?The 1:1 is traits that women find equally desirable in men in general. Not all men prefer large breasts, but enough do that you can generalize as you are doing here. So in general for men: A thick head of hair, tall, attractive face, slim. 90% of the male celebrities women are into have these traits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/22 12:26 AM |
| 2 | American Culture is Simultaneously HYPERSEXUAL and Sanctimoniously PURITANThank you for your response, i feel I understand a lot better :) He sounds really hot too haha, I can definitely see the appeal of that guy in particular! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/22 12:13 AM |
| 4 | American Culture is Simultaneously HYPERSEXUAL and Sanctimoniously PURITANDo you mind if I ask, from a purely physical attraction perspective, do their signs of aging turn you off? I I briefly dated a coworker who was about 8 years older than me when I was 25, and I thought I was really attracted to him until we actually hooked up and up close it was so much clearer that he was, y’know, just an older human with the wrinkles and stuff that goes along with that. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, we all age obviously, but it was just not something I could get pa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/22 11:27 PM |
| 7 | Which traits in a potential partner would you be willing to sacrifice?Reading through these answers it seems like the idea that men value looks while women value resources/status is pretty outdated. It seems like men and women value looks pretty equally, with women putting more importance on personality than men do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/22 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Women who are attracted to men, what makes you want/desire a man rather than just enjoying being wanted/desired by him?This is the best answer | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/22 11:14 PM |
| 4 | Which traits in a potential partner would you be willing to sacrifice?I would easily sacrifice money and social status for attraction and personality. I do not care at all about money beyond being able to hold down a job of any kind. Attraction to me is defined as slim build, attractive face, good head of hair, around my age or a little younger. Don’t really care about height but tend to prefer taller than me. For personality he has to be reasonably intelligent, funny and kind/have values. Edit: as far as attraction goes, I do not care about muscles at all. Althou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/22 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Why do some men are incapable of connecting with women?I don’t want non-good looking guys to die off lmao, the thing about very good looking people is that they’ve rarely had to develop really good personalities. I absolutely have a looks threshold, but I almost always wind up finding men on the lower end of that threshold much, much sexier than men on the higher end, because they are funnier/smarter/kinder, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/22 12:59 AM |
| 1 | Why do some men are incapable of connecting with women?You’re probably not gonna like this as it shows even greater pickiness lol but: genetics absolutely matter, but looks are the baseline for consideration. As a reasonably attractive woman I’ve had many opportunities for casual sex with tall, hung good looking men. If they do not also exhibit intelligence, aligned interests/beliefs, and personality traits I find attractive, I’m not interested in any form of relationship, including something casual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/22 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Almost everyone has an excuse to fail at datingOh gotcha, sorry I misunderstood. I definitely agree, it helps when you get that wider range of older and younger. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/22 05:20 PM |
| 3 | Almost everyone has an excuse to fail at datingIf you’re also talking to women in their early twenties it is like looking for a needle in a haystack, most women that age aren’t as attracted to someone that much older. Women have age preferences too, and that’s something you have to take into account. I get it though I’m also 30 and I find guys in their early-mid twenties really attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/22 05:10 PM |
| 2 | [CMV]Women who don't have LOOKS are low valueI agree on the not significantly lower part, i think money and status are almost a subcategory of personality for women today. Most women are not looking for a breadwinner or a man who is of much higher status/wealth than them for the sake of those qualities, but I think women do want someone they can connect with emotionally and intellectually, which is usually someone with a similar level of education. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/22 03:38 PM |
| 3 | [CMV]Women who don't have LOOKS are low valueI can only speak to my own experience as a woman. For me your first two points are absolutely spot on, the last one about money and status is genuinely not a consideration at all for me. My friend group is from high school and we are now all around 30, and all my female friends have much higher status and income jobs than their boyfriends/husbands. I’ve actually never thought about but it’s almost every single one lol. I don’t know if any studies have been done on this recently but I really don’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/22 02:23 PM |
| 5 | [CMV]Women who don't have LOOKS are low valueAgree that nothing matters more than looks! honestly it’s the same for women too. I think the idea that women are attracted to resources/money is kind of outdated. I don’t think money factors into attraction much at all for women, looks are number one and then after that is personality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/22 11:10 AM |
| 1 | Almost everyone has an excuse to fail at datingDo you mind if I ask how old you are? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/22 03:41 AM |
| 1 | us men should not fear going the extra mile when pursuing unattractive good women.Ahh that makes sense, I’m sorry to hear it. it’s really tough when the demographic itself just isn’t ideal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/22 12:19 AM |
| 1 | us men should not fear going the extra mile when pursuing unattractive good women.You’ve got a lot going for you so honestly I think you might be unknowingly giving off an impression that is giving women pause. Or if you’re going for older or younger women you might be out of their preferred age range? A lot of women have pretty narrow preferences for that they’ll stick to even more than they would irl on OLD. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/22 12:08 AM |
| 1 | To game or not to game?At the end of the day if you play a game you’re gonna wind up with someone else whose playing, you know? If you pretend to be someone else, you’re gonna end up with girls who want the person you’re pretending to be. And it sounds like you already know from experience that there are women who will like you for you. Red pill pua techniques are gonna work on a very specific type of person and alienate everyone else. If you want someone like that, or a life spent pretending to be someone else and ne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/22 02:01 AM |
| 3 | How many women vs how many men want to lead a traditional life?Marriage and children isn’t synonymous with traditional. I think many women want marriage and children, but they also want to split caretaking/working/household chores with their husband. I think most women today also find traditional gender roles in relationships less appealing than past generations but they definitely still find certain characteristics and behaviors appealing, some much more than others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/22 01:55 AM |
| 0 | Best argument for, or against the of evolutionary psychology theory of TRM or RP?Traits can also be useful in one way and a hindrance in others. Like male peacocks are more likely to get a mate the bigger/brighter their feathers are, but that same feature makes them more likely to be hunted/get caught in something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/22 12:33 AM |
| 0 | Best argument for, or against the of evolutionary psychology theory of TRM or RP?The best argument against it is the history of evolutionary psychology/theory itself. Contemporary evolutionary and social theories exist because we don’t presently have the tools to test them, as both influences start at birth. However, in the past century we have developed a lot of tools to test these theories in addition to social changes, and overwhelmingly when put to these tests evolutionary theory doesn’t hold up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 11:20 PM |
| 5 | How do you think relationships and dating will change when women out earn men?Women overtaking men in college has happened fast, like one generation fast. This post is about based on the trend we’re seeing (like the increase from 8% to 27% in the source you linked) what will likely happen in the future. Women’s enrollment in stem college courses rises 8% yearly on top of their majority. We aren’t seeing a bunch of women getting degrees in stem and not using them, these women haven’t even entered the work force yet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 09:24 AM |
| 2 | How do you think relationships and dating will change when women out earn men?Women are the majority students in stem lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 08:36 AM |
| – | What part of the opposite gender's sexuality made you feel disgust?I mean, I agree lol. The only thing standing in the way of a twenty something good looking guy from getting women has got to be a personality or behavior that’s unappealing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 07:52 AM |
| 4 | How do you think relationships and dating will change when women out earn men?It does, that is how life works unfortunately. Women’s fertility drops, men’s fertility drops (Sperm degradation, harder to conceive even with younger woman, etc). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 07:47 AM |
| 4 | How do you think relationships and dating will change when women out earn men?You’re gonna have to take this one up with the biology of aging lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 07:40 AM |
| 2 | How do you think relationships and dating will change when women out earn men?I think this is the most likely scenario. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 07:31 AM |
| 5 | How do you think relationships and dating will change when women out earn men?men and women get a lot less attractive after around 30/35 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 07:29 AM |
| 1 | How do you think relationships and dating will change when women out earn men?I think it’s pretty commonly understood that men don’t value resources/status in women. Agree on fembuxxing. I think guys dating younger will be harder, because I doubt the next gen of women will see any reason to date older. I mean when you think about the implications of all of this, within a decade we’ll have a generation of kids being raised by moms who were the bread winner. Importing spouses I would not be surprised by a rise in, but again you have to have the resources to provide for your… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 07:26 AM |
| 1 | Opinions discussed here are all about man/woman binary with perceived differences. How do you reconcile that with non-binary, trans, and gener fluid individuals?I think op was more interested in the way the existence of other sexual and gender identities impact people on this subs understanding of relationships between straight men and women. Seems like the answer is “we just ignore it because it doesn’t fit into our worldview”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 07:08 AM |
| 4 | Why do some men are incapable of connecting with women?I think the same advice I gave to a female friend recently might help. I struggled to find men I really connected with when I first started dating. Figuring out who I was and what I wanted really really helped. I thought about my values, interests, beliefs and delved into them. As I got older and my personality became more fully formed, It became easier to find the people I connected with because I had things to connect on. I would recommend okcupid over other dating sites because it can help yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 07:05 AM |
| 2 | How do you think relationships and dating will change when women out earn men?The pew study shows the trend I’m talking about, which is the pay gap narrowing between young men and women. It’s already almost even. The stem field is absolutely still dominated by men right now, but women are growing in the field very quickly, and female college students now make up the majority of students in stem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 06:49 AM |
| 4 | How do you think relationships and dating will change when women out earn men?I have no doubt that the top percent of earners will continue to be mostly men, but that is a very very small percent, I’m talking about the majority of men and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 06:25 AM |
| 2 | How do you think relationships and dating will change when women out earn men?I mean, statistics on the pay gap show that gap is closing quickly, and in some places women in the 20-30 age bracket already out earn men in that bracket. And women aren’t just dominating in useless degrees, they’re overtaking men in all higher degrees, including STEM. When these young women decide to have kids, I don’t see them being the ones to stay home. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 04:26 AM |
| 9 | How do you think relationships and dating will change when women out earn men?Women who do want to date will have to start dating down in some capacity, do you think they will start valuing resources and status less? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 03:25 AM |
| – | What part of the opposite gender's sexuality made you feel disgust?I don't see it as a judgment on men so much as the reality of the differences in socialization men and women experience. I'm not saying men are inherently bad or something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 03:09 AM |
| 6 | Woman's standards are to high - or perhaps men are just generally worse today?I actually think women slightly mistake their attraction to height for their attraction to slimness. Timothy Chalamet is a good example, he’s 5’9ish but looks tall because of his proportions. The attraction being rooted to an extent in unchangeable genetics things sucks, no way around it. It sucks for everyone. If it makes you feel any better women are in a similar boat, most of the beauty standards fit women come down to youth + genetically rare qualities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 02:39 AM |
| – | What part of the opposite gender's sexuality made you feel disgust?I mean, at a certain point all human interaction is transactional. I disagree that female desires for wealth and status in men remain unchanged. What we are seeing in studies is that women value resources and status more highly than men, but less highly than they did in previous generations. And it will be interesting to see how that trend develops in the next few decades, as young women will likely out earn young men very soon. I'm not casting any judgment on men or women here, I find these dyn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 02:27 AM |
| – | What part of the opposite gender's sexuality made you feel disgust?Me neither tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 12:28 AM |
| 13 | Woman's standards are to high - or perhaps men are just generally worse today?Thin, good head of hair and facially attractive is probably the most accurate and broadest representation of what women in general find attractive that I’ve seen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 12:26 AM |
| 3 | Woman's standards are to high - or perhaps men are just generally worse today?I think most women prefer Loki actually lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 12:22 AM |
| 2 | Woman's standards are to high - or perhaps men are just generally worse today?This has been my experience too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/22 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Is female sexual attraction more binary, whereas male sexual attraction is more of a spectrum?Overlooking wealth/status/personality/etc in favor of looks is part of that objectification. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 11:21 PM |
| – | What part of the opposite gender's sexuality made you feel disgust?Honestly I think the disconnect isn’t something this generation can work towards. Men want women who are younger and more attractive than them, and want to be told there is a way for them to become sexually attractive to these women through resources/status/style/whatever. The “women are, men become” premise. The problem is that women now have enough resources and status of their own to also say, I want the same thing. Most women want someone within a year or two older than them, who is as good … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 10:16 PM |
| 4 | Is female sexual attraction more binary, whereas male sexual attraction is more of a spectrum?Exactly. If I ever decide to stop dating men and exclusively date women, this will be why. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 11:43 AM |
| 12 | Is female sexual attraction more binary, whereas male sexual attraction is more of a spectrum?they are honestly like it’s ok I will be attracted enough for the both of us lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 11:02 AM |
| 9 | Is female sexual attraction more binary, whereas male sexual attraction is more of a spectrum?I think what men don’t understand about women’s sexual attraction in relationship to looks is that it is less a binary and more a baseline. Anyone who reaches that looks baseline has the potential to be a 10/10 in attractiveness to us if they check other boxes like chemistry, personality, etc. So for women a slightly less good looking guy can become way hotter than a 10/10 male model if their personality really attracts us. And then if you get in a relationship and fall in love, that’s it. A rea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 10:58 AM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themWomen who are genuinely attracted to them? Yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 10:31 AM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themHmm this does sound unusual, on paper you’re everything most women want! The only thing I can think is that there’s an impression you are unaware you are putting off. How old are you? If you’re trying to date younger or older you might be out of these women’s ideal age range. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 10:28 AM |
| 1 | Women who think men don’t look at them as “people” misunderstand male sexual attractionY’all. Sexual attraction is different between men and women precisely for this reason, women view men as people, men view women as objects. it’s not evolutionary biology, it’s not anything other than men have been socialized to view women as objects. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 08:13 AM |
| 2 | If you could describe what sexually turns you on in one short sentence. What would it be?Physically: I like slim, ectomorph type guys that are a combo of masculine and feminine features. I think a lot of women that think they only like tall men actually like the proportions a lot of tall men have: long and lean. I used to think I preferred tall guys but I realized I’m actually equally attracted to men my height and shorter as well, as long as they have that long/lean build. I like a good head of hair but not much body hair, and angular features. The Timothy Chalamet type. The other … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 07:27 AM |
| 2 | Are women worried about the growing number of women who are sugar babies, "Instagram models", Escorts, and/or OnlyFans performers?Women are wildly outperforming and outnumbering men in college rn, so we will see women in general overtake men in resources/status probably within a generation. I doubt women in general will much care of a prospective partner makes more than them at that point, if they did most of them wouldn’t have dating options. I don’t think most women really do even now tbh. They’ll probably just start prioritizing other qualities in men more than money, like looks and personality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 04:22 AM |
| 1 | Biological vs socialized gender theory and pill ideologyThere have been a lot of us studies, some which showed women tested better, some that men. The differences across the board were women performing better in verbal tests and men performing better in math, and even these differences were not very pronounced. The tests that showed greater variable intelligence in men were performed between the 1930s and 1990s. Getting back to socialization theory lol, there would have been a marked difference in gender treatment for children raised in the 80s and e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 03:15 AM |
| 1 | Biological vs socialized gender theory and pill ideologyThere absolutely biological differences between men and women, many many of which have been studied and confirmed. And hormones especially contribute to these differences. No one could reasonably say all biological differences are a social construct. And I think it’s really interesting and helpful to follow the thread of the way these hormonal differences impact men and women, understanding that better could help us all better relate. Long story a lot shorter, if all we can do is theorize I thin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Biological vs socialized gender theory and pill ideologyI’d be interested to see what history of testing you are looking at, because what I have seen from my research biological theory fails when the means to test it are created almost every time. Maybe I should have been clearer in my original post, I believe biological differences exist between the sexes! I assumed that was a given lol. My point was that for differences that we do not have the tools to measure and are left up to theory, socialization is the theory that has most often historically b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/22 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Biological vs socialized gender theory and pill ideologyOff the top of my head and I’m sure I’m forgetting important ones but: -Marital rape wasn’t recognized as a crime until 1970s -could not get credit card in her name/husband had to co-sign until 1970s -attend most Ivy leagues until 70s-80s -serve on a jury in all 50 states until mid 70s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/22 09:35 PM |
| 3 | Biological vs socialized gender theory and pill ideologyWhat do you disagree with? Socialization theory being much more frequently proven true? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/22 06:53 AM |
| 1 | Biological vs socialized gender theory and pill ideologyI don’t think the brain is exempt from gender differences, of course there are many biological differences between men and women. I am saying that when considering areas that cannot yet be measured (theory), the socialized theory has a dramatically better track record than biological. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/22 05:33 AM |
| 0 | Biological vs socialized gender theory and pill ideologyI think you make great points and agree that those roles made a lot of sense during that time! I’m not trying to unpack whether gender roles were good or bad here, though thats a totally valid and adjacent topic. All the examples you listed support the idea that these roles are socialized, so I actually think we agree more than we disagree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/22 03:26 AM |
| 1 | Biological vs socialized gender theory and pill ideologyYup | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/22 02:54 AM |
| 2 | Biological vs socialized gender theory and pill ideologyWhat I mean is, setting aside whether traditional gender roles are good/bad, what we are seeing from the past century is that they are a reflection of socialized rather than biological behavior. And that has doesn’t make a judgment on them, but i think it’s crucial to understanding the shifting dating landscape. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/22 12:55 AM |
| 0 | Women who think men don’t look at them as “people” misunderstand male sexual attractionYou are literally in your post describing how women see men as people and men see women as objects lol What do you think creates this difference in the way men and women feel attraction? It’s because of the ways women are raised to humanize and empathize with men and men are raised to objectify women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/22 09:43 PM |
| 2 | What sexualizations of men are straight women attracted to? What do straight women seek out?Per your example with pornhub, I think Owen Gray is a great example of a male porn star that women find very attractive. To look outside of that, look at the men who are cast in romantic leads in media geared towards women, and think about what they have in common. Timothy Chalamet is very popular right now, as well as Jacob Elordi. Women have a lot of variance in what they find attractive, so i would say figure out the "type" you most resemble and lean into that. For me personally Tom Hiddlesto… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/22 05:48 AM |
| -1 | Can a gap be better bridged between the Red Pill and the other people?Pretty much everything about the red pill philosophy is founded on biological theory, and the history of biological theory is that when the means are developed to test it, either through brain scans or social changes or whatever, it is almost always proven wrong. They polish this with advice that can help someone become a more well liked or a better manipulator, because the best lies always have a little truth mixed in. When someone has based their life philosophy on a fundamental and often inte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/22 05:39 AM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themWhats changing/skewing the dating market isn't really men seeking out younger women, which has always been the case, It's younger women now having the opportunity to select on looks and personality, and not choosing older men. Totally agree on monogamy and marriage also being socialized. I think people in general will more frequently sexless/partnerless rather than "settle" for each other, with a more pronounced proportion being older men and women. Desirable younger men and women will continue … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/22 05:26 AM |
| 2 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themThat's awesome, those things have such a big impact! To clarify I don't mean that no one can look better after their 20s at all, i meant more that in general most people will look best at that age because they do not yet have to contend with the effects of aging on the body. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/22 02:38 AM |
| 1 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureI completely agree with everything you said. It baffles me the stronghold biological theory has on this sub and rp considering how poorly it holds up historically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 11:37 PM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themAgree to disagree on this one! You ascribe the desire for resources from a man to biology, from the dramatic changes Ive seen in two generations my guess is the desire for resources/status from a man specifically was much more on the socialized side. Just my personal experience but none of my college educated friends and I give a higher priority to income and social status. I am almost done with my masters, my long term boyfriend never went to college. But I like his personality and he’s very ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 08:49 PM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themI am aware of the irony lol, but it is absolutely worth pointing out. It’s also probably worth mentioning that I am on the far end of the monogamous/demisexual side of things, so if I love someone they are truly the most attractive person alive to me, which makes my assessment of their attractiveness possibly inaccurate. People would tell me the man I ended things with was good looking, I just didn’t see it because we did not have any romantic or physical chemistry, which I should have clarified… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 09:39 AM |
| 0 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themI would disagree on your last point. Most women including women in their twenties are most attracted to men a year or two older than them, which is shown in the okCupid study I mention and others. The other qualities, masculinity/dominance/experience are more subjective to the individual woman, which I think you can see from the range of male celebrities women go crazy over, from Timothy Chalamet to Chris Hemsworth. I think you underestimate the importance of looks to women and overestimate the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 09:32 AM |
| 2 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themAgree on your first point, disagree on the second. When was that study from? As the highest percent of college students and the best performing students, women will likely be out earning most men in the near future. Women already don’t have to rely on men for resources and status anymore, and they are valuing looks and personality much more highly instead, so you see the problem. In general a beautiful young woman with her own resources isn’t going to date someone much older or less attractive t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 09:24 AM |
| 1 | Are any of you attracted to upper traps?I’m more into the slim, less muscly look all around. Kind of like Timothy Chalamet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 05:25 AM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themTotally agree, but I think what’s being overlooked is that women are biologically hardwired towards the same end. Men can still have children at 45 but young men have more and better quality sperm, they’re more attractive, and women in general want someone at a similar life stage and experience level. Women dated older in previous times because they had to rely on men for resources and status, not because they were attracted to older men. So men in their 40s (again in general) are not attractive… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 01:37 AM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themNothing is wrong with it, I was just disagreeing with the original comment that both genders are equally looking for someone out of their looks league. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 11:26 PM |
| 2 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themHonestly I have no idea where my attractiveness would fit, but my personal experience: I am 30 in a long term relationship with a 32 year old who I would consider more attractive than me. I have never had sex outside of a relationship and have been in three long term relationships including the one I’m in now. Two of which (including my present one) I considered my partner to be far better looking than me. I ended the previous relationships, one because I was not attracted to him and was unsucce… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 11:21 PM |
| 3 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themGirls are raised to really value and aspire to the idea of romantic love. Disney movies, boy bands, rom-coms etc. So when women grow up and recognize who is in their league, they will often idealize those people and whoever they wind up in a relationship with because that narrative is so important to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 11:05 PM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themI’m 30, he’s 32, I come from a lower-middle class background and he comes from a lower class background. I certainly think he’s hotter than me lol, I always think the person I’m in love with is the hottest person around. He makes more than me now as I’m a grad student, depending on the job I get after school I could wind up making less, the same or a little more than him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 11:02 PM |
| 5 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themWhat we’re seeing is women not wanting to date down in either. And my guess with women now making up the majority of college graduates is that women will start considering dating down in status and resources but not looks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 10:59 PM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themI think we actually agree more than we disagree lol, my point was that these relationships are mostly transactional. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 10:57 PM |
| 2 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themI don’t know where you got the idea that I think I’m hot, but to answer your question I chose my boyfriend for his looks and personality. He lives in a dangerous part of the city and doesn’t make a lot of money. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 10:55 PM |
| 2 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themOne thing to look at there is how much more effort women put into appearance and taking photos. I don’t think men realize the immense amount of effort a lot of those 80% women put into makeup/hair/style. There’s a big disparity there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 10:52 PM |
| 2 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themI would disagree there, the standards for women are pretty high and very far from the norm. A .7 hourglass waist is the ideal but is the rarest body type for women to have. Similarly large breasts or butts on a thin woman, very rare naturally. I will say I think this annoying trend focusing on men’s height is on a similar level to the standards women face, impossible for most men to achieve and very disheartening. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 10:49 PM |
| 3 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themI live in one of the biggest cities in America, I’m absolutely sure it’s more common among the wealthy though! I think those relationships are probably very transactional though, I doubt the women they have access to are attracted to them. But if that doesn’t matter to them rich men are pretty much set. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 10:45 PM |
| 4 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themI honestly think a lot of these ideas and examples apply to a bygone era. I don’t see a lot of women with men who are higher status/less attractive/older, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 10:42 PM |
| 4 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themThese changes have happened incredibly quickly, in under a century, and it makes sense that everyone has whiplash from it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 10:40 PM |
| 3 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themThe looksmatch doesn’t mean a clone of yourself though, just someone who is mostly equally desirable to the opposite sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 10:32 PM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themNot unnecessary, just valued more similarly to the characteristics women are valued for: looks and personality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 10:31 PM |
| 0 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themSure, so regardless of gender people can differentiate reliably between levels of looks, and people are generally most good looking in a specific range of their youth before our bodies literally start to degrade lol. Women can look at an extremely handsome 24 year old guy and recognize that he is technically better looking than he was when he was younger or will be when he is older. But women are also weighing what are the chances he will find ME attractive. Because reciprocation is so key to wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 10:29 PM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themWell, 3 years isn’t 3-20 years, and after a quick google search it looks like it’s actually closer to 1-2 years on average. And I think that lines up with my theory pretty closely, that women in general are most attracted to men that are as attractive as possible while still likely reciprocating the woman’s attraction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 10:10 PM |
| 3 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themWomen have the resources to set up security systems, etc. This also boils down to looks in a way though, which is why women generally like tall men with a certain amount of muscle. Although in general we are seeing a trend of women being more attracted to the less muscular, “pretty boy” type. I think physical danger has become so up to random chance in the western world that it no longer plays in to attraction as much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 10:06 PM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themI’m confused as to how it contradicts it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:59 PM |
| 2 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themIt wasn’t back in the day when women relied on men for resources and status, but that’s no longer the case. So now there’s a mismatch where men expect to attract a more attractive woman, but women for the most part are no longer dating men that aren’t close their level of attractiveness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:58 PM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themThe simple answer is that most women want someone in their looks league and a few years older, so if the 30 year old is as attractive and looking for a few years younger hell probably have plenty of options. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:55 PM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themhttps://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/sep/28/seven-secrets-of-dating-from-the-experts-at-okcupid grain of salt because its okcupid so there are variables at play from the specific selection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:52 PM |
| 7 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themA successful 35yo man was more attractive when women could not achieve resources and status independently of men. Now women are weighing those qualities much less heavily, but men are continuing to predominantly value looks, and there's a serious mismatch. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:48 PM |
| 18 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themtrue lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:46 PM |
| 6 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themI don't really see how its unnatural, if women can pass their own resources and status to their children, the best thing they can do for their child is make sure they have the best genes possible and are raising them with someone compatible that they care about. Hence women now prioritizing looks and personality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:45 PM |
| 9 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themI see a lot fewer beautiful women pairing up with men much more unattractive than them but with money and status than previous generations. Looking at actresses/models in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:41 PM |
| 4 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themFrom that study it was around the same age, but i have seen around 3 years older quoted in other places. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:37 PM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themI do t know if that’s from my post or a comment, I can’t find it, but that’s a typo. Not trying to say that. Wealth and status expand your options, but that doesn’t really help the majority of men. Also wealth and stayed expand your access to women, not reciprocated attraction, so you have to be ok with that degree of relationship transaction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:31 PM |
| 2 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themEven then it’s rare, but yeah absolutely, for rich men who are ok with a transactional sexual relationship where the more attractive woman is not sexually attracted to them, they’re set. But most men are not exceptionally rich, and do desire reciprocated attraction/love, and that’s where the problem lies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:28 PM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themI mean, most couples are looks matched. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:21 PM |
| 2 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themSure, but even then access is the key word, the access is there but the attraction probably will probably not be reciprocated. For rich men who don’t care about reciprocated attraction you’re pretty much set! Also of course most men aren’t rich, so that doesn’t really help them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:20 PM |
| 4 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themNo, I’m saying they can objectively see that 20-24 are better looking than men in other age ranges, but are not as attracted to them as someone their age because women consider reciprocal attraction within their own experience of attraction, if that makes sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:18 PM |
| 5 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themIn previous generations women simply were not in a position to choose men based on attraction rather than status/resources/etc. I think what you perceive as sexual leverage advantage is women achieving the ability to not rely on men for these things, and instead choosing partners for the same criteria men do. Honestly, Women have broader sexual selectivity points because we have never been in the position men were in previously, to choose men exclusively for their looks/youth/etc with no negativ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:16 PM |
| 1 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themBut women are content with their looksmatch for the most part, obviously there are exceptions. I don’t really see a scenario where men in general gain access to women more attractive than them, so how do you approach this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 09:06 PM |
| 3 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themMost couples are looksmatched | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 08:58 PM |
| 3 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themI think that’s the core of the issue though. Because women have more holistic attraction, they are content with someone whose in their league for the most part. Looks play a big enough role that they are not dating outside of their league, but they are content within it. Because men are predominantly attracted to looks, they are not, but dating outside of their league is not a realistic option for most men. So then the question becomes, are men weighing looks so much more highly because of biolo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 08:48 PM |
| 2 | It seems like the core of the issue in dating is that men want women who are more attractive than themDefinitely exists on both sides, I think it’s more amplified in men because the story women are raised with is true romantic love. So well go to pretty great lengths to convince ourselves that people in our league are our ideal, to protect that story. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 08:41 PM |
| 2 | Average men wanting chad’s lifestyle are akin to middle class people wanting a billionaire lifestyleIt seems like what men really want is either to have a lot of casual sex or a relationship with a woman who is more attractive than them (not directed at you OP, more the responses you’re getting). Because most relationships are looksmatched, and most women have less casual sex than men. Maybe the problem men are facing is that they were raised with the story that personality/money/power etc. would matter more to women than looks, and they could have access to beautiful women without being beaut… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 08:21 PM |
| 1 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureSocialization vs biological theory is a chicken or the egg situation, but when we look at the history of both of these theories biological theory is most often disproven. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 05:29 PM |
| 0 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureHaving privileges taken away is hard | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 07:33 AM |
| 6 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureI strongly agree with everything you said (outside of the both men and women “agreeing” to the system part, women really did not have options outside of agreeing) and to be clear I am in no way blaming or demonizing men for this system. We were all just born into this world and like you said, the minority that holds economic power is really the biggest and most widespread form of subjugation humanity has ever seen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 06:10 AM |
| 4 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureThank you! I procrastinated doing homework to write it haha and it means a lot that it resonated with someone :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 05:54 AM |
| 9 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureWritten by a physician in The New England medical gazette volume 5, pg. 71: “"If a woman sets out for a sea voyage or a journey by rail the day before her menses should appear, she will be very apt to skip one period, and perhaps more. Or, if the flow comes, she may experience greater suffering than usual. If it be too scanty, or too profuse, she may be very ill. As an indirect consequence, she will be likely to suffer from some form of uterine flexion or dislocation," Women did not have the rig… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureYes lmao I was thinking about this one too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 05:00 AM |
| 5 | Question For Women: For those who have a negative perception of Red Pill Men, could anything change your mind to the point that you would consider a relationship with a Red Pill Man?Long story very short, no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 03:18 AM |
| 2 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureAbsolutely, it makes perfect sense to do a job that suits your physical strengths and weaknesses, and in that time survival on every level came down to physical ability. That doesn’t really reflect the society we live in today. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 03:12 AM |
| 2 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureThere is actually no evidence of any historical matriarchal society, and there likely never has been. Men are more physically powerful than women and in the rise of societies the most powerful of course made the rules. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 02:22 AM |
| 4 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureTo your noble lies point, I would disagree that the end goal was a system that was overall beneficial. Generally speaking, and in this case, when someone has power they are going to make things most beneficial for them. In early society the most powerful made the rules, and men were physically the most powerful. The tendency that follows this is to create a story that justifies that power imbalance as natural/good/divinely granted. And you see this repeated throughout every power structure in hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 02:19 AM |
| 2 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureNot at all! I think it’s because men are physically more powerful than women. The most powerful make the rules. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 02:10 AM |
| 4 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal culturei think it is a big stretch to say that we have become a matriarchial society, women do not hold majority power in any important pillar of social structure that I can think of, from government/corporations/media etc. In what ways do you think that feminism has dominated the western world? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 01:53 AM |
| 11 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureI definitely think there are biological differences between the genders! I lean towards the socialized side when it comes to theory because that is just what has historically most often been proven to be true. Look at what was understood to be true by the medical and scientific community even under a hundred years ago. Women were thought to be generally incapable of receiving an education due to their biology. Physicians believed a woman's ovaries would become inflamed if she read too much lol. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 01:46 AM |
| 4 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureI think that is because despite the drawbacks for men, it is the duller end of the sword lol. Way back in the day when societies were first forming and the strongest made all the rules men shot themselves in the foot in some ways, but they of course got the better end of the deal in general. Your second point is interesting because it calls into question what family relationships look like without this system. I do not think men and women would stop having families, i think the real threat to th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 01:38 AM |
| 3 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureSociety is absolutely correct, I use the term patriarchy because I’m talking about the specific kind of society that shaped these roles. It’s unfortunate that it is such a polarizing word, but it’s the one that best represents the concept I am trying to get across. Definitely not trying to convey that being a father is negative or anything like that! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 12:59 AM |
| 6 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureI am so sorry, that is so unfair. 3-5 year olds have already learned a lot about the society around them, and very sadly one of those lessons is “boys don’t cry”. Before puberty there are very few differences between the genders, i think if they were just targeting boys it’s most likely that they really were modeling what they were taught. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 12:55 AM |
| 10 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureI completely understand and feel similarly. rebelling against the social order is very brave and is the impetus for change but is also a lonely and less happy existence for the most part. it’s hard enough just to get by in this world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 12:50 AM |
| 3 | Most of women AND men’s issues are due to patriarchal cultureI thought this sub was for debate for all inclusive gender issues, not just dating? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 12:24 AM |
| 1 | What features make a guy physically unattractive?Absolutely | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/22 09:42 PM |
| 1 | If TRP is true, then there is no point to dating IF you're looking for love. (It may be worth it in other ways, i.e sex)Every man I’ve ever been truly in love with was neurotic and sensitive. I didn’t love them in spite of those qualities, I loved them in part because of them, because our personalities meshed as I have those qualities myself. I do not think I could fall in love with and be truly attracted to a man who didn’t. Other women will feel differently, because people are individuals, not a gender monolith. I don’t know that much about trp but it does not seem founded on actual studies so much as personal … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/22 09:03 PM |
| 1 | What features make a guy physically unattractive?I think looks are weighed highly and pretty equally for men and women but agree that personality is super important | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/22 08:56 PM |
| 1 | What features make a guy physically unattractive?It’s definitely more important for men, but it’s still important for women too. Women can get away with a very slightly recessed chin (Adriana Lima has one for instance!) but anything much more than that is not going to be found in any woman generally considered exceptionally pretty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/22 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Do men care less than women about being found attractive/desirable in sex and relationships?Almost 2 years, I ended things when I realized that love was never going to translate into attraction and I started dreading sex. It was the biggest mistake of my life and I felt truly terrible for hurting someone I loved. I took the experience very seriously and definitely learned my lesson. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/22 07:22 PM |
| 2 | Do men care less than women about being found attractive/desirable in sex and relationships?For me personally if I love someone my dumb ass really does thing they are the hottest/most beautiful person on earth lol. I wonder if that is unusual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/22 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Do men care less than women about being found attractive/desirable in sex and relationships?From my experience and talking to my female friends I think building attraction is extremely rare. I was in a relationship with a guy who was extremely fun and compatible with me, he really checked all my boxes but sexual attraction. I had high hopes that attraction would grow, and did everything I could to encourage it, but it never did. In looking for advice on what to do I talked to a lot of my friends and they all confirmed that attraction and chemistry were immediate and never grew for them… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/22 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Do men care less than women about being found attractive/desirable in sex and relationships?Personality & looks are probably the biggest driving factors for me personally in attraction, and intelligence is definitely a necessary piece of the personality puzzle. I don’t really feel sexual attraction without an emotional and intellectual connection though, regardless of how attractive someone is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/22 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Do men care less than women about being found attractive/desirable in sex and relationships?I mentioned in the post that women will choose a good provider over looks, but it is not because status and wealth are creating sexual attraction for most women in the way that looks and personality/chemistry do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/22 09:03 PM |
| 21 | What features make a guy physically unattractive?A TON of factors are reliant on personal preference. The ones that aren’t are health indicators: clear skin, symmetry, good development indicators like forward facial growth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/22 08:58 PM |
| 1 | Do women value a guy’s status or overall looks more?Absolutely, but tbh I think the mechanism is that up until a few generations ago women were reliant on their partners for resources and status. Now that that is no longer the case I think women in general are shifting more towards prioritizing attraction, personality and compatibility. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/22 07:50 PM |
| 2 | Is there a certain looks level a guy can have that will automatically beat out any High Status/High earning male?Versions of this question pop up a lot and the answer is it depends on what a woman is looking for. If she is looking for chemistry/romantic “love” looks will win every time over high status/high earning. If she is looking for someone who can provide her with a luxurious life style and be able to support children, she will prioritize high status/earning. If she wants both she will try to find a man with both qualities and lean towards whatever is most important to her. If you are asking if looks… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/22 07:46 PM |
| 8 | How can single women be happier than married women?Many single women have hookups and friends with benefits. Women are also raised to be more pro social and to build strong connections with friends and family that fit the emotional and bonding needs that many men only find in relationships. So single women can wind up being fulfilled in sex/companionship outside of a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/22 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Do women value a guy’s status or overall looks more?I'm pretty sure this has been confirmed in multiple studies as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/22 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Do women value a guy’s status or overall looks more?i don't really even care about status for a long term romantic relationship either. I prioritize attraction and personality very highly and fairly equally, and status and resources very lowly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/22 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Do women value a guy’s status or overall looks more?Up until very recently women had to value resources more because they were reliant on men for resources. That has shifted very quickly in the past few generations, and studies have shown that as it has shifted women have prioritized looks more. Anecdotally as a woman attraction is far more heavily weighted for me than status or resources. I am also more attracted to pretty boys like Chalamet than more muscular/hyper masculine men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/22 07:10 PM |
| -3 | What are the quotes/texts that you think best encapsulate your experiences as the gender/sexual preference you are, dealing with the opposite sex and dating?The reason patriarchies stand the test of time is because men can physically over power women. The most powerful make the rules, and then create mythologies to justify that power. You see it with every power structure throughout history. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/22 01:35 PM |
| 50 | So true. I may not be where I want to be at 31. But I am wayyy happier.I have a theory that men harass women they perceive as “weak”, not ones they find attractive. I have a friend whose a model, and she told me once that she is almost never catcalled/harassed/etc. I didn’t believe her at first, but she said it was actually pretty common for models, because they’re so tall and beautiful they intimidate men. And I thought about it and my really petite short friends always seem to have the most aggressive catcalling stories! It’s so gross, men just want to make women… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 04:02 AM |
| 36 | Eye-OpeneningYes! I adore gone girl and one of my fav things about it is how completely un-worth it Nick is. Like girl go become the worlds most famous female serial killer and travel the world lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 04:42 AM |
| 2 | Do you still love your wives now that they’re no longer young?Thank you for everything, I just purchased it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/21 04:15 PM |
| 1 | I’m confused- what makes women’s standards unreasonable?Genuinely curious about how differently we are all perceiving this, what do you think is not conducive to a relationship from this list? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/21 03:06 AM |
| 2 | Average men never truly experience a women's love at its full extentI’m sure it varies by individual greatly, but this is what Ive gathered from my experience and the r/bpdlovedones sub | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/21 02:55 AM |
| 3 | Average men never truly experience a women's love at its full extentDepends on the individual but they can mirror very well and for a long time before those outbursts start, sometimes years. And there are other cluster b disorders that are very similar in terms of mirroring and obsession but don’t include the outbursts (but have plenty of other fun characteristics lol) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/21 02:50 AM |
| 8 | Average men never truly experience a women's love at its full extentAlso it just occurred to me that (it seems to me) that women with BPD tend to value outward appearance more greatly than other women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/21 12:09 AM |
| 1 | How Many Of You Would Ban Casual Sex if You Could?Where are you getting your ideas about what feminism is from? It is so far from what the majority of feminists believe and want I have to believe that you’re either getting all your info from redpilled sites, or seeking out TERFs to argue with or something. You’re just flat out wrong. Feminism, at its core and most commonly understood form, is a desire to dismantle patriarchy to move towards equality. As we’ve already established, that’s good for both men and women, because patriarchy damages bo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/20 06:21 PM |
| 1 | How Many Of You Would Ban Casual Sex if You Could?So going outside and getting off reddit is gonna be huge for you because the thing is feminists, the majority of feminists, don’t hate men. They want equality. And the thing about patriarchy is at its bare bones it isn’t women=evil and men=good, it’s women =child, man=adult. That’s why it’s such a divisive social structure, there are women and men who are happy with that status quo/inequality, but there are also men and women who find it deeply damaging. The child/adult comparison simplifies pat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/20 06:26 AM |
| 1 | How Many Of You Would Ban Casual Sex if You Could?Honestly, truly, to all the guys talking about body count, you gotta get off reddit. It’s bad for you. I come to this sub every so often and it’s always such a weird, backwards mess. I’m not one to judge, I should probably quit reddit for my mental health too lol. But meet some women in real life based on shared interests and attraction and see if you give a flying fuck about who they’ve slept with. It seems like grasping at strawmen (couldn’t resist lol) to find ways to control women. I feel li… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/20 05:29 AM |
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