gold-ee Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
23	My husband did NOTHING for Valentine’s Day?	ADVICE	gold-ee	/r/RedPillWives	14/02/21 06:45 PM
13	Advice on dealing with problem in-laws?		gold-ee	/r/RedPillWives	29/11/20 03:58 PM
1	Does anyone have advice for dealing with problem Southern in-laws?		gold-ee	/r/RedPillWomen	29/11/20 03:56 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
17	Was I wrong all along Do you feel represented by the red pill’s views on how men always feel about women? That they must be significantly younger than you to be desirable? That they are never desirable again after age 25? That they are most attractive when they are uneducated, meek, empty-headed? That the only thing they can possibly bring to the table in a relationship is sex, physical attractiveness and youth? Have you ever been attracted to a woman for a reason other than her youth and thinness? Have you ever want…	/r/ExRedPill	15/09/23 11:51 PM
6	How to learn to be respectful to my future SO while single? You mention a therapist, but have you sought diagnosis/treatment for any actual mental health problems? I ask because your story as you’ve told it here sounds exactly like me and I could’ve written exactly this post and comments a few years ago. I know exactly how I want to treat people and I know the kind of woman I want to be, but in the moment my emotions get away from me faster than my rational mind can intervene and I end up saying and doing things I later regret. I lived in shame my whole …	/r/RedPillWomen	13/03/23 07:39 PM
5	Why do ex red pill people say body count doesn't matter? The thing about “body count” is that it’s a totally context-free metric. It’s as illogical as trying to judge a woman’s attractiveness based on the number of calories she ate on March 26th, 2019. Sure, there are stats showing that women in a certain weight range are the most attractive. And we know that caloric intake is linked to weight. But knowing someone’s caloric intake on a single completely random day nearly 4 years ago tells you nothing about her actual attractiveness. It doesn’t tell yo…	/r/ExRedPill	02/10/22 12:04 PM
1	Tea Time Thanks for this. I don’t think he’s an actual pathological TLC show level hoarder. He honestly just really likes collecting books, he hates saying no to cheap or free books, and he likes the look of a completely stuffed bookshelf. He does actually read the books, but he brings them in WAY faster than he can read them. He can’t just buy one book on thriftbooks, he has to buy three or four to get free shipping – that sort of thing. Some of this has to be cultural because he was raised in a large (…	/r/RedPillWives	02/10/22 10:44 AM
7	Tea Time I just need a pat on the back. Without getting too deep into it, my husband is an actual book hoarder and desperately needs to get rid of at least 200 books out of his collection and also stop bringing new ones in. There’s no way around it. I am a book lover and read over 100 books every year; I love that he loves books! He just objectively has too many books, most of which he will definitely never read, we do NOT have the space for them, and there is no sign of his book intake slowing down. Las…	/r/RedPillWives	01/10/22 07:59 PM
-4	Red Pill Subscriber Coming In Peace I’m a woman and I agree with you. “The red pill” teaches things that I absolutely needed to hear that are simply not being said anywhere else. At the same time… the “red pill” community is so toxic that I can’t comfortably refer people in. It’s a double-edged sword. How do you talk to people about politically incorrect truths about gender when you’re a step away from the rabbit hole into blackpill or PUA or regular old open misogyny? TRP has some internal cleanup to do on this part. You’re suppo…	/r/ExRedPill	18/09/22 03:56 AM
4	Tea Time Told my husband that I want to quit my job at the end of next year and spend a few months mastering homemaking full-time while we TTC #1. He said “Okay.” and then moved on. Please wish me strength as I work my very hardest to have a good attitude and not bring it up 5,000 times between now and then.	/r/RedPillWives	07/09/22 10:30 PM
1	Tea Time Honestly, I was a stay at home wife for the beginning of 2020 after being laid off from a job and it was the very best time for me. I miss it all the time! I was so at peace and productive and felt like I actually brought value into the world – as opposed to now, where I’m spending 10-12 hours per day doing one of those arbitrary cubicle jobs that not one single person gains any benefit from. I am inching through The Library Book by Susan Orlean, but this is my big problem… The amount of time I …	/r/RedPillWives	08/07/22 12:37 AM
3	Tea Time Sending you a giant warm hug. I’m in an extra guilty position where my husband has ALWAYS taken on the greater share of domestic labor. One of our frugal living choices is to live with only one car, and my husband is salary and ends up pulling a lot of late nights at work, so I end up putting in a lot of late nights at my job while I wait for him to come get me. I come home too exhausted to do anything beyond the basics and my husband takes charge of cooking dinner and cleaning up. We recently t…	/r/RedPillWives	03/07/22 03:11 PM
12	Tea Time I’m seriously considering antidepressants. I’ve been a bit lonely within “the femininity community” lately. I had quit social media for a few months but felt just as lonely in the real world, since I work full time and struggle with being surrounded by toxic people in my work environment all day. For those of us who simply don’t have the means to be stay at home moms, hyper simplistic personal finance advice like “quit eating in restaurants!” and “go to the thrift store!” and “start budgeting!” …	/r/RedPillWives	02/07/22 09:44 PM
2	How to cut my hair to exude femininity It really depends! I personally think I look best with a bob. It’s by far my most complimented hair style. However, my husband prefers me with a full pixie (1-2” long). I have long (mid-back) hair because it’s what’s most frugal for me and most supportive of my lifestyle. I really hated having a pixie and the regular trims a bob requires are both cost- and time-prohibitive for me. This is all without getting into the styling choices I get with long hair. Within reason, worrying about the length …	/r/RedPillWives	24/04/22 01:27 AM
1	Tea Time No	/r/RedPillWives	31/03/22 07:54 PM
2	Tea Time I want to agree with you! I don’t want to come across as bad mouthing him because he is so kind hearted and is such a rock during hard times. The big issue I have with him lately is that he’s being underpaid by A LOT for the work he does. If he was open to moving companies, he could make more than our current combined income. He doesn’t want to switch jobs, so it’s out of the question, and now he’s updating the budget to remove every little luxury from our lives. I’m confident he’ll loosen up wh…	/r/RedPillWives	30/03/22 07:39 PM
5	Tea Time I posted last tea time that I’m “going through it” but didn’t elaborate. Since then, things somehow got WORSE! A series of tragedies hit all at once this week and now our emergency fund and a majority of our house/maternity leave/start a family fund are drained. I’m so grateful everyone is okay but pretty heartbroken about the rest of it. I’m grateful we had the cash to deal with everything… but we really needed that cash for something else. This time last week, I could have quit my job and we w…	/r/RedPillWives	30/03/22 01:23 PM
2	Tea Time Thank you so much for your kindness. ❤️	/r/RedPillWives	27/03/22 07:31 PM
2	Tea Time Thank you :)	/r/RedPillWives	27/03/22 02:15 PM
6	Tea Time I’ve been “going through it” lately and don’t even know how to describe my problem. I keep typing it out and having to delete and start over because it keeps coming out wrong. I’m just frustrated and exhausted and losing faith in and patience for my husband’s career and plans for our future. And I’ve just realized that instead of taking care of myself, I’ve been stewing home alone all day – because we have one car and he took it to work so I’m stuck inside alone. I think I just need a hug from s…	/r/RedPillWives	26/03/22 09:49 PM
4	Tea Time My in laws are trying to convert me to their religion and it’s very obvious and becoming impolite. My husband left his family’s faith once he became an adult. The last time a close relative of his came into town, she had a gift for me. The gift was a small totem with a subtle religious implication that us only apparent on close inspection. It came with a booklet that she asked me to read in private and think about – the totem is in some way connected to a long-dead stranger who just so happens t…	/r/RedPillWives	16/03/22 01:18 PM
4	Tea Time I complained in my last tea time about my husband’s messiness and need to follow up with a post of gratitude. When he cleans, he does a very thorough job. Today I have not only a kitchen of clean dishes, but also a fridge that’s been fully deep cleaned, appliances that have been pulled out and swept under, floors that have been mopped. It’s a gift. Hopefully someday soon we’ll find a house that meets our needs and this will cease to be as much of a problem!!	/r/RedPillWives	30/01/22 05:29 PM
6	Tea Time I’m at the end of my rope with my husband’s messiness. I keep trying to describe it and whenever I read my complaints back to myself, it sounds so ridiculous I get choked up. He insists on cooking extremely elaborate meals every single night and then doesn’t clean up after himself. He’s from a huge family and his mother cooks for 14 people every night, and she makes less of a mess in the kitchen than he does cooking for the two of us. I can’t keep cleaning up his giant messes and I can’t keep li…	/r/RedPillWives	27/01/22 10:32 PM
1	What are redpill fathers like? Do they treat their kids as badly as their wives? Saw this post in another sub. Thank you for the reminder that social media isn’t real life, I guess? Not sure how it’s relevant to anything that’s been said in this thread.	/r/ExRedPill	18/01/22 12:00 AM
1	What are redpill fathers like? Do they treat their kids as badly as their wives? Saw this post in another sub. I didn’t say he’s a bad father. I said he brags about being a bad father. I don’t care what he’s doing in private. I’m analyzing his public statements only. Super weird of you to swoop in and insist that Crowder might be a perfectly fine parent.	/r/ExRedPill	17/01/22 11:44 PM
2	What are redpill fathers like? Do they treat their kids as badly as their wives? Saw this post in another sub. Okay. That doesn’t do anything to suggest that the tweet in the OP is too outrageous to be sincere. The tweet in the OP also does not claim to be “red pill” and other blue-check-popular masculinity commentators have expressed similar sentiments.	/r/ExRedPill	17/01/22 11:22 AM
16	What are redpill fathers like? Do they treat their kids as badly as their wives? Saw this post in another sub. Have you seen what Matt Walsh and Steven Crowder have publicly said about their own actual living children? “Paternity leave is for pussies”: https://twitter.com/scrowder/status/1449135889985253382?s=21 “The baby isn’t going to bond with dad”: https://twitter.com/mattwalshblog/status/1449029253404807170?s=21 These are public figures obligated to maintain at least some sense of decorum. Tell me a radicalized child playing big man on the internet or an abusive husband beating his chest wouldn’t ta…	/r/ExRedPill	17/01/22 02:43 AM
31	What are redpill fathers like? Do they treat their kids as badly as their wives? Saw this post in another sub. I want to say this is satire but I don’t know. Have you seen the stuff Matt Walsh and Steven Crowder have been saying about their children lately? It’s like a race to the bottom with right wing trad masc dudes to see who can humblebrag about being the worst possible father and husband.	/r/ExRedPill	17/01/22 12:42 AM
2	What are good techniques to improve humor? Go back as an adult! It helps especially with some life experience under your belt. Once you’ve exercised the muscle a bit, you’ll sometimes feel the “yes, and” take over. It’s how I keep getting hired to do jobs I’m not qualified for… I just come across as someone who can roll with it.	/r/ExRedPill	13/01/22 05:18 PM
2	What are good techniques to improve humor? Hey! I’m from a family of professional comedians and actors. My best advice is to take an improv class. Even if the people seem like dorks, the basics of improv (improv itself, not even “improv comedy”) will DEFINITELY help you keep from freezing up and teach you how to find the next thing to say. Also, playing off of someone else is the best comedy there is IMO. Lots of people can be funny cold but it’s much more charming and skillful to bring humor into an interaction rather than as a performa…	/r/ExRedPill	12/01/22 09:57 PM
6	Are their any women here from r/redpill for women? So I don’t know if I count. I participate in red pill for women subs because I think there are ideas there I can’t get from the mainstream. Not going to lie, some of that stuff has changed my life. They’re big on the work of Laura Doyle in those subs, which I think of as kind of an applied Esther Perel philosophy – it’s about a woman’s power to build a relationship by creating space for your man to come to you. I am grateful for the tough love that helped me stop hen pecking my husband. With tha…	/r/ExRedPill	12/01/22 02:38 AM
16	Insecurities of having girlfriend leaving for a Dominant Black Guy. I read an online story about someone whose family slices their poop up with a knife before flushing, that doesn’t mean it happens often	/r/ExRedPill	10/01/22 08:44 PM
6	Advice for being more attractive to my husband, while in a body he’s not entirely attracted to? The pen and paper is a great start but I just hope you don’t put pressure on yourself to figure it all out on one sitting, too. Life’s a journey…. We all need different things and learning how to truly care for yourself is its own job. You’ll probably learn what you need piece by piece, through observation and care. Sending you my love, girl!	/r/RedPillWives	06/01/22 11:48 PM
13	Advice for being more attractive to my husband, while in a body he’s not entirely attracted to? She said “healing from an ED,” not “healing ED.” ED, in that context, means EATING DISORDER. She talked about struggling with binge and restrict habits, triggers, and underscored the point she made in her original post that she is not seeking diet or weight loss advice. Edit: She’s also posting asking for help with her husband, not “boyfriend.” I’m not sure why a man with a 6 day old account feels the need to exclusively participate in this sub and not even bother to read any of the posts he’s r…	/r/RedPillWives	06/01/22 11:18 PM
17	Advice for being more attractive to my husband, while in a body he’s not entirely attracted to? I am going through something similar. My body isn’t what I wish it was and I’m in a stressful season of life where I don’t always have time or energy to give (we’re each working approx 60-70 hours per week right now at two jobs). For me personally, I’ve learned that I can’t be a fully sexual person unless I’ve gotten all the way relaxed. My hair has to be done, my kitchen has to be clean, my floors have to be vacuumed, I need to wear something both sexy AND comfortable. Feeling a little too lump…	/r/RedPillWives	06/01/22 11:14 PM
12	Advice for being more attractive to my husband, while in a body he’s not entirely attracted to? OP is talking about eating disorders, not erectile dysfunction. Women don’t get erectile dysfunction and “semen retention” won’t help us.	/r/RedPillWives	06/01/22 11:03 PM
1	Do women really start to have a crisis when they start to age and realize they aren't pretty as before? Major red flag that you’re this committed to conflicting “attraction” with “fetishization.” ♥️	/r/ExRedPill	25/11/21 11:33 PM
3	Do women really start to have a crisis when they start to age and realize they aren't pretty as before? Not sure why you’re being downvoted. Perhaps the truth hurts, lol. As a late 20s woman, I hear about this alllll the time from the older women in my life and kind of see it slowly happening to myself. In a society that fetishizes youth and inexperience, there’s a point where you…. Stop being young and inexperienced and, by extension, stop being fetishized for your youth and inexperience. As we move through our lives, we decrease in similarity to our age-group peers. Around the kindergarten lunch…	/r/ExRedPill	07/11/21 06:38 PM
3	Tea Time We are not taking on these second jobs for the money. We do not need the extra money at ALL and do not want the jobs. We are already living on his income exclusively and saving every penny of mine. A family member owns a business that is struggling to hire and asked us for help covering the work out of desperation. This relative’s phone call asking us for help was so heartfelt and apologetic that it made us both cry. If it was ANYONE else we would not even consider it but for “reasons” we really…	/r/RedPillWives	28/10/21 01:48 AM
3	Tea Time I wrote a few weeks ago about how overwhelmed I am with working so much and being sad that my husband thinks we aren’t in a position to have kids and have me quit or reduce my working hours. Since then, I’ve found out that circumstances beyond our control are requiring us to pick up a part time job that will have us working several nights and weekends (we reallllly don’t need the money and would rather have the time but due to emergency family circumstances we need to participate in this job par…	/r/RedPillWives	28/10/21 12:36 AM
2	Tea Time Thank you for this! Do you recommend making life changes slower? Thankfully, my job is as fulfilling as it gets. It’s the most money I’ve ever made and also the least stressful/most enjoyable work I’ve ever done. The problem is the overtime I work – not because the job requires it, but because my husband’s office building is next door to mine and we carpool, so because HE is working OT, I also need to work OT since I just have nowhere else to go. I’m tired and don’t spend nearly enough time at h…	/r/RedPillWives	18/10/21 11:37 AM
3	Tea Time I guess this is what’s disheartening – My entire paycheck, plus all of his overtime, already goes into savings. We have no debt. We CAN live on one income and do just fine. To a certain extent, since we’re trying to buy a house soon, I do understand that it’s better for securing financing if I’m earning well and continually building up savings…. And I understand the desire to not make any drastic changes in our income after buying a home… but I’m already 27 and the idea of still working this muc…	/r/RedPillWives	17/10/21 02:47 PM
3	Tea Time How did you know when you were good to go down to one income? How did you know when it was time to have kids? My husband's stated goal is to have kids and retire me into being a SAHM ASAP, but he just outlined some of his baby step goals between now and then and it really seems like he's saying "someday" while meaning "never." We're both currently working at least 48 but as much as 60 hours a week, and he doesn't want either of us to reduce our workload at all until we've moved into a house and …	/r/RedPillWives	16/10/21 10:13 PM
7	I cannot overcome my subconscious misogyny. I do get that this is one of the concerns. I’m trying to tease out whether the “fear for your life” comment is sincere. If this guy sincerely believes he is at a high risk of physical harm by women, rather than simply believing he may be embarrassed or inconvenienced by them, then this is a very different discussion.	/r/ExRedPill	11/10/21 11:41 AM
8	I cannot overcome my subconscious misogyny. You sincerely believe that random women on the street may kill you if you catch their attention?	/r/ExRedPill	11/10/21 11:07 AM
17	What's the deal with FDS (Female dating strategy)? I used to be a FDS apologist because while the sub was toxic, the ideals the sub is ostensibly based on were worthwhile – the books recommended in the sidebar, last I checked, had lots of very good, actually healthy dating advice for women. Over the past few years the sub has become….. big yikes. I can’t wrap my head around how broken those women are. I think FDS hasn’t been quarantined for the same reason the gender critical sub got banned while plenty of the stab women to death subs remain act…	/r/ExRedPill	26/09/21 02:24 PM
1	Tea Time Thank you! Having two cars is definitely not the priority for us, but it’s not feasible if we don’t have a house. Having to haul all of our clothes to the laundromat is already a huge drain on our free time – having no laundry access and a baby at home is just not possible. Our current apartment is a steal, so doubling our rent just to move somewhere a little nicer doesn’t make sense when our current rent would let us buy a house in the next year or so. We’re in the right position and doing the …	/r/RedPillWives	21/09/21 02:09 PM
2	Tea Time Feeling extra discouraged these past few weeks. I am so desperate to quit my job, stay home, and have a few kids already. It hurts because we’re so close and so far all at the same time – we could definitely live on just his income, but it would be tight, and we only have one car which he needs for his job. Without a car during the day, I wouldn’t be able to run any of the errands that would make our lives better, so the whole thing would logistically be a wash in the end. We both work 60+ hours…	/r/RedPillWives	20/09/21 08:20 PM
5	Tea Time Oooo, I’ve been there. I’m currently working through this myself as well and two thoughts are helping me: One, I remember years ago seeing a celeb talk about how he will only scroll through social media or the internet as far as he would flip through it if he had a book. I’m always asking myself, would I be reading this if it was a book I’m holding in my hand? If not, time to put it down and find something else. Two, I remember an author (Brené Brown?) writing about how she tries to do things th…	/r/RedPillWives	16/09/21 09:57 AM
3	My husband did NOTHING for Valentine’s Day? Thank you so much for this comment. This is exactly what I needed. I’m lucky in that, right after you shared this, he ended up making my day. But even if he hadn’t, it wouldn’t have been the end of the world, and I would have still been allowed to be disappointed, and it would’ve worked out.	/r/RedPillWives	14/02/21 09:50 PM
2	My husband did NOTHING for Valentine’s Day? I’m so glad it worked out for you! I got lucky and it worked out for me too. Definitely a lesson learned and a new skill I need to work on adding to my relationship toolbox, but in the end, it’s a good day. 💕	/r/RedPillWives	14/02/21 09:47 PM
0	My husband did NOTHING for Valentine’s Day? I’m so sorry. That sounds so frustrating and painful – especially having to explain it over and over. Is he often like this? I hope you’re able to find a solution and, if it’s any consolation, I wish I could send you roses and a love letter and a thousand hugs just because I’m sure you deserve it.	/r/RedPillWives	14/02/21 09:45 PM
1	My husband did NOTHING for Valentine’s Day? What would you recommend saying?	/r/RedPillWives	14/02/21 08:24 PM
2	My husband did NOTHING for Valentine’s Day? My husband is not like that! He’s usually too good at picking up on hints. I will absentmindedly say out loud that I like/want/am interested in something. I then immediately forget that I wanted it, but he remembers and makes it happen. It’s a daily occurrence. I think out loud, “I wish we had mozzarella sticks,” and twenty minutes later he has somehow made mozzarella sticks appear. He found a sheet of vintage stamps and asked what they were – I was saving them to get them framed but couldn’t fi…	/r/RedPillWives	14/02/21 08:16 PM
1	My husband did NOTHING for Valentine’s Day? Do you think so? I feel bad complaining while I’m already upset and I’m already cooking dinner. It’s way too late in the day for him to do anything other than what we do every night anyway.	/r/RedPillWives	14/02/21 07:58 PM
1	My husband did NOTHING for Valentine’s Day? Because I am sentimental and I love celebrating every single holiday and he knows that.	/r/RedPillWives	14/02/21 07:57 PM
1	My husband did NOTHING for Valentine’s Day? I guess that’s why I’m so upset – I made such a big deal last year about how it was our last year having shitty Valentine’s Days and that next year (which is now this year, right now, today) would be different. It’s not like I haven’t talked about it since then, either! I didn’t send him a checklist of things to do or anything but the more I think about it, the more I really do feel like I had expressed my wishes very clearly. Over the past several weeks I have pointed out several specific Valen…	/r/RedPillWives	14/02/21 07:56 PM
2	My husband did NOTHING for Valentine’s Day? I’m not divorcing my husband because he didn’t get me a card. I know he’s still a good guy. I’m hurt over this specific situation, right now.	/r/RedPillWives	14/02/21 07:45 PM
3	My husband did NOTHING for Valentine’s Day? I understand that I need to speak with him about it at some point. Communicating while I’m actively upset is not a great idea.	/r/RedPillWives	14/02/21 07:12 PM
8	My husband did NOTHING for Valentine’s Day? I understand that I need to tell him something.... I just don’t want to do it right now, on the holiday itself, when I’m already upset. He’s usually low key but not unromantic. In previous years I have been so busy with working on Valentine’s Day itself that we never ended up doing anything. He always does something for special days though and he acknowledged that today is a holiday so I’m just confused.	/r/RedPillWives	14/02/21 07:11 PM
8	DAE finds MGTOW lame ? Just to clarify, “and that man was Albert Einstein” is a meme :) but yeah, it’s funny how the “facts and logic” crowd never has anything kind of say about actual facts and logic people	/r/ExRedPill	06/01/21 03:15 PM
14	DAE finds MGTOW lame ? If they were actually going their own way, they wouldn’t need to create a community to fixate on what they’re supposedly thrilled to be abstaining from. Most of the positive MGTOW stories on reddit seem like they’re written by sad lonely men LARPing about what they hope their happy futures will look like. He went his own way, and then everyone stood up and clapped, and that man’s name was Albert Einstein. They all seem young and inexperienced and it makes me sad for them but also frightened for …	/r/ExRedPill	06/01/21 03:06 PM
3	Books for understanding the core of the traditional woman and the spirituality of being a woman? This sub loves Fascinating Womanhood and The Surrendered Wife.	/r/RedPillWives	23/12/20 12:02 PM
9	My stance on red pill Casual sex is not the same for women as it is for men. Casual sex is not the same for women as it is for men. Sex does not automatically result in orgasm for most women. Women overwhelmingly bear the physical burden of preventing, terminating, and experiencing pregnancy. Women are or perceive themselves to be more at risk for sexual violence.	/r/ExRedPill	18/12/20 12:59 PM
2	Are there any aspects of TRP that have stuck with you, or were ultimately beneficial? I’m a woman. I have never been RP but I identify as “purple.” I think RP misogyny is toxic and upsetting, but I also recognize that “old school” RP theory has something to offer. I had a very religious upbringing and became very feminist in my late teens/early 20s. I ended up dating a guy who was also very feminist but somehow just... better than me. He was kind to me in ways that I didn’t know how to be kind back. He is so inspiring and truly the best person I’ve ever known. In addition to bein…	/r/ExRedPill	16/12/20 02:10 PM
3	Advice on dealing with problem in-laws? Yes, that's been the goal! I do legitimately feel bad but it's their choice - last we spoke, they hinted that they might decline to recognize me as his wife because we lived together before marriage and didn't have a church ceremony (courthouse ceremony with just the two of us because of the pandemic). My husband just takes it as a matter of fact that if they're going to be like this, they won't get to know their grandkids at all. That's not our problem... it's them. I'm just more worried about …	/r/RedPillWives	29/11/20 07:47 PM
8	Advice on dealing with problem in-laws? Thank you! We've talked a lot about what we'll do about them when we have babies. They have capital-M "Money" (he's the only person in his family with a job at all) and he completely divested himself from their financial support after we got together for this reason - if they get to be too much at any point, we can just bow out (whether it's walking out of a dinner or cutting contact) without any more guilt than necessary. They live far enough away that we don't see them often but close enough t…	/r/RedPillWives	29/11/20 06:42 PM
3	Advice on dealing with problem in-laws? Thank you for this. I think you're right. It feels so terrible that I keep thinking I must be doing something wrong/not be doing enough to fix it, but some things are just terrible and they're going to feel terrible and all I can do is my best!	/r/RedPillWives	29/11/20 06:23 PM
4	Snooped on my boyfriend’s phone - how to make it up to him Confessions of a former snooper. In my relationship with my high school boyfriend, I felt an ongoing, nagging need to snoop on his phone. When I did eventually break down and do it, of course I found something so disturbing and trust-breaking in his group chat with his guy friends that I won't repeat it here. I firmly believe that the urge to snoop in that case was my subconscious telling me that this guy was bad news. Early in my relationship with my now-husband, he violated my trust in a prett…	/r/RedPillWives	29/11/20 03:21 PM
4	Are there any apps you guys know of that can help women make friendships with other women? I've met so many truly close friends on Bumble BFF! I live in a relatively small city, which can make it challenging to meet people on apps, but it was great with Bumble BFF. Because there were so few people on there, several of the women I met there also met each other through the app, so we have our little crew and have been renting a luxury A-frame in the woods for a girls weekend every autumn. Clueless and cocktails, bottoms up!	/r/RedPillWomen	08/11/20 09:20 PM
21	Looking feminine in dark colors No offense intended to Mrs. Midwest but her style "expertise" is very obviously based on her personal experience and doesn't translate well to other women. She describes "light colors" as "feminine" because those are what look best on her. I am so sad to hear that a woman with deep winter coloring felt bad about herself after listening to a light summer youtuber pretend that her personal color palette is the only feminine color palette! I had a similar problem. I'm a soft autumn and I had the ha…	/r/RedPillWives	08/11/20 07:32 PM
13	Let’s share our personal and relationship wins, big and small I love this! I don't take pleasure in being compared to other women, positive or negative, but it's always great to hear you've been praised behind your back after being "caught" doing something good :) My relationship is just... reallllllly good right now. We never argue or bicker or anything anyway but my husband has been showing up and loving on me in the exact way that I like to be loved on. Lots of wrapping me up in his arms out of nowhere and telling me all the reasons he loves me. He boug…	/r/RedPillWives	12/10/20 11:36 PM
2	Tracing the toxic history of feminism? Ah a kindred spirit! Femininity by Susan Brownmiller is a favorite of mine. It can be a little hard to find but it’s definitely worth your time if you haven’t read it already. She breaks down why feminist ideology sees “femininity” is a social construct and the ways this construct perpetuates violence against women. I obviously don’t fully agree with the premise, but it was interesting to see sexual dimorphism through the lens she uses and it’s helpful when separating that radical/2nd wave theor…	/r/RedPillWives	07/10/20 10:32 PM
3	Tracing the toxic history of feminism? Thanks for your input! I felt it had to be said. The ability to take in knowledge that challenges your worldview, and to take that new knowledge seriously without compromising who you are, is a sign of a strong mind and strong values.	/r/RedPillWives	06/10/20 05:59 PM
3	Tracing the toxic history of feminism? I don’t disagree with you. I reiterate that my intention is not to defend feminism. My only point is that playing “gotcha” online doesn’t work. If OP’s goal is to drop some juicy quotes in a comment to feel like she owned the libs, then fine. But if you aspire to engage with people, exchange ideas, understand diverse ideologies, and ultimately change minds, you’re going to have to meet people where they are, not where you want them to be.	/r/RedPillWives	06/10/20 05:52 PM
3	Tracing the toxic history of feminism? Thanks for your input! I understand that movements are responsible for all members and feminism can’t “no true Scotsman” their way out of that. I apologize if that didn’t come across in my post. At the same time, I’m not sure how any of this affects OP’s stated goal, which is to explain why feminism is bad to strangers on the internet. Regardless of the roots of modern feminist theory, most self-described feminists are unaware and will find these historical characters completely irrelevant to th…	/r/RedPillWives	06/10/20 02:16 PM
14	Tracing the toxic history of feminism? I'm very uncomfortable with this question. This is the internet. If you're looking for a handful of extremist cases in an entire ideologically diverse intellectual history, you'll find what you're looking for. I'm a few weeks away from my gender communication thesis defense, and I can confidently say that using most of the below examples would be like using Roosh V's "rape should be legal" essay to discredit RPW. These examples are not mainstream feminist ideologies at all; pointing out the wors…	/r/RedPillWives	06/10/20 01:27 AM
6	The happy single career woman myth. Nowhere did I say that women should be paid for domestic labor. I said that domestic labor still work - ie, not fun or relaxing - even if you’re not paid a wage for it. But by all means, please continue to argue with your straw woman if that’s what will make you happy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/20 03:30 AM
5	Work is not a "choice" for most women I know a handful of people who absolutely are able to work but are gaming the welfare system instead - all are highly educated (graduate degree) straight white men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/20 09:23 PM
4	What is the worst marriage advice you ever received? Agreed! Nothing diffuses my fury more than waking up next to my favorite person even when he was so frustrating the night before.	/r/RedPillWives	04/10/20 07:05 PM
8	What is RedPillWives? How does it differ from RedPillWomen? Thank you for creating this post. I noticed some mod shakeup on the other sub but didn't know what happened. This makes sense and I'm glad to be connected with this space now!	/r/RedPillWives	04/10/20 06:55 PM
1	Do you require that your wife/future wife take your name? That's childish of them, then. Your husband should probably find better friends.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/20 05:24 PM
6	The happy single career woman myth. If it was better to prioritize career, we would ,again, see single women being happier. You must be deliberately not reading anything I have to say at this point because, for the third time, I am not saying it's better to prioritize career. What I'm saying that the article in your OP is a weak argument. By those stats, women work more than men and perform more unpaid labor. You had to bring in an extraneous source to flesh out your argument because it didn't hold up under scrutiny. It's possible…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/20 04:16 PM
8	The happy single career woman myth. That's true for single women too. They do more chores than single men. Citation very much needed. I don't see anywhere in your link that time spent on chores is broken down by sex and marital status. Regardless, you can keep bragging about your disdain for domestic labor by referring to it as "chores" and comparing laundry to a hobby, but it's still domestic labor. Like I said, I'm not saying the entire issue is without merit. I believe most women find that they're happier when they prioritize f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/20 03:37 PM
2	Do you require that your wife/future wife take your name? I agree! Further, women who are uncomfortable with this tradition have the right to keep their own name without being called cunts like everyone else in this thread is doing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/20 03:32 PM
14	The happy single career woman myth. "Chores" (domestic labor) are work that you don't get paid for. According to this survey, women perform dramatically more domestic labor than men do. By these numbers, men put an average of 24 more minutes a day than women do into their professional jobs, but women take on nearly all of the domestic labor. I'm not saying that the single career woman lifestyle is ideal for everyone, but this isn't the "checkmate, feminists" you seem to think it is. There are too many dynamics in play here to grac…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/20 03:12 PM
3	TRP should take neurodiversity into account a LOT more when it comes to analyzing both female behavior/standards/desires, and also TRP mens own behavior/standards/desires. This sub actively advises women to not date or marry so-called red pill men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/20 02:24 PM
14	The happy single career woman myth. It is. The executive summary says that men put in more time at work... but not by much at all. On top of that, women are dramatically more likely to be performing most of the domestic labor at home. Men working 10 extra minutes on either end of their shift is not at all comparable to women doing all of the cooking and cleaning outside of work. So yes, women are working more.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/20 02:18 PM
6	The happy single career woman myth. It's in the article you linked, lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/20 02:07 PM
3	Do you require that your wife/future wife take your name? "Because people might bully me" is a terrible reason to legally change your name. Outside of internet trolling, I have literally never heard of someone being made fun of over a married couple having separate names.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/20 01:58 PM
2	Do you require that your wife/future wife take your name? In other words, the traditions that suit you are a "nice touch", while the ones that don't suit you are simply, as you put it, bothersome. The whole point of tradition is that it's meaningful to the people involved, right? We didn't want a wedding, so we didn't have a wedding, but we both dressed up and traded rings and posed for photos because that was a way we wanted to connect with tradition. There are people who don't want to get legally married, but they throw the big expensive party and sh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/20 01:52 PM
2	Opinion on leggings being immodest? This is the one good piece of fashion advice my mother gave me when I was young. If she only had an hour after coming home from work before she had to go back out to meet someone, she'd refresh her makeup and her perfume but wouldn't change out of her scrubs. She said it's because she knew she looked "rough" after a long day but didn't want anyone to think she looked rough "on purpose" - the day's work grime looks rough when you're in jeans and a blouse, but if you look like you just came from w…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/10/20 11:41 PM
1	CMV: Putting on makeup and dressing nicely is like the TRP-equivalent dating strategy for women You're saying that wearing makeup is manipulative.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/20 11:37 PM
1	CMV: Putting on makeup and dressing nicely is like the TRP-equivalent dating strategy for women You seriously think that a woman wearing makeup while in public is morally comparable to a man telling a stranger she's fat because he thinks it'll make her sleep with him?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/20 12:32 AM
1	You guys are missing the whole point of FDS, the point of FDS is NOT to solely attract men. The strategy is to WEED out men they don’t want. They have a comprehensive sidebar and it is very good. Most of their recommended reading is very, very good. I haven't read all of these books (I am not reading a book called "power of the pussy"), but I have read most of them, bought copies for friends and family, asked my husband to read them to get his opinion on them, and they're really full of great, uncontroversial advice.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/20 01:10 AM
1	You guys are missing the whole point of FDS, the point of FDS is NOT to solely attract men. The strategy is to WEED out men they don’t want. I agree with this! It's a weak mind that can't take in challenging information and sort out the good from the bad. I've seen a lot of disturbing things in FDS (apparently women should never co-parent with any man under any circumstances and aspiring mothers are clowns unless they go through sperm banks, lol) ...but that doesn't mean the FDS literature and philosophy are all automatically garbage (their recommended books have a lot of great intel). I think both FDS and RP strategies are ultimatel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/20 08:22 PM
22	Opinion on leggings being immodest? Modesty is arbitrary. A bare midriff is still scandalous to a lot of people in the US but totally normal in other cultures. Bare upper arms are normal in the US but scandalous in other cultures. The discussion of which body parts are okay to leave completely bare, which ones are only okay to show the shape of if they're covered in fabric, and which parts are never okay to suggest to the world is so made up. How do you feel in your leggings? Have you looked at yourself from all angles? Do you fee…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/09/20 09:43 PM
9	Article: May Every Woman Find Her Marty Ginsburg I do love the Marty/Ruth dynamic so much. When my husband and I were in law school, I did so much reading on how other lawyer couples ran their families and they’ve always been my favorites. Over the course of their lives, they juggled priorities - sometimes it was Marty’s tax practice that they put first, sometimes they prioritized Ruth’s ACLU (and eventually federal court) career. They played to their strengths even when it was non-traditional - she just couldn’t cook, so early in their marria…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/09/20 07:15 PM
2	Why would the sexual history of a woman be important ? If you actually had anything to say to my arguments you would have done so. I don't want to have an argument! I want to have a conversation and learn from your perspective in hopes that you'll extend the same courtesy to me. You seem to get off on hassling me on a personal level and authoritatively reinforcing your own biases, so I'm out. I truly hope you have a great day and that, if we cross paths again, we get to learn something from each other. Be well.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/20 09:56 PM
0	Why would the sexual history of a woman be important ? Also, funny how you ever only lecture the men here. I've had this account for a day, dude. Give a gal some time. Your profile said: Newlywed to a politician. LOL. So much about the status thing. You can just say "I don't know how politics works but I want to brag about my misunderstanding in an effort to make this personal" and leave it at that next time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/20 08:38 PM
1	Why would the sexual history of a woman be important ? Again, there is a difference between "not dating" and "actively denigrating." Further up in this thread, there is talk of "turning a slut into a housewife" and "repulsion." I would never date someone who plays video games, and I have good and deeply personal reasons for that, but I don't think of people who play video games as "obese neckbeard losers" because that would be neither kind nor productive. From another parent comment: But don't we more or less accept/infer that women like height and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/20 07:34 PM
0	Why would the sexual history of a woman be important ? If your moral compass is dictated by "she was mean to me first so I get to be mean back," then you're acting like a child. You can live in that state of eternal hostility, combativeness, or apathy... or you can step up to do the truly brave and honorable work of treating human beings like human beings, following the golden rule, actively empathizing with other people, understanding and working to overcome the shortcomings of your limited perspective. Your choice!	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/20 07:01 PM
1	Why would the sexual history of a woman be important ? I'd look at whether the epiphany occurred last week or 5 years ago. Only a consistent change in behavior is real. People don't take alcoholics and smokers "quitting" seriously until their resolve is tested by time. Now we're on the same page.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/20 06:48 PM
10	Q4Women, have you ever been around a guy that cockblocked himself with you by saying/doing some stupid shit? Okay. Well this ex military LEO that I went on a first date with wanted to bring back racialized chattel slavery. This is more common among them than you think. Enjoy your soapbox.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/20 06:48 PM
12	Q4Women, have you ever been around a guy that cockblocked himself with you by saying/doing some stupid shit? “Damn, she’s hot”. Really? While trying to still pick me up? Might as well just add “but you’ll do” This is always the funniest. They always seem to think it's really working, too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/20 04:44 PM
5	Q4Women, have you ever been around a guy that cockblocked himself with you by saying/doing some stupid shit? I'm not in NYC, just New York. This person is ex-military, current law enforcement, so you're right on that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/20 04:39 PM
22	Q4Women, have you ever been around a guy that cockblocked himself with you by saying/doing some stupid shit? All the time. On a first date, I filled a lull in the conversation by asking him what historical event he would go back and intervene in if he could. He said he would....... help the Confederacy win the war and expand slavery. We're both in New York so there wasn't really even the plausible deniability of backwards Louisiana miseducation. No thanks. And he's a government employee!	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/20 03:22 PM
5	Why would the sexual history of a woman be important ? HPV testing can't be done on men. You can get STDs even whilst using a condom. Women are routinely tested for HPV, though. Relationships don't cause magical personality changes. People keep the preferences and tendencies they've always had. But personality can and does change, and n-count alone does not reflect that. It's a lazy measure. If you're so concerned about personality, look at her recent behavior to determine who she is right now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/20 03:13 PM
1	Why would the sexual history of a woman be important ? It should not be the same (or if it is the same in "men's minds," then men don't get to claim to be the "logical, rational" sex because that is a purely irrational emotional conclusion). If a woman slept with 20 people through high school/college, but is now 28 and has had two sexual partners in the past 5 years and has come back negative on every single STD panel she's ever taken... but you run for the hills when you hear she has had "22 sexual partners" because you insist she's an STD-ridden b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/20 03:07 PM
1	Why would the sexual history of a woman be important ? But don't we more or less accept/infer that women like height and status in men due to evolutionary reasons? If we accept that then a man's aversion to a woman's high partner count should be seen in the same light, no? So do you support women who want to denigrate short or low-status men? Is that okay and completely justifiable to you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/20 02:57 PM
1	CMV: "Provider" males should employ sugar dating strategy by 30s rather than marry women in 30+ range that rode CC If it helps, I don’t think men should have to “just get over it,” either. “Feminists” aren’t some kind of governed body. I am doing a graduate degree in gender studies and at least half if not more (haven’t actually counted) of my thesis is about making life better for men and I’m not alone in this. I also just don’t think it’s very productive to say “three women were mean to me one time so I’m going to be actively cruel to all of them for the rest of my life.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/20 12:35 PM
1	CMV: "Provider" males should employ sugar dating strategy by 30s rather than marry women in 30+ range that rode CC Making fun of someone for having insecurities is not okay, either. I would (and do) just as quickly hassle women for being mean and unreasonable to/about men. But at a certain point, you just have to stop being at war with half the population. The women you’re talking about (heavy makeup, plastic surgery) are such a small percentage of the population that it’s kind of ridiculous to be hostile to every woman because of some hypocritical straw woman you’ve just invented.... just like how the perce…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/20 12:30 PM
7	Intro thread! Hi all! I'm a 25 years old and I've been married for 5 months. I'm currently working as a financial analyst, but I'm hoping to become a SAHM in a few years. Trying my absolute very best to just enjoy life as it is right now and not rush into the next phase, but I'm tired of working and just want to stay home with my future babies already, dang it. I'm not a traditional "red pill wife" - I am just now finishing up a masters degree in gender theory and still maintain a lot of those views. I think …	/r/RedPillWives	20/09/20 01:52 AM
4	Chest Insecurity Support Oh girl. Hugs from across the internet. Every time I see someone complaining about her small boobs, my heart breaks a little bit. I'm one of the bustiest people I know and it's not much better on the other side of the spectrum. You're going to have to just accept that your body is the way it is and then learn how to work with it. Acceptance was the hardest part for me. I don't know what it'll take for you, but I basically had to internalize that this is my body and I cant change the fact that I …	/r/RedPillWomen	19/09/20 10:31 PM
4	CMV: "Provider" males should employ sugar dating strategy by 30s rather than marry women in 30+ range that rode CC There's a difference between having insecurities and projecting insecurities. RP dudes love pulling out the same one or two studies connecting n-count and infidelity but hand-wave away all the data on bias against women, male violence against women, the relationship between media representation and beauty standards, disproportionate performance of labor in heterosexual relationships. It's possible to be discerning, to have high standards, to want to carve out a nice life for yourself, to protect…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/20 09:00 PM