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This is fantastic advice.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 10:30 AM
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I think it's safe to say that a man can do the cooking just as well as a woman, and help out with this chore as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 02:35 PM
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Although many women don't want to get married, some do desire to tie the knot with their partners one day, but get strung by them. I think the commenter was referring to these kinds of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 02:02 PM
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Personally, I don't prefer children of a certain gender. What matters to me, is that my offspring (current and future) is happy and healthy. We currently have a son, are planning more children, and will be happy with whatever sex God gives them, even if they will all be boys, or if I will only conceive girls from now on.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 11:08 AM
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Like if you ask a kid how the dog ate their vegetables. " I don't know, it kind of just happened" As a mother, I chuckled quite a bit at this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 06:32 PM
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I think I have to disagree with you. It's highly unlikely that all the women disagreeing with OP are "hot" women, since most people are average looking, and if everyone except for the most attractive people were treated poorly, chances are that we would all be quite unhappy in life. I also, despite being average-looking myself, agree with these comments. Being attractive is a rather unfortunate gift, compared to having other talents, such knowing how to draw very well, cook, or understanding soc…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 01:45 PM
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To be honest, I don't think the moderators here are radical feminists or incels. They seem to be somewhere in the middle, which is why hardcore redpillers believe that they're feminists, and those that strongly believe in feminism think the moderators are involuntarily celibate misogynists.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 09:50 AM
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Well said! Another thing worth mentioning, is that most women in Eastern Europe are very attractive. For instance, a Polish 6/10 would be a German 8/10. One time, when I went to Germany with my friend and entered a mall, I was quite surprised to see that the models advertising different clothes and products were, though certainly above average looking, not as drop-dead gorgeous as the models I usually saw in Poland. I even joked with my friend that we should lose 5 kilograms and apply to a Germa…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 04:06 PM
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If that's the case, then I'm very happy to hear that! :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 08:10 PM
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Unless you are very short, or have a medical condition that significantly slows your metabolism down, if you eat 1400-1600 calories per day, you will be in a deficit, not a surplus. Therefore, I'd highly recommend slowly increasing the amount of calories you consume, as it will give your body the fuel it needs to build muscle. Otherwise, your body might even end up burning some muscle mass, in order to slow down your metabolism, which results in having a "pooch", especially if you already are at…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/23 08:25 AM
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Same here! While I understand that there are women who might want to make the majority of the decisions in the relationship (which is absolutely fine!), I personally prefer to obey my husband. It makes me feel more at ease to be taken care of, and in touch with my femininity. Would I be capable of managing my life on my own? Of course! However, when I focus on doing more traditionally feminine things in my marriage, while my husband does the more masculine tasks, our lives are a lot smoother tha…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/23 11:04 AM
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To be honest, I don't think OP's marriage has a good chance at lasting for the next years, especially if her husband had been lying to her by omission for several years. In order for a long-term relationship to work and be fulfilling, in most cases, the man has to curb his desire to sleep with multiple females, and the woman must suppress her hypergamous instincts. ​ If, however, OP's spouse wanted to continue pursuing other women while he was in a relationship with her, he should have disclosed…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 04:20 PM
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Well said! This may sound controversial, however, if OP's husband wants to act on his polygamous urges, OP has the right to act on her hypergamous urges, and start looking for a man to "trade up" with.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 10:18 AM
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To be honest, I think the maximum amount of children a woman could have 100 000 years ago in a year was a lot closer to 1 (if not lower) than it is today. A lot of infants died after birth back then, and if a woman had twins (let alone triplets!), she'd be at a very high risk of death in childbirth. Even today, most twin pregnancies and almost all triplet pregnancies are considered high-risk and delivered via C-sections, with the children usually born prematurely. Back when we were hunter-gather…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 02:45 PM
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I'd strongly recommend using moisturizer, eating mostly unprocessed food, and staying out of the sun! Havig children sooner rather than later is also a good idea, since a 25-year old woman will "bounce back" to her pre-pregnancy body a lot more easily than a 35-year old.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 01:14 PM
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OP, have you considered joining a gym, or perhaps a hobby group? Doing so could allow you to meet new people, and if that doesn't work out, you'll always have the benefit of self-improvement in another aspect of your life, such as your health, fitness or developing an interesting and useful skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:33 AM
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My list would be: Having a history of multiple toxic and "crazy" exes. Obviously, if a woman has one or two such former partners, it's quite understandable: She could have simply made a mistake. However, having 3 or more exes that supposedly brought a lot of drama into her life can often be an indicator of poor vetting skills, or being the main perpetrator of negativity. Having a negative attitude towards others, as well as life in general. Not taking responsibility for her own behavior and mist…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 10:27 AM
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A lot of commenters mentioned working remotely, and I think it's a fantastic idea for SAHMs! I'm a freelance artist that works from home and have a newborn, so of you need any help or advice in regards to setting things up, feel free to DM me!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 11:20 PM
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N stands for "notches", which is a common term for the amount of people a person has slept with in this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 03:44 PM
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I think I have to disagree with you. While you make a good point about men being polygamous by nature, they certainly are not animals that are constantly looking for new "chew toys". Also, the commenter I replied to mentioned getting a lot more attention after becoming overweight, but curvier. Certainly, if she was more attractive when she was thinner, she'd be getting more attention then, both from men looking for hookups, as well as long-term relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 04:31 PM
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Perhaps you tend to store your fat in more "feminine" areas, such as your hips, glutes, thighs and breasts? Women that have such fat deposits usually get more male attention and are considered more attractive when they have a higher BMI, whereas those that tend to store fat on their stomach often look better and have more men attracted to them when they are thinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 01:35 PM
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I'd love to see more post-partum content as well, along with content that focuses on maintaining a happy and fullfilling LTR/Marriage and household once children come into the picture (especially small ones!). I gave birth 4 days ago, just returned home, and while my father and my mother-in-law are staying at our place to help out with our newborn, taking care of our son, the house, as well as doing art commissions all while healing after labour (at least I didn't have a c-section!) has been qui…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/23 01:53 PM
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You are absolutely on-point! If a man plays video games all day, lacks masculinity, doesn't care for his body, have a decent job or social skills and waits for a woman to come into his life, chances are that it will be very hard for him to find a partner, since most women aren't attracted to such guys. Likewise, if a male gets too deep into the Red Pill and treats it as gospel, instead of kind, caring and good women, he will only attract girls that are OK with being manipulated, strung along, tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 03:09 PM
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I think so as well. However, I disagree with him, which is why I commented.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:47 AM
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I wholeheartedly agree that outliers exist! The same thing can also be said about short men dating very attractive women, or tall men dating unattractive girls. However, just because there are some outliers, doesn't mean that large breasts in women or tall stature in men aren't considered as more attractive than a smaller chest or height by most of the population. You make a good point about chest size being correlated with overall body fat, and the same thing can be said about hips. There will …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:17 PM
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I think I have to disagree with you. While women with small breasts (or, what I've noticed more often, narrow hips) might still be able to get more matches on dating apps than the average man, the quality of these matches will often be much lower than the ones a large-chested woman gets. It would be a bit like the short man getting hundreds of matches, but the vast majority of them being bots, sex workers offering their services, or overweight and unattractive women demanding expensive dates or …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 10:00 AM
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Personally, I'd say I'm somewhere between the Right and the Left, and believe that both sides of the spectrum make fair points and need each other to balance themselves out, as well as allow society to thrive. Most people on the Left believe that I'm a conservative, whereas most people on the Right would consider me a liberal.
/r/AntiFeminists23/02/23 09:48 AM
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I agree! Making sure that your appearance is appropriate, but not over-the top, shows that you care about your job, what your coworkers think of you, and that you are willing to put in effort and respect, which are all desirable traits in an employee, regardless of their gender.
/r/AntiFeminists21/02/23 12:04 AM
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Well said!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 09:08 PM
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Well said!
/r/AntiFeminists12/02/23 04:23 AM
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I wish that was the case as well!
/r/AntiFeminists12/02/23 04:19 AM
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To be honest, I don't think that hating people for their beliefs is a good idea. After all, they are still humans with a different perspective, and most of them simply want to make the world a better place, just like we do.
/r/AntiFeminists11/02/23 09:05 PM
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I think I have to disagree with you. Just because someone isn't an anti-feminist, does not mean that they are automatically a feminist. In fact, 39% of women in the USA do not identify as feminists at all: https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/07/07/61-of-u-s-women-say-feminist-describes-them-well-many-see-feminism-as-empowering-polarizing/
/r/AntiFeminists11/02/23 08:59 PM
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To be honest, most men on dating apps are there because they are looking for something casual, at least at the beginning of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 01:51 PM
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To be honest, most people are average looking, and yet, many married women stay at home. In my opinion, being a nurturing, kind and caring woman that can run a household well is much more important than her looks. After all, we will all become old and ugly someday.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 12:19 AM
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Wouldn’t a person have to be extremey short to have a TDEE (not a basic metabolic rate!) Of 1230, on top of living a sedentary lifestyle? I'm 5'7, 25 years old, and my basic metabolic ratio pre-pregnancy was 1424! Even if I lived a sedentary lifestyle, I'd have to consume about 1700 calories to maintain my weight.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 12:07 PM
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You make very good points! However, I think I'll have to disagree about eating 1000 calories per day. Although being in a deficit is crucial for weight loss, if the deficit is too large, OP could start burning muscle mass along with fat, which would in turn slow down her metabolism, and make it harder to continue losing and maintaining a low weight - not to mention the constant hunger, messing up her menstrual cycle, headaches, moodiness and other unpleasant symptomes she would experience!
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 10:12 AM
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I think you make a fair point!
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 01:17 PM
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The reason why OP is in a hurry, is because she is in her late twenties, and the older she gets, the higher her odds of having trouble conceiving, or the pregnancy having complications.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 12:17 PM
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I wholeheartedly agree with you! Contrary to the popular belief, feeling "in love" with someone is not the most important thing in a relationship. In fact, I think it's safe to say that when you are in your 40's and 50's, chances are that you will be much happier with a "beta" man that is kind, caring and treats you well, than with the most "alpha" male in the room that mistreats you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 01:55 PM
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In my opinion, a person has a high body count if they cannot remember the names of all of their sexual partners.
/r/AntiFeminists02/01/23 09:29 PM
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To be honest, I wouldn’t call MGTOW the opposite of that subreddits. After all, MGTOW men want to avoid dating and women, instead of taking advantage of the opposite sex.
/r/AntiFeminists29/12/22 01:02 AM
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OP, have you considered searching for a wife in real life? People on dating apps tend to flock to them because, for some reason, they could not find what they were looking for (be it casual sex, short or long-term relationships) offline. This could explain why you came across so many undesirable women. I wish you luck in finding a spouse!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 11:16 AM
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Have you considered dating women that are younger than you by, say, 5-7 years? Women in their 20's tend to pay more attention to looks than earnings, and unless they are very attractive, they don't recquire their partner to make 150k per year.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/22 08:16 AM
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To be honest, even a bare minimum, lowest paying job can be pleasant. If the boss is kind, respectful and treats you well, the coworkers are nice and there's a chance that you'll get promoted, you might be pretty happy at such a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 02:14 PM
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In my opinion, it's better to leave a cheating boyfriend at 29, than to divorce a husband that had multiple affairs at 39.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 11:02 AM
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I think a better example would be a man making a post that he feels alone, only to get spammed by sex workers promoting their OnlyFans pages or services, as well as unattractive and overweight women requesting expensive dates.
/r/AntiFeminists13/12/22 01:25 PM
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To me, the story sounds quite believable, and even if it's not, it's better to give advice to a troll, than to tell a real victim that he made the story up. OP could have been too frightened, he could have been weaker than the rapist, or could have been worried that if he used more force against her, he'd hurt her and face legal issues.
/r/AntiFeminists05/12/22 11:32 PM
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Ax throwing sounds like a lot of fun! It's a fantastic date idea!
/r/AntiFeminists04/12/22 05:38 PM
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This isfantastic advice!
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 02:23 AM
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Personally, I'm not a particular fan of tall men. Instead, I prefer if they are around my height, but have a "stocky", muscular build, and my husband is exactly that type.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 09:05 PM
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In my opinion, a man paying for a hot girl's meal at an expensive restaurant, but taking an average girl to a coffee shop and making her pay for her drink is a better "equivalent" to a woman sleeping with a player, but making an average man wait. The reason for that, is because it happens a lot more often than a man stringing a woman along for 10 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 08:14 PM
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Same here. Instead of identifying as a feminist or men's rights activist, I prefer to consider myself an "equalist", since I believe that men and women should have equal rights.
/r/AntiFeminists04/11/22 05:47 PM
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I'm really sorry that happened to you!
/r/AntiFeminists03/11/22 09:25 AM
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Although not all ugly people are bad, and we should respect everyone, regardless of their looks, many people with mental health issues will overeat either as a coping mechanism, or to become too unattractive to attract men (and among them, potential people that will abuse them). They will also cover themselves with tattoos, dye their hair unusual colors, cut it short or shave it, not care for their hygiene or wear unflattering clothes, which leads to them looking a lot more unattractive than the…
/r/AntiFeminists03/11/22 08:42 AM
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That's absolutely true!
/r/AntiFeminists02/11/22 10:57 AM
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I agree that such a law wouldn’t make much sense. If it was implemented and interracial couples would just cohabitate, it would be much less beneficial for the women they are trying to protect, since they won't have the stability and certainty that comes with marriage, and could get kicked out after one fight or even (if the man truly is of poor character) "misbehaviour", as awful as it may sound.
/r/AntiFeminists02/11/22 10:45 AM
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Personally, I don't see any issues with letting one of the partners make all of the big decisions in the relationship, as long as the partner in charge doesn't force the supporting partner into such a dynamic, and the Ukrainian and Japaneese women that AromaticBoot3629 seem to be submitting to their partners willingly. My husband also has the final say in all major decisions affecting us (after he asks me for my opinion and imput, which he takes into account), and so far, it's been very benefici…
/r/AntiFeminists02/11/22 10:39 AM
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Well said! Also, if a man takes care of himself like you mentioned, he'll usually have pretty decent luck with women, since, contrary to the popular belief in certain subreddits, most women don't expect their partner to be a 10/10 in every area, just like most men don't expect their partners to be supermodels.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 10:46 PM
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I think I have to disagree with you. It’s possible to have a career without sacrificing motherhood, or leaving your young children at a daycare or with an underpaid nanny. Some of them are: Having children in your early 20's, and starting your career once your children start going to school (part time at first, and then, once they are capable of staying home alone for a few hours, full time). An additional reason for choosing this option, is that, as a young woman, it's much easier to conceive, …
/r/AntiFeminists30/10/22 04:06 PM
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To be honest, I don't understand what's hateful in saying that it's better for the child if one parent stays home. This allows for interdependancy in the parent's relationship, ensures that the child is well-taken care of, cuts the amount of arguments down, creating a healthier enviornment for the offspring, reduces the amount of stress within the family, and allows the stay at home parent to spend lots of time with their child. Isn't all of this beneficial to women?
/r/AntiFeminists30/10/22 09:59 AM
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I think the female equivalent for men's height in the dating market is hip/pelvic bone size. The reasons for that are: Just like with height, you can't really change this. Of course, working out might help your body look better, regardless of the skeletal structure you have, however, it will not make your hips widen, just like lifting weights won make a man taller. One of the ways how I've noticed men and women pair up, is that tall men usually tend to date women with wide hips, even if the woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 05:55 PM
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If I recall correctly, the ideal waist to hip ratio in women is between 0.6-0.7
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 05:24 PM
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I think I have to disagree with you. Many people, both men and women, aren't "put together" in the Western world, so therefore, being at a normal BMI, dressing decently, having a good haircut, job, car, friends and your own place is enough for a man to become above average (6-7/10, depending on the man's height, genetics and where he lives). Also, men that are in the top 1% (say, 8+/10's) of attractiveness (and I don't mean just looks, but also income, social skills and status, which is just as,…
/r/AntiFeminists25/10/22 02:12 PM
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Even if taking care of your physical appearance won't make you absolutely stunning, it's still important to do so. After all, it's better to be a 4/10 on the looks scale, than, say, a 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 10:00 AM
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I think this depends on the woman and her body shape. If she has a pear or hourglass figure, then losing weight might be enough. However, for 72% of women, simply being at a healthy body fat might not be enough for them to be considered fit, though they will still fullfill beauty standards and likely won't have issues with dating stemming from their looks, unless they live in a place where vast numbers of single women are absolutely goregeous.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 11:56 PM
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I wholeheartedly agree with you! If a person is attractive (not just looks-wise, but also has good social skills, a job, friends, etc.), chances are that they'll manage to meet their partner in real life, and won't have to resort to dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 10:32 AM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:35 AM
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I really needed this post today!
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/22 11:44 PM
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I really like cats, tamed a fair share of them (including a feral from Belarus within 5 minutes of spotting it), and from what I noticed, most cats don't like to be snuck up on. Once they notice that a human is trying to approach them that way, they usually run away, and the same thing can be said about women. When we realize that a man is trying to "sneak" into a date, hookup or relationship with us, we usually start questioning why he has to be so covert, and label him as creepy, even if he's …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 05:57 PM
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Your #1 is the same as my #2, because most normal people don't think that sex should take place only within marriage. Only religious people think that way about it[.] Although most people don't think that sex should only take place within marriage, many secular people only want to engage in physical intimacy within the bounds of a committed, long-term relationship. Such men and women only have sex in LTR's, expect the same from their partners, and since most low N-count people only sleep with th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 03:03 PM
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I think I have to disagree with you. Although there are some men that prefer virgins because they are insecure and misogynistic, there are also several normal reasons why they would want a woman with little to no sexual experience. Some of them are: 1) Viewing sex as something that should take place only within the bounds of marriage or an LTR, and expecting your partner to share this belief. 2) Wanting to take a smaller risk when it comes to STD's or emotional baggage, since most promiscuous pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 08:27 AM
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The thing is, u/pinktuliplover never mentioned being with a man just because he can support you financially - she only talked about letting a man help you out and making him feel like he is needed, since, in her opinion, it is important to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:56 PM
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That's great! After all, loving yourself is crucial for good mental health! With that said, I think the best way to care for yourself, is through constant improvement and rewarding yourself for it. In my opinion, working out, developing new skills or becoming better at socializing will bring a lot more joy, fulfillment and confidence than, say, pampering yourself after a day of, say, watching Netflix.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/22 01:43 PM
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Do you happen to be on a self-improvement/glow-up journey? When we don't do much to care for our physical appearance and it gets worse, feelings of uncertainness can easily make their way into our minds. On the other hand, once we start working on ourselves and, as a result, glow up, our confidence will also improve.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/22 01:30 PM
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I think this depends on the role that you play in a movie or show. Usually, the main character has to be attractive, regardless of their gender, since people are more willing to watch movies where the lead is good looking. This has nothing to do with misogyny, and everything to do with business. However, there is plenty of room for average-looking and older people in supporting roles, and if you look beyond the main cast, there will be plenty of older, chubby, short, balding and plain-looking ac…
/r/AntiFeminists06/09/22 07:30 AM
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Wow! In that case, I apologize for calling him a troll!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 07:05 PM
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I'm afraid that the person you replied to might be a troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 05:19 PM
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The same thing can be said about the menstrual cup for women. It's a one-time purchase, good for the enviornment, healthier and much more convenient to carry than other sanitary products!
/r/AntiFeminists17/08/22 10:00 PM
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This is amazing advice!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 12:46 PM
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That's also true!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:20 AM
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To be honest, the vast majority of women don’t have doctors, local celebrities or business magnates competing for their attention, unless they operate in circles where they could meet and befriend them, such medical schools, or companies that organise concerts. Even if they do work or study in such places, though, they have to at least be in the top 10% looks-wise (which is a 7/10, not a 5) for men from the top 1% to consider them even as casual romantic partners. Perhaps the girl that you consi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:28 PM
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Usually, when someone tells me to smile, I simply do so. It isn't much effort on my part, but it's enough to lighten their mood, so why shouldn't I do it?
/r/AntiFeminists01/08/22 09:49 AM
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As a person that got married at 23, I agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:22 PM
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Actually, your cousin is showing women power! By being resilient, kind, caring, social and warm, as well as sticking to her values, she is proving to the world that she's a strong, powerful and high quality woman, and hopefully, she'll find a high quality man soon as well.
/r/AntiFeminists27/07/22 04:23 PM
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That sounds like a good idea! I believe that ths man should have 2 weeks to decide in such a case, though, and one week to choose the paternity test, so that, once he makes up his mind, the woman would still have enough time to choose to either abort the pregnancy, or be a mother, and book all the needed appointments if she picks the option to kill her unborn child.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 10:40 AM
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Although no one can force you to drink, or to engage in other destructive behaviour, they can cause stress and unhappiness in your life, which can in turn make you more prone to dealing with it in an unhealthy manner, especially if you don't know how to cope with negative emotions. With that said, we should still take responsibility for our lives, and do our best to avoid destructive vices. After all, it's not the people that are causing us distress that will suffer the consecquences of our addi…
/r/AntiFeminists25/07/22 01:08 AM
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When I made this comment, I wanted to suggest a scenario where people could possibly give up casual sex in the modern day and age, and remain faithful to their partners. While I believe that the dating market is much more balanced in very conservative and religious communities, as opposed to secular ones, I don't believe that anyone should be forced to live by rules of such communities. I hope that cleared things up!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 01:41 AM
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May I ask what you mean by that? I'm afraid that I don't understand your analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:20 PM
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Such a market could be achieved if there was a "religious revolution", and society as a whole decided that fornication is a horrible sin, banned any forms of birth control and abortions and shunned promiacuous people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:17 PM
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Recently, I met a man at the gym that's very conventionally attractive and likely has a high income, however, he's been in two very abusive relationships, and developed a lot of baggage from them. Because of that, he has trouble trusting women and is struggling to find a long-term partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 02:15 AM
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I agree with most of the things you said! Being selective with who you sleep with is very beneficial for women, just like it's beneficial for men to be selecrive with who they commit to. You're also right about subscribing to other subreddits where one can see several unhappy couples. There are two things I have to disagree with you about, though: In my opinion, waiting for marriage is much more beneficial than sleeping with your fiance. An engagement can be called off much more easily than a ma…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 03:26 PM
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You seem to forget that kids require care and a lot of money. To be honest, just because kids require care and a lot of money, doesn't mean that they should be killed if their parents cannot raise them. Instead, they can be given up for adoption at birth, which results in them finding a loving home within weeks. ​ You seem to forget that assaults happen. Although pregnancies from assaults happen, they are a very small portion of pregnancies that are terminated. With that said, even in places wit…
/r/AntiFeminists01/07/22 11:10 AM
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Personally, I heard three arguments that condemn such abortions: Women potentially pretending to be suicidal due to their pregnancy, in order to get permission for abortion from a psychiatrist, which would allow them to end their child's life. There could be misdiagnoses, which would result in killing the unborn child when both them and the mother could have been saved. If a mother agrees to have sex, she agrees to risk dying in childbirth or because of complications with her potential pregnancy…
/r/AntiFeminists29/06/22 05:11 PM
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Personally, I think there are very few people that are 100% red-pilled, and even among those that agree with most of the views held by that community, there will be differences in opinions and behaviour. If I were to put you into one of the pill categories, though, I'd definitely "assign" you to the purple one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 01:57 PM
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Personally, I don't believe that the majority of women are bisexual. Sure, there might be a large number of them in places that tend to gather more sexually liberated women, such as bars or clubs, but if most of them were attracted to other women, I think we'd be seeing a lot more lesbian couples in public (at least in more liberal/progressive areas), at the very least.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 01:07 AM
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I wholeheartedly agree with you! Although being very short or very tall can make dating harder for a man, I think most women would prefer a man that's, say, 172 cm. Tall, but with a muscular body, than a man that's 185 cm. Tall and overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 01:46 PM
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From my observations, it goes somewhat like this: 170 cm. 175 - 180 cm. 180 - 190 cm. 200 cm.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 01:42 PM
1

Well said!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 03:59 PM
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I see, and agree that many women have a lot higher standards than men do in dating!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 09:33 AM
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Money is an attractive traight in men, though, similarly to being muscular, or having a good-looking face, and when it comes to women, they (in general) tend to view attraction more holistically, and while looks are important to them, they don't matter as much as they do to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 09:27 AM
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o if she was with a tall, handsome, rich guy who’s bad in bed, then getswith a tall, handsome, broke guy who’s good in bed, many women willeventually feel like they’re settling because the new guy is lackingthat one thing. She’ll think “he’s handsome and good in bed but my lastguy had money.” So now she’ll go looking for a tall, handsome, good inbed guy who’s also rich. In that case, wouldn't the second guy be less attractive than the first one, making it harder for the woman to cure her heartbr…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 11:58 PM
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In my opinion, women can also forget about an ex if they find an equally or more attractive partner. However, the reasons why they get alpha widowed more often than men get oneitis for life are: Highly desirable men are open to dating average women in order to use them for sex, which is enough for her to become an alpha widow (however, they usually don't commit to them). Highly desirable women, on the other hand, almost never give average men romantic attention. Therefore, the odds of a man gett…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 12:00 AM
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I got married a year ago, at the age of 23, and have been with my husband since I was 19. I don’t have any regrets either!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 05:31 PM
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If such a law was implemented, I think making the woman obligated to disclose the fact that she's pregnant within a certain timeframe to make her liable for child support from the father is a good idea. Of course, some men might pretend that they hadn't found out about her pregnancy, but if she's able to prove that she tried to reach out, but the man ignored her, he could be on the hook for child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 02:23 PM
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This sounds amazing! Congratulations!
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 09:27 AM
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That's really interesting! Personally, I found celebrities and men in my social circles physically attractive, however, just because they were handsome, doesn't mean that I immediately lusted after them, and if they offered to sleep with me, I would decline their advances, no matter how good their looks or status were. In fact, I sometimes find it quite surprising that some women are comfortable having one-night-stands and sex without an emotional connection, and even seem to enjoy it. I could n…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 02:10 PM
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In that case, wouldn’t most people (or at the very least, most women) be demi sexual? My apologies if this is a silly question!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 01:37 PM
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I once saw a subreddit called r/RPChristians (or something similar), and the men there were mostly focused on self-improvement, becoming more Godly, and working on finding and keeping a good wife. Perhaps you could check it out?
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/22 02:22 AM
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The reason why this post is here, is because feminism advocates for Fat Acceptance, a movement that, instead of encouraging overweight people to loose their extra fat, tells them that they are perfect just the way they are, which in turn indirectly leads to entitled attitudes like the one shown in this post.
/r/AntiFeminists10/06/22 12:20 PM
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To be honest, being severely underweight is just as unattractive as being severely overweight, which is most likely why ypur partner was happy that you gained some weight.
/r/AntiFeminists10/06/22 12:16 PM
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I'm so, so sorry you had to go through all of this! Although the reason why a person's past matters, is because it's an indicator of how they will behave in the future, you shouldn't forget that healing from trauma and overcoming it is a part of your story as well. Therefore, a good man will most likely see you as a woman that had 4 sexual partners, instead of 18.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 08:29 PM
2

I wholeheartedly agree with this! Unless there is abuse taking place, the Internet, your frie ds and family don't have to know about the conflicts and disagreements in your marriage!
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 08:58 AM
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The reason why OP cares, is because her boyfriend should be eyeing and devoting his sexual energy to her, instead of to strangers on the Internet, if they are in a comitted relationship. Also, the best way to avoid infidelity is to stay as far from it as possible, instead of dancing on the edge of it. Pornography also gives people a warped view of sex, is addictive, can rewire your brain and make your bedroom life a lot worse. In my opinion "no pornography" is a reasonable boundary to have, espe…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 08:53 AM
2

I've heard about people that risked their lives to save jews during nazi Germany. In fact, my great-grandfather was one of them! However, even when there are people that are willing to stand up for the rights and lives of others, if a group of people is systematically opressed, it will still suffer regardless of outlier's good wills. They don't need everyone around them to opress them. In fact, going back to your example, there were rather few polish citizens that were willing to turn in Jews to…
/r/AntiFeminists07/06/22 07:00 AM
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If that's the case, how would you go about granting equal rights to people in places where they are opressed because of their gender, race, sexual orientation, or other factors?
/r/AntiFeminists06/06/22 05:57 PM
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I think I have to disagree with you. There are some countries (like the ones in the Middle East) where women don't have equal rights and are being opressed on a regular basis, where feminism is needed. Once equality under the law is achieved, though, feminists should focus on maintaining that equality, instead of fighting for extra priviledges.
/r/AntiFeminists06/06/22 09:25 AM
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I agree! Also, sexual compatibility can (and will eventually have to) be worked on, just like any other aspect of a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/22 06:04 PM
2

Of course!
/r/AntiFeminists21/05/22 08:59 PM
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In my opinion, a solution that would prevent any discrimination is quite simple: Uber could allow any drivers to set their passenger preferences to filter out certain genders. That way, if men wanted to, they could filter out female (or male) passengers as well. This would allow all drivers to feel comfortable, without discriminating against any genders.
/r/AntiFeminists21/05/22 07:27 PM
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Have you tried cooking healthy, low calorie food for your husband? Weight loss is 80% about diet, and 20% about excercise.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/22 09:26 AM
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I have a waist circumference of 59 cm., hip circumference of 90 cm., am 170 cm. Tall and weigh 54 kilograms, with a body fat percentage of 16.4. The way that I achieved this physique is my weightlifting at the gym 5 times per week, and eating as cleanly as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:13 PM
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In my opinion, the best way to motivate yourself to go to the gym and work out, is to promise yourself to get there and do one exercise. Once you start it, chances are that you'll finish your whole workout.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 12:18 AM
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I agree! The best way to improve your self-esteem is through self-improvement.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 12:14 AM
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You made a good point! I can't speak on behalf of all women, but from my observations, such men don't really attempt to flirt with women, and are therefore ignored by them romantically, but aren't seen as creepy. This puts them somewhere between the man that could get several partners and did, and the man that wanted to seduce several women, but didn't manage to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 12:42 PM
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In my opinion, this depends on the woman. I think most of them find men that could have a high body count, but kept it low by choice the most attractive, followed by men that have a high body count, and lastly, by men that have a low body count despite wanting to have had a larger amount of sexual relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:54 AM
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To be honest, you cannot "make" the man date you, and even if you try, he'll probably sense that you are working "against" him instead of with him, and that you're not on the same team. Therefore, if I were you, I'd thank this person for their time and move on before I get more attached, and once I was ready to date again, I'd look for a man that shares his goals (such as being in a relationship) with me.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 08:10 AM
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I agree with you, however, when it comes to the example with the date, I'd take a slightly different approach if I were a man in that situation. If being on time was important for me, I'd simply let my date know that I have to go home and have other thigs to do, and I'd allow her to create plans for a date some other time. This would communicate that I have my own standards, without coming off as lecturing, while, at the same time, leaving her an opportunity to make up for her lack of punctualit…
/r/AntiFeminists11/05/22 08:16 PM
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To be honest, I don't think that would be the case. A similar law to the one that I proposed was in place in my country over 20 years, and when women wanted to get an illegal abortion, they'd either use pills from foreign countries, induce misscarriages at home, or convince their doctor to misdiagnose their child with a genetic defect, so that they could kill their child legally.
/r/AntiFeminists07/05/22 06:40 PM
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Personally, I believe that abortions should be allowed in cases of rape/incest/the mother being unable to concent due to her age or mental state, if the mother's health is at serious risk of severe and irreveresible damage due to her pregnancy (for instance, if there's a 90% chance that it could put her in a wheelchair and there's no way to prevent it), or if the baby has severe and irreversible defects that would cause them a lifetime of suffering. In cases of accidental pregnancies, changing o…
/r/AntiFeminists07/05/22 10:57 AM
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Arraged marriage isn't much of a thing in most Wester countries, and even in more conservative places, such as India, forced marriage is illegal and the vast majority of women get married willingly, even if it is out of compatibility instead of romantic feelings.
/r/AntiFeminists25/04/22 09:24 AM
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The thing is, unless I missed something, OP didn't mention that she's her boyfriend's first girlfriend. Perhaps he was with women that were closer in age to him, but he just so happened to be attracted to OP, despite her being a lot younger?
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 05:49 PM
2

I read a comment where someone said that most men would be willing to take a male birth control pill, and I disagreed with it, so I voiced my disagreement and stated the reasons why I didn't think that the vast majority of men would use this form of protection:. One of them was that women would want their male sexual partners to wear condoms even if they claim to be on the pill, in case it's a lie (and I'm pretty sure that there would be a number of men that would lie about being on the pill, si…
/r/AntiFeminists21/04/22 01:59 AM
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The reason why some men would be willing to risk jeapordizing their future by having unprotected sex is quite simple: Physical intimacy without a condom (or other form of protection) feels much better for them, and they either aren't thinking about the potential long-term consecquences of such intercourse, they believe that they will be lucky enough not to impregnate a woman or catch an STD, or they are willing to roll the dice in exchange for more enjoyable sex.
/r/AntiFeminists21/04/22 01:35 AM
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I am not against men having their own birth control pill, which I've already mentioned it in a previous comment. I don't understand why you are lashing out and swearing at me.
/r/AntiFeminists21/04/22 01:21 AM
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If I were in this situation (luckily, I'm not) and by "HVM" and "LVM", you mean "highly desirable" and "undesirable to most women", I think I'd go with scenario nr. 4. I don't believe that it would make me a "pick-me with no self-respect" either. After all, desirablilty fades, leaving only who our partner is as a person and how he treats us (and, of course, vice versa).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 11:42 PM
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"Some men could lie" does not mean "all men are stupid". It means that some (not most and definitely not all) guys might try to deceive women into having sex without a condom by telling them that they are on the male birth control, when they aren't. This would cause women to start distrusting men that claim to be on the pill, and advising other women to insist on their partners using condoms no matter what they tell them, which could in turn discourage some men from staying on the pill. However,…
/r/AntiFeminists19/04/22 02:58 PM
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I think you might be over-interpretting my words. Could you point out where I said that men were stupid and that none of them would take the pill? Perhaps, if you'd like to change someone's view about the male birth control pill, you should discuss the points that they brought up, instead of deflecting and accusing them of being part of a hateful group, which is a common tactic that many radical feminists use?
/r/AntiFeminists19/04/22 01:32 PM
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It’s obviously a shame that some women baby trap men. Because of that, it's important for men to use their own protection (such as condoms that they themselves bring) if they don't want to become parents. Likewise, if a male birth control pill was invented, it would still be crucial for women to use their own protection if they didn't want to get pregnant, in case their partner lies about being "on the pill" or if that contraceptive failed. Because of that, many men would be reluctant to take it…
/r/AntiFeminists19/04/22 01:15 PM
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To be honest, women can have a lower libido and a harder time achieving pleasure during intercourse when they are on birth control, and on top of that, they have to deal with various health risks, unlike men using condoms. Almost every effective contraceptive does it, and if a male birth control pill was invented, it would likely limit the pleasure that a man gets from sex as well.
/r/AntiFeminists19/04/22 12:56 PM
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This may sound a bit controvertial, especially here, but to be honest, I don't think that's the case. The main point of contraceptives is to avoid pregnancy, and since men cannot get pregnant, they don't have as strong of an incentive to take birth control as women do (though that insentive is still there, since there are many men that use protection without a fuss). Also, men already have a way to prevent pregnancy: By using condoms, which don't have any side effects, are affordable and availab…
/r/AntiFeminists19/04/22 10:23 AM
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Nun mode is a period of time during which we take a break from dating, sex and relationships, and use that time to work on ourselves, so that we become better partners to good men.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 10:37 AM
1

I'd definitely stay with my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 05:53 PM
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I'm currently happily married, but when I was still looking for a partner and someone rejected me (even if it was just once), I simply moved on from them. I never saw a point in persisting. After all, if a woman has to negotiate for commitment (and if a man has to negotiate for sex), the commitment (or the physical intimacy) is almost never worth it, and dating is a lot easier when both partners are enthusiastic towards each other and working on their relationship as a team, instead of trying to…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 08:21 PM
1

I apologise for my previous comment, then! For some reason, I was certain that the man you're dating is married!
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/22 11:07 AM
1

I see... If that's the case, then why did you mention oyur potential partner being married in the previous comment? Or was it about Rollo Tomassi's marital status? I'm a bit confused.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/22 10:57 AM
1

If the man you're seeing is married, then you most likely aren't exclusive.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/22 10:46 AM
2

In my opinion, it might be better to be a bit blunt, especially when you're stating what you are looking for in a relationship. That way, if you're incompatible (for instance, one of you doesn't want to get married while the other one wants to), you can move on prior to getting attached. You'll also attract men that are honest towards you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/22 10:36 AM
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In my opinion, this isn't "victim blaming". Although it's understandable why OP became cold, she still made that mistake, and taking responsibility and trying to avoid it in the future would benefit her much more than blaming the other side. After all, we cannot control the actions other, but we can control how we react to them.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/22 07:44 AM
2

In Ukraine, all men between the ages of 18 and 60 are forced to stay in the country, while women and children are allowed to leave.
/r/AntiFeminists24/03/22 12:22 PM
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I think there are many things that a woman can bring to a man's life in order to enhance it. Some of them are: Children Emotional support and validation Non-sexual physical touch (many men would feel a bit uncomfortable if their male friend tried to cuddle with them or rub their back, as opposed to their spouse) Companionship Care and/or nurturing if they get sick or old Physical intimacy Softness Helping the man elevate his status among other men, especially if she's attractive, elegant, social…
/r/AntiFeminists28/02/22 12:55 PM
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In my opinion, there's a difference between a High Value Man and a Highly Desirable man, and as red-pilled women, we shouldn't conflate these two types. OP's partner might be highly desirable, but he lacks the qualities to be called a high value man.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 07:49 PM
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There's a surgeon in India that lengthens men's legs, making them taller by a few inches, and a documentary about this procedure is available on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gRHpCXgdhR8&t=2181s Also, a doctor in Korea came up with a method to make women's hips appear wider by attaching implants to their pelvic bones, which is much less invasive, permanent and safer than other cosmetic procedures for that area. Here's a link to his clinic's website: http://ysbarochuk.com/en/ Cosmetic …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 01:58 PM
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If you are short and want to improve your dating life, there are still things you can do. Of course, despite all your efforts, you might have less options than, say, a 6'2" man, but it doesn't mean that there will be no women willing to date you. If you become toned, develop a very good sense of style, make sure that you are very well-groomed, masculine and outgoing, work on your status (which is even more important than looks for men) and talk to a lot of women, eventually, some of them might a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 07:42 AM
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I think I have to disagree with you. Unless your bones are severely deformed, they won't automatically make you "irredemably" unattractive, and the same can be said about most other parts of our looks that are outside of our control. Also, even if you have a deformed body, there are almost always some things you can do to become more attractive, and it's always better to be a, say, 4/10 than a 2/10 looks-wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 04:06 PM
2

I naturally have narrow hips and broad shoulders. Lifting weights has helped me grow my legs and glutes, giving me a more feminine look and helping me get more in-tune with my body. Therefore, I'd highly recommend going to the gym if you aren't doing so already.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/22 05:46 AM
5

Well said!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:15 AM
4

The thig is, almost nobody adheres to beauty ideals. Even supermodels have minir flaws! In order to have success in the dating market, though, you need to fulfill beauty standards, not ideals, which can be achieved by 95% of the population.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 12:06 AM
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In my opinion, you don't need to have a high body count to be good in bed. In fact, I think it's safe to say that if most of the physical intimacy you experience is within a long-term relationship, you will get much "better" at sex than if you had a series of casual flings and one-night-stands. This is because, when you are in a monogamous relationship, you: Have a lot more sex quantity-wise (unless, of course, you dedicate a large portion of free time to going to places where you could meet pot…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 07:37 PM
2

I think that's why OP came up with the size 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 07:20 PM
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I think it depends on the height of the person and their body frame. For instance, if someone is really short, they could have the "ideal" measurements, and appear fat. Similarly, if a woman is very tall, she could appear unnaturally slender with such proportions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 07:15 PM
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I second the gym! Also, being open, smiling and feminine will allow you to "attract" similar women as friends!
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/22 11:59 PM
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If that's the case, then you fulfill beauty standards (which shouldn't be confused with beauty ideals)! Almost no women are supermodels, and just because you aren't one, doesn't mean that you have to settle for the first man that you come across! Also, if men were only attracted to the most beautiful women, humanity would have become extinct by now. If I were you, I'd focus on casting a wider net. Perhaps you could consider going to some social events in your area? Practice having conversations …
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/22 04:37 PM
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This. Also, putting herself in as many social situations as possible and, most importantly, working on her self esteem issues and femininity will be crucial for OP.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/22 04:24 PM
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To be honest, most people are "very average looking". In fact, I think it's safe to say that 70% of the population is between 4-6 on the looks scale. Also, if you are at a healthy BMI, have no deformities (such as a missing limb or huge scars) and have at least one attractive trait (long, silky hair, wide hips, large breasts, etc.), then that's more than enough to attract and keep a good man!
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/22 04:22 PM
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I think it depends on the man's type, as well as a woman's skeletal structure and where she stores fat! For instance, if she tends to gain weight around her waist, it might be better for her to stay on the lower end of the healthy weight range, whereas, if she has naturaly wider hips, staying in the middle (or perhaps on the slightly higher end) may be a good idea.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/22 11:21 AM
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I think I have to disagree with you. Stability is important when it comes to maintaining a long term relationship, especially once children enter the equation, and if it isn't there, chances are that it might not show up over time. Chemistry, on the other hand, can come with time, especially as you get to know and fall in love with your partner.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/22 12:08 PM
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Sometimes, single people approach strangers, especially if they are attractive, and there's nothing wrong with having a conversation with them, as long as you reject their advances (which OP's boyfriend did) if they attempt to flirt with you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/22 09:46 PM
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In my opinion, your attraction to a person can easily grow with time, and if you choose to date people that are in your "league" or engage in self-improvement and try to get someone slightly "higher" instead of chasing those that are significantly more attractive than you (that's why casual sex can be damaging for women and watching pornography and using sex workers can be harmful for men when it comes to looking for monogamy and findung a partner to settle down with), you can wire your brain to…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 04:56 AM
5

I wholeheartedly agree with you! Without trust, it is impossible to work as a team in any relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/21 10:53 PM
3

I completely agree with you! If you are a person in your 20's (regardless of gender), you are usually still quite inexperienced and clueless when it comes to the dating market, making it harder to spot "good investments". Because of that, it might be a better option to wait for marriage until making "spousal investments", such as cohabitation, taking out loans for each other, having children, getting a joint bank account or sleeping with someone (this applies a lot more if you are from a religio…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/21 10:29 AM
1

To be honest, I don't think OP would mind having a partner that was rather reserved when it comes to the bedroom. After all, he's a virgin despite being 24, and if he wanted to explore his sexuality, kinks and preferences, he would have already shared his virginity with someone, be that a girlfriend, one-night stand or even a sex worker if he is highly undesirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 03:05 PM
3

I completely agree with you!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 12:11 AM
4

Dread game is when someone makes their partner afraid that they will lose them, doubt the stability of the relationship, and, in some cases, jealous. This causes the other side to dread being abandoned, and therefore chase the person running dread game. A good example of this would be flirting with a more attractive woman in front of your girlfriend, or allowing attractive men to make advances towards you while your husband or boyfriend is watching. This will only make people with attachment iss…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:48 PM
3

I have a rather mixed view of TRP. In my opinion, self-improvement, becoming assertive, in-tune with your masculinity, physically attractive and learning how to be social, flirt with and seduce women (while not making them the sole purpose of your life) are crucial to do as a man. Aside from finding a partner, these things can greatly help men out when it comes to fulfilling their goals, building careers, and being happier in general. I have mixed views when it comes to spinning plates and N-cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:37 PM
1

This, 100%.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 01:57 PM
4

I think that if a man wants to keep his girlfriend, he will keep her, however, not as his wife, but as his "forever girlfriend". After all, why should he change the relationship if everything (according to him) works just fine?
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 12:53 PM
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I think I have to disagree with this post for a few reasons: For many religious and traditional men, virginity a very important asset, often being "required" for a woman to get married in certain communities (muslim, or very conservative ones). Therefore, if a woman sleeps with a man prior to the wedding night, she has to "compete" with the women who didn't, which may limit her dating options and result in her having to settle for a "lower-value" man that, for some reason, couldn't get with a vi…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 12:46 PM
1

I think it depends a lot more about the woman's expectations. For instance, 50 years ago, women were often 100% satisfied with their man if he didn't drink or beat her and had a job. Today, some women and men have much higher expectations when it comes to the opposite sex, which is why it is sometimes hard for people to consider their partners perfect. Once they learn to manage them, though, chances are that they will become much happier in their relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/21 01:39 PM
2

I never really liked men that were very tall (190+ cm.), since I felt like a child when I stood next to them, and preferred guys that were roughly as tall as I was.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 05:42 PM
2

I think it depends on how invested both of you are. If your partner double texts you (or does something similar to it, such as bringing flowers to dates), there's nothing wrong with double texting! In order for a relationship to be strong, healthy and stable, both partners should invest roughly the same amount of effort into it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/21 10:59 AM
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My sister used to go to therapy when she was younger (15-17), and, from what I've realized, older therapists (50+) tended to hold more conservative views, and are a lot less combative. They also tend to use arguments that convinced the patient more, since they allign with their value system, instead of the therapist's.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/21 04:35 PM
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This is an interesting perspective. Personally, though, I don't think it's practical to demand that your partner does exactly what they did for their ex, exactly as many times, in order to ensure that they are bringing you their "best". Sometimes, if they bring something else to the table that is valuable, it can be sufficient. For instance, let's say that a woman called Jessica had a boyfriend - Charlie. She cohabitated with him and took care of most of the housework, since she wasn't bringing …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 06:04 PM
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This. Also, although men do not get attached to women solely through having sex, if they have casual sexual relationships with other women, chances are that they might become friends over time (after all, I highly doubt that they don't interact with their partners before, during or after havig sex with them), and the man may start investing more and more into them, granting the "main" girlfriend the short end of the stick. The only way to prevent this is through monogamy.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/21 06:13 PM
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This video reminded me of a friend that's the opposite of her. She isn't good looking, but she's EXTREMELY sweet, feminine, kind, caring, an amazing cook (she went to a cooking school), and takes care of herself. Because of that, there was always an abundance of men that were willing to date her, and whenever I showed someone pictures of her (with her permission) and told them about the amount of men that wanted her to become their girlfriend, they couldn't believe that such an overweight, short…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/21 11:14 PM
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I think I have to disagree with you. Virginity is quite a precious thing to have, especially as a woman. It’s proof that you do not view physical intimacy as something casual, that you are concerned about your safety, and able to control your urges and emotions. From what I've seen in this subreddit, several men prefer virgins and women with low N-counts to those that have slept with several guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:20 AM
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This. The reason why people look at other's pasts, is because they are an indication of how the person they are looking at will behave in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/21 02:55 PM
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I think I have to disagree with you, since I believe that it's unlikely for male birth control to become a game changer. Unless there was a way to tell that a man is using it, I think some men could lie about being on birth control in order to have unprotected sex, which would prompt a lot of women to still be on some form of birth control themselves. Also, women have a very important reason to use contraceptives: They are the ones that go through pregnancy, and parenting an unwanted child if th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 09:20 AM
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I think it depends on how you say it and how often. For instance, a single "remember to wash your hands" is respectful, but if after five minutes, you ask him if he washed his hands and complain if he hasn't, it might be a bit annoying to him.
/r/RedPillWives28/08/21 01:42 PM
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Women, in general, are perceived as the more vulnerable, trustworthy and needing protection than men. Therefore, people are more likely to help them.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/21 05:01 PM
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I think I have to disagree with you. Most people tend to cut women some slack, at least in certain aspects of life (obviously, there are downsides to being female as well), especially if they live in a more conservative area. I've had several instances when someone held the door for me, helped me carry a heavy suitcase, let me take a slightly longer break at work, or even showed their compassion in much more "severe" ways. For instance, when I was 16 and travelling to a friend that lived in a di…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/21 02:03 PM
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You gotta understand, that younger men don't exactly have the benefit of negotiating with a women from a more sane traditionalist era. We're stuck with trying to wife up hoes. And we're highly skeptical. Ie we don't think women have a leg to stand on. Especially since women have a tendency to project. A woman complaining about instagram while having an emotional relationship with a dude at work sounds exactly right up a typical woman's alley. I think you might have a quite negative view about wo…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 10:08 AM
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Fair enough. That's why my first question was towards your (or OP's) stance on porn. I am not OP, however, as a Catholic woman, I am against pornography (both "softcore" and the content you can find on certain websites), since it can quite easily cause issues in the relationship when viewed in excess, promotes sin, and often times, the women in the videos may have been recorded against their will and as a viewer, it might be quite hard, if not impossible to know that. Pornography also promotes s…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 04:51 AM
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I'm so sorry you feel that way, and wish you the best of luck in your self-improvement journey! What I've mentioned in my list, is a potential list of red flags, not deal breakers. For instance, just because your boyfriend constantly complains about filthy roommates, it doesn't automatically mean that he is the bad apple. Perhaps he was just extremely unlucky? Similarly, if you come from a home that was always messy, but you do your best to keep your house clean and welcoming, a good man will no…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/21 12:39 PM
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The thing is, when you watch TV, it can be quite hard to find a channel that only features women that are attractive to you. On the other hand, when you look at Instagram models, you can easily find dozens, if not hundreds of (often revealing) photos of them. Therefore, in my opinion, looking at Instagram models might not be comparable to watching TV.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/21 08:18 AM
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Although it may seem exciting now, hooking up with several people will have long-term consecquences, and may damage your ability to pair bond. Therefore, unless ypu are absolutely certain that you want to be single for the rest of your life, I'd highly recommend against engaging in several hookups.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/21 01:59 PM
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I didn't cohabitate before marriage, and if your goal is lifelong commitment, I certainly wouldn’t recommend it. With that said, though, it's still important to vet your futute spouse prior to the wedding. Some ways to see if you'd be compatible living together are: Observing his relationship with his roommates. Does he complain about all, one, or none of them? Are there any ongoing conflicts between them? Usually, there might be a chance of one roommate being problematic, but if your boyfriend …
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 01:48 PM
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I completely understand your concerns! However, I find it quite hard to understand the point of only doing things for yourself when you're in a relationship. In such case, what's the point of forming a partnership? Sometimes, one person is better at completing one task than the other. Isn't it better if they take over doing that task entirely, while their partner does something else? I earn less than my husband, but, according to him, I am a much more skilled homemaker. Because of that, I don't …
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 01:21 AM
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Although this may sound a bit harsh, the odds that you'll be together for the rest of your life are quite low. Relationships are quite similar to fires: those that light up and escalate quickly tend to burn out within weeks or months, whereas the ones that take their time to build up usually last for several years or a lifetime.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/21 02:30 AM
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The corellation is in their behaviour, as well as the fact that your biological children might be harder to care for than the ones at the daycare, and there won't be any way to quit once they are born.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/21 10:54 AM
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Although your offspring might look like you and be the fruit of you and your husband's love, your body will have to spend 9 months creating each child. You might gain weight, develop stretch marks, sagging breasts, cellulite, scars from tearing or a C-section, or even lose teeth! Labor may also last several hours and be quite tough. Personally, I had my appendix removed a few months ago. After this relatively simple surgery, I had to lay in bed for a few days, and even changing my position, walk…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/21 04:08 AM
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I understand, but if you have trouble dealing with other children for a few hours per day, you might find it even harder to deal with your own children for 24 hours per day.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/21 03:33 AM
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I think it depends on the context. For instance, if a friend is venting about every boyfriend turning out to be a jerk after a few months, I'd simply listen to them and offer emotional support, or perhaps ask them what exactly the boyfriends did wrong. I might also ask them questions, such as if there were any warning signs that the guy might be of poor character, mostly to get them thinking. I only offer advice if someone asks me for it, and even then, I make sure to be gentle l.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 02:31 PM
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I'm really sorry you're feeling that way! From what I've realized, when men hear complaints, they tend to start looking for a solution to the problem. Perhaps this is why he is telling you that he doesn't know what to think? He doesn't know what to advise you, and is honest about you. Therefore, perhaps you could try asking him to listen to you when you are in a worse mood?
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 06:46 PM
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I wholeheartedly agree with this comment! OP, you are going to marry this man. Such a relationship is a lifelong commitment, so you have to make sure that you two are as compatible as possible, even when it comes to sex. Physical intimacy is an important part of marriage, and often times, if things don't work out in the bedroom, other parts of your relationship might suffer as well. It's alright if you are nervous about having this conversation. In such a case, perhaps you can write him a note w…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/21 09:52 PM
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Perhaps you could visit your gynecologist before having sex? That way, they will be able to check the type of your hymen (there are several kinds of it), estimate how much having sex could hurt and, if it may be particularly painful, they could create a small incision (don't worry, they use numbing prior to doing so!) to make penetration easier and more comfortable for you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/21 06:25 PM
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That sounds awful! Perhaps you could (gently) give her some advice, that's appropriate and callibrated specifically towards her? For instance, if she asks you whether she should sleep with a certain guy, you could tell her to wait and see if he cares abouf her first?
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/21 03:26 AM
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I am quite open about my set of beliefs, and yet, the "worse" thing that happened to me because of them, is some person on reddit calling me insane and looking through my post history, hoping to find outright misogynistic content. I am, however, quite careful when discussing them, and tend to follow a specific set of rules: ​ I make sure that I am as tactful as possible when talking about RP principles. For instance, I avoid going to spaces where people clearly want to follow the Bluepill, such …
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/21 04:14 PM
1

Even the most beautiful supermodels get rejected! Just because one man turned you down, it doesn't mean that you will never be attractive to anyone, and any attempt at self-improvement will be futile. People turn others down for various reasons. Perhaps he was tired when you approached him? Maybe he already had a partner or a crush on someone else? Wasn't attracted to women, or in the position to date anyone? Perhaps he didn't like a certain character trait of yours, or you simply gave off a vib…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/21 05:44 PM
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I'm really sorry that your ex wife isolated you from your entire social circle, and sincerely hope that you'll manage to rebuild it. However, although OP's concerns might seem like an attempt to "blacklist" friends to someone that went through such a thing, I believe that not allowing friendships with exes is a reasonable boundary. It can be quite hard to go back to being platonic friends after a romantic relationship, and when exes are friends with each other, chances are that it is because one…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/21 02:11 PM
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Perhaps you could switch to medication that doesn't have such side effects, or try counselling, if it will allow you to slowly treat the core cause of BPD, and perhaps eventually get off of the medicine?
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/21 08:42 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/21 10:22 AM
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Back when I was dating, I subconciously followed 5 standards, which allowed me to find my husband. They were: Treating me and others as a members of the same team, with whom they are working towards a common goal (an "I want to build a happy and fuliflling relationship WITH this woman" mentality), instead of against me ("I want to make this woman marry me") Working on something, whether that be self-improvement, building a career, getting in shape, or even helping other people. This prevents cod…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 07:18 PM
1

In my opinion, removing tattoos is much harder than getting them, and often times, they won't look too good when they start to fade. Because of that, I think a woman without tattoos might have more dating options (since, if she falls in love with a man that prefers women with tattoos, she can always get them) than a woman with them.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/21 10:19 PM
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Judging by your post history, it doesn't seem like looks are the issue here. Why should a man be with you if you hate all of the opposite sex? If you believe that, by being with a certain guy, you're "not shooting high"? Would you get into a relationship (or sleep) with a red-pilled man in his anger phase, because he couldn't get any better girl? I completely understand that physically attractive girls have it easier, but genetic looks (the body you were given) are only a part of what your SMV i…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 10:41 PM
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What have you done to become nice, feminine, have a good personality and interests? If men were only attracted to very beautiful women, the human race would become extinct millions of years ago, and thousands of average-looking people are falling in love every day. Of course, we all dream of an ideally attractive partner (both looks- and personality- wise), but when we find someone special, we get to love them along with all of their imperfections.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 10:10 PM
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Woman that waited until marriage along with her husband here. Lasting long during PiV sex isn't the only thing that matters. In fact, the first time can be quite painful for your future wife if she's a virgin, so she might even prefer penetration to last shorter while she's getting used to sex. Instead of focusing on PiV, perhaps you could pay more attention to things that are commonly considered foreplay, as well as exploring her body, trying different techniques and seeing how she reacts to th…
/r/RPChristians07/06/21 09:20 PM
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Alright!
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 11:08 AM
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I think that sounded like a good way of handling the situation (since the boy was defending himself, but not beating the bullies up), and agree that changing schools is a good idea. Thanks for sharing this! :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 09:04 AM
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How should he defend himself against these bullies, then, if the teachers won't help him?
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 08:46 AM
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These girls were beating OP's brpther, though, to the point that he was carrying bruises. In such a case, I believe he should definitely defend himself.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 08:31 AM
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I understand... Perhaps there are other ways to make him feel like you are enjoying intimacy? Having an orgasm isn't the only way to feel good during sex.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 01:00 PM
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Just because you don't have orgasms during sex, doesn't men that you are bad at sex! If a woman's bedroom abilities were measured by their ability to climax in the bedroom, wouldn’t most prostitutes lose their jobs in a matter of days, or have to take large amounts of medication to boost their libidos? Perhaps, instead of focusing on orgasming, you could try to master various bedroom techniques? Learn how to give good oral sex and handjobs. Exercise your Kegel muscles. Wear special lingerie for …
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 11:47 AM
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I chose to abstain until marriage due to religious reasons, as well as the fact that my parents did so as well. Although it was challenging at times, I think it's safe to say that the wait was worth it. Good luck remaining celibate!
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/21 10:34 AM
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There are several conflict resolution skills that can come in handy! Some of them include, but aren't limited to: The ability to take responsibility for your own mistakes and faults. This is important, because it allows negative emotions to wear off, and for both sides to proceed to finding a solution to their problem. It also helps prevent resentment from building up. The ability to control your emotions. This prevents the argument from escalating, as well as resentment from building up. Commun…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/21 02:22 PM
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I think you might be conflicting "beauty standards" with "beauty ideals". Although the "beauty ideal" is what you described (a beautiful, symmetrical face, small waist, wide hips, large breasts, youth, long legs and slim figure), almost no women live up to them (not even most models!). Instead, people strive to meet such ideals, and, if their appearance matters to them a lot, they become miserable once they fail to do so. Beauty standards, on the other hand, are much more relaxed. As long as you…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 07:28 PM
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I feel ready to get married now. But he wants to see how it goes living together first as he says a relationship is a completely different dynamic when you're living together which I understand I'm so sorry that you're going through such a situation. Although I understand that your husband wants to know what he's getting into, he'll never truly be 100% sure. You won't be the same homemaker as you are today in 5 or 10 years, and no amount of cohabitation in the honeymoon phase will allow him to p…
/r/RedPillWives29/05/21 08:01 AM
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RPW is merely a toolbox! You can use it for several things, such as dating, self-improvement, embracing your femininity, learning a certain aspect of gender dynamics, or even just having a debate! I also wouldn’t say that you're bad marriage material. Some women want a strong, masculine man to lead them, whereas others might prefer the man to follow them, and we all have the right to desire such men. As long as we're honest, upfront and polite about our intentions, aware of them, and we screen f…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/21 05:25 AM
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These stories sound really insightful! It must have felt quite good to discuss personal topics with your therapist, and I can only imagine what it was like to rollerblade at night! I'll definitely try to reframe most disappointments into something positive, then (or look for benefits they gave me!). The ice-cream turned out to be delicious, and I have a new favoite flavour, which is definitely a plus, and the paper my mother bought me, actually turned out to be great for drawing!
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 08:32 AM
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I mostly needed advice on how to deal with disappointment in general, but thanks! Aside from the café incident, our honeymoon has been amazing!
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 07:59 AM
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Thanks for this advice! Although I believe that it was clear to my husband that I was upset about the situation, I'll definitely give him (or anyone else involved!) a heads up that I am just disappointed, and postpone reflecting on a situation for an hour or a few minutes, depending on the severity of the issue.
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 07:50 AM
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I think your prospects are still good! You're very young - in fact, you are now entering an age when most women meet their future spouses, and if you take good care of yourself, be kind, feminine and warm-hearted, you'll be able to date successfully well into your thirties. Therefore, if I were you, I wouldn’t be in a huge rush to find a husband, since we tend to make mistakes if we are in a hurry, and marriage is a lifelong commitment.
/r/RedPillWives18/05/21 04:02 PM
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In my opinion, the best place to look for high-quality men interested in marriage is your social circle (given that you're a high-quality person yourself!), Church (if you're religious), libraries, coffee shops, gyms, volunteering facilities, as well as hobby-related gatherings. Such men are almost everywhere, though. Good luck finding one!
/r/RedPillWives18/05/21 11:37 AM
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Not every high value man is a Chad that sleeps with every woman he can find! There are several spaces where masculine, intelligent, noble, confident, interesting and hard-working men also happen to be monogamous.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/21 04:20 AM
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In my opinion, she's considering choosing guy#1 because she's more attracted to him, and therefore, she might be glossing over the fact that he's not as commitment-minded as she wants him to be.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/21 07:08 PM
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Verbal aggression can easily escalate into physical aggression. I'd consider setting strong boundaries or leaving.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 09:54 PM
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I'm so sorry you're going through this situation! It must be quite hard to pay for most of the bills, do household chores, as well as care for another woman's children. With that said, what kind of value does this man provide to you? Does it compensate for what you have to deal with? If you leave him and date another man, what are the chances of him having a better impact on your life than your husband? Will you be able to secure a good man's commitment? On first glance, I wouldn’t stay with an …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 02:03 PM
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I wouldn’t neccessarily say that this is a recipe for disaster! As long as you're not whining about it to her (complaining is absolutely fine!), taking action to find a job, taking care of her and not making romantic relationships the focus of your life, you should be fine. Good luck! :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 11:16 PM
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In my opinion, this isn't a yellow flag - perhaps this is simply how he dated prior to meeting you? In fact, I'd consider this man respecting your boundaries after the conversation a green flag!
/r/RedPillWives08/05/21 03:01 PM
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Keep it up!
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/21 02:26 AM
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Perhaps there is a way for him to move to your city woth his famoly, or you to his, then? Everything is possible, as long as we find a way to do so :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/21 11:48 AM
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In my opinion, if you pursue this relationship, it might eventually lead to heartbreak and both of you wasting lots of time? Perhaps dating local men with purpose might be a better idea?
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/21 11:28 AM
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What leads up to it is in my opinion always imorral in some way. The sexual rejection of some but not others; one is basically saying "your too ugly or too unattractive" to a lot of people, I don't think you can call that moral. I think this is quite a stretch! People can reject a potential partner for many reasons. Some of them are genetic, sure, but there are also many (if not more!) non-genetic reasons why someone doesn't want to sleep with a person. They can already be in a relationship. The…
/r/ExRedPill15/04/21 10:03 AM
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Yeah, but I don't think sexual encounters will ever become moral. Why do you think so? In my opinion, if two people willingly consent to having sex, neither of them are pressured or manipulated into it, or cheating on their partners, and they make sure to protect themselves from pregnancy, STD's and other negative consecquences of sex, there isn't anything immoral in physical intimacy. Judgement of potential sexual partner can easily be considered immoral because its very stigamitizing and rejec…
/r/ExRedPill15/04/21 08:34 AM
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I think there are some elements of the red-pill that are immoral (such as the manipulation tactics, treating women like enemies and assuming that they will all turn you into a beta and betray you), as well as some that can be beneficial to you and harmless to other people (like learning about what high-quality men seeking a relationship and attractive women that want casual sex are attracted to, self-improvement, taking responsibility for your life). The same thing can be applied to most ideolog…
/r/ExRedPill14/04/21 09:44 PM
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Being a redpill woman isn't the same as being a doormat! Personally, I believe that submission must be earned by a man, in order for him to cherish it to its fullest. With that said, my advice to you would be to slowly submit to a partner. Be kind to him, while establishing and holding boundaries. I'd also highly recommend taking a look at yourself and reflecting upon the potential reasons you are attracting men that are mainly interested in physical intimacy. What do you bring to the table, asi…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 07:25 AM
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Most forests in my country are owned by the government, and it is forbidden to camp outside of campsites. We certainly wouldn’t want to start our marriage off with a fine! I appreciate your advice, though :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 12:12 PM
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My fiancee is interested in Latin American countries, so we might look into that. Thanks for the advice!
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 12:11 PM
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In my country, most forests are owned by the government and it is illegal to camp in them outside of campsites. I hope this clears things up!
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 12:09 PM
1

I'll definitely do that as often as I can!
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 12:06 PM
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It's illegal to camp lile that in my country, though, even without lockdows.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 07:16 PM
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I'll ask my fiancee to look into it, then, since we both like the outdoors. If campsites will be open, we'll definitely give this a try!
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 06:32 PM
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There is a quite strict lockdown in our country, and even hotels are closed.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 06:14 PM
1

Ok, I will. Thanks for clearing this up!
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 06:33 AM
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I think I understand. Does this stem from the rule saying that a person is never yours, and it's just your turn, and therefore, if you want your turn to last your whole life, you muat provide enough value for them to stick around?
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 04:38 AM
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Thanks for this advice! I think it's safe to say that I am showing him respect, as well as looking forward to all aspects of marriage. With that said, may I ask what you mean by "not taking him guaranteed"?
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 04:31 AM
1

I will look into that, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 04:28 AM
1

I think I might have to disagree with you! Although every person is entitled to their own life choices, women are the most fertile in their late teens and early twenties, and once they get pregnant, it is easier for them to carry the child, give birth, and heal after labour. Therefore, it might be best for most women to have children while they are still young (in their twenties), and not put off this step in life.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 10:39 AM
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I'm really sorry you are going through this, and sincerely hope that you'll find a man who will genuinely love you and give you the children you desire so much! In the meantime, perhaps you could volounteer at an orphanage? Although the children won't be biologically yours, you might manage to bond with them, and fulfill your desire to nurture someone.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 09:13 PM
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Why do you think so? In my opinion, it's best if the man makes the first step, since it's an indication of his confidence and commitment to a woman.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 06:28 AM
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In my opinion, it isn’t hard to find nice people at all, even on subreddits that some people here might deem toxic! If we are kind, considerate and polite, we'll usually attract the same behaviour, which will in turn make it easier for us to spread positive energy.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/21 07:36 AM
2

I have a male acquaintance that I talk to about art through Instagram from time to time, but aside from that, most of my friends are female. In my opinion, it's possible to have friends of the opposite gender when you're in a relationship, however, it's best if you maintain some boundaries with them, such as: limiting situations when you are alone with them talking to them mostly in a group setting if it's a "hobby" friend (someone you play video games with, or who you've met through a common in…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/21 05:29 AM
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I am really sorry you're going through such a mental hurtle! I can't imagine what it's like to suffer that much. What is your enviornment like? Are your parents loving and supportive? How about your friends? Your workplace? If you want to, we can talk about this in private, but often times, the cause of mental health issues are our surroundings
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 05:28 AM
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This. Also, remember to keep your body in a straight like. Make sure your head isn't dripping down, and that your bottom isn't sticking up. Here is a great tutorial on how to do pushups properly: https://youtu.be/IODxDxX7oi4 Also, remember to track your progress when doing them, and try to do the push-ups first thing in the mornjng, to get it over and done with! This will help you stay motivated. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/21 01:52 PM
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I certainly think that we should help other women, especially if they say that they want to be helped! By doing so, we are not only supporting them, but also helping ourselves understand how self-improvement works, creating accountability (after all, we don't want to set a bad example for the women we mentor!), and becoming better people in general!
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 05:44 PM
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Oh, it works wonders, since it strenthens your chest muscles, which pull your breasts up! It's best if you do 100-300 repetitions per day (build up to that number slowly, though!), or use really heavy resistance bands.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 01:08 PM
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I think you did the right thing when turning him down. Often times, when a person doesn't respect others, chances are that they might not respect you either. Good luck finding a partner!
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 06:11 AM
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Have you tried doing push-ups? They can help a lot with the sagging.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 06:04 AM
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I'm so sorry that your family is pestering you for not having a boyfriend! It must be quite tough to deal with, especially if you want to find love. You still have plenty of time to find the right guy, however, in my opinion, you should start putting effort into finding someone now. If I were you, I'd start with becoming friends with a few men, so that you will learn to communicate and get along with them, as well as understand them better. Focus on improving your looks too, as well as becoming …
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/21 12:08 PM
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Or he might be addicted to pornography.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 09:27 PM
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That's great! Were there any people that were recently gifted stars, and is there a way to nominate someone?
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 12:24 AM
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I'm so sorry you feel ashamed about having sex with the wrong person! Although virginity can be quite valuable, it isn't the only thing that defines your value, and by losing it, you don't become a "slut" or "damaged goods" that nobody will want. In fact, increasing your N count is a bit like putting on weight. Although it's good to be slim (and have a low partner count), putting on a pound or two will not make you obese, and sleeping with one man will not turn you into a promiscuous woman. In f…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 12:12 AM
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There used to be a system where the top contributors were given stars, but recently, not many people have received them.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 11:55 PM
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Perhaps you could get your boyfriend into going to the gym and working out with you, and start cooking for him? This will help solve your bedroom/attraction issues in several ways: He will gain muscle mass, which will improve his looks and make you more attracted to him. By committing to his fitness journey and working hard on his body, he will act in a more masculine way. His testosterone levels will increase. You will be doing something together, which will allow you to bond. You will both bec…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 11:24 PM
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There are many reasons why people downvote. In my opinion, just because someone disagrees with me, doesn't mean that their opinion is invalid and their relationship is destined for failure. There is no "right" way for happiness on both sides. In fact, I think it's safe to say that every couple has their own way for happiness!
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 11:11 PM
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In my opinion, waiting for your partner at the door and smiling af him when he comes home can be a very sweeg gesture! You don't have to be a robot or doormat to do so. Also, a redpill woman is exactly as you described. She is strong, feminine and sees value in getting and maintaining a happy and healthy relationship based on traditional values, as well as grounded in reality.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/21 09:36 PM
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You certainly are not damaged goods! At the age of 23, it is still very much possible to find a partner. However, just because you are not a "hopeless case" (in fact, almost nobody is!), doesn't mean that you cannot focus on improving yourself to increase your health, happiness, as well as dating options. If I were you, I would start with going to therapy, or addressing your mental health in some other way if you cannot access counseling. Abuse victims tend to get into abusive relationships as a…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/21 08:42 AM
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Yes, I get what you mean, and I think I agree with you. Although hating yourself for being an unhealthy size might motivate you to lose or gain weight, it can severely damage your mental health and even lead to eating disorders. However, there is an entire spectrum of emotions you can feel for your body. Obviously, not every under- or overweight person resents themselves for their weight! However, I simply find it hard to believe that they truly love themselves, especially if they are not trying…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 10:24 PM
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obesity in the western world is highly correlated with the fact of being poor Correlation is not the same thing as causation.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 10:02 PM
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you should nt derivate your happiness from beauty standards that are most likely not attainable I think you might be confusing beauty standards with beauty ideals. Although the ideals are unattainable for at least 99,99% of the population, beauty standards are achievable by most of society, and once you fit them, it will become relatively easy to attract a partner and remain healthy, which will in turn raise our level of happiness. ​ For me it s promoting self love and the acceptance of your bod…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 09:58 PM
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I strongly disagree in the sens that obesity is highly correlated with wealth. It costs a lot to be in shape and to be in good health. Although it can be harder to maintain a healthy weight when you have a lower income, it isn't impossible. There are several ways to eat healthy food without spending a fortune on it. These include, but are not limited to: buying non-perishable food such as rice, beans, potatoes and pasta in bulk replacing the most expensive store-bought meat with vegetarian and v…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 09:37 PM
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Although I agree with most of the points you make, I find it hard to believe that you can truly love your body at any size. After all, if you love someone, don't you want to take care of their health and prevent them from getting ill as well? As we all know, obesity (and being severely underweight) leads to several serious diseases and if one truly loved their body, wouldn't they be making an effort to get to a healthier size?
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 08:37 PM
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When my mother got married, she had a really beautiful wedding dress, and since I have a similar body shape and size to hers from that time, I am planning to wear it on my wedding day! After the wedding, I will likely keep the dress and pass it down to my daughter (if I have one), or give it back to my mother.
/r/RedPillWives15/02/21 09:33 PM
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Have you tried looking for a husband in your social circle? It might be a lot easier than doing so on a matchmaking app, where looks play a much larger part in getting the interest of men.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 10:14 PM
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In the western world, physical intimacy is usually deemed a "girlfriend priviledge", whereas things that might bind you together for several years (buying a house, cohabiting, taking a mortage or loan together, having children) are considered "wife priviledges", and those are the things I meant when using this term (though girlfriend and wife priviledges vary from culture to culture) I hope that clears things up! As a woman, it is irresponsible to make such commitments without a wedding ring on …
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/21 06:08 PM
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Why do you think that this is a "game of chicken", especially if you state early on that you will only move in with your partner and give him wife priveledges when he takes on a similar commitment?
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/21 04:00 PM
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I think you are generalizing a bit too much! Just like not every man will lie and manipulate in order to get sex, not every woman will do so to get into a relationship (though I believe that such instances should be pointed out and shunned as well). Also, if I remember correctly, the discussion in this comment thread resolved around whether or not TRP was manipulative, not the hypocrisy of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 09:17 PM
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Isn't this subjective though? You talk as if people are born high value or low value. Not the case. A good example of pretending to be high value would be renting a car and wearing a golden watch to appear rich, while you are actually in debt. I never said that anyone was born high or low value! In order to become a high value person, you have to put in lots of effort. ​ And it's on you as an adult to ask the questions you want answers to. The thing is, the woman has already done so. Do you thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 09:05 PM
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Well i think that a high value man will never married a woman before seeing that she's keen to give wifey privilege to him. I have to disagree here. Often times, if a woman gives her boyfriend "wife privileges", he will have no reason to marry her. After all, why should he make a lifelong commitment and take on all of the "husband responsibilities" if he can have the same benefits for the "cost" of "boyfriend responsibilities"?
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/21 05:28 PM
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There actually are! Although having a family (or partner) of your own is important, it's only a part of life, something people here tend to forget about.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 04:25 PM
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I was talking about the self-improvement parts that teach men how to build a business, lift to improve their looks and become more assertive - though the pick up parts can be quite manipulative at times!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 04:16 PM
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But she would need a guy she is attracted to, and the self-improvement parts of TRP teach men to become such guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 03:19 PM
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Some girls only want to have sex, either because they just got put of a relationship and need some physical closeness, they have a busy life and high libido, are looking for an affair partner or know that they won't be compatible with a certain person in the long run, but are still attracted to him. There are several reasons for it! Of course, this varies from place to place. I think it's safe to say that in most countries, the vast majority of women look for long-term relationships, though ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 02:15 PM
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Women are "by default" viewed as valuable and protected, since they are capable of bearing children. If 90% of the male population died, humanity would rebuild itself in a matter of 2-3 generations, whereas, if almost all women died, this procedure would take much longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/21 09:38 PM
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I know. Also, sometimes the hymen is more elastic, and doesn't break until the woman gives birth to her first child! Because of that, many women "bring shame upon their family" when they don't bleed ontheir wedding night, even though they remained virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/21 09:35 PM
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There are also surgeries that reconstruct the hymen! Once a woman is healed after such a procedure, the doctor gives her a certificate stating that she is a virgin. This procedure is quite popular in Islamic countries. is there a way for the men to figure out whether or not it’s real? I don't know! I think some men might realize that the hymen isn't real, however, in such countries, men usually don't know too much about the female anatomy, and treat her pain and bleeding as a sign of virginity.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/21 05:13 PM
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In middle eastern countries, India and other places where women are culturally recquired to remain virgines until the wedding night.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/21 05:02 PM
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If she's just playing hard to get (like in your example in the comment above), is it real resistance, though?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/21 04:24 PM
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To me, last-minute resistance is when the girl denies the man physical intimacy once she is at his place, or resists the idea of having it. Do you think snuggling in closer when things are leading to sex is a form of revoking consent?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/21 04:06 PM
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These techniques are guidelines to actually becoming a high value man. The only way to become a high-value person is through genuine self-improvement, not creating the illusion of being high-value. The most effective “tactic” here is to be cool and say “okay” and not press the issue so I think that’s just solid advice. That sounds like a really good technique! Not only does it show that you have abundance, but it also allows the woman to relax and not feel coerced into having sex (saying "no" an…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/21 03:56 PM
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We dont all go out in the world with the intent to give an impression of being high-value? As long as there is truth behind the impression of being high value, and we aren't just faking things, there's nothing wrong with this procedure. Are you asking him point blank? TRP advocates for giving a vague answer to the exclusivity question even if a woman asks him "point blank" whether or not he is seeing other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/21 02:34 PM
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In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with wearing shoes, clothes or make up that flatter your appearance! Men are the gatekeepers of commitmentt, and in order to receive commitment from a high-value man, a woman has to have high RMV - relationship market value. Looks might make a man desire her, but it's her character that makes him stick around. Therefore, I don't think wearing make-up shoes and clothes that make one seem attractive is the best example of women being dishonest about their true …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/21 02:29 PM
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Advocating for learning certain pick-up techniques, that create an illusion of being a high-value man. "Pushing through" last-minute resistance to get a girl to sleep with you. Avoiding the exclusivity talk, and giving a vague answer when asked if you also date other women, instead of stating upfront that you are keepingthings casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/21 01:43 PM
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According to Wikipedia, the average age of marriage is between 24-32 in most countries. It used to be earlier, however, due to things like people wanting to finish college before tying the knot, we started getting married later on in life. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_age_at_first_marriage Those who marry later on in life are less likely to divorce: https://www.wf-lawyers.com/divorce-statistics-and-facts/#:~:text=48%20percent%20of%20those%20who,25%20will%20end%20in%20divo…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/21 12:09 AM
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How exactly does describing teens and young women (20-25 year olds are not teens, yet they're usually still in their prime looks-wise, unless they go through a major glow-up later on in their life) as "the most physically attractive" lead to them getting groomed or assaulted?
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 03:48 PM
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I think I have to disagree with you. Youth is a well-known attractive trait in women, as it is an indication of fertility and the ability to go through a pregnancy safely. Obviously, this does not mean that anyone should sleep with girls that are below the age of consent! Although a 15-17 year old's body might be ready to have sex, often times, she will not be mentally prepared to handle the consequences of physical intimacy, such as pregnancy or falling for the wrong man.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 03:32 PM
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Take good care of your appearance! Exercise, eat well, develop a beauty routine... Don't wear excessive amounts of makeup, smoke or drink too much. Try to be relaxed, cheerful and avoid stress, since it might make you age faster. Obviously, women were made to be the most physically attractive when they are about 15-25 years old, however, the wall can easily be delayed with enough self-care, and instead of "hitting" it, you will ease into it without suddenly losing all of your beauty (in fact, so…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 10:23 AM
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There's nothing wrong with being incompatible with certain groups of people! In my opinion, even if you started dressing and acting more casually and attracted the attention of a man your age, chances are that you wouldn't be too happy with him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 09:57 AM
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In my opinion, in order for a relationship to be healthy, both partners should be investing the same amount of time, effort, resources and value. This prevents one side from feeling trapped, controlled and overwhelmed by their partner. On the other hand, the other partner won't become resentful due to them investing much more than their husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend. Of course, this doesn't mean you should be playing hard to get! When you do so, you are withholding value, which in turn …
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 11:50 AM
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This is interesting... If I may ask, how did you vet your partners for compatibility in the bedroom prior to sleeping with them? Were there any red flags? Also, what exactly disappointed you in them?
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/21 08:56 PM
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Also, 175 cm. isn't even short.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/21 12:12 PM
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If you have to sleep with someone to see if there's chemistry, though, isn't it an indication of potential lack of chemistry? Me and my fianceé are both saving sex for marriage, and (RIP my inbox), it can sometimes be hard to keep my hands off of him, and vice versa.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/21 03:27 AM
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It seems to me that these men got their kinks from pornography, and if you asked them about their opinion in regards to adult videos, these issues could have quickly came up. Also, just because you aren't sleeping with a man, doesn't mean that you shouldn't vet him for compatibility in the bedroom!
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 10:31 PM
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Sexual lust and desire comes before sleeping with someone, though. You don't have to have sex with a man to know that you're attractsd to him.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 10:25 PM
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Contraception fails and aside from pregnancy, there are several other risks a woman takes when she has sex with a man. These include, but are not limited to: Side effects from birth control, if she decides to use it to ensure that she won't get pregnant STD's (they are transferred a lot more easily from the man to the woman than the other way around) Having her reputation ruined, especially in conservative countries, where several men refuse to date and marry promiscuous women, or even non-virgi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 10:23 PM
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Doesn't sexual compatibility come and change with time, though? Just like when you're cooking a new dish, the first time you're physically intimate with your partner might not become the best intercource of your life. However, as you "practice", things will get better and better. Also, sexual incompatibility will come at different points of the relationship anyway. You will age. You'll get pregnant and have children. You might get ill. Sex in your 50's certainly won't be the same as when you're …
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 03:17 PM
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That really isn't too horrible, then! When I read your comment, I thought you were at least one foot shorter than average! With that said, you can still become attractive, especially if you have a good face. Most women would rather date a shorter guy that's muscular, well-dressed and has good hygiene, than a tall, but fat, smelly and greasy-haired man. My fianceé is 168 cm. Tall, but because he is really fit, well-groomed and doesn't let his height become an issue, it's safe to say that I'm attr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 01:58 AM
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How tall are you, if I may ask? And what's the average height in your country?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 01:43 AM
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This doesn't make it impossible for a hard-working, loyal, kind and intelligent man impossible to be handsome. Also, for men, being attractive (even purely looks-wise) depends mostly on being tall, muscular, well-groomed and having a good style. Only one of those factors is controlled by genetics. Therrfore, it is safe to say that getting to the top 10-20% of men is achievable for most guys. In some countries, simply not being overweight puts you in the top 40%! Add good hygiene, dressing well a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 01:36 AM
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Why can't a good man also be handsome?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 01:21 AM
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I see. I think we agree on this topic, but because of different reasoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 12:51 PM
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Isn't impregnating as many fertile women as possible a man's primary sexual strategy? And, if that's the case, why are guys more prone to oneitis?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 10:43 AM
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Not sure if I'm missing your point, but the one thing I hear most often is that men will say anything and lie through their teeth just to get laid Just like many men will say anything and lie through their teeth just to have sex, many women will do the same thing to get a relationship. This is because it's mostly up to the woman to decide when physical intimacy will occur, and up to the man to choose when providing will take place. ​ To answer your question, the man who says I'm his soulmate of …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 10:41 AM
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Although I agree that N count matters in men as well (personally, I would never be with a man that wants a virgin, but has already slept with other women), we must remember that, in most cases, women are the ones that seek out commitment (husbands, male friends and boyfriends) in the relationship marketplace, whereas men tend to seek out sex (ONS's, FWB's, lovers). This is because it's quite easy for a woman to get sex (all she has to do is say "yes" to a man at a bar or on a dating site) and qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 09:52 AM
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Men want women that are passionate about them. It can be quite hard (but not impossible!) for a man to believe that a woman is passionate about him if she had also slept with, say, 50 other men and physical intimacy is nothing new to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 09:20 AM
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There are many reasons for this! For instance, if a man only wants to date younger women, it might be because he doesn't want to have a long-term relationship and younger women are more open to keeping things casual. They can also be more prone to manipulation and worse at vetting, making it easier for him to become abusive towards such a girl. Also, younger women are usually more attractive than older ones, so if a man is just into a girl for her looks, he would naturally start screening for 18…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/21 04:54 AM
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I think that's a great idea! You seem quite mature for your age and ready for a relationship. Don't date guys that are a lot older than you, though! 3-5 years older shpuld be ideal.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 01:02 PM
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Is it their job to deal with men's rights, though? Just like Men's Right Activists do not fight for women's rights, feminism, which was made for females, have no obligation to fight for men's rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 08:56 AM
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Feminism has done several positive things for women! It allowed them to vote, work, gain equal rights, study at universities and choose any life path they'd like. If you were a woman, where would you rather live? In Saudi Arabia, or the USA?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 07:06 PM
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You don't have to take every bit of advice you see on the internet to heart! u/-Acta-Non-Verba 's advice was directed towards OP, who wants to wait until her late twenties in order to find a husband, which can be a major mistake on her side.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/20 03:55 AM
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Although I agree that women tend to date up, men leaving their partners for a younger and/or more attractive girl once they become more established in life isn't uncommon. There's even a saying! "A loyal woman will stick with her man through unpleasant times, whereas a loyal man will stick with his woman when times become pleasant." Personally, I wouldn't call it hypergamy, though. After all, if a man starts off as average looking and dates a woman that isn't the prettiest either, becomes handso…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/20 09:17 AM
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Many men might not want to work out once they get a girlfriend, though. After all, why should they, since they already got a girlfriend? And why shouldn't they leave her for a more attractive one after developing muscles if they decide to hit the gym?
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/20 06:15 PM
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I never said that it's impossible for a physically unattractive woman to date a very handsome man! However, it will be harder for OP to do so if she isn't as attractive as the men she likes, since she will be competing over them with women that look like models. Because of that, she will have to develop other traits to attract the men she fancies (common interests such as sports and fitness (since she wants a muscular man), being very feminine, knowing how to maintain an interesting and intellig…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 05:34 PM
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She could have issues if she is trying to date top-tier men, who will (naturally) want to commit to top-tier women.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 04:34 PM
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Although I agree with you that there's no such thing as strict leagues and every man has different tastes, women that are conventionally attractive can often find it easier to date than girls that aren't too pretty, which is why improving and maintaining looks is very important.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 04:08 PM
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Having children isn't the only reason to pursue men and dating! There are several childfree women that, although they don't want to have kids, still take care of their appearance, engage in self-improvement and try to find a husband. Even if you find out that you are sterile, you'll still be able to date for things like companionship, starting an adopted family together, as well as love. Also, even if a woman is unable to bear children, it is still easier for her to attract and keep a man in her…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 11:47 PM
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I think they seemed more happy, relaxed, feminine and cheerful when they were in love with someone, which is why they were perceived as more valuable to the opposite sex (not necessarily because they were taken).
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 03:06 PM
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Why exactly do you want to avoid supporting the industry? Although I am personally against watching porn, since many women in it are forced to act in these movies, and it's often devoid of love, affection, and realism, I don't necessarily see anything wrong in erotica, since the characters only exist in the author's head.
/r/RedPillWives27/11/20 02:06 AM
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My boyfriend's views are certainly more progressive than other men's in my country (many of them would still consider a rape victim a used up slut), and his friends treat their partners very well (two of them are already married, one is engaged, and the other one is planning to propose). After reflecting upon this situation, as well as having several conversations with my boyfriend (mostly about what would happen if I ever got raped or if we had a child and they decided not to save sex for marri…
/r/RedPillWives25/11/20 01:51 PM
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In my opinion, it can actually matter quite a lot! She might prefer a partner that already knows how to please a woman in bed (since she already has these skills), and can easily relate to her situation as a Christian that had found God after a sinful period of her life. The chances that a non-virgin man won't mind her lack of virginity are also higher, and issues like him wondering what physical intimacy with another woman is like are much less likely to show up if he had already "tried" sex wi…
/r/RedPillWives23/11/20 01:18 PM
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Unfortunately, the belief that chastity is strictly tied with virginity, and that if you aren't a virgin, you aren't chaste, even if you got sexually assaulted, is quite common in my country. I sincerely hope people will learn that not every chaste woman is a virgin, and not every virgin is sexually pure. Of course, in most cases, these things are tied to each other, however, there are exceptions to this rule, like my boyfriend's ex.
/r/RedPillWives22/11/20 03:48 AM
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Not everything in life is sunshine and roses. Although he didn't directly cause the girl's suicide, he certainly did contribute to her death by starting the spiral of low self-esteem and depression.
/r/RedPillWives21/11/20 04:12 AM
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He was 19 at that time, and although he broke up with that poor girl, he certainly didn't harass or insult her. From what his sister told me, he tried to be as gentle with her as possible when he was leaving her, and he feels extremely guilty for doing so. I asked him whether or not he would end the relationship with me if I ever got raped, and he replied that he'd never do such a thing again, and if it ever happened to me, he'd do his best to support me. He also mentioned that although a rapist…
/r/RedPillWives20/11/20 11:56 PM
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I am in line and on board with the fact of only having one sexual partner for my entire life! I think this can create a very intimate type of relationship, and make physical intimacy even more special. However, in my opinion, breaking up with a rape victim because she isn't a virgin is an extremely cruel thing to do. I can tell that my boyfriend feels very guilty about it right now, and although one part of me wants to try to cheer him up and support him, the other one wants him to feel awful fo…
/r/RedPillWives20/11/20 11:45 PM
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I understand... He was 19 at the time of the relationship, and it was the first girlfriend he ever dated. Unfortunately, though, he broke up with her because she wasn't a virgin and picturing his potential spouse during intercourse with a different man, even if it wasn't consensual, was a lot for him to handle and because of that, he decided to end things with her.
/r/RedPillWives20/11/20 11:39 PM
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How did the relationship turn out?
/r/RedPillWives19/11/20 01:36 PM
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In my opinion, there's nothing wrong in planning in case something bad happens. Life writes different scenarios, and just because you maintain a good relationship with your family, care for your looks and work a few hours per week, doesn't mean that you do not trust your spouse.
/r/RedPillWives19/11/20 01:06 PM
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I don't think it's the best idea to invest so much in early stages of a relationship, especially if there's such an age gap. Therefore, if I were you, I'd stop talking to him. There's most likely a reason why he is desperate and hadn't found a wife in spite of being well into his forties.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/20 12:59 PM
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Do you have a link to the video where he discusses it? I'd love to watch it, but couldn't seem to find it!
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 03:45 PM
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There are several things OP can do to improve her SMV! She can go to the gym and do leg exercises to improve her waist-to-hip ratio (I used to have 87cm.-wide hips, a 66cm. waist and 94cm. bust. After three months of working out, my hips became 91 cm. wide, my waist - 61 cm. wide and my bust was 92 cm. wide), as well as chest exercises to lift her breasts. She can improve her skin and hair care routine, and develop a better style. Even working on acting more feminine can greatly improve her attr…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/20 03:25 PM
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Genetics are certainly not the #1 thing for attractiveness! Obviously, they play a large part in the way you look, however, even models (who were gifted with great genes) need to put lots of effort into maintaining their appearances. Without a healthy diet, working out, wearing clothes that match their body shape and flattering makeup, they most likely wouldn't look too much better than an average woman.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/20 03:16 PM
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Although I agree that not many "high-value" men would bring home a cleaner or waitress, they'd be more than happy to introduce a teacher, nurse or secretary to their parents, even though such women don't earn too much (at least in my country). Edit: This doesn't mean that women should not have any career or education, but that they don't need a six figure income or PHD to be considered attractive in the dating market. A woman's ncome is not as important to a man than a man's salary is for a fema…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 09:41 PM
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It won't matter too much what career she has and how much she earns, at work, though. From what I've realized, men tend to care more about how women manage the money they have, not how much money they have.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 07:17 AM
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There are many difference s between husband and boyfriend priveledges. Personally, I wouldn't cohabitate with my boyfriend, even though we live in the same dorms. Instead, we visit each other a few times per week, and, instead of sharing all of our chores, I sometimes cook for him as a favor (about 1-2 times per week), and he helps me clean my room once in a while. Another thing I'd only do for a husband, is having children with him. In my opinion, it is best for their development if their paren…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 08:23 AM
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I don't think it's the best idea to cohabitate before marriage, or at least before there is a set wedding date.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 08:07 AM
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I wouldn't necessarily call your marriage "rock solid" if you post on an affairs subreddit, looking for a partner to cheat on your wife with, as well as participate in r/deadbedrooms .
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 08:05 AM
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Although I agree with you, having a man leave you because you don't want to cohabitate before marriage appears on the table is a lot easier than breaking up with him because he doesn't want to commit to you long-term. In the first case, you "only" have to deal with heartbreak, whereas in the second instance, you have to manage heartbreak, finding a new place to live, moving out, as well as dealing with the fact that you've likely wasted several months or perhaps even years on a man that was not …
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 11:44 PM
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Although I agree with you, having a man leave you because you don't want to cohabitate before marriage appears on the table is a lot easier than breaking up with him because he doesn't want to commit to you long-term. In the first case, you "only" have to deal with heartbreak, whereas in the second instance, you have to manage heartbreak, finding a new place to live, moving out, as well as dealimg with the fact that you've likely wasted several months or perhaps even years on a man that was not …
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 11:41 PM
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A dead bedroom can happen at any age or stage of the relationship, which was shown quite well by the posts at that subreddit. Of course, if you want to cohabitate with a boyfriend before getting married or engaged, nobody's going to stop you! However, most women here, including me, would advise you not to do so until you know that you are willing and planning, or have committed to spending the rest of your lives with each other.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 11:21 PM
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Everyone has a different take on this issue! Personally, I'd like to fully cohabitate with my boyfriend once we get engaged, so that we will be absolutely sure that we're a good match, since cohabitating earlier can come with several risks. When a man gets all of the "wife priveledges" without taking any "husband responsibilities", he will have a lot less reasons to marry you. After all, why should he risk having to go through divorce or getting tied down to an older woman in 20-40 years, when h…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 09:29 PM
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By managing the money she has well and not taking on loans that she might have trouble paying off.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/20 01:15 AM
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OP is 27 though, not 37, so she still has a few years of youth ahead of her. Also, going for lower SMV males carries several post-commitment risks, such as being unattracted to your partner, comparing him to other men, resenting him for not being as hard-working as you'd want him to be... The list goes on, and such men might not even want to commit to her long-term, because what matters most in getting a high quality partner for a woman, is having high RMV - Relationship Market Value. This is al…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/20 08:11 PM
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A lot of things! Many (if not most!) good men are looking for a woman that is: feminine nurturing knows how to take care of the house manages her finances well (is debt-free, has her own savings, doesn't purchase things impulsively) attractive knows how to support her SO treats her SO as a member of the same team cheerful child-like sweet a good companion
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/20 07:56 PM
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How do you tell them that you won't be having sex with them until they show signs of commitment?
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/20 07:49 PM
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A top plate is a player's favorite girl. He usually cares for her a bit more than for other plates, sees her more often, but never truly commits to her.
/r/RedPillWives19/10/20 06:10 AM
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Although a single post might not be enough to judge an entire LTR, there seem to be several red flags! First of all, one can easily notice a huge imbalance of investment: Your boyfriend is not sacrificing his monogamy and keeping his dating options open, whereas you aren't allowed to see other men. He gets to demand things from you without giving you the privilege of doing the same thing. There is no promise of marriage or children in the long run, but you are "spending" your youth on him. He is…
/r/RedPillWives18/10/20 07:36 PM
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Although I believe that 3rd and 4th wave feminism may have gone a bit too far, I think women should have the right to vote, work and have equal rights with men.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 02:09 AM
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Why do you think being 0th wave would be best?
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/20 10:34 AM
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I understand that it must feel quite bad to get downvoted. It even happened to me a few times, so I certainly know where you are coming from! However, there are many reasons why people downvote others. It certainly isn't always because they hate you! Usually, they do so because they disagree with the commenter, which does not necessarily equate to disliking him or her. This is also the reason why I downvoted you. Although I do not hate mentally ill people, I still consider mental illnesses a red…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/20 03:30 PM
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Although I agree that you should not hate people with mental health isdues, a red flag is not the same thing as a dealbreaker or hatred.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/20 01:41 PM
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She should slowly stop picking up his slack, and start asking for small "favors" every so often. These should be the things that he used to do, but stopped for some reason. Each time he does so, she should show him that she apreciates it. In the meantime, she should help him find out the root of his issues. What's making him so depressed? Why is he drinking? Once they fix the source of these problems, things should start to improve.
/r/RedPillWives13/10/20 11:10 AM
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Although the post OP made is quite concerning, I don't think giving an ultimatum is the best solution to this issue. Even if she manages to make her husband go to therapy, the counselling might not be effective, because those who don't want to change themselves seldom benefit from sessions with a psychologist.
/r/RedPillWives13/10/20 10:34 AM
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This part of the sidebar was definitely confusing for me as well - after all, in my culture, most people wait to have sex until marriage, or at least until they are in a long term relationship! However, after reading it a few times, I got to understand it this way: If a woman gets a man's commitment easily, she might not cherish it as much as if she had to work on it for a long time. This might cause her to question the "value" of her boyfriend or husband, as well as wonder why he invested into …
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/20 08:05 PM
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I'm really sorry you are so worried about losing your virginity to the wrong person! It must be quite tough to have this feeling lurk in the back of your head as you search for your significant other! Now, most people will agree that avoiding promiscuity serves an important in remaining desirable long term partners. Many women here (including me!) will also advise you not to have sex until you receive the commitment you desire: Therefore, if your goal is marriage, it may be best if you avoided s…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 03:02 PM
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I'm glad this worked for you! Many RPW prefer waiting to have sex until they receive the commitment that they want, which is either a long-term relationship or marriage, so it's interesting to hear about strategies that differ from the most popular one. Therefore, would you mind if I asked a few questions?: How did you avoid getting strung along? Was there any specific way you vetted the men you've dated to make sure that even though they were eager to have sex with you early on, they also wante…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 01:51 PM
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Those are also amazing ways to judge a man's charakter :) I agree that treating subordinates with respect is a green flag, you are absolutely right about that! There are also other indications of a man being high quality, such as: having a strong and healthy relationship with his parents having high quality friends actions matching his words treating everyone with respect avoiding drama caring for his health sticking to his morals and doing the right thing even if he is tempted not to treating y…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 06:33 AM
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I think it depends on the sports classes. I've met several great men at Taekwon-do classes!
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/20 08:33 PM
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Oh, there are several ways to find out! For example, good, selfless and compassionate men often sign up to volounteer. Those that care for their body and health can be spotted at sports clubs and martial arts classes. They are kind, respectful, hard-working, optimistic, masculine and hold themselves and those around them to high standards. Don't worry! Once you spot a great man, you will simply know it!
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/20 08:27 PM
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Surround yourself with high-quality men! Also, try to make platonic friends with them. Hopefully, their good examples will help you change your views on them.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 06:32 PM
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No, no! My main message was for women to avoid players, not to hurt them! As for the "sexual frustration release component", I'm sure that there are many great men out there who are willing to wait until they get into a long-term relationship in order to have sex, since they treat intercourse in all of its forms as an intimate act of love. Some men even want to wait for marriage! Obviously, there are also lots of guys out there that consider physical intimacy as a mere source of pleasure. Such m…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 06:21 PM
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Why do you think that refusing to engage in sexual activities is about making players unhappy? In my opinion, it is a lot more about protecting your heart and not over-investing into the relationship in its early stages. Also, although I agree with the fact that men might lose interest in their dates if they think they are not desired by them, I would not necessarily say that a woman should engage in sexual activities in order to prove that she is attracted to her potential partner (I'm pretty s…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 05:13 PM
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You don't need any plastic surgery! If men are interested in sex with you, your SMV is high enough to attract them :) Unfortunately, looks are not enough to keep a man. In order to do so, you need to raise your RMV - relationship market value. This can be done in several ways: By becoming more emotionally stable. Do you have any mental health issues? Problems with low self esteem, anger or anxiety? Spend some time journaling and learning to understand where such things come from. What makes you …
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 04:41 PM
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You don't need any plastic surgery! If men are interested in sex with you, your SMV is high enough to attract them :) Unfortunately, looks are not enough to keep a man. In order to do so, you need to raise your RMV - relationship market value. This can be done in several ways: By becoming more emotionally stable. Do you have any mental health issues? Problems with low self esteem, anger or anxiety? Spend some time journaling and learning to understand where such things come from. What makes you …
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 04:41 PM
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It seems to me that you two are incompatible on several levels. If you marry this man, you most likely won't be happy with him. Therefore, it is better to break up now, than to go through the wedding, several months of unhapiness and, in the end, divorce.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/20 07:29 AM
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Sex is like a mirror that reflects the quality of your relationship. If there is something wrong in it, the physical intimacy won't be satisfying either. Therefore, if I were you, I'd focus on rebuilding the connection between you and your boyfriend. Once that issue is fixed, it is possible that the problems with your libido will also disappear!
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/20 02:32 AM
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It seems to me that you have fallen into a routine with him. Four years of dating is a lot of time! Therefore, if I were you, I would try and break this pattern. There are several ways to do so. For instance, you can offer to cook his favorite meal on a Saturday evening. After that, try doing a fun activity together, like playing a board game, dancing, or whatever else you two enjoy. Once the evening is over, tell him how you felt. Who knows, perhaps you will even want him to organize the next d…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/20 02:27 AM
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If I were you, I'd definitely give it a try! If this man is looking for a traditional marriage, he will not care that you do not earn as much as his exes - in fact, he will be delighted by the fact that you are an elementary school teacher, since your job allowed you to learn how to take care of children and get in touch with your nurturing side :) Also, don't worry about not being as attractive as his exes. You caught his attention, so you are certainly pretty enough for him! What will matter n…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/20 02:09 AM
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I wouldn't necessarily say that women frown at nice guys. They do, however, look down on Niceguys, because they are not sincere in their kindness.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 04:18 PM
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How do maintain being submissive without becoming a doormat. This was a major reason why I avoided dating, I knew that I wasn’t strong enough emotionally and would “lose myself” to avoid being hurt. I’m naturally very submissive, but I’m afraid of allowing myself to be out of fear of being taken advantage of. Submission has to be earned. Also, you should not let him disrespect you or break your boundaries. If you do not know if you are being mistreated, ask yourself this question: "Would I be OK…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 04:12 PM
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Hi and welcome to our community! When I first joined this community, I was also a bit overwhelmed by all of the information here. It took me a few months to digest its content, as well as to start implementing it in my daily life. I truly hope that the same thing will happen to you! ​ Where do you meet good quality men? I just graduated college and will begin working as an RN soon so i’ll be surrounded by mostly women. I’m not really religious so I don’t see myself meeting someone from church or…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 04:12 PM
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If your ability to pair bond, love and be faithful is enhanced, then why do several studies reveal that there is a correlation between the amount of sexual partners one has and things like single motherhood, divorce, as well as overall happiness in a relationship? https://www.heritage.org/education/report/harmful-effects-early-sexual-activity-and-multiple-sexual-partners-among-women https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3394901/ https://www.everydayhealth.com/longevity/can-promiscuity-thr…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 02:50 PM
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Buy a slow cooker! It will allow you to make large portions of healthy and nutricious (the nutrients in food don't break apart as much when they are cooked in a low temperature) meals within minutes. All you need to do, is cut up the ingredients and put them into the slow cooker. This is also amazing for meal prepping (which was recommended by other women here) :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 11:54 AM
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I've never said anything about punishing sexual abuse victims! That is an extremely cruel thing to do and non-consensual acts NEVER add to a person's body count. Also, you are right. You cannot change your past. However, you can learn from it and use your experience to build a better present and future.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 11:40 AM
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Oh, there are several reasons to this! First of all, it is an indicator of the way you treat sex. Usually, people with higher body counts tend to have a more casual approach to physical intimacy, whereas those with lower body counts are often only willing to sleep with people that are their long term partners. Second, the more partners someone had, the higher the chances of them having STI's, or a broken ability to pair bond. Several studies have shown that the amount of extramarital partners co…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/20 10:45 PM
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From what I can tell, your boyfriend is most likely investing less into the relationship than you are. Unfortunately, if you keep adding more and more value to the relationship, the imbalance may become stronger and stronger, making you more exhausted and frustrated with every week, all while he will feel more and more suffocated by you. This might cause arguments, making you feel like you are losing your love and respect for him. If I were you, I would try to gradually make him provide more val…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/20 08:28 PM
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Lies always come out, and if that occurs on OP's case, chances are that her boyfriend (or perhaps even fiancee or husband) leaves her. Not because of her body count being a deal breaker, but because she lied about such a serious issue.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/20 08:05 PM
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Take a break from sex and dating and commit to it. During that time, do not do things with men that you wouldn't do with your brother. Find the root issue of your past promiscuity and fix it. What caused you to throw off all restraint after losing your virginity? Did you consider sex meaningless after that one night stand? Attempt to "cover up" the negative memories it brought? What made you use promiscuity a coping mechanism? Do you know any better ways to deal with trauma? If not, perhaps now …
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/20 04:05 PM
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Fall has recently started, so I do my best to use seasonal fruit and vegetables. Yesterday, I made some butternut squash stew. Soon after that, a few of my friends paid mr an unexpected visit and when I served them some of this delicious soup, they absolutely loved it!
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/20 10:58 AM
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In my opinion, it might be best for you two to part ways. However, if you decide not to do so, I'd highly recommend at least limiting contact with him. Do not have sex with him, or do things you wouldn't do in front of your family members. Do not go into in depth discussions about the people he is currently dating. Start seeing other men yourself. Meet in public places and do not invest too much into him unless you become exclusive.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 04:34 PM
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I am really sorry you're in such a situation! According to his actions (seeing both you and other women for almost three months), it seems like he is not interested in a relationship, and may simply be stringing you along. If I were you, I wouldn't invest too much into this man. Date other guys that are more willing to commit. Do not hook up with this man, and if you are sleeping with him, stop and give yourself time to heal. Men will happily date women that they like, but they will only commit …
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 03:53 PM
3

Keto isn't necessarily about starving yourself! It is a high-fat, low carb diet that might help some people lose extra pounds, however, you can still easily gain weight on it, as long as you are consuming more calories than you are burning.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 09:42 AM
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Women enter their "looks" prime in various ages. Some become extremely physically attractive when they are as young as 15, if they go through puberty early, whereas others are later bloomers. I think I was made to be most attractive when I was about 18-19, however, due to the work I put into improving my looks in the last few years (20-21), I am currently the most physically attractive I have ever been.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 09:36 AM
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Dating men in various stages of life had its upsides and downsides. For instance, men in their early twenties are often a lot more cheerful, spontaneous, open to the world than those in their 30's and 40's. However, they might not be established in life yet, and have a harder time communicating and acting in a responsible manner. Mature men, on the other hand, are more experienced in the dating market, and often use their experience to string women along and use them for sex, or create unhealthy…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 11:07 PM
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In my opinion, it helps save time and vet the potential suitors much better than if you see them sequentially. For instance, let's say two of them were late on a date. If one of the men you were seeing apologized for not being on time and told you that the reason for it was because his train got delayed, the memory of this incident would still be vivid on, say, the next day. Then, if the other late suitor gave a silly excuse for not coming on time, the contrast between the men's behavior would l…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 10:26 PM
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I agree with you :) In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with kissing the person you are dating - in fact, it's an amazing way to show affection! However, I believe that there's a difference between a peck on the cheek, kiss on the lips and a make-out session that involves long, deep, passionate kisses and sometimes even touching certain body parts. I would personally recommend against the latter, however, this might simply be my preferrence. I hope I cleared this isue out!
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 03:12 PM
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A nose isn't the only thing that cobtributes to your looks! There are so many things you can improve your appearance without getting surgery: Is your hair and skin in good shape? Are you at a healthy body weight? Do you work out and eat healthy food? Are your teeth straight? Do you wear clothes that suit your body type? What about your hairstyle? Are you elegant and groomed? Do you have proper posture? Do you know how to use make-up to flatter your positive features and hide flaws? Do you smoke?…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 02:59 PM
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I'd advocate not only for waiting for sex until you become exclusive, but also for avoiding doing things you wouldn't do in front of your family, such as making out, giving/recieving handjobs and oral or "dry humping" with the person you're dating until you get the commitment that you want (a relationship, engagement, marriage etc.). Many players would be happy to string a woman along if she didn't have sex with them, but replaced full intercourse with other activities.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 01:20 PM
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I wouldn't necessarily call all leggings inmodest. It all depends on how tight they are, as well as where you wear them. For instance, the gym is an appropriate place to do so. If you want to avoid giving off the wrong vibe when wearing leggings, though, I'd highly recommend pairing them with a looser t-shirt that doesn't reveal too much cleaveage. This will ensure that you look modest and feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 07:22 PM
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I used to experience little to no PMS syndromes. Over time, though, prior to my period, I usually became a bit more irritable and it was easier for me to start crying. When I'd go on Nuvaring, I'd also have cramps at that time.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 11:21 AM
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