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MOOD FOR LIFEgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:12 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:27 PM
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SCROTATION REPORT gothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:23 PM
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Muh PENISgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:47 AM
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STRATEGYgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 08:18 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 09:29 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:55 PM
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NAH, SISgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:43 AM
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NICE FOR WHAT?gothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:30 PM
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Muh PENISgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 12:24 AM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:36 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:55 AM
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STRATEGYgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:36 AM
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THINGS SCROTES SAYgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:37 AM
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RANTgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:29 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:14 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:49 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:27 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEgothicctemptress/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:11 PM
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-3

You mean "Depp stalled the payment and called some propagandists hoping it would work."
/r/PussyPassDenied03/01/21 03:58 PM
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😂😂 Cool. And to think I used to judge the shit out of malingerers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 02:42 PM
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So do I. What we need is ways of telling earlier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 01:27 PM
6

Please start with my ex. He caused me an electrical injury and bailed instead of taking responsibility for the emergency. Now he wants sympathy because "underlying health conditions" don't make him "less valuable" if his life were lost to covid. Lol that's true, underlying conditions DON'T make anyone less valuable. The reason you're a no value male is because you spent your life wokefishing instead of making a difference, abusing women when you should have either been supportive or minding your…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 01:02 PM
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I think by "strangers" he means "people who might notice I'm abusing my dying wife and hold me accountable."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:48 PM
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This is exactly what I found. Someone who would cheat on you will definitely not want to stick around when you're sick because it isn't fun for them anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:47 PM
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EXACTLY! Illnesses, poverty, adverse life experiences, THOSE are examples of "better or worse". It doesn't mean "however he sees fit to treat you".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:33 PM
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👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:15 PM
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Like I say, she is going to a better place free of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:12 PM
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Needs Barnardo's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:11 PM
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Word!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:10 PM
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Nothing quite like a medical emergency to make you realise you're in an abusive relationship. That's how it happened for me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:54 AM
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BINGO! This is EXACTLY why I left my NVM ex, because I really don't want to stick around waiting to be abandoned when old age or terminal illness catches up with me. He may have a disability, but I'm done looking after anyone who would literally choose never to even try doing the same thing for me during a brief emergency. (One he himself caused no less.) PS Wow, your Dad sounds like the nastiest man in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:52 AM
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Gotta love the e̶x̶c̶u̶s̶e̶s̶ reasons these guys give: literally boil down to "can't be arsed with caregiving/housework" and "feminine duties are beneath me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:46 AM
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Here here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:33 AM
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I hope they disown him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:31 AM
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TBH, if I was married to him, I'd be looking forward to death as an escape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:29 AM
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I've very rarely wanted to vom at a vivid pickmeisha description, but this is definitely one of those occasions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:27 AM
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"fAmILy VaLUes"= female subservience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:26 AM
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Here here! The last thing you want is to wait until old age or terminal illness strikes and find out what extent the rug can be pulled when these men fuck you over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:23 AM
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My God did I have a lucky escape. I didn't want to leave my ex and was absolutely devastated at the time, but now I can see that just because the world gives disabled men a free pass to be abusive doesn't mean I was ever obliged to put up with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:21 AM
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Another day, another fuckboy abandoning a sick wife for the crime of not being in a position to serve him anymore. She'll probably be happier without his abuse in all honesty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:14 AM
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Speaking of which, the ex who was physically violent to me 10+ years ago has been in hospital with Corona for 8 weeks. Looks like there IS some justice after all. These men are doomed by their gluttonous irresponsibility. Meanwhile I'm quitting cigarettes and levelling up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:03 AM
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☝️👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:41 PM
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Because NOTHING in the world is more important than accommodating scrotation, dammit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:09 PM
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👏👏👏👏☝️ This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:06 PM
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That's what someone who sexually assaulted me said once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:04 PM
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Doth protest too much, you're right. That, and the negging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:02 PM
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Can testify. Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 09:57 PM
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So true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 09:56 PM
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"My ex is mentally unstable." "In other words she didn't take the news of your conviction for a child sex offence well then, Ralph?" Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 09:55 PM
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Bit of a reality inversion since in my experience becoming a single mother is a sign to set the bar so high this scrote will be unable to see it. My bar is literally a dot on the horizon to him. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 09:53 PM
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See, this mansplaining attitude makes me cross. Why does he think sex is something we necessarily "give up" to men? Bet he's never heard of the female orgasm either. I continue assessing whether a man is "good enough" long after sex anyway, pal. How dare he imply that sex is the ultimate measure of whether a man is acting right, along with the hidden implication that after he "gets some" the effort can stop without any consequences whatsoever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:58 PM
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Thank you so much for this. God bless you! If only every mistress cared this much about the deceived partner's wellbeing. If we all get together and build trusting relationships with each other, we can stop men diddling us, abusing us and turning us against each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:50 PM
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Hmm. Very good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:07 PM
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The only reason these men want younger women is because they're too naive to reject them in many cases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:05 PM
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Me too. They didn't say it in so many words, but that has also become clear to me. Thank God I'm bisexual. At least I have a chance of ending up with somebody halfway decent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:02 PM
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A scrote who said this to me when we were going out is now in his 30s and dating someone in high school last I heard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:00 PM
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OMG did we date the same guy? It's uncanny!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 12:49 PM
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But men WANT to believe that we "hate" the competition, because how else are they supposed to feel important?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 12:45 PM
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From my point of view, an annual visit to a strip club is beside the point: HE THREW SOMETHING AT HER, and tried bullying her out of her viewpoint. Then took his sulky entitled tantrum to his sister's house to "punish" her. (I'm guessing that she feels RELIEVED by his absence.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 12:43 PM
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It's beautiful! I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 11:04 AM
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Me too! Xxx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:53 PM
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NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. no. That's how to get yourself WOKEFISHED by someone so abusive that he will have you in a looney bin by the time you've been together 2 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:29 PM
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"Prude" is just a word minging men use to get even when we have no interest in fucking them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 06:32 PM
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Me too x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 04:30 PM
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I was wokefished by an ex-incel. Most abusive relationship ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 06:38 PM
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Even in the fantasy of male omnipotence, they got the low hanging fruit. I thought these robots were designed to have no physical flaws, yet it looks gross compared to the flesh and blood woman in the cartoon. If this tells us anything, it's that men are LITERALLY NOT attracted by physical beauty: they're attracted by subservience. They fantasise that shutting themselves away with a robot will show us who is boss and have us begging for their attention 🤣 It's such a cope for awkward nonces. They…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 06:02 PM
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In a sensible world, that would teach him not to rape her, but no: it's an excuse to belittle her some more. Maybe even cheat. Or be violent to "release the tension". I hope she leaves him, but alas, she will be too busy with self doubt to see him for the predatory pervert he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 10:45 PM
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Kind of unfair to the LGBT community, but I get the appeal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 10:46 AM
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And never let them convince you that it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:25 PM
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There has always been porn. But she's right, there are plenty of men who are turned off by it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:17 PM
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Ever heard of Onlyfans? It's a new and improved way for men to cheat by direct communication with sex workers and the cherry on top is the built-in excuse of "it's just a bit of porn."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:15 PM
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IKR. Sounds like my ex when he graduates (although he does pretend to be qualified on social media). Shit! Maybe it's the same guy 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:05 PM
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Okay SO many signs of mental abuse. He's already using DARVO on you AND negging. You really dodged a bullet. Fair play to you for getting out before he wrecks your mental health when it gets worse. Be prepared for postseparation abuse with that type though. I hope you didn't trust him enough to let him get inside your head, because if so, buckle up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:04 PM
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This ☝️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 04:56 PM
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I suspect it may run deeper than that: women who grew up steeped in purity culture are trained to believe their only value is sexual. Therefore, he knows that the emotional abuse of "being repulsed" by the area of her body whose freedom was sacrificed in the name of "being perfect and unspoiled" for him will REALLY screw with her head and make her subservient. I hope it backfires and she cheats on him with like a million dudes who are shitloads better looking and well endowed than he. Then SHE c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 04:55 PM
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Tight fisted git.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:30 AM
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Nah. It's inevitable that you'll be better off without the person who mistreated you, but sometimes real consequences are absolutely necessary. I think my ex has learned not to screw with me now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:36 AM
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I haven't seen the show but from what you're telling me, absolutely. X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 07:51 PM
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Congratulations! So happy for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 09:48 AM
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All I'm saying is, IMO it doesn't make a guy low value if you BOTH want casual sex. It's the ones who manipulate you into a situationship that you want to be careful of. I literally consider that rape by deception.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 09:44 AM
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Me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:18 PM
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Every NVM's dearest fantasy: a woman who can't speak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:13 PM
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A soap dodger who would rather spend the time normally taken for hygiene on gaming, that's who 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:55 PM
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So he's boring as hell to spend time with AND he cheats? You know what, I think I'm onto something. When I think back to all the unfaithful people I've ever known, they're ALWAYS dull people. Overcompensating much? No wonder they show off about it. They see themselves as daring and "sexy". Normal people see them as wretched scrotes with zero moral fibre. (Who in my experience tend to be mega fugly too.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:48 PM
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My MIL refused to acknowledge that there is a problem with leaving wires sticking out of walls even AFTER she collected me from A+E. I dumped him the next day. Because they both refused to acknowledge the danger, I had to warn people of their stupidity (cue malicious public accusations of stalking). Now she's put up a cover photo, something about "don't worry what they say, just shine like Rudolph", well I'm not being funny luv but if you leave those kind of hazards, some poor bugger WILL eventu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:27 AM
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Yuk. I can't imagine bonking a man with such a horrible attitude.😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:17 AM
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Mine was studying the same thing. He tried telling my mum I should be treated for it, even though it was a direct contradiction to a qualified medical opinion. Funny how he thought everything was fine until I called him out on a few things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 08:04 PM
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That's a nice way of saying "codependent", isn't it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:58 PM
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You think that, but I dated the "woke feminist" guy- later discovered in his 20s he had been THAT incel intimidating women at the pub and singing racist songs in a band that had a fucking St George's flag on the drumkit. And yes, he emotionally abused me but I exited when the physical abuse started (accidental-on-purpose electrical injury.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:44 PM
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My God, do we have the same ex???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:41 PM
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This is EXACTLY how Jim Jones got hold of many of his victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:38 PM
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OR it will make us go out and buy vibrators, realising that life is much more pleasant without an overgrown manchild or a nasty mother in law. Plus, for those of us who swing both ways, lack of men doesn't necessarily mean lack of a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:48 PM
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A whole bunch of stuff for going to college because he "didn't have enough money" for stationery. But other than that, a scanner and a leather sterling silver engraved bracelet from John Lewis(about £40 each) on separate consecutive birthdays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:49 PM
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Yup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:04 AM
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Here here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:35 AM
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Fixing hair is nothing to go by necessarily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:34 AM
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The UK royal family is fucked up dude. Charles was probably abusive to Diana. Harry did the right thing getting his wife and kid away from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 10:42 PM
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👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:53 PM
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As someone who also grew up fatherless, it makes me so angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:53 PM
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Better yet, Michelle Obama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:48 PM
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😍 Swoon.😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:02 PM
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Yup. Sometimes I wonder whether the DARVO was caused by persecutory delusions brought on by his meds, but then I thought of all the people I've known who suffer from psychotic disorders and how they're NEVER strategic in exploiting others or controlling what other people do. In fact most of them dare not have any goals at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:23 PM
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You're right, I probably haven't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:01 AM
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YAAAS QUEEN!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:34 PM
1

My ex's idea of the perfect woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:27 PM
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What I said: "Please resolve that hazard before someone else ends up hospitalised or dead." What my fuckboy ex hears: "Pleeeease come backk, I'm just DYING to swap all the improvements I've made in my life for 2 days' Netflix and chill in a death trap per week."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:04 PM
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TBH I suspect she has wised up, and I've never felt more relieved that a person who has basically shat on me will not come to such serious harm. Still, I'm somewhat offended by the attitude she took.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:41 PM
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Lol he told all his friends that HE dumped me in all likelihood. But trying to warn his side chick of the negligence that put me in A+E was apparently "psycho" compared to just letting a horrific accident happen to either her or her kids as if that "punishment" somehow behooves her role. Whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:39 PM
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I'm literally taking a screenshot of this post to remind me that even if his army of chavs DO start on me with the gaslighting again, what I experienced was VALID.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:57 PM
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👏 This 👏 is👏 exactly 👏 what 👏 happened 👏to me 2019 - this year. And the weirdest part is, I still hadn't quite faced up to the abuse for what it was, but that didn't stop me trying to ensure others didn't come to harm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:54 PM
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I'm sometimes fed up with lesbian dating because half the women on there have disgusting attitudes to bisexuals, and when you ask them why, they justify it with MORE biphobia and grossness. Like, if I'm into YOU, then what the fuck makes you think I WANT to be reminded of the dick of Exmas past? And when someone IS interested in me, she's taking it at break neck speed or demanding photos and calling me a "femme psycho" when I refuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:47 AM
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Do a Carrie on him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:15 AM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:11 AM
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Keep the fucks out of the gene pool. Best way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:00 AM
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Or gay. Every guy (with one exception) I've ever been with was happy to do period sex because I was horny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:58 AM
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He sounds abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:55 AM
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OMG yes! I was brainwashed into thinking that by my last boyfriend too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:53 AM
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He sounds rapey. Dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:52 AM
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He probably has the time for workouts because she does everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:32 AM
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Just goes to show for all their blathering about "support" for individual sex workers, they don't consider them human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:48 AM
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I'm 100% certain that all my ex's meathead friends gave him similar advice when I dumped him lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:41 AM
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Because we OWE men our earnings. Haven't you heard? Unless we hand over our paycheck to them to spend as they see fit, we're spoiled entitled bitches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:39 AM
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Nah. In my experience, the guys who are happy to exploit your labour are likely to abuse you later on too. A guy who thinks putting the rubbish out is too much effort is equally likely to think respecting his partner is too much effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:33 AM
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Perfect! I can trace about 90% of the times I stayed when I should have ran back to being fed that line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:30 AM
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Yup. That part sounds utterly manipulative. I had anxiety throughout my adult life until recently when I levelled up and stopped caring what NVM and their pathetic friends say about me. Never in my life have I used it as an excuse for shutting down an important conversation with someone I love (and bear in mind I live with my mother who absolutely LOVES nagging.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:29 AM
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Yup. My ex opened with "You don't really know me but..."- (it turned out that in his 20s he had been the sneering incel frightening female passersby at the rock club dressing like Axl Rose who I avoided like the plague and had reinvented himself so was unrecognisable.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 08:30 PM
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Abuser alert!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 07:42 PM
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YES absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 07:35 PM
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😂😂😂 again, the opposite of reality. Most romcoms are sexist AF. They're always from a male perspective where the "nice guy" is deserving of sex but the woman 10x hotter than him can't see it. Or the classic "you can change a douchebag into a gentleman" tired plot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 07:35 PM
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I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 07:28 PM
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They hate witnessing her levelling up. If I was dating her, I'd applaud and thank my stars for being so lucky. Sadly, most of the women I meet are as bad as the men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 07:27 PM
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Come on, don't take that approach. I suspect this guy is in fact that rare breed of genuine abuse victim mistreated by a female partner, who ISN'T just another abuser trying to blame his victim for a change. So refreshing! No excuse for such extreme racism. It's not like she just put her foot in it here: she's been deliberately offensive to non-white people on a repetitive basis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:52 PM
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I'm bisexual and NEVER IN MY LIFE could I be attracted to someone I knew was a Tory or any other type of fascist. To me, they all look like Boris Johnson. There's a reason Austin Powers said "Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day." Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:49 PM
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Yeah but thirst and trying to put your peen in anything that moves, sO PaSSIonAte.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:36 PM
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Jesus ain't that the truth. They end up soooo butthurt when we attribute the same value to them. Just goes to show that it's never really about sex. (At least for them it isn't.) They are in reality gratified by degrading women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:33 PM
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Just sick. The scary part is, men think this is normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:29 PM
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You can bet your bottom dollar that it was "too fast" for that poor woman when he wanted unprotected sex. It was too fast for me when my ex expected me to accept the title of "girlfriend" within weeks without consulting me first. A year later and it was "too soon" to say he loved me, and after nearly 2 years it was "too soon" to talk about moving in together so that my career wouldn't have to suffer for us to spend any time together. I think it's time for us to face facts: when a man says someth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:20 PM
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My recent ex is a bugger for this. Wants everyone to believe he's a charity case and I'm evil for leaving him (whilst pretending I stalk him no less😂). Too bad fuckwit, maybe try to be less of miserable two-faced couch potato next time a woman shows her interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:12 PM
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If it's an excuse for mistreating you, then it's a lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:57 PM
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OMG no WONDER he hates onlyfans so much: clear evidence that sex workers are better off WITHOUT pimps+ competition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:50 PM
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Do they really? How come I get 4x abusive ones including at least 2 kiddie fiddlers then? TBH don't want to bother finding out anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:45 PM
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Yah. They're happy because they DUMPED the douchebags that were abusing them and found worthy partners instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:40 PM
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IKR he's literally endangering his child. Yet women who have so much as ONE drink or cigarette in the entire 9 months are considered "evil".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:26 PM
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Because THEY often do it as a means of controlling and isolating their perfectly innocent girlfriends. They figure that if they can make US equally bad, we'll feel guilty enough to put up with their crap forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:22 PM
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Yes, I often find that fuglies are more likely to cheat. Must be something to do with proving themselves. JFL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:19 PM
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Also, she should get tested for STDs since they can impact the baby. My heart literally hurts for this woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:18 PM
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Not true. My abuser had a cat that he never shuts up about. Reminds me of Eoin Mclove in Father Ted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:45 PM
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My narcissist ex was jealous of my son. I'll never understand why I put up with him for nearly 2 years of my son's childhood that I will never get back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:44 PM
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Classic cheater line of "yOu'Re VioLATINg mY priVAcy" lol. Also, emotional abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:42 PM
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I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:33 PM
1

I'll tell you what they want: they want us ALL to believe we're not good enough to make us value them more. JFL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:16 PM
1

Can't say I agree. Me and a male friend helped each other get over previous relationships with a bit of sex. It made us both feel better. He's now happily married and I'm very pleased for him. (But I don't speak to him that often because I don't want to bugger up his marriage for him. It's called respect. More men should try it.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:15 PM
2

This 👏👏👏👏👏 But apparently libfems think we should be satisfied with a movement like this because "inTersecTionAlity".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:09 PM
1

OMG so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:01 PM
3

Yup me too. And, the more strong and independent you are, the more they want to convince you the opposite of the reality about yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:48 PM
2

Yup me too. And, the more strong and independent you are, the more they want to convince you the opposite of the reality about yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:47 PM
11

Rapey AF. I've had to distance myself. One demanded to come to my house after midnight (lucky he had the wrong address) and another tried setting up a threesome with his wife. For all I know, he hadn't even asked her if she wanted to. Gross. I blocked him and added his missus after some digging to find out who she was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:44 PM
7

Men's definition of "I love"= "I benefit from/get to use her."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:41 PM
3

True. I noticed that my ex's crowd call the solidarity they get by mutual cooperation in the task of abusing and screwing women over is commonly referred to as "bro code".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:38 PM
9

Here here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:32 PM
1

I think I've figured it out: for decades men have weaponised rejection against us. It used to be a very effective means of keeping us in our place kissing their arses and chasing male approval, especially back when the appraisal of women's value was considered to be in their services to men. But now the script has flipped and men cannot conceive of adjusting. My ex, a so-called male feminist thinks female mental illness is wanting to make a career instead of spending 2 days a week as a bangmaid.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:38 PM
1

I've noticed in the manosphere that "party girls with unusual hair" tend to be the exact women they advise NOT to wife up. Sour grapes? I'm starting to think that the truth is literally the opposite of whatever men say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:32 PM
2

Yes, and when it is clear to me that it's casual, I get along fine with the man afterwards. It's all the deceit I can't stand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:29 PM
3

Or worse: if YOU wanted it to be casual, he stalks you and demands photos. And just when you thought being disinterested in commitment yourself would weed out the controlling purity creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:27 PM
2

This 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:25 PM
2

Oh I have. I'm absolutely convinced that he must be a narcissist at the very least. The smear campaign started before the relationship even ended. I'm glad he's not my child's father, but he was even worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:23 PM
2

No, I'm from the UK. My greatest fear is that he will either work as a screw in the prison service advising other abusive men on how better to harm their victims and get away with it, or as a custody assessor forcing victims to hand over their children to abusers while discrediting them as "crazy". The NHS has some avenues of accountability, but they tend to be ineffective. I know because the hospital where my son was born physically and mentally abused me. I asked the police for a Claire's Law …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:55 PM
1

Nope. Pumping and dumping tends to be rape by deception.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:22 PM
1

Also, I think he might have his work cut out convincing people that a qualified medical worker is wrong and he is right. Do "crazy women" with BPD get civil service jobs in data science? How long can he keep up the pretense? He knows it is now impossible to make me ashamed of anything HE did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:12 PM
1

And you Hun. I'm so sorry that all this happened to you. Not sure what to do next. The police ignored me at the time but a recent report said my local police service was under performing, especially on domestic abuse. Part of me is simply happy to be rid of him, the other part wants to make sure he can't harm other innocent people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:08 PM
2

My point is, OF COURSE men want to punish us for speaking out, by "ignoring" and shaming. But do we really want to live in a world that lets them get away with literally anything? In fact scrub that, we already do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 10:05 PM
2

No, but I do calmly call bullshit. At the end of the day, this is a person whose negligence nearly got me killed, put me in the emergency room, he went around telling everyone I was crazy and even tried to have my mum put me in a looney bin for warning people about his refusal to acknowledge safety and recognise there was a problem with leaving wires sticking out of the wall for years. Someone could have died. He even suggested I had BPD (contrary to the opinion of a real doctor), and the scarie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 10:04 PM
3

But I need to find some way of punishing him. I'm now living with a brain injury FFS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:54 PM
8

This ☝️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 11:24 PM
16

I'm starting to notice a pattern whenever men accuse women of "being jealous/insecure"- either: he wants to convince her that refusing to stay in her lane is pointless since there exists no other world beyond that race to the bottom for his approval, Or he wants to punish you for receiving unsolicited male attention, or he's mega annoyed that something important (like patient safety) been prioritised over his penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 07:17 PM
1

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 07:02 PM
26

One hell of a lot of truth in that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:59 PM
1

This guy messaged you too? Jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:57 PM
2

Also, this man literally has no scientific concept of mate value. Luckily these researchers do: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/237533086_Mate_value_of_romantic_partners_predicts_men's_partner-directed_verbal_insults
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:39 PM
2

I was once so emotionally abused by a LVM that when someone sexually assaulted me, I actually took it as a compliment! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:47 AM
2

Nope. It's more of a red flag if he's in his 30s and trying to fob you off with stories about having a social media or pretending to be single on it when you've been going out for a year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 11:58 PM
2

Thanks for letting me know!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:44 PM
10

Mine had the audacity to tell me about his. That's taking a bit of harmless flirting way too far IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:43 PM
2

AND, IMHO this is why equal healthy relationships are terrifying to men. They are only attracted to women who appear disinterested in them because on some level, they can't get it up unless they believe they're committing rape on some level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:58 PM
6

This was exactly the situation my ex was trying to engineer with me. I was so traumatized by the end of it that I actually assumed them causing me a medical emergency and refusing to take responsibility must have been because of something I did. My demands for an explanation of why I was injured after dumping him because of it got passed off as "stalking", while I got harassed in reality by everyone he knows. They're seriously twisted and evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:34 PM
7

👏👏👏👏👏 This. Key phrase: "PRESENTS himself".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:24 PM
3

Definitely abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:14 PM
3

Nah. Probably a white supremacist wearing blackface with those attitudes. Hey, he said none of us were attractive first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:17 AM
19

Plus, the racism! I mean WTF?? Who in their right mind would want to date someone who had such disgusting beliefs about Black women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:07 AM
15

Yup, it's true: they hate women who are ugly and they hate hot women even more. I've been sexually harassed out of every job I've ever had. Fed up with the unwanted attention. Sick of guys 10+ years younger chasing me. I want to meet someone my own age, and you'd think bisexuality would give me more scope but no. That just means that I have to deal with LVF AND LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:19 AM
6

I had friends like this. Great at projection, blame shifting, entitlement, backstabbing and triangulation. After 20 years of putting up with them, I got them out of my life and finally things started getting better for me. My career has really taken off. My family is happier. Ok maybe my social life isn't what it used to be, but that's down to realising most people are douchebags. At this point I don't miss any of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:06 AM
7

Well said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 09:14 AM
7

I've had a go, and imo it IS the right thing to do, but they will find a way of punishing you for resisting their control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 09:13 AM
10

More often than not, translates as "She eventually realised I have a conviction for a sexual offence against a child."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:46 AM
6

Well done x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 11:43 AM
3

Evil. Narcissist looking for fuel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 10:33 PM
2

Prioritize your career. Don't let anyone sabotage it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 10:26 PM
7

Looks like there is a God after all. Could it be retribution for the women's nerves he's been getting on all his life? Your life sounds like the plot for a black comedy. Write an hilarious book about it. You could be sitting on a goldmine. Plus, it would have an important message for women that there is no excuse for abuse no matter what state of health or misfortunes her abuser has. It will let victims know that we're not horrible just because we noticed the abuse and the perpetrator has a disa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 10:11 PM
7

Please tell me it started in his dick or ball bag and that's what he lost first. Guess all those years of gifting his knob rot to all the victims he raped must have finally paid off.😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:55 PM
10

Thank you for introducing me to a genuinely pleasant new experience: being glad about someone dying of cancer. Couldn't have happened to a nicer fellow 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:27 PM
5

The doozy about a "mentally unstable ex" is the convicted pedophile's battle cry in my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:22 PM
2

IKR! How fucked up is that??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:19 PM
13

My abusive ex was disabled too. This is why he got away with it. No wonder Bill Cosby and Harvey Weinstein gave that tack a whirl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:05 PM
6

And this is why I love being a single mum, hate being in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:02 PM
3

In other words "Other guys are better at pretending to have moral fibre than I am. Why do women want to date them instead??"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:53 PM
2

Absolutely: the jealousy comes from watching other manipulators succeed where they failed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:51 PM
2

I absolutely LOVE Dr Romani! Did you by any chance date my ex and talk to his friends? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:42 PM
16

If I had even just one ex who wasn't either a NVM or pervert, then I would have said "no", but I'm starting to think it is. I'm starting to suspect that every woman in the world who thinks she's in a healthy relationship with a man simply hasn't faced reality yet. https://www.yourtango.com/experts/judith_tutin/5-ways-spot-when-narcissist-ues-darvo-make-himself-the-victim-in-relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:12 PM
1

Research definitely not conducted by a bunch of incels.... https://www.psypost.org/2020/12/dark-personality-traits-predict-womens-propensity-to-go-on-deceptive-foodie-calls-for-a-free-meal-58741/amp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:31 PM
12

This is exactly what I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 09:23 PM
1

Aw! How adorkable that he murdered his missus (!???)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 09:07 PM
2

Then again, sometimes a revenge fantasy is good for the soul of a survivor in my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:48 AM
2

I cried after just reading about it. No way could I watch it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:46 AM
1

And even if you DO reciprocate, because that "insta-connection" is a sign that he's been sniffing out clues about your life to help him brainwash you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:15 AM
1

Are you sure our exes are not the same person? It's uncanny! Xxxx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:10 AM
6

Nope. Not my fault that men have previously managed to rob me of my self worth. It's called abuse? Secondly nope. It's not my responsibility to "suck it up" and make men or their cronies comfortable with abusing me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:11 AM
10

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 09:22 PM
25

Nope. It just gives them the green light to treat you however they want because they think you won't know any better. Opening up to a man is always a mistake because it gives him more weapons to abuse you with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:55 PM
1

Not necessarily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:44 PM
5

Rape. Extremely dangerous abusive relationship. Get away quick before he starts noncing up any kids resulting from your union.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:38 PM
65

Yup. Sounds a right perv.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:32 PM
37

Yup, this happened to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:42 AM
5

Absolutely! In fact I want to take this opportunity to say how grateful I am for all the gorgeous ladies on here for supporting me to live my best life. I just hope I can do the same. Xxx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 11:06 PM
4

Me included. I've done everything I can to install good values. However, I'm up against the social misogyny of Western Civilization as a whole. Whenever I impose rules and consequences for mistreating others, I'm said to be mean because "he's a boy". But I refuse to cave to this pressure because I have suffered enough due to others' ineptitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 07:03 PM
6

Yup, this sometimes happens in my family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:59 PM
6

Ah! So no area of his life whatsoever went untouched by his entitlement and lack of conscientiousness. Sounds like a narcissist tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:58 PM
9

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:49 PM
9

Me neither.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:58 PM
3

Another male lie, where the consequences of believing it cause such immense suffering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:28 PM
3

Same here. X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 12:36 AM
11

I've noticed that most people I have ever known to constantly cheat on their partners all have potato faces and look like the back of a dump truck. Overcompensating much? https://youtu.be/o8lm_5RWDLY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:04 AM
8

OMG this is exactly what happened to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:01 AM
7

Yup. I can attest to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:00 AM
2

Yes but, have you forgotten that men are owed sex, domestic and reproductive services? If you don't give it to them NOW, then you're a horrid person! Lol xxx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 10:55 AM
6

Without, thankfully. X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 11:19 AM
4

Yeah and usually I feel sorry for gold-diggers because 1) they are often naive since they may assume generosity that just isn't there or worse someone who uses money to control others, 2) most of them must have been through something horrendous to seek money over love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 11:18 AM
3

Here here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 11:04 AM
4

PS those are usually the first to complain about "being used" when the woman doesn't reciprocate his interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 11:04 AM
6

I avoid guys who try and impress me by flashing cash. They seem misogynistic and shallow to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 11:03 AM
9

Exactly! My ex used to make me pay for everything when other people weren't looking and thus force me to borrow a tenner from him when other people were around. Just to create that impression on others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:58 AM
10

Bingo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:55 AM
13

Yup. I did this, which is why I got married at a young age. Bizarrely, people saw it as some kind of achievement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:54 AM
8

Not necessarily. Being oppressed and manipulated can make you very angry. It's not an excuse for victim-blaming no matter how the victim reacts. GTFO with that iTsnOTwhatIDidit'SyOUrreACTIon crap. It goes against everything this group stands for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:52 AM
5

So did my mum. She's so cool!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 11:17 AM
4

Here here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 11:14 AM
14

This is why I try to encourage HV traits in my son. He's only 6 but he has a lot more female friends than his peers because I've taught him to see girls as his equals. X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 11:11 AM
1

How I sleep knowing my child is free of the mind fuckery most partners bring me. X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 11:10 AM
24

Me too 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 11:37 AM
7

Hell yeah!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 10:49 AM
8

Yup, so does mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 10:47 AM
5

YAAAY!👏👏👏👏👏😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 08:09 AM
3

The audacity! And this scrote is making "How dare you stop me pushing your sister down the stairs!" The hill he wants to die on. More appalling still is that even after her truth was assessed in a court of law, scrotes STILL harass the fuck out of her and demand SHE, THE VICTIM be imprisoned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 10:30 PM
3

What do you mean "fails"? Look at Amber Heard. DARVO definitely worked on the general public, and even though she has proved in court what happened, people are still harassing and abusing her on Depp's behalf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 08:29 PM
2

BUT: don't be fooled into thinking that decent presents = HVM. My violent ex husband got great gifts that were relevant to my hobbies. Nobody has bought gifts like that or wrote songs about me since.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 10:40 AM
2

That's not what I found when I was on them. 4x survivor of abuse, and every time I swore I'd never accept it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 10:35 AM
6

Some of her songs are empowering and enjoyable though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 10:07 AM
11

Better a guy into rap than an emosogynist. Those guys like to fap to the most violent abusive porn possible using "heartbreak" as an excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 10:06 AM
16

What about Thank U Next? TBH I never even heard of her until that bombing at the Arena in my Town.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 10:05 AM
11

I love Whitney Houston but I Have Nothing is a bit on the pick-me side. But I still love the song because I've been there. It really speaks to my experience. In a way that not even my favourite goth bands do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 10:02 AM
3

How can I be English and never have watched an episode of it? 😂 Ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:59 AM
4

Here here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:58 AM
8

So true. My most recent NV ex said I was out of his league. I thought it was lack of confidence, which I too have suffered from. However it's usually just more bullshit to manipulate you into bigging him up and ignoring your own needs. It's sort of brainwashing in a way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:48 AM
3

Be careful. That looks like lovebombing to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:43 AM
38

OMG yes!!! So true. I can't believe more women haven't figured this out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:40 AM
22

Yup. I remember that one too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:37 AM
30

Nope. They don't change their minds: it's active deception. For example, my ex said my boobs sag and I need to lose weight, but the side chick was HUGE and her boobs look like they've been ironed down. Also, an aspect of him grooming me was the "anti-gamergater" BS, so naturally I thought "Wow, this man will NEVER organise a harassment campaign against me."-which he did since before I even dumped him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:33 AM
11

As a bisexual, I can tell you there is no excuse for cheating. Oooh I hate him! Not just because of what the slimeball did to you, but because he's feeding into the usual bigotry and hate that results in more abuse for bisexuals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:27 AM
9

Beware of antidepressants: I have found that I am far easier to manipulate when I'm on them and every single one of my abusive exes wanted me on them. https://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/antidepressants-can-alter-peoples-moral-judgement#:~:text=The%20most%20common%20type%20of,Sciences%20(PNAS)%20has%20found
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:24 AM
0

I wish there was somebody in my life like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:06 AM
8

In theory that's good: in practice it can give them more excuses for DARVO I expect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 12:00 AM
1

As in meet FDS women IRL? How would I do that? Is it even safe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:58 PM
18

Okay but all I'm saying is, when a male partner does it to you, it's not a good thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:30 PM
2

Got no idea. Neither have I. X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:29 PM
5

If only. Finally there thanks to FDS. X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 08:20 PM
3

Some of them even like "fiesty" women because they're easier to use DARVO on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 08:19 PM
8

Not really no. A lot of narcissists are attracted to strong independent women because they fantasize about breaking her down. Enough with the victim-blaming already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 08:15 PM
9

Dr Ramani is much more knowledgeable about the disordered behaviour of narcissists, of course. I frequently watch her videos. Whereas this guy may not have any clinical expertise, but I find them very healing and therapeutic to me as a survivor. It's like Dr Romani helps you understand THEM, satisfying all the unanswered questions, whereas narc survivor brings the focus back onto YOU by helping you perversely use the bricks of abuse that they chucked at you to rebuild yourself. Does that make se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 04:10 PM
2

In fact, maybe they love it so much BECAUSE it is seen as justification for mistreatment of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:17 PM
2

Oh HOW I wish I'd blocked immediately at my breaking point and never looked back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 12:32 PM
3

Or maybe it won't since in my case he surrounds himself with other delusional narcissists, neanderthal fuckboys and pick-mes. And he expects me to be impressed by this "social proof". Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 12:31 PM
2

So disgusting isn't it? They consume the product, and use it as an excuse for the impact on women as a whole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:34 AM
1

They want mothers not partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:33 AM
1

Exactly. The sense of entitlement that cheating Pickmeishas have in this article is staggering. Can't believe that she hates his wife and not him. What an airhead!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:45 AM
2

Fuck being a mistress. It supports the patriarchy at women and children's expense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:35 AM
1

I apologised to my ex after I'd been electrocuted at his house and had his mother verbally abuse me for the second time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:34 AM
1

Upsetting you knowingly= doing it on purpose= abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:33 AM
1

Exactly what happened to me. And as you've rightly pointed out, leaving cannot stop the onslaught of psychological abuse. X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:32 AM
1

Exactly! And I can relate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:30 AM
1

Are you sure this guy isn't MY ex repackaged? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:27 AM
2

I cook for my mother and my son, so if my ex got any it was by default. Still most likely an excuse for him to devalue me and adopt the grandiose delusion that I was trying to get my "ring". Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:26 AM
2

The sad thing was, I was surrounded by people who either didn't believe me even AFTER I took photos of the hospital paperwork, or gaslighted me into thinking I was "too demanding/dramatic" and was even accused of having BPD for wanting safety. The scary thing is, they're trainee psychologists. Can you imagine how many people's lives they will destroy in their jobs? They might even use false imprisonment on anyone who inconveniences them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:24 AM
2

I get electrocuted due to PROTRUDING WIRES in his house. NV ex and pick-me side chick: "You're sooo oversensitive, pathetic and needy expecting him to take responsibility for the emergency in any way." 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:22 AM
2

Time for some Sisters of Mercy "Lucretia my reflection". Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:20 AM
1

My NVM ex once told me (with no prompting) that he wants me to fuck him when HE'S asleep. But I didn't fall into the trap of saying "oh honey, it's okay for you to rape me while I sleep". He claims a former FWB raped him, but now I'm starting to think it was the other way round. Not the first time I've dated someone who turned out to be a sex offender either. I know it what I see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:18 AM
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Not only that, she should get even with him. When a man endangers your life, that shit has to be paid for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:15 AM
1

Well good. Because at the end of the day, it's not infidelity it's SEXUAL ASSAULT. Everyone I've dated who conflated the 2 instead of protecting me went on to be convicted of sexual offences themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:14 AM
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👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 thankyou. I'm so glad I found this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:06 AM
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OMG thankyou for solving the mystery of WHY my ex did this shit in my last relationship. He's a sick pervert! No wonder I never got an explanation. What's grossest of all is that I've seen photos where he gazes at his 5 year old niece in the same way he looked at me.... creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:05 AM
1

What happened when my NV ex electrocuted me, to a tee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:02 AM
2

This is exactly what happened about my accident when I tried warning the side chick. She's got kids FFS! Still, you can lead a horse to water, but if said horse would rather prioritise dick over her children's safety, nothing you can do. X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:01 AM
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It's normal for a person to not know. That's how abuse works. I didn't realize my last relationship was abusive until months after the breakup, and I didn't even know that I was THE VICTIM until I had therapy a year later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:59 AM
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There is a certain type of scrote who endangers women on purpose and enjoys their "crazy" reaction following it. My NVM ex left a light switch hanging off a wall for 2 years until the day I was rushed to hospital in an ambulance due to the shock. I dumped him after this, and he seemed completely unfazed since he still had the woman who had been his side chick. They both continued to mentally abuse me for years after the breakup. So glad I'm not attracted to him anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:57 AM
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Unfortunately, my son's father is a NVM and my son will pay the price for that. I wanted children and I've always been honest about that, so I still have no regrets. But the man you've described will make a terrible father.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 08:54 AM
2

A laundromat? What a story for your grandkids! And they say romance is dead....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:55 PM
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Being tested and found negative for whatever mental health diagnosis my ex believes would excuse his actions? Check.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:54 PM
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We're a threat to her ego, ie her psychological survival. Not safe to be angry with a porn-crazed abuser after all. X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:52 PM
1

Probably turbo-capitalist too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:50 PM
1

"B-b-b- but without my porno fix, you're VICTIMISING muh peeeen! You evil succubus." 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:48 PM
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I'm glad too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:42 PM
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Scrotes and pick-mes love to conflate the two so that they can maintain their delusions of grandeur.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:35 PM
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Or all the women and children who were trafficked and raped for "their" viewing pleasure.🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:25 PM
6

Also, how she claims it's "wrong" to expect a partner to prefer you over porn. Bitch, please! 🤣 Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:23 PM
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IKR "healthy sexuality" = worshipping porn. JFL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:22 PM
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My God, when you put it like that I hate her even more. There is only ever one time in my life that I have wished the type of life threatening abuse on someone that the "rough sex" defence necessitates, and I think this is it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:20 PM
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TY, it's NOT about sex anymore: it's about teaching men to enjoy female commodification, debasement and suffering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:17 PM
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Method of emotional abuse: gaslighting and devaluing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:15 PM
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Is her name by any chance Michaela? Sounds like the pick-me who cheated with my ex and is now "soooo loved up" on social media with him. (Like healthy relationships are ever THAT performative.🤣) Another DARVO giant red flag: in this example: his views on porn (but for that matter ANY practice the modern world has to offer which is exploitative of or demeaning towards women.) I.e. when you seem unconvinced by the industry's recent wokewashing fails, he yells "I ONLY WATCH IT WHEN I'M SINGLE!!!!" …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:12 PM
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And sometimes it's absolutely necessary to stop your abuser from literally killing you. Still, no matter how much they use your reactions as an excuse, I have no regrets since I SURVIVED. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:48 PM
1

Well, if said person has CAUSED ME TO HAVE A MEDICAL EMERGENCY, then I think you'll find they bloody well ARE. None intended, but my ex used to gaslight me about the electric shock that caused me nearly fit and go into cardiac arrest. Hospital, ambulance, the lot. I was lucky they didn't keep me in overnight, but he should have stayed with me to make sure I didn't die that night. But the accident had me so dazed that standing up for my needs in that situation was impossible. I dumped him 2 days …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:44 PM
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Thankyou so much. You've really helped me get everything in perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:27 PM
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Truly heartbreaking to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:23 PM
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Negligent AF. Why oh WHY do these asshats feel entitled to cause women MEDICAL EMERGENCIES and then bail?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:21 PM
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OMG YES! So true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:09 PM
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Even my libfem ex tried convincing me that he could be talked out of it. Why in the world is it my job? These guys aren't after lovers, they're after a replacement mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:04 PM
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IKR, it's not THE CONVERSATION but THE DOUCHE who is eroding her confidence in her own judgement and taking away her agency. So much rationalisation. It's truly a heartbreaking thing to see from a fellow feminist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:00 PM
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Yeah. Been there. It's all a performance for your benefit to make you think his abuse is connected to who you are as a person and definitely NOT about him since "oh look how much better I'm treating the new sucker!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:37 PM
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So are you! Thanks. So kind of you. X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:36 PM
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It's true, they can even groom your own family to turn them against you. But please be assured, your victimisation is no less valid for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:29 PM
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Yup. My abuser AND the new victim are psychology students too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:26 PM
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He got away with it, so probably not. This is exactly what happened to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:25 PM
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Exactly the same thing happened to me, except that there WAS no apology, no begging and just more gaslighting as a CYA. How did you do that? TBF perhaps NOT getting the apology is helpful to me because it galvanized my decision to never come back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:24 PM
2

*any more than twice or less than once I mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 10:58 AM
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Twice a day is fine. Any more or less than that, and you're most likely dealing with an abuser. Whether it's the type who like monopolising a woman's time with stalking/lovebombing or using intermittent reinforcement to create a trauma bond and make her chase him is irrelevant because they're both methods of reaching the same goal, which is controlling her to the point where her needs and interests don't get a look-in since she's too busy serving his.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 10:54 AM
1

Men who feel this way often won't be honest about it. They'd rather groom women into thinking they'd make a great role model, only to marginalise your child because muh peen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:26 AM
1

Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:05 AM
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If they aren't the parent, that's even worse. I'd go apeshit if my uncle used my son for his Grindr profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:04 AM
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I've actually GOT a kid, but that degree of stupidity/selfishness in using the child's image to meet strangers on the internet is a GIANT RED FLAG.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:02 AM
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However, beware of narcissists. These are men who definitely hold others accountable, they just don't believe in accountability for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:54 AM
5

Yup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:44 AM
1

Hmm. That's fair enough. I was going to do something a little sexy but not a nude, however when I mentioned I don't do long distance relationships, she went berserk so I had to block anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:44 AM
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Yup. Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:08 PM
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Here here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:06 PM
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My Dad wasn't around for my childhood and I'm far from broken. The dearth of good men meant I also had to settle for someone I didn't end up wanting in my child's life long term or miss out on motherhood altogether, and I'm satisfied with the decision I made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:05 PM
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Let's do it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:02 PM
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I had friends from early childhood until now, when it was decided that I would be victimised for refusing to be a pick-me. You're not alone. Sending hugs! Xxx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:38 PM
2

Not to mention: sexual harassment, grooming and power imbalances. Yikes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:34 PM
2

I tried to warn the pick-me side chick about danger to her health and immediate safety. Guess what happened? She harassed me on twitter for roughly a year. It seems to escape her notice that I dumped the douchebag. She's welcome to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:30 PM
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Sex work IS influencing men to objectify women more, but let's be real here: the fact so many are raped and murdered is a more pressing issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:25 PM
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Society doesn't need the industry, but the women working in it need more protection. They are the most vulnerable in society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:23 PM
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JFL in a world where sex workers are constantly raped and even murdered, men STILL want to make it women's fault that sex workers aren't "considered people" by them. Most appallingly of all, supporting unionisation, safety and workers'rights for the industry is labelled "hypocrisy" unless we allow ourselves to be forced into consuming the product with them. Yeah yeah, I know that throwing sex workers under a bus might "win" a medium value male (since HVM are not attracted to such behaviour), but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:16 PM
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My ex is convinced I still want him, but he literally has clumps of it sticking out of his ears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:05 PM
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Who GAF about "technically"? Even the Prime Minister wouldn't be "too busy" for a 30 second text. And yes, it IS gaslighting. Lundy Bancroft says that a man who denies your right to object to unfair treatment is by definition abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 12:02 PM
1

I live in a gorgeous detached house with my mother in a leafy sought after suburb of Greater Manchester. There's no mortgage because it was my grandparents' house when they were alive. I get instant babysitting and help to raise my son. Plus more time for my career as a result. Yet LV/NV blokes think I'm breaking my neck to get a ring out of them so that I can spend the rest of my life washing their smelly gruds and socks. Or to give him half if he becomes such a massive twatwaffle that I need a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:31 AM
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It sounds like he has used intermittent reinforcement on you. It's very tough to break because addiction is actually a stronger binder than even love itself. Maybe it will help to remember that these compelling feelings are distinct from love. If you look back in the messages, you may see tactics he has used to try and make you dependent on him for validation. These include negging, gaslighting, insisting that insecurities from your past are still a thing and brainwashing in general. And that's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:20 AM
3

Me too. Every guy who put me on a pedestal at the beginning turned out abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:00 AM
2

I think she really did PLAN to go back to work. Who wouldn't if your partner was earning less than you? But then the reality of parenthood kicked in and she realised she can't do everything at this stage in the baby's life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 07:55 AM
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Neither did my violent alcoholic husband a decade ago. But that was mostly because he needed a gravy train of booze.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 07:53 AM
2

Sadly, 8 years ago I knew men were so shit that I had to settle for broke AND worse or lose my chance to have a child at all. He is such a scrote that he doesn't even see him anymore, but I have no regrets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 07:49 AM
2

And this is why both men in feminine coded jobs AND men making less money than their wives pose a much higher abuse risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 07:46 AM
1

They LITERALLY believe that keeping them entertained is a woman's job. Just fucking lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 10:33 PM
1

You never know, the egregious behaviour may have been a means of getting a rise out of you. If there's one thing Lundy Bancroft taught me, it's that abusers think managing to annoy women makes them super alpha, studly and in control. Barf Google "psychology of dick pics" if you're in doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 10:31 PM
2

Reminds me of a time when my ex who considers "gamer" a core part of his identity was super butthurt that I was better at old school Sonic than him. Lol. Don't worry my dude, plenty of other ones you can beat me at since I am quite out of practice having spent most of my adult life on more productive activities instead.😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 10:28 PM
1

Ugh! The side chick before I dumped my ex is exactly this category of Pickmeisha. Bangs on incessantly about sports. On twitter she constantly bullies other women who had their false convictions quashed following miscarriages of Justice. (Odd how she never tries bullying men in similar situations.) I can't believe I ever bought into the lie that she was better or more attractive than me. She makes Regina George look like Princess Diana.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 10:23 PM
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Hey, they even do that with women who ARE more intelligent than them. ESPECIALLY if they are. One time my ex berated me in front of a crowded chip shop for "knowing nothing about current affairs" when I couldn't remember the name of some porn star Trump had put his penis into. After the shock wore off, I pointed out that politicians' sex lives are a relatively trivial issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:54 PM
5

My ex BEFORE he found out I had a higher IQ than him: "YTA BDSM neckbeard dom for being crestfallen after finding out your sub women have higher IQs than you, you piece of misogynistic shit!!!" My ex AFTER discovering my IQ is higher: "IQ IS BULLSHIT. IT'S RACIST TO HAVE A HIGH IQ because a racist person once tried to make IQ about that or whatever. I'm a PSYCHOLOGIST, so how DARE anyone disagree." 😂 Erm, I happen to know SHITLOADS of Black and Brown people who found it a piece of cake to beat y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:50 PM
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Musically, that's the equivalent of being into War and Peace, Shakespeare and Twilight... https://flowingdata.com/2009/04/03/music-that-makes-you-dumb/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:43 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:41 PM
1

👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:40 PM
1

💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:39 PM
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Not her finest hour I'll grant you. Neither was the time she said that a woman's sexiness comes from reproductive abilities. She probably should have considered the implications for infertile women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:39 PM
1

Shouldn't MOST rock stars be somewhat enigmatic? Jim Morrison would never have been The Lizard King if he live tweeted his dumps and what he had for breakfast. Same applies to Ziggy Stardust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:37 PM
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Whereas John Lennon was actually dyslexic (not to mention abusive) and people still think the sun shone out of his arse. Beyonce's Dad sounds like the first neg- merchant git to destroy her confidence, making her easy prey for the likes of Jay Z. Ever noticed how Survivor by Destiny's Child basically advocates swallowing your pain and anger at a scrote's audacity instead of calling him out "on the internet" because women who remove themselves from the situation WITHOUT imposing any real conseque…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:24 PM
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That's just it though: the ones who committed the mass murders were actually better looking THAN MOST GUYS. THEY DON'T EVEN HAVE THAT EXCUSE for women having more sense than to be interested in them!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:32 PM
1

OMG yes! My ex is also white, but I think his covert racist views are why he's so obsessed with Japanese porn. X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:30 PM
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Hookup culture is just rape culture with good PR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:24 PM
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👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:22 PM
1

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:21 PM
2

My ex called me "jealous" because I objected to being given venereal diseases and being bailed on after he caused an additional medical emergency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:02 PM
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👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:49 PM
2

Yup. This dating requirement list (plus your aforementioned) is basically my ex IF he told the truth about himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 02:13 PM
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IKR depraved!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 02:10 PM
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They seek out these women because breaking her down is some kind of fetish to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 01:56 PM
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👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 01:45 PM
1

Then again, do you know WHY playing hard to get, instead of being equal and having mutual interest is the ONLY way to be appealing to the vast majority? You could be Halle Berry, Dita Von Teese or Margot Robbie, and as soon as you reciprocated his interest, he's suddenly repulsed? It's because deep down, the vast majority of them want to believe their target is unconsenting. In other words, the vast majority of them are turned off by anything that doesn't involve some degree of stalking and/or r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 01:43 PM
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👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 01:34 PM
1

Male entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 01:30 PM
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I always meet women who either demand photos or hate bisexuals lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:18 AM
2

Omg this is EXACTLY what happened to me. Solidarity! Xxx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 02:33 AM
2

But that IS my idea of a good time. FFS. Does this mean that males have collectively decided to punish me for being a stoner? Jesus H Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 02:30 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 02:22 AM
1

👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 02:07 AM
1

Join the club. X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 02:07 AM
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TY, very helpful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 02:00 AM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 05:30 PM
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