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Usually these alcoholic/drug addict girls also have some other unpleasant personality disorder like BPD. They can be exciting for one time sex, but you don't make a gf or LTR out of them. It's the biggest red flag there is.
/r/askMRP08/09/20 08:48 PM
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OYS 1-8-20 STATS -- age 61, checked-out marriage of 29 yrs, 2 plates, 2 kids in school, weight 70, BF 20, daily workout , BJJ 2x OVERALL – reviewing 2019 and planning 2020 LIFT – I made huge progress in '19 on cutting weight with fasting, still a ways to go but a system is in place and I keep grinding away at it. I am adding one private lesson per month to BJJ with a clear goal in mind, and have increased the sets in my daily lifting workout. STFU – I started re-reading NMMNG. Still a nice guy, …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 07:08 AM
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Here's the thing about AA (37 years sober). It gives you a structure with a time and schedule and framework for dealing with alcoholism. You show up and keep grinding away at it, because the problem never goes away. You may not like the people or agree with the shit they say or the stuff written in the AA literature. But it doesn't really matter. Just setting aside some time on a regular basis to focus on the alcoholism is more than half the battle.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/20 10:25 PM
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brevity: soul-wit
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/19 05:29 AM
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OYS 12-19-19 STATS -- age 61, checked-out marriage of 29 yrs, 3 plates, 2 kids in school, weight 70, BF 20, daily workout , BJJ 2x, fasting regularly OVERALL – keeping focus on cutting weight and finishing out goals for year, reviewing and planning 2020 LIFT – Year end BJJ promotion ceremony, I got one more stripe on the white belt, not much in comparison to some of the other guys who are passing me by, but at my pace it’s fantastic. I was so fucking happy to get that stripe, I worked really har…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 12:43 AM
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OYS 12-12-19 STATS -- age 61, checked-out marriage of 29 yrs, 2 plates, 2 kids in school, weight 70, BF 20, daily workout , BJJ 2x OVERALL – keeping focus on cutting weight and finishing out goals for year LIFT – Recovering from same old back injury, will start sparring again this week; turned 61 and got checkup results from doctor, who said my lab panels were “perfect”. I have been monitoring results with the same doctor for the past 10 years, since I started self-improvement, and one can see a…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 03:29 AM
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Thanks for comment. Can see 4 pack. Want to see all. At 145 pounds I would have a fight club body and that's the ideal for me. That's what I want to work toward.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/19 12:41 AM
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We have all had a lifetime of conditioning by the Female Social Matrix, starting at home and then in grade school, to avoid seeming creep or invasive. Or aggressive. For instance the idea that "no means no." No only means no for the guys who are unable or unwilling to see that there is a "no that means no" and a "no that means yes" and develop the ability to distinguish between the two.
/r/seduction22/11/19 11:59 PM
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Alcohol is not the problem here, alcoholism is. Very bad odds.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 08:50 PM
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Alcohol. That's the keyword in your post. Actually the problem is alcoholism. You can lift to your heart's content and do all the other sidebar stuff but until you get a grip on the alcoholism it will avail you nothing. It's the baseline problem for many guys in MRP.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 06:46 AM
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Take MRP one thing at a time. Break it down. Weight loss via Snake Diet is the one thing on the list that will get you immediate and dramatic results, so if you start there you can build up your momentum to attack the other things.
/r/askMRP12/11/19 09:59 PM
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I was exactly where you are at age 52. I took some action, which was starting the search for a girlfriend. That motivated me to start losing weight. The easiest thing on your laundry list is to start weightloss. A lot of us swear by Snake Diet, so I suggest going to his Youtube channel and watching the obligatory 10 hours. If he can't motivate you nobody can.
/r/askMRP11/11/19 01:10 AM
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Start your research here. There is a good podcast, a book, and also a good forum: https://attractionjapan.com/
/r/seduction09/11/19 11:51 PM
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After NMMNG read The Chimp Paradox. You're giving the Chimp in you free reign when he should be in a cage in the back. Feelz. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AjqWPUd0mtc
/r/askMRP09/11/19 11:41 PM
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This Great summary of MRP.
/r/askMRP09/11/19 11:00 PM
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> But in womanspeak: no doesn't mean no, and doesn't mean yes. It's Powertalk: " Not only does no not always mean no, "No means no" doesn't mean "no means no". It doesn't mean "All men must ask permission before mating". "No mean no" means "If you can't both discern the difference between no that means no, and no that means yes, AND you can't discern that 'no means no' doesn't apply to everyone, then we want YOU to be in the group of men that asks permission before mating. Because your lack of p…
/r/askMRP05/11/19 12:31 AM
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Tip for ya I picked up from Gordon Ramsay, take your soft tortillas and blacken em some on the gas range, right over the burner.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/19 09:06 AM
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​ I was 15% BF and you could still see my six pack flexed and 4 abs I flexed. It’s because I fucking squat 4 plates and deadlift 5. My core is fucking thick and solid. I'm 5'6 medium frame and I think 8% bf for me would probably be 55 to 57 kilos. Anyway, the goal is to get this last abdominal fat off by the end of the year. Very happy to be making progress after failing for the last eight years. I am following the guidance on diet and training from Snake Diet, by the book.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/19 02:12 AM
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Thanks for the thoughtful comment. Here are my goals: Get rid of that damned toxic abdominal fat for anti-aging Build a physique similar to my BJJ sensei's, who's a couple inches taller, has good abs, and a couple more inches on the biceps. Fight Club build. Immensely strong at 67 kilos. I figure probably puts me at 65 kilos or less, optimal. My current regime has me eating 800 calories on one meal or less per day. I think this week the average was even less, with the hard dry fast. Once I get t…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/19 12:02 AM
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Now let's see a good recipe for fish tacos!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 11:46 PM
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Actually, I love your recipe for with the potatoes, corn, and cocoa flavored beef. Have shared it with all my friends.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 12:14 AM
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I gotta admit, I have been behaving like a sperg with her. I should STFU my political views around the womenfolk. What the hell kind of idiot talks politics with a woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 10:16 PM
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I wrestled 138 in high school, could never make weight at 132. But looking back on that time, when I was in the best shape in my life, I still didn't have abs. I suppose I was somewhere between 13 and 15% bf then. 132 is right at 60 kilos. I am seeing the fat come out of other places of my body but not that area around my hips, which is the place where I need to eliminate it. Gotta keep going. Snake Diet guy says fast yourself right down to the bone then build back with muscle doing OMAD and 3 h…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 10:11 PM
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OYS 10-31-19 STATS -- age 60, checked-out marriage of 29 yrs, 1 plate, 2 kids in school, weight 66, BF 19, workout every day, BJJ 2x OVERALL – keeping the focus on cutting weight and turning a profit from my business LIFT – did a 60-hour dry fast, weigh cut further, went very well. It's unbelievable that at 66 kilos I still have some fat on my stomach. I want to get that all off. I have switched to an anti-aging lifting routine following Art Devany. I want to look like that when I am 74. 10 to 1…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 12:39 AM
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OYS 10-10-19 ​ STATS -- age 60, checked-out marriage of 29 yrs, 1 plate, 2 kids in school, weight 68, BF 19 workout every other day, BJJ 2x ​ OVERALL – my focus is narrowed to two projects for Q4, cutting weight and turning a profit from my side business ​ LIFT – another 2-day dry fast, weigh cut further. I started a slightly harder lifting routine. I have to fight hard resistance to lifting, as I want to slack off at every chance. I am braindead when it comes to lifting in that I totally shut d…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/19 01:07 AM
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My goals checklist (part of weekly review): [ ] Regular planning time [ ] Inventory of character defects and also values [ ] Reasonable, actionable goals in a cascade [ ] Find role models and stay close to them [ ] Build support groups [ ] Set up Program and keep getting back on track [ ] Review and grade results [ ] Post online [ ] Set smaller goals [ ] Set shorter time periods [ ] Avoid identity-based goals [ ] Emphasize action/behavior based goals [ ] Focus on making progress in meaningful wo…
/r/askMRP07/10/19 03:52 AM
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I should modify that to "If you don’t lift or do martial arts" and add it to my Code. The most jacked dude I know is somebody from the meeting, started lifting after he got sober. Was chatting him up after the meeting the other day and he gave me some real good tips on kettlebells. Actuallly, he's where I got the idea to focus on kettlebells. We started talking kettlebells and another guy comes up and pretty soon we have a little sub group of lifters.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/19 12:09 AM
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Thanks for the comment. No, they are still teenagers and by American standards they don't look fat. But not by Japanese standards. Over the summer I got a good chance to spend time with the older daughter and spell out my thinking on all this business about fat. Unfortunately both daughters were being programmed hard core by my wife with fat acceptance and that sugary foods are a basic human right, "Fat is okay, and there are no good men anyway, but if you find one he should love you even if you…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 04:46 AM
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OYS 2019-10-02 STATS -- age 60, checked-out marriage of 29 yrs, 1 plate, 2 kids in school, weight 69, BF 19 workout every other day, BJJ 2x OVERALL – Major breakthrough on the 1000 ft rope this week and on kids' education SYSTEM – finished my reviews for the month and quarter and have a good, simple plan for finishing off 2019 very strong: one fucking thing at a time. LIFT – first dry fast last ever last week went well. If I were off caffeine it would have been a lot easier. The two day dry fast…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 03:25 AM
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Basically be an anchorite. You could do it up in the mountains too. SNIP: The Rules: * No electronics * No reading * No sex or masturbation * No food * No talking, or laughing. * No music/podcasts * No coffee or other stimulants: What you can do: Write (with pen and paper) Meditate, Go for walks, Do deep thinking, Visualize, Drink water Simple clothes, sleep on yoga mat, if not fasting, then simple food
/r/askTRP30/09/19 09:06 PM
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Dopamine fast for 50 days camped in the desert.
/r/askTRP30/09/19 10:52 AM
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Keto is not sustainable. 100% is a breeze 99% is a bitch. OMAD is. OMAD + 48s even better. Humongous breakfasts -- whatever the fuck you want. And nothing else the rest of the day. Simple and sustainable. Make it your lifestyle
/r/askMRP30/09/19 03:02 AM
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Prioritize and execute.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/19 11:25 PM
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Pussy is a fungible commodity. Basically worth one or maybe two bottles of vodka.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/19 04:24 AM
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I was not able to make any headway with the guitar but once I tried the app the progress was good.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 06:13 AM
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OYS 2019-09-25 STATS -- age 60, checked-out marriage of 29 yrs, I plate, 2 kids in school, weight 69, BF 19 workout every other day, BJJ 2x OVERALL – Spent a lot of time and energy this month reviewing and planning, now ready for a strong finish in Q4 2019; swallowed a couple of very big Toads and received a blast of energy; brought value every day. LIFT – currently doing first 48 hour Dry Fast, with my new fasting and workout partner. Fasting is now woven into my weekly Program and here to stay…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 01:33 AM
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It's a very powerful motivator, but ultimately leads down the wrong path. Pussy ain't shit. But I will take any motivation I can get, from whatever source, to get to where I want to be. Which is power, not sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 10:49 PM
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I need to sign up for a guitar class I have made the most progress online with an app.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 10:46 PM
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Now I get all the same pussy I want and I am finding myself not really wanting it any longer… perhaps even if I had variety, I would tire of that too. Chase excellence, Lift Heavy, Do what I want. Right on. I am coming to believe that this is what it's all about. Pussy ain't shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 10:37 PM
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I want to do Keto, but I’m a fucking faggot when it comes to diet discipline Go binge watch Snake Diet videos, starting with "LACK OF DISCIPLINE Is Why You’re a FAT WORTHLESS PIG!" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g3rq7BfegLM
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 10:27 PM
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>stronglifts recommends just three days or week I wonder if I should cut back. I'm 60 and they say twice a week for me but fuck that my system is I work out every other day -- that's a simple method that I can keep consistent on. Consistency at doing the work is more important to me than all this science voodoo about muscles. Actually, I am on the Scott Adams plan, I do something every day. Maybe not a big workout but some kind of workout every fucking day.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 10:21 PM
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Fighting 50 years of Blue Pill Conditioning I hear ya on that brother. The amazing thing is that you can teach old dogs new tricks. Neural pathways do keep rewiring after the sell-by date of 60.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 10:03 PM
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Boats are great for bonding with people. You get them out on the water and they will start confiding in you about stuff they would never bring up on land. This is what the private yacht thing is about. Ditto with private airplanes. It's a business tool.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 09:32 PM
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You can’t be alpha if you’re not willing to fuck more than one woman”. This does not quite capture the point of the book. Alpha is about integrity. Integrity is the key. No lies. The book makes the point that you can set up a relationship from the start to maximize your options as a man, without lying. Options are power. I see now that I was programmed to believe that a monogamous agreement is a natural requirement. The book says it's not. You merely have to be explicit about it at the start and…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 09:23 PM
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Thanks for that. I'm always looking for and trying to tap into sources of energy. Ways to increase intensity. What got me here was a combination of lust and anger.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 08:57 PM
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most important energy source Could you expand on this idea?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 12:57 AM
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Alcohol – I'm an alcoholic Priority #1. Everything else in your OYS is a high class problem till you get clean and dry. No amount of lifting and reading will get you past this obstacle. It requires massive focus and effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 10:26 PM
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was easily manipulated into doing something I knew in my heart I didn't want. I let things happen to me because I had no vision for myself and my future, no plan, no clear direction in any area other than perhaps my job. I let *her* in particular happen to me because I had no standards, no expectations, no exposure to relatively sane women to compare her to. Solid gold post. This was me, too, at age 25. Totally in her frame. No goals and no plan. Easily manipulated. Now I reframe that as somethi…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 10:20 PM
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Great Gary Vee quote from recent Auckland address. Relevant to all of us: “You’re 19? I wish you knew that you could do literally nothing right, make every wrong decision for the next 19 years, of your life, live an entire other life and still be young as fuck to go and win...like debating with your own fucking head about what is right is the biggest reason that people fail. There are 80 year olds here that are still debating. It’s one big game of insecurity bro. You are wrong when you are dead.…
/r/askTRP16/09/19 09:57 AM
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I wish I had taken bigger and more risks and failed harder. (now age 60)
/r/askTRP15/09/19 12:11 AM
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Good work on the Mission I think you nailed the system-not-a-goal part.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/19 11:47 PM
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I loved this OYS. Keep at it. Get off the booze and drugs as top priority.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/19 10:01 PM
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Picks n' shovels. This used to be a cliche back in the dotcom days.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/19 09:29 PM
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In the "How to Fail at Everything And Still Win Big" category. You have to fearlessly do 10 of these crazy things before one of them hits big. The key is if you are gonna do it, really do it. No fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/19 09:28 PM
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Use a timer, and the goal is get it done in under a minute.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/19 09:11 PM
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Love it. Somewhere in that book Ramsay says that Rich People love risk. This is a fundamental point to ponder. He also says that Rich People make money when the market goes down, too, whereas middle class people only profit as long as the market is going up. The Rich make money off movement, off volatility. This is also fundamental. The Rich hedge.
/r/askMRP11/09/19 03:30 AM
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I want to add an incredible little quote from Gary Vee from the Brisbane speech: “You’re 19? I wish you knew that you could do literally nothing right, make every wrong decision for the next 19 years, of your life, live an entire other life and still be young as fuck to go and win...like debating with your own fucking head about what is right is the biggest reason that people fail. There are 80 year olds here that are still debating. It’s one big game of insecurity bro. You are wrong when you ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 03:20 AM
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Thank you. Kaizen indeed. I like Brian Tracy's black oil drums in the Sahara: the desert being 500 miles across in a single stretch, without water, food, a blade of grass or even a fly. It was totally flat, like a broad yellow, sand parking lot that stretched to the horizon in all directions. More than 1300 people had perished in the crossing of that stretch of the Sahara in previous years. Often drifting sands had obliterated the track across the desert and the travelers had gotten lost in the …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/19 12:28 AM
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I also spend a lot of time and effort on Fear. I have three techniques I use to manage it on a daily basis. Fear inventory, as part of my morning journal. I have checklist items for the major types of fear that I identified in myself, and I name the fear that is on my mind today. Merely identifying it gives you some power over it. Fear gateway/inventory. I use post boxes on the street at the trigger/gateway for starting a fear inventory, while walking. If the fear is very intense, I will lay han…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/19 12:10 AM
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Thanks. That was such a great time. We actually went hitch hiking, up to the hot springs in the mountain.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/19 09:13 PM
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Precisely my BSG is only about 80% shame. The rest is the various other, lesser scolding tactics employed by manipulative females.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/19 09:10 PM
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5 bricks This is the basic practice from Beige Phillip. If you lay just five bricks a day pretty soon you have a wall. Here it means force yourself to go out and say Hi to new people, approach old and young, male and female. Build your social muscle and overcome fear. That is a great podcast, very much in line with MRP but coming from the direction of pimpology.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/19 09:05 PM
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STFU – I finished the Self Authoring project, which I did to gain self-knowledge which I need for my next career step. Now I plan to go back and do a second draft of it, since it’s raised a lot of questions. JBP talks about slaying the dragon, and I have identified the dragon at last. I visualize it as the baby Drogon perched on my shoulder, only with the head of Megyn Kelly from the 2016 Trump debate. An white upper class lemon tart cunt with a law degree attached to the body of a little dragon…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/19 04:19 AM
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OYS 2019-09-09, past the two-year mark STATS -- age 60, married, 2 kids in school, weight 69, workout every other day OVERALL – have hit most of my top tier goals for this year already, still a lot to do, I want a strong finish in Q4 LIFT – still fasting systematically, hit 69 kg. Getting into the 60 kilo weight range is un-fucking-believable. Beginning to believe that this MRP thing is working. Snake Diet is for real. Stop fucking eating. My routine is weekdays 48, 24, 48 with big 800 cal break…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/19 04:12 AM
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>I hate what my life has become I love this. At one turning point in my life I started saying a mantra "I hate myself I hate my life" which I would mumble as fast as I could. Once I realized what I was saying I woke from the spell, and suddenly felt liberated, felt I could fight my way out of the paper bag I was in. After that everything changed. >Trading Equivalent to lifting heavy weights to build a Fight Club body -- a very long hard slog. Instead of building muscles, you are developing "gut …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/19 07:42 AM
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Complete game changer for me, too. OMAD and 48 with big breakfast.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/19 07:08 AM
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To be told "your just a lazy cunt" your whole life, was hugely demoralising Go listen to Cole for 100 hours, it's called motivation. Either you get disciplined or you drop out like all the other lazy punkass bitch little cunts.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/19 02:46 AM
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I have no idea what that childhood trauma The Self Authoring program from JBP is a big help on digging through that stuff. You will unearth all sorts of things you forgot or never realized.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/19 02:30 AM
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find out more about investing and personal finance in a way that’s actionable, like this book, I would love to know. I’m financially aware but know very little about investing and a mentor Nobody is going to mentor you for free. Everybody wants big bucks. Fortunately there is a ton of resources for free if you are willing to do the work. Cut the Neflix, cut out the TV and games and other infotainment garbage and buckle down and study your ass off.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/19 02:23 AM
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SBIII is right on the money. 100% is a breeze 99% is a bitch. All of the rest of your shit is meaningless till you kick the booze 100%. Do not underestimate how hard it is to do. It requires total focus a lot more than one week.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/19 02:09 AM
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100% is a breeze, 99% is a bitch. I'm a long term sober alcoholic and druggie (38 years). If anybody complains about your drinking, then that means you have a drinking problem, and it's safe to assume you are an alcoholic. And that applies to other drugs too. Try that on for size, "I am a fucking alcoholic". The only sustainable answer for addicts is 100% abstinence. As for quitting 100%, there is a hierarchy. One thing at a time. Start with the highest priority, booze. Then cut the drugs. Then …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/19 01:54 AM
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I get the best traction when I interact with my wife the same as I interact with my dog. This is solid gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/19 01:36 AM
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First step to integrity is finishing things 100% I read books on a device (I prefer the laptop), highlight, then go back and pull the highlights and add them to my notes for later review and addition to my journal. Then these get organized into the journal with mini-bullet points, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/19 01:30 AM
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OYS 2019-08-02, at about the two year mark STATS -- age 60, married, 2 kids in school, weight 71, workout every other day OVERALL – Grinding with constant backsliding but relentlessly forward LIFT – still fasting, hit 71 kg, a 20-year low. Lifting is going well and doubled up schedule now. I can feel my arms getting bigger as my waist contracts. Still a long way to go but I am sure I can maintain this pace. READ – Kitchen Confidential -- re-reading this with a Red Pill lens. Bourdain is Blue Pil…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/19 02:41 AM
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This comment needs editing!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 01:35 AM
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OYS 2019-07-03 Stats: age 60, married, 2 kids in school, weight 72 (now fasting most of time) body comp still sucks but trousers getting looser. OVERALL -- Grinding my way forward. STFU – No improvement from last time. I fucking talk too much period. Except I am STFU at home and with the wife. That’s progress. LIFT – still fasting, hit 72 kg a 20-year low. My awesomely powerful crab bucket is pushing back against the weight loss. One of the crabs, FWB I meet the other day, tells me no need to lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/19 12:47 AM
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While you're at it, check out the podcast. He goes into much greater depth about ownership in response to many listener questions. Ultimately, extreme ownership means you own the weather.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 11:55 PM
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>>unchained man by Caleb jones Caleb is giving Unchained Man away for free this week and next week from his blog post at: https://blackdragonblog.com/2019/06/17/a-message-to-roosh-and-heartiste-readers-please-read/
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 09:11 PM
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Meaning you cannot use bad weather a/k/a Act of God as an excuse for failure to execute. If you got stopped by the weather, that means you did not plan for the weather, such as by taking an umbrella. I was always the guy out there with no fucking umbrella.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 08:24 PM
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OYS 2019-06-23 Stats: age 60, married, 2 kids in school, weight 74 (now fasting with OMADs and 48s) body comp still sucks OVERALL -- Last week the main girl jumped ship and this week the #2 girl said sayonara. Meanwhile all the work I have done in the past months to replace these two paid off big time, as I got the new main girl locked-in. "Don't Chase, Replace" STFU – I fucking talk too much period. Most of it val-ho stuff in one way or another. I am journaling this stuff and grading myself dai…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 04:01 AM
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Yeah, I struggled with this for a long time, as you will see from my earlier OYSes but I kept injuring myself on the barbells and having long layoffs, so now I am trying a different approach and it's working out. Rather than have long layoffs from the gym, my system is to grind away at a workout routine consistently and up the intensity when I get ready. Still an autistic faggot, I'll own that.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 10:29 PM
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OYS 2019-06-3 Stats: age 60, married, 2 kids in school, weight 75 (now fasting with OMADs and 48s) ​ OVERALL -- Main girl a/k/a "the trash that took itself out" was hauled away in dumpster, releasing huge energy and new developments across the board for me. Now riding the wave of energy. ​ STFU – this remains a problem as for my game, otherwise getting better at home and with social life. Along with validation whoring and being a nice guy. I am journaling this stuff and grading myself daily. ​ L…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 03:38 AM
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Intrinsic value is subjective but market price is truth. Take a look at slave market price records from history. Which sex gets a higher bid?
/r/TheRedPill26/04/19 10:22 PM
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Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 05:49 AM
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OYS 2019-04-22 Stats: age 60, married, 2 kids in school, weight 79 kg (lost winter weight) OVERALL -- Ground my way through the roughest patch in at least a decade, combination of red-lining on work, rushing to complete the bedroom before exchange student arrives, and putting my dog down. Led the family through it all without totally losing it. Now moving forward. STFU – The long, hard death of my dog caused me to lose my composure on a few occasions. Otherwise, I'd say the amount of DEERing I d…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/19 02:49 AM
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you don’t do this in the moment you feel it, but on a regular schedule? Are those actual categories, or you just make them up? I run into the post box when I walk the dog, so call it a daily fear dump. I do it as a matter of routine. I have started placing hands on the box and visualizing the fears being sucked out of me by the cold metal. I compiled the list, but there may be more. I think these are the main ones. There are some others such as FOMO but that is really just fear of regret. There'…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/19 12:46 AM
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There's a part of the brain dedicated to processing Fear. But you are not exactly staring down a saber toothed tiger or some other actual threat. All of these fears are High-Class Problems. I picked up a mind management technique for dealing with these fears that works well. First I identify what they are ("I'm afraid of losing my kids") and then mentally categorize them into several types: -- fear of loss "losing friends" -- fear of process "won't actually be able to" -- fear of outcome "I'll b…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 11:34 PM
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Did just that. Left a hamlet pop. 146 in the mountains in North Idaho and went 1500 miles back east to New York City, right in the heart of Manhattan. Learned a lot more from the city and the social milieu than from the school itself perhaps.
/r/askTRP14/04/19 07:50 AM
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Thanks for this post and sharing your rigorous and inspiring method. My journal is a self-programming exercise. I use Day One on the Mac because it is password protected and encrypted. This fact gives me the confidence to write with an honesty I couldn't if I had a fear of somebody ever reading it. I use Day One to collect all my snippets of information during the day, such as the content of this post. Journal entries, lecture notes, etc., are differentiated with hashmarks. I also add photos and…
/r/TheRedPill14/04/19 06:39 AM
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Thanks for the advice. Will do.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 11:56 PM
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That is the max weight. I went back to square one a few months back and worked my way up via 5x5 to 70 kg, good form. Then on one rep the back started hurting in the same old place. What I actually need for BJJ is not more brute strength but stamina. At the 5 minute mark rolling I am out of gas.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 11:53 PM
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OYS 3/21/2019 Stats: age 60, married, 2 kids in school, weight 81 kg (gained dammit), sq 115 kg, dl 115 kg STFU – recent scorekeeping incident. I say something that is slightly prejudicial and she says she is going to put that down in her “book of the bad things that I say.” I say go ahead, you could publish it like that guy with “Shit My Dad Says” and make a million. This is slight progress for me because I am starting to become a smart ass. Instead of a little schoolboy who takes every scoldin…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 12:31 AM
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best response
/r/askMRP19/03/19 09:29 AM
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You have to choose the oil with the smoke point appropriate to your cooking temp. When oil burns and smokes, toxins are left in the pan. Olive oil has a low smoke point, coconut high.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/19 02:48 AM
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hates how I get so angry (and how we're constantly yelling at each other over stupid shit) My marriage used to be exactly like that. Merely eliminating the angry tantrums and yelling has made a world of difference. You can actually control these behaviors if you try. I no longer feel I am "entitled" to get angry or need to make an angry demonstration. Since you mention Jocko, he says something great in the podcast: "In the SEAL teams, you definitely want to be the guy that keeps his cool no matt…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/19 11:14 PM
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Good idea. AA is something I have never tried with her. All our interactions are very straight. I should experiment with getting more smart alecky with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 11:57 PM
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36 years sober. Still go to AA meetings.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 09:49 PM
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OYS 2019-01-23 Stats: age 60, married 29 years, 2 kids in school, weight 79 kg, sq 115 kg, dl 115 kg (about 18 months of OYS) STFU —She came to me with all sorts of sighs, complaints, and groaning about a trivial obstacle with attaching a photo to an online school application — as usual she paves the way with a ton of toxic waste instead of charm -- using vinegar instead of honey. I am not encouraged by the vinegar. She acts like I am required to help her, and indicates that on some level she as…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 02:58 AM
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Being a beta bitch isn’t my problem. The booze is. That is my primary focus moving forward. Everything else is secondary. The booze is not the problem. The alcoholism is the problem. Own it. Do you have a concrete plan for tackling it?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 12:18 AM
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Scott Adams' "How to Fail at Everything and Still Win Big" A book with big impact. Introduces many useful concepts, including: using systems vs goals developing your unique "skill stack" simplification over optimization
/r/askMRP20/01/19 01:17 AM
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Yeah, I've had some injuries. Not sure I will stick with doing free weights. I have gotten more visible gains from kettlebell and bodyweight workouts.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 10:27 PM
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You could look at this at a heaven sent gift. In the first place, you have been called to MRP and gotten the message. That is a great stroke of fortune. Lucky bastard. In the second place you are getting the character building experience of divorce early and essentially hands-clean. Sure it will be painful, but that pain will a good thing, you may learn something about how to vet a woman.
/r/askMRP18/01/19 03:55 AM
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OYS 1/15/2019 Stats: age 60, married, 2 kids in school, weight 79 kg, sq 115 kg, dl 115 kg STFU — I read a post about “Stranger theory” somewhere in the RP zone and realized that my wife is rather courteous if not super polite to everyone — except me. She uses a very harsh tone with me in many cases. I started calling her on it, requesting she dial back the tone a bit. She refuses to do so, says it’s just me playing victim, persecution complex, etc. I need to STFU about this tone stuff and do mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 02:24 AM
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Get a boat. I've always wanted a boat. I live at the marina, and I walk through the boatyard frequently. I see which boats go in and out and how often. One day I did some mental napkin math for the TCO of a 40 foot sailboat over a 10 year period, then broke it down by sailing instances. Came to the startling conclusion of it costing $5K each time the boat goes out. Heh. A boat is probably still worth it in terms of business networking though. You get out on the water and bond with people, they o…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 12:27 AM
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Two points that I have realized on my own journey into this: Portfolio managers think in terms of percentages, ROC, ticks, etc., rather than the raw PL numbers on each trade. In terms of ROC, $15K loss on a $10M portfolio is much different from $15K on a $100K portfolio. Thinking in relative terms burns up less "mental capital". Somebody might die and you wake up suddenly inheriting a $10M portfolio. That's a big burden. Do you have the mental capital or gut strength to run it?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 12:21 AM
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Good going on the 95 days of no drinking. I like the way you include an Action Plan and keep updating it. I like your mission. I would frame that in terms of developing portfolio management skills, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 01:20 AM
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I think 350 is normal if you are 75 years old.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 12:38 AM
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i did the one and done once Actually, this was a double header of quick in and out, and I did it merely to verify the results of one year of no porn. Back in the days when I was watching a lot of porn, I got a bad case of "death grip" and had great difficulty getting off from PIV sex. With this little stunt I verified that I am fully recovered from death grip.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/19 11:11 PM
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I failed to stick to the trade plan This is the essence of OYS. Are you more comfortable taking a $1K loss than a $5K?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/19 11:00 PM
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a process being spearheaded by your daughter She needs an IELTs score of 6 (English as foreign language) and is a long way from there. So I feel I have to roll up my sleeves and get out my coach's clipboard and make it happen. If I don't do it we are going to have to pay a fortune in tutors.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/19 10:52 PM
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OYS 2019-01-11 Stats: age 60, married & together 29 yrs, 2 kids in school, weight 78 kg, sq 115 kg, dl 115 kg STFU — validation whore and scorekeeping in sex. I tried a little experiment this week with plate of thinking only of my pleasure, No More Mr. Ladies First. Got my rocks off as quick as I could manage and then got her off manually one time really good, then left it at that. She was a little miffed that she did not cum her usual multiple times, in the manner to which she has become accust…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/19 03:43 AM
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BP 195x3 My shoulder is still hurt, I have strength but get numbness even if I bench 70 lbs. Once you get into your 50's shoulders tend to go bad, especially due to bench pressing. I got calcium in the shoulder, doctor told me to stop benching, and after that no problem. I asked around and realized a lot of the older guys don't bench, it's not necessary. Good sex .... about 40 each last year. Yes I track it, and I should not I do the same type of scorekeeping, worrying the numbers in my head. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/19 12:04 AM
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Drinking - 88 days in First major milestone on quitting booze is 90 days. If you can get that far you've got a good shot. Hang in there, it's worth it. Watching porn - 52 days This is a very tough task for a lot of guys. Maybe harder than stopping smoking. I am a year out, and let me assure you it is totally worth it. So keep going and do not look back. lost $15k in a bad stock market trade Stock market trading is a specialized discipline that takes a lot of time and effort to learn. Just like b…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/19 11:38 PM
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Had the most sex in my life at age 59.
/r/askTRP10/01/19 05:32 AM
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If you have ever failed at an attempt at quitting drinking, then you are probably an alcoholic, and are understating the magnitude of the problem. This is the case with many MRP posters. No amount of lifting or other self improvement is going to outrun an alcohol and/or drug problem. If it truly is a problem, then it must be first priority or there is no chance you will succeed in addressing it.
/r/askMRP09/01/19 01:04 AM
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This is exactly right. No better mission than raising children, but if that it not the mission, then marriage is not the answer.
/r/askMRP09/01/19 12:51 AM
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She will be in menopause before you know it. Eight years of misery for you.
/r/askMRP07/01/19 12:10 PM
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OYS 1/06/2019 Stats: age 60, married, 2 kids in school, weight 79 kg, sq 115 kg, dl 115 kg STFU — Slight progress over the holiday season last year. Always the hardest family time. During in-laws home visit, my daughter and I had some drama, due to an error by me. I started to DEER, then stopped midway. Discussing these ugly scenes with my daughter with a female friend, I heard, “Oh I used to do that at that age, in front of relatives.” D’oh. OK, it’s AWALT, now I get it, it’s not personal, it’s…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/19 03:56 AM
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Fuckin A', what a lot of hard work. Well done!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/19 01:04 AM
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I get my personal needs met by my dental hygienist. "Is it safe?"
/r/askMRP30/12/18 04:44 AM
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For me, all the exciting change started when I got into my mid 50's and accelerated from there.
/r/askMRP30/12/18 04:35 AM
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OYS 12/30/2018 Stats: age 60, married, 2 kids in school, weight 79 kg, sq 115 kg, dl 115 kg Reviewing goals for 2018: STFU, LIFT READ STFU — Progress all around at home. Not perfect but let’s say 20% better. LIFT — Still doing the morning first thing kettlebells and pushups. I keep injuring myself in the gym thinking that I am 30 not 60. I come back and start over. Only increased the deadlift by 5kg this year. The big new thing for 2018 was starting and continuing BJJ. Goal for 2019 is to get a …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/18 01:01 AM
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fuckin' beautiful post.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/18 06:33 AM
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"Baby It's Cold Outside" is pure Powertalk. So are Jerome Powell's speeches (and he is much worse at it than Janet Yellen was, which is why he is being criticized so harshly by some). All FED guidance is a certain dialect of Powertalk. So is practically ever tweet by Donald Trump. One of the greatest Powertalkers of all time. My take is that unless you are a Machiavellian (or a woman), you are going to have difficulty picking up the skill of originating Powertalk. However, there is great value i…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/18 02:04 AM
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I figure it's going to take me 5 years to dig out of this hole, and I am cool with that. There has been progress. I am frustrated with a slowness of a few of the big issues. Until this posting I did not realize the extent of the negative self talk going on in the back of my mind. And the fact that I seem to need to ask Mommy's permission to fucking finish off the guy, to close the deal. I still have a sixth grader, and there is a possibility that she will be living at home for another ten years,…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/18 03:18 PM
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I am going to reset the goal at finishing the bedroom in Q1, then I will revise my grade upward.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/18 12:35 AM
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Thank you for your comment. I tend to be either too harsh or too lenient on myself. In this case harshness is called for, because I failed at my biggest goals for the year, miserably. The smaller stuff I nailed. Thank you for mentioning the SMART goals. This year I switched from fuzzier objectives to hard ones with dates and numbers. I did actually hit most of them for 2018, or came close. I am putting them on the whiteboard above my desk with checkboxes. For the biggest one, which is finishing …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/18 12:18 AM
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Thank you for always commenting on my posts. And all the energy you put into this forum. My takeaway is that I should follow your example on this and get more involved in MRP for 2019. Camp out in the OYS threads.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/18 11:57 PM
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OYS 2018-12-20 Stats: age 60, married, 2 kids in school, weight 79 kg, sq 115 kg, dl 115 kg I turned 60 last week, and had a party with my inner circle friends. I am happy to be 60, very optimistic, ready to go. I also celebrated my 36th anniversary sober. READ — watched a bunch of CRP videos, took notes, learned some things. Back to square one reading NMMNG. LIFT — My diet is derailed. I am yielding to temptation every which way. In the gym I injured my back on deadlifts. Poor fucking form with…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/18 04:28 AM
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Pretty cool that you just have to study make 10% or more on investments.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 03:47 AM
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OYS 2018-11-03 Stats: age 59, married, 2 kids in school, weight 77 kg, sq 115 kg, dl 115 kg READ — Reading Mindful Attraction Plan, watched Of Human Bondage again. LIFT — My first month experiment with MyFitnessPal got derailed. But AFAICT 1800 calories is too much. I will get back on track with MFP for November and cut the calories to 1500. Something gotta give. Got the first stripe on BJJ white belt. The sensei said I have gotten past the three-month mark, when most people quit, that I am gett…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/18 12:34 AM
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OYS 2018-10-12 Stats: age 59, married, 2 kids in school, weight 77 kg, sq 115 kg, dl 115 kg READ — Reading Mindful Attraction Plan, better than I expected. For some reason I avoided this book. LIFT — I am weighing and counting calories via MyFitnessPal, I must cut 10 kg. Targeting 1800 calories. It turns out to be easier than I expected. I was using that as a copout for years. Fasting is now on the schedule and I am doing it -- another thing I did not think I could do. So now down 8 kilos from l…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/18 05:45 AM
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Thanks for the comment. No RP is not internalized. I fight it internally every step of the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/18 10:11 PM
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OYS 2018-10-01 Stats: age 59, married, 2 kids in school, weight 77 kg, sq 115, dl 115 READ — still doing NMMNG daily. Added a checklist for review each day of my “assertiveness rights.” Got into a situation last week where the wife was trying to bully me over something and I mentally clicked on “take the time I need to answer.” Started reading Way of Superior Man and Mindful Attraction Plan. LIFT — had my first sparring session as a spaz BJJ white belt. Going to the dojo religiously and learning…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/18 11:18 PM
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I am active in the markets but don't daytrade. Daytrading is a 12-hour a day job. Crypto is just another asset class. It's got a compelling narrative so it's got drawn people into being engaged in the market. Engagement and awareness is a good thing, develops your understanding of financial markets. And the pain of losing money can be a great tool for personal growth.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/18 09:45 PM
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Let me also affirm this. No Porn. Porn damages your brain. When I try to estimate the 1000's of hours I wasted over the past 20 years of my marriage holed up in my office whacking off to porn -- it makes me want to weep. I did the familyalpha's 31 DTM last December. I made it all the way through the program, with a handful of others (it maxes out at 400 pushups a day). Since then I have been porn-free. This is a miraculous takeaway. This has been an incredible gift, a liberation after 20 years o…
/r/askMRP30/09/18 09:32 PM
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Pitfall: you can safely assume that all the women you see at an AA meeting have BPD and/or some other serious personality disorder. Easy and thrilling to fuck but they will make it much harder for you to stay sober.
/r/askTRP29/08/18 01:57 AM
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Getting sober is not for every drunk. People say they want to get sober but lack the willingness to do whatever it takes.
/r/askTRP28/08/18 10:44 PM
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I've never seen it, somebody getting sober and staying sober long term without AA. I've seen thousands of people fail over the years. I'm going to the same small meeting for 30 years. Every month we get at least one newcomer like the OP. Usually they come for only one meeting, then go back to drinking. Some half-ass their AA, acting like they have all the time in the world to get sober. About once a year we get one guy that gets it, works hard and manages to get sober and stay sober. 1 in 12, th…
/r/askTRP28/08/18 04:39 AM
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100% is a breeze, 99% is a bitch. In 35 years sober, I have never seen anybody quit permanently without AA. When you go to AA, hit the program very hard from the start. Everything you've got. Total immersion. Go all in. Do not half-ass it. Don't worry about that "God stuff" and Steps and other high level things. That's someday/maybe stuff. Not a good excuse to avoid AA. For right now, you go to lots of meetings, don't drink, and get active, get a sponsor, go out for coffee with members, etc. As …
/r/askTRP27/08/18 10:32 PM
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Probably not possible to be as fun sober as drunk. Couple of ideas: Check the coffee shop game chapter of "Day Bang" for techniques for doing "elderly ramble," which is a technique used by old guys like me to kill time chatting. Go to Dale Carnegie. Guaranteed to make you a better conversationalist.
/r/askTRP07/08/18 01:31 AM
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OYS 2018-07-06 Stats: age 59, married, 2 kids in school, weight 78 kg, sq 115, dl 115 READ — still doing NMMNG exercises and practicing fogging from WISYG. Re-reading SGM — I see myself scorekeeping in bed, very much the people pleaser and validation whore in bed. LIFT — doing low weights high reps, also started working on core with leg lifts and crunches, hired trainer to give me a better program, going to BJJ classes every week, sprinting up the hill. Somebody commented on my triceps coming al…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/18 04:46 AM
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OYS 2018-06-13 Stats; age 59, married, 2 kids in school, weight 78 kg, sq 115, dl 115 READ -- this week is a quickie OYS. Only thing to report in this case is that I am starting to catch myself doing this shit such as DEERing in real time. Also, starting to see myself fogging the wife. Not skillfully but I am doing it. LIFT -- Big New thing for this year is BJJ. Started last week. Had to fight through several layers of fear and resistance for over a year to finally get my ass into the dojo. The …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 04:57 AM
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Insightful comment. I've got a similar situation. FIL is a super-high status elderly Japanese politician, the women in the household are contemptuous and disrespectful behind his back. And they do try to suck me into their frame. But lately I have been watching him, how he deals with them. I think the chink in his armor is that he tends to get drunk at family gatherings and really loses his dignified frame, starts trolling the womenfolk with his hard core right wing views, and the situation dege…
/r/askMRP10/06/18 01:01 AM
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Bourdain was a guy who started BJJ at my age: "i will never be young again, or any younger than I am today. I will never be faster o more flexible, I will never win competitions against 22 year old wrestlers in my weight class. I will never be a black belt. None of those things will happen, but none of that matters anymore."
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/18 08:48 PM
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It's already having the desired effect. We were out as a family at pizza restaurant. Instead of breaking down "just this once" and ordering pizza, I ordered steak. Then when desert rolled around, panna cotta, the crab bucket looks at me and says "Sorry Papa" and I go "That's okay, I am in training." That is going to be my go-to defense against the crab bucket, "I am in training." Everybody in the dojo is under 70 kilos, maybe close to 60. (I wrestled at 60 in high school at age 16, so that would…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/18 08:41 PM
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Following up here. I had worked myself into a state of FEAR before the first class but I showed up and did it. And it was a lot of fun. I am looking forward to the next one.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/18 05:02 AM
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It may not ruin his life but it ruins him.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 03:39 AM
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I'm a white geezer living in Japan. I have a lot of expat friends but not any Japanese. I am told I will pick up some in the dojo, though. After they kick my ass. Tomorrow. My overall goal is to have a strong sense of options and be indifferent to pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 09:55 AM
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I am not going to be stopped by fear of regret.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/18 04:21 AM
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OYS 2018-06-04 Stats; age 59, married, 2 kids in school, weight 78 kg, sq 115, dl 115 kg READ — Still reading and doing NMMNG exercises. Also, this week I started actively fogging my womenfolk, and it’s being effective. Less trolling more fogging. I put into practice something from the JBP playbook, “train your partner with positive reinforcement after they do something you want them to do.” A good deed done to me by them gets praised, and I am aware that I am doing it, same with the fogging. It…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/18 02:30 AM
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Yeah I have been forewarned that I am getting hurt, and that afterward they will be my best friends for life. One way of expanding my network.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/18 11:01 PM
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Those young guys are going to kick my ass when I finally get going with BJJ classes. But I think it's not going to be as bad as Putin starting hockey at age 58.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 10:28 PM
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WTF are you going soft on me?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 08:47 PM
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One of the biggest retail players in my business, a legendary guy, said he made more money in his 60's than ever in his legendary career, and that at 70 he is killing it. And still working harder than the next guy. This is an inspiration to all of us. I also want to say that I was a fucking wreck when I hit 50. I bought into all the dopey shit that people say when they hit that milestone. It's a classic case of JBP's "don't say things to yourself that make you weak". After I hit 50 things began …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 08:46 PM
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OYS 2018-05-17 Stats; age 59, married, 2 kids in school, weight 78 kg, sq 110, dl 110 READ -- Doing NMMNG exercises. Boundaries. I realized that I quickly retreat from boundaries instead of defending. A little bit of shaming a scorn from the women in the family is all it takes. Just a little repetition and they got me. I used to get exasperated about this because I didn’t understand the fact that I must keep defending these boundaries without end. Same as I have to go downstairs and make sure th…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 05:57 AM
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OYS 2018-05-04 Stats; age 59, married, 2 daughters in school, weight 79 kg, sq 108 kg, dl 108 kg READ — NMMG Breaking Free Exercise #5 -- —“I would not let anyone walk over me” -- last week’s story about the AA loser guy's getting hand over me. Told him by email to get somebody else. Polite and curt. He keeps emailing, trying to draw me back in. It’s like being stalked by a crazy girl or a stray cat that you gave a bowl of milk to. Knowing you shouldn’t all the while. Trolls. I feed the trolls, …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/18 12:38 AM
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Write your Iron Goal down every day on a piece of paper.
/r/askMRP02/05/18 12:15 AM
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Thanks guys for the harsh feedback. She has mostly succeeded over 30 years in turning me into a well mannered "Japanese" husband. Back 30 years ago I used to do things like throw that offending bag away. Nowadays I am very AFRAID of the opinion of the three females in the household, that I am "intemperate and irascible." I self-censor out of fear that they are going to start in on me in concert. In the past if they pushed me hard enough I would lose control and then indulge in an angry tantrum. …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 11:08 PM
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35 years sober, I've never seen anybody get sober and STAY sober without regular AA. Just as simple as that. You go to a lot of meetings and work it hard just like the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 10:47 PM
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Admitted passive aggressive faggot here. I hear people say "default mode aggressive". It scares me. I'm scared of some imaginary consequences so I just fuck around and play the nice guy. I signed up for BJJ, starting practice next week. I have been assured that they will hurt me. It's taken me six months since the first visit to the gym for me to overcome the fear of getting hurt and make the decision to do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/18 11:28 PM
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After I wrote this, I came in today and found the bag hanging on the handle right below the one that is now gone. Relentless.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/18 11:17 PM
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OYS 2018-04-27 LIFT-- in the gym twice this week, running and morning workout, my weight is down some for the first time in months. Diet has been stricter. STFU -- I resist the impulse to DEER and to apologize. I still talk too fucking much. READ -- I keep working on NMMNG. I see the damned people pleasing in everything I do. Dopamine-addicted people pleasing. So, for instance, there is this young guy who comes to the AA meeting and wants me to sponsor him. One of the other guys already rejected…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/18 04:02 AM
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OYS 2018-04-17 Read NMMNG, the more I ponder this the more I realize I am a validation whore, and the more I see it in everything I do. Especially my involvement online like here. I have spent too damned much time online trying to get validation. One concrete action this week is I cut one online time suck out so I can spend more time focusing on study to improve my skills. LIFT Still lifting and still barely increasing the weight on squats and deadlifts. Lifting kettlebells every morning and run…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 02:07 AM
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I wish I had all these concepts laid out all nice and neat back when I was age 23.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/18 10:16 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/88rcht/i_was_raped_last_night_because_i_was_too_drunk/ That very thing happened to my eldest sister first year in college back in, gosh, the late 60's. She is a classic ACA although not an alcoholic herself. Ended up getting married to a guy who white knighted her when she was recovering from the rape, and then the white night turned out to be a domestic abuser. Very fucking nice guy That same sister maintained an extremely close codependent relationship wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/18 02:01 AM
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Normal people do not have enough edge. Too boring. Alcoholics always want to take it to the extreme. That's my only explanation for it. To put it another way, perhaps, a need for drama.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/18 09:24 PM
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Recovering alcoholic for 35 years. Also ACA. Been married to alcoholic/ACA and had relationships with them. Coupla points: alcoholics are usually ACAs and vice versa, since it tends to run in the family. alcoholics and ACAs tend to attract each other: put me in a room with 99 normal women and 1 alcoholic or ACA and I will be drawn to the 1 person magnetically. not a shrink but I think the RP concept of "avoid Cluster B" by all means applies here. ACA implies a strong likelihood of something Clus…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/18 10:21 PM
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What do you do when you were on mission to get somewhere, and once you arrive, you find out there is no "there" there. This is the argument behind Systems-not-Goals as per "How to Fail at Everything and Still Win Big." You could also evaluate the quality of your failures. When I examined my own careers in light of that book I realized that there were too few failures and the failures themselves were too timid. Never really out of the comfort zone. There was never a "burn your boats on shore" typ…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 11:03 PM
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A bad plan is better than no plan at all. At first I was paralyzed over finding the optimal mission. I decided to just borrow the AA mission and make it my own, since staying sober in AA has been the baseline for me for a long time. Is this the best? I don't know but it works. Once I had the basic three-word mission statement, I was able to derive from that a couple of objectives, including "raising my kids to be splendid adults" and "becoming world class at my job." I write it down every day in…
/r/askMRP12/02/18 12:41 AM
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OYS 2018-01-29 STFU — This is my focus for this year. Lately I have avoided trolling my wife and talking fight club at home. This is a slight improvement. I am now starting to notice the shit tests that are coming from her and from the younger daughter in real time. I still react to these, but less. Less victim puke and less DEERing. I still fall back into a resentment mentality when they shit test me. Even though afterward I realize that’s just shit they are saying. I am ashamed to admit that I…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/18 07:14 AM
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an autistic level of absolutism 100% is a breeze, 99% is a bitch
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 11:48 PM
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Any plan, any goal that is not written down, is hot air. I write goals down every morning in journal. Brian Tracy technique, very effective.
/r/askMRP31/12/17 11:26 PM
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Process above all else. And improving the process. Year Compass is effective. I've done it twice. I improved YC text and put it in a Word file, then modified according to my needs. Added some different questions. I read over my daily journal for the past year, taking notes. I do the same thing with my investment journal for the year. I focus on what I learned during the year. Then I do the Year Compass. First I read over last year's. I put the whole thing in a big table. Year by year. Planning a…
/r/askMRP31/12/17 11:16 PM
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Are you saying my overall program is too complicated/ambitious, or just with regard to STFU and dread levels, etc.? I think I should also have a Rambo item, because I do tend to do Rambo everything. As for the Mission, the system and the milestones. I've got 3 primary areas and each of these breaks down into 3 sets of milestones, so that is 9 items. Do you think this is too much?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/17 03:19 AM
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OYS 2017-12-21 Stats; age 59, married, 2 kids in school, weight 80 kg, sq 100, dl 100 READ -- Still reading MMSLP, and still pondering the fact that I commit numerous DLVs around the house. Doing a mental inventory of DLVs. I try to visualize how my wife looks at me in this light. I think probably one of my worst failings in her eyes is logistics. Failure to plan logistics and stay totally on top of it. Also being overly optimistic about the time it will take. Let’s take the case of “latecomerit…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/17 12:01 AM
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Most of the time its the sunk costs fallacy Which is why never shack up.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/17 12:52 AM
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My problem is in the kitchen. The smell of freshly baked bread...
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 09:56 PM
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If only it were true that I could do a few situps that would do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 09:13 PM
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OYS 2017-12-13 READ – Working exercises in NMMNG. I fail to perceive that I have any covert contracts, but when I see them pointed out in MRP comments, I realize I have plenty that I am unaware of. Also reading MMSLP, and the section where he explains DLV. I do this every day. Like constantly misplacing my keys. In every instance where I am not sharp and on the ball, the wife catches me, and I can now hear the disgust and disrespect in her voice. STFU – I signed up for December of Discipline, an…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 06:07 AM
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Overestimating my ability to underestimate my ability. Always.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/17 10:19 PM
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My arrogance is manifested as Rambo. Underestimating my ability. Thinking I am above the rules or can get out of rendering to Caesar.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/17 08:13 PM
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Because I am one arrogant motherfucker.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 09:56 PM
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OYS 2017-12-01 READ -- I joined the NMMMG group. Working on the exercises one-by-one. This is going to take years to root out. Also reading the Athol Kay book and learning stuff. I thought I knew everything about this, but apparently not. STFU -- Following up on my OYS of last week on leading my daughters. I reflected on the post and realized that I always go through my wife as intermediary with the kids. Now, true, she always inserts herself as judge and umpire in all interactions, and that may…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/17 11:36 PM
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My wife disturbed my sleep for about 25 years with her teeth grinding, and since cosleeping until at least the child gets to first grade is de rigueur here, I had about ten years of even worse sleep with the two kids. Bad sleep put me in a cranky mood all the time. Everything changed when I started sleeping by myself, in my own bedroom at the other end of the house. Fucking beautiful sleep straight through to morning. A new man. I had a lot of resistance at first to the idea of abandoning the sp…
/r/askMRP29/11/17 12:44 AM
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OYS 2017-11-27 Stats; age 58, married, 2 kids in school, weight 79 kg, sq 100, dl 100 READ -- rereading NMMNG, working exercises one per week. As for “the ways in which I seek approval from women” -- I just now realized that I have two female CPAs that I work with and that I am very worried about “pleasing” them by turning in positive PL on my investments. And FEAR over any negative comments they might make over a loss. Like they should not be making any comments at all, anyway. This people plea…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/17 01:28 AM
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Great post. 50 is a nice round number for a restart. Read, lift, and STFU. And post your OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/17 12:01 AM
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OYS 2017-11-17 STATS age 58, married, 2 kids in school, weight 80 kg, sq 100, dl 100 READ Seems like i read a couple pages a week the second time around with NMMNG. I joined the subreddit. I have been working on the problem of identifying the different ways I seek approval, esp. of women. Blind to many of them. LIFT Lifting every morning before my work. Also gym. I fear the iron but I keep coming back. Fear of dropping it. This kind of fear has kept me pulling my punches all my life. That I am g…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/17 01:20 AM
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Is 10% a Goal or a Milestone? A great Brian Tracy passage on the Mission of crossing the Sahara: The desert was 500 miles across in a single stretch, without water, food, a blade of grass or even a fly. It was totally flat, like a broad yellow, sand parking lot that stretched to the horizon in all directions. More than 1300 people had perished in the crossing of that stretch of the Sahara in previous years. Often drifting sands had obliterated the track across the desert and the travelers had go…
/r/askMRP15/11/17 12:44 AM
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November 9, 2017 Stats; age 58, married, 2 kids in school, weight 79 kg, sq 100, dl 100 FRAME Out of gross negligence, I metaphorically ran over somebody with my car this week. Now I have to take ownership of the wreck and make amends and I am very unwilling, looking for an out via plausible deniability. Must take action. Grade F on this. I fucked up pure and simple. READ Re-reading NMMNG Stuck on the early exercise about women’s approval. Hard to even pretend that I don’t give a fuck what they …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/17 05:13 AM
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Incidentally there is actually a somewhat Red Pill leaning sub called Kaizen Brotherhood that is very allied to the things we are doing here in some respects. Their 90-Day Challenges are very good. Maybe a younger crowd than this one. https://www.reddit.com/r/KaizenBrotherhood/
/r/askMRP10/11/17 03:36 AM
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“Plans are nothing. Planning is everything.” So, how much time does it take to implement the black_jack_davy process in a given day? More than 30 minutes? My process takes about that long. Some days I feel I don't have enough time for it. Usually those days get untracked. One crucial habit I picked up on the GetDisciplined sub, and later find out it's from Brian Tracy: https://www.reddit.com/r/getdisciplined/comments/33jijb/method_a_goalsetting_fix_that_will_transform_your/ Every morning write d…
/r/askMRP09/11/17 11:45 PM
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For the non-spergs: If you are going to do a system like this, add a feedback/improvement process so that the system gets better and does not get too complicated.
/r/askMRP09/11/17 11:33 PM
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Systems approach is very good. I have something similar. Lotta time overhead, but result is to keep me on track. I use Google Calendar and reminders as part of this. The main document is my journal. Kaizen: My System has a feedback loop to constantly improve the system. And to constantly simplify it -- to overcome the tendency to optimize. Simplification over optimization.
/r/askMRP08/11/17 07:42 AM
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Excellent. For me Mission has evolved to this breakdown: Mission > Goals > Objectives > Milestones My Mission is abstract and does not change, but the Goals do. My System is to keep changing the old Goals with new ones once they are achieved. For instance, my top Goal is to raise the children to be "splendid adults" as of age 20. Once they both get to age 20, my top Goal has to change to something else. Otherwise, what am I going to do, be a depressed empty nester with nothing to live for? I def…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 08:31 PM
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OYS 2017-10-30 age 58, married 27 yrs, 2 kids in school, weight 79.5 kg, sq 100, dl 100 READ Rereading NMMNG -- clearly I need to keep reading this again and again because the nice guy in me is very stubborn. I think I have made progress but actually not much. Maybe 10%. MMSLP for the first time. IDGAF about sex with the wife. That horse has bolted. I want her to be respectful and I will be satisfied with that. LIFT I spend a couple of weeks alone up at the cabin just with kettlebell, now back i…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/17 04:34 AM
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But at home--disaster. The Ari Gold Alpha
/r/askMRP23/10/17 09:51 PM
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OYS 2017-10-12 age 58, married 27 yrs, 2 kids in school, weight 79.5 kg, sq 100, dl 100 READ reading BPP book reading MMSLP book LIFT Early morning short kettlebell program Continued 2X squats and deadlifts program Continued hill sprints and walking 15K Wrote down food but still not counting calories Weight loss is stalled STFU loss of frame incident, entitlement victim puke all over the kitchen floor. cut way back on texting and SM noticing and observing BP bullcrap coming out of the mouths of …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/17 06:12 AM
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Scott Adams. Helps with outcome independence. Work the system and forget about the milestones, they will come in. My system goes one step further, though, it has a kaizen element that requires me to try to find something in the system to improve and take action to improve it. Does not need to be a big improvement, just tiny progress and constant attention to improving the system.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/17 12:25 AM
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This thread made me go back and rewatch this clip from Wolf of Wall Street, "Daddy Doesn't Get to Touch Mommy." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=86TpCwZ4FvY
/r/askMRP22/09/17 11:20 PM
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This visualization is a combination of "bug crush fetish" from subculture and the concept of Automatic Negative Thoughts from Daniel Amen. Works better if you visualize big crunchy cockroaches than actual ants, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/17 11:56 AM
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Gratitude creates a sense of abundance. Every morning, I write in the gratitude section of my journal. What's there to be grateful for? my family is safe asleep in their beds. etc. start listing stuff and the list becomes extremely long
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/17 05:06 AM
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I meditate using creative visualization. For sitting meditation I visualize being a boulder on the beach in the surf. For walking meditation, usually waiting on the train platform. I walk and do ANT (automatic negative thought) crush visualization, crushed under my heels with each step.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/17 04:41 AM
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We have very undisciplined communications. I have tolerated it long enough. One thing I started doing recently was having a little business conference with her on Monday mornings, and insisting that she write job tickets down on the white board calendar. And don't get me started on calendars. At least thanks to MRP I have started to look at the family calendar.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/17 04:22 AM
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OYS 2017-09-22 Stats; age 58, married 27 yrs, 2 kids in school, weight 78.5 kg, sq 100, dl 100 READ finished WISNIFG reading BPP book started Athol Kay book started Greene book on Seduction LIFT daily short kettlebell program 2X/wk squats and deadlifts program continued hill sprints and walking 15K can feel biceps getting bigger, strange did write down food but failed to count the calories ate a lot of carbs, weight loss is very slow STFU cut out kitchen rants about politics, etc. still too much…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/17 12:09 AM
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BOTTOM LINE: "He is now 26 years old and we have an amazing relationship, I am and will continue to be his dad and his son’s grandfather. Nobody gets to take that from me."
/r/askMRP20/09/17 12:47 AM
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You've put your finger on my wife's greatest (stated) dissatisfaction with me, the fact that I tune her out much of the time. Sometimes when I am actually trying to listen to her my mind drifts off and I lose details. Sometimes important work-related or logistical details. We have a huge communication problem. And I have always blamed her for this. Or at least asserted that I am not 100% to blame. Certainly she takes no responsibility and makes no attempt to try and fix the problem. We have a ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 12:09 AM
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Here is how I prioritize: ME and my career my kids my mama and siblings my inner circle guys my wife some LTR that I am not even married to. There ya have it. She is #6. I wouldn't tell her that. But I would write my priorities down in my journal, and be sure about what is #1.
/r/askMRP17/09/17 08:36 PM
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OYS 2017-09-16 Stats; age 58, married, 2 kids in school, weight 79 kg, sq 100, dl 100 READ — finished NMMNG — now I need to get a notebook and go back and do the exercise — started taking a 15 minute MRP reading break at halfway point on morning walk LIFT — added kettlebells to the pre-morning workout — added hill sprint to morning 10K walk — lifted according to new “proper” lifting program — diet counted calories reluctantly and imprecisely, ate too many white carbs, no progress on losing weigh…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/17 12:28 AM
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Thank you for the excellent feedback. This one is going in the clipfile. The other side of this dynamic is to be able to give full attention when she's behaving well This is my major shortcoming as a husband, according to her. I tend to shut my ears when she talks. This is a habit of almost 30 years, and it seems hardwired into my brain. She gets pissed off over the fact that I do this, and has complained about it every day for the past 30 years. Unavailing. I am going to try this as an activity…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/17 12:24 AM
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Jocko: How to Always Be in Control of Your Anger "Nod your head, slowly, in the affirmative." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F22ZvJR2mss
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/17 12:17 AM
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OYS 2017-09-09 Stats: age 58, married, 2 kids in school, weight 79, sq 100, dl 100 READ -- WISNIFG one chapter, did "I want my meat" routine at customer svc. counter -- said YES to volunteer task in my professional org, I will regret it but the goal is to meet people and build my network -- BOOK of POOK now reading a section each morning, familiar RP content, not so enthused LIFT -- had first coaching session in gym, got a 2x wk program to get me to 140 kg squat by February, should have got a co…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/17 02:52 AM
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Basically, it seems that the only human who cannot be manipulated by shame is Donald Trump.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 12:10 AM
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“Taking a Win” -- OYS 2017-08-31 SUMMARY -- Back from long working vacation, which was a success. Slow OYS progress on all fronts but determined to stay on it. MISSION is "Be of Service" main focus this week on family, friends, and planning the rest of the year. READING -- Bogged down in WISNIFG but haven’t given up. Realizing further how I am manipulated with shame by both men and women. As are we all. 95% of manipulation is shame in various forms STFU -- Top 3 issue for me. I managed to shut d…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/17 02:11 AM
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My father said "Son, what you need is a Japanese wife and a Chinese cook." I sortof took his advice about the Japanese wife. Well, a Japanese wife that can cook as well as any Chinese cook. So, I can give you a nuanced answer about being married to and raising kids with Japanese women in Japan.
/r/askMRP30/08/17 11:17 PM
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Spot on. The more planning and testing on these projects you do the better. Work it out on paper, watch the Youtube videos again and again, do your trial run, dry assemble, paint test patches, build prototypes. Understanding that there is always the risk it will have to be redone. Even pros have to redo stuff sometimes.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 10:41 PM
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Great post. I have made all the same mistakes involving DIY and the house. These days my Frame is "How does this improve my SMV by adding go or improving to my skill stack?" Such as the example of being able to lay a floor. One of my primary goals is improving my skills in all areas. This is how I try to prioritize the honey-do list. Is there some payoff for me in terms of learning something new or getting to the next level on something I already know. Maybe the next thing on the list is not her…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 10:36 PM
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“Resistance and Fuckarounditis” -- OYS 8/23/2017 SUMMARY -- same as last week, on working-vacation. Highlight: spent terrific quality day with family -- my plan and my leadership. Also many good social interactions. Spent the rest of the time by myself, working on my goals. My program is not at full strength. I made some good progress this week and overcame resistance and the tendency to get derailed. Couple of breakthroughs. MISSION is "Be of Service" main focus this week on family, friends, an…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 12:44 AM
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I totally agree with you on fairness and scorekeeping. Back before the children were born she said she was going to do this, use them as allies to prove that she is right and I am wrong. And that is exactly what she did. Positions are deeply entrenched now. I am at the bottom of a deep hole or sandtrap in this marriage. I'm going to just keep digging and let's see if I can make some progress over the next 27 months. Or longer. To be clear, though, despite some forgivable shortcomings, I think my…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 10:45 PM
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On scoreboards, I think the wife and I have always hypocritically pretended there is no scoreboard between us. But enter two teenage daughters and the scoreboard becomes official. My wife encourages it. Everything is about "fairness." I have been getting into more and more trouble with the three of them lately for not being aware of what the scoreboard is between the two girls, and respecting it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/17 08:25 AM
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How long have you been clean and dry, anyway?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/17 10:32 PM
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Jocko podcast
/r/askMRP20/08/17 01:03 AM
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Damn that A5 is a beautiful car.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 04:14 AM
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Thanks for the comments as always! Very helpful. In retrospect, I could have just said "Dunno" or "It's just one of those things." 80% of these situations with her could be avoided by either of those. I suspect that if we had a record and went back and analyzed all of these little arguments, 80% of the time they are initiated by me saying too much or making some stupid validation seeking statement. Trolling. In this case I was expecting a medal for being Mr. Fixit and she made it all about her. …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 04:03 AM
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you will give less fucks and she will realize her pussy has no power over you. Very true! As context, this whole red pill journey started for me unbeknownst back in 2011 when I moved out of the cosleeping arrangement family bed and into my own room. A year later I supplicated for some wife pussy and got rejected for the last time. I got plates and that fixed the pussy problem. Or created a new one. Actually the plates created a whole bunch of other problems but they did lead me to the Red Pill, …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 12:51 AM
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Thank you for your comment. The next step for me will be identifying one of these things as shit tests while they in progress, instead of afterward, much later. The pattern is predictable, same test 1000s of times.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 12:42 AM
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Progress not Perfection -- OYS 8/18/2017 SUMMARY -- same as last week, on working-vacation and my daily momentum and program broke down further -- I am working to get back on track now; some progress despite myself MISSION is "Be of Service" main focus this week on the family and friends, spending quality time with people READING -- I continue to read MRP and askMRP and take notes; I hung out with a friend who is good at AM and observed him in action. STFU -- Only one incident with the wife and …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 12:36 AM
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Thank you for your comment. If you will pardon the rant, I am coming to think this scenario is a kind of gaslighting. The feminists always make the accusation of gaslighting against any attempt by us MEN to learn game. But this sort of manipulation by the WOMEN is related. What I mean is the scenario here is always one in she raises her voice first. I don't raise my voice until the attack has escalated. Then once I do raise my voice, the whole incident is Scored as just another case where gvntr …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 03:39 AM
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Thanks for the comment. ＞the whole point is you are unfazed and the amused master(y). I need to practice this. When the womenfolk speak with a serious tone of voice, I follow along and respond at their level. I need to cultivate being more of a smartass. it really sounds like you should read WISNIFG again Still working my way through it the first time, but the message has not totally sunk in. I hate to admit my fear of her. It's pretty funny though, because she is not violent and does not retali…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 03:06 AM
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I See Daylight Overhead, Keep Digging-- OYS 8/01/2017 SUMMARY -- same as last week, on working-vacation and my momentum broke down some but I kept grinding away working my daily program; I struggled with a lot of Resistance and Gumption Traps, procrastination and backsliding, got the most important shit done, at least; I realized that starting to write these OYSes a few weeks back represents another turning point; have stared 90 day goal weight loss and exercise program with milestones (was unwi…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 12:59 AM
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Actually, the latest was doing DIY. Anyway, I am somewhat better now so back in action. I am 58, and I need to remember that fact in the gym. Not 18.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/17 10:17 PM
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It's the Grind that Sharpens the Axe -- OYS 8/01/2017 SUMMARY -- momentum from last week broke down some but I kept grinding away working my daily program; I worked, studied, practiced skills and socialized; quality time alone with my children without wife MISSION is "Be of Service" and this week the focus has been on the children; thus far its gone smoothly as for shit tests and confrontations. I have assigned them to cook dinner, and also had them do DIY in the cabin. WISNIFG -- normally in th…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 04:09 AM
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Totally autistic. I could change that to "beginning to see AWALT" in these relationships. Why only with women? Should I be terse and logistics only with my male inner circle?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/17 12:38 AM
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Sounds like DEERing to me. I only realized after 30 years sober that normal people NEVER drink 8 beers and indeed NEVER get drunk at all. Dealing with an "alcohol issue" is a stubborn and persistent problem that will dog you all your life. It requires a systematic approach. Constant effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/17 11:44 PM
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If you are an alcoholic (and nobody goes to AA by mistake) then the drinking problem does not go away all by itself. Some people in AA will use the fact that they are alcoholics, after all, to DEER. Possibly the AA literature encourages this. I think you are safe to assume the drinking problem is still there, smouldering.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 08:47 PM
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I will give the both of those a try. I hate to admit it, but when I face one of these shit tests from her, I don't identify it as a shit test, and get sucked right away into DEERing. Like a 7 year old with a school marm.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 08:33 PM
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Thank you for the comments. I will practice the AM and A&A with the teenage daughter starting today.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 08:22 PM
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"Discipline is freedom" -- OYS Report #3 July 28, 2017 Summary A working vacation week in the cabin alone with dog. Getting up very early, eating clean, working out more, getting shit done. Working my daily program well. Socializing. DIY. Guitar. Study. Swimming. MISSION is "Be of Service" and the primary object is my children, but they are not here this week, so my focus has been on mentoring and on recruiting more guys for my inner circle. I am practicing saying "No" to other requests for serv…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 02:40 AM
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In reality, though I've always been alcohol dependent, I wasn't a full-blown alcoholic. Nobody goes to an AA meeting by mistake.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 12:09 AM
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I have no big picture. Yep. "I lived the last 25 years like a sailor on shore leave." Get Brian Tracy "Ultimate Goals". CDs and workbook. I listened to the CDs. At the part where he talks about "integrity," I was hooked, and decided to really work it. Mind blowing stuff. It took me a year to finish the workbook. A whole year. I worked it and worked it. Wrote and rewrote. First time in my life I had a coherent big picture and clear priorities. I write down the mission and primary objectives plus …
/r/askMRP24/07/17 08:11 AM
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SMV of 47 year old woman is zero. Provided there is not any baggage hidden by courtship behavior. In which case, subzero. But there is probably no baggage here, right?
/r/askMRP24/07/17 06:52 AM
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50 is just a number. Everything broke wide open for me after 50. At 58 I am in a much better place than I was at 48, or even 38. What it is is up to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 11:01 PM
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Week of July 11, 2017 Colonel Hackworth Lately I have been doing a long march through the Jocko podcast. Very good for self-programming. Actually, I started listening to it last September, and that is when I started getting up every morning at 3:55. Getting up at 3:55 is the first change that Colonel Hackworth made to my sad-sack corps. And now every week he is ratcheting up the system, squeezing out the slack. No fucking slack! Mission “Be of Service” -- In the past week I dedicated three half-…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 12:54 AM
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Children are the only real legacy you can have. After almost 30 years with the same woman, married, with kids, I'd say your frame should be, rather than, "I want to get married" to "I want children." If having children is part of your mission in life, then marriage with a high quality woman who is dedicated to mothering can facilitate that project. It's a tried and true system. I believe it is in the best interest of you as a man not to rush into it. Take your own sweet time and wait for circums…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 09:12 AM
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