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| 2 | I don't know how to build comfort | haksli | /r/seduction | 04/09/17 10:15 AM | |
| 2 | Have you ever tried playing hard to get ? | haksli | /r/seduction | 09/10/17 02:24 PM |
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| 1 | Girl threw me under the bus as soon as her friends arrivedI feel like men see in black and white, I know I very often do. So, no, don't ignore her. You don't need to ignore her or start aggressively flirting with her. Do something in between, it depends on the situation, on what she does, on where you bump into her, etc etc. Basically, go on with your life, don't focus on her. That's what most girls are doing (unless their clock is ticking and they are in a hurry to find someone). If you do bump into her, you can do some light flirting maybe, but again… | /r/seduction | 08/03/20 10:31 AM |
| 2 | Girl threw me under the bus as soon as her friends arrivedYou can't really extract anything from this situation and it's not something worth thinking about. It only makes it worse and can make you awkward the next time you talk to her. Just act normally. She was already kinda rude to you, so the next time you talk to her, you know what you can expect from her. | /r/seduction | 07/03/20 09:55 PM |
| 2 | Girl threw me under the bus as soon as her friends arrivedLol, he had one conversation with her. | /r/seduction | 07/03/20 09:48 PM |
| 2 | How does an inexperienced 31 year old get started?Well, there you go. You have a self esteem and self confidence issues. Where do you start ? You start by making small steps towards your goal. The first step is to interact with women. Doesn't matter whether they are attractive or not. | /r/seduction | 24/05/19 10:46 PM |
| 1 | How does an inexperienced 31 year old get started?Masturbation is not your problem, neither is porn. I mean, most of the time, problems lead to addiction not the other way around. And it could be any kind of addiction. It doesn't matter. Just try to minimize masturbation, when you have to, try to do it without porn. Even if you fail at this, it doesn't matter. Just try to heal your life. Girls will follow. P.S. You should realize that its better to have a fulfilling and happy life without a girl. Than having an unhappy and unfulfilling life wit… | /r/seduction | 24/05/19 10:05 PM |
| 10 | I feel so bad, my good friend just ”stole” my crushI agree. OPs ego is hurt. My advice is that, when it comes to girls, your ego WILL get hurt. Try to ignore it. It's easy to pity yourself and drop your friend and the girl who hurt you. But don't do that. It wont bring you anything good. You will lose friends and become bitter. When these kind of things happen to me. I try to do the exact opposite. Smile when saying hello and be extra nice. | /r/seduction | 11/11/17 05:12 PM |
| 3 | Want to let this girl know...should I???She senses that you are interested in her. So she is trying to get a reaction out of you. Some women are like that and they enjoy doing that. It doesn't mean she is interested. That's my view of it. | /r/seduction | 11/11/17 04:58 PM |
| 4 | girls hit me with eye contacts but i avoid it like a pussyI believed in NoFap before. Had a year of therapy. Now, I don't think it matters. | /r/seduction | 09/10/17 02:22 PM |
| 14 | I pass the shit test, but she keeps testing (?)I don't think these are shit tests. IMO it's simply who she is. And she thinks that is who you are. Some women (and men) like that kind of banter. She's probably thinking "wow, we get on so well". So she keeps doing it because it feels good. | /r/seduction | 08/10/17 11:39 AM |
| 0 | I started just having fun at social eventsYes. That is why I am saying "be yourself". | /r/seduction | 07/10/17 03:34 PM |
| 2 | I started just having fun at social eventsAll I am saying is that people are different. There are girls who are into clubbing, but fail to meet a guy they like because they aren't into the type of guys who usually go to clubs. And they might not be aware that they have a type. | /r/seduction | 07/10/17 02:52 PM |
| 2 | I started just having fun at social eventsExcept, most a lot of girls aren't into guys who are "the life of the party". They might like him and get along with him, but there's a difference between liking and being into. A lot of them are into low energy guys and are turned off by "the life of the party" type of guys. So the solution is to "be yourself". Some guys don't know who they are. They need to figure that out first. | /r/seduction | 07/10/17 02:16 PM |
| 6 | Getting a girl (for a relationship) if she's out of your league?Show her that you have the balls to go for someone who is out of your league. | /r/seduction | 07/10/17 10:30 AM |
| 1 | Where did I fuck up? 30 Second Conversation.I don't know. Next time you see her, try again. | /r/seduction | 07/10/17 10:29 AM |
| 0 | Approached a 18 year old girlThick push up bras tend to help with that. | /r/seduction | 05/10/17 07:58 PM |
| 5 | Approached a 18 year old girlI say he can stick to anything he wants. Anything above 18 that is. | /r/seduction | 05/10/17 07:58 PM |
| 2 | How do I stop being so laid back and nonchalant?This. Some girls like high energy guys others like low energy guys. Don't try to be something you are not. Be comfortable with what you are. | /r/seduction | 05/10/17 07:55 PM |
| 3 | The 100% best way to approach anyoneIn small towns, people care more about you social standing, reputation, family, money, and things like that. If you have things going for you, you have an advantage. People also tend to live more slowly. Relationships between people are valued more. Women don't have as much "quality men" at their disposal. If a girl likes you, chances are, your courting can last for months. And she will wait for you because most other men suck. Girls tend to have one or two relationships before getting married. … | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 10:25 PM |
| 7 | The 100% best way to approach anyoneSmall towns can be clique-y Tell me about it. I can talk all day about that... It marked my life. But also, I learned a lot from it. | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 12:32 PM |
| 3 | How to lead conversations in the group?Try to join the group conversation and do it with confidence, talk more loudly and make less eye contact with people (as if you don't care whether they are listening or not). Don't feel bad when you don't or can't join the conversation. Being quiet is ok, and the girl wont think badly of you. Often times, silence is sexy. It shows that you are confident to be quiet without feeling uncomfortable. | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 12:14 PM |
| 1 | How do I deal with my sexual racism?I am the same. I am not very attracted to the girls who belong to the majority. Except I am in a more difficult situation. My ethnicity is a minority in my country. There are about 0.7% of us here (0.7% from the total population of my country). The girls are good looking, but I just can't see myself with them. There's something about them, I am not sure what. So I am still trying to find a girl of my ethnicity. It's very difficult, but I am not giving up. I told this to my friends (who both have… | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 12:08 PM |
| 174 | The 100% best way to approach anyoneThis is good advice. It works especially well in a small community where people know each other, but don't ACTUALLY know each other. You know who she is, she knows who you are, but you never talked. You find out something about her. When you bump into her, you say hello and then ask her a question regarding that thing. And you just talk as if you knew each other. This is more difficult to do in cities, but still doable. | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 11:39 AM |
| 1 | Added a girl on Facebook ... what now?Imo, this strategy is better than openly asking her out. It will show that you have the social skills to show her that you like her WITHOUT putting her on the spot. Most girls hate saying 'no'. And also, if she is not sure, you are giving her time to process things. Which can increase your chances with her. | /r/seduction | 27/09/17 12:04 PM |
| 2 | Added a girl on Facebook ... what now?You need to show intent. If you don't, she might distance herself from you. Basically, change your behavior a little bit. Also, make prolonged eye contact. Touch her shoulder/hand. She will notice something is up. After you show intent, you need to observe her reaction. If you are not sure whether her reaction is positive or negative. You need to give her some time to process it. Maybe even distance yourself and wait for her to give you a signal that she likes you. If it's positive, ask her out.… | /r/seduction | 27/09/17 09:09 AM |
| 1 | Clinical Social Anxiety/Depression and PickupThis is good advice. | /r/seduction | 27/09/17 09:01 AM |
| 4 | What makes a girl wanting to talk to you after talking for the first time?This question is too general. It depends on a lot of things. Are you in a club or a bus station? What kind of person is she? etc etc | /r/seduction | 27/09/17 08:59 AM |
| 1 | Trying to figure out what girls would be attracted to me and how to meet them as a struggling guyGirls feel it when you try hard to impress them. It's one of the reasons why taken guys are more attractive. I am talking about you as a person. The fact that there is nothing wrong with you doesn't mean you shouldn't take care of yourself. And you should do it because YOU want to. Because it makes you feel good. Again, when wearing expensive fancy clothes. You do it for you. You do it because it makes YOU feel good, just look in the mirror and see how great you look. Even when people compliment… | /r/seduction | 27/09/17 08:09 AM |
| 3 | Trying to figure out what girls would be attracted to me and how to meet them as a struggling guyThe real reason why she doesn't want to go any further is because she "doesn't feel it". Girls are all about emotions. And there is no rational explanation. So I assume that she just didn't find you sexually attractive. If this is so, you need to be more sexual. Sexuality is all about tension, light touching, looking at her like you want to f*** her and things like that. | /r/seduction | 26/09/17 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Trying to figure out what girls would be attracted to me and how to meet them as a struggling guyYea, you are right. | /r/seduction | 26/09/17 06:32 PM |
| 3 | Trying to figure out what girls would be attracted to me and how to meet them as a struggling guyMost* women don't look at physical beauty as much as you think. I smell low self esteem. | /r/seduction | 26/09/17 06:24 PM |
| 14 | Trying to figure out what girls would be attracted to me and how to meet them as a struggling guyDon't do what other guys do. Instead, find your own way. Use your strengths (everyone has them). Improve yourself. Start going to the gym. Start having all sorts of interests. Don't talk to them about games and coding, instead try to be more mysterious. Start talking to people more. Women are people too, and it's important to show them that you treat them as such. A lot of women are attracted by the fact that you treat them as human beings (instead of giving them special attention just because t… | /r/seduction | 26/09/17 06:18 PM |
| 1 | 2 types of girlsAll girls are a mix of the two types. Not a single girl is just one type. But most tend to be on "one side of the scale". | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 08:29 PM |
| 1 | 2 types of girlsI am not doing that. All girls are a mix of the two types. Not a single girl is just one type. But most tend to be on "one side of the scale". It's also not who they are, it's about what they like. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Is this girl interested in me?Does it matter ? | /r/seduction | 03/09/17 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Is this girl interested in me?Well, this is just a theory, I don't know her. She might not be aggressive (in communication). Or she might just like subtle flirting. I've had girls look at me while they were sitting right next to their boyfriend. They like it when other guys look at them. And they like to look back. Nothing ever came of it. | /r/seduction | 03/09/17 10:19 AM |
| 1 | Is this girl interested in me?No way to know, but it seems like she is the kind of girl that is more aggressive. These girls like to have an effect on men... mostly men who keep a distance. It's a challenge to her. And since her boyfriend is there, she does it subtly. | /r/seduction | 03/09/17 09:24 AM |
| 1 | How to identify and avoid golddigger type girls?I thought about this A LOT. My family owns a bunch of businesses. And my father is well known in the community for his entrepreneurial skills. Outside of our community, not so much. I also had the opportunity to notice how girls act around me inside the community and outside it. And also when girls inside the community didn't know who I am. Once they found out, they started acting differently. In my opinion. There are 3 type of girls. The first type is the active gold digger. Actively seeking gu… | /r/seduction | 02/09/17 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Is this girl interested in me?She might be looking at you because she finds you attractive. And in the same time have a boyfriend. There is no way to know. | /r/seduction | 02/09/17 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Hottest girl liked me...but then...Here's one more advice. You are too suggestible. Try to work on that. It will help you in life (not just girls). The sooner you start working on it the better. | /r/seduction | 31/08/17 08:42 AM |
| 1 | Hottest girl liked me...but then...Still not too late. The "I am a coward" thing is all in your head. | /r/seduction | 30/08/17 10:27 PM |
| 3 | Is it me or beautiful girls are nicer than others ?Maybe you just find nicer and more agreeable girls more attractive. They tend to send positive vibes, which men like. | /r/seduction | 30/08/17 10:17 PM |
| 1 | A counterintelligence agent says there are 3 strategies you can use to connect with anyoneThere are a lot of articles about body language. | /r/seduction | 30/08/17 10:16 PM |
| 1 | A counterintelligence agent says there are 3 strategies you can use to connect with anyoneWell, Donald Trump is the boss type personality. And he is subconsciously sending the "I am not happy with your performance" signals. It makes a very shitty person, but a very effective boss. | /r/seduction | 30/08/17 10:15 PM |
| 7 | Fear of other people when I approachI am similar when it comes to other people. When someone is watching or listening, it gets 10 times worse for me. And I know why. When I was younger, my parents listened very carefully whenever someone talked to me. And they always stepped in when they didn't like what they heard (and they NEVER liked what they heard). So when other people are listening or looking, I have the feeling that they are being critical of me. | /r/seduction | 29/08/17 05:12 PM |
| 1 | Best way to connect to women emotionally?You also need to know her longer. I don't know you so I can't know. | /r/seduction | 26/08/17 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Young girls like me more..People can effectively tell the "social position" of the person of their age. But fail to do so with younger and older people. So for example, you might have an uncle that most people (of his age) disrespect. They make fun of him. They don't trust his judgment. Basically, they consider him "uncool". Their view of him "colors" everything he does, the way he looks, diminishes his success in life, etc. You don't see him that way, because he's older than you. This "uncool" uncle... think Breaking Ba… | /r/seduction | 26/08/17 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Best way to connect to women emotionally?Tell her something you don't tell everyone. Be careful, it could backfire. | /r/seduction | 26/08/17 04:51 PM |
| 1 | 23 year old virgin,New here.Problems like that take some time to resolve. Identify the things that you would want to do. And then start doing baby steps. | /r/seduction | 26/08/17 04:22 PM |
| 13 | How to make girls feel a little more comfortable and at ease with you?They are nervous around you because they put you on a pedestal. You need to break that and show them that you are just a person. Tell them something about yourself. If you are really interested, and they start getting comfortable around you. Tell them something that you don't tell everyone. This will show them that you trust them. It will build closeness and in the same time, don't forget to build that sexual tension a little bit. | /r/seduction | 26/08/17 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Approaching is easy letting a girl know i am interested and flirting is hardAnd do it genuinely. If you force it, it will backfire. If you realize that it doesn't work at all, then don't do it. I guess you have to use what works for you. | /r/seduction | 21/08/17 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Approaching is easy letting a girl know i am interested and flirting is hardWhile you talk to these girls, try to spice things up. One good way is to have a more expressive body language. Nod when you can, use gesticulation, continue using strong eye contact, etc. But don't force it. Do it more when she does it. Do it less when she doesn't do it. This way, she will feel "in sync" with you. | /r/seduction | 21/08/17 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Approaching is easy letting a girl know i am interested and flirting is hardIt depends on your eyes, the type of look you "give her" and the way you look. Also, everyone has a different look. | /r/seduction | 21/08/17 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Approaching is easy letting a girl know i am interested and flirting is hardIt doesn't matter that you mess up. Just stay cool. She wont remember your words, but she will remember the emotions you showed her during your screw up. You could be talking about the damn weather... it doesn't matter as long as you SHOW HER that you like her. Even the creeper stare can work. Once, while waiting for the bus, I accidentally looked at this girls eyes. And she looked at me. And I accidentally gave her a prolonged eye contact. Then we entered the bus... she stood VERY close to me. … | /r/seduction | 21/08/17 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Approaching is easy letting a girl know i am interested and flirting is hardI do the eye contact thing, but I do it without the smile. I don't grin when I smile. Still works though. | /r/seduction | 21/08/17 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Approaching is easy letting a girl know i am interested and flirting is hardEdit: what do you mean by say something like say something to convey that you are interested in her? No. Just tell her anything. It doesn't matter as long as you do the eye contact thing, possibly with a smile. The last time I did this is when I ordered a drink at this bar. Me and my friends have been going there for a long time and fairly often. And there is this girl who works there (her side job). And I have always been cold towards her with minimal eye contact. And I NEVER chatted with her. … | /r/seduction | 21/08/17 09:34 PM |
| 1 | Approaching is easy letting a girl know i am interested and flirting is hardSo you actually tried it AFTER I wrote it in the comment ? | /r/seduction | 21/08/17 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Approaching is easy letting a girl know i am interested and flirting is hardWell you have to say something to her. | /r/seduction | 21/08/17 08:14 PM |
| 4 | Approaching is easy letting a girl know i am interested and flirting is hardLet her know you are interested in her by making prolonged eye contact. And don't look at her body (she will notice this), just focus on her face (mainly the eyes). Unless she is blind, it will be pretty obvious to her that you like her. It works 99% of the time I do it. | /r/seduction | 21/08/17 02:17 PM |
| 5 | How do I get taken seriously instead of being cuteMaybe they feel that you are trying too hard. Also, humor breaks tension. Which works against you. A lot of women are attracted by men who show pride. These are men who don't try to make them laugh. | /r/seduction | 16/08/17 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Developing God Tier Eye Contact | The real reason why you can't maintain strong eye contact with a womenI was bullied too, childhood trauma from bad parenting, etc. Anxiety, depression... The interesting thing is that, when anxious or tense, I make too much eye contact. Women often think I am attracted to them (even when I am not). A lot of these girls go into full blown anxiety when around me. In their mind, strong eye contact signals confidence. And if they are attracted to me, they get intimidated by me. If I am interested, I go into anxiety mode too. And I have a difficult time getting them to… | /r/seduction | 11/08/17 12:47 PM |
| 23 | How can I actually be myself when talking to girls?Try practicing with other people, in other ways ofc. A few years ago, this girl hurt me with her behavior. I couldn't stop thinking about it for the next couple of hours and felt really bad. So I tried to imagine her being a child (I am an adult and a child can't hurt me). And just like that, the feeling of being hurt disappeared. This method can be used in a manner of ways. For example, when you see someone and you want to say hello. Just imagine it's your best friend and that you are happy to … | /r/seduction | 29/07/17 12:33 PM |
| 1 | I’m not intimidated by looks, I’m intimidated by intelligence. Any advice?A lot of insecure smart girls want to feel smarter than the guy they are dating. | /r/seduction | 18/03/17 10:56 AM |
| 1 | How Do You Guys Keep Good Contact With Everyone and Build Better Relationships/How Do You Express Your Sense of Humor Even If It's Weird?For example, one of the techniques is to always be smiling What to do when you are an introvert who smiles only when things are funny? :/ | /r/seduction | 15/03/17 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Girl invites me home, still fucked it up due to performance anxietyHere's an advice I got: when you are talking to a person, focus on how this person is feeling. And I've tried it a couple of times. It makes the person I am talking to comfortable. They feel like you "met them on common ground". And it also makes you comfortable. If you are not doing this, you are focusing on how you are feeling, and this person is meeting you on your ground. And they aren't attracted to you if you are on the "uncomfortable ground". And they are meeting you on your ground (when … | /r/seduction | 15/03/17 09:55 PM |
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