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Always a winner. At least once a week I rough chop random veggies, coat them in oil and throw them in a cast iron. Plop a whole chicken on top, rub it in spices and shove some garlic inside. 5 min prep, mindless roast and leaves plenty of left overs. Always his favorites even moreso than more labor intensive meals.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/15 12:06 AM
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I love how passionate you are about surrounding your daughter with strong male influences. I wish I could have learned that way instead of the hard way.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/15 02:51 PM
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I think you guys are moving REALLY fast.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/15 02:49 PM
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Omg best anniversary gift ever
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 03:27 AM
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No babies for us, unfortunately. Although I count myself "lucky" in that I knew very early, before I even could want them. We have lots of dogs instead (for now) :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 04:22 PM
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Sorry for your loss, wingnut ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 08:47 PM
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Never said that and I didn't mean that at all. But maybe she's embarrassed about digestive issues & that's why she's giving it pause. She should address that (if that's the case). Just another side for discussion. Source: old roommate with IBS and anal fetish, which was a hilarious combo.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 02:33 PM
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just let it go.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/15 02:04 AM
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Congrats on the raise!!!
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/15 01:54 AM
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You can be the Captain no matter how the dollars a split. If a woman is working full time and doing all the house work, I'd question if her man was filling his role as a captain. Captain/first mate is a mindset, and it has nothing to do with anyone's 9-5.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/15 01:53 AM
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This is a long shot, buuut. Is she willing to please you otherwise or in other areas? If this is the "only" thing that's changed this far in ... Maybe there's a possibility that she's not as comfortable with it now for a medical reason. Has her health changed, or her diet since then?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 01:46 AM
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Might be so old that you don't remember making this comment a while back. But just letting you know this is his new favorite game to play and it's fucking hilarious EVERY time.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/15 01:27 AM
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Wow. Thank you for sharing, I needed to read that.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/15 03:56 AM
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They're like 70% of what makes up my closet, haha!
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/15 11:14 AM
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That's normally the basic jersey knit ones. But they're my fav!
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/15 11:13 AM
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30 hour weeks from home sounds like a dream :) thanks so much xo
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/15 11:59 PM
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Oh god, dresses from H&M. Affordable (some are 2 for 10 on sale pretty frequently) so I don't care if I mess them up in the kitchen. Tons of styles/colors/fits for whatever you think is flattering. I have them in every color, and multiples of my favs. My man loves my "rainbow of tiny dresses" example
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/15 11:57 PM
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H&M and Forever 21 are great spots for cheap lounge dresses in flattering shapes!
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/15 11:53 PM
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I think you'll be fine :) maybe try to prepare some food ahead of time to bring with you - much cheaper and healthier than airport food! Good luck. Would love an update to see how your trip is going.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/15 07:42 PM
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Seven hours is not a long work day. Fuck her in the morning and after work.
/r/askTRP15/07/15 12:59 PM
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I was a suuuuper shy teen. As mentioned in the other comment, customer service helps. Is she working? A part time gig at a counter or even call center can get her accustomed to pleasant interactions. I used to work in a book store - a quiet place where I was comfortable, and was never too fast paced. It's also great to get involved in activities with varying ages for practice, and having a task to focus on keeps the conversation going. Maybe volunteering at a local humane society? Pick up intram…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/15 12:50 PM
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God, this is so great. You SO get it. Thank you so much. We've spent the last three years dealing with a hectic schedule already, and he's even said before "you are my safe haven" so I know I'm getting some of my care taking right. I love that you mentioned the tub - we have a big one and take one together religiously once a week & it's always the highlight for me :) His health is a concern for me too. I have a background in nutrition, so I plan his meals specifically in hopes of getting all he …
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/15 03:46 AM
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Was looking for different outside perspectives and this hits the spot. Just printed this out. Thank you so much. Will update as this develops.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/15 03:35 AM
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Fantastic addition! Thank you!! This has been a great discussion.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/15 11:57 PM
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Oh my god, that's killer. So sorry. Is that ending any time soon?
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/15 11:24 PM
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So glad to see your perspective, thank you. I know he's working hard for Us, so I want to work hard to make it easier on him. My big fear is home becoming a burden after such a long work day - so I try to make every night feel like vacation as much as possible.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/15 07:25 PM
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Great reminders!!! I love baking bread :) check out /breadit if you haven't!
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/15 07:19 PM
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All great reminders :) thanks so much
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/15 05:54 PM
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Ugh, I wish he would. im hoping with me cutting hours and helping at the office more, he'll let me take on a little more responsibility so he can have a real day off every once in a while. Thanks for the help.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/15 04:24 PM
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No worries! I don't keep an exact recipe on hand, but if you go to foodgawker.com and search "protein bar" you'll find awesome recipes! Usually I browse a few and kind of blend the recipes to what I think he likes :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/15 02:52 PM
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Kevin Hart is also 5'4" FYI. He's not my cup of tea, but he's got a hot fiancé and he's worked hard to turn his career into something really noteworthy. He often posts "inspiration" on his Instagram and other social media. If you're not getting what you want here then maybe look into finding other short, successful men you want to emulate.
/r/askTRP01/07/15 03:38 PM
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Aw, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/15 11:23 AM
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Just ordered :) thanks for the recommendation
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 07:17 PM
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Aw, I don't think there's ever something you should be reluctant to post about! I'm glad you brought this up, it's provided a really nice discussion. I love this community :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 06:30 PM
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No matter how long you've been a sahw or SAHM or even a working wife/mom/gf, nobody's arrived at completion. There is always something to do, to improve, to consider. Oooooh. So good. Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 06:26 PM
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Have you read the Steve Harvey book? I know it's got some positive reviews, but he gets on my nerves & I sort of don't want to give him money - hah! But if someone else here likes it I definitely will give it a chance.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 06:16 PM
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I totally understand. Every relationship dynamic is different, so if that works for you then keep rockin' it! The emphasis we put on is more how you handle it - don't nag, try to be manipulative, or pout or whine if it doesn't go your way. Sounds like that's not something you have an issue with, so good for you :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 03:58 PM
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You said this so much better than I did! Well put!
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 03:52 PM
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Wow, you sparked such a great discussion. OP, if you're looking for more reading material, you might like this book. My SO and I are both introverts, but like you are charismatic & friendly people. I think it's a good combo :)
/r/TheRedPill30/06/15 03:46 PM
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Submitting to your man doesn't mean not thinking for yourself or not ever making suggestions. Just means if he doesn't agree, don't bitch about it or "make" him go. I pick where my SO and I go out to lunch almost every time. He's too busy to think about it at work, so I just pick him up and drive him wherever we're going. This isn't me being dominant, it's me helping him take his mind off things and relax. Hope that example makes sense :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 03:35 PM
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"Am I taking this too seriously" IMO, yes :) but that's ok! Asking questions is how you grow. You keep asking if you will be treated like a child forever. Do you feel like you are being treated like a child now? From your answers to the questions, it sounds like you sort of answered all of this for yourself. You're on a journey of self discovery, your relationship seems like it is happy and healthy. And you also mentioned that you'd treat another woman like a child if she was behaving like one. …
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 03:31 PM
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I don't think you have to wait to offer to cook or bake. When my SO and I first got together, I baked him homemade protein bars and he loved them. I think the dating "game" is relatively simple - IF you are comfortable in where you are in life and find this man is a good match for you. In the beginning with my SO, and even still, here are some patterns that I think help(ed): I lead a full life, with hobbies I enjoy and a career that makes me happy. This keeps me in a happy mental space, and show…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 03:25 PM
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Yes you do. Just do it. There's no magic motivation formula. Discipline just means getting after it day in and day out whether you want to or not. "I don't know how" is a cop out and a lie.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/15 03:13 PM
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I agree with a good chunk of this post. Just anecdotal, but: I feel like (at least here in the U.S.) more and more men are moving away from marriage, fewer are wanting to start families, and a lot are waiting MUCH longer to pursue commitment. As such, I've found women seem to be getting much more competitive when it comes to dating, mate guarding, and pursuing suitors. Does anyone else experience this? We are also in the south, so I think most women here still itch to settle down early. I am dat…
/r/TheRedPill30/06/15 03:06 PM
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I know, it was my favorite ice cream before so he got the lube for me as a joke. But now I don't crave ice cream, I just get horny. Wait ... Maybe that was on purpose ...
/r/askTRP30/06/15 02:58 PM
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Oh my god. My SO got me salted caramel flavored lube a couple months ago. We walked into a coffee shop together yesterday and the smell hit us in the face. We couldn't even order coffee, just made eye contact and immediately we had to run home and fuck. 10/10.
/r/askTRP30/06/15 02:52 PM
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Any form of learning is great. You didn't mention work outs. Personally, I'm a late night lifter. The gym is empty and I can get in the zone. Hormone levels and their effect on us is different person to person, but I can lift, then get a PWO meal and be asleep an hour after eating. Or... Maybe you can work on adjusting your sleep schedule, if you find you aremore productive during daylight hours?
/r/askTRP30/06/15 02:48 PM
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That's so awesome. I did two bikini shows last year. I was content in my placing for both, I guess. My last one they said I had too much upper body muscle. So then I thought I might try figure. But now I've just spent a year being too big for bikini and too small for figure letting my muscle fluctuate. I've been working out with some power lifters once a week and I love them. So maybe that could be my next adventure :) so cool to hear that you do both!
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 01:07 PM
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Are you doing an NPC comp!?
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 08:24 PM
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I just meant in the future :) the idea creeped me out at first, I just tell her don't worry about our bedroom or closets. She doesn't need to see my vibrator collection thank you very much, hahah
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/15 09:57 PM
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You're getting great advice here, but I just want to add: If you're having a particularly busy period at work, and you've got some disposable income - there is no shame in hired help. There are services that drop groceries off at your door, pick up and drop off laundry, or very reasonable maid services out there. I think sometimes I get caught up in my pride being a domestic diva, but when work has pushed me 70+ hours, and I know my honey is working that much too ... I would rather forfeit the p…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/15 07:31 PM
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"I know exactly how to catch this/these fish" ... said no fisherman ... ever! One more time, I was being helpful - this was the only thing I was clearing up for you. I have never been arguing with you. You've turned this into something entirely unnecessary. Also, read my username, I will not "man up"
/r/askTRP28/06/15 04:18 PM
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I'm not going to argue with you. I didn't say you were wrong, but that we were on a different page. My only point was that in this case, for you, the man is the fisherman in the analogy. I then linked you to a discussion to explain it so I didn't have to. You're welcome.
/r/askTRP28/06/15 04:04 PM
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Aw, you're so sweet. Thank you. Like the other, it's certainly not my bible. But I found I learned a great deal. I learned a lots in my disagreements with it too, if that makes sense. Let me know if you like it or not.
/r/askTRP28/06/15 04:46 AM
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"I know exactly how to catch these fish" says a lot of really skilled fisherman. We aren't on the same page. I suggest you google. here is an example discussion that I found in 4 seconds of quick research
/r/askTRP28/06/15 03:04 AM
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No worries :) I think you sound really great. - I'm sure there's plenty of men who would love to be a suitor. Dating just sucks sometimes :) xo
/r/askTRP27/06/15 05:20 PM
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Surrendered single is different than surrendered wife, FYI :) my man and I are both professionals and i still found great help from it. Not everything is on par, but it's great for a general idea of femininity.
/r/askTRP27/06/15 05:19 PM
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Hi OP :) there's some good advice in this thread. One thing I see mentioned a lot is "don't ask a fish how to catch a fish, ask a skilled fisherman" hope that makes sense as to why you're getting a lot of responses to go to RPW. That might be a nice topic to cover - starting a new thread on dating over 35. But it's up to you :) Fitness and intelligence are fantastic. As RPW we don't believe in becoming someone we are not, but rather just enhancing our attractive traits. Beyond physical beauty, t…
/r/askTRP27/06/15 01:45 PM
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I would love to hear about that if you are ever in the mood for sharing :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/15 11:42 PM
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Ugh, yes. Please keep saying this, tempest! I get so bothered at the assumption that anyone here is a SAHM. I own my own business, dammit! It's just that my man is priority #1, not way down the list.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/15 11:35 PM
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You said it already! "That was his choice, his journey, and his struggle that I don't want credit for." Maybe toss in something about being thankful to watch him grow, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/15 11:31 PM
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Totally! Plus I utilize it for fun stuff like short ribs, or making stocks from scratch. I got a whole duck at the farmers market for dinner last weekend - it was so tasty! Now the bones are in there with some veggies and Parmesan rinds to make a bomb ass base for soup tomorrow! So much easier than watching the stove.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/15 07:14 PM
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Example: Last month, at a networking happy hour. We socialize separately. Often men and women break apart at these. I'm chatting with other women, then abroach the bar for second beer. At the bar I am approached by a man and we talk about work and have idle banter. I try to relocate to my group of women and he follows me over. SO sees this and comes over and places his hand around my waist. I introduce him happily and and candidly to the new guy & all diffuses into a nice talk and him excusing h…
/r/TheRedPill19/06/15 02:23 AM
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FYI he laughed out loud reading your response. We have a wedding and a networking event this weekend and says he's pumped to play this game. I'll let you know how it goes :)
/r/TheRedPill19/06/15 02:18 AM
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What is the problem? (Neutral phrasing: use words like "we," and "our" so that you aren't trying to off-load problems at your SO's feet when there's actually plenty of blame to go around) What are your faults? How have you contributed to the creation of these issues? Why do you think this (these) problem(s) manifested? What steps have you already taken to try and resolve the problem? How long has this been an issue? Are you making a mountain out of a mole-hill? If a woman you really despised cam…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/15 02:10 AM
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Thank you for sharing. Reading your post, and all of the comments here ... Your attitude right now is so inspiring. I think it's really great. You have provided me (and I'm sure many others) so much to think about. Please keep us updated - I am so happy to read your story.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/15 02:08 AM
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Isn't that great :) when we let go of little bullshit we have so much more free time to be happy. Good for you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/15 08:33 PM
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I agree, like I mentioned in a previous comment. When my SO does it, it doesn't come off as jealous. It's more like he's swatting away a pest. I think it's hot :)
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 04:35 AM
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I know the game. I just really love the rules :)
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 04:31 AM
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I agree. I think it shows confidence when he doesn't interfere - "there's no competition there." And when he does it's more like he's batting away a pest than being jealous or competitive. I love it.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 04:30 AM
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I dunno. If my SO and I are at events and a guy is coming on too strong, I like when my man swoops in. To me it feels more protective than anything else. But I know some people read mate guarding as jealous and snarky. I think of it as a confidence thing. I like when he marks his territory around me, makes me feel safe and appreciated. But then again he certainly doesn't do it every single time I talk to any man, which could be the difference in our interpretations.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/15 10:36 PM
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Shh, I wanna see it play out :))
/r/TheRedPill16/06/15 09:44 PM
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Aw, I didn't meant it to come off like that. I don't judge him at all, and I love that women want his attention - he's desirable! But if they want too much of it I just make sure they know I am the only one that gets to touch the butt.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/15 09:40 PM
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Wow, as a woman with no babies I had never even thought of that. When I was younger I just played outside a lot & was involved in sports. You're right, there isn't much offered there!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/15 09:38 PM
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I mean, I'm sane. I don't fly off the handle. We just typically work the room separately and if I see a young woman getting too flirty I come over and introduce myself and put my arm through his. He always says he really likes it, but he's also very commitment minded & likes showing me off. Could just be the difference in your personalities. Just wanted to explain that I don't act like a big shit head :)
/r/TheRedPill16/06/15 09:37 PM
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I've been in a LTR with a wonderful man for almost 3 years now. Our relationship is fantastic, but I still know this is true! Even after all this time, I am always "mate guarding" in public. I especially do this around his work events when I know there are dumb little girls trying to get his attention. Even his accidental or inadvertent dread game sends me into overdrive - and I know the rules of the game!
/r/TheRedPill16/06/15 06:04 PM
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I dunno. I'm pretty caught up in my own femininity and I'm very happy. What do you mean by that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/15 04:11 PM
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I left the corporate world to run my own business 4 years ago and my happiness has increased tenfold. When we go to events for my SO's firm it seems like everyone gets a drink, then splits into groups of men or women. Then the bitching starts. I'm not around it anymore so it's always jarring. We usually leave early.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/15 04:09 PM
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I am always glad my mother never had me playing with barbies or watching princess fairy tales. Princess culture and babying bothers me. I keep a small circle of female friends just because I am very careful of who is rubbing off on me. I used to work in a large office and the lunch hour was toxic. I dislike how bitch-fests (mostly about SO's) are commonly used as bonding between friends. I now work with a lot of pregnant women, I also dislike how "the baby made me eat ___, stop working out, bitc…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/15 02:36 PM
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Costa Rica is a fantastic spot for ex pats as well!
/r/TheRedPill16/06/15 02:15 PM
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That's why the first word in my comment was "commitment." Looks like you have some inadequacy issues based on your exercise program, maybe you could try to practice that discipline. Creating and maintaining positive habits can have great influences on the mind. Maybe pick one day a week to incorporate some lifts that will benefit your martial arts practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/15 11:16 AM
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Hey, me too :) just meant it's not always comfortable!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/15 11:13 AM
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Head over to /r/steroids. There's great resources and reading material there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/15 11:00 PM
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What a beautiful love letter to women :) I'd love to read the whole thing if you'd link it!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 10:28 PM
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Can confirm, am happily in love with a silver fox.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/15 10:24 PM
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Not for women either. This girl doesn't know what she's talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/15 10:20 PM
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Exercise is never overrated, that is so silly. Committing to lifting (or whatever your physical exercise pleasure) shows stickability. It shows that you can commit to something that's not always fun or easy if it means reaching a goal. It improves your health. It improves sexual stamina. It can give you short and long term goals that boost your self esteem in reaching or trying to reach them. I have clients with scoliosis, legally blind, double amputees, 30+ weeks pregnant and they're all in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/15 10:07 PM
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Totally! I think it's best to attack the lovin from all sides 😁😊
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 09:36 PM
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Omg I am so with you. I dream up gifts for months.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 08:21 PM
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This is so sweet :) I have a handful of prenatal clients at all times and I always loooove when they're nesting. So cute!! Congrats to you!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 08:04 PM
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PT is another great choice. Keep doing your research, the body work industry is huge & there's plenty of room to grow. Feel free to PM me if you ever want help or just to talk to a woman who has been there :) best of luck xo
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 07:59 PM
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Mine are touch and quality time. But I notice my love language is a little ... Fluid. My man works a ton, so I know his time is valuable and I really appreciate him giving it to me. It's not in the book but I think my love language is definitely "effort." If that makes sense ... I'd say my SO's are acts of service (cooking for him, bringing him things to the office, taking care of the house, running his errands, whatever) and touch. He's very snuggly :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 03:32 PM
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The average career for an LMT is 6-9 years. You're on your feet a lot, and you need to make sure you go to a good school that teaches you self care and proper techniques and posture so you're not destroying your hands and wrists. You can do it forever if you want, or transition out (like I did and many others). I mentioned it because you're already interested, and the schooling can be very affordable. You can graduate with little debt, make decent money (depending) while you work on your bigger …
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 01:26 PM
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Never let anyone tell you a four year degree is required for self worth, a respectable man, or a career! College these days is an absolute sham most of the time. If you aren't 100% sure your degree will pay off or is in a field that demands it I highly recommend looking elsewhere. There are PLENTY of trades that make great money and you leave school with a fraction of the debt or none at all. I started a small business right out of high school and didn't go back to college until years later - an…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 03:16 AM
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My SO (he is also RP) and I don't believe in marriage, but we do believe that love and commitment can be delicious when you find a good match.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/15 09:44 PM
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After reading through these comments and posts, it sounds like this was a really great learning experience for you! You're doing a great job analyzing the situation. (I know there's a lot of tough love here, so just wanted to offer you some encouragement!) I think you've got some great things here that will set you up nicely for next time.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/15 03:43 PM
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Totally agree :) I think being vulnerable is feminine anyway. I was grieving last year and my SO said he hated that it was a hard time for me, but he felt so much closer to me because he loves caring for me and loves when I need him.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/15 03:33 PM
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FYI my man was scrolling through my comments and messages on here last night. your comment made him want an egg sandwich for breakfast :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/15 03:30 PM
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Damn. If only I were more sexually liberated :(
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/15 05:01 PM
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Wow this post absolutely changed my life. What would I have done without your validation.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/15 08:28 AM
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Wish I had thought this clearly when I was 19 :) keep up the great work.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/15 08:26 AM
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In my single days I usually did well with a combo of living heavy weights and making sweet love to my vibrator.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/15 08:58 PM
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So sorry, what a hard time. It sounds like your man is performing to the best of his abilities, and it's great he's catching up on projects. Is writing therapeutic for you - did this post help you? Maybe keep writing out how you feel. Maybe you can continue to rewrite it until you can find a positive spin. Or better yet, tell your SO how proud of how strong he is through this, that you respect him and are excited for your future together, and that your relationship will be better once this (very…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/15 10:48 PM
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My SO and I have a similar age gap. I love dating older men, because they're usually past playing games that young dudes are still fucking with. With that in mind, maybe just be cute about it and say "you've been on my mind all day, I keep reaching for the phone to text you." Or something? If you feel like he's just not into texting all the time (personal preference) then maybe do your best to limit it. Is the information enough that you'd enjoy calling him to tell him? If not maybe save it for …
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 08:29 PM
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Fat loss is 80% diet, which should be your focus. If you are just starting out your fitness journey, then I say start by doing whatever you are drawn to most. The important thing is that you're building habits going forward that will stick - so start with p90x or a fun class, or anything else approachable and enjoyable to you. From there develop your fitness goals and then your work outs to match!
/r/askTRP09/06/15 01:50 PM
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The other comments have fantastic advice - but I just want to tell you ... Don't write off your slow cooker! It doesn't have to be boring soups or stupid chicken and rice dishes. I have no clue what your dietary restrictions are or what flavor profiles you're into, but try to google and look up some good food blogs - I use my slow cooker once a week and it's always a great meal (and we're foodies!)
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/15 01:19 PM
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You have a plan to work out for the next year, which is great. What is your plan for your relationship for the next year? What goals are you setting there, to ensure you maintain and cultivate the level of intimacy you both need?
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/15 07:29 PM
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Wow, I love your story :) thanks for sharing.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/15 12:15 PM
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This is so touching, thanks for sharing :))
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/15 12:08 PM
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I don't think you'd end up being used. I think your main goal right now should be to make your home his Happy Place! Because we all want to spend time at our happy place more often, don't we? :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 04:49 PM
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Wow, that sounds like a dream :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 12:02 PM
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I think looking is a waste of time, too. Bumped into my man (and I mean that literally) at a bourbon tasting. Funny things happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/15 03:37 AM
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I totally agree with that last part! I see on deadbedrooms LL women saying all the time "we don't do it anymore and it feels awkward now" or "after I get going I realize I like it" I think initiating frequently keeps my engine revved. Plus he just gets so happy :) and I love seeing him that way.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 01:20 AM
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I'm an RPW, so I'm not sure if I fall under the umbrella of "rp'ers" for you ... but thought I might put in two cents anyway, since you gave some nice feedback on my recent post! Just through casual skimming over this thread, I think you and I have similar world views and seem to also have very similar upbringings. Even though I am a woman, I also believe AWALT. But to the extent that I think "all men are like that," (meaning beta or lame or whatever else you want to call it in your book, I don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/15 01:16 AM
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I agree. Thanks so much for pointing that out. I think we all want a little more "Me Time," but my morning routine has kind of become that for me. It's nice and quiet, and I feel healthy and productive. Cutting out Facebook and social media (besides some casual redditing of course!) or any other mindless filler can really open up the day - and leave me feeling much more satisfied.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 01:00 AM
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3 little ones and 2 morning blow jobs a week! And look at me bitching about walking my lazy dogs :) you must be so organized. So impressed with you and your attitude!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 10:52 PM
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I think the big thing people on "the outside" don't get is RESPECT in our relationship(s). I cook, I keep house, I run errands for my man. This does not automatically mean he has no respect for me - at all! Far from it. He tells me all the time that I am his favorite person in the universe, he always tells me how much he appreciates me, on and on. I thought feminism meant that I had the right to choose! Well I choose traditional gender roles! And I think that deserves respect, not pity.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 09:41 PM
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I so get you. Those first three or four minutes is always a struggle not to just flip over and forget it. Personally I have found orgasms to be a good motivator to get the ball rolling this month - hah!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 09:33 PM
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I loooove this :) your relationship sounds so balanced and thoughtful!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 09:30 PM
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It's my favorite place on the Internet! So many wise ladies.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 07:18 PM
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What a tough spot. My late mother was similar, so I moved out as soon as I could and it helped our relationship immensely. Maybe if you continue to chew on your wording you can figure out a way that willbest please her and help you to get your opinions heard. Until then you can just look forward to your own place one day! Best of luck xo
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 07:15 PM
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Why are you paying for your sister too? And why do you give a shit that your dad gets mad if he has been STEALING FROM YOU? Does your SO know about this?
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 03:57 AM
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You don't need to jump straight from sharing with your dad to sharing with your SO. If you are an adult I suggest going to your bank tomorrow and reopening a new account by yourself, your father doesn't need to be dipping into your account all willy nilly. Unless these are planned transactions or reimbursing his expenses?
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 03:41 AM
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I was going to write something, but you touched on everything so perfectly. I always save your comments because they're so full of wisdom :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 12:24 AM
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The first several paragraphs of your post (concerning your mom and her meltdowns) are really well put and don't seem combative to me at all. Could you sit her down calmly and say it just like that? Or even read it aloud if that makes you uncomfortable? Also, living with parents is tough as an adult. Do you have a set move-out date? Or is it within your budget to do a short term rental until you get your living situation fleshed out? A set move out date might help, even just so that there's a lig…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 12:11 AM
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Wow, thanks for these great posts!
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 11:58 PM
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I like both! I feel like in the winter I like very "spirit forward" cocktails, like an old fashioned. But in the summer I like lighter mixes :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 10:53 PM
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Being from Kentucky, your mint julep is speaking to me. Thank god we don't have to choose :) I'm going to make a recipe post this weekend, would love some fun cocktail recipes from you!
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 10:24 PM
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I would hold back on insisting. Maybe something simple like easy baked goods, or even a cute post card in the mail. "Just saying thanks for all you do!"
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 07:27 PM
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That's really common! If you're still having issues, I've always had luck with manipulating my blood sugar levels. You could look into that. I put 2 tablespoons of almond butter in my protein shake before bed. Slow releasing sugars keep me even and I can sleep through the night even if I work out late :) best of luck.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/15 06:29 PM
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You're right, I should have expanded. Adrenal fatigue is kind of a catch all term, and you will never see it as a diagnosis from an actual doctor. However, adrenal insufficiency absolutely is! Cortisol can be released during and after strenuous activity, so it's very common that it can be an issue for interrupted sleep patterns. I'm a nurse practitioner and have a lot of patients with issues with their endocrine system. It's fascinating to me.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/15 03:56 PM
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here is some general info you might find interesting on the subject! adrenal fatigue is no joke.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/15 02:07 PM
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My man takes care of a lot of things financially. Similar to you, I don't ask & it seems like it's what makes him happiest. I'd say the key is showing gratitude. Maybe that's special time together. What can you do for him to show your gratitude in a sweet, feminine way? Write a love letter saying you've never felt like this before? Maybe give him a long massage or foot rub? A small thoughtful gift, maybe? Someone above says baking something at your place and bringing it, I think that's a great i…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 01:05 PM
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Canjun spicy, usually some picked okra and green beans on top alongside the usual celery, olive, lime. And idk if this is true everywhere but I always think they're stronger, hah!
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 08:39 PM
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I know that feeling all too well. Maybe you could try busying up your morning, so less time to fret? Check off the "prepare food" box then on to the next task. Whether or not he eats it doesn't have to be on your list :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 08:07 PM
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Oh my god, please make that retreat happen and take all my money!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 07:39 PM
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I don't do everything right, but I do manage mornings right. I thought maybe I could help here :) I first get up and get ready quickly (10min or less, nothing fancy at all) then go get food ready. I set out breakfast for him and his lunch, and put his keys and such by the door. If he grabs the food and takes it, great, if not I'll ask if he wants it when I kiss him on his way out. If he doesn't want it, I just eat it later. After a while it's kind of unspoken, and theres no need to say "baaaaaab…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 07:34 PM
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A persons risk for melanoma doubles if they've had as few as five sunburns in a lifetime! Sure, don't fear the sun but sunscreen prevents more than just silly wrinkles :) not trying to pick a fight with you, just be safe in the great outdoors!
/r/TheRedPill03/06/15 07:03 PM
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If you exfoliate well before you go & moisturize your skin daily you can get a week to nine days out of it. You could also get a spray tan then start using a lotion like jergens natural glow, which is basically diluted sunless tan and that can really help prolong the wear time.
/r/TheRedPill03/06/15 06:58 PM
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NOLA style bloody Mary's have my heart. Pickled okra? Yes please.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 06:28 PM
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Ugh, you are the mama I wish I had :) thanks for being a strong, feminine role model for us!
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 05:17 PM
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Surrendered Single is fantastic reading material. However ... If the dumping is recent and it was a serious relationship, it's probably more appropriate that she do some self healing first and take some time off for the dating game. happiness is a choice by Barry Neil Kauffman was an absolute LIFE CHANGER for me (I mean after I read it I quit my job and spent 4 months volunteering at his Institute!). That is all about self love, self healing, growth, and finding peace inside. I think if she is f…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 04:03 PM
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How would you suggest translating helpful wife language into helpful man language?
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 03:52 PM
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THANK YOU for your books :) I look to them quite often. What's your favorite way to please your man, or show gratitude? And maybe some tips on how to spice that up! Also, SW talks about showing vulnerability & expressing that with femininity. Can you expand on that, or maybe give some examples from your personal life? I share my burdens with my man, but am always careful to try not to let anything become too much of his burden (ie grieving).
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 03:32 PM
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This is it! And if we both want to do twice as much, it just keeps the goodness going! I think it's easy to get resentful and say "well if he's too busy for me I guess I'm too busy for him too" and then you both kind of get apathetic and resentful behavior can set in. I am understanding of his schedule and constraints, and he's understanding of mine. I think the big thing is RESPECT :) and we acknowledge we are both trying our best.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 03:21 PM
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I LOVE THIS
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 03:17 PM
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I think it does. If you're actively working on yourself and plugged into your community appropriately (if you need help here then meetup.com is a great resource), you'll find yourself surrounded by people you might want to spend time with. Maybe even a nice lady :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 03:11 PM
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Totally agree with you here. Bumped into my man at a charity event. A smart woman can sense a confident man from across the room. We get hit on by losers left and right, and it takes 5 seconds to see a man of caliber.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 03:09 PM
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Good question. I think what I meant by that was just because I am a source of happiness & really help him take a load off, he looks forward to doing nice things for me. Not saying everyone is like that though. I'm not the biggest believer in "love languages" but if I was his form of expressing gratitude/happiness is definitely gifts or acts of service. He stays busy thru the week, but he knows I work hard all week to help him run smoothly. In turn, he makes sure he carves out Friday or Saturday …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 03:07 PM
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Good question! Yes, I do work full time. However, my schedule is pretty flexible & I don't have kids either. It's all about priorities and time allocation, so you'd have to see what you can rearrange. Biggest tip for food, though, are things that are slow roasting & not as labor intensive on busy nights. A couple nights mid-week my go to is a whole chicken on top of some veggies in a cast iron skillet. Takes 6-7 minutes of prep, then it's in the oven around an hour & I can use that time to work …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 03:01 PM
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Maybe until you move, can you go visit him more often than you have been? More expensive, but it is an investment in your relationship!
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 11:04 PM
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It is :) he leaves me "thank you" post-it's sometimes and I always save them!
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 10:09 PM
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I love that! :) good for you
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 10:08 PM
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Totally agree. If we go to office functions at his place the men and women are almost always separated and it's just a big bitch fest on both sides. How does that help anything, or why are you even together!? I have never and will never air my dirty laundry like that.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 09:27 PM
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Toooootally agree :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 08:35 PM
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I love traditional gender roles, dammit. 😊 thank you xo
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 08:28 PM
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Aww, so sweet of you to share. WE ARE OUT HERE! :) i know plenty of great women, married or single, don't give up entirely. I got fed up with the dating game for a long time. Gave up on looking & focused on myself ... Bumped into my man at an event. Happy accident!
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 08:18 PM
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Thanks! A positive story is always nice to share, I think :) I brag about him all the time, too.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 08:14 PM
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