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This is interesting. Where do you draw the line when it's okay to be a step-dad? Fucked thousands of women = okay, fucked two = not okay. What about 50?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 01:06 PM
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Forget trying to be friends with men. Pointless. He already has the best thing he needs to be sexually successful - the social proofing of being friends with a group of (presumably attractive?) women, coupled with an active social life. Any man I've ever known in that situation - including myself when I was younger - was drowning in it. Is there something you're not telling us here? Like is he terribly ugly or a starts stuttering uncontrollably when he tries to chat up a woman? Because if he's r…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 11:59 AM
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My thoughts exactly. I make the Chris Benoit joke as a bit of a shocking hyperbole, but I only do that because of the amount of people who have told me - a vasectomied nearly 40 year old man - that I will change my mind "someday". In fact, even after making the joke I've had people tell me that I'll change my mind. You can tell people outright that you're not cut out to be a parent, and they still try to push it. Unbelievable. Can't even begin to comprehend how women feel in this situation, as i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 03:01 AM
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Ehh... it has no effect on me. I'm insecure about tons of things. Couldn't give a fuck who knows. If the word has some deep emotional connotations for you, then y'know... that's one for you to sort out on your own time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 09:24 PM
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...I never said that it was negative for someone to be insecure about n count. I just said I'm not insecure about that particular thing. Everything else you're feeling is just you hamstering yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 09:09 PM
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Oh right I see, you think insecurity is something you can't ever admit to. Okay, carry on.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 09:06 PM
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A sexual insecurity. Not an n count insecurity. Could not give a shit about ns, but quality of sex? From one person? Nah that would fuck with my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 09:01 PM
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Yeah but Russia... ehh this might get me banned or in trouble here, but they're not exactly bastions of progressiveness, eh? Think of their treatment of gays, for example. Or trans people, or women in general for that matter. As that other commenter just reminded me - I completely forgot about the USA. USA is also the only first world country where male on male prison rape is a big thing. I've been to jail in my own country before, and it just doesn't happen here. Inside for 9 months and didn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:46 PM
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I can't think of any developed countries in which soldiers have been conscripted post-Korean war. Certainly, conscripts from my country engaged in wartime rape during WWII, but social mores have changed substantially since then. For instance, those same conscripts would also have no social qualms about raping their wives at home. That's not something most men these days find acceptable behaviour, despite it being fine and dandy 80 years ago. Implying that social attitudes to rape haven't changed…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:30 PM
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A is my preference by far. I don't have an n count insecurity like most on here, but shit... situation B would give me an insecurity for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 07:48 PM
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This is one reason why I will never consider myself a Red Pill man, despite soft agreeing with some of the things they say. I can't stand kids. Never have, never will. I haven't got a paternal bone in my body. I am impatient, aggressive, and selfish - me having kids is the path straight to Chris Benoit 2.0 (2k23 GOTY special edition).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:33 PM
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Need an Internet break lad. The stuff you consume on here influences your fears. Get off the Internet for a while before you ruin your relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:28 PM
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You already know the answer ffs. Looks. It's always looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:42 PM
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Well, I've said the same to women who have picked objectively bad partners and have been called sexist for pointing it out. And the last time I dated, I set myself a strict set of requirements and forced myself not to waste time on the influencer types. I stuck to those parameters and found a responsible partner. Guess what? Apparently that was sexist as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:37 PM
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Absolutely not. But can we maybe bring the discussion down into the realms of reality and not speak in extremes? If you're acting as breadwinner, therapist, butler and chef for a partner, do you not think that eventually you're going to feel frustrated with your life? I know women do when they're in that situation. Why should it be different for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:24 PM
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Of course I recognise the irony. If anything, being subjected to that shit has made me understand exactly how frustrating and off-putting it is for a woman to have to play mummy to her partner. I personally don't see this as an issue of "higher ground" or beating one another. One gender's pain and frustration at a situation doesn't take away from that of the other. All I'm saying is that we're seeing a rise in women who want to be treated like kids in relationships. It's not equal to the number …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:10 PM
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Sure, it definitely is the traditional experience of women - that's why I said in my original post "women know this all too well". Yes, my resentment is personal, but I contend that times are changing very rapidly. These days, we're seeing more men being put in the position I was. It's not a majority, of course - women still bear the brunt of domestic and emotional duties in the average relationship - but it's becoming more common to find men in this type of situations. Certainly more common tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:48 PM
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I fully agree. What I'm talking about is relationships in which the man is expected to be breadwinner, therapist, butler, chef and cleaner and in return gets... sex. An adult baby with a sex drive. That's the exact opposite of what you're describing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:40 PM
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I'll rephrase: my resentment in past relationships was because I chose partners who didn't want to work a traditional job, and also expected me to be their therapist, butler, chef and cleaner. I brought in 80%+ of the income, did 80%+ of the cooking and cleaning, and spent hours every night comforting and empathising. I was basically a service robot/replacement daddy, and it made me very bitter. I imagine that men who are in the same position I was are unhappy with the deal they're getting, beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:39 PM
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I absolutely agree, but I'd say that the source of much of the resentment on the part of men occurs when a woman wants an emotionally intelligent "modern man" for a partner, but also wants to have their entire life funded by said partner, like a 1950s housewife. That's a bit too much pressure to place on one individual - it's more akin to asking for a replacement father than for someone to build a life with. At that point, what is the man getting from the deal? Sex is not a fair trade for having…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:24 PM
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I don't think so. I can't think of any man I know IRL who has experienced that either. In fact, I'm not even sure how it would manifest. Can you give me some examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:45 PM
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I'm not even sure I understand what that means. What I'm saying is: I've never had the experience of being "shamed" for having sexual urges or attraction, if that's the biological urge you're referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:41 PM
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Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:32 PM
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Don't waste your breath. People here are far too dense to understand the difference between subconscious and conscious desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:16 PM
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Assuming you're talking about sex drive and sexual attraction - not something I've ever been shamed for, personally. Thought it's common knowledge that most adults love a wee shag.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:44 PM
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Where I'm from, it's fairly common to go to the 'Dam for a lads' weekend. As far as I know, no one has ever experienced rejection from a future partner on account of them doing this in the past. With that in mind, I'd wager that women are far more accepting of men who have been to prostitutes than men are of promiscuous women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:36 PM
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I don't think love exists in the way we've been taught by the media. I think all relationships are transactional on both sides, and I'm okay with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:38 PM
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Could just be the places I'm staying, but I have to travel semi-regularly for work, and I've definitely noticed a gradual creep towards 10/10:30 at some point in the last 5 years. This place was definitely an outlier though, you're right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:36 PM
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Been there. The problem is that you're putting them first and yourself second. People have a tendency to suck you dry if you let them, even those who have good intentions. Boundaries, man. It's like the advice they give you on aeroplanes: get your own mask on first, then help others.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:31 PM
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Took my partner to a hotel overnight for a little romantic break. The fucking checkout times are ridiculous these days. 9:30AM we had to be out by. This isn't some mega chain hotel either - small boutique with just 4 tiny rooms and we were the only guests. Check-in time was 4:00PM too. I remember when checkout times were 11AM as standard. I think we're going to see pre-9AM checkouts within our lifetime.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:27 PM
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Personally, I thought most of the ratings in that thread weren't beyond the pale. Kirstin (sp?) Dunst is a good example. She's pretty, but you will see dozens of women a day who are objectively prettier. That shouldn't trigger the insane emotional response it has.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 12:39 PM
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Of course. I'd rather look like Melissa McCarthy and have her net worth than look like me and have mine. I fully admit it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 12:37 PM
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Uh huh. All I see are people rating objectively slightly above average celebrities as 6/10, and women getting big mad about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 12:34 PM
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No, but they're getting angry when men don't rate Melissa McCarthy a 10.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 12:29 PM
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Sure, I'd agree with that. But I don't think that means that every single famous woman is a 7 or above, and I don't think it justifies the rage you see from women on here when you rate the occasional actress as a 6.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 12:28 PM
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Didn't want to make it personal because I wanted to avoid looking like I'm humblebragging, but you're leaving me no choice. I'm engaged to a woman who was a model for fetish wear and alt magazines. I've already been through this with you the last time you called me an incel. People who have managed to find work as models are, generally speaking, judged as being in the higher realms of attractiveness. She wouldn't be with me if we weren't "looksmatched", so let's please not do this "you're delusi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 12:22 PM
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A lot of women seem to have trouble understanding that just because someone is famous, it doesn't automatically make them a 10. Also fairly foolish to assume that everyone on the Internet is ugly. It's 2023, Reddit etc is mainstream. Gonna be lots of people on here with partners and friends who are objectively more attractive than some celebrities. We're not all sweaty nerds.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 11:42 AM
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Some people are fully incapable of reflection, and she's one of them. Literally incapable of learning. Same thing has been happening to her for 15+ years and it's not clicked yet. Never will.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 05:40 PM
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How many women have you met in your life who have respect for anything, including themselves? Toddler mode, as I said. Ones who don't have that toddler switch are rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 04:47 PM
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It's mainly young, desperate horny type guys who can't fathom the idea that someone could ever be in the position where they wouldn't want to have sex with any woman who think like this. Very rare that a woman could use force against a man to get sex - yes. But they can quite easily use social pressure, shame, crying fits, temper tantrums and homophobia to achieve the same result.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 04:44 PM
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It's easier and wiser to capitulate than to deal with a woman in screaming toddler mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 04:37 PM
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So let's say you know that your partner will react to you rejecting her by freaking out, crying and having a breakdown. And you know it'll last for days and you'll have to spend all your free time comforting her. Your choice there instead of sucking it up and having sex even though you don't want to... is gender reassignment surgery?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 04:27 PM
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Definitely not. Plenty of time left for most women of that age, but in her specific situation according to her own life goals... she's set herself quite a tight time limit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 04:22 PM
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I also place sleep as being of higher importance, but a woman can definitely force a man to do sexual stuff he doesn't want to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 04:21 PM
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Sure, but you can't bank on that. We don't have a playbook of when our bodies are going to start ageing. If you're a woman and you want to have a ton of kids, having them by 40 is probably a good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 04:18 PM
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That's just one of those questions you don't ask yourself. She's a nice woman, and we're kind of in the habit of taking care of her now. My partner thinks of her as an adopted daughter, despite being 4 years younger herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 04:08 PM
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I mean it's possible yes, but menopause can begin as early as 40. And I suppose the most important thing I missed out here is that she only likes guys who don't have kids already. Mid-late 30s guys of this demographic without kids? Needle haystack.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 04:05 PM
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Q4M: Would you like to be woken up by a blowjob from a partner? No prior consent discussed. Answer for me is no. Don't wake me up unless it's an emergency.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 04:03 PM
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I see what you mean. Nah it's just that I have to waste part of my Saturday afternoon picking her up from this shithole an hour away, so the way I get enjoyment out of the task is by complaining in a humorous manner about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 03:06 PM
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I'm what one calls "a nosy bastard". Not commenting on the mistakes of others is simply not on the cards for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:42 PM
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Yes, but by that same logic they also shouldn't be rich - where's your Bugatti completely undermines anything he says.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:40 PM
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I agree with your headline but not at all with the contents of the post - the examples you've used are all classic anxious/unstable attachment stuff. Yes, I think that most on here are functionally asexual and have rarely if ever experienced pure mutual lust. However, you're describing anxiety-relief endorphins - not attraction endorphins. Attraction endorphins are when your genitalia are so filled with blood from just talking to someone that you can hear the pulse of it in your ears. That can h…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:37 PM
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Partner and I have become friends with a woman who is the human embodiment of banging your head against a brick wall. She's got a very specific type - guys who look like they've been on Love Island (for the Yanks: superficial UK reality dating show full of guys with veneer teeth, spray on jeans, bottle tan and a cocaine habit.) It's not even a looks thing. It's pure demographic attraction in action. I've saw her pie a 10/10 normie for a 7/10 Love Island type, for example. Anyway, it plays out th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:25 PM
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Well, let's work it out: I've slept around in the past. What troubles do I have and what superior traits do you have to me?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 01:12 PM
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Oh shit maybe I am. Both seem normal, despite the fat orgies.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:59 PM
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The guy who likes orgies with fat women. I forget his name.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:53 PM
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Cimzim easy. Lysa bell seems fairly normal too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:18 PM
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Show worth a watch?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:09 PM
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I'm not sure I understand the question. I'd like to be taller, yes - and if that comes with making my father taller then so be it, although I'm not sure what good it would do him at his age. I understand why women want tall men - yes. It's a combination of biological and social factors. Yes, my mother should have picked better, but my father's height was very low on the list of traits she should have screened for, in retrospect. Yeah, I really don't understand the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:07 PM
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Gotcha. 100 mil is my price.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:52 PM
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Partner and I have been considering the same thing. I don't think the time window has passed for us just yet (37&29), but if we're going to do it, it should be soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:46 PM
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Can you define the terms a bit better? Would I still be able to get medical treatment, such as an operation? I'm in the middle of a large bodysuit tattoo which will take another 2 years of sessions to complete - do I have to stop because it involves touching? If I get into a car crash can a passerby pull me out the burning wreck? And emotionally: can I still have casual conversation with people, as long as it doesn't get too intimate?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:43 PM
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Complete opposite for me. Constant social obligations drive me insane. It also isn't sustainable long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:15 PM
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I've been able to form romantic connections with women fairly easily my whole life, and they're nice don't get me wrong - but I was homeless for a year when I was 17 and let me tell you: it was hell on earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:08 PM
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Wealthy and no women, easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:03 PM
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Shit, everyone would do this. I have a very attractive friend who makes a killing selling his underwear to gay men. I'm considering doing it as well. Fuck "morals", I want to retire.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:57 PM
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That's what she's saying she did, and it ended in dead bedroom. Twice. I'm not saying I'm some sort of relationship guru, but my policy has always been don't waste time on people who aren't attracted to you, and I've never been in a dead bedroom situation. Take from that what you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:28 PM
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The obliviousness of PPD women exemplified: On that thread about spousal sex, there's a woman vehemently arguing with anyone who will listen that initial sexual attraction is not an important factor in establishing a lasting relationship. Said woman is also complaining elsewhere on the thread that she's been in two dead bedroom marriages before the age of 40. Dunning-Krueger in action. And before any women get triggered: obligatory yes the men here are idiots too caveat.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:03 PM
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The car crash thing is a terrible analogy but you're 100% right about this sub - it's kissless virgins and women in miserable relationships convincing themselves they are relationship experts.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 02:36 PM
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Exactly. I don't get why this is so hard to understand for many people on here. My missus is an extremely loud chewer. I've known that since day one. Never bothered me because I've always thought she was a grade A baddie. Whereas there's also a loud chewer at my work, and I want to cave his head in with a fire extinguisher on a daily basis. We're hard-wired to ignore the "flaws" of those we find very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 08:10 PM
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Initial infatuation often comes with respect, desire to please, willingness to compromise, ability to withstand small annoyances. That's a good basis to build a lasting partnership. For example: I treat those to whom I am strongly attracted much better than I treat those I feel meh about. Most people operate this way. The longest relationship I've ever been in lasted 9 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 07:36 PM
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Now let's not be ridiculous: it's not the only thing that matters. But it provides a solid foundation on which to build the stuff that makes relationships last in the long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 07:28 PM
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That's still no excuse to start from a place of zero goo goo eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 07:19 PM
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This is unironically the best advice on this sub. If she's not looking at you with goo goo eyes - next.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 06:13 PM
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Never experienced it myself - even when ex-partners were obviously growing to hate and resent me they still had libido, but it's one of my worst nightmares as a man growing older in a relationship. Just a few hours ago I was reading a post on a fetish-related sub about a guy whose wife, after 10 years together, told him that she was disgusted by his fetish, and had pretty much lost all interest in sex altogether. However, she got upset at the prospect of splitting up. I mean, what can you do in …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 06:00 PM
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I see. Where I live, it's a major social faux pas to talk to random people on the street. Pubs and clubs have potential... but who has the time or mental energy to go to them. I prefer to do my finessing while taking a comfortable shit on the toilet in my own home.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:20 PM
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Not for me - OLD was like heaven in my experience. But you're right in a way - no one should be sitting on Tinder for any more than a few months. 6 months max and then give up, embrace the inceldom or whatever. 60 bangers max expenditure.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:12 PM
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I can't actually think of a single person I've ever admired. My brain just isn't built that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:05 PM
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M: arse by far. Small breasts can look great, but a flat arse is a death sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:02 PM
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No. Always viewed him as fairly weak. Never had any heroes or anyone I looked up to, to be honest. Not really my thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:01 PM
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Maybe, but definitely less when you use Gold. I can attest to the levels of fuckery: I bought Gold three days after creating an account. Went into my likes and matched up with the women I found attractive. That's how I met my now partner - and when matched it said that she'd "superliked" me. Later, once we'd got together and discussed how we first met, it turns out that she swiped on me three days prior - aka the very first day I had an account, prior to me purchasing Gold. The pre-Gold algorith…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:50 PM
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I know, I'm just kidding. I already know that I have very polarising looks and aesthetic. Some women love it, others hate it. That probably helps me get a few more matches than average, but not a huge amount.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:28 PM
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Impossible for me to be a "Chad". I'm 5'10". Missed the cutoff by two inches.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:18 PM
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Yes of course, that is true. 0x5 is still zero. This was intended as advice for men who already get some matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:17 PM
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Completely disagree, my experience with Tinder (using Gold, at least) was great. Gold-less... it was a crap shoot.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 11:59 AM
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Good tip. That's exactly what I did. First go round I was frustrated with the quality of matches and felt like I was being drip fed. Deleted it and took a month off. Made a new account and bought Gold immediately. World of difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 11:58 AM
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Per month, yes. It's even cheaper if you do the 3 month or a year package, but imo the year one is a scam because who wants to sit on Tinder for a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 11:55 AM
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Of all the self-defeating behaviours my fellow men display on here, refusing to pay £10 for Tinder Gold/the premium option on your app of choice is by far the stupidest one. The algorithm is fucking you over. Pay a small fee to remove the fuckery. You'd spend less going for coffee with some idiot you don't even like.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 11:47 AM
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Can't say I agree. My parents did a lot of things wrong, but letting girlfriends stay overnight starting when I was 15ish and turning a blind eye to me experimenting with drink and soft drugs definitely helped me to learn moderation. By the time I was 18 I was completely over it. Whereas I went to university with kids who had been kept on a tight leash their entire lives; predictably, they went off the rails as soon as they had the opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 04:54 AM
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I wouldn't want to ruin it with my own description. Watch the film if you get the chance. The best girlfriend in movie history.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 04:10 AM
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Don't know about parental influence, but I do know that Fairuza Balk's character in the 1999 Adam Sandler film The Waterboy shaped my entire taste in women 99-present.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 04:06 AM
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Age range 32-36. Unsure whether that counts as young, old, or in between any more.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:57 AM
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I'm currently up at 4am after working a 14 hour day making her a surprise fancy sandwich to take to work for lunch tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:55 AM
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What age do you think they are, out of interest?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:49 AM
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Yes, it's even more odd considering that they're otherwise reasonable and sensible people. Two of them used to work with him so I can semi-understand giving him the benefit of the doubt at first... but he was convicted through DNA evidence of two counts of fairly violent rape. Their claims of "he was set up" just don't hold water with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:29 AM
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I'm friends with a group which is made up of 5/8 women and they are officially terrible at detecting red flags. Before I knew them, a (male) member of the friend group got jailed for the rape of two women. Despite being a convicted rapist, all the women in my friend group speak incredibly highly of him, and are currently talking in the group chat about throwing him a party when he gets out next month. I've kept my opinions on the matter quiet for years, but I'm reaching the end of my tether. Thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:14 AM
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Not fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 08:28 PM
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I like a lot of women in real life as people. I don't like the female hivemind collective though aka the way middle class American women act on the Internet. I think men and women are essentially equal - we have different strengths and weakness which is perhaps controversial to say these days, but it all balances out. I connect with loads of women intellectually, but I wouldn't say it's the best basis for a relationship. It's necessary for a good, lasting relationship, but in my experience the B…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 04:56 PM
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Why bother? "Bottom feeders" aren't worth leaving the house for. You'd have a better time sitting in yourself, if she's that ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 02:09 PM
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If that's the only choice you're giving: commit to single mother. I hate children and don't want any. As long as the kid is older (15+) and doesn't require any form of parenting or input from me at all, I'd make peace with the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 09:14 AM
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"That's fucking shameful" and she went in a massive huff with me, called me judgemental and naive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 12:36 AM
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Told me stories about how she used to be the sidepiece of the husband of a C-list UK celebrity. Seemed proud of it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 07:19 PM
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I know it all too well. Been there myself with 4 exes who cheated for a casual quick fix. Casual sex enjoyer does not necessarily = cheater. They were just bad people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 06:17 PM
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Basically, temper your expectations. Being "loved fully" is a really big, rare thing. But making your genitals go brrrrrr is really easy. Sex and love are two different things. Sure, one can lead to the other, but the reality of life for most (normal) people is that there's going to be way more people out there who want to fuck you than people who want to love you. Why accept anything less than 100%? Because 100% is hard to find. It might take a while. And having some temporary fun with someone …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 05:19 PM
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I'm a man. Five previous relationships. 1) She cheated, but instantly regretted it and tried to get me back for 6ish months. However my feelings were gone. So even although she was unfaithful, I'd say it was me who lost feelings first, technically. 2) Exactly the same story as 1. 3) She cheated and didn't regret it, so I'd say it's pretty clear she lost them first. 4) She lost feelings first. 5) Same story as 1 and 2. Still trying to get me back to this day after cheating. I know for certain I h…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 11:49 AM
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I was with someone for 8 years who just did not want to get married. Bear in mind I come from a highly secular country where marriage isn't seen as such a cultural necessity, nor does it confer any special legal benefits that you might get in the US. We're still good friends, and she's got kids now. Doesn't want to marry their father either. Just not into marriage - very practical woman and simply views it as a very expensive party.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 12:11 AM
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Did you tell the FWB? What was his response?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 12:01 AM
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I think you're 100% right. I don't really connect with a lot of the difficulties the guys on here describe. Never had a problem finding or maintaining relationships with attractive partners, whether casual or serious. The thing is - I am not particularly attractive, I am not tall, I am not particularly rich, I am not particularly muscular, I am not any of the things we're told women like. However, I genuinely do not give a fuck about 99% of things in life. I'd say I'm as close to being completel…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 11:03 PM
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Other experiences for sure. I had a fairly rough upbringing. My parents were decent people, but the city I grew up in was notorious for violence, crime and "hard living". That meant I had to be extremely socially switched on from a young age, or else I'd get taken advantage of. Or worse. Coupled with having very low expectations of people (i.e. had to become a person who is difficult to hurt emotionally), these experiences turned me in to someone who always found it easy to ingratiate myself soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 10:54 PM
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Not a manospherian, but had a fairly absent/weak father. Never affected me in the way PPD says it should have. Never got any decent romantic advice from him, and I'm convinced he'd be an incel if he grew up today. Despite that, I've never had any issues attracting or forming relationships with women. If anything, he was an exemplar of what I didn't want to be, and I realised that fairly early (14ish?). Don't want kids myself, so not something I consider for the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 06:33 PM
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Wouldn't it just be easier to become a womanising thug? Islam you have to obey a set of rules. As a womanising thug, you get to make the rules. If you're so nice that you can't get women - start being nasty.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 02:27 PM
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Hmmmm, I've been there myself before, and it's definitely not disgust. My thought process was "I don't know this person very well. I find them attractive, but I don't have any feelings for them yet". So cuddling wouldn't really have been appropriate.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 05:21 PM
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Not a woman, but I understand it. Cuddling implies comfort, security and care, whereas sex for a lot of people is simply "genitals go brrrr". There is a mental difference. I've known people who don't kiss ONS partners because it's too intimate. In my view, that's weirder.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 04:41 PM
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Lol I seriously doubt it. What are the chances that a group of around 10 friends are all magically "Chad"? Statistically it doesn't make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 01:25 PM
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Not in my experience of life. It's part of the reason I find the things posted on this sub to be so bizarre and perplexing. I wouldn't say me or my friends are anything out of the ordinary, but none of us ever experienced difficulty establishing or maintaining casual or longterm relationship with women, and that's both via OLD and real life meetings. I hear all the statistics touted on here. I just don't see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:39 PM
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Interesting. Would you consider a woman who earns less than her partner to be not supporting herself too?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:32 PM
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Hahaha, fair enough. I don't necessarily agree, but you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:24 AM
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So you think it's a safer bet to have a relationship in which the man earns more?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:22 AM
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She cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 02:38 AM
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Meh, I do know what you mean, but in my case she's got a personality that red pill types wouldn't like anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 02:33 AM
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I'm in a professional career and a high earner myself, she just earns 4x more than me P.A.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 01:07 AM
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Oh, I wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 11:27 PM
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Great gig if you can get it, you've got to admit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 11:22 PM
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Nah you just linked a bunch of tl;dr out of context, but sure just be a snide about it, whatever floats thy boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 11:20 PM
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Yes, but my question was more: are you surprised that a lot of men seem open to the idea of marrying a woman who earns more than them?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 11:10 PM
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Well, am one of them and it's pretty harmonious. You can ask me whatever you wish about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 11:09 PM
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Q4W: are you surprised by the answers in the recent "would you marry a woman who earns more than you" thread? Most men have said yes. About 70%. 20% with a qualifier, and about 10% flat out no.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 10:58 PM
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Scotland. I'm bad at guessing ages, but I'd say miniskirt wearers mostly range from 10 at the earliest to 15, at which point they tend to grow up a bit and dress more normally.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 10:40 PM
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I live in a cold country, so hardly ever see grown women wearing them. Leggings are by far the most popular bottoms attire for adult women. In the summer you see lots of kids (I mean literal children) running around in miniskirts, which is fairly repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 10:35 PM
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I only choose my partner, but yeah man buckle up it's gonna be a new holocaust.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 10:09 PM
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Engaged to a woman who has extremely wealthy parents. She owns a chain of beauty salons and a chain of exercise studios, so earns more in 3 months than I do in a year. I love it. Never get begged for money from her. No kids though. I am fully vasectomied up. Per your question, no amount of money could make me want to looks after kids. But that's more to do with my personality than any money/power thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:25 PM
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Happened. Neither happy nor sad, just perplexed. Got with an unemployed overweight bald guy 25 years her senior. We're still friends, and she frequently talks to me and my partner about how much she hates him. It's odd, to say the least.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:25 AM
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Women's standards are much higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 08:55 PM
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I've got 72 hours to pump those numbers up. I have time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 08:27 PM
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My missus is a serious monologuer, but because I love her I can sit through it for hours giving the empathy she needs. However, her sister is staying with us until Friday and fuck me... evidently monologuing runs in the family. Not doing the free emotional labour for her though. Just counted how many "wow that's crazy"s I could do in a row before she got the hint. It was nine. Friday can't come quick enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 08:23 PM
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Well for reference: when I was 30 my range was 25ish to 35ish as well!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 08:45 PM
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Sure. 37 next week.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 08:24 PM
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Yes of course, most women are just as undateable as the men they complain about. I can attest to it as well. Here's where I think the difference lies: the impact of pretty privilege. We know that attractive people of both genders get away with things that the average person wouldn't. The question is - which gender gets away with more based on their looks? I suspect that women don't let men away with as much as we do for them. I know that I can say firsthand there are women I've been with in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 05:36 PM
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1) Looks. Looks make the world go round. I have to think she's a hottie or it won't even get off the ground. 2) Weight. Closely tied to looks. Don't find overweight people attractive. 3) Personality. Self explanatory. 4) Age. I'd go as high as 45 and as low as 25. Outside of that range - not for me. 5) Career. Don't care what the career is, as long as she is in stable employment. 6) N count. As long as it's not insane numbers, I couldn't give a fuck. N count context matters more to me than an ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 12:22 PM
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We have to be attracting very different types of women. Been an issue in every single LTR I've been in.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 10:23 PM
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I mean, that's likely the reason she'll stay with him. Unless the social media backlash overrides it, at least. But at the beginning? I'd bet anything he never started the relationship like this. Hubris got to the boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 08:44 PM
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You kidding man? He can't even make solid eye contact with the camera. To me he seems like the type of guy who'd have cried on their first date until she kissed him.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 08:14 PM
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Should the fact that this man impregnated someone not dispel the idea that women only fuck the top 5% of men? This guy is a human wankstain.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 08:06 PM
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Biggest issue I've found that affects my levels of desire in a relationship is slipping aesthetic/hygiene standards. First 6 months of a relationship, everyone is on their best behaviour of course. But after that, I've found that most women think "I've got him now - time to kick back." Then we get the skipping days between showers, letting the hair get greasy, weight gain, toenails so long they're clicking off the floor, etc... I tend to attract quite hippyish/alt women anyway, so they're usuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 07:04 PM
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See these are all excellent ideas, but the problem is: this is exactly the stage I'm at! She puts her feet all over me, sticks them in my face, rubs them on my legs, picks stuff up etc. And when I'm massaging her feet, 9/10 times it leads to sex. She sees I have a hardon, trousers come off, things happen. This is what makes it so difficult. She's not stupid or oblivious - surely she understands that her doing things with her feet turns me on. At the very least, she must have made the connection …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 05:32 PM
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Does yours not have the ability to unclip the basket from the fryer part? That way you can just tip the food out without touching it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 01:46 AM
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If I have a personality disorder - not saying I do, but some of my behaviour certainly matches with ASPD - then it's likely not severe enough to qualify for therapy under the universal healthcare where I live because it doesn't impact my life in a practical way (no major convictions, able to maintain a career and relationships, no addictions etc). Having a calm life seems to allow me the space for personal growth, and I'm thankful for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 01:40 AM
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I'm male. Two weeks. They were recovering from gonorrhea, so... y'know. The gates were shut, so to speak.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 11:28 PM
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It's contextual. Woman with n count of 50 who has never cheated on a partner nor given them reason to doubt her fidelity is infinitely preferable to woman with n count of 5 who has cheated on a few previous partners and has a flirty demeanour.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 11:27 PM
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Hard upbringing. Had to be like that if you didn't want trodden on.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 11:18 PM
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Oh christ, the list is neverending. Selfish, self-serving, obnoxious, manipulative, prone to using violence to solve problems, cruel sense of humour, unempathetic, do whatever I can to get what I want. But being like that lead me to a place (and people) I didn't enjoy being around. So now I try hard to treat those close to me with the utmost care and respect. Much better way of living.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 09:48 PM
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Nailed it. I am a "BaD gUy" (trying hard not to be anymore though) and until recently my love life was a parade of the worst type of woman imaginable. I WONDER FUCKING WHY. A lot of the inexperienced guys on here might say "well I wish I had that problem 😡😡😡", but trust me: no you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 08:18 PM
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I dunno man. Did you see this thread from a few months back? https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/ysz4nn/i_left_my_boyfriend_over_his_foot_fetish_and_i/ My literal worst nightmare.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:59 PM
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Not gonna happen. Society pushes it hard that guys who are into feet are weirdos. I'm fine with it just being a fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:36 PM
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That's actually the stage I'm currently at. All positive responses so far. Just can't force myself to make that final jump.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:23 PM
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I'd love to get a footjob from my fiancee, but I'm terrified to broach the subject. Never admitted it to any partner before either. I know it's the tamest fetish in the world, but I have it drilled into my head that it's weird, disgusting etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:09 PM
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I'm one of those men, I guess. I don't think all women are stupid or boring, but childish and narcissistic? Absolutely, to some extent or another. The difference between my partner and the rest of the women I've been with is that these things are not a front and centre part of her personality, which makes them tolerable within context. Along with the fact that I find her interesting, endearing, smart, funny, kind etc, it's not dissimilar to a feminist who believes their man is the only good one …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 10:26 PM
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100 million. Hopefully he'd just knock me out on the first punch so it would be over fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 10:02 PM
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Might do. When I first went on Tinder, women went crazy for guys who were "Insta famous" or had large online followings. Second time I used it, that sort of thing gave women the ick and having an "offline boyfriend" was the in thing. Tastes oscillate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 08:20 PM
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A lot of this is cultural too. Majority of you lot are American, and (correct me if I'm wrong) there was quite a strong Puritan influence on the founding culture of the United States. Add on top of that fairly widespread religious influence, and (in many places) repressive reproduction laws... end result is a population of women who are pretty closed off to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:51 PM
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Arranged marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 01:27 PM
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Heavily skewed. Billy Zane acts consistently like a cunt throughout the entire movie. He's comically insufferable. He does freely gift his money to Kate Winslet though. Foolish on his part because she clearly has no interest in him from the start. He's the 1914 equivalent of the guy you see in the supermarket screaming that his watch costs more than the cashier's entire life. As for his suicide, it's historically accurate that he would have killed himself. We're talking about an age where idioti…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 09:48 AM
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It's hard for me to give an answer to something I don't care about though. I tend to attract substantially wilder women than the majority of men here, so it obviously goes to say that my standards are a bit different from what you'll be accustomed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 05:08 PM
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Personally I'd be more worried about what she's hiding down there. Someone who has done lots of frottage (is that the right word?) but had zero PIV is either physically or mentally fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 04:37 PM
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Teenage experiences mainly. When I was young, PIV was something you worked up to. Had half a dozen handjobs and a few blowjobs before any PIV. But even as an adult, sometimes you'd get a blowjob or handjob without having sex. Usually a situation like being out on the piss and meet someone at a nightclub. Woman sucked me off in a taxi queue once, for example. Much rarer in adulthood though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 04:21 PM
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Well, just thinking back to when I was young: if we're including handjobs, blowjobs, dry humping etc then we're talking a dozen or so extra bodies before my penis ever entered a vagina. Seems silly to me. I wouldn't say a daft handjob in the bushes when I was 13 is some noteworthy event. Certainly at the time, if I'd said to my mates something like "my bodycount is 8" or whatever, they'd have laughed at me and said it's zero because I'd shagged zero. Hence I've always only counted PIV.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 04:13 PM
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Are we supposed to be counting blowjobs??? What about handjobs? Jesus, this is news to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 12:52 PM
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Well they certainly appear satisfied, content, and happy with their lives to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 12:21 PM
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He looks like a potato. She looks like a potato with hair. Billions of couples like this worldwide. Generally they're the happiest people you'll ever meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 12:03 PM
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The flaw in your logic is assuming that there will be suffering. The woman does and will continue to be treated like the angel she is until she decides she doesn't want it any more. For most people, the reality of how they are treated in a relationship outweighs any concerns about philosophical stances. Outcome trumps intent, always.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 02:45 AM
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With respect, I think that's what you want to believe because you desire karmic retribution for my perceived immorality. In reality, it's never going to come up. And even if it did, she wouldn't care. She thinks herself the luckiest woman in the world, and most people would prefer to live in the Matrix if given the choice. Myself included.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:41 AM
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Not a single thing to doubt her. The opposite, in fact. You got it in one: it's just my belief about female nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:28 AM
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I don't believe in karmic repercussions though. As stated, my behaviour will not be the end of the relationship. I keep the woman on Cloud 9, and will continue to do so as long as she'll have me. But one day, I'll get cancer, a heart condition, dementia etc... You know the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:26 AM
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I put in what I get out. She's the best woman I've ever known. The better I treat her, the better she treats me. I'll keep pressing the button until it breaks.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:23 AM
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I think that for the vast majority of men in relationships and marriages would experience the end of aforementioned relationship after losing their job/looks/physical health/mental health. I don't believe women are able to weather adversity in relationships, in short.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:21 AM
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Feminist friend would agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:18 AM
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Feminist friend is acquainted with fiancee, but fiancee knows she is a mad crank so no worries about sabotaging. Fiancee doesn't know my philosophy precisely, but she wouldn't exactly be surprised. She knows I take an existentialist view to life and death anyway. She knows that I will care for her as long as she allows, and will continue to treat her like gold as long as she will have me. That's all that would matter to her, when push comes to shove.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:17 AM
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Recovering from the flu and have F.A. else to do except watch Bar Rescue.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:10 AM
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She'll never know. Because obviously, that's a very insulting thing to say to someone. I would never hurt her like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:08 AM
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My belief is that for 99% of men, that is the reality of life. I choose to be at peace with it, and enjoy what I have until I don't have it any more.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:02 AM
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Just clashed with a feminist friend who despises me. She knows that I believe women behave transactionally in relationships. However, what irritates her is that I simultaneously hold this belief while maintaining a happy monogamous relationship with my fiance. I unashamedly treat the woman like a goddess on earth, and everyone knows it. But because of my acknowledgement of hypergamy, aforementioned friend believes it is immoral for me not to remain single. Now, I know a lot of women on here will…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 12:55 AM
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When I started dating again circa start of 2021, I made a list of my requirements and forced myself to stick to them. Those requirements were: physically attractive and healthy, able to hold down a job (any job), childfree and no kids from previous relationships, undergraduate degree minimum, doesn't live with parents, able to do basic life stuff for themselves like cooking, cleaning, paying bills, making doctor's appointments, general hygiene, honest, not argumentative, loyal, no history of inf…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:11 AM
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He's not universally appealing the way a Hemsworth is, but I know dozens of extremely attractive women who sniff the farts of guys who have that junkie/ill Victorian child look.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:25 PM
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They're delusional. I've known guys my whole life who have the Pete Davidson look, and without fail they have always turned heads.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:23 PM
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When I used Tinder I never bothered filling in the bio because a) No one reads them anyway. Women are 99% visual and being honest they're rarely interested in anything we have to say anyway. And b) Bios are almost always cringy. They hinder more than help in 99% of circumstances. I just put a few emojis and my Instagram handle. Worked fine. Least effort possible for maximum result, work smart not hard etc
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:56 PM
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Caveat: I agree that most average men have no problem finding partners, and I even think that most average men don't really have a huge problem using OLD to find partners. However - I do think that women saying this usually have a very skewed perception of what the average man looks like. Example: I know a fat, disabled, mentally insane, homeless 50 year old SJW woman. I keep her on my socials for the entertainment value. There's always some drama. Last week she was ranting and raving about how …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:33 PM
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I don't like traditional women, but I understand the point you're making.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 02:09 PM
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I doubt those women place much value on the culture of the third world countries they're desperately trying to escape, to be fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 02:04 PM
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Already a thing. Disagree with anyone on the Internet and you're a small-dicked incel who supports Trump. The fact that in reality you're a happily married leftwing non-American means nothing - it's all about the dehumanisation of the "other".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 01:50 PM
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I fully believe it. I should probably stop hate-reading this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:49 PM
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He's clearly super autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:24 PM
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You're on Reddit. Chances are a 14 year old has attempted to school you on something you've been doing for decades, and you've got drawn into responding to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:22 PM
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Same. Never really been into it before, but this past year I've found myself greatly preferring a footjob to a BJ, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 04:57 PM
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I have a group of female coworkers who epitomise the downfall of the dating market. They're a group of four overweight, bitter, unpleasant individuals in their late 20s/early 30s. Two of them have never been in a relationship. All four rarely date. They think extremely highly of themselves (always talking about how they're 10s), which would be fine if they didn't constantly disparage other people - both male and female coworkers - who are in happy relationships/marriages. I was talking on here y…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 03:20 PM
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Remember when you were a kid and you'd stuff twigs, leaves, moss, bugs and water in jars and pretend they're potions? PPD posts are like the sociology/psychology equivalent of doing that. "This sounds like something I'd like to believe, therefore it is true."
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 01:40 PM
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I'm not single, but when I was last dating I made a concerted effort to stick to a set of standards which I thought were quite high. I did this because in the past, I'd always ignored red flags in favour of looks (and it never turned out well). Height: 5" to 5"6'. Income: No preference; just be steadily employed (i.e. no professional influencers, Onlyfans girls, artists, party planners etc). Race: No racial preference. Body type: Size 8-12 UK dress. House: Homeowner strongly preferred; at the ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 12:18 PM
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That's how I treat her, therefore it's reasonable to expect the same treatment back. The bar is my behaviour, and it needs to be matched.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 11:55 AM
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I'd say you're on the right tracks, but I place the blame more on personality disorders rather than true mental health disorders. Particularly NPD and BPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 01:38 AM
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I respect the based-ness of owning it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 08:20 PM
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"Feminine energy" is just American social conservatism. Pretending that being tied to a stove, financially dependent on a man is some feminist choice. You're just a lazy hoor. Get a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 08:14 PM
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Fairly common. I've had a mixed gender friend group since university, and all the men and women have had a drunken fumble with one another over the years.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 07:35 PM
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...I'm engaged. The comment you originally replied to involved you being triggered that I send my missus random treats/gifts/flowers etc, remember?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 07:13 PM
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Chronically single behaviours.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 07:03 PM
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You know what I mean. Now, go seek attention somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 06:57 PM
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Not by choice. People I have to tolerate because they're related to my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 06:56 PM
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I think McDonalds employees aren't the best candidates to be giving career advice. See if you can work out the analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 06:54 PM
1

Dealing with bipolar people when you're an ex-anger addict is very testing. I know that if I wanted to, I could say something that would rip their psyche to shreds. But I can't let myself do it. Have to sit here being an adult babysitter and say things like "well what do you think we could do to make things better?" It's an exercise in frustration.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 06:41 PM
5

I'd want to know so I can end the relationship and move on to someone new. Fresh beginnings sans infidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 06:34 PM
1

Single, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 06:20 PM
2

As soon as possible. In the example you gave, you should be aiming to take her home that very night. At the very least switch numbers and let her know you're planning to take her out. Text her the next day, establish some text chat for a day or two, then ask her on a date. On Tinder, you should be asking for the date within the first 20 messages. That's what's worked for me all my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 05:54 PM
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I'm glad someone recognises this. There are a group of women at my workplace who always make negative remarks about me and other male coworkers who get their partners gifts/surprises/flowers/plan dates etc. "Don't praise them, they're doing the bare minimum!" Okay, now remind me why none of you have a partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 05:39 PM
1

It feels like the inside of your girlfriend's convulsing vagina as she begs for more.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 10:32 AM
11

I get that, but it's not for me. Too impatient by nature. I'd just get frustrated with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 01:54 AM
6

Married at 18 and 16, together 60 years and counting. My mother was a looker in her time, but not bright. Struggles to operate a three digit padlock, for example. Was definitely a case of "marry the first person you meet and stick it out no matter what" for both of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 12:56 AM
35

The only love life advice my father has ever gave me was to pick an ugly woman. I was about 33 at the time, and had 5 relationships end due to infidelity. Fairly awful track record. His reasoning was that I always go for the hot women, and hot women are always going to have options. Ergo, he suggested picking an ugly woman who would worship the ground I walk on for a more stable, long-term partnership. I couldn't bring myself to take his advice, but I can see where he was coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 12:51 AM
1

Most PPD posters who have these insane views on tattoos are either middle class American teenagers who haven't really stepped foot outside before, or people from third world countries where tattoos are still heavily stigmatised.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 12:39 AM
3

Never kissed - after 18 is odd. Never been on a date - after 25 is odd. In both circumstances, I'd assume something is wrong with the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:43 PM
2

When you fly to Turkey to get your teeth filed down and replaced with big fake veneers because no reputable dentist in a first world country would do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:25 PM
3

Semi-qualified to answer this as an ex-Tinder user who has about 70% of his body tattooed. Obviously, the majority of women on it are fake tan Live Laugh Love Turkey Teeth types, so you're immediately ruled out as a match in their eyes. But that doesn't mean there aren't plenty of alt people on Tinder who will be into you. The first 50 profiles they show you are always gonna be the most liked, Instagram model type. I recommend buying Gold so you can swipe past them and start looking at the profi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:03 PM
5

Well, I come from a country where undergraduate tuition is funded by the taxpayer, so wealth or lack of is no barrier to accessing tertiary education. I was made homeless at 17, for example, but still went to university despite not having any funding behind me. But sure, go off on one if you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 11:42 PM
22

Cultural commonalities. I'm a man with a masters degree, and I used to think that education levels didn't matter. Hence, I've dated women with postgrad degrees; women who left school at 14 who could barely read or write; and everything in between. But my happiest and most harmonious relationships were those where we both had roughly similar levels of education. Birds of a feather, and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 04:09 PM
1

The main problem with taking and sending dick pics is you've got to take 1000 shots to find one that has the right angle, lighting, background etc. I recommend all men have a photo album of premade dick pics to send off when required. Performance on demand is a myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 07:53 PM
4

Of course. It's basic politeness, at the very least. Also a good way to tell if someone is in it for the longrun or not. Few years ago I bought my situationship of 4ish months a couple of xmas presents and she got me... fuck all. No one is obliged to buy anyone anything ever, of course. But in that situation, I read her lack of consideration as an indicator that things would never progress to the relationship stage, and I bailed in early January.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 06:40 PM
2

I saw one on here where a guy was talking about how his girlfriend's ex would threaten to kill himself every time she tried to end their relationship. Someone advised the guy to start treating her poorly and threaten suicide himself, as a test to see if she'd put up with the same emotional manipulation twice. And if she didn't, that would make him a cuck. The person giving this advice was a woman. And a mod.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 01:58 PM
2

Guy in the gym locker room post-shower just sprayed himself with deodorant for about 40 seconds straight. Must have used half a can. I'm choking. Anything more than 5 seconds is mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 10:21 AM
2

That's just how it goes with taxi drivers. You get in the car; they monologue some insanely racist, misogynistic or homophobic rant at you; you arrive at your destination. Par for the course. You just have to say "hmmmm" and "oh?" so they don't knock your teeth out.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 09:50 AM
1

Yeah but it's not really about my own situation - it's more about the prevalence of the "move in stay at home gf and gift her half your property" attitude. Thousands of comments in support of that just seemed bizarre to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 11:01 PM
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Of course, but they're usually very clearly quite unwell in the head. That Drew Buffalo woman is a good example. Forced laugh and pure manic eyes. Hurt people hurt people etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 07:31 PM
0

As a man I'd say definitely who you can get for a LTR. Where I live at least, it's fairly easy to have a one nighter with an 8 or a 9, but the majority of women in the upper echelons of attractiveness rarely want to be tied down to one man. I even know women who are 6-7s who consider themselves to be too hot for relationships. YMMV, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 07:12 PM
1

For what? To ridicule broke Tiktok women together? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 06:02 PM
1

Ahhhh, I see. Not from USA so I can't be sued for personal assets regardless (that's a uniquely American quirk of law).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 05:52 PM
1

Dw no one can touch it anyway! 100% in my name and staying that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 05:49 PM
1

From what I was reading in the comments, they expected to move in after about 6-9 months of dating, and get 50% ownership immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 05:44 PM
1

Together two years, engaged six months. Had property 11 years before meeting her. She lives with me and contributes to bills. She's had her property just over two years (bought just before we met). She rents it out for passive income.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 05:43 PM
1

This is how I view it as well. If my partner wanted to give me a lump sum of the remaining 20% of my mortgage, I'd happily cede 20% of the house to her. But contributing to bills which account for 0.1% of the house's worth and expecting a 50% equity share? Madness.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 05:16 PM
2

I think the important question is: did she have the house before they met? If they bought it while together but she's the primary earner, that's fine. But if she bought it herself, paid most of it off then put his name on a decade later - wtf was she thinking??? (No offence).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 05:12 PM
3

Utterly perplexed with something I just saw on Tiktok. Woman talking about how she would never be with a man who didn't put her name on the title deeds of his house, despite her contributing nothing to the deposit. For example, my mortgage is about 80% paid off after 13 years. According to these women, I should gift half my property to my missus despite her contributing no equity? And this had thousands of comments in support? Is this how women think these days? I've never encountered a woman wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 04:55 PM
5

Your mistake is believing that men and women in real life have the same views as the freaks on here. I'd recommend not sabotaging your life based on the incel and femcel majority on this site.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 10:32 AM
1

Yeah, CBT for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. CBT and ERT are basically gaslighting yourself into not having your disorder. If you're easily gaslit, they're great. Otherwise, advice like "if you've got home security-based OCD, then give your keys to a random homeless person and see what happens!" isn't going to help much. The Freudian psychotherapy that Americans promote on here has no scientific basis backing it up. It's affirmation Live Laugh Love you are so valid stuff, which may help if you f…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 06:17 PM
1

He probably doesn't, but he has to cater to the UKIP voter demographic - who hate non-whites and foreigners, as a rule. Play to your audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 06:12 PM
1

Yep. Years ago. 2008ish. Was with someone who cheated on me, then spent 6 months begging me back. I relented, but things just weren't the same. Coworker kissed me, and I let it happen. Woman in question had a lot of issues. She topped herself back in September. Not sure how I feel about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:51 PM
1

Fairuza Balk's character in The Waterboy. That film did a number on teenage me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:09 PM
1

Good, normalise it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:06 PM
2

Rookie error. They don't want you to be into it - they want you to smile, nod, and say things like "Wow, oh really? Wow that's crazy. Wow and what about Tauruses? Oh wow and what's in retrograde right now?" while they monologue at you about it. Think about the way women react when you talk about football, or Warhammer, or fucken trainspotting or whatever it is you like and just mimic that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 04:05 PM
2

Man. Never been rejected, but always expect it nonetheless.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 03:58 PM
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It depends on the type of woman, and what they're looking for. I'm a senior operations manager for an aerospace company - you can Google what that involves. I've had some women tell me it's an attractive, "masculine" job to have because it's well paid and viewed as a "powerful" position; but I've had other women tell me it's an unattractive "feminine" job because it's office-based. Women are not a monolith - some are attracted to bankers, some to tech gurus, some to brick layers, some to barista…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:46 PM
3

The "Indian" part of this is the bit you can think, but aren't supposed to say out loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:26 PM
5

They're getting even worse with it. I recently got told I'm a LITERAL PAEDOPHILE for being 36 and engaged to a LITERAL CHILD WITH AN UNDEVELOPED BRAIN (aka a 29 year old).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 02:38 PM
2

Haha, no thanks. Travelled the world 2x over in my early 20s. I'm only interested in Western European women in a romantic sense. Managed to bag myself a unicorn, thankfully. My present and future is great, it's my past that causes me problems. Unfortunately, only time will let my mind "relax", and there simply hasn't been enough time between now and the whore parade for my negativity to let go. It'll come eventually though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 02:32 PM
1

36-16=20. 40/20=2. Faster than a speeding slut.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 02:07 PM
1

Just make an OLD profile and see what the general response is. You might get a pleasant surprise, like I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:42 PM
1

Not necessarily. I always thought I was below average because outside of a pub/nightclub environment I had only been approached by women maybe 5 times in my entire life. But when I went on Tinder, I got hundreds of likes per day, which indicates above average looks. I still don't think of myself as a particularly attractive man, but I do think that women in general simply do not approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:36 PM
2

I spent a lot of time and emotional energy on horrible women, and that's contributed to me having a fairly pessimistic outlook on romance. I think I'd be less cynical if I didn't have those experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:06 PM
1

Well, where I'm from marriage isn't massively popular with millennials (and to some extent Gen Xers), so you don't see a lot of divorcees in that age range. Being a teen mum is fairly common though - about 20% of the girls I went to school with had a kid at 16/17. The good thing about that is, if you come across a 34 year old grandmother on Tinder, you immediately know to unmatch.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:59 AM
4

Nah not even close, and I say that as a man who dated in his mid-30s. The reality is: it's much easier to differentiate the losers from the winners when you're in your 30s. Red and green flags aren't as plain to see when people are younger. By full adulthood, they're flying front and centre.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:35 AM
1

Fake tan, bleach blonde hair with weave, trip to Turkey to get some veneers, Live Laugh Love signs all over your gaff, and every sentence you say should be along the lines of "obviously innit babes end of the day it's all like water under the bridge innit".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:15 AM
3

Absolutely. The smug, despicable, antagonistic way people act on here would get their jaw burst 100x over if they acted like that in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:02 AM
17

I've been cheated on (right in front of my face no less) by a woman whose bodycount was less than 3, and had a woman whose bodycount was in the 100s look after me for a year after I was in a motorcycle accident in which I couldn't work or even walk. Safe to say that N count means nothing to me at this point. On top of that: I've slept with enough women to make up two football teams (with subs) What the fuck would I want an inexperienced virgin for, at my age?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:21 AM
2

That's about accurate, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 08:24 PM
5

No need to wink - it is what it is. Roughly 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 08:10 PM
7

I'm engaged and she knows my rough number because she asked. I wouldn't have lied, nor would I want to lie. However, I do wish the number was different. If I could warp reality to make it lower with no consequences, I probably would.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:35 PM
2

5% by my reckoning as well. Vast majority of people are amoral sheep. Myself included, but I'm trying hard not to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:19 PM
0

"Not like other girls" in what sense? The "cool girl" speech type? Nah, that's artifice and it's mocked for a reason. A woman with a moral compass who thinks for herself? Yes, but relatively rare. 5% of women. Usually highly sought after and snapped up quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:16 PM
4

Male, 36, straight. I'd consider an N count of over 50 to be high. My own is somewhere in the late 30s/early 40s, and I wish it was lower. Made a lot of mistakes in my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:47 PM
1

It sounds reductive and obvious when phrase like that, but when you attract train wrecks, live in a city where a high number of train wrecks congregate, and maybe have a bit of delusional self-belief about your ability to rehabilitate trainwrecks coupled with cuntblindness - a thorough walkthrough of what to avoid and why is n't a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:17 PM
1

The experiences of the people on here don't reflect my real life experiences and observations. The men here, by and large, aren't dating anyone. I think you're misunderstanding my point: I am not saying EVERY woman is incapable of receiving love because they're accustomed to slime treatment. I am saying WHEN a woman shows you that she is incapable of receiving love because she is accustomed to slime treatment - believe her and save yourself the hurt. I've come across a lot of women like this in …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:11 PM
1

The water isn't the luxury - the luxury is the man taking their needs in to account.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:02 PM
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Nah, fairly common among mid/late 20s left-leaning women in big cities. Only had toxic situationships, Netflix n chill "dates", and drunken hookups. There's nothing wrong with those things per se, but if she's 28 and they're all she's had then run away as fast as you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 05:58 PM
2

Spot on. And importantly: as much as your own monkeybrain will try to convince you that you can show them how to experience stable love - you simply cannot.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 05:52 PM
0

"My mate"? I've never mentioned anyone in this post but myself. I'm not sure if I seek out insecure women or not - I'd say no, not consciously. The type I usually attract are extroverted, independent, fairly wild women. However, insecurities are often internalised - so it's possible that I'm simply not seeing them until it's too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 05:49 PM
1

"Build a bitch" is simply a colloquial term, and slime is a pretty accurate description of what it's like to be in a toxic relationship. You feel like you're drowning in sticky, mucky quicksand, and you cannot escape. Either way, let's not get bogged down on semantics when you've grasped the main point - when someone shows you that they're not worthy of your efforts, believe them. And yes, that was a near verbatim quote from an ex of mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 05:42 PM
4

Going to share an actual life tip from someone who has made the same mistake half a dozen times: The biggest overlooked red flag in a woman is when she reacts to you doing the most basic, minimal effort romantic gesture with awe and adoration. "You're the first man who has ever bought me flowers 🥹🥹🥹" "Omg you brought me a cup of water, I can't get over how kind you are." "I've never been on a real date before until I met you." Fucking run. What you're doing here is building up a bitch who isn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 05:34 PM
6

Many of these questions could also be asked of extremely low N women/virgins: "Am I her last option?" "Is she so ugly to other men?" "Why has no one wanted her?" "Won't she eventually be tempted to seek variety/cheat?" It goes against the rhetoric you see on the Internet, but in my life I've been cheated on by low N women seeking novelty, faithfully doted upon by high N women whom you'd never expect it from, and every variation inbetween. The content of someone's character and how they behave (p…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 02:24 PM
1

There certainly are women out there who want their partners to be outside the house working in manual labour jobs for long hours, but they're usually the "divine feminine energy" social conservatism masked as feminism types who are insufferable in a relationship anyway. WFH has, if anything, been a huge boost to my romantic life. 3 hours travelling time per day knocked off, for starters. And no coworkers yapping their bullshit in my ear means it takes me half the time to get twice the work done.…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 09:40 AM
1

To address point one: if you're implying that women who just want casual sex are hard to find, past me would have loved to have switched places with you - my experience when dating was that 4/5 of women just wanted to keep things casual, and the other 1/5 were too insane to commit to anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 12:02 AM
1

I've dated two women who were just out of one-way open relationships. In both cases, it was clear that the women were using me to make their ex-partner jealous (i.e. they took me to places their ex hung out and made a big deal of being overly affectionate toward me in front of them). For one of those women, it worked - she's in a traditional monogamous marriage with that guy now, and they have two kids. The other got back together with her ex, but it didn't last long. She had a nervous breakdown…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 11:54 PM
1

Oh, come off it with the industrial revolution stuff. If you're at least somewhat attractive, what sounds like the better option? Finessing women via dating apps and playing the field, or working 14 hours down a coal mine to come home to a dumpy, toothless wench and your 12 malnourished kids? The goalposts have changed: bagging hot women (and even more so - maintaining a relationship with one) is a big flex in today's society. If you've got the chops to do it, then you rightfully deserve respect…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 04:47 PM
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