harsh_times Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
43	Lessons from day game	harsh_times	/r/seduction	31/12/11 08:50 PM
4	[FR] Went out with no expectations, had fun #close	harsh_times	/r/seduction	02/04/11 05:50 PM
4	How to deal with logistics and timing in a busy world filled with busy women?	harsh_times	/r/seduction	07/05/12 01:41 AM
2	Best spot for daygame in Boston?	harsh_times	/r/seduction	04/01/14 05:59 AM

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1	Does it make me look like a loser if I go out alone on a Saturday night? Go for it. I do it all the time. You don't have to worry about what your friends, coworkers, and acquaintances will think of you. Going out alone and practicing your cold approach is the best way to improve your verbal game. You have the freedom to experiment with whatever comes to your mind with the safe knowledge that you will never meet these people again.	/r/seduction	05/08/12 12:24 PM
1	Does anyone else really hate clubbing? I personally do not like clubs or any loud environments and I happen to be a good dancer. I have definitely been in situations where I end becoming the "dance monkey" for the entertainment of a group of girls. No ill intentions on their part but they are "just having fun" so your interaction won't go beyond that. I prefer day game and extended social circle environments. Most of my strength is in my conversational style, so I have to be able to engage in an environment that is conducive to that.…	/r/seduction	13/05/12 12:54 AM
1	My main fear in approaching women is having a dull conversation/running out of things to say. I used to do this exercise when I went out solo. I would go up to a set and say "Hi! I'm trying to be as awkward as possible." Usually after one of these warm ups I would feel a lot better and realize that nothing really matters. More often than not these "trying to be awkward" sets ended up in a positive interaction. I call it paradoxical intent. The more you try not to fail the more you fail. Likewise if you try to be as awkward as possible then you actually start feeling less awkward. Works f…	/r/seduction	17/04/12 10:15 PM
1	Lessons from day game I always place a sense of urgency in these interactions. Tell her "I have to go but..." or "I can't talk to you for long." This will frame your conversation and contextualize escalation. Just go for it and ask if she wants to get drinks/hang out/see each other again. Doesn't matter, just ask. If she rejects just politely excuse yourself and leave or keep talking for a little bit more. Some women are interesting to talk to and I just love talking to attractive women regardless of outcome. To me t…	/r/seduction	01/01/12 10:37 PM
1	Lessons from day game Makeout on day 2 and plans to see each other again. NYE got in the way but we'll see how it plays.	/r/seduction	01/01/12 10:32 PM
2	A few videos that I thought were helpful British accent is always an advantage in the Americas. Especially in white South America like Argentina, Chile, Uruguay and parts of Brazil. The key is knowing how to play into people's stereotypes of what is sexy. Most Americans associate British accent with sophistication, good different, and maybe class.	/r/seduction	13/10/11 09:48 PM
1	Don't let alcohol become your crutch. Every city and community is different but I've realized that there is a certain time period, usually between 6 and 10, that more upscale or just "different" women go out. Mainly to more classier restaurant bars or less dive bars. Tend to be older as well, but still worth looking into as far as logistics.	/r/seduction	13/10/11 09:20 PM
1	Don't let alcohol become your crutch. I know exactly what you mean. Alcohol was an enabler for me. Approach anxiety went down by several magnitudes when I was drunk but ultimately I wasn't satisfied with the type of interactions I was having. There were many nights where I was so fucked up I didn't even pursue the game. The hangovers were eating up and entire day out of the week for me. Ridiculous bar bills on my credit card statements made me cringe in regret. Lately I have been more methodical and completely sober in my approaches…	/r/seduction	13/10/11 09:16 PM
1	What's up in San Diego Is PB and Mission Beach a viable night game spot, or filled with douchy people? I'm more successful and comfortable in loungy type night venues than dives.	/r/seduction	10/04/11 09:51 PM
1	What's up in San Diego What are some good spots for day game?	/r/seduction	09/04/11 04:05 AM
2	Why do girls think this is acceptable? (X-post from F7U12) People do it to people. Social graces require that you don't embarrass others, so you'd rather politely put it off than say "No." At the same time hoping they would get the hint, but they never do. A direct but tactful "No" is the best thing but people rarely use it.	/r/seduction	06/04/11 02:54 AM
1	How to solo at a bar as a girl? I'm sure this is obvious, but I would not drink if going out by myself. Avoid trashy dives, unless you really enjoy that type of environment. As a single woman dressing well to attract the type of man you're looking to meet you should be approached if you're alone and maintain an open body language.	/r/seduction	04/04/11 10:56 AM
1	It's more important to dress congruently than to dress well. Part of dressing well or congruently is also about what doors you open and close based on the image and perception you are creating. Tattoos are a great example of this because if you display a tattoo you immediately close the door to certain kinds of people but at the same time maybe opening the door to another crowd who may immediately relate to your image. This is why experimentation in fashion is very important and you can do this without breaking the bank. Remember that we only live once an…	/r/seduction	03/04/11 11:28 PM
2	Feminist interviews Neil Strauss, author of The Game. She likes him. She is preoccupied with sledge hammering isolated details of PUA culture into her feminist agenda. Granted that we are all subjective beings, but her "reporting" is as far from objectivity as black is from white. Recently I have been thinking that it is not men, but women who need to be coached into being equally responsible for the dating and relationship scene. Especially the less attractive women who could make themselves much more desirable by being more in tune with what works with men and …	/r/seduction	03/04/11 11:17 PM
2	[FR] Went out with no expectations, had fun #close I've forgotten what the original is, but it's basically any variation on a story about a guy who moves in with his girlfriend. They both sign a 6 month lease. She breaks up with him, but they're still living together. He starts seeing people and bringing them home. The ex-gf gets jealous/crazy. The way I do it is I go "Hey can I get your opinion on something, my friend Kim..." then tell the story. I like using the name Kim because I could be talking about the guy or the girl, and I have a guy fr…	/r/seduction	03/04/11 05:29 AM
1	tips for asian guys Struggled through this all throughout high school and then some. I was always playing into people's stereotypical expectations of who I am. Then went through a "crazy" period where I was going out everyday during the weekend and just blowing money. Didn't know any Game or anything but also didn't give a fuck either. Dressed ridiculously and was more or less an asshole to girls/people out of my frustration. The fact that kind of lifestyle was giving me any results than before was probably what ke…	/r/seduction	02/04/11 06:18 PM
3	DAE feel weird going to clubs/bars solo? I have this perception of Spanish men, you know being all macho and all around just exuding sexuality and not giving a fuck. Is this true or a stereotype? Same thing with Italians. I was in Argentina over the winter and I found the men to be super aggressive. In clubs they would just walk to a girl and start kissing them. The girls there were used to it, so you had to literally push yourself on girls like the locals to even get the same level of attention. Public display of affection is very com…	/r/seduction	02/04/11 04:19 PM
1	Day Game - First Time Ever Asking A Girl Out, I may have fucked up big time. This is movie scene shit right here. I liked it a lot, kept imagining you as a young John Travolta. Then again, even if we had his looks the girl would probably call back only half the time. Regardless great work.	/r/seduction	31/03/11 02:49 AM
1	Worst OKCupid date EVER Completely outside of any frame of reference, be it PUA or anything normal RL, this is epic in its own strange way.	/r/seduction	29/03/11 10:02 PM
2	[FR] Fuck it...nobody can bring me down Really hate bars that play loud music. For fucks sake why loud music if your lame ass bar doesn't even have the smallest semblance of a dance floor?	/r/seduction	27/03/11 06:43 PM
16	How do you refuse paying for a girl without sounding like a cheap bastard or a jerk Movies are a waste of time and money for a date. Are you going on a date to see the girl and get to know each other or watch another hollywood product? The cinema is an okay activity later on but early on it's not advised. Hollywood has been making bank on the stereotypical dinner and movie date. I always pay on the first date, especially since I'm the one that asked the girl to go out anyways. Most girls nowadays offer to pay on first date, which tells me that she is independent and fair minded…	/r/seduction	27/03/11 05:41 PM
25	First [FR], did everything wrong, worked anyways Actually you passed her shit test when you said she was cute in response to her saying "you were looking at me." You didn't make excuses for you desires as a man and simply told her why you approached her as a matter of fact. Good move man.	/r/seduction	27/03/11 05:05 PM
1	[FR#3] Best night of sarging to date If you can maintain a state like that sober, that's freaking awesome. On the dance floor it's all about kino escalation. I find that necking drives girls crazy, to the point where they will turn around and start making out with you. It's easy to transition to necking from grinding from the back as well. You can put your chin on her shoulder and see how she responds. If she likes it kiss her lightly on the neck and observe reaction. If she likes it go in for a heavier kiss on the neck. The neck a…	/r/seduction	27/03/11 04:58 PM
1	[FR] First # close. Ever. The "had fun tonight, get home safe - Name" template is golden. I've screwed up plenty of # closes, especially before learning about the game, by trying too hard to be witty/charming through useless and time wasting texts.	/r/seduction	27/03/11 03:14 PM
2	[FR#3] Best night of sarging to date Sounds like you were a bit drunk. Avoid drinking too much if you're trying to close. Yes it's easier to approach women and not give a fuck but you will lose focus and endsight if you're sarging drunk. Plus a higher likelyhood of saying something incredibly stupid that could kill your openers and transitions.	/r/seduction	27/03/11 03:11 PM
1	Run ladies run! (after you've had dinner on him) A goldigger learned how to write a blog.	/r/seduction	26/03/11 05:18 AM
1	Preventing STD's and infections but nobody died	/r/seduction	26/03/11 05:09 AM
17	Lesson 3: Importance of Projecting an Aura of Happiness and Well-being Exhibiting happiness can be tricky, especially if you are going through rough patches in your life. This may sound like some musclebrained advice, but working out seriously increases natural chemicals that make you feel better. Going for a fast paced run, doing an intense crossfit style workout, or any other high intensity workout just makes me feel better about everything. Besides the health and mental benefits this natural high can extend throughout your day and keep your natural energy level …	/r/seduction	25/03/11 10:44 PM
1	I have a dog park date tomorrow. Any suggestions for fairly public escalation and transition to night game? My advice from a recent date that went mediocre would be to establish kino from the very beginning. It can be awkward trying to do kino in the middle or near the end of a date. Another advantage of kino from the beginning allows more opportunities and time for escalation. Walking your dogs together is a very dynamic activity, plenty of opportunity to playfully touch each other. Make sure to capitalize every opportunity. If you're in doubt whether you should go for it (for kino), take the risk an…	/r/seduction	25/03/11 04:48 PM