hazelfox Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
8	Let's get ready to TUMBLEEEE! I am crying laughing at the guy's tweets about moving in with his girlfriend. Absolute gold.	/r/RedPillWives	24/08/16 07:07 PM
5	Captain and drugs? This is not something you can gently raise the issue and work around. If he was smoking pot occasionally to relax, that's one thing - a pretty easy thing to leave behind and not pick up again. Meth is addictive and destructive. This is a dealbreaker and you need to treat it as such. That includes telling him "Using meth is a dealbreaker for me" and leaving if he doesn't stop this right away.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/08/16 05:56 PM
6	I'm Baaaaaaaack! Oh, my goodness, Sadie! What an experience; I'm so glad you, your husband, and the new little guy are doing well. Wishing you a quick and complete recovery from birth and your surgery. And it's wonderful to hear that RPW life prepared you well for the unexpected. Welcome back, and congratulations!!	/r/RedPillWomen	19/08/16 05:53 PM
1	If you can't handle me at my worst..... Amazing. I'm so tempted to post this on FB. Pretty sure my fiance's ex-wife uses it as her profile quote.	/r/RedPillWives	18/08/16 09:41 PM
2	Dressing femininely in the winter (or spring/fall too depending on where you live!) Ohhhh winter! I am in New England and it can definitely be tough to look put together when you're going to be shoveling snow for an hour. But for work, socializing and other non-utilitarian activities I wear a variety of the following: Leggings under dresses/skirts; jeans with heeled boots or other nice shoes and a fitted/feminine top; lots of pretty scarves and hats; a good coat (slim fit, tailored, and in a color that complements your skin/hair and your usual wardrobe colors); a pair of soft l…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/08/16 04:40 PM
2	How do you deal with jealousy Okay, first thing to do, please stop googling Renee Wade. That's basically the easiest step to start with. You don't even know these people; stop putting any kind of energy into hoping they get divorced. How is your relationship with your boyfriend? Are you worried about losing him? Are you dissatisfied and thinking that these other women are dipping too deep into your future dating pool? Do you want to be in a serious LTR with your current SO and if so, are there concerns other than this jealou…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/08/16 02:46 PM
1	RPWi weekly reflections: 08/15/16 summer food edition Not pregnant, hormone levels are okay, low Vitamin D (I'm taking a supplement). Unfortunately, it's not new; although the anxiety levels fluctuate based on what's going on, what time of the month it is, etc., it is a constant part of me. It really may be time to finally admit I can't fix it myself and talk with a professional about some strategies for coping. I want to enjoy this time in our lives and I definitely don't want to be the wet blanket smothering my man and driving him away. Bursting …	/r/RedPillWives	15/08/16 05:10 PM
1	RPWi weekly reflections: 08/15/16 summer food edition Thank you so much CQ and BlushingLilly for the encouragement :) I have been in tears all morning. I'm already going against what Paul recommended by continuing to stew on all of it, but I honestly don't know HOW to stop. My anxiety is like a wild animal prowling around the edges of our life and I don't know how to sedate or exterminate it. What I do most of the time is pretend it isn't there. Everything is changing so fast. I'm terrified that my new job will push us apart, since the hours are di…	/r/RedPillWives	15/08/16 04:17 PM
3	RPWi weekly reflections: 08/15/16 summer food edition Good: I got the job I applied for last week! It's a great opportunity, and I start in two weeks. Bad/Ugly: My anxiety is off the charts. We are getting married in five weeks and I'm changing jobs in two weeks. Every second of the day, I feel crushing anxiety about how everything is probably going to implode. I'll fail at the job, and as soon as I say "I do" Paul will abandon me or start cheating on me with the awful girl at his work, and I'll be left with nothing. Maybe this is partly because a)…	/r/RedPillWives	15/08/16 01:40 PM
2	Keeping Motivated to Lose Weight/Workout If I could give one recommendation to other women re: fitness, it would be "lift heavy weights". It will utterly transform your body if done with a good plan/coach and consistency. The complement to this is a paleo-leaning diet. Fresh veggies, fruits, nuts, eggs, meat...limited starch, sugar, etc. I've shed 30lbs of fat and changed my entire body comp in a year by doing Crossfit 3x/week and eating less sugar and starch/carbs. For me, the group accountability of Crossfit is huge in keeping me mot…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/08/16 02:35 PM
2	Have I swallowed the red pill too late? It's never too late. Your past may be something that's difficult to discuss and it may indeed send some men away, but you are 20 and actively changing your life, rather than, as some others have said, 30 and just unable to get the same kind of attention anymore. You will be okay. It is not too late. You have received some great advice here. Keep building yourself into the kind of woman that is high value and ready for a high value man.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/08/16 05:25 PM
2	I want to incorporate some of the ideas I've read about here, but I am also convinced that my cognitive abilities outpace those of DH. I suggest talking to your husband about him delegating these tasks to you. Acknowledge how hard he works and how you want to ease his burden. I saw that play before me at the kitchen table for years, and every single time my father was thankful and the issue never came up again. Yes, this. My dad is a CEO and my mom is a homemaker (caring for grandbabies now, too). He makes the money and the big, huge decisions. She writes the checks and schedules the online payments and manages the general oper…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/08/16 05:12 PM
4	Sometimes, I almost don't want it to work Can you maybe explain what you mean by "I was holding up our "special connection" as the secret weapon"? Just curious! xx Oh, of course! Thanks for asking; I didn't explain it very well, but it was basically the idea that we were special, magical, unique - a relationship that was so natural it wouldn't require much maintenance to remain special and wonderful. While other relationships failed around us, we would just keep sailing smoothly along in bliss. By contrast, my previous relationships had…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/08/16 09:10 PM
3	I need advice -Captain figured out he may have an infant child with a one night stand For now, until he has concrete information, you may want to simply say "let's cross that bridge if we get there" to help both of you avoid spending every waking moment obsessing over this (which is what I would be doing). But here's the thing. He can say that your involvement is optional, that your contribution need only be X, Y, or Z, and that it won't affect you ... but if this is his child, he's in for a big shakeup. A custody arrangement may be reached easily, or not (ours is very easy, with…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/08/16 04:48 PM
9	Sometimes, I almost don't want it to work I also find myself doubting the strength of our bond if all it takes to make him "love me more" or "desire me more" boils down to these simple actions. This kind of irked me at first, too. Especially since my current relationship was the stuff of magical thinking and dreams come true - after many years of knowing we were compatible, were great friends, etc. but never being single at the same time, we found our way to each other. Date 1, it just clicked. We have been together since. We can commun…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/08/16 04:30 PM
1	Struggling with my SO he was masturbating to pictures of other women, while I was having a conversation with him That's super weird and disrespectful. Regardless of what role porn plays in your relationship - for us, it's sometimes fun to watch a clip together as part of foreplay, for example - starting up with photos of other women while you're video chatting with your SO seems so odd and his other comments seem like he is trying to push you away. I want to give you some good RP advice but this relationship doesn't …	/r/RedPillWomen	08/08/16 04:03 PM
5	Reflections with RPWi: 8/8/16 Good: Only 40 days until our wedding! We're nearly done with the big decisions and details; from here on out, it's collecting RSVPs, finalizing pretty little details and making jokes to each other about how "this is the best decision you've ever made." I'm also applying for a job that would be a really great opportunity for both of our long-term goals. Bad: Nothing major; I'm tired and tend to be depressed, so that's a little challenge, keeping up with everything and not becoming blah or morose.…	/r/RedPillWives	08/08/16 03:54 PM
3	The road so far - or how embracing RPW philosophy got me back the man I fell in love with Every time I was about to nag/criticize/have a meltdown I asked myself "Will my reaction contribute in any positive way?" Exactly! What a happy report to read. :)	/r/RedPillWives	08/08/16 03:30 PM
4	When it comes to friends and their influence where do you draw the line? This is my general guideline, as well. There are some folks I can't cut out of my life, because we're related, and so I limit contact with them and focus on positives when we're together. Law 10 that /u/Borsao66 listed above cannot be overstated! I learned it the hard way several times in college and my early/mid-20s with groups of toxic women whose primary hobbies were complaining about their boyfriends, complaining about their other female friends, and complaining about anything else that came…	/r/RedPillWives	02/08/16 07:11 PM
2	Don’t say yes to a dress, say yes to tradition He's just one step away from putting "live, laugh, love" decals on the minivan at his wife's behest. I literally laughed out loud at this. That is my fiance's ex-wife's favorite saying and it was ALL OVER their house. A friend recently gave me a really pretty mug with that saying on it and Paul was like, "That's so nice of her, but...can you take that to work or something?"	/r/RedPillWives	28/07/16 01:14 PM
2	Weekly reflections with RPWi 7/25/2015 Good: Wedding prep is going very well and we made a giant burst of progress this weekend, mostly just me asking for a preference between X or Y, and him weighing in to finalize a decision and moving forward. It's great! He isn't feeling overwhelmed by the details, and I'm getting the feedback and decisions I need to get things planned. 53 days to go! Bad: I am exhausted and not feeling well, physically, due to mental burnout at work. It's an odd mix of excessive stress (due to company culture) a…	/r/RedPillWives	26/07/16 07:37 PM
3	In a feminists ideal world, no one should judge you on a lack of grooming I'm a middle gal too, my daily makeup routine takes five minutes or less and makes a world of difference. There are no points awarded for looking like a slob on principle, so why not make a little effort and feel better in the process? Being put together makes me more positive and motivated.	/r/RedPillWives	23/07/16 05:04 PM
1	Sadie's Quick Tips for Homemaking You Can Do Today Flowers & candles are my favorites. Such a small effort for a great payoff. These are all great tips; thanks, Sadie! I always enjoy your posts. (And I am also from/in New England!) We have blinds in every room, but curtains in only a few, and I think one of my next sewing projects will be some simple curtains for the rooms currently without them!	/r/RedPillWomen	22/07/16 05:39 PM
2	The Coxswain Post UPDATE. Submitting to a new partner: How much, how soon? Pt. 2 Completely agree; his actions seemed very insecure from the start, as if he was holding some past experience over her head. A healthy relationship doesn't exclude all other friendships and hobbies. I wonder if this couple is still together and if so, how it's going.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/07/16 05:39 PM
4	Hosting And Entertaining Megathread Ooh, I love the beer potluck idea! We're in another craft beer hub (Maine) and many of our friends are craft beer lovers, too.	/r/RedPillWives	22/07/16 03:35 PM
3	What is thin anyway? RP Question what is your idea of thin? My idea of thin is that it would be disingenuous to think "being thin" looks the same for all of us. No amount of dieting will make my body look like that of an Olsen twin. But in general, a healthy body will not be very overweight/carrying much extra fat. Waist-to-hip ratio and body comp are far more important than actual weight IMO! Fortunately, every man has a different preference and it sounds like your man likes your figure :) I wouldn't worry about shaving down y…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/07/16 02:09 PM
8	Is his aggression 100% my fault? Warning - REALLY long. When you mention the way he tells you to respect him, I get the impression he is newly red pill. Not all men deserve the respect given to a good captain. I'm getting that feeling, too. It reads like he found RP, liked it in theory, and is applying pieces of it in a very childish and volatile way. He doesn't have basic mastery of his own emotions or behavior. He is lashing out like a child. But he's not a child, he's a grown man who is throwing tables around the home and could easily harm OP if t…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/07/16 09:04 PM
2	Weekly reflections with RPWi 7/18/16 The good: It's been about three weeks since I started doing a bedtime tidy-up routine - wipe down the counters, start the dishwasher, put any wayward shoes on the rack, that sort of thing. I spend about 15 minutes every evening keeping up with the miscellaneous stuff that would otherwise pile up and consume our house. It's so nice to go to bed with a tidy home! The bad/ugly:Wedding planning stress has my hamster running full speed. My fiance's entire office (fewer than 10 people) has been invite…	/r/RedPillWives	19/07/16 04:40 PM
3	Adopting the surname of the man you marry First, I'm so sorry you lost your father; that undoubtedly makes this a more difficult decision! It is by no means trivial to want to preserve your family name in some way. But your BF's position isn't trivial either. Good for you for thinking about it now. Your father will always be part of you. Nothing that you do, say, or call yourself can ever change that you are his beloved daughter. But someday, your husband will want to be a family with you. Not to replace your dad or diminish his place i…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/07/16 02:20 PM
3	Alpha/beta behaviours, and how they are received depending on dominance thresholds "You're a good woman" = one of my favorite compliments!	/r/RedPillWives	17/07/16 02:31 PM
2	14,000 Members! Lurkers and newbies come out and say "Hi". Hello, everyone - so nice to meet you all! I'm Hazel, 32, newbie of about two months to the forums and about one year to RP theory. My fiance Paul, 34, and I will be married two months from today. He has one son from his first marriage who spends most of the time with us. We were friends for many years and have been in a committed relationship for 5 years, engaged since November. *These aren't our actual names, but Reddit pseudonyms that are similar to our real names ;) This will actually be the…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/07/16 02:23 PM
7	In Defence of the Patriarchy feminism is literally killing civilization. And doing so by manipulating men's inate desire to please women they care about. it's sick really I wish I could upvote you more than once for this. What a great read; thanks for sharing, Camille! This piece really articulates a lot of what my fiance and I have been talking about lately. His little boy lives with us most of the time and we're both pretty concerned about him and his peers and how their lives will be affected by this anti-male, anti-masc…	/r/RedPillWives	15/07/16 08:15 PM
3	I have become the shrew that we strive not to be - help please I am not an expert at all, but what helped get my fiance and me back on the right track was me straight-up apologizing to him for my pattern of being a negative shrew, and telling him how much I truly respected and appreciated him. Maybe you already did this, in the conversation where he admitted how boiled the frog has become. If not, you could try it now. Then start reading The Surrendered Wife. I'm a couple of chapters in and it's helpful so far. Sometimes I have to chant little mantras in my…	/r/RedPillWives	15/07/16 02:41 PM
4	Why is this no longer the norm? That is so lovely. I'd like to think that had my grandmother lived, my grandparents would be buried this way. She passed at age 40 due to ovarian cancer. My grandfather lived to 93 and though he remarried (and divorced), the way he spoke of my grandmother still gave me chills. He still loved her, and when he was retired he bought a boat and named it after her. After he passed, I got to read some of the letters they'd exchanged during WWII when he was deployed with the Navy. The little captions t…	/r/RedPillWives	15/07/16 02:29 PM
3	Sad, Sexless Mom Follows RPW-Compatible Advice and Then! What a wonderful update! I'm so happy for her, that she talked to her mom, really absorbed the advice, and acted on it. The first comment on the archived post says "long may you love" - exactly! <3	/r/RedPillWomen	15/07/16 02:20 PM
2	Facing Consequences This is something I'm working so hard on right now! Mostly because my natural tendency is to be melancholy, so overall positivity, including only sharing positive stories, is a habit I'm working on.	/r/RedPillWives	15/07/16 02:02 PM
1	Facing Consequences "I won't live in the kitchen" - oh, but you'll visit just to impress outsiders? Yes! What is this about? It makes no sense to me, yet it seems to be a point of pride for some women I know. My future MIL packs future FIL's lunch every day. He has a stressful job and works long hours. He used to get teased about the lunches by the other guys. She'd pack him leftover steak with a fork and knife, or include a sweet note, and just generally try to brighten his day via this lunch. Several of the guys …	/r/RedPillWives	15/07/16 02:01 PM
3	On waiting to have children Hopefully we'll have one healthy baby and neither of us will change our minds about two kids, total, being enough (my fiance has a 7-year-old son, who lives with us most of of the time). We'll be married in two months and then we're planning to just "let nature take its course." I've been off hormonal BC for several years, have a predictable cycle, and ovulate every month, so hopefully at this time next year I am pregnant or redditing with a baby in my arms. :)	/r/RedPillWives	15/07/16 01:46 PM
2	On waiting to have children Thank you! I hope so, too. :)	/r/RedPillWives	15/07/16 01:42 PM
8	On waiting to have children This is really important; biology is real, as much as our current culture wants to cry that it isn't. The problem seems to be that we've created the narrative of being able to have whatever you want, whenever you want it, including pregnancy, and many 20- to 25-year-old women are living out extended adolescences (like many men their age are, too) and postponing marriage and family. I was certainly guilty of this in my 20s, before I started to understand the world beyond my own reflection in the …	/r/RedPillWives	14/07/16 06:33 PM
2	Need some input - long story Please, for the sake of your heart, your sanity, your dignity, and your ability to eventually find the LTR you want with a high value man who values YOU ... end this, full stop. I, too, was a long-term plate. It was heartbreaking because I didn't know that was the case. There is no reason for you to remain friends with this guy; this arrangement will only continue to be hurtful for you.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/07/16 02:07 PM
1	Women are using Tinder to con men into doing chores This is just so bizarre and sad.	/r/RedPillWives	11/07/16 06:00 PM