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benedick cad (obsolete, pejorative) drabber (obsolete) fuck boy (pejorative, vulgar, slang) fuck-boy (pejorative, vulgar, slang) fuckboy (pejorative, vulgar, slang) gallant (approbative) goat (pejorative) he-bitch (pejorative) himbo (pejorative) homme fatal horndog (informal) loverboy loverman man ho (pejorative, slang, Canada, US) man whore (pejorative, vulgar, slang) man-whore (pejorative, vulgar, slang) manslut (pejorative, vulgar, slang) manwhore (pejorative, vulgar, slang) muttonmonger (obs…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 02:27 AM
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What? A Hoe’s a Hoe. All of the aforementioned are women having excessive sexual partners. The male equivalent is called a Cad. If hot a C[h]ad. If on Instagram a Fuck Boy. If in a country song a Rake. If black or successful a Player. If disliked by women a Misogynist or Womanizer. Etc
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 02:25 AM
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Oops
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:55 PM
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It’s a Reddit comment. And while your uber-intellectual nature can’t handle a grammatically incorrect blurb, myriad others were apt to see past the syntactical errors & get the point. As Christensen points out in Arguments for and against the Idea of Universal Grammar“According to behaviorist psychologist B.F. Skinner (1957, 5), language is “a question about human behavior and hence a question to be answered with the concepts and techniques of psychology as an experimental science of behavior”. …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:51 PM
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Hah nah, just my brain
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:36 PM
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I see what you’re saying, as men value women for their appearance more than they do for their personality. But I don’t think this makes pussy more valuable, it just means all women need to do to raise value in the market is not be fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 04:10 AM
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Lol at every attack response
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 04:06 AM
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I think you’re right. What’s funny is a man that is red pill without saying or knowing that will be considered attractive by the same women that would talk shit on them if they became aware of what “red pill” means and identified with it vocally.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 03:53 AM
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“So what are your hobbies, I need a guy that can keep up lol?” “I paint in the style of Francis Bacon, compose orchestral pieces, work on the motorcycle I’m building, go to the gym daily, study the stock market for my investment side hustle, am reading Nietzsche for the 3rd time, am into woodworking, collect rare psychedelic plants that I grow in my raspberry pi temp controlled grow room, and am working on my second masters degree because education is another hobby of mine. What are your hobbies…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 03:43 AM
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Can you explicate?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 03:29 AM
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I agree with you. But the problem is there are more men blindly enslaved and content in this world than there are those willing to change it, and many that can’t imagine a different world to live in so wouldn’t know where to even begin thinking about changing their actions. What one can do is rise up in the social structure, create belief systems, marketing schemes, etc…and infiltrate the masses; basically study & learn PSYOPS and trick people into changing their perceptions. Well, that’s one wa…
/r/AllPillDebate07/10/22 06:04 PM
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lol no that’s just how dating works. You generally date multiple people until you meet one that sticks, and then repeat when that relationship ends. I’m not saying a new guy every week but even that’s not unheard of, and I’d say the time lengthens generally as one ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 02:43 AM
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That’s if said morality places the same value of virginity or chastity on the males sexuality as it does on the females. I think wanting a virgin is pretty ridiculous, mostly because it’s unrealistic, but wanting someone with a low partner count doesn’t need to be hypocritical. I could have converted to Christianity & now value sexuality differently. But really the main thing is in the world of men who desire Virginal women, whether they’ve had 1 or 100 partners, virginal men don’t hold value - …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:08 AM
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So it’s not that they are “good at sex” it’s that you want to have sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 02:59 AM
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No but every 3 months isn’t unheard of, and over time, that adds up. From what I’ve witnessed it’s usually a bunch of guys in a short period then one guy for a while, then a bunch of guys, then one guy, repeat until one sticks.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 02:46 AM
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How do you know a guy is good at sex without having sex with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 02:44 AM
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How old are you & what is “hot”? Could that guy have basically said Anything & you would’ve slept with him cause he was “hot” and you were “desperate”? 3 months is not a long time. If you slept with 1 man every 3 months for 5 years you’d have slept with 20 men. Does that matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 02:44 AM
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I don’t see where we’re disagreeing? What you described is “fuck society”. Society is everything Society involves: the entire spectacle of ‘Reality’ we’re sold - that which original MGTOW revolted against. I don’t know what MGTOW is nowadays but ya last I saw it was a joke - which, if I were a federal agency wanting to dismantle something about “men”, what better way to do so than usurp it with “incel” rhetoric
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 02:39 AM
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I will also add, finally, that if you just spend a week looking at the Thoth tarot deck, reading the Book of Thoth & writings on the symbolism contained in each painting, and understand the complexity of the system contained in those 78 cards, you’ll have understood what some spend their entire lives trying to. There’s a wealth of knowledge in the Thoth deck & The Book of Lies, but if you really want to dive in just read Book 4: Liber ABA. It’s a beautiful book to own anyways so you won’t be dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 02:29 AM
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To contact one’s HGA (Holy Guardian Angel) one should probably follow Abramelin’s advice rather than seeking communion with their higher self or literal extra-dimensional guiding entity through carnal means, but in short I suppose one could say that sex can certainly be used as a means of reaching altered states of mind that enhances one’s ability to contact different planes of existence, or through which to focus one’s Will. I don’t think Crowley or Parsons are really who one should strive to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 02:25 AM
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I dunno actually, I personally find theatrical stuff like that fascinating & fun. It’s really not for many people. I’m not even in the OTO but their Gnostic Masses are open to the public and I think everyone should go at least once. Kinda like you should do psychedelics at least once in your life. Beyond their external, exoteric system, OTO can introduce people to very complicated spiritual subject matters in an incredibly well organized fashion. If hermetic order of the golden dawn was still ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 03:43 PM
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Can you elaborate with an example? Maybe not in the same exact ways or to the same extent, but when it comes to quality of life, I’d say it’s hands down our attractive peers that have it easier. If it’s easier on the eyes it’s easier to forgive. And there is also bias according to race/demographic/height/education/job experience/current career/fitness/strength/bra size/dick size/etc…myriad factors. A lot of these opposite for women: a 6’5” woman is probably gonna have as hard of a time as a 5’5”…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 03:36 PM
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I’m not even currently a Mason or in the OTO. Masonry is far from anything to do with homosexuality or anything remotely erotic homo or hetero for that matter - which is the point. OTO on the other hand is a Solar Phallic & Lunar Yoni initiatory sex cult, so if you’re gay you’d do great there (see the XI degree I believe?). The point is that Masonry like myriad other groups have a larger purpose than the Individual as well as a proven track record of producing outwardly successful people. When y…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 03:27 PM
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I agree with you. On the infiltrated part. I also have watched it and TRP grow or devolve into what they are today. MGTOW originally was like “fuck society, buy your own land, learn to farm, study the law and philosophy, don’t be distracted by women how the media tells you you should be,” etc…they were more akin to Preppers than anything else iirc. I look at it like ex-BPD support groups now. And one can also use AA as an example. I hated AA but it “works” for some people. Who, despite having no…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 03:19 PM
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Right, which is why “red pill” and worse exist & are gaining popularity. And women like you who espouse the notion that all men are doing by following their biological imperative is enslaving and entrapping women are why many men become the vile creatures you dislike. I mean of course if I were married to a woman that hated me because I am male and she chose to have my children I would be uninterested in maintaining an equitable household. For what purpose? If I say “don’t work” you’ll cry “ensl…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:46 AM
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‘Funny’ is a bad example because we all know women aren’t funny. The point was that a more attractive human of either gender is going to have it easier and be perceived differently than their ugly peers. I think the “horny” or “exploring her sexuality” “practicing empowerment” vs “desperate” is better - women will say their friend is acting desperate when really they are alluding to the fact she’s fat; for male it would be “oh he’s so -“ “confident” vs “creepy” depending on Hot or Ugly making th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:30 AM
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I think this is very insightful of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:26 AM
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That’s good. I was mostly writing this as a reminder to myself. But I’m too addicted to commenting to leave the sub even though I know half my comments are for lost causes. I urge you to move beyond red pill. Make your own pill now. You can get all the ingredients for free or cheap and press the pills yourself, with a healthy dose of whatever you want put into it. I suggest you start with Carl Jung, Wilhelm Reich, Aleister Crowley, Fran’s Bardon, Ezra Pound, T.S. Eliot, and how about Carlos Cast…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:24 AM
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Getting dumped by a legless blind, deaf, and dumb man or woman that you LOVE can be soul-destroying. It doesn’t matter how much subjectively more attractive one partner is than another, it is they who STILL LOVE the person that is leaving them that is hurt the most. This is a dumb post, you should delete it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:17 AM
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Yeah. After 6 months in the sub I’ve realized PPD gets people nowhere. The same obvious content is repeated almost hourly. People come here to prove a point or to demonize the opposite gender. The same as OP applies to women: if you’re fat you won’t be seen as smart or funny as the attractive yoga teacher who couldn’t pass 7th grade math if she tried. Her being “horny” would be perceived as you being “desperate”. Humans are shallow, base creatures.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 02:50 AM
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There are no issues beyond overpopulation and a society with declining virtues, where every man is taught to be a Casanova & every woman a Cleopatra you’re gonna end up with a bunch of empty spectacle-consuming aesthetes who value money & sex - the individual pleasure principle - over community & advancement. The issue isn’t either genders preferences it’s society’s marketed echo chamber. Each human a memetic virus spreading the beliefs they are sold like the common cold, and taking it in stride…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 02:37 AM
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This problem which appears to be the vocal majority of women online is almost non-existent in the flesh. Most normal women see value in men as partners, companions, fathers, and friends. Most women seek to pair up and bond with a man in order to raise a family. Understanding that it’s not necessary for the man to be able to pay for everything on his own, as they will both be responsible for raising the child/ren. Most women desire love and to be loved, as do most men. Most men don’t see women as…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 02:27 AM
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Pay for what you want. [Which can be an extension of #1 - wealth.]
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 02:09 AM
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I’m not saying it’s not a bad thing, but if I used the amount of times I’ve been violently accosted to the point of broken bones, got into fights or been beaten near to death, been mugged, jumped, or even literally kidnapped or held hostage by gun or knife point I wouldn’t go outside. There are terrible people in this world, it’s true. And terrible things do happen. And you never truly know who someone is or what they are capable of until you witness or experience it. But living in fear is not c…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 03:08 PM
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Just go to the dr bro it’s not embarrassing at all. Do you know how many men have this issue, or think they do? Viagra and equivalents are like the most commonly prescribed drugs in the world (or something like that). Even men without ED will go to the doctor (or use online pharmacies) to get ED meds. And if it’s from poor diet and lack of exercise it may be worth fixing since it will likely fix your other issues as well - ie get you in the gym and boost your health & confidence which in turn ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 03:02 PM
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Totally possible, I’m not really arguing for women lowering their standards though as much as I am for men and women having realistic standards, and to be willing to overlook their ‘preferences’, and learn how to distinguish between the two, which also isn’t a collective thing for either gender, and varies according to each individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 02:59 PM
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Some truths I’ve seen so far: 1. Black pill guy saying, “ya obviously I want this so I can get a girlfriend.” Which means, of course men are saying this, it’s not controversial. 2. Older guy saying “by not doing this you’re shooting yourself in the foot.” Which is to say, by promoting sleeping around you’re missing out on having a lasting, loving healthy relationship & your chances for such are diminished the longer you “ride the carousel”. Men generally look for less promiscuous women to be the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 02:46 PM
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Lol I dunno where you live but that’s not how it works here
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 12:17 PM
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Is the ED caused by your health or anxiety? Golden Champion, with a name like that I believe in you
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 12:16 PM
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I’ve heard that before, but what are the chances of this happening?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 06:56 AM
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I can tell just fine when a woman is interested in me, but you seem younger and I imagine you have information young men would like to hear, so I was prodding you to supply an answer that actually contributed to the conversation beyond affirming you’re a girl who should only be talked to when she’s interested in a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 06:47 AM
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Ya, but guys that are having this issue can’t tell what “isn’t interested” or “engaged” means. That’s why it would be useful if, for example, you as a woman, explained what you do when talking to a guy that signals you are “engaged” or “interested”. Do you ask more questions? Do you stand closer to him? Do you have any nervous flirting tics? Do you approach him or wait for him to approach you? How do you signal to him you want to be approached? How does all of this differ from when, for example,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 03:15 AM
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What about this situation semi reversed? You’re a guy fucking a girl you really like, she even wants to fuck you 7 days a week, sleepover, backrubs, morning blow jobs and all. Maybe she even says she “loves you, but…” she “just can’t be with you/someone like you,” cause “you’re so bad,” or whatever reason. Have you been fuckzoned like this by a girl you like? It sucks. probably better than being friendzoned. and probably even better than a relationship tbh. no drama or fighting, all the sparkly-…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 03:03 AM
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Great! Nowhere did I say or imply a woman not reciprocating is a positive or sign of interest. I said a lot of guys can’t tell when a girl is reciprocating vs. “being nice”. And the manner one girl reciprocates is not gonna be the same as another, outside of blow jobs, everyone flirts a little differently, and some even flirt differently with different types of guys. Which gets to my point of “go out and learn” what is reciprocation. How would you explain to a guy that you thought you were flirt…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:54 AM
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I think many men misunderstand what “reciprocation” means or what are “indicators of interest” in these initial five minutes or even the first year of knowing a woman. One man may see a woman’s chattiness as a sign of interest, but another may see it as a sign of nervousness, and another as politeness, and the wisest of all will take note of what she’s talking about, how it’s being said, and how she’s looking at you while she’s speaking. The important part that OP gets is that if a woman likes y…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 01:08 AM
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There’s a fine line between game & pursuit & overdoing it and ruining your shot. It’s important to pursue to a point, and to expect a type of resistance or hesitation on the girls end. I’ve always been of the attitude that if it’s meant to be it will happen, and for MANY years was of the firm belief that if she isn’t pursuing me then she isn’t interested. I don’t think this works for everyone though, and there were DEFINITELY many women who, had I listened to my own advice and walked away or sai…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:58 AM
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I’ve had plenty of experiences with women that took time. However those weren’t explicitly initiated nor did they unravel as me pursuing them, they just developed naturally over time. In most instances, OP is right.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:45 AM
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Right. Many factors at play here. On a similar note: I think it’s not spoken of enough in PPD, but Instagram and Facebook should be seen as the real dating profiles for men. Make yourself appear popular, post photos of doing attractive things, etc… You can craft an entire narrative of what your life has looked like for years by selectively showing specific photos & achievements, documenting progress & growth, as well as only sharing attractive photos. When I was in high school MySpace came out. …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:18 PM
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Does it make a difference for their argument? Women get on the app, then match with top doggies, then get off the app, eventually meeting a boyfriend or concluding all men are pigs after sleeping with a few who “won’t commit”, switch from tinder to hinge, or “take time off the apps” and meet men irl as it’s just as easy as online for them. Men, on the other hand, getting no to sparse matches, or being top dawg with a steady supply of women, remain on the app. So the profiles that are women are m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:50 AM
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I think most people prefer their partners to have had lesser n-count than greater as the general rule of thumb. I don’t see why this is such a divisive topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 10:24 PM
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From personal observations in the US in multiple states in a variety of living environments I would not be surprised at all if 1/3rd of men are sexless.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 06:01 PM
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I’ll reiterate in a different way because someone else’s comment may not be seen. Men & Women are valued for different reasons, both by society and by each other. When men have an abundance of partners it generally signifies an abundance of value - he likely has multiple “qualifiers” ie wealth, status, appearance, accomplishments, etc…whereas a woman need only appear halfway decent to get a man to sleep with her. What women look for in men are exactly the qualities that enable him to have more p…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 06:19 PM
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Ah, I can definitely see that having an impact.
/r/AllPillDebate29/09/22 10:17 PM
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SOUTH/NORTH MIAMI BEACH (average guy - good luck!), Los Angeles, Coastal San Diego, Ibiza, New York, Hawaii.
/r/AllPillDebate29/09/22 06:07 PM
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Really? I’m at a wedding right now with half Australian & half Americans. I’m one of 3 single people, 2 being Aussie male (jokester bachelor best man trope) & other fat Aussie girl. The Australian men are all fat, or barely in shape, & aren’t particularly attractive, or interesting (it’s pretty obvious they’ve never struggled with anything nor likely done anything remotely interesting with their lives), yet all of their wives are smoking hot. And they all seem happy. Maybe the only thing is they…
/r/AllPillDebate29/09/22 06:05 PM
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What’s this repository do/offer?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 05:49 PM
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L oooooo l
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:11 AM
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What would a study look like that could indicate causation?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 11:11 PM
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Seems obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 11:10 PM
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There are so many factors at play, it for the “average” man, it’s rough. Things that can make or break ones dating chances: - age - height - income - location - skin color - weight - fitness level - hobbies - talents - vehicle (or lack thereof) - past (experience level) - intellect - social prowess - social status - personality type - lunar cycle - how/where/why/context in which one met Etc… And all of these factors coalesce into one at any given point in spacetime where some factors hold more w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 06:24 PM
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There are so many factors at play, it for the “average” man, it’s rough. Things that can make or break ones dating chances: - age - height - income - location - skin color - weight - fitness level - hobbies - talents - vehicle (or lack thereof) - past (experience level) - intellect - social prowess - social status - personality type - lunar cycle - how/where/why/context in which one met Etc… And all of these factors coalesce into one at any given point in spacetime where some factors hold more w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 06:24 PM
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Sure, the passionate, lustful, playful adolescent stage of a relationship may not exist or last as long if it does develop in a forced situation, but that’s not the main reason many men want a long term committed partnership with a woman. The religiously bent, for example, see the purpose of the relationship as being beyond those things you describe, which, while nice, are totally unnecessary to have a happy relationship/life with someone. Especially if that option is never known to have exist i…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:59 PM
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This is simply not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 11:32 AM
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Yes, my first real gf that I moved in with at 19. I had suspicions but thought it was the drugs making me paranoid. Regardless I noticed little things slowly adding up and snooped on her computer, finding a conversation on a social media account that was evidence. So I printed it out. I folded it up and sat on it asking her to come into the living room. I asked her a few questions, one being something about honesty, I’d give her one chance, and had she been talking to and hanging out with “Georg…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:26 PM
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Women can’t communicate for shit. Their version of communicating is talking until the problem is “resolved” meaning the man ends up apologizing for something. Their version of communication is doing anything they can to prove they are right.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:45 AM
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Give an example
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:44 AM
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Make friends with Cocaine and the people that do it Use said cocaine Add alcohol Somewhere in this process you’ll figure it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 02:51 AM
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How has “red pill” changed over the last decade? For better or worse? How have you (Rollo), if at all, changed your perspective on women since you first started writing on the topic? Why should or shouldn’t men use escorts? Is there any single, core tenet you believe all men, red or blue pill, should follow or be aware of? Do you think Islam or conservative Christianity will rise in popularity as more men are raised in a world without hope for a wife or family? What is a misogynist, really?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 06:06 PM
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I also think your last paragraph is spot on. The reason so many young men end up in those hate-filled circles isn’t arising out of a vacuum. It’s in response to the way THEY are talked about and treated by women. Eventually it’s gonna go full swing. First abortion’s banned. Before we know it we’ll be living under a Caliphate. If women don’t choose roles that benefit collective society, society - which includes MEN - will enforce rules to ensure those roles are being played. Dunno how else to say…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:06 AM
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What men need to learn to communicate more clearly is their boundaries and their confidence in their sexuality. Learn to communicate what you want, what you expect, what you need, what you won’t put up with. And most importantly and often ignored is the fact that the best, clearest, most powerful and attractive communication is non verbal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 07:28 PM
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:) thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:34 PM
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Thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:33 PM
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It doesn’t have to be reception of sex, but acknowledgement that you’re worthy of it. The difference between being a man who both men and women see as attractive enough to get sex and being a man who clearly can’t is night and day. I too have gone from loser to Chad and back again multiple times and know life is just incredibly different across the board when you’re perceived as a sexually valuable being (as in you can get or have regular sex). There is no simpler & clearer way of saying “you ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:27 PM
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Seriously the responses in r/askfeminism are incredible. They will collectively denigrate men and completely deny their basically promotion of hatred as men’s fault. Like everything is literally circled back to man is evil, patriarchy, chores -= unpaid labor, unfair this, children are men’s patriarchal weapon for enslavement, men expressing themselves are trauma-dumping, etc… It’s impossible to have a dialogue with them. If you’re a man, you’re invalid trash. Sometimes it’s so absurd I wonder if…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:59 PM
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Through many years of experience and observation. Women are the reason men view women a certain way, but I’m sure for younger generations the Internet has played a large role in their perspectives being validated. But mostly I think men’s experience is confirmed by other men and affirmed by repeat instances. Ie If 9/10 men have experienced the same behavior in 9/10 relationships w/women they are gonna probably agree that behavior is standard across the board.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:48 PM
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Man I am so fucking stressed and excited. I have been given the opportunity of a lifetime. And have important people interested/involved. I don’t want to give out too much info. Pretend you’re a filmmaker and David Lynch or George Lucas reaches out to you and tells you they will fund your next film as long as you submit the proposal to their production company officially, which they will help you write. And then separately Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie tells you after that proposal is accepted and…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:37 PM
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pay more attention to individual Woman’s actions than Collective Woman’s words true love is rare; women will let go of it without hesitation when a perceived better opportunity presents itself women handle break ups far better than men because they have usually exited the relationship long before physically leaving or vocalizing their disengagement; and women know finding a partner is not difficult, so being alone is very easy for them getting a woman to admit she is wrong due to something speci…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:02 AM
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Annoying. I wonder if it’s ever worked…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:27 AM
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They aren’t complaining about not being able to afford the date. They are complaining about the redundancy of women stating they want all things equal then have stupid archaic rules like “but men must pay for dinner”. More than this it’s just an example of women’s contradictory perceptions and expectations and difference between what women say they want vs what they actually positively respond to. I don’t know a single man that wouldn’t happily date/marry a morally upstanding and attractive woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:18 AM
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Bro, you sound like the type that’s gonna end up getting robbed…I can smell the fresh meat looking for easy pussy from over here. I’d probably work with a couple Thai women to milk you of your funds. Or at the very least steal your wallet, passport, cell phone, and any medication you have lying around your hotel room. Be careful.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:05 AM
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I feel like when they become AI powered chore-bots that also happen to be in the body of a sex bot…things might change a little bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 02:00 AM
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I agree. So the question remains, what do these women even offer? Sex? Is that all
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:47 AM
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How? I think you’d be surprised how many men are “pilled” and are in perfectly happy relationships. And how many more men are “pilled” without knowing what “red pill” is. This is like me saying women who identify as feminist can’t have solid trusting relationships with men because I exclusively use r/askfeminists as my go to for what self-identified feminists believe. The most outspoken are gonna be the most extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:46 AM
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Most common, when younger, is when male “friends” “”tease”” their friends. In the presence of women they suddenly become total cunts, saying legitimately mean/embarrassing things or pushing insecurity buttons. If you know people that do this they are not your friend. Light joking vs belittling
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:41 AM
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Haha in what context was the “I have $100,” comment made? Like what did they say before that which led them to believe announcing a price would persuade you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:33 AM
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What a tool. I’m glad now that I’m bigger (muscular) no one tries this shit. And guys that are bigger than me generally just give me the bro nod or glance of respect. I actually can’t think of a recent time when I’ve been disrespected like the story you mentioned. I think that’s probably the most immediately noticeable effect of taking care of yourself physically. You don’t need to do anything or say anything or play into social dynamics as heavily because you automatically command respect. And …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 01:31 AM
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I am early 30’s, I will date women 23 - 33. Preference is around age 25, that wants monogamy, and a family. I am sexually attracted to probably 25% of women upon first seeing them, so 1/4th of women give me briefly distracting lusty thoughts - of course exacerbated or limited by their costume. At the gym, which I’m noticing right now, where women my age and younger are basically the cream of the crop, it’s a different story. 9/10 are 10’s with whom I’d happily frolic naked were they interested. …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 07:20 PM
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Nope. Women don’t appreciate men. Most despise men. What men want from women/relationships is consider patriarchal slavery. Women prefer toxicity over what’s healthy. There’s no incentive anymore. Men would be better off paying escorts & using a surrogate. Most women have become a joke, not representative of femininity or upstanding morality. Most men that are successful are sociopathic narcissists. Thank social media + OLD + feminism + anti-Christian normalcy. Look at the stats. Speaks for itse…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:50 PM
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What do most women offer? I’ve always heard it the other way around. Women don’t want what men offer. Funny how either gender blames the other no matter what.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:44 PM
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This is silly. He’s not saying a “couple of failed relationships”. That’s the normal, healthy young woman who by the time she’s had a couple failed relationships knows what she wants in a healthy relationship, and seeks that out. He’s saying a HIGH body count (20+?) with multiple failed [traumatic] relationships and sexual trauma. It’s dumb for him to publicly announce this, but he may as well have worded it as follows: I have no intention or desire of dating an unhealthy woman who has unresolve…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:38 AM
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What’s noncey mean or short for?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 09:48 PM
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Hoe Phase PSYOP is a result of degenerate liberal feminist ideologies perpetuated by social media in an ever-increasingly pathetically selfish & hedonistic consumerist society that teaches men they are without value unless or until they are fuckable, women having innate value absent social contribution beyond existence. To put it succinctly, by the time men realize their innate value and other women see them as desirable for their superficial value, many of these men see the women they once deem…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 02:07 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 02:00 AM
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I think it’s the opposite, as others have pointed out. We are raised as the enemy surrounded by enemies. We are wrong. Unworthy of love & affection. We are “predatory” and we indeed are surrounded by predators. Most of us have been raised in, or been victim to, violent criminal activity or police brutality. Violence is the main difference I think. Women are raped. Men are murdered.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 06:01 PM
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This is fairly common. Also open relationships/marriages. Swinging. Etc… Often one partner’s sexual appetite increases while the other decreases. So relationship is “open” and one sided. Men are often so willing to let their partner sleep with others and not do so themselves while maintaining the status of the relationship because, despite all the emotional pain it causes, the effect of a divorce or separation would be even more complicated. Often a man realizes he will not be able to find anoth…
/r/AllPillDebate03/09/22 05:45 PM
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Right, but what’s implied or directly taught to men is contradictory: “don’t approach women in public, it’s creepy!” alongside “men are required to do the approaching, I won’t be with a man unless he asks and pays”, etc . So I imagine a lot of younger inexperienced men don’t understand what to do. So what happens is mostly the guys who don’t listen to “what women say they want” are the ones that do the approaching and get dates/sex. Leading to a pattern with how women experience men since the sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 05:12 PM
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Fascinating. I can see how this is manageable with unlimited time/money. You’re also obviously attractive. And can drink correctly. Did you ever end up having trouble with alcohol or cocaine? Plus living coastal. San Diego? Los Angeles? There’s a place called PB in San Diego next to a few colleges on the coast, and any hour any day of the week you can find hoards of young, hot drunk people. People that look so good you wonder how the fuck are they able to party so much and maintain their physiqu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 05:06 PM
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Well, he just needs someone to “see” him, and working at a fast food chain my example probably comes with gravy…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 04:12 PM
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Everyone knows the best way to get laid is exclusively eat at and work for fast food joints. Handing out Extra Large Mountain Dew’s with Deluxe 12-Piece Chicken Lard Combo Plates, and Extra-Large Extra Cheese Mac’n’Cheese with 20 packets of hot sauce for single customers driving Ford F850’s with clear remnants of previous fast food meal’s stacked up in the passenger seat, then wiping tables up where kids use the mashed potatoes as playtime putty and parents don’t bother to throw away the half-ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 04:11 PM
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So you’d date/sleep with regularly/love/marry/be proud to be with a 230 lb 5’3” Hispanic woman with a 98 IQ that works at Taco Bell?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 04:27 AM
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The problem arises when you have a higher position or title it’s often not worth the drama or even potential lawsuit. If you’re a behavioral health tech, $17/hour - go for it, hook up with the other tech’s. But if you’re the Program Director at that same facility…you should not be fucking around with employees. Or you’re a barista or waiter? Ya, you’re all probably getting drunk after work and taking turns with one another. But you’re the district manager? Probably shouldn’t fuck the newly hired…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 04:17 AM
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I’m surprised at the multiple people here claiming 100+ partners. I’m male. I’ve slept with 30+ and I think that’s too many. I hope the next person is the last person. I am happier fucking one woman in an LTR than new women and have never had issues getting bored or finding people outside of my relationships tempting. I’ve learned I’m demisexual, so my attraction and sexual energy tends to actually increase the longer I am with someone. And the more I’m in love with them the greater my sexual ap…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 01:46 AM
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Are you male or female? And in what context did you find yourself most frequently sexually active? Were these all one-time events? Or did you regularly attend orgies and knock out 20 people in a single night? Was this a job? And did you have what could be considered trauma or mental health issues that contributed to you promiscuity (no offense meant there)? I feel like this has to be a lifestyle thing since a lot of people have trouble finding one person they even want to sleep with.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 01:16 AM
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Women: “WE WANT EQUALITY IN ALL MATTERS” Also Women: “MEN MUST ASK ME OUT/PAY FOR DATES/EARN MORE THAN ME/WORK MORE THAN ME/INITIATE SEX/ETC” Women: “MEN SHOULD EXPRESS THEIR EMOTIONS. WE LIKE IT WHEN THEY DO.” Man comes home from work, is laid off, his mother dies, & his dog gets hit by a car. Girlfriend complains for 2 hours before letting him speak, crying about her friends vague, potentially mean comment on Instagram. Man listens and consoles her. Then tells gf “I’m having a rough day, my mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 08:12 PM
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Lol, ONE EXAMPLE IS PROOF ENOUGH! That’s like saying “Even though 4 billion women absolutely love to eat bananas, I personally don’t like them. And guess what, I know 100 other women that don’t like bananas too. This is hard science fact proof evidence that BANANA’S are actually disliked by the majority - ignore the 5 billion women that love bananas, they are lying to themselves.”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 07:16 PM
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What made them appear “nice” before they pretended to be “genuine”? And what does “genuine” mean in this case? How is being nice to get sex (assuming that’s what they genuinely wanted) not being genuine? and being a so called bad guy that “isn’t nice(?)” but wants sex openly is genuine so not as bad as the “nice guy” but still a bad guy because he wants sex and not something “genuine”? Is “something genuine” only possible if more than sex is initially desired? And does a guy who genuinely wants …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 07:11 PM
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Someone had time to reply to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 03:20 AM
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The point isn’t that ‘masculinity’ is x or y, it’s that it’s both x and y, which contradict each other - and it’s desired by women. Further, as linked article shows, egalitarian relationships don’t exist as women don’t truly desire that in spite of claiming they do. “I want an equal relationship on EVERY level. The MALE must ask me out, pay for my dinner, initiate sex, make more money than me, etc…”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 03:19 AM
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Edited for cunt: women sleep with masculine men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 04:25 PM
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In other words real masculinity is being attractive (able to have sex).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 06:45 AM
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I love Aurelius’ meditations but find it funny his wife was notoriously cheating on him with a gladiator, which Aurelius knew about. Doesn’t bode well for looking to Stoicism to securing a good partner as much as it bodes well for knowing how to respond to a cheating one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 06:32 AM
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Yes. If you’re saying it jokingly correctly & are tall and handsome and quickly witty after your dumb pick up line, and are flirty and etc…in other words gregarious, charismatic, confident, and the only one that really matters: attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 04:24 AM
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Lol right. The whole time I was thinking about how I’ve never commented on anything on LinkedIn let alone paid attention to any posts, but my general understanding is that LinkedIn is for business not Facebook style posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 01:37 AM
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Insane. We are at a time when technology, means of communication, + the wealthiest people on the planet could collectively not only save the planet, but pay for/take care of every single living being and their basic needs/rights and STILL remain elite/wealthy. Instead the rich are trying to escape to space or build underground bunkers to hide in while the rest of us are destroyed by idiots and nature herself. At a time when everyone could wake up and snap out of the automaton nightmare spectacle…
/r/AllPillDebate29/08/22 06:14 PM
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For sure. I mean I’ve been hitting the gym for 10 years so I know it’s importance for self-image and even simply as a consistent marker of progress - no day one has worked out can be considered a failure because one at the very least took care of their body and in turn their mind. But tbh I got laid far more when I didn’t work out. Or when I choose to stop exercising and go out more instead. In other words for me personally when I am an alcoholic I get laid. Then I meet women. Then eventually on…
/r/AllPillDebate29/08/22 06:08 PM
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And yet there’s no admittance of this phenomena outside of TRP and every single male on the planets observations (which must be false because they have testicles?). Sometimes I wonder if the world is going to convert to Islam simply because it’s the easiest way for men. Like the end result of Feminism is going to be Allah, starting with Europe. Or maybe Evangelical Christianity will rise to the occasion and gain more traction. In other words their outspoken hatred of men is going to put them rig…
/r/AllPillDebate29/08/22 01:40 AM
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Strange concept perhaps being evidence of a lack of experience. If you don’t know what it’s like to be in love to the point of craving life with another human I’d dare say you haven’t fully lived. Or fully learned who You are. Takes a mirror to see oneself and often the only person holding that mirror is who you fall in love with. Also love can be learned as it often has via traditional organized relationships given time and procreation. But that’s a far more complicated and divisive discussion …
/r/AllPillDebate29/08/22 01:33 AM
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I think I understand what you’re trying to say but you didn’t touch on love at all. This isn’t about who is attractive or who isn’t or why they are or aren’t, but is about romance/love/purpose/ideals reasons for commitment etc that have been driving mankind for aeons and no longer seem to be of primary importance. Yes hitting the gym is great but if you think muscles are gonna get you laid you’re an idiot. You can pull mad pussy by being a confident pile of trash as much as you can being a stoic…
/r/AllPillDebate29/08/22 01:27 AM
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I’ve heard this from women more than I have from men. And while it’s true for both genders sometimes it isn’t true for all of either gender. And even if we look at it transactionally then it should be seen as women providing stable intimacy and men providing stable companionship, either end of which includes the opposite (intimacy implies companionship and companionship implies intimacy and intimacy implies sex). Sex is simply the easiest and most masculine expression of intimacy and regular rec…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 01:21 AM
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Great response except I want to clarify “not being tethered to someone you’ve fallen out of love with” - I think this is where a lot of further problems arise that are unnecessary where people believe the sparkle-rainbow-fest and passion of the newly ignited love fading into a slow burning ember means out of love. I think it would be wise to teach people that commitment is a huge aspect of love, and love evolves beyond being IN it when it becomes Choosing to live by it (with the lover). At the s…
/r/AllPillDebate29/08/22 01:19 AM
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I see why, but as someone else pointed out, it’s an incredibly powerful thing when in its throes. There truly is nothing better than having it, and nothing worse than losing it (and I am going to include losing a child as loss of love too, albeit a different kind).
/r/AllPillDebate29/08/22 01:12 AM
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True, but women identifying as feminist is pretty norm/standard in the West, and if not consciously then by indoctrination and socialization most women (and men) hold feminist perspectives. And if feminism is the epitome of Woman and represents the voice speaking for women, then their impressions of men surely affect the rest of the population who are in turn impacted by feminism, or at the very least are a significant sample. Though I do wonder if most outspoken feminists are merely feminists b…
/r/AllPillDebate29/08/22 01:09 AM
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I didn’t choose that tag it was automodded so your reply is welcome. Thank you for the comment. I agree with everything you’ve said, tho have some comments my phone is acting up and won’t let me type properly so I’ll leave it there
/r/AllPillDebate28/08/22 09:45 PM
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If they are hot they are “fiery” if they are ugly they are “abusive”. No different for men, which can be taken a step further as hot men that hurt women are called “misogynists” and ugly men “ncels”. Doesn’t stop women from being with the misogynist though. Just like being a “fiery” Latina doesn’t stop men from being with them. Humans put up with attractive people’s bullshit because they are seen as superior from their appearance alone. And on a societal level this can be seen as women in genera…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 04:00 PM
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it seems men learn they want companionship while women learn they don’t. Judging by comments I’ve read here and elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 05:49 AM
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Did you go to college? Its definitely prominent in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 06:25 PM
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Except he was pointing out it’s not these men that hate women, it’s men that “hate women” that have more sexual partners. In other words women prefer misogynistic men. The men who had less sexist or no sexist attitudes were more likely to have less or no partners. Nothing to do with their attractiveness which wasn’t qualitatively addressed. Ie nothing in studies about attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 06:19 PM
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Except isn’t this (and you) pointing out that you don’t do what “men want” anyways?…you go for “hot guys” regardless or make pragmatic choices like going for “wealth”.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:31 AM
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Except the studies mentioned seemed to be observing couplings too. And we all know sexuality plays a major role in mate selection. Either way it seems like you’re in agreement with OP
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:28 AM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:26 AM
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This is a rad response, and makes a lot of sense
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:26 AM
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What’s the final conclusion?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:25 AM
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Yep. Retroactively she can also decide the consent was coerced. So even her consenting can be the cause of you raping her.
/r/MensRights26/08/22 02:21 AM
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of course it makes sense for women to be picky - the burden of childbirth should be reason enough. But they aren’t really. Or perhaps whats more accurate is it doesn’t matter how picky women are they always have people to pick from. logs onto tinder 100 new matches! Hmmm no no no no maybe maybe maybe omg yes maybe no no no depends maybe probably not yes yes no yes Male logs onto tinder: 1 new match! Understand? Pickiness doesn’t matter when promiscuity is the base level to choose from rather tha…
/r/AllPillDebate26/08/22 02:01 AM
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This isn’t true. What’s true is they won’t be happy with the changed man if they fell for the bad boy version of him. They will slowly then realize the energy and effort they put into placing all “problems” on the shoulder of the man and his vices, when changed, leave only one other person (themselves) who needs to change. And most women are incapable of change/growth when they enter relationships like these. In other words take an alcoholic for example. Woman falls in love with exciting Joe Vod…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 08:13 PM
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Same been around before and after; ie actually met a high school gf via myspace. Even then it was different and way easier. Things really seemed to shift the most the last 5 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 10:18 AM
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The fact that you’re unwilling to take it is more of a sign no trust need be had for many people - especially one that’s already suspecting (likely for reasons) your infidelity. I don’t see why it’s such a big deal? If you suspected your partner of cheating but didn’t want it to be true and had a method that could prove it why wouldn’t you take that opportunity to do so? Also your immediate leaving the relationship because your partner suspects you rather than working through what issues are pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 02:54 AM
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Agree with above. Also pointed out to me just how subjective rating scales are. I think one of your 6’s was an 8 for me and one of your 8’s a 5, one of your 9’s a 6, but that’s totally inaccurate for me anyways as literally al of them fell into one of 3 categories: yes, could be FWB if they are cool, and NO THANK YOU. If I were to go more specific with my rating system it’s more like: 3 too hot, 2 perfect, 1 not my type, 0 fat/fucked up facial structure/gross. And by your rating system I’ve only…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 02:41 AM
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TRP doesn’t “have to be misogynist”. In fact, TRP should kinda technically be “feminist”. Equal rights, equal treatment. If TRP is right then it should point towards men changing their behavior such that they are happier, and resultantly the women in their lives become happier too. Maybe what you’re getting at is society’s tendency to devalue the male emotional experience, especially in relation to females, even if only unconsciously. The reason the paternity test is frowned upon is because men …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 02:26 AM
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Maybe because unconsciously it’s threatening - if everyone (ugly nerds too) has charming social skills everyone else has to try harder. It levels the playing field. And it makes ugly people more threatening because they can “creepily” woo their way into bed with you vs “naturally” flexing their charismatic jawbone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:55 AM
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There’s a reason mankind has been attempting to communicate about love since the dawn of language. Once you’ve experienced it you understand Shakespeare a little better. The best way I can describe it is this: you feel like, for the very first time, you’ve arrived home. The world is suddenly your home, and the person you love is why this home exists, because you and her are meant to live in it. You feel like anything and everything is going to be ok, as long as you’re with that person. Rather th…
/r/AllPillDebate24/08/22 02:50 AM
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Well it “starts off with whiskey and wine, some miles of travel and real good times, but it ends up in a dark corridor, where there ain’t no windows and there ain’t no doors” (Devil Makes Three lyrics iirc). Basically if you follow a similar path as me or as described above - lots of alcohol (and I mean eventually more than you’d ever imagine one could consume in a given day, let alone lifetime, and survive) and lots of drugs (weed, amphetamines, methamphetamine, benzos, opioids, kratom, psyched…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:35 AM
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lol I lived in LA for a portion of this and hooked up with plenty of rich women in Silverlake or ended up at their home in mansions previously owned by people like Charlie Sheen (not joking, that specific once). Or would sneak into events like the academy awards by wearing a stolen suit, carrying an instrument through backstage pretending I was late (actually worked until eventually we were caught - went down the wrong hallway…). I think what matters is how you present yourself (your “vibe” and …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:05 AM
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Just learn to drink a lot and do a lot of drugs and not give a shit about anything. You’ll find your way real quick. And you’ll learn it’s not all it’s cracked up to be too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 05:23 AM
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Agree. I basically said the same thing. Cause that’s exactly what I did. Plain Hanes t-shirt every day [laughing at idiots spending $ on t-shirts like above comment.]
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 05:22 AM
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As a former “bad boy” this is mostly bullshit. I had maybe one or two male friends at a time. I mostly went out alone. Apps made things easy. Just drink a lot, get in fights, do loads of drugs, don’t dress like a fool, and have ANY car and you’re Golden. Be open to crime. Sell drugs for sure or at least know people with coke and molly. Mainly: drink, drink, and drink. + amphetamines. Vodka for breakfast. Beer for lunch. Wine for dinner. Whiskey for after dinner. And do whatever you want, wheneve…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 05:18 AM
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This is a wonderful response.
/r/AllPillDebate23/08/22 02:29 AM
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Was delightful :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 06:04 PM
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Right? Like, how did I expend so much energy thinking about this stuff in what ways I previously did? At least now I can contribute to the discussion from that reclaimed angle of detachment :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 06:01 PM
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I just backpacked/camped alone for 12 days. So weird being back on a phone. How trivial PPD topics seem now. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 02:18 AM
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Internet has probably destroyed dating/relationships. I’d wager 40 years ago 70% of guys having trouble dating in today’s “market” would be easily dating their looks//wealth/demographic/location-match. The fittest doesn’t really mean anything in particular - could be most genetically handsome, could be wealthiest, could be best fighter, could be best writer or painter; also, life isn’t fair, there are numberless nameless handsome, wealthy, violent, articulate, creative humans who exist and have …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 12:30 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 12:19 AM
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Ha the “black” pill. But for real dating as a minority comes with its own unique challenges 100%. I think I read somewhere that Indian men have the most difficult time in the US when it comes to dating. But even if you took a Hispanic or Chinese or whatever 25 year old man/woman and compared it with a Caucasian 25 year old man/woman not even considering height/income there’s bound to be a stark difference. With how hard dating is for me as a well above average in every area of life, looks, and f…
/r/AllPillDebate09/08/22 01:14 PM
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I disagree. I’ve worked in behavioral healthcare emphasis on substance abuse for many years (prior job), and have witnessed major moral and character changes as well as leaps in maturity in some individuals. And also witnessed those who remain the same if not worse than when they used/drank. People ARE capable of change and at 15 most Western humans are basically undeveloped children with little to no life experience and even less capacity for maturity. Sure, some can parrot maturity or mimic va…
/r/AllPillDebate09/08/22 04:22 AM
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Women don’t care about dick. It’s easy to get. It doesn’t matter. Men care about pussy. It’s also easy for SOME to get. And it also doesn’t matter. Some people change. At 22 they would’ve bought the girl they loved a diamond ring with all their McDonald’s Assistant Manager wages saved up for 6 months. But by 32 they may be living in a hippie commune in Oregon and a lock of their dreaded hair cut off and tied to their partners dreads is their “primary partner” proposal method in a polyamorous gro…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 04:01 AM
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“The bar is so low all you have to do is be nice [and 6’2”, 7” dick, 8 figure salary, young Schwarzenegger body, infectious and charming smile to match a charismatic personality, and talented in either art, music, or writing (ideally in galleries, concerts, or published), with a 401k, down payment on house, ability to travel at will anywhere, solid social profiles/followers, and exciting backstory like navy seal, crime lord, or mma fighter who came from a rough upbringing but fought his way thro…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 03:51 AM
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Why are the same questions and the same posts asked and posted every 12 hours and receive 200+ comments?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 03:42 AM
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It is totally a merry-go-round. You are right that the same exact topics are posted ad infinitum. And the same exact comment threads. Every interesting comment I’ve posted that didn’t reiterate the narrative they are condoning nor conditioning people to believe is true got me banned. I don’t even remember what the comments were about but I do recall I learned to make a dummy account if I ever had one of those comments & sure enough got banned every time haha. In r/dating I’ve been PERMANENTLY ba…
/r/AllPillDebate08/08/22 02:54 PM
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I think you’re missing the fact that the casual sex men are talking about women refer to as Dating. I know many women who would say they don’t have casual sex yet have slept with more men in a year than most men will have slept with in their lifetime, but to these women because the sex happened after a date or two it doesn’t count as casual. As a result still the same “upper echelon” of men have women on rotation, and every other man waiting on the sidelines. Most men just want women to like the…
/r/AllPillDebate08/08/22 11:58 AM
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I don’t understand what this post is explaining that isn’t already noted repeatedly: - be socially adept - be physically fit - have stable job - be confident - dress well - smell nice - flirt well - practice - 666 Succeed at all of the above and you can be a misogynist and get laid or find a wife, or you can not be a misogynist and get laid or find a wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:05 AM
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It’s clearly an attention grab. He is saying nothing new. And the only reason he has any value behind his “shocking” “manly” views is due to being an MMA fighter. I had to look him up after he was brought up recently and he seems like either a total douche or a smart guy acting like a total douche for monetary attention. Probably a mix of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 11:30 PM
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Very true. Ignoring reality doesn’t change it. Something like race is as pertinent as any other aspect of demographic when discussing dating, at least statistically speaking. Good point
/r/AllPillDebate07/08/22 09:02 PM
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Dumb. Hopefully this place gains traction
/r/AllPillDebate07/08/22 05:04 AM
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Most humans, PPD or not, are clueless about their own behavior, let alone HUMAN behavior. What type of uncivil things have you said?
/r/AllPillDebate06/08/22 01:34 AM
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There are specific instances where a woman will not lose attraction, such as death of a family member or friend. And even that is only permissible to a certain point. But if you are crying for pretty much any other reason she will unconsciously push you away or feel disgust. You are weak. You are pathetic. Etc… Even something like her leaving you and the difference between you crying to ask for her back vs showing zero affect & saying ok and cutting contact, is like the difference between her fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 06:47 PM
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That sounds pretty shitty. I didn’t realize 401k & pension went to the partner during divorce? That doesn’t make any sense. You did the work and earned the 401k & pension…? I guess you’re older though, 30+ years of marriage is a long time. Never cheated? Either of you? Is she happy with you? Curious about how one lives in a trap
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:18 AM
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While I’m not short I’m not 6’5” either. And when I had the most success with women is when I was Holocaust skinny wearing girls jeans with long hair, high as a kite avoiding all fights and masculinity and really just effort in general like the plague. Be you and be happy to be you. I am strong as fuck now but that means women expect me to be a dominant ass in bed and while when I’m comfortable with someone it’s great, when I’m expected to perform this way from the start, i don’t like it. Becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 11:38 PM
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Why can’t you leave?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 11:35 PM
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I don’t see where your vitriol is justified here? Where does he say or imply anything worthy of attack and further more assumption that he wants casual sex? If anything he is suggesting the opposite, that casual sex is not good for the soul (for man or woman). I just happened upon this sub today and found your comment is a perfect reflection of why conversation with feminists (of your type) is often impossible. Twisting language and contorting a non-feminist perspective to fit a misogynist narra…
/r/AntiFeminists03/08/22 04:08 PM
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Forgot ppd woman: I also am a feminist and I only like BBC 9” or go home loser
/r/AllPillDebate03/08/22 01:10 PM
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Well I commend you for recognizing your potential to be a bad partner, but is it really so bad that you can’t both be mindful of your sexism (stopping it in its tracks when it arises) and happily date a man? I am in a similar place kinda, where I understand I carry some deep wounds or scarring that’s led to pretty misogynistic or sexist perspectives. Resultantly I’ve avoided dating women for a while now. However my fear isn’t that I’ll hurt women like abuse them, more that I can’t truly love (or…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 01:56 AM
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What about escorts? What about you, in your own words, is leading to rejection? How you approach these women? Personality? What about your appearance is so limiting? Have you counterintuitively tried the opposite and raised your standards? Instead of going for the 2’s go for the 7’s? And what have you done to change what you can change about yourself that you know improves your chances? ie gym, diet, education, job, all the way to maybe even surgery? Just curious, cause that’s a helluva lot of r…
/r/AllPillDebate02/08/22 04:08 PM
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You both should post a pic and rate each other
/r/AllPillDebate02/08/22 04:01 PM
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Interesting. So, I’m not 100% clear on this, you ARE attracted to men, however you don’t want to be in a relationship (as no one offers what you want?), so you’ve essentially wed yourself to your highest ideals, and are living as if a nun, but more for worldly success than unity with God? Not implying this is a bad thing. But you do this to protect your heart, I suppose? What made you realize you’d “never have a relationship, family, home nor career”? & Why can’t you have those things now? It so…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 03:56 PM
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But you do this to keep men away I imagine, not attract men who want you to cheat?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 01:10 PM
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k
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 05:21 AM
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I’ve had that happen a few times. One I was just defending some dude after this woman told him he should kill himself because he was an incel. Of course she didn’t get banned as far as I can tell. Though I got banned for promoting violence? They specifically don’t seem to let hinted incel or blackpill comment or post, not that I’m either, but from what comments of mine led to banning it was always related to that sort of thread
/r/AllPillDebate01/08/22 03:37 PM
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I can’t tell if you’re being sarcastic. I didn’t mean to say “this is the law of maturity” just that this seems to be generally how maturity is measured historically - women can bear/raise children and men can support those women/children. Which is way different than the modern world.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 06:55 PM
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Yes in the sense that they mature quicker ie when they are in high school - just see how boys and girls act - but also note how boys and girls are TREATED. There’s science that explains it biologically as well. As in they can have and are capable of raising children by 16. Most 16 year old boys are not at that level of “maturity”. But the difference between an 18 year old girl and a 23 year old girl, while probably HUGE, is still WAY different than a 33 year old woman and not much different from…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:28 PM
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Thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:58 PM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 04:59 AM
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:) thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:46 AM
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Thanks other person
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:39 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:39 AM
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Rad thanks for sharing. Couple more questions but I understand if you don’t want to answer them, I’m also not implying anything, no need to read into the questions …do you feel like doing sex work/OnlyFans has in any way stunted potential growth or has it opened more doors/opportunities for you personally because you are 100% self reliant? Maybe in other words do you feel like you kinda got a cheat code for life and are now on easy mode? And lastly, do men or women you date care? I don’t imagine…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:25 AM
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Ah that’s a great niche to get into. Some women make bank just doing that on YouTube, family friendly stuff. ASMR guys are realllly into it. Now I wanna see a link to your profile but you probably don’t want to share. Have you ever considered doing actual escort work? I mean, I don’t see why you would if you can stay behind a screen but maybe the money would be better (under the table/cash)? Do men proposition you for in-person things and offer travel?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:16 AM
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It’s my birthday
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:11 AM
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Do you have a certain niche or fetish you cater to or you’re just super hot Instagram model style?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:10 AM
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I would 100% be an OnlyFans content producer & cam girl. I would REALLY get into it, and set myself up to dominate niche markets. I would also be an expensive as fuck escort. $10K for a weekend/travel companion. I would have 2-3 men that I escort for that pretty much pay for my life and more, and supplement that income with onlyfans and cam shows. I would use the money from escorting to invest in real estate. Then I would rent out homes or set up Airbnb’s. Repeat until x amount of property cover…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:08 AM
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Agree stoicism can be very valuable if practiced. To do so properly really does take discipline, and it takes time and practice to truly internalize the concepts.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:01 AM
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Damn. That’s crazy. I just don’t believe this is what women are searching for. This implies they are delusional. Someone else commented what if they could search by dick size? Man what would happen.
/r/AllPillDebate31/07/22 02:08 AM
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Same
/r/AllPillDebate31/07/22 02:05 AM
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Dumb. I can’t remember why I got banned last few times. Sometimes I just make new accounts and comment ridiculous shit when that happens though. At times it felt like any comment that would actually lead to genuine discussion or insight on some of these topics from my perspective or a perspective I am exploring or something I am exposing or even general observations (if said directly, censored), can’t be said cause a mod will be offended that some Truth doesn’t align with their story. They have …
/r/AllPillDebate31/07/22 02:05 AM
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That was a job in what can be called e-commerce for sake of ease, I worked in marketing they were mostly sales & some marketing I suppose is the best way to describe it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 09:38 PM
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Right. I’m 6’0”, it’s insane that 6 and below is basically undesirable. Isn’t the average like 5’9”…? I think women must not know how to gauge height. Because they are 5’4” they may think 6’0” = 6’6”…my only way to make sense of it
/r/AllPillDebate30/07/22 09:37 PM
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This blows my mind, if I’m reading it correctly 6’6” is the height women are looking for? Absurd.
/r/AllPillDebate30/07/22 08:16 PM
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This is insane
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 05:31 AM
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Haha perfect clip He does seem like the type to throw insane temper tantrums. I just picture a large baby
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 02:40 AM
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Yes, kinda sad. Anything for views/likes/attention. Problem is it likely actually effects a lot of younger men trying to figure things out. Crazy how a 15 second clip with 1 million likes or views or comments is the epitome of status.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 02:35 AM
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Not that one but I’ll check it out. Ya I don’t think meditation is a replacement for life’s necessities, but it certainly can be a positive addition. Ideally I’ll be adding daily meditation alongside yoga to supplement my daily lifting. Should be pretty balanced that way. I also don’t think it’s a replacement for other spiritual practices, just something to add to your Arsenal of Personal Growth or Individuation Activities or whatever you want to call it I do think certain forms of meditation/yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 02:28 AM
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I think it should be. Why else did you choose to be in a monogamous relationship if not for the exclusive sex? I mean of course love and stuff, but the foundation of most exclusive relationships is sex with one another. Without that you’re not in a relationship. You are roommates. And if someone no longer desires to sleep with their partner, they have left the relationship but won’t let the other person go, because they still selfishly want to keep the love. Maybe the arrangement doesn’t need to…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 02:21 AM
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Lol. Don’t get me wrong I wouldn’t want to get in a fight with Mr. Tate, but he also just seems like a douche. Next video was about how one can diss Jesus all day but go to a Muslim country and you’ll get killed. “Nobody disrespects Islam.” Implying control/power through fear and intimidation is an awesome thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 02:14 AM
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I agree. I somewhat recently read a book on this subject; well not directly sex, but how the body “remembers” things, how we physically internalize trauma. Kinda a Jungian perspective, syncretic, or cross-cultural examination of the mind body connection. Called Dreambody, can’t remember the author. Misleading title. Then another book on specifically mindbody in relation to essentially breathing and focused thought, & interconnectedness. How one can learn to harness and direct their energy throug…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 02:11 AM
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Who the fuck is Andrew rate? I googled him and there’s an MMA fighter. Same guy? Edit I downloaded tik tok. He’s just saying edgy shit. “A man can only cheat if a man loves a woman, but if I love a woman then I go fuck a girl and come back and still love the woman that’s not cheating that’s just exercise. If a woman TALKS to another man, that’s cheating.” Edgeeeeeybroo
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 02:00 AM
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What do you all think of sex magick? Ritual/spiritual sex or tantric practices? Or what about just spirituality and sex in general? Do you separate the flesh from the spirit or try to unite the two?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:56 AM
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Nah, these are often men TRP would call alphas. Internet culture is pretty far removed from the real world sometimes. Kinda related, on the note of more open sexuality, you’ll also notice in upper middle class a lot of the more attractive couples are into swinging or open relationships (but are usually discreet about it, though ofc some people tend to be talkers…). Actually just a lot of couples in general, not even the elite attractive ones. I’ve also noticed an increase in non-monogamy or upwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:51 AM
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How? There’s no fun information in this story. It’s anecdotal evidence of younger generation’s laissez-faire attitudes towards sex. Two were in open relationships and were very vocal about it. Even talking shit about when their boyfriends got jealous. I am far from a frat boy and this was far from a glamorous job. They literally had the job so they “had something to do” while their boyfriends were at real work. They were totally in their own world, completely detached from reality. Zero experien…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 06:50 PM
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Young 20-somethings. 21-24? Maybe one was 25, but most were fresh out of college. The stripper was the youngest at 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 06:43 PM
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A lot of these women already have boyfriends/husbands (and a lot in ‘open relationships’). They aren’t worried about finding a partner. When you’re attractive enough to make money by selling pictures of your ass you won’t have any trouble finding men willing to marry that ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 03:47 PM
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Nah, I’m in my 30’s and in my last job I was hanging out with young 20-somethings 8 hours a day. Of these 7 women, 3 had OnlyFans, one was a stripper + OnlyFans. The other 2 “would never” strip and talked shit on the stripper girl (who ironically was the most shy of the lot). I actually found out she was a stripper/OnlyFans when I came across her tinder account while swiping & it had links/info & pics of her. I never would’ve known. But point being the other 2 had boyfriends and did OnlyFans lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 03:45 PM
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Exactly. If anything more women have learned and more women have accepted using sexuality as a means of making money with things like OnlyFans. Women that would never strip in a club will strip behind a selfie.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:28 PM
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No, but the thought that being bald is preventing him probably comes off as an insecurity that actually does prevent him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:17 AM
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Ya I know I was exaggerating, I just meant to highlight no matter the perks there’s bound to be some reason, whether insecurity or physical deformity or social issue, that’s present, and my guess is it’s mostly self-limiting things like thinking because he’s bald he can’t pull so in turn he can’t pull because he’s bald (unlike you who is bald and pulls fine). I’m not saying I don’t have my flaws either.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:16 AM
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Internet = people confabulating or conflating themselves. Not always, but mostly. “My cock has a 9 inch cock it’s so big” = “I have a 5.62” penis after stretching exercises.” And joking aside, even if truthfully boasting about their 7-7-7 exceptional status, figure, and peen, they are likely leaving out the crippling anxiety/depression, debt, ptsd, autism, arrogance, or whatever personality or situational or circumstantial issue is preventing them from succeeding with women. This, I believe, is …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 03:01 AM
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That one he’s talking about actually did have a few. I exited that post when the second I read was like “6+ figures, 8” cock, handsome, blah blah” til the end it read “bald”. Bam, there’s the answer. No matter how glorious one is there is likely some major flaw that women apparently can’t overlook, and likely just the flaw that is the cause for lack of socialization that would enable dating, acting as a barrier to oneself due to self-limiting perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:55 AM
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I don’t disagree with you. However I think when I wrote that I didn’t have TRP people in mind. I think TRP lures broken and desperate men in a vulnerable position and plays on perceived “revelations” that suddenly provide an answer to these men’s woes - like, oh the only reason they have failed with women thus far is because they believed the “lies” society has taught them. Then they buy the ebook or become a commenter but most never actually practice the most basic and only positive aspects of …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 04:30 PM
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While I get your point, that’s like telling people you can’t decide not to do fentanyl because you haven’t been addicted to heroin yet. Isn’t there a saying that “intelligence learns from experience, and wisdom learns from observation” or “smart people learn from their own mistakes, wise people learn from the mistakes of others”. We should be teaching people it’s better to make the right decisions if we know those decisions are right, than to say experiment and make the wrong ones, potentially r…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:36 PM
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I am a man and I agree with you. I’m very a private, hermetic person. I don’t limit my hatred of humanity to one gender though, I believe both men and women are guilty of creating the often horrendous conditions in which we live, or in participating in systems or ideologies that are limiting or selfish. I think it’s interesting that almost any comment either gender makes about men or women can be reversed. As a male raised in a single mother home I was raised to accommodate women, and that men w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:29 PM
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Ick is just a dumb term to describe the moment [or process within a relationship] when typically the woman loses attraction. It can be for any number of unconscious reasons but usually the blame is placed on a man’s behavior. Men can get it too. I’ve dated a few women that I just one day found incredibly annoying and unattractive, felt embarrassed to be around them. Was a sign it was over. Also feel like now with OLD the ick can arrive way earlier than it normally would and all it takes is one u…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:14 PM
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Do not pass go
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 01:05 PM
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Yes but I think it’s important to note that it’s not the authority or power they necessarily want to wield themselves, it’s the overarching power of the state, god, or morality as director of society that requires both men and women adhere to a set of rules. I know that seems like the same thing, but I don’t think it is. Not sure how to express this
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 04:25 AM
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I think that’s the extreme requirement this perspective leads to due to women’s seeming inability to collectively pick the “good guy” over the “Chadhole” but what they want is for women to learn to find attractive what these “good” men offer. Unspoken, they want to be loved. After that they want to be sexually viable. They want women to see beyond what red pill used to call “tingles” back in the day and be more discerning about their partners and what is deemed attractive. But after relentless r…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:30 AM
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I’m not sure how to say it but I think what they want to happen is for women to change their concept of value as exclusively attached to social status, wealth, and physique. In turn widening their reception to who is deemed attractive - as really, given time and familiarity almost anyone can grow to like someone else. Maybe in the same way men are supposed to honor obese women as beautiful or equal to their thin or more attractive counterparts, men are asking that women respect all men as equal;…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:18 AM
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I wonder this too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:01 AM
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Are you fat? Change that. Are you well-read or educated? Do you go to the gym regularly? Do you put yourself out there and approach men you are interested in? What makes you You? How do you share yourself with the world? What do you want out of life? What are your morals? Are you kind? What physical asset can you (once you’re in shape) use to your advantage? Will a boob job make you happier? Do you even like men? Why do you think you’re undesirable and what do you think would make you FEEL desir…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:37 AM
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If a woman likes you there really is no bar. I’ve been a homeless drunk and had women fall in love with me (that weren’t homeless drunks) and I’ve been a sober CEO and had women reject me. The other strange thing is there is a difference between immediate attraction and interest vs long term attraction accumulated over time like via work or school. The environment plays a sometimes paradoxical role in attraction, in that someone who would reject you at the bar or a party may develop feelings for…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 08:11 PM
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What makes you think women aren’t already like that…?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 04:39 AM
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Right, but I don’t think their dynamic would work absent my stepdads Christianity. I wouldn’t be surprised if dead bedroom were a thing for them, but I also wouldn’t be surprised if it didn’t bother either of them. They are very sheltered, contained, disciplined, simple-minded, etc…kinda like the perfect citizen that votes and participates in all surface-level social norms, and maintains a consistent, well-managed life. They are the polar opposite of my life. They’ve only been to jail to visit m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 01:51 AM
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Basic Bitch, Boner Biscuit, Bollywood Bonaventure, Barracuda Basket, Barnyard Bandit, Barely Broken, Backyard Brawler, Bendy Benny, Beef Broth, Board Break, Bronze Bounty, Best Bet; Beta Bucks
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 01:37 AM
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I’ve seen it in various degrees, or variations of it in my own family. But the thing is neither the women nor the men are aware of this dynamic or unconscious fulfillment of these roles. My stepdad is a perfect example. Met my divorced mom when I was 11 or 12, sister half my age. Got married and have happily been married for 25 years. He is the perfect example of a “beta bux”, if you look at my mom as the divorced 30 year old woman with kids TRP talks about, but:…they are now rich and retired, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 01:26 AM
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Where do you live? How’s it different?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:34 PM
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It does. It really, really does. ESPECIALLY if you don’t have a lot of money. This country has a strange facade, “America the Great” hiding this dark undercurrent that’s inexplicable unless you’ve lived here and experienced the underbelly in poverty and crime. Though I suppose that’s everywhere. Maybe the difference here is that everyone is out for themselves (top to bottom)? Incredibly selfish self-serving individualistic society.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:32 PM
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I’ve never lived in Idaho only visited, but I would assume yes, you would stand out. But somewhere like Colorado Springs…it felt like every dude I competed with was 6’1” ex military driving an $80k jeep, that can grow a beard and survive naked in the wilderness for fun. I personally couldn’t handle the Weather in Washington, having grown up in Southern California. I was suicidally depressed within a month of living there. However I was also in a depressing alcoholic artsy phase so I dunno how it…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:24 PM
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I’m college educated and extremely fit/active, 6’0”, only make $34/hr, and I would argue I am average (where I live). Above average would be masters degree, fit + STEM job, 6’1”+, etc I live in Southern California and basically I I’m a 6 here, in somewhere like Idaho or I dunno Louisiana (?) I’d probably be an 8. Or to put it into perspective women that are a 6 here are a 8-9 when I was living in Washington. Demographics and location makes a huge difference. Where I’ve lived, major cities like D…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:00 PM
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It’s called being a pro athlete, rock star, rich artist, or just rich. Upper echelon lifestyle away from the cameras and headlines.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 02:33 AM
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I think the ONLY reason most men don’t pull this off is they can’t. And it literally only comes down to status. I think the IDEAL situation for a man is either to have one main woman and a rotating harem, or a main wife and a main mistress - the classical scenario, that’s probably easiest for the man, but results in the most jealousy from the wife. I believe a woman would be more comfortable with their man fucking different women frequently than fucking the same woman frequently.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 02:30 AM
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What is it…?!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 02:25 AM
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That’s awesome and a great way to explain it. I like hearing from people in the process vs theoretical feminists or people defending trans. It just makes more sense to me when explained by someone living it. Glad to hear you’re happy being who you truly are.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:13 AM
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Hah pretty dope right Why short lived?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 03:05 AM
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I have a question, and this isn’t meant to be offensive. I’ve both lived with known many transgender people, some who you wouldn’t be able to tell, and others who it was pretty clear were their prior gender before transitioning. And I feel like those that transitioned well had it much easier, as they could easily not tell people they were trans and no one would be the wiser, but those that were clearly trans, ie had masculine physiques or traits still, in my opinion couldn’t seem to fully experi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:24 PM
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Oh gotcha. I think that’s kinda normal. Or at least to meet through mutual acquaintances/friends
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:18 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 07:45 PM
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I think the main issue for some people is that the implied morality behind being a “good guy” that is “husband material” who will find love later in life is unattractive, even if physically speaking the guy is normal/attractive looking; whereas any “good girl” can find a guy willing to wife her up early. So it’s training men that “being bad” is “hot” and will get them laid AND in relationships, whereas “being good/nice” only makes them valuable later after bad guys slept with the women now into …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:18 PM
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What do you mean? “wife material” implies a man doesn’t want to “pump & dump” - isn’t that a good thing? Vs “husband material” implying “I don’t[/women don’t] find you attractive enough to sleep with or date right now, but SOMEONE [ELSE] will probably like you later when you’re wealthy!” Which also implies you are at baseline unattractive whereas “wife material” implies you are attractive plus have a moral quality that is rare. The implied morality in being “wife material” as attractive vs the i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:35 PM
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I’ve never understood men who do what you describe, but I don’t think this is what OP is about. He’s not saying guys that make creepy comments should be given the benefit of the doubt, just regular non-perfectly flirty guys. I’ve noticed this having used OLD for 10+ years and it’s definitely worse now than it was 5 years ago. You can literally be talking to someone for 6 hours a day throughout the day, then you say something awkward in a blah moment and you’re suddenly ghosted. But what does it …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 09:35 AM
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No, women are pickier as they get older.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:08 PM
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So, women can have an n-count preference because they have feelings, but if men have one it’s stupid? So men’s feelings are stupid?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 06:04 AM
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Then I assume they would say it’s ok. Unless he were over 25 probably then they would say it’s “creepy”. It’s also probably technically OK if he is hardcore Christian (or Muslim or something) and younger and wants to wait for marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 02:45 AM
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It doesn’t count if your friend is bouncing the bed
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 02:42 AM
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Never heard of him but my guess is he’s making bank saying edgy shit about dating from the few comments I’ve read.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 02:39 AM
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Because feminism teaches placing value on virginity is an evil lie perpetrated by the patriarchy, where such postulates as prima facie values placed on youth and “innocence” implied by “virginity” exploit women’s sexuality, commodifying it, and perpetuates the misogynistic pathological preference for unblemished youth pronounced pure, bordering on pedophilia. And of course because if virginity has value so too does the moral framework around which virginity is lauded as exemplary of purity, so o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 02:27 AM
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What if the guy is a born-again Christian and also wants to save sex for marriage? Or what if the guy has had 5 partners and prefers someone who has had 5 or less? What’s the cut off for appropriate to have n-count preferences or is it more what is the reason for it being appropriate? Or are you saying there is no reason that is appropriate for a man to have an n-count preference because whether you’ve had 1 or 100 partners it isn’t a reflection of who you are, your lifestyle, your perception of…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 02:15 AM
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Crazy they won’t take any responsibility but I suppose that’s the type that will start shit anyways. In reply to your first comment as well I don’t think it’s just women who don’t realize men’s capacity for violence or the reality of violence. I think most people live pretty far from the violence some of us experience, and have a cinematic image of fighting unaware of violence true nature. While I’m not a bouncer I have been in many dark places throughout my life, whether that’s just generally w…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 07:52 PM
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For real. Violence is no joke. Some chick talking smack is not worth it imo. Broken jaws, getting stabbed or shot, jail, death are all very real options
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:45 PM
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yes, if society raised men to be bisexual or not shamed for homoeroticism the majority would be bisexual
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:24 AM
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I think that’s the point - if it were an option ie accepted by society.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:23 AM
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Hahaha dicklets. That’s cute and ego-destroying simultaneously
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:21 AM
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Feminism is thus also a response to religious socialization. It is a rebellion against the Father G-d and resurrection of the Mother Goddess. All systems being equal (they are systemic oppression under the guise of this-or-that) result in the exploitation of the weak and demarcation of value - human, sexual, moral, fiscal, individual. If the Individual is weak under a given System, but strong amongst the Collective, they will participate in the cultures norms and work for their enemy, enslaving …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:53 PM
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Feminism should theoretically provide a framework which promotes balance via acknowledging equality amongst all, regardless of gender/sex/identity. Remember Feminism basically started to give women the right to vote, and we’ve seen what it’s grown into (ie feminism is the spokesperson for LGBQT+ while simultaneously being the spokesperson for sexual “freedom” and typically socialist leaning liberal beliefs; I find it ironic that an anti-capitalist/consumerist philosophy basically flourishes in a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:16 PM
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Right on Casanova. Hundreds is a lot. Focus on fitness and partying. And start an amateur porn company. You’ll be there in no time. At some point you’ll get bored and want something else. How old are you? & how many people have you slept with?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:48 AM
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Why is it so important to get lots of casual sex fast?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:40 AM
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It’s not “being passed around” that’s empowering but “not being bound” to one person or ideology that’s attractive, especially in rebellious youth - except of course the reality is the ideology they are unknowingly binding themselves to through feminist agenda’s promotion of sexual “freedom”, before known as promiscuity, is conceptually similar (whether one takes a moral stance against the proliferation of sex and depravity or chooses to abscond traditional conservative morality and praise sexua…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 08:15 PM
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The problem with your thesis is you leave out the half of women that craves heterosexual men, violent and lustful, but include the heterosexual male desire in men’s “natural” state. So imo bisexuality is actually a more accurate indicator for either sex of what “pure” sexuality looks like, in your perspective. You can’t say “hetero + gay” = men naturally and “lesbian=women” naturally after arguing for heterosexual women being anomalistically responsible (though reactively) for sex as it is. Unde…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 09:44 AM
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Interesting, some other dude says 4 is too high, but you have a low n-count and are fine with double digits. What’s your n-count?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 04:45 AM
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4 is too high? That seems incredibly unrealistic unless you’re 24 or younger, dating 18-21 year olds. Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 04:42 AM
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I don’t see how so many men and women make this so difficult. Just literally do everything that’s shared equally down the middle or collectively and everything that’s your own separately or individually. I’ve lived with multiple partners and NOT ONCE was household chores or finances an issue. I told them right off the bat: we are splitting everything equally, rent, groceries, cooking, cleaning. Our non-shared expenses are our own. Our appointments, medications, male/female specific toiletries ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 05:31 PM
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Don’t get pregnant if you don’t want to bear children and see a doctor if you suffer from PMDD or have awful PMS. It’s 2022, there’s medication for your biological qualms and as a lesbian you can adopt children, avoiding childbirth and men, and equally split the chores between your non-slob non-lazy non-male-sexed partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 05:15 PM
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What’s funny is it doesn’t matter what gender you are, once the veil is lifted it’s almost impossible to unsee the game. So the opposite gender is easily ruined when awoken. But one must take it in stride and remain optimistic, and realize the good man or woman neither knows the games they are playing nor plays games in the first place. And no human, man or woman, should be given trust or love until they have earned it, and even then, realizing they are human and prone to error, only so much tru…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 08:23 PM
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It probably depends on the person. I know people that don’t even take showers unless it’s absolutely necessary and they do fine, so I’m not sure how washing your face is gonna make much of a difference
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 05:09 AM
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I also think nothing will really happen but maybe men will herd themselves and develop a new means of social control? Regardless, AI will be conscious soon. Men will create artificial companions that outperform their fleshy counterparts, and engineer their way out of collective unhappiness. I think this is the most likely result: you don’t need us? Then we will create a replacement.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:21 AM
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Man I think this is such a great response. I love how you put the last bit: [people] fear their privileges being taken away way more than fear their freedoms being taken away. Most [people] just don’t understand the difference between the two.” I like the example of a violent kid & his lizard brain. I also think what you’re pointing at is that, in feminist lingo, historically women have been commodified by the “patriarchal” system and herded into specific roles like mother/wife/dowry that those …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 07:55 PM
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I’ve been in every situation, high and low, from barefoot and homeless to traveling the world with near unlimited funds and back to barefoot and homeless again. From drunk at 7am to managing 50 employees at 7am. And I’ve had women in each and every stage (minus hermetic monk-mode, which makes sense). Here you go: Always be working towards something. Even if that is just going to the gym every day, do it. Practice. Everything requires practice and patience. Move at your own pace, this is your lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 04:51 PM
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I just had a huge response and the goddamned dog bumped my arm and the screen changed and comment was lost. & Some ass just gave me the evil eye. I must be onto something since the universe won’t let me get this comment out. ——- Try #2: Hypergamy is obvious - women will always choose the best option. Hypergamy, real or not, is a luxury afforded the average woman through innate value placed on her aesthetic and womb by society. Men are disposable and replaceable sperm donors. There is always a ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 02:32 AM
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Bro is obviously joking. Maybe it’s a red flag because it unconsciously hints at some insecurity about his height in a self-denigrating display of sarcasm and the assumption that being taller will make him more attractive to women thereby implying a value-judgement inherent in all females, or maybe it’s seen as a green flag for the same reason as a sarcastic social commentary on OLD. But someone who is too dumb to recognize such sarcasm and presumes it’s lying is likely not a woman he’d want to …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 07:38 PM
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dead on
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 03:30 PM
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Inevitably with more experience or realization of ones value one develops higher standards, more specific likes, and dislikes. But for the most part the stereotypical man’s list is short for a girlfriend: attractive and not mean. And shorter for a hook up: fuckable after drinking. Realistically men’s tastes are as varied and sometimes as complex as women’s; and the more attractive a man (as for a woman) the more specific can and will be their potential partners desired traits, as well as standar…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 01:58 AM
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I’ve been friends with more women than men in my life, but only a handful I didn’t hook up with. So yes, men and women can be friends - some of my closest friends are currently female, though I appreciate them as a person regardless of their gender. But I also slept with them and don’t believe most men & women can easily remain just friends if either is attractive. It helps if the friendship is established when either or both already have a partner. Ofc age and context makes a difference, but fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 04:22 AM
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When I was younger and inexperienced I had paranoid and intrusive thoughts like this (age 18ish) with one girlfriend, and again at 24 with another girlfriend (which I later learned was heavily correlated with my alcohol abuse and withdrawal), but I learned as I got older and had more experience that beyond “the past is the past” and needn’t be worried about, dating or I should say not dating certain types of women didn’t leave me wondering or imagining uncomfortable shit like this. So first one …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 06:52 PM
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You’re welcome
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 03:03 PM
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It’s easy until it isn’t, or when it isn’t. Which you’ll learn. Useless trying to explain. Keep your head up. Don’t think too much about it. I recommend staying far away from PPD, TRP, any and all dating advice. Just live your life and be sociable. Stay active physically. Do what you love. Pursue respectfully and in a fun way whoever you’re interested in. Don’t let rejection bring you down - it’s not anything wrong with you, you’re just not compatible with that person for whatever reason. Be con…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 10:22 PM
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Hate to break it to ya but you’re technically considered fat unless that’s somehow all toned muscle. Then you’re a female bodybuilder at those stats.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 05:08 AM
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Obese or overweight?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 05:02 AM
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Thanks! I’m back at the gym. I just mailed it out. I was wrong - It was 179 pages printed, single spaced, 11 font, written in 30 days exactly. :) feels good to be done. Fingers crossed it’s accepted without much further editing necessary
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 10:28 PM
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Cunt, this isn’t homework 🤑
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 09:09 PM
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I have 80+ single-spaced, size 11 font pages I need to edit and format, about 5+ additional pages to write, and 4 illustrations I need to finish and mail by tomorrow afternoon. And I’m at the gym. God help me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 08:24 PM
5

Bacon and eggs
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 08:12 PM
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Most women (20-30) do exactly the same things as most men. - Work, school, party, errands, social media or video games, gym or yoga (usually yoga a few times a week). If she has a boyfriend she’s probably spending most her time with him. Weekend drinking or festivals or concerts or Thursday girls night out. Dates if they are choosing not to be single. Some are creative and make art, but not many. Most are as boring/exciting as the next guy. I don’t know how women married with kids spend their da…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 03:19 PM
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Ya, I agree. I think a lot of men are picky. I’m picky. I don’t fuck ugly women. I never have and I don’t see that changing. Even if I go LONG periods without sex, no sex is better than sex with an ugly or fat chick imo. I like to be proud of who I’m with. And I also would rather bang 1 chick that’s a 10 100 times than 100 3s.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 05:18 AM
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There’s nothing offensive about looking at these women. If they didn’t want to be seen they wouldn’t dress as he’s describing. Try being a straight male at the gym with a woman in booty shorts with her ass hanging out and a sports bra, doing ass exercises ten feet away from you for an hour and tell me you don’t look. These aren’t unsuspecting, innocently dressed women. These are provocatively dressed and unnecessarily erotically posing and exercising people that know exactly what they are doing …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 04:51 AM
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I’m a man. I want meaningful sex far more than I want meaningless sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 02:48 AM
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I think women who claim they are red pill are virtually the same as those who claim they are conservative or Christian or traditionally minded, just with slightly different vocabulary. They probably also like the thought of knowing their RP man is an alpha, as why would a RP woman be with a “beta”? So the notion is that a RP woman, should such a thing truly exist, acknowledges the man and the woman’s role respectively as being what RP defines, as providing the best theoretical framework from whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 09:32 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 09:20 PM
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Provided one having sex with their partner is meaningful, and either the absence of said sex or unenthusiastic engagement in it infers meaninglessness, it’s easy to assume a man cheating due to a dead or dying bedroom is a man who desires meaningful sex again from his partner, or [meaningful] sex in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 07:19 PM
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Why do you have a primary partner if you cheat on them all? Why not just have an open relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 06:07 PM
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Or, men want meaningful sex, which they are no longer getting. Whatever the excuse or situation that led up to it, it’s the same in the end for both men & women: betrayal + sex + deception.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 06:05 PM
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This comment is also worthy of its own post. I’d read more about this from your perspective.
/r/AntiFeminists29/06/22 05:34 AM
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Percentage of respondents in the U.S. who reported symptoms of depressive disorder in the last seven days from April 2020 to May 2022, by gender: Apr. 27, 2022- May 9, 2022 23.4% Female 20.5% Male. It’s pretty damn close.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 05:00 AM
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I don’t understand how you can have all of what you described with someone and somehow want or need more? I guess this is just a huge difference between men and women I’ve noticed. I think for most men, if they were able to describe the female version of what you described, they would be describing who they are in love with, could remain in love with, or would fall in love with, without a doubt , whereas for you it just “wasn’t THE one”. Imagine: “she’s awesome, works out, tight pussy, loves ana…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 03:25 AM
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So your husband is the only man who has never said anything wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 03:14 AM
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I’ve been told this before when sharing pictures in the Hinge sub, that they’d swipe left on me because they assume I’m a player and have enough matches, or that my physique is intimidating, fuckboy, etc. Annoying, because how I look shouldn’t define my character. I don’t assume women that are hot are dumb whores, I think the same courtesy should apply to men. How one acts and carries themselves is a far better marker of quality or character imo. So give the next guy that’s too good for you a ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 03:12 AM
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So it’s what he says, or how he says it? Can you provide an example? Also, have you ever rejected a man on account of HOW his voice sounded (like high pitched or lisp)?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 03:09 AM
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Neat, actually
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 03:02 AM
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I think “pain shopping” is pretty accurate for the most part
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 02:40 AM
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If you’re happy keep doing what you’re doing. If you want to settle down you may enjoy the regular companionship more than these notches on the bedpost.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 07:24 PM
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I see, makes sense now, thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 06:36 PM
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Great comment but I don’t see how the song is helpful if you care to elaborate
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 06:06 AM
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Last question is the real question with that line of logic
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 06:00 AM
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I’m a sober alcoholic & I 100% understand not drinking limiting options. I think about drinking again every day for this reason alone. I know if I drank I could get a girlfriend (again) no problem. Sober I may as well be invisible. Also in my early 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 05:55 AM
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In reality, sex is almost always a signifier of attraction - even if that attraction only occurred in the moments leading up to sex, ie a drunken hook up. I feel like OP content isn’t about attraction as much as it’s about values, and what values are placed on casual vs relationship sex. Because [attractive] women can get sex so easily it is likely less meaningful to them than sex is for [most] men who don’t get sex with the same ease. In reality, sex is equally meaningful & meaningless for both…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:36 AM
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I think your experience would be no different as an awkward, overweight man. You would be invisible, overlooked, and ignored in both male and female dominated spaces. It’s really impossible to know what you’d be like, actually. You could always seek hormone treatment & transition to a man if you feel you identify as a man. But I don’t think it will help as much as you think. Wherever you go, you’re still there. In regards to your OP, I personally have never met a man that felt entitled to sex or…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:22 AM
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I’m not saying it doesn’t, just saying that’s what they are probably arguing for happening more.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 10:31 PM
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I’m not saying one need force anything upon anyone. I think it just needs to be more widely acknowledged that socializing as a normal Bob yields pretty much equal results as doing nothing as a hot Chad. Where Chad need stand there and be attracted, Bob need socialize and engage with women over time to have his value realized. This is why we see plenty of relationships with normal looking guys and attractive women, proximity and familiarity in social settings promotes attraction beyond aesthetics…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:20 PM
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I’m not saying to force anyone to, I’m just saying it’s plausible an average or above average woman can like an average man as much as if not more than a hot Chad if she spends time with him. Repeated exposure and familiarity naturally breeds connection and sometimes that develops into something romantic. I think this is why it’s important for young men to be social. By repeatedly exposing yourself to women of all types, and engaging with them in situations outside of directly communicating desi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:15 PM
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I thought the notion was they wanted women to develop more REALISTIC expectations or standards. You can’t change who you’re attracted to initially but people can definitely grow attracted to someone given repeated exposure. But the men that a woman may like with repeated interactions isn’t given a chance. So they aren’t arguing women should stop finding Chad hot, but should give average Bob who she might like over time a shot. I know personally there have been plenty of women who I did not find …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 02:48 PM
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I’ve got reasons, and I’m not worried about finding someone when ready to date again. Though the clock is ticking, I’m almost 34…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 04:28 AM
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After a cursorily look I think to some extent dread game is what makes relationships work (just not intentionally, naturally). One person holding power by caring less, or being more secure in themselves, and why often when men are head over heels and show it too profusely their women bail or lose attraction. There’s something powerful about not needing a woman to commit to you and pathetic about certain types or displays of love/affection, and when given the freedom of choice I suppose dread gam…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 02:13 AM
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What do you mean? What is sexual liberation? Or what’s a sexually liberating activity that men have that women don’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 07:25 PM
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So these guys were seeing other women but you were the main one (getting gifts & introduced)? What reasons did they have for not wanting exclusivity by label if they were treating you as such? And did you find that by not having the binding rule of exclusivity the relationship was actually healthier/happier on your end? I’ve noticed with some women that while we were exclusive it was a fucking nightmare, fighting all the time, one issue after the next, but when I downgraded (in my mind at least)…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 07:00 PM
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Except (perhaps what’s absurd is) they now aren’t “men” [anymore], so you’d be telling them “women compete in sports against women” and “women get to use the women’s bathroom”, or “men become women; women become men”.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 05:36 AM
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Agree
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 05:32 AM
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Ya I mean it’s clearly not sentient AI, but the selected dialogue is still pretty neat, I’ve been learning Tensorflow for a little while now & it’s pretty amazing what we’re able to do with machine learning. I have no doubt within 20 years a convincingly sentient AI (that’s still not ACTUALLY sentient) will be developed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 06:04 PM
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Women like all kinds of consensual sex! Whether it’s being smashed by multiple people simultaneously or enjoying a gentle bang under the moonlight by a campfire, she’ll remember you if you take the time to make her feel good. Usually actual rough sex comes with fucking someone repeatedly, so you’re more likely to be remembered anyways as you’ve made it that far (ie you’ve fucked enough to reach comfort level for more intense coitus). Being dominant is attractive but that doesn’t mean you need to…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:30 AM
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No but we’re getting close https://www.npr.org/2022/06/16/1105552435/google-ai-sentient
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 06:59 PM
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I was really hoping this was a real cheesy horror movie
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 06:52 PM
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While online on this account in PPD I limit my perception to what is relevant to the post or debate and make it clear I’m typically arguing for the OP, whatever they are saying. In the real world none of this shit matters. I know how to get laid. It’s neither TRP nor adhering to a Feminist or “blue pill” narrative that works. And each persons experience is likely far different from the next.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 03:33 PM
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Cool, so because the two studies have different results neither are accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 05:17 AM
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Do you have links to these studies that show that? Or where the study I’m referring to implies these are the reasons?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 04:24 AM
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Like what? How satisfying is the sex the couples are having? How satisfied is the man vs woman in the relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 04:22 AM
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I’m not saying that perspective is right, or that men or women have it easier, just OP is likely alluding to a time “when men had it easier”. I’m sure back then heaps of guys were complaining about something women today want, and women were complaining about their own things. Either way, it seems from PPD posts like these the rate at which things are changing & the direction they are going or the standards of contemporary women arent feasible for the average guy to keep up with or meet, whatever…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 04:20 AM
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Maybe he means swaths of men who would’ve been desirable for reasons beyond sex appeal 50 years ago are no longer desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 02:21 AM
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A week or so ago someone posted a link to a study that showed regardless of society now expecting men to do household chores, if one can use frequency of sex as a marker of a happy or healthy relationship, couples where men did no chores had 1.6x more sex than men who did half the chores or more. So weirdly these male-female equal expectations are not necessarily reflective of success in terms of sexual behavior. Which I’m sure is confusing for men. We’re told we’re equal now, but if you treat w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 07:00 PM
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In other words the upper echelon is the upper echelon.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 05:44 PM
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The type of detachment he’s referring to is more akin to Buddhism and Vedanta. So you’re calling all Buddhists & yogis psychopaths.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 12:45 PM
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Really? Why are 25 year olds pretending to be 35?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 03:29 AM
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Edit: my response was too long & waxing poetic while on a walk with my dog. Maybe I’ll re-edit it next dog walk with an easier to read response. Either way thanks for the thorough reply!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 02:07 AM
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I think this is a realistic take on it, from a woman’s perspective. I agree with what you’re saying about relationship needs actually - regarding healthy relationships generally have certain requisites like good sex, communication, attraction. I think your perspective also confirms a difference between men & women with regards to how they view relationships. I think a lot of non red pill men view a relationship as a simple thing they want, that once they have, will satisfy them til the end of ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 09:09 PM
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Fuck boi’s ruining it for everybody huh. Simon Leviev, had to look him up. Sounds pretty exciting but like way too much effort. He didn’t really do much time & if $ estimates are correct his total fines + jail time were definitely worth the fraud he committed. Maybe its time I learn to forge passports & assume new identities…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 08:49 PM
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I think this is the right answer. Maybe OP is right for his current situation women will hypergamously monkey branch away from him. But if he builds himself into a man that he respects, that commands respect from others, chances are he’ll get that from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:36 PM
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Aren’t you confusing “need” with “want” here? There’s nothing a man provides you that you really need. Sex, companionship, love, romance, intimacy, potentially ADDITIONAL financial security, someone to share your day-to-day with and your future hopes & dreams, etc…are all wants. Everything you need should be provided from You to You before entering into a relationship, otherwise it’s lopsided & what you offer isn’t reciprocal since you’re relying on someone else for your needs. Once in a relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 07:29 PM
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Nah, her job absolutely does not matter. (except no porn, stripper, or OF). What matters is who she is at heart and how attracted to her I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 04:18 AM
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What even is an “asshole”? Is an asshole just someone YOU don’t like that gets pussy?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 01:43 AM
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Yes. Men should collectively stop being so thirsty, stop paying for photographs or videos of women, & stop fucking women they don’t find gorgeous. Have higher standards. Make it so women have to work to be attractive instead of just exist. So women have to develop personalities, substance, and character. Stop footing the bill for a woman’s life by paying for pictures of her feet or whatever you’re subscribed to on OnlyFans. Stop feeding the towering ego’s of women who do nothing but exist in fro…
/r/seduction15/06/22 09:06 PM
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I think he’s implying he isn’t a misogynist or asshole, so women don’t love him, which would then confirm his sentiment that we are calling him a “NICE guy”, so I suppose he’s right?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 07:01 PM
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If he’s successfully a misogynist and asshole, by his logic, yes he should be
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 07:00 PM
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That’s awesome, congrats on building your business into a legitimate entity
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:52 AM
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That’s fucked up man. That’s insensitive, entitled, and heartless behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 02:40 AM
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Right on, like drop shipping? Or just…goods you acquire? I was in the reselling business for a few years. I had a really awesome connection at this place you kinda dug through junk for items and paid by weight or ridiculously small prices like .50 cents for books, records, video games, dvds, 10 cents per comic book, $5 for electronics, $10 if it’s over 20 lb. but I had a hook up so I’d pay $5 per cart load. I’d find $500-1000 worth of items in an average of 3 hours per day. It was amazing. I had…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 02:34 AM
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This can’t be true. They literally walked out when you took your pants down?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 10:29 PM
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I’m currently a marketing consultant for a tech company, but I used to do web design, & could put together a new portfolio over the next 6 months, acquire clients, and travel if I don’t keep this current gig which would enable me to travel as well. If I get bumped into project management, which it looks like is going to happen, I’ll have more hours and can work remotely. What’s your business?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 10:18 PM
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Ya, I think that’s a pretty good idea. I’m probably gonna take time off an travel in about 4-5 months. See if I can’t find somewhere more magical to live. Potentially work as a “digital nomad”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 09:16 PM
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I actually highly recommend young men who read this travel. Take a year sometime between 23-27 years old to travel the world. Save up 5-10k and do nothing but travel. Stay in hostels. Experience the world. Then decide if you want to live elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 08:52 PM
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Ya I wish I could too. I guess I’ve been spoilt by only being with beautiful women. I can’t be with unattractive women though. It doesn’t work on a physical level.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 08:33 PM
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No, I don’t party anymore because I’ve done enough of that, trust me. It’s for the best I remain sober and seek the quiet way. I know not everyone is a bad person that parties. I’m sober for my own well being. When you start waking up and coming to in foreign countries it’s typically a sign it’s time to slow down lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 08:29 PM
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Seriously. I was gonna say I feel like what I offer, just in life experience alone, vastly exceeds what women I meet offer. I’ve struggled and been through A LOT in my life, and women I meet seem to have had everything handed to them. Most are vapid, uninteresting, their personalities seem to be[come] mirrors of me if they like me. Spiritually they couldn’t be bothered to even consider God. Etc…it seems like they’ve never had to struggle or face insurmountable tasks. Everything they want is just…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 08:22 PM
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I meant demographic you consider yourself in. I’m 33 (almost 34), and also tall (enough - 6’0” exactly), attractive, in incredible shape physically, and considering I only work 15 hours a week make decent money. But dating is a nightmare. At least in my demographic I’m competing against guys 1-2 inches taller, x% wealthier, etc..where I live the average dude my age is a rich Peter Pan in a similar boat as me. And younger women seem to be looking for either partying and novelty (which I no longer…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 08:11 PM
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What’s your age/demographic?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 07:52 PM
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I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 06:34 PM
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Sorry about your mental health, I hope you’re seeking professional help & not relying on your boyfriend or the relationship to “fix” you. You should be returning to a healthy weight because you want to, not for someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 03:58 AM
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Because it’s probably true to an extent, a healthy man doesn’t befriend a women in a time of duress with intentions of getting with her, especially while she’s still unhealthy - as the attitude “gain weight for him” sounds pretty toxic to me. She should be at a healthy weight for herself, not for a guy or a relationship. Furthermore when someone is in a vulnerable position like a mental break down it’s easy to extract bonding and develop an unhealthy emotional connection due to the uneven Saviou…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 03:57 AM
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Jesus, can’t you sue someone for the OF? That’s pretty sick.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 03:52 AM
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I had an ex that was with someone who had one, and she said it didn’t matter. They broke up because he cheated on her. I actually knew the guy outside of her and you never would’ve guessed. Very confident, outgoing and hip dude at the time. As far as I know he’s married and has kids now. So I don’t think it matters to some women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 02:26 AM
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Then there’s also the metapenis, mesopenis, parapenis, patapenis, praetorpenis, protopenis, antipenis, and tetrapenis Oh and demipenis - it takes its time to warm up
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 02:20 AM
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Oh that makes sense. Never thought about that for my buddies who rely on their wives. They have no way of supporting themselves if they leave or get left.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 03:35 PM
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Nah, dating has changed a lot the last 5-7 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 02:57 AM
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My buddy is this way. He’s a stay at home dad going to school while his wife works full time earning good $. He’s 6’4” male model material, genius level smart. Also a drug addict ex con. His wife was very attractive til she got pregnant & put on weight. I think she’s since lost the weight. He won’t be jobless forever but it just makes sense for them right now as her career is blossoming & he’s figuring out what to do next after some time in jail. But they are an exception to the rule. I’d say le…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 02:56 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 02:52 PM
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You’ve forever changed the way I’ll see a smiling baby. It’s also really cute that we, as babies, think farting is funny without even having words to describe it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 03:47 AM
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Haha is that a thing? I’m not around babies so I wouldn’t know this
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 03:06 AM
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Yes face matters
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 01:43 AM
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I think the only “meaning” they were gathering was the relationship between the frequency of sex and doing household chores. My guess is the happiest couples with the most satisfying sex lives in relation to chore duty are those who’s work-life balance matches their load of household chores & is related to what chores either gender is doing, ie with men being happier doing yard work. Which I think the study acknowledged to some degree. “Man chores” = more sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 08:40 PM
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I think this sentiment may be accurate. But it could be rephrased as women’s behavior is why men are misogynistic. And I don’t mean to say this as a misogynist, or to blame women for misogyny, but I’m blaming misogyny as a response to women’s modus operandi according to TRP, which is a result of empowerment & sexual promiscuity in the US promoted by feminism. Bear in mind this is a theory I’m coming up with right now, not what I believe. If you look at TRP & consider their practices like spinnin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 08:33 PM
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That would be nice but I meant how did you conclude they are unhappy? It was that a different commenter?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 08:00 PM
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How could you possibly know that this is with certainty the case in all of these peoples relationships? Generally it’s assumed the more sex a couple is having the healthier is their bond, not the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 07:33 PM
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The study proved the inverse is true. Men doing chores = less sex. Women doing chores = more sex. From that one could gather men doing chores lowers women’s libido. Therefore men should do less chores if they want to have more sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 07:26 PM
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I wasn’t implying more or less chores equaled a happier or healthier relationship, nor was I inferring those who do more or less chores have better or worse sex lives, nor was I presuming positive or negative things about the men or women who do more or less chores, I was merely noting the statistics were interesting. Nowhere in the study did they say women who do all the chores are unhappily sleeping with their partners, nor did they imply the quality of sex was better or worse the more or less…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 07:24 PM
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Lol I did just describe an all women’s Friday night young people’s AA meeting. Or the majority of women 18-35 in Brooklyn (New York), Silverlake (Los Angeles), North Park & Encinitas (San Diego), Denver & Manitou Springs (Colorado), Berkeley (& anywhere in SF), a lot of Oakland, Seattle & Olympia (Washington), Portland (Oregon), and Melbourne (Australia). Can’t think of anymore hip places I’ve lived. But I’m sure every major city has its “woke” neighborhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 07:17 PM
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That chore study is really interesting. Men who do all the chores have 1.6 x less sex than men who do none of the chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 03:32 PM
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No, unless you’re in a relationship and you both value sex as a form of intimacy, it is not a need.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 04:57 AM
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What makes you redpill?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 03:59 AM
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No *non-cis gender-confused demipanromantisexual SLUTWALKing hyperpolitical uberliberal self-labeled femnazis or self-labeling anything no heroin/meth/alcoholic no hoe phases no “finding themselves” phases no Instathots or onlyslags no trust fundies no healers, yoga instructors, life coaches, herbalists, psychics, witches who make it their identity, or sheltered conservative Christians no quirky hair colors, boys cuts, cats eye glasses, obnoxious dresscode no coffee snobs or intellectual elitist…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 03:51 AM
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Like what?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 06:32 PM
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Oh I thought that was shut down. What does quarantined mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:17 PM
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Where are people finding “red pill” advice nowadays since Reddit doesn’t have a red pill community?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:15 PM
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Some stats. Not arguing against you but was curious: The Pew Research Center published an analysis of census data showing that in 2019 the share of American adults who were neither married nor living with a partner had risen to 38 percent. Among those ages 25 to 54, 59 percent of Black adults were unpartnered in 2019. This is higher than the shares among Hispanic (38 percent), white (33 percent) and Asian (29 percent) adults. For most racial and ethnic groups, men are more likely than women to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:14 PM
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what’s a bloop?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 05:22 AM
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Yes sex makes babies
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 05:46 PM
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I don’t think men, collectively, or society as a whole, can rid themselves of the notion that women are inherently [more] valuable. Maybe in 200 years science will do this for us by enabling and promoting lab-grown fetuses with modified genetics over organically born babies, but for now women bear the future in their wombs and there is something sacred about this that men know on an unconscious level, and something primal about this that men know on a biological level. Whether that gnosis is an …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 04:17 PM
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Makes sense. Communication is tricky. Honesty is hard for a lot of people. Difficult feelings and compromise is hard for a lot of people. Being wrong is hard for a lot of people. Ultimately, self-reflection, responsibility, and change is hard for a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 04:09 PM
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I agree with you until you describe how you communicate. How is not talking about it a form of communication that solves the problem? Or is that just your immediate action and you communicate with each other when either side is calmed down?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 03:28 PM
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Wow people have high ass average girl standards. The real average woman is talentless, fat, 5’7” 170lb, 5/10 face. The average woman most men want is simply 5’5” ish, 130lbish, has any job, isn’t an escort/onlyfans/porn star, doesn’t have an excessive n-count, has an agreeable personality & nurturing characteristics.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 05:32 AM
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I agree, though it goes without saying, since your list is pretty comprehensive in specifics I think you actually can include/compare social media equivalents for men with porn for women as follows: No man has to date a woman who would rather take selfie’s and promote a brand on Instagram than do xyz with him. No man has to date a woman who wants him to emulate everything she sees happening on social media in couples promotional “lives”. [No man has to date a woman who models her life on Social …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 04:13 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 04:00 PM
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Really? I just started doing weighted dips. Maybe I’ll get taller :) not that I need it. But I did lose over an inch to scoliosis and a broken back
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 03:16 PM
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Yes. A woman who is my friend that I am not attracted to is the same as a man that is my friend that I am not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 02:20 AM
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Just like she doesn’t owe you love or sex you don’t owe her friendship. I think it’s pretty selfish for a woman to think a man should push his feelings aside for hers. A mature woman will respectfully understand whatever decision you make, and will probably be more likely to keep you as a friend because of this attitude. Men aren’t required to be friends with women that don’t like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 05:53 AM
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:) thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 05:48 AM
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Can’t find any exact photos, but a short fade on sides and back like an undercut, disconnected longish top, really straight hair but now the front kinda twirls on both sides as it semi naturally parts so longish front sides..? I dunno if that even gives a proper visual. It was just way shorter than previously. And unfortunately is the kinda haircut I’ll have to go back every 2 weeks to keep tight. So I’m probably just gonna shave it all to a 2-3 on top and .5-1 on sides It’s an annoying haircut …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 04:48 AM
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Ah that makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 03:03 AM
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True, but the more matches the more chances. And at the very least, ego boost galore rn
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 03:02 AM
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Decided to hop back on tinder. I got a new haircut which I personally think is one of my worst, but it’s a pretty “confident” look. It’s the only new photo I added compared to last season I was on it (winter). I was getting matches here & there before. Yesterday I got 20 matches swiping in the first hour. And logged in to another 50 in queue today. I think my Leo-ness must give me a summer lover vibe. Or my haircut is just killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 02:50 AM
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This is not what I believe, this is the nature of reality, this “magic”, a very natural action in relationships, acts as a signal to others in the environment, usually subtle like proximity but sometimes as grand as an interjection into a conversation . It’s body language and social psychology. Notice I say how either person in said relationship responds to their partners mate guarding is pretty good determinant of how that relationship is going. One can easily pick up on whether or not a mate w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 02:30 AM
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While true for you I don’t think it’s true for the majority of people [in Monogamous relationships]. For many people sexual exclusivity is the hallmark of their relationship. Though your view is becoming more popular, it’s still a minority
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 02:41 AM
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It largely depends on who you are and how you present. Your style. Your aesthetic. Your age. Your demographic. Quality of photos. What Image do you project and can you maintain that in conversation well enough to get off the app? Give it a try but if you’re a guy be prepared for ghosting or low match rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 02:10 AM
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You’re absolutely wrong. Everyone is capable of cheating. Public displays of protection and subtle announcement of togetherness from either gender is a natural, healthy behavior. Like anything it can be taken too far by extremely insecure people. More than this, there’s many a situation where the difference between cheating and faithfulness is the difference between a man/woman announcing their “ownership” of one another in a way. If it’s natural and unconsciously approved by both parties all is…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 02:03 AM
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Ye
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 01:21 AM
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Op used the term self-actualization & you said you agreed so I was clarifying that you think you broke up with men cause they weren’t self -actualized as evident by the behaviors you listed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 06:53 PM
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Realistically & ideally it should look like this: - seek self-actualization - meet partner - grow interrelationship skills - develop spiritually with partner - separate for reasons - internalize new necessary growth - continue to self-actualize with new knowledge of self/other via prior relationship experience - meet new partner - repeat until ideal partner is met where both parties are their best selves pushing each other to be better In other words you can do both. It’s important to learn to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 06:06 PM
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Are you saying all those reasons for break ups are in other words because the men weren’t self-actualized? ie self-actualized men do chores
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 06:01 PM
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Ironically being lonely makes you more likely to remain lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 05:46 PM
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It’s a pretty insightful tool, considering the sheer scope of people involved and statistics derived from their engagement. Sure it’s not 100% true to the real world, but it spills over into the real world. I’m old enough to have been around when okcupid & tinder just started & it’s definitely changed the way adults date, meet, and copulate. As you get older it’s also much more difficult to have an incredibly active social life so OLD is the go-to method for meeting people. I’m not defending any…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 10:13 PM
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Right? But I’m sure that’s what makes them a “nice guy” they are so weak that they are afraid of rejecting someone for fear of coming off like a nice guy that just wanted sex, ironically, so it’s easier to ghost
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 03:12 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/v1mzw6/the_decent_guys_suck_the_most/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Seems like it belongs here. The redacted comment that she’d rather sleep with a guy that just wanted sec than sleep with a nice guy that pretends to like her until sex. Got me thinking. Isn’t ANY form of “game” just an extension of nice guy behavior. As it’s acting one way to get a result even if you aren’t actually that way naturally. Where nice guy plays nice to ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 02:37 AM
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Haha right
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 01:03 AM
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Hadn’t considered it could be a cultural thing, I still doubt it was said in those exact words though, more like that is how she’s internalized the breakup.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 11:37 PM
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How do you tell if someone is redpoll? Is there like a common way they “introduce” themselves like style of engagement in OLD?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 11:35 PM
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If I could train a machine learning model on something PPD related what type of dataset would I need & what should I try to predict?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 11:31 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AskFeminists/comments/v1zca5/is_loveless_life_or_death_the_only_possibilities/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf No way some man actually said “you are too strong of a woman” and broke up with her cause of that. I could be wrong though
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 11:30 PM
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Oh there were definitely some I’d not trust, but you could tell the difference between the curious vs the “castrate all men” types. One instance comes to mind where I forgot a girls name after sleeping with her and her friend literally “that the asshole?” pointing at me, running start kicked me in the balls so hard I fucking rose off the ground an inch or two like a cartoon. Drunk I didn’t even realize what was happening until it was too late. But that woman was aaangry. Besides humorous, albeit…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 10:01 PM
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This made me laugh. Hair and glasses spot on. Reminds me of arguing with these women on my super liberal college campus a decade ago. I would get in spats with the feminists to the point there would be a whole group of them around me at a table with one lead femnazi screaming in my face near tears. I found it incredibly amusing and I could see the little spark in the women’s eyes, the mix of confused hatred and lust, and the little smirks I’d get out of them. I’d always end up hooking up with on…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:47 PM
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I think the only objectively logical path is to eliminate all [potential deep] emotional bonds (maybe feign them, but realize they are temporary, fleeting, subject to constant change) and eliminate all future-oriented expectations from relationships with women, only focusing on the present moment. Do not plan for, care about, or expect any future. Do nothing with women in mind. Do everything for your own sake. Do not change anything for women. logically it also follows to not commit to any singl…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:01 PM
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I’ve had women make me wait til the third or fourth date fairly regularly. Kinda unspoken rule and progression from casual meetup like coffee to dinner or drinks then one of our places. When drinking is involved 95% chance rules are tossed aside, ie date 1 is drinks + Airbnb? No question what’s happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 01:57 AM
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Romantic limbo is rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 01:52 AM
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Thing is women don’t even actually want the guy to change. Think about it: they fall for a guy who does xyz terrible things, drunk at noon, shoots heroin, does CC fraud via dark web, etc…I know because I’ve been this loser alcoholic criminal they wanted to change. And guess what happens with EVERY woman EVERY time I sober up and get my act together? They lose interest. Get them to admit this? Nearly impossible but had it happen once in a hissy-fit “I liked you better when you were an alcoholic!”…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 04:21 PM
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Had to Google the guy. Why do dating coaches always look like such idiots. Like no way is he pulling mad pussy right!?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 04:12 PM
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Ya, which is why I said height vs weight makes a difference, waist circumference is more of a pointer towards health, and actual appearance matters more than a BMI. But for clarification a woman that’s 5’7” and 170lb is fat & has a high BMI. Again I don’t know where anyone is saying they only date women with such and such a BMI. I’ve lifted weights for 10 years and haven’t once had mine measured.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 03:06 PM
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it almost is. if 24.9 + is “unhealthy”. At 24 one is only a few pounds away from being technically overweight, though of course BMI is determined by height & weight & 24.9 on someone 6’0” is gonna look pretty normal compared to 24.9 on someone 5’5”. health-wise it’s waist circumference that is a better determination of potential health issues and I don’t know exactly how BMI correlates to waist size but I would guess the higher the BMI typically the larger the waist circumference. I don’t know a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 02:52 PM
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Because 24+ is generally fat is t it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 12:51 PM
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True
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 02:49 AM
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Appreciate it. 9:1 ratio is crazy. And I’ve read matching rate is .6% for men, 14% for women. Seems pretty futile with those stats. And I agree , a quick coffee grab is the way to go. If I drank still I’d meet for drinks, which I also imagine would make things 50x easier, as thats a more fun vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 02:36 AM
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Ya it’s just a stark difference from a few years ago for me, had never been ghosted until last year it happened with like 7/10 women. Some of them truly wasted my time, were incredibly engaging and gave zero sign of disinterest. Learned quickly enthusiasm means nothing. And any real effort is definitely not worth it. Will approach it much differently next time. I’m pretty attractive so it’s really just a matter of texting game, which I abhor, as you can tell I easily write paragraphs where one w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 01:19 AM
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Last time I tried OLD I noticed this. Women would excitedly make plans, relentlessly message me, then disappear day of. Was fucking annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:18 PM
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Makes sense. Sounds like you’re a chill artsy guy which chicks always dig. I envy singers. I can rope in some open minded indie chicks with my voice but I mostly play classical guitar. Which isn’t really known for attracting women though they are often surprised and impressed as it juxtaposes my aesthetic
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:14 PM
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Curious: How would you summarize what makes your life so interesting someone would want to be a part of it? What do you do outside of work that you believe makes you valuable to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:59 PM
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I just realized how negative that came off sounding but it is weird to look back at how much of a lowlife I’ve been at a various points in my struggles with addiction/alcoholism and how paradoxically it translated into abundance with women. It’s definitely a matter of frame. I suppose with belligerence comes confidence & that’s what women find appealing, coupled with the incomparable spontaneity that such a lifestyle brings , & it makes for an exciting person. I simply can’t be the same sober, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 06:30 PM
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Yes. When I was a mostly jobless drug user, lowlife scum-thug, drunk by 9AM alcoholic (and what I would define as a legitimately bad person) I drowned in women of all types. For whatever I wanted out of them, be that just sex or an LTR. sober I live in the desert. Even in my 30s women seem to be repulsed by sobriety and “right”ness. Only thing that would change this, and has in the past, is having A LOT of money and freedom to use it, only then was my sobriety respected. With a standard income +…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 02:56 PM
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Or they are ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 02:57 AM
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Or they are ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 02:57 AM
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I’m sure someone else can answer better, but I imagine it’s related to the “reciprocity” model u/notthatyoucare mentions above. And that reciprocal love ending. But leaving being difficult for the party that still loves, or even difficult for the party that doesn’t still love, because they like being loved and don’t want to let that go. Where heartbreak comes into play is probably that it’s difficult not to see the other, offending gender as the misogynist/hypergamist/literally hitler that they …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 07:10 PM
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Should’ve said “seems like it on PPD”. according to PPD comments & posts it seems women are [casually] banging Chads but they won’t commit. And “all men want is [casual] sex” -and they must be getting it somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 04:20 AM
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Haha seems like it eh
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 03:40 AM
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Edit: I ranted about my experiences with BPD. It’s not even worth explaining, it’s so hard to express the emotional pain they cause. If you run into a BPD, suspected BPD, or “bad girl”. Run. Do not walk. Run. It’s not worth it. They will turn you into a shell of man, wondering what the fuck happened. Your life will be ruined and they will walk away unscathed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 09:16 PM
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This guys an idiot, even men that sleep with lot of women have morals and are honest about their intentions. Gonna have to say NAMALT. But it’s definitely attitudes like his that sour the dating experience for both men & women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 09:38 AM
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Wouldn’t the easiest explanation be women want the most physically viable specimen to reproduce with and STEM men aren’t really known for their physical prowess
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 04:50 AM
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Yes this is true, I should have rephrased some of that. I just have a lot of poly friends and last time I was on tinder seemed like every other match was into ENM. I think it’s a growing trend and will continue to get more popular. Also my demographic , where I grew up, and as I later learned (via invitations spawned from professional connections) there’s really a huge hidden current of open relationships, especially amongst the wealthy/attractive people I’ve known. As for commitment I understan…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 02:10 AM
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Hadn’t considered maybe these dudes wanted my dick in their face
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 05:19 AM
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I got a bad haircut but I kinda like it. Three people asked me to spot them at the gym today. I must be getting bigger. One guy was benching 4 or 5 plates on each side and I had to tell him I’m just here for moral support. If he got stuck I wouldn’t have been much help. Granted for spotting usually just the lightest touch of the bar alleviates enough weight to make it manageable.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 03:38 AM
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As for the paying, when I used to mostly waste my time on dinner first dates I’d definitely gauge their interest based on their willingness to pay or split the check. If I wasn’t interested in her after dinner I don’t even ask and tell the waiter to bring separate checks. If I’m interested I offer to pay, as women usually expect this nicety then offer to pay their half, which I always accept and further gauge their response (if any hint they are upset they have to pay I am hesitant to move forwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 12:28 AM
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You know I just realized this is totally true and forgot about how I met my most recent ex. Albeit 3 years ago. She saw me as a god in the beginning. And treated me like one. And until she wisened up I could do no wrong. What you made me realize was the sugar mama statement. I met her when I was without a job and without a car. Within a week of meeting her she not only was cooking meals for me but was buying me shit and then by week 2 she literally gave me her car. Edit to add this reminded me: …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 11:39 PM
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I agree with this to some extent and would take it even a step further: society should be more positively open to men acquiring casual sex from professionals. It should be seen as the more masculine option than manipulating women they don’t actually like into sex. But I think your lifestyle (poly) puts you in a far different position than most men. Most, even if sleeping with a woman they don’t necessarily like, are probably doing so because they want to like these women, and only realize AFTER …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 10:14 PM
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You just need to be a guy they’d like. They are only annoyed when “ugly” or “creepy” men show interest which just means any guy they don’t like or find attractive which is subjective & different for every woman. So don’t listen to those gripes. And obviously don’t approach in a predatory or annoying way like yelling “hey baby” across the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:18 PM
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The fact is if she’d respond positively to YOU approaching she will be happy you approached, but you can’t know this until you approach. There’s a stark difference between approaching random girl across the street, like a predator honing in on prey, and approaching a girl at the grocery store buying bananas next to you that responds positively to a light comment about whether or not you should buy organic, or how you always get organic but ring yourself up and charge them as regular bananas caus…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 04:41 PM
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What happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:42 AM
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What happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 05:42 AM
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Np I thought it was an interesting post. I’m walking the dog so can freely ramble in response. I agree with you. I really can’t imagine how lonely it must feel to never have been sexually desired by a woman, let alone to never have been loved or in love. I’m truly grateful for my experiences, especially love I had even though I lost it (were a few, but one really changed me); it opened my eyes to what’s possible and completely changed my perspective on relationships and human connection. I didn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 04:36 AM
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I fall into category 3. It’s been 3 years since I’ve slept with someone, and if you told me that would be the case 10 years ago I would’ve laughed at you. I genuinely currently have no desire for sex with random women or women im not exclusively seeing. I am exactly how you described, hurt a lot of women AND have been hurt by my fair share as well. I don’t even masturbate, except once in a blue moon a purely physical, inescapable need arises and I rub one out. Yes I can get aroused easily if I c…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 03:36 AM
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Isn’t that wild to think about if true? Men have to create value or become valuable. Women are born with value, assuming they are of average attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 09:19 PM
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Gnarly right
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 05:47 AM
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Sure. But something like homelessness in the states isn’t much prettier. I know from personal experience, scavenging for food, trying to find somewhere safe to sleep at night, burning wood for warmth. Sure I wasn’t in a war torn country & had a cell phone (until it was stolen), or I didn’t have to worry about lions, but there were equally terrifying people and situations. It’s survival mode either way where humans are the predators. I’m sure some 3rd world country experiences are on par with bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 05:46 AM
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How bold of him. I’d love to meet a girl while browsing for books.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 05:38 AM
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It’s a pretty safe click
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 05:16 AM
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I think it’s silly to deny people who are suffering their lived experience and feelings. Just cause someone somewhere is objectively suffering worse doesn’t mean their subjective experience is any less valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 05:13 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/oddlyterrifying/comments/uubwos/this_man_wants_to_look_like_a_black_alien/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf I’m all for tattoos & piercings galore, but body modification like this just seems like something you’re gonna inevitably regret. Women would you ever date or sleep with a guy that looks like “a burnt hotdog” as someone kindly commented?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 05:10 AM
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How’d you two meet? I don’t imagine a shy, delicate housewife approached you in the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 05:03 AM
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Ofc I tend to take a Jungian perspective as well. Horoscopes are complicated. Sidereal & Tropical or Western vs Vedic will give you often two very different pictures but I find they mesh quite well if you see both as accurate in their own right. Like any form of divination though the interpreter can determine, well, the interpretation, and I personally view it like tarot or I Ching: a snapshot into some archetypal happenings, something one can meditate on to gain insight into a feeling or situat…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 04:25 AM
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I think sigma males are typically the loner Artist, Musician, or Outsider; never fit in, but isn’t trying to, so doesn’t care. Probably considered a loser (on paper) by society’s standards, until they strike gold with their Intellect or through their Art/Music. Most likely to become famous after they die. Generally kind, stoic, maybe seem passive in certain social settings or aloof. Best left unprovoked. Violence contained by a calm, disciplined exterior. Likely have stared death in the face. Ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 01:22 AM
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Wow I can kinda relate and also recently learned about Saturn’s return thing you’re talking about. Pretty true in my experience. Like extreme separation between who I was in my 20s to who I am now almost mid 30s. Pretty much right when Saturn was returning in my chart my life plummeted into chaos ripping everything I knew and held away from me and leaving me with nothing from which I had to restart. It was crazy. It’s taken me years just to get back to square 0. And in those years it’s been the …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 08:25 PM
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I think this is a misconception. I personally believe all standards are thrown out the window or adjusted to match the man when a woman is attracted to someone. This is why things like “improve yourself (job, appearance, style, hobbies” only work to a small extent. If a woman likes you, she likes you. It’s also therefore better to be your natural, best self, not some TRP alpha acting his way into bed; this way she likes who you are as you are, rather than who you are as you think you should be (…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 05:21 PM
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I like my version: Dating for women is like staring at a freshwater stream looking for a glass bottle of Perrier or San Pellegrino. [They have plenty of drinkable water but want that special sparkly bottled variety.] Dating for men is like looking for beer in a dry county. [Chances are they have to brew it themselves (process of improve job, physique, talents), but can only brew one beer at a time. So once every month or two they get a beer after putting in the work. And sometimes that beer does…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 03:57 PM
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Thanks. Good for you too, it’s not easy. I also understand it’s not worth the health consequences, but damn do I miss a nice buzz and a beautiful girl by my side. Nothing else like that combo.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 04:59 AM
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Sure, it’s great to be great. But to think women objectively fuck what they subjectively or collectively say they think makes a good man good is to ignore reality, and goes against my own personal experience. When I was a skinny broke ass drunk punk I slayed pussy like an idiot that says “slays pussy”. As a sober, athletic, well-to-do, gainfully employed, academic, and kind man I may as well be a leper. It’s not as cut and dry as improve upon or do XYZ and you’ll be rewarded with sex, love, or a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 01:54 AM
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It’s basically impossible. I may as well be invisible for a few reasons. I’ve never really lacked options until these last 2+ years. But I was devastated after a break up with who I thought was “the one”. And haven’t been able to date since, even if I wanted to. Tried OLD briefly, but it was depressing. Every tinder or hinge date ghosted day of the date anyways. Every conversation disappeared abruptly or trailed into oblivion. I had little to no excitement at meeting the women I did match with. …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 03:05 AM
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But what about personality? 5’7” extrovert is going to do better than 6’0” introvert
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 09:29 PM
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Exactly what Alan Watt’s was trying to express
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:33 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/Soulnexus/comments/urn9np/taoism_in_perfection_by_alan_watts/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Alan Watts on Taoism, solid as always. Summary: a man who uses a row boat exerts effort, but an intelligent man uses a sail & lets nature do the work - that’s Taoism explained to perfection.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 06:55 AM
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My bad. I don’t mean to be touting any specific thing personally I just meant this is what I gather both far ends of the spectrum like “radical” “castrate all men” feminists think vs “awalt alpha beta bux” TRP thinks, and these of course are the loudest voices or at least the voices that seem to be complained about on PPD or hinted at in PPD comments - like men’s rights movement being “anti-women” and trp being infantilizing if that provides some clarity Which goes back to the point of how can m…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:11 AM
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Ya after thinking about it more I’m not even aware enough of what red pill means compared to or in opposition to feminism to even know what an example would be. I think they are focusing on totally different aspects of reality, with feminism being “fuck the patriarchy” which often is transliterated as “men are bad/pigs/creeps” or AMALT and TRP is about “in the modern dating market women favor alpha-Chad” often transliterated as AWALT. One uses political rhetoric and the other plays off men’s ins…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:57 AM
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Silly. Seems like a very dumb & flawed system then. And they shouldn’t say they are about equality if all that matters is women’s issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:08 AM
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No worries, enjoy your buzz :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:02 AM
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Jesus y’all really read that question wrong. This has nothing to do with men taking responsibility for anything as much as it’s about apparently men don’t get their voice heard so the have TRP but should t their voice if equal be able to be heard through feminism? Wouldn’t it be better for both parties to have a way they could communicate with each other without this bullshit alpha beta being thrown around alongside the other end of the castrate all men spectrum? How did you pull “women need to …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:00 AM
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Hahah what it’s just a question. I can’t tell if you’re saying feminism is nerdy or TRP is, neither which I claim to follow
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:58 AM
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Since feminism is supposedly about equality, shouldn’t any women’s issue have its men’s issue equivalent that is equally as important and therefore be discussable under the umbrella of feminism or by using feminist rhetoric? If so, can TRP rephrase their observations/criticisms/advice somehow to fit within a feminist narrative and kinda trick feminists into coming to the same conclusion or a least openly discussing topics?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:46 AM
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I’d say your love is real. It never ended. And the love he had for you is eternal, living forever in your heart, and in memory of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:17 AM
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Yes and no If you’re in it, you know it’s real. If you’ve lost it, you know it isn’t. - not to say the experience, however long it lasts, in its many varieties, isn’t real at the time. Just that romantic love is temporary, conditional, & dependent upon two people’s ever-transient emotions. If one party opts out, it’s unreciprocated, and renders its prior reciprocation meaningless, revealing it to be illusory and transient, thus not real. To keep the illusion alive is the secret to long, happy ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:02 AM
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You’re thinking too hard, these scammers are the same that pull the Nigerian prince email scams. They aren’t looking for people that require convincing evidence they are looking for people foolish enough to send .1 BTC to a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 08:35 PM
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Yes but they don’t think so or will say no. Look at it like tinder matches & the odds of winning the lotto. Where every match is one lotto ticket and winning is amazing sex. The odds of winning if you get 1 lotto ticket (match) is 1:302,000,000 vs if you get 1000 lotto tickets (matches) its 1:302,000. There’s a higher chance that you can find great sex out of 1000 matches as a woman than finding great sex with 1 match as a man. This being said, women will have a FAR HIGHER STANDARD for what is d…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 04:45 PM
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Am I still banned Edit: wooo I’m not still banned
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:38 AM
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That’s ridiculous. You’re devaluing a multitude of men’s lives who can’t find love by saying this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 10:54 AM
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There’s nothing cowardly about using escorts/brothels, or prostitutes (but this last one is dangerous and a dumb idea). With how dating/sex works in the real world it makes a lot more sense logically for the average man to use sex workers services than to attempt to find a partner (if it’s currently not working for them, it’s most likely going to continue to fail). Furthermore once you’re a regular with an escort of choice, the relationship is oftentimes just as, if not more rewarding than a “re…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 10:49 AM
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This is true to for me from age 17 - 33, and for women age 17 -37 in my experience. This is true for women of all types, backgrounds, mental health levels/levels of “broken-ness” (& who are we to judge someone’s level of mental health based on who they sleep with?), education levels, etc..it’s true for a variety of women, with the most important factor being whether or not they thought I was attractive, of course. It’s not like I was a total piece of shit every waking moment, just generally that…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 10:39 AM
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Aren’t you afraid one of them will legitimately retaliate? This is too elaborate to be real. Who has time for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:57 PM
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Oh for sure. I’ll never forget this one girl in college, I must’ve been 21-22. I saw her at a bar and was like jaw-dropped in love at first sight and said to myself “ I want that!” I approached her and as I walked up her boyfriend walked up too. And I knew him vaguely from a class. I shook his hand and made a subtly denigrating comment about him, and noticed her smirk. Game on. He was clearly intimidated by my ridiculous confidence so immediately I’m like “I’m buying us all shots! You - grab a t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:55 PM
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Jesus. So you find men that hate women for…reasons…then you go out of your way to validate those reasons rather than show them that women can be kind, good people? That’s super fucked up. I hope this is a troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:38 PM
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Happy Birthday! 33 is a great number. I’m also 33.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:31 PM
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Mostly the every walks of life bit - you’d be amazed the type of people that suffer from opioid addiction and alcoholism. A lot of “respectable” careers like lawyers and doctors and nurses have substance abuse issues. And while they are using it’s not uncommon to get caught and charged with something. So they become “felons” but aren’t your stereotypical thug
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:20 PM
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I should’ve said isn’t uncommon in certain circles like recovery groups, my bad! Edit to add Like at any given time when I worked in that industry probably a third of our clients were felons with regular wives Interesting just looked up some stats: https://nrccfi.camden.rutgers.edu/files/nrccfi-fact-sheet-2014.pdf 1 in 28 children have a parent that’s in prison. So it’s not hard to imagine a lot of women raising children of felons…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:12 PM
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I live in a city where this isn’t uncommon. Just go to an NA or AA meeting and you’ll meet plenty of these women. I personally know two. One is an architect and the other is a nurse practitioner and both their husbands are felons. And they have kids. (Husbands are the ones in NA/AA)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:07 PM
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I had similar experiences, except I took it too far once or twice. The ease with which women cheated was baffling. It too went against everything I believed about cheating - that men were primarily responsible. Nah, women went out of their way to cheat & put themselves in situations where cheating was basically inevitable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 11:26 AM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 11:20 AM
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Wow, that’s wild! Perfect example of how bad these people are.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 07:50 AM
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Ah I didn’t even consider that aspect. Ofc lying is bad in any context, but especially a rs one, I see you’re point. This should probably be something that’s honestly discussed prior to marriage, so it’s definitely a form of deception.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 07:49 AM
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Hopefully you’re staying away from fent and needles?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:21 AM
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Smart
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:05 AM
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Definitely. every night with me was an adventure. when I drink there’s always something cinematic happening. I mean I’ve literally blacked out and woken up in different cities, states, and countries before. it’s definitely a wild ride with me. I get into trouble. I find trouble. I get people to join me in making bad decisions. I find myself easily enabling other people’s poor behavior. Like - you want to steal that car? Go for it! You want to do this drug? Why some time, how about now!? And that…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:02 AM
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Oh ya, you describe that perfectly. Solid rhetorical skills and charisma = magnet in AA circles. I used to work in the recovery industry when I got sober and the whole thing turned me off to sobriety. People at the top were generally worse than their clients. And there was RAMPANT 13th stepping and sexual drama of every type. I mean what can you expect when you have truly sick people leading sick people. Blind leading the blind sorta deal. I caught the VP of our treatment facilities stealing tuc…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 02:44 AM
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Funny thing is you may actually not be a shitty bf for those reasons. Either way it sounds like you’re doing things right in the sense that you’re not leading girls on and are focused on school. if you think you may be developing a problem with alcohol I HIGHLY recommend cutting back or stopping now before it becomes a legit problem. Alcohol withdrawal is no joke. So ya man, have fun and stay safe and don’t fuck off with school.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 02:33 AM
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People’s sexual appetites can change. Also when women are younger they are more likely to experiment with bf with things they may not have otherwise done. Regardless of why she did something in the past it doesn’t matter if she doesn’t want to do it now - she doesn’t have to. She’s not obligated to do anal cause she did with a different partner. So it’s really up to the husband, is he ok with being with a woman who won’t explore like he wants How should he feel? However it makes him feel. But hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 02:24 AM
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Oh I believe you. That’s one of the reasons I drank so much. It was the only way I could be OK with it all. I also had a rule that I would not sleep with drunk women or women who used drugs (except psychedelics on occasion). So it’s not like I was getting the bottom of the barrel. Anyways, the things I witnessed while drinking probably mirror your experience. So I also find it really difficult dating in sobriety having seen the other side of things. Like you said you can’t unsee it. Edit to add:…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 09:41 PM
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You seem to be missing the point of my original comment: these NEGATIVE behaviors that I once unconsciously lived by, which were directly related to my alcoholism, resulted in a POSITIVE outcome. There’s no self-congratulation going on, nor am I implying drinking would turn you racist. Drinking alcoholically will generally amplify internalized beliefs and traits. I’ll validate it for you: I drank to be OK with behaviors that attracted women. No longer wanting to live that way, I’ve ceased attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 09:18 PM
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Try drinking 1.75 liters of vodka a day and tell me it doesn’t change your perception on reality or how you engage with society. While doing so through ignorance, and following traumatic experiences with women that confirmed unhealthy beliefs I fell into the trap of internalizing negative aspects of TRP, which coupled with alcoholism, driven by depression and psychosis, resulted in living a prideful, arrogant lifestyle where I sought purely pleasure to escape my suicidal discontentedness with my…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 08:45 PM
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Ya, I believe it. Basically the same situation - I make great $ and don’t even work full time. I lift/exercise 7 days a week. I don’t drink or party anymore. I play classical guitar. I’m an avid reader. I’m 6’. Handsome. Some say “hot”. - but I’m not “fun” like I used to be. And I don’t want to be that type of fun & free anymore. Ofc I can’t always handle the perpetual loneliness so I often end up relapsing and reverting to old behaviors/attitudes to get laid. But I just can’t live that lifestyl…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 08:23 PM
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I didn’t date them…they were happy to just be on the rotation of hook ups. They would often complain to me about how hard it was to find “good men”. And I was left chuckling, confused, like “no wonder you’re having difficulty, you’re choosing to hang out with me for sex instead of date the actual good dudes that are interested in you”.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 08:10 PM
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I have openly admitted in other threads about my experience like this guy (well assuming from your comment haven’t watched the video). I would tell women not to date me. That I’m trouble. That they will be hurt. That I am not their friend. That they basically serve one purpose for me. I was a GNARLY alcoholic, abused drugs, slept around, was vocally anti-feminist. Basically an arrogant, misogynistic asshole. And when I was this way…I got pussy like Casanova. Sober, I am temperate, stoic, calm, r…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 05:24 PM
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Condolences. But I’m glad you found each other (again) and had some good years together. I totally believe you about how she died. I watched my father go from an athlete to physical ailment after ailment needing open heart surgery, all his health issues starting a year into marrying his 2nd wife and always getting tremendously worse as their relationship was worse. The woman, my stepmom, is classic BPD abusive craziness. Example of how she treated me: I was in my early 20s and borrowed their car…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 04:12 PM
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Jesus. “That’s crazy bro. Enjoy poverty. Babe! We got a 100 thousand dollars!”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:42 PM
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Eh
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:05 AM
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Why don’t you take some good pics and get 50k insta followers too?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:23 AM
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What happened to your wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:18 AM
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Or how open they are to sharing with their partner but not open to their partner sharing to them
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:06 AM
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What are you going to pursue to achieve status to enable you to spread positivity and how will you ensure you’re not corrupted in the process?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 02:16 AM
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I think humans need to learn how to be nice to one another. To be kind. Honest. Trustworthy. Clear about their intentions. And disciplined enough to follow through with their word. To differentiate between want and need, right and wrong. And to stop rewarding poor behavior with sex, love, and intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:57 AM
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Yes, part of what made my message work was the fact that I ran it all as a hoax. It was a self-aware fake cult but people, as they engaged with it (me), couldn’t tell what was real and what was fake. I catered to certain types (programmers, occultists, hackers, highly intelligent outcasts really) and there was power in me using pseudonyms and pretending to be various people that they interacted with exclusively via e-mail. I didn’t talk like I’m casually talking here, many people believed “the l…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:39 AM
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I agree with everything you said. I had ambition like you when I was exactly your age, well more around 26/27 and I got fed up with it. So I started an intentional community based on Masonic and Rosicrucian ideals. A cult, that masqueraded as a cult, and sought to find “qualified individuals”. I developed series of tests and puzzles that would ensure only intelligent people could join. I used the occult and magick and horror as a means of scaring away those who couldn’t get past the symbols I wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 11:21 PM
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Ya, I also came from a similar background. But once I hit college age and started REALLY drinking and doing drugs I entered “adult reality” and quickly learned you have to be a fucking monster to survive and thrive. So I became a monster. in order to be what worked in the world socially, I personally had to be drunk. So, I made social strides and got laid and had girlfriends and FWB and hook ups. And I hated it. I was confused and miserable - why did I wake up cuddled by a beautiful girl when I …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 10:13 PM
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I think the takeaway from a lot of these responses is that it’s not just men or just women that need to change, it’s people as a whole need to simply become better humans. But because our society praises and rewards shitty behavior with sex, love, and intimacy, nothing is likely going to change. I totally agree that men would be better men if they weren’t rewarded by women for being horrendous.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:40 PM
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Where…? Women have explicitly told you this?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 04:35 PM
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Haha nice
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 12:47 AM
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No but PUA generally exploits TRP “truths” does it not? Or PUA people generally adhere to TRP beliefs?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 12:30 AM
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So you mean like, a fly gets stuck in a space heater and sparks a fire while you’re chopping onions, which sets off an alarm that makes you jump and nearly slip onto the knife, but you catch yourself in time and run outside, relieved you’ve escaped the fire, but the fire reaches a gas leak causing an explosion, sending pieces of wood and metal bars flying this way and that, and you run, turning the corner quickly barely noticing a child playing with bamboo knitting needles pointing towards the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 12:28 AM
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What happened to your wife? Or are you still with your wife? I’m confused
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 10:37 PM
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Wow, that’s so twisted. I think. I mean it is unnatural, isn’t it? Now I’m kinda questioning things. Is it ok if it doesn’t hurt anyone sort of deal? But doesn’t incest result in genetic defects with children conceived by the same blood
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 09:29 PM
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What red pill stuff did he try on you? I always wonder how men do TRP things brazenly - like did he straight up say “I’m an Alpha, worship me”? And expect it to work too
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 09:27 PM
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there’s a whole subreddit devoted to incest people. I can’t tell if it’s just sick fanfic fantasy stuff or actual real life stories. Reminds me of the French movie I Stand Alone by Gaspar Noe. Crazy, violent, disturbing film about a father falling in love with his daughter. All of that dudes movies are gnarly. Highly recommend Enter The Void.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 08:41 PM
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True. That reminds me that I actually did an experiment many years ago with making porn websites and having ads on them. I had a template I could clone pretty easily. I determined if I made 50-100 of these porn sites that pulled content from other sites (kinda like those movie sites like primewire or onechannel) using bots, which took roughly 2-3 hours to set up and 10 minutes of maintenance a month, I’d earn roughy 10k/year in passive income. But just the two-3 hours of setting up keywords and …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 07:32 PM
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Can confirm. The most feminine, submissive women I’ve slept with have been the most vocally feminist and domineering outside of the bedroom. And as you said, generally insufferable outside of sex. Quickest to shit test and start dumb fights. Best FWB, but worst girlfriends I’ve ever had.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 07:20 PM
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I’ve gotten a couple of those lately too. I wonder what their ratio of random follow to paid reaction is. Their click-through rate or whatever. Also with tinder and other apps. Maybe I should become an OF bot service provider. Like make a bit that follows 1,000 people per day, which leads to 200 clicks, which leads to 1 paid subscription, which leads to referral pay, that quickly adds up to passive income…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 07:18 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/shitposting/comments/u0k2lu/how_wholesome/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Um
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 06:50 PM
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Haha
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 08:36 PM
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Ahh thanks this is the best example so far
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 08:23 PM
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Ya I have a good idea now. I feel like this is a pretty innocent issue, tho I can see where in some circumstances it would be frustrating. Like in the context of a work environment
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 07:38 PM
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What do you mean by wallflower max?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 07:34 PM
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I see thanks for the example. Seems like a pretty innocent foible
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 07:14 PM
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Haha oh wow. Ok, but it isn’t that common of a thing is it? I just saw some comment in a different subreddit where this lady was going off on some guy for mansplaining and I didn’t get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 07:11 PM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 07:10 PM
3

I like” Xanax pill”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 06:44 PM
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What exactly is mansplaining?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 06:43 PM
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Yes nature is also paramount to a healthy experience. I’m probably moving back to a desert next year to camp/live in a cabin in a town with less than 100 people and focus on studying G-d. I think the opportunity is presenting itself as my friend may be (98% positive, hear the final details end of month) acquiring 40+ acres on which he said I could live, where an unused cabin awaits me, in a town with less than 100 people in the middle of a beautiful desert region in Utah. It’s like Paradise befo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 06:02 PM
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Man I’m sorry you’ve had such a negative experience with reality so far. But I agree with your final points - trust must be earned (and remember that it’s almost always broken, so be on guard), coworkers are DEFINITELY not friends and it’s almost always a bad idea to work with friends, in my case I’m really lucky in that family has been the only positive thing in my life as an adult. My father in particular has been an extremely valuable ally and helped me out no matter how much trouble I was in…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 05:49 PM
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I think a lot of it is unconsciously known by most men but not accepted, and when overcome by love or lust is easily forgotten, turns a “red pill alpha” into a “blue pill beta” when they think “alas, I’ve found the one! She’s different than the rest,” only to be left in the dust when the woman loses interest, ie as the man shifts from a dominant leader to a submissive provider. I think a lot of men are aware of the “game” but the most successful ones have learnt to inactively play it — ie develo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 04:35 PM
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I think you’re taking the right approach, because it’s the right approach for YOU.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 03:59 AM
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Is your username referring to Marlon Brando?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 03:52 AM
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I think you sound like an ideal partner. I was raised around traditional gender roles and ofc as a male this makes me a misogynist to feminists. I used to see a feminist major from an all women’s college and we’d get into HEATED arguments, but the general gist I got from her is she actively rebelled against the “patriarchy” via denying her feminine side or participating in traditional loving roles (she was a FWB) which she ofc, now in her 30s looking to settle down, has revealed is what she want…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 03:30 AM
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Ya I don’t really follow fashion, as you’re right, it’s very ephemeral & sometimes ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 03:22 AM
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As I said I haven’t worn cologne in 10 years, but when I was younger and keen on approaching heaps of women daily at bars, smelling fresh went a long way. Women constantly laying on my chest end of night/next morning smelling me, “you smell sooo good”. But it was just one simple cologne. Dunhill by Dunhill for Men. I haven’t found any other colognes that were as subtle or mixed with my reeking of tobacco and alcohol as well as that one. But ya I remember at one of the very liberal colleges I att…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 02:31 AM
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I guess I just was thinking of my demographic. It would be strange to see me in baggy clothes with a flat billed cap. But for some people it definitely works. I mainly meant wrong size wranglers from Walmart or something dorky like that. You know the look I’m talking about. Dude also has a roller backpack or Fanny-pack, and not in the brightly colored stylish hipster type of Fanny pack way, but in the serious utility Fanny-pack kinda way hah
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 08:15 PM
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I think this post brings up an overlooked aspect of all of TRP and PPD and the dissatisfaction many men and some women are feeling with today’s “dating market” - and that’s a question of morals/values - mainly the death of conservative ideals. At the end of the day what makes TRP so hard to accept is that what works to attract women is felt to be unnatural for “good men” or men who were raised in a more conservative household or simply harbor more conservative values. What makes TRP so frustrati…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 06:26 PM
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I don’t wear cologne anymore. I just haven’t gotten around to buying it the last 10 years when I ran out of what I used. But cologne does make a marked difference, for both you and whoever you’re attracting. Scent is powerful. Just make sure it’s subtle. Can’t douse yourself in cheap ass cologne and expect magic to happen. What makes it work the best is using a subtle amount of cologne while making a good first impression, hopefully with sexual undertones. Then when you wear that cologne again t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:44 PM
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I’m also confused
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 05:32 PM
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Not to be confused with the metapenis
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 03:57 PM
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I’m just assuming all the Reddit TRP ideas are stemming from these other main websites/blogs that started it all. Especially now that they are likely the main resource with TRP sub in quarantine right? I mean where are people finding trp stuff nowadays
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 03:21 PM
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Maybe we should pull examples, good or bad, from the current most popular red pill blogs. I only remember 2, Rollo Tomassi - The Rational Male (which is like 200 posts saying the exact same thing), and a blog called Chateau Heartiste (& this one was just insane, extreme commentary that was hard to take seriously iirc). I guess my question is what is actual red pill literature nowadays?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 02:56 PM
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one micropenis or one macropenis?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 02:48 PM
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What does that mean? What’s the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 02:41 PM
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Seems fucked up but it’s just a click bait title, he says in bold he doesn’t condone actual rape, it appears he’s talking about women’s darker desires for rough sex and dominant men IN FANTASY like 50 Shades od Grey ah but at the end he takes it a little too far. But surely this isn’t the norm? I don’t remember ANYTHING like this from what I was reading, granted I don’t remember much
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 02:35 PM
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Are there examples of TRP promoting violence? I don’t recall any but I was reading trp like 10 years ago when it was just starting
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 02:21 PM
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I thought TRP subreddit was banned?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 02:20 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 03:11 AM
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I wanted to edit the grammar and provide more commentary on this comment but Reddit wouldn’t let me :/. And I thumb typed furiously but lost it all so I’ll end my ramble with probably a pointless conclusion: I think the biggest take away from my experiences with women I’ve dated or slept with, whether 10 years younger or 10 years older, whether literal hourly-rate whores or published scholars, whether my girlfriend or someone else’s wife, is that all exhibited the same core behavioral tenets, a …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 01:28 AM
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I think you aptly and succinctly described what I ranted about in my comment. Thank you for finding the right words. And damn, you’re lucky to have found a good one. Curious, what does your wife think about this?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 01:01 AM
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I think more men are catching on
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 12:59 AM
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I see what you’re saying but I can’t speak from a woman’s experience because I’m not one; all the women in my family got married young, have children, or are engaged to be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 10:40 PM
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I think a lot of guys are more hung up on what other men may think. If they get over what society says is hot they can probably happily find a partner. Get off Instagram and Facebook and stop watching porn is a good start.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 04:58 PM
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I love it when women have weirdly specific things I need to do to make her cum. Cause then I know exactly what to do to make her cum. It’s like having a cheat code: up, down, left trigger, left trigger, circle, square, up, down, select - cum. It just makes the process a mechanical game when it’s like OP describes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 04:35 PM
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This is such basic information I don’t see the point of the post. Yes women are attracted to attractive men and the two main factors in determining attractiveness are looks and personality. The more of one you have generally the less of the other you need when it comes to initial attraction. And generally personality is only revealed after the first barrier of physical appearance is crossed - if you look good you’ll have a better chance of showing your personality, and be given more opportunitie…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 04:19 PM
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I think your second point is the a common issue. Even to this day I have relatives that say shit like “what a shame! You’ll meet the right one some day.” As if all of my accomplishments and everything about my life is absolutely worthless without having a girlfriend (and at my age, a wife). I can tell my own mother thinks I’m less-than for not having a partner. And then when I explain the dynamics of OLD and how it’s easy to find women to hook up, not too easy to find women worth dating, they mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 03:58 PM
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It would take a lot for me to want to commit to a relationship. I’d feel bad, ofc. Anger would be directed at the partner. But I certainly wouldn’t be happy with the person either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:08 AM
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For sure send me a dm whenever. I’m off to bed soon tonight but I waste a lot of time on Reddit so I’ll generally reply pretty swiftly and thoughtfully. And yes it’s a lot to take in, hope I’m not causing you any extra grief as you internalize some of the things you’re learning. Look forward to hearing your thoughts on the subject
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 04:27 AM
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Right? Seems like a lot of effort and lying. Like 2 years straight of acting like you’re not cheating must be bad for your soul.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 03:37 AM
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Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 02:00 AM
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Stats seem to be all over the place. I think most people get caught or confess. On report says: “- 30 to 60 percent of married couples will cheat at least once in the marriage - 74 percent of men and 68 percent of women admit they’d cheat if it was guaranteed they’d never get caught - 60 percent of affairs start with close friends or coworkers - An average affair lasts 2 years - 69 percent of marriages break up as a result of an affair being discovered” https://hackspirit.com/infidelity-statisti…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 01:58 AM
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Why’d you cheat? Do you still or would you cheat again?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 01:49 AM
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well isn’t that the fucked up truth. Do you think it’s always been like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 01:46 AM
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Oh I just noticed “Christpilled”. How is dating going for you? Don’t women find your voluntary celibacy unusual? How old are you? If you don’t mind me asking
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 10:39 PM
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RP sidebar? I wasn’t sure if that’s what you meant, is all
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 10:36 PM
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Makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 10:30 PM
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Got it. matches my assumption in a comment I just made.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 10:29 PM
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Guessing it’s how easy it is to get a woman to cheat. Or how quickly women can go from “love” to basically virulent hatred.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 10:27 PM
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False accusations - witnessed this happen to someone in my college, followed by full on violence and physical threats, sabotaging and destroying of property, led to the guy killing himself. After which it was found out the accusation was admitted false in court. Violence - never afraid of women’s violence but I’ve been physically assaulted by women/partners on more than one occasion and there was jack shit I could do about it. Punched, kicked, knives and plates hurled at me, even slashed my hand…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 10:24 PM
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What do you mean by light switch effect?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 10:13 PM
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So you think being blue pill is what led to them cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 10:09 PM
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I thought it was when a woman becomes attracted to the betabuxxer after she’s been an alpha-fucker. Like she has to have “rode the cock carousel” in order for that man to be a beta-bux that she’s decided to “settle” down with. Like you’re only a betabux if she wouldn’t have banged you in her 20s but now wants commitment & stability in her 30s. She can be attracted to him, but his most attractive feature is that of stability.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 10:06 PM
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I’ve been homeless before and some women found it hot. Something about “the struggle”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 10:04 PM
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your use of “the female” makes me laugh
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 10:02 PM
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Remove Virgin and you’ve opened up a lot of opportunities. Why does she need to be a virgin?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 10:00 PM
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On conservative societies? I don’t know. The effect of the modern dating scene on our current society is a growing number of dissatisfied and disillusioned men, and we may see men starting to “drop out” of society and stop contributing because they feel there is no purpose. A lot of men were raised to believe they would get a job, meet a woman, have a child, and that’s life. As they grew into the dating age they start to notice certain types of men are getting most of the women, and that most wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 02:21 AM
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How does what affect society? Men not getting what their taught to want?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 01:41 AM
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Men in conservative countries don’t need to worry about sleeping around because they marry a young woman and start a family. Their entire lifestyle is different and casual sex isn’t promoted or accepted unlike the West where it’s reinforced that promiscuity is desired and is normal. So lots of average men that may have otherwise found marriage sufficient to keep them happy in a totally different cultural context are now left to navigate our culture where neither marriage nor our societies praise…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 07:40 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 06:39 PM
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This is the secret that so many people here seem to ignore. Don’t chase things for women, improve yourself for your own sake. The goal shouldn’t be women. Women will inevitably show up as a result of you becoming the best version of yourself. Or, on a far different end of the spectrum - stop giving a shit about social norms and hierarchies and live life chaotically and hedonistically - live each day like it’s your last, have a blast, and stop giving a shit about what women or society expects fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 06:32 PM
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I hear ya. This is probably true. But that kick in the ass definitely needs to result in a change of attitude - which is what I think both of us are ultimately suggesting. And that shift in attitude should be backed by action or lifestyle that reflects it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 05:01 PM
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So then what’s your suggestion for men that can’t get laid or into relationships and are unhappy (with women)? To keep chasing tail and getting no where? Ya, life is short. & I’d be drunk right now if I took that sentiment literally. Instead I’m taking time away from alcohol and drugs and focusing my energy and effort elsewhere. In a year I’ll revisit and see if it’s what I want. Ofc if an opportunity comes up that’s too good to pass, like burning man or a trip to Mexico, I’ll get drunk or drop …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 04:32 PM
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So then what’s your suggestion for men that can’t get laid or into relationships and are unhappy (with women)? To keep chasing tail and getting no where? Ya, life is short. & I’d be drunk right now if I took that sentiment literally. Instead I’m taking time away from alcohol and drugs and focusing my energy and effort elsewhere. In a year I’ll revisit and see if it’s what I want. Ofc if an opportunity comes up that’s too good to pass, like burning man or a trip to Mexico, I’ll get drunk or drop …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 04:32 PM
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I didn’t mean for it to sound so negative, I get what you’re saying. I think if you have all major areas of your life sorted out then it makes sense to add that as a priority or desire. I just think a lot of guys would benefit from not worrying about women for a while. Like, if you’re not getting laid or getting what you want with women anyways, why not take a year to focus all your time and energy and effort into things you love and want to do? Can’t hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 04:09 PM
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the only time that sticks out in my memory it was two girls who started the conversation by comparing their onlyfans clientele and then went on to discuss dick size and how they were “size queens”. They were early 20s, incredibly shallow, vapid women. I can also only recall one ex talking to me about dick size beyond my own when she mentioned she was with someone in the past that had a micropenis and it never bothered her. I knew the guy and he’s happily married with kids so I don’t think dick s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 08:54 PM
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I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 03:30 PM
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I mean in the context of getting intimate it seems like it may work in your favor to have a disclaimer? So they aren’t taken aback by not meeting their idea of what a black mans dick is supposed to be like. I’m sorry you’ve had bad experiences, it must be really hurtful.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 03:12 AM
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No I’m not being sarcastic, I didn’t mean for it to sound that way. And no I haven’t really heard women talk well nvm yes I have heard women talk about dick size but they were also women I wouldn’t touch with a ten foot pole.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 02:59 AM
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What if you communicate beforehand? Aren’t there women that are open, kind, loving, and accepting towards you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 02:19 AM
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I’m serious…Have women openly shamed you? Or told you it’s a problem? If so that’s fucked
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 02:18 AM
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Like, why is it a problem if you don’t give a shit? I think is a better question.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 02:13 AM
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That’s how it is I guess. You’re maxing out and they want to ride the wave. I don’t think it necessarily is a charade if you end up liking one of the women that show up - as long as shes ADDING something to your life, even if that’s just appreciating her body, it’s something worth exploring. Problem would be if it IS a charade and you backslide and become “beta” as they say once she appears. And you half your progress. You gotta keep going your “own way” and the right one will follow, perhaps An…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 02:13 AM
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Yes :)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 01:59 AM
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Saw this post, who knows if it’s real. But her responses to people made her come off as an annoying person, so I’m sure body count was just icing on the cake. I will also say that at her age 22 or 23, 37 people IS a high number. And if I were 23 and had only had a few hook ups or relationships I would take that as a sign she’s incompatible. I liked how people actually responded by telling her she’s in the wrong for assuming men should accept her body count. Telling her stuff like now she’s gotta…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 12:01 AM
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What does one or society do to make these men less dangerous? What is the core issue that can be addressed by western civilization as a whole? And what type of danger do they present? Like mass shootings?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:56 PM
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How has this impacted your dating life? It’s gotta be more about confidence than women actually caring right?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:53 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:52 PM
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Curious, what would you label yourself? And if any, what wisdom do you have to share? Do you disagree with OP or do you just dislike OP?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:52 PM
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Maybe I don’t know enough of mgtow. My idea of it is you just stop worrying about/trying to actively pursue women and focus on what you want out of life. I’ve found that when I personally am doing what I want with life women just appear. Maybe that’s more red pill, but I think voluntary celibacy or at least harboring that attitude could go a long way with some men. Learning they don’t need women to be happy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:46 PM
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Same. Plus I’ve found women’s personality/interests often changes depending on how much she likes you, so it’s better to have the hotter girl mold her personality to match your energy than the quirky plain Jane who will end up doing the same anyways. I’m not saying they don’t keep their own, unique personality and perspective but I’ve found most women are like a mirror for the men they’re into - you like horror movies my guy? Omg, horror is her favorite genre! You’re into reading? She’d love to …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:41 PM
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This is the only way to date imo. Do things you’d enjoy without her there. And another important thing to remember is if you’re not having a good time, end the date. If she doesn’t look like her photos, split the check and bail. You’re not obligated to waste your time. And it doesn’t make you any less of a gentleman to respectfully end the engagement. My 2 cents
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:31 PM
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I think MGTOW is the way to go for a lot of people. And honestly, I bet the vast majority of men who actually MGTOW end up finding it’s easier to attract women after having done so; I have a feeling women will find their way into these men’s lives. It’s basically what most women are attracted to anyways - those who don’t live for validation and are satisfied with their life absence the obsessive need to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:28 PM
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I don’t understand what you’re trying to say here. Of course dating doesn’t need to be hard, but people’s idea of what is desirable in a partner and in the process of dating makes it hard; the majority of people subscribe to certain sets of socially accepted norms when it comes to dating so the majority of people are of course going to have similar problems when it comes to dating and the majority of advice will be on similar topics that the majority of daters experience as being a problem when …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 08:11 PM
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Share ass pic for all to see
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 02:49 AM
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Great response. Though I’d include “bad boys” with middle class and lower middle class. A lot of “good girls” like to get corrupted, or try to fix/save “bad boys”. I’d also include “artists/musicians” under the “bad boy” taxonomy, as they are basically a middle class “bad boy” variant.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 04:18 PM
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Not exactly. Of course getting laid once or twice will make them temporarily feel better, or wanted. But if they think happiness is found in line running a train on a hoe, they are bound to be disappointed. they should learn to be happy without women first. Not only will this attract more women, it will ensure they don’t develop unhealthy attachments to what pussy they are getting. I think putting pussy on a pedestal, whether you have it in abundance or get none, is a recipe for despair. Whateve…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 03:55 PM
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Definitely have different tastes haha if that were 500 pages about phenomenology or some other topic you’d probably find boring I’d be riveted, I dunno the last time I read fiction. Probably Ulysses by James Joyce while in college a little over 10 years ago. Wow, I should read some fiction…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 05:33 AM
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I find all things related to the occult fascinating and this one was pretty accessible. So definitely is for me :) I’d gladly give it to my Christian family to read, sheds some light on what “magic” really is. are you currently reading anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 04:46 AM
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I’ve known plenty of “feminists” who were slutty, so checks out Sorry you were cheated on, twice. Why didn’t you leave the first time?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 04:37 AM
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Transcendental Magic - It’s Doctrine and Ritual by Eliphas Levi published in 1896 It’s great, will definitely be reading it again and using as a reference.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 04:35 AM
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I’ll look into it tomorrow, & if possible will incorporate in the next design. Thanks for the suggestion. Will let you know
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 04:32 AM
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I play classical guitar so I literally have no idea what those are hah. What would you want in a new distortion pedal? I know the sounds I personally want, though this project including the pedals isn’t about the pedal as a product as much as it’s about showcasing a función of an FPAA chip in the design of pedals, so we’re marketing towards people that make or want to make their own pedals, not making them to sell ourselves if that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 03:10 AM
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I’ll see how it sounds tomorrow to determine if it’s a klon clone, but I don’t think it uses the same style tube-clipping looking at the waveforms
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 03:07 AM
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I don’t even know what a klon is so I don’t think it will be. I just want some special crunch that no one else has. This one we just made mimics a tube amplifier, is all I know about it. I should say they made, because I wasn’t involved in the design. I’m gonna research klon and not do that. Thanks for the input :)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 03:02 AM
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I finally finished a book I’ve been meaning to read. Also. I get to start designing a new [type of] guitar distortion pedal tomorrow for work and play around with one we’ve already made that hasn’t been tested yet. forgot to bring a cable in today. Will be neat, a 100% unique analog distortion effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 02:54 AM
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:)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 12:24 AM
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Former “bad boy” here, recently had a convo with someone from this sub about this. He basically was upset that he didn’t get the “hoe phase” that I got and only had girlfriend experiences. I think we often overlook the fact that in spite of getting more pussy, a “bad boy” isn’t necessarily happier than the guy with three or four LTRs and no other experience. I had to tell him that no amount of pussy can make you happy if you’re already unhappy, and there’s usually a price to pay for being a “bad…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 06:49 PM
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What does “unhappy in a mature way” look like though? I dunno how common this is but I imagine some variation of this is fairly common: rather than expressing the unhappiness to their partner directly and seeing if they can work through the issue together, they will say nothing about their unhappiness and start to look for reasons to start fights out of nowhere or slowly distance themselves from their partner intimately or emotionally, in an unconscious attempt at getting the partner to either a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 06:07 PM
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I think most people have “grass-is-greener” syndrome, and would rather take the selfish route, pursuing “happiness” without their partner (who they blame for their unhappiness) than reflect on themselves and put effort into maintaining their relationship. I don’t think n-count makes a difference - the same logic of “wants more dick” could be applied to a low n-count woman who yes, wants more, new dick, because she’s only had 2-3 partners. I’ve seen this happen plenty of times. People simply want…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 01:08 AM
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Can you provide an example of said behavior - accountable to what?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 12:20 AM
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What’s the cut off point of it not being shameful? Is it time - dating for 6 months vs 6 years?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 12:18 AM
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I like this response. But what is someone supposed to do if they are unhappy in a relationship while their partner is happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 12:16 AM
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When I had this issue I turned the tables and basically made the first date a quick 30 min meet up for coffee, often cut them short when I realized I didn’t care about anything they were saying or they looked any different than their photos suggested, and had multiple dates lined up for the week knowing they’d go that way. Then I’d have one date a week that I knew I could get laid because it was a meet up to drink date. I’d vet the women and before I knew I’d be on regular rotation of 2nd & 3rd …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 07:13 PM
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I feel like this must be due to the way you’re dating. I’ve been on both ends of the spectrum - next to no vetting beyond seeing if i was flirty/witty in text and just straight to an Airbnb with lsd and gin from there, to formal first dates after long periods of texting that felt like one long ass shit test and left me drained. Why it went in either direction was due to how I initially got to the first “date” in the first place. I don’t think women vet you as much if they think you’re hot. If yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 06:55 PM
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and it’s at-will employment so you can get fired at any time for any reason, and your employer will probably already be interviewing candidates for replacement or have one lined up before you’re let go
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 06:48 PM
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A.) I’ve never been able to tell. I just always assume 10+. B.) Depends on who I like the most, but it also depends on how high the n-count is. I guess 10 and it’s 20, sure. I guess 10 and it’s 75, I’d probably switch to the lower n-count, and be surprised at how bad I am at guessing n-count. I’ve never used the term n-count so many times, that was fun
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 01:50 AM
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I’m confused. What studies aren’t allowed here? can you dm me an example so I’m aware, in case I want to post something? Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 09:57 PM
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No not South America for surgery but for Ayahuasca. It’s pretty much guaranteed to change your perception on reality which is honestly all I feel you need to find your groove. My face is totally average if not SLIGHTLY above average but my physique (which I’ve put 10 years into) and my hobbies/takents (which I’ve been working on my whole life, is what’s attracted women to me - my being “different than other men” in many women’s words. I honestly don’t think your face matters much as long as your…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 05:48 PM
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Man I’m sorry about the depression. I wonder if certain things could enhance and overwrite your face, like getting Instagram model body (workout for like 4 years hardcore at least) plus get full sleeve of tattoos and pick up a new hobby that involves creativity like become a singer in a death metal band or something. Like I’m sure your average face (which is not bad imo) can be overruled by having above average hobbies and physique + working on your personality like how to be a genuinely confide…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 05:07 PM
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Ya I guess it helped my case that I was already confident in my ability to get women I was just over the whole process/effort required, especially since at that time I sobered up so dating was like a brand new experience for me and I fucking hate dating sober. Escorts helped me get over the discomfort I felt with being intimate with women and I would tell them that exactly: I got sober and am uncomfortable with women so you’re gonna help me be confident in my body again. Which naturally eventual…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 04:38 PM
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I dunno I consider that a hoe phase. I used to have it set up to where I had 3 dates a week with different women, wouldn’t even try to sleep with them on the first date or even second date unless they was explicitly suggested before meeting up, and also had no intention of being in a relationship with any of them, but vaguely left at “ultimately I’m looking for someone to be with,” which wasn’t false but was definitely misleading. Either way, eventually I’d sleep with one, then the next, then th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 04:07 PM
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Heyy I think I have those same Nikes! Sounds like you’ve tried it al. I don’t see what’s wrong with your face, but I’m not a girl. You have strong bone structure/jawline and that’s pretty masculine to me. I personally developed close relationships with the escorts I saw and ended up befriending many of them, hanging out off the clock, not needing to pay to chill and so drugs and what-not I dunno what to tell you, maybe it’s your attitude that needs to shift. If you’re so hyper-convinced you’re n…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 03:27 PM
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I understand, I’m just saying myself and many others - both men and women - are left unhappy, or worse off than before, from sleeping around. A lot of people are cool with it or even love it, but I personally crave a deeper, emotional bond now that I’ve experienced that in more serious relationships. Have you considered escorts? Have you tried the bar scene? Or party scene - like festivals, after-burns or burning man type things, house raves, etc..? Or what about sex clubs or more sex positive s…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 03:04 PM
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For you personally, do you do the same routine with girls you’d consider dating? Ie take them out to dinner, back to your place, spend the night? Cause that’s already a lot of intimacy, I personally don’t let women stay the night unless they absolutely have to (ie drank - but even then I can pay for an uber) or we’re in a relationship. I think it’s too intimate and leads to attachment too fast. Hence why some may think you’re pump & dumping. For this reason I prefer going back to their place so …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 02:26 PM
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Then what’s right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 12:00 PM
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Right, I had a hoe phase and it was incredibly depressing and unsatisfying. Even if it were a FWB, which I had regularly for a long ass time, it’s not the same as being loved and in love. I
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 07:30 AM
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Also I think 7 women by 29 is not bad at all. 7 relationships is better than 20 ons imo
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 05:25 AM
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Interesting. I dunno what to say. They confuse me and I’ve never understood why it’s been easy when it’s easy and hard when it’s been hard. I’m 33 now I definitely feel like dating has changed a lot for me in the last 5 years. I’m starting to date again after a few years single and in an “undatable” place by my standards (mental health, financially, etc m….), and I’ve still had some hook ups randomly happen - but they all started as work related friendships. OLD I’ve had some success but nothing…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 05:12 AM
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Yes, I’ve been told I’m handsome/attractive/hot. But I’m definitely not Chad level hot, maybe physique-wise now. But when I was most promiscuous I was out of shape. drug addict thin. I think I provided an archetypal thing for them. I’ve always been a pretty creative guy and I think once women got to know me intimately and see my talents they grew attracted to me. I really don’t think it was always a looks thing. I’m sorry you’ve had experiences with rejection in this realm. Women really are conf…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 03:03 AM
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I dunno why I’m getting downvoted due to my own personal experience. “Oops, drinking,” is just a blanket excuse I’m using, but every female friend I’ve had that I drank with I’ve ended up hooking up with, and as I was an alcoholic for many years this meant that I was constantly drinking, no matter who I was with, so “one thing led to another” often enough for me to recognize I can’t have women as friends, one of us is always attracted to the other. Have you tried to “make moves” on these women o…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 02:46 AM
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I can see the appeal, I just find being around people motivating and it’s nice having familiar faces as I don’t go out to bars anymore and I can work remotely so the gym is essentially my only social outlet right now. Will be changing that by joining meet up groups since I just moved but until then I need the brief nods of recognition and conversation from other regulars to keep my sanity
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 02:29 AM
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Ya you’ll be advanced soon enough. I didn’t start seriously lifting until I was 23. Then I really hit it hard for 4-5 years. Then I was traveling m and relapsed partied hard for years and I’ve slowly gotten back into going daily this last year. I’m 33 now. It hasn’t taken long to catch up and I’ve actually seen improvements in some lifts like incline bench, but I can’t deadlift anywhere near what I used to, that will take a while as generally I add by 5-10lb on either side increments per week. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 02:24 AM
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Damn, ya I avoid caffeine unless it’s pre-workout and I’m actually going to the gym. I actually use that as part of my motivation. Once I drink it it’s either jitters and anxiety or working out. Are you happy at your current weight? I see it says obesity pill as your flair Edit to add: I’m a monster with drugs and always have been. Massive doses of everything tend to do just fine in my system. But I’m also an addict/alcoholic in recovery so that’s probably played a large role in my wild drug con…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 01:27 AM
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I was in Colorado previously and it was about 50/50 at the hours I would go, and the women there were HOT. And they were all nice too. I don’t know what it was but that location in particular was the cool gym or something. Probably helped it was $10/month for basic membership. But there were basically 50/50 men/women with half of the women being Instagram model type. Busty, incredible asses, actually in great shape (with little notebooks tracking their progress), all of them in there for well ov…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 01:23 AM
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I banged this girl in college whose roomie I had slept with a week before, I was so drunk I didn’t know which room was which and went into the wrong room and ended up sleeping with this girl. Long story short I didn’t know her name when running into her a week later at a bar and she straight up kicked me in the balls, and like a cartoon I just kinda floated an inch off the ground from the impact for a second and then she called me an asshole and such. She was kinda chubby, I later recalled I was…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 01:15 AM
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Technically you can say Australia, then Turkey for the same girl. She happened to be going to Australia the same time as me so I got her number, started seeing her here, she left for Australia, I left a week later, we met up in Tasmania, we fell in love, fast forward 5 months and I had to come back to the US, fast forward a month we decided long distance sucks so we should meet in Turkey (her going from AUS me from USA) and travel there for 6 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 01:03 AM
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Do you find that matters in dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 12:57 AM
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Oh ya, well I recently quit one drug, and started a medication. As well as being curious about the difference in salvia strengths. It’s a wild hallucinogen, I have a lot of respect for that plant and used to use it regularly like 10 years ago, I just never tried 80x extract (80 times stronger than regular plant leaf) and can’t imagine it’s a comfortable experience. regular plant leaf, if you fully disassociate, is an intense and indescribable experience & every trip is unique. 80x seems a little…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 12:42 AM
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I just want to get my deadlift back up to where it was at my peak (435lb while I weighed 180lb) and be comfortable with the 100lbers for incline, say get it up to eight reps. Get my squat back up to 4 sets of 285 x10. And get my pull ups about half of what I used to do (I used to be able to knock out over 300 in 30 min). I’m not trying to bulk tremendously, keep my weight around 190, I just like physically challenging myself and I find exercise is really useful when you quit drugs/alcohol. Event…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 12:38 AM
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I’ve been doing this a while tho. Just haven’t tried to make gains for ages and have been ramping up with a new workout routine instead of just maintenance. But ya it’s the highest I’ve ever gone :)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 12:01 AM
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Yes, well I use pre workout. So creatine.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 11:59 PM
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Small scale bad stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 11:51 PM
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How do you all get flairs below your names in this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 11:44 PM
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Each arm
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 11:42 PM
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I got my incline bench up to 100 lb dumbbells today for a set of 5 after doing 8 sets of increasing weight and decreasing reps. And I’m 6 days clean from a substance I liked too much. Yay
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 11:16 PM
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Depends on the conscious level of the shit test imo. How aware is she of shit-testing and with what frequency or boldness is it initiated? Like is it a shit test that you can actually respond lightly to and make a joke about or is it something that puts you in a compromising situation forcing you to “pass” - probably bad examples, but too strong of a shit test would be something that forces you to “act like a man” like starting shit in public to get a strong reaction out of you vs a light shit t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 11:04 PM
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What obvious reasons? People drink together and sleep together all the time. It used to be my main form of functioning lol and I don’t think you can’t be friends with someone just because either of you have hooked up. Plenty of women I befriended that led to hook ups and back to just friendships as we learned we’re more compatible as friends. But I also think your point about male friendship is really valid, I have a handful of male friends that I grow closer with each year and some I’ve fostere…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 09:08 PM
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I think masculinity and femininity can even shift within a person based on their environment, in some situations they will appear or act more masculine and some more feminine regardless of gender, on top of traditional or broad views of what it actually means to be either, it’s definitely a spectrum and at times fluid. I wouldn’t say I’ve ran into trouble but I’ve definitely shattered expectations or been in situations or conversations where “masculine” things that are expected of me do not appl…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 08:51 PM
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I’ve always had female friends too. But I’ve always hooked up with them…have you never “oops, had too much to drink,” with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 02:12 PM
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Of every woman I’ve known well enough to know this, excluding a handful, they’ve slept with more people than me. And this includes every woman I’ve slept with so who knows how many. I think it depends where you grew up. Cause in Southern California, women get promiscuous at a young age and I don’t see it stopping as I get older. If anything they become more promiscuous as they “find themselves” except those that got married and even then many are in open relationships…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 10:43 AM
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Haha no….I meant hair types that are categorized like that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 06:47 AM
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Oh, didn’t even know there was such a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 05:31 AM
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Same. Would be more interesting. How can you tell it content is moderated? Does it show “comment deleted”? Or do things disappear entirely?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 05:31 AM
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They wouldn’t ban you for telling me why you were banned, would they? That’s ridiculous. I’m very curious now
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:13 AM
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I don’t understand. What’s even being censored? Isn’t this the place for uncensored discussion of these topics? Isn’t that the whole point of PPD?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:09 AM
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What was the topic?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:08 AM
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What is 2C hair?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:05 AM
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I feel like someone should create a “pill” that is about maximizing attraction from the opposite gender ethically. I have no idea what that looks like though, as once you understand human nature more, see different levels of awareness in people, which also shifts according to time/place, in particular with women/seduction, it’s hard not to go to the “dark side”. I think I did this when I was younger and read some red pill blogs (which I remember little about beyond taking what they said to heart…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 02:44 AM
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I think what he’s getting at is that women seek “chemistry” in ways more than sexual compatibility but use sex in addition to dating to filter out who provide them with the feels. Men create chemistry by learning “game” and being alluring to women, giving them novelty and excitement with the prospect or potential for romance in addition to excitement. Men generally attach sex to relationships whereas women attach sex and intimacy to chemistry. Hence why they sleep with guy Alpha on date one and …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 05:25 PM
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Totally, when I had experience with who I learned was a diagnosed BPD I was an actively drinking alcoholic. So while at the time I felt like woe is me, I had to eventually accept I walked confidently into that situation like I wouldn’t come out hurt in the end, having known her and her behavior for years prior to investing in a relationship with her. I do think many men and women are just too inexperienced with relationships to know when they know what boundaries are being crossed look like. So …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 05:13 PM
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Yeah, and that’s where men generally need to step in and re-activate chemistry. Which a lot of men attempt to do once it’s too late and she’s already left the relationship mentally. Because she never initiated and took steps to do so herself when she started to feel dissatisfied. I think generally men are very easy to please and so forget that their partners want more, so become complacent in some way and stop exciting their partners. Or they give themselves too much emotionally to their partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 05:00 PM
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Yes it’s a total, often ridiculous, double standard that “feminist” men will fight to their nice-guy graves in the name of women over. A hill they are willing to sacrifice themselves on that women wouldn’t think twice of doing in the name of men. And it is totally insane men who want both men and women to be happier are vilified for even wanting to dialogue with men and women about this stuff openly. I used to date a feminism major at an all women’s college and boy would we get into arguments. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 04:56 PM
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Yeah, there are many factors at play; it’s truly amazing the impact capitalism (take this drug, buy this idea, sell this part of yourself, etc…money) is having on the sexual marketplace - the fact we call dating a sexual marketplace is a tell-all. Culture has definitely shifted due to adopting a feminist narrative and men responding accordingly, producing a literal market of men who are simply a target demographic for ideas, that women are largely responsible for pushing under the domain of “equ…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 04:46 PM
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Yeah, I think I’m confusing intimacy with chemistry as they are the same to me - I won’t be intimate with someone I have no “chemistry” with, though my understanding of chemistry is it can be practiced/developed ie you can fabricate chemistry initially and have it develop into intimacy/love ie going from hook up to bf/gf and that’s just how dating works - you can actively make chemistry happen as a man whereas a woman generally needs to “feel chemistry” if that makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 04:39 PM
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Yes, exactly on the first sentence. I have no idea how young men go about dating. I can’t even count how many young women I’ve met with onlyfans accounts and in open relationships. I’ve been invited to be the 3rd so many times it’s ridiculous. Seems like a lot of young women expect to have everything, including commitment/love AND hook up/fun on the side. And it seems like more men are open to this now as well. Or more open about being open to it. Times have changed a lot over the last decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 04:35 PM
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For sure. I also don’t believe they aren’t without their own unique struggles in navigating dating and love. I think they’ve been sold various illusions over the years just like men and need to learn alongside us how best to treat one another as we search for and obtain or cherish love etc I’m in a way in a final stage of “grief” when it comes to my relationship with the concept of love and women as a whole, outside of my last relationship ending, and why and how, and how to use what I’ve learne…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 04:32 PM
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For sure I’m not trying to say they don’t either. I think ultimately most do. But when they give up the key component of relationships - intimacy - so absurdly, ie for black out drunk me vs sober me (while they are sober themselves), it’s just a very confusing experience. I can’t unsee or undo what I’ve seen and done and all experiences point towards women desiring a relationship but being very open to making “mistakes” ie hooking up with the bad boy and giving the asshole a chance over the “nic…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 04:19 PM
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Yea, it’s taken me a long time to learn both how to have boundaries and how not to push past others boundaries and respect them. Or, how to understand what someone’s boundaries SHOULD BE and not going beyond that. Not sure how to explain that beyond in certain relationships I was able to get women to do or desire sexual things that I later learned were probably ultimately detrimental to their mental health and so I shouldn’t go there. Not saying I’m a sociopath or monster more that I ignorantly …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 04:15 PM
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I think this is solid advice but when it comes to psychopathy and related behavioral disorders (in effect on the partner/victim, which one could even argue is both parties in a way, one being a victim to their psychology) like BPD & NPD is that you simply can’t tell they are sociopaths or whatever until it’s too late or you’re emotionally invested. You can have all the proper boundaries and they will find a way to break them down.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 03:44 PM
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True, you can’t un-hear it so may as well learn what you can. I just think a celebrity relationship is so far from anything most of us will experience in terms of status and social life that there isn’t much takeaway beyond “they are human too”.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 03:38 PM
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Final anecdote: When I was seeing escorts I befriended a few I was regulars with who told me I could either pay and be a client or not pay and be their friend. So I stopped paying and became their friends. They revealed so much to me about men AND women it was a really wonderful experience. But even they required some level of “game” and due to their lifestyle were the greatest people to party with. They were down for anything and I would go on the loveliest of acid or coke and drinking binges w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 03:25 PM
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I agree 100 percent with what you’re saying. It has been proven without a doubt that women on these apps are just horny and it’s all about timing. None are actually looking to put effort into building a relationship - see, conversation. Instead whats worked best to actually get them on a date is direct, flirty, quick escalation and most importantly timing. Even a stark difference between me replying in the morning vs the evening. This is how I weed out those I know aren’t actually looking for a …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 03:25 PM
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Ya that’s why I said she somehow managed to cheat. Like, given literally any option in the world she ofc chooses one of the few you probably shouldn’t sleep with. How this info gets out is beyond me too. And why we even care. They are people too with personal lives we know nothing about. I’m glad I stay away from the news & this is the first celebrity thing I’ve heard since…I think the Louis c.k. ordeal. Many years ago. I think focusing attention on other people’s lives like this isn’t good for …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 02:34 PM
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How’d you learn this? Is this common knowledge?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 02:18 PM
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It’s silly cause I’m handsome, really in incredible shape, so great physique, acknowledged as “hot” even by some PPD people when I shared a photo the other day, have a decent job title, am really talented when it comes to guitar and artistic activities, but I got this feeling with OLD that every thing I said had to be perfect. And once I said one thing that was “beta” (just the best broad term to use I can think of) I was outed cause there’s 100 other guys in line. I was told on hinge subreddit …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 02:16 PM
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I just learned a few things: pineapple symbolizes swinging and will smith is in an open relationship AND somehow his wife managed to cheat when she had the freedom to be in an open relationship AND somehow this upset will smith AND the media of course is eating up his likely staged response. It’s Hollywood. You don’t know what’s actually happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 02:08 PM
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Oh I just learned something new. I love info like this. So a pineapple is a symbol of being a swinger?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 02:02 PM
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Funny you mention him in particular as he’s the only guy I remember reading 10 years ago. I thought he had some good articles on how to handle break ups but I don’t remember much else from his blog in particular. I don’t see how anyone could read or write or preach that stuff for 15 years. There can’t be THAT much information to digest. I recall one other blogger that went by the name Shark, and he’s the one that really changed my view on it all. He wrote for like 2 years and had an ebook he sol…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 01:57 PM
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That makes sense from a marketing perspective. After all what they offer has to get page views, hook the reader in (average male disgruntled by dating/relationships), lead them to wanting to consume more material, hopefully result in them buying an ebook. I remember after reading and realizing as I was reading The Rational Male for about 6 months it could all be learned in a single post and his only worthwhile material was on how to handle a breakup. Some other TRP blogs were pretty gnarly if I …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 06:24 AM
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I kinda always knew it was like that, but I also knew there were different types of “Chad” that one could become based on their talents or own unique persona. Like in my early twenties when I was a skinny drugged out alcoholic I learned quickly I could be an “artsy Chad” I mean I didn’t call it that at the time but I fit an archetypal image and played off it with great success - the lone wolf artist alcoholic. Eventually I got into fitness and focused on career and became a different type of Cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 04:28 AM
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For me personally my biggest lesson has been humility. The universe is still humbling me. But I’ve been through a lot. Not just with women, but life in general. I’m in my early 30s now and just really starting to understand what processing trauma means. Take one example of a multitude: long story short, I first really attempted to quit drinking at age 23, had seizures and was hallucinating from delirium tremens while driving, totaled my car in the center of the freeway (luckily hitting no one, j…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 02:15 AM
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Ah i see. I seem to have picked up in the notion that people think red pill = anti-women, not involuntary celibacy, which actually probably is what leads people to TRP so I can see why they are saying that now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 09:49 PM
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I treat my objects, except certain books and instruments and my vehicle (for the most part), like objects. To be used and discarded. But I get your point. I’d rather be treated how I treat my gypsy jazz guitar than how most people treat each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 09:26 PM
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It seems like a lot of people in these subs comment sections are actually just pretty experienced in dating/relationships and seem interested in the subject. But I haven’t been around too long so we’ll see
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 05:47 PM
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I thought an incel was someone who hated women. Isn’t red pill about learning to navigate dating & relationships? So not hating women but loving them for who they are, not hating their behavior or general nature but being aware of what it is so you can have happy, healthy relationships? I honestly don’t know much about red pill anymore but what I remember reading is stuff by The Rational Male about break ups like ten years ago and seemed like pretty solid advice he was giving men
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 05:46 PM
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It doesn’t seem like anyone has a solid understanding of what red pill teaches or who it’s aimed for. I feel like my MANY experiences with women solidify a lot of red pill theory, and I’ve fought tooth and nail to believe otherwise, but it’s just not the nature of the phenomenon I’ve experienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 05:19 PM
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I’m not angry about it in particular, as it tells me based on my experiences with women I’m probably or have been in the top 20% of men at one point in my life. I think anger comes from the fact that it makes no sense for a lot of women to be dating the men they choose. Take me, for example, who’s never really had difficulty meeting women if I’m being honest, but when I have entered relationships or found hook ups with the most frequency is when I was generally being a really toxic person, ie ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 02:33 PM
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Thing is, you can seduce women. I used to actively practice this nonsense and it worked. But it isn’t my natural personality and getting frequently laid required in my case to be constantly drunk. I too don’t understand how or why I’ve attracted the women I have that have fallen in love with me outside of exactly shad you list: personality, intelligence, and humor. I’m not a particularly funny person but once my sense of goofiness is realized I can make women laugh, when I’m drunk I’m apt to wax…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 01:43 AM
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Ah I see
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 07:52 PM
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I’ve literally been in the situation where the girl got pregnant, the method of birth control we used was her choice, her inability to follow through with it was her choice and responsibility, and the decision to have the abortion was 100% her choice, and yes the decision to have sex was mutual as we were in a loving, long term relationship. But the amount of “it’s her body, her choice” bullshit I had to go through proved to me I had no say in the matter. I supported whatever decision she made b…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 07:42 PM
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Yes there is because there is a huge difference between having a child vs having sex and the repercussions that come with that choice to have the child or not for both parties. But whatever you’re ignoring his original point hence ignoring mine so ya think what you will
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 06:51 PM
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Lol not once pregnant, is the whole point of op comment I was replying to argument . It is ONE HUNDRED PERCENT the woman’s choice to have the child. You simply cannot disagree with this fact. It is this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 06:27 PM
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It’s one persons power, the woman’s, once the first step to have sex is mutually chosen. And even then it’s the women’s power to provide the sex otherwise it’s rape. When pregnant it is solely the woman’s power to veto the choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 05:54 PM
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For sure. I think everyone should exercise. I try to get all my friends into it. Especially if they are going through any rough or transitory times. I think one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves is the enjoyment of physical activity and learned discipline of any form of exercise. But I think certain forms of weightlifting, gymnastics, CrossFit, or calisthenics including parkour and yoga are superior to, say, walking. But even the simple act of walking, hiking in particular, is great fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 05:37 PM
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How so? I thought cheating was having sexual relations with anyone not your partner. Not having loads of the opposite sex attracted to you…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 05:34 PM
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Yes either one can choose not to have sex but in today’s society only one can choose to keep the child that potentially results from the risk that is mutually taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 05:33 PM
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Ya, I get what you’re saying and I think it goes with the point I was trying to make, that we can objectively be the “wrong” choice by all observable means, but what matters most is in what way(s) we are the right choice for our partner. In the case of me and my drug addict friends who they are as a human and their soul is more important to the women that love them than their quantifiable qualifications. I know many women who will choose the broke artist over the wealthy lawyer simply because on…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 05:30 PM
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Seriously, my most flawed friends and even in my experience when I’ve been in some of the most rough places in my life have shown me that women will definitely date “lesser than” men. But you gotta keep in mind that while the men may be a mess and the women have their shit together, the men are “hot” to these women for whatever reason. And they love them almost more for their flaws. I’m mostly talking about my drug addict/alcoholic friends who all somehow have hot wives with decent jobs and fami…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 04:29 PM
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All it took was my ex saying she wanted an abortion. Then scheduled an appointment. Then we walked in, and they asked her if I was allowed to be there. Then she signed papers and talked to the doctor for 10 minutes. Then she was given pills. And it was done. They actively try to not let men in on the decision making process at these clinics themselves. It was looked down upon that I was there to support her decision, like I was the one making her do it. When it was entirely her choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 04:11 PM
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I think his point is that with access to abortion ultimately women have choice over reproduction. I know from personal experience there isn’t much you can say to change a woman’s mind nor is there any point in somehow “forcing” her to keep the child. It would result in resentment not only in the relationship but of the mother to child itself and cause more issues long term. Men can get their tubes tied and some do, but they are in the minority. Otherwise it is the woman’s choice. “Her body, her …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 04:08 PM
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So you consider “back up boyfriends” or let’s just be frank, a lot of “male friends”, as emotional cheating? I personally have never been able to maintain a friendship with a woman no matter what her looks were, but also would never be friends with a girl I wouldn’t consider booking up with in the first place, so I can see this line of logic…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 04:02 PM
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Actual escorts in major cities are definitely not ugly and a lot are definitely not cheap. You can find some who have websites with “weekend getaway packages” for $10k. But generally a $300/hr (well this was 5-7 years ago I dunno about anymore) chick was way hotter than any you’d snag on tinder. Go to Mexico and prices + level of attractiveness is so absurd it would make no sense not to use “strippers” services. For like $100 you can have two of the most beautiful 21 year olds you’ve ever seen i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 03:19 PM
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I got laid more when I didn’t work out. And I was also very unhappy. I mean, I’m still unhappy. But now I have a part of my day I enjoy no matter what that isn’t drinking or using drugs. For me it’s more about discipline and reflection of living a healthy lifestyle. It also does wonders for confidence and gaining respect pretty much instantly when I walk in a room simply due to my physique/noticeable presence. All that being said, working out never was about getting women, it was about health fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:38 AM
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Depending on his age I’d tell him “Good luck,” and mean it sarcastically or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 08:11 AM
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Yes ODs are scary I’ve been there and lost friends to it. That’s what kept me away from heroin. But my dumb ass thought pills were different. I’ve posted too much of my story elsewhere in this thread but I’m glad you’re clean now. Once I’m done with subs I’m done with drugs for life. If it takes me two years to get my shit together on subs, I’m prepared for the hell to pay at the end of the line as I’ve already beat a 3 year daily sub habit 10 years ago. I know what it’s like. Which is why I als…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 12:25 AM
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I don’t have one
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 09:35 PM
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True, I should’ve been more clear. RP makes it easy to get laid. And I find that’s generally the goal for most guys seeking RP advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 09:34 PM
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See reply to other person. I’ve been in a cycle of opioids, kratom, alcohol, kratom, opioids, kratom, alcohol, kratom, etc…for 6 years now. I’ve managed to only have a few short alcohol relapses the last 3 years, but the rest of the time I was drinking 80-100grams of kratom per day plus extracts. It became worse than my opioid addictions. So I’m going back on subs. I’ve been through sub withdrawal before and I’m prepared for that to be a journey in and of itself when the time comes. But for now …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 09:29 PM
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Depends. I like people that text me a lot. I mean paragraphs. Cause I like to ramble. It’s probably a dumb idea for new relationships or dating tho. Short and sweet and super direct or vague/aloof is probably the way to go
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 08:41 PM
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I quit a drug I’ve been addicted to for 5-6 years and have started MAT (medication assisted treatment). Which I’ve done successfully in the past. I hope once these initial stages of withdrawal are over I can start a new stage of growth in my life that’s long-lasting. I have all the tools available for success at my disposal and have come to a place of acceptance and taken responsibility for the impact of this final, major, most destructive addiction in my life. Wish me luck as I progress on this…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 08:37 PM
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Exactly. And I’m not saying we all don’t have flaws or that that’s a bad thing if we do. The whole point of the initial stages of love, relationships, or just seduction and hook ups, is getting to know the positive aspects of someone else, or their archetypal presence & what they represent, and whether or not when the bad things come out their good qualities are worth dealing with alongside their flaws. The older we get and the more life tends to wreck us, the more baggage we all have. It become…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 08:30 PM
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Yes. RP = casual sex. The methods are pretty obvious too. Make yourself a desirable ONS. That can be boiled down to: Physique & style + charisma/confidence/aura = get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:08 PM
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I think they are lying to themselves or haven’t actually been with a super hot cunt. Some women are so toxic no amount of beauty can take away from the fact that they are just vile to be around. Often though this is learned a little late into the relationship as initially beauty overshadows their personality flaws and this is where men get themselves into trouble and end up stuck in BPD or abusive relationships. The attraction level is so high initially one can’t see the subtleties of abuse or m…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:03 PM
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I have met a few women at cafes so can confirm. It helped when I was a regular. Otherwise, generally, a smile is just a smile.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:50 AM
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Every girl I’ve met in classes that was introverted turned out to be very sexually experienced once they were drinking alone and opened up/slept with me (both community college & college-college). But I was also college-aged then so probably picked up on or put out a certain vibe to attract them. Maybe times have changed but I found introverted chicks to be more dtf than outgoing girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:49 AM
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Seriously I’m a little blown away at how awesomely interesting this comment is.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 02:15 AM
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This was such an interesting comment. Great read. Very convincing. Thanks for writing that out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 02:13 AM
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What’s WAW?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 10:59 PM
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Every woman I befriended I ended up sleeping with minus coworkers. And even then coworkers ended up wanting to hook up. So I’ve learned I can’t be friends with women. I don’t really have friends in general though so it’s not just women, I’m just a very solitary and hermetic person. I have 3-4 very close male friends and that’s it. 3 of which I’ve known since as early as preschool. I do have some positive distant acquaintanceships with Ex gfs, otherwise I’m just not very interested in having wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 05:11 PM
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Weird how the tables have turned in some ways; it could also be that power corrupts regardless of gender. I’ve been in situations where I felt incredibly uncomfortable and my immediate thought was that “if this were reversed I could probably sue for sexual harassment” ie if I did that to a woman at work - like your ass grabbing scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 03:06 PM
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Ya wow that sounds like high school level drama and nonsense. “You’re a bitch anyways,” I think is a common “nice guy” response to rejection online nowadays , so maybe some things will never change…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:47 AM
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Funny about the Facebook race to the top. I remember when MySpace came out I was in high school and my buddy and I had a bet who could get 100 women friends the fastest. I won by like 1 woman ahead of him. I ended up meeting my second girlfriend on MySpace and hooked up with a few girls from that 100 women group. My buddy lost his virginity to one of those 100 women he added. We were like 16 at the time. It was considered strange but more exciting to meet up with girls, cause now we had access t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:43 AM
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Can you provide examples of sexism in the work place? I basically only know from the movies what this may have looked like, as in my experience as a millennial I’ve seen almost the opposite of the sexism I imagine you went through. Where I have women openly commenting on my muscles, asking me to lift things up for them unnecessarily, commenting on my physique in subtly sexual ways, grabbing my arms and asking me to flex, etc…this happened in more warehouse environments that were oddly dominated …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:25 AM
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I’m a manchild by these definitions, right now, but I haven’t always been, and I won’t always be. to many women I’ve been a hot tortured artist/musician/writer. To some I’ve been an alcoholic. To some I’ve been the life of the party. To some I’ve been the most disciplined, hard working man they’ve met that also climbed the corporate ladder. To some a genius. To some a madman. To some I had no ambition. Etc It’s all perspective and fluctuates according to MY whim and circumstances both in and out…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 02:21 AM
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Sadly in my experience this is 100% true. But it has a lot to do with HOW these emotions are expressed not necessarily having them. Like saying I’m depressed and her responding with some level of understanding is far different than me actually acting on my depression and her being repulsed by my expression of it. One can learn to be vulnerable and express weaknesses but they best be overshadowed by your good qualities and seen as things you’ve triumphed over rather than continually deal with. No…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 08:59 PM
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The universe does work in weird and wonderful ways, and I’ve often felt directed by a greater Architect throughout the process - some of my alcohol benders landed me in the most absurdly profound situations and meeting just the right people for the right reasons at the right time; I’ve often been at the eye of a perfect storm and felt I’ve played a strange wayfarers role in people’s lives. I am definitely, probably, on the spectrum. Which is why alcohol is so appealing to me - it makes social en…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 11:38 PM
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I think it must. I slept with a handful of women who had children. And how they handled it was always different. Some would introduce me others I straight up told I want nothing to do with your child. I think it effects children the most in the sense that the moms energy is placed on the men they are sleeping with more than raising their child in a safe, loving environment. Or causes the child to be reared more by the father. Which probably has some effect
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 07:10 PM
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I can definitely affirm this to be true. When I was at my mentally illest stage in my life in my college years I was incredibly promiscuous. And those with whom I was hooking up with were all crazy as hell too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:09 PM
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Yes I once was involved in AA and will try to find a good home group again. The accountability is nice. But I disliked the religiosity of the Big Book, not so much the idea of God or Spirituality being necessary but the notion that the answer only lies in the big book and doing the 12 steps. I’ve completed the 12 steps before and can see doing so useful again with a proper sponsor, but there is a lot of unchecked mental illness and unhealthy people in AA that really do the program a disfavor. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:01 PM
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Thanks. I realllllllly struggle with sobriety. I’m the kind that drinks then literally does not stop except when asleep. From the first pint of vodka at 8am to the fifth of whiskey at 8 pm. My tolerance becomes godlike within days of my binges. I’ve blown .5 something having a standard conversation with a dr when I needed Librium to quit (which I’ve done a hundred times now). Maybe not 100. But too many to count. Drinking just takes ahold of me. And it alters my personality so much that I become…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 03:33 AM
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Lol yes. But goddamn these cravings…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 11:41 PM
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I’ve never really thought about getting published seriously - I always assumed I would be eventually, likely after I died. I did have some of my art/video/writing content as part of a graduate studies curriculum at one point - like, I was required reading. But that’s a story in and of itself. I also published poetry a few times when I was younger. I feel like I could write a sorta Bukowski meets Kafka meets Burroughs meets Thompson meets Mallarme meets Blake meets Swedenborg meets Nerval meets J…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 08:11 PM
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Will definitely look into it as hypnagogic phenomena have long been an issue I’ve dealt with. Even my earliest memories are of vivid nightmares/hallucinations
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 05:56 PM
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Haha ya I can write pretty well when I put my mind to it. My Reddit voice is far different than my author or scholar voice. I wouldn’t know where to submit this. I have plenty of stories that would make good articles. Like when I was kidnapped in Mexico. Or raided by the FBI (and all that came after, including Informant stuff like having a fucking codename). Or when the police broke my back after I had seizures and assaulted 6 officers, or when they beat me to unconsciousness in solitary confine…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 05:10 PM
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I meant I’ve been cast in porn not paid to cast porn, should’ve been more clear. It was a birthday gift for myself - I wanted to see what the experience was like. You fill out a form with consent and a checklist of what you’re willing to do that goes from pose naked to absurdly specific acts and fetish bdsm stuff. Then they ask you to get semi erect and a hot chick comes in and you either start doing stuff with her or say you’re only comfortable taking photos solo then they say they will call yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 04:57 PM
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Interesting, never considered that. I thought narcolepsy is when you randomly fall asleep throughout the day
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 04:52 PM
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Or why a part of you feels like prey, and your friend (or that aspect of you) a victim to nature. But I’m no psychologist. It’s more likely meaningless as you said you just watched a video on related phenomena
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 04:51 PM
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Interesting, if I were a Jungian dream analyst I would look into the meaning of the Tiger, what a waterfall could symbolize, and what aspect of your psyche this friend represents
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 04:09 PM
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I believe that, but I’ve definitely matched with a few that aren’t. I live in a beach city so bikini attire is the norm
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 03:56 PM
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I’m pretty used to night terrors and weird as hell lucid dreams. Nightly, for my entire life. But sleep paralysis and the entities that appear when i have it are unlike any terror I can put into words. Very unsettling and annoying. Makes me question my sanity. Had to reality check myself multiple times last night to ensure I wasn’t still in dream. Cause I was having sleep paralysis dream within a dream situation going on. Do you recall your dreams? I write mine down every morning cause they are …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 03:55 PM
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Ya that’s what I’m saying tho, that level of “amateur modeling” isn’t really anything to brush an eye at. It’s if that chick extends her modeling career into onlyfans and more where I’d cross the line. I live in California and literally every other tinder account is a pic of a girl in a thong, which I imagine she posts on her Instagram. It’s just normal nowadays so there’s not much to say about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 03:48 PM
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I said 5 cause she’s just average looking chick but I see where you’re coming from. Her face is kinda scary. Show is funny as hell tho
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 03:45 PM
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I had sleep paralysis all night last night. Horrendous demonic night terrors. Then this morning in the calm sunlight I felt what I thought to be the foot of my ex and my heart warmed and I rolled over to kiss her and woke up and realized damn I’m still not over her.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 03:41 PM
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If the girl I date gets paid millions of dollars to stand around naked I’d be ok with it. But if she’s on casting call $1000 orgy videos I’ll pass. I’ve done porn casting myself and the pay rates for certain things are absurd, ofc male is less $ except gay stuff, but some places really get away with paying a handful of cash to these innocent young broads to get fucked into no tomorrow. In ways you wouldn’t ever want to know your chick was involved in. So soft core Instagram thotness just comes w…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 03:38 PM
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Well I relapsed last week so about 100. But now I’m back to 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 03:32 PM
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5
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 03:31 PM
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I’ve been to plenty of strip clubs as a male and I got to play with their pussy, suck their tits, have friends get fucked in VIP rooms. Male strip clubs are probably the same deal
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 08:02 AM
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As someone who has been on the path of depression and self-annihilation, when it came to suicide you wouldn’t have known I was going to do it - I generally appeared well put together and happy right before I attempted to die, because, well, I was happy I was about to die. When my depression has spiraled out of control (obvious because I become drunk 24/7, stop eating, take any & all drugs, suddenly have new friends ie criminals also on a hell-bent trajectory) my family has always stepped in and …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 01:45 AM
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I don’t see how a 5, coming from a man, is a bad thing. That’s just average looking guy. I didn’t mean to come off rudely. I’ve had a long week and it’s probably coming out in my comments
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 04:47 AM
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Well my bad I don’t hang around all day nor do I see every comment in the daily chats. Would’ve made more sense to have a post where everyone posts a link to a photo of themselves and we rate it in the comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 04:25 AM
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Ya. I wasn’t in the daily thread yesterday and there’s like 2000 comments I would’ve needed to go to to find a thing I didn’t know I was looking for. Just seems like a petty response to say “xyz is better than you cause they happened to see comments and a discord post that you didn’t”.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 04:24 AM
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I wasn’t in the discord. So I had no way of doing so. But that’s a neat way for you to decide who is “better”. Since I don’t know who you are, I’ll give you a 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 04:11 AM
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Probably a few months. Nice to share my experiences with y’all kind folk
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 04:08 AM
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I would’ve loved to have my pic up for the men. Anyways, they all look like 5s to me - normal random dudes. For the women I’d give 6 & 8 a 7 because they look like women I’d swipe yes for on tinder. The rest are 5s, normal looking ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 03:54 AM
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I’m “hot” as a male, to other men ofc. And to women, at first glance ie meeting me . But to women that barely opens the door to my chances with them. What matters more is how you make them feel, and what you offer in terms of a relationship or companionship. A wealthy ugly software engineer can easily out game me who’s a 9 in the looks department once they realize I’m also a recovering alcoholic, and on the brink of homelessness. Now…once I get rich again. My looks will get me really far on top …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 06:08 PM
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Interesting. I just wonder if suboxone is worth getting on cause who knows if I’ll be able to get off…appreciate the response, I’m in that sub already. I have a hard time tapering, but it may be easier now that I have a new vendor in a new city and their kratom may as well be one shell of kava it’s so mild. I just wanna get back in the gym and change my workouts to 2 hours. My antipsychotic has made me gain 10 lb and I no longer look ripped like I was a year ago. If kratom worked still I wouldn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 01:54 AM
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Ya I’m considered hot and I’ve got heaps of issues too. Cheers to being a sexy hot mess
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 01:51 AM
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Day by day for sure. One substance at a time. Unfortunately for me I’m a daily polysubstance user and have: Nerve pain meds, amphetamines, thienobenzdiazepine, kratom, alcohol. I can only do one substance at a time. Alcohol first. Then I’m going to try a suboxone taper for the kratom, then slowly lower dose of the antipsychotic (prescribed for sleep) then lower dose of amphetamines. I have no idea how I’m going to do this. Alcohol has ruined my life. I have no passion left for my art and music. …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 12:39 AM
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Yep. Time to go through hell for a while. Light at the end of the tunnel at least. Thanks for the supportive comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 11:00 PM
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Yep, time to just start fresh. Again. For the 100th time. I just can’t believe I gave up my artist residence for my health. This would’ve been a dream years ago. Back to the gym. Need to find more than working out to keep me sober, but I hate AA. Think I’m joining the Freemasons again.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 10:56 PM
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Yes it’s really hard when it’s how every normal person connects. Hence why I’m going mgtow. I can’t participate in this aspect of society anymore even if it means I won’t get laid regularly. My sanity and health is more important. But goddamn the cravings these first few days are so strong. The desire for relief from the alcohol wd, so shitty that only the poison can save you from the poison
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 10:52 PM
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You’re right. It’s evil and for someone like me it destroys me. I drink basically a handle a day. Functional until I black out at night. I just can’t drink. Fuck this shit the withdrawal is so bad. Even with Librium I’m shaking and won’t be surprised if I have a seizure.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 10:50 PM
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Well originally when I was 16, by 17 a daily drinker, by 23 a daily black out drinker. Then had seizures and police thought I was on drugs so they beat the shut out of me. Broke my back, elbow, and wrist. Then I got on Percocet and addicted. Then suboxone. Then quit alcohol and suboxone and was sober for 5 years. Then major trauma and been struggling to stay sober since (the last 5 years). I had 5 months before this relapse. I just can’t drink. I’ve medically detoxed between the age of 19-33 aro…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 10:48 PM
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I’ve decided I’m going to be a version of mgtow. I haven’t met a quality woman in 2+ years. I can’t see anyone being better than my ex. I need to just focus on money. Get rich again. Luckily I got a 34/hr gig for 20 hours a week so that’s a start. With another job I’ll have a livable wage. Bad news: I relapsed on alcohol and binged for 4 days. Due to kindling I’m in withdraaal right now. Shaking like a motherfucker. I gave up and left a “artist residence” with free place to live because I knew i…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 10:22 PM
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50/50 is pretty standard. At least she should offer to pay for her half, then you decide to pay for all or half.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 02:26 AM
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Lol nooooooo I think I would honestly get nauseous if I were around a naked woman that fat
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 02:22 AM
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The issue for me is the most popular comments are saying she has no need to tell guy one she’s sleeping with someone else while she should continue to date both and see who she really likes. And OP is agreeing
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 12:30 AM
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Ah hell no. I’ll never forget this girl EmJ telling me of her sexual escapades one week. She slept with 6 guys in the span of 4 days. FOUR days. Some people don’t even sleep with that many people their entire lives lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 12:29 AM
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Ya I actually think it’s more likely she’ll end up with neither guy considering how she handled this
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 12:27 AM
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I must not be the norm. I’d rather be celibate than bang ugly girls. Maybe that’s an exaggeration but really I am pretty picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 12:26 AM
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Right. I’d feel a little hurt or betrayed in a way tbh if a chick told me she was into me after spending time together only to find out she not only went on another date immediately after but banged the dude too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 12:02 AM
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Ehh not for me & wouldn’t that technically be an “average” woman weight-wise?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 11:55 PM
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I mean, it’s not unheard of
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 11:51 PM
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4
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 11:49 PM
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Lol clitter Twitter. I think she should break things off with guy 1. Or tell guy 1 she’s sleeping with other people and see how he feels
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 11:47 PM
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Their wives probably got unattractive, that’s how
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 11:44 PM
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What’s an example of a thicc girl? How fat is thicc
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 11:41 PM
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7.5-8
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 11:38 PM
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I was recently living in a college town too. Average gym goer was 20-25. Damn were the chicks fine. They were all basically naked. Only doing ass exercises. Always bent over in some fashion. Impossible not to creep
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 11:37 PM
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I think one of each is ideal if I were to start a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 11:34 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/hingeapp/comments/t8z1bz/whats_the_most_respectful_way_to_reject_this/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf What do ya’ll think in this scenario? Guys:Would you be pissed if you found out the date you both said you liked each other to fucked a different guy the next day on a first date? Gals: what do you think is the right thing to do here?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 11:34 PM
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I think this probably more than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:10 PM
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Do 10/10 guys really even sleep with 5/10 women tho?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 06:27 PM
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Ah just one ethnicity, that’s why it’s so low
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 05:47 PM
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Very true about being fit. I’ve been working out for roughly 10 years and minus the steroids am probably in comparable shape to you. I matched just as much if not more, and especially got laid more, when I was out of shape and practicing super unhealthy behaviors like being a toxic asshole alcoholic. I only ended up in one relationship from tinder (okcupid, actually) but it started as the easiest hook up in my life. I said I wanted a massage and she came over and brought oils and gave me a massa…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 05:45 PM
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Damn what were your standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 05:32 PM
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Oh I just saw your flair. That makes sense. I’d widen it to 25 if I were you but you do you bro :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 05:32 PM
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Pretty sure abortion has always been a thing. Wiki: The first recorded evidence of induced abortion is from the Egyptian Ebers Papyrus in 1550 BCE.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 05:31 PM
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Sounds like you’ve got a great shot then. Especially if you widen the age range.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 05:26 PM
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Oh weird, it worked like 20 min ago. Too much traffic from Reddit probably. I found it on a popular post on a different sub
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 04:05 AM
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Check out www.realitycalc.com I got 3%
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 03:27 AM
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Saw a post the other day about a book called Moist. It has the word Moist over and over again. That’s the whole book. Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Moist Like that
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 03:24 AM
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Ya building rapport is definitely a huge part of being successful in that field. Working with teens must be really challenging. I have a good friend who is a wilderness guide for a teen sud treatment program and it sounds like kids are far more of a hassle then the demographic I’m used to work g with (18-30 year olds)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 03:08 AM
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Yes we were dual diagnoses substance use disorder treatment facilities. I didn’t mean for it to sound like I thought women shouldn’t be counseling women, just that that’s what made sense. In the same way men generally preferred our male therapists/counselors. And how al of them preferred counselors that had experience with substance abuse themselves over LMFTs with a degree. I thought that was interesting - they seemed to get the most out of their interactions with “uneducated” drug/alcohol coun…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 02:55 AM
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Can I ask how your PUA exploits are going? Can you provide an example of what you’ve learnt that’s worked for you or kept you engaged in that community?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 02:39 AM
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Lol ya right, I was a skinny hippie nerd with glasses and long hair
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 10:46 PM
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Ah I see, I guess it makes sense I wouldn’t recognize it as I’m not a male. Thanks for the examples
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 10:38 PM
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wondering if you can provide an example of toxic femininity? I’ve never heard that term thrown around and am genuinely curious
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 09:43 PM
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Totally agree
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:50 PM
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I personally have never seen a betabux situation, I usually see the opposite - women making more than their man, but it must happen for how often redpoll people talk about it right
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:26 PM
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Yes, male therapists were pretty sought after…until we ran a women’s program
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:21 PM
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Little story somewhat related (re hiring women over men). Not hiring but when it comes to mental health, well-being women also have it MUCH easier. When I worked in a certain mental health industry we ran an exclusively men’s program but weren’t taking in enough money or clients to expand the business. So I had the brilliant idea that we just make a women’s program because more families will shell out money for their daughters than their sons. Something like 3 months after starting the women’s p…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 06:58 PM
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Thanks. Much better now. That experience actually kick started my love for fitness as I found exercising actually removed my back pain. But a It’s just one of many horror stories I have haha. I’ve lived an unusually exciting life for someone that grew up in suburbia.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 06:37 PM
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Ya, that all makes sense. 6 police officers broke my back,elbow, and wrist in 2013 with batons while using two taser guns on me after I had alcohol withdrawal seizures and was hallucinating that they were demons and attacked them when they wouldn’t leave me be (that’s a quick summary but it was actually quite an ordeal). I basically had to learn how to walk again. My recovery was pretty quick, fortunately. But I agree that adversity builds character. It’s amazing what we’re capable of when we’re…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 04:32 PM
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When I was in college I banged this girl in her dorm room. Her roommate heard us. The next week I banged her roommate. Word got around and by the end of the month I had slept with that entire floor of the women’s dorm. I mean it was only 5 women, but still, word getting around is a real thing in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 03:50 PM
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Really interesting comments. Thanks for writing that all out.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 03:38 PM
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Cults are fascinating, I’ll just stick with this sub and avoid actual red pill blogs for now
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 03:25 PM
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Interesting take. So like a pity fuck? I’ve definitely had women show interest in me while depressed or in a bad place that wanted to “save me” or show me “not all women are like your ex” so I guess I see where he may be coming from. He must be physically attractive enough for this to work tho, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 03:23 PM
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Oh I thought red pill was about self improvement and supposed to be for “nice guys” like him? Didn’t even consider this is just another form of red pill thought, but I can see that. I’m not well versed in this stuff yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 03:21 PM
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I wore make up once. I looked sexy. But it was in a specific party context so it made more sense to me than as a daily thing. Seems like too much extra work. Plus I wouldn’t know where to start. A woman put the makeup on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 03:09 PM
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Interesting. So it’s unconscious self sabotaging behavior that needs to be unlearnt. Do you think this a common theme amongst “nice guys”?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 03:04 PM
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Maybe that’s the case, but why choose a woman who you just met? Would make way more sense to get this stuff off your chest on an anonymous Reddit account or with male friends or family.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 02:59 PM
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lol sounds like he loves you too. Does he look disabled or if I saw him would I have no idea? Just wasn’t clear if the accident left him with more than what you listed. Which of course is a lot but it doesn’t sound like it impacts his daily life as much as cases like the link I sent, where he’s clearly physically limited (like by his leg).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 02:55 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/t7pm4o/i_started_talking_to_this_guy_yesterday_and_was/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Homie really blew it. Starts talking about how women don’t like him because he’s too nice and not exciting or toxic…to a girl that already showed interest in him. I think this is where “nice guys” fail, when they call themselves out as less-than Chad and complain about it. What’s going on in these guys minds when they send these texts, how is this g…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 02:44 PM
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That’s cool, glad to see someone is open to that. Kinda goes against RP philosophy doesn’t it? Mind if I ask what the disability is?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 02:30 PM
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Were they disabled when you met or after?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 02:13 PM
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Ya I’m just not used to it, last time I dated years ago I attracted more young women. In person I attract a variety but having just moved into a new city I don’t have any social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 06:59 AM
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Interesting. Have you dated anyone with a disability before?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 04:35 AM
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Definitely
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 04:34 AM
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I’m not saying there’s a problem, I just wonder how well homies gonna do on tinder
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 04:33 AM
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Understandable
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 04:30 AM
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Water
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 03:59 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/t7pcii/was_always_ashamed_of_my_height_and_disability/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Q4w: Would you date someone with a disability?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 03:58 AM
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Cause this profile/username has a lot of comments and threads that I wouldn’t generally share with the public or want attached to my face, and for some reason a sub about dating dynamics and mating strategy just feels strange sharing who I actually am
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 02:04 AM
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I get single moms that want to smash, single moms that think I’m wealthy due to my job title, and single moms. And a lot of girls that are fresh out of really long LTRs. Oh and did I mention single mothers really like me. Seriously no one my age. Every match is 36. I also live in San Diego now, where it feels like every other guy drives a Tesla to my 96 Tacoma, has an eight pack to my six, and is 6’3” to my 6’0”. I also randomly attract women that I feel are out of my league lookswise, but they …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 02:01 AM
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:) Now I wanna see what everyone else here looks like
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 01:47 AM
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I promise tho, I’m only semi-douchey
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 01:38 AM
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Haha my personality doesn’t really match my looks. I’m into classical guitar, love reading philosophy and horror, paint/draw, write pseudepigrapha, etc…and I just so happen to be able to deadlift 400+lb :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 01:37 AM
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Hahaha thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 01:35 AM
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See below for a pic that kinda obscures my face cause this sub is scary to share to :) The pic auto deletes in 15 min
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 01:17 AM
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Right
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 01:15 AM
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Y’all are intimidating to upload a pic to
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 01:14 AM
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My fuckboi pic https://ibb.co/hLZcRq3
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 01:12 AM
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Maybe I’ll have to give the east coast a visit
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 12:50 AM
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Hahaha no
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 12:47 AM
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Shared my hinge profile briefly for a profile review and was DESTROYED. Not because I was unattractive but because I look like a “fuckboi”, my intellect seems “too pronounced”, I’m “intimidating”, etc….basically I look like I get matches or am a hookup so the women were saying they would swipe No. wtf edit some grammar
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 12:41 AM
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I think in reality, outside of Reddit, men are far less sexist on average. A lot of us were raised with single or remarried mothers who taught us that women were equals, if not superior, in that they needed to be treated with utmost respect, and that we’d one day “find the one” if we were a gentleman. But reality is teaching us this not the way. So of course some men take this to the extreme and “fuck bitches”, but it generally works, so they keep it up. Women have created a sexist environment b…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 06:49 PM
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What does asshole behavior look like to you? And so far it’s the only thing that has worked for me too. Basically when I’m my most selfish, fuck-all attitude, getting drunk every waking moment version of myself, focusing only on pleasure and creative outlets, I end up getting laid or meeting women that desire a relationship. When I’m my natural, sober, humble self that goes to the gym at 6am every morning, I attract purely single mothers who then realize I am in no way capable of being a provide…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 05:53 PM
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My bad, shouldn’t have assumed. I think it was mainly a combination of both but probably many things. Our fight following seeing me depressed solidified her unspoken unreadiness for further commitment. She had to “find herself” first. Then opportunities I may have had for her to get back with me were further denied due to continuing to see me depressed. I appeared weak for the first time to her. I lost all my confidence and was a shell of my former self. I was actively suicidal. I honestly felt …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 02:50 PM
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I did my best to support her, we had our fist and only fight and she left. The year prior we traveled the world. I don’t think she liked us settling down. Why is it assumed I did something wrong? She’s 10 years younger than me she wasn’t ready for a real relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 11:28 AM
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She had an abortion and got off and on birth control. Her mood was all over the place. She was a different person I hardly recognized
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 08:45 AM
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Basically depression & anxiety caused directly by her actions, 2 years in
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:06 AM
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I was walking down the street in Tijuana around 11 PM and next thing I know there are people in front of me blocking my way, people behind me, people besides me. Before I can even register what’s happening I feel something cold on my neck, instantly realize it’s a knife. My head is grabbed. Each limb is grabbed by a different person. And I’m lifted off the ground, carried, face down and tossed into a van. They put a bag over my head and empty my pockets and hold me down and start driving. About …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 03:59 AM
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Wow She is annoying And not attractive Would swipe left
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 03:48 AM
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As an adult that was kidnapped in Mexico, be careful at night where you go. It’s a beautiful place but some really scary shit happens there too
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 03:43 AM
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I don’t think going to the gym daily makes me vapid even tho, while at the gym, I’m a gym-bro. I mean I’m currently learning really difficult Bach pieces on guitar and an avid reader. I wish my physique didn’t make people assume I’m empty upstairs but that’s definitely the case. Women are always surprised when I bust out pictures of my paintings or share my art.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 10:33 PM
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I think this is actually pretty common. Know a lot of women that prefer less “stereotypical” men. I’d actually argue I had far more interest from women when I was skinny and kinda effeminate with long hair compared to now, ripped with short clean cut.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 10:26 PM
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He just seems dorky to me. But I guess that can be endearing to some women. I personally wouldn’t ever put a photo of me on all fours on a dating app
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 09:38 PM
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Interesting. So is he above average then? I also think the baby photo is weird
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 09:37 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/hingeapp/comments/t6rjeb/just_restarted_old_after_a_2_year_relationship/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf The turtle photo, this can’t be good for his dating life
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 09:28 PM
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Very true. A roommate a year ago somehow got into an altercation with some meth head walking home one afternoon and this roomie was about 6’4” and while not buff definitely looked like they could hold their own, but the meth guy had wild drug strength and landed a punch just right such that it broke their jaw simultaneously to cracking their skull from the pressure on the other end, like an exit wound. Two surgeries later they still couldn’t talk right. Meth guy is in jail, whole thing was caugh…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:56 PM
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Which I’ll never understand, but that’s on those men to figure out how to use their time wisely. If they are constantly chasing snatch and getting fuck-all it’s probably high time to take a hard honest look at themselves and figure out what they can do instead of chasing pussy. Like just buying it when the need arises.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 03:55 PM
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As others have pointed out I think you fail to appreciate the experience of being alone for most men as being far different than the experience of being alone for most women. While I personally have never chosen a relationship with someone I didn’t like over being single, and have enjoyed relative ease/success compared to many men when it comes to dating, I have also gone through periods of extreme isolation and loneliness that I don’t believe any woman can understand. Hell, I’ve even been in so…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 03:46 PM
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Crazy. Americans are fat asf
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:52 AM
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I’m just finding all the material is obvious or has obvious solutions. Be attractive - work out. Cultivate wealth - improve your skills. Be better than average - don’t be fat. Be confident - don’t fall into “nice guy” trap. At some point I’ve got to get bored of this. But for now it’s all very entertaining. And I like sharing anecdotes & hearing other peoples personal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:23 AM
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As someone who was wealthy but is now poor, I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:18 AM
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That can’t be true. Are most women really that fat?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:15 AM
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Does TRP stuff also somehow apply to gay/lesbian relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 10:49 PM
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I don’t understand the way you write. Is English your first language?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 10:46 PM
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That’s gross, why would she even tell you that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 09:08 PM
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33M, Single. I currently live in SoCal. I had a rough breakup with my last ex after we had an abortion and I took time to process it all for about a year and a half. I’ve always had a relationship or fwb or regular casual partners until this last year. I was living a vagabond lifestyle and have just now (last week) returned to a stable environment where dating is feasible. Except today I got invited to live on a ranch and record an album with a friend so I’m probably returning to a time of creat…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 08:26 PM
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As someone who has been in a fair share of fights, I concur, but will take it further - no fight is worth engaging in unless you absolutely have to. You’re one wrong punch away from a broken jaw, one rage filled response away from brain damage. A bruised ego is better than a cracked skull. You don’t know what the other person is capable of, and I don’t mean just in their ability to fight, but they may use weapons. I had a fight that I thought ended and I was walking away, about 100 yards from wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 07:58 PM
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Wow, I didn’t realize just how fat America is. And I’m an American. How hard is it for people to just be active? I find obese women absolutely disgusting. I read a post on Reddit the other day asking “how do obese people take a shit?” And some of the responses had me learn that some of them can’t even reach to wipe their ass. Now when I see obese people I just see walking fecal matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 07:44 PM
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No way
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 07:39 PM
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I’ve never heard this take - “equally risky self-indulgent behavior” - but that’s totally a valid argument. I think using high class escorts is actually probably safer than sleeping around with promiscuous women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 06:37 PM
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I guess I should clarify, true for most but not all, they may not fundamentally change who they are, but they believe they are changing and most go through periods of “finding themselves” even if that means returning to who they “originally were”. So while a man can marry her at 18 and basically groom her to remain the same, chances are she’s going to want to “figure herself out single”. This is a story I’ve seen 100x. And while I believe pretty much 99 percent of women are the same, 99 percent …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 05:56 PM
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Weird. I think women physically peak around 22 +-2 years. But that doesn’t matter for my point, being that getting in a relationship with a woman under 20, especially 18, right out of high school, is a bad idea if you’re older as she likely grows/changes into a woman with different desires over the next 5 years. I don’t know any woman that’s the same at 18 as she is at 25. I think by 25 it’s safe to say she knows herself, but even then some women don’t “find themselves” until they are 30. I thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:34 PM
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I’m white, but I live in a city where I’m probably considered average face, above average body, and below average “status” - I’m not wealthy (anymore) like most people my age here. a “6” woman here is like an 8 in other states/cities. Most women look like Instagram models. I know this because I’ve lived all over. I live in a really materialistic, superficial place, very similar to LA. I do great with women in person but online I may as well be invisible.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 02:48 PM
1

I doubt they are 6 if you’re a short 4. I’m 6 foot tall, have a 6 pac, tattoos, I’m built like a boxer, a handsome face, and I’ve only dated hotties in real life, like solid 8s, but OLD I barely match with 6s on the reg, granted I don’t really swipe on 6s.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 05:00 AM
6

How attractive are your dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 04:28 AM
1

I was having this exact thought earlier. Most of trp shit is pretty obvious. If you want to bang Stacy, be Chad. Like you’re saying, you have to be that lusty stallion if you want women dropping their pantries on a dime. [Un]fortunately I’m pretty attractive and have really exciting bouts in my life so a lot of women I’ve been with expect even more from me. Like my last relationship, where we traveled the world together, made $ from porn, lived a really exciting life. But I wanted to settle down…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:32 PM
2

I agree with your point that it’s a choice. At least at some point in the relationship it becomes a choice. It can be cinematic in the beginning, but that’s not going to last.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 06:24 PM
8

I tried this theory out (not realizing it) when I dated my most recent ex. I met her when she was 20 and by the time she was 23 we broke up. So I was 28 when we met. She was an entirely different person at the end of the relationship. She had had one partner before me, who was also older than her (at the point I think it’s safe to say was inappropriate - she was 16/17 when they met and he was I think 25). She was absolutely gorgeous, and I thought she was 25 when we met, and really had me fooled…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 06:04 PM
4

I don’t see why 18 is considered prime for women. That’s so incredibly young. You’d be a fool to think an 18 year old isn’t going to grow/change. Hell, even at my ripe old age of 33 I hardly know my left hand from my right.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:55 PM
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I don’t see why 18 is considered prime for women. That’s so incredibly young. You’d be a fool to think an 18 year old isn’t going to grow/change. Hell, even at my ripe old age of 33 I hardly know my left hand from my right.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:55 PM
2

Not proud to say it but I’ve had Neely .5 before and was functional (ie not slurring words & coordinated). I think most people die around .4 so it’s pretty normal for .2 to be non-functioning drunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:03 AM
5

That was a long time ago. I’m very healthy. Liver numbers came back great. I workout 90 min a day. Haven’t drank for a while :)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:36 AM
2

I agree he could dress better, also wear things that make his tattoos actually stand out in a good way. Or if he worked out and got strong he’d probably kill it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:07 AM
1

Damn that’s so specific lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:06 AM
6

Me being broke has never mattered one iota to women & my looks/charm definitely have helped me out. Perfect example: I needed Librium of Valium to detox off alcohol for the 100th time and went to a dr. I presented exceptionally well and told them what I needed and they prescribed it. I was drunk, .3 BAC that they measured, at the time. My alcoholic roommate went to the same doctor for the same reason, but he is fat and ugly. They gave me 7 days worth of Valium taper. They gave him nothing and to…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 02:59 AM
2

Bars, online, and work. In my experience. Edit to add: kava kava bars/cafes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 02:51 AM
1

Interesting. What about him is gay? Ok I took a look, now I can’t I see that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 01:29 AM
1

Loll a boofer
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 01:24 AM
1

Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 01:23 AM
1

https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/t47fs4/looking_for_some_advice_with_my_profile_please/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Why isn’t this guy getting matches? He looks like the “bad boy” type women would be into
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 09:54 PM
1

I live in Southern California so maybe that’s why I view him as a 2/3. Almost every other person here looks like a model
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 04:47 AM
2

That makes sense. I know to some women I’m a 8-9 while to others probably a 1 for certain reasons (ie muscular/fit, heaps of tattoos; but I’m also a smoker which makes my looks worthless to some women, & muscular with tattoos is gross to some - I know because I used to be skinny with long hair and that was hot to the types I attracted at the time). Honestly what attracts women when it comes to looks outside of guys that are GQ cover models is confusing to me, there is such a wide variety of what…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 03:16 AM
3

I lived with Ike Turner as a roommate in rehab for a month when I was 19. I put it as a response (not the rehab part) to a prompt on hinge until someone pointed out I probably shouldn’t associate with a known wife-beater. Good point. Which got me thinking. Is being abusive actually a “beta” male trait?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 02:28 AM
2

I live in california and this is definitely not average for me either. Granted where I live every other idiot may as well be a model
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 02:21 AM
1

What do you mean? How does he text?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 02:20 AM
2

Wow he’s a 7? Damn I’ve never heard of him but he looks like an 8-9 to me. He’s got a super model style face, really pronounced features. No idea who west elm Caleb is either but he looks more like a normal “attractive” guy to me. 7-8 range. He doesn’t stand out like Tim but he’s definitely not unfortunate like homie I linked. He looks like most women could date him, he could date either up or down and it wouldn’t surprise me. Tim looks like a yuppie model that would date other yuppie models
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 02:19 AM
1

Ok, so maybe at a counter strike LAN party he’s average. But at the gym I go to he’d be a 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 01:53 AM
2

I would’ve rated him a 2-3. So what is a 7? And is a Chad a 10 or 8-10? Is there a celebrity you can point to for whats attractive (7-8) but not Chad (10) level? I’m really interested in figuring out what the average guy is to women. When I hear average I think of guy that can get a girlfriend or get matches on tinder not guy I linked (overweight & unsightly)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 01:50 AM
2

That made me cackle
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 01:45 AM
1

I feel like tinder isn’t gonna work very well for him. Well, actually maybe obese women will swipe right? What type of thing would a rp alpha say in their profile? And if that dude said the same or a similar thing, wouldn’t it just not work cause he’s more of a Chadwick than a Chad
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 01:45 AM
2

https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/t3hh4l/is_there_anything_i_can_improve_on_with_my_account/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Is this an “average” guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 01:25 AM
-1

Same
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 09:27 PM
2

I wonder if you switch the word ‘men’ with ‘women’ in this comment the same may be true
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:48 PM
3

Sounds rough, I understand anxiety well. I am medicated for it. I wish you the best with your counseling. I also suggest forcing yourself to workout. It keeps me sane and I generally don’t feel anxious once I’ve started exercising
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 04:01 AM
1

Can I ask what for?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 03:58 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/t30ii1/when_to_give_up/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Perfect post for PPD. How hot must this guy be for her to even be asking if she should stick around. “My boyfriend lied about being on dating apps and has two STIs should I stay with him?” Wtf!!?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 03:58 AM
1

Ah ok that makes sense, thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:35 PM
1

What is black pill exactly? Is it the same as “men who go their own way”?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:07 PM
0

What is a “pick me”?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:06 PM
5

Can confirm. I had to become an accountability partner for a friend. Well I offered to. Told him to text me when he was going to watch porn thinking I’d get a text every few days, and he could hold me accountable for not drinking. He then proceeded to text me all day, every day for a few months before I just couldn’t take it anymore and told him to seek therapy. Dude literally couldn’t go 8 hours without watching porn. And he was probably the most physically attractive man I’ve ever known. 6’4” …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 04:22 PM
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I think it’s because more men can agree on who’s “Chad” (attractive) than women. I may believe triple 6 man is Chad, but artsy girl over there thinks he’s a douche. And average looking doesn’t mean average talent. Ie Skinny musician with a Sirens voice but soft face is gonna get laid more than ripped but boring Brad with a chiseled jaw in certain settings or with certain types of ladies. What I mean to say is there’s no such thing as a consistent chad for all women. So there’s no such thing as a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 04:09 PM
1

Succinct
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 01:47 AM
1

Interesting, had to google
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 12:23 AM
1

I guess your right, then what’s the equivalent of ED in women? What prevents a woman from having sex with a man
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 12:19 AM
1

Can you provide an example of a physical cue? I recall an old trick was to obviously look at a girls lips, and depending on her immediate facial response you basically knew if she was into you or not. Or whether or not to proceed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 11:23 PM
2

I think this is the best response so far. It’s true, it’s because I was relaxed & everyone was a friend, be that a businessman or a homeless man. And that attitude is infectious. Turns a glum situation into a fun one. This is my favorite takeaway from today, for me personally, I need to learn how to be relaxed again.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 11:21 PM
1

I like this one. I used to think a girl doesn’t truly like me til we’re having breakfast (or looked at another way, she’s breakfast). There’s a kinda funny song on that note called ‘bitch you breakfast’ by lele
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 11:20 PM
1

Ok so game is actually a bad thing? A Machiavellian thing? Game is being a sleazy player vs Good Guy Chad who is a hot gentleman?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 11:18 PM
2

What’s interesting to me rn is I’ve personally had incredible success with women when I was an alcoholic/drug user, and these weren’t women that drank; it’s just that my energy was very free spirited & light, I engaged them in a playful manner, cause, well, I was playing with reality by being consistently slightly intoxicated. It was really easy escalating things because I always did & said what I wanted. Sober, I’m finding it’s difficult to maintain that level of carelessness that was so attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 10:27 PM
1

Interesting take that all men have their own version of game. So it’s basically the social dynamic a man chooses to attempt to gain attraction from a female. As a man learns what attracts the type of women he desires his game then improves. So I’m assuming being a friendly ear doesn’t work as well as other “tactics”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 08:36 PM
1

What did you do to practice/learn game? Just go out and socialize? Any recommended reading for men? I imagine it’s a process of trial & error to some extent
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:05 PM
2

What are common behaviors that scare women off? In my experience opening up too quickly about my dark past, or revealing too much of my inner dialogue has pushed women that were otherwise attracted to me away.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:00 PM
1

I think my mischievous nature definitely worked in the past. Always have been a troublemaker. Even as an adult. And I believe a lot of women found that fun & endearing. And mysterious for sure, I went through a long artsy stoic phase & have a pretty interesting/mysterious background (some stuff I can’t even go into legally or without sounding like a paranoid schizophrenic type mysterious). Thanks for the response. I think what I need to work on more is being light & confident; now that I’ve sobe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 06:56 PM
2

Ok this all makes sense. It’s basically how I wooed every woman in the past - confidence, flirty without creeping, direct with my intentions without being pushy, and always being attractive upon first sight to them in some manner or being attractive to their friends (or having hooked up with their friends already) - ie attractiveness initially established then charming my way into the bedroom or a relationship or whatever. Thanks for the response
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 06:52 PM
0

Edit to say: I get where you’re coming from. Makes sense to me. Escorts are a lot of fun too
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 06:27 PM
8

I recently commented on a different post that I had consistent success (fwb, ltr, ons) when I was an alcoholic/drug addict so I can definitely attest to the fact that the barometer is pretty screwed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 04:18 PM
2

This seems to be a common thread - need be attractive already. So basically I can have game from a distance by being hot, and then “game” you by solidifying value with words/actions like flirting or humor or whatever gets you going.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 04:16 PM
1

So kinda like 1. Be attractive to her already (looks, status) 2. Prove said attractiveness (flirt, funny)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 04:13 PM
1

Ok, so it’s pretty simple - attraction building/flirting. One can have game by doing nothing (being hot) or one can have game by being suave
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 04:12 PM
1

Ya, I just moved to a new state (this week), so know literally no one. I’m considering going to AA meetings but I think hiking or beach volleyball or activity meetup groups are probably best bet to reintegrate into society. Pick activities that don’t revolve around drinking/partying. At least if I ever get so lonely I can’t handle it the bars will always be there. Hell, I may even go to church. Try to meet a good Christian girl. Tho that’s unlikely
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 02:42 PM
1

Interesting. As a male I feel the equivalent is if I dated a girl that couldn’t get off with piv sex. And that wouldn’t really bother me if she could get off with oral or other means. I mean assuming she still engaged in sexual activity. Is this right? So you basically need piv sex to work for a man to be attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 02:29 PM
1

I see. Is this common?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 02:06 PM
1

So if new boyfriend explained medication or something like depression caused ED you’d stick around? Assuming this is a temporary issue
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 12:39 PM
1

AC slanger - bass inside is a dope track
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 12:26 AM
1

I’d say more of an acquaintance with Bill. I think AA can be useful for people that need the social interaction. This is probably another issue, I really have never been attracted to women with addiction/alcoholism and I could probably find someone to date if I went to meetings, I just don’t wanna date someone with a past as wild as mine. Double standard, and maybe I need to reevaluate this now that I’m getting older. Plus tbh AA makes me want to drink more than stay sober, as I’ve never found a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 09:50 PM
2

True. Well, I’d like to live to see 50 so I’m not returning to old behaviors. Hopefully I can strike a healthy balance between what I want and what women find attractive here soon, otherwise I suppose I’ll just see escorts(?) which seems like a valid option if I’ve just “ hit the wall” and all that are left are women best left alone. Or hey maybe I’ll fall for a single mom
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:46 PM
1

Ya, and they say not to date for a year once you get sober. So I understand I am a risk. Just not the type of risk women once found appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:39 PM
1

Hah no thanks. My recent ex was 10 years younger than me. I think I’ll stick with younger women if I can.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:37 PM
2

This is what I’m learning. I thought the saying was that men aged like fine wine tho
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:36 PM
1

I think I need to remain sober longer before entertaining that idea. I’m only 4 months sober. I know without a doubt if I drank today I’d be drinking tomorrow morning again. I was a pint of vodka by 9am sorta guy. Unfortunately I know this is the easiest solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:36 PM
1

Right, but I didn’t only get laid. I had LTRs as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:22 PM
1

I dated plenty of women that were rich by my standards, college educated, ambitious, and hence the surprise, I was a pile compared to them I think this is a possibility, as I did reject the last hottie that wanted to hook up (she had a boyfriend) and that turned other women in the circle away (while attracting others, but they were young). I just moved to a new state so have no social circle currently to test this Possible, but I’ve never found $ to be a defining factor in what made me attractiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:19 PM
1

I had pretty high standards to be honest. I didn’t date women that drank in excess or used drugs. They had to be someone I was proud to have on my arm if we went out. My most recent ex was 10 years younger than me. The one before that was 5 years older. So I was dating a wide range. my standards are still pretty high but they aren’t outrageous, the only difference from the past is I want someone that takes care of themselves physically in an equal manner (ie goes to the gym regularly), but that’…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:04 PM
1

And so what does my dating pool look for? Shouldn’t my age attract women that want someone more serious and inclined towards commitment, healthy lifestyle?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:01 PM
2

Definitely had my fair share of women that wanted to fix or save me. And yes I’m positive they didn’t use or drink because I refused to date women that did. Drugs were always more of an issue than drinking with these women, but pretty much without fail if I sobered up they lost interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:00 PM
1

I don’t think I was ever really part of any “scene” & sure, I’m older, but I’m not in my 40s. And I certainly don’t look old. Shouldn’t be so hard meeting women my age that want someone put together.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 07:58 PM
1

It’s honestly really hard for me to stay sober with this being the case. It gets lonely. I’m seriously considering escorts at this point. I’m starved of physical contact after having it so regularly from age 15+
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 07:55 PM
1

From my own place to literally living in a tent/out of my truck. And women ranged from students in their early 20s to well established business women in their 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 07:53 PM
1

I wasn’t really out of shape, had a natural physique, but I pretty much drank to the point of blacking out every night. While I personally feel that my behavior/attitude/charisma isn’t much different when I’m drinking I’m sure the lowered inhibitions thing is true. I also have always been a loner artist type so social scene was never a thing. I’d go out to bars alone, but mostly met women in random public places like cafes during the day or online with dating apps. It feels like women may be int…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:59 PM
3

I think where I’m at is I wish blue pill were the way, but my experience is that red pill generally is more accurate to reality. It’s like blue pill is the ideal I was raised to believe in, but red pill is how it actually works. I’m sure there’s some happy medium, though for now it’s difficult for me to see.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:51 PM
12

Now that I’m sober and athletic I find I do not attract women. When I was an unhealthy out-of-shape jobless drug abusing alcoholic I would get laid, have FWB, and get into relationships with ease, with attractive women that did not drink or do drugs, consistently. I don’t understand why it’s so difficult for me to find someone now that I’m healthy, have an enviable physique, and good job title. Does anyone have any insight as to why this may be? Is it because I no longer have a selfish, egotisti…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:46 PM
1

What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:39 PM
3

Interesting. I don’t obsess over average, I am new to PPD and a lot of this stuff is new to me. I’m just curious what men are the average that’s discussed here. Your view seems to be pretty black and white but that’s what I’ve found to be true - women either think a guy is hot or he isn’t and there’s no real average I’ve witnessed. I can also attest to the fact that abs don’t matter. When I was a skinny drug-addled alcoholic & incredibly out of shape I got laid (by non drug using or drinking wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 06:20 PM
3

I have a question about his looks after reading a post about “what is an average guy” the other day - what is this guy considered on a scale of 1-10? Is he an “average guy” like a 5? If you remove the shirtless pic & pretend his height is 5’10”, what’s his attractiveness considered? What about as he is, even with the six pack does his face/hair/glasses negate his athleticism?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:49 PM
2

Rough
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 11:42 PM
2

I am still pro-choice however I understand how incredibly difficult abortion is now. It impacted me more than I can explain, and I can’t even imagine how it did my ex. It’s been two years and I still have nightmares/dreams that it was a daughter; it felt like I lost a child, but I know losing an actual born-child must be infinitely more difficult. I definitely know now that 1. If I want to stay with the girl I get pregnant and 2. My partner gets pregnant I will do whatever I can to support her h…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 11:37 PM
2

I honestly never even considered abortion being a fetus right. My ex got an abortion while I was with her (it ruined our relationship) and the whole time all I could think about was how it’s her right to choose, cause that’s what I was taught. Had I looked at it as the fetus-child right I may have voiced more of an opinion beyond “do what’s right for you”. Which would have certainly complicated things.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 10:55 PM
8

Can you elaborate? Not being sarcastic
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 11:19 PM
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I’ve worked out regularly for 10 years. I’m talking 4-7 days a week. And while I’m muscular, look in shape, better than most of the population, I’m not gargantuan. It really takes A LOT of dedication & often steroids to get huge in the manner that women generally say they find unattractive. And even then a lot of women find those dudes attractive. What I’m trying to say is everyone can benefit from exercise and 99.9 percent of people don’t need to worry about ever getting “too muscular”.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 03:24 PM
1

Not sure, I am not a fan of AA. Though I know they recommend not dating for the first year of sobriety. Which is probably good advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 10:56 PM
2

Right, I think that actually hits the nail on the head. Sober = boring. Drinker/druggy = “free” and “exciting” as well as “fixable”, so women think their love will change their man into not needing drugs/alcohol. But in my experience when I sobered up in relationships they basically no longer liked me. I wasn’t as exciting. But my health, mental & physical, is more important than being exciting to new women. So if that means I remain single while sober, so be it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 09:46 PM
1

Ya, I don’t know. Just my personal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 06:57 PM
1

My diagnosed BPD ex was the hottest girl I’ve been with. We were off and on for 8 years. This is one reason it was so difficult to walk away. I’m likely never going to find a girl as attractive as her that’ll be into me. Even my family would comment on how gorgeous she was, and what a catch, as a result, in spite of the insanity (that they’d witnessed). It’s very easy to overlook crazy behaviors, at least initially, when they are so goddamned awesome to look at, not to mention engage with sexual…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 05:42 PM
2

I’m sober about 4 months now (in my 30s), and have been mostly sober these past 2 years, and I find dating is nearly impossible without drinking. I had no issue meeting women, for hook ups or relationships, when I was a raging alcoholic. It’s kinda funny as you’d think being sober, in peak physical condition, handsome enough (like I get a fair amount of matches OLD), having a decent job , talented/hobbies, avid reader, etc would be enough, but women just seem to like me better when I’m a careles…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:46 PM
1

Thank god for torrents. I have like over a 1,000 VST plugins lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 05:03 PM
3

Your comment made me realize this is probably why she’s on my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 12:01 AM
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