What exactly is game?

wtknight · 2022-02-26T15:49:48+00:00

"Game" is just techniques to foster attraction from a woman. At it's most innocent it's just marketing oneself truthfully and effectively and seeming like an interesting person. At it's worse it's deception. But both being honest and being manipulative can be called game, in my opinion.

bostonstrong1981 · 2022-02-26T17:36:10+00:00

It’s the ability to create attraction via an emotional connection with a woman through flirty conversation in an expedient manner. To be fair there likely has to be some baseline physical attraction for one to be good at this. Not to sound rude, but a 5’2 obese man with yellow teeth won’t be able to create that emotional connection no matter what. The guys who are good at it usually:

-find a shared interest and connect it to an emotional response. My husband and I are both climbers. On our first date we talked about it. But he didn’t just say “oh I like to climb too”. He talked about how his job is stressful and high pressure. But he loved climbing because in that moment the stress and pressure would dissipate, and the only thing he would focus on was the next hand or foot hold. I think he called it true cathartic freedom. Anyways when we made out later that night he said kissing me gave him that same feeling of freedom. I have no doubt he used that on other women before me. But damn, it worked.

-make witty remarks to start a conversation. One guy approached me at a bar and said “has anyone ever told you that you have a really nice glass….of wine in your hands”. He said it with a twinkle in his eyes and a smirk on his face. I initially thought he was going to compliment my ass just like 10 other guys that night but the swerve to “glass…of wine” made me laugh. My friend who was with me I think was jealous and she was like “what about my glass”. It ended up leading to a conversation about what kind of wine we like and why and he ultimately asked me out to a wine bar for some wine tasting after getting my number.

-maintain strong eye contact through the conversation. Keep good posture. Know how to touch in a flirty way based on a woman’s reaction and not as some kind of shit test.

BecretAlbatross · 2022-02-26T18:07:49+00:00

It's this push pull thing that attracts women because its both arousing and fun for them. Most men lack emotional intelligence so it can he hard explain how it works and why its fun to learn, but learning game is the best thing I've ever done. Whenever I'm in a social situation I feel like 95% chance I'm the most socially calibrated guy.

It's this balance between body language and what you say. The body language element conveys relaxation, confidence, and alternates between interest and disinterest. One basic tenant is that you reward good behavior and punish bad behavior. Punishing is usually something light like playfully rolling your eyes or "negging". If you do this correctly women love it because it becomes a game to win you over. Women are really good at adapting to fit other people so I think that's part of why its enjoyable.

A lot of if is also playfully pushing boundaries, seeing her reaction and adjusting. If you respond to her reactions well it makes her feel comfortable because she sees that you're reading her body language accurately. This means she knows you probably won't go too far out of ignorance.

betabucks666 · 2022-02-26T16:20:58+00:00

social / improvisation skills / understanding people

hdksndiisn · 2022-02-26T16:11:59+00:00

It's just a manner of existing where women feel comfortable or entertained by you and your interactions. It's honestly not that complex or difficult and most men can do it with practice.

For me at this point in my life, I just find the juice often isn't worth the squeeze most of the time. Most women aren't actually that good in bed and the time and effort isn't worth the sex. Some guys view women sleeping with them as an ego boost, but if you see the trash most women will engage in one night stands with, you realize their barometer for a good man is all sorts of fucked up.

Background_Intern_55 · 2022-02-26T17:37:33+00:00

Game is a combination of 2 things. Confidence and communication. It’s not about techniques or strategies it’s more like organic sales or marketing. Most People don’t have game that’s why they use tactics and manipulation. Whereas a natural communicator speaks in a way that naturally builds sexual tension if that’s what he wants or at the very least builds rapport very quickly.

Mark_Freed · 2022-02-26T17:49:03+00:00

Imitating or mimicking the behaviours of men who have charisma, who make a lot of girls feel the spark or tingles.

Some examples of these behaviours are,

lot of guys talk themselves into disqualification, often the girl likes him and wishes that he will not say something stupid that will turn her off. Girls also like to talk about themselves, let her talk, let her ask questions. If you talk too much you come across as arrogant. If you ask questions remember to keep it open ended and not close ended.

Be light, yet confident don't be so serious. A lot of guys take themselves and things too seriously. Be cocky and funny. Be casual, lighthearted, even mischievous. [[Flirting]] will happen only in this atmosphere when you talk tongue-in-cheek, teasing her, being ironic and outrageously self-assured. Saying things like "you are too X". Confidence is key, be assertive and sure of yourself. People with insecurities try to impress her, get her approval. Just express your true self. Don't overanalyze things you can't change like your looks.

They don't want you to make it easy, be a open book and be straightforward. Rather they want you to be mysterious, keep her guessing about your real feelings, play hot and cold, drop clues, and let her enjoy this game. Be vague, imply/suggest what will happen, be indirect, go for subtlety. Remember the goal is not to exchange information but to generate emotions in her

Xenomarph · 2022-02-26T18:06:20+00:00

A lot of what people call 'game' is just preventing the woman from being scared off at any point during the interaction.

Own-Boat-5374 · 2022-02-26T20:11:42+00:00

Made up term to sell overpriced dating ~~scams~~ courses

King-SAMO · 2022-02-26T22:39:08+00:00

just get her to smile at you and don’t stop until she’s wearing one of your t shirts and making coffee the next morning.

rivetcitymayor · 2022-02-27T00:59:18+00:00

Game is everything you do until you fuck her

bcool_returns · 2022-02-26T19:06:03+00:00

I would argue that every man has game, that is to say a set of things they lean on consciously or unconsciously to try to advance their sexual strategy. For some men that's coming in as a friend, listening to her problems and trying to be helpful. For others, it's leaning on money and the more transactional side of things. Even saying that you don't resort to game tactics and just want to be "genuine" can be considered game in some instances. Not all game is created equal, however.

DianeticDelight · 2022-02-26T15:50:01+00:00

Conventional physical attractiveness.

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Habil13 · 2022-02-26T16:09:32+00:00

I consider game putting your best foot forward, and some people are better at doing that than others. Game is absolutely useless if the woman you’re trying to game isn’t interested in the first place.

tiposk · 2022-02-26T16:10:36+00:00

Game is a set of tricks that are supposed to be attractive to women and make them want to sleep with you. Sometimes the trick is to play cool, hot and cold or telling the woman how attractive she is. Have I been gamed? I'm not sure because if a guy is good at it you don't know you've been gamed, but generally I tend to feel sexual attraction before a guy starts pursuing me so it's unlikely.

A high n-count could an indicator of many things.

iiexistenzeii · 2022-02-26T17:40:37+00:00

Conveying your best self in the best possible light, with the best possible strategy.

That's game for you.

TooHornyToFap · 2022-02-26T20:15:50+00:00

You, me, and everyone else reading this comment just lost it

thecomingomen · 2022-02-26T20:19:05+00:00

Charisma + emotional intelligence

Edit: n count is a factor (doesn’t have to be though) but knowing that you can have sex with almost anyone you put your game on will give you the confidence to keep on pursuing new women

takosuwuvsyou · 2022-02-26T21:24:20+00:00

Game is the nice word for Manipulation and Taking Advantage Of Someone. You can have a high N-Count by just being a good person to be around, but having game is to be a chameleon, and pretending to be that good person.

Zcuzz · 2022-02-26T21:45:53+00:00

Game for me is sort of a combination of overall presentation and a flowchart of conversation and escalation. Over time with practice, it's very natural to me and a lot of the nuances and techniques carry over into social interactions in general, not just pickup.

You learn to notice unspoken social queues. Subconscious knee jerk reactions rarely lie. It allows you to be more bold and confident when something the people are doing give away the situation, despite what's being said.

iamthemovie1992 · 2022-02-27T01:18:20+00:00

It’s essentially just a way to keep attraction, but it’s not enough to create attraction. She needs to already be attracted to you in order for any of your game to do anything.

Now how attracted she is to you determines how much game you actually need or how good it has to be. Like a 6 has to be very good with his game, downright perfect in everything he says or does and the slightest slip up will turn her off, while the 8 just has to not say “Hitler was a great man”. It also determines how bad it has to be for her to become unattracted. Let’s talk about our guy who is an 8 to her, he will get way more chances to show off his game, while a 5 will get significantly less.

It’s basically the Step 1: Be Attractive, Step 2: Don’t be attractive. If you fuck up Step 2 you can go home alone, but if you fuck up Step 1 you’ll never even get to Step 2

AussieBrooks · 2022-02-27T03:37:22+00:00

Game is being able to assess a situation with a woman and make calculated moves to be more successful in dating her whether that be talking, emotionally, etc

Complete-Temporary-6 · 2022-02-27T04:49:43+00:00

Techniques based in psychoanalysis to attract people, typically for sex or relationships

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-02-27T17:36:01+00:00

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Title	What exactly is game?
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